Thank you Paul for taking the time to write, and for being so engaged in our community. Your comments and the stories you share are always inspiring. 😀 We hope you had a nice Christmas, and best wishes for the New Year! 🎉
@@SantiagoPerez-jy9sc there's pretty much a rule"laugh or be laughed at" just a tip try laughing with them that way you are not singled out. And check out "Charisma on command" a really cool channel that has videos to help with that🙂
I admire people who can keep up a conversation for hours I am the kind of person that says hi nice meeting you bye.Some people could keep a conversation for hours about any topic and I really admire that I am like hi nice meeting you bye
Amy Rivera I’m the same. Straight shooter and a man of few words. Even when exciting things go on in my life I’m not one to divulge and bs for god only knows how much time
Someone that is good at talking is actually just good at setting you up to be able to say something meaningful. Avoid stupid small talk and ask a question, then comment on the answer, the idea is that if they know this stuff then they know to ask you something next to have conversation. If they are awkward like you then comment on the awkwardness and it kills the shit that stops most people from talking. Once that awkward "what do they think of me" thought is out in the open, then you can talk freely.
"Dude, like, how's the weather?" "Uh.. It's good." "I beg to differ though." "Um... Why?" "The weather is a symbol for our entrapment. It resembles the chains that binds our free will. Think about it, last night, I lost my penny. But that couldn't be possible had the rain not announced its presence; it made me buy an umbrella which was exactly the time that I lost my penny. So, in many ways more than one, the weather was at fault for the lost of that penny. However, the weather is merely one factor from the sea of infinite factors. Just one variable. These factors influence our actions to its very tiny detail, which nullifies the concept of free will. Our fates are predestined and we are merely acting on a script that we are forced to play. So, is the weather, a reminder that we are merely puppets, really good?"
Hahahhaha That's actually called determinism. I started thinking about it and it only made sense that we are far from free will and that everything that happens is influenced by outer circumstances. And if that's the case why would we be scared at all about what some stranger thinks. Everything we say will soon be forgotten as we will be forgotten when we perish in a short amount of time. Most ordinary people are forgotten after a short while no matter their personality. Still is talking really something meaningful or just a means to communicate and connect in a way? I think both and for introverts it's hard to understand that concept. That people talk for the sake of talking and nothing more. Still I will try my best to talk about small things as not everyone is concerned over the great or they are there just to have a good time not get existential and depressed.
I’m in this badminton club and everyone there already has their own friend group, then there’s me, not me and friends... just me it’s so hard for me to talk to people it’s not even funny. I literally walk there, hood up and silent this video really helped me start talking to other members. And if you’re currently in the situation I was in, i say try your absolute best to have a conversation with different people. It’s scary *i know* so start off with people that are generally quiet they’re lonely they want someone to talk to so your chances of getting “rejected” r slim *you can do it*
Simple, I'm an extrovert just thought I would help. I usually start off with "Hey! What's your name, you look familiar? Did you play any sports last year?" and keep adding each day. This simple 3 sentence opener was how I met some of my closest friends I know today.
Me: Typed, "How to make friends when you have a social anxiety and you are really afraid of meeting new people?" TH-cam: "How To Talk To People" Me: close enough...
Barak Gooroo say you have to do a school project and there’s people in there you don’t talk to much, and then you just leave the class or try to change groups.
Try to be more interested in learning about others than you are about talking about yourself. It's so much fun learning about others. Most people are so happy that you even took the time to talk with them. Lots of love to you.😊❤
@@amelialalllalala3914 Honestly, if I was talking to someone, and they asked me my opinion on death penalty, I wouldnt be weirded out by it. Id answer them lol
Lots of people need to know this skills some are natural and some have to practice that person should do in person. Also on a person tone too on how to talk to people. Introducing yourself is first step. You say your name in the being you can ask how is the person is. Ask for help or directions when you need it. Options is good when asked. Find different topics to talk about. Movies, music, hobbies, books, nature, pets, animals, holidays, family, Humor somethings that ment not to be insulting. that not insulting. It's good to ask questions sometimes as long as its positive. News topic Ask open questions good questions. Not yes or no because that can be boring questions if you go on dates. Pay attention when the person talking and be a good listener Compatmet others. Referring of interest. Share things are good, with confident self esteem, honest Share storirs or event stories Postive, open minded. Express yourself with others. Don't assume things. Know when it's the right time to talk like if your a church, it's not good to talk. If you didn't understand the question ask the person to repeat the questions. Also express yourself or your emotions. Be patient with the person. Eye contact and facial are always good. When people are introduced to different kids its easier depending on the area to. When you spend so many years away from people and you not used to it you, kind of have to get reintroduced to it all over again. Readapting to it. You know like when people to new places it seem strange at first but once you get used to it, it doesn't seem that strange. Like when people have the first day of school its seem strange then it's not so strange.
