I Moved to Seattle For A High-Paying Tech Job. It Turned Out To Be The Loneliest Time of My Life.

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ธ.ค. 2024

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  • @StephenSamuelsen
    @StephenSamuelsen 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Great video! The transition from college to a full time software engineering job was extremely challenging. Being surrounded by friends at college and all working in the lab together on programming, then moving on into the workplace to find out that everyone is older than me and doesn't really care about what I was learning about anymore was an extremely hard reality to accept. This was also during the pandemic which made it all the more challenging.

  • @atharvabhat964
    @atharvabhat964 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey, thanks for sharing this story, glad I stumbled on your channel! I have a couple of questions for you though.
    When reflecting on your dates, how come you didn’t try to work on diversifying your personality outside of work? I think the reactions you got from your dates is an indicator that you need to other things going on in your life outside of your job that will make you a more datable person lol.
    As someone who has lived in Seattle for four years, also in tech, I’ve worked hard at exploring myself through different hobbies and activities, and that’s definitely helped me connect with other people way better and just help me become a more well rounded person.
    Likewise, with making friends. Did you try to go to any meet ups in Seattle to make friends? If all you do is work remotely and stay at home, you won’t make friends.

  • @kevinsjournal
    @kevinsjournal 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I relate in my younger days, but was able to thankfully get out of that loneliness. Also in NYC, lost a lot of friends in my early 20s and ended up in a lonely profession, have many videos on my channel about that. Got me to career change, join social clubs and hobbies, and go out more. Social clubs and hobbies my biggest tip for building an active social life!

  • @ecor150
    @ecor150 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It's because there's a loneliness epidemic. It's not just being a techie, it's all ppl in all kinds of jobs. Look it up. As a non techie, here's a tip: stop talking about tech stuff when socializing outside of work. Date outside of tech pool (as it seems like all yall have social skill problems) and don't talk about nerdy stuff when talking to non tech people, you're definitely not gonna be relatable if you do.

  • @The_Apple_Fritter
    @The_Apple_Fritter 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I find your authenticity refreshing. And I find myself very interested in what you have to say as your life is very different from mine. How did you come to publish this story online? And is this TH-cam channel something you are doing to connect with people? Or perhaps build something apart from “just being a software engineer”?
    Good stuff. I look forward to more.

  • @KoayChan
    @KoayChan 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Adult life in urban centers is generally lonely compared to college or school.

    • @David-bz1ou
      @David-bz1ou 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Very much so.

  • @chuckm8742
    @chuckm8742 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I loved this video. Also you when you were 20.....WOOOOOFFF

    • @realalexnguyen
      @realalexnguyen  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ty ty. Haven't aged a day

  • @timhuang148
    @timhuang148 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi, I see that you started applying to jobs after you graduated. I am a new grad too and I didn't get any offers my senior year of college. Currently applying to places. I was going to ask, when you applied Amazon after college, did you apply under new grad or entry level? (Just wondering for which one I am supposed to apply to for people in my situation)

    • @realalexnguyen
      @realalexnguyen  3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Timothy!
      My best advice is to apply to both. The applications should go through two different pipelines so don't worry about it hurting your chances!

    • @timhuang148
      @timhuang148 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@realalexnguyen Ah I see. What if both pipilines respond to you, are you going to have two interviews? LOL.
      Also, if you remembered, do you remember which one you applied for Amazon?

  • @Github_tech_with_ty
    @Github_tech_with_ty 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This seems like a personal social issue .. you got no game bro?

  • @FatherPhi
    @FatherPhi 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    lol I just made a video about the exact opposite experience of somehow who is 30 something 😂 do you still live in Seattle?

  • @Ricocase
    @Ricocase 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Lol @ dating in Google office.

  • @iseeflowers
    @iseeflowers 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Yah, Felt the same but not a high paying job.

  • @geoffl
    @geoffl 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    i had the exact same experience lol

  • @VanjeAv
    @VanjeAv 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You took a girl at a date in the google dining room? Ouh come on...

  • @David-bz1ou
    @David-bz1ou 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They definitely do look at you at you like you are a baby, just because you are the new person. you never get to meet people.

  • @translatingIdeasIntoCoding
    @translatingIdeasIntoCoding 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You could just switch to Google NYC office.