I was anorexic as a teenager and now I am 58. I am not physically anorexic but the mindset is always there in the background. We all have some triggers. I feel badly now for younger people who have things besides magazines to potentially make themselves feel shitty about themselves. I was a fitness instructor for 28 years and the areas I taught in on Long Island were rife with eating disorders. I left that career at 48 and have a home gym and became a Respiratory Therapist and am much happier. Also, as you have said, almost ALL the posts etc are filtered. Thanks again for your common sense and educated opinion!
You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned the mindset always being there in the back of your mind... Anorexia is a mental disorder and the physical appearance changing is just a result of that. However, just because we recover physically doesn't mean our minds are healed... I totally get it, and it is exactly what made me relapse about a year ago (I am fully recovered physically now, luckily). But a year ago, I was also in recovery, slowly gaining weight and looking more 'normal' again. I felt so alone with my thoughts, my bodydismorphia and the fact that my physical appearance did not represent how I felt, how sick my mind really was, that I totally relapsed to the point of being too thin again. I guess it kind of was a cry for help or something... Anyways, sorry for my rambling here lol but I understand you. I really hope you can keep those thoughts inside your head as small as possible, as they do not deserve any of your attention!❤
@RakisDerra never gove up. I was lucky not to completely relapse and at 58, I am more at peace. Thank you for sharing your struggles and triumphs and remember you are WORTHY of living a healthy life!!
What makes me the most sad about cosmetic procedures is that everyone just looks the same to me 😢 I’m almost 41 and I love watching movies from the 90s when actors didn’t all look the same… and before social media.
What's really helped me is doing a weigh in every Tuesday. My ED coach recommended I predict what I think I'll weigh and record that and my actual weight in a spreadsheet. And by tracking it once a week, I am able to see my natural body trends of when I'm naturally bloated bc of ovulation or menstruation and I weigh more during those cycle phases. And it goes down a bit during my luteal phase. I eat regularly when my body signals hunger cues. There's a lot more I do but I feel so much better about myself and my body bc of these things.
People are allowed to do whatever they want to their bodies but I am SO SICK of people getting online, listing all the things they've got done, describing how "bad" they looked before, and then ending with "but I'm just talking about me! Everyone is beautiful the way they are!" like babe your actions speak MUCH louder than your words and while I'm not going to say people can't alter their bodies to fit beauty standards, it undoubtedly has a negative effect on the people consuming that content.
Am I the only one who thinks the imperfects plus calm confidence = attractive/hot? I find imperfections like uneven teeth or gaps or freckles or uneven whatever plus an attitude that is not focused on that ... that is so cool to me... Also I think the performance of beauty (or "health" whatever you want to call) it is tied into having wealth, leisure time and privilege. It is part of the wonderful wheel of capitalism. I'm starting to realize that our feelings about our body are similar to the dream of wanting a big house and white picket fence.
I've basically been considered short since I was a teenager. Also, when I was younger, I was very skinny. I tried to build myself up with food and weight training, but ultimately developed an unhealthy relationship with food that led to me being significantly overweight as an adult. Since then though, I've discovered some physical capacities I was unaware of and some benefits to my size. I work as a truck driver, and being short, it makes it easier for me to live and work in the cab. Also, when I worked in industrial cleaning and was reasonably fit, I would sometimes get called on jobs just because I could fit in some of the vessels that taller or larger guys couldn't. I also discovered that, for my age, size, fitness experience, and injury history, I was actually pretty darn good at deadlifts and pull-ups as well as showing a pretty significant aerobic capacity on the elliptical machine. My journey would have been very different if I knew what I was capable of and what the future would have in store. What I try to tell my kids is to love the body they have and the wonderful things that it can do.
I have never had a desire to workout in just a sports bra and leggings because *to me* it feels like just wearing your undergarments in public. Like, I wouldn't go out into the world in my underwear and bra without a shirt on, I don't want to workout that way either. I feel like a lot of fitness influencers make it seem like we should *all* want to dress like that to work out and if someone wants to, then they absolutely should. But we don't all have to want that.
This is very relatable. My weight has fluctuated so much over the years. I've gone from obese to super skinny and everywhere in between. When I was skinny I was treated so much better by just about everyone even though I had a severe eating disorder, was over-exercising and constantly sick or injured. But that didn't matter, I looked great so people assumed I was healthy. Now I'm in the healthy weight category but definitely on the bigger side. I would love to be super skinny again but it's just not possible for me whilst maintaining a healthy, balanced lifestyle. Slowly learning to be okay with that. Love your videos Justina!
Right. Body shapes as trends are nuts! I get changing hair, makeup and clothes. And that Align top is my favorite too. I have 4. Perfect length, and the diagonal seams on the back are so flattering.
Really love the honesty ❤ I was in a cycling accident and now have a mustache scar and teeth implants. I've just delved into the world of makeup, but learning to live and be happy with new imperfections and be grateful it wasn't worse
as someone who is skinny naturally (i am also tall) being skinny definitely does not solve your body issue problems. i feel like society as a whole (but mainly women who r obsessed with dieting) view it that if your skinny you'll be confident and all ur insecurities will vanish, but its just not true. i have a fast metabolism, genetics but also bc of childhood trauma, cptsd and trauma, gaining weight is rly hard. my dad used to pick on me because of it. friends would always comment on my body (not in a positive way), but then u have older family members turning around saying ur look like a model and then compare themselves to me and it does not make me feel better about myself at all. and it honestly gives me whiplash. there r downsides to it that people dont rly talk about bc i feel others would instantly shoot them down. i cant work out as much as i want to or do cardio because of how fast i lose weight. i feel that women see a bigger difference in body changes when they stop trying to confine to beauty standards that has mainly been made by men and corporations and instead focus on being stronger, and building their body up so they can function when they are older and also eating more beef!
This was just what I needed today! Thank you. I have issues with the number on the scale. It’s so dumb (isn’t even a crazy high number!), but I dropped a lot of weight and went from a size 10/8 to a size 4 but it wasn’t in a healthy way. This was 4 years ago. I’ve been trying to just maintain, but really wanted to add muscle and focus on protein in my diet as I got into learning all about health (one reason i found your channel) and wanted my girls to see their mom as healthy and happy, not as “skinny”. I don’t want them focused on rolls, or numbers, I want them focused on how they feel in their bodies and if they are healthy! So i fight my mindset on the numbers. I have a scale that measures (as best as you can anyway) your muscles and fat and all that, which is why I get on it mainly. I started working out with weights 1.5 years ago and fell in love with it! So of course my numbers went up! Still in my size 4 clothes (I really was trying for this because I can’t afford a new wardrobe and got rid of my other clothes because I didn’t want to store them and have a mindset of always thinking I’ll gain it all back 😂) so I take that as a good sign. Lol so I was feeling discouraged and trying to tell myself this was ok! I feel great! That number is nothing unless I’m feeling that my body is trying to warn me about something being wrong! I’m 38 and 5’7”, 3 kids (almost all teens now) and i’m in the best shape of my life so I can do things with them and not feel exhausted and sore! That’s my goal, not a number i see flashed on a scale. 🥰 Thanks again for this chat. ❤
Your content is some of the only social media content that's helped me as I've been working away body dysmorphia. Love your relatable, no nonsense attitude. I had some bad body image issues for the first time in years when I started working in-person again post-pandemic lockdowns. Had gotten into weight lifting and fitness during that time and loved how I felt, and therefore, looked in my exercise outfits (booty shorts & fitted tank) but now my work clothes didn't fit right and I felt super frumpy, schlubby and large in those. Once I got some better fitting clothes, I felt so much better and more confident at work. TBH, it also looked better even though my body hadn't changed, just the clothes. Highly recommend people do what you do did and just buy one in every color once you find something that fits and feels great!