This video ; ) saved my life I just changed my school and going to offline classes nearly after a year and this worked its lot easy if you introduce yourself ,help them or get help from them
I used to work at two different casinos, as an Casino Hostess/Ambassador. My job was to introduce myself to new clientele and promote the event of the day, as well as a tour guide. I remember people being naturally awkward at times😁
Good info.. Thank you. I always have problems starting a conversation. The thing is, I never use to. Had tons of friends, hung out in large groups of ppl with no real problems starting conversations. But not that I'm older and the invent of social media I find it A LOT harder.
I am not good at talking, as I never keep an eye on events. If I watched news, I wouldn't be able to remember much of it afterwards.Too much happening I don't think I would have a meaning anyway. Besides, I was bullied at school, so I am an introvert and keep much to myself. I think it is funny to complain about things. I laugh, when people react to my negativity and realize that they can't make me change my mind. I have already forgotten what was said in the video. XD
Thank you! This helps so much! Sometimes I feel like I got chapters ripped out of my instructional book on everyday life. I'm usually the most awkward person on the planet, but hopefully this will help!
I am watching this just to see this from different perspective because I always start conversations with strangers and never run out of things to say. Aaand people usually like me. Social skills, nothing else. It's all about practise and knowledge :)
I have to talk on the phone with somebody today that I barely know, and this might sound lame but I'm really nervous. I'm so awkward when talking on the phone. But this video did give me some ideas, so thanks!
Another tip is don’t worry too much about people judging you. People are more involved in themselves than we give them credit for. You may think they’ll judge but most of the time, they won’t fully acknowledge you except if you interact with them.
just try 1 tiny 'experiment' with someone that seems safe and friendly.. and when u feel comfortable, u can add another tiny step n build from there if u want to. but yeah, social recluses unite! we should encourage each other instead of being alone ... so many recluses out there. its a shame we dont unite. lol
I need some advice. I am a very shy and quiet person. I'm lucky enough to have a couple close friends and a friend group to hang with at school. But there's this girl in my gym class who isn't so lucky. She always has to walk laps alone and she sits at lunch alone. I want to help her, I just don't know how! Please help!
Emma - Try to start a simple conversation with her. Introduce yourself and maybe ask her to hang out with you at lunch with your other friends. Sorry if this didn’t help I’m not the best at helping people but i give it a try!
im glad there are some thoughtful people still in the lunchroom :) Thanks so much for caring!!! How about..."hey, i think ur in my gym class! 2nd period, with Mr. Gym teacher, right? whats your name? Do u want to come sit with me for lunch? (enthusiastic & friendly tone.... not the charity, I feel sorry for u tone). " when u get her attention, could ask if she could help u with a certain subject that might be more challenging for u. or comment on an incident in gym class or make fun of the teacher, etc etc. Update us if u have any luck!!
Yes. Christine's right. Don't use a sympathic tone. I myself walk alone and eat alone and always hated it when people asked me to sit with them at lunch. The reason being is cause they rubbed off as sympathic. They, I believe, are forcing themselves to talk to me all cause they feel bad, not cause they actually want to be my friend. So I always denied them. Not saying everyone is they same, but it's a could be that needs to be looked for.
"Keep humor appropriate. Probably don't want to try this at a funeral." Brought to mind one funeral (christian) where someone said the deceased would be roaring with laughter if she knew her funeral was on April fools day.
Lol So I have a goal to make a new friend / get to know someone every day. And I always bring this to make a conversation. I will try to point out their coolness first. I think this will create more of a positive vibe.
I want a little suggestion... That if someone is not interested in talking with me or don't want to talk with me than how can I make them talk with me or feel interested in talking with me?
