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Great video! Old dog Paul just did a video which was dead on, so many bloggers paint this beautiful rose colored glasses how easy it is to live in the Philippines and a paradise. These expats come there with very little money and didn’t know how to handle finances in their own country. I was just in the Philippines October 2022 and will be back and I can say from my own experience you can go through money very fast even being frugal. The difference is I had a great career in Healthcare and a good retirement income from my hard work. I had expats asking me for money when in Manila and the vast poverty there so to isolate yourself in the provinces is crazy.
Well said. The maker of the video missed this. In my experience, it doesn't matter what they say when they are leaving, every expat I've ever known, left to go back to their country, because they ran out of money. They never admit it, even if they know it to be true, because it's like admitting to yourself your a fool. People, yes you can live in Asia cheaply. But if you can't design yourself a workable budget in whatever country you live in now, you won't be able to do it here either. Your retirement plan is a budget plan that must last years, not a month or so. Your money will eventually run out, if you can't work out an achievable realistic budget.
@@eddieBoxer Isn't the "care for" part always voluntary? The real trick is to learn to limit your generosity. Having generosity is generally considered righteous though.
from what i hear there are a lot of expat scammers too telling their sob stories when really they want you to finance their life great topic ,thank you .
Great video man.... I lived with an alcoholic many years ago while I was in the US and let me tell you, no alcoholic can hide the signs well enough that you can't see them. It is because you are unwilling to. That's a sad story that is completely avoidable. I came here with a steady monthly income and an emergency fund, plus insurance from Safety Wing. My income could go away at any time as it is from a job and with the economy in the US the way it is, nothing is guaranteed. Make sure if you come here, do your due diligence and be prepared financially and be sure of your partner before you get married.
I really appreciate your frankness and comfortableness with being plain about life. I hope you continue to shoot straight, it’s really nice to have a person I can listen to without having to translate from woke, apologetic , equity speak.
2 Things that is on my mind about the situation is 1) You should have a steady income like a retirement pension and have access to your money. 2) Be in control of your situation and don't let your wife or girlfriend take control of your life. Over time the girl will test you and gradually tries to take control of your finances and/or have you live with or near her family. Don't get yourself boxed in.
I can’t imagine a guy succumbing to number 2. But I know it happens all to often. I am married to a beautiful Hispanic woman who loves the fact that I handle all major money matters. Not that she can’t because she is quite competent and is more disciplined than me when it comes to saving. The results are that we both live stress free when it comes to finances. That’s one reason why we are together going on 42 years now.
LOL! Been married and lived in a long-term relationship. Suffice it to say, I'm tremendously happy living by myself. Second, even though the "May/December" connections abound in the Philippines, at 65 now, my age range is 45-55. If I were to retire in the Philippines, I'd be 70. It's safe to say 50 becomes my new lower age limit (although I've been told good luck in finding single women in that age range). Lastly, learn the dating terrain before hopping off and getting involved. I will not get married again, nor have a live-in girlfriend. I'll need to hook up with ladies who work at the malls and banks or find other professional women. Am I aiming too high, though, trying to find professional women in the Philippines?
@@burtonknows9201 Nope. I've been with my wife in Cambodia for 10 years. She seems to be more happy and content than she used to be. Trust has to be earned. She wanted to get some control of the finances years ago. I said no and don't discuss my finances with her. It's my money I earned it and she wouldn't have a clue what a stock report is. Relationships are about trust. She has learned that I'm good with money and pay the bills and she can see that I'm consistently creating a future for her and my child in case I die.
Trust is "EVERYTHING" in a relationship. If you don't have a certain level of trust, your relationship is doomed. Whether it's insecurity about money, other girls (unreasonable drinking is cited in this video), or whatever. If in some way, you or your partner think that the other person isn't performing what is expected of them to maintain the relationship, trust gone... relationship over.
I'm in mindanao and have to travel to davao to take care of visa issues. I had to hire private car with driver. I am 4 hours driving time and cost me 8,500 pesos for transportation plus the visa fees. It is costly but I have to do it. As far as alcohol I have been sober 32 years and would never get involved with a drinker. No piece of ass is worth that trouble
To me the story isn't adding up. For one: Lockdown has been over for a while. 2. Alcohol isn't free. 3. Don't ever get into a relationship unless you are financially stable. 4. He should have a separate account for his emergency fund. 5. There had to have been red flags that he ignored: I.E. Unable to take care of his visa issues, dwindling funds, alcoholism has a lot of red flags, the need to reach out for help didn't occur overnight.
Yes, not much is explained. But I'll go further than that: I recon he picked up a good time girl in a bar. He knew she was an alcoholic and he spent many a night having fun getting drunk right next to her. The pandemic came along and she couldn't work anymore. Now she's relying on him to pay for her drug habit (alcohol is a powerful drug). He, like most expats I know who returned to their respective countries of origin, didn't have enough money to finance his lifestyle, or he wasted it on partying and the mother of all bad business ideas, a cheap bar somewhere. Now he''s been going broke for some time, but doesn't want his dream to end. That's why he's an illegal over stayer not because of the pandemic and immigration being to far away. This guy's biggest problem is that he's learned nothing! He will repeat this sob story in bars and to whoever will listen to him in his country of origin. Never accepting his part in his little fiasco, that doomed him to failure, most likely before he even got off the plane on day 1.
@@martinherald6492 Seems like it wouldn't cost much to get drunk everyday in the Philippines, even with a woman. Especially out in the countryside. What, US$300-400/mo should cover that? Why not live like that? (except that you are doing nothing meaningful with your life). When the break is over, you should be able to move on, even if you only have $300 or so... Am I wrong? Maybe I am, no room to miscalculate.
First question, why is she a wife and not an ex? Secondly, I don't see the connection between him being broke and stranded and her being an alcoholic. If her being an alcoholic is costing so much money that he can't even afford to leave the country, his his financial situation was pretty dire before he even met her. Third, whose money is it anyway? If he has any kind of an income I assume it's coming to him electronically and she only has money to drink if he allows her to. This guy is no victim. Bottom line is that no matter where you go in the world, your shortcomings and bad habits will always be your closest traveling companions. They might not join you on that first flight to your destination but I promise you they're following close behind and they will show up at the worst possible time. The best advice I can give anyone who is looking forward to moving to another country is to unfuck yourself before you leave home.
Too true my friend. I have a drink problem ,which I wii take with me to my grave. I manage by going to AA daily, and take a good regular look at my mental health. I occasionally fall off the waggon, when bad shit happens, but through my strong support plan, i get mysef sober in days. After 20 years in this situation i feel I can stay strong, sober for the rest of my life. As you quoted "unfucked" myself. Something I would not have managed if I ran away to the Philippines/Thailand. Now I feel I am able to take on this challenge. Will have decent monthly income, and a decent lump sum to fall back on. Now of an older age the pretty women do not interest me now. Big head rules little head. Take good care.
