Story 5: what did OP expect living next to farmers, of course the farmers are going to wake up/ start work earlier around 4am and don't want any noise after 8pm.
But a grown farmer building a pig sty just because a teenager 'offended' them is pretty pathetic and snowflakey IMO 😅😅😅. Didn't know farmers have such thin skins...I bet he cried because a teenage girl gave him a dirty look like teenage girls regularly do.😂😂😂
Exactly. I live in a rural area, and it's rude AF to play loud music in your house, car, shed, anywhere after 8pm unless you've expressly let your neighbours know ahead of time ie; parties, family reunions, etc. Also, animals have a mind of their own especially farm animals, and often things like fences are of little consequence to them, so if it's not a genuine barrier like an electric, or solid timber fence, of course they'll go over, under, or through it to graze on the other side. I understand she's from a completely different community and adjusting can take time when going from a town/city/suburbs to a rural setting, but it's not that hard to be polite and see that your being a knob to your neighbours will hurt you more in the long run than it will them. After all, they're already a solid community, she and her family are the odd ones out in this equation.
Story 5: I do not believe OP's story that they are totally blameless. OP is leaving a lot of information out to give me cause why a person would want to install a hog farm to get rid of their neighbors. I want to hear from the neighbor's side of the story. I bet the OP was doing far more things than they claimed they did in the story.
I know just how the OP in the second story feels. My former best friend that I knew for 22 years ghosted me in one of the worst ways. I did so much for him. Right down to even letting him live with me for two years when he lost his apartment. He rewarded this by ghosting me a couple of months after he moved out. I've got a long list of his problems and the things he's done. But the short of it is what he did was just plain wrong, and now he's even starting to lose the mutual friend he kept in contact with.
I actually feel like she was in Love with her. The friend has been there and been loving and caring for OP, and isn’t really worried about it when the relationship doesn’t seem serious but is angry and rejects OP when it is serious.
@@Azulakayesyou're pathetic. op literally gave the guy a dirty look while trying to get his cow back and f****** disrespected him that way. As someone who lives in the South you do not disrespect Farmers they are the ones that feed us you ingrate
@@CreatingArt3185 That's hilarious coming from a guy who probably hasn't farmed before or know-how to work the fields, or raise livestock. Bunch of privileged A-holes who don't know anything about being a farmer. Also don't disrespect Farmers they're the ones that feed Us you ingrate
Typically I agree with the idea of “hey some cultures are bad” but I think this is the case of adapting to the environment. OP refused to adapt to the environment. Now their parents will suffer monetarily. In some cases, like this, it is best to just conform to the majority if the culture is not causing harm, which it was not.
Story 4: That relationship is over, OP needs to just move on. The second your partner starts talking about sleeping with other people just leave, its not worth it imo.
Story 2: people are saying that the friend did what they did because of OP's venting to her over 3 relationships, and that maybe its because OP keeps going on with destructive habits. OP should probably be single for a while to grow herself.
It depends. If this relationship is going much better than before, then why been mad. Of course i understand why the friend wants to keep away just in case that happen because it maybe fed up with the previous situations... BUT on other hand i find it a little odd because the "oh! and my cousin is blocking you" is telling me something else is going on.
@@SenseiRaisen If this person is close with their cousin and shares that they are done cleaning up the messes from the failed relationships and have cut contact, it isn't hard to see why their cousin would block the OP as well even without being told to.
@@kayschut9327 YEAH! i guess so.. that is another possibility too and i won't deny if the cousin is also closer to this OP then i believe that could be very solid possibility for block her as well.
Yeah I had a friend like that, They never get help, they love the hurt and destructive habits. Learned my lesson as well, never think you can fix or help someone. addiction is too strong.
The last story No way that farmer did that just for her rude attitude come on😳 so much more to the story... Farmers deal with a lot of different people. Moving in a small town neighbor's help each other out. Its a very close bond and She doesn't want to be there, now she has hurt her parents.
@@ked49 she admitted giving the guy a dirty look when he was trying to get his cow back. I'm not thin skin, but you know what if I'm a farmer, I'm working the fields all day, tending to the animals at damn near triple digit degrees outside, I too would be that petty.
Story 5: they moved into an area zoned agricultural. There will be farm animals and smells. And likely the right to increase the number of livestock they have. Reminds me of some city people who bought some land near where we used to live. She complained when the wind blew from the south because she could smell the dairy farm that was a couple miles away. And then when they expanded the business and got a permit for another 400 cows, city slicker was ticked. LOL! Do your research on an area before you move there. OP sounds like she expects everyone to change their lives to accommodate her. How about she changes her attitude to fit in to the new environment? Could be worse, though. They could have been raising Turkeys. I swear those smell worse than any other livestock!
Change their lives to accommodate her? How? By minding their own business when she plays music and keeping their livestock off of her property? Oh no. Such unreasonable demands. If it were like midnight and she's out blasting music, I'd be more inclined to think she was the AH. But 9 pm is not late, not even for a farming community.
To the kid in the last story, and anybody else who might read this and be thinking about moving into a small rural community, listen up because you need to know this. You and all your family will be considered outsiders for as long as you live until you either marry someone else in the community or have kids after moving, and even though everybody will treat you kindly for the most part, they don't like outsiders in their communities and it really doesn't take much to make them want you to leave and go back where you came from. Remember, in a small rural town or county, everyone knows everyone else, and outsiders coming in and forcing themselves into that tight knit community isn't appreciated. Especially if they just try and keep to themselves. That just makes you look either rude or suspicious.
Tbh sleeping before 9pm is common because cows need to be milked in the morning and her making noise is really annoying when you need to sleep. So I think the op really needs to ask for forgiveness and try to make peace with the guy(who is really reasonable)
If i ever move to a town like that i really wouldnt care how people see me, hell idec what my family thinks about me, but i wouldnt intentionally be mean or anything
This is about the pig farm issue. I grew up on a farm, not as large as the ones out in the Midwest, but we still always woke up before 5 am. The reason why they were most likely upset about the music in the car at 9pm was that most likely many of them had already gone to bed. Working on a farm is not like a regular job. There are NO scheduled days off. It's kinda like raising children, except that you know what they will be doing when they become old enough. Next many people who live there have most likely been living there since the 19th century and are simply used to a certain level of respect from the younger generation, but when you get people who are not used to that particular type of lifestyle, it can be an eye opener. Also I believe that there is more to this than what OP is mentioning here, because even farmers tend to be very accepting people.
