I don’t believe in a soulmate, but there is so much about finding a partner that you can’t control. To find someone who is also single, is also attracted to you, shares your beliefs etc… I don’t think it’s ‘luck’ I think it’s God’s providence 😊
100% guys. A choice and total commitment. After years together, you grow together and adjust to each other. Been married to the same man for 40 years. I can honestly say that I love him more and like him more and respect him more and enjoy who he is more nowadays than way back then. If people can hang on through the hard times, the companionship that grows is the best thing. And it's fun!
I actually really needed to hear this..pregnant with baby 2, 5 years married 14 years together, and going through a rough season...needing to get my head in the right head space and work on myself and marriage more. Thanks for putting this out when I needed to hear it!
This has to be one of the best podcasts I have listened to that you guys have done!!! Agree with you guys 100%. I’ve been married for almost 3 years and I think it can be tough to always think positively of your partner, but at the end of the day you always choose them because you CHOSE to marry them and you can choose to love them no matter what. Amen!
This podcast has been seriously revolutionary. You guys are a true breath of fresh air and a fresh breath of truth. The world needs your voices more than ever right now.
This is profoundly helpful! This is coming from someone who has struggled with consuming fears of finding the “right” person. I have found a really good guy that I love, so I’ve been intentionally working on these fears/ doubts that have been stopping me. Hearing this really validates what I’ve been trying to work on in my relationship ❤
In the 10 years that I've been married I've learned that my husband is the man that I chose to marry, not my soul mate. Marriage is a beautiful thing. It's a challenge to die to yourself daily and be selfless for the other. My Creator, alone, is my soul mate. He is the only one that fulfills me in all the ways that I need.
THANK YOU!!! You are both spot on. Shawn, thanks for pointing out that the “soul mate” theory can sometimes be used as a cop-out during troubled times in a relationship. Too much entitlement and not enough understanding, loyalty and commitment in our world today. I would also like to say that the word coincidence is NOT in the Lord’s vocabulary. He knows and loves each one of us personally and sent us to this earth to fulfill His divine plan. You are both wonderful examples of what it means to make a contract/covenant with the Lord and with each other. I love to watch your daily progression on this journey we call life. Together with God, all things are possible!
Love this podcast! 100% agree with y’all on this topic! Such a fascinating discussion! I love seeing and hearing your genuine thoughts…you can tell both of you care so much about communicating thoroughly and effectively. Great example!
I used to believe in soulmates. But after 50 years of marriage, I can honestly, say, through all our ups and downs, all of Life’s little challenges. We all bring our own expectations of what a marriage should be. So together with the person you love and respect and trust you take both lives blend them together to make a beautiful marriage.. I think as long as you respect each other’s opinions and trust that person you can work through anything but first and foremost you need to respect each other.
My husband and I have been saying this for years. It's 30 years for us. I have friends from other countries that have arranged marriages and they are very much in love with each other. As a born-again Christian, I don't believe in only one person for you. I do believe God put my husband in my path, but we chose to date/marry. Marriage is hard. It is every day getting up and choosing to love. We have concluded that no one is in love when they marry. We think you are infatuated with that person. Love is hard and is developed/grown over time. No we can say we are honestly in love with each other. Yes, 100% if you focus on the negative or get selfish that is when you start seeing issues and have to do a renewing of your mind/heart. Excellent topic. I forwarded it to a few people
Nobody is perfect . But I will say my husband and I met and knew right after our first date. We were engaged a month later and married 4 months later. We are coming up on 10 years and still confident God chose him to be my husband. ❤ we knew with our morals and values aligning that all of the other stuff would work it’s self out. God knew what he was doing . It’s been wonderful. I believe that love is a choice and not just a feeling. Marriage is a convent and you can make it “work” with another spouse. But my personal experience is god made us for each other. ❤
Thank you so much for making this episode. I am so thankful for me and my husband's marriage. We have been together for 15 years and almost 9 years married. He is my bestfriend and I couldn't imagine building this life with anyone else. ❤
This was so thought provoking! I think it’s a pretty complex theological/philosophical topic. Wouldn’t quite say I believe in predestination or soulmates but definitely believe in providence and God’s sovereignty. I can see God’s fingerprints on your guys’s love story but also can see the choice you both made to have faith in God and to love one another. Super fascinating podcast!
