Finding out you have 6 months or less to live
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- What is it like to find out you only have 6 months or less to live? Would you live differently?
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What's something you would want to change?
Spending more time with family. But making peace with my 3 sisters as we don’t speak after the death of our parents. They passed with in a year of each other. Things just went south after that. Not about the will or property money. It was we all have strong personalities that clashed.
Can you clarify the following Julia, if you are able to put aside your psychopathic traits. According to the AMA, journal of oncology, and new england journal of medicine chemotheraphy is 97% ineffective after 100 obituary study,. The NO1 leading cause of death is pharmaceutical MD direct treatments. MD`s make direct cuts from prescribing drugs and getting as many people onto prescriptions as possible. I have spoke to numerous MD`s and they have stated they get houses bought for them, luxury holidays, hotels, all different kinds of benefits. The average cancer patient is worth upto $1.5million dollars in the USA alone.
It depends on person's character. I would be rather preoccupied with waiting which is boring. Waiting as long as six months? what for? all the more that I don't have family.
I would change family melodrama. If someone is dying there is always a dramatic moron in the mix. I wish people would never do that. It is not about them.
I would continue as I'm doing now. I'm writing letters to people letting them know how I feel. I'm letting some know that no matter when I would die all would be forgiven. If I could I would travel. Find homes for my wonderful plants and travel.
My aunt was given a year to live with no treatment, maybe two years with treatment. The two years with treatment would mean she felt sick much of the time. She opted for no treatment. We took a cruise while she still felt good. She had been a healthy eater for all the good that it did. The last year she ate ribs, pizza, pasta, pastry, all the things she usually avoided. She gave away all her stuff. Sold her condo and gave her daughter the check. In the last 3 weeks of her life she was very proud of the fact that all she owned in the world was 3 pairs of pajamas. She checked herself into hospice and died 2 weeks later. She managed it all with grace and dignity.
I would be thrilled & honored to follow her footsteps. Class act.
I plan if I am told that to do the same … actually I have already done most already since my husband died!
I take it one day at a time and I will not go through the horrible chemo etc.
Living Will … to help your love ones in case I am rushed to ER and need Life Support!
Hospital cannot give it to me with my Living Will.
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I think I would choose the same way as your aunt if I had the same diagnosis. She did everything perfectly in my eyes. I’d rather spend the rest of my life being happy with my family and doing the things I never did and wanted to do, like travel to exotic places I’ve never been to. I’d also be very relieved to get rid of all of my belongings,because I’ve collected so much , mostly sentimental items and that might be harder to do so I’m hoping my family would want to keep those treasured items that mostly were given to me by them in the first place. All my live I’ve dragged boxes of “things” that have caused a lot of stress bc I’ve moved a lot! I in my last year, I want to be like your aunt and just let go of the “stuff” I can’t take with me anyway. lol God bless you , your family and your wonderful aunt. Amen🙏❤️
❤❤❤ That's the Smartest thing I have ever heard of 😮😢😊 as bad as it sounds😉🥴🥺💯❣️... But I'd rather have 2 years of happiness ☺️ Love ♥️ Laughter 😅, than 4 years of sickness 🤢😷, n Mark off a bucket 🪣 list ✅❣️
I Commend her n her Choices ❤❤❤
Omg that hurts but she’s in a better place and I’m looking at all this stuff because my friend have cancer and they gave her six months smh
Hospice nurses are angels on this earth
I've got chronic lymphocytic leukemia, no cure and also no timetable for the end. . I've expressed to my doctor I'm grateful to have a slow form of cancer, not acute. I try to imagine the people who are diagnosed and only have a few days, weeks, or months to live and the distres it gives them, probably a lot of soul searching occurs. We are all terminal and I. accepted that decades ago. I've learned more about cancer from Google and TH-cam than any doctor shared with me. I'm grateful every day I wake up and have food, shelter, mobility, and all my senses. P.S. your channel has given me comfort beyond measure, thank you nurse Julie.😊
God bless you. I KNOW that we are spiritual beings having a human experience. The spirit never dies and you have the same feelings and are you out of the body. I look forward to moving on someday without this human shell to hinder me. I just thought you should know and not have fear of losing who you are. ❤
I understand what you are saying. I have pancreatic neuroendocrine cancer,…a slower growing cancer that is chronic rather than acute. While I can still have something that can go wrong quickly, I have to think and subsequently live like I have life ahead of me. It still is a struggle and there are times that I have dark sad days, but I also have much to be grateful for. I admire those that get a terminal diagnosis and can make the most of their time and be positive with the life that they have. ❤️
Start your bucket list ! It's your time and your family would want you to go out with a bang!