She's mad because her backup simp found someone. Now, if the current BF bounces, she'll be alone. Seem this type of situation many times. Been in it plenty, too. But I still have my balls and tell them I know what they're doing and to cut it the fuq out.
Story 4: The narrator yet again showing a HUGE bias. Wanting to take a break to sleep with other guys is okay but in other stories wanting an open relationship is cheating with extra steps? Come on now.
@@Leosloth2011 When she specifies that she wants a break because he's the only guy she's ever been with beyond kissing, it's easy to see what she means by a break.
Story 1: I think it would be poetic revengance if the OP did the same thing her mother was doing to her. Barge into her house, take something that she probably needs (but not have it be vital) or leave something that she doesn't need or want.
For the first story the OP should have scolded her significant other for letting her mother into her home, I bet he was the one who gave her his house key to copy it
Don't give her your address ... Or anyone that knows her It worked for my mom (she would come over without warning and get mad if I wasn't home...) We might be moving to a different city soon and I'm honestly looking forward to it since my mom doesn't drive
As a suggestion for the final story you could buy a couple industrial fans and put them up against a wall facing facing the pig Barn that should help keep some of the smell back and we'll make a statement
In university I had a roommate whose mother would just stop by and try taking over so the other roommates and I got together and told her if she tries to take over again we would put her daughter out so we wouldn't have to deal with her. When my former roommate turned best friend graduated and got her own place she broke her mother of treating it like her place by getting her to pay the bills even though she was a psychologist, after 6 months she finally accepted my friend was an adult.
Yea man, she wants a break to explore other options. I understand he loves her but gotta think outside of love and see if she is truly the best person for you.
@@tahiria2270 then there is no need for “a break”. Either it is yall talk/work whatever you are going through or, if communication is not happening, the relationship ends. There is no “break” in a marriage. So there shouldnt be one in a serious relationship.
Story 2 seems like the female friend is in love with the person who posted that and after all she went through cant handle it that another person went into the life that she will never be able to get.
I don't think it's that the OP 'went into the life that she will never be able to get', I would rather say that over the course of 14 years they have been cleaning up the emotional mess left behind by the failed relationships. On top of that the OP probably went to them for advice all the time as well. It's mentally exhausting to deal with that for such a long time, especially if there are feelings there. Probably cut contact for the sake of her own sanity.
Last story. Playing loud music at 9 in their car. This IS bad. Farmers are up before the sun sometimes depending on the actual farm. 9pm is probably half way through their sleep cycle.
Yeah, I'm not a farmer, but anywhere I move or am new I'm going to read the room, and go out of my way to me courteous even if things don't make sense to me yet. That is the relevant principle here, learning the ethic and customs of the existing community.
Last story: The OP in the story has probably left out a lot of details, as well as the frequency with which they are being loud in the evenings. Considering they moved into a FARMING community, 21:00 is late because these people probably get up before the sun is out every single day. If you don't want to be miserable, don't bring city habits to these kinds of places.
Last story: OP was in the wrong and not very neighborly. OK 9 pm doesn't sound late to most people but it's like midnight to the farm community and most places have noise ordinances. And cows escape get over it. So she brought problems upon herself and her family. Her attitude sucked also.
The best friend story oddly reminds me of the friend I left. We had been friend's since high school and our families were close. They got really sick with complications from their PCOS and was stubborn about getting treatment. I had to drag her to the hospital on multiple occasions. I told her to stop talking to this guy cause he was a Narcissistic abuser. She would not listen to me. She insulted my husband after this man hurt me and everyone around us. She wouldn't listen though so I and my family blocker her on social media. I am still worried about her because I care about her. But she won't listen to me and I can't let him hurt everyone around me. So I had to let them go.
If someone says they want to take a break because they dont want to miss out and then follow it up with anything about sex and shit like that then it isnt even worth the effort or time to try and stay in the relationship
Ok hear me out Farmers wake up at the absolute ass crack of dawn And at 9 at night there trying to sleep So if I was in there shoes I’d be mad if some City foke where blaring rap music when I’m trying to sleep
Last story: sounds like the new pig farmers need random and spontaneous loud music for brief moments throughout the night. And any other inconveniences that no one can prove if the neighbors are gonna cause trouble over trivial things.
you should havnd over every vegetable and dairy product over if you think they were overreacting to disturbances they were dealing with when they need to rest to work
@@aaron75fy oh no. someone playing music at 9 pm. what is the world coming to? it's truly the downfall of society. apparently the farming community is so fragile that some music can absolutely destroy it. they would all just die if they had to live in a city, i guess, where there's all kinds of noise at all hours of the night.
@@alias-majik as I said to someone else, you tone suggests you plan on throwing away every vegetable you have since you don't wish to respect the hard work it took to grow and pick them
Girl moves into a farm and doesn’t know how differently agricultural communities are. You’re not in the city anymore. Time works differently. Farm work is extremely hard work. You have to wake up before dawn. 9pm in a farm is probably like midnight in the city. Warming up the tractor at 5 or 6 am, is standard practice. Animals are awake, you need to feed them, being in the field under 2pm scorching sun is not fun, so you want to do it early, before the sun is high up and makes everything harder. It’s loud, and you can’t make it quieter. The neighbor was trying to get the animal back, op could’ve tried to help or at least get out of the way. Cows don’t know what private property is. And yes, maybe the neighbor was being careless or even testing her manners, but it is more likely, he was just having a heck crazy morning, and was not planning on chasing an animal on top of all the work he had to do and OP just made it all worse. Also, respect towards older people is considered basic manners. If the neighbors is her parents age and she gave them dirty looks, she might have as well have flipped him one. I’m not saying this mind set is good, or healthy, or that kids shouldn’t be able to enjoy music in their cars. It’s simply a very different way to live. Farming communities are close knit because neighbors grew up together and trust they can count on each other. You might have a bad year, or you might break a bone and suddenly isn’t able to harvest all the sweet you put into the field. At this point your neighbors or the church folk kids will come and help. You’re wife is in the hospital and the kind are studying a thousand miles away, the neighbors are bringing you food, and visiting your wife, and cheering you up. That’s partly why they don’t like outsiders. This close mindedness is what happens when outside people who don’t understand you just think you’re dumb and refuse to respect your culture try to change everything about your community without knowing why thing are the way they are. Again, this might be close mindedness and lead to a bunch of inexcusable actions. But getting there and not knowing how different the culture is and basic manners are, is what makes OP kinda the jerk. Neighbors could definitely have been kinder and more patient. But in his eyes, she was acting as an entitled brat and her parents didn’t help. So OP’s lack of knowledge might just have made life extremely hard for her parents and herself.