I can tell you exactly what happens in the situation. I’ve seen several these guys come over here with a windfall of cash say 20 or $30,000 and so they think they themselves wow I’ve got $30,000 I’m like a billionaire in a Third World country that should last me forever And then what happens is within two years there broke ,, the 30 grand is gone and they can’t get back home .. it’s different if you come over here with 300 grand then yeah so you’re gonna be OK you probably don’t need any monthly income but 30 grand that ain’t shit you’ll be broke in two years
Someone who can “blow” 30 grand in a short time in the Philippines will have no problem bowing thru 300 grand as well. With either amount or any amount you still have to have some financial discipline and common sense.
Many things to avoid and do before you get yourselves in this situation! And when you are down to your last $5,000, get the HELL out of the Philippines and AVOID more problems with others around you! Great video Gio and have a safe one!
many teaching English jobs online even with a mobile I was in a similar situation getting myself back on my feet now working online and bringing in some money got away from bad relationships and a better environment helped me, still not out of the bushes but in a better position. I pray he gets the help he needs.
To all foreigners coming to the Philippines be ware to pay immigration the fees for you visa be up to date this is very important don't overstay and have money to go back home if something happens!
I think it’s one thing went bad things happen to you arbitrarily/unexpectedly, intentionally even but when it’s right in front of you for so long and you fail to act maybe it’s a hard lesson you just have to learn. Helping is sometimes enabling but learning can be life saving. Teaching and learning are priceless. We save others and we save ourselves.
Thanks Mr. Gio. When I was much younger I got out of the Air Force in Hawaii, after being in a while. I had a Japanese wife, as I had been stationed in Japan previously. We decided to move back to Japan. Bad idea, since we only had a few thousand dollars in savings. I had no real plan other than thinking I might open a bar or something. After being in Japan a while and almost running out of money, I had thought I might get a U.S. civil service job in Japan, but that turned out to be virtually impossible because typically you have to go through all the bureaucratic hoops to get on the register and then hope for a position to open up in the country, and be offered a position. It takes months and maybe even years longer. I was almost out of money when I was offered a job with a British company with offices in Japan. I didn't take it, because I didn't have a work visa for such a position. I was getting down to the last of my savings, and I didn't think I had a choice. I had enough money for a plane ticket back to Hawaii and a little extra so I headed back there. I lucked out pounding the pavement and found a job with a government contractor in about a week. Meanwhile my wife was living with her unmarried sister in Tokyo, who had a job and an apartment. After several months in Hawaii I had enough money to bring my wife to Hawaii and we lived on Kauai for about three and a half years, and then we moved back to Wisconsin, my home state. Fortunately while in the Air Force we had went through the process for her to have a green card. So the reason I'm writing this is to make a point. If considering a move anywhere overseas, make sure you have all your duck in a row first, and have a source of income. Otherwise you are skating on very thin ice and could end up in a position like the person being talked about here. By the way I'm trying to get my ducks in a row to come back to the Philippines. I have been there a few times before covid. Although the weather isn't as good as it is in Japan. it is somewhat cheaper to live and warmer than Wisconsin.
It's good that you point these things out to people before they get there. Have a game plan and stick to it. If you only have $1,000 a month, don't spend all of it. Save at least 10% or $100 each month for emergencies. Just because you have $2,000 saved up in the bank, don't go being Mr. Rockefeller and spending it all on a fancy vacation. It's emergency money. 👍👍
Save when you only have a $1,000 good luck with that. Plus $2,000 in the bank is chump change. Is everyone broke in this particular blog? This situation is a know brainer you have a good income $3,000 plus you are living on of course anything else your living on a wing and a prayer. So, if your woman does something wrong dump her and move on.
My opinion is 36 months living expenses in your emergency fund. You should be able to save money while you're in the Philippines. If at any point your emergency fund dips below 24 months of living expenses, immediately buy a ticket back to your home country. If expats follow this advice we wouldn't hear stories like this.
@@walleye364 I have told many locals this fact. Salaries and safety nets are relatively high but the average Filopino/a has yhe best safety net(s): family network and community. If they fall on hard times, they community of people to fall back on. Be selfish but respectful because its $2200 to get home for me. No local will help you at that point. Self preservation is key.
I recently renewed my passport at American Consulate in Cebu. An American passport can only be renewed by obtaining an online appointment thru American Embassy website.
Your right Geo there had to be signs of the drinking problems from the beging. i'm currently been in Butuan for 5 weeks. I had to extend my passport at immigration. The cost was 3,000 php. Plus i got sun burt and dehydrated ended up in the Butuan doctor hospital for three days. That was Almost $1,000 American. You need emergency money for sure. Yr lasagna and Cannoli in your other video look so good. Thanks Herb Witt from USA ,Ohio. Keep up the great videos..
Guys I don't know how you can live in the Philipines, it's such a crowded and messy place, full of poverty and chaos. I visited and run within 5 days. Could not bear the mess and crowds and poverty, terrible place. If they had 20 million people it would be a nice place, but with over 110 million its hell on earth. I salute you if you can put up with it.
People don't plan to fail, they fail to plan. I heard that from somewhere and this case has many factors that reveal that. I hope this guy will find a way to get out of the hole he dug himself in. There is hope.
That situation sounds unfortunate, the blame will always fall back on the guy, he's the acting manager of both the relationship and his personal finances. Getting caught up in the party lifestyle would make a person lose track of everything including time frames to renew things, daily living expenses, and life in general. Putting everything on the wife may be kind of harsh, at some point he was contributing to that situation in terms of her condition. He is the Captain of his own ship, hope he gets it sorted out.
0:00 i dont believe in this story! ....a filipina wife that is alcoholic?? IMPOSSIBLE !! 🙄 🙄 i used to stay in an apartment where most of the bar girls & club girls rent the place (bcoz there is a 6 months mandatory to leave the area so that new girls replaced them coming from other province) I was a delivery guy of san miguel beverages back then & during my 8 years of work, i have never ever encountered an alcoholic filipina 😔 😔 Yes bar girls & club girls drink alcohol bcoz the management ordered them to drink the customer/s drink but never they(the girls) wanted to be alcoholic 🙄 Filipinas are not that into alcohol They are just doing it for the job & even if u look around in the city & most unlikely in the province....u will never find a drunkard or alcoholic filipina 😔 😔 This story is just a make up story ....so unlikely to happened
I am so happy that I have a Philippine Passport now. I no longer worry about getting shaken down by immigration. And I had an alcoholic gf and her siblings were alcoholics.