@@daisyandme72 I'm certain you are also grateful for modern medicine, knowing what is occurring within our body is a relief compared to not knowing. I plan to continue enjoying this journey as long as my body allows, as will you.
@@mattdonna9677 Thanks so much! I hope we both have many many years. My oncologist said that his dream is that I die with this cancer and not from this cancer! I do too!❤️
Hi Julie, I'm 72 and I lost my wife 7 years ago after 16 years on the Breast Cancer roller coaster. 5 times we were told that she wouldn't see Christmas. Oddly she always did but the uncertainty was always there. In the end she had a blood test and the results were bad. It was Dec. 2nd and the doctor said she wouldn't probably see Christmas. I hate Christmas now. The test showed it had gone into her liver. She had little time to think about it, she passed on the 14th. We had our Christmas together on the 12th with all the family. She had been planning her end for several years. She didn't change a thing. The last thing she said to me was, are you going to be ok. I said no. Since her passing I have had a life changing time. I live every day one at a time. I don't like making plans for any thing. Having stuff matters very little and I have given most of that stuff that was important away to those who would like them. I paint pictures and give them away to people who find them appealing. Just living in the moment is a full time job. I had an accident when I was 5 years old and had the most wonderful life after my NDE. I have always known that all of this is not some short story about a kid who grew up and died. It is the story of hundreds of lives and the collective emotions we feel over all of those past lives. We are just passing through for short visit. The priority is realizing what is real and what is not. You can't take the physical with you but I know 1st hand that every emotion you have ever felt... stays alive within you when you leave this.
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This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing it. “Living in the moment is a full time job”. Would make a nice bumper sticker yes? Mind if I borrow this nugget of wisdom?
Go ahead, make it your moto and life style@@pcs1120
I want to thank you so much with your info on death. It prepared me with my husbands stage 4 lung cancer. I was the only one doing the home hospice. He died in my arms in peace where he wanted to be. I wasn't afraid but understood what was happening when he left. Thank you so much for helping me get through that time.
Thank you Tracy- and thank you for being there for your husband
Omg I am reading all the comments because a friend was told she had six months and she’s so irritated with visitors but she’s always been mean. but it was a shock to me and sorry to hear that
My Dad was diagnosed with multiple myeloma early this year. He declined treatment and was given six months to live. He ate what he wanted to eat. He did what he was able to do. My Mom never wanted him to grow a mustache. He grew a mustache. My Mom didn't want a pet. He bought a dog. Most of this time was spend on a nice recliner watching NCIS and he was happy that way. The family got to spend a ton of time with him. I asked him point blank what it was like knowing that he was going to die. He refused to be upset or depressed about it. He chose to enjoy the time he had left to the fullest. He loved and was loved. He died peacefully in hospice on July 28. This channel was incredibly helpful with knowing what to expect.
2 years ago I started to live my life under this premise and I love it. Death is the ultimate motivator. You are always dying, you just haven't received the news yet. You don't need someone to tell you you have X months left to live to actually "start living".
Love your content
Amen!
@@Elingsanto , My favorite quote...that I live daily is, "Live in this moment...this moment is your LIFE." ❤
I would retire right away. I'd get my financial matters in order. I so appreciate you educating and normalizing death.
Life changing topic. 10 years ago partner diagnosed with little chance of survival. We sold almost everything, removed stress, and worked down the bucket list. Still alive, never without some ongoing problem, but at this point we both feel content knowing we are fulfilled and not leaving a mess for family to deal with.
Julie, you are an American Treasure! I'm a Hospice Liaison in Milwaukee and I frequently meet with patients and families at bedside in Hospitals or Skilled Nursing Facilities. Often I am the most candid messenger of the news they need to hear. It breaks my heart. It's amazing how much patients and their loved ones appreciate the empathetic, straight truth. The relief I see on patient and family member's faces often brings me to tears, or at least a giant lump in my throat when I return to the privacy of my car, when I know Hospice and their comfort care is coordinated.
Jeff!!!! Thank YOU for all you do!!! Milwaukee is lucky to have you!!