I agree with everything but, the “respect your elders” I don’t think you should treat strangers any higher then you because they’re older, but other then that I agree.
I moved across the country and got an apartment. Dad followed and because it was the desert, I made the huge mistake of giving him the key. I didn't know he would decorate my place even when I told him not to. He stopped asking me because I would just say no. I would get home from work and he would be in the living room watching TV, explaining the new piece of furniture I told him not to bring me. He ordered cable TV in my name because "You can afford it" (not really).
I said this a while back, but I told my parents to never come into my room without my permission or I'll bust their kneecaps. They tried taking Chad my baseball bat away from me. let's just say I still have it, don't worry nobody's kneecaps were busted that day. Let's just say we both respect each other's boundaries now.
Story 2: Bestfriend was totally in love with OP. After having her feelings ignored for so long she decided to give a ultimatum. Me or them. After getting clarity that OP won't even value their friendship of 14 years over someone she kinda likes, that she'd never look at her romantically. So she cut her out completely.
For the last story my idea Is to publicly shame and humiliate them by just making a video explaining what's happend and showing them on camera, maybe even make a go fund me acc with a video of the pig pen and nabour, perhaps even make yourself look even more distressed then normal, and watch the Internet have they're way. ( I know this might be evil but that's how I naturally am )
You obviously don't live in the south. A lot of these people out here will make you disappear and no one will say anything about it because that's how closely tight-knit their community is.
Story 1 - STOP giving her a key. She Never should've had one to begin with. Story 2 - Do nothing. You're better off now without them due to their stupid behavior. Story 3 - You both messed things up but the friend started it by bailing on the apartment at the last minute because her boyfriend couldn't visit her. My opinion her boyfriend's got no business being there anyway. When they want to see eachother she can go to his place. And then she gets mad because you're spending time with your new roommate. So what do you do? Nothing. Leave all the BS where it is and move on with your life. Story 4 - No. There is no breaking up for a short time and then you potentially see other people or something and then come back. Forget it. If you leave, you're gone, it's over. Story 5 - The neighbors are garbage. I'd be heavily inclined (but maybe wouldn't) to torch the barn before it was fully built. And if their livestock is allowed to trespass on my property, I'd be having a big barbecue of them.
Id torch the barn, too. I'd wait for a pretty bad thunderstorm so It could be blamed on a lightning strike. The rain would wash away any accelerant residue too.
I would buy 1-2 dogs and then make the dogs bark at night Apparently pigs are afraid of barking dogs so with enough barks they can start squealing thus destroying their sleep
A lot of you guys are idiots for story 5. Y'all keep saying that he let the animals onto their property, but some of y'all don't seem to stop and realize that sometimes animals escape their pens, it happens. I'm not a farmer, but from living in the South for damn near ten years, I understand that sometimes a cow get spooked and breaks down fencing and ends up in the middle of the road or in someone else's property. That's why they're branded, that's why they got tags. It's not just to deter thieves, but so farmers can be contacted if they're animals escaped their property. It has happened, I have seen it. You guys are all idiots and you don't know anything about farming and it seems a hell of a lot less than I do
Story 5: Farmers are all about “early to bed and early to rise”. The OP needs to take that into consideration. Easy to see why some farm boys (and probably now some farmer’s daughters) join the military and/or why some veterans take farming as a post-military/post-war career (the latter goes as far back as the Roman Empire).
Uumm, that last story, what did y'all expect moving into a small farming community?? I mean, even keeping to yourself, but being rude while doing it will have you messed up legally!!!!!😂
It feels like OPs friend in the second story either loved the dude she was dating or loved OP. Well maybe live isn’t the right word, it felt like a sort of entitlement to them as a person which is creepy af. Idk, maybe OPs bf did something to her bff and she just didn’t tell her? No idea, it could be anything. Third story: wow, talk about being toxic. Complaining about smthn and then ignoring your friend when they are trying their best to fix it!
I lived in Texas for most of my life and want to move back eventually. The last story isn't something I experienced but I have been near pigs before. With someone who has a sense of smell like a hound dog, they aren't fun. But they're more tolerable than maybe if you lived in the city for years. The ones building the farm are absolutely pathetic, if the story is how it goes. To go so far over something so small is the kind of dickless thing I'd expect from someone who never learned boundaries. Personally, there would have been signs up on my property. "Trespassers will be shot". You don't need to shoot someone either. A rack of a pump is usually enough to stop anyone. As someone from the south, I don't care one way or another about something as minor as an animal in my yard, but I do care about people coming onto my property like it's their own. I understand them having to come get the cow, but they really should've put a fence up or something to keep them contained and off other properties.
I think in story 2, we need a bit more context about the boyfriend. I mean, maybe it was some ex of her friend's that OP didn't know about. There's just not enough to tell who is in the wrong.
To the OP of the invasive mother story: put a restraining order on her if she comes by again. At this point nothing else is likely to work but going to jail when she inevitably breaks the restraining order
As somebody who's lived with the farming community, seeing new people is always awesome since people get sitting in their ways a disturbance. It's not always bad but if you're waking up at 5 AM to start your day with the rest of the nature, wake up that early you're going to sleep early at night so hearing the boom boom boom and somebody's car because base does travel is disturbing. A lot of these communities grew up on generations and generations of respect in the young girl clearly didn't respect anybody all she had to do is say sorry it's not hard so why don't you guys just get a bunch of pigs like he got pigs when he's not looking but the pig shit from your pigpen in his pigpen so he has more shit to cleanlol
Would I be the Jerk if I banned a show my siblings watch without their permission? My siblings watch ricky nicky dicky and dawn nonstop, and its kind of turning them into monsters. I've been wanting to ban it nonstop, but my dad wont let me. Theres no variety either, as they seem to watch the same episodes. It's not like I can last with the show on, and only loose braincells, but my siblings are becoming one of them. They qute the show in normal conversations, and seem to think they can always get their way. The show is annoying in itself, but now my siblings, who follow me everywhere are becoming this annoying show. I've been thinking of banning it from their accounts without permission, but then I may become the bad guy in that situation. I'm at a loss, and I don't know what to do.