I agree with Mrs. East that 1 Soul Mate is a toxic idea. I totally agree that once you choose 1 person, loyalty is utmost of person. I agree with Mr. East that once you are married, that person is the 1 and only unless there is abuse. Abuse is a deal breaker no matter whether you are married or not. Then you have to heal and learn to choose a better "1".
I don’t believe in soulmates because that would mean there is a PERFECT person out there for you and there is no perfect person in the world! Also I don’t believe in predestination because that would take out free will!!
I have been married twice and is single at the moment. The one thing that really kills a marriage is trust. If there is no trust that’s the end of the marriage because it doesn’t matter how much you work on the marriage or how much you try, trust is the one that is the killer does not matter how much you love the person.
Yepp, I believe in soul connection (spirit led)... not the one but the community you surround yourselves with. GOD sets up his plan for you and brings people to you to help create it on earth.... one soul mate ?!absolutely not! Many that are still as close as family.... no matter how far apart.... yes. Relationships, especially marraige, isn't a soul mate situation, That is a commitment to do life together. That means ups and downs, arguments and chores, but your plan and their plan align with God's will. When I hear soulmate? I hear holy spirit connections....... that's all.
I think the argument left out the sovereignty of God a bit. If you show up to your wedding day thinking this is the person the Lord has brought me and I will honour Him and live out this marriage in His strength you can argue that’s “the one”. I think this discussion was one type of “the one” but you could also have a discussion about how God created Eve for Adam. There are different ways to define it, some being healthier than others.
I was looking for a comment like this. I like how you said one type of "the one". I am a believer, I was adopted all the way from S. Korea and I just can't believe that I just stumbled through life and made decisions and found my husband and simply chose him. I think God's plan and path for me brought me to him but yes I do actively choose him everyday since I met him. But I can't believe a tiny 5 month old from Korea just happened to make her way through life and meet and choose a man from Buffalo years later and there is nothing divine about it?
I may not agree 100% with everything said here but you had some outstanding thinking points that I used to journal and truly ponder about what I believe about soulmates and marriage. Thank you! It has taken me like 3 hours to fully listen because I keep pausing and journaling and reflecting throughout. I loved this episode!
In countries that arranged marriages are prevalent, a family finds another family and two families merge into a cohesive unit. Each person compromises and works on the relationship. You learn to love the person you are married to by getting to know each other and grow with each other. You fall in love in the process. A relationship is built on trust. There are layers. All layers work together to make it work. It is less about selfishness and more about making others happy by not losing yourself which inturn makes you happy & at peace with yourself. It is a give & take. So, when you touch a rough patch, everyone helps you get over it because you have a relationship with each family member & there is a level of trust that the advice you are getting comes from a genuine concern. Less individualistic & more togetherness.
I’m almost 10 yrs older than both of you, but I really agree with what Shawn said. Do not write someone off based on a checklist. If I would’ve done that I would’ve missed out on my fiancé. Some people are super humble or guarded, and wait to reveal all their positives.
Married 40 years and it’s been work but he is my soulmate. Not to say he is the only one. Soulmate and only one person for each person are two different things.
I love your attitudes toward your marriage commitment! I have been married to my husband for 38 years. We have a loving partnership attitude to work together through life’s challenges. We are working towards a new chapter in our life together: hubby retires in 7 mos. ❤
Many years ago I asked my dad how he put up with my mother and her drinking. His response was, "I choose to look at the good things your mother does." This goes back to what we are taught that we CHOOSE to love someone. Once you make that choice permanent, you choose every day to work on your life together. Very good episode.
There is a certain kind of love that can be accessed through commitment and an intention of walking into the physical and nonphysical unknown together. Commitment takes emotional, mental, physical and spiritual hygiene, but it is such an honor to love that deeply with one other precious soul. That love cannot be duplicated.
I believe God has a plan for everyone. I without a doubt believe God had my husband and I planned for each other from before we entered the world. It’s not that he’s perfect or I’m perfect but when we met there was an instant connection that we both felt was from God (not experienced before). Not like just an attraction or infatuation. It was honestly a spiritual experience that I don’t doubt was orchestrated by God. Of course marriage is a choice and it’s work in a beautiful way but I don’t think I’d feel as full with anyone else in the world because I believe God led us to each other for His reasons. And I’m so thankful for it.