Question for you what is a good health insurance to have while over there and also emergency travel insurance in case I were to get injured or sick and need to be evacuated back to the US
I would suggest at a minimum 3 to 6 months emergency fund to,cover living expenses or emergency medical expenses in a separate bank account and another bank account with enough money to buy a ticket home. Those accounts should be ‘out of sight, out of mind’ so you’re not tempted to dip in for non-essential things. (Yes you need to be disciplined). That’s a routine I use for myself when I want to purchase a big-ticket item not using credit.
Actually, most Filipinas don't drink excessively, it should be a red flag if he noticed she had a tendency for too much alcohol. It's often very difficult to find out when you just met the lady and don't know her bad habits. It's a sad state of affairs, don't know how he would get to Borneo unless illegally, you have to go through Immigration before leaving and also have an exit clearance as well as deal with the Indonesian or Malaysian authorities depending on what area of that island you're going. His best bet would be to make his peace with the Immigration, at least he would be trying to do the right thing.
I fully vetted my gf after 3 plus years from daily texting and 1 or 2 video chats. I came over last August and her exactly like she told me. We are very happy and in love. We are building a house now. I have 2 emergency credit cards to use at ATMs or pay for plane ticket.
As Gio says..... have known good health insurance and enough money to exit safely. We must accept and respect the laws in Philippines there is no excuse for overstaying.
Have an escape plan and an emergency fund that you NEVER touch. Once you have an ACR card go and open a PI bank in your own name so you're not relying on your home bank card if it takes a long time to arrive after expiry - transfer a portion of the emergency money into the PI account. Don't rush into any relationship, harder said than done for some, but the warning signs NORMALLY appear very early. There's anecdotal evidence that BI officers at airports, particularly at Mactan airport, are starting to ask questions and flag "tourists" upon return from a visa run - if you're married, get a 13a, if not, investigate a retirement visa.
Have several ways to get to your money. I have two American bank accounts with ATM cards. I have 3 American credit cards. I have a GCash account and an account at a local bank. I have accounts with two services to move money from the US to PH. When one of my credit cards expired, I got a new one FedExed from the US, took a week or so, but in the meantime I had two other cards and plenty of options. Guys come here with one ATM card and that's they're only way to get money. Card expires or something else goes wrong, and they're in a jam.
Hey Gio my dear friend, Some people just don't prepare and do their research before coming here to the Philippines. I spent more than two years , and especially during the pandemic, to make sure that when the Philippines opened up , I would be okay when I return back there. Even then, there were some things that , I still didn;t realize. But financially, I knew that I was straight. But anyone that is planning to move here to the Philippines, Please do your research, and due diligence to make sure that you will have some idea what to expect. Thank you Gio my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, And God bless you, Maya, And her beautiful little daughter always.🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂
Hi Gio, can you let us know some of the expat sites you use for information. The people that jump into these relationships can't be taught what to do and usually the little head overrides the big head. Sad but true.
LOL! I love that you're telling folks the real deal about what can happen to ex-pats when they move to a foreign country and are not prepared to leave when things get tough.
People need to be careful here in the Philippines Gio. The Philippines can be a dreadful place for those who don't think and plan ahead of time if they decide to live here. Relationships here need to be approached with a lot of caution. Alcohol is definitely a bad idea if you drink too much of it for sure. Having that emergency money is important to have you never know when you'll need it and that's for anywhere you live
He needs to go to manila and deal with immergration office there. He can pay fines and then get legal here for about 100,000 pisos. Fines, ACR I,, plus a 90 day visa extension. Then he can leave and not get blacklisted. But it takes about three or four days at manila to get updated.
Hi Gio, Wow I like you can only sympathize about this story. Not really knowing details makes this story sad for them both but your right that they need help
Gio, you didn't address his question about going from Mindanao to Borneo (presumably illegally) to avoid his Immigration fines in the Philippines. It would be interesting to hear what you think about that.
Yes, how would he get back to the U. S. from there as his passport information would be odd without an exit stamp from the P.I.? And possibly other questionable entries.
Good idea in theory & in desperation but, good chance the mindinao boatsman who sez yes to this would wait till 1st nightfall when our desperado is sleeping and cut his throat and sink him with a ro k tied to his ankle...of course keeping his $$$.. al.ost hap I need to me when I was stuck in pasig Luzon during the ashfall of pinatubo when a airports were cl I sed for 2 months! 😶
Expats need to learn to say out loud to all Filipinos, "I don't feel comfortable using my money to buy your alcohol or living so far away from immigration.". If the father in law or wife asks for a farm, "I don't feel comfortable using my money to buy you a farm." That simple guys.
A friend of mine is married to a young Filipina that has a drinking and gambling problem that has resulted in extreme financial hardships and debts. He did rush into the marriage too quickly before he realized she was an alcoholic. But her gambling issues developed during the marriage. She used him as an ATM machine. But, he still is earning money.
In many of these situations it is recommended to move back to their home country. Easier said than done, even if they have money for a ticket home the cost of living there is much higher
It's pretty hard to not know if someone is an alcoholic. He either married her way too quickly or he was blinded by her looks. As far as the $ he was foolish with it. Good luck to him. His is a cautionary tale.
I really have a hard time having much empathy for westerners who have the benefit of a good education andddd.... we are talking about experienced adults here. You've gotta make sure to protect yourself from situations like this.... common sense people, use it!
Nothing worse my friend there in the same situation, can't get out had a kid to stay. I just visit but I ha e steady income and just rent a condo. I thought of perm staying but it's the food and I'm onto boats my hobbies are way to much there
There's always two sides of the story. It's also important to hear the sides of his wife/ girlfriend whether it is true or not. He should know the red flags of his girlfriend/ wife character before engaging to a deeper relationship.
I believe a person should take at least a year in his relationship onsite with a filipina before getting married. All good things are worth waiting for. Secondly, find a location that fits that person's needs and budget requirements and then go looking for pemanent partner or wife. Insist that they live in the area you pick.
60k for 2 year overstay fine.. bus to Davao not expensive…. Flight to Manila for USA embassy for flight home . He needs $2000 US for everything to be done with Philippines
Gio, Good Morning Brother. As you said we don't know the entire story, but I have heard and seen this scenario so often here. USUALLY it boils down to 1 thing!! MONEY. As you have often stated, having guaranteed/multiple sources of income and different ways to access them, goes a long way to avoiding situations like this. POSSIBLY her alcoholism is a result of their financial situation, who knows, But at LEAST if he had a steady income from somewhere with multiple ways to access his funds, he would avoid being literally BROKE and destitute and also have the means to avoid 2 years of VISA/Immigration problems. Money may not solve everything, but at least it gives you positive options and may help ease any stress in their relationship as well. Please guys, if you don't have steady sources of income AND an emergency fund don't move here thinking life will be easier. Plan, Save, Prepare and make SURE you are set financially for as many scenarios you can think of. Just my opinion......smh
@@auroraalmeida3184 There are no jobs , plus if their was you need a work visa. Bottom line have money when you get here . Your not going to make money here.