For the first story I would not let her know where I'm moving too , and if she needed to talk or see the grandchild I'd facetime her that way there she'd be able too see her without invading my space , also why is the partner always letting the mom in when I'm 100% sure that she's told him not to open the door for her 😐 that would piss me off the way he didn't respect the fact I don't want her in my space. The fourth story damn not only does she have mental health issues but she's been with him since she was 18! She barely started having a life at that time, he was 24 and has had experiences and now he's reached a point of wanting to settle down. So ofc her brain would go into overdrive and now she's needing time to think it all over , and while she does he can say "okay I'll give you your space , BUT if you're thinking about being with other guys tell me right here right now and you can have your space permanently because if i ever find out that you slept with someone on this break I will make it hell for you through our divorce".
NO ONE has a right to tell you who's to be your friend. That's just ridiculous! Sounds like your friend was very insecure and just wanted to be YOUR ONLY FRIEND!
The last story about the farmers. I live in the midwest and 1. Farmers get up at the break of dawn and go to bed as soon as the sun sets so at 9 the farmer was most likely in bed barring an emergency. 2. Farmer should’ve asked permission for the cow to graze there unless cow broke free on their own somehow and decided op’s grass tasted better than their own. In that case a polite thing to do would be to let farmer know so he can retrieve cow. Or just let farmer know that op can mow their own grass and doesn’t need cow’s help. 3. A pig anything is one of the ways to get rid of unwanted neighbors and having lived around farmers i can kinda see why they would want to.
I have decided to remove one of my friends from my life, which has led to a complete halt in our communication. Despite having known him for 31 years and considering him a "brother," his decision to exclude me from his wedding made me feel unappreciated. Consequently, I blocked him, and his failure to inquire about my choice indicates that he likely understood my reasoning. Additionally, I was not invited to his bachelor party, an event I would have greatly enjoyed attending, while he opted to invite a colleague he had known for only four months and his neighbor. It is important to note that I was in town, and he was aware of this. As a side note, we have never had any conflicts or arguments, which makes the situation even more painful and unexpected.
Jerky, as much as I usually like your stories, on story 5 I'm 100% against you: The farmers lived there long before OP's family came, the whole neighborhood was fine with the way they lived until OP started making things difficult (not respecting other's life schedule, not understanding that even a domesticated farm animal stays a wild animal that has it's own willpower and you can't control it) and thinking the world revolves around them. The solution was simple : apologies but have a discussion, heck even do a neighborhood BBQ to appease the tensions! OP doesn't live in a city, they live in a VILLAGE, farmers are the heart of villages, their families have probably had that farm for generations and a simple minded city pompous selfish girl like OP won't change the whole working system just because they don't agree with it!
Story 5: what did OP expect living next to farmers, of course the farmers are going to wake up/ start work earlier around 4am and don't want any noise after 8pm.
But a grown farmer building a pig sty just because a teenager 'offended' them is pretty pathetic and snowflakey IMO 😅😅😅. Didn't know farmers have such thin skins...I bet he cried because a teenage girl gave him a dirty look like teenage girls regularly do.😂😂😂
It never said the op went to the neighbor and complain to them it was to loud like are you sped in the head
@skittles damn why straight to insulting. Pretty sure they meant that ofc the neighbor doesn't want to hear OP playing loud music past 8
Exactly. I live in a rural area, and it's rude AF to play loud music in your house, car, shed, anywhere after 8pm unless you've expressly let your neighbours know ahead of time ie; parties, family reunions, etc. Also, animals have a mind of their own especially farm animals, and often things like fences are of little consequence to them, so if it's not a genuine barrier like an electric, or solid timber fence, of course they'll go over, under, or through it to graze on the other side. I understand she's from a completely different community and adjusting can take time when going from a town/city/suburbs to a rural setting, but it's not that hard to be polite and see that your being a knob to your neighbours will hurt you more in the long run than it will them. After all, they're already a solid community, she and her family are the odd ones out in this equation.
@@YourShadowKeeper true
Story 5: I do not believe OP's story that they are totally blameless. OP is leaving a lot of information out to give me cause why a person would want to install a hog farm to get rid of their neighbors. I want to hear from the neighbor's side of the story. I bet the OP was doing far more things than they claimed they did in the story.
the way he speaks gives me the vibe of a petulant teenage, that "whatever" and "not my problem" attitude speaks a lot about his personality
EXACTLY what I was thinking too
@@DemetrioGC She
op didn't do nothing wrong the neighbors are horrible , letting their cow find the way to her and her father's house like they're overreacting.
The moment op said that the neighbors complaint about loud music at 9pm, that lost my support in op. Farms had to be awake before dawn.
I know just how the OP in the second story feels. My former best friend that I knew for 22 years ghosted me in one of the worst ways. I did so much for him. Right down to even letting him live with me for two years when he lost his apartment. He rewarded this by ghosting me a couple of months after he moved out. I've got a long list of his problems and the things he's done. But the short of it is what he did was just plain wrong, and now he's even starting to lose the mutual friend he kept in contact with.
I actually feel like she was in Love with her. The friend has been there and been loving and caring for OP, and isn’t really worried about it when the relationship doesn’t seem serious but is angry and rejects OP when it is serious.
The last story is really telling that the VA has never lived in the country. It's the way things work out there.
Then it’s time y’all put your adult pants on and grew up
It is pathetic how close minded such communities are.
@@Azulakayesyou're pathetic. op literally gave the guy a dirty look while trying to get his cow back and f****** disrespected him that way. As someone who lives in the South you do not disrespect Farmers they are the ones that feed us you ingrate
@@CreatingArt3185 That's hilarious coming from a guy who probably hasn't farmed before or know-how to work the fields, or raise livestock. Bunch of privileged A-holes who don't know anything about being a farmer. Also don't disrespect Farmers they're the ones that feed Us you ingrate
Typically I agree with the idea of “hey some cultures are bad” but I think this is the case of adapting to the environment. OP refused to adapt to the environment. Now their parents will suffer monetarily. In some cases, like this, it is best to just conform to the majority if the culture is not causing harm, which it was not.
