Made me realize strict discipline routine is so hard for me because I always find ways to work my way around the routine that’s set up. With the power of ASD and ADHD, my discipline is nil!!
Great piece! Here's a "TL;DW" for those who feel intimidated by a 10-minute video: 1. Eliminate unnecessary temptations and draining decisions from your routine. 2. Build up your own (and others') faith in your word by stating what you're going to do before you do it-and by not committing to things you don't actually want to do. 3. Create clear-cut, black-and-white rules for yourself that allow for measurable progress.
I’ve been trying to explain this to my friends. Being vegan took away most of my old junk food habits because my favorite chocolates and candies were full of milk. I don’t use will power anymore, it’s just something that I don’t eat.
Yeah this is one of the few things I did. I am still vegan but I got back off the sugar wagon unfortunately but I totally agree that once you're used to it you never miss it. For me it was a social lapse that lead back into a kind of mini addiction. I think it's time to get back to no sugar
I agree with you that clear rules are easier. I find it difficult to stick to small dietary rules, but going vegan overnight was easy! Not drinking at all is also easier than sticking with 1-2 max.
I'm an ENFP too, and I definitely have done extreme things like cut out entire food groups too. It's weird how disciplined we can be when we actually believe in something and make a clear plan. Despite that I also struggle with discipline so I needed this video, thanks!
I used to be totally regimented like a marine, but now I don’t do anything unless I feel like it. It works like a charm.. I’m not out to compete with anybody. My goal is to enjoy living in the moment..& trust LIFE, trust myself. Period 🏄🏻♂️
I think this insight on black and white rules and limiting down willpower vampires can help change my life. I also believe social commitment is our friend.
I hear you brother. I myself am an ENFP with ADHD. It has personally taken years on end with bad decisions and unhealthy life choices/escapism "all" it took was ekstremes, set rules with a consequenses. Not that i don't believe in leeway, i most shurely do and despite my handicap and whatnot im a very patient man with people, ideals and personal journeys. But for me, i lived poorly and was an addict with the excuse of being musician and a free spirit. This ended with diabetes due to severe obesity and poor organ capacity. All of a sudden shit got real and rules were rules. So i changed my diet, went to rehab, hit the gym, lost 55 kg and ran a marathon. All this was not the goal, the winning price was that i post all this found myself healthy, clean, still touring with my band doing what i loved and most of all, no matter what slander the world my have i found that despite my cons i was able to overachieve and not only fighting to achieve what the neuro typical worlds expectations agree on. By setting rules i achieved my own succes...
This freakishly similar to my internal dialogue and personal set of rules I have developed from living w ADHD😏 thank you it helps to hear it externally
Great ideas, Dan! When I first started out with barbell training 1 1/2 years ago, I needed to have a solid structure: 5 days a week, counting calories/macronutrients, no alcohol, etc. because I needed the structure. However, over time I have been able to be a lot more flexible with food choices, how often I work out, etc. But yes, I agree that having that’s solid structure helps with not having to decide every day which drains energy resources. As for alcohol consumption, I’ve found that if I set a limit, I usually stick to it. So I can actually drink just one or two drinks but like you said, it does take will power. =) Lastly, I have to admit that sometimes I keep candy in my desk at work and each day I have to avoid the temptation of eating it even though I don’t even like candy all the much! Great tips! I will find a new owner for the candy. Hahaha
That's so funny about the candy. It's like you set up a little willpower zapping machine...taking a little bit each hour. I definitely agree about the time. Having been on this Keto diet for close to a year now, I am finding it possible to go off for a day or two and then get right back on...something I never thought would work for me. I think since I have experienced the benefits, that's enough for me to hop back on after a cheat day or two.
I too am an ENFP and might have ADHD but haven't been diagnosed yet. It's hard adulting like this but your tips are almost what I thought in my overthinking sessions as a solution. Now I just need to work on it. Very overwhelming but I hope it gets easier if I take it little by little in small time stamps. I really liked the concept of avoiding gray areas. I won't 'try' to follow that instead 'I will' (avoiding gray areas). Thank you.
