"I used to think that sharing every detail of my life was a sign of transparency and trust. But I've❤ learned that over-sharing can lead to emotional exhaustion, judgment, and even harm. By learning to keep things to myself, I've gained control over my narrative, set healthy boundaries, and cultivated more meaningful relationships. I've discovered that sometimes, the most powerful thing I can say is nothing at all. In the silence, I've found peace, clarity, and a sense of self that I never knew I had. Keeping things to myself has been a liberating journey, and I'm grateful for the lessons learned along the way."❤
Im so excited about this topic, because I was once a victim and it drained my energy. Oversharing makes one's life boring, people should be curious to know what's going on in your life, don't just be an open book to everyone, especially on social media. AND WHEN SOMEONE DECIDES TO OPEN UP TO YOU, YOU'RE NOT OBLIGATED TO DO THE SAME.
I paid a big price for being an oversharer. But i take it as a big chance to grow . Am praying to God to help my weakness because in my weakness His strength is made perfect in me.
Winnie, I know you know you're beautiful. But I still have to say it, you're so beautiful and you've modelled a lot of lives in a more elegant and better way. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
100% a private life is a happy life..... That's my life style by His grace,because people has hurt me so much. Then I used this strategy in my life, and is a happy life ever.
Thank you for this Winnie, this is great, i remember some colleagues discussing that i don't share many things about my life. Am glad am a private person, it has saved me from a lot
I used to be an over sharer due to some traumatic experiences I have had in my childhood moments. Henceforth, I am going be intentional about keeping a private life.
Thank you Pretty Winnie for this episode and Happy Sunday to you! What really surprised me when I saw the notification and title of this video was how coincidental it was that I was actually thinking about this today, and even had to browse at length on different articles, to know the real reason behind this recent trend/syndrome of needing to put all of oneself out there. I would think of myself as an oversharer, though I had become aware of it and have been consciously trying to minimize it, after having seen the damage and harm it can do to one by living this way, but surprisingly most people have not really considered it adverse, judging by the things I see some people share on social media. One of the quotes I use to restrain myself when I feel that need to overshare or impress others is "Live a life that feels good on the inside and not one that just looks good on the outside". Overall, insecurity or voidness is at the core of it. People who are full or are wholesome have little or no need for external validation...
@@vivianchigozie3474 I really love that quote! Live a life that is full on the inside and not just good on the outside!👏🏽👏🏽 Thanks for staying with us!❤️❤️❤️
I overshare most times because, I am usually by myself, I have no friends to really talk to . So I noticed that whenever I get comfortable with someone, I tend to share so much😔 I often regret after over sharing… thank you for this video Zee🥰
The overly trusting part was clearly me back then I was overly trust Infact mine was more like a disease I trusted also because I thought we are all christian in one church Yeah This message is just for me Thank you Winnie 😊
I grew up defending myself towards many accusations from my guidance , which lead me to over share then This video had validate my next step in keeping my privacy. Thank you so much ma'am
Thank you for this Winnie Ma, this is so amazing. This video is specifically for me especially growing up in a toxic family(childhood trauma), trying to get validation from people, it hasn't been easy communicating or making friends and so on. But coming in contact with this video has opened my eyes to a lot. Thank you so much ❤
Ma, all thanks to you I used to be in the dark but after seeing your videos I started learning. May God continue to bless you and guide you and give you more knowledge to share with us. Thanks once again love you❤
Most time I don't know how i share everything thinking that those people think or behave like me😢😢and think that i have seen a good friend not knowing that they're just normal or temporary people...... Thank you so much pretty Winnie 🥰🥰
This is very educative ,I do overshare I have been warn severally but hmmm I'm still paying dearly for that now I pray for the overcoming power to stop this awful act I'm a young lady and this is stressing me out
Because of no friends, heartbreaks,no good family ties,i used to overshare but I learned in a hard way,never doing that again, just living as life offers, thank you sis
My grandma always says, it's not everything you see or hear u have to say and also wait for someone to ask for your opinion before u talk. Even that if u know u don't know no body will force u just keep quiet .❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much dear. God bless you 🙏
I always had this feeling of never regretting subscribing to your channel, and you just proved me right with this very video🥰 Please keep it up Dear 👍❤❤🎉
Aww, Dear Winnie I am glad to be a part of a community free from toxicity 😊 I really admire you for keeping a lot of things private, that’s one thing I noticed once I started following you and learning from all you teach on elegance, and I for one will do the same. It’s called PRIVATE LIFE for a reason😉 Every week I look forward to your videos which always provides me with value❤ Thank you Winnie 😊
Sometimes it's okay to put your relationships or friendships to the test and see what you're really made of.😊 I tried this with my flat neighbour, whom I had doubts about, by intentionally not showing up when they expected me to, but on my own terms. It turned out that the whole family was comprised of narcissistic psychopaths.
