Based on the tone of the father, I think it was that he felt bad that they had the sister over and not him. He didn't want to hide the information to make it sound like they were favoring one child.
even though dad didn't say 'I love you' back, he still kept Shun in the line for 20min. That's how much he just wanted to chat. Loving dad right there.
@@Elyseon It is here (in the states) too. I'm always shocked when I see siblings acting like best friends. Don't get me wrong - we love our siblings and would do anything for them, protect them from everything - but we would never tell them. I once told my brother I loved him when we were drinking and he asked me if I was hitting on him lol
Both his parents mentioned that his sister came to visit for New Year's. I kinda feel like they miss him, want him to sometimes spend time with them too on New Year's but they know he has always been away with his friends and they couldn't stop him.
This is real. As Fathers, sometimes we are kinda busy all the time. Speaking for so long with somebody means you really want to share with that person. I personally hate long phone calls, but I try to make them once in a while with my son.
@@bioman2007 I haven't talked to my dad in almost a couple of years because of his alcoholism, there's a lot of dysfunction in my family... So please, continue to cherish that connection you have with your son, and keep calling. You're doing great.
They remain the only people you can hit and say awful things too without being called abusive in the west too. It's why " sibling abuse " just isn't " a thing "
She was I guess. Every Mom loves her children to death, that's in the nature of human moms. And you can completely (positively) surprise them when saying "I appreciate that you always cared for me, I love you!" 👍
@@SpaceXfG Not necessarily true. That's what I'd like to believe, and yes, most likely compared to other animals, mothers show more love and appreciation for their children. Though, there are a lot of uncaring, bad, and irresponsible mothers out there who don't truly care for their children. I wish what you said was always the case...
It shows she loves him. My younger brother is like that with me on the phone and I know the love is there. He always picks up the phone and says: what? Or What do you want? Lol
Lol that’s how I answer the phone when my little bro calls me. Or “what do you want?” Because he usually wants me to drive him somewhere since he’s not old enough yet 😂
I always pick up the phone with "No." when my sister calls. Sometimes I even start with "No." when I call her, because my sense of humour is devolving.
Osechi is overated, now if it is Waguy all you can eat bbq with lobster and shrimps and pork and... and... ok you get the gist of it XD. Oh and Ramen XD.
I'm 32 and I still say "I love you" to my brother and father almost every day. We went through some hard times losing our mother, which made us very close. You never know when you won't have the chance to say it ever again, so I say it often.
A worthy comment. I've lost mother, father, and one of two sisters and berate myself daily for never expressing love to them. There won't be any more opportunities. Those regrets (plus a few others) led me to write this song th-cam.com/video/IajduNI5Z9s/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=WilliamCox
I lost my father when I was 16, along with that entire side of the family. It didn't make my family any closer, it just added to the problems that were already there. But hey! I'm glad it worked out for you guys!
I only call one person on a regular basis, and that's my grandmother... even though I live with her.🤣 * * * * Tangent warning * * * * Previously, I had a car, so the calls were mostly just me making sure she was alright, & that she knew where I was, & if she needed anything, I could pick it up for her. I rarely talk to my mom because doing so, is really stressful. There's nothing I can do for her, bit she really needs help... sadly, it's not the kind of help I have the financial capacity to handle. All in all though... I never really call anyone...they usually end up calling me, because I usually know what my grandmother is doing.😂 I never ask for help either because they've been so grudging about doing anything for me previously when I was a kid even. So, only my grandmother actually has any ideas about what I go through, because she's the only one who has been there for me my whole life, without any complaints...except when I actually am being unreasonable.🤣 So, I don't even fall into the category of "I must be doing alright if I don't call" I actually was doing really badly up until I moved back in with my grandmother after my grandfather died. I basically sacrificed my mental health to complete my B.A. before I started to hate school again. As it was, I actually intentionally failed a class to pass the others... because that class wasn't necessary for my degree, but I needed a class of that many credits to afford to stay in college. That's the real irony of the college debt system. You sometimes have to take on extra debt to actually complete your degree, because if you fall below a certain enrollment criteria, the amount of assistance drops below what can actually sustain you. So, you take a class that meets the criteria, but passing or failing it has no impact on your gaining the degree because it's literally just to meet a credit enrollment minimum, & your GPA is good enough that failing it won't matter, and you've literally spent the majority of your mental health & wellbeing just getting that far, so all you really care about is getting the grades necessary to gain the required credits from the unexpected last courses that you thought had been cleared already, but apparently you took so long that they decided that the previous course no longer covered all of the criteria...and you get the idea of what my last semester was like. I barely was able to get through it...and then those jobs that I took afterwards did nothing to help me recover. Ended up on Disability Finally...things were that Bad. I'm still not at a point where I am comfortable being exposed to that world, & I probably still wouldn't be able to function in most work environments due to having such a low stress tolerance & that on top of my learning quirk, pretty much eliminates most employers as viable employment options. Someone who has a low stress tolerance and learns abnormally fast, & has to be continually learning new things in order to keep their stress in check isn't a task most employers can even imagine. Really, the easiest way for me to manage my stress is to keep learning new things, and not spending too much time on any particular thing, I fall into the black hole of details far too readily and will find ever smaller and increasingly irrelevant details if I spend too much time on something...which is how I end up writing things like this.🤦🏼♂️
This is an slang in our culture. Like "What is he doing?" and another one answers "Huh he is fine cuz he didn't call us. If he needs us, he call us." It's... a little sad...
@@BJCMXY I have a problem with the tangent thing too *sigh* * * * 1. Interesting, that's so different from my family. I'm more likely to call my mom than my grandma when I don't need something. Its a bit more complicated, but basically, mom has all the love but only a little bit of money and grandma has all the money and only a little bit of the love. On my mom's side, at least. On my dad's side, my pickle-making cookie-baking grandma has all the love but just a little bit of money. 2. I'm about to go to college and I worry about my mental health as well as accumulating debt. I have a low stress tolerance (although I'm grateful because it seems higher than what you describe) AND I learn slow...not a great combo either. I need $4,000 by this September to appear out of thin air so I can take a psychoeducational test to "renew" my learning disorder because apparently, that is a thing. If I don't take the psych test, I lose the extra time on tests that I desperately need. So...the money problems are already starting lol. 3. I wouldn't give up just yet, there are so many jobs out there! The fact that you need to constantly be learning sounds like an asset to any science field. the first thing I think of would be any science discipline since you need to constantly learn new things and solve problems. Or perhaps you could learn like 10 languages and work somewhere that needs a multilingual person. You would always have to be learning on the job. Of course, that may be stressful. And it may not be possible to get into science without accumulating more debt. Not any flawless ideas here, but there are a gazillion jobs. Not saying it's easy either, sounds like a real pickle (as my grandma would say, and then hand you a pickle), but there has to be something out there, hopefully. Good luck :)
As a Nikkeijin (born in America to Japanese parents), I got sweaty palms watching this video. My parents never ever said it to me growing up, and it was tough growing up in America and hearing all of my friends' parents say it to them. I recently lived in Japan for two years, and I understand now how it's different in Japanese culture. Shun, I would love it if you interviewed your parents in a new video and asked them how they felt.
@@lainiwakura1776 LOL no but they did bring dried ika a few times. :D I know my folks love me and all, but it was hard not to hear it in elementary school. A thought for Asian immigrant parents: let your kids hear it so they don't feel left out especially when they're young.
@@gtada no offense but ew. I couldn’t eat that. Even if it tastes good I wouldn’t be able to eat it because I know what it is and I’m not a picky eater. I generally stay away from seafood (it creeps me out too much). I like fish but anything else is a no go. Lol
His Mother's reaction is so relatable. A mother's love is so powerful and genuine no matter the culture. His sister made me laugh though. She knew he was up to something. I hope he spends New Years with them. They appeared to care that he was not there.
do tipo que quando vai dizer boa noite também diz "amo vocês" também né? kkkk, ou quando tu finaliza uma ligação ou se despede no wpp. aqui em casa é tão comum que virou até rotina, dizer "eu te amo" é muito bom!!