So frustrated with life. Trying to explain to people that I'm trying my best and I do care and I'm not lazy or stupid I'm just really really not good at consistency, discipline knowing what to prioritise. It does not help that everyone else thinks these things are super easy and obvious. Also hustle culture, that really doesn't help you to not judge yourself and be judged and then get into an emotional spiral where you shut down and lose the motivation. Again. PS thank you so much for making this video. As an over emotional person I'm just gonna say I love your content and feel much solidarity with everyone else who is aiming for better in this way. Love all of you ♥️♥️♥️ yeah I'm a bit strange but you knew that already 😂😂
I’m a new subscriber, I LOVE YOUR CONTENT! I’m also an ENFP just recently found out. And learning all of this right now is extremely fascinating and I’m so inspired by you right now lol.. finally someone that understands me for me!! These tips are so helpful & valuable you have no idea how grateful I am to have found your channel!
You are so great! Thank you. I find setting non-negotiables (ex. I practice music for 1 hour every day before noon; I don't eat wheat), really helpful. Thanks for the suggestion/reminder.
It is too bad that more leaders in the world do not explain ways to focus better and to use your time more effectively, It would influence the youth in such a positive way, such that less waste(not garbage) would be created in the world. Great video. I really liked your explanation on avoiding small tedious decisions throughout the day and to use that focus on more important things.
So relatable it's crazy. I find that group activities are very good for me to get something started independently (marathons will motivate me to practice my running; A Monthly Challenge can make me try something new; A deadline will force me to be creative; Taking a class where I have to explain what I learned WILL make me study, etc..) While ENFP's want LESS structure and & spontaneous emotional validation- I feel upset with myself for not meeting my bigger goals (publishing a book??). The "little things" are great- Like making a nice meal can be a great joy every day. But an hour or two a day should be spent on something that gets you out of your comfort zone if you really want to enjoy some solid emotional fulfillment
OMG Thank you for giving me permission to have black and white thinking about healthy habits. Many people are so down on this but I swear it's the only thing that has ever worked well for me.
I started following the Forwago workout sessions day after day and it hasn't just changed my body, but positively impacted my mental health and made me a new me..
Interestingly, I have little trouble disciplining myself to say 'no' (probably due to food intolerances) but a lot of trouble getting myself to DO things. I wonder if this has to do with xNFPs' relationship to Te.
Same. Becoming vegetarian, vegan, quitting alcohol or sugar - easy-peasy. Although making yourself disciplined to e. g. finish your own project or sketch/exercise regularly - almost impossible. How to learn this kind of discipline?
Don’t have any bad issues with rejecting things, but I’ve always been so bad at doing things. I cannot get myself to do something (ie: daily bass practice. I wanna become good but I always break routine…)
As a rule breaker enfp who doesn't like being told what to do the black and white was so true and lately the building my words i used to be more energetic and do 10 things in one day and as i got to the down fall of my mood i didn't have that energy and couldn't keep up to my words so the results were i didn't trust myself .....ur videos are great i love u and wish u joy
This explains why I don't have any problem doing intermittent fasting for 24 hours or even 48 hours as a dieting tool. During the fasting days, it doesn't take up too much willpower to go through the day on just coffee and water. But on the days I do eat (gym day/caloric surplus), I like to eat with reckless abandon.
I am 22 years old student, and past two years I was really struggling. A year ago I started using Forwago, and their personalized plans helped me a lot. I eat healthier, even started to workout, it helped me build my self-confidence, and maybe the best thing I started my small online business. It is nothing special, but it is nice to earn some money. And I am still making the progress. Take care of yourself and start building the life of your dreams. Everybody is capable of achieving their dreams.
My new book, THE ENFP CALLING, is out now in Audiobook (I narrated), Print, and Digital. It's on Amazon (amzn.to/3Hn75Wv ), Audible ( www.audible.com/pd/The-ENFP-Calling-Audiobook/B0D79QMDCR? ), and most everywhere else you can get books books2read.com/enfp
And before you think "Oh god, another TH-camr / Coach wrote some sh*tty book summarizing their videos...Scout's honor...this book is the furthest thing from regurgitation. It's 270 pages (or 8 hours on audiobook) of new ideas, stories, and insights. Check out the reviews on Amazon ( amzn.to/3Hn75Wv )
Omg. Finally found someone who describes me perfectly. How things are working for me and not. I have ADHD and am a ENFP. Only black and white extreme self-made boundaries are working for me or I will fall off the wagon. 🤦♀️ Happy to see I am not the only one.