SO GLAD to see someone say what I immediately thought and wanted to say. I believe it depends on what YOUR definition of a Soul Mate is... The WORLD romanticizes that term and makes it this EVENT of fireworks going off behind a person's head and a swell of orchestra music playing... While cool as that appears to be to our romantic sides, this almost NEVER happens My husband and I have been together for 15 years and married for 14. I 110% believe and know God hand picked him for me and we are so blessed to actually listen and see that. But being hand picked for one another doesn't suddenly mean that you both are alike in every single way and it's EASY, and perfect... NO!!! It is not a lie or cliche when we hear "Opposites attract"... It's true We are different in every single way you can possibly imagine but HE'S MY PERSON. He can say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing but I could never imagine my life with anyone else Love isn't an ooey gooey feeling, it's a CHOICE. An intentional choice every single day to see past the other's imperfections and mess ups to the other side of who God made them to be and love them anyway just like you would. Being each other's "Soul Mate" doesn't erase the WORK and the daily choice to show up and extend continuous love, grace and mercy toward each other. Love is a VERB, NOT a NOUN❤
I am not married yet but I have met the person I plan to be with the rest of my life. We met over 3 years ago and he made me a promise ring a month later and got me a ring for Valentines day. No it wasn't a proposal. We moved in together after a few months and have worked through things. The complexity that comes with marriage as far as the government, insurance, etc., we aren't rushing it but we know it'll happen. We work together because we are each other's ride or die and have made that clear and are consistently working to make it work as we grow and change. We talk about how much we love the experiences and travel and have seen each other through different seasons, different moves, etc., and it has been worth it. He is my person but I don't see the need to rush it if you already act married but just don't have the legal documentation. It obviously depends on the situation but that has been my experience.
that ending had me rolled over laughing 😂 i have to say lethargic in my charting a lot so that tickled me so! y’all are the best! been following for years now. 😊
I believe in a different definition of soul mate. I actually believe in multiple soul mates and they can be found in friends. That there can be an instant connection because of that soul mate connection. My husband and two best friends. I remember the day I met them. My best friend we were 9th and 6th grade. My Dad taught him. We had an instant friend connection the very moment we met. I even told my Dad that day .. that kid is going to be my best friend I feel it in my soul. Here we are 30 plus years later. Best friends. Husband. Another friends car broke down. He asked for a ride. I drove him to work. Met my future husband. We had an immediate connection although we didn't date for almost 3 years after meeting. We were friends first. My 2nd bestie met in person to set up for a get together and we just had a blast setting that up. Instant connection. All 3 are my soul mates in different ways.
Love you both❤️😀celebrating my 10th year Anniversary with my person November 2023. What you share is spot on. Marriage is work and a Holy Sacrament before the eyes of God. Forgiving Seventy seven time seven..love always
❤❤❤❤This podcast was very impressive. My 1st marriage was horrible and we never prayed together. My 2nd marriage, we pray with each other everyday a couple times a day. Our marriage is a good marriage. However, if we don't pray everyday together, our marriage can day can be a disaster. My husband said I was it the 1st time I met him. We can map our life out and realize that we realize we are soulmates. For an example, I was going to go to Boston for college from Kansas. I changed my mind. My 2nd husband was living 45 minutes away in Maine. My 2nd was in the Army and he got orders to the city I was going to college. I decided to go to a different university. His orders were canceled. I married my 1st husband and he was in the Navy. We were living in Virginia Beach. I went into the company that my 2nd husband worked at because one of his co-workers was the Mom of the daycare children I was taking care of her children. I would take the kids to the pool, library etc and drop them off to her. I never saw my 2nd husband. My 1st husband left me and I got divorced. I obtained a job at the company that the daycare Mom and my 2nd husband where my husband worked. My husband and I were engaged in 9 months. We have been married for 20 years. I never wanted to get married the 2nd time but it was glaringly obvious to us. His 1st marriage was horrible but had she not wanted to move to Virginia from Florida, we might have met. Praying for you, your children and your marriage.
