Tweet Threads: TradCon wives spill the tea, Husband who sabotage their wives
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- Dive into the world of traditional conservative wives as they spill the tea on the challenges they face. While another creator discusses husbands who sabotage their partners. 🍵💔 #TradCon #Wives #Sabotage #Relationships #TeaTime #Twitter #Tweet
I heard “my husband is pulling away from me after a few months of marriage,” and thought: “I think some Christian guys get married just so they can have sex.” Literally the next line of the post, “he told me that if it wasn’t for sex, he wouldn’t have gotten married.” 🤦♀️ I don’t know wether to laugh or cry… this is one if many reasons why I am 4B as a Christian woman
Years ago, I worked in a dental office in a small town. There was this sweet, very young Christian lady who was a patient, and her and her husband would come in for their appointments together. He was a bag of crap, and I immediately recognized this was a marriage for sex situation. They were both very young, in their early 20s. The guy was a creep who kept flirting with me and trying to get me to give him a free fluoride treatment. The dentist, a very conservative catholic man, who thought he was more hilarious than he really was, made a joke asking the guy if he regretted getting married yet. The guy looked at him, totally serious, and said, “actually yeah, I do.” I felt so awful for her.
Girls in that culture are taught that marriage is the ultimate show of respect by a man. No man would marry a woman just for sex, and there is no way he could be a predator if he is saving her purity for marriage. This is clearly not true, and was definitely something I had to come to terms with.
Same! I got fed up with the foolishness a lot of women put up with or perpetuate, so I stopped going to the women's Bible study, and barely go to church these days because while forgiveness is preached, most of the time the burden of doing so falls on women only.
@@jessitabonita yes! A pleasure to meet you, sister! I thought I was the only one 🙌 these men need to be held accountable; and unless it gets better, I will not be partaking in marriage.
Facts. I've observed this when I used to attend an Assembly of God church.
@@jessitabonitaforgiving others is for you, so you can move on. I really hate how toxic so many religions are. Nearly all of them demand the subjugation of women and girls. I won't be tested as less-than because of the body I was born into. I didn't ask for this. I didn't even ask to be born, and I will not be punished or demeaned for it. I am human, and I will demand equal respect, or the people that refuse will just not be a part of my life. I recommend this for all women and girls. Nobody gets to tell you how to live and what kind of poor treatment to accept.
Omolola is a Nigerian so I understand what she meant by the man feeding the kids with indomie and garri. "Indomie" is an Indonesian brand of noodles common in Nigeria and "Garri" is cassava flakes usually eaten because it's cheap. So she is inherently saying the man feeds the kids foods with poor nutritional value because he doesn't want to make any effort in cooking.
Yes the garri dish that comes to mind for me is when you take the garri grains and add water with maybe sugar or ground nut and you eat it like a porridge. Eating such a dish is barely a snack but imagine serving that to you for dinner. Hah! The wickedness.
I figured it had to be something like that! My father wasn't around when I was growing up but during summer vacation my mom would send me to spend time with my grandparents. My grandmother had to drive an hour away from home to go to a big grocery store to stock up on food and bring it back to their home in a small town. Sometimes she just didn't want to take me on the trip, which could last all day, and she would leave me with my grandfather. My grandfather could not cook so he would serve us saltine crackers broken up in a glass of milk.
Oh, the context shows how bad this is. Our equivalent is boxed macaroni and cheese
Nah @briskettacos it’s the equivalent to black people feeding their children Ramen noodles. It’s much cheaper than box Mac n cheese even. We’re notorious for this dish.
Thanks!
Come to think of it, I never really see devout Christian women gushing about their husbands. It’s usually them voicing “appreciation” for him being a god-fearing provider and forgiving _her_ flaws. I’d be interested in seeing a statistic of how many Christian women are in happy marriages.
Well the woman's role is bull, so I can't imagine any woman would be happy.
😂😂
@@Gumbier_Than men are given so much power and treated like they’re infallible. With such a huge (gendered) power imbalance, I’m not surprise there’s so much abuse and toxicity in their marriages
Oh wow. That’s so true now that I think back on my experiences.