It's clear that your parents love you. Your sister loves you too, but she won't say it until you are both older. The experience of living teaches you what most matters. Great video man.
I wonder if she also didn't say it because she was in public shopping. If the term is that out of the blue, and knowing how even PDA isn't much of a thing, it would've likely made her feel extremely embarrassed if she returned it. I feel like he should say it again when he knows she's at home or in a private setting, just to see.
@@metaempiricist it has a romantic connotation to it, plus he says it’s outdated and cheesy. He also says it in the video. The “closest” thing to “I love you” is Daisuke.
@@megaavonaco9954 it's daisuki the one with a romantic connotation (could be translated to "I like you A LOT") so yeahhh but aishiteru is too strong and Japanese people are super shy with affection and that stuff so that's why it's very rare to say that one
I kind of thought the sister worried this was some kind of siscon thing. Considering its prevalence in anime recently, it's a possibility. Maybe he should've stuck with "aishiteru" with her.
@@LeeorVardi I know the literal meaning of 気持ち悪い means "bad feeling" but yes it can mean "gross". I'm no expert in japanese so it probably means what you said too, could mean both. But the japanese people i've spoken to usually say it in a "gross" kinda way
the phone call with his mom was so wholesome! she was definitely caught off guard but I feel like her voice lit up when he said "thank you for taking care of me" and she seemed excited to say "i love you" back :')
My American son lives in Japan and is married to a Japanese woman. He has lived there for 12 years (he spoke fluent Japanese before he moved there.) Their children were born in Japan and really do not speak English, yet (they are 8 years old and 4 years old.) One thing they do say in English, however, is "I love you." My son said there is no really good translation for it in Japanese, so their whole family says I love you in English (and they say it to us, of course, when we speak with them.) My son tells his sons he loves them all the time (in English!) I never really understood that, but your video helped me understand a little better. Thank you.
I can really relate to your story from a reverse point of view.. My husband and I are both Asian, but we speak English daily and mostly since our kids went to International School and sort of adopted English as their first language early on in their life.. Our parents, however, speak zero English and only ever use our native language with my kids (which they understand but use very awkwardly).. In my house, we say “I love you” all the time; in the morning, before bed, on the phone; and we understand the meaning as it meant to be in English language.. When my kids first wanted to say the words to their grandparents, they went to me and asked how do we say it in our native language, and that was when I realized that the word “I love you” have a very cringe-y meaning when translated literally into our own language and wouldn’t be something we say normally to parents in a casual conversation (non-casual conversation might as well be a deathbed kind of thing).. And so we resolved in teaching our parents to say it in English instead :)
Since both of you understand the concept of mixed families how can I get my family to understand. I am American and have always been attracted to Asians. My first boyfriend was Asian American mix. But with my mom she has mixed feelings because of my grandfather married a Vietnam woman while still married to my grandmother. I have a whole Asian side of family I have never met because of this. It makes me sad. I don't fault my grandfather because he loved both women enough to want to be with both. But it has caused anger in his own family. While my dad just wants me to be with another white person. I don't know how to talk to my parents about this. I want to marry an Asian and have a family but not to the extent that they are disrespected. I also do not want to have to chose my past or my future. But if I have to I can only chose my future. I have to continue to live and I want to atleast be happy. Can you please give me advice 🙏
@@shawniestorer2935 I think having such a strong racial preference means you're in it for the wrong reasons. Otherwise there's nothing you can do but tell your family more or less exactly what you typed here. Communication in the foundation of all personal relationships.
Damn, the way his parents were passive aggressively telling how he didn't visit for New Years had me feeling hella awkward. But what really took the cake was his Dad just saying Thank You. Plus the way his Sister just said Ewww, that was also good. But in all seriousness, they do love and care about you Shun! For some it is just difficult for them to express that feeling! But hey, you did it and it made you feel good!
Wow. This was super brave. When I was doing my post-doc in Japan, I was out with a bunch of guys from work and explained my approach to a happy marriage as "You're right, I'm sorry, I love you." This was greeted by dead silence with everyone staring fixedly at their plates. When I saw that ears were actually turning red, I asked what the problem was, and they gritted out "we don't say that!" So getting a "thank you" from your dad was huge for him, I'm sure!
This made me smile. I’m a mother of an 18 year old son. When he tells me he loves me, which isn’t often at all, it melts my heart. I’m sure your mother will cherish that you told her that. Such a lovely family you have. :) I also love the bond you and your sister have. That kind of bantering means you and your siblings love each other dearly!
In Italy we have two ways to say "I love you". There is " Ti amo" which is the romantic one and it's used just for (supposly) serious romantic relationships. And then there's "Ti voglio bene", literally " I want you well", which means you care and love someone, but not necessary in a romantic way. I would never say "ti amo" to my mother, I would say "ti voglio bene", as I do with my friends and with my pets XD
Te amo is the Spanish equivalent. I also feel like it's kind of heavy, meant for serious relationships, although some people are much more casual with it. But we also have Te quiero (literally "I want you") which can be used interchangeably for both romantic and platonic relationships. It's definitely lighter but still affectionate. That's what I use with family.
In Portuguese we can say Te amo, for both situations. We say Te amo for parents and boyfriends... Kayra mentioned about "Te quiero" in spanish, what in portuguese is "te quero", but for us that one is for romantic situation only, something more like "when you want some one or desire that person". But te amo in PT can be used for both. I tell it to my dad always and he says back. Also, my dad speaks italian, so next call I will try to say ti voglio bene, and see what he says back haha ;)
Same here in Mexico, we say "Te amo" (literally I love you) for romantic situations and "Te quiero" which in english they normaly translate it as "I love you" too but the conotation is more for general appreciation to your friends and family members but ALSO you can use it interchangeably to say you love you fiance.
Same in german. "I love you" is "ich liebe dich" but more in a romantic way. "Ich habe dich lieb" or just "hab dich lieb" is more common in family. But idk imagine saying this to my mum still makes me cringe. Maybe just a personal thing 🤷🏻♀️
Its really interesting that your mum responded with 'I love you' in English. I think that really reflects how the concept of saying 'I love you' to parents is quite a western phenomenon, at least as far as I know. I do notice that Chinese parents in Shanghai, where I lived and worked for 6 years, do say it to their kids nowadays, and it's kinda encouraged. Outside big cities, I'm not sure but probably not.
In Eastern Europe, where I come from (living in US now) we don't really say "I love you" to our parents or relatives either. When it's said in my native language, it definitely carries only a romantic connotation as he explained in the video. Only recently have I said "I love you" to my parents, and they said it back in English lol! So I found this very interesting...
Yes. I’m Hispanic and we don’t really say it to our parents in Spanish either. It’s only a tv thing. I started saying it to my mom when I was small though (like the kids on tv would) and my mom would always respond with “I love you too” in English (even though she couldn’t speak English). I really can’t say it to my dad though. He would look at me like a freak if I did, so I always just tell him “take a lot of care” when I want to tell him “I love you.” My siblings have also said “gross” to me when I’ve told them I love them, lol. I related to this video a lot. Weird how this “I love you” thing amongst family is such a western thing and we don’t even realize it.
Maybe because "love" in English is just catch all for like 5 different kinds of love. I love my friends in a different way than I love playing videogames which is a different way than I'd love someone I was dating.
@@reigee2869 what about "te caro"(probably horribly spelled ) ? From the little Spanish i know it means i care for you, is it not something you say to your perants ?
As a German I can understand the struggle. Here most families won't say "ich liebe dich" aka I love you, but instead "ich habe dich lieb" which means something like "I hold you dear/I'm fond of you/I have feelings for you but I am too ashamed to use the word love"
Generally "ich liebe dich" is a strong sentence, I cannot remember a single time that I used it. But I know some friends that use it so often that they complain the meaning of it is reduced
Also "Ich liebe dich" just doesn't go well with any kind of dialect. For example I usually talk in a swabian-bavarian dialect and "I lieb di" just sounds ridiculous while "I hab di lieb" sounds normal. So even with my boyfriend I'll use the second version
Not japanese but I'm foreign-raised Indonesian. It seems that the whole situation of parents not saying i love you to their kids is consistent among many if not all asian cultures. I noticed that whenever my parents say "I love you" its always in English, never in Indo. It just feels _strange_ to say it in indo. Strange how that is.