I dont know why, but when you started talking about commitment, I literally had a minor panic attack. Any ideas why I might struggle with commitment so much? This isnt like relationship commitment, but just every day commitments. I'm ENFP, any reason this might be happening?
Three months ago I found out about the program called Forwago. It is amazing how this program helped me to change my perspective and taught me to think more positively and to be more grateful.
Not an enfp but im vegan and uff that is a lot of dicipline and then going gluten free that's another level to discipline then going more simple by going raw vegan . you can do this with all of your life choices . i use this for bugeting,religion,cycling ,family communication,family task, planner life. Be simple you can only focus on one task at a time.
Generally not! I treat it like a uniform for videos. Why waste brain power thinking about what shirt I should wear each time when I can instead spend it thinking about making a great video :)
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I always envied people who are inertly disciplined.
inately....
And [I] was also pissed of how they think everyone have the very same capability on doing so and if they don't they're voluntarily lacking.
@@michelle_ca8549 innately
a.k.a. INTJs hahaha
inherently?
This explains why I need BLACK AND WHITE. Clear guidelines because I will bend anything remotely flexible 😂
Same!!! Hit me up if you want to be accountability buddies. :)
Same those open math questions and my imagination doesnt go well
Made me realize strict discipline routine is so hard for me because I always find ways to work my way around the routine that’s set up.
With the power of ASD and ADHD, my discipline is nil!!
Great piece! Here's a "TL;DW" for those who feel intimidated by a 10-minute video:
1. Eliminate unnecessary temptations and draining decisions from your routine.
2. Build up your own (and others') faith in your word by stating what you're going to do before you do it-and by not committing to things you don't actually want to do.
3. Create clear-cut, black-and-white rules for yourself that allow for measurable progress.
bless up, I couldn't finish the video even on 1.50 speed
Thank you!
thank you so much for this.
Does binge watching TH-cam/ Netflix constitute draining decisions?
TH-cam for me has now become a "try not to read the comments challenge"
A Random Hacker IMPOSSIBLE!!
LOL!!
Truuueeeeeeeeeeeeee
I’ve been trying to explain this to my friends. Being vegan took away most of my old junk food habits because my favorite chocolates and candies were full of milk. I don’t use will power anymore, it’s just something that I don’t eat.
omg same!!
Yeah this is one of the few things I did. I am still vegan but I got back off the sugar wagon unfortunately but I totally agree that once you're used to it you never miss it. For me it was a social lapse that lead back into a kind of mini addiction. I think it's time to get back to no sugar
as I was listening to this, my mind wandered off....ugh....
thought I was the only one!
Mine too!
Build up discipline.... practice coming back and staying engaged
I'm glad he did the recap at the end because I did the same thing.
I agree with you that clear rules are easier. I find it difficult to stick to small dietary rules, but going vegan overnight was easy! Not drinking at all is also easier than sticking with 1-2 max.
Dhara it’s because ENFPs and INFPs tend to be all or nothing type personalities if something is worth doing it’s worth doing 150 percent or not at all
I'm an ENFP too, and I definitely have done extreme things like cut out entire food groups too. It's weird how disciplined we can be when we actually believe in something and make a clear plan. Despite that I also struggle with discipline so I needed this video, thanks!
You're welcome Yelitza!
Lmfao same, it's like we have this weird paradox of qualities where everything is just on the extreme ends of things lol
Just did this test, and discovered I'm an ENFP like 2 hours ago. Currently binge watching your videos and subbed, so facinatingly relatable!
Awesome to hear :) Welcome!
I used to be totally regimented like a marine, but now I don’t do anything unless I feel like it. It works like a charm.. I’m not out to compete with anybody. My goal is to enjoy living in the moment..& trust LIFE, trust myself. Period 🏄🏻♂️
I think this insight on black and white rules and limiting down willpower vampires can help change my life. I also believe social commitment is our friend.
I hear you brother. I myself am an ENFP with ADHD.
