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What if you have been so dark and introspective that you can barely function? I'd like to see videos dealing with the personal crisis/paralysis that arises from too much introspection.
I wana see what you do when say a person you use to like, wasn't ready for you in the past. And now that your working on yourself they want you. Will they ruin this time for you?
This is ironic as you may experience having freedom when things are out of your hands. Having no choice but to just experience the moment because there is nothing you can control.
This video has put into words what I have been trying to articulate for the longest time. There is power in letting go. We naturally gravitate towards things that interests us, so no need to worry about becoming passive. Being rigid or having a routine is counterproductive, because you become "locked in", and your motivation/confidence becomes tied to doing these things. What happens when you can't follow the script? Do you suddenly become a failure? Of course not, but that is how I have felt everytime. Don't worship a to do list or a routine, you're only setting yourself up for disappointment when you inevitably go "off-script".
Indeed that's why a semi rigid routine can be helpful imo. Like one part of the day is a routine and the other half isn't and you can do whatever you want
@@alexandrenedellec7116 yeah, I feel that. Because, if you are too loose and not having any systems and workflows, your motivation will not magically pop up and help you get everything done on time. Or, if you have all the time in the world, you can rely on motivation and flowing around in the world. (I don’t utilize todo lists very often, because they don’t really work)
I think it’s important to have rigid routines for extremely specific things like waking up and going to bed. Anything else just depends on the day. That way I can wake up and go to bed the same way, and therefore feel a good base of consistency without feeling “stuck”.
Chasing 'better' can become an endless cycle of discontentment, always seeking external validation and never feeling fulfilled. Shadow Work, on the other hand, encourages us to confront our inner struggles, fears, and unresolved emotions. It allows us to embrace all aspects of ourselves, including the parts we may have suppressed or denied.
How do you handle days when you know you should have done something. For example I don't feel good about myself if I don't run or workout each day. I feel shame because I know I could have done it and my internal self respect goes down. This just doesn't make sense to me.
I like that you heavily promote doing the work. I was in therapy for probably 8 years with the VA, several different medications. Then my Dr got real and said this stuff isn't going to magically fix you, you have to do the work, this is only here to help you do that. I'm by no means "better". But I understand more that it is up to me to dig out of the unalive myself funk. When I don't shower for a week because I am in a deep bad rut, I have to make the decision to fix that. It's still not any easier, but accepting that everything else are tools that you have to use.
@@lumpyrex007 the uncomfortable truth is I've accepted that one day I will die by choice. The best thing for me is despite several exes who would say otherwise I'm not a horrible person. There is always something not quite ready for me to leave. So maybe one day I'll finish that, or one day I'll die by other means first. My goal is like basic training, make it to the next meal. Look at too big a picture and I get overwhelmed. Thank you for your kind words. I wish you health and joy in life.
I have watched so many self-improvement-videos over the last one or two years and allways got backto bad habbits and misery. Now I know what was holding me back all along.
I had a moment of self acceptance today and it was glorious. My boss and coworker were poking fun at my sour mood today (and it was good-natured and I was laughing too). and usually I would feel kind of bothered because I’d be telling myself “you should not have had those ‘bad’ feelings ” today”. And much to my surprise, I just accepted it and thought “hm yeah I was feeling sassy today; whatever! The clients will survive and I was still pleasant with them!”. Felt good❤
Oh boy! Doing my shadow work is the best thing I’ve ever done. The art of letting go and accepting what is, is really the way to go. No one taught us to heal our core wounds early on especially when you’re starting to remember who you are. Take care everyone. ❤
Good analogy . I have been telling this to people for years about suppression, repression , denial , avoidance, projection ... All to protect the wounded ego. Letting go means relinquishing ego
Congratulations on 400 days. What's helped me to keep it up along with wanting to be healthier and bettering my life was that I didn't want lose the amount of time of not drinking I had built up, and then have to restart that time. 1 month away from having 11 years now
Clark, I am so impressed with your work. Found you years ago on your journey. At a point, I could tell your heart wasn’t in it. You were regurgitating what everyone else in self help says. But now, you’re sharing again your own views just like you did in the beginning. But now you’ve upgraded and are showing us the next level. Proud of you! 😊
Clark, I went to the same middleschool as you did, and I saw your channel this morning and decided to watch this video. The message is clear and concise as far as what I must do to improve myself. Thanks man.