It has been my experience, as a nurse, that they often know & are just awaiting confirmation from a caregiver, which we cannot provide.
Thanks Julie. I go to the oncoligist tomorrow for my results. This video could not have come at a better time for me.
Best of luck to you....
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Good luck ❤
May your results be better than you expected Kevin and certainly manageable for you. Love from Australia
Could you please communicate the result here? Oct.12, 2023
I don’t have a terminal illness, but I’m mostly housebound. A friend died earlier this year & was only in their early 50’s. A family member has terminal cancer. Even though I’m unable to leave my home often, I’ve learned to live life to the fullest as much as I can & I’m rarely bored. Life is a gift & old age isn’t guaranteed.
Nurse Julie, my husband had cirrhosis and cancer of the liver. The Dr. never told us how long just that it could go on for years. He started getting really bad in September and by the last week we called hospice. Before we could get all the supplies etc.. that Saturday morning he died. He went so fast I was so glad we called our youngest daughter to come home now so she could say goodbye. Now he is at rest and no pain, thank God 🙏💙
I'm so sorry- thank you for being here and THERE ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. But I just know that, and I have hear Julie say the same, the spirit is eternal and you will be together again someday. Now, it is my personal belief that we have multiple incarnations and lifetimes, which is different than what most people think in the western society, but I do believe that we have “soul families” that we continually reincarnate with across lifetimes.
I said goodbye to my 70 year old mother on September 27th of this year and had the honour of sitting with her for the last five days of her life. I was with her husband who didn't know when to expect seeing that this was both of our first times being with someone while they transitioned. Thanks to hours of watching you videos and understanding the signs and how to tell if she's in pain etc. I do believe that my mom had a good death albeit difficult to watch as her daughter.. I was also able to talk her husband through what was happening so he could understand. It was a true honour, and also so sad for us to lose her. Thank you for providing the information for us regular folks to have and equip ourselves.
My sister’s boyfriend’s dad just died very suddenly from, for lack of a better understanding, “all over” cancer. I wish he could have seen this. He only had a few short months between his diagnosis and death. He was also relatively young. I also wish he had set himself up legally for success. He had no will, no passwords written down, did not save any important documents, and left no way for his next of kin to access his accounts. Now his son is struggling under the crushing weight of grief and legal complexities, and of course it took forever to get the death certificate. It’s so tough figuring out how to do it all by yourself.
Julie, I love your channel. I have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and actually I feel it is a privilege at being able to make plans. It has definitely clarified the relationships that are blossoming and those that are petering out. I was able to retire at a young age, and am enjoying every moment and stopping and smelling the roses. I have time to get my finances in order, and to provide a solid future for my children. I am getting a lot out of watching your channel and I really appreciate all that you are posting. I find your videos, very comforting and encouraging to prepare for what I have coming.
Are u still alive?
Great question! I need to stop being anxious about my health now - I suffer from health anxiety. It detracts from the present moment and robs me of the ‘now’! Xx
I live a less stressful life now, focus on my family, talked to my family about what I want the end to look like, got input on their feelings as well. Took a few short vacations, choosing to look at situations in a different way, stopped focusing on what others think or what social media says I should eat, do, see, think, etc. Down sized 3/4 of my 'stuff' so family doesn't have to do it.
I think if you sort of think about your life in this manner (even if you are healthy and don't have this concern necessarily) it will help you live a better life overall. I'm not saying to drop everything you're doing and do what you want, but mostly make time for the things that are important to you and that you want to do, and don't be the one who works really really hard, doesn't take vacations or visit family, on the assumption "I'll do that later". If you're diagnosed with something (or worse yet, die from something unexpectedly) that would be tragic, and why I think the saying "Life life today as if it was your last" has a lot of meaning that tends to be ignored, as people (especially those without any type of illness) tend to think they have all the time in the world to do things.
Hi Julie 😊
My grandmother used to say that everyday we live is one day closer to death. It may sound morbid but it has helped me live my life well and I have helped friends and family when it was their time to leave this earth. I was brought up to believe that death is just part of the circle of life and a normal thing. Ive always felt honored to help and reassure- kind of a blessing ❤❤❤. What you do for everyday
People is wonderful, there's such a need for information not just what to expect but that there should also be dignity in death as well 😊.
