wellness-focused work week in my life: back to work after pto, dealing w/ burnout, taking a break..?
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I know life is expensive but can you afford to go down to part-time at your job or take a different position that isn't as time-consuming/stressful? Nothing is more important than your mental health- that is priceless!! Hang in there
i can afford to take a pay cut, but completely foregoing my salary when social media income has been super volatile for me this year just isn’t a wise decision. i could find something else that pays less yes but i’m so lost on where i want to go from here - bc if i stay in the same field, i’ll likely face the same issues at different places with busy seasons/unpaid overtime so why leave when i at least enjoy my benefits and my team where i’m at now ya know? & we’ve definitely made lifestyle changes since getting engaged/buying a house - it’s just probably hard to tell in 30 minute videos. we haven’t been traveling for fun like we did in the past (unless we’re going to florida to my parents, which is free to stay at) since last year, we don’t eat out or go out near as much, and i’ve significantly cut back on discretionary spending. could i cut out getting coffee on the weekends? yea sure but that would deprive me of joy & only save me like $1k a year 😂😂 & going part time at my level isn’t really possible at my job that i know of - and everything takes time (figuring out what i want to do when my time in big 4 is done etc)
@@AbbyAsselin Thank you for responding! I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide and hope things get better for you!!
I feel like ever since you started your job at the big 4 you genuinely haven’t been happy or at peace 🥺 I felt this way at a previous job I had in social work and since I left I have been so happy. You’re job should never cost you your happiness or even just sanity…you have to create a good work life balance because I just see you being so burnt out. I felt exactly how you did I couldn’t imagine having to work as much as you do and especially on the weekends! You need time for yourself and to enjoy the stage of life you’re in because you will never be younger than you are today. I know you probably hear it from other people in the comments but just wasn’t to send you some encouragement to make a change that is better for your mental health. You can do it!! 🥺🤍
I think she is just so stuck on the image of "working for a big 4," so she forces herself to work there and push thru. I also can't imagine that accounting is anyones true passion.
I agree!! It’s hard for me to watch sometimes
I was going to comment something similar but you said it so well. We spend too much of our life at work to hate it or have the anxiety inpact our non-work hours. Work as a concept is so flexible now...I hope she sees your comment and is inspired.
Couldn’t agree more! I left my toxic job as a manager and I feel so much more peace. She seems so unhappy
@@Ems1999 me too! I pivoted from corporate finance to campus recruiting and a lot of her experience resonates with me and takes me back to such a negative time in my life!
I love you Abby! Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this with us, I think this is a sign for you to let go of something to give yourself the break you need. Whether that be work, some form of your social media content, some hobbies, something needs to be let go and it's up to you to make that decision on what is not fitting you anymore ❤ you can do this!!
ILY 💛 i’m definitely making some changes & listening to myself and taking breaks as needed. prob hard to tell since nothing has changed in terms of the content i’m putting out but i’ve been really rethinking things the last month. thank you for your support and encouragement!
Have you ever considered giving yourself the free time/life you desire? Are you obligated to stay at your current job for a certain amount of time? If not, give yourself permission to quit and take a break and do whatever it is that you truly want to do. You have social media as some source of income at least in the meantime. You’re a CPA honey, you can find a job anywhere 🤗 Prioritize ur peace and happiness! Wishing you the best ♥️
She said in a vlog that she can't quit because she doesn't make enough money on TH-cam anymore for it to be her full-time job
thank you 💛 i have a hard time with the thought of leaving to go to another job in the same field that will likely have the same issues i’m facing now - bc i actually enjoy my teams and my benefits where i’m currently at. i’m working on re-prioritizing and figuring out what will be best for me 💛 appreciate you!
Abby I'm 23 and struggling deeply with burnout, mentally and physically depleted from my first corporate role, and watching you take each day as it comes, and hearing your insight on your experience truly inspires me and reminds us all we aren't alone in our challenges of being so stuck in toxic careers. Thank you for showing up for us and sharing the realities of being perfectionistic, anxious achiever personality types
sending you love - you can do this! one day at a time. a lot of people say to just quit and give it up but i totally understand not being able to let go of something you worked so hard for & not feeling like you’re in a position to figure something else out. you’ve got this 💛
Take a break. Don’t worry about your your u tube friend. We all be here after your good rest. ❤
I'm so thankful for you and your candid honesty. I'm a medical resident and horribly burnt out, and I struggle daily with my mental health and feeling like residency isn't anything at all like what I wanted to do with my life. You capture those conflicting feelings/morals perfectly and help me feel less alone!
sending you love - you can do hard things! and please give yourself all the mental & physical rest you can 💛
Aww Abby I feel you girl. I don't get a whole lot of time to see my friends either because of how busy I am with work, content and trying finish up school and it can be really hard to keep up sometimes. I also think a social media detox is amazing thing to do in fact I am trying to do that two as I have been comparing myself to much to other people and its not healthy.