28:29 so my grandmother is the one that told me about soulmate and her view which I do believe is there is one person that is for you and you are going to meet them one way or another but to touch on the topic of what do you do if they pass away I asked her that when I was younger and she told me about your guided partner, which is someone that you believe your soul mates guide it to you after they passed away for you to spend the rest of your life with whether you get married or not it is someone that you will love and they will love you but you can openly talk about your soulmate that passed away and laugh about things you guys did when you were married before they passed and what you loved about them and have that honest open conversation in that relationship and they openly except that and I love that but on that note, I will say I do not believe that a soulmate is someone that is perfect for you and they can do no wrong. If the relationship is that easy and you don’t argue you don’t disagree on things sometimes you don’t have those really deep discussions because of disagreement then somebody is not being completely honest and there is no way to survive a relationship where it is perfect all the time because it is eating away at someone and they’re just not speaking up no relationship is perfect and doesn’t require work
I think a podcast with guests Olivia Zapo (YT channel) and her husband would be incredible. Her motherhood and NICU journey is one that I feel a lot of your listeners would appreciate. She is a beautiful soul. 💗
I don't believe in a true soul mates, I believe you find a person you love and make it work, sometimes it's easy sometimes it hard but the rewards are endless if both people believe this.
I understand that soul mate may not be someone who walks by your side for the rest of your life.. A soul mate can simply enter to your life and leave you a lesson on how to be a better person .. it's up to you if you change for better, or just keep being yoursel .. if you choose the latter, keep in mind that you won't find "the one" because you'll be making the same mistakes .. Besides, "the one" hasn't to be a perfect person., they are human so they have mistakes .. just accept them as they are and work together to achive that happiness that we always want in our lives. (Conversation is very important, so it would be great if you both speak openly from your heart .) I hope that all you find a love that accompanies you even in the most difficult moments .. 😊✨ Btw, I forgot to mention it, but it would be good if you practice self-love. Have a good day .. ☀️🌈✨
Don t belive in luck rather you prepare yourself as a person so when event happen you are open and ready to explore that path. If you go to place A and she goes place A that not luck it's the meeting of the choice and the paths that open once rhere
at 31:34 you brought up Pre-nups.....this is a subject that I think is such crap....going into a marriage signing a pre-nup , to me , is like saying " my marriage is bound to fail , so I want to make sure that I get to keep all my stuff "....why get married then
I think most of the time, prenups are unnecessary. But the thing is, when you get married without a prenup, there is a default divorce process dependent on the state you get divorced in. So a prenup is just the couple agreeing to a particular process rather than leaving it up to the state they happen to be living in when/if they get divorced. So I think practically, there’s not much difference in having one or not. I think people just don’t want to broach the possibility of splitting and actually discussing what would happen. It’s not a bad conversation to have, not necessary per day, but it’s not a bad thing to do.
There is a phenomenon between two people called "twin flames"...I'm not sure how proven it is. But I think some people who believe they've experienced having a soul mate may overlap with the twin flame phenomenon
You guys don't watch a lot of Hallmark movies do you? They've made an entire industry based on "The One." Ya, I know, that's all movies and fantasy. Seriously though, I'd be interested in (and I think Andrew touched on this a bit) how you feel this intersects with the theory of Gods Plan for each and every one of us.
You two are too naive and young to understand what a true soulmate is. Soulmates I got a perfect match they're people who connect deeply Beyond just words and physical connections. I have been married 34 years and it hasn't been the perfect of 34 years that through the whole time there wasn't a time where either of us thought of anybody else other than each other.
I don’t believe in a soulmate, but there is so much about finding a partner that you can’t control. To find someone who is also single, is also attracted to you, shares your beliefs etc… I don’t think it’s ‘luck’ I think it’s God’s providence 😊
100% guys. A choice and total commitment. After years together, you grow together and adjust to each other. Been married to the same man for 40 years. I can honestly say that I love him more and like him more and respect him more and enjoy who he is more nowadays than way back then. If people can hang on through the hard times, the companionship that grows is the best thing. And it's fun!
Exactly. People are so quick to quit when it gets hard.
I do believe in soulmates. I didn’t the first 69 yrs. Now I do, I have found my soulmate after my husband died after 45 yrs of marriage.
I actually really needed to hear this..pregnant with baby 2, 5 years married 14 years together, and going through a rough season...needing to get my head in the right head space and work on myself and marriage more. Thanks for putting this out when I needed to hear it!
“Choose who you love, love your choice.”
This has to be one of the best podcasts I have listened to that you guys have done!!! Agree with you guys 100%. I’ve been married for almost 3 years and I think it can be tough to always think positively of your partner, but at the end of the day you always choose them because you CHOSE to marry them and you can choose to love them no matter what. Amen!
