Women and girls with ADHD
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- Women and girls with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) face challenges that are distinct from those that men and boys must cope with - from not being identified as having the disorder to feelings of inadequacy and shame, a greater risk of depression and other serious consequences. Hear directly from women living with the disorder as they discuss living with ADHD at home, school, on the job and in relationships. Leading researchers and clinicians share their latest findings on how the disorder impacts girls and women throughout their lives.
READ MORE: Under-diagnosed and under-treated, girls with ADHD face distinct risks
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The report cards always had feedback like: "Student is great in class, but lacks participation. Great potential blah blah blah but needs to try harder"
This was me too. I'm going into my last year of school and teachers still have the gall to say this about me when I know in my heart that it just isn't true
“Very smart, creative, sensitive but doesn’t hand in her best work”
Yep lol that reminds me of all of my report cards
i had a teacher who would pull me aside and talk to me about how i was ''wasting great potential''. she was so dissapointed in me because she was convinced i was lazy and just needed to pull myself together.
Needs to apply herself. Talks too much in class. Daydreamer.
The social rejection part literally hit me so hard I’m crying. The constant rejection and alienation and loneliness is so isolating.
Same
i prefer to be alienated because only bad people alienate others. it's kind of LITERALLY THE DEFINITION OF A BAD PERSON. Plenty of people in adulthood, probably most, do not alienate, ostracize or dismiss others.
Hey, omg same, I have no close friends, like I have some friends but never really see them, never felt like I fit in. You’re not alone x
@@littlefox3128 do you feel like others alienate you though? i get so angry at their oppression that i just cant make. new friends
Same, I was always more comfortable to be myself around boys, always played and enjoyed my time with the opposite sex. Girls, uh uh, it was horrible. But as an adult now, I have better friends whom are women and the internet is amazing because I met so many awesome women around the country and world it hurts a bit because I wish they were local... Or grew up with girls just as awesome..
“I was super bored in class, I didn’t have any friends, I only wanted to read”. I haven’t been diagnosed but it makes so much sense. Hearing that made my choke up. I didn’t have friends in elementary school. I had my nose in a book all the time. Years later, the more I look, the more it makes sense
oh look, its me. I would read at recess. I would doodle in class. I would do pretty well at school (Lord only knows how), but I was awful at keeping up with homework and studying. I was finally diagnosed at 29 and the medication literally changed my life. It's an absolute shame that so many women and girls do not get the help or support they need until way too late. I could imagine my life being entirely different if I was diagnosed sooner.
I was bored and always in trouble for talking to everyone. In the neighborhood we would play tag. I was the slowest and always "it" After a few minutes I would go home, lie on the couch and read, read, read. Drove my dad nuts why do you have your nose in a book, why don't you go out and play? I never said anything. Truth told I survived fine but I did not fit in with the neighborhood kids. I would rather read. Fortunately I had a wonderful best friend in grade school...I guess she rescued me. I had a first and second grade teacher though that despised me.
@@acecadet2587 I'm going in for a ADD diagnosis but have been on meds for it for years prescribed by a Mental Health NP. I moved and now have a different provider and she doesn't want to prescribe them for me. She's only giving me half my dose of a med that lasts only four to six hours a day in my system and there's so many more hours in a day so that's not quite enough and I'm off to see a psychiatrist. I'm afraid he's going to say I don't have ADD and I'll no longer be prescribed my meds after I've been on them all these years. It's scary because I know I'm ADD/ADHD combined. Well I guess soon I'm going to find out if I get help or not. 🙏
@@acecadet2587 it’s because the testing system was biased towards hyperactive males that we were missed. I was diagnosed with Aspergers at 23 and ADHD Inattentive type at 40
I struggled with concentration from a young age, and after moving to a new country everything was so overwhelming to me. It was a new place, new school, new people, new language. So it was the same for me. From six grade to eight grade all I wanted was to read, just kept my nose in a book. My teacher kept telling please focus, pay attention. She really was patient with me was wonderful but no one could have known what was happening. I'm trying to get an assessment done because I need to know if I have ADHD I mean I have a lot of the symptoms of the inattentive ADHD but knowing I don't have will give me peace of mind and knowing if I have it will explain so many things.
I was the quiet one.. the one always in my own mind and struggleing with time and getting things going. At 34 yrs I finally accepted I do have ADHD. But the road has been hard and most people still say I don't seem like someone who has ADHD.. sigh..
Bless you. They often really don't see thru our more public mask.
Sound like a typical ADHD Inattentive woman like me diagnosed at 40
There are world renowned successful professional actresses who are in the same boat who manage to cope because the world accepts them. Wish I was in the same boat
I didnt want to cry today but ig
I was only diagnosed this year at 40 also an Aspie diagnosed at 23 so have the double whammy
Does anyone not struggle with time? I have developed OCD like tendencies to make sure I am on time... I also have immense anxiety about letting people down, so Im usually extra early.
Yesss omg I wake up very early and shower and just get super paranoid to be able to get every thing done
I prep for everything 2 hours in advance then I sit at my desk and not do any work
I say "Early is on time and on time is late". Im always an hour earlier or two depending on my energy levels.
Yes, I do this. Sometimes I get somewhere an hour early because I’m so worried that I’ll be late, but then sometimes I realize I need to be somewhere in 10 minutes and I haven’t even gotten ready yet. Such a struggle
Yes I round time as a whole that I am about 1hour to about 30 min early, so my anxiety is less and can relax from feeling rushed. I have OCD but not on being tidy.
@@TheGraffitibaby same. I'm not tidy either. I get annoyed when people say "I have OCD" because they keep a clean and tidy house... like really?
Just to give you an idea of how undetectable it can be, I only got diagnosed last week, When my doctor told me he was sure I told him I’m sure he’s wrong, so he sent me to another doctor too who said the same. ADHD undiagnosed can lead to anxiety and depression, which is what I was being treated for, until my house doctor started asking me other questions like, do I start stuff and never finish it? Am I overly sensitive to emotions, sounds and touch? Am I messy and disorganized. I said to him I can’t have adhd because I study very hard, I do very well, I have received scholarships for my undergraduate and now my postgraduate at the best universities in my country. But... then he started to break it down for me... how long does it take me to sit down and start working? I usually start “preparing” to work 2-3 hours before I actually work because I procrastinate, but all students procrastinate right? I tell people to excuse me often because I often fidget, move around in my chair or shake my legs because that’s just me, I can’t concentrate if I’m not moving. I can’t sit in a class for more than 30 minutes before my mind is somewhere else so I tend to draw or play a game on my phone. My doctor also explained that people tend to think it’s only the “hyperactive” kids that are easily spotted, but the shy quiet girls are missed. I have always struggled with friends, my self-esteem was low in school, all of this built up into my anxiety and social phobia today.