Well, growing up evangelical, I used to hear an awful lot from the married women in our churches about "CHOOSE JOY" and how your joy is in the Lord, so and so forth. Which has always sounded to me a lot like "😭 I AM HAPPIER THAN I HAVE EVER BEEN IN MY ENTIRE LIFE 😭"
You have to laugh so you don't cry, watching it 🤦🏼♀️
When it comes to men sabotaging women with pregancy and kids, I wish I had seen conversations like this years ago before I experienced it firsthand. The guy derailing the conversation knows women are waking up and informing others.
Same here 😔. I'm glad that the women and girls coming after us have this information available to them though.
We do not talk about coercion enough!!!! How men coerce women!😣
especially nursing school..so many men would argue before tests,threaten divorce and sabatoge the womens education so many of my classmates couldnt make it because of men it was a nightmare
My dad would try to sabotage my mom. Then he tried to do it to me. I finally graduated this week and I didn’t invite him. He’ll try to sabotage you, then make you feel ashamed of your failure (that he wanted). That whole tweet thread is relatable
Congratulations on your graduation!!
@@yukiauditore8460 thank you 🩷 it was really hard but I’m glad I didn’t give up.
💓💓💓🎉🎉🎉 CONGRATS!!
Congratulations!!!
Please be 4B at least until your career and finances are stable so that another man doesn’t sabotage you. And get therapy in the mean time for witnessing your dad do that to your mom to deconstruct beliefs that make you vulnerable to men like your dad.
If you want to date or marry after that, I will cheer you on! Just try not to let a man sabotage and trap you.
Big congratulations on your graduation!
i dont do nookie after arguments.... im no way near turned on after arguing so "makeup seggs" is not in my vocabulary... i don't know how folks do it...
COGNITIVE DISSONANCE AND SOME WOMEN ARE VIOLENTLY FORCED
This is precisely why we know the movie makers who wrote the scripts with "makeup sex" were 100% men
In some people any strong emotions can lead to sexual arousal.
My ex husband didn't like makeup sex and I did
Go figure.
But I can understand why some people wouldn't enjoy it.
Xes after an argument is the way males feel like they finally dominated you and won the argument. Simple.
@@BurbNBougieAbsolutely, I can't fathom being intimate after being basically dehumanized.
men know that their reputation is ruined. so the only thing they can think of right now is to say that women have just been imagining all of the abuse and mistreatment that we've experienced. gaslighting. trying to get us to not believe our own reality.
But this is what single women are missing out on though.
Right🥴
XDD "missing out" lord help them, lol
"I've never seen an octopus in real life, therefore they must not exist and people who say they've seen one are imagining it."
I’m amazed that the sex who claims to be the most logical, is the most proud of their lazy thinking and seemingly professional use of logical fallacies!
Right I’ve never seen the northern lights and even though others have and have provided evidence of its existence I can only conclude from my own observations that these people are obviously experiencing mass hallucinations. 🤦♀️
I doubt he would see it even if it was a flag waving on his face lol, I don’t trust his report at allll lol
People only talk about how hard having a paid job is, but you have a start and end time with that. Being a SAHM is 365/24/7. It's constant. And the men think that's her job and his job is his, including parenting. Of course they don't want to have sex. They are tired and resentful. And if they want sex and it's bad, it's because these men are selfish.
Exactly! I also realized unless you are a true labor worker, physical all day, most jobs are boring and not requiring much exertion. My ex and I used to track out steps in a day, for fitness reasons and I always outstepped him, daily because women don't get a day off, by several thousands steps and my exertion rate was much higher, more often.
"A man may work from sun to sun, but woman's work is never done."
I think on the vein on mother's always getting called to get a sick kid - this is why companies demanding ppl come back to the office who were work at home is so detrimental to women. I feel like it is ensuring that it will be mostly men who stay in their position and put pressure on women to figure out childcare or quit.