Thank you for being so real! As someone going though the same thing right now unmotivated at work, anxious 24/7, and completely lost on everything it feels great to know im not alone.
yes you aren’t alone! sending love 💖
Hey Abby!! I love all your videos, thank you for sharing. The nature sounds that I hear when you film outside are so calming. I also wanted to share that I felt similar symptoms of anxiety, especially the chest tightness, and I talked to my doctor and got prescribed some medication. It has made a WORLD of difference!!!! I just wanted to encourage you to reach out for help if you want it. It was a super easy process, and I did a virtual appointment so I didn’t even have to go to the doctor’s office.
i’m so glad it’s helped you!!! i feel like mines so situational/cyclical with my period so that’s kept me from looking into it but it may be something i need to consider! thank you for sharing!
Love you girly!! Keep your head up & do what makes YOU happy!! No job is worth taking your peace from you. God has other options for you!!
So glad you posted this because I am feeling the same way. I’m in public accounting (regional firm) and I feel permanently burnt out. I don’t have my CPA currently but with all the stuff there is to do I can’t find a way to add it without constant mental breakdowns. Thank you for keeping it real, and we appreciate you and hope the best for you!!
totally feel you, you’re not alone! sending you love and hope you can find something that takes less of a toll on you
Thank you so much for making this video!! ❤ despite you saying you don’t think the video went as planned, I honestly found it SO helpful. All your little tidbits just make sense and I really needed to hear them (it’s winter here in Australia and the winter blues are hitting hard). Having mental breakdowns is real life and you may feel like it’s negative showing them in a video but trust it’s helping people who feel a similar way not feel so alone ❤
i’m so glad you found it helpful!! sending you love 💖
7 minutes ago ong just wanted i needed for my sunday morning
Take care of yourself Abby ! I feel like it’s so hard for us to admit when we have to much going on. Good for you for being really aware of your emotions but maybe you have your own answer of what can be changed so that you feel better. All the best ❤
thank you 💛
Another TH-camr I watch (Adam Ragusea) talked a bit about the burnout he was feeling, and one thing he did was switch over how he did his podcast, to sort of take the place of a main channel video. I thought that was a great idea, and I think a lot of the chit-chats you have with us are GREAT topics for deep-dives/podcasts, so something to consider!
that’s def a great idea! like i could alter off every week so that it was a vid podcast/podcast every other week, and a vlog in between. i will have to think about that!!!
I LOVED the inputs/outputs approach you discussed Abby. I really want to think about it and implement it in my own life.
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Hi Abby good morning happy Sunday morning and I hope you having amazing day today and I loved your vlogs and you are amazing Supporter and I'm proud of you
You uploading today definitely made my Sunday better!! Also, im so sorry you're feeling so down. Although i know youtube is your creative outlet and stuff, would it help your mental health if you took a short break from TH-cam to focus on yourself? You work so incredibly hard and deserve a break!
thank you 💖 i recently took a 2 week break and it helped to recenter myself and slow down a bit! im brainstorming ways i can cut back on some things while still doing what i love. thank you for your support!!
Love and hugs from Canada 🍁 🍁
I’m so so excited for your wedding 😊 so happy to be following you in this journey of life
thank you for being here 💖
Abby it hurts my heart to see you struggling so badly! Have you considered finding a new firm or entirely diff career? You’re SO qualified for so many different positions. I promise no job is worth constant dread, especially at our age & ESPECIALLY if you still aren’t feeling confident financially!
thank you for the encouragement! trying to figure that out - like do i want to go somewhere else when a lot of the issues i have with my job are personal/related to the field itself? bc i love my teams & i have good benefits. but i know it’s not worth my mental health so trying to be intentional about where to go from here 💛
I really agree with what you were saying about working out being a to do list item rather than seeing the bigger picture. I’ve been going to F45 since December and in the beginning i would dread going but after i felt soo good but i only went 1-2 times a week. Recently I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety and i started booking my workouts in advance and the difference it has made on my mental health is crazy. I feel great and when you started going to F45 it motivated me to keep going because i was so close to quitting. 😅
i’m so glad you’ve started enjoying it and feeling good from it! totally relate to it doing wonders for your mental health. i’m proud of you for sticking with it! 💖
We LOVE griffin he is the sweetest ❤
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Really enjoyed the vlog, I always look forward to your uploads! I need to read Every Summer After and Meet Me at the Lake this summer. I just finished Happy Place which I really enjoyed!
happy place was SO good! glad you enjoyed!