So very true
Since losing my mum and dad at every new day I say it's one day closer to being reunited forever ❤
This is a heavy topic but an important one one! I have an incurable cancer but I do have a few years left. My family tiptoes around the subject but I WANT to talk about it!
Great question Julie! You are definitely making me think. I will travel much more. I love to explore and learn. I’m currently overseeing my 90 year old Mom and her care at senior living. Planning trips while she is doing well. Life is so short.
Thanks Julie. My husband was given a terminal diagnosis at the age of 54-13 years ago. His first question to the doctor- what will i do about my work? He was a social worker. We really need to think about what is important for us.
I was in the room with my parents when her doctor came in and told them Mom had lymphoma. My mom's first question was, can I give this to my grandchildren. I had to think of that moment when you said that we need to think about what is important for us.
OUTSTANDING VIDEO!
Hi Julie. No I wouldn’t change anything at all. I have thought a fair bit about this, I am content. When my life course has been run then so be it. I will go contentedly into the land of blissful unawareness. Life can be hard, I am sure that passing for a lot of people would be a blessing. Thanks for your Channel ❤️
I love this and thank you for being here and taking the time to comment 💗💗
Great video, I was thinking 5 to 10 years to live feeling the way I do. Chemo made me feel like I aged 10 to 15 years.
You really are a gift for us Julie. Your candidness , caring and knowledge helps more people than you realize. ❤
Taking care of my father has taught me to make sure everything is prepared in my life just in case God forbid something happens to me.
Excellent advice!
Thank you Julie ❤ for the information you provide ❤ love this channel
I believe that knowing when you die is a gift. You have a chance to put things in order, to say goodbye to love ones. Also it gives some time to reflect on your life and answer questions your loved one were always afraid to ask you. Only in the western world people are afraid of dying because all the negativity. Good you have six month, do something crazy you always wanted, create a bucket list and take action, you have nothing to loose. ❤
My husband is in the 6 month window. For me as caregiver. Idk how to help. The only thing I know to say is. We still have to keep on living. Cause it’s so scary you feel nothing is important. And he thinks of all the things that bothered him through his life and d in the end it never really mattered. I should just erase. But I already typed it out. I’m leaving it. And reading the comments. Thanks so much for all your help.
I am sorry to hear about your husband, and what you must be going through. I will pray for him right now, and for strength and comfort to help you at this time. I would ask you to lean on Jesus for everything you are going through. I would like to let you know He is alive and willing to come into your lives, to give you that peace, comfort, direction, and spiritual assurance. Im not trying to preach to you, but I just want you to know we are all in need of a savior before our time is up, and we never know when that time will be. He loves and cares for you, and wants to be first in your life. John 3:3 says, except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Acts 2:21 says, whosoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved. So there is a need for salvation. We dont get to heaven by being a good person. We have all sinned, and therefore need salvation. And all you need to do is open your heart, repent of your sins, and trust in Jesus, by just asking Him into your life, and to let Him take control. Romans 10:9 says, That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the grave, you will be saved. I dont know you, but Jesus put you in my heart to reach out to you, and give you hope. If you do, He will respond, and send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you, and transform your heart and mind. To give you that peace, joy, comfort, and guidance that you need at this time. He is your evidence of salvation. God bless you both, in Jesus name!!
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As usual! Great video! I am comfy right now at home. I would like to stay at home in my bed and use my witts to make sure everyone who is surviving knows what to do. I would get rid of clothes and possessions etc.
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I agree totally on the issue of physicians not really being effective in their communications about dying, or for many other issues as well. I have found to repeat back what a doc will tell me. Purposely, I will state the extreme to open up the conversation.
Julie. You are awsome ❤
Very good topic... I've been a caregiver since 2008. Every client that I've taken care of regret the booze, smoking or drugs they have indulged in. Many of my clients have wanted to see family more before their passing.... This is why I try to stay in a state of 'gratitude' everyday...
My dad was.put on hospice on Aug 14th, and he passed on Sept 22. Gallbladder cancer that had spread to liver. I watched so many of your videos to try to prepare for his death. My dad told us that he had 2 more days, that thats all he could handle, and sure enough he died 2 days after that. I saw the color fade from his face after the death rattle. It's weird that it's called that. To me, it sounded like his spirit leaving his body, it was so loud & then just quietness, I was amazed at what the human body goes through. Thank you for all of your knowledge 🙏
What a day for this video to pop up!