I always enjoy your vlogs Infact your vlogs is a must watch for me I get inspired when I watch them Sometimes I rewatch them to get calm❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much Winnie
I can relate with the TH-cam space being less toxic. I started being here more because, i love the positivity in the comments. So a friend stopped talking to me for a while, she even blocked me. I reached out to her and she shut me out for months. Later she reached out to me and one of the reasons she gave for ghosting me is that i share very little about my life, but sincerely i believe I've been very open to her since we've been friends but obviously she didn't see it like that i guess. Thanks alot for these tips ma'am, i need to be better with keeping my business private, not everything should be said and i think we all should respect that tho.
What an amazing video 😢😊 I started following this channel 3 years ago but today's video hits differently Winnie Thank you so much sis I love the fact that we have many things in common and the way you get up from down in the way you don't know 😂 but I highly appreciate the work of your be blessed beyond measures much love from Rwanda take a heart 💝
Thank you Sis Winnie for this topic...I used to be an oversharer like a talkative but now I don't do that any more.ibfqct people think I'm now secretive. I'm grateful you discussed about this.
Yh, so much to seek validation To fill up the silence To prove myself as being transparent Feeling insecure This is so me,I hope to improve I think it has done more harm than good to me I sumtymz feel judged by own over sharing attitude Thank you mama❤️ for sharing I can't even seem to differentiate between acquaintances and real friends My secrets eeh
Don't let people who you do not trust or vouch for to an extent into d vault of ur life It's not really ur place to keep a conversation going Read body language Dont always go looking for someone to talk to. Learn not to overtalk Learn to pen down your thoughts for yourself Set your boundaries Become a good listener, an active listener Listen actively not to talk back but to process what is or has being said James 1:19-22 Be quick to listen and slow to speak Listen twice as much as you talk Stop overly trusting people Trust is earned Test your friends Learn to keep things vague and generalize ur talk sometimes Stop posting everything abt you on social media Be mindfu of strangers Set boundaries to yourself and stay loyal to your boundaries
For real, you remind me so much of myself 🥰 Thank you for every content. It's really giving me the confidence that I can be a personal development coach too.
Sure Winnie I learn my lesson But I don’t know why anytime I decided to trust people it turned out wrong but for me I have all their secrets in my heart ❤️
My family came from two different countries to the U.S. One culturally is known for being extremely talkative. So for me it’s more cultural instead of insecurity or fear of silence. But yes not all people need to know everything about a person! Regarding letting people speculate can lead to people making false assumptions and then spreading that around as if it’s fact (they created their own narrative). I’ve had that happen a few times and it’s difficult to recover from that kind of reputation damage.
I really need to share this video, I can't be the only one to enjoy this talk, but sometimes will share by mistake, this is when the video or journal will be needful.
I know I do not overshare. I always keep things to myself and most times I’m not able to let go of the bad feelings so they make me feel down. I’m watching your video on how to build emotional intelligence for the second time and actually putting it into practice now. What I have taken from your video today is the “self conversation” on my mobile phone ❤. Thank you Winnie ❤
Thanks for sharing, I am so guilty of this and have really learnt from watching this video. Please can you make a video on how to heal from childhood trauma and bully
Thank you Winnie, I always find your videos as life saving, because it always talk about things I need to work on❤ Please can you make a video on things to work on before going to the university.
