I needed to hear that. I do not have a father who told me how to be a good man. I had books. I had stories. I have dead fathers who tought me beyond their graves. Thank you for giving them a voice to speak to their unkown sons, for they have no one to turn to. This gave me hope. Thank you.
I just turned 35 - not sure if I'm really a "young man" anymore, and who this poem is for, but this speech cleared up a lot of toxicity in my mind. Thanks - it was beautiful.
Never stop pursuing to become the best man that you can be. As challenging as it may seem to be to pursue manhood in today climate with all the bad references to it and not many role models, being a man means also facing challenges, regardless of what these may be. I wish you strength and willpower to pursue such a goal, and discipline to not stop when you will face difficulties. All the best to you!
@@bettermanchannel770 the toxicity being not focusing on protecting the weak. Using your strength to help people and the opposite being using your strength to enforce your own opinions
@@ex-x7079 Do not give up - ever. Whatever challenges you have, they were designed for you to conquer. It may feel like you're not progressing. It may feel like you're hopeless. It may feel like you can't do it. Keep going. I know darkness, crippling pain, and feelings of utter perilous hopelessness. If you continue, the person you are today will die to give birth to who you really are. KEEP GOING!!!
This video made me think about my Dad. He was always imposing when I was a child. Not in a bad way. He seemed like someone who was best not to be angered. Who would fight off a bear with his bare hands if he had to in order to protect me. As a child, he seemed strong, likely due to the physical demands of his work. But he was nurturing and always encouraged me to walk a righteous path. When our community couldn't find a Santa Claus for the Christmas Party, he reluctantly volunteered to put on the suit and play the roll. In the end, he enjoyed it, maybe more than we realized. He volunteered every year since. Every December 1st, he would sit outside our local pharmacy to collect donations of cash or toys. He took the role seriously. Always suiting up before going to a Christmas Party. Never wanting to risk a child seeing Santa without his beard. He did this for many years, ensuring there was always ample toys so every child got several presents. He would visit the children in the neighborhood as Santa, especially families in financial hardships. He worked with our Non-Profit organizations to improve our community. When he did a charitable act, he never asked for payment. As Santa, he would simply ask them to donate toys or money, never setting a price. He only asked them to offer an amount they could, though he never asked anything of the poor. Then came Covid. Dad disappeared from the public, they didn't know why. They figured due to Covid Lockdowns, he must have felt it best to stay home and not possibly spread the virus. In truth, he contracted Covid in Mid to early November from his best friend. By the 22nd or 23rd, he was in the hospital. By this time, we all tested positive for Covid and isolated until the beginning of December. Those in the community knew what was happening and offered any assistance to Mom. Dad eventually went onto a ventilator. By December 14th, his brain was starved of oxygen due to viral fluid building up in his lungs. Care was withdrawn and family was actually allowed to be there as he passed away from this world. Mom called the local pharmacy, who didn't know about Dad's condition and that he passed. They said many of their employees, and regular customers, have been asking where he was. Everyone was saddened. They put out a board explaining what had happened and why Dad sat outside as Santa every year. So many left donations of cash. Some, including employees there, purchased toys and donated them too. The Manager at Walgreens even donated toys in Dad's memory. Letters of condolences and donations in Dad's memory came in almost every day. We were worried if we would have enough toys for the next Christmas Party. I can say now that our supply of toys is overflowing. He was an example of how to be a real man. I can only hope that I can grow into a man who is worthy of filling his shoes.
I think I could say in the name of all here that your Dad was a real example, you had an exemplar and extraordinary father to inspire by. Now let him proud of what man you are become
One of the good things or maybe even the only one of seeing a good man pass away is seeing just how much joy and kindness he brought upon the world and how many will remember him with a smile etched upon their hearts, to see that such men still exist is the only beacon of hope to our species, there is good inside all of us and letting it out is a choise. Some men become legends not for their migth or their accomplishments, they become legends because of their kindness. I shall offer a toast in honor of your father who embodied a Santa that Children could look up to, as a man and as great father and I hope, one day I will be half the man he was.
You had a good Daddy it sounds like. There needs to be more men like him today in this world we live in. It would for sure be a better place. May God bless you and your family.
The difference between toxic masculinity and wholesome masculinity, made plain. It is vital this generation remember that masculinity itself is not toxic, and that a good nation is built and defended by good men.
@@ActionAndAcceleration Exactly. As Bedros Keuilian said (paraphrase), "There is no such thing as toxic masculinity, there is only toxicity and masculinity."
@@alexismartinez4225 amen.. it takes manly wisdom, to know the difference, and when and how to implement.. being a real man is an awesomely fulfilling adventure
I'm 61 and gained a lot from this. I think sometimes we need these words even more as we grow older. Reminders of how we should be as good men. Examples for the younger.
The young no longer listen to their elders, due to their public school brainwashing and lack of a father, no a Bo Dyke cannot be a substitute for a father no more than a man can be a substitute for a mother!
Half of it will be labeled "toxic masculinity". It is time now for men to realize that they need to take care of themselves as the society treats them as disposable.
True wisdom that is as relevant today as ever. Too many toxic, arrogant macho men out there these days who think they're "real men" but in truth are cowards & bullies. Thank you for sharing this inspiring truth!
The greatest want of the world is the want of men, men who in their inmost souls are true and honest, men who cannot be bought or sold, men who do not fear to call sin by it's right name, men whose conscience is as true to duty as a needle is to the pole, men who would stand for the right though the heavens would fall Ellen G White
I had the honor of having a role model that taught me this. He was a bodybuilder and could easily by look be considered one of false manliness. But I never have met anyone so quick to stand for those looked down on and protect the weak. And when I sent him this video and said it reminded me of him it made him cry. Thank you Rudy, for showing me when I was young what a man should be❤️
"Such men in their homes and their private life have a womanly gentleness." Don't often hear lines like this from people who preach masculinity. I very much appreciate and applaud it.