Yes, my company begged me to keep working for them from home when I moved from Manhattan to Texas during the plandemic, and then once things were back open again there, they started sabotaging me because I didn’t want to move back to NYC and sit in the office. I performed great for 2 years at home. Probably better because I had my own quiet office instead of a cable that was surrounded by men talking football and politics all day.
@@toscadonna Uggggh,, nothing slows you down at work as much as having men force you to listen to their opinions on football and/or politics .
I felt it was purposefully done to women, most women being mothers. They knew the end result.
Also consider how women worked the factories and kept the entire country running while the men were away fighting WW2
When the men returned, we were immediately thrown back into the home and domestic life! And what followed?? The indoctrination of the 1950's housewife 🤢..... which started immediately when the husbands returned and couldn't wait to put babies in their wives. Once you realize the Baby Boom was men trapping their wives back at home to prevent them from returning to the work force and becoming more independent, you become enraged at the realization that this tactic has always been used against us to keep us perpetually victimized.
Marriage is a prison for most women. Go 4 B for life.
I have a bit of a different take. Many people are taking advantage of work from home positions so they don't have to pay for childcare, but if they are caring for toddlers they cannot get any work done. Then employers view all work from home as bad and take it away from all of us. It's a complicated situation because I understand the position the women are in, but also, I don't want to be punished because they are breaking the rules, even though I understand they are trying to survive. The actual solution is making childcare affordable, but no one wants to do that.
@@user-rc2yf8kt7i Not true. Productivity for most companies went up when work-at-home became an option. The reason why companies are trying to get people back in is because it’s cheaper to have people go into the office. The solution is to allow work-from-home so that mothers who want to spend time with their kids can, and make child care affordable.
What is the use of these men if they aren’t providing, aren’t parenting, aren’t being present in the home, aren’t doing anything around the home. FYI I have found dealing with these supposedly married men in groups online; that they lie about being religious. They use it to trap these women.
Don't forget not 'naturally' protecting either. I believe a lot of these so called 'Christian' men are actually the creatures the women and kids need protecting from
I cringed when they keep saying that having a father around is beneficial in the home comment. I be like there's more to that than just being a male body in the house. You have to put in the work & do your part. Just being there & not doing anything would cause the kids (especially the girls) to not wanting to deal w/ marriage which is where we at atp.
@@dfya3294 they NEVER say “it’s beneficial to have a loving, respectful, considerate, supportive, emotionally regulated, faithful, non manipulative, non abusive, non predatory, healthy and competent man who shares the tasks of house work and child rearing in the house” it literally is just A MAN. Too many homes to count have/had just a mAn and that’s the damn problem.
For every story of a man defending his home or family from a criminal, there are TEN stories of a wife, gf, or kids being unalived by the man in their lives. Not a good statistic for them to hold up to "prove" that they are protectors.
@@TrijesusKnotmethese men just want a place to stay 😂
Last night I went to get my nails done. One of the husbands of the ladies who works there drove up, parked in front of the shop and let the kids out. The kids all came in the shop and wandered around and in and out of the shop. Not once did the father come out of the car. Some of the kids were small. I was so irritated. This was this woman’s job and he just parks and sits in the car while the kids wander in and out of the shop, in and out of the car in the parking lot. Irritating.
This cracked me up. Cause it’s soo not funny. Infuriating how they feel it’s ok to let childcare responsibilities spill all over the woman’s life. She can hardly plan anything because she’s waiting for a window of time to herself that never comes. If women did this to men at their jobs, hobbies and events they wld pitch a fit. So inconsiderate!!
Not to mention unsafe for the kids
Dem chemicals eh no joke
Rather than spend time with his kids and let his wife enjoy her appointment. All for what so he can scroll on his phone . Is he learning something new? A way to entertain the kids? No, likely gambling and looking at porn.
@@elephant-and-bird No, it was the nail tech's husband who brought the kids to work. So the nail tech can't concentrate on her job because she's got one eye on her children.