It has personally taken years on end with bad decisions and unhealthy life choices/escapism "all" it took was ekstremes, set rules with a consequenses. Not that i don't believe in leeway, i most shurely do and despite my handicap and whatnot im a very patient man with people, ideals and personal journeys. But for me, i lived poorly and was an addict with the excuse of being musician and a free spirit. This ended with diabetes due to severe obesity and poor organ capacity. All of a sudden shit got real and rules were rules. So i changed my diet, went to rehab, hit the gym, lost 55 kg and ran a marathon. All this was not the goal, the winning price was that i post all this found myself healthy, clean, still touring with my band doing what i loved and most of all, no matter what slander the world my have i found that despite my cons i was able to overachieve and not only fighting to achieve what the neuro typical worlds expectations agree on. By setting rules i achieved my own succes...
This freakishly similar to my internal dialogue and personal set of rules I have developed from living w ADHD😏 thank you it helps to hear it externally
You're welcome, Meghan, glad it helps!
Great ideas, Dan! When I first started out with barbell training 1 1/2 years ago, I needed to have a solid structure: 5 days a week, counting calories/macronutrients, no alcohol, etc. because I needed the structure.
However, over time I have been able to be a lot more flexible with food choices, how often I work out, etc. But yes, I agree that having that’s solid structure helps with not having to decide every day which drains energy resources.
As for alcohol consumption, I’ve found that if I set a limit, I usually stick to it. So I can actually drink just one or two drinks but like you said, it does take will power. =)
Lastly, I have to admit that sometimes I keep candy in my desk at work and each day I have to avoid the temptation of eating it even though I don’t even like candy all the much! Great tips! I will find a new owner for the candy. Hahaha
That's so funny about the candy. It's like you set up a little willpower zapping machine...taking a little bit each hour. I definitely agree about the time. Having been on this Keto diet for close to a year now, I am finding it possible to go off for a day or two and then get right back on...something I never thought would work for me. I think since I have experienced the benefits, that's enough for me to hop back on after a cheat day or two.
I too am an ENFP and might have ADHD but haven't been diagnosed yet. It's hard adulting like this but your tips are almost what I thought in my overthinking sessions as a solution. Now I just need to work on it. Very overwhelming but I hope it gets easier if I take it little by little in small time stamps. I really liked the concept of avoiding gray areas. I won't 'try' to follow that instead 'I will' (avoiding gray areas). Thank you.
So good. I'm an ENFP type personality and this makes so much sense, but even on a practical level!
Thanks Deborah!
Really? Imma try. (Whoops gray area)
So frustrated with life. Trying to explain to people that I'm trying my best and I do care and I'm not lazy or stupid I'm just really really not good at consistency, discipline knowing what to prioritise. It does not help that everyone else thinks these things are super easy and obvious. Also hustle culture, that really doesn't help you to not judge yourself and be judged and then get into an emotional spiral where you shut down and lose the motivation. Again. PS thank you so much for making this video. As an over emotional person I'm just gonna say I love your content and feel much solidarity with everyone else who is aiming for better in this way. Love all of you ♥️♥️♥️ yeah I'm a bit strange but you knew that already 😂😂
I’m a new subscriber, I LOVE YOUR CONTENT! I’m also an ENFP just recently found out. And learning all of this right now is extremely fascinating and I’m so inspired by you right now lol.. finally someone that understands me for me!! These tips are so helpful & valuable you have no idea how grateful I am to have found your channel!
Thank you thank you! Looking forward to hearing from you on more videos. Cheers from Spain, Dan
wow... i an ENFP with ADHD as well. This is incredible advice. Thanks!
You are so great! Thank you. I find setting non-negotiables (ex. I practice music for 1 hour every day before noon; I don't eat wheat), really helpful. Thanks for the suggestion/reminder.
It is too bad that more leaders in the world do not explain ways to focus better and to use your time more effectively, It would influence the youth in such a positive way, such that less waste(not garbage) would be created in the world. Great video. I really liked your explanation on avoiding small tedious decisions throughout the day and to use that focus on more important things.
So relatable it's crazy. I find that group activities are very good for me to get something started independently (marathons will motivate me to practice my running; A Monthly Challenge can make me try something new; A deadline will force me to be creative; Taking a class where I have to explain what I learned WILL make me study, etc..) While ENFP's want LESS structure and & spontaneous emotional validation- I feel upset with myself for not meeting my bigger goals (publishing a book??). The "little things" are great- Like making a nice meal can be a great joy every day. But an hour or two a day should be spent on something that gets you out of your comfort zone if you really want to enjoy some solid emotional fulfillment
thank you so much for these videos ! I thought that I was losing my mind! But these suggestions truly help . thanks again, you have a subscriber!