A Man by Edgar Albert Guest A man doesn't whine at his losses. A man doesn't whimper and fret, Or rail at the weight of his crosses And ask life to rear him a pet. A man doesn't grudgingly labor Or look upon toil as a blight; A man doesn't sneer at his neighbor Or sneak from a cause that is right. A man doesn't sulk when another Succeeds where his efforts have failed; Doesn't keep all his praise for the brother Whose glory is publicly hailed; And pass by the weak and the humble As though they were not of his clay; A man doesn't ceaselessly grumble When things are not going his way. A man looks on woman as tender And gentle, and stands at her side At all times to guard and defend her, And never to scorn or deride. A man looks on life as a mission. To serve, just so far as he can; A man holds his noblest ambition On earth is to live as a man.
But my friend who cares about "better"? Does this mean, by your perspective, that we toss the video in the trash? They both have valuable insights that hopefully each individual viewer is prudent enough and experienced enough to grab what is true. But discernment is sold separately.
I lost someone in my life that told me the reason they were leaving me is because I'm a Boy, less than a Man and that they were looking for a real Man. Today having listened to this amazing and powerful speech I realize that for a long while I've been a Man for a while I've been living by the Code of True Manliness. My Mother is an amazing woman who thought me all my values and I should've realized that at that moment. Thank you for this.
I am with you man. I was called weak and whiny by my family of origin, yet they benefited immensely from my nurturing and forgiving nature. My ex also preferred a manly man because I wouldn't hit her back or engage in verbal and emotional manipulation which she perpetrates on me and our children. Good friends, therapy, and my Christian faith rescued me and opened my eyes to whom I really am. Seeking true knowledge of self, as difficult as it is, is a long, painful but worthwhile experience. You've got to be brave to embark on it.
And a man, a man provides. And he does it even when he's not appreciated, or respected, or even loved. He simply bears up and he does it. Because he's a man. - Gus Fring
I like how no one notices the true purpose of that phrase. Just as with any man, appealing to selflessness is manipulation. Gus wanted to manipulate Walter into staying. To keep working as the mule, I mean male, he was being told he is, even when said definition was detrimental. There's no denial in the negativity of Walter, but pretending that little phrase was virtuous is disingenuous or ignorant. Choose whichever fits your case guys.
@@ruanoosthuizen6084 I believe that's applicable to all human beings within our physical and mental capabilities. My mother was the sole bearer of the responsabilities in my family because my father died, and she brought us out of poverty. She is not physically strong as a man, overworked hours and messed up her back. What I am trying to say here, is that as long as you face up your responsibilities in life man or woman with a partner or not, you will be as much as a man as the poem describes. You have to aspire to be a better human being. Recognizing your weaknesses and strengths, and finding value in them. Your self steem will help you avoid people that take advantage of you and your weakness will help you be kind to others who are not strong at the things you are. PD: my mother is doing better now.
The dear person that's reading this, we don't know each other but I wish you all the best in life❤ don't ever blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious and a key to a happy life...
“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways” ~ 1 Cor 13:11
Now manliness to some means ignoring oppression while becoming an profitable oppressor... Amazing speech, whoever is reading this, good luck out there, God bless and keep you as you spread love in this world, peace be with you friends...
This, along with "If-" by Rudyard Kipling and TR's "The Man in the Arena," is now easily one of my favorites on this channel. On top of all those being wonderful messages, the narrator is phenomenal. God, I wish I had a voice like Shane Morris!
of course, any imbecile can destroy. It takes a lot more to be able to take care of others with true love. What this man is talking about is actually what it means to be a good, strong human being. It is very hard, granted. We are spirits in a body. The weak spirit is the one that is the cold and rude etc. It's also the one that falls easily into temptations and is deceived. It is called the 'Fool' in the Bible. Hardest thing is to stay calm and caring to everyone when life's storms hits you repeatedly, in situations where everyone else would freak out. True manliness is to stay calm and calm and care others when those storms hits you. Only then you'll be able to grow.
I am in no meaning of true manliness but only a worthless being who doesn’t truly know on how to be kind & caring, thank you for this video it help me think a lot.
First steps are to learn your faults, then it's just the lifelong journey to rise above them. There is never a perfect man but any man have a chance to die and be remembered as a good man.
Since watching this channel's videos my life has changed drastically I'm better at think and taking action I'm wiser i control my emotions better, I'm so thankful I found this channel
Be kind but hold the potential to be dangerous against the wrong. Only if you are this way, people will respect your kindness, otherwise it will be considered just weakness, and it is
A man follows the Truth no matter what the outcome. If he shall lose his possessions, his livlihood, status, family and even his own life; he stays the narrow path. People will ridicule him, spit on him, tear at his flesh and he will stand firm because his foundation is unshakeable.
True manliness is when you are ready to evaporate as a life today, for the sake of other lives. It is when you can consume all within the scope of "now", and with that consumption, are able to produce an insight of the best possible tomorrow. It is the discipline, to execute all actions required to fulfill the prerequisites of shaping the future according to the insight gathered. In a simple sentence, it is to be on the front for mankind, with the awareness of our now and a drive to creating the best possible tomorrow. Any man doing this, is at the peak of masculinity.
I always felt the same. Real men stand up for what's right and protect Women. We have the love of humanity in our Hearts. Any Man who hurts Women is a Coward. And I will fight them.
I love these words for the men out there. This bit of writing has had a calming effect on me today. I've had the pleasure of knowing a few men who may have read this message! Men are lovely too.