This podcast has been seriously revolutionary. You guys are a true breath of fresh air and a fresh breath of truth. The world needs your voices more than ever right now.
This is profoundly helpful!
This is coming from someone who has struggled with consuming fears of finding the “right” person. I have found a really good guy that I love, so I’ve been intentionally working on these fears/ doubts that have been stopping me. Hearing this really validates what I’ve been trying to work on in my relationship ❤
In the 10 years that I've been married I've learned that my husband is the man that I chose to marry, not my soul mate. Marriage is a beautiful thing. It's a challenge to die to yourself daily and be selfless for the other. My Creator, alone, is my soul mate. He is the only one that fulfills me in all the ways that I need.
THANK YOU!!! You are both spot on. Shawn, thanks for pointing out that the “soul mate” theory can sometimes be used as a cop-out during troubled times in a relationship. Too much entitlement and not enough understanding, loyalty and commitment in our world today. I would also like to say that the word coincidence is NOT in the Lord’s vocabulary. He knows and loves each one of us personally and sent us to this earth to fulfill His divine plan. You are both wonderful examples of what it means to make a contract/covenant with the Lord and with each other. I love to watch your daily progression on this journey we call life. Together with God, all things are possible!
Love this podcast! 100% agree with y’all on this topic! Such a fascinating discussion! I love seeing and hearing your genuine thoughts…you can tell both of you care so much about communicating thoroughly and effectively. Great example!
I used to believe in soulmates. But after 50 years of marriage, I can honestly, say, through all our ups and downs, all of Life’s little challenges. We all bring our own expectations of what a marriage should be. So together with the person you love and respect and trust you take both lives blend them together to make a beautiful marriage.. I think as long as you respect each other’s opinions and trust that person you can work through anything but first and foremost you need to respect each other.
What a great talk!! So great to hear younger couples talking about this.
My husband and I have been saying this for years. It's 30 years for us. I have friends from other countries that have arranged marriages and they are very much in love with each other. As a born-again Christian, I don't believe in only one person for you. I do believe God put my husband in my path, but we chose to date/marry. Marriage is hard. It is every day getting up and choosing to love. We have concluded that no one is in love when they marry. We think you are infatuated with that person. Love is hard and is developed/grown over time. No we can say we are honestly in love with each other. Yes, 100% if you focus on the negative or get selfish that is when you start seeing issues and have to do a renewing of your mind/heart. Excellent topic. I forwarded it to a few people
Nobody is perfect . But I will say my husband and I met and knew right after our first date. We were engaged a month later and married 4 months later. We are coming up on 10 years and still confident God chose him to be my husband. ❤ we knew with our morals and values aligning that all of the other stuff would work it’s self out. God knew what he was doing . It’s been wonderful.
I believe that love is a choice and not just a feeling. Marriage is a convent and you can make it “work” with another spouse. But my personal experience is god made us for each other. ❤
Thank you so much for making this episode. I am so thankful for me and my husband's marriage. We have been together for 15 years and almost 9 years married. He is my bestfriend and I couldn't imagine building this life with anyone else. ❤
This was so thought provoking! I think it’s a pretty complex theological/philosophical topic. Wouldn’t quite say I believe in predestination or soulmates but definitely believe in providence and God’s sovereignty. I can see God’s fingerprints on your guys’s love story but also can see the choice you both made to have faith in God and to love one another. Super fascinating podcast!
I agree with Mrs. East that 1 Soul Mate is a toxic idea. I totally agree that once you choose 1 person, loyalty is utmost of person.
I agree with Mr. East that once you are married, that person is the 1 and only unless there is abuse.
Abuse is a deal breaker no matter whether you are married or not. Then you have to heal and learn to choose a better "1".
Great episode, guys! I’m single at the moment, but taking notes 📝💕
I don’t believe in soulmates because that would mean there is a PERFECT person out there for you and there is no perfect person in the world! Also I don’t believe in predestination because that would take out free will!!
I don't think soulmates are just romantic relationships. ❤
I have been married twice and is single at the moment. The one thing that really kills a marriage is trust. If there is no trust that’s the end of the marriage because it doesn’t matter how much you work on the marriage or how much you try, trust is the one that is the killer does not matter how much you love the person.