I really struggle a lot on how to talk with people and keeping it going and ending the conversation nicely.. Always unsatisfied with messy ending.... I really needed help.. This video helped but I need more. And also I need to practice more...I guess
@@aborne idk how to keep up a conversation well. For example i one time tried with someone since she had the same language as mine so i tried talking to here and said what do you do for fun? Then shes like idk and also asked here other questions and keep saying idk then after few days we were walking back home because we have same route but we dont talk. She asks me whats your fav game i tell her and she tells me then i offer here to play with me IF she wants but shes like OH I CANT. I say why and shes like i have studies and stuff. I said ok . Thats the only time i actually tried with someone and didnt regret it at all i just dont understamd what i am doing wrong also i dont know how to brings things up for a conversation . I do what they ask me to do then thats it
This problem is centuries if not thousands of centuries old. Just be confident and be you don't try to rush it ( You can't hurry love you just have to wait, love don't come easy its a game of give and take ) Take your time to smell the roses enjoy the moment some things are non-verbal anyway. Imagine this my wife is Brazilian and I'm from the USA we communicate in the non verbal a lot. I don't have a lot of words in her language to fully express all that I want to say but we still understand each other.
*What I did was approach random people and it was reeeeeally awkward because nobody freaking does it lol* Thank you for the tips! Winny out... _for now_ 😉
I’m trying to work towards self awareness and monitor how I react to various situations When ever you find yourself leaning towards negativity in the way you communicate try to correct the behaviour you be more confident
I am a 60 year old man. I am now confident and happy enough to talk to random people out and about. I say what a nice day. What is your dogs name, ect. Some people will chit chat , some do not want to interact. I have noticed most women mention their husband or boyfriend within a sentence or two. I am not trying to pick up every women I talk to, but most women think that I am. That is sad. Can't opposite sexes and different ages of people communicate and have other relations besides sexual.
And here's another good way to talk to people: always have filter. If it's one thing I can't stand, it's people who speak tactlessly (even if unintentionally). That's why I never talk to them. I did myself a huge favor, telling my cousin I would never interact with her boyfriend when she told me he sometimes forgets his filter. Hopefully she'll break up with him so he can live life alone and friendless. People without filter deserve that.
@@AsocialMelon No. She says he's still a nice guy, that his lack of filter doesn't define him, let alone make him a bad person. I don't agree with that. I think a person without a filter is JUST a person without a filter. You can't be a good person if you say tactless, jocular things, even unintentionally.
At least people here speak good English though..lol You guys have hope. I am extremely shy person with poor English speaking skill. I try really hard to join any conversations, but it takes too long to think what to say and how to say that words in English at the same time. They just move on to next topics. It is very hard to join in the conversation with the group of 2 or more people. They think I am rude and antisocial, but I was just waiting and struggling inside to catch the chance to say something :(
If they made improving your conversation skills as part of the education system, I feel they should be mandatory for men but optional for women, why? Because the burden of opening your mouth first generally always happens to fall on the guy shoulders, I say burden due to how one-sided it is. I feel that the person who has to start the conversation or initiate the interaction, lead the interaction, needs more social skills training and conversation skills training than the person who responds to it. That's my sarcastic mindset
I often go at different places with My dad and not often He encounters women who forgets they're belonging, My father always talk to them to give back what they've lost, In reply they stubbornly takes it. And thats how I got my Social Anxiety
I feel like I've gotten over most of the anxiety I have when I speak to people, but now I draw a blank anytime someone tries to talk to me. I really don't know what to say or how to continue the conversation.
No matter how you look like we re all similar , so try to overcome it with your good conversation and your open ended questions . It would be really useful trust me ..
Is this what my life has come to? I watch videos advising on how to make a conversation with a species I am a part of. I guess everyone who can initiate and maintain went through this journey. Ironically, language was developed to privide a communicative medium for humans but little did I know that in this world the language that I hoped would bring me closer to communication is dragging me backwards. Nonetheless, should conversations be one-sided as this video implies or should both parties exchange ideas to maintain the conversation?
Did you find these tips helpful?
Is there anything else you would add?
Thank you Paul for taking the time to write, and for being so engaged in our community. Your comments and the stories you share are always inspiring. 😀
We hope you had a nice Christmas, and best wishes for the New Year! 🎉
I have a question. If being rude doesn't help while socializing, why does everyone laughs when someone bullies me ?