Story 4: That relationship is over, OP needs to just move on. The second your partner starts talking about sleeping with other people just leave, its not worth it imo.
Story 2: people are saying that the friend did what they did because of OP's venting to her over 3 relationships, and that maybe its because OP keeps going on with destructive habits. OP should probably be single for a while to grow herself.
It depends. If this relationship is going much better than before, then why been mad. Of course i understand why the friend wants to keep away just in case that happen because it maybe fed up with the previous situations... BUT on other hand i find it a little odd because the "oh! and my cousin is blocking you" is telling me something else is going on.
You didn’t have to cut me off
@@SenseiRaisen If this person is close with their cousin and shares that they are done cleaning up the messes from the failed relationships and have cut contact, it isn't hard to see why their cousin would block the OP as well even without being told to.
@@kayschut9327 YEAH! i guess so.. that is another possibility too and i won't deny if the cousin is also closer to this OP then i believe that could be very solid possibility for block her as well.
Yeah I had a friend like that, They never get help, they love the hurt and destructive habits. Learned my lesson as well, never think you can fix or help someone. addiction is too strong.
The last story No way that farmer did that just for her rude attitude come on😳 so much more to the story... Farmers deal with a lot of different people. Moving in a small town neighbor's help each other out. Its a very close bond and She doesn't want to be there, now she has hurt her parents.
Probably said something
@@ked49 she admitted giving the guy a dirty look when he was trying to get his cow back. I'm not thin skin, but you know what if I'm a farmer, I'm working the fields all day, tending to the animals at damn near triple digit degrees outside, I too would be that petty.
Story 5: they moved into an area zoned agricultural. There will be farm animals and smells. And likely the right to increase the number of livestock they have. Reminds me of some city people who bought some land near where we used to live. She complained when the wind blew from the south because she could smell the dairy farm that was a couple miles away. And then when they expanded the business and got a permit for another 400 cows, city slicker was ticked. LOL! Do your research on an area before you move there. OP sounds like she expects everyone to change their lives to accommodate her. How about she changes her attitude to fit in to the new environment?
Could be worse, though. They could have been raising Turkeys. I swear those smell worse than any other livestock!
Change their lives to accommodate her? How? By minding their own business when she plays music and keeping their livestock off of her property? Oh no. Such unreasonable demands. If it were like midnight and she's out blasting music, I'd be more inclined to think she was the AH. But 9 pm is not late, not even for a farming community.
Story 1: Why was the OP giving her the key to the home so much?
They moved multiple times
Because people don't understand that sometimes you need to cut certain relatives out of your life in order to live a decent and happy life.
To the kid in the last story, and anybody else who might read this and be thinking about moving into a small rural community, listen up because you need to know this. You and all your family will be considered outsiders for as long as you live until you either marry someone else in the community or have kids after moving, and even though everybody will treat you kindly for the most part, they don't like outsiders in their communities and it really doesn't take much to make them want you to leave and go back where you came from. Remember, in a small rural town or county, everyone knows everyone else, and outsiders coming in and forcing themselves into that tight knit community isn't appreciated. Especially if they just try and keep to themselves. That just makes you look either rude or suspicious.
As someone who lives in the South i second this fact
@@AnimeGamer501st Me too. Tennessee, the greatest state in the land of the free.
Same, small village in Maine. We will be kind… but don’t push your way in our lives. It is easy to make us want you to leave.
Tbh sleeping before 9pm is common because cows need to be milked in the morning and her making noise is really annoying when you need to sleep. So I think the op really needs to ask for forgiveness and try to make peace with the guy(who is really reasonable)
If i ever move to a town like that i really wouldnt care how people see me, hell idec what my family thinks about me, but i wouldnt intentionally be mean or anything
This is about the pig farm issue.
I grew up on a farm, not as large as the ones out in the Midwest, but we still always woke up before 5 am. The reason why they were most likely upset about the music in the car at 9pm was that most likely many of them had already gone to bed.
Working on a farm is not like a regular job. There are NO scheduled days off. It's kinda like raising children, except that you know what they will be doing when they become old enough.
Next many people who live there have most likely been living there since the 19th century and are simply used to a certain level of respect from the younger generation, but when you get people who are not used to that particular type of lifestyle, it can be an eye opener.
Also I believe that there is more to this than what OP is mentioning here, because even farmers tend to be very accepting people.
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I am...... greatly confused
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I want to submit a story, but I'm kinda too stupid to know how to. And I'm not the best at english-...
i do too because i got a story of my own.
@@viviennemorgan7217 I got 2,to be honest-
One asking what I should do in a friendship of mine, the other about my bratty siblings.
Just put it on their subreddit r/amithejerk
@@Leosloth2011 I don't have reddit- don't plan on getting it either.
@@n4tural....te4 then sadly that seems to be the only way, maybe post it on
their next (full not in shorts) then people can help like that?
for story 1 op should have set traps like home alone whenever the mother would come into the house lol jk
Legos. Lots of Legos.
heh funny
@@LunaP1 Found Satan
I would call the police the minute she barge and go through my house and goes ballistic if I told her no. My house, my property, my rules.
Story 1: couldn't op just get a restraining order against her mom
Better yet CHANGE YOUR LOCKS that's what my family did after my mother attacked my grandmother
Yep, also coulda gotten her arrested for criminal trespass...
@@KingKiwi5150 hell naw
@@artimator4714 what do you mean "hell naw"
@@KingKiwi5150 srry just who decides to attack family like that?
Love y’all’s content sm! I’m so happy y’all avoided the whole problems with the copyright! Stay awesome and have a great day!!!!
He avoided it? 🙏
@@DetElliottStabler I believe so!
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@@DetElliottStabler IKR!! Im so glad!!!!
Why the hell does she have access to the keys?
Isn't that the first stop?
Story 3 : OP needs to grow a back bone. Why try and preserve this friendship.