I have a feeling that your mom has a great sense of humor and is a very positive person XD Even her jabs at you not visiting her didn't sound like a guilt-trip thing but more just to poke fun at you. I rarely say "i love you" to my parents, but I sometimes would randomly hug them (we're one big happy family living in a big house) whilst imagining of the possible impending death that they will have. Wow. Morbid.
Nothing morbid about it, we never know when we may lose our loved ones. My brother and dad passed away very unexpectedly, so I totally undestand that feeling
Sometimes I feel like crying just by imagining that my mom will die someday, which is ironic because I am always doing college work instead of spending time with her. We say I love you everyday, though, and hug each other a lot.
I was raised that everything you visit your family or talk on the phone, you tell them I love you before leaving/ending the call because tomorrow is never promised. People can die so suddenly that we don't want regrets in not letting them know how much we cared for them. Like when visiting we always give hugs as well. Like to not give my mom and my little siblings that still live at home a hug (even though I am 26) and telling them that I love them before I leave sounds so weird to me. To be fair we Americans are a lot more open and touchy-feely it seems.. never realized it though.
I'm Canadian and I remember growing up, If I didn't hug, kiss on the cheek, and say I love you to every family member in the room (even if there were 20+ people), I would get lectured by both my parents most of the ride home XD Now I'm watching my little cousins be trained to do the same and it's really interesting to reflect on cultural differences...
I’m an American raised Mexican and this has always made sense to me. Like, it’s your family, you’re supposed to shower them with “I love you” and hugs. But I’m the only person in my family that thinks like this, so even though I always tell my family members I love them and reach for hugs, they always tell me to f**k off, lol.
I don't live my parents or siblings so saying I love you and giving them a hug before I go is important. You never know when it will be the last time, you know? I too got lectured growing up if I didn't give everyone hugs before leaving.. so I just see it as normal
For me it is absolutely heartwarming to hear this reactions. Especially the call with your mum. First beeing mad but thinking "nice to hear you" and then twisting the call to true love
As a Filipina ,I also never said nor heard the word I love you from my parents or friends .But I never felt loveless ,why is that? Because actions speaks louder than words 😊 Though it's nice to express it in words once in a while❤️
Actually teared up a little bit, the way your father spoke to you (if the subtitles are accurate) was so moving, you could hear that he cares about you and misses you. It's hard for men in general to express feelings so the fact that he said thank you was atleast acknowledgement.
For catching them off guard: typical mother reaction, typical sister reaction, and typical father reaction. I don't know what I was expecting either, but it seemed positive all around.
I love this! I can't stop to imagine that shuns family is talking about this call like: did you guys receive a call from. shun-chan? What was all about it? Love the content! And a lot of love this year Shun ✌️🏻
The mom was super jazzed…so cute. 🥰And no matter what words were spoken or unspken it is plainly obvious there is so much love from everyone in that family.
I was raised in Germany so I understand. When we moved back to the States...our village folks each came to tell us they "loved" us. I cried for days! That was 50 years ago...I still miss my village!
I feel the phase "I love you" shows a strong presence of "I", which really exposes deep personal feelings and makes a conversation heavy. I don't want my parents and friends to think about how much I love them, instead, I just want them to feel accompanied and treasured. That might be the reason we don't say "I love you" that often in some countries. I'm from China.
The more and more you spoke with your mother, I understood why you were nervous 😂 They seem to be craving your attention man, good thing you called them.
Well, changing times. I grew up in South Carolina, USA. I’m 71 now. After I was about 6 years old I my dad never hugged me or said, “I love you.” When a toddler, absolutely, but not after that. In that time, the cultural norm, at least where I grew up, dictated that men don’t hug men. And for a dad to say, “I love you.” to a teen or older son, was creepy because our culture implied it might be interpreted romantically. The first time I can remember him hugging me was when he was 75. It was about a year later I heard the words, “I love you.” I never doubted that he loved me. Showed it in so many ways. But, by the time I had kids things were changing. And that was (is) a very good thing. My dad died when he was 95 and after the first hug we never again had any hindrances to expressing our love for one another. Maybe Japan will see a similar evolution.
I’m a South Carolinian as well currently in my 30s and that culture somewhat still exists. We were taught in our childhood that men didn’t show emotion and stuff like that.
Hi Henry, thanks for sharing your story. I'm from NY/NJ, but had a chance to live in Japan for about a year and a half. When I returned to the US two years ago, the first place I lived was Charleston. My brothers and I moved there together. It was interesting seeing similarities between SC and Japanese culture in politeness, norms about expressing personal emotion and opinions, even though everything else (lifestyle, physical environment, food, expectations about personal space) couldn't be more different. As a side note, it was easy to tell apart the in-state folks, who were always friendly and polite to strangers, from the many out-of-state folks, who had more of an indifferent "minding my own business" attitude to strangers.
I think it’s funny how a Japanese person going to the US “realize” how they are more “affectionate” in some ways, and “warm” and stuff... ...While people in Latin America are wondering “Damn... why people in the US are so COLD?” Lol (I loved the video, btw! I love seeing these different perspectives between cultures ☺️💕)
DUDE YEAH I'm a rather serious person, I'm not much affectionate myself, so as a Mexican, I've been struggling my whole life with the amount of displays of affection my mom, my grandmothers, some of my aunts, and even my little brother, they're so cheesy for me, I just can't (though I'm grateful)
@@BeyondBaito not only South America, Latin countries in general tend to have 'warmer' displays of affection (Spain, Italy too). It depends on each person though
I could hear the genuine love and concern in all 3 conversations. This is a very close family that loves their son/brother. The actual phrase of I love you wasn't said in every phone call but it was shown in all 3 calls. 💕
I laughed so hard till I teared up, Shun-chan! Thanks for plucking up the courage to create this inspiring video. As a Chinese, I too don't find it easy to say ILU to my parents and siblings. 😂
"Your sister spent new year with us" "We expect you to come too" Maybe whenever you feel you can go home to celebrate something with your family. Do it :3
It was perfect. Perfectly imperfect! It is normal to feel nervous saying how much other people mean to us. Even in America, where we "gush" with feelings at each other, we also feel uncomfortable when saying something more deeply than we normally say it day to day. Even though your Dad and Sister didn't say it back, im sure it made them feel very good. Also, it was awesome that you told your parents thank you for taking care of you, that means a lot to all parents. It is hard to tell people they mean a lot to us, but it is so important! My older sister died when i was about your age, and I wish I had told her how much she meant to me. Your courage and strength is admirable, and your family is lucky to have you.
I'm a Nisei in the U.S. (my parents are from Japan), so we don't naturally say, "I love you," either. My hands were actually sweating for you as called your family to tell them you loved them. You did a great job telling your family that you loved them, very natural, not forced at all. Nowadays, I say the words, "I love you" to my parents, especially because of shelter-in-place, but it's still a bit awkward. My father is hard of hearing, so I usually have to repeat myself, which makes it worse. Next challenge for you is to hug your parents, maybe when this pandemic is over.
Honestly (and i say this with experience), it is something that should be done more often (saying i love you to the people who are dear to you). You never know when a loved one will unfortunately pass away. I understand that it might be culturally weird in Japan, but i feel like expressing your feelings toward people who were there for you your entire life is something important. Also, happy new year everyone
with all my respect, how sad to be Japanese..cause that is the biggest love there is in our culture and we say 'I love you" many, many times during a day to our kids and our parents. (verbally and with actions) I guess if you don't have you wont miss it? Brave of you!!! I think you sounded a bit shy and not that confident wile saying it but fully understandable based on the reactions. But it was honest from you and it is admirable you have the courage to do so. I think you are a great young men and you should be proud!