👑In a world full of anxieties, this verse is for you tonight, “I will both lie down in peace, and sleep; For You alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.” Psalms 4:8
I have those struggles now, im not really a kind person nor do I feel a lot of empathy. But I've been trying to learn to be humble and less angry. I pray on it sometimes when I remember to pray. I have my demons and my temptations that I battle daily but I dont give up. I need to conquer those before I can learn humility and kindness. I do protect the weak wherever possible and stand for what is right. And Im learning and practicing holding my tongue. I did not have a great father or older brother so Im having to learn these things at 33. Its tough but I have a good woman who teaches me these things. But at times I feel we are polar opposites on issues. Which brings up my bitter side and my decisions on matters leans to the violent side whereas she leans on the non confrontational side. But she is very empathetic and sympathetic and kind. So she calms me down many times. I have a long way to go but with every year that passes Im getting better.
Thank you Redfrost Motivation for reviving in me the love of poetry. I am getting to know of so many poets and their works that I did not know existed. As far as this poem is concerned I cannot believe that The poet passed away in 1880. His words are so relevant today.
I have a special needs daughter who is to strong for my wife alone. And because of this, I'm a stay at home dad while my wife works. Many "successful "rich men and women have told me I'm not a man because I stay home to watch my children while my wife works. These "successful men/women" that have told me this. No longer have a relationship with their children or family. Is that what a successful life is to people? To be alone and angry and prideful? Success is doing the best you can for others. That may be working hard and providing for your family, it may be working hard at home to make sure your children are taken care of and the chores are done. Only the weak try to destroy others thoughts of usefulness and hope. Success is much more then money and status.
A person's worth is measured by the worth of what they value. I believe in working hard for what means the most to you. To put your time, energy and passion all in for what's important to you.
These words remind me of my father and the lessons he gave to me as a young boy; moderation in all things, it's easier to be cruel than to be kind, and to always lend a helping hand. I can only hope that I can continue live up to his expectations. I miss you every day, pop.
So true! The world is beautiful because of many true gentlemen and fair ladies around us. 🎉😊 Am I one among them? At least I remind myself trying everyday.
My grandfather once told me "do what you love, and love what you do". Now i'm understand a lot about the meaning of his word. I'm born Man, so i will decide to do what i love, or love the things that i do, people can't control me because i'm the only one that have a power to control myself. I want more, i want to improve, want to do my hobby, something that i want the most, i hate work but i'll love it, i don't want to study but i'll do it so i'll love it to, i'm accepting myself, who am i, and i respect this journey of life that lead me to be a better Man.
I had great examples of this in my life. But missed it until recently. Before today, I wouldn't have even been in a place to open my ears, mind, and heart a little. To deal with stuff, I just shut these things down. Called it all weakness, thinking some brittle unchanging form was stone. Instead of a sealed off pile of snow. Sent adrift at the coming slight breeze. Thank you for today sir, from the future.
I feel so safe knowing there are men in these comment sections who value and model their lives after or similar to this poetry 💖 thank you, it can’t be easy
What beautiful truths. Someone truly strong doesn't need to prove his strength. Kindness and gentleness are qualities that when present in the strong make them far more than human.
The ultimate measure of man is not where he stand in times of comfort and convenience but where he stands in times of controversy and challenges .-Maryin J Luther King And from a woman who I loved ' a true measure of man is in what he does .Period .' 'A true man is a man of wisdom and who knows his top priority is his family and friends ' Ellen J Barner
This is a brilliant poem. Beautiful motivation. I think in South Africa all young men, including men young at heart, must listen to this poem. Maybe we will turn the tide on the national scourge of killing and abuse of children and women.
As the last generattion of South Africans born during apartheid (91), I grew up both there and since 11 in london. It’s painstakingly apparent that the mistakes of those before us have had devastating effects on the men and women of our nation that is then fed into the mindset of that last generation and beyond. It’s tough to see and accept, I truly hope we can become betttr
This is what I needed to hear... I feel as if I heard this before. I am trying to find a way to have everyone breath a collective sigh of releif and be happy for their future, rather than fearing it. I am searching for truth in a world of lies
As a guardian to my younger brother I worry what kind of men will he be without a father figure I'm going to gift him this poem to help him on his journey as he grows to be a magnificent man.
Love is an essential and precious element of life. Protect it and cherish it. If masculinity and mastery are subjects of interest to you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, give your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your points of view. All the best to you!
I really needed this, I tend to help people whenever I can, but I receive no help myself. I helped a blind man in Starbucks the other day, as if it was automatic. He was looking for the line and everyone stared but no one helped. People actually giggled at him. I was up next and decided to help him until he got his coffee and went on his way. I jumped out of line to go all the way to the back and guide him, I don't know why I did it. People started giggling at me. I felt alone recently because of it, not because of those laughing, but because of those who stood and only watched. This video made me feel happy for the first time this week, and at the perfect time.
Don’t worry about being a real man. Worry about being a good father, good son, good husband, good boyfriend, brother, nephew, grandfather, grandson, uncle, neighbour, etc, and you will automatically become a real man.
"True manliness" has evolved to mean that you know to focus on yourself and to take care of yourself. No more being misguided by the expectations of the society. Cause no harm; but just because you are a man, you do not have to assume the role of a provider and protector. You are an individual and you need to value yourself.
That is the complete opposite of what the video is asserting. Focusing solely on yourself is out of line with true manhood. Selfishness is one of the chief signs of immaturity; the other being indulgence. A child thinks only of themselves, values only themselves. A man considers his offices (son, father, husband, etc.) and give these their due. He considers what is beyond himself and what is just. Fulfilling your responsibilities is not a misguided expectation of society, it is the natural order. Yes, men must be industrious and if they preside over a family, they must provide; "In doing nothing, men learn to do evil" (Cato). The truth is as a man, you are not an individual. A man recognizes he is one part of the whole; he recognizes his debts to those who have shaped him and return that charity with respect and humility. And yes, he is a protector and defender. Men are built for war, our shoulders are broad to carry the burdens of battle. Women give life, through child rearing; men give life, through sacrifice. It is the oldest story; Christ died so his bride could go free. That is the model for every man.