I've got mad ADHD and that list in the beginning part resonated with me. Typically each day I make a to-do list for for that day and I constantly find myself failing to complete them. It's not even because I'm not necessarily capable of completing them or don't want to, sometimes I just run out of time in the day for the next task or it might be sometime minor that truly can wait. But because I sometimes fail to complete them, I've realized recently I really do use it as ammunition against myself and beat myself up for it. I've been doing that kind of schedule for years now and I'm finally realizing I need to change something up. Instead of making a daily list, I've started to write down my tasks for the entire week instead to lay it all on the table. It's helped my planning tremendously and I'm able to kinda prioritize things properly rather than just deciding day by day. Looking back, for me personally the day by day schedule was reckless as fuck and I don't know why I didn't think of changing things up sooner 😭🤣🤣🤣 Just wanted to share that in case anyone has had that similar struggle 🔥
This is actually a great idea. I’ve been struggling with ADHD for my whole life as well, and I can never get a grip on finishing to-do lists or actually being as productive as I aspire to be. But your idea I’m totally gonna try. Being able to look at the whole week at a glance and then being able to break that weeks tasks up into smaller chunks at my own discretion might give me the kind of Goldilocks schedule I need. Not too busy and rigid where every day is planned out, but also not too loosey goosey where I don’t even know what I should be doing or accomplishing. Thank so much for sharing
This is exactly what I've been struggling with for ages. Years ago I'd litterally write insanely long lists of tasks for the day expecting myself to finish it all, then feel guilty and stay up late as fuck to catch up, and then obviously get too exhausted to finish and too stressed to sleep. My plan at the moment is to do a list of bigger long term goals, break them down into milestones/projects that aren't too lengthy, and give myself a timetable where I'm vaguely focused on different areas on different days of the week, rather than expecting myself to do a bit of everything every single day, having a structure. Working out regularly really taught me how to have that balance, between hardwork/discipline and also allowing myself to skip a day if I need to without feeling guilty but still putting in a lot of hard work. All we can do is hold ourselves to high standards and find a way to follow through, but we can't hold ourself to impossible ones.
@@brandtm721 Your to-do list doesn't have an end, and never will have an end. Your entire life is an endless to-do list... you will NEVER finish that list. Someday you will be dead, and your list will remain unfinished. The list exists to serve you, not the other way around.
Hi Clark! I enjoyed watching your video, and I'm very happy to hear you mention therapy as a way of not suppressing negative emotions. A lot of other TH-cam channels that focus on self-improvement give the impression that you can overcome personal roadblocks, like poor self-image, on your own if you really, really want to. But I've found that that in itself is a type of suppression, because if you overlook the root causes, you're really just hiding it under layers of positivity. The negativity is still there, just waiting for something to trigger it back to life. Therapy is essential because it can reveal aspects of yourself you're not aware of, that are holding you back. You can't see the picture if you're in the frame.
This is the most practical video I have ever seen on self healing and self acceptance, he puts it in much understandable way that it makes sense. Thanks for this dude I needed this so much, Really great content!
I totally agree, I was a goal seeker too, and like everyone you fail at goals sometimes, and I would let that get to me at time. It wasn't till I was facing 6 months of jail that I was forced to live more in the moment, jail really opened my eyes and helped me learn to let go. Once I let go and realized I was going to be here for 4 more months, I became happy, probably one of the happiest times of my life believe it or not.
This is why i used to be wildly attracted to & in love with my husband & now just cant hang onto the respect that is needed to have such Love! He changed! He doesn't face himself inside anymore! He supresses, & if it comes up he lashes out in aggression whilst also running away, as fast as possible.. Its not attractive! ✌️ And ive been praying for the guidance to let go, so i can continue to grow. Thx for posting this!!