I came of age before reddit and other modern forms of social media. I am thankful for my experience with bible study in college with a very nice but beaten-down submissive type of lady. I was assigned a Bible story (was it Ruth?) As we discussed it, it became clear that we had two very different takeaways. She told me about how when her second son was born, she had a severe uterine prolapse. Her husband blamed her and refused to do anything to lighten her load, but it was "okay" because God basically told her to accept and forgive that treatment. After hearing basically the same thing from so many women, my mother included, i decided to stop giving religion a chance. I simply couldn't associate myself with that depressing nonsense anymore.
That's the part of religion men teaches if you read the bible for urself God never want u suffer
@shaypope4732 that is my takeaway as well. I read nothing about submission in that story. Everything is up for personal interpretation and I'd rather do my own work than blindly trust someone else. I have enough of my own sadness and depression, why submit myself to even more of it voluntarily? We can all have our own conversations with God.
@@demigoth exactly the beautiful Bible is an allegory with hidden meaning. The husband in the bible is the Spirit or the soul of mankind. The woman is the flesh. Doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man or a child . The outer body is the flesh needing to submit to the divine spirit or soul within...
Good for you 😄!!
The bible contradicts itself thousands of times. One story will tell you to submit no matter what while another tells you to submit but he can't be TOO harsh to you. One part says unaliving anyone is a grave sin, but the next part tells you to stone people to death for stupid things. The bible can be used to justify anything depending on what part you're reading. Just live your life in a way that honors your own ethics, and doesn't harm anyone, and you're a good human.
Those guys are not worthy of submission, because even submission HAS rules.
Submission is FOR ANIMALS. Please stop using that term. It perpetuates misogyny.
@@brunoqnzbk7891 Submission is a TRUST.
@@brunoqnzbk7891 humans are animals. Also, not sure if the original comment are here meant this sincerely, or sarcastically, but I perceived this a sarcastic remark. Think of how submission is commanded/demanded within conservative Christian circles, and what the “man’s role” is supposed to be.
I agree the ideology of submission and authority is disgusting within those circles, BTW.
It’s funny, they could be living their sexist power trip wet dreams… yet they can’t fulfil their end of the bargain lol
@@brunoqnzbk7891, You submit to someone daily. The government, your employer, your landlord. When you come into agreement or compromise to adhere to a contract, law of adherence, etc. That is submission. It's not dictatorship, it's an agreement for every situation as it happens. You can choose to disagree at anytime. You shouldn't be dealing with anyone that doesn't understand that.
I went to a Christian elementary and middle school. Everybody started getting married around 22. I thought they were insane. I’m waiting for the divorce announcements in the next 5 years as we just hit our 30s.
I’m 29. I know several high school classmates who became baby mommas cuz that’s the closest thing to marriage in the hood 😂, but most of us are not married. Though I did go to a college with a large Christian chapter and occasionally wonder how many are still together, or if any of them truly have happy marriages cuz based on the interactions I’ve seen of them, I think the chances for either of these things is low. No offense to people who get married young, but a lot were not mature enough to get married imo.
It is war. Women in Nigeria can rid of many of their problems given males depend so much on the domestication of women supporting them.
Nigeria is a very troubled place. Yes it’s going through political nightmares, but I used to be part of a Nigerian news group and the men they all wanted ‘cut women’ I’m not talking about cut like six I’m talking about down in the vagina area. I didn’t know that was even still done. I thought that was illegal, but the mental seemed very full of themselves and justified, and even some of the women seem to accept that that’s the way it was and offered no resistance.
That's so weird. I stopped dating a Nigerian man cause he told me his daughters were cut.
They want their women cut but will come over here and slurp all over an uncut American woman.
That lady that created that Twitter thread was 1000% on point👏🏾. I've seen it w/ a good bit of women that I went to high school w/. Now we're in our late 20s early 30s & some have to start at square 1 like going to college & they're struggling to do school, work, & care for their children. Meanwhile, I was able to pick up & go whenever I choose to because I'm single & childfree & I'm not changing that anytime soon.
💯
THEY CONVINCED THEMSELVES THAT THEY WERE GONNA BE FINE BECAUSE THEY GOT PICKED
Atleast they started early. 20s and early 30s is still young compared to those women who waited after age 40, or 45 , or 50....
