Confidence and Fear | Shivani Patil | TEDxTCET
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- Shivani Patil is a fashion and lifestyle influencer and is also known for documenting travel on her blog. While she was pursuing a degree in mass media, she found a way to get a step closer to pursuing her passion and becoming a fashion blogger. She started her first blog "The F Drug" at the age of 18. Since then she has been associated with different brands like Skechers, Tresemme, Titan, Loreal, Abu Dhabi Tourism and more.
Shivani talks about the challenges she has faced as a person lacking self-confidence and how she overcame them. Her one small decision to sign up for a beauty pageant in college lead her to launch her very own fashion blog. She talks about how one should be true to the person they are and not drown in self-doubt by making comparisons with others. Shivani Patil is a blogger and a fashion and lifestyle influencer. She is also known for documenting travel on her blog. While she was pursuing a degree in Mass Media, she found a way to get a step closer to becoming a fashion blogger. Unknown to the industry, she started her first blog "The F Drug" at the age of 18. Since then she has come a long way and has associated with different brands like Skechers, Tresseme, Titan, Loreal, Abu Dhabi Tourism and more. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
introvert dont need to become extrovert you just need to be more confidence amd fearless
So ture 😇😇
They will automatically become extrovert then
@@busyhacker3286 you will still be introvert since you are not talking to many people but still be confident
@@akshaysomkuwar6644 for getting confidence..you need to do experiments..you need to get out of your comfort zone.. which means you have to talk to people .and because of that you will slowly become extrovert
@@akshaysomkuwar6644 there is a myth that extrovert people are confident.... Extrovert people talks so much but still they hide their weaknesses ...
Who is here to learn english ? 🙃
Mee too
Mee😊
Me👤
It's me ....😊
I'm Here 😊
if you think you are not confident enough, go to places you have never been before and watch people, spend some time there... it will change your thinking about the life and will boost your confidence
it will work... thank me later
Superb bro
Your right
Let me see
avin # how to convince ur parents for this? 🙃
@@sakshisrivastava4320literally i don't know.... but one who tries to find a way gets the way
Who clickd on video looking her beautiful face
Mee she's so beautiful
😉
me
abey saale
Me
cant order food
cant travel alone
cant answer unknown no.
yup she is talking about me in the video
Dude she is talking about her childhood
@@Muhammad_Hasan i know... And yup that's my teenage too!
About me.
So....now.... can you see some changes in your nature after listen her???
Stoo lying
The fact she was brave enough to get on stage says a lot!!! Blesses to this Queen!
I almost saw "myself" when you were talking. That's me, the anxious and scared teenager who pushes herself everyday to make small steps towards success.
Same here,
As I was listening her talk It made me realise that im not alone having these problems and we can get over them.
dont worry, u both are still a unsuccessful person
@@geniusvirtuoso3472 shut up!!
same here..
@@sajidsutar9631 same here
Who else thinks like she speaking about me while speaking about herself 😂 ?
Me😂😂
Me...
Exactly me bro
🙋🏻♀️
Me
She's really Honest and looking more confident to talk about her non-confident personality.
This is the perfect example of Oxymoron.
Yeah 😬😬
Cuteness overload... Bala sentence sayad chhut gya h😅
1)Knowledge & Experience tells you what to do;
Confidence allows you to do it.
2)Confidence is about
Repetition,Repetition,Repetition
This applies to everything you do.
I am always really nervous in the beginning, but I keep repeating.
3)Confidence comes from hours and days and weeks and years of constant work,discipline and dedication.
So just kick or hit your goal or dream with confidence and nobody is perfect.
I wonder why she would've been insecure of such a beautiful appearance... She did not deliver this talk much confidently, seeming nervous and even forgetful but she seemed to speak from her heart enjoying every bit of it...Applause!
Videos of people coming out and talking about their fears and insecurities is not only brave, but helps me feel less alone about my own problems. Bravo for coming out and also inspiring others in their own journeys of self-improvement.
It fills so relatable when she talks about her fear of not doing small and easy things .
"Whatever you want will happen ,it might not happen today but will happen some day" this made my day!
Absolutely True
True indeed
yeah
TUSHAR🇮🇳
I know it takes a lot of courage to go out there and speak your mind...you deserve a standing ovation!!!
Yes
U r courageous no matter how much u hve fear or anxiety...it takes confidence to come n speak on tedx
Misbah
@@amirshahzadshahzad3418 1
Not everyone comes for the beautiness but some come for the knowledge and having confidence within which a person can face the world and get succeed in their life....