"I used to think that sharing every detail of my life was a sign of transparency and trust. But I've❤ learned that over-sharing can lead to emotional exhaustion, judgment, and even harm. By learning to keep things to myself, I've gained control over my narrative, set healthy boundaries, and cultivated more meaningful relationships. I've discovered that sometimes, the most powerful thing I can say is nothing at all. In the silence, I've found peace, clarity, and a sense of self that I never knew I had. Keeping things to myself has been a liberating journey, and I'm grateful for the lessons learned along the way."❤
@@chloe_536 I really love this for you! Well done!👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@winniesschoolofelegance thanks ma'am🥂❤️
Beautiful 🤩❤️
Winnie is such an amazing person...I saw her first video on how to make pizza❤❤ she is so gifted...thanks for sharing theee tips❤
I still feel this way
How did you change
Im so excited about this topic, because I was once a victim and it drained my energy. Oversharing makes one's life boring, people should be curious to know what's going on in your life, don't just be an open book to everyone, especially on social media. AND WHEN SOMEONE DECIDES TO OPEN UP TO YOU, YOU'RE NOT OBLIGATED TO DO THE SAME.
I need to pen down this comment
I paid a big price for being an oversharer. But i take it as a big chance to grow . Am praying to God to help my weakness because in my weakness His strength is made perfect in me.
@@laribareh3134 take it one day at a time dear…💖💖💖
@@winniesschoolofelegance tq for taking up this topic and explained so clearly ❤️❤️❤️. Stay blessed
Me too
First person here and I am glad to relax after Sunday service with this enlightening piece.
I hope it inspires you and add value. Happy Sunday dear!❤❤
Winnie, I know you know you're beautiful.
But I still have to say it, you're so beautiful and you've modelled a lot of lives in a more elegant and better way. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
Oh my!! Thank you so so much! I appreciate your kinds!❤❤
100% a private life is a happy life.....
That's my life style by His grace,because people has hurt me so much.
Then I used this strategy in my life, and is a happy life ever.
Thank you for this Winnie, this is great, i remember some colleagues discussing that i don't share many
things about my life. Am glad am a private person, it has saved me from a lot
Don't over share. Privacy is power.
@@Faithhamilton141 privacy is everything!
I used to be an over sharer due to some traumatic experiences I have had in my childhood moments. Henceforth, I am going be intentional about keeping a private life.
Same here
We are many😂😂
I was sharing every information about myself but I stopped and found an inner peace
Thank you Pretty Winnie for this episode and Happy Sunday to you! What really surprised me when I saw the notification and title of this video was how coincidental it was that I was actually thinking about this today, and even had to browse at length on different articles, to know the real reason behind this recent trend/syndrome of needing to put all of oneself out there. I would think of myself as an oversharer, though I had become aware of it and have been consciously trying to minimize it, after having seen the damage and harm it can do to one by living this way, but surprisingly most people have not really considered it adverse, judging by the things I see some people share on social media. One of the quotes I use to restrain myself when I feel that need to overshare or impress others is "Live a life that feels good on the inside and not one that just looks good on the outside". Overall, insecurity or voidness is at the core of it. People who are full or are wholesome have little or no need for external validation...