Yepp, I believe in soul connection (spirit led)... not the one but the community you surround yourselves with. GOD sets up his plan for you and brings people to you to help create it on earth.... one soul mate ?!absolutely not! Many that are still as close as family.... no matter how far apart.... yes. Relationships, especially marraige, isn't a soul mate situation, That is a commitment to do life together. That means ups and downs, arguments and chores, but your plan and their plan align with God's will. When I hear soulmate? I hear holy spirit connections....... that's all.
I think the argument left out the sovereignty of God a bit. If you show up to your wedding day thinking this is the person the Lord has brought me and I will honour Him and live out this marriage in His strength you can argue that’s “the one”. I think this discussion was one type of “the one” but you could also have a discussion about how God created Eve for Adam. There are different ways to define it, some being healthier than others.
I was looking for a comment like this. I like how you said one type of "the one". I am a believer, I was adopted all the way from S. Korea and I just can't believe that I just stumbled through life and made decisions and found my husband and simply chose him. I think God's plan and path for me brought me to him but yes I do actively choose him everyday since I met him. But I can't believe a tiny 5 month old from Korea just happened to make her way through life and meet and choose a man from Buffalo years later and there is nothing divine about it?
Soul mates are very real. It can be a significant other, a best friend, your child...etc
No I don’t believe soul mates I believe you learn to get along
I may not agree 100% with everything said here but you had some outstanding thinking points that I used to journal and truly ponder about what I believe about soulmates and marriage. Thank you! It has taken me like 3 hours to fully listen because I keep pausing and journaling and reflecting throughout. I loved this episode!
In countries that arranged marriages are prevalent, a family finds another family and two families merge into a cohesive unit. Each person compromises and works on the relationship. You learn to love the person you are married to by getting to know each other and grow with each other. You fall in love in the process. A relationship is built on trust. There are layers. All layers work together to make it work. It is less about selfishness and more about making others happy by not losing yourself which inturn makes you happy & at peace with yourself. It is a give & take. So, when you touch a rough patch, everyone helps you get over it because you have a relationship with each family member & there is a level of trust that the advice you are getting comes from a genuine concern. Less individualistic & more togetherness.
I’m almost 10 yrs older than both of you, but I really agree with what Shawn said. Do not write someone off based on a checklist. If I would’ve done that I would’ve missed out on my fiancé. Some people are super humble or guarded, and wait to reveal all their positives.
This was SUCH a good episode. Thank you
Married 40 years and it’s been work but he is my soulmate. Not to say he is the only one. Soulmate and only one person for each person are two different things.
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this!!
I love your attitudes toward your marriage commitment! I have been married to my husband for 38 years. We have a loving partnership attitude to work together through life’s challenges. We are working towards a new chapter in our life together: hubby retires in 7 mos. ❤
Many years ago I asked my dad how he put up with my mother and her drinking. His response was, "I choose to look at the good things your mother does." This goes back to what we are taught that we CHOOSE to love someone. Once you make that choice permanent, you choose every day to work on your life together.
Very good episode.
Perfect couple. They complinent each other.
There is a certain kind of love that can be accessed through commitment and an intention of walking into the physical and nonphysical unknown together. Commitment takes emotional, mental, physical and spiritual hygiene, but it is such an honor to love that deeply with one other precious soul. That love cannot be duplicated.
I believe God has a plan for everyone. I without a doubt believe God had my husband and I planned for each other from before we entered the world. It’s not that he’s perfect or I’m perfect but when we met there was an instant connection that we both felt was from God (not experienced before). Not like just an attraction or infatuation. It was honestly a spiritual experience that I don’t doubt was orchestrated by God. Of course marriage is a choice and it’s work in a beautiful way but I don’t think I’d feel as full with anyone else in the world because I believe God led us to each other for His reasons. And I’m so thankful for it.
SO GLAD to see someone say what I immediately thought and wanted to say.
I believe it depends on what YOUR definition of a Soul Mate is...
The WORLD romanticizes that term and makes it this EVENT of fireworks going off behind a person's head and a swell of orchestra music playing... While cool as that appears to be to our romantic sides, this almost NEVER happens
My husband and I have been together for 15 years and married for 14. I 110% believe and know God hand picked him for me and we are so blessed to actually listen and see that.
But being hand picked for one another doesn't suddenly mean that you both are alike in every single way and it's EASY, and perfect... NO!!!