What a man should be a monster who is in control. Always aiming to the highest good he can conceive of, always willing to sacrifice for the betterment of those who depend on him.
Love it. It’s a long path to be that kinda man but if you’re willing to take it you’ll wake up everyday with a warm feeling deep down while your mirror is going to give you a loving smile
This is very valuable, I wish I would have seen this like 10 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of trouble. That is the issue with education today, wisdom needs to find its place.
If you are into topics about mastery and masculinity, and if you are bold enough to challenge yourself with interesting ideas, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel. Learn to explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire. We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well. Looking forward to your opinions. All the best to you!
That is exactly what I always say: "Masculinity is to protect the weak and to stand up for the good and the right! And not take what you want by force without considering loss!" . Because to be a good person is not a weakness, on the contrary it requires a lot more strength than to be a bad person!!!
Great insight into what is quickly becoming a bigger issue by the minute in America. The biggest problem is not fatherless children, it's who the fatherless look to for inspiration as a good example of whit it is to be a man. The bigger problem is most don't know the answer so we have the blind leading the blind and here we are.
He almost had it right , manliness can be hard as steel and cold as ice, it can stand in the face of death, and not back down. Because his wife and children are to be protected even at the cost of his life. When you remove ,Love , Honor and Obay from the marriage vow , you didn't make a woman a man's equal you removed his place from the family. Once removed from the family a man has no natural place in Society.
I needed to hear that.
I do not have a father who told me how to be a good man.
I had books. I had stories. I have dead fathers who tought me beyond their graves.
Thank you for giving them a voice to speak to their unkown sons, for they have no one to turn to.
This gave me hope. Thank you.
You have a heavenly Father.. Jesus.
@@Stan-lf4nz The heavenly father is God, not Jesus.
@@Stan-lf4nz Heel is right. Jesus is the messenger, the holy spirit the community and God our father. :3
True manliness is heroism and giving without expecting to be getting anything back.
@@red8527 Don't force your belief on other people. Stay with what you belief and let them also be.
I just turned 35 - not sure if I'm really a "young man" anymore, and who this poem is for, but this speech cleared up a lot of toxicity in my mind. Thanks - it was beautiful.
Toxicity, care to provide an example?
Never stop pursuing to become the best man that you can be. As challenging as it may seem to be to pursue manhood in today climate with all the bad references to it and not many role models, being a man means also facing challenges, regardless of what these may be.
I wish you strength and willpower to pursue such a goal, and discipline to not stop when you will face difficulties.
All the best to you!
@@bettermanchannel770 the toxicity being not focusing on protecting the weak. Using your strength to help people and the opposite being using your strength to enforce your own opinions
@@jeremy4663 I like that man, stay directed and best wishes
But these are just my own opinions, of course
Kindness, honesty, integrity, courage ...values which are sorely missing from many today.
When they turn seventeen, take them down to the recruiter and sign them up for military duty!
Currently lacking in the courage but I am trying to change because vI want to.
@@ex-x7079 Do not give up - ever. Whatever challenges you have, they were designed for you to conquer. It may feel like you're not progressing. It may feel like you're hopeless. It may feel like you can't do it. Keep going. I know darkness, crippling pain, and feelings of utter perilous hopelessness. If you continue, the person you are today will die to give birth to who you really are. KEEP GOING!!!
@@Adrian_Real you have no idea how convenient that was for me now.
@@Adrian_Real just got shot down by a woman who I thought was genuinely interested.
This video made me think about my Dad. He was always imposing when I was a child. Not in a bad way. He seemed like someone who was best not to be angered. Who would fight off a bear with his bare hands if he had to in order to protect me. As a child, he seemed strong, likely due to the physical demands of his work. But he was nurturing and always encouraged me to walk a righteous path. When our community couldn't find a Santa Claus for the Christmas Party, he reluctantly volunteered to put on the suit and play the roll. In the end, he enjoyed it, maybe more than we realized. He volunteered every year since. Every December 1st, he would sit outside our local pharmacy to collect donations of cash or toys. He took the role seriously. Always suiting up before going to a Christmas Party. Never wanting to risk a child seeing Santa without his beard. He did this for many years, ensuring there was always ample toys so every child got several presents. He would visit the children in the neighborhood as Santa, especially families in financial hardships. He worked with our Non-Profit organizations to improve our community. When he did a charitable act, he never asked for payment. As Santa, he would simply ask them to donate toys or money, never setting a price. He only asked them to offer an amount they could, though he never asked anything of the poor.
Then came Covid. Dad disappeared from the public, they didn't know why. They figured due to Covid Lockdowns, he must have felt it best to stay home and not possibly spread the virus. In truth, he contracted Covid in Mid to early November from his best friend. By the 22nd or 23rd, he was in the hospital. By this time, we all tested positive for Covid and isolated until the beginning of December. Those in the community knew what was happening and offered any assistance to Mom. Dad eventually went onto a ventilator. By December 14th, his brain was starved of oxygen due to viral fluid building up in his lungs. Care was withdrawn and family was actually allowed to be there as he passed away from this world.
Mom called the local pharmacy, who didn't know about Dad's condition and that he passed. They said many of their employees, and regular customers, have been asking where he was. Everyone was saddened. They put out a board explaining what had happened and why Dad sat outside as Santa every year. So many left donations of cash. Some, including employees there, purchased toys and donated them too. The Manager at Walgreens even donated toys in Dad's memory. Letters of condolences and donations in Dad's memory came in almost every day. We were worried if we would have enough toys for the next Christmas Party. I can say now that our supply of toys is overflowing.