I’m glad you said it to your family. It’s obvious that you are very close to your family. The fact that you are able to “talk story” (as we say in Hawaii), shows that there is much love among you folks. Great video. Thank you
"Daisuki da yo onee chan" "Kimochi warui!" This the most 'anime'ish scene I've ever seen a Japanese do Ps: Sorry if I romanized the Japanese words wrong!🤣
"Aku onee-chan..." "Eroge ja nai, baka aniki!" "Kisama..." *teleport through the phone or some anime shit* "ATATATATATATATA!" "ORAORAORAORAORAORA!" (Probably mom) "BAKA YAROH!"
Awww... I'm not surprised about your mom's reaction. Most mom's would react in a loving way ❤. Your sister's reaction 😄 🤣🤣🤣 Your dad's reaction is a typical guy's reaction. I bet he loved hearing it. So, I say, say I love you or any endearment when you feel the need. At some point in time, you won't be able to say it to them.
I have also never said it to my family (I think it's uncommon here in Sweden) so I got the full cringe experience watching this. You deserve a like for this one lol.
I have a friend who is Japanese, but was raised here in California. Her mom always send her little gifts (she lives in a different city). During holidays, I asked him if he is gonna visit them for Christmas or NYe. He said “no”, I dont have a close relationship with them. And it broke my heart a bit, bc even if your mom dont tell you “I love you”, the fact she send you stuff, is a way to tell you that. Your mom adores you, even though she doesnt say it. Im latina, so I grew up full of kisses and I love you and “why are you leaving?!”
It’s so different. I tell my children I love them every day. I told my parents I loved them every time we spoke more or less. What in the Japanese culture makes these expressions of emotion rare? Thanks for the lovely video.
I love how they were both like “Your SISTER came to visit us.”
This is Canadian level passive aggressiveness. XD
Edit: [You have the] best comment right here. I’m in Seattle but I get it 😂😂😂
Based on the tone of the father, I think it was that he felt bad that they had the sister over and not him. He didn't want to hide the information to make it sound like they were favoring one child.
lmao
YES!
@@protomor lol. The father is just expecting to celebrate the new yr that they are complete.
even though dad didn't say 'I love you' back, he still kept Shun in the line for 20min. That's how much he just wanted to chat. Loving dad right there.
That's his way of saying 'I love you.'
the realest right here
Yep : )
Indeed
"Hi mom"
Mom: COMMENCE GUILT TRIP
I can relate to this and I hate it
It seems to happen in every culture, lol.
So the guilt trip from mom isn't just an American thing. Didn't really think it was but good to have it confirmed
@glorykk10 r *locks self in closet to hide from chancla! chancla still gets me!*
@glorykk10 r YES!
Shun: "I'm pretty sure they don't really care"
Parents: "You know your SISTER spent New Year's even with us?"
It sounds like they do lol 😂
"as you are here it was expected from you to come"
Yea they definitely care.
I like how they gave him shit for it.
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Mom: I love you too
Sister: Gross
Dad: Thank you
the passive-aggressive “well your sister came to visit” lmao
...followed by the active-aggressive “[you’re] such a heartless loser, wtf are [you] doing” 😂
@@LeonSKennedy7777 IKR?? Moms are the same across the world in some ways
It's like trash talking one's kids and siblings is tradition over there.
Both parents try to make him feel guilty about not visiting them for new year's 😁
@@Elyseon It is here (in the states) too. I'm always shocked when I see siblings acting like best friends. Don't get me wrong - we love our siblings and would do anything for them, protect them from everything - but we would never tell them. I once told my brother I loved him when we were drinking and he asked me if I was hitting on him lol
Shun calls parents: *gets scolded by his mom immediately*
Universal reaction.
That's all Moms🤣😅😂 for you! Lol
I felt like I was getting scolded too haha
That's moms for you and I'll take it as "we miss you". makes me feel a little bit close home kinda sorts
Both his parents mentioned that his sister came to visit for New Year's. I kinda feel like they miss him, want him to sometimes spend time with them too on New Year's but they know he has always been away with his friends and they couldn't stop him.
To be fair that long talk he had with his son is just his way of saying "I love you" to him.
This is real. As Fathers, sometimes we are kinda busy all the time. Speaking for so long with somebody means you really want to share with that person. I personally hate long phone calls, but I try to make them once in a while with my son.
Yes, and even apart from the talk you can just feel Dad loves him indeed.
@@bioman2007 I haven't talked to my dad in almost a couple of years because of his alcoholism, there's a lot of dysfunction in my family... So please, continue to cherish that connection you have with your son, and keep calling. You're doing great.
@@Macabresque Thanks a lot!
I agree.
I love how universal that weird playfully antagonistic sibling dynamic seems to be.
It can be found everywhere, but not all siblings share it.
yup
They remain the only people you can hit and say awful things too without being called abusive in the west too. It's why " sibling abuse " just isn't " a thing "
The so, ja ne was the best part.
You’re mom saying “I love you me too” was the cutest thing I’ve ever heard!🥺🥺
Dad gets home, looks at mom: "Shun... was weird today... is he... sick... Is he dying?"
Lol..🤣😂🤣
I can’t breathe 🤣🤣
Did I detect his mom's tone getting a little emotional? I really think she was caught a little off guard, but genuinely appreciative.
It sounds she did
She was I guess. Every Mom loves her children to death, that's in the nature of human moms. And you can completely (positively) surprise them when saying "I appreciate that you always cared for me, I love you!" 👍
Nah, Japanese people have no emotion and have no sympathy.
@@lifelongvirgin5794 Why, thank you.
@@SpaceXfG Not necessarily true. That's what I'd like to believe, and yes, most likely compared to other animals, mothers show more love and appreciation for their children. Though, there are a lot of uncaring, bad, and irresponsible mothers out there who don't truly care for their children. I wish what you said was always the case...
I love how the sister just says "what?" just as she picks up the call
It shows she loves him. My younger brother is like that with me on the phone and I know the love is there. He always picks up the phone and says: what? Or What do you want? Lol
This was my favourite part. With such tone too.....stereotypical older sis
Lol that’s how I answer the phone when my little bro calls me. Or “what do you want?” Because he usually wants me to drive him somewhere since he’s not old enough yet 😂
I always pick up the phone with "No." when my sister calls. Sometimes I even start with "No." when I call her, because my sense of humour is devolving.
Older Sis always gonna wanna wring lil' bro's neck,
Rite.
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Ok, but your dad talked to you for 20 minutes on the phone! That’s love. He really wanted to connect with you and talk about life. Very sweet.
yeaaa that was his way to express love
My Japanese father in law cries when I leave. He doesn’t have to say he loves me, his tears say everything. I miss him dearly.
Most people's fathers-in-law cry when they show up. 😂
Shun: [says he doesn’t understand sarcasm ]
Also shun: what a great sister I have!
We are slowly converting him hehehe...
Well shit, his mom is very sarcastic. "What a heartless loser." 😂 she ROASTED him.
@@joseph6852 The subtitles were inaccurate. There was no 'heartless loser' in there. It was more like, 'typical for him', in rough Osaka dialect.
They 100% care, celebrate with your family man! Think of all that osechi!
Osechi is overated, now if it is Waguy all you can eat bbq with lobster and shrimps and pork and... and... ok you get the gist of it XD. Oh and Ramen XD.
They care
Awee I felt like your dad was awkwardly cute, trying to be like "oh yeah okay" but you can tell by the way he laughed that he was happy to hear it :D
@Hen 😏
@Hen you good. I’m not gonna say simp or whatever. Cause she’s actually cute.good luck man
@Hen wtf was this comment chain
@@diddlypoop 💀idk
@Hen hahaha oh boy, well thanks :D I only just noticed this today lol xD
"Gross. Bye" Sisterly love.
気持ち悪い kimochi warui can also be translated as "creepy" as Shun-chan indicated it's usually reserved to express romantic feelings.
