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Being a enjf-a, i have manipulated people before granted i didnt mean to i didnt even relaize I was doing it, and i have been trying to be more aware of myself
I can vibe with that too. People don't sneak shit by us either...Ir Sucks....to,have to reach for the low hanging emotional fruit. The bulshit they give everyone. It never works because we can feel the lie...learning it's intention is the key to understanding them
I know a toxic ENFP. She’s a real phoney social climber. I make a conscious effort to never give her compliments and downplay her backhanded compliments.
Due to an environment of hypervigilance, control and punishment, I am careful about everything I do, I get offended extremely easily so I watch out for the word that comes out of my head and I punish myself for showing weaknesses. I cannot do things like manipulate without a sufficiently truthful and large justification behind it, because otherwise it is as if my soul breaks and does not have the strength to continue, my ego breaks, preventing me from continuing, my justifications were, "To defeat the bad guy one must be twice as bad", "If you are the good one, the one who has good intentions, then you are superior and you must be there by force, otherwise the bad one will do it", "pretending that predators will not eat you because you are vegetarian is "It's stupid, it manipulates." I do not have the ability to lie, without feeling bad and paying for that with some addiction or punishing myself on purpose, or improving myself, I am constantly changing. When an ENFJ is born in a manipulative environment and isolates themselves, they can commit suicide or adapt, I chose to remain calm at all times, no matter the situation, because anger generates cancer and toxins, to survive you have to be a strategist, and to win to the forces of evil, one must be more capable than the evil one. I remember hitting myself, or burning myself on purpose with hot water, feeling relief and pleasure, but if it hadn't been for that I would never have learned that you have to always stay calm, because, "getting angry in a society that punishes justice own hand is meaningless, which psychopaths take advantage of for their benefit".
I'm an ENFJ. We do get too involved in others ppls issues. I had to learn to make a decision how that would affect me and others. So if its a close friend, then yes but no to strangers. Set them boundaries. COMMUNICATION is a big one. I've also become more self aware to not be manipulative in ANY way, mostly small ( the ending of the video).
They never stop talking except when they are truly in love. When they are truly in love they become super quiet and shy and awkward. I know cause as an infp i was in love with an enfj. You could call it a soulmate relationship
@Dasani_water_drinker not true for you maybe. I know 2 enfj men and both become super silent when truly in love. Talking about real love here not crush or anything like that. Anyway, there's a girl here on TH-cam called Meghan smth, she's an enfj and she clearly explains how enfj behave when they are truly in live and that I they become silent, awkward, tongue tied etc. It also depends on the astrology signs. My ex is a venus in capricorn enfj and capricorn become super silent when they truly love you. I know it cause I'm a capricorn myself.
@@sears381 Im an earth sign as well as I am familiar with Megan. I can only relate to her on half of the stuff she says. Plus you’re talking about men. Most men are not going to share their feelings openly nor talk excessively. That’s a woman thing. But all the ENFJ males I know, have no problem saying they like someone and will only seek out deep conversation when they truly are falling in love with them.
@Dasani_water_drinker we clearly have different experiences here. Also earth signs are very uncomfortable sharing lovey dovey stuff. For us it could take months if not years to say i love you even if we deeply love you. My observation is that enfj men are very talkative and the soul of the party but when they deeply love you they become silent and kind of shy. When i first met my enfj ex he was super funny, open and talkative. The more he started to fall deeply the more aware he became. It's a question of losing control for them and when they truly love they may lose control and they hate that.
To be honest, being an ENFJ-T myself, I find that as intuitive as I am...people naturally want to hide their feelings. Not being understood myself is the worst part. Not only that, I'm double Pisces (scorpio moon) . So. I am basically the super charged Ang Avatar version of this personalityy type! as a Male in today's society. It is particularly challenging. I mean, when I can literally feel everything...Im super fucking intuitive to the point that it cause severe nightmares...if. fi do t find ways to expelled other people's emotions mine are never really focused on at all...tha5s the curse part...I AM WELL AWARE OF ITS PARTICULAR BENEFIT TOO.
INFP here. I’ve met one and I hope I never meet one like him again. He ended up being the most evil person I’ve ever met. He started off extremely charming and he loved to talk and tell the coolest stories. And he told them in a way where I felt like I was there. He also seemed to know exactly what I wanted and needed. It was like a mind reading ability which was great at times but got dark quickly. His demon Te would come out and he was a monster. He would make decisions for me and act like he knew what was best for everyone regardless of their objections. I felt I was being brainwashed and didn’t even know who I was anymore. He had me so addicted to him and he seemed to love the control of toying with my mind. He ended up ending his own life three weeks after finding out I was pregnant. After he died, I went through his stuff and found out he had sick sexual fetishes and was even interested in young children. He was also in a leadership position in the military and would sleep with her superior and subordinates. He had this interesting habit of documenting EVERYTHING from conversations he’s had with people to journaling to important dates or other reminders. Must be that Si blindspot but he even had pictures and wrote these disgusting things down that he’s done or wanted to do. I hate it had to end the way it did, but I feel like I really dodged a huge bullet and so did our now 11 year old daughter that he’s never met. ENFJs are so powerful and I’m sure most use their talents for good and genuinely want to make this world a better place, but if they are unhealthy or corrupted, they can cause so much damage and to be fair, any type is capable of evil as well, so I don’t want to single ENFJ out. Just telling my experience with one bad one.
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Being a enjf-a, i have manipulated people before granted i didnt mean to i didnt even relaize I was doing it, and i have been trying to be more aware of myself
I can vibe with that too. People don't sneak shit by us either...Ir Sucks....to,have to reach for the low hanging emotional fruit. The bulshit they give everyone. It never works because we can feel the lie...learning it's intention is the key to understanding them
It's great that you are working on being more self-aware and mindful of your actions.