Santiago Perez Because people are assholes
@@SantiagoPerez-jy9sc there's pretty much a rule"laugh or be laughed at" just a tip try laughing with them that way you are not singled out.
And check out "Charisma on command" a really cool channel that has videos to help with that🙂
I will try these to see whether it's useful or nor.
I usually say “hi” and “how are you?” And then the conversation ends there.
Sam Morison then they go on their phone
Exactly.. I CANT.. WRAP.. MY HEAD.. AROUND THIS SHIT..
*not- not- not actual shit.. I mean all this conversation communication stuff*
you should try to change your strategy, say 'wassup' instead of 'how are you' lol
Никита Ягодинский but then they go “wassup” back at me like im saying hi but im actually saying how are you ahh humans are confusing
I admire people who can keep up a conversation for hours I am the kind of person that says hi nice meeting you bye.Some people could keep a conversation for hours about any topic and I really admire that I am like hi nice meeting you bye
Amy Rivera I’m the same. Straight shooter and a man of few words. Even when exciting things go on in my life I’m not one to divulge and bs for god only knows how much time
Yes this sht is my problem
I cant even say hi
It's truly a skill and luckily we all can get better at this skill. Especially if we have high aspirations for life. Good luck
Someone that is good at talking is actually just good at setting you up to be able to say something meaningful. Avoid stupid small talk and ask a question, then comment on the answer, the idea is that if they know this stuff then they know to ask you something next to have conversation. If they are awkward like you then comment on the awkwardness and it kills the shit that stops most people from talking. Once that awkward "what do they think of me" thought is out in the open, then you can talk freely.
1992: We'll have flying cars in 2019
2019:How to talk?
Lol
This shit hurts
@@bettertube Ikr? Like we had one job😂😂
😂😂😂
"We are evolving, just backwards"
Now i have to clear my history.
Hi Ok what a coincidence I love trippie and so do you
Why
Me too I don’t want people to think I’m retarded
@@ashhashh1476 haha true
Me too
With my anxiety I can't even say hi without messing it up
hi my name is so so and leave that place
same
Clearly me
Samee
Same
Anxiety has gotten so bad I can't even have a conversation with a close family member
I just don’t like my voice I sound gay but I’m not
Dawson Carpenter i don’t like my voice either, I sound like a man but I’m a girl
Same :(
Don't worry
You won't be able to talk soon
THIS JOKE WAS BROUGHT TO YOU BY MEN
MEN WE DON'T KNOW WHAT WE DID
I'm not anxietal.... But I just have no idea what to say
"Dude, like, how's the weather?"
"Uh.. It's good."
"I beg to differ though."
"Um... Why?"
"The weather is a symbol for our entrapment. It resembles the chains that binds our free will. Think about it, last night, I lost my penny. But that couldn't be possible had the rain not announced its presence; it made me buy an umbrella which was exactly the time that I lost my penny. So, in many ways more than one, the weather was at fault for the lost of that penny. However, the weather is merely one factor from the sea of infinite factors. Just one variable. These factors influence our actions to its very tiny detail, which nullifies the concept of free will. Our fates are predestined and we are merely acting on a script that we are forced to play. So, is the weather, a reminder that we are merely puppets, really good?"
what are you even talking about, that doesn't make sence to me pal
You need to smooth it out a little more for the non intellectuals.
"Ah.......um, you're right. I take back what I just said about the weather being good."
Hahahhaha That's actually called determinism. I started thinking about it and it only made sense that we are far from free will and that everything that happens is influenced by outer circumstances. And if that's the case why would we be scared at all about what some stranger thinks. Everything we say will soon be forgotten as we will be forgotten when we perish in a short amount of time. Most ordinary people are forgotten after a short while no matter their personality. Still is talking really something meaningful or just a means to communicate and connect in a way? I think both and for introverts it's hard to understand that concept. That people talk for the sake of talking and nothing more. Still I will try my best to talk about small things as not everyone is concerned over the great or they are there just to have a good time not get existential and depressed.