He was an example of how to be a real man. I can only hope that I can grow into a man who is worthy of filling his shoes.
I think I could say in the name of all here that your Dad was a real example, you had an exemplar and extraordinary father to inspire by. Now let him proud of what man you are become
Your dad was great
Live up to his legacy
Son of a gun, this made me break.
He was a man.
One of the good things or maybe even the only one of seeing a good man pass away is seeing just how much joy and kindness he brought upon the world and how many will remember him with a smile etched upon their hearts, to see that such men still exist is the only beacon of hope to our species, there is good inside all of us and letting it out is a choise.
Some men become legends not for their migth or their accomplishments, they become legends because of their kindness.
I shall offer a toast in honor of your father who embodied a Santa that Children could look up to, as a man and as great father and I hope, one day I will be half the man he was.
You had a good Daddy it sounds like. There needs to be more men like him today in this world we live in. It would for sure be a better place. May God bless you and your family.
This poem is not just for young, but for all men. It takes time to be a true man.
indeed it does my friend. Wise words.
The difference between toxic masculinity and wholesome masculinity, made plain. It is vital this generation remember that masculinity itself is not toxic, and that a good nation is built and defended by good men.
Toxic masculinity does not exist. What's the hallmark of TM that can not be expressed by women? Wake tf up
There's no such thing as toxic masculinity man... "That appalling phrase".
There's only bad behavior
Toxic masculinity does not exist. There is merely masculinity, and cruelty disguising itself as masculinity.
Amen brother
@@ActionAndAcceleration Exactly. As Bedros Keuilian said (paraphrase), "There is no such thing as toxic masculinity, there is only toxicity and masculinity."
"True manliness is tender and loving. False manliness, cold and hard" Very wise words from this True Man.
There is a time to be tender and loving and there is a time to be cold and hard
It’s a mixture of both
@@alexismartinez4225 amen..
it takes manly wisdom, to know the difference, and when and how to implement..
being a real man is an awesomely fulfilling adventure
*of course, the softer, kinder, more compassionate manly side should be exercised exponentially more than the other..
*cold and hard toward injustice and ruthlessness..
It depends on the situation
It takes courage to be a kind man .
100%. Any asshole can cause pain, it takes courage to even try to remove pain from the world.
Kind? Lol what are you millennial? If you took kindness out of this video.. debile.
@@Nenad-ICXC-Shuput-GFAMMA really?
debil?.. 😈
@@walkitoff. amen..
Definetly against the grain, of this, the current social tide..
A truly Free person is derided
@@lovealways2609 yeah it's almost like a kind of detachment from the consequences of our actions
I'm 61 and gained a lot from this. I think sometimes we need these words even more as we grow older. Reminders of how we should be as good men. Examples for the younger.
100% agree! Man benefits from reminders.
All the best in your life.
The young no longer listen to their elders, due to their public school brainwashing and lack of a father, no a Bo Dyke cannot be a substitute for a father no more than a man can be a substitute for a mother!
This speech should be shown to every young man in the world
Half of it will be labeled "toxic masculinity". It is time now for men to realize that they need to take care of themselves as the society treats them as disposable.
True wisdom that is as relevant today as ever. Too many toxic, arrogant macho men out there these days who think they're "real men" but in truth are cowards & bullies. Thank you for sharing this inspiring truth!
lol your name sounds like a woman 😂if you are you have no right to talk about men focused on your own gender
@@serafinhumberto6090 Learn English before trying to put down somebody. It is "your", and not "you're".
I agree my father is a coward who says he's a real man when all he does is beat and berate me and my mom
The greatest want of the world is the want of men, men who in their inmost souls are true and honest, men who cannot be bought or sold, men who do not fear to call sin by it's right name, men whose conscience is as true to duty as a needle is to the pole, men who would stand for the right though the heavens would fall
Ellen G White
Well shit, didn’t realize I was a man.
Exquisite.
You beat me to it my brother. God Bless!
@@serpentinewolf7085 that's something I've noticed too being masculine is really just being a good person meaning anyone man or woman can do so
May every man that hears this at their moment of need be safe, loved, respected and cared for the way we as men should do for all.
I had the honor of having a role model that taught me this. He was a bodybuilder and could easily by look be considered one of false manliness. But I never have met anyone so quick to stand for those looked down on and protect the weak. And when I sent him this video and said it reminded me of him it made him cry. Thank you Rudy, for showing me when I was young what a man should be❤️
Yes sir, may the age of man bring a refreshing breath. Stay strong men
Well put my friend!
"Such men in their homes and their private life have a womanly gentleness."
Don't often hear lines like this from people who preach masculinity. I very much appreciate and applaud it.
A Man
by Edgar Albert Guest
A man doesn't whine at his losses.
A man doesn't whimper and fret,
Or rail at the weight of his crosses
And ask life to rear him a pet.
A man doesn't grudgingly labor
Or look upon toil as a blight;
A man doesn't sneer at his neighbor
Or sneak from a cause that is right.
A man doesn't sulk when another
Succeeds where his efforts have failed;
Doesn't keep all his praise for the brother
Whose glory is publicly hailed;
And pass by the weak and the humble
As though they were not of his clay;
A man doesn't ceaselessly grumble
When things are not going his way.
A man looks on woman as tender
And gentle, and stands at her side
At all times to guard and defend her,
And never to scorn or deride.
A man looks on life as a mission.
To serve, just so far as he can;
A man holds his noblest ambition
On earth is to live as a man.
nothing wrong with anything you just wrote..
High ideals.. but, very worthy ones.. amen..
Your author's poem is better than what was read imo.
I agree with everything you wrote besides that woman part
This one is better
But my friend who cares about "better"? Does this mean, by your perspective, that we toss the video in the trash? They both have valuable insights that hopefully each individual viewer is prudent enough and experienced enough to grab what is true. But discernment is sold separately.