Intense trauma and loss so that the only way forward is to let go. I have days where I feel that I have succeeded in "improving", and days where I feel totally raw. It is very hard to look at the waste basket, yet I understand that the unhelpful ways of dealing with the pain will keep being repeated if I do not look at it. Very challenging work.
I loved this video. I have to say, when I started my way on self-improvement I was so focus on the positivy and forgetting all the bad on me and my life. And what a terribol mistake becouse in one point of my life I felt so frustrated tryin' to escape of all bad and problems. So I fell apart, and when I started to do Shadow work my life changed literally. My concept of life wasn't the same, then I truly healing myself. Thanks!
I like how his advice evolves as one goes through their life journey. Rarely do I see that. Clark, Wow I just noticed you have 1.5 million subscribers, congrats. It’s been growing a lot !
dude, these guys are the reason you are struggeling to remain sane. They are hitting you from all types of angles. Ofc they cant target each and everyone directly. All computers are hacked when you buy them. They connect directly to jewish servers creating remote access even before the operating system is loaded, like teamviewer. all modern computers with modern cpus. You cant remove Intel ME and cpus and other chips have integrated wifi, 5g, antennas and you are connected even when you physically remove whats supposed to be the only wifi antenna you got. Also every modern monitor, lcds, etc are backwardscompatible as cameras. They are basically creating remote access with cameras to all modern devices. They use this to blackmail with videos like this to make you think that you are depressed and should work on selfimprovement even though you are totally fine and feeling, not happy, is totally normal. They want you to buy the vegetable powderjuice product and make money etc. They want you to work harder on the next google algorithm, while they are sitting there scratching their assholes making money smuggeling drugs, blackmailing, selling hookers, bribing cops, embezzlements..
Wow, there’s a million self help videos on TH-cam. None have been as helpful as this. My friend, you have no idea what you’ve done for me with a 12 minute video. Thank you
This is your best video yet. One thing I’ve noticed is im an addict. Yet I’ve been sober 17 years it doesn’t mean that my brain was wired to be addicted to something so I don’t need to deal my 💩. I would be addicted to the gym. Or a relationship or staying busy. What you said here nailed it. It’s that last 10 % of looking at yourself in the mirror It’s hard Af.
Wow. I am so grateful I found your channel Clark. A few months before the pandemic began, I went through a breakup from someone I thought was my LTP. It was substantially devastating in its own regard and worse being isolated without family or friends due to the pandemic. That said, I have been on an incredible journey the past 3(ish) years and I have learned so much more about myself. YOUR explanation of “shadow work (inner shadow shifting) NLP resonates with me to the T. Thank you THANK YOU for your contribution on this topic. Extremely helpful for my life!!!! Appreciate you. Looking forward to more of your content. ~Aloha~🌺🤲🏾🙏🏾
Love your content big time. This video resonates with my current situation in life, but I have noticed that habits do shape your character and your actions, and it is incredible for self improvement, but the next step is way deeper than just meditate, journaling, etc is the way that I view myself and how I interact with the world, because external interactions is a reflection of my own interaction with my shadow and light. To see your psyche naked at all, it´s quite shocking but it is necessary in order to being at full acceptance with yourself.
Good advice there Clark, Sober myself and the longer you remain Conscious, it can be difficult because those emotions you have been avoiding along with repressed thoughts and resentments come bubbling to the surface.. As you become steadily self aware, dealing with and feeling these emotions and exhausting their energy /coming to terms with accepting them as a part of lifes experiences are key to staying sober and conscious,(easier said than done of course)..
If only all our psychology students would see this video! As s.o. who has come to interact with many of them, I really think that they could benefit a lot from these explanations. You so perfectly made the topic visible with all the well edited picture stuff.