That message is way to cryptic to be believable. Many years ago, I knew a guy who went to Philippines, partied his ass off and spent all his money and it didnt end well for him. Not At All. My gut is telling me this guy is the root of his own problems.
Hello Gio, I was only in Mindanao for two weeks and I had $3,000 dollars, My three credit cards and I left $2,000 dollars with my Son ,just in case I needed more. And I bought Travel Health Insurance. This Guy made every mistake possible. I hope that He can get home. Take care.
At the very minimum, having credit cards that are always open and remain in good standing with plenty of available credit to cover emergency situations can suffice. Even that is risky behavior and a slippery slope but it is the most slippery slope I would be willing to stretch it to.
My thoughts about relationships, same sh!t different smell... I am a Widower from a Western Lady and she was a 9/10 easy, I was a 5/10 by western standards... Never the less, I remarried another Lady and the same sh!t different smell... I took my time 2 years after my 1st Wife died... Just to say to all Women and Men... Nothing is free no matter the good intentions, the costs of a relationship are the choices YOU BOTH MAKE! Be smart, choose what you want 1st that makes you happy VtK
Gio - what do you mean by a marriage visa? We get a balikbayan stamp when we return from travel and it's free for 1 year. Since we want to travel that's a good way for me to stay free - but once in Kuala Lumpur a boarding agent wanted my onward ticket from the Philippines. I showed my old Balikbayan stamp but she did not understand. So I pointed out she is not a Philippines custom agent and has no idea about it, and eventually got on the plane but the agents were debating on pulling me off the plane. When I later complained, the airline said they were profiling and I started posting that about them...
The 13a marriage visa allows foreign spouses of Filipino Nationals to live permanently in the Philippines. The main requirements for the 13a visa are: A Philippine citizen partner. A valid marriage certificate recognized by the Philippines. Sufficient financial means to support themselves and their family.
Basically another expat who thought he could live cheaper in the Philippines and found out that isn't real. Everyone knows it's only cheaper if you live like a rice farmer! As far as any relationship that's an individual situation that is complex in nature. Personally I have had my home in Cebu for over 30 years but still work abroad for a good income. Basically this situation breaks down to the lack of IQ and common sense combined with a lack of financial management.
This is why you should finish working before moving to the Philippines to retire. My view is that life begins at 65. There's a time for everything. And don't let the younger whippersnappers tell you you're too Old to have a baby, if that's what you want. 😆
BACK DOOR.. i know american who owed 5 yrs fees to immigration. he took fishing boat from mindanao to indonesia. stayed on boat onshore and sent local to fetch indonesian immigration (dont disembark). was fetched, taken to office and told his story. paid indonesian extra fees and was let in. american never did clear philippine immigraton
The guy hustling other expats for cash. His post I would consider a BS post. He made his bed let him sleep in it. Maybe he can go plead his case to a church or Mosque & they collect enough to get him out of the country a boat trip to Indonesia sans immigration fees.
I agree with you! It be nice if someone would tell the stories about what happens with bar girls how expats got used more stories of real life there. I feel people look up to bloggers as famous people not just ordinary good people making small amount to have extra income. And to give advice of there situations. Paul had one the other day when he dated and set up date how the date used him by bringing many friends he got stuck with bill. I feel stuff like that for the older expats would educate them. This was a good video. Again I agree with you ! Love is blind lol
There is no way he could get out the country through back door.That is illegal.When he wants to exist down south and trying to enter Malaysia,he can be jailed for sure.He needs help from fellow foreigners like you or else seek the help of Sen.Raffy Tulfo.
Sounds to me like guy needs more help than just $ to leave his situation , possibly mental ? Don't know how he can be that blind and unprepared ! Good luck bud !
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If you settle in the Philippines do not burn your bridges under any circumstances. If all comes down to MONEY. MONEY MONEY and remember you not John Wayne
Great video! Old dog Paul just did a video which was dead on, so many bloggers paint this beautiful rose colored glasses how easy it is to live in the Philippines and a paradise. These expats come there with very little money and didn’t know how to handle finances in their own country. I was just in the Philippines October 2022 and will be back and I can say from my own experience you can go through money very fast even being frugal. The difference is I had a great career in Healthcare and a good retirement income from my hard work. I had expats asking me for money when in Manila and the vast poverty there so to isolate yourself in the provinces is crazy.
Well said. The maker of the video missed this. In my experience, it doesn't matter what they say when they are leaving, every expat I've ever known, left to go back to their country, because they ran out of money. They never admit it, even if they know it to be true, because it's like admitting to yourself your a fool.
People, yes you can live in Asia cheaply. But if you can't design yourself a workable budget in whatever country you live in now, you won't be able to do it here either. Your retirement plan is a budget plan that must last years, not a month or so. Your money will eventually run out, if you can't work out an achievable realistic budget.
@@eddieBoxer Isn't the "care for" part always voluntary? The real trick is to learn to limit your generosity. Having generosity is generally considered righteous though.
from what i hear there are a lot of expat scammers too telling their sob stories when really they want you to finance their life
great topic ,thank you .
Great video man.... I lived with an alcoholic many years ago while I was in the US and let me tell you, no alcoholic can hide the signs well enough that you can't see them. It is because you are unwilling to. That's a sad story that is completely avoidable. I came here with a steady monthly income and an emergency fund, plus insurance from Safety Wing. My income could go away at any time as it is from a job and with the economy in the US the way it is, nothing is guaranteed. Make sure if you come here, do your due diligence and be prepared financially and be sure of your partner before you get married.
Well said!
I really appreciate your frankness and comfortableness with being plain about life. I hope you continue to shoot straight, it’s really nice to have a person I can listen to without having to translate from woke, apologetic , equity speak.
2 Things that is on my mind about the situation is 1) You should have a steady income like a retirement pension and have access to your money.
2) Be in control of your situation and don't let your wife or girlfriend take control of your life. Over time the girl will test you and gradually tries to take control of your finances and/or have you live with or near her family. Don't get yourself boxed in.