Confidence are two kinds ...one is confidence in work and confidence in expressing things ....not everyone can have both
Reminds me of my school days when I felt under-confident in the classrooms. Now I'm working on my confidence that being an essential accessory for my life
She's literally saying everything I'm going through!
Introvert..self confidence issue..selectively social..i can relate to all of those traits..you have expressed beautifully what people like us are going through and struggling to come out of it..
U are beautiful and expressive..even have smooth grip over english language which still a dream for many..including me..still u faced all those issues..i am an average looking person with poor communication skills..i can write english but find it really difficult when comes to speaking ..i always feel that everyone is noticing me in crowd..makes me conscious and nervous..anyway i have overcome greatly over those issues and still trying to get at better side..god bless you..keep motivating others..
It's even me exactly...but I'm trying to get out of it ...👆😊
@@dakshayaninati9133 thats great..nothing is constant..keep up the positive vibes..all the very best..
@@VaibhavSingh-lq2wn thank you so much 😇
Me too
Same condition of mine..I always feeling that everyone noticing me in crowd i m very scare and anxious girl , I m self doubted for everything
Really happy to know that there are people like me😜😊
Right there are so many......
I'm also
❤️❤️❤️
Me too .....
Yes me too😅
Quick tip to build self confidence! Sit in front of mirror & say this: 'for better or for worst, I take this person in the mirror as (not my better half but) wholeheartedly accepted full self.
This is a magical potion called self-love for self-confidence 🥰
If we have a great desire for success our confidence will increase and we need desire for our life path.
After achieving so much in her life she is still so simple and that's incredible Krishna bless her
Thanks girl to be here you proved that people like us can do something big even after this much anxiety.
Most of the success stories are of girls, that i have listen in my life. And of course this talk was wonderful. I am watching this because my maam have told me to write a report on any talk show but i chosen this show because I am also who wants to over come stage fear and lack of confidence in me.
Experience tells what you do , but confidence allows you to do it . I like this speech 👌👏. Thanx for this
My mind: it's a waste of time
My heart:look at her
🐓🐔
Exactly ❤️
Ooohooo😆
As expected from people like u
Once I was like her same, now I feel better I changed lot, seeing my self new in my way.
You' re really fluent enough to handle a section like this. It's a Wonderful job.
Honestly a Sweet Doll,💝💝.We didn't Came here to prove Ourselves....
🙏
عغ٥افصغي٧ثنيتيييتتااا٤غنَ؛ تستساس
"Don't be too hard on yourself". Great talk. I deal with this kinda issue you talked about. Also, you are very beautiful.
This is the first ever talk in which i could connect with each and every word said by her THANK YOU SO MUCH 🌺
The best line - Stronger desire to succeed or coming out of shelter one has, can certainly lower the fear and doubts. 💐😀
Hats off, I know it's hard to be the one you dreamt off, it takes a lot to be someone you always wanted to be.💓💓
Your hardwork speaks for you 🙌👍
'Nobody is going to post their failures' GREAT LINES 🔥🔥🔥♥️
change comes to who are willing not who are dreaming.
first successs step is to start without asking any permissions. just do it
compare [social media ] to your self with others to grow not to degrow.
be dare to do things.
these are the things i learn from this video
It takes courage to come out and Speak truth in front of so many people.... n accept yourself...
You have taken a major step Shivani. Wonderful talk. Very well delivered
Be courageous and believe in yourself.
You'll be good no matter what you talk to anyone.
So, don't feel you're talking to strangers.
Focus on yourself and rest leave.
Thank you for sharing this it's just a small thing for some people but, actually who don't have can realise the importance of this and get encouraged.
it was really good to know your story...because me being that shy person struggling to even say the attendance in class..knows how important self confidence is. thanks ..i am working on my this drawback too. maybe one day i will be proud of myself not because i am the bravest of all but being brave enough to overcome my fears that have given me just one thing..REGRETS!
If we have fear inside then we will need confidence. Fear and confidence go hand in hand. The day fear is gone there will be no need to be confident. Then we can live in natural state. If confidence was a real thing then why do we need it only near other humans why not near a mirror or animal? Alone we change as a human being completely. As soon as we come in contact with humans we feel fear and to compensate that we wear mask of confidence. So we have to leave confidence to move towards leaving fear and we have to sacrifice pleasures to end pain, this is law of duality.
(Few concept taken from Acharya Prashant)
Literally, she is so beautiful by her pure confindence and glowing face❤.
It’s how the speech has to be ....great... I’m too an introvert and I could understand something from your life... I’ll wait for my turn to come for getting succeed and I’ll work for it ...
Confidence is well enhanced when u grow up! Like she did
All u need to do is to believe in urself
*Everything takes time
It was a superb speech. Taking the stage itself shows how she got through her stage fear.