@@vivianchigozie3474 I really love that quote! Live a life that is full on the inside and not just good on the outside!👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks for staying with us!❤️❤️❤️
"Live a life that feels good on the inside and not one that just looks good on the outside" words on marble
Take Care too, Big sis❤❤❤@@winniesschoolofelegance
There are times that after you have overshared, you just want to take back all you have shared
@@suzzybella3975 that’s why you need to work on learning not to over share so you avoid those times…❤️
So true
I know right 😢
Swrs. This is so me
Very true
I overshare most times because, I am usually by myself, I have no friends to really talk to . So I noticed that whenever I get comfortable with someone, I tend to share so much😔 I often regret after over sharing… thank you for this video Zee🥰
The overly trusting part was clearly me back then
I was overly trust
Infact mine was more like a disease
I trusted also because I thought we are all christian in one church
Yeah
This message is just for me
Thank you Winnie 😊
Am guilty about over talking which leads me to over sharing. I pray to change and set values for my lifestyle. Thank you Winnie for this topic
Same here
Yooh baby girl you are so correct,we overshare and we become their nect topic of gossiping😢Love you sis', watching from South Africa❤
Exactly! So you need to keep a lot of things to yourself.
I grew up defending myself towards many accusations from my guidance , which lead me to over share then This video had validate my next step in keeping my privacy.
Thank you so much ma'am
A private Life is a Happy Life♥️❤Thank You so much Winnie🥰
Thank you for this Winnie Ma, this is so amazing. This video is specifically for me especially growing up in a toxic family(childhood trauma), trying to get validation from people, it hasn't been easy communicating or making friends and so on. But coming in contact with this video has opened my eyes to a lot. Thank you so much ❤
Ma, all thanks to you
I used to be in the dark but after seeing your videos I started learning. May God continue to bless you and guide you and give you more knowledge to share with us. Thanks once again love you❤
Most time I don't know how i share everything thinking that those people think or behave like me😢😢and think that i have seen a good friend not knowing that they're just normal or temporary people...... Thank you so much pretty Winnie 🥰🥰
This is very educative ,I do overshare I have been warn severally but hmmm
I'm still paying dearly for that now
I pray for the overcoming power to stop this awful act
I'm a young lady and this is stressing me out
Because of no friends, heartbreaks,no good family ties,i used to overshare but I learned in a hard way,never doing that again, just living as life offers, thank you sis
I can absolutely relate ,my case is same as yours.
@@sandraokonkwo900 it's well with us sis
I have learnt from this video. It really touched me, and kept me thinking.
A private life is a happy life.
Sharing makes me feel transparent Thank you Winnie, now I know better.
Exactly. Best to just keep quiet. i have never seen where there is a fight because one person could not keep the conversation going.
My grandma always says, it's not everything you see or hear u have to say and also wait for someone to ask for your opinion before u talk. Even that if u know u don't know no body will force u just keep quiet .❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much dear. God bless you 🙏
This is such an important topic. Moving in silence is the safest way to go. I hope you can also do a video on how to celebrate in silence🎉
I always had this feeling of never regretting subscribing to your channel, and you just proved me right with this very video🥰
Please keep it up Dear 👍❤❤🎉
Aww, Dear Winnie I am glad to be a part of a community free from toxicity 😊
I really admire you for keeping a lot of things private, that’s one thing I noticed once I started following you and learning from all you teach on elegance, and I for one will do the same. It’s called PRIVATE LIFE for a reason😉
Every week I look forward to your videos which always provides me with value❤
Thank you Winnie 😊
Sometimes it's okay to put your relationships or friendships to the test and see what you're really made of.😊 I tried this with my flat neighbour, whom I had doubts about, by intentionally not showing up when they expected me to, but on my own terms. It turned out that the whole family was comprised of narcissistic psychopaths.
Winnie’s school of elegance, one of my save place❤
Thank u for this community
I am so glad you are a part of this community. We thank God.❤️🙏🏽
I always enjoy your vlogs
Infact your vlogs is a must watch for me
I get inspired when I watch them
Sometimes I rewatch them to get calm❤❤❤❤
Thank you so much Winnie
I used to be like that aswell,i regret but am cleaning up the mess of over sharing personal information never ever
I can relate with the TH-cam space being less toxic.
I started being here more because, i love the positivity in the comments.
So a friend stopped talking to me for a while, she even blocked me. I reached out to her and she shut me out for months.
Later she reached out to me and one of the reasons she gave for ghosting me is that i share very little about my life, but sincerely i believe I've been very open to her since we've been friends but obviously she didn't see it like that i guess.