I can’t imagine a guy succumbing to number 2. But I know it happens all to often. I am married to a beautiful Hispanic woman who loves the fact that I handle all major money matters. Not that she can’t because she is quite competent and is more disciplined than me when it comes to saving. The results are that we both live stress free when it comes to finances. That’s one reason why we are together going on 42 years now.
@@wingandhog Yep. From your reply, I know you and the wife sit down and go other the finances TOGETHER! That is critical in any relationship.
LOL! Been married and lived in a long-term relationship. Suffice it to say, I'm tremendously happy living by myself. Second, even though the "May/December" connections abound in the Philippines, at 65 now, my age range is 45-55. If I were to retire in the Philippines, I'd be 70. It's safe to say 50 becomes my new lower age limit (although I've been told good luck in finding single women in that age range). Lastly, learn the dating terrain before hopping off and getting involved. I will not get married again, nor have a live-in girlfriend. I'll need to hook up with ladies who work at the malls and banks or find other professional women.
Am I aiming too high, though, trying to find professional women in the Philippines?
@@burtonknows9201 Nope. I've been with my wife in Cambodia for 10 years. She seems to be more happy and content than she used to be. Trust has to be earned. She wanted to get some control of the finances years ago. I said no and don't discuss my finances with her. It's my money I earned it and she wouldn't have a clue what a stock report is. Relationships are about trust. She has learned that I'm good with money and pay the bills and she can see that I'm consistently creating a future for her and my child in case I die.
Trust is "EVERYTHING" in a relationship. If you don't have a certain level of trust, your relationship is doomed. Whether it's insecurity about money, other girls (unreasonable drinking is cited in this video), or whatever. If in some way, you or your partner think that the other person isn't performing what is expected of them to maintain the relationship, trust gone... relationship over.
I'm in mindanao and have to travel to davao to take care of visa issues. I had to hire private car with driver. I am 4 hours driving time and cost me 8,500 pesos for transportation plus the visa fees. It is costly but I have to do it. As far as alcohol I have been sober 32 years and would never get involved with a drinker. No piece of ass is worth that trouble
Lol, you got me @ line 7 & line 8 of your statement which you’re absolutely correct. 😢
Always have an exit strategy! Don't have to have a place to go but you MUST have a way to get there.
To me the story isn't adding up. For one: Lockdown has been over for a while. 2. Alcohol isn't free. 3. Don't ever get into a relationship unless you are financially stable. 4. He should have a separate account for his emergency fund. 5. There had to have been red flags that he ignored: I.E. Unable to take care of his visa issues, dwindling funds, alcoholism has a lot of red flags, the need to reach out for help didn't occur overnight.
Yes, not much is explained. But I'll go further than that:
I recon he picked up a good time girl in a bar. He knew she was an alcoholic and he spent many a night having fun getting drunk right next to her. The pandemic came along and she couldn't work anymore. Now she's relying on him to pay for her drug habit (alcohol is a powerful drug). He, like most expats I know who returned to their respective countries of origin, didn't have enough money to finance his lifestyle, or he wasted it on partying and the mother of all bad business ideas, a cheap bar somewhere. Now he''s been going broke for some time, but doesn't want his dream to end. That's why he's an illegal over stayer not because of the pandemic and immigration being to far away.
This guy's biggest problem is that he's learned nothing! He will repeat this sob story in bars and to whoever will listen to him in his country of origin. Never accepting his part in his little fiasco, that doomed him to failure, most likely before he even got off the plane on day 1.
@@martinherald6492 Seems like it wouldn't cost much to get drunk everyday in the Philippines, even with a woman. Especially out in the countryside. What, US$300-400/mo should cover that? Why not live like that? (except that you are doing nothing meaningful with your life).
When the break is over, you should be able to move on, even if you only have $300 or so...
Am I wrong?
Maybe I am, no room to miscalculate.
First question, why is she a wife and not an ex? Secondly, I don't see the connection between him being broke and stranded and her being an alcoholic. If her being an alcoholic is costing so much money that he can't even afford to leave the country, his his financial situation was pretty dire before he even met her. Third, whose money is it anyway? If he has any kind of an income I assume it's coming to him electronically and she only has money to drink if he allows her to. This guy is no victim. Bottom line is that no matter where you go in the world, your shortcomings and bad habits will always be your closest traveling companions. They might not join you on that first flight to your destination but I promise you they're following close behind and they will show up at the worst possible time. The best advice I can give anyone who is looking forward to moving to another country is to unfuck yourself before you leave home.
Too true my friend.
I have a drink problem ,which I wii take with me to my grave.
I manage by going to AA daily, and take a good regular look at my mental health.
I occasionally fall off the waggon, when bad shit happens, but through my strong support plan, i get mysef sober in days.
After 20 years in this situation i feel I can stay strong, sober for the rest of my life.
As you quoted "unfucked" myself. Something I would not have managed if I ran away to the Philippines/Thailand.
Now I feel I am able to take on this challenge. Will have decent monthly income, and a decent lump sum to fall back on.
Now of an older age the pretty women do not interest me now. Big head rules little head.
Take good care.
My opinion is he has probably spent his whole life in this mode. Some folks never learn.
I can tell you exactly what happens in the situation. I’ve seen several these guys come over here with a windfall of cash say 20 or $30,000 and so they think they themselves wow I’ve got $30,000 I’m like a billionaire in a Third World country that should last me forever And then what happens is within two years there broke ,, the 30 grand is gone and they can’t get back home .. it’s different if you come over here with 300 grand then yeah so you’re gonna be OK you probably don’t need any monthly income but 30 grand that ain’t shit you’ll be broke in two years
Someone who can “blow” 30 grand in a short time in the Philippines will have no problem bowing thru 300 grand as well. With either amount or any amount you still have to have some financial discipline and common sense.
I could make 30 k last 2 years there. Manage your money properly and you will be good.
Many things to avoid and do before you get yourselves in this situation! And when you are down to your last $5,000, get the HELL out of the Philippines and AVOID more problems with others around you!
Great video Gio and have a safe one!
When he is down to the last $5,000 he will probably use this up in airfare and hotel stays in America or any other country.
@@Gregory-Masovutch exactly. time to leave immediately. (or you're stuck)
many teaching English jobs online even with a mobile I was in a similar situation getting myself back on my feet now working online and bringing in some money got away from bad relationships and a better environment helped me, still not out of the bushes but in a better position. I pray he gets the help he needs.
To all foreigners coming to the Philippines be ware to pay immigration the fees for you visa be up to date this is very important don't overstay and have money to go back home if something happens!
The card expired, is a great point.
Would not have crossed my mind tell it was to late.
Peace and great success
I agree. We dont know the whole story. Thanks for being fair Gio.