She's mad because her backup simp found someone. Now, if the current BF bounces, she'll be alone. Seem this type of situation many times. Been in it plenty, too. But I still have my balls and tell them I know what they're doing and to cut it the fuq out.
First story: The mother's behavior is never going to change! If she ever shows up again, call the police and get her trespassed!
Story 4: The narrator yet again showing a HUGE bias. Wanting to take a break to sleep with other guys is okay but in other stories wanting an open relationship is cheating with extra steps? Come on now.
Narrators are simps that's why
Breaks dont always mean that sometimes breaks are taken to deal with family issues or career issues
@@Leosloth2011 When she specifies that she wants a break because he's the only guy she's ever been with beyond kissing, it's easy to see what she means by a break.
@@KiinyoWest as in She wants another guy to break in that pelvis of hers lol
Story 1: I think it would be poetic revengance if the OP did the same thing her mother was doing to her. Barge into her house, take something that she probably needs (but not have it be vital) or leave something that she doesn't need or want.
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For the first story the OP should have scolded her significant other for letting her mother into her home, I bet he was the one who gave her his house key to copy it
Hey am I the jerk I love your videos keep up the good work
Bro can you post more one very long stories
Don't give her your address ... Or anyone that knows her
It worked for my mom (she would come over without warning and get mad if I wasn't home...)
We might be moving to a different city soon and I'm honestly looking forward to it since my mom doesn't drive
As a suggestion for the final story you could buy a couple industrial fans and put them up against a wall facing facing the pig Barn that should help keep some of the smell back and we'll make a statement
In university I had a roommate whose mother would just stop by and try taking over so the other roommates and I got together and told her if she tries to take over again we would put her daughter out so we wouldn't have to deal with her. When my former roommate turned best friend graduated and got her own place she broke her mother of treating it like her place by getting her to pay the bills even though she was a psychologist, after 6 months she finally accepted my friend was an adult.
Story 4: dude she's met someone else. When a female says she wants a "break" she's met someone else and doesn't have the courage to tell you the truth
Agreed!
Yea man, she wants a break to explore other options. I understand he loves her but gotta think outside of love and see if she is truly the best person for you.
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@@tahiria2270 then there is no need for “a break”. Either it is yall talk/work whatever you are going through or, if communication is not happening, the relationship ends. There is no “break” in a marriage. So there shouldnt be one in a serious relationship.
Or maybe they need to figure out whether the pain of losing you is worse than being with you....
Story 2 seems like the female friend is in love with the person who posted that and after all she went through cant handle it that another person went into the life that she will never be able to get.
I don't think it's that the OP 'went into the life that she will never be able to get', I would rather say that over the course of 14 years they have been cleaning up the emotional mess left behind by the failed relationships. On top of that the OP probably went to them for advice all the time as well. It's mentally exhausting to deal with that for such a long time, especially if there are feelings there.
Probably cut contact for the sake of her own sanity.
When is the pain going to end
Last story. Playing loud music at 9 in their car. This IS bad. Farmers are up before the sun sometimes depending on the actual farm. 9pm is probably half way through their sleep cycle.
Yeah, I'm not a farmer, but anywhere I move or am new I'm going to read the room, and go out of my way to me courteous even if things don't make sense to me yet. That is the relevant principle here, learning the ethic and customs of the existing community.
Why would she use myspace?
Im sick and everytime i cough i feel the need to puke
Im not ok.
Last story: The OP in the story has probably left out a lot of details, as well as the frequency with which they are being loud in the evenings. Considering they moved into a FARMING community, 21:00 is late because these people probably get up before the sun is out every single day. If you don't want to be miserable, don't bring city habits to these kinds of places.
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S1 get a restricting order cuz if my mom did all that day 1 it's over
Exactly. That psychopath is a major control freak. Having her arrested and changing the locks is also a must.
Simple, change the locks, move away and don't tell her where and cut ties.
i think people who work in agriculture wakeup very early, so loud music at 9 would be an issue.
Story 4: She probably has eyes on some guy.
Last story: OP was in the wrong and not very neighborly. OK 9 pm doesn't sound late to most people but it's like midnight to the farm community and most places have noise ordinances. And cows escape get over it. So she brought problems upon herself and her family. Her attitude sucked also.
oh come op is just a child.
@@viviennemorgan7217 No excuses.
@@kla631 why?
@@viviennemorgan7217 if you were open up by a child at 12:00 would you think, “oh it’s just a child”?
@@Mimi_ownsyouall that you said right there makes no sense 🤨🤨🤨.
The best friend story oddly reminds me of the friend I left. We had been friend's since high school and our families were close. They got really sick with complications from their PCOS and was stubborn about getting treatment. I had to drag her to the hospital on multiple occasions. I told her to stop talking to this guy cause he was a Narcissistic abuser. She would not listen to me. She insulted my husband after this man hurt me and everyone around us. She wouldn't listen though so I and my family blocker her on social media. I am still worried about her because I care about her. But she won't listen to me and I can't let him hurt everyone around me. So I had to let them go.
If someone says they want to take a break because they dont want to miss out and then follow it up with anything about sex and shit like that then it isnt even worth the effort or time to try and stay in the relationship
Rip
Second one ….. what , that friend is well too needy and toxic
Ok hear me out
Farmers wake up at the absolute ass crack of dawn
And at 9 at night there trying to sleep
So if I was in there shoes I’d be mad if some City foke where blaring rap music when I’m trying to sleep
I DIDENT KNOW THERE WAS A FUCKING PIZZA HUT IN CRAZY TAXI
Story one: OP should seriously get a restraining order, just in case
Last story: sounds like the new pig farmers need random and spontaneous loud music for brief moments throughout the night. And any other inconveniences that no one can prove if the neighbors are gonna cause trouble over trivial things.
you should havnd over every vegetable and dairy product over if you think they were overreacting to disturbances they were dealing with when they need to rest to work
@@aaron75fy oh no. someone playing music at 9 pm. what is the world coming to? it's truly the downfall of society. apparently the farming community is so fragile that some music can absolutely destroy it. they would all just die if they had to live in a city, i guess, where there's all kinds of noise at all hours of the night.
@@alias-majik as I said to someone else, you tone suggests you plan on throwing away every vegetable you have since you don't wish to respect the hard work it took to grow and pick them
@@aaron75fy nice try, i grew up on a working farm. I know precisely how much hard work it is. It is not a free pass to be a bad person.