I lost someone in my life that told me the reason they were leaving me is because I'm a Boy, less than a Man and that they were looking for a real Man. Today having listened to this amazing and powerful speech I realize that for a long while I've been a Man for a while I've been living by the Code of True Manliness. My Mother is an amazing woman who thought me all my values and I should've realized that at that moment. Thank you for this.
i resonate with this!!! 👍👍
Steadfast!!!
I am with you man. I was called weak and whiny by my family of origin, yet they benefited immensely from my nurturing and forgiving nature. My ex also preferred a manly man because I wouldn't hit her back or engage in verbal and emotional manipulation which she perpetrates on me and our children. Good friends, therapy, and my Christian faith rescued me and opened my eyes to whom I really am. Seeking true knowledge of self, as difficult as it is, is a long, painful but worthwhile experience. You've got to be brave to embark on it.
Appointment.Point of ori
And a man, a man provides. And he does it even when he's not appreciated, or respected, or even loved. He simply bears up and he does it. Because he's a man.
- Gus Fring
Brilliant.
I like how no one notices the true purpose of that phrase.
Just as with any man, appealing to selflessness is manipulation.
Gus wanted to manipulate Walter into staying. To keep working as the mule, I mean male, he was being told he is, even when said definition was detrimental. There's no denial in the negativity of Walter, but pretending that little phrase was virtuous is disingenuous or ignorant. Choose whichever fits your case guys.
To be a man is to bear responsibility of all the heaviest things.
Walter White
@@ruanoosthuizen6084 I believe that's applicable to all human beings within our physical and mental capabilities. My mother was the sole bearer of the responsabilities in my family because my father died, and she brought us out of poverty. She is not physically strong as a man, overworked hours and messed up her back. What I am trying to say here, is that as long as you face up your responsibilities in life man or woman with a partner or not, you will be as much as a man as the poem describes. You have to aspire to be a better human being. Recognizing your weaknesses and strengths, and finding value in them. Your self steem will help you avoid people that take advantage of you and your weakness will help you be kind to others who are not strong at the things you are.
PD: my mother is doing better now.
"Loneliness is the price you pay when you start to improve yourself."
They're truly golden words❤🎉👍
I was fortunate enough to be taught this philosophy by my late father.
The dear person that's reading this, we don't know each other but I wish you all the best in life❤ don't ever blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Your smile is precious and a key to a happy life...
The same to you my friend. God bless you.
Thank you, may God protect you and provide you comfort.
God bless you my fellows
“When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways” ~ 1 Cor 13:11
So, that is the reason I am a senior juvenile!
Good verse!
One of my favorites!
@@stankygeorge lmao
Masculinity is overrated.
Now manliness to some means ignoring oppression while becoming an profitable oppressor... Amazing speech, whoever is reading this, good luck out there, God bless and keep you as you spread love in this world, peace be with you friends...
True manliness is conquering oneself by becoming one with the monster inside all of us! Choices have consequences!! Pray you make the right choice!!!
This, along with "If-" by Rudyard Kipling and TR's "The Man in the Arena," is now easily one of my favorites on this channel. On top of all those being wonderful messages, the narrator is phenomenal. God, I wish I had a voice like Shane Morris!
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Please listen to Desiderata poem also my fav.
"Strive to be better than your former self, not your fellow man." - the wise, the kind, and the old
True manliness is one that nurtures, false manliness is one that destroys.
of course, any imbecile can destroy. It takes a lot more to be able to take care of others with true love. What this man is talking about is actually what it means to be a good, strong human being. It is very hard, granted. We are spirits in a body. The weak spirit is the one that is the cold and rude etc. It's also the one that falls easily into temptations and is deceived. It is called the 'Fool' in the Bible. Hardest thing is to stay calm and caring to everyone when life's storms hits you repeatedly, in situations where everyone else would freak out. True manliness is to stay calm and calm and care others when those storms hits you. Only then you'll be able to grow.
I am in no meaning of true manliness but only a worthless being who doesn’t truly know on how to be kind & caring, thank you for this video it help me think a lot.
First steps are to learn your faults, then it's just the lifelong journey to rise above them. There is never a perfect man but any man have a chance to die and be remembered as a good man.
@@nattvaktenphotography ….Well said. 🙏🏼
@@JM-sr5ct Ty.
Since watching this channel's videos my life has changed drastically I'm better at think and taking action I'm wiser i control my emotions better, I'm so thankful I found this channel
This poem is perfect. This is the man I want to become.
And you will become such a man .
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Be kind but hold the potential to be dangerous against the wrong. Only if you are this way, people will respect your kindness, otherwise it will be considered just weakness, and it is
God Bless You
"I aspire to be a slave"
This is why we're doomed.
A man follows the Truth no matter what the outcome. If he shall lose his possessions, his livlihood, status, family and even his own life; he stays the narrow path. People will ridicule him, spit on him, tear at his flesh and he will stand firm because his foundation is unshakeable.
Yes.
True manliness is when you are ready to evaporate as a life today, for the sake of other lives. It is when you can consume all within the scope of "now", and with that consumption, are able to produce an insight of the best possible tomorrow. It is the discipline, to execute all actions required to fulfill the prerequisites of shaping the future according to the insight gathered.
In a simple sentence, it is to be on the front for mankind, with the awareness of our now and a drive to creating the best possible tomorrow. Any man doing this, is at the peak of masculinity.
I always felt the same. Real men stand up for what's right and protect Women. We have the love of humanity in our Hearts. Any Man who hurts Women is a Coward. And I will fight them.
Those are some of the most powerful words I’ve ever heard spoken. I’m not going to stop thinking about this
I have much to work on myself, I'm half way there. Im glad I heard this
I love these words for the men out there. This bit of writing has had a calming effect on me today. I've had the pleasure of knowing a few men who may have read this message! Men are lovely too.