Thank you so much for discussing this topic! I am in the same boat of reconsidering if my modesty is also used to hide certain body “flaws”. I wear pump covers and waist length tops to the gym not only because I feel more comfortable in them but they also cover my lower belly. Even in old pics of when I was really fit, my lower belly wasn’t as noticeable as I thought it was. I even remember wearing jeans during the hot, sweltering summers years ago because I hated my legs until I decided that was ridiculous. I slowly wore shorts to the gym to get over that personal judgement and I don’t worry about my legs anymore. It helped me to think kindly towards my body bc it performs incredible feats to keep me alive and functioning.
Thank you for being willing to share your vulnerabilities in this space with us and normalizing these feelings. I think this is one of the reasons I've gravitated towards home workouts. In exercise clothing at a shared gym, I'm always self-conscious about underwear lines or my shirt falling out of place, or awkward angles in general. I have access now to a free workout space through work that would allow me to try more equipment I don't have access to at home, but need to get over the self-consciousness first.
I’m in my mid 30s now, and the “damage” is done already as far as signs of aging goes. I too am very expressive! I love smiling and laughing, and the lines on my face show everyone that 😊 But it’s 90% a money issue 😂 I don’t have the money for Botox or facials or whatever. But it’s also a fear of having a bad reaction to something. I don’t want to do something that cannot be undone or stopped immediately in case of a bad reaction
Getting older, having women friends who are older, competing in sports - these have all improved my body image. I still don't always love how I work but I generally like how I move, how reliable my body has become, and I've come to realize that - as the saying goes - how my body looks is indeed the least interesting thing about me. And if you think it is, you're probably not in my life.
This was so important to listen to-I have a lot of body dysmorphia because I’ve lost around 80lbs over the last few years and while I’m now straight sized(a size 6/8), I’m always thinking about about my rolls when I workout wearing a crop top and leggings or shorts. But I have to realize, I have rolls even when I’m fully covered. They aren’t gone, they’re just hidden. I’ve worked hard to have the body I have now and I’m still working hard to build muscle.
Thank you for showing this part of yourself. I also have this, with my tummy. And lately also arms. And legs and bum (was actually happy when big bums became a thing). Finally, I had something that was trendy / desired. When I was little (including in high-school and later on in university) I was bullied for being a little bit more fat than the average super skinny girl out there. I thought about myself as being fat my whole life (which now looking back at the photos, I was not). Including my ex-boyfriend said I have too thick legs. Lately, I started to accept myself. Changed the people I surround myself with. But still have many periods in which I judge my body harshly... And it hurts. I did this 99% of my life. I wish I were one of those tall & skinny types without a care in the world... But I am not. And I need to accept myself the way I am. And these kinds of videos help a lot. I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤
Solidarity 🫡 As someone who also grew up not quite “fat” but “chunky” it’s so hard to look back and see what size I was then compared to now after 5 kids 😂. Like I wish I was as fat as I was when I thought I was a fat teenager lol. It’s hard to get out of that mindset but I’m trying to focus on healthy for me, not “skinny” anymore. I still want to lose weight because being 40lbs heavier on a 5’3 frame is a lot to carry, but I’m never going to be “skinny” and I’m just accepting that
Very relatable, thank you for sharing on this topic. I am with you, now that I am older I don’t want to be like everyone else and I have decided to just age gracefully
Probably the most thought-provoking content I have seen on this topic. Also sidenote, my hair is the same texture as yours so I was super impressed by how fast you curled your hair😂❤
Wowwww this is so relatable. I think we all struggle with insecurities about our bodies and/or faces, but I truly cannot imagine having my job consist of regularly watching myself back on video. So bravo to you for being able to do that without getting to the point of doing anything drastic. P.S. I’m regularly in awe of your teeth/smile 😁
Im in my 50s and lived thru all of the hell of the 80s and 90s when body image wasnt talked about like it is now. I prefer to keep myself covered. I dont even like form fitting but have to for things like pilates. I was never heavily religious or had issues with what I look like. And my adult daughters have very different styles than I do. They have no issues wearing tank tops and shorter shorts. I think its wonderful especially considering the messaging theyve grown up seeing.
Loved hearing your thoughts on this! I've also never felt comfortable only wearing a sports bra and leggings no matter what size I've been, and this discomfort always been something I'm ashamed of. But hearing you talk about your relationship with it gives me a lot of food for thought!
I struggle with it too! But maybe it’s simply okay to not be comfortable? I don’t have the answers but I’m super happy to open the door to conversation:)
I know this was 5 months ago… watching it now. Just wanted to say you r so pretty. I’ve always liked your smile 😊. Thank you for educating me on fitness and other things in the mix. I’m 19 and you are my role model. Thank you for everything 🩷 I needed this
I lost over 120 lbs and by some absolute miracle that I can't explain, I have almost no loose skin at all -- except a little bit mid-way down my thighs, and it is my biggest insecurity, I live in a hot climate but I won't wear anything shorter than bermuda length shorts. I can't get past it. I ordered 3" inseam running shorts but they haven't arrived yet. I have no idea how to leave my house in them. It is like impossible.
First of all, congrats to you for reaching a huge goal of yours! Secondly, stuff like this is so hard and tricky to navigate. Im not equipped to help you in that way outside of sharing my own experience. But I truly hope you are able to find comfort with how your body looks and are able to appreciate your hard work ❤️
I always thought your outfits were very deliberate. Without being too modest so we can't see your form, they combat the ideas that we have to look a certain way or dress a certain way to workout, be athletic, or just be worthy of taking care of ourselves. And sort of an unspoken pushback against other creators doing ab and muscle pics when selling their programs. But if you want to wear more or less in your content, you do it!
I read something once, but it was something along the line of: ' While you are busy worrying about what other people will think of you, other people will be busy worrying about what people think of them'. Also, i love how you said that you didn't get work done because of money. If you (people in general) start messing with your face because of all the imperfections, i feel like there's always going to be something that needs to be fixed, like an endless circle, and you're never going to be happy with yourself cause all you will see are the imperfections that need to be changed. People like *cough* Kylie Jenner and Heidi Montag are a good example of this. They were pressured into doing surgery because of their environment/conditionning/peer pressure/ expectations, and i feel they may regret it. Kylie because she was too young (consent, consequence, long lasting effect, etc.) and never got to grow into her features and Heidi because it was too many surgeries and all at once. It sad that because of the money they have done irreversible changes. Last thing (unrelated sorry)... did you brush your hair before curling it? Cause i always do.