Somewhere I didn't noticed her confidence fully while delivering talk. Does anybody noticed the same?
Building confidence is a journey, not a destination. It takes time, effort, and patience. Here are a few tips that have helped me in building my confidence:
1. Step out of your comfort zone
The best way to build your confidence is to challenge yourself and step out of your comfort zone. Whether it's trying something new or taking on a new task, doing things that scare you can help you grow and build confidence.
2. Practice self-compassion
Be kind to yourself and practice self-compassion. It's okay to make mistakes, and it's essential to acknowledge your achievements, no matter how small they may seem.
3. Focus on your strengths
Identify your strengths and focus on them. Doing things that you're good at can help you build confidence in other areas of your life.
4. Learn from failures
Failures are a part of life, and they can teach us valuable lessons. Instead of dwelling on your failures, learn from them and use them as an opportunity for growth.
5. Surround yourself with positivity
Surround yourself with positive people who encourage and support you. The people you surround yourself with can impact your confidence and mindset, so choose wisely.
Remember, building confidence is a continuous journey, and it's essential to be patient with yourself. Celebrate your successes, and don't let failures define you. With time and effort, you can build the confidence you need to achieve your goals and live the life you want.
Brilliant talk! So proud of you Shivani! 🥰❤️
TED and TEDx, the difference is becoming bigger day by day.
I gave a Talk in front of the whole class on"Confidence and fear" when I was in 8th standard... But later the same thing has hit me.
U dont know how strong u r, until being strong is ur only option- Bob Marley.
To me confidence means enjoying small achievements in ur path. Fear means something u worried about there is only small progress despite my relentless efforts.
Such an amazing story..you poured your heart out and I’m going to go on a limb to say that this is going to help a lot of people..Kudos to you for taking the courage to speak your truth :)
How are gautam ..plss call me let reunite I just came back from US..call me first I hv something from u ..if uknow wat I mean
One can still be an introvert and at thé same time having this big rank of self confidence
It really takes a lot to speak on stage...!! I appreciate this step she took!! 😁👍👏👏👏
And here I am quickly giving up and not coming out of comfort zone😣
I also had faced same thing but still after joining the college . I decided to change ourself . I still work on it to make probably perfect 😇😇
she just never give up..🔥
did whatever she wants♥
It took me 2 whole years to click on this video ever since i saw in the recommendation bcoz i though it has something to do with that hardcore type of motivation only and yet i was wrong.
While watching this video i felt like if she was telling my story af !!!!
🖐️
Seriously inspiring and motivating me and everyone
Thank you so much mam and tedx talk channel 😊😊
Appreciate your courage and honesty for expressing your weaknesses and sharing your experiences.
It will motivate many to try to do and be more than their present self.
Even I feel same like her. Really found helpful. Done awesome job Shivani👏👏
I know most of the guys came here to just see her.. I mean just look at her.. she's so pretty 😍
You were amazing. You were confident. You have completely secured your confidence, becoz talking about your life story and your weakness in front of someone requires a lot of courage and confidence which can be seen in you🙂🙂🙂.
Seriously , I am also shy type of person. I also want to come out of my shell and break all the boundaries but it is quite difficult . But as you said take small/baby steps, so from today onwards I am gona take initiatives to be new/confident me. Hope one day I will be full of confidence like you.
Thank’s for sharing…❤️Your Story…will help those who find this video….We all have our “Self Doubt”…at times…But we need to do something to Bring us out of it…
Thank you Shivani to taught how to overcome from the fear..through your life journey..Thank you so so much
Confidence- Its always about practicing, what thing you are doing do it repeatedly so you will be perfect and perfection gives you confidence.... try Juggling☺☺☺
I am here to watch and listen MARATHI cute girl...so proud of you dear..
maratih kidar bich mai aya bhai idar...mal to sabke liyhe mal hai
@@vickyjohn4489 hahaaha
@@vickyjohn4489 😀😁😂
Patil is a Marathi surname
@@vickyjohn4489 criminal
The only thing which makes me think that no one hurts you in any way.because todays world is too fearless and dangerous.
Who cares about face symmetry.
She is very pretty
By face, by voice and in person with a lovely personality ❤️❤️❤️
In beginning, I thought it's a boring video because there is no funny thing or something motivational in it but when I heard it till end then I realised it's the reality which is not supposed to be funny and salute to her for coming out and talking about her insecurities & fears .
She jst decribes my feelings❤️ ..not able to order ,not able to pickup unknown number
Same here I think so I can do it now
Interesting title because the two words are related.
Fear is the enemy of success. However, after you conquer fear, you gain confidence, and you reach success.