Shun be like, "I'ma troll my family and make them super uncomfortable!"
And then they all uno reverse cards up their sleeves.
I'm 32 and I still say "I love you" to my brother and father almost every day.
We went through some hard times losing our mother, which made us very close.
You never know when you won't have the chance to say it ever again, so I say it often.
Same here bro, couldn't have said it better
Same. I lost my mom when I was 27 years old and she was 47 years old so you really never know when it will be the last time you see someone.
So sorry for your loss.
A worthy comment. I've lost mother, father, and one of two sisters and berate myself daily for never expressing love to them. There won't be any more opportunities. Those regrets (plus a few others) led me to write this song th-cam.com/video/IajduNI5Z9s/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=WilliamCox
I lost my father when I was 16, along with that entire side of the family. It didn't make my family any closer, it just added to the problems that were already there. But hey! I'm glad it worked out for you guys!
"If you don't call us, it means you are doing good."
That is so true, so many of us only seem to call or contact others when we need something.
Same with my parents. No news is good news.
That's sad. It means the child doesn't call their parents just to say hi :(
I only call one person on a regular basis, and that's my grandmother... even though I live with her.🤣
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Previously, I had a car, so the calls were mostly just me making sure she was alright, & that she knew where I was, & if she needed anything, I could pick it up for her.
I rarely talk to my mom because doing so, is really stressful. There's nothing I can do for her, bit she really needs help... sadly, it's not the kind of help I have the financial capacity to handle.
All in all though... I never really call anyone...they usually end up calling me, because I usually know what my grandmother is doing.😂
I never ask for help either because they've been so grudging about doing anything for me previously when I was a kid even. So, only my grandmother actually has any ideas about what I go through, because she's the only one who has been there for me my whole life, without any complaints...except when I actually am being unreasonable.🤣
So, I don't even fall into the category of "I must be doing alright if I don't call" I actually was doing really badly up until I moved back in with my grandmother after my grandfather died.
I basically sacrificed my mental health to complete my B.A. before I started to hate school again.
As it was, I actually intentionally failed a class to pass the others... because that class wasn't necessary for my degree, but I needed a class of that many credits to afford to stay in college.
That's the real irony of the college debt system.
You sometimes have to take on extra debt to actually complete your degree, because if you fall below a certain enrollment criteria, the amount of assistance drops below what can actually sustain you. So, you take a class that meets the criteria, but passing or failing it has no impact on your gaining the degree because it's literally just to meet a credit enrollment minimum, & your GPA is good enough that failing it won't matter, and you've literally spent the majority of your mental health & wellbeing just getting that far, so all you really care about is getting the grades necessary to gain the required credits from the unexpected last courses that you thought had been cleared already, but apparently you took so long that they decided that the previous course no longer covered all of the criteria...and you get the idea of what my last semester was like.
I barely was able to get through it...and then those jobs that I took afterwards did nothing to help me recover.
Ended up on Disability Finally...things were that Bad. I'm still not at a point where I am comfortable being exposed to that world, & I probably still wouldn't be able to function in most work environments due to having such a low stress tolerance & that on top of my learning quirk, pretty much eliminates most employers as viable employment options.
Someone who has a low stress tolerance and learns abnormally fast, & has to be continually learning new things in order to keep their stress in check isn't a task most employers can even imagine. Really, the easiest way for me to manage my stress is to keep learning new things, and not spending too much time on any particular thing, I fall into the black hole of details far too readily and will find ever smaller and increasingly irrelevant details if I spend too much time on something...which is how I end up writing things like this.🤦🏼♂️
This is an slang in our culture. Like "What is he doing?" and another one answers "Huh he is fine cuz he didn't call us. If he needs us, he call us."
It's... a little sad...
@@BJCMXY I have a problem with the tangent thing too *sigh*
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1. Interesting, that's so different from my family. I'm more likely to call my mom than my grandma when I don't need something. Its a bit more complicated, but basically, mom has all the love but only a little bit of money and grandma has all the money and only a little bit of the love. On my mom's side, at least. On my dad's side, my pickle-making cookie-baking grandma has all the love but just a little bit of money.
2. I'm about to go to college and I worry about my mental health as well as accumulating debt. I have a low stress tolerance (although I'm grateful because it seems higher than what you describe) AND I learn slow...not a great combo either. I need $4,000 by this September to appear out of thin air so I can take a psychoeducational test to "renew" my learning disorder because apparently, that is a thing. If I don't take the psych test, I lose the extra time on tests that I desperately need. So...the money problems are already starting lol.
3. I wouldn't give up just yet, there are so many jobs out there! The fact that you need to constantly be learning sounds like an asset to any science field. the first thing I think of would be any science discipline since you need to constantly learn new things and solve problems. Or perhaps you could learn like 10 languages and work somewhere that needs a multilingual person. You would always have to be learning on the job. Of course, that may be stressful. And it may not be possible to get into science without accumulating more debt. Not any flawless ideas here, but there are a gazillion jobs. Not saying it's easy either, sounds like a real pickle (as my grandma would say, and then hand you a pickle), but there has to be something out there, hopefully. Good luck :)
As a Nikkeijin (born in America to Japanese parents), I got sweaty palms watching this video. My parents never ever said it to me growing up, and it was tough growing up in America and hearing all of my friends' parents say it to them. I recently lived in Japan for two years, and I understand now how it's different in Japanese culture.
Shun, I would love it if you interviewed your parents in a new video and asked them how they felt.
But did they bring you cut up fruit for a snack?
@@lainiwakura1776 LOL no but they did bring dried ika a few times. :D
I know my folks love me and all, but it was hard not to hear it in elementary school. A thought for Asian immigrant parents: let your kids hear it so they don't feel left out especially when they're young.
@@gtada what is ika?
@@NCC1371 squid. My folks brought me dried squid. I was not thrilled.
@@gtada no offense but ew. I couldn’t eat that. Even if it tastes good I wouldn’t be able to eat it because I know what it is and I’m not a picky eater. I generally stay away from seafood (it creeps me out too much). I like fish but anything else is a no go. Lol
His Mother's reaction is so relatable. A mother's love is so powerful and genuine no matter the culture. His sister made me laugh though. She knew he was up to something. I hope he spends New Years with them. They appeared to care that he was not there.
Me, born and raised in Brasil, where we say "I love you" ten times a day: I need to tell my mom and dad that I love them again. 😭
do tipo que quando vai dizer boa noite também diz "amo vocês" também né? kkkk, ou quando tu finaliza uma ligação ou se despede no wpp. aqui em casa é tão comum que virou até rotina, dizer "eu te amo" é muito bom!!
@@creampuff2019 sim! O "bom dia", o "boa noite", o "tchau"... Tudo vem emendado com um "te amo".
Sim! Se eu não digo “eu te amo” antes de dormir pra minha irmã todos os dias me sinto até mal, meio culpada kkk
Call !!
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We Mexicans are the same way lmao, always needing to show affection to our family
It's clear that your parents love you. Your sister loves you too, but she won't say it until you are both older. The experience of living teaches you what most matters. Great video man.
I wonder if she also didn't say it because she was in public shopping. If the term is that out of the blue, and knowing how even PDA isn't much of a thing, it would've likely made her feel extremely embarrassed if she returned it.
I feel like he should say it again when he knows she's at home or in a private setting, just to see.
His mom ws so taken off guard by the I love you that she responded in english! That was so cute!
That's just a Japanese thing as there is no real translation for it.
They adopted the English of it for the context and connotation.
@@xenxander Aishiteru? I don't speak Japanese am I misunderstanding the meaning of this term?
@@metaempiricist it has a romantic connotation to it, plus he says it’s outdated and cheesy. He also says it in the video. The “closest” thing to “I love you” is Daisuke.
@@megaavonaco9954 it's daisuki the one with a romantic connotation (could be translated to "I like you A LOT") so yeahhh
but aishiteru is too strong and Japanese people are super shy with affection and that stuff so that's why it's very rare to say that one
"Gross" is even better than Han Solo's "I know."