Me too..
I know a toxic ENFP. She’s a real phoney social climber. I make a conscious effort to never give her compliments and downplay her backhanded compliments.
I love to be Enfj❤ thank for the amazing illustrated video!
Due to an environment of hypervigilance, control and punishment, I am careful about everything I do, I get offended extremely easily so I watch out for the word that comes out of my head and I punish myself for showing weaknesses.
I cannot do things like manipulate without a sufficiently truthful and large justification behind it, because otherwise it is as if my soul breaks and does not have the strength to continue, my ego breaks, preventing me from continuing, my justifications were, "To defeat the bad guy one must be twice as bad", "If you are the good one, the one who has good intentions, then you are superior and you must be there by force, otherwise the bad one will do it", "pretending that predators will not eat you because you are vegetarian is "It's stupid, it manipulates."
I do not have the ability to lie, without feeling bad and paying for that with some addiction or punishing myself on purpose, or improving myself, I am constantly changing.
When an ENFJ is born in a manipulative environment and isolates themselves, they can commit suicide or adapt, I chose to remain calm at all times, no matter the situation, because anger generates cancer and toxins, to survive you have to be a strategist, and to win to the forces of evil, one must be more capable than the evil one.
I remember hitting myself, or burning myself on purpose with hot water, feeling relief and pleasure, but if it hadn't been for that I would never have learned that you have to always stay calm, because, "getting angry in a society that punishes justice own hand is meaningless, which psychopaths take advantage of for their benefit".
I'm an ENFJ. We do get too involved in others ppls issues. I had to learn to make a decision how that would affect me and others. So if its a close friend, then yes but no to strangers. Set them boundaries. COMMUNICATION is a big one. I've also become more self aware to not be manipulative in ANY way, mostly small ( the ending of the video).
I love it! I'm ENFJ by the way
Thanks for watching and sharing ❤
This is one of the personality types I hate the most
They never stop talking except when they are truly in love. When they are truly in love they become super quiet and shy and awkward. I know cause as an infp i was in love with an enfj. You could call it a soulmate relationship
So true
Not true. I talk more when in love because Im so interested in going in depth. Other than that, everyone else gets surface level treatment.
@Dasani_water_drinker not true for you maybe. I know 2 enfj men and both become super silent when truly in love. Talking about real love here not crush or anything like that. Anyway, there's a girl here on TH-cam called Meghan smth, she's an enfj and she clearly explains how enfj behave when they are truly in live and that I they become silent, awkward, tongue tied etc. It also depends on the astrology signs. My ex is a venus in capricorn enfj and capricorn become super silent when they truly love you. I know it cause I'm a capricorn myself.
@@sears381 Im an earth sign as well as I am familiar with Megan. I can only relate to her on half of the stuff she says. Plus you’re talking about men. Most men are not going to share their feelings openly nor talk excessively. That’s a woman thing. But all the ENFJ males I know, have no problem saying they like someone and will only seek out deep conversation when they truly are falling in love with them.
@Dasani_water_drinker we clearly have different experiences here. Also earth signs are very uncomfortable sharing lovey dovey stuff. For us it could take months if not years to say i love you even if we deeply love you. My observation is that enfj men are very talkative and the soul of the party but when they deeply love you they become silent and kind of shy. When i first met my enfj ex he was super funny, open and talkative. The more he started to fall deeply the more aware he became. It's a question of losing control for them and when they truly love they may lose control and they hate that.
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Amazing video this is so me
Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you could relate to the video.
Now, I can tell I'm an enfj than infj. Thanks
To be honest, being an ENFJ-T myself, I find that as intuitive as I am...people naturally want to hide their feelings. Not being understood myself is the worst part. Not only that, I'm double Pisces (scorpio moon) . So. I am basically the super charged Ang Avatar version of this personalityy type! as a Male in today's society. It is particularly challenging. I mean, when I can literally feel everything...Im super fucking intuitive to the point that it cause severe nightmares...if. fi do t find ways to expelled other people's emotions mine are never really focused on at all...tha5s the curse part...I AM WELL AWARE OF ITS PARTICULAR BENEFIT TOO.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. It's always nice to connect with someone who understands the unique challenges we face.
Ok...maybe i have issues.!!!😂
Benevolence or cruelty
INFP here. I’ve met one and I hope I never meet one like him again. He ended up being the most evil person I’ve ever met. He started off extremely charming and he loved to talk and tell the coolest stories. And he told them in a way where I felt like I was there. He also seemed to know exactly what I wanted and needed. It was like a mind reading ability which was great at times but got dark quickly. His demon Te would come out and he was a monster. He would make decisions for me and act like he knew what was best for everyone regardless of their objections. I felt I was being brainwashed and didn’t even know who I was anymore. He had me so addicted to him and he seemed to love the control of toying with my mind. He ended up ending his own life three weeks after finding out I was pregnant. After he died, I went through his stuff and found out he had sick sexual fetishes and was even interested in young children. He was also in a leadership position in the military and would sleep with her superior and subordinates. He had this interesting habit of documenting EVERYTHING from conversations he’s had with people to journaling to important dates or other reminders. Must be that Si blindspot but he even had pictures and wrote these disgusting things down that he’s done or wanted to do. I hate it had to end the way it did, but I feel like I really dodged a huge bullet and so did our now 11 year old daughter that he’s never met. ENFJs are so powerful and I’m sure most use their talents for good and genuinely want to make this world a better place, but if they are unhealthy or corrupted, they can cause so much damage and to be fair, any type is capable of evil as well, so I don’t want to single ENFJ out. Just telling my experience with one bad one.