So after I found out I have ADHD, I was 100% sure he made a mistake because I’m an excellent student and I’m not hyper. Little did I know that people with adhd also tend to hyper focus on things they like, I get overly passionate about stuff and then drop it cold turkey a month later. My life hasn’t changed, and being diagnosed wasn’t life changing, it just have me the ability to take the right medication to help me cope with these things. In the end of the day, my undiagnosed adhd left me struggling with extreme anxiety. I still can’t believe it. Not that there’s anything wrong with it but, I just wouldn’t have seen it in myself. I think firstly mental illnesses have such a huge social stigma, because people don’t actually understand any of it. And I’m an example too, because when my doctor told me this, I said to him... I don’t really know what adhd is
Im so happy you got diagnosed! I have always struggled in school but your story is very relatable. Only recently am I realizing my anxiety and depression has deep roots in my ADHD. I lost my first full time job recently because my anxiety and overwhelm became too much for me to handle, I've struggled socially for years (fellow shy girl) and was home schooled and isolated for the majority of high school. I cried a lot watching this video, it just feels so good to know im not alone and to hear others legitimize this disorder. Im wishing you the best of luck with your treatment
@@coloringbunnies1273 you should definitely go see your doctor then, and if they feel necessary they can refer you to get tests! I can’t tell you how much my life has improved since I’ve started with my ADHD medication trials. I really get so much more work done. And it kind of makes me feel a little relieved knowing all those things in my life that I just saw as problems, actually had a reason behind them.
I'm only in 8th grade so I suppose I have some time yet, but the doing well in school? Really not sure if I have adhd yet, but the more I hear about it the more I relate. And I was thinking, I couldn't possibly have it if I'm an exceptional student right? But looking back on how I would finish almost every assignment, even things that would take 5 minutes, pushing 2, 3, 4 am- the morning of- waiting until the last day to finish projects- I'm almost convinced. Not to mention the checking out during class... Of course there were few things I actually liked doing, but I'd even put those things off. Occasionally I slip up and forget an assignment after putting it off for so long. In any case this was eye opening. My brother is 30, he has undiagnosed (albeit extremely obvious) adhd, like stereotypically seen in boys adhd, and we are nothing alike aside from shitty memory and time management. I guess I always assumed you had to act like him to have it. But the more you know right?
@@regrettispaghetti2517 I suggest reading up more on inattentive type adhd in girls and see what more you relate to. And then have a discussion with your parents or any guardians. It’s better to get diagnosed as early as possible because as a result if my adhd being undiagnosed I developed severe anxiety and social anxiety, which has hindered me from a lot of opportunities before I got some therapy and help. This is common in undiagnosed adhd too. But, I’m not diagnosing anyone 😊 I just think it’s good to do some research. If anything it will give you some peace of mind to understand why you feel certain ways and not to mention adhd is a genetically inherited condition which means if your brother has it, you could likely have it too. A few of my cousins and uncles have adhd as well as my grandmother, which I didn’t even know.
Best of luck! You know you better than anyone else does, so if something feels off, don’t let anyone convince you you are wrong
So everything you said, and I mean, every point, is identical to my life, currently. Any thoughts on that?
"A lot of my friends still think I'm organized and I'm thinking...if they only knew..." Please, please, please, give us more feedback on this notion because it is a great trap that keeps us from getting help.
I havent been diagnosed yet, but I feel that being organised is the only way we can make it through school and life in general. I did well in school, because I had deadlines, I had all my stuff in one desk, I turned my watch to be always 5 minutes late so I can always be on time and my elders took care of my meals, laundry etc. ADHD symptomes hit me when I left my home and begun adult life where I have to take care of everything myself.
And even now, I think that I am better organised than my partner. I cant move objects, because I cant find them later. I try to live minimal, because less stuff means less things to look for. I always put all my keys in one place, because thats the only way to not forget them or looking for them every day. On The lectures I take notes, because its the only way I learn. I use highlighters in textbooks because it focuses my attention and I remember it better. I mean: we're not dummies. We often see what works and what doesnt. Girls are super ambitious and sometimes we try so hard to keep up and prove the world that we're capable, that we're stronger than our biology. But as the lady said, we need to install "ramps" all the time.
I was so disorganised growing up, so now I have to be super organised as an adult just to keep up. I get this a lot from other people!
@@missliese7343 We are so good (or maybe not so good?) at masking the problem.
yes... I am in the process of getting diagnosed but everyone in my life kept denying it just because I'm doing quite well at school. But that is only because academics align with my interest now. I remember a time where that was not the case at all and I was scolded everyday for not caring about school or losing stuff and being disorganized as a child. I am still struggling so much with those problems to the point of having mental breakdowns but it seemed like they turn a blind eye to it because I'm a 'hard-working student'. And I'm afraid their opinion will sway the diagnosis result
Teachers always told my parents katelyn is withdrawn in class and doesn’t apply herself that’s why she is failing. It made me feel terrible about myself bc they basically were saying I was lazy. The truth is I was bored out of my mind in most of my classes and I was shy, I would doodle a lot in class and daydream. I couldn’t focus on subjects that didn’t interest me. It was terrible bc nobody knew not even me, and I thought I was just lazy like everyone else did and it made my self confidence go down. Now I’m in my thirties and it’s such a relief to know that’s not the case.
Not lazy just have to be engaged in the right way
I could have written that, you're not alone. I have a teacher that keeps telling me I'm just not putting in the effort when that's not true!
I've always felt like I'm just lazy, I'll have thousands of should do's swirling around in my mind but just can't get myself to do them. Teachers and my parents always said the same about me. My mom would always say "your so smart you could do so well if you just applied yourself" I'd be like yeah I'm doing the best I can, because I was. I was just a disorganized mess, at one point after highschool she said it again about my last, "you could have done so well, you were always so smart" and I was like no mom I couldn't. I was literally doing the best I could. And I knew it wasn't because I didn't know the material because I did, it was the being organized enough to do the right work, on time, and get it turned in, it was the embarrassment of having wrinkled up papers so I wouldn't even bother turning them in. These things were physically disabling and I truly couldn't do better no matter how hard I tried. It made me feel like a lazy failure, and still often does to this day.
@@sarahs3988 omg same I was always such a scattered mess. I’d start the year off telling myself This year will be different, have all my binders and supplies and tell myself this is the year I’m going to be organized… but to no surprise a week into the school year and I have a binder full of scattered papers from random classes, couldn’t ever find anything. Also like you, have so much I want to do and so many ideas but just always have a hard time applying myself. Makes me feel like such a failure, can’t seem to get my life together, huge scatter brain too, so hard to focus on one thing, unless I like it than I fully get lost in it and spend money on the new hobby and then as quick as it started I’m over it, and eventually find something else and than the cycle continues.
Same and it's so annoying because my paternal grandma told my parents from the start I had adhd dad didn't care mom took it as some kind of insult. And even now my life has become so unbelievable stressful my room is a mess and I want help! I told my mom I want to get diagnosed and put on medicine because this condition is literally ruining my life and she does the typical talk all adhd ppl have heard from dismissive especially women with "I don't think your trying" "if you just applied youself" "Tap into your potential. And for those with religious parents "Just pray about it"
I'm tired of hearing that crap I've heard it since elementary about me being Spacey and absent I'm over it. I'm going to a doctor and I want the best medical option that will help me.