When Ella ran to you 🥺🥺 sweet girl. I completely relate to everything you've shared, and also want to say that you don't have to give so many disclaimers. It can be equally true that you are grateful, but unhappy. That's completely valid. I wish you luck on your journey of discovering what will make you feel fulfilled. I also wanted to mention that it might be worth looking into taking a leave of absence from your job. Because you have a therapist (that you're on a break from, but still have a history established with), you may have the option of them providing medical records to "prove" that a leave is necessary. This helped me tremendously when I was in your position. Just a thought. Sending love 🫶🏼
ugh you are soooo right - thank you for the encouragement, reminder, and support 💛 i’ll have to see if it’s something i can look into. appreciate you!
If you want to post videos other than vlogs I would love to see a what I eat in a week, what I spend in a week, trying different workout classes, favorites videos. Still love your vlogs though!
Or a meal prep video!
You are doing just fine. Take things one day at a time. 😊I love the hot pink color on your nails!
thank you 💛
Love seeing you upload, but take a break if you need to!!
Hey Abby, I just wanted to say I'm praying for you through this tough season of life. I am also struggling with the same things. Job, wedding planning, no friends. And I can't imaging adding youtube,social media, and a podcast. On top of all that. If you need to take time off of youtube, podcasting and all that. I would completely understand. I've been watching this channel since we were both in undergrad. And I'll always support you in any way that I can girly!
thank you so much for your long time support. it means the world!💛
Oh Abby, I am so sorry for you! I deleted instagram and TikTok from my phone about two weeks ago and it’s been lovely. I do not think about what I do anymore and what others do. I just do what I want to do. So it definitely takes away the pressure. I know instagram is part of your job, but you could post from the computer if you really need to. So, give it a try. I think it’s helps. Maybe also make sure you know what is important to you in your daily life (work and free time) and then see how much is taken up by all the stuff you do and weather or not it’s worth it. And try to implement things, you love. For example, have meals/ dinners with friends and family if that gives you an extra boost. We all have to eat, so sharing something so normal, will connect you with your friends and it doesn’t have to be super long. You could also set up cooking nights during the week, which would break up your work monotony and would give you something to look forward too. It know both jobs are your jobs and they provide you with your income, but maybe you could go part-time with the CPA stuff, if that’s a thing? Or talk to a supervisor or something that can help reinforce your boundaries. I mean they can’t expect you to work 24/7 that’s just not good for anyone. I am here for you! And you will get past this stressful time! Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and how things ‘should’ be :)
thank you so much for the encouraging advice & reminders, it means the world & i appreciate you & your support! i am working on reprioritizing and reevaluating how i spend my time to create a better balance for myself. going part time as a cpa is hard since a lot of the work is pretty seasonal throughout the year but it may be a possibility!
@@AbbyAsselin true, part time might be hard with seasonal work :/ But good plan to reevaluate!
Life is hard girl! So sorry you are going through it.
You should look into reaching out to Aja Dang. She's an influencer that just moved to Houston and y'all both have similar interest.
I'm getting married July 21st and we pulled everything together so quickly thankfully.
We got engaged on New Years Eve!
awww love that!!! happy almost wedding day & hope it’s everything you dreamed of and more!
i’m moving back home to houston at the end of this year! if you wanna grab some coffee and talk all things books i am always looking to make more friends 🙂
i also work from home so i understand the struggle. we don’t talk enough about how hard it is to make friends as an adult! ❤
Hi Abby, can you link the dress you wore in the save the dates? So cute!
it’s sold out rn but they’ll prob bring it back!! www.selfieleslie.com/products/making-headlines-diamante-neckline-maxi-dress-white
Abby please please please quit this job, or make a big change in your life- whatever that needs to be done that you’re scared of. Is having extra money or “affording” a big wedding or whatever lifestyle you’re trying to afford working a job you are miserable at really worth it? Is your mental health, sanity, peace, joy, free time, relationships worth a job? Money? A wedding? What’s the point of being able to afford a life you’re not happy in? I know we all have our own personal breaking points. But we just want all the happiness and joy for you, this lifestyle and choices obviously aren’t it. Sending you so much love and peace girly and wishing you the best! ❤️
thank you for your love and support it means the world 💛 i have a horrible tendency to over prioritize “safety” when it comes to making big decisions and it has come at the expense of my wellbeing for sure. working on undoing that & operating from a place of confidence & hope rather than deciding out of fear!
honestly i feel the work mental breakdowns lately i should probably go back to therapy
sending you love!