Shivani, you go girl! Proud of your strong will to overcome the fear in yourself. All the best in your future endeavors!
Thank you,Ma'am...It's really inspiring to hear your thoughts and your journey. It'll give hope to millions in their darkest days including myself.
Just like you. I have discovered the real me. Some day i wanna do a Ted talk. The world is changing.
Sounds alot like me
ghanta changing iit ki degree nahi to kal b nahi sirf bank ssc ka option
Yes you are right believe in yourself because if you have only one thing confidence then you will never fear in any kind of situation.
She looks perfectly beautiful...❤️🎖️❤️
Actually, I just click this video attract by her cute face. I didn't even see channel name.🤓 But, she reflect myself in my school days. I thing, i built myself better.
I don't know why but really can connect with this video to a huge extent 😊
cause you are confident enough 😕
Mam you are way more and more confident then you think.YOure not even ambigous even for one word and you had also not even shivered.When I started to take any group discussion talks i will tense a lot and my heart beat rises upto the maximum and i can also feel the pumping of blood and imagine how much speed it will be and the second one is im an introvert and i have so many talks and thoughts in my head to deliver speech but due to my tension and heartbeat,fear ill usually end up in saying very few than expected.Fear is the only thing which pulls me backward.
Lord she's too pretty!
God bless You Shivani :)
You are such an inspiration 😘
It's very beautifully and heartedly spoken, nd m just feelings it's my feelings nd her words. Thanks for giving this talk, this helped me feel so good.
She was great.. Overcome from somthing is not a easy job...it easy comment to someones.. But being on the stage.. Nd speak for few min. Is the hardest part for person with phobia for public speaking. Proud of her. She was an example must say. I just can't able control on my fingers from typing. 🤞👏
This is exactly my story that’s all I have gone through and I’m going from😔
Do self counseling or consult psychologist.. best wishes
@@drsohamghosh3755 thanks for ur wishes🙂
Hey you r not alone..I feel same too :) wishes for your future
Hey Shivani,
Another Shivani here, the same self doubted Shivani!
I liked the way u presented yourself taking baby steps..
Mine one is on the way,
I wish the under confident me, can someday reach the stage of Ted x,
With a reminder for people that, NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE..
With a conclusion tht,
Me + me = can do everything we dream for.
Aaj hi khoyi khoyi si thi main, overthinking about the under confident me in public,
I stammer when in crowd.
Like I can't present my word as proper as it appear in my mind, and that's y people mistaken me sometimes thinking that I am egoistic or so..
Actually my problem is I can speak Confident in stage like NARENDRA MODI when the speech is prepared well before...!
But on the spot recalling words is difficult task for me...
I don't know, how to work on...
Stories like urs, inspires people like me..
Thank you❤️
She is beautiful to look because of her dressing style
U mean otherwise she is not??
Gain as much knowledge as you can about the thing you want to do and love the process of failing while execution. It will build Self-Esteem that will boost your confidence.
We can see the efforts you put for this talk! Way to go Shivani!
I can bet this is one of the easiest ted talks on yt.everybody can understand it.
Superb talk Sivani Patil you give me so much confidence. Thank you.
well said..... she is talking about confidence at the same time she has written the key points in that card.. may be I am wrong
I'm same like you, I have been struggling with myself and other stuff for a long time ,don't know how long will it take to overcome.
Guys you notice something ,this girl speak like she's giving her complement only,she is not like a motivater from anywhere ...but I most like in her ,that is her beauty and parsonality ...
Your honesty is so appealing and beautiful! Thanks for sharing :)
This confidence is what I want inside myself also!!!
I also have same problem as you have.
I'm an introvert.
Same here but now I got confidence about doing my things but still afraid to communicate 😳😑😅😅
Same here
@@vk-vz8qo yes , im also a introvert, im very shy in nature. With my family im very cheerful, i do lot of fun. But outside im very silent, i feel shy to talk to other people. If someone come to talk to me i dont know how to talk. I feel nervous. When im bck home agn, in my comfort zone , i feel happy .
Being an introvert is much better than others. Because introvert is happy in his life whatever he/she has.
@@Imrahuldhiman yes but people take advantage.
why her talk is so much relevant to my life
Kudos to you Shivani.. !! Really inspiring.. 😊
😍😍
True
By d way wats kudos
Hii
You kw what.. you are exact me..not even a single difference..but you choosed the fashion industry...but i couldn't because of no family support for this as a career,not enough confidence and fear to getting used.i too had participated in fashion events but not at this level,only where i live.thats it.
Nobody gave me such confidence to pursue it as my career.and i am still the same.i hate being like this.but couldn't hlp myself.