"I'm gonna put all of my heart and soul into this. I'm gonna study all my heart out" this is exact thing I prey for every little moment when I cannot study, I cannot focus even for 2 minutes straight for the National level exams. I'm thinking myself as lazy or I have no issues but limitless procrastination. I think myself as an impostor. I feel like my body, my mind and my brain stop working for me. I've been always the lonliest girl in class throughout my student life. And I can completely relate with getting bored and having no one to talk in the class.
Oh my God! I'm still clinically undiagnosed but I've literally cried watching this video.
Also undiagnosed and also crying ❤ exams start tomorrow and im trying oh god I really am
its a wonder i made it thru high-school
Hey! I can totally understand how much hard it could have been to go through this struggle. May be it's our superpower to overcome all of the tiny tiny hurdles. Also, get burnt out with easy tasks makes us impulsive and angry. More power to you. And best wishes for your exam.
Tomorrow had my psych appointment. And I'm feeling like a mess.
This is wonderful! I am in grad school studying to be a physician assistant and it is the hardest thing I have ever done. When you're a girl with ADHD, you tend to hide your struggles because you feel like an imposter, but with so much stress the mask that you had under control starts to slip away. I think it is so important to show successful and intelligent women with ADHD so that people can see that their goals are accomplishable and that you will overcome many of your difficulties with time!
Hey! Check out 'Addressing Adult ADHD quickstart guide| Dr Dawn Elise' it's a video here on YT. It has sooooooo many tricks for us. I watch /listen to it bit by bit. I'm sure it'll help you with proactive actions to help you work WITH yourself not against yourself xxx
Teach me your ways! I’m about to go into PA school and although I’m not diagnosed, a lot of what I’ve heard is very very relatable. Tbh, I’m scared of not addressing it and potentially flunking out of it gets to be too much. But I’m really not sure where to get started. Any tips or tricks would be greatly appreciated!
Does anyone struggling with overthinking?? My brain doesn’t stop sometimes, so many things are flying off and I can’t sit home all day. It’s frustrating,
And being an active communicator, sometimes overactive communication (which comes from counseling so I can communicate my needs)
I am the biggest over thinker! Which in turn leads me to be stressed out.
I over think things all the time. My husband has ADHD as well and he knows when I start to over think things and freak out, so he jokingly will say PANIC PANIC PANIC! Out loud and it makes me laugh every time and then I calm down for a little while. It's frustrating though to finally be diagnosed with ADHD at 33 and not being able to receive any help for it from my psychiatrist... it's only made my anxiety and stress worse.
I get so frustrated with over thinking that I sleep for sometime so that I can feel rested. Be
yes like a mouse running in the wheel, i describe my brain like that😂🙈
I’m the biggest overthinker when it comes to nighttime lol
For me it’s not having that distraction and it effects my sleep
I as just diagnosed at 65 after some suicide attempt. I put all the pieces together in my life
All the best. Hope you feel better
I was diagnosed at age 40. I'm 57 now. I recall vividly being tied to my chair in 1st grade. Back then they just thought we were bad kids. If not for my 4th grade teacher who recognized my intelligence and different learning style (she was progressive believe me) I don't know what would have become of me. Awareness and education has helped me a lot .... I tailored my entire life around it and adapted before I even knew what I was dealing with ... probably I could have accomplished more if I had had the knowledge earlier but I'm just glad these days there is more awareness and help for girls and women!!!
Omg they tied you to your chair?!
Even then that was illegal. *hug*
I was that kid that was too distracted to notice I was being rejected if they weren’t overt in it. If I was sitting in a group and they were talking I would think I was part of the conversation... so they’d get soft and I’d think that my hearing went off again so I’d get closer. This one time it happened a kid sent me on a quest to grab something... ever the helpful person I did it. I returned with it and he didn’t use it, it dawned on me. “Oh he just wanted me to leave. Would have been more effective to tell me to piss off” so I left and never thought of myself as part of their friend group again. I had a friend group and they put up with my weirdness. I just carried a sketchbook around so I could distract myself from social situations.
It never occurred to me I could have ADHD. It was the 90s so it was marketed as the perpetual sugar high.
This happened to me too!! I was mildly bullied in middle school, but because it wasn't super obvious or physical, I didn't pick up on it until WAY later
@@courtneysmith9807 SAME
When I got diagnosed, she asked me to say something about school or something I noticed in school, so I replied: “Did you know there are people who when given an assignment, just get out some paper and start doing it?” I was 60 when I finally had this conversation & was diagnosed.
Every time i watch one of these videos I mourn all of the failures, I wonder what I could have achieved in my life. I was so gifted in design but hated every other aspect of school, I failed college. Now I am home with my children and I have Thai knowledge, and I wonder what my life could have been like. I know it’s not too late, I have an appointment tomorrow with a psychiatrist. I pray for all people who find out so late in life, that there was a solution all along.
this vid deserves wayyyy more views
Everytime they mentioned a symptom I said yes like literally I can relate to each one of them
I was surprised substance abuse issues wasn't mentioned.
I feel like I missed so much of my life and potential because I was diagnosed with ADHD so late in adulthood. I was never full focused just wondered around and being spontaneous.
I’m almost positive this is what I am struggling with but I can’t get anyone to talk to me seriously about it. They all wonder why I’m a 30 year old seeking the diagnosis and why I didn’t seek help sooner. My parents didn’t believe in doctors, per say, and I’m now trying to function as a 30 yr old mom and failing because of my issues and I feel very alone. To hear them say that it’s a hopefully issue is almost sad to me because I feel the exact opposite.
For me, the hope came because I heard (in this and other videos on the topic) people sharing experiences that made me realize I wasn't alone, and I wasn't just defective or lazy. In my case, I was diagnosed at 46. I did ok in school and even got a master's degree (by doing nothing else for 2 years...I mean I lived at home and had no responsibilities but school). However, when I had my son, things started to unravel. I'd always been horrible at being on time, time in general, multi-tasking, follow-up (calling people back, remembering to turn in the report I'd spent so much time on), forgetting to pay bills...you know, 'adulting'. And now...I was responsible for someone else. Within 3 years I was sure my son would be better off without me.
All this time, I was being treated for depression and anxiety. My therapist recommended a book called ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life. I didn't think that I fit (my own idea of) what ADHD looked like, but when I finally read it, something clicked. I do not have every manifestation described in the book, but so many situations sounded like so many of the things I struggled with. I finally got medication that helped. It's made a huge difference for me.
I see that you wrote 2 months ago. I hope you are doing ok. If you're here finding out more about the topic, I think you're in the right place. I hope you find a doctor who listens. Until then, hang in there :)
I just got diagnosed at 23 and I've been fighting to get a diagnosis since I was 18. Don't give up. Have you talked with a psychiatrist or psychologist? Primary care doctors usually will not help you. You may also be able to get a diagnosis and meds online if it's legal in your state. I have NO psychiatrists in my area because where I live is extremely rural. The closest ones are 3+ hours away. So I saw a psychologist and psychologist online through a telehealth appointment.