It is not a lie or cliche when we hear "Opposites attract"... It's true
We are different in every single way you can possibly imagine but HE'S MY PERSON. He can say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing but I could never imagine my life with anyone else
Love isn't an ooey gooey feeling, it's a CHOICE. An intentional choice every single day to see past the other's imperfections and mess ups to the other side of who God made them to be and love them anyway just like you would.
Being each other's "Soul Mate" doesn't erase the WORK and the daily choice to show up and extend continuous love, grace and mercy toward each other.
Love is a VERB, NOT a NOUN❤
I am not married yet but I have met the person I plan to be with the rest of my life. We met over 3 years ago and he made me a promise ring a month later and got me a ring for Valentines day. No it wasn't a proposal. We moved in together after a few months and have worked through things. The complexity that comes with marriage as far as the government, insurance, etc., we aren't rushing it but we know it'll happen. We work together because we are each other's ride or die and have made that clear and are consistently working to make it work as we grow and change. We talk about how much we love the experiences and travel and have seen each other through different seasons, different moves, etc., and it has been worth it. He is my person but I don't see the need to rush it if you already act married but just don't have the legal documentation. It obviously depends on the situation but that has been my experience.
Loooove y’all’s discussion. I’m single so I can’t comment on the subject but I love y’all and your viewpoints😊
that ending had me rolled over laughing 😂 i have to say lethargic in my charting a lot so that tickled me so! y’all are the best! been following for years now. 😊
I believe in a different definition of soul mate. I actually believe in multiple soul mates and they can be found in friends. That there can be an instant connection because of that soul mate connection. My husband and two best friends. I remember the day I met them. My best friend we were 9th and 6th grade. My Dad taught him. We had an instant friend connection the very moment we met. I even told my Dad that day .. that kid is going to be my best friend I feel it in my soul. Here we are 30 plus years later. Best friends. Husband. Another friends car broke down. He asked for a ride. I drove him to work. Met my future husband. We had an immediate connection although we didn't date for almost 3 years after meeting. We were friends first. My 2nd bestie met in person to set up for a get together and we just had a blast setting that up. Instant connection. All 3 are my soul mates in different ways.
Love you both❤️😀celebrating my 10th year Anniversary with my person November 2023. What you share is spot on. Marriage is work and a Holy Sacrament before the eyes of God. Forgiving Seventy seven time seven..love always
Oh Andrew, you are the cutest! For the record, I didn’t find it lethargic at all 😜😂🥰 love you guys and your honesty/insightful minds:)
❤❤❤❤This podcast was very impressive. My 1st marriage was horrible and we never prayed together. My 2nd marriage, we pray with each other everyday a couple times a day. Our marriage is a good marriage. However, if we don't pray everyday together, our marriage can day can be a disaster. My husband said I was it the 1st time I met him. We can map our life out and realize that we realize we are soulmates. For an example, I was going to go to Boston for college from Kansas. I changed my mind. My 2nd husband was living 45 minutes away in Maine. My 2nd was in the Army and he got orders to the city I was going to college. I decided to go to a different university. His orders were canceled. I married my 1st husband and he was in the Navy. We were living in Virginia Beach. I went into the company that my 2nd husband worked at because one of his co-workers was the Mom of the daycare children I was taking care of her children. I would take the kids to the pool, library etc and drop them off to her. I never saw my 2nd husband. My 1st husband left me and I got divorced. I obtained a job at the company that the daycare Mom and my 2nd husband where my husband worked. My husband and I were engaged in 9 months. We have been married for 20 years. I never wanted to get married the 2nd time but it was glaringly obvious to us. His 1st marriage was horrible but had she not wanted to move to Virginia from Florida, we might have met. Praying for you, your children and your marriage.
Such a great episode!!
Agree 💯!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
As I’ve said before my husband’s reminds me that “ Love is a Decision “
Wow, this was more helpful than all the therapy ive ever gone to. Thank you!
Omg I think I always thought what you guys think but I needed to hear. Thanks so much
wow this is great!