“uh..yea..i have to go”
Can't belive im watching this
Honestly
:/
I really wants to meet new people lol
Dude I feel u
same bro
Im havin an anxiety attack just by imagining myself starting a conversation
Donquixote Rosinante oof
Same I have very bad anxiety attacks
Try have conversation with strangers in this telegram group
It will help to reduce your anxiety and boost your confidence
So true tho
I’m in this badminton club and everyone there already has their own friend group, then there’s me, not me and friends... just me it’s so hard for me to talk to people it’s not even funny. I literally walk there, hood up and silent this video really helped me start talking to other members. And if you’re currently in the situation I was in, i say try your absolute best to have a conversation with different people. It’s scary *i know* so start off with people that are generally quiet they’re lonely they want someone to talk to so your chances of getting “rejected” r slim *you can do it*
Nice. Just remain committed to developing this skill.
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Simple, I'm an extrovert just thought I would help. I usually start off with "Hey! What's your name, you look familiar? Did you play any sports last year?" and keep adding each day. This simple 3 sentence opener was how I met some of my closest friends I know today.
honestly can't wrap my head around how that works
@@jonruffolo you just have to be the one to start the convo first
I’ll try next week and update you :(
Here in Germany school sports like in the states doesn't exist... And you can highkey see that I don't regularly exercise xD
Doesn't work for me tho
@@GorillaFlakes its been a year, how did it go? 🤧
Me: Typed, "How to make friends when you have a social anxiety and you are really afraid of meeting new people?"
TH-cam: "How To Talk To People"
Me: close enough...
I am just gonna like my own comment...
Did you really type all that
@@forestnraindeers3690 STOP JUDGING ME
Define social anxiety
Barak Gooroo say you have to do a school project and there’s people in there you don’t talk to much, and then you just leave the class or try to change groups.
Try to be more interested in learning about others than you are about talking about yourself. It's so much fun learning about others. Most people are so happy that you even took the time to talk with them. Lots of love to you.😊❤
Person: Hi
Me: Hi
Awkward silence......
Me:Bye
Person: Bye
And I never heard from them again. 😭😂
lol that's literally me
@@miriamschnell6748 I know how you feel :(
@@ehsangaeini445 sure ahaha
Don't put your focus on yourself, GENUINELY get to know THEM. Putting the focus all about well calm your nerves a lot!
Alis Gonzlez_AMVs_ me too ! I dont know what to talk about
I did this to a girl and she called the police immediate
Sid Diaz lOl
Try doing it with clothes on
@@waynepayne9875 omg i will do that
Sure, what happened after that
Him:ask for that person's opinion! 😊
Me:wHaT dO yOu tHiNK aBoUt DeAtH pEnAlTY
Honestly thats what I want to talk about. I'm just nervous to bring it up, and like u gotta have the right people
@@amelialalllalala3914 Honestly, if I was talking to someone, and they asked me my opinion on death penalty, I wouldnt be weirded out by it. Id answer them lol
Hahah omg thats funny
I’d look at you funny, but I have my thoughts, so I actually wouldn’t mind sharing.
One of the easiest ways to talk to people is to ask open ended questions.
whats a open ended question
Jeboris Pegasis a question that can't be answered by just yes or no they actually have to speak in sentences
@@nixks2093 mmm i see
@@nixks2093 the problem I coming up with them without awkwardness
Kids in high school don’t do that, they expect someone to say random shit.
Lots of people need to know this skills some are natural and some have to practice that person should do in person.
Also on a person tone too on how to talk to people.
Introducing yourself is first step. You say your name in the being you can ask how is the person is.
Ask for help or directions when you need it.
Options is good when asked.
Find different topics to talk about.
Movies, music, hobbies, books, nature, pets, animals, holidays, family,
Humor somethings that ment not to be insulting.
that not insulting.
It's good to ask questions sometimes as long as its positive.
News topic
Ask open questions good questions. Not yes or no because that can be boring questions if you go on dates.
Pay attention when the person talking and be a good listener
Compatmet others.
Referring of interest.
Share things are good, with confident self esteem, honest
Share storirs or event stories
Postive, open minded.
Express yourself with others.
Don't assume things.
Know when it's the right time to talk like if your a church, it's not good to talk.
If you didn't understand the question ask the person to repeat the questions.
Also express yourself or your emotions.
Be patient with the person.
Eye contact and facial are always good.
When people are introduced to different kids its easier depending on the area to.
When you spend so many years away from people and you not used to it you, kind of have to get reintroduced to it all over again.
Readapting to it.
You know like when people to new places it seem strange at first but once you get used to it, it doesn't seem that strange. Like when people have the first day of school its seem strange then it's not so strange.