I'm 36, I feel just like you do. It's partly a relief because I truly believe I have it even without an official diagnosis, but what's knowing about it if I'm still stuck?
I'm 25 and also have unsupportive parents. My mom is a nurse but she's also overly religious and believes any mental illness is of the devil and keeps telling me to pray my problems away but I'm over that doctors are here for a reason just like ppl treat their bodies when something is off the mind should be no different.
I think you should consider talking to a doctor and taking the medication some ppl will tell you it's too late buy it isn't.
Update! So I found a specialist and had a 5 hour assessment and was diagnosed with moderate ADHD combined. I’m now on medication and it’s been life changing.💕
I've just been diagnosed this week with ADHD at 22, and I'm in the process of trying to understand what behaviors are ADHD and what are just me... when she said that she finally has a name for the struggles she felt her whole life, that really hit home. I've been struggling for so long and never knew why, what's wrong with me? Why am I different? Why does no one understand what I'm going through? Am I just a defective human being? I isolated myself, got really depressed, felt lots of anxiety, and now I have so many answers, and I have hope In that I can learn why I do and feel things, I can learn why I'm different and understand myself, it makes me feel like I'm not alone, I just wish my family and boyfriend, could understand what it's like for me. No one can see my struggles so they assume I'm just too emotional, or lazy, depressed, etc and they don't see how it's not my fault and I can't control it, you know? It's so hard to show someone who doesn't experience it what it's like so they can understand me :(
I completely relate to you. I got diagnosed at 33 and I always knew that something was wrong/off growing up. I remember asking my Mom about it when I was 16 and begged her to try to get me tested for it and she refused to help me and told me to drop it. I would get in trouble a lot for forgetting one of my school books literally every time, part of my homework, for taking too long to get ready, for having a messy room all the time, for not paying attention, and for doodling in class .Not fitting in with anyone and getting bullied was hard. Not being able to remember the name and characters and everything that happened in a movie I saw last week or to fully be present with anything I was doing was frustrating ..not being able to fully pay attention to ppl when they're trying to talk to me and them thinking/telling me that I'm being rude was hurtful... feeling so lost and alone most of the time definitely sucked, but we are not alone and hopefully your boyfriend and family will start to understand and except why you are who your are in time, I'm sure they will come to understand. Best of luck to you🧡✨
@@cic5347 omg this is me! I lol at the movie part, bc I always felt stupid I’d watch a movie yesterday and the next day can’t even remember what it was called or even what is was about. I always felt different, like there was something wrong with my but everyone told me that I could change things if I wanted too, and I just have to try harder and stop making excuses. Sometimes I just want to relax and just be in the moment and it’s so frustrating bc my mind rarely ever lets me do that, I never feel relaxed my mind never stops. I feel terrible when I’m trying to focus on someone talking to me but I really am not taking anything in that they are saying, I appear to be paying attention but my mind is elsewhere.
@@Kyle-sp6dd yeah, when I was a teenager it was harder for me back then to remember names of characters and all of what happened. I had friends who would tell me it's not fun to watch a movie with me because they can't really talk about it with me for the next few days with out me saying what? And who? And they would get frustrated. I'm better now, but medication definitely helps.
I find it amazing that some of you can even be in relationships. I just find it so exhausting trying to keep one up which is why I've been avoiding them I want to get medicated first cause I know current me can not handle the stress of a relationship as I am right now.
I don’t know if I’m autistic or have ADHD 🤷♀️
Good video! But I have a question...
Did anyone else have to watch the video on a faster playback speed to get through it?
Juuust wondering!
Hiya, glad you liked the video, and thanks for the feedback - will share it back with the team. -Katie, audience engagement editor
Lol yes 2x speed : )
I have to watch every video on at least 1.5x speed. I have a hard time sitting through most videos 😅
Yes typical for individuals who may have ADHD
after about 3 seconds i moved the video up to 1.5 speed😭 the joy i felt when netflix added the speed change was immeasurable i could finally watch the shows i wanted to watch i had been on youtube all quarantine because i could barely focus with all the slow talking on netflix
i've had a lil suspicion that i have ADHD, well a big suspicion... I've done as much research as I could on it and the symptoms and during that entire time of researching i just kept thinking "soo... neuro-typical people don't do this stuff??" I've been watching a few videos on women who had undiagnosed ADHD and i felt almost relieved that i wasn't the only one going through this.
Today i told my parents that i THINK i have ADHD....yeah it didn't go so well. All of my knoledge about it went *poof* and next thing i know I was a sobbing mess getting yelled at by their parents for being dramatic and lazy and wanting to play the victim, even comparing me to my siblings who are aperently more lickely to have it. And I'm sorry but- you suspect that your child might have a mental illness and you've done nothing about it?? They told me I should at least *try* to find a "cure" for my anxiety and depression because i wasn't gonna do anything by crying (as if the point of my research wasn't to try and find a way to live a calmer life).
That mess ended with me saying most of my struggles to my mom who kept insisting it was just hormones and that it would pass. She offered to try and look into a therapist if that would help me but made it very clear that she'd never let them give me medication. hhhhh I hated that entire thing but ig I can at least hope to get therapy soon.
if you made it to the end, ty for taking the time to read my ted talk of a vent on this comment section and I hope no one else has to go through this. ever. stay safe
I have not been diagnosed with ADHD yet, and just learned about it for like 4-5 months. After learning about it and its symptoms in girls, my life finally made sense, so much it made me cry. I always thought I was a failure because I worked so hard for things but I kept failing, losing things, forgetting important tasks and even appointments, make at least one mistake with anything I do, and lost friends because they could not understand why I was so disorganized and impulsive. My emotions usually get the best out of me and I get overwhelmed about pretty much everything. My brain won't shut off that it takes me 4 hours from when I lie down, to get to sleep. Then have a hard time waking up. I started having anxiety and social anxiety as I got older, even though I have good family background and no traumatic experiences.
I live in a country where disorders still get stigma, and I honestly don't know where to start. Psychology and Psychiatry is not that advanced here, too, so I have been putting off going to a specialist to get diagnosed. I have been trying self help and somehow it helped significantly but I know I still need help.
Saame also for time planning I use a watch now and time how long roughly each task I do and then go from there to plan the tasks out
Thank you for acknowledging that it's real, and for showing a range of adult women.
I often got told "you look like you're in your world" or "this has already been explained to you many times" I've been yelled and screamed at, fired many times, been bullied really badly and always always been made to feel like I was not enough.....not careful enough, not working hard enough. Just never good enough. So I carried that pain and shame with me for a long long time. It wasn't until the end of last year that I finally put all the pieces together and figured it out. I describe ADHD as having to live life with both hands tied behind your back. No one has empathy for you or even tries to understand. No one is on your side so you have to fight alone. For a long time, I hated my existence. I hated being alive but also couldn't bring myself to end it so I lived in misery. I'm undiagnosed but at least now I know what I need to do. At least I know now to advocate for myself. I feel like I have built up a resiliency and a strength because of Adhd. I read that with ADHD life is about Pain, Paradox and Power. I think it's all about using these three P's to turn your life from suffering to thriving.