@@empresswilandefrederici86 very true. I just hate that some had to go through so much & some of their children father left them high & dry. One was engaged for 5 yrs & marriage never happened so she left when the pandemic started to ease a bit & had to start over w/ kids.
I had to end a friendships because of this.
She would complain about doing EVERYTHING alone 😣
While I’m child free, planning what swimsuits I’m wearing on my next vacation to 🇯🇲
Imagine wasting your precious years of breathing, and the only life you will ever know on marriages like these. Do these women know that we don't get a do-over after death? And that you might die BEFORE the man?
I feel like everyone already knows this about evangelical Christian marriage. Years ago, I would go to the Christian marriage subreddit, but I had to stop. It was the most depressing group of people I had ever seen. It was full of some of the weirdest stuff, and it really made me believe in divorce. Even without that subreddit, DV is openly talked about and fairly accepted. It’s not that they accept it, but instead they shake their head at how sad it is that she is stuck with a man like that, because she can’t divorce him. Our grandmothers lived mostly miserable lives, but the goal was to convince the younger women that this was great. I have so many stories ranging from women finally snapping and running away, and abandoning their 6 kids, to men who will get divorced and create a whole new family every decade.
I think my cousin's marriage started to fall apart when his wife's car was in an accident and was never replaced. She was then stuck all day in the house with 5 kids. I think she had to take them all when she left on errands after he came home.
men tell women to take the kids with them when they go outside
@@helena3631 what's sad is that she used to ask me where I was going when I would pack up my daughter, I'm a single mom of 1, and leave home for hours. I thought it was a weird question at the time, but now I see that she may have been a bit envious of the freedom I had. I just have 1 kid, so when I left home with her, there were no extra things to do at home when we got back.
Christian women just sound like a bunch of masochists to me
Most religious women are. I live next to a Mormon church and the things they say with a smile on their face is wild.
Marriage now feels like a prison only with a ring, white dress, and a bouquet. Take all of that away and spot the difference.
I had a quiet saboteur. He would "encourage" me to do things, knowing I would struggle and struggle can be good but not when it comes from a place of intentionally waiting for you to fail and then making you feel like you are dumb or crazy. I've lived every example given in this thread. It was always a competition for him and he wanted to look like the good guy, lest anyone find out the truth about him.
And this is what we're supposed to be vying for or else we'll be old & lonely. 😂
They're hoping no one notices how lonely it is to actually be in those situations...
Those are nigerian version of ramen noodles and cereal.
By the sounds of it, the worst sinners are in the church. I think Indomie is like a spicy ramen.
Former church goer here.
Yes, the worst sinners are in the church.
I understand that there is a lot f indication since childhood and learned misogyny in religious women but I still find it frustrating how many of them still are so ready to be a submissive slave to these abusers even after many ex trad wives coming out saying marrige was nothing but pure abuse for almost the entire marrige they sacrificed everything did all the work and got left with nothing at 40. It’s common knowledge now but they’re still eager to do thier 15 years of duty then get dumped like trash after 🤷🏻♀️
All we have to do is look at our mothers and grandmothers and how they lived. They were not treated right before we fought for rights in society. I got very lucky with my family. My grandparents actually loved each other, on both sides. They taught their children by example, and most of my extended family is good people who truly love each other and have truly happy families. We have a pretty low divorce rate across the board, with very few exceptions. We have maybe two abusive people. When you consider my mom was the youngest of 12, and my dad was the youngest of 4, that's a LOT of people. The two sides of the family don't really interact, since their only reason to was for both of my parents (being babies and all). But, when they did interact, they got along great, and it was a good time. This is what happens when there's real love being taught.
It's now my generation and the younger generations that are breaking down. Not that there's necessarily abuse involved, but they're far less happy in their relationships, and I think it's partly caused by the societal pressures that still exist to get married and have kids, where maybe that's not what they really wanted, or maybe they rushed into something to garner the approval of their parents, and ended up with someone they actually don't get along with. It makes me very sad to see. And I know the older generations are sad about it too. They talk about it, openly. They don't know where they went wrong, and I've reassured them it's nothing they did or didn't do. It just is what it is.