Ive been a toxic person for the past few weeks and put someone i trust a friend of mine into the punching bag of my emotional negativity. I am always very competitive and had a jealousy problem. Even if i don't want or need the other person or my friends gifts, results or relationship. Its good to find this today. Coincidence or not its time to face my shadow self. Thank you for putting this video Mr. Clark Kegley.
Wow, this make so much sense, as much self improvement I was trying to achieve, it felt like it was just my attempt to mask the self healing, and separating the two makes so much sense.
Shadow work taught me how to stop dwelling in the dark vast space of self neglect and negativity and realize the power I have now. The only time that matters is the current moment. Embrace it. Let go of all the sabotaging inquiries and replace them with self affirmations said aloud.
I thought I was a shell of a person until I realized I was so filled with pain that, when I numbed it out, there was little left. Upon self reflection I felt more human than I have in a while. Do your shadow work people
Exactly the video I didn't realise I needed - I've started what I might name a *shadow journal*, starting with taking notes from this vid but now to be messy and unprecious to dive into all the questions I can ask myself. A lot is coming out. Cheers Clark
Lifelong suppressor here. All it does is lead to prolonged stress. At 36 was diagnosed with high blood pressure for the first time, with no underlying health issues or family history. The sooner you let things go and adopt proper stress management techniques, the better. Hope that helps someone.
There really is no upper limit on self-improvement spiritual evolution and things like that until you control every thought in your head and you are able to be conscious 24/7. And even then your spiritual gifts develop you start maintaining awareness more knowing that the work is eternal and once you realize the work is eternal the work becomes the worship
Yes introspection & yes take your own advice ! Meditation is always necessary to manage your vessel. Learn to ask yourself smarter questions and answer honestly
Self improvement isn't reading books, it's looking at yourself and reflecting, seeing your own flags and behaviours then actively doing something about it. Put down all the books, seminars, the lists etc look inwards ask yourself "why do I do these things?" you will get a reply from yourself as long as you're brutal honesty. It'll take time. Keep asking that Why? And you'll know the answer, you'll feel it in your gut.
I have been on a self-improvement journey for over 5 years, and this is the first time I heard about Shadow Work. I learned something new today, thanks!
I got the point around 6 mins in. The rest of the video was surprisingly counter productive. But i appreciate the value and understand you got to make that $
Thanks, tried the journaling thing, what I am avoiding and came out to know what and why I was suppressing these thoughts and emotions. Now I can move on a little easier. Thanks
1:58 - 2:11 this felt like such an unequivocal truth, I felt it in my stomach. It kind of physically resonated with me. I can't even really describe it fully.
400 days! 🎉 I love it. I got clean from drug addiction 9 years ago. It still takes work, and still gets better. I've come a long way from that POS I used to be. You've helped me tremendously, so thanks. 😊
I have recently had a TBI and received surgery for a separate injury that has left my in severe chronic pain, as well as many traumas to go along with them. It wreaked absolute havoc on my personality. For so long i just kept trying to keep going and figure out my personality along the way. At 22 years old, i have finally suppressed the emotional side of myself and become disconnected. Life seems slightly easier, but i have become almost completely selfish. Nearly sociopathic. Dont be afraid to escape sometimes. I chose to allow myself to escape a couple weeks ago and i have just been gaming and working. The sociopathic urges i have had are still there but not as strong.
Shadow work is the yin and self improvement is the yang. They are both necessary to become the identity of the authentic healed version of you. It's the balance of the feminine and masculine energies. Allowing, verses generating. Seeing the inner darkness and loving the wounded child where they are, creating a safe space for being, and then the ground is better cultivated for planting the new seed. We need to love what is before we can see what will be in our present manifestation. It's hard to love what we loathe or are afraid to look at. But that is the key. It's why ho'oponopono works. It's what it means to come to zero.
Impressive. Drilling down on your feelings can be difficult but with practice it gets easier. Appreciating my progress is a powerful tool for my happiness. It's not just about achieving goals but to also acknowledge that you've reached a goal. Never heard of Shadow Work but totally relate to the concept. Good stuff dude!