Waiting for the Pathology report hopefully this week. Tumor popped up almost overnight on my hairline.
It's been removed & sent to lab.
Last Friday it came out, that Saturday I just broke down, dried my tears, took a deep breath & got busy!! I had shared your videos with my sister, her husband passed 1 yr ago on Thanksgiving. She'ls doing well!!!! Crossing fingers, but formulating plans....I look at this way, I will know my expiration date!!
Thanks Julie!!!!
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Sue!!! I'm so glad you're here and what a week for you!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻. Sending loving prayers and support your way. Thank you for sharing me with your family
This is a question I've contemplated often since my husband's death in 2012, and recently with my partner's death on 8/26 this year. It's a difficult one, and there are many ways to go depending on the actual diagnosis. My late husband's stage 3 rectal cancer got treated and he hit his 5 years cancer free celebration...however, when the cancer came back (in his stomach) he knew he didn't want to get treatment again, and chose to live out his remaining days as much as possible, and went into hospice care which lasted 6 months. My partner had Colin cancer 8 years ago, clean bill of health without treatment...but it came back in his lungs. This time he chose treatment, even though it was stage 4, the oncologist said it was a slow growing type...and for a while the chemo did reduce the tumor...but after almost 3 years of that it stopped working and he went into hospice...lasting about 6 months as well. After watching how sick the treatment made them, unless I was diagnosed with stage 1 or 2 cancer, I would opt out. I would travel as much as possible with my kids and grandchildren until I went home.
Thank you for sharing - yes- it's often that second time it returns 😔😔❤️❤️
I have terminal cancer and wouldn’t change anything. I am surrounded by people I love, work (when I can) in a job that is deeply meaningful, and appreciate every day as a gift. It is truly precious time.
Thank you.
Thought provoking video. Thanks for sharing Nurse Julie!💐
I am working on a novel called "The Spirit Guide" and your videos have been part of my research. ❤
the only spirit guide you need is the Holy Spirit. Everything else is not of God
I love nurse Julie, and the work she does to help people, my mother was on hospice in Georgia , a little while before she passed, I appreciated the ladies who came to care for my mother, ❤️🌞
I realised after a brain bleed how much I took for granted, it gave me a clearer perspective on my life. Everyone is different, we are all going to leave this earth at some time, and we can choose how we approach it. Self-compassion, love and patience and gratitude is helping me these days. I love your channel. Thank you this is an important topic and it helps when a professional opens the debate!
Julie, I am facing several health issues myself and I do not know how it will turn out. I would focus on finding someone to take care of my Mom. She has many health issues. I have taken care of her in my home for 18 years now. SHE has to be taken care of when I am not here anymore. I don't really matter. I can't rely on my siblings. They have thrown her out in the past. I can say it would be a struggle to get things organized. But I will, one way or another.
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Im 38 and have had severe depression for 20 years. I've wasted my life. I often think of this question, and it terrifies me. I don't want to die, i haven't lived. Every single day i wake up not wanting to be here anymore, yet having this constant ache to feel better. I have no life. Its physically painful to try to 'live'. I feel terrible guilt for wasting the prescious time I've been given. I'm convinced that if i was given 6 months to live, I'd spend every second crying about it and grieving and wasting it. I don't want it to be like this, i desperately long to experience life before i die.
What would be something you'd like to experience?
How have you wasted it? Everyday EVERYONE has wasted their life because we all have to work.. u get more freedom later in life with SS and retirement
This is such great content… death & dying are still huge tabus in our society. In Buddhism there’s an expression live your life like it would be your last day … This brings tremendous awareness & acceptance into the is-ness of life , which finally means to surrender to greater forces .
Thank you Julie for your ongoing & tireless work and inspiration 🙏💖
Excellent video. Family is always #1 whether we are going to die in a few months or not.
In the world outside of my mind, I wish to communicate with my relatives more frequently. Whereas in my inner world, I aspire to be happy with what I have and refrain from desiring more material possessions. I would like to reconcile with those whom I have not yet made amends with. Also, I want to let go of the past, live in the present moment, and cherish the time I have with my loved ones without worrying about the future. I want to accept my reality as it is and find peace in it without any stress or anxiety.
Memento Mori.....remember, man, that thou art dust, and unto dust shalt thou return. It's true for us all. You can get killed in a wreck or be shot on the street this afternoon. Death can come at any time and tomorrow is not promised.