So true. They are still willing to do their 15 years of duty 🤦♀️
Some people just have to learn the hard way. And that's fine, you can't force someone to listen if they don't want to hear what you're saying. Let them learn. ((shrug))
@@jayogee913 It’s cuz no one thinks bad stuff will happen to them till it does. It’s like they have cognitive dissonance and have mastered gaslighting themselves just so they can cope with living a lifestyle that is against them. Tbh, I don’t feel and for them cuz it’s been known how these types of relationships pan out, but man is it sad to watch.
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 Yep, agree. Sometimes, experience is not only the BEST teacher, but the ONLY teacher.
Woman Describes in detail her own ex/husband's shenanigans
Man in comments: Men aren't as bad as you "imagine" you just haven't talked to all the other men on the planet yet to confirm your husband is the exception, not the rule, ignore all the divorced women who are sharing identical or similar stories
The whole circus of mental gymnastics they'll try to put your mind through to gaslight you into denying your own lived experiences to make men seem less bad, like the clowns really be clowning
The quiet sabotager is the worst! Say Go For It, then thwart your attempts..
Last Story: Its crazy how many men exposed themselves 😆
I’ve seen this with my parents. 31 miserable and resentful years strong! 💪🏽
MA'AM!! 😂😂😂😂
@@BurbNBougie 😂 I’m so serious! They showed me what I didn’t want in a partner/marriage.
I know plenty about husbands who sabotage their wives. Even after they become an ex. I am ridiculed for not being able to get a job after 16 yrs a SAHM but I have to drive my children to another city, (an hour away from where i live and am looking for work), for school because he won't take care of our children as discussed and I couldn't allow the neglect anymore.
Even when we were married I would get part-time jobs only to loose them the first day because he wouldnt show up to care for our kids.
As a Nigerian I’m an realising I escaped some toxic men! My dad is toxic in his own way, but he’s always been a great dad. He’s only disappointed that I won’t get my PhD!
The Nigerian men I know would at least pretend not to be sexist. They PRETEND. These men are out here flagrant.
Men normally mention how they are god fearing when in reality they are the worst ones out there! Some of the biggest cheater’s claim they are god fearing like it will make a woman trust them more….Nope!
I think Indo Mie refers to the instant noodles. They are good, but usually I eat it with vegetables and tofu. It's not a "balanced" meal by itself.
Mr Oloba in here dehumanizing even other MIN. They truly are monsters.
I completely understand these women being upset when their husband's demand that they work (really they akready wirk so i guess gaun employment) because you know he is not going to step up and relieve her if ANY of the burden of household and childcare responsibilities in a meaningful way
The poster is Nigerian. The pronunciation of her name is uhmuhluhlah. Indomie is basically just noodles, ultra processed noodles with very little nutritional value. Garri is like processed cassava that is a starchy and heavy carbohydrate, and it would be very irresponsible to give growing children these foods as a meal. Most women in Nigeria that are educated work, whether they make use of their degree or not, they start businesses or something. Even the ones that do not have a university degree work, most men are not the sole breadwinners, but women are majorly in charge of the hiusehold and kids, even if they work.
Dump all these men who aren't doing shiz to help their family and go focus on you & your kids. Hes not helping you anyway.
The husband who does not want to spank or allows his wife to spank is absolutely right. No need to physically abuse your child in order to discipline them.
yes!
That’s okay not to spank, but what is HE doing to enforce discipline with those kids?
Or he doesn’t believe in spanking but provide no alternative solution and leaves his wife to deal with the consequences.
Oh, it's fine to physically discipline children. As long as it's not too hard, top often, or for the wrong reason.
@@teresamagnusson no, not hard isn't okay either. It's not just about hurting them physically, it's about the deliberate humiliation. The only reason it works is because they are scared of or humiliated by you afterwards. No good basis for your relationship, let alone their mental development.
It works just fine if you do it correctly.
4:49 no…. The curse of man having to work isn’t broken until women no longer have pains in childbirth. That’s a stretch. Wow.