Kimchi warui isn’t really “gross”, it’s more of “that feels wrong, don’t say that”.
@@LeeorVardi I understand the sentiment... it is still better than "I know."
I kind of thought the sister worried this was some kind of siscon thing. Considering its prevalence in anime recently, it's a possibility. Maybe he should've stuck with "aishiteru" with her.
@@Rognik aishteru is even more hardcore man. he explained it in the beginning. if he had said that he would definitely had become a siscon.
@@LeeorVardi I know the literal meaning of 気持ち悪い means "bad feeling" but yes it can mean "gross". I'm no expert in japanese so it probably means what you said too, could mean both. But the japanese people i've spoken to usually say it in a "gross" kinda way
This was just freaking hilarious and wholesome as all hell.
the phone call with his mom was so wholesome! she was definitely caught off guard but I feel like her voice lit up when he said "thank you for taking care of me" and she seemed excited to say "i love you" back :')
this is so wholesome but I can imagine this would be hella awkward if you've never done it before
My American son lives in Japan and is married to a Japanese woman. He has lived there for 12 years (he spoke fluent Japanese before he moved there.) Their children were born in Japan and really do not speak English, yet (they are 8 years old and 4 years old.) One thing they do say in English, however, is "I love you." My son said there is no really good translation for it in Japanese, so their whole family says I love you in English (and they say it to us, of course, when we speak with them.) My son tells his sons he loves them all the time (in English!) I never really understood that, but your video helped me understand a little better. Thank you.
I can really relate to your story from a reverse point of view.. My husband and I are both Asian, but we speak English daily and mostly since our kids went to International School and sort of adopted English as their first language early on in their life.. Our parents, however, speak zero English and only ever use our native language with my kids (which they understand but use very awkwardly)..
In my house, we say “I love you” all the time; in the morning, before bed, on the phone; and we understand the meaning as it meant to be in English language.. When my kids first wanted to say the words to their grandparents, they went to me and asked how do we say it in our native language, and that was when I realized that the word “I love you” have a very cringe-y meaning when translated literally into our own language and wouldn’t be something we say normally to parents in a casual conversation (non-casual conversation might as well be a deathbed kind of thing).. And so we resolved in teaching our parents to say it in English instead :)
@@oliveg5064 That's great! Saying "I love you" is something we say all the time when we speak with family and (very) close friends.
Since both of you understand the concept of mixed families how can I get my family to understand. I am American and have always been attracted to Asians. My first boyfriend was Asian American mix. But with my mom she has mixed feelings because of my grandfather married a Vietnam woman while still married to my grandmother. I have a whole Asian side of family I have never met because of this. It makes me sad. I don't fault my grandfather because he loved both women enough to want to be with both. But it has caused anger in his own family. While my dad just wants me to be with another white person. I don't know how to talk to my parents about this. I want to marry an Asian and have a family but not to the extent that they are disrespected. I also do not want to have to chose my past or my future. But if I have to I can only chose my future. I have to continue to live and I want to atleast be happy. Can you please give me advice 🙏
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I think having such a strong racial preference means you're in it for the wrong reasons. Otherwise there's nothing you can do but tell your family more or less exactly what you typed here. Communication in the foundation of all personal relationships.
@@shawniestorer2935 "I want to marry an Asian"
Please don't. That's disgustingly objectifying.
Damn, the way his parents were passive aggressively telling how he didn't visit for New Years had me feeling hella awkward. But what really took the cake was his Dad just saying Thank You. Plus the way his Sister just said Ewww, that was also good.
But in all seriousness, they do love and care about you Shun! For some it is just difficult for them to express that feeling! But hey, you did it and it made you feel good!
I love how your mom said it in English, thus avoiding the weird connotations you mentioned for the Japanese word, lol.
Yes, that was very illuminating to the fear of such depth of emotional expression.
@@tak0yak1 or lack of appropriate vocabulary
I cant understand that, they have like 20 ways to say sorry, but none to say i love you to your family
Wow. This was super brave. When I was doing my post-doc in Japan, I was out with a bunch of guys from work and explained my approach to a happy marriage as "You're right, I'm sorry, I love you." This was greeted by dead silence with everyone staring fixedly at their plates. When I saw that ears were actually turning red, I asked what the problem was, and they gritted out "we don't say that!" So getting a "thank you" from your dad was huge for him, I'm sure!
This made me smile. I’m a mother of an 18 year old son. When he tells me he loves me, which isn’t often at all, it melts my heart. I’m sure your mother will cherish that you told her that. Such a lovely family you have. :) I also love the bond you and your sister have. That kind of bantering means you and your siblings love each other dearly!
I swear I can't get over Shun's eyebrows. They're freaking gorgeous
Dude I was thinking the same
Skin too !
@@milkyshakes just... all of Shun hahaha
@@sumayah7908 Ew Gross
Lol, they are out there, aren't they! Very arresting! 😆
Shun’s life is the only stranger’s life that I enjoy watching 😂
*foreigner
@@kellympinda4723 that's still a stranger...
the "I love you" - "Gross" was heavy sibling energy
In Italy we have two ways to say "I love you". There is " Ti amo" which is the romantic one and it's used just for (supposly) serious romantic relationships. And then there's "Ti voglio bene", literally " I want you well", which means you care and love someone, but not necessary in a romantic way. I would never say "ti amo" to my mother, I would say "ti voglio bene", as I do with my friends and with my pets XD
Te amo is the Spanish equivalent. I also feel like it's kind of heavy, meant for serious relationships, although some people are much more casual with it. But we also have Te quiero (literally "I want you") which can be used interchangeably for both romantic and platonic relationships. It's definitely lighter but still affectionate. That's what I use with family.
In Portuguese we can say Te amo, for both situations. We say Te amo for parents and boyfriends... Kayra mentioned about "Te quiero" in spanish, what in portuguese is "te quero", but for us that one is for romantic situation only, something more like "when you want some one or desire that person". But te amo in PT can be used for both. I tell it to my dad always and he says back.
Also, my dad speaks italian, so next call I will try to say ti voglio bene, and see what he says back haha ;)
💪Latino gang 🇮🇹🇪🇸🇵🇹⚜
Same here in Mexico, we say "Te amo" (literally I love you) for romantic situations and "Te quiero" which in english they normaly translate it as "I love you" too but the conotation is more for general appreciation to your friends and family members but ALSO you can use it interchangeably to say you love you fiance.
Same in german. "I love you" is "ich liebe dich" but more in a romantic way. "Ich habe dich lieb" or just "hab dich lieb" is more common in family.
But idk imagine saying this to my mum still makes me cringe. Maybe just a personal thing 🤷🏻♀️
Its really interesting that your mum responded with 'I love you' in English. I think that really reflects how the concept of saying 'I love you' to parents is quite a western phenomenon, at least as far as I know. I do notice that Chinese parents in Shanghai, where I lived and worked for 6 years, do say it to their kids nowadays, and it's kinda encouraged. Outside big cities, I'm not sure but probably not.
In Eastern Europe, where I come from (living in US now) we don't really say "I love you" to our parents or relatives either. When it's said in my native language, it definitely carries only a romantic connotation as he explained in the video. Only recently have I said "I love you" to my parents, and they said it back in English lol! So I found this very interesting...
Yes. I’m Hispanic and we don’t really say it to our parents in Spanish either. It’s only a tv thing. I started saying it to my mom when I was small though (like the kids on tv would) and my mom would always respond with “I love you too” in English (even though she couldn’t speak English). I really can’t say it to my dad though. He would look at me like a freak if I did, so I always just tell him “take a lot of care” when I want to tell him “I love you.” My siblings have also said “gross” to me when I’ve told them I love them, lol. I related to this video a lot. Weird how this “I love you” thing amongst family is such a western thing and we don’t even realize it.
Maybe because "love" in English is just catch all for like 5 different kinds of love.
I love my friends in a different way than I love playing videogames which is a different way than I'd love someone I was dating.