Thanks for bringing this topic up Justina. You are beautiful as you are. In am 42 and i think getting old-er is a gift, i am embracing life and people surrounds me. Honestly, if everything is symetrical and perfect, we all will looks like robots. I think a few flaws here and there that is what makes us unique and beautiful is achieved when we feel happy about ourselves and accept and respect our body. Kindness matters❤
I'm old enough to remember when low-rise jeans were popular in the 2000s, but never got into that low-rise jeans and midriff shirt look because I've always had a belly pooch, and knew it would look more like a gut than a flat stomach. I'm more at peace now with my figure now at 40, but definitely wanted to be petite and slim and cute more in my youth. And I do notice the Gen Z fashion of a lot of midriff shirts, and do feel for the women who feel like they can't wear it or they'll be judged in a body shaming way.
I’m the same! I never really felt comfortable in the last 90s/early 00s clothes cause I always had a belly pouch my literal whole life and I grew up somewhere were everyone around me was thinner then me. I remember feeling judged if it wore shorts, I’m also struggling that since that what’s in fashion it’s been harder for me to find stuff that is fashionable but I feel comfortable in.
This is very relevant to me as I move thru my early thirties, looking in the mirror, resolving not to flinch. My thirties are a time to stay committed to life affirming values. When I'm tempted by body modifications, I think of myself as a child swinging on monkey bars. I just want to be closer to THAT feeling. ✌️
I can so relate. Selected pics from my shooting the other day this morning and dismissed all the pics in which I didn‘t like my waistline. I‘ve also spent so much time thinking whether it‘s disordered but I think it just stems from today‘s beauty standards and being in the sport and health industry.
It’s not the body it’s the brain. Yes! I’m the fittest I’ve ever been and it’s still a challenge to be fully comfortable. So, I more than understand that.
I’m just getting super comfortable in my skin and I’m 41 honestly getting off social media and into the gym has absolutely changed my mind about ME and my health is now the focus and my relationship with GOD ❤
The issue with a lot of social media platforms is the unrealistic beauty standards they promote and the effect this has on young people in particular. TikTok have admitted that their algorithms are designed to push down videos featuring people with physical imperfections and disabilities. As a result younger people, who may well spend more time interacting online than IRL (do people still say that? I am ancient 😂), are constantly shown people who look amazing but are sold the lie that this is what the average person looks like. Any wonder that they may be left with feelings of inadequacy?
I have been striving for body neutrality and also considering what my body can do. But I’m a work in progress, I still feel weird about the body fat I carry (which is “normal” and probably healthy). I will wear a bra and leggings to hot yoga and it was a challenge to myself, to feel comfortable in my own skin in that space, whether I was bloated or not. I also feel like I sometimes chase over people’s look with fashion and then end up not feeling like myself in those clothes! Huh! Wonder why. 😅
Lovely video! Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. Also, here's some validating, no bullshit, unapologetic stuff that I have the privilege of saying anonymously behind a screen: 1) I know it's not "the point," but people always look bigger on camera in photos. It's a classic trope, and it's totally true. If you're going to judge yourself, know that if even think you look "pretty good" on camera, you're probably a dream version of yourself in real life. I tend to think we can all be a bit vain, and so I can imagine it might suck even in the teeniest way sometimes that most people who "know" (of) you know you through a screen, so they're always going to see the +5 lbs (or whatever) Justina, but that brings me to #2. (#1.5 is, if any part of me is judging size, it's your freakin' amazing muscle). 2) In the event there's any remaining self-conciousness, it's true, some people can judge, and that's reflective of their own (crappy) reality. I never noticed your teeth or a roll pooch out, but I would ABSOLUTELY have judged those in the depths of my own ED. I was body checking EVERYONE along with myself, finding in them my own insecurities. And honestly, sometimes, it felt good to see someone beautiful and confident in their XYZ (mine was cellulite); it gave me permission to "wear the damn shorts" too. So bless any roll-ing that occurs, but all the good people who love and follow you aren't necessarily seeing that, or if they happen to, they're not considering it a "flaw". Flaws are for haters. 3) I'll be a hater - I FREAKIN' HATE PERFECT TEETH, CAN THAT GO AWAY?! I LOVE originality in teeth (and I had braces too, but they shifted back a bit, and I like them!). I like when one pokes out, or front teeth lean in, in fact I saw the biggest sweetest smile on a guy with a huge chip in one of his front teeth, and he carried that off LIKE A PRO. Again, whoever is judging has to look at their own values and ask who is really the problem. I realize that includes me - if you have perfect veneers, I think you look like an alien trying to be a human, and that's my own wasted energy trying to avoid you and the anal probe you're carrying. xo
Your teeth are adorable, as you keep saying you do you. Also never noticed it until you pointed out because you have such a commanding presence with your confidence ❤. Also I knew a long time ago due to my genetics my hair was gonna be gray by 40 - I started growing them when I was 20 so I have chosen to be excited rather then fear my grays because it’s part of what makes me….me
In 2021 I was diagnosed with Kidney disease and I began hemodialysis. While in hemodialys I developed an eating disorder because the dietitian I worked with was absolutely horrible. So I stopped eating everything except for scrambled eggs for 4 months out of fear of not being able to get a transplant. Of course this made me lose about 40 pounds, I felt like I could die any day because I felt so sick, and yet people would compliment me on losing weight (which made me feel awful because I wasn’t eating most days). In November of 2022 I received a kidney transplant and gained 30 pounds back. I may look like a carved up pumpkin, but I survived it all. And now I have my bachelors in Dietetics and currently working on my Masters to become an RDN. It feels good to feel confident about my body and health for the first time since junior high!
Congrats on your transplant and the food freedom that comes with it! I remember when my mom was on dialysis for many years and her diet was so tough and very restrictive.
I loved this video! Kind of related but I have a big ass gray hair coming out and it doesn't bother me at all but people point it out like if I didn't know . Because they think if I knew , then clearly I'd have pulled it out. I almost want to pull it out just to not hear a comment 🙄🙄 but the fact that they act like it's not supposed to be there bugs me. I'm okay with gray hair ! I'm 29 I know I'm not old. It doesn't mean anything. But people judge the look of someone based off that stuff
Rock those gray hairs! It’s all genetics especially for people blessed with Dark hair! I’ve been getting grays since I was 20 and I literally don’t care! It’s what I love about where I live, people are a lot more pro the natural look here so everyone wears their grays with pride❤. Because the color of your hair or how it looks only matters how you care not anyone else 😊
My mom was fully grey before she graduated college. It was in the 60s so i cant even imagine the comments she got. But she dyed it I think she said maybe twice. Otherwise she embraced it. Now, grey hair is trendy on young people. I'm 41, I've had streaks of grey since i was 16 and I dye my hair but not to cover the grey but because I like experimenting with colors. People need to learn to mind their own business more.