The more I hear the more I know Princella's philosophy is the truth!
Omolola is Nigerian 😂🤣🤣 and she didn't lie!!!! The quiet saboteurs are the worse. The dust is global frfr.
Ps: Indomie is a popular brand of noodles in Nigeria. And Garri is Cassava grains.
Gari is dried , powdered cassava esten by adding water. I dont remember what the indomie is. But those pists you read seem like they were from a Nigerian page. It looks like men deflecting because they dont want to listen to women nor do they value their experiences.
Indomine is ramen noodles.
She might be from Ghana.
2:13 "Hello, ladies. I'm looking for ways to brainwash myself into thinking ab'use and toxicity are normal and that I actually enjoy being miserable 😀"
We know... 😂😂😂😂 It's all bs. All of it.
🤔💭Must be spicy 12:20 so the kids have explosive, diarrhea or nausea? Just guessing!😂 I think it’s instant noodles? In other words meals that are far from nutritious.
Remind me of that family channel where the dad put laxative in his kids food and they were crying about it and the dad was just laughing at their pain n recording when the 3yr old couldn't hold it cause the siblings were
in the bathrooms I reported the channel I luv my ppl but I couldn't watch that then when the mom came home and was cursing him out while putting them in diapers/pull-up to
bring to the er he grabbed her keys n said
she was doing too much n cause the hospital is going to find out n call the cops it took the baby getting hemorrhoids (I think that's how it was pronounce)for her to leave him n get restraining order from the dad he said he did it so she wouldn't leave him with the kids alone anymore but she was the only one working two jobs so I don't understand why would he be so evil to his own kids he asked for smh
They need to ignore those fools, smh
Indomie(pronounced in-dough-me) is the ramen noodles and Garri(pronounced Gary) is porridge that are very popular in Nigeria!❤️ Patriarchy in Nigeria is very suffocating for women! It’s terrible over there!
Give me….give me the tea…I like it hot and spicy!😜
Amaru's lying anyway, because he's painting a picture that in all his life, with all the couples he's known, he's never known one that kept their wife from doing "something that mattered." (Idk his original words, but, implication being that anything she can't go to, isn't important because the husband said so.) Which is totally a separate lie from "he wouldn't stop her."
Indomie = Ramen’s and Garri = cold cereal
1st segment: "The husband doesn't want to spank and won't let me". The husband knows more about disciplining then the wife.
Indomi and Garri =
(American here! ) Ramen Noodles and (basically) Cream of wheat 😅 for dinner 🤦🏽♀️
Omolola is from West Africa, most likely Nigeria. Gari is like a very fine cassava couscous/powder, used to make porridge. It's like the cheapest, lowest effort food you can make. It's fine once in a while, but doesn't have all the nutrition a kid needs for a more extended period of time.
If you have to let your man lead, is he really a leader? I let a toddler pick out their shoes, doesn’t mean they’re independent.
It’s scary how religion gives power and a free pass to men.
Indomie and gari is noodles and basically snacks.
She’s Nigerian. Yoruba.
She is from the mother land, lol
Indomie is a brand of ramen noodles and garri is dried powdered cassava both deeply unhealthy to be eaten consistently.
ROFL that Jet Daniel guy 14:15 is delusional
14:01 I'm starting to get stabby with this "no man would...", "no man ever..." thing. They are the definition of if I don't see it it doesn't exist, and it makes me sick. Unfortunately those among them who have witnessed whatever thing a woman is being gaslighted about first-hard will stay on code, they don't step in to gather their brethren. It also happens in this channel's comment section - they come in droves to protest videos urging women to prioritise and protect themselves, but they have nothing to say when women are telling the stories of how they ended up choosing self-preservation. I hate it here.
I've taken what you've said under consideration about me talking too much and not reading the commentary... And from what I understand, I think we are having our discussion from two different perspectives: mine is solely on the video, while yours is from the commentary... I choose not to engage in the collective, but I can and will if given the green light...