So much exactly my experience
I couldn’t wait to leave school, as soon as I could I was gone. Had I been diagnosed younger my life could’ve been so different, now I love to learn. It’s so much easier when you know why you are the way you are.
I had an abusive childhood was a very anxious child ,but I still did very well in school until adolescense and puberty kicked in. I started getting bullied alot about my weight and overnight I became an anxious/depressed/ spaced out teenager who couldnt concentrate and was very withdrawn. Its very confusing to distinguish between whats trauma and whats ADHD?
I have the exact same story. Hope we can find answers soon.
CPTSD can present similarly to ADHD, so that may be something to look into
I believe I have both ADHD and CPTSD, but whether or not it's both, what's more important is that you have the same symptoms (more or less) either way. The Body Keeps the Score goes in depth on CPTSD so I would recommend starting there if you haven't read it yet. ADHD and trauma manifest so similarly in a way that ADHD videos can give tools regardless of whether it's CPTSD alone or more. Trauma can also cause memory loss so it can be difficult to tell if you had ADHD from a young age or not unless there are reliable witnesses. Some people with ADHD do well in school and some don't so it's hard to say based on that alone. You may never know for certain and that's OK. What's most important is that you spend time healing which it seems you're already doing by being here :) a therapist can help you get a different point of view as well but I know finding the right one is tricky or is too expensive if insurance doesn't cover. If possible though, I suggest looking for a therapist who has or who specializes in ADHD or CPTSD. Lmk if you have any questions. I wish I knew more people who related a few years ago when I was in a similar position to you (lots of questioning and uncertainty)! You're not alone
Oh my gosh it’s almost like we’ve had the same experience down to a t. Have you had any help/thoughts/diagnosis 5 months on?
Searching for answers myself. Was recommended a book by Dr Mate, it looks promising, starting to read it today. The book is called Scattered minds. Another highly recommended book which you may have heard of is by Pete Walker called Complex PTSD from surviving to thriving. Good luck in your journey and search for answers. Thank you for sharing 🙏.
I was diagnosed a month ago at 33 and I feel like I can breathe for the first time ever.
I got diagnosed at 33 too! And it felt like a huge weight was lifted off me to finally have answers, but it was a feeling short lived because all I got was a diagnosis. No help or support from my psychiatrist at all. I don't know any coping techniques, or how to manage my symptoms/behaviors, nothing...and he won't prescribe me any medications so with no help at all and now knowing for sure that I have ADHD has just caused me more stress and anxiety then ever before 😫 it's been 7 months since I got my diagnosis. I now have to wait months just to talk with another psychiatrist for any sort of help. I requested a female psychiatrist this time, I hope that she'll understand that this is a real problem and can help.
@@cic5347 If you’ve already been diagnosed, you may want to try one of the online avenues to get medication. It’s surprisingly affordable and sometimes you can get meds in a few days!
I just got diagnosed, I'm 60, when my 30 year old daughter was diagnosed, she said 'Mom, you 100 % have it!' I started researching and it's been such an emotional roller coaster, all the 'what ifs?' are devastating! I'm now trying to figure out meds, I've been on antidepressants and anxiety medication for decades! I'm really trying to look forward, I can't change my past. At least I now know that all failures were not my fault and I'm not the 'Flake' I've always been called.
i think i might have it, i also think my mom has it, too. so ADHD is genetic?
I was diagnosed autistic at age 35 and now at age 42 I’m realising that I have all the symptoms of ADHD. Apparently this is a common comorbidity. My daughters are both diagnosed autistic & one of them also has ADHD symptoms.
I have both
Diagnosed at 50. This was so wonderful to "connect" with others and understand our similarities. What a blessing!!
I just wish my parents would know what the girl symptoms was like, then maybe they would realize I have most of them and get me tested
Maybe speak to a teacher or trusted adult who can talk to your parents on your behalf. In the UK you can talk to your doctor as a teenager in confidence too. Good luck x
Seek independent help from a trusted adult
Every time I’m in class I find myself doing other stuff, and at school I get distracted and starts fidgeting or going to sleep it’s really hard for me to focus.
I feel like I’m one of the lucky few women who were diagnosed at age 8.
Truly a blessing & I can’t imagine how it must feel being diagnosed later in life.
Being able to have an explanation to how you are & why would are the way you are is such a relief. 🙏🏼
Sending love to all the fellow ADHDers 🫶🏼
I don’t even know what to say, this past year I keep coming back to ADHD thinking I was stupid to think I had it but the more I read about women’s experiences with it, the more it hits, I have no friends, I’m so so depressed and really struggle with anxiety, it takes me a whole week to bring myself to start working, I was always a good student until midway through secondary school I suddenly failed everything, I was spaced out, couldn’t work, I was suicidal, self harming so much, then I was dropped out of college becuase of my lack of concentration and anxiety.
somehow I got into one of the top art schools in the country and now after a year away from school the concentration and everything has hit 10x harder, I have a million things I want to do in a day but end up not do anything because I just space the f out
I’m really considering seeing if I can get a diagnosis because it has affected my life in ways I had never imagined,
Thank you so much for this discussion
Just got diagnosed at 31. I have never understood why I couldn’t just manage having a full time job, and adult responsibilities. I thought it was all my fault, I was wrong, I was selfish, lazy, and just not good enough. I day dreamed the entire time I was in school, had obsessive tendencies, hyper fixated on the things I was interested in, and honestly even the things I didn’t want to. Now I know. It’s not my fault. All of this is not my fault. My lateness, my irresponsibility, my immaturity, my boss telling me “you need to read a room better”…it wasn’t my fault.
Also, my mom asked my paediatrician if I had ADHD when I was extremely young, but because I had good grades, and wasn’t an issue for teachers, he said no, I was just hyper. Never mind my parents had to put me in swimming, diving, tennis, golf, clubs, soccer, basketball, softball just to get me to “burn out” my energy, because I couldn’t sleep at night because I’m talking and singing to myself for hours. I’m so thankful my mom had the idea. So thankful. I love her so much.
this is spot on for me as a girl because i was recently diagnosed with ADHD at 19 after my older brother was diagnosed at 10. we displayed similar symptoms and behaved the same way, but he received help first. he ‘just couldn’t help it’, and i was a massive failure. so glad i know what i have now so i can get treated!
I've been vacillating about a diagnosis for myself, but something was so relatable about the manner in which these women spoke about their experiences. The content was relatable too, but the way they expressed themselves, their metaphors and how easily they made them and kind of rely on them.... I relate so much. The idea of having a calm brain that thinks one thought at a time by default is baffling to me, too. I definitely cried during the outro and yeah, I think I'm in this club and I really do yearn to learn my own system. Of my closest friends that have known me 5-10 years, I've been telling them lately that I might be / have ADHD and they responded they wouldn't be surprised. My main hesitation to adopt the label is that I have a lot of comorbidity with complex PTSD and that's my primary "regular life disruptor" so to speak. Since they overlap with symptoms quite a bit I just want to feel more confident that I don't just have very severe-in-certain-ways c-PTSD.