@@reigee2869 what about "te caro"(probably horribly spelled ) ? From the little Spanish i know it means i care for you, is it not something you say to your perants ?
As a German I can understand the struggle. Here most families won't say "ich liebe dich" aka I love you, but instead "ich habe dich lieb" which means something like "I hold you dear/I'm fond of you/I have feelings for you but I am too ashamed to use the word love"
A guy said ich liebe dich to me in osrs lol
@Blink Bomb me neither
same in Finland
Generally "ich liebe dich" is a strong sentence, I cannot remember a single time that I used it. But I know some friends that use it so often that they complain the meaning of it is reduced
Also "Ich liebe dich" just doesn't go well with any kind of dialect. For example I usually talk in a swabian-bavarian dialect and "I lieb di" just sounds ridiculous while "I hab di lieb" sounds normal. So even with my boyfriend I'll use the second version
I say it everyday to my Japanese daughter just because I don’t want her to grow up thinking her parents don’t love her
Not japanese but I'm foreign-raised Indonesian. It seems that the whole situation of parents not saying i love you to their kids is consistent among many if not all asian cultures. I noticed that whenever my parents say "I love you" its always in English, never in Indo. It just feels _strange_ to say it in indo. Strange how that is.
Same in a lot of European countries as well. We show it through our actions instead.
"i love you me too" THAT WAS SO WHOLESOME
I have a feeling that your mom has a great sense of humor and is a very positive person XD
Even her jabs at you not visiting her didn't sound like a guilt-trip thing but more just to poke fun at you.
I rarely say "i love you" to my parents, but I sometimes would randomly hug them (we're one big happy family living in a big house) whilst imagining of the possible impending death that they will have. Wow. Morbid.
Nothing morbid about it, we never know when we may lose our loved ones. My brother and dad passed away very unexpectedly, so I totally undestand that feeling
Not morbid at all. My mom, grandma and grandpa died suddenly, so you never know.
Sometimes I feel like crying just by imagining that my mom will die someday, which is ironic because I am always doing college work instead of spending time with her. We say I love you everyday, though, and hug each other a lot.
I was raised that everything you visit your family or talk on the phone, you tell them I love you before leaving/ending the call because tomorrow is never promised. People can die so suddenly that we don't want regrets in not letting them know how much we cared for them. Like when visiting we always give hugs as well. Like to not give my mom and my little siblings that still live at home a hug (even though I am 26) and telling them that I love them before I leave sounds so weird to me. To be fair we Americans are a lot more open and touchy-feely it seems.. never realized it though.
I'm Canadian and I remember growing up, If I didn't hug, kiss on the cheek, and say I love you to every family member in the room (even if there were 20+ people), I would get lectured by both my parents most of the ride home XD
Now I'm watching my little cousins be trained to do the same and it's really interesting to reflect on cultural differences...
I’m an American raised Mexican and this has always made sense to me. Like, it’s your family, you’re supposed to shower them with “I love you” and hugs. But I’m the only person in my family that thinks like this, so even though I always tell my family members I love them and reach for hugs, they always tell me to f**k off, lol.
I don't live my parents or siblings so saying I love you and giving them a hug before I go is important. You never know when it will be the last time, you know? I too got lectured growing up if I didn't give everyone hugs before leaving.. so I just see it as normal
I realize now I didn’t get to say one last I love you to my dad before he died. One that he heard, anyways
@@gektoast4968 He knows
""I love you, me too", "ewww gross", "thank you" sounds about right for your first time as an adult. You should try again.
For me it is absolutely heartwarming to hear this reactions. Especially the call with your mum. First beeing mad but thinking "nice to hear you" and then twisting the call to true love
As a Filipina ,I also never said nor heard the word I love you from my parents or friends .But I never felt loveless ,why is that?
Because actions speaks louder than words 😊
Though it's nice to express it in words once in a while❤️
Yes! Words without actions aren't meaningful. It's nice to use the words sometimes to make sure your feelings are clear sometimes though.
This is unusual. A lot of Filipinos say I love you to their family
Actually teared up a little bit, the way your father spoke to you (if the subtitles are accurate) was so moving, you could hear that he cares about you and misses you. It's hard for men in general to express feelings so the fact that he said thank you was atleast acknowledgement.
For catching them off guard: typical mother reaction, typical sister reaction, and typical father reaction. I don't know what I was expecting either, but it seemed positive all around.
I love this!
I can't stop to imagine that shuns family is talking about this call like: did you guys receive a call from. shun-chan? What was all about it?
Love the content! And a lot of love this year Shun ✌️🏻
Do they not know about his YT channel? They'll be on guard after this one.
perhaps his sister guessed it was for his channel so she didn't want to give him a good response.
They might think he's in trouble now 😂😂😂
The mom was super jazzed…so cute. 🥰And no matter what words were spoken or unspken it is plainly obvious there is so much love from everyone in that family.
I cannot speak fluent japanese, but I could hear they we're akwardly really touched and it got me really emotionnal!
The "i love you" challenge is sweet.
That’s so sweet. I had an abusive dad who’d tell me he loved me, so hearing it doesn’t mean anything. It’s the actions that shows their love.
Samesies
Saying "Good night, I love you" has always been an expectation before bed in my household. It's a negative thing when NOT said
Same.
I know right! Like as soon as it is not said: okay...are you okay? Is something wrong? And then possibly turns into a whole talk before sleeping
Same for me as a Swede
It's literally the same in German. If I told my parents that I love them, they would think someone is going to die or something...
Same in Iran
I was raised in Germany so I understand. When we moved back to the States...our village folks each came to tell us they "loved" us. I cried for days! That was 50 years ago...I still miss my village!
Huh? That's not true tho - 'Ich liebe dich' may be weird but 'Ich hab dich lieb' is very common
I feel the phase "I love you" shows a strong presence of "I", which really exposes deep personal feelings and makes a conversation heavy. I don't want my parents and friends to think about how much I love them, instead, I just want them to feel accompanied and treasured. That might be the reason we don't say "I love you" that often in some countries. I'm from China.
His sister was so cold lol I watched that part like 5 times already 😂
To the point of having some sort of psychological issue, really bizarre reaction.
His dad said thank you with his whole chest lmaoooooooo
The more and more you spoke with your mother, I understood why you were nervous 😂
They seem to be craving your attention man, good thing you called them.
Well, changing times. I grew up in South Carolina, USA. I’m 71 now. After I was about 6 years old I my dad never hugged me or said, “I love you.” When a toddler, absolutely, but not after that. In that time, the cultural norm, at least where I grew up, dictated that men don’t hug men. And for a dad to say, “I love you.” to a teen or older son, was creepy because our culture implied it might be interpreted romantically. The first time I can remember him hugging me was when he was 75. It was about a year later I heard the words, “I love you.” I never doubted that he loved me. Showed it in so many ways. But, by the time I had kids things were changing. And that was (is) a very good thing. My dad died when he was 95 and after the first hug we never again had any hindrances to expressing our love for one another. Maybe Japan will see a similar evolution.
I’m a South Carolinian as well currently in my 30s and that culture somewhat still exists. We were taught in our childhood that men didn’t show emotion and stuff like that.
Hi Henry, thanks for sharing your story. I'm from NY/NJ, but had a chance to live in Japan for about a year and a half. When I returned to the US two years ago, the first place I lived was Charleston. My brothers and I moved there together. It was interesting seeing similarities between SC and Japanese culture in politeness, norms about expressing personal emotion and opinions, even though everything else (lifestyle, physical environment, food, expectations about personal space) couldn't be more different. As a side note, it was easy to tell apart the in-state folks, who were always friendly and polite to strangers, from the many out-of-state folks, who had more of an indifferent "minding my own business" attitude to strangers.
Thank you for sharing this story 🤗 even though you didn't verbally say it, I'm happy you could feel the love from your father!
@@anthonychilders9549 I'm from South Carolina too, where yall boys from? I stay in bishopville
@@iamarbiter6469 Easley / Greenville area.