Oh man girl, sending you so much peace right now. 🕊️ I know it can be really hard to try and juggle every single facet of your life and want to do it all perfectly. I work in big 4 too, but it seems like you are juggling a lot of things right now in addition to your job. Would it be possible for you to look into taking a sabbatical? At my firm, you can take up to 26 weeks off at 20% pay. Even though it is a big pay cut, maybe it would be good to take a month or two off just to take a breather. I know you are probably getting alot of people giving you advice, but I just thought maybe if you haven’t thought about it it might be something to look into or talk to your firms HR about ❤️
thank you so much 💛 i have no idea what the “requirements” are for a sabbatical/leave of absence but i may have to look into it
I don't think I've ever commented on a video of yours, even though I have watched you since I think your junior year at Alabama. I am not a content creator but I do work full-time and take a full course load at my university each semester so I understand the position you're in. Give yourself some grace and let yourself feel your emotions. Crying multiple days one week might just be what you need. You can only be at this level of high-functioning for so long without time to decompress. You said that you work most weekends and haven't made any friends in Houston, so maybe you need to step away from one or two aspects of work. I'm sure that your viewers/listeners won't hold it against you to skip a few episodes on your podcast or maybe not put out as much content on TH-cam or Instagram weekly. As a loyal viewer I hope you can find balance and peace!
thank you for commenting & your long time support 🥺 i’m exploring my options for sure with reevaluating uploading schedules and how i spend my time. appreciate your input & support 💛
Hey, just a thought. After the wedding and things simmer down, consider joining one of the Houston young professionals groups. It is younger people get together at bars and enjoy nightlife. With the wedding going on, it would probably be difficult now but it would be one way of expanding your social life.
Also, do you have any hobbies outside of reading, podcasting and fitness? Houston has lots of various options in hobbies and then you could find others in the same hobbies. Not saying your current hobbies are bad just saying that starting a new one might open you to more people and possibilities.
I travel to Houston regularly and I know that you can find a group of people who you could enjoy hanging out with.
Last thing, I worked in a smallish accounting firm who did taxes and small audits. My boss was very particular and he would get angry when we messed up. I would get so worked up until I stopped letting myself get so upset. I would ask myself "will i remember this in a year?" "Will they remember this in a year?" You will hold it against yourself but they are going to move on.
Thanks for reading and i hope you're able to gain someone from my comment. I gain inspiration from you. ❤
thank you for your wise words and encouragement! it means a lot 💛 i definitely have been thinking about trying to branch out into other hobbies & finding groups of people who have similar interests! i’m just in a very isolating phase of life with planning a wedding & having 2 side hustles but it’s just for a season like you said!
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Hey Abby
Maybe you need to take a break from TH-cam or something. Because all you do in your videos is talk, complain and cry about how miserable you are. I used to love your videos but now they are just so draining and depressing to watch, they lower my mood. I hope you find peace & happiness. And wish you the best but until then I think I’m gonna take a little break from your videos
thank you for the honest feedback and support! i’m trying my best to find the balance between being vulnerable & real while keeping a positive attitude, & it’s harder in some videos than others (for example, this one). hope to have you come back sometime!
Girl, no need to announce it, just talk time off if you need it
I have even less social events (and no boyfriend lol) than you so I 100% feel you on this! Work simply drains me so much I literally have no energy left or if I have it ends in a crying session because I’m so overwhelmed. Maybe that’s why I enjoy your vlogs? I can’t relate to a lot of routines. But also with the desire and the pressure to live more of a stereotypical 20s lifestyle. It’s hard, isn’t it? Choosing time consuming careers come with sacrifices I’m not sue ein equipped for. No advise her, just know I know how you feel 🤍
it is hard! we put so much work into our careers and put them on a pedestal at a young age so when reality hits, it’s a tough pill to swallow when it’s something you’ve worked so hard for. thank you for sharing 💛
I am so sorry you feel or felt like that (currently binge watching your vids) I understand that you probably wouldn’t want to be friends with your followers like that for safety reasons, but I do live in Houston (Jersey village/cypress area) if you ever do want to make another friend here or catch a cup of coffee. I also follow you on Instagram if you want to chat or vent. I am 25 will be 26 in March. I apologize if you find this weird. You probably won’t even see this.