28:29 so my grandmother is the one that told me about soulmate and her view which I do believe is there is one person that is for you and you are going to meet them one way or another but to touch on the topic of what do you do if they pass away I asked her that when I was younger and she told me about your guided partner, which is someone that you believe your soul mates guide it to you after they passed away for you to spend the rest of your life with whether you get married or not it is someone that you will love and they will love you but you can openly talk about your soulmate that passed away and laugh about things you guys did when you were married before they passed and what you loved about them and have that honest open conversation in that relationship and they openly except that and I love that but on that note, I will say I do not believe that a soulmate is someone that is perfect for you and they can do no wrong. If the relationship is that easy and you don’t argue you don’t disagree on things sometimes you don’t have those really deep discussions because of disagreement then somebody is not being completely honest and there is no way to survive a relationship where it is perfect all the time because it is eating away at someone and they’re just not speaking up no relationship is perfect and doesn’t require work
Wow I needed this episode!
I think a podcast with guests Olivia Zapo (YT channel) and her husband would be incredible. Her motherhood and NICU journey is one that I feel a lot of your listeners would appreciate. She is a beautiful soul. 💗
100% agree with Shawn about “the one”
Wow a great episode. You guys changed my mind but i still have a few differences. Thank you for this video. ❤ you guys are awesome!!!
Expectations are premeditated resentments
I don't believe in a true soul mates, I believe you find a person you love and make it work, sometimes it's easy sometimes it hard but the rewards are endless if both people believe this.
Agree with Andrews assessment of what is love
Fabulous episode👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻Love you guys!
Read the book Outliers! It’s outstanding and covers a lot of points talking over innate talent vs opportunities and timing.
I’m actually reading the book on adult attachment theory and it is a very very interesting book also learning about things too!!
I understand that soul mate may not be someone who walks by your side for the rest of your life..
A soul mate can simply enter to your life and leave you a lesson on how to be a better person .. it's up to you if you change for better, or just keep being yoursel .. if you choose the latter, keep in mind that you won't find "the one" because you'll be making the same mistakes ..
Besides, "the one" hasn't to be a perfect person., they are human so they have mistakes .. just accept them as they are and work together to achive that happiness that we always want in our lives.
(Conversation is very important, so it would be great if you both speak openly from your heart .)
I hope that all you find a love that accompanies you even in the most difficult moments .. 😊✨
Btw, I forgot to mention it, but it would be good if you practice self-love.
Have a good day .. ☀️🌈✨
Don t belive in luck rather you prepare yourself as a person so when event happen you are open and ready to explore that path. If you go to place A and she goes place A that not luck it's the meeting of the choice and the paths that open once rhere
I think you may have a soulmate, but you may never find yours.
I think you can become best friends first and the relationship grows from there.
So totally agree with all of your points!
Just love these two.
at 31:34 you brought up Pre-nups.....this is a subject that I think is such crap....going into a marriage signing a pre-nup , to me , is like saying " my marriage is bound to fail , so I want to make sure that I get to keep all my stuff "....why get married then
I think most of the time, prenups are unnecessary. But the thing is, when you get married without a prenup, there is a default divorce process dependent on the state you get divorced in. So a prenup is just the couple agreeing to a particular process rather than leaving it up to the state they happen to be living in when/if they get divorced. So I think practically, there’s not much difference in having one or not. I think people just don’t want to broach the possibility of splitting and actually discussing what would happen. It’s not a bad conversation to have, not necessary per day, but it’s not a bad thing to do.
Hello EastFam from Oregon 😂❤❤🎉🎉🎉😂❤
The ring changes the relationship but NOT the person!!!
Prenups are smart...
There is a phenomenon between two people called "twin flames"...I'm not sure how proven it is. But I think some people who believe they've experienced having a soul mate may overlap with the twin flame phenomenon
You should both read "Free Will" by Sam Harris - fascinating.
You guys don't watch a lot of Hallmark movies do you? They've made an entire industry based on "The One." Ya, I know, that's all movies and fantasy.
Seriously though, I'd be interested in (and I think Andrew touched on this a bit) how you feel this intersects with the theory of Gods Plan for each and every one of us.
Keep God in it first!
Marriage is NOT a CONTRACT. It is A MEETING OF THE MINDS.
How about i love you but not "in love with you"
I wish the both of you the best you're cute couple
Your wrong
You two are too naive and young to understand what a true soulmate is. Soulmates I got a perfect match they're people who connect deeply Beyond just words and physical connections. I have been married 34 years and it hasn't been the perfect of 34 years that through the whole time there wasn't a time where either of us thought of anybody else other than each other.
Many people are happily married for decades but that's not actually particularly relevant to what a soulmate it. A soulmate is a much thicker concept.