I always live like this because I always think I’m dying of something thanks to webmd
Well I've told my dr's and pallitive team no more hospitals I just want to stay home and the time I have I want to spend with my sons.
Great content! Thanks, NJ! 💞
This video was so great! I have thought about this before and there are 2 people I would spend time with who live across the country from me now..Thoughtful video.
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Hi Julie,
I seem to be an anomaly. I have stage 4 breast cancer and just hanging around until I get to go on. I call where I am " God's waiting room". There isn't another thing I want to do or experience. When I was younger, I traveled and did everything on my bucket list. I do have a great family and very supportive. Everything is done for "after". Sooo now its just a waiting game. And I am totally at peace. ❤
I will change nothing, I leave my life knowing that any time life can change ¬hing is for ever is OK & I fell free I only want to be the best I can be, my goal is to leave a better &easier place for the people I love.
I love love love this!
My parents are both dead. My older brother (by 4 years) died earlier this spring. I'm it. I'm the one left of my bio family. So, yeah, I've been thinking and feeling about this.
A friend of mine just passed from brain cancer. She was doing so well for 5yrs but then it spread to her spine and they told her she had 6 to 8 wks. She lasted 3 wks. She pretty much slept the whole time and was comfortable. She was a gem.
I'd want to come to terms with it. I'd want medications to keep me comfortable. I'd want to meet people I love, have parties, travel, or whatever I can do. I'd make sure that my cat had a place to go, afterwards. I'd probably cut out toxic friends, (in the process of that, after some intense therapy and realisations). I think honestly, we are generally complacent. We take living for granted. We put up with stuff, or behave in ways that's not really making the best of what we have or what we could have. I'd want to do more art, write that book I've always wanted to, go swimming more. I have learned over the past three months of EMDR therapy, that I do a lot of things that make me unhappy.
And honestly, this really resonated with me, because I've become a lot more confident, and sure of what I want. I've become more assertive, I know now what I won't tolerate. It sounds kind of odd, but, honestly? It's like my old life, the old me who was stuck in constant panic and fear from past abuse, is dead or dying. I've had DID for over a decade. I'm ok with those personas not being distinct separate parts of me any more, because, well, they ARE me, and were all along, so they're just going back into integration, as they should do. It still feels like they are being lost a bit though, which is weird.
If I was diagnosed with a terminal illness, apart from wanting to travel the world (with what money I don't know), I'd be doing some of the same things I'm doing now. But there's always more to do. I'd be less bothered when people are dicks, because it wouldn't matter to me. I'd not even know them or ever see them again in a month, or six months, or whatever I'd have. Mind you, thinking about it, I won't see them anyway in six months likely, so, they don't matter either.
I've been making my way from bed bound, to wheelchair, to crutch walking, and it's taken a long time. I can honestly say, people have no idea of the blessing they have when they are healthy, and their mind is working well. I feel that the stuff I have been through, though awful, is nowhere near what people go through with a terminal illness. But you'd need to adjust, and prepare. The only way to do that, is for doctors to be honest, and open. They should be, out of respect to the person, and be real with them. I think I'd be more accepting, and just get on with shit faster.
From someone that should be dead 3yrs ago from motorcycle accident and a near death experience,I'm not afraid to die now,I believe that changed me quite a bit from the person I used to be,but to answer your question I would probably change my attitude towards people a little more, unfortunately people today take life for granted and that bothers me!
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I like thinking about this question. Turning 69 soon I do think about what I would do if I got a six-month diagnosis. I feel sure that I would want to enjoy family and nature more. I don’t feel the need to travel or fulfill bucket list items. Just be comfortable, enjoy the outside and my family and friends and give thanks to living a long life, raising my kids and enjoying retirement time.
I would "Swedish Deathclean" my belongings so as not to leave any human debris or entanglements behind for the spouse. Then I would likely sell our house and rent so as to not leave that money pit to her. Purchase an annuity to pay for her future core needs. Prepare and fund my holy ceremony and remains disposal. Then it's all joy, love and faith for as long as I remain conscious.
Yeessssssss!
I think I would try harder to stay in touch with family and friends more. I'm very much an introvert and really prefer to be alone but yeah, I would at least try to talk on the phone a bit more frequently with family and friends so that when I do die, they will at least know I loved them even though I don't like being around other people.