I remember getting so bored during elementary coz I already finished reading all my books even before classes start. This video makes me rethink and get a diagnosis.😳
This is an amazing video. Thank you!
I couldn't help but to cry watching this. I've never be able to relate to a group of people so much until now. It wasn't until this year that I realized that I had ADD. Being self aware has helped me put so many things into perspective. Thank you so much for sharing this video!
I am genuinely not sure if I am crying because I finally understand what's wrong with me or that I finally found people who understand me and know what I am going through. I think it might be tears of joy too :') Thank you so much for the awareness and for the beautiful people in this video.
There is nothing “wrong” with you. Your brain is high-functioning. It is far more common than I think you realise… I don’t know about you but I like the way I am and have come to embrace it. Finding coping strategies is the most important thing. Communicate your feelings.
Wishing you all the best.
This video made me cry, not because it made me upset, but because I finally understand more about myself and where I fit.
I have years and years of report cards that mention "staring out the window, daydreaming, needs to focus, talks at inappropriate times". But I got good grades, I was well-behaved...
Most of us did until the world came crashing down with the pandemic I wasn’t diagnosed
I’ve been so focused on learning more and more about ADHD I believe I have this I’m 24 and I’m struggling so hard. I can’t keep up with my bills my messy house I have so many thoughts I’m always day dreaming. I thought adhd was hyperactive! In school I never talked to anyone I was always day dreaming and so bored in school. But I just told me therapist I might have adhd I was told I have anxiety but once I get my tests results back I’ll know for sure
I’m haven’t been diagnosed with adhd. I’ve always questioned it and so have my family. As a kid they brought me to the doctors to check if I was adhd but was not diagnosed. Watching this made me cry because it made me feel so understood. Reading the comments I find so many commonalities with how I grew up too.
It’s so good to know I’m NOT CRAZY & I AM NOT ALONE. None of us are. This is like the ADHD Bar & Grill. We are safe here.
I'm 46 and I was diagnosed just 2 years ago. I wish there was a local support group for women like me. It amazes me how much people are still so bewildered by some of struggles.
This.... spoke to me in ways I never thought anyone would express :( I'm having trouble getting diagnosed because everything gets blamed on CPTSD. But I did a ton o recovery there and now the ADHD symptoms are really breaking out and causing more and more issues. I feel heard with this video.
Damn, this video made me cry. So many aspects I've struggled with (and still do to this day). I've only very recently had a therapist tell me I probably have ADHD and after researching it in women I've realised just how much I need to get this addressed and try and get a diagnosis!
This is incredible. I was recently reading over my psych-ed assessment from 14 years ago and couldn't believe that it had taken 19 years for someone to say, "You should get assessed." My problems in school were so typical of a girl with ADHD and my peer struggles were so severe at times. Thank you for creating this depiction of what life is like for us women with ADHD.
as a 23 year old woman whos just now getting diagnosed, this video hit really really hard. i developed depression and anxiety from feeling inadequate compared to my classmates. i couldnt do my homework, clean my room or take care of my hygiene. i would often be late to class or miss class entirely. but no one ever even considered that it might have been adhd. learning about adhd turned my world upside down. i now understand myself so much better.
I cried when I watched this.
I'm 26 years old and working towards getting a diagnosis still. However watching this video brought me so much hope. I've struggled socially my whole life and the learnt behaviors to try and hide or mask my symptoms aren't working like they used too. I've struggled with substance abuse for years to try and self medicate the brain chatter and anxiety and shame. My Dr gave me a two week perspiration and I've already noticed a huge difference in my emotions- certain triggers have came up and instead of going into a melt down or running to my poor coping mechanisms in turn resulting in weeks of manic behavior I am able to rationalize and take actions logically. I know this will be a long journey of finding what works for me and for so long I've denied help or was against medication yet I've come to learn some people's brain don't function how their supposed to and its okay to get help. Sending love to anyone else on this journey it's fricken scary and isolating please hear me when I say you are so deserving of the help you need ❤
I recently got diagnosed with add. I struggled so hard all my life with relationships, friends, family, school and now university. I just couldn't handle it anymore because the structure of school, that helped me get through wasn't there anymore. I literally couldn't function anymore. I was unable to do things, I couldn't focus on anything anymore and it made me more anxious and depressed than I already was.
Thank you so much for making this!!
So, nice to explain to others about our struggles - I only found out last year at 38yrs old.
Taking my meds and finding systems that help me has been life changing.
Wow thank you very much for this video! Im 38 and i was only diagnosed at 34 and I definitely do feel alone at times with this disorder and still struggle, currently undergoing a change of meds.🤞
This is really helpful information! Thank you for sharing something so hard and personal when looking at your struggles.
Even with a diagnosis at a young age, ive still never been understood by others. People tend to understand the physical symptoms but don’t realize how much adhd patients hide symptoms and mirror others, especially in girls. People just dont understand what they dont see and I really hope that one day adhd could be more understood in depth, that its not just a difficulty to pay attention in class.
This made me cry, i can relate with so much here. It's been a huge struggle the last year since going back to college. I'm thankfully getting tested next week! Hopefully i'll get some answers
I am a female doctor with ADHD. I've had trouble focusing since I was a child. When I'm sitting there, my attention gets drawn to anything around me, and when I study, I can't focus for more than three minutes. I've always felt out of place.
But I want to become a doctor. When I was preparing for the USMLE, while most people completed their Qbank in six months or a few months, it took me three years. I couldn't focus, and after finishing one question, I wanted to do something else, like cleaning, watching TV, or listening to music. I simply couldn't concentrate.
My mother always said that I never stuck to one thing, couldn't focus, and attributed all of this to my laziness. When I entered medical school and interned in the psychiatric department, my supervising doctor told me I had ADHD. I'm still working hard to improve myself now.
Thank you. 🙏 I hope to figure out what will work for me and anyone else who's struggling 🙏
Wow. Extremely eye opening. I knew a lot of the challenge ADHD, being unrecognized, caused me throughout my life. I knew what havok it wrought on my school, college, and work life. But I never really made the connection with a lot of my social issues. I never knew my struggle with self-harm could be related. I still to this day wonder what my life would look like if I recognized this issue earlier, and was able to begin building those supports earlier in my life. Sad to think about, but I am hopeful for young girls today as research begins to catch up and people are able to recognize and help them earlier and earlier.
Idk if I have ADHD, Autism, or both. Both of my sons have been diagnosed with autism and I can’t seem to find anyone who specializes in diagnosing Autism in adults. It’s so frustrating. And I’m a single mom at that. Life is hard af rn and I need answers so I can have solutions so I can be a better functioning mom. I’m sad.