Thanks alot for these tips ma'am, i need to be better with keeping my business private, not everything should be said and i think we all should respect that tho.
You are a wow lady! You keep on transforming my life daily with your videos. Keep on shining ironlady.
What an amazing video 😢😊
I started following this channel 3 years ago but today's video hits differently
Winnie Thank you so much sis I love the fact that we have many things in common and the way you get up from down in the way you don't know 😂 but I highly appreciate the work of your be blessed beyond measures much love from Rwanda take a heart 💝
Thank you Sis Winnie for this topic...I used to be an oversharer like a talkative but now I don't do that any more.ibfqct people think I'm now secretive. I'm grateful you discussed about this.
Here comes the queen of Winnie's kingdom.
Thanks for sharing with us
@@peacechianugo5679 my absolute pleasure Darln!💖💖
Yh, so much to seek validation
To fill up the silence
To prove myself as being transparent
Feeling insecure
This is so me,I hope to improve
I think it has done more harm than good to me
I sumtymz feel judged by own over sharing attitude
Thank you mama❤️ for sharing
I can't even seem to differentiate between acquaintances and real friends
My secrets eeh
Audio recording myself when I want to call and overshare. It has really saved me!
There's so much strength in silence, for in quietness lies power.
This message just come on right time, I’m learning a lot from you Winnie
I am so glad you found this video valuable.❤
Don't let people who you do not trust or vouch for to an extent into d vault of ur life
It's not really ur place to keep a conversation going
Read body language
Dont always go looking for someone to talk to. Learn not to overtalk
Learn to pen down your thoughts for yourself
Set your boundaries
Become a good listener, an active listener
Listen actively not to talk back but to process what is or has being said
James 1:19-22
Be quick to listen and slow to speak
Listen twice as much as you talk
Stop overly trusting people
Trust is earned
Test your friends
Learn to keep things vague and generalize ur talk sometimes
Stop posting everything abt you on social media
Be mindfu of strangers
Set boundaries to yourself and stay loyal to your boundaries
You inspire me a lot ma'am. Ur soul is blessed. Thanks a lot for sharing
Just 2 minutes in and couldn't agree more! Loving this specific topic
For real, you remind me so much of myself 🥰 Thank you for every content. It's really giving me the confidence that I can be a personal development coach too.
I don't regret ever watching your videos.
Three hearts for you ma'am Winnie ❤❤❤.
In addition ma, I love your outfit ❤.
Sure Winnie I learn my lesson
But I don’t know why anytime I decided to trust people it turned out wrong but for me I have all their secrets in my heart ❤️
Thank you Winnie 💕 Big inspiration and a blessing even to me as a man. God bless you
My family came from two different countries to the U.S. One culturally is known for being extremely talkative. So for me it’s more cultural instead of insecurity or fear of silence. But yes not all people need to know everything about a person!
Regarding letting people speculate can lead to people making false assumptions and then spreading that around as if it’s fact (they created their own narrative). I’ve had that happen a few times and it’s difficult to recover from that kind of reputation damage.
God bless you immensely,Winie....this information came @ the right time
One of the reasons I look forward to Sundays😌❤️thank you for the information, knowledge and wisdom that you share✨
I love you so much Winnie. Thank you so much
I love you too!❤❤
What people dont know, they cannot criticize
Maintain your mystery
A private life is a happy life
Let people keep speculating
Thank you mama❤
I came across this topic as an adult. I think it took me time to stop oversharing by being mindful about what I talk about❤
Thank you winnie am actually waiting for this episode since 2:55pm today I just saw the episode now I,m so happy Winnie 😅😅😅 thank you
I’m so happy I came across this video video, to think I have always written down how I feel in my journal ❤️, and now in uni I still do ❤❤❤❤.
This is such an amazing video. So many people need to watch it. I'm definitely watching this again! Thank you for sharing this Winnie. ❤
My dear Elegant Intelligent Winnie, Here again, a special lesson to end the weekend yet a lifetime guide. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I really need to share this video, I can't be the only one to enjoy this talk,
but sometimes will share by mistake, this is when the video or journal will be needful.