I think it’s one thing went bad things happen to you arbitrarily/unexpectedly, intentionally even but when it’s right in front of you for so long and you fail to act maybe it’s a hard lesson you just have to learn. Helping is sometimes enabling but learning can be life saving.
Teaching and learning are priceless.
We save others and we save ourselves.
Thanks Mr. Gio. When I was much younger I got out of the Air Force in Hawaii, after being in a while. I had a Japanese wife, as I had been stationed in Japan previously. We decided to move back to Japan. Bad idea, since we only had a few thousand dollars in savings. I had no real plan other than thinking I might open a bar or something. After being in Japan a while and almost running out of money, I had thought I might get a U.S. civil service job in Japan, but that turned out to be virtually impossible because typically you have to go through all the bureaucratic hoops to get on the register and then hope for a position to open up in the country, and be offered a position. It takes months and maybe even years longer. I was almost out of money when I was offered a job with a British company with offices in Japan. I didn't take it, because I didn't have a work visa for such a position. I was getting down to the last of my savings, and I didn't think I had a choice. I had enough money for a plane ticket back to Hawaii and a little extra so I headed back there. I lucked out pounding the pavement and found a job with a government contractor in about a week. Meanwhile my wife was living with her unmarried sister in Tokyo, who had a job and an apartment. After several months in Hawaii I had enough money to bring my wife to Hawaii and we lived on Kauai for about three and a half years, and then we moved back to Wisconsin, my home state. Fortunately while in the Air Force we had went through the process for her to have a green card. So the reason I'm writing this is to make a point. If considering a move anywhere overseas, make sure you have all your duck in a row first, and have a source of income. Otherwise you are skating on very thin ice and could end up in a position like the person being talked about here. By the way I'm trying to get my ducks in a row to come back to the Philippines. I have been there a few times before covid. Although the weather isn't as good as it is in Japan. it is somewhat cheaper to live and warmer than Wisconsin.
It's good that you point these things out to people before they get there. Have a game plan and stick to it. If you only have $1,000 a month, don't spend all of it. Save at least 10% or $100 each month for emergencies.
Just because you have $2,000 saved up in the bank, don't go being Mr. Rockefeller and spending it all on a fancy vacation.
It's emergency money.
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Save when you only have a $1,000 good luck with that. Plus $2,000 in the bank is chump change. Is everyone broke in this particular blog? This situation is a know brainer you have a good income $3,000 plus you are living on of course anything else your living on a wing and a prayer. So, if your woman does something wrong dump her and move on.
Another story that started with going to the Philippines without enough money. Avoid the situation by staying home if you don’t have money.
My opinion is 36 months living expenses in your emergency fund. You should be able to save money while you're in the Philippines. If at any point your emergency fund dips below 24 months of living expenses, immediately buy a ticket back to your home country. If expats follow this advice we wouldn't hear stories like this.
If they have 36 months of expenses there not retiring to Phil. Phil is for the foreign desperado on minimum pension and next to no savings
Most are living on ss. I don't even have 2 months savings in the states working a $30 job.
@@walleye364
I have told many locals this fact. Salaries and safety nets are relatively high but the average Filopino/a has yhe best safety net(s): family network and community. If they fall on hard times, they community of people to fall back on.
Be selfish but respectful because its $2200 to get home for me. No local will help you at that point. Self preservation is key.
@@AG-so4gl …. Not in every case
if its below 3 months and u see its not getting better then start to pack
I recently renewed my passport at American Consulate in Cebu. An American passport can only be renewed by obtaining an online appointment thru American Embassy website.
I understand your objective is to help other expats to avoid this scenario.
Your right Geo there had to be signs of the drinking problems from the beging. i'm currently been in Butuan for 5 weeks. I had to extend my passport at immigration. The cost was 3,000 php. Plus i got sun burt and dehydrated ended up in the Butuan doctor hospital for three days. That was Almost $1,000 American. You need emergency money for sure. Yr lasagna and Cannoli in your other video look so good. Thanks Herb Witt from USA ,Ohio. Keep up the great videos..
Guys I don't know how you can live in the Philipines, it's such a crowded and messy place, full of poverty and chaos. I visited and run within 5 days. Could not bear the mess and crowds and poverty, terrible place. If they had 20 million people it would be a nice place, but with over 110 million its hell on earth. I salute you if you can put up with it.
People don't plan to fail, they fail to plan. I heard that from somewhere and this case has many factors that reveal that. I hope this guy will find a way to get out of the hole he dug himself in. There is hope.
That situation sounds unfortunate, the blame will always fall back on the guy, he's the acting manager of both the relationship and his personal finances. Getting caught up in the party lifestyle would make a person lose track of everything including time frames to renew things, daily living expenses, and life in general. Putting everything on the wife may be kind of harsh, at some point he was contributing to that situation in terms of her condition. He is the Captain of his own ship, hope he gets it sorted out.
0:00 i dont believe in this story!
....a filipina wife that is alcoholic??
IMPOSSIBLE !!
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i used to stay in an apartment where most of the bar girls & club girls rent the place (bcoz there is a 6 months mandatory to leave the area so that new girls replaced them coming from other province)
I was a delivery guy of san miguel beverages back then & during my 8 years of work, i have never ever encountered an alcoholic filipina
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Yes bar girls & club girls drink alcohol bcoz the management ordered them to drink the customer/s drink but never they(the girls) wanted to be alcoholic
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Filipinas are not that into alcohol
They are just doing it for the job
& even if u look around in the city & most unlikely in the province....u will never find a drunkard or alcoholic filipina
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This story is just a make up story
....so unlikely to happened
My hunch is that the guy is just making up story for fellow expats to feel sorry and donate. Beware of scammers.
I am so happy that I have a Philippine Passport now. I no longer worry about getting shaken down by immigration. And I had an alcoholic gf and her siblings were alcoholics.
Question for you what is a good health insurance to have while over there and also emergency travel insurance in case I were to get injured or sick and need to be evacuated back to the US
Exactly... When you know you are at you last $. You need to leave fast.
I would suggest at a minimum 3 to 6 months emergency fund to,cover living expenses or emergency medical expenses in a separate bank account and another bank account with enough money to buy a ticket home. Those accounts should be ‘out of sight, out of mind’ so you’re not tempted to dip in for non-essential things. (Yes you need to be disciplined). That’s a routine I use for myself when I want to purchase a big-ticket item not using credit.
Actually, most Filipinas don't drink excessively, it should be a red flag if he noticed she had a tendency for too much alcohol. It's often very difficult to find out when you just met the lady and don't know her bad habits. It's a sad state of affairs, don't know how he would get to Borneo unless illegally, you have to go through Immigration before leaving and also have an exit clearance as well as deal with the Indonesian or Malaysian authorities depending on what area of that island you're going. His best bet would be to make his peace with the Immigration, at least he would be trying to do the right thing.