The idea I might have a touch of ADHD popped into my head like two weeks ago. I just feel a sense of relief and understanding that "ooh I might not be lazy and stupid, I just have this thing! Everything is much clearer now!" Lots to process. Love to all the people (girls/grown women) in the comments
I wasn't diagnosed until I was in my thirties and it explained so much.
Really helpful video. Thank you.
I was diagnosed early in school. I was sent to a “special” school. The school taught motor reading and math skills. I was a behavioral problem to the point I slept under a table where the teacher would put me so I would not disturb the rest of the class. That was the worst time thinking I was not as equal to others. After leaving that school the public school offered the LD program that I spent another three years. I know I have problems. I often wonder what would have life been had I been treated regularly? I am 58 now. I wish I could do life differently. I did work. I never married because I can’t handle relationships. I hope you all have a better life.
I'm so sorry to hear this Liz. Thinking of you and hoping your journey gets easier. Thank you for sharing your experience.
That must bevery encouraging for women late diagnosed in life in their 30s, 40s and 50s. They still have time to realize their potential. I was diagnosed in my early 60s. I don't have a support network, my family and friends kinda laugh me off. I'm still very alone and affected in all ä aspects of my life
Hugs x
Thank you for helping me understand.
Literally crying watching this, I’m 28F and went to the doctors yesterday, I asked my doctor to be referred for ADHD screening. 🤞🏻
As good as this was, I wish they had also discussed how rates of substance use disorders are significantly higher in those with ADHD. It's another risk factor to shine a light on -- especially for young people & especially if years of addiction can be prevented.
Really? I didn’t know this I wonder why
@@spicyramen5135 There are multiple reasons for ADHD being associated with higher rates of substance use disorders -- and current research is providing more information all the time. Some of the reasons have to do with neurological factors common in both neurodivergent individuals and those with genetic vulnerabilities to addiction -- brain structure and function, nervous system sensitivities, etc. Some have to do with the difficulties faced by people with ADHD & other neurodiverse individuals -- childhood trauma, challenges in school, career, social relationships, self-esteem. As someone with ADHD and alcohol use disorder, I certainly wish I'd known earlier in life (I'm now 63) that I couldn't afford to indulge the way my friends could -- that I was playing with fire. Thank goodness, I'm sober now -- but I might have saved myself years of misery if I'd known how risky my "party years" were.
@@spicyramen5135 And btw -- I live in Hawaii. Spicy Ramen is a staple! 😋
watching this makes me teared up. i think I have adhd too but inattentive type. the reason I haven't got diagnosed with doctor is because I never knew ADHD or ADD, I never think the symptoms like that can be diagnosed with ADHD or mental illness. all this time i thought what i had or experience was just like anybody else's but often times felt like I'm not normal. Like i struggled to get really into doing study or work, like it took a while for me to actually do it. and i alsoe experience other symptoms as well in which i won't mentioned in here. but right now i really... felt understood by this video. So thank you for making this. now.. i have to think how do i deal with this...
Getting medicated in middle school made me depressed and started my self harming. It isn't for everyone. Today I use my ADHD to my benefit as a stay at home wife and mom.
We can do it without medication I prefer coaching and strategy building
I also hate the stims
Good info. Older lady seem like a great facilitator (I'm assuming she is here)...
Bravo for sharing....bc it's a REAL struggle for us women
I always struggled with sitting down and doing my homework, have trouble with the concept of time (like making sure I have enough time to get ready for the day and enough time to drive to an appointment to get there early), am easily distracted while doing homework, and am forgetful with my school work and personal life events
What an insightful video , thank you 🙏 😊
Thank you for this. I’m 54 and was diagnosed 2 weeks ago with ADHD. Years ago a co-worker swore I had it and that I should be checked. I KNEW I didn’t. 😬 A few months ago my son and daughter-in-law were both diagnosed with my son telling me I really needed to get checked out too because he’s “just like me”.
What I’m realizing is I have put so many coping mechanisms in place over the years to compensate for what I thought were character flaws in myself that to the outside world I appear to have my poop in a group 🙄
I’d like to find a local support group of women and girls.
I can relate to this, not sure if I have it but many family members have been getting diagnosed but I keep thinking, "I can't have it, I'm never late, I'm organized, etc..." But then I realized I'm obsessively so because I'm always worried about forgetting something or being late. So, I may look into it.
I’m the same age as you and even taught many children with ADHD in mental health settings. At least 2 family members have been diagnosed with it but I never have even though I’m pretty sure I have it. I actually like the way my mind pings from one thing to another and seeks novelty. But the coping mechanism thing rings true for me. The personal cost of keeping everything together is sometimes too high though. If I am organised in work, home is a mess and vice versa. I could have had ‘could do better’ as my school mantra, as well as lazy, careless, chatty, messy. I eventually gave up trying too hard because I noticed that I got the same grades whether or not I put in an effort. I only recently found out about the term twice exceptional (2e) which seems to fit with people like us who manage to use our considerable strengths to mask the things we struggle with and may explain why even the mental health professionals I worked with never noticed it in me.
All that said, I believe that many of those ‘character flaws’ you mentioned are not that important anyway. Who cares if my house is untidy? They can clean it if it offends them. I talk too much but I don’t get offended if people interrupt and ask me to stop. My ADHD makes me honest, forgiving, accepting, tolerant and adaptable. A support group would be great though.
Iam always lonely and never felt like i would be able to have friends, till today im all alone in my own world. Feels so exhausting to have contact with ppl, makes me more stressed, worried about stuff that doesnt even exist. I always tried to act like others and to be normal, but a year ago i knew that im me and im special in my own way. Im grateful for everything ive beenthrough, always had haters in school that never liked the ^smart me^ . Today i really dont care anymore about getting friends, i feel like begin alone is my only time to feel peace within myself. I will never be like others, because im very smart in my own way. ❤️ be grateful
This morning of Nov 18 is the first day taking a medicine for my adhd. I watched this and in general it's a supporting feeling being able to relate to these woman but also I was so focused on what was going on. I actually absorbed the information for once. Im actually watching this clip without loosing train of thought or getting anxious about it. Interesting :)
When she said her brain felt slower..... oh my goodness that's un believable accurate.
I am 65 years old. and I see myself in a lot of the descriptions of symptoms. Thank yku
"It's not like one light bulb, its like a whole set of floodlights." - Yeah.. I was diagnosed this year, 2021 an I am in my 40's. These floodlights are so bright and I cannot find my way to a safe and comfortable place to sit down with it all...
Got diagnosed with ADHD at 18 in late 2020, currently seeking autism diagnosis at 20. Learning I had ADHD completely turned my life and perception of self around and it's only been about 3 years.
I genuinely thought that I was just lazy, and that I was good at making people smart when I wasn't, and that I was a failure of a human being. I had dropped out of college semester 1 because online learning for a programming class was my absolute breaking point.
I went back to the same program and the same school after my diagnosis. Got 90s in multiple classes. I wasn't stupid. I was disabled and needed help.