Same! 🥰🥰❤️
Julie,firstly let me say you are an inspiration to so many people,please don't ever stop being you or doing what you do. I'd try and get out of this unhappy relationship of almost 20 years,currently can't because of financial side of things mainly. My own health is failing ( mainly just old age although only just made up 58 this year) and have had few falls this year,can't be rehoused into something more suitable because of arrears . So,overall I'd say people should try and make bad any I'll feelings among those close to them and definitely make family priority.
Thank you Julie for your videos and your work in hospice. I am in palliative care and value ever day.
After starting to watch this channel, this has really made me think about how I would like to live and die. I have become more spiritual as I have gotten older, which I believe has helped me, but I have told my sons that I would want to have fun for as long as I could, and then be in as little pain and distress as possible, as well as not being a burden to them. My husband died when he was only 40 (17 yrs ago), so I’m praying that I will see him again.❤️
Like you said re-evaluating my family relationships would be priority. Currently I am estranged from my youngest daughter and by extension my 2 grandsons. I do not have closure on that in any way that I am satisfied with. There was an issue of elder abuse which resulted in me leaving their home, kicked out to be blunt about it. I never had the opportunity to express my issues with her. There's much the air has to be cleared on. It would gasten my demise if any of that was incomplete.
Happy #HospiceCareWeek and thank you for all you do!
Good video!! Great! The questions that make us live, it's more than to just exist.
Hi Julie, have you ever had someone with chronic fatigue syndrome (neuro-immune disease with PEM, not just being tired) come into hospice with a terminal disease? I have this disease and one thing that is on my mind as I age is how I would manage such a prognosis with my limitations. With covid there are more and more people developing cfs unfortunately.
@@mattdonna9677 yes, I had lots of bloodwork done in the course of getting my diagnosis. It's not chronic fatigue, it's chronic fatigue syndrome which is a neuro-immune disease. Also known as myalgic encephalomyelitis. ME/CFS is my diagnosis. I appreciate your concern though
Julie, you are an angel on earth! Thank you for doing these videos. They are so informative & honest. I used to be a hospice nurse (way before the internet was even invented! Ha!) & definitely can relate to you. God bless you for doing what you do. We all need to live life as if this was our last day! ❤
I have 2 terminal cancers 1 is Liver Cancer and the other is Bowel Cancer that has moved to my left lung my Bowel Cancer saw the removal of my Large Colon I also died 4 times in Hospital the 3rd time that I died was in ICU I saw my sisters and my horses and dogs my doctors told me I have only got a few months to live but I am happy with what little time I have left the only problem is I am gonna miss Montana
Montana is beautiful. I hope you are free from physical pain❤
@@mattdonna9677 At the moment no physical pain which is good but I know it will be coming
Hug to you 💕💕 if God made Montana, just think of how incredible the original (Heaven) must be 🤗
Thank you for being here with us Tom. Montana is gonna miss you too 💗💗💗💗💗💗
I am sorry to hear that, and what you must be going through. I will pray for you right now, and for strength and comfort to help you at this time. I would ask you to lean on Jesus for everything you are going through. I would like to let you know He is alive and willing to come into your lives, to give you that peace, comfort, direction, and spiritual assurance. Im not trying to preach to you, but I just want you to know we are all in need of a savior before our time is up, and we never know when that time will be. He loves and cares for you, and wants to be first in your life. John 3:3 says, except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. Acts 2:21 says, whosoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved. So there is a need for salvation. We dont get to heaven by being a good person. We have all sinned, and therefore need salvation. And all you need to do is open your heart, repent of your sins, and trust in Jesus, by just asking Him into your life, and to let Him take control. Romans 10:9 says, That if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the grave, you will be saved. I dont know you, but Jesus put you in my heart to reach out to you, and give you hope. If you do, He will respond, and send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you, and transform your heart and mind. To give you that peace, joy, comfort, and guidance that you need at this time. He is your evidence of salvation. God bless you, in Jesus name!!
Where would we be without our nurses and caregivers 💙 Thanks for sharing!