Some can't develop social skills whatever hard he or she has Tried.
U8
Social anxiety squad where u at
Here 😞
This video ; ) saved my life I just changed my school and going to offline classes nearly after a year and this worked its lot easy if you introduce yourself ,help them or get help from them
I used to work at two different casinos, as an Casino Hostess/Ambassador. My job was to introduce myself to new clientele and promote the event of the day, as well as a tour guide. I remember people being naturally awkward at times😁
It's interesting how much people get stuck in their own heads around something as simple as conversation.
@@THENOWCO I like the way you think, excellent point!!!👏👏👏😎
Were these people old,young,women,men??
I like your rules
@@MsPrestige2009 i like your rules
Good info.. Thank you. I always have problems starting a conversation. The thing is, I never use to. Had tons of friends, hung out in large groups of ppl with no real problems starting conversations. But not that I'm older and the invent of social media I find it A LOT harder.
It’s because now that you’re older you’re in your head more. Before, as a youth, things used to be more spontaneous. Less of a filter.
“You probably don’t wanna try this at a funeral”
write that down, *write that down*
Too late
Lol just kidding
Great video, too many people are hesitant or afraid to ask for help. It's a great conversation starter I agree. Thanks for sharing
No wonder my duck mating call never worked
You tried a duck mating call?! Wow you sound like a very funny and knowledgable person. What did you think of this video?
@Lara XD Hi Lara, Of course I tried the video's techniques, because I'm sad and alone and have no friends. Pleased to make your acquaintance!
@@chrisbolland5634 damn thats deppresing
@@RobertTyree-i3n I know. Weirdly enough I have a girlfriend now. She's amazzzzzzzing.
@@chrisbolland5634 congrats(:
My self confidence dropped harder than James Charles subscribers
My self confidence dropped harder that heroshima
Girl in pharmacy: 😐
Me:Hi! You How are?...
My brain: ABORT MISSION, NOW!
I am not good at talking, as I never keep an eye on events. If I watched news, I wouldn't be able to remember much of it afterwards.Too much happening I don't think I would have a meaning anyway. Besides, I was bullied at school, so I am an introvert and keep much to myself.
I think it is funny to complain about things. I laugh, when people react to my negativity and realize that they can't make me change my mind.
I have already forgotten what was said in the video. XD
Lol
No cap, we share the same thing bro
Make sure your lips are moving and your mouth is open !
@@serene9532 then why "lmao"
@@serene9532 so you laughed because of it. Mission accomplished
@@coonjamalay can't argue with that, you win 🤣
Ok I will be a fish breathing
@@serene9532 Geez. Rude much? Now I know why you're watching this video
Be genuine in your approach to conversation. The sharing without wanting or needing something from another person .
Thank you! This helps so much! Sometimes I feel like I got chapters ripped out of my instructional book on everyday life. I'm usually the most awkward person on the planet, but hopefully this will help!
I am watching this just to see this from different perspective because I always start conversations with strangers and never run out of things to say. Aaand people usually like me. Social skills, nothing else. It's all about practise and knowledge :)
Omg this helped me thanks so much I'm gonna write it on my notebook plan A plan B and etc. thanks for the video
I have to talk on the phone with somebody today that I barely know, and this might sound lame but I'm really nervous. I'm so awkward when talking on the phone. But this video did give me some ideas, so thanks!
im an introvert need help
Tinderr
Another tip is don’t worry too much about people judging you. People are more involved in themselves than we give them credit for. You may think they’ll judge but most of the time, they won’t fully acknowledge you except if you interact with them.
Sensible humor... Me: "so uhhh dead babies hmm?"
This looks hard I think I’m just gonna keep being a social recluse
just try 1 tiny 'experiment' with someone that seems safe and friendly.. and when u feel comfortable, u can add another tiny step n build from there if u want to. but yeah, social recluses unite! we should encourage each other instead of being alone ... so many recluses out there. its a shame we dont unite. lol
Helpful tips Bro..thanks. Make video about self awarness and mindfulness
Hey thank you for this
Good advice and easy to understand.Thanks.
I think the tips are practical and useful. I am interested in applying and build more contacts. Thank you bro for the video.
Whenever I click on a video to learn something. I always feel that I learnt more from the comment section.