Luckily nearly my entire class for this program are autistic or have ADHD so when we suggest study methods to each other it's very much going to work with whatever brainworms I have that month with some weird niche obsession
I was late every day of work for 4 months bc I couldn’t comprehend that 10 minutes til I need to leave doesn’t mean I have time to do my hair, and get dressed, grab my bag, put on my shoes and pack lunch. Ugh and I feel so guilty. I’m trying to do better
What a beautiful and heartbreaking video. I've just found out at 46, when the hormones of perimenopause threw my otherwise undiagnosed ADHD into a crisis that affected all areas of my life. I would like to be in a group, what a beautiful idea. Thanks for the video
Yesterday I told my mom I made an appointment to see if I have ADHD she told me they’re gonna tell me yes i do because they want just want me to buy the meds and that I don’t have it and they’re going to lie to me. Know I only have doubts but now that I’ve gone back to school after Covid I’ve noticed a lot of things that adHd women do, not sure who to believe anymore.
I think if you suspect that this is what you have you should see a psychiatrist that deals with a lot of adhd patients and knows what to look out for. You will only know if you try. I wouldn't let what your mom said dissuade you, it's your life and if there are things out there that can help you then you need to seek that help.
My mom didn’t think to test me so I never got help. I have to cope on my own which is to say not at all... get tested.
Get tested. I was diagnosed 3 months ago, at 56. My life would have been sooooo different if I'd had coping techniques and meds.
get tested. if you're an adult, they're less likely to diagnose you with adhd, and while yes, they can be influenced by pharmaceutical companies, it's not nearly as bad as your mom makes it seem. there's ways you can tell as well. usually they give you a test. and my psychiatrist wanted to work on my mood disorders before working on my adhd, so i knew they weren't just trying to get me on adderall.
keep in mind that adderall is an abused substance that a lot of people already sell, so it's not as likely that they'll prescribe that just to make money, since it's so common.
you also have more options than just stimulants, if you get diagnosed. there's cognitive behavioral therapy or non stimulant medication available too.
don't let your mom keep you from getting help.
But if you dont want to take meds, you dont have to. You can take a therapy where you learn how to deal with your brain :) for example how to learn effectively. Its your health, your life and yourself that you'll be dealing with 24/7. I know that's hard when your a teenager, but give it a try. Try to persuade your mother.
Thank you.
Never realised that ADHD "looked" like this.. not by any stretch of imagination would I think me and my family have ADD. I did my degree through distance learning and thankfully, I was mostly interested in most of the courses. I also chose courses that I knew I'd be interested in after doing badly for 1 year with courses that I had zero interest in. But the best part was being able to do things and learn/study in my own time, according to my own pace. When I was later thrown back into a classroom setting with younger people, I struggled so much and was so utterly unhappy. Now, looking back, it finally made sense.
The teacher gave me a really hard time for not being able to pay attention or falling asleep in class (I also slept a lot in class throughout secondary school). Regardless, when left to my own vices, and knowing what I have to actually achieve, I'd force myself using different methods to study and prepare for exams. I think the teacher just finds it quite surprising that I could still do well despite my inability to focus. Now I'm just wondering if I should actually get an actual diagnosis and try getting on medication. I live in Asia where diagnoses like these can severely impact work and school.
This video kind of inspired me to maybe seek a therapy group to chat with.. I take medication, but I don't feel like it's helping me heal or improve my behavior and self esteem.. you know? Thank you
*I really tried focusing on this to watch the video but I can't. Nice video/idea though. I'd probably share this for family/friends so they can understand.*
I'm a black female who has ADHD as well as autism. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 30. And by that time I basically figured it out myself. 🙄It's never looked for in women at that time much less in women of color. I was told "she's just shy" when I was MUTE as a young child. ALL the signs were there for the autism part more so when I was a child. The ADHD was "she's so smart that she's bored." And I didn't have the hyper part at all. I was the quiet child who has low self esteem, bullied because I was obviously "different", issues at home to top it off, I had a hard time keeping friends because I didn't understand HOW to keep friends. Now I'm nearing 40 and STILL struggle with the ADHD. BUT now KNOWING what the issue is vs me constantly blaming myself for things I truly couldn't control. It's a night and day difference since I can now gain a better understanding on what's wrong so I can recognize when certain issues arise.
This helped me so much, I wanna cry. Last year 2021 I am diagnosed with Depression and ADHD, I told people like my closest one about it they said u don't look like only my mom said "Ah! That's why!." I am really seeking for help because for how many years I want know why, WHY I AM LIKE THESE and that?to the point I want to take my own life
I hate being diagnosed at 24 because I’m finding out so many things I do that make me fall behind I always thought something was wrong but felt SO ashamed I could not meet deadlines, be on time, finish any creative work or laundry in a timely manner. All these things affected me so much all this time. I flunked college, had to resign from one job, still live with parents and still no drivers license, won’t eat until late, won’t sleep until late, won’t clean until...late but never finish the same night. Yet, my mind is always thinking about those things. Ugh.
my grades have been suffering and so has my mental health but none of my family members noticed because I wasn’t hyperactive. struggling with math since I was in first grade and now with c*tting I think this makes a lot of sense I just wish I would’ve known sooner.
A ll my life people thought I was weird or stuck up or untrustworthy and dishonest. I just act a little oddly I have weird motor skills I sit quiet but maybe if I felt comfortable I was a bit too comfortable so other kids parents thought I was bad? Teachers thought I was trying to pull something. Other kids thought I was uncool or annoying until like 9th grade and I still wasn't exactly beating friends off with a stick. I always felt like I wasn't one of the people anyone first thought of when planning anything as a group and maybe I just ended up there because I inserted myself or someone felt sorry for me . Now I am 33 and I've always been like not the most delicate gal I don't mean in terms of build just more a bit rough around the edges unpolished if you will but my only saving grace socially was people seem to find me pretty and that's led to like an unreasonable obsession with never looking bad people interpret as conceitedness and so since I'm terrified of the almost certain rejection I try not to bother anyone and keep small talk and such brief cuz it's inevitable I'll be awkward and then I have to feel their judgements... thus people think I am stuck up and think I'm better than everyone or they think oh she's lying she's plotting lol no its been really quite a lonely life if I'm honest .
Iv known for several years that this is my struggle. I told a doctor and she said 'why do you want a diagnosis'. I haven't been able to get anyone to listen and at 60, iv given up trying
Thank you Thank you Thank you for this video
My son has been none stop from the get go and it brings back memories of comments i received as a child. It all makes so much sense now , I was considering high functioning autism but we don't quite fit the symptoms. Literally everything they saying I can relate to , maybe the confidence of boys is what helps them succeed better in social life. I agree with the comment about it being difficult to confuse trauma with adhd symptoms. I've never been able to put a finger on it or maybe never wanted to admit it. Interesting though. Definitely getting our assessments. My job is supposed to be keeping relatively still haha no wonder I struggle 😅 we use breathing techniques but in tired days wow its hard because we rarely have down days.