Fellow last name keeper over here! I'm proud of us. That resonated with me bc my last name is also unusual (not my avatar name) but it's ME so I kept it dammit
Even for those of us who have always been thin, body image is such an issue. I never have had a lot of breast tissue, so I always avoid plunging necklines because you can see my sternum. My ex told me I could go buy myself some “airbags” and go buy myself a tan (I’m very pale and burn in the sun) and I needed to go to the gym to “build him an ass.” I did and do go to the gym, but I go for myself. And he was always criticizing how it didn’t look like I was working out enough because I “still don’t have a butt.” So yeah. That relationship is done. But I’ve told myself similar things throughout my life, so him saying those things reopened the self-criticisms I’ve been working to get beyond.
I am always trying to unpack. With all the weight I’ve lost I am still not to my goal and I have to check why I want to get there and can I be happy with where I am. I also have only recently felt comfortable wearing leggings and sports bras or certain things in style now because I thought I couldn’t wear it before because of my body.
I am a Pastor's daughter and raised fairly strictly as well and now as an adult I still really struggle with so much stuff. I only recently delved into wearing a bikini to a beach and now I just find it way more comfortable than covering up completely and even so, every time I wear a bikini I struggle with does this make me a "bad" Christian? It can be so hard!
lol, I'm busy doing my nails while I watch this , so I suppose that is one of the things I do for myself (also, it's therapeutic) 😄 I do struggle a lot with body dysmorphia, that's why I generally avoid taking selfies, and I can't stand videos with me in them, and turning on my camera in meetings (that one's getting better, though). I'm actually considering seeing a therapist, because I know there are a lot more issues I need to sort out (I'm struggling with heavy burnout right now)
Had similar issues and went to a therapist specializing in body image and eating disorders. It was extremely hard for me to confront my vulnerabilities but has helped so much.
What are your thoughts on yoga ball exercise chairs? I have an issue with TH-cam Tube influencers showing a lot of cleavage but as you say to each his or her own.
Great video and well presented. Just a side note, love the Lululemon myself but then I discovered CRZ Yoga, a Lululemon dupe with exactly the same material at a third of the price ... you can stock up on those tops :)
I do that too, notice that my stomach is smaller in the morning. Tbh, most of the fitness instructors I follow wear the longer tops. I think you should wear what you are comfortable wearing. My 22 year old daughter has a cute figure, but I feel like her self esteem is tied up in showing it off. It’s tough out there for young women.
You always look amazing. Really Adorable always 😊 I am at age 57, completely embracing aging gracefully 🩷 and exercise for better health, stronger bones and heart and functional fitness. 💪🏻
Such great points. Can we be friends? :) I rarely comment on any videos but I couldn't help but say thank you for speaking up on this. As someone who also struggled with heavily disordered eating for almost all of my life and just now feeling more balanced with food at 36, your message is what I wish someone would have told me growing up. You have inspired me to pursue personal training and feel confident in knowing that I don't have to be absolutely shredded or lean to be a good coach. Thank you!
Because of a huge weight loss, I have a lot of loose skin. I would lie if I say it didn’t bother me sometimes. But I’m also too afraid and poor to correct it 😂 But at the same time I’m also proud of how far I’ve come in my health and fitness journey. So who cares if I have some loose skin 🤷♀️
I never show skin either. I think it has to do with the fact that I got harrassed a lot when I was a teenager, I just don't want to draw attention to myself, especially when it comes to my body. It sucks but I don't think I will ever be able to change it
I love you for this. It took me a long time to realize these things, and I hope your content reaches some younger girls who need to hear it. Surgery has become so mainstream and so accessible to middle class high school girls and it's scary. I have clients in a middle school who have already got filler in their lips and 1 even got. nose job on her perfectly beautiful face. I really hope she doesn't regret it but I can't imagine she won't. Permanently modifying yourself to fit a trend or look more like a celebrity is whatever if you're a fully grown adult, but these poor girls need therapy, not surgery.
I'm in a femme fitness forum & every second post is 20-something girls asking how to get a big ass with a tiny waist. They come in with fitfluencer example pictures & they're are all either blatantly photoshopped or the fitfluencer has a BBL/padding. No natural human with a spine looks like that, yet it's the ideal body they want.
I am 65 years old and learning to accept the aging process. So much is genetics but I am dealing with it with proper nutrition and exercise. I love my parents and grandparents but they haven’t done me any favours. 😂
Thanks for this video. I am a fitness instructor, and always be in front of the people with workout clothes. Want to be look fabulous but as you mentioned, sometimes really puffy and bloated. Also I always check how I look like and it is actually very tiring even though I want to be the fittest look in the room…. 🥲 Just make myself free from the anxiety. 🙃
I was anorexic as a teenager and now I am 58. I am not physically anorexic but the mindset is always there in the background. We all have some triggers. I feel badly now for younger people who have things besides magazines to potentially make themselves feel shitty about themselves. I was a fitness instructor for 28 years and the areas I taught in on Long Island were rife with eating disorders. I left that career at 48 and have a home gym and became a Respiratory Therapist and am much happier. Also, as you have said, almost ALL the posts etc are filtered. Thanks again for your common sense and educated opinion!
Thank you for sharing part of your story!
I’m 41 and I couldn’t agree more with 100%. I’m always amazed at how those with Ana are so similar. And when you’re older you have more perspective
You hit the nail on the head when you mentioned the mindset always being there in the back of your mind... Anorexia is a mental disorder and the physical appearance changing is just a result of that. However, just because we recover physically doesn't mean our minds are healed... I totally get it, and it is exactly what made me relapse about a year ago (I am fully recovered physically now, luckily).
But a year ago, I was also in recovery, slowly gaining weight and looking more 'normal' again. I felt so alone with my thoughts, my bodydismorphia and the fact that my physical appearance did not represent how I felt, how sick my mind really was, that I totally relapsed to the point of being too thin again.
I guess it kind of was a cry for help or something...
Anyways, sorry for my rambling here lol but I understand you.
I really hope you can keep those thoughts inside your head as small as possible, as they do not deserve any of your attention!❤
@RakisDerra never gove up. I was lucky not to completely relapse and at 58, I am more at peace. Thank you for sharing your struggles and triumphs and remember you are WORTHY of living a healthy life!!
What makes me the most sad about cosmetic procedures is that everyone just looks the same to me 😢 I’m almost 41 and I love watching movies from the 90s when actors didn’t all look the same… and before social media.
100%!