No upper limit to self improvement because you have the power to learn something new each day that will make you a better version of yourself therefore making you more valuable to others.
Dude, just gotta say thank you so much for this video. It really helped me to be brave enough to look at some things and unload them. Who would have thought this video can make such a difference. Hopefully one day i can do the same for someone else. Thanks again, be blessed.
Spot on! ....working on oneself doesn't just mean your life goals. You could be the champion at reaching goals but working on the many faces you have built over the years, that lay deep within your dark caves can be the most challenging. Self acceptance takes daily acknowledgement & learning to let go. Hiding in the deepest dark shadows where we shove our traumas over the years from building childhood fear, loathing & anger all need you to shine the light of your love too, to help you accept you ❤ we are all ying and yang, remember, Breathe In Creativity, Breathe Out Negativity 🙇🌈 You got this!
I've seen a lot of highly successful people feverishly working on self improvement. I could name a few which most here would recognize their names. They are young souls thinking they are winning the game, without realizing there is so much more to life.
First of all this video is great and I never expected this to help me out this much it truly is life changing I feel so great and relieved I finally faced myself and embraced who I am I feel worthy of finally continuing forward and breaking my limiting beliefs. Thank you Clark your doing gods work.
I'm living at my mom's. I'm in my 50's. I finally got out of a domestic abuse situation (decades long) after a brain injury. It's taken me a long time to even take a peek at the horror that was my life with this man, and how broken it is now. One thing I had was my best buddy in the world. My dog. A vet I trusted killed him in the back room. I'm not kidding. It pushed me over the edge. To pick myself up with no money, no car, no little buddy who was my sunshine, and a brain that doesn't work right anymore? It'll be tough. It's been suppression and escape for me.
All addictions and negative behaviors stems for our repressed unresolved emotions i believe. It would be in our best interests to get to the root of these unhealed emotions and release them for good. Peace and freedom is on the other side of it.
Its Gnarly how we all feel it. I mean some of us might not know it yet. But it’s definitely there and ITS THERE and has always BEEN THERE. Until you come to that point and moment in your life. Let it
Definitely in a place of working on acceptance. Things have been on an upward path for a while, but it has been a slow burn and longer term projects are in play that just take time. But maybe I’m missing something, I don’t know.
I use escape. Why? Because I don't want to be successful? I don't know. It's like I don't do my work because of a fear of becoming successful. It's like I've gotten so comfortable with only surviving in poverty. It seems I self sabotage it all right before any breakthroughs.
Appreciate this video. It helped me to identify I have a little impostor syndrome. It also made me smile about the things I am doing "correctly." Thank you.
5 1/2 years sober... wow the reality train hits..... the emotions come up, facing them is powerful ! Hard to do, but worth the pain. I look in the Mirror daily and say " I love you Peter ". Try that using your own name of course. Self love and forgiveness is freeing.
Omg I literally constantly say thr gym is my therapy or church as a somewhat joke. I'm taking detailed notes from this video because I have a lot of buildup and avoidance issues. Thank you so much for this.
Absolutely excellent material. I wrote down some notes for myself as well as clients. So proud of the work you are doing on yourself and you are helping is. Clark, Thank you.
This is reminiscent of Integral Theory. There's Growing Up, Waking Up, and Cleaning Up (and I've heard more, but they seem redundant). Growing Up is mentally evolving to a more universal (and even "cosmic" perspective relative to people and the world (or the universe/reality itself) rather than selfish, tribalistic ideology, etc. Waking Up is the progression of deeper levels of awareness until your entire experience becomes a complete tapestry of existence rather than various delineations of appearances in your conscious awareness. Cleaning Up moves into this kind of shadow work and healing. It's just a framework, but it's exceptionally comprehensive.