Me tooooooo
They are genuine and helpful tips thx for upload
Amazing
I need some advice. I am a very shy and quiet person. I'm lucky enough to have a couple close friends and a friend group to hang with at school. But there's this girl in my gym class who isn't so lucky. She always has to walk laps alone and she sits at lunch alone.
I want to help her, I just don't know how! Please help!
Emma - Try to start a simple conversation with her. Introduce yourself and maybe ask her to hang out with you at lunch with your other friends. Sorry if this didn’t help I’m not the best at helping people but i give it a try!
im glad there are some thoughtful people still in the lunchroom :) Thanks so much for caring!!! How about..."hey, i think ur in my gym class! 2nd period, with Mr. Gym teacher, right? whats your name? Do u want to come sit with me for lunch? (enthusiastic & friendly tone.... not the charity, I feel sorry for u tone). " when u get her attention, could ask if she could help u with a certain subject that might be more challenging for u. or comment on an incident in gym class or make fun of the teacher, etc etc. Update us if u have any luck!!
Yes. Christine's right. Don't use a sympathic tone. I myself walk alone and eat alone and always hated it when people asked me to sit with them at lunch. The reason being is cause they rubbed off as sympathic. They, I believe, are forcing themselves to talk to me all cause they feel bad, not cause they actually want to be my friend. So I always denied them. Not saying everyone is they same, but it's a could be that needs to be looked for.
It’s as easy as come sit and join us, as you are being generous
This was actually a great video
"It takes guts, to walk up and introduce yourself" - they speak the language of the extroverts!
I used this video to learn have to make people interact with me even less. Good tips.
"Keep humor appropriate. Probably don't want to try this at a funeral." Brought to mind one funeral (christian) where someone said the deceased would be roaring with laughter if she knew her funeral was on April fools day.
Lol So I have a goal to make a new friend / get to know someone every day. And I always bring this to make a conversation. I will try to point out their coolness first. I think this will create more of a positive vibe.
I want a little suggestion... That if someone is not interested in talking with me or don't want to talk with me than how can I make them talk with me or feel interested in talking with me?
Hello, I am old enough to be your friend.
these tips are amazing. thanks for sharing
I want to learn this!
Thank you so much I struggle to communicate with people
I really struggle a lot on how to talk with people and keeping it going and ending the conversation nicely..
Always unsatisfied with messy ending.... I really needed help.. This video helped but I need more. And also I need to practice more...I guess
Are there bookstores where you live ? You can meet new people there.
This was very informative and helpful. I'm going to show this to my students. :)
i wish you were my teacher :(
@@therival9396 Thanks.
@@aborne can you give me some advice?
@@therival9396 Certainly. What’s on your mind?
@@aborne idk how to keep up a conversation well. For example i one time tried with someone since she had the same language as mine so i tried talking to here and said what do you do for fun? Then shes like idk and also asked here other questions and keep saying idk then after few days we were walking back home because we have same route but we dont talk. She asks me whats your fav game i tell her and she tells me then i offer here to play with me IF she wants but shes like OH I CANT. I say why and shes like i have studies and stuff. I said ok . Thats the only time i actually tried with someone and didnt regret it at all i just dont understamd what i am doing wrong also i dont know how to brings things up for a conversation . I do what they ask me to do then thats it
Im ok with talking but when i try talking to my crush i can't even think of a word to say without sounding weird
This problem is centuries if not thousands of centuries old. Just be confident and be you don't try to rush it ( You can't hurry love you just have to wait, love don't come easy its a game of give and take ) Take your time to smell the roses enjoy the moment some things are non-verbal anyway. Imagine this my wife is Brazilian and I'm from the USA we communicate in the non verbal a lot. I don't have a lot of words in her language to fully express all that I want to say but we still understand each other.
When I want to talk to my crush I say "..."
All our life choices lead up to THIS moment, THIS video
Nice tips! I could see how some, if not all of these could be useful in environments where one is forced to interact with people :D
Awesome, great to see you here Jane :D
*What I did was approach random people and it was reeeeeally awkward because nobody freaking does it lol*
Thank you for the tips!
Winny out... _for now_ 😉
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I never would think of trying to watch a how to start a conversation in my life but it was coming someday
Petition for all of us here to be friends
its crazy how relatable every one here is
Thanks!