What's really helped me is doing a weigh in every Tuesday. My ED coach recommended I predict what I think I'll weigh and record that and my actual weight in a spreadsheet. And by tracking it once a week, I am able to see my natural body trends of when I'm naturally bloated bc of ovulation or menstruation and I weigh more during those cycle phases. And it goes down a bit during my luteal phase. I eat regularly when my body signals hunger cues. There's a lot more I do but I feel so much better about myself and my body bc of these things.
I love that you found a tool that works for you!
Love this video, I think this discussion is super important.
"It's a privilege to age" 💙 10/10
THIS
Not everyone gets to "age" -- to live long(er). 💯
People are allowed to do whatever they want to their bodies but I am SO SICK of people getting online, listing all the things they've got done, describing how "bad" they looked before, and then ending with "but I'm just talking about me! Everyone is beautiful the way they are!" like babe your actions speak MUCH louder than your words and while I'm not going to say people can't alter their bodies to fit beauty standards, it undoubtedly has a negative effect on the people consuming that content.
Am I the only one who thinks the imperfects plus calm confidence = attractive/hot? I find imperfections like uneven teeth or gaps or freckles or uneven whatever plus an attitude that is not focused on that ... that is so cool to me...
Also I think the performance of beauty (or "health" whatever you want to call) it is tied into having wealth, leisure time and privilege. It is part of the wonderful wheel of capitalism. I'm starting to realize that our feelings about our body are similar to the dream of wanting a big house and white picket fence.
Agree! 100%
You reached 50k plus subscribers, HOORRAY.🎉🎉🎉
Thank you!
I've basically been considered short since I was a teenager. Also, when I was younger, I was very skinny. I tried to build myself up with food and weight training, but ultimately developed an unhealthy relationship with food that led to me being significantly overweight as an adult. Since then though, I've discovered some physical capacities I was unaware of and some benefits to my size. I work as a truck driver, and being short, it makes it easier for me to live and work in the cab. Also, when I worked in industrial cleaning and was reasonably fit, I would sometimes get called on jobs just because I could fit in some of the vessels that taller or larger guys couldn't. I also discovered that, for my age, size, fitness experience, and injury history, I was actually pretty darn good at deadlifts and pull-ups as well as showing a pretty significant aerobic capacity on the elliptical machine. My journey would have been very different if I knew what I was capable of and what the future would have in store. What I try to tell my kids is to love the body they have and the wonderful things that it can do.
Love that message for your kids!
I have never had a desire to workout in just a sports bra and leggings because *to me* it feels like just wearing your undergarments in public. Like, I wouldn't go out into the world in my underwear and bra without a shirt on, I don't want to workout that way either. I feel like a lot of fitness influencers make it seem like we should *all* want to dress like that to work out and if someone wants to, then they absolutely should. But we don't all have to want that.
Yesss understanding how things feel TO YOU is so important!
This is very relatable. My weight has fluctuated so much over the years. I've gone from obese to super skinny and everywhere in between. When I was skinny I was treated so much better by just about everyone even though I had a severe eating disorder, was over-exercising and constantly sick or injured. But that didn't matter, I looked great so people assumed I was healthy. Now I'm in the healthy weight category but definitely on the bigger side. I would love to be super skinny again but it's just not possible for me whilst maintaining a healthy, balanced lifestyle. Slowly learning to be okay with that. Love your videos Justina!
Thank you for sharing your story!
Right. Body shapes as trends are nuts! I get changing hair, makeup and clothes. And that Align top is my favorite too. I have 4. Perfect length, and the diagonal seams on the back are so flattering.
It’s SUCH A GOOD TOP!
Really love the honesty ❤ I was in a cycling accident and now have a mustache scar and teeth implants. I've just delved into the world of makeup, but learning to live and be happy with new imperfections and be grateful it wasn't worse
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as someone who is skinny naturally (i am also tall) being skinny definitely does not solve your body issue problems. i feel like society as a whole (but mainly women who r obsessed with dieting) view it that if your skinny you'll be confident and all ur insecurities will vanish, but its just not true. i have a fast metabolism, genetics but also bc of childhood trauma, cptsd and trauma, gaining weight is rly hard. my dad used to pick on me because of it. friends would always comment on my body (not in a positive way), but then u have older family members turning around saying ur look like a model and then compare themselves to me and it does not make me feel better about myself at all. and it honestly gives me whiplash.
there r downsides to it that people dont rly talk about bc i feel others would instantly shoot them down. i cant work out as much as i want to or do cardio because of how fast i lose weight.
i feel that women see a bigger difference in body changes when they stop trying to confine to beauty standards that has mainly been made by men and corporations and instead focus on being stronger, and building their body up so they can function when they are older and also eating more beef!
This was just what I needed today! Thank you. I have issues with the number on the scale. It’s so dumb (isn’t even a crazy high number!), but I dropped a lot of weight and went from a size 10/8 to a size 4 but it wasn’t in a healthy way. This was 4 years ago. I’ve been trying to just maintain, but really wanted to add muscle and focus on protein in my diet as I got into learning all about health (one reason i found your channel) and wanted my girls to see their mom as healthy and happy, not as “skinny”. I don’t want them focused on rolls, or numbers, I want them focused on how they feel in their bodies and if they are healthy! So i fight my mindset on the numbers. I have a scale that measures (as best as you can anyway) your muscles and fat and all that, which is why I get on it mainly. I started working out with weights 1.5 years ago and fell in love with it! So of course my numbers went up! Still in my size 4 clothes (I really was trying for this because I can’t afford a new wardrobe and got rid of my other clothes because I didn’t want to store them and have a mindset of always thinking I’ll gain it all back 😂) so I take that as a good sign. Lol so I was feeling discouraged and trying to tell myself this was ok! I feel great! That number is nothing unless I’m feeling that my body is trying to warn me about something being wrong! I’m 38 and 5’7”, 3 kids (almost all teens now) and i’m in the best shape of my life so I can do things with them and not feel exhausted and sore! That’s my goal, not a number i see flashed on a scale. 🥰 Thanks again for this chat. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing!
Your content is some of the only social media content that's helped me as I've been working away body dysmorphia. Love your relatable, no nonsense attitude. I had some bad body image issues for the first time in years when I started working in-person again post-pandemic lockdowns. Had gotten into weight lifting and fitness during that time and loved how I felt, and therefore, looked in my exercise outfits (booty shorts & fitted tank) but now my work clothes didn't fit right and I felt super frumpy, schlubby and large in those. Once I got some better fitting clothes, I felt so much better and more confident at work. TBH, it also looked better even though my body hadn't changed, just the clothes. Highly recommend people do what you do did and just buy one in every color once you find something that fits and feels great!
I am so honored to have helped you in some way! Thank you for being here ❤️
Thank you so much for discussing this topic!
I am in the same boat of reconsidering if my modesty is also used to hide certain body “flaws”. I wear pump covers and waist length tops to the gym not only because I feel more comfortable in them but they also cover my lower belly. Even in old pics of when I was really fit, my lower belly wasn’t as noticeable as I thought it was.