You're very welcome, and welcome aboard :) Dan
OMG Thank you for giving me permission to have black and white thinking about healthy habits. Many people are so down on this but I swear it's the only thing that has ever worked well for me.
I started following the Forwago workout sessions day after day and it hasn't just changed my body, but positively impacted my mental health and made me a new me..
Interestingly, I have little trouble disciplining myself to say 'no' (probably due to food intolerances) but a lot of trouble getting myself to DO things. I wonder if this has to do with xNFPs' relationship to Te.
Same. Becoming vegetarian, vegan, quitting alcohol or sugar - easy-peasy. Although making yourself disciplined to e. g. finish your own project or sketch/exercise regularly - almost impossible. How to learn this kind of discipline?
Don’t have any bad issues with rejecting things, but I’ve always been so bad at doing things. I cannot get myself to do something (ie: daily bass practice. I wanna become good but I always break routine…)
As a rule breaker enfp who doesn't like being told what to do the black and white was so true and lately the building my words i used to be more energetic and do 10 things in one day and as i got to the down fall of my mood i didn't have that energy and couldn't keep up to my words so the results were i didn't trust myself .....ur videos are great i love u and wish u joy
The title alone made my day. Thank you for this!!
Thanks Dan! I did not realize my gray area rule actually what makes me tired every week. I am going to try applying this to my life :)
You're welcome Nararya, glad it helps! :)
Omgosh this is totally the talk I wanted
love it
From a fellow ENFP praise God... this is so good! Thank you for this
Glad you like it Marita! :)
This explains why I don't have any problem doing intermittent fasting for 24 hours or even 48 hours as a dieting tool. During the fasting days, it doesn't take up too much willpower to go through the day on just coffee and water. But on the days I do eat (gym day/caloric surplus), I like to eat with reckless abandon.
I am 22 years old student, and past two years I was really struggling. A year ago I started using Forwago, and their personalized plans helped me a lot. I eat healthier, even started to workout, it helped me build my self-confidence, and maybe the best thing I started my small online business. It is nothing special, but it is nice to earn some money. And I am still making the progress. Take care of yourself and start building the life of your dreams. Everybody is capable of achieving their dreams.
I am also an ENFP and I was wondering why it was so hard for me to focus and become disciplined. Thank you so much for this. It really helps!
You're welcome! :)
My new book, THE ENFP CALLING, is out now in Audiobook (I narrated), Print, and Digital. It's on Amazon (amzn.to/3Hn75Wv ), Audible ( www.audible.com/pd/The-ENFP-Calling-Audiobook/B0D79QMDCR? ), and most everywhere else you can get books books2read.com/enfp
And before you think "Oh god, another TH-camr / Coach wrote some sh*tty book summarizing their videos...Scout's honor...this book is the furthest thing from regurgitation. It's 270 pages (or 8 hours on audiobook) of new ideas, stories, and insights. Check out the reviews on Amazon ( amzn.to/3Hn75Wv )
Omg!! I just read this about the willpower cookie experiment last month in The Power of Habit!!!!
It's a great book :)
This really opened my eyes! And for sum reason i got mega asmr tingling from this haha
Ack!! Even the WORD discipline makes me stubborn and anxious 😬😬😬
I LOVE PRAGGUEEEEE. Besides that, I feel you when you were talking about discipline. As an ENFP, I can totally relate.
I saw this video and laughed out loud bc "discipline" ... then i realized thats probably why I should watch it
Omg. Finally found someone who describes me perfectly. How things are working for me and not. I have ADHD and am a ENFP.
Only black and white extreme self-made boundaries are working for me or I will fall off the wagon. 🤦♀️
Happy to see I am not the only one.
I dont know why, but when you started talking about commitment, I literally had a minor panic attack. Any ideas why I might struggle with commitment so much? This isnt like relationship commitment, but just every day commitments. I'm ENFP, any reason this might be happening?