I think it’s funny how a Japanese person going to the US “realize” how they are more “affectionate” in some ways, and “warm” and stuff...
...While people in Latin America are wondering “Damn... why people in the US are so COLD?” Lol
(I loved the video, btw! I love seeing these different perspectives between cultures ☺️💕)
I was just thinking that
DUDE YEAH
I'm a rather serious person, I'm not much affectionate myself, so as a Mexican, I've been struggling my whole life with the amount of displays of affection
my mom, my grandmothers, some of my aunts, and even my little brother, they're so cheesy for me, I just can't (though I'm grateful)
Japan: "You're too nice!"
South America: "NOT NICE ENOUGH!" *hits with shoe*
Because people in the US are cold compared with us in latin america...
@@BeyondBaito not only South America, Latin countries in general tend to have 'warmer' displays of affection (Spain, Italy too). It depends on each person though
This was the MOST ADORABLE thing I've seen in ages!!! Way to be brave! Good job!
I felt a range of positive emotions. The interactions in this video were a nice surprise and definitely put happiness into my morning
Shun: "Love you."
Sister: "Ew, gross. Whatever, bye."
"if you don't call us it means you're doing good"
hah, that's what my dad also says everytime :D
I have noticed that many Asian parents are well versed in the language of the guilt trip! ;-P
Call your dad now!!
I could hear the genuine love and concern in all 3 conversations. This is a very close family that loves their son/brother. The actual phrase of I love you wasn't said in every phone call but it was shown in all 3 calls. 💕
The women in this family are savages!
I'm sure they were happy to hear this, but they defused the situation in a hilarious way
That conversation with your mom was so wholesome, I love it!
His mom is hilarious. If that's what she said. We was all like yeah he's a heartless loser 😂. Great zinger
Excuse me, what's "zinger"? 👀
I'm not a native-english speaker, I'm sorry to bother 😅
@@gomesbandrey like a funny remark
@@veritasveritas5216 Thank you! ^^
@@gomesbandrey it's a comeback or friendly insult/comment
"We were all like "Such a heartless loser. wtf is he doing?""
If your parents don't say that about you, then you've done something wrong, lol.
Lol my siblings would also probably respond with “ew gross” if I said “I love you” to them, and we’re American 😂
I laughed so hard till I teared up, Shun-chan! Thanks for plucking up the courage to create this inspiring video. As a Chinese, I too don't find it easy to say ILU to my parents and siblings. 😂
Me: "I love you Mum"
My Mum: "What do you want parasite?"
"What did you break?"
Me: "Mom, I love you" 😘
She: I won't buy you any more Bts albums 😒
"Hey mom, I love you."
"I love you too, now what do you want?"
@@neilisannoying3490 Step mom moment
@@neilisannoying3490 OMG so trueeee
"Your sister spent new year with us"
"We expect you to come too"
Maybe whenever you feel you can go home to celebrate something with your family. Do it :3
The part that his sister picked up the phone and said *nani*/ what, I was like frick that's so relatable!
It was perfect. Perfectly imperfect! It is normal to feel nervous saying how much other people mean to us.
Even in America, where we "gush" with feelings at each other, we also feel uncomfortable when saying something more deeply than we normally say it day to day.
Even though your Dad and Sister didn't say it back, im sure it made them feel very good. Also, it was awesome that you told your parents thank you for taking care of you, that means a lot to all parents.
It is hard to tell people they mean a lot to us, but it is so important!
My older sister died when i was about your age, and I wish I had told her how much she meant to me.
Your courage and strength is admirable, and your family is lucky to have you.
ママとパパの反応可愛すぎ🥺
お姉さんのリアクションもいい😂
明けましておめでとうございます㊗️
I laugh hard when her sister said "eww disgusting" and "ewww gross gross"
I'm a Nisei in the U.S. (my parents are from Japan), so we don't naturally say, "I love you," either. My hands were actually sweating for you as called your family to tell them you loved them. You did a great job telling your family that you loved them, very natural, not forced at all. Nowadays, I say the words, "I love you" to my parents, especially because of shelter-in-place, but it's still a bit awkward. My father is hard of hearing, so I usually have to repeat myself, which makes it worse. Next challenge for you is to hug your parents, maybe when this pandemic is over.
Honestly (and i say this with experience), it is something that should be done more often (saying i love you to the people who are dear to you). You never know when a loved one will unfortunately pass away. I understand that it might be culturally weird in Japan, but i feel like expressing your feelings toward people who were there for you your entire life is something important.
Also, happy new year everyone
with all my respect, how sad to be Japanese..cause that is the biggest love there is in our culture and we say 'I love you" many, many times during a day to our kids and our parents. (verbally and with actions) I guess if you don't have you wont miss it? Brave of you!!! I think you sounded a bit shy and not that confident wile saying it but fully understandable based on the reactions. But it was honest from you and it is admirable you have the courage to do so. I think you are a great young men and you should be proud!
I’m glad you said it to your family. It’s obvious that you are very close to your family. The fact that you are able to “talk story” (as we say in Hawaii), shows that there is much love among you folks. Great video. Thank you
"Daisuki da yo onee chan"
"Kimochi warui!"
This the most 'anime'ish scene I've ever seen a Japanese do
Ps: Sorry if I romanized the Japanese words wrong!🤣
"Aku onee-chan..."
"Eroge ja nai, baka aniki!"
"Kisama..."
*teleport through the phone or some anime shit* "ATATATATATATATA!"
"ORAORAORAORAORAORA!"
(Probably mom) "BAKA YAROH!"
Something out of Oregairu, but I think that’s more a testament into its own quality
@@stavroskassinos7834 I just the series and the girls call Hachiman creepy and stuff so much, I would probably be hurt if I was him
Quality stuff here and you didn't butcher anything!
You’re family’s reactions are very Osaka-jin of them!
Yesssss! Gonna drink my morning coffee with shun Chan ☕🤗
Good morning! (as i'm going to bed)☕😁
i ate my breakfast too lol
Aww, it sounded like his mom was waiting to hear that. Very sweet video!
Awww... I'm not surprised about your mom's reaction. Most mom's would react in a loving way ❤. Your sister's reaction 😄 🤣🤣🤣
Your dad's reaction is a typical guy's reaction. I bet he loved hearing it. So, I say, say I love you or any endearment when you feel the need. At some point in time, you won't be able to say it to them.
Love was oozing from your parents and sister during the conversation.
As an American, even I am not sure if this was sarcasm LOL!
I have also never said it to my family (I think it's uncommon here in Sweden) so I got the full cringe experience watching this. You deserve a like for this one lol.
No my guy !! Dude that’s not embarrassing at all you have a family that’s is together and loves you that’s awesome. It’s becoming a rare thing today
The way his fingers fidgeted hahahahah. Ngl this is more heart warming and heart throbing than all those confession vids ive seen ♡
I have a friend who is Japanese, but was raised here in California.
Her mom always send her little gifts (she lives in a different city).
During holidays, I asked him if he is gonna visit them for Christmas or NYe. He said “no”, I dont have a close relationship with them.
And it broke my heart a bit, bc even if your mom dont tell you “I love you”, the fact she send you stuff, is a way to tell you that.
Your mom adores you, even though she doesnt say it.
Im latina, so I grew up full of kisses and I love you and “why are you leaving?!”
„ I went so bald as to call my parents just to say I love you.“
Don‘t go bald Shun, you‘re already struggling with being single.
What why is he struggling being single he's cute has good personality looks like his own place so means a job. Why...?
i always say it to my mom at the end of our phone calls so when you did it sounded natural to me. super cute video!
7:34 SO CUTE OMG has given me an automatic urge to hug and cuddle you
the whole family sounds so lovely and like so much fun.
i am a very big fan of your sister tho shes absolutely hilarious!
It’s so different. I tell my children I love them every day. I told my parents I loved them every time we spoke more or less. What in the Japanese culture makes these expressions of emotion rare? Thanks for the lovely video.