@@alias-majik I highly doubt it if you think it's unreasonable to be annoyed when you're woken up by loud music when you're trying to sleep
Neighbor gets pig barn buy a gun, they ain't keeping em in that barn. Couldn't even keep a cow on their property
Fist bump 🤜 cuz I’m first I think 😂
Ur not first
Good news about pig poop. You do eventually get used to the smell. It just takes quite awhile.
Girl moves into a farm and doesn’t know how differently agricultural communities are.
You’re not in the city anymore.
Time works differently. Farm work is extremely hard work. You have to wake up before dawn. 9pm in a farm is probably like midnight in the city.
Warming up the tractor at 5 or 6 am, is standard practice. Animals are awake, you need to feed them, being in the field under 2pm scorching sun is not fun, so you want to do it early, before the sun is high up and makes everything harder. It’s loud, and you can’t make it quieter.
The neighbor was trying to get the animal back, op could’ve tried to help or at least get out of the way. Cows don’t know what private property is. And yes, maybe the neighbor was being careless or even testing her manners, but it is more likely, he was just having a heck crazy morning, and was not planning on chasing an animal on top of all the work he had to do and OP just made it all worse.
Also, respect towards older people is considered basic manners. If the neighbors is her parents age and she gave them dirty looks, she might have as well have flipped him one.
I’m not saying this mind set is good, or healthy, or that kids shouldn’t be able to enjoy music in their cars. It’s simply a very different way to live.
Farming communities are close knit because neighbors grew up together and trust they can count on each other. You might have a bad year, or you might break a bone and suddenly isn’t able to harvest all the sweet you put into the field.
At this point your neighbors or the church folk kids will come and help. You’re wife is in the hospital and the kind are studying a thousand miles away, the neighbors are bringing you food, and visiting your wife, and cheering you up.
That’s partly why they don’t like outsiders.
This close mindedness is what happens when outside people who don’t understand you just think you’re dumb and refuse to respect your culture try to change everything about your community without knowing why thing are the way they are.
Again, this might be close mindedness and lead to a bunch of inexcusable actions.
But getting there and not knowing how different the culture is and basic manners are, is what makes OP kinda the jerk.
Neighbors could definitely have been kinder and more patient. But in his eyes, she was acting as an entitled brat and her parents didn’t help.
So OP’s lack of knowledge might just have made life extremely hard for her parents and herself.
I agree with everything but, the “respect your elders” I don’t think you should treat strangers any higher then you because they’re older, but other then that I agree.
Everything you just said is exactly what I have been saying.
I moved across the country and got an apartment. Dad followed and because it was the desert, I made the huge mistake of giving him the key. I didn't know he would decorate my place even when I told him not to. He stopped asking me because I would just say no. I would get home from work and he would be in the living room watching TV, explaining the new piece of furniture I told him not to bring me. He ordered cable TV in my name because "You can afford it" (not really).
I said this a while back, but I told my parents to never come into my room without my permission or I'll bust their kneecaps. They tried taking Chad my baseball bat away from me. let's just say I still have it, don't worry nobody's kneecaps were busted that day. Let's just say we both respect each other's boundaries now.
Story 2: Bestfriend was totally in love with OP. After having her feelings ignored for so long she decided to give a ultimatum. Me or them. After getting clarity that OP won't even value their friendship of 14 years over someone she kinda likes, that she'd never look at her romantically. So she cut her out completely.
For the last story my idea Is to publicly shame and humiliate them by just making a video explaining what's happend and showing them on camera, maybe even make a go fund me acc with a video of the pig pen and nabour, perhaps even make yourself look even more distressed then normal, and watch the Internet have they're way. ( I know this might be evil but that's how I naturally am )
You obviously don't live in the south. A lot of these people out here will make you disappear and no one will say anything about it because that's how closely tight-knit their community is.
What makes you think a bunch of farmers care what the hell the internet thinks?
It's Amazing to see you again I'm so HAPPY
Story 1 - STOP giving her a key. She Never should've had one to begin with.
Story 2 - Do nothing. You're better off now without them due to their stupid behavior.
Story 3 - You both messed things up but the friend started it by bailing on the apartment at the last minute because her boyfriend couldn't visit her. My opinion her boyfriend's got no business being there anyway. When they want to see eachother she can go to his place. And then she gets mad because you're spending time with your new roommate. So what do you do? Nothing. Leave all the BS where it is and move on with your life.
Story 4 - No. There is no breaking up for a short time and then you potentially see other people or something and then come back. Forget it. If you leave, you're gone, it's over.
Story 5 - The neighbors are garbage. I'd be heavily inclined (but maybe wouldn't) to torch the barn before it was fully built. And if their livestock is allowed to trespass on my property, I'd be having a big barbecue of them.
Id torch the barn, too. I'd wait for a pretty bad thunderstorm so It could be blamed on a lightning strike. The rain would wash away any accelerant residue too.
I would buy 1-2 dogs and then make the dogs bark at night
Apparently pigs are afraid of barking dogs so with enough barks they can start squealing thus destroying their sleep
how did the mother get the key in the first place?
A lot of you guys are idiots for story 5. Y'all keep saying that he let the animals onto their property, but some of y'all don't seem to stop and realize that sometimes animals escape their pens, it happens. I'm not a farmer, but from living in the South for damn near ten years, I understand that sometimes a cow get spooked and breaks down fencing and ends up in the middle of the road or in someone else's property. That's why they're branded, that's why they got tags. It's not just to deter thieves, but so farmers can be contacted if they're animals escaped their property. It has happened, I have seen it. You guys are all idiots and you don't know anything about farming and it seems a hell of a lot less than I do
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Southern hospitality, huh?
Only if you pissed them off royally
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OP: Only I’m allowed to ghost you and be clingy
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Story 5: Farmers are all about “early to bed and early to rise”. The OP needs to take that into consideration. Easy to see why some farm boys (and probably now some farmer’s daughters) join the military and/or why some veterans take farming as a post-military/post-war career (the latter goes as far back as the Roman Empire).