I am diabetic with many of the secondary issues starting to fill very tired fill like my health is going down i have faith in the lord and have since I don't have many years left or sooner; good to talk about this the picture is in my 20's in the 1990 s looking for that great day of crossing over
Thank God for your articles we were not able to be there when dad died early in the a.m. in hospice he was sleeping peacefully we went home to rest I have been very hard on myself about that butcher articles bring me comfort and peace finally. Thank you
My brother was given 6 months but servided 20 months. I and he worked so hard for this.😊
last night they chopped off all my right toes. BAD scary
infection, doc said chop them off and live or no surgery and I could be dead in 7 days, I'm cool with dying, it's way overdue.. all 3 of my kids voted to cut, so, it looks like the whole leg is going to get lopped off. Whether at the knee or the hip... so I am determined to just live day by day, minute by minute.. God knows how long this will take, so NO plans moving ahead, just get thru it and God will take me home....
God BLESS you Julie and all of our wonderful nurses, you girls (and guys) ROCK !!!
Thank you for making me think about this. I am going to be making changes.❤
So so grateful for you and your messages Julie. Everyone needs to hear it!😊
Thanks!
I recently heard this quote: "Live how you want to be remembered." That has really made me think and start changing my actions, words and attitude. I would love to spend more time with our children and grandchildren if I knew I only had a short time to live.
Love you, Julie.
You're the BEST!!
THANK YOU 4 what u do!! GRATITUDE!!!!
I just discovered your channel and it's wonderful! I am not dying, however, I've been living with depression for years and often think about dying to end my struggle... I wouldn't commit suicide (it might not be successful especiallyif i chicken out); I just will sleep alot. Today's discussion topic will help me navigate the incessant thoughts I have in another perspective other than my therapy, etc... thank you 🌺
Thankyou. I agree. In fact I believe it's wholesome, mature and necessary to contemplate one's own death and to face and accept it. It is not morbid or sick. The same as every situation in life, to be in denial causes unnecessary fear and suffering.
I love your content. Thank you! I have my Mom who is in the beginning stages of Dementia. Thank you for your realistic observations about this Topic!
I work as a cna and I take care of residents with dementia! It’s tuff because they don’t understand what’s going on and they may not talk but they don’t forget family they’ve known their entire lives!
I would retire immediately instead of waiting until January. Other than that, I am happy with the life that God has given me. I am on loving terms with all my family and visit the ones who live close by at least once a week. I spend a lot of time with God and volunteering. It’s a good life, and I am grateful for it.
I wish you lived close to me so I could sit and talk with you. I have ckd and had my right kidney removed 3.5 years ago and was told I may not make it out of surgery . I did and refused dialysis. Here I am still all these years later chugging along at renal failure and no Drs understand how or why I am surviving. I live with the fear of dying everyday I find the mental anguish as hard to deal with as the disease itself. Your videos have helped me cope with this event happening for me probably soon but have no time frame. It’s still scary for me.
Oh wow Barbara- what a miracle you are. Thank you for being so vulnerable- it will help others. Thank you for being here
Yes I am a miracle bc there is no medical explanation for my situation. My doctors say that to me so I keep praying. Thanks for your response.
Good info ty
I might have pancreatic cancer. In fact I'm flying this afternoon from a very remote location (via angel flights) to see a doctor to see if I have pancreatic cancer or if I am "just" going to have a pancreotectomy. It's easy to say oh you would do this or that or wouldn't do this or that but a lot plays into it too. One of the biggest things that I find plays into the things I want to do is money, of course, and how bad I'm feeling. Most days I can hardly get out of bed. That prevents me from doing much of the traveling I still want to do.
If I know I have 6 months or less definitely stop work as I am of retirement age! Try to spend more time with family if I’m feeling up to it! Look for pain control if needed! Maybe if a good day get outdoors a little more! Do comfortable things! Very interesting question what would you want to do!
I would live everyday for God 🙏
Everyone is different. Not everyone wants to know the full truth and this should also be respected. My late husband got diagnosed with bowel cancer 8 years ago at a relatively young age our girls were 11 and 15. We had all our affairs in order and knew we all have to make every day account. I told the medics numerous times he does not want to know how long yet they kept asking him did he want to know and he said no yet they kept trying to push it. It is an individuals choice surely. When my mum was diagnosed she was very brave and immediately asked. We are not all the same and this needs to be respected. My heart has been totally broken both times and sadly our hospice was not good. We all get through this differently.
I want to breath. I have Colon cancer that has gone to my lungs. I've prayed for 6 years! Just got a clot. So now breathing is harder. I want to breath and live!!!
Thank You Nurse Julie!!….
Great video bestie! I love it! ❤❤❤
Thanks bestie!! ❤️❤️❤️