Head for Borneo ASAP!
I fully vetted my gf after 3 plus years from daily texting and 1 or 2 video chats. I came over last August and her exactly like she told me. We are very happy and in love. We are building a house now. I have 2 emergency credit cards to use at ATMs or pay for plane ticket.
You say buy a ticket and go home but sometimes people don't have a home to go to. People just make mistakes sometimes.
As Gio says..... have known good health insurance and enough money to exit safely. We must accept and respect the laws in Philippines there is no excuse for overstaying.
Have an escape plan and an emergency fund that you NEVER touch. Once you have an ACR card go and open a PI bank in your own name so you're not relying on your home bank card if it takes a long time to arrive after expiry - transfer a portion of the emergency money into the PI account. Don't rush into any relationship, harder said than done for some, but the warning signs NORMALLY appear very early. There's anecdotal evidence that BI officers at airports, particularly at Mactan airport, are starting to ask questions and flag "tourists" upon return from a visa run - if you're married, get a 13a, if not, investigate a retirement visa.
Have several ways to get to your money. I have two American bank accounts with ATM cards. I have 3 American credit cards. I have a GCash account and an account at a local bank. I have accounts with two services to move money from the US to PH. When one of my credit cards expired, I got a new one FedExed from the US, took a week or so, but in the meantime I had two other cards and plenty of options. Guys come here with one ATM card and that's they're only way to get money. Card expires or something else goes wrong, and they're in a jam.
Hey Gio my dear friend, Some people just don't prepare and do their research before coming here to the Philippines. I spent more than two years , and especially during the pandemic, to make sure that when the Philippines opened up , I would be okay when I return back there. Even then, there were some things that , I still didn;t realize. But financially, I knew that I was straight. But anyone that is planning to move here to the Philippines, Please do your research, and due diligence to make sure that you will have some idea what to expect. Thank you Gio my dear friend for sharing this awesome video. Please stay safe and healthy, And God bless you, Maya, And her beautiful little daughter always.🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂
Hi Gio, can you let us know some of the expat sites you use for information. The people that jump into these relationships can't be taught what to do and usually the little head overrides the big head. Sad but true.
Even if you do everything else wrong, having enough money in reserve to get out of the Philippines and back home is an absolute must.
From what I have heard you can now or soon we be able to renew or extend your Visa online .
I'm an alcoholic and me and my Filipina wife have been happily married for almost 33 years now. Being an alcoholic doesn't make you evil.
Nobody said that. But often alcoholics are trouble to themselves and others. It has nothing to do with evil.
Not evil , but not smart and least you wont be around much longer.
LOL! I love that you're telling folks the real deal about what can happen to ex-pats when they move to a foreign country and are not prepared to leave when things get tough.
People need to be careful here in the Philippines Gio. The Philippines can be a dreadful place for those who don't think and plan ahead of time if they decide to live here. Relationships here need to be approached with a lot of caution. Alcohol is definitely a bad idea if you drink too much of it for sure. Having that emergency money is important to have you never know when you'll need it and that's for anywhere you live
Great video, lots of useful information. Quick question... Do you think $ 50 K USD is enough for an emergency fund ?
He needs to go to manila and deal with immergration office there.
He can pay fines and then get legal here for about 100,000 pisos. Fines, ACR I,, plus a 90 day visa extension.
Then he can leave and not get blacklisted.
But it takes about three or four days at manila to get updated.
People don't plan to fail.. They just fail to plan. (Hope the dude will be ok)
Hi Gio, Wow I like you can only sympathize about this story. Not really knowing details makes this story sad for them both but your right that they need help
Probably getting whatever guidance he can from the US Embassy is best... He can probably call them or check out the website online...
He, stuck in the Philippines forever 🤠
There's no such a thing as a drinking problem... only a stopping problem.
I agree, it doesn't take a genius to spot an Alcoholic
There’s a song, “ only fool rush in....”😀
You mentioned you had travel insurance? Is that an option since you now make Philippines your home?
I live in the province even during lockdowns I was able to get to an immigration office
Gio, you didn't address his question about going from Mindanao to Borneo (presumably illegally) to avoid his Immigration fines in the Philippines. It would be interesting to hear what you think about that.
even if you got to borneo illegally ,how can you leave borneo with no stamp in passport
Yes, how would he get back to the U. S. from there as his passport information would be odd without an exit stamp from the P.I.? And possibly other questionable entries.
Good idea in theory & in desperation but, good chance the mindinao boatsman who sez yes to this would wait till 1st nightfall when our desperado is sleeping and cut his throat and sink him with a ro k tied to his ankle...of course keeping his $$$.. al.ost hap I need to me when I was stuck in pasig Luzon during the ashfall of pinatubo when a airports were cl I sed for 2 months! 😶
@@stevetartalia7116 Yeah I wouldn't chance it, especially not without learning the muslim greetings etc so they think you are one of them
@@alanjohnson2528 Many countries do not check your passport on exit, not sure about Malaysia
Expats need to learn to say out loud to all Filipinos, "I don't feel comfortable using my money to buy your alcohol or living so far away from immigration.". If the father in law or wife asks for a farm, "I don't feel comfortable using my money to buy you a farm." That simple guys.
You are SO very correct... I dont have a problem AT ALL saying NO in a very polite way
A friend of mine is married to a young Filipina that has a drinking and gambling problem that has resulted in extreme financial hardships and debts. He did rush into the marriage too quickly before he realized she was an alcoholic. But her gambling issues developed during the marriage. She used him as an ATM machine. But, he still is earning money.
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How sad. Sorry for what happened.
Very attractive women are costly.
I will leave her and move to another island and find a girlfriend
Call the U.S. Embassy in the capital or the councilor in Cebu. They will help.
Many people developed alcoholism during pandemic.
In many of these situations it is recommended to move back to their home country. Easier said than done, even if they have money for a ticket home the cost of living there is much higher
at least there’s better welfare system in US.
3 is 2 2 is 1 1 is none always have back up on back ups
It's pretty hard to not know if someone is an alcoholic. He either married her way too quickly or he was blinded by her looks.
As far as the $ he was foolish with it.
Good luck to him. His is a cautionary tale.
He was probably broke to start with.
I really have a hard time having much empathy for westerners who have the benefit of a good education andddd.... we are talking about experienced adults here. You've gotta make sure to protect yourself from situations like this.... common sense people, use it!
I completely forgot about John. Do you know how he is doing?