I am crying. It is as if the voice was meant for this piece.
👑In a world full of anxieties, this verse is for you tonight, “I will both lie down in peace, and sleep; For You alone, O LORD, make me dwell in safety.” Psalms 4:8
AMEN !!!
Amen.
🙏🙏🙏🤲👍
😘😘😘😘💘
Amen
I have those struggles now, im not really a kind person nor do I feel a lot of empathy. But I've been trying to learn to be humble and less angry. I pray on it sometimes when I remember to pray. I have my demons and my temptations that I battle daily but I dont give up. I need to conquer those before I can learn humility and kindness. I do protect the weak wherever possible and stand for what is right. And Im learning and practicing holding my tongue. I did not have a great father or older brother so Im having to learn these things at 33. Its tough but I have a good woman who teaches me these things. But at times I feel we are polar opposites on issues. Which brings up my bitter side and my decisions on matters leans to the violent side whereas she leans on the non confrontational side. But she is very empathetic and sympathetic and kind. So she calms me down many times. I have a long way to go but with every year that passes Im getting better.
Thank you Redfrost Motivation for reviving in me the love of poetry. I am getting to know of so many poets and their works that I did not know existed. As far as this poem is concerned I cannot believe that The poet passed away in 1880. His words are so relevant today.
I have a special needs daughter who is to strong for my wife alone. And because of this, I'm a stay at home dad while my wife works. Many "successful "rich men and women have told me I'm not a man because I stay home to watch my children while my wife works.
These "successful men/women" that have told me this. No longer have a relationship with their children or family. Is that what a successful life is to people? To be alone and angry and prideful?
Success is doing the best you can for others. That may be working hard and providing for your family, it may be working hard at home to make sure your children are taken care of and the chores are done.
Only the weak try to destroy others thoughts of usefulness and hope. Success is much more then money and status.
Anyone who would feel the need to tell you that likely needs to learn to mind their manners.
You're doing great brother. Helping your family is always manly. Always.
A person's worth is measured by the worth of what they value. I believe in working hard for what means the most to you. To put your time, energy and passion all in for what's important to you.
Very well said! Very well indeed.
Lovely mate
These words remind me of my father and the lessons he gave to me as a young boy; moderation in all things, it's easier to be cruel than to be kind, and to always lend a helping hand. I can only hope that I can continue live up to his expectations. I miss you every day, pop.
So true! The world is beautiful because of many true gentlemen and fair ladies around us. 🎉😊 Am I one among them? At least I remind myself trying everyday.
Conservative men need to listen to this daily. Being a man is not just about being tough.
It’s what I was taught as a kid by every adult in my life 💪🏾 Treat every mother’s son fair
My grandfather once told me "do what you love, and love what you do". Now i'm understand a lot about the meaning of his word. I'm born Man, so i will decide to do what i love, or love the things that i do, people can't control me because i'm the only one that have a power to control myself. I want more, i want to improve, want to do my hobby, something that i want the most, i hate work but i'll love it, i don't want to study but i'll do it so i'll love it to, i'm accepting myself, who am i, and i respect this journey of life that lead me to be a better Man.
AMEN to this, More of this is NEEDED in the WORLD TODAY as much as at ANYTIME !!!
I had great examples of this in my life. But missed it until recently. Before today, I wouldn't have even been in a place to open my ears, mind, and heart a little. To deal with stuff, I just shut these things down. Called it all weakness, thinking some brittle unchanging form was stone. Instead of a sealed off pile of snow. Sent adrift at the coming slight breeze. Thank you for today sir, from the future.
The virtues of a true man, it melted my heart😭💪🏻
Narrator is the real man who make these ideas very intersting to listen.
Real strength is not putting down others to make oneself feel better.
No that’s common decency
I feel so safe knowing there are men in these comment sections who value and model their lives after or similar to this poetry 💖 thank you, it can’t be easy
Few things are easy. Being a mother certainly isn't.
Our thoughts create our life and our future..
Choose wisely what you allow yourself to dwell mentally upon..
we suffer more in our imagination, than in reality itself..
be.. do not try, to become..
What beautiful truths. Someone truly strong doesn't need to prove his strength. Kindness and gentleness are qualities that when present in the strong make them far more than human.
This has cleared up a lot of toxicity in me I got this message yesterday but this poem reinforces it
Words from the Heart and soul Beautiful James F Clarke ❤ Thank you
Every cruel man should hear this poem and cry their toxicity out when they understand how wrong they've been living.
brah pathetic😂
Believe you can and you're halfway there.
Hey, you. Whoever’s reading this, this is your sign. Everything’s gonna be okay. You did not come this far to give up. I believe in you. 🙏🏻✨💖
Thank you
True Manliness is capable of Self-denial and Renunciation. False Manliness is Self-Willed and Self- Indulgent. This just about Sums it All👌👌
The ultimate measure of man is not where he stand in times of comfort and convenience but where he stands in times of controversy and challenges .-Maryin J Luther King
And from a woman who I loved ' a true measure of man is in what he does .Period .'
'A true man is a man of wisdom and who knows his top priority is his family and friends '
Ellen J Barner
I suffered for so long. I am grateful for the chance to be a true man of my own definition!
This is a brilliant poem. Beautiful motivation. I think in South Africa all young men, including men young at heart, must listen to this poem. Maybe we will turn the tide on the national scourge of killing and abuse of children and women.
Sikuvike Sis wam ngoba nam indishiye ndimatchekile.
Enough is enough!!
As the last generattion of South Africans born during apartheid (91), I grew up both there and since 11 in london. It’s painstakingly apparent that the mistakes of those before us have had devastating effects on the men and women of our nation that is then fed into the mindset of that last generation and beyond. It’s tough to see and accept, I truly hope we can become betttr
@@treytoomuch yep
Women, tuo, shall learn a lot from this Universal Message.