I’m trying to work towards self awareness and monitor how I react to various situations
When ever you find yourself leaning towards negativity in the way you communicate try to correct the behaviour you be more confident
You know you have anxiety when you search “how to talk to people”
Thank you!
Best way to start a convo is to compliment them x
Where in the World do you find Such Nice Topics for Videos ...
Great question!!👍😎
Quora?
I am a 60 year old man. I am now confident and happy enough to talk to random people out and about. I say what a nice day. What is your dogs name, ect. Some people will chit chat , some do not want to interact. I have noticed most women mention their husband or boyfriend within a sentence or two. I am not trying to pick up every women I talk to, but most women think that I am. That is sad. Can't opposite sexes and different ages of people communicate and have other relations besides sexual.
Well humanity..this is proof of our decline. We have to have videos literally instructing us on how to start talking to one another. We’re doomed.
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And here's another good way to talk to people: always have filter. If it's one thing I can't stand, it's people who speak tactlessly (even if unintentionally). That's why I never talk to them. I did myself a huge favor, telling my cousin I would never interact with her boyfriend when she told me he sometimes forgets his filter. Hopefully she'll break up with him so he can live life alone and friendless. People without filter deserve that.
well, did they break up?
@@AsocialMelon No. She says he's still a nice guy, that his lack of filter doesn't define him, let alone make him a bad person. I don't agree with that. I think a person without a filter is JUST a person without a filter. You can't be a good person if you say tactless, jocular things, even unintentionally.
Thxs now i know now how to tallk🤓🤓🤓 yay !!!!!! Its my bithday today
Tips for socially anxious people: try starting a conversation with the cashier and if anything goes wrong or it gets awkward you can just pay and go.
What is social anxiety ?
Nice!!
Waw !! it's too difficult to be sociable, I'm going to try though 🤷♂️
This video was good, this will really help me to even make more friends
This video does have technigues, this channel could also encourage people to practice socialising
it was realy help full . love from india
Outstanding
At least people here speak good English though..lol You guys have hope. I am extremely shy person with poor English speaking skill. I try really hard to join any conversations, but it takes too long to think what to say and how to say that words in English at the same time. They just move on to next topics. It is very hard to join in the conversation with the group of 2 or more people. They think I am rude and antisocial, but I was just waiting and struggling inside to catch the chance to say something :(
Good tips .
I'm watching this because i feel bad for the people who have to talk with me. Trying to learn even though it doesn't feel natural
I really like this language ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Am from Jiblyakabukjdj aka Saturn and this was vey helpfull. Thank you flesh blood bone being
Stranger: "Hi, how are you?"
Me: "Yes."
My introvert ass brought me here
If they made improving your conversation skills as part of the education system, I feel they should be mandatory for men but optional for women, why?
Because the burden of opening your mouth first generally always happens to fall on the guy shoulders, I say burden due to how one-sided it is.
I feel that the person who has to start the conversation or initiate the interaction, lead the interaction, needs more social skills training and conversation skills training than the person who responds to it.
That's my sarcastic mindset
nobodysperfect06 ok incel
abbey k how is he an incel?
I’m watching this before a date
My teacher sent this link for our Tle thing..
This is so funny
I feel men need this more than women do for obvious reasons
Is the background music from John Mayer’s “your body is a wonderland”?! Haha
Nice
I often go at different places with My dad and not often He encounters women who forgets they're belonging, My father always talk to them to give back what they've lost, In reply they stubbornly takes it.
And thats how I got my Social Anxiety
I feel like I've gotten over most of the anxiety I have when I speak to people, but now I draw a blank anytime someone tries to talk to me. I really don't know what to say or how to continue the conversation.
Same it’s just so hard
Good thoughts
the guide to manipulation and you givee the keys to us alll
what if you are just ugly and no matter how you approach people, they think you are creepy?
Feainnewedd you have the power to change that with how you dress and speak. Keep watching videos on TH-cam.
No matter how you look like we re all similar , so try to overcome it with your good conversation and your open ended questions . It would be really useful trust me ..
Is this what my life has come to?
I watch videos advising on how to make a conversation with a species I am a part of. I guess everyone who can initiate and maintain went through this journey. Ironically, language was developed to privide a communicative medium for humans but little did I know that in this world the language that I hoped would bring me closer to communication is dragging me backwards. Nonetheless, should conversations be one-sided as this video implies or should both parties exchange ideas to maintain the conversation?