I wonder if there's a program that helps get you home, as long as you contribute to them before you depart your home country. Like an insurance
I’m just wondering what his drinking habits are most the time you find a drinking buddy as in wife. It’s called falling in sick
Nothing worse my friend there in the same situation, can't get out had a kid to stay. I just visit but I ha e steady income and just rent a condo. I thought of perm staying but it's the food and I'm onto boats my hobbies are way to much there
There's always two sides of the story. It's also important to hear the sides of his wife/ girlfriend whether it is true or not. He should know the red flags of his girlfriend/ wife character before engaging to a deeper relationship.
He may have been like this all his life and will continue down this path. Some people are just that way. Another sad story tho.
I believe a person should take at least a year in his relationship onsite with a filipina before getting married. All good things are worth waiting for. Secondly, find a location that fits that person's needs and budget requirements and then go looking for pemanent partner or wife. Insist that they live in the area you pick.
60k for 2 year overstay fine.. bus to Davao not expensive…. Flight to Manila for USA embassy for flight home . He needs $2000 US for everything to be done with Philippines
Gio, Good Morning Brother. As you said we don't know the entire story, but I have heard and seen this scenario so often here. USUALLY it boils down to 1 thing!! MONEY. As you have often stated, having guaranteed/multiple sources of income and different ways to access them, goes a long way to avoiding situations like this. POSSIBLY her alcoholism is a result of their financial situation, who knows, But at LEAST if he had a steady income from somewhere with multiple ways to access his funds, he would avoid being literally BROKE and destitute and also have the means to avoid 2 years of VISA/Immigration problems. Money may not solve everything, but at least it gives you positive options and may help ease any stress in their relationship as well. Please guys, if you don't have steady sources of income AND an emergency fund don't move here thinking life will be easier. Plan, Save, Prepare and make SURE you are set financially for as many scenarios you can think of. Just my opinion......smh
Exactly right, plan for the unexpected!
My suggestion is to find a jib or go back home to,the US, save some money ang go back,to Manila and to be careful in spending his money
@@auroraalmeida3184 There are no jobs , plus if their was you need a work visa. Bottom line have money when you get here . Your not going to make money here.
That message is way to cryptic to be believable. Many years ago, I knew a guy who went to Philippines, partied his ass off and spent all his money and it didnt end well for him. Not At All. My gut is telling me this guy is the root of his own problems.
Hello Gio, I was only in Mindanao for two weeks and I had $3,000 dollars, My three credit cards and I left $2,000 dollars with my Son ,just in case I needed more. And I bought Travel Health Insurance. This Guy made every mistake possible. I hope that He can get home. Take care.
At the very minimum, having credit cards that are always open and remain in good standing with plenty of available credit to cover emergency situations can suffice. Even that is risky behavior and a slippery slope but it is the most slippery slope I would be willing to stretch it to.
My thoughts about relationships, same sh!t different smell...
I am a Widower from a Western Lady and she was a 9/10 easy, I was a 5/10 by western standards... Never the less, I remarried another Lady and the same sh!t different smell...
I took my time 2 years after my 1st Wife died... Just to say to all Women and Men...
Nothing is free no matter the good intentions, the costs of a relationship are the choices YOU BOTH MAKE!
Be smart, choose what you want 1st that makes you happy
VtK
Gio - what do you mean by a marriage visa? We get a balikbayan stamp when we return from travel and it's free for 1 year. Since we want to travel that's a good way for me to stay free - but once in Kuala Lumpur a boarding agent wanted my onward ticket from the Philippines. I showed my old Balikbayan stamp but she did not understand. So I pointed out she is not a Philippines custom agent and has no idea about it, and eventually got on the plane but the agents were debating on pulling me off the plane. When I later complained, the airline said they were profiling and I started posting that about them...
The 13a marriage visa allows foreign spouses of Filipino Nationals to live permanently in the Philippines. The main requirements for the 13a visa are: A Philippine citizen partner. A valid marriage certificate recognized by the Philippines. Sufficient financial means to support themselves and their family.
Basically another expat who thought he could live cheaper in the Philippines and found out that isn't real. Everyone knows it's only cheaper if you live like a rice farmer! As far as any relationship that's an individual situation that is complex in nature. Personally I have had my home in Cebu for over 30 years but still work abroad for a good income. Basically this situation breaks down to the lack of IQ and common sense combined with a lack of financial management.
Now can pay imgration online check it out.
Be smart protect your money at all times. :)
This is why you should finish working before moving to the Philippines to retire. My view is that life begins at 65. There's a time for everything. And don't let the younger whippersnappers tell you you're too Old to have a baby, if that's what you want. 😆
Gio, I believe you can now process a visa extension in The Philippines on line with e- visa.
Only the first 29 day extension can be done online at this point. They say that they are working on the other extensions but not yet available online.
Great vid
Fun Fact: Paying immigration fees should up there at the top of the list with rent.
Absolutely
what are 3 examples of 3 ways to be sure you have access to your money overseas?
Home Country bank account, Wise account, Cash remittance company
@Gio in the Philippines
thank you very much Gio !
BACK DOOR.. i know american who owed 5 yrs fees to immigration. he took fishing boat from mindanao to indonesia. stayed on boat onshore and sent local to fetch indonesian immigration (dont disembark). was fetched, taken to office and told his story. paid indonesian extra fees and was let in. american never did clear philippine immigraton
He needs to see Mr Raffy Tulfo, He did help alot of foreigners that gets in trouble in the Philippines!
I Married that in the states. Got to be educated.
Can’t save alcoholics... run!!!
He should call his country’s embassy and ask for help.
The guy hustling other expats for cash. His post I would consider a BS post. He made his bed let him sleep in it. Maybe he can go plead his case to a church or Mosque & they collect enough to get him out of the country a boat trip to Indonesia sans immigration fees.
I agree with you! It be nice if someone would tell the stories about what happens with bar girls how expats got used more stories of real life there. I feel people look up to bloggers as famous people not just ordinary good people making small amount to have extra income. And to give advice of there situations. Paul had one the other day when he dated and set up date how the date used him by bringing many friends he got stuck with bill. I feel stuff like that for the older expats would educate them. This was a good video. Again I agree with you ! Love is blind lol
There is no way he could get out the country through back door.That is illegal.When he wants to exist down south and trying to enter Malaysia,he can be jailed for sure.He needs help from fellow foreigners like you or else seek the help of Sen.Raffy Tulfo.
Reading between the lines, HE is the alcoholic, not his "wife". Alcoholics make up stories like this. Trust me. He drank all his money.
Sounds to me like guy needs more help than just $ to leave his situation , possibly mental ?
Don't know how he can be that blind and unprepared ! Good luck bud !
Just live a healthy lifestyle, avoid unhealthy foodies