I even remember wearing jeans during the hot, sweltering summers years ago because I hated my legs until I decided that was ridiculous. I slowly wore shorts to the gym to get over that personal judgement and I don’t worry about my legs anymore. It helped me to think kindly towards my body bc it performs incredible feats to keep me alive and functioning.
Love that you’re working toward loving your body!
Thank you for being willing to share your vulnerabilities in this space with us and normalizing these feelings.
I think this is one of the reasons I've gravitated towards home workouts. In exercise clothing at a shared gym, I'm always self-conscious about underwear lines or my shirt falling out of place, or awkward angles in general. I have access now to a free workout space through work that would allow me to try more equipment I don't have access to at home, but need to get over the self-consciousness first.
Totally valid feelings! And I love that you’ve found something to do at home that gives you a safe space 🥰
I’m in my mid 30s now, and the “damage” is done already as far as signs of aging goes. I too am very expressive! I love smiling and laughing, and the lines on my face show everyone that 😊
But it’s 90% a money issue 😂 I don’t have the money for Botox or facials or whatever. But it’s also a fear of having a bad reaction to something. I don’t want to do something that cannot be undone or stopped immediately in case of a bad reaction
Yessss the money! Also I resonate with that fear of doing permanent damage.
Getting older, having women friends who are older, competing in sports - these have all improved my body image. I still don't always love how I work but I generally like how I move, how reliable my body has become, and I've come to realize that - as the saying goes - how my body looks is indeed the least interesting thing about me. And if you think it is, you're probably not in my life.
Yessss 100%!
This was so important to listen to-I have a lot of body dysmorphia because I’ve lost around 80lbs over the last few years and while I’m now straight sized(a size 6/8), I’m always thinking about about my rolls when I workout wearing a crop top and leggings or shorts.
But I have to realize, I have rolls even when I’m fully covered. They aren’t gone, they’re just hidden.
I’ve worked hard to have the body I have now and I’m still working hard to build muscle.
I love this mindset shift ❤️
Thank you for showing this part of yourself.
I also have this, with my tummy. And lately also arms. And legs and bum (was actually happy when big bums became a thing). Finally, I had something that was trendy / desired.
When I was little (including in high-school and later on in university) I was bullied for being a little bit more fat than the average super skinny girl out there. I thought about myself as being fat my whole life (which now looking back at the photos, I was not). Including my ex-boyfriend said I have too thick legs.
Lately, I started to accept myself. Changed the people I surround myself with. But still have many periods in which I judge my body harshly... And it hurts. I did this 99% of my life. I wish I were one of those tall & skinny types without a care in the world... But I am not. And I need to accept myself the way I am.
And these kinds of videos help a lot. I needed to hear this. Thank you ❤
I’m so glad it resonated with you ❤️
Solidarity 🫡
As someone who also grew up not quite “fat” but “chunky” it’s so hard to look back and see what size I was then compared to now after 5 kids 😂. Like I wish I was as fat as I was when I thought I was a fat teenager lol. It’s hard to get out of that mindset but I’m trying to focus on healthy for me, not “skinny” anymore. I still want to lose weight because being 40lbs heavier on a 5’3 frame is a lot to carry, but I’m never going to be “skinny” and I’m just accepting that
This is super relatable...there's so much gray area in these discussions and it's hard to find clarity. I appreciate you sharing your process ❤
Thanks so much for watching!
Very relatable, thank you for sharing on this topic. I am with you, now that I am older I don’t want to be like everyone else and I have decided to just age gracefully
Love that ❤️
Probably the most thought-provoking content I have seen on this topic. Also sidenote, my hair is the same texture as yours so I was super impressed by how fast you curled your hair😂❤
I’m so glad you enjoyed!
Wowwww this is so relatable. I think we all struggle with insecurities about our bodies and/or faces, but I truly cannot imagine having my job consist of regularly watching myself back on video. So bravo to you for being able to do that without getting to the point of doing anything drastic. P.S. I’m regularly in awe of your teeth/smile 😁
Aww thank you ❤️
Im in my 50s and lived thru all of the hell of the 80s and 90s when body image wasnt talked about like it is now. I prefer to keep myself covered. I dont even like form fitting but have to for things like pilates. I was never heavily religious or had issues with what I look like. And my adult daughters have very different styles than I do. They have no issues wearing tank tops and shorter shorts. I think its wonderful especially considering the messaging theyve grown up seeing.
I’m so happy your daughters don’t seem too affected by the same body image issues a lot of us grew up with!
Loved hearing your thoughts on this! I've also never felt comfortable only wearing a sports bra and leggings no matter what size I've been, and this discomfort always been something I'm ashamed of. But hearing you talk about your relationship with it gives me a lot of food for thought!
I struggle with it too! But maybe it’s simply okay to not be comfortable? I don’t have the answers but I’m super happy to open the door to conversation:)
Such an important topic. Appreciate you being so open about it! ❤
Thank you 🥰
I know this was 5 months ago… watching it now. Just wanted to say you r so pretty. I’ve always liked your smile 😊. Thank you for educating me on fitness and other things in the mix. I’m 19 and you are my role model. Thank you for everything 🩷 I needed this
Aw thank you!!
I lost over 120 lbs and by some absolute miracle that I can't explain, I have almost no loose skin at all -- except a little bit mid-way down my thighs, and it is my biggest insecurity, I live in a hot climate but I won't wear anything shorter than bermuda length shorts. I can't get past it. I ordered 3" inseam running shorts but they haven't arrived yet. I have no idea how to leave my house in them. It is like impossible.
First of all, congrats to you for reaching a huge goal of yours! Secondly, stuff like this is so hard and tricky to navigate. Im not equipped to help you in that way outside of sharing my own experience. But I truly hope you are able to find comfort with how your body looks and are able to appreciate your hard work ❤️
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for watching!
Thanks for sharing how you feel about the focus on body image. It is a complicated issue, which requires kind and open conversations.❤
It’s sooooo complicated!
I so needed this video ❤ And as someone who lost her dad to cancer when he was only 50, "aging is a privilege" is my mantra these days
Sending you a big hug ❤️
This was such an important discussion...
Thank you!
You’re so welcome!
I always loved your last name!! And I thought it was even cooler when you mentioned that it's Hercules in English😍🤩
Haha yes!! It’s my fave thing about it :)
I always thought your outfits were very deliberate. Without being too modest so we can't see your form, they combat the ideas that we have to look a certain way or dress a certain way to workout, be athletic, or just be worthy of taking care of ourselves. And sort of an unspoken pushback against other creators doing ab and muscle pics when selling their programs. But if you want to wear more or less in your content, you do it!
not deliberate in any way except making sure I feel comfy :)
I read something once, but it was something along the line of: ' While you are busy worrying about what other people will think of you, other people will be busy worrying about what people think of them'.