Shadow work is in essence accepting the less than salubrious aspects of your psyche that you would otherwise project or repress within yourself. But it is always easier to project, than to assimilate. I think that is maybe why shadow work is seemingly easy but also quite difficult because you have to be the most honest you have ever been within yourself and admit to many less than light filled aspects, emotions and judgements in yourself. Then ask where do these voices, opinions, ideas (introjects) come from and there lies another layer of shadow work. It's fascinating, in a way it's in the end, a form of self philosophy that needs to be cultivate by yourself for yourself. But in short, be honest and intuitive, admit your mistakes and darker sides (no one is entirely virtue or vice filled but a mingling of both) and try to lead with being kind and loving and curious like a kid, not full of righteousness, arrogance and superiority status chasing. Sending love to who reads 💖
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What's your take on integrating lessons from Tony Robbins and Eckhardt Tolle?
What if you have been so dark and introspective that you can barely function? I'd like to see videos dealing with the personal crisis/paralysis that arises from too much introspection.
I wana see what you do when say a person you use to like, wasn't ready for you in the past. And now that your working on yourself they want you. Will they ruin this time for you?
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The power of letting go becomes more evident when you experience unbearable pain with minimal control over the situation except to embrace it
Yep. Been there many times.
a week ago today i experienced this type of pain... through grief i'm finding peace
Yes, dig in and give your best no matter the odds stacked against you.
This is ironic as you may experience having freedom when things are out of your hands. Having no choice but to just experience the moment because there is nothing you can control.
Kind of like a rollercoaster 🧐
This video has put into words what I have been trying to articulate for the longest time. There is power in letting go. We naturally gravitate towards things that interests us, so no need to worry about becoming passive. Being rigid or having a routine is counterproductive, because you become "locked in", and your motivation/confidence becomes tied to doing these things. What happens when you can't follow the script? Do you suddenly become a failure? Of course not, but that is how I have felt everytime. Don't worship a to do list or a routine, you're only setting yourself up for disappointment when you inevitably go "off-script".
Indeed that's why a semi rigid routine can be helpful imo. Like one part of the day is a routine and the other half isn't and you can do whatever you want
@@alexandrenedellec7116 yeah, I feel that. Because, if you are too loose and not having any systems and workflows, your motivation will not magically pop up and help you get everything done on time.
Or, if you have all the time in the world, you can rely on motivation and flowing around in the world.
(I don’t utilize todo lists very often, because they don’t really work)
@@alexandrenedellec7116I like that.
@@miekel8663 Yeah usually i have more discipline or cognitive function in the morning
So let's do the hard things at this moment X)
I think it’s important to have rigid routines for extremely specific things like waking up and going to bed. Anything else just depends on the day. That way I can wake up and go to bed the same way, and therefore feel a good base of consistency without feeling “stuck”.
Chasing 'better' can become an endless cycle of discontentment, always seeking external validation and never feeling fulfilled. Shadow Work, on the other hand, encourages us to confront our inner struggles, fears, and unresolved emotions. It allows us to embrace all aspects of ourselves, including the parts we may have suppressed or denied.
How do you handle days when you know you should have done something. For example I don't feel good about myself if I don't run or workout each day. I feel shame because I know I could have done it and my internal self respect goes down. This just doesn't make sense to me.
I like that you heavily promote doing the work. I was in therapy for probably 8 years with the VA, several different medications. Then my Dr got real and said this stuff isn't going to magically fix you, you have to do the work, this is only here to help you do that. I'm by no means "better". But I understand more that it is up to me to dig out of the unalive myself funk. When I don't shower for a week because I am in a deep bad rut, I have to make the decision to fix that. It's still not any easier, but accepting that everything else are tools that you have to use.
I hope things get better, brother
@@lumpyrex007 the uncomfortable truth is I've accepted that one day I will die by choice. The best thing for me is despite several exes who would say otherwise I'm not a horrible person. There is always something not quite ready for me to leave. So maybe one day I'll finish that, or one day I'll die by other means first. My goal is like basic training, make it to the next meal. Look at too big a picture and I get overwhelmed. Thank you for your kind words. I wish you health and joy in life.
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If that's your situation, then you are doing one hell of a job. Some people get dealt a crap hand. I appreciate how honest you are.