Even oversharing with some family members can be very bad!
I know I do not overshare. I always keep things to myself and most times I’m not able to let go of the bad feelings so they make me feel down. I’m watching your video on how to build emotional intelligence for the second time and actually putting it into practice now. What I have taken from your video today is the “self conversation” on my mobile phone ❤. Thank you Winnie ❤
You’re God’s sent.you bless me with all your videos.i’m following you from COTE D’IVOIRE
Thanks for being such a good elder sister to me ❤❤❤
Oh winni i forgot to say how much i love your look
@@tr7339 thank you so much!❤️❤️
I needed to hear this. Thanks Winnie
My absolute pleasure!❤
Awnnnnn…this video is really for me…thank you miss winny…I love you big time
This is like my weakness.
Sometimes after I recover myself from it i will be like "Amaka was that talk necessary". Honestly its exhausting.
It's well sis,it happens to almost everyone.
You are such a darling listening to you I can gladly say my life has change
That shut up! Is needed Winnie
The need to cover up silence 😢😢😢😢that’s so me I feel the need to keep the conversation going and end up oversharing 😢
I now at least know that me being a secretive and private person isn't a bad character at all.
Thank you so much ma
I love you🥺♥️
I find this useful.
For me,i have learnt to journal,write..
Or I talk to my mirror😄
Very good information...I'm learning something and I now know which areas to draw boundaries in...thank you Winnie ❤❤❤....love your outfit momma🔥🔥🔥
Wow! Thanks, Winnie for this helpful video. Keep up the good work
So true Winnie.
Thank you so much ❤
Thanks for sharing, I am so guilty of this and have really learnt from watching this video. Please can you make a video on how to heal from childhood trauma and bully
She has already.
Check her previous post on this page
I have lent a lot from this video. Thank you. I am going to practicalise your advice.
Thank you, thank you, and thank you ❤❤❤❤ for everything today
Thank you so much Winnie ❤ I'm grateful to God for your life thank you for your good advices 😊 they are really building me
You're right my lovely. 🎉
My problem with journaling is being able to keep it absolutely private. Especially when living in a shared space with a spouse.
@@RUYINAETENGsMEDICDIARY hide it in plain sight.. there’s always that one spot in every home… find yours! It might even be in the kitchen…😉
I always look forward to your Videos Winnie and I love every bit of it because it's life changing. God bless you
GOD Bless you Winny and thanks for sharing this
I'm so glad to have watched this.. ❤
Thank you winnie for this video ❤very timely.
God bless you pretty.
I always used to think this necklace was a headset design😂
I'm shocked to see its not.
It's beautiful by the way🤭
@@laurynososeh5305 thank you!!❤️❤️
Thank you so much.... I learnt the hard way at some point 😢
You are absolutely right sis "Private life is a happy life"is video is very helpful thanks
Well done, nwanyi oma. I love everything about you ❤❤❤❤❤.
Thank you for this, Winnie.
Thank you sir 😊 beautiful video 😊so much wisdom 😊
May we receive the grace to know when to speak😊and when to be quiet 😊❤
Amen!🙏🏽
This is so nice.I have learnt alot, today.Waaooh!it really hit right home.
I am so glad you found the episode valuable.❤️
Always inspiring...
❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for this reminder
@@RUYINAETENGsMEDICDIARY you are absolutely welcome!❤️
Thank you Winnie, I always find your videos as life saving, because it always talk about things I need to work on❤
Please can you make a video on things to work on before going to the university.
You inspire me alot ... very impressive...thank u
This is 💯 thank you Winnie
Such a informative video.... thank you soo much
More especially the saloonist😢
Thanks so much Winnie ❤❤
Thank you ma'am for this beautiful episode, I really love it
Am guilty of this topic but I will apply all you have said ma'am thank you for sharing 😊
This is so insightful..... Thank you Winnie