I don't know who you're talking to, but wanted to throw out there that everyone sees things from their own perspective. That's all we have UNTIL we listen to other people's perspectives. What each individual sees, and experiences, in life is what forms their perspective. What you don't see, or experience, you can learn about from other people's perspectives. Learning about other people's perspectives is a healthy way to grow intellectually. What anyone needs to remember about other people's perspectives is just because it wasn't your experience it doesn't invalidate the experiences of the other.
@@martibee8984 For what it's worth, I'm glad we are in agreement...
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I don’t have any statistics, just my experiences. I thought my family was complementarian, because they were super neocon and bible-minded, but it turned out that they were complementarian-lite, so the marriages weren’t bad as long as the women didn’t put up with what they *perceived* to be unfair behavior. I was agnostic by the age of 5 or 6, so I perceived things differently and hated the fact that I was a girl because I saw women working all the time; men did chores rarely and some physically-demanding jobs, but women had no lives.
That was still better than the non- or Christian-lite families that still practiced complementarianism, where I saw everything from verbal abuse to murder and that’s because they really didn’t give a shit about Christ’s self-sacrificial example. The Christians that try to be some degree like those pre-Constantine, especially those that adopt the majority views of that time (anarchist/libertarian, creationist, decentralist-church, monergy, even omnist), especially (egalitarian, esoteric, nonviolent, universalist, women-leaders, trans-not the version we see today, but the view that all humanity is trans after Man the Adam and Woman the Eve lost hermaphroditism, a theory Judaism also had), tend to have happier marriages. I wasn’t all of those yet after becoming a Christian at 20 and neither was/is my historian spouse, but ours has been really good.
He’s not a Christian anymore (everyone should go through a phase of questioning what they really believe), and he works hard and often, but I don’t believe either of us are fit to be parents yet. Despite considering my spouse a unicorn, I’m thankful to be infertile, because we’re still not where we should be as people.
While I realize that changes are gradual and decentralized, I feel a sense of worry for other women as a whole and excitement as I see 4B, which actually reminds me of the advice Christians have historically given. I pray this is the beginning of major improvements and hope to give support where needed.
Omolola is describing my life😅 Long relationship. You sure you want it? It's more than a notion.
Luckily he is into healthy food at least.
It's hard when he doesn't understand why you're depressed then it becomes - you're being mean because your life depresses you and you have a good husband. So I'm trying to stop being sad.. menopause may be on the way too though.
I've given up trying to do anything I want to do a long time ago. I have a grown young lady who does not want to be me (a win) and I'm trying to motivate myself to be super mom for my little one. Not a stage mom but I might as well put the energy somewhere.
I don't want to be too close to the little one though cuz I don't want her to want to be like me. I think I'm pulling away from her like I am from everyone.
Might be ADHD er something like that so I'm no good on my own so I'm hoping to get some meds so I can shake the depression off and get back to focusing on what I'm supposed to be focused on. He's a good guy and I only recently realized the sabotage over the years. I'm sure he doesn't realize it he sees it as what's good for him is good for the family and it would be silly for any of my plans to interfere. Just not logical for me to do anything that get's in the way of him getting his credentials or his job or where he wants to live (that was part of it to this country is lovely and safer than America). So it would be illogical for me to be upset... I keep telling myself that and I'm faking it till I make it.🙃
Sometimes, I think these guys must be deaf and blind.
No just selfish and evil
To the wrongdoings of their fellow males? Most certainly. They were staying on code to the very end on that one.
So what if the kicker's wife secretly hates him? He wouldn't know.
And he probably wouldn't care. He got what he wanted from her: kids, service, and submission. If that's what she likes, she can go for it. And it's easy to be that way for a rich dude like him. But the women giving up their freedom, safety, and security for guys who can barely afford an apartment AND want her to pay half the bills? No. No no nononono! 🤣🤣🤣
16:51 #4B
I mean at 13 your child is older you’re lucky to not have smaller ones like some women
She misread it, the child in the story was 13 months old.
😂😂😂😂Amaru is very important, yall. If this kang hasn't seen it happen or experienced it, then it's fake news
Girl, how you know I like bubble tea?🧋😋. Now I gotta go get some. See what you did?
It's so good!