This title is 💯!!! Hope the content delivers
Me too :)
It can be helpful
You're so right! I'm able to quit drinking completely for half a year but a vague resolution to drink less on a night out never works 😜
wow concrete stuff no BS, its refreshing . Thank you
I even had to use quite a lot of discipline finishing the video 😂
I’m an enfp with adhd too!! This is so helpful
Thank you! It’s really helpful!
Me: I'm not gonna skip school tomorrow!
*skips school the next day
too much relatable. fck.
Thanks Dan this helps a lot!!
omg!! concrete stuff i can do! thank you for this!
Great advices Dan, so usefull for an ENFP and not only. Thanks for your videos ! Good luck to you !
Glad you like them!
Im an ENTP w ADHD (i think Ne doms all
Almost all Have it) but the inferior Si iw why we are here! Watch on 1.5x speed ;)
Thank you from another ENFP!
I was wondering have thought of doing podcasts?
I do! Dreams around the world. Should be able to find it everywhere including Spotify. I suppose I need to promote it more here.
Dude you are wonderful but I keep distracting myself while watching video that long as ADHD ENFP :) maybe make a bit more visuals?
Liking the videos man! Good stuff, thanks!
Another GREAT video!
Thanks Jeremy!
Thank you! Simple and helpful advices.
You're very welcome!
This sounds like some of the principles in a book called "The motivation myth".
I don't know, there are too many self help books these days so I'm sure everything is covered somewhere by now lol
Really good stuff man.
Thanks man! :)
Truly an inspiration :p
Three months ago I found out about the program called Forwago. It is amazing how this program helped me to change my perspective and taught me to think more positively and to be more grateful.
Thank you!
Thank you so much, you are very helpful :)
You're welcome, I'm glad I've helped! :)
Thank you! it gotta help me a lot!
You're very welcome!
Do you live in Prague? And if so why? Maybe you can make a video on it
So good!!!
how did you know I struggle with chocolate?? I'm a predictable enfp. great video thanks so much!!
My ENFP Psychic abilities I guess :)
Dreams Around The World haha don't joke I've been told I do! must be an enfp thing 😉
ENFPs are just great at selective memory, so we only remember the predictions that turn out to be right :)
So Discipline = Will Power? Will power is limited.
Yes, sort of, something like that :)
Not an enfp but im vegan and uff that is a lot of dicipline and then going gluten free that's another level to discipline then going more simple by going raw vegan . you can do this with all of your life choices . i use this for bugeting,religion,cycling ,family communication,family task, planner life. Be simple you can only focus on one task at a time.
Is he a stalker? Why does he know exactly about me!! Lol
Good one!
Thanks
Please make a script for ur video before shooting it
Love radishes
100% accurate
These would be easier to watch without the vocal fry affectation. Older ENFP advice: Your real voice is enough.
I'm pretty sure that's just how I talk. Puberty was pretty intense.
WOW
I haveto have clear limits too
Love that blue shirt, do you have any other color?
Generally not! I treat it like a uniform for videos. Why waste brain power thinking about what shirt I should wear each time when I can instead spend it thinking about making a great video :)
The more I do things regularly the more I get bored of it.
Yo this videos awesome
Thanks, Dovi!
@@enfp I also messaged you on insta cause your so helpful
Hello! Even though I identify myself as a ENFP, is there out there a reliable way to determine which one I really am? Thank you!
You've probably found it by now but yeah the website 16 personalities is by far the most accurate and reliable one!
Sugar is addictive
5:15 Like they say, 99% is a bitch. 100% is a breeze! Good stuff.
So true so true! Linking to the part of the video, I didn't realize you could do that in comments. Man am I a noob...
Eh, but you're a charming noob!
ENFP ADHD here
BUT HOW TO DEAL WITH NOT BEING ABLE TO FOCUS !!
WRITE EVERYTHING IN CAPS SO IT'S EASIER TO SEE AND FOCUS ON!
AHMED GHONIM do things in short bursts of energy then regular breaks in between start small and build up over time it helps so much with focus
So when do I eat the chocolate?
Still trying to figure that out....been doing a lot of A/B testing for you
So..... don’t use up your discipline with dumb stuff and yet put candy out to build discipline? Conflicts
You don't go to the gym an hour before you need to run a marathon. It's really not that complicated...
Dreams Around The World if it’s so simplex why make a video about it and be an ass to your commenters? Bye felicia. #unsubscribe
Wow an Extrovert with ADHD?