Also, i love how you said that you didn't get work done because of money. If you (people in general) start messing with your face because of all the imperfections, i feel like there's always going to be something that needs to be fixed, like an endless circle, and you're never going to be happy with yourself cause all you will see are the imperfections that need to be changed. People like *cough* Kylie Jenner and Heidi Montag are a good example of this. They were pressured into doing surgery because of their environment/conditionning/peer pressure/ expectations, and i feel they may regret it. Kylie because she was too young (consent, consequence, long lasting effect, etc.) and never got to grow into her features and Heidi because it was too many surgeries and all at once. It sad that because of the money they have done irreversible changes.
Last thing (unrelated sorry)... did you brush your hair before curling it? Cause i always do.
Such great points! And I can’t brush my hair much because it gets WILDLY frizzy 🦁
Thanks for bringing this topic up Justina. You are beautiful as you are. In am 42 and i think getting old-er is a gift, i am embracing life and people surrounds me.
Honestly, if everything is symetrical and perfect, we all will looks like robots. I think a few flaws here and there that is what makes us unique and beautiful is achieved when we feel happy about ourselves and accept and respect our body. Kindness matters❤
i agree! "flaws" make us beautiful :)
It took me decades to get to where you are. Good for you, kid. 🙂
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I'm old enough to remember when low-rise jeans were popular in the 2000s, but never got into that low-rise jeans and midriff shirt look because I've always had a belly pooch, and knew it would look more like a gut than a flat stomach. I'm more at peace now with my figure now at 40, but definitely wanted to be petite and slim and cute more in my youth. And I do notice the Gen Z fashion of a lot of midriff shirts, and do feel for the women who feel like they can't wear it or they'll be judged in a body shaming way.
I’m the same! I never really felt comfortable in the last 90s/early 00s clothes cause I always had a belly pouch my literal whole life and I grew up somewhere were everyone around me was thinner then me. I remember feeling judged if it wore shorts, I’m also struggling that since that what’s in fashion it’s been harder for me to find stuff that is fashionable but I feel comfortable in.
Oooooof I also remember those times as an 80s baby!
This is very relevant to me as I move thru my early thirties, looking in the mirror, resolving not to flinch. My thirties are a time to stay committed to life affirming values. When I'm tempted by body modifications, I think of myself as a child swinging on monkey bars. I just want to be closer to THAT feeling. ✌️
Oof that hit me hard ❤️
I can so relate. Selected pics from my shooting the other day this morning and dismissed all the pics in which I didn‘t like my waistline. I‘ve also spent so much time thinking whether it‘s disordered but I think it just stems from today‘s beauty standards and being in the sport and health industry.
100%!
It’s not the body it’s the brain. Yes! I’m the fittest I’ve ever been and it’s still a challenge to be fully comfortable. So, I more than understand that.
I’m just getting super comfortable in my skin and I’m 41 honestly getting off social media and into the gym has absolutely changed my mind about ME and my health is now the focus and my relationship with GOD ❤
The issue with a lot of social media platforms is the unrealistic beauty standards they promote and the effect this has on young people in particular. TikTok have admitted that their algorithms are designed to push down videos featuring people with physical imperfections and disabilities. As a result younger people, who may well spend more time interacting online than IRL (do people still say that? I am ancient 😂), are constantly shown people who look amazing but are sold the lie that this is what the average person looks like. Any wonder that they may be left with feelings of inadequacy?
Yesss this!
I have been striving for body neutrality and also considering what my body can do. But I’m a work in progress, I still feel weird about the body fat I carry (which is “normal” and probably healthy). I will wear a bra and leggings to hot yoga and it was a challenge to myself, to feel comfortable in my own skin in that space, whether I was bloated or not. I also feel like I sometimes chase over people’s look with fashion and then end up not feeling like myself in those clothes! Huh! Wonder why. 😅
Thanks for sharing your experience!
Lovely video! Thank you for sharing and being vulnerable. Also, here's some validating, no bullshit, unapologetic stuff that I have the privilege of saying anonymously behind a screen:
1) I know it's not "the point," but people always look bigger on camera in photos. It's a classic trope, and it's totally true. If you're going to judge yourself, know that if even think you look "pretty good" on camera, you're probably a dream version of yourself in real life. I tend to think we can all be a bit vain, and so I can imagine it might suck even in the teeniest way sometimes that most people who "know" (of) you know you through a screen, so they're always going to see the +5 lbs (or whatever) Justina, but that brings me to #2.
(#1.5 is, if any part of me is judging size, it's your freakin' amazing muscle).
2) In the event there's any remaining self-conciousness, it's true, some people can judge, and that's reflective of their own (crappy) reality. I never noticed your teeth or a roll pooch out, but I would ABSOLUTELY have judged those in the depths of my own ED. I was body checking EVERYONE along with myself, finding in them my own insecurities. And honestly, sometimes, it felt good to see someone beautiful and confident in their XYZ (mine was cellulite); it gave me permission to "wear the damn shorts" too. So bless any roll-ing that occurs, but all the good people who love and follow you aren't necessarily seeing that, or if they happen to, they're not considering it a "flaw". Flaws are for haters.
3) I'll be a hater - I FREAKIN' HATE PERFECT TEETH, CAN THAT GO AWAY?! I LOVE originality in teeth (and I had braces too, but they shifted back a bit, and I like them!). I like when one pokes out, or front teeth lean in, in fact I saw the biggest sweetest smile on a guy with a huge chip in one of his front teeth, and he carried that off LIKE A PRO. Again, whoever is judging has to look at their own values and ask who is really the problem. I realize that includes me - if you have perfect veneers, I think you look like an alien trying to be a human, and that's my own wasted energy trying to avoid you and the anal probe you're carrying.
xo
Thank you for sharing this ❤️❤️❤️
Your teeth are adorable, as you keep saying you do you. Also never noticed it until you pointed out because you have such a commanding presence with your confidence ❤. Also I knew a long time ago due to my genetics my hair was gonna be gray by 40 - I started growing them when I was 20 so I have chosen to be excited rather then fear my grays because it’s part of what makes me….me
I feel like we can sometimes be our own worst critics!
In 2021 I was diagnosed with Kidney disease and I began hemodialysis. While in hemodialys I developed an eating disorder because the dietitian I worked with was absolutely horrible. So I stopped eating everything except for scrambled eggs for 4 months out of fear of not being able to get a transplant. Of course this made me lose about 40 pounds, I felt like I could die any day because I felt so sick, and yet people would compliment me on losing weight (which made me feel awful because I wasn’t eating most days). In November of 2022 I received a kidney transplant and gained 30 pounds back. I may look like a carved up pumpkin, but I survived it all. And now I have my bachelors in Dietetics and currently working on my Masters to become an RDN. It feels good to feel confident about my body and health for the first time since junior high!
Congrats on your transplant and the food freedom that comes with it! I remember when my mom was on dialysis for many years and her diet was so tough and very restrictive.
I loved this video!