Amazing. Every man should be like this, and every woman too. Every human being should.
This is what I needed to hear... I feel as if I heard this before. I am trying to find a way to have everyone breath a collective sigh of releif and be happy for their future, rather than fearing it. I am searching for truth in a world of lies
We must not forget, we too must defend ourselves from those who would remove the power to defend others.❤
As a guardian to my younger brother I worry what kind of men will he be without a father figure I'm going to gift him this poem to help him on his journey as he grows to be a magnificent man.
a good enough one if he has you, i imagine.
"Dreams are made for those who really lives".
Thank you so much for this. I thought for many years loving as much as I do was unmanly.
Love is an essential and precious element of life. Protect it and cherish it. If masculinity and mastery are subjects of interest to you, I invite you to explore the videos shared on the Mastery Order Channel to challenge yourself with some ideas about manhood and to become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, give your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
This is such a beautiful and true poem🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
I really needed this, I tend to help people whenever I can, but I receive no help myself. I helped a blind man in Starbucks the other day, as if it was automatic. He was looking for the line and everyone stared but no one helped. People actually giggled at him. I was up next and decided to help him until he got his coffee and went on his way. I jumped out of line to go all the way to the back and guide him, I don't know why I did it. People started giggling at me. I felt alone recently because of it, not because of those laughing, but because of those who stood and only watched. This video made me feel happy for the first time this week, and at the perfect time.
When the whole world sinks into the darkness become a light that shines the way
you did the right thing, i salute you.
you are not alone!
His voice is so calming 😊
I will be reading this poem to my literary community in our next meet. What a beauty. Thank you for sharing.
Don’t worry about being a real man. Worry about being a good father, good son, good husband, good boyfriend, brother, nephew, grandfather, grandson, uncle, neighbour, etc, and you will automatically become a real man.
Yes indeed.
"True manliness" has evolved to mean that you know to focus on yourself and to take care of yourself. No more being misguided by the expectations of the society. Cause no harm; but just because you are a man, you do not have to assume the role of a provider and protector. You are an individual and you need to value yourself.
That is the complete opposite of what the video is asserting. Focusing solely on yourself is out of line with true manhood. Selfishness is one of the chief signs of immaturity; the other being indulgence. A child thinks only of themselves, values only themselves. A man considers his offices (son, father, husband, etc.) and give these their due. He considers what is beyond himself and what is just. Fulfilling your responsibilities is not a misguided expectation of society, it is the natural order. Yes, men must be industrious and if they preside over a family, they must provide; "In doing nothing, men learn to do evil" (Cato). The truth is as a man, you are not an individual. A man recognizes he is one part of the whole; he recognizes his debts to those who have shaped him and return that charity with respect and humility. And yes, he is a protector and defender. Men are built for war, our shoulders are broad to carry the burdens of battle. Women give life, through child rearing; men give life, through sacrifice. It is the oldest story; Christ died so his bride could go free. That is the model for every man.
@@allthingsforgood I respect u
@@allthingsforgood u mean child birth right not child rearing
@@jeshurunhazelton7789 Yes
@@allthingsforgood just curious wats ur thoughts on conscription or the draft do u agree with it or do u think it's slavery
What a man should be a monster who is in control. Always aiming to the highest good he can conceive of, always willing to sacrifice for the betterment of those who depend on him.
That’s not a monster at all. That’s a man.
Kindness is NOT weakness.
Love it. It’s a long path to be that kinda man but if you’re willing to take it you’ll wake up everyday with a warm feeling deep down while your mirror is going to give you a loving smile
Moved me to tears and touched me in a way that I thought was impossible.
This is very valuable, I wish I would have seen this like 10 years ago. It would have saved me a lot of trouble. That is the issue with education today, wisdom needs to find its place.
If you are into topics about mastery and masculinity, and if you are bold enough to challenge yourself with interesting ideas, I invite you to explore the videos I share on the Mastery Order Channel.
Learn to explore your masculine potential to the maximum and become the kind of man you would admire.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your opinions.
All the best to you!
It's because you are taught what to think not how to think by education these days
So inspiring
Powerful for men of all ages and very instructive for fathers raising boys and young men. Excellent.
That is exactly what I always say: "Masculinity is to protect the weak and to stand up for the good and the right! And not take what you want by force without considering loss!"
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Because to be a good person is not a weakness, on the contrary it requires a lot more strength than to be a bad person!!!
A good Christian approach to life! I knew this but it seemed to slip away over the years. I need to get back to my Bible.
Young men need to be exposed to more content like this 😎💪
True manliness and True Feminine are humane, we are all humans first and foremost and that's beautiful.
I was looking for someone to say something about this.
Such great inspiration 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Am I the only one who got chills listening to this?
We are the chosen ones for this to find us today.
I agree with kindness in your heart. Big questions about COMPANIES, no examples needed. Intelligence is the only way to win at this ongoing battle.
Rare speech left about manliness
Great insight into what is quickly becoming a bigger issue by the minute in America. The biggest problem is not fatherless children, it's who the fatherless look to for inspiration as a good example of whit it is to be a man. The bigger problem is most don't know the answer so we have the blind leading the blind and here we are.
Please change the title. This isn't just a powerful speech for young men-it's a powerful speech for all men.
The voice is so calming and deeper…good for bed time stories.
2024 anyone?
Strength. Wisdom. Love.
He almost had it right , manliness can be hard as steel and cold as ice, it can stand in the face of death, and not back down.
Because his wife and children are to be protected even at the cost of his life.
When you remove ,Love , Honor
and Obay from the marriage vow , you didn't make a woman a man's equal you removed his place from the family.
Once removed from the family a man has no natural place in Society.