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Uumm, that last story, what did y'all expect moving into a small farming community?? I mean, even keeping to yourself, but being rude while doing it will have you messed up legally!!!!!😂
It feels like OPs friend in the second story either loved the dude she was dating or loved OP. Well maybe live isn’t the right word, it felt like a sort of entitlement to them as a person which is creepy af.
Idk, maybe OPs bf did something to her bff and she just didn’t tell her? No idea, it could be anything.
Third story: wow, talk about being toxic. Complaining about smthn and then ignoring your friend when they are trying their best to fix it!
Lol
I lived in Texas for most of my life and want to move back eventually. The last story isn't something I experienced but I have been near pigs before. With someone who has a sense of smell like a hound dog, they aren't fun. But they're more tolerable than maybe if you lived in the city for years. The ones building the farm are absolutely pathetic, if the story is how it goes. To go so far over something so small is the kind of dickless thing I'd expect from someone who never learned boundaries. Personally, there would have been signs up on my property. "Trespassers will be shot". You don't need to shoot someone either. A rack of a pump is usually enough to stop anyone. As someone from the south, I don't care one way or another about something as minor as an animal in my yard, but I do care about people coming onto my property like it's their own. I understand them having to come get the cow, but they really should've put a fence up or something to keep them contained and off other properties.
I think in story 2, we need a bit more context about the boyfriend. I mean, maybe it was some ex of her friend's that OP didn't know about. There's just not enough to tell who is in the wrong.
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To the OP of the invasive mother story: put a restraining order on her if she comes by again. At this point nothing else is likely to work but going to jail when she inevitably breaks the restraining order
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Story 1: Change the locks and don't ever let her in.
The pig barn is right up against the property? Would be a shame if something happened to the pigs. Like some fauly wiring or something...
How about I do the same thing to your parents or your kids or maybe just everybody you ever known and cared for.
As a general rule don't mess with farmers. They are the ones that put groceries and produce in your stores.
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This video was so good 😊 i love your videos
"you can contact me if stuff goes down"
proceeds to block them
What mother does that
A bad one
I played the game in the background at an arcade! It’s very fun also great stories
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As somebody who's lived with the farming community, seeing new people is always awesome since people get sitting in their ways a disturbance. It's not always bad but if you're waking up at 5 AM to start your day with the rest of the nature, wake up that early you're going to sleep early at night so hearing the boom boom boom and somebody's car because base does travel is disturbing. A lot of these communities grew up on generations and generations of respect in the young girl clearly didn't respect anybody all she had to do is say sorry it's not hard so why don't you guys just get a bunch of pigs like he got pigs when he's not looking but the pig shit from your pigpen in his pigpen so he has more shit to cleanlol
The best friend is gay and she was so in love you
Op should've changed the locks 2 house ago
And not given the new address
Would I be the Jerk if I banned a show my siblings watch without their permission? My siblings watch ricky nicky dicky and dawn nonstop, and its kind of turning them into monsters. I've been wanting to ban it nonstop, but my dad wont let me. Theres no variety either, as they seem to watch the same episodes. It's not like I can last with the show on, and only loose braincells, but my siblings are becoming one of them. They qute the show in normal conversations, and seem to think they can always get their way. The show is annoying in itself, but now my siblings, who follow me everywhere are becoming this annoying show. I've been thinking of banning it from their accounts without permission, but then I may become the bad guy in that situation. I'm at a loss, and I don't know what to do.
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Last story: op could just cook some bacon if ya know what I mean
Jokes on you the farmer probably has a shotgun and cameras.
Story 4, cuck husband with cheating girlfriend. Leave, stop looking for damaged goods.
For the first story I would not let her know where I'm moving too , and if she needed to talk or see the grandchild I'd facetime her that way there she'd be able too see her without invading my space , also why is the partner always letting the mom in when I'm 100% sure that she's told him not to open the door for her 😐 that would piss me off the way he didn't respect the fact I don't want her in my space.
The fourth story damn not only does she have mental health issues but she's been with him since she was 18! She barely started having a life at that time, he was 24 and has had experiences and now he's reached a point of wanting to settle down. So ofc her brain would go into overdrive and now she's needing time to think it all over , and while she does he can say "okay I'll give you your space , BUT if you're thinking about being with other guys tell me right here right now and you can have your space permanently because if i ever find out that you slept with someone on this break I will make it hell for you through our divorce".
NO ONE has a right to tell you who's to be your friend. That's just ridiculous! Sounds like your friend was very insecure and just wanted to be YOUR ONLY FRIEND!
Story one op should changed the locks after op's mother moved out
The last story about the farmers. I live in the midwest and 1. Farmers get up at the break of dawn and go to bed as soon as the sun sets so at 9 the farmer was most likely in bed barring an emergency. 2. Farmer should’ve asked permission for the cow to graze there unless cow broke free on their own somehow and decided op’s grass tasted better than their own. In that case a polite thing to do would be to let farmer know so he can retrieve cow. Or just let farmer know that op can mow their own grass and doesn’t need cow’s help. 3. A pig anything is one of the ways to get rid of unwanted neighbors and having lived around farmers i can kinda see why they would want to.
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I have decided to remove one of my friends from my life, which has led to a complete halt in our communication. Despite having known him for 31 years and considering him a "brother," his decision to exclude me from his wedding made me feel unappreciated. Consequently, I blocked him, and his failure to inquire about my choice indicates that he likely understood my reasoning. Additionally, I was not invited to his bachelor party, an event I would have greatly enjoyed attending, while he opted to invite a colleague he had known for only four months and his neighbor. It is important to note that I was in town, and he was aware of this. As a side note, we have never had any conflicts or arguments, which makes the situation even more painful and unexpected.
Jerky, as much as I usually like your stories, on story 5 I'm 100% against you:
The farmers lived there long before OP's family came, the whole neighborhood was fine with the way they lived until OP started making things difficult (not respecting other's life schedule, not understanding that even a domesticated farm animal stays a wild animal that has it's own willpower and you can't control it) and thinking the world revolves around them. The solution was simple : apologies but have a discussion, heck even do a neighborhood BBQ to appease the tensions!
OP doesn't live in a city, they live in a VILLAGE, farmers are the heart of villages, their families have probably had that farm for generations and a simple minded city pompous selfish girl like OP won't change the whole working system just because they don't agree with it!
Idk what this guy is talking about, I came for the crazy taxi gameplay. Takes me back lol