Kind of related but I have a big ass gray hair coming out and it doesn't bother me at all but people point it out like if I didn't know . Because they think if I knew , then clearly I'd have pulled it out. I almost want to pull it out just to not hear a comment 🙄🙄 but the fact that they act like it's not supposed to be there bugs me. I'm okay with gray hair ! I'm 29 I know I'm not old. It doesn't mean anything. But people judge the look of someone based off that stuff
Rock those gray hairs! It’s all genetics especially for people blessed with Dark hair! I’ve been getting grays since I was 20 and I literally don’t care! It’s what I love about where I live, people are a lot more pro the natural look here so everyone wears their grays with pride❤. Because the color of your hair or how it looks only matters how you care not anyone else 😊
My mom was fully grey before she graduated college. It was in the 60s so i cant even imagine the comments she got. But she dyed it I think she said maybe twice. Otherwise she embraced it. Now, grey hair is trendy on young people. I'm 41, I've had streaks of grey since i was 16 and I dye my hair but not to cover the grey but because I like experimenting with colors.
People need to learn to mind their own business more.
Rock those greys!
Fellow last name keeper over here! I'm proud of us. That resonated with me bc my last name is also unusual (not my avatar name) but it's ME so I kept it dammit
Amen!
Even for those of us who have always been thin, body image is such an issue. I never have had a lot of breast tissue, so I always avoid plunging necklines because you can see my sternum. My ex told me I could go buy myself some “airbags” and go buy myself a tan (I’m very pale and burn in the sun) and I needed to go to the gym to “build him an ass.” I did and do go to the gym, but I go for myself. And he was always criticizing how it didn’t look like I was working out enough because I “still don’t have a butt.” So yeah. That relationship is done. But I’ve told myself similar things throughout my life, so him saying those things reopened the self-criticisms I’ve been working to get beyond.
I am always trying to unpack. With all the weight I’ve lost I am still not to my goal and I have to check why I want to get there and can I be happy with where I am. I also have only recently felt comfortable wearing leggings and sports bras or certain things in style now because I thought I couldn’t wear it before because of my body.
Yes yes yes checking in with your why along the way is super helpful!
I am a Pastor's daughter and raised fairly strictly as well and now as an adult I still really struggle with so much stuff. I only recently delved into wearing a bikini to a beach and now I just find it way more comfortable than covering up completely and even so, every time I wear a bikini I struggle with does this make me a "bad" Christian? It can be so hard!
It’s suuuuuuper hard to navigate!
lol, I'm busy doing my nails while I watch this , so I suppose that is one of the things I do for myself (also, it's therapeutic) 😄
I do struggle a lot with body dysmorphia, that's why I generally avoid taking selfies, and I can't stand videos with me in them, and turning on my camera in meetings (that one's getting better, though).
I'm actually considering seeing a therapist, because I know there are a lot more issues I need to sort out (I'm struggling with heavy burnout right now)
I think seeing a therapist can be super helpful!
Had similar issues and went to a therapist specializing in body image and eating disorders. It was extremely hard for me to confront my vulnerabilities but has helped so much.
@@kml2726 I will admit, I'm a bit scared of going, but I just feel that I need to go anyway 😅
Thanks for sharing your experience, I appreciate it!
What are your thoughts on yoga ball exercise chairs? I have an issue with TH-cam Tube influencers showing a lot of cleavage but as you say to each his or her own.
I actually have no knowledge of those chairs!
Great video and well presented. Just a side note, love the Lululemon myself but then I discovered CRZ Yoga, a Lululemon dupe with exactly the same material at a third of the price ... you can stock up on those tops :)
thanks!
I do that too, notice that my stomach is smaller in the morning. Tbh, most of the fitness instructors I follow wear the longer tops. I think you should wear what you are comfortable wearing. My 22 year old daughter has a cute figure, but I feel like her self esteem is tied up in showing it off. It’s tough out there for young women.
Love the video (also side note you have the best side effects on your videos!)
Thank you!
How can you tell if you have body dysmorphia or you're just be realistic about your body and others are trying to be nice/supportive? It's a struggle.
you don´t have wrinkles on your forhead - that´s your thinking six pack!
Hahahahahah wait I love this
You always look amazing. Really Adorable always 😊 I am at age 57, completely embracing aging gracefully 🩷 and exercise for better health, stronger bones and heart and functional fitness. 💪🏻
glad you're embracing it!
Such great points. Can we be friends? :) I rarely comment on any videos but I couldn't help but say thank you for speaking up on this. As someone who also struggled with heavily disordered eating for almost all of my life and just now feeling more balanced with food at 36, your message is what I wish someone would have told me growing up.
You have inspired me to pursue personal training and feel confident in knowing that I don't have to be absolutely shredded or lean to be a good coach. Thank you!
Yes we can!! I’m so happy to have helped, even if it’s in a small way ❤️
Love this. Stephanie Lange has a channel dedicated to this topic. Highly recommend checking it out.
I'll check it out!
Because of a huge weight loss, I have a lot of loose skin. I would lie if I say it didn’t bother me sometimes. But I’m also too afraid and poor to correct it 😂
But at the same time I’m also proud of how far I’ve come in my health and fitness journey. So who cares if I have some loose skin 🤷♀️
I'm so proud of you too!!
I never show skin either. I think it has to do with the fact that I got harrassed a lot when I was a teenager, I just don't want to draw attention to myself, especially when it comes to my body. It sucks but I don't think I will ever be able to change it
Maybe one day! But also, maybe not and that's perfectly fine :)
I love you for this. It took me a long time to realize these things, and I hope your content reaches some younger girls who need to hear it. Surgery has become so mainstream and so accessible to middle class high school girls and it's scary. I have clients in a middle school who have already got filler in their lips and 1 even got. nose job on her perfectly beautiful face. I really hope she doesn't regret it but I can't imagine she won't.
Permanently modifying yourself to fit a trend or look more like a celebrity is whatever if you're a fully grown adult, but these poor girls need therapy, not surgery.
Agreed! Thank you for watching ❤️
8:33 you do? because i asked you this and you said you use sunscreen only.
I use cleanser, serum, moisturizer, and sunscreen :)
I'm in a femme fitness forum & every second post is 20-something girls asking how to get a big ass with a tiny waist. They come in with fitfluencer example pictures & they're are all either blatantly photoshopped or the fitfluencer has a BBL/padding. No natural human with a spine looks like that, yet it's the ideal body they want.
Oof I hope they are able to step back and reassess what they want!
I am 65 years old and learning to accept the aging process. So much is genetics but I am dealing with it with proper nutrition and exercise. I love my parents and grandparents but they haven’t done me any favours. 😂
I'm glad you're accepting it and yourself!
You don't need makeup
I know, I like makeup.
Thanks for this video. I am a fitness instructor, and always be in front of the people with workout clothes. Want to be look fabulous but as you mentioned, sometimes really puffy and bloated. Also I always check how I look like and it is actually very tiring even though I want to be the fittest look in the room…. 🥲 Just make myself free from the anxiety. 🙃
It’s definitely a huge pressure as a fit pro!