I believe in you ❤
I genuinely hope things are better for you. Wishing you the best
I have watched so many self-improvement-videos over the last one or two years and allways got backto bad habbits and misery. Now I know what was holding me back all along.
I had a moment of self acceptance today and it was glorious. My boss and coworker were poking fun at my sour mood today (and it was good-natured and I was laughing too). and usually I would feel kind of bothered because I’d be telling myself “you should not have had those ‘bad’ feelings ” today”. And much to my surprise, I just accepted it and thought “hm yeah I was feeling sassy today; whatever! The clients will survive and I was still pleasant with them!”. Felt good❤
You are THE BEST!! I just rediscovered you and I am SO GLAD TO BE BACK!! Woot!!!!
Oh boy! Doing my shadow work is the best thing I’ve ever done.
The art of letting go and accepting what is, is really the way to go.
No one taught us to heal our core wounds early on especially when you’re starting to remember who you are.
Take care everyone. ❤
Good analogy . I have been telling this to people for years about suppression, repression , denial , avoidance, projection ... All to protect the wounded ego. Letting go means relinquishing ego
Congratulations on 400 days. What's helped me to keep it up along with wanting to be healthier and bettering my life was that I didn't want lose the amount of time of not drinking I had built up, and then have to restart that time. 1 month away from having 11 years now
Congratulations that's a huge accomplishment!!
@@buddhistandthemoney1 thank you!
Really needed that today 😊 stopped drinking in February 23
@@jessicadumoulin7119 that's good to hear! Definitely makes an improvement on our health and lives. For us, for our kids, and our families
Clark, I am so impressed with your work. Found you years ago on your journey. At a point, I could tell your heart wasn’t in it. You were regurgitating what everyone else in self help says. But now, you’re sharing again your own views just like you did in the beginning. But now you’ve upgraded and are showing us the next level. Proud of you! 😊
Great to see you back, Udo! Appreicate your long time support and stickin around for the ride 💪
Clark, you are one of the few youtubers who truly wants his audience to learn and succeed. Thank you for your insights ❤
Clark, I went to the same middleschool as you did, and I saw your channel this morning and decided to watch this video. The message is clear and concise as far as what I must do to improve myself. Thanks man.
5:16 I can tell you, when you stop using escapes - you start getting real with yourself! So true!
I've got mad ADHD and that list in the beginning part resonated with me. Typically each day I make a to-do list for for that day and I constantly find myself failing to complete them. It's not even because I'm not necessarily capable of completing them or don't want to, sometimes I just run out of time in the day for the next task or it might be sometime minor that truly can wait. But because I sometimes fail to complete them, I've realized recently I really do use it as ammunition against myself and beat myself up for it. I've been doing that kind of schedule for years now and I'm finally realizing I need to change something up. Instead of making a daily list, I've started to write down my tasks for the entire week instead to lay it all on the table. It's helped my planning tremendously and I'm able to kinda prioritize things properly rather than just deciding day by day. Looking back, for me personally the day by day schedule was reckless as fuck and I don't know why I didn't think of changing things up sooner 😭🤣🤣🤣 Just wanted to share that in case anyone has had that similar struggle 🔥
This is actually a great idea. I’ve been struggling with ADHD for my whole life as well, and I can never get a grip on finishing to-do lists or actually being as productive as I aspire to be. But your idea I’m totally gonna try. Being able to look at the whole week at a glance and then being able to break that weeks tasks up into smaller chunks at my own discretion might give me the kind of Goldilocks schedule I need. Not too busy and rigid where every day is planned out, but also not too loosey goosey where I don’t even know what I should be doing or accomplishing. Thank so much for sharing
@@brandtm721 Hell yes that's what I'm talking about my g! I agree with everything you said, I hope it goes well friend you've got this! 🙌🏽
This is exactly what I've been struggling with for ages. Years ago I'd litterally write insanely long lists of tasks for the day expecting myself to finish it all, then feel guilty and stay up late as fuck to catch up, and then obviously get too exhausted to finish and too stressed to sleep.
My plan at the moment is to do a list of bigger long term goals, break them down into milestones/projects that aren't too lengthy, and give myself a timetable where I'm vaguely focused on different areas on different days of the week, rather than expecting myself to do a bit of everything every single day, having a structure.
Working out regularly really taught me how to have that balance, between hardwork/discipline and also allowing myself to skip a day if I need to without feeling guilty but still putting in a lot of hard work.
All we can do is hold ourselves to high standards and find a way to follow through, but we can't hold ourself to impossible ones.
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Your to-do list doesn't have an end, and never will have an end.
Your entire life is an endless to-do list... you will NEVER finish that list.
Someday you will be dead, and your list will remain unfinished.
The list exists to serve you, not the other way around.
I have... THANK U! I am going to try the week thing like u did. ❤
Hi Clark! I enjoyed watching your video, and I'm very happy to hear you mention therapy as a way of not suppressing negative emotions. A lot of other TH-cam channels that focus on self-improvement give the impression that you can overcome personal roadblocks, like poor self-image, on your own if you really, really want to. But I've found that that in itself is a type of suppression, because if you overlook the root causes, you're really just hiding it under layers of positivity. The negativity is still there, just waiting for something to trigger it back to life. Therapy is essential because it can reveal aspects of yourself you're not aware of, that are holding you back. You can't see the picture if you're in the frame.
This is the most practical video I have ever seen on self healing and self acceptance, he puts it in much understandable way that it makes sense. Thanks for this dude I needed this so much, Really great content!
I totally agree, I was a goal seeker too, and like everyone you fail at goals sometimes, and I would let that get to me at time. It wasn't till I was facing 6 months of jail that I was forced to live more in the moment, jail really opened my eyes and helped me learn to let go. Once I let go and realized I was going to be here for 4 more months, I became happy, probably one of the happiest times of my life believe it or not.
This is why i used to be wildly attracted to & in love with my husband & now just cant hang onto the respect that is needed to have such Love!
He changed! He doesn't face himself inside anymore!
He supresses, & if it comes up he lashes out in aggression whilst also running away, as fast as possible..
Its not attractive! ✌️
And ive been praying for the guidance to let go, so i can continue to grow.
Thx for posting this!!
Intense trauma and loss so that the only way forward is to let go. I have days where I feel that I have succeeded in "improving", and days where I feel totally raw. It is very hard to look at the waste basket, yet I understand that the unhelpful ways of dealing with the pain will keep being repeated if I do not look at it. Very challenging work.
My life has been much better ever since I discorvered you , sir! Keep the awesome stuff up!!
I loved this video. I have to say, when I started my way on self-improvement I was so focus on the positivy and forgetting all the bad on me and my life. And what a terribol mistake becouse in one point of my life I felt so frustrated tryin' to escape of all bad and problems. So I fell apart, and when I started to do Shadow work my life changed literally. My concept of life wasn't the same, then I truly healing myself. Thanks!
I like how his advice evolves as one goes through their life journey. Rarely do I see that.
Clark, Wow I just noticed you have 1.5 million subscribers, congrats. It’s been growing a lot !
It's harder to stay sane these days, but it's also easier to find great videos like this.
dude, these guys are the reason you are struggeling to remain sane. They are hitting you from all types of angles. Ofc they cant target each and everyone directly. All computers are hacked when you buy them. They connect directly to jewish servers creating remote access even before the operating system is loaded, like teamviewer. all modern computers with modern cpus. You cant remove Intel ME and cpus and other chips have integrated wifi, 5g, antennas and you are connected even when you physically remove whats supposed to be the only wifi antenna you got. Also every modern monitor, lcds, etc are backwardscompatible as cameras. They are basically creating remote access with cameras to all modern devices. They use this to blackmail with videos like this to make you think that you are depressed and should work on selfimprovement even though you are totally fine and feeling, not happy, is totally normal. They want you to buy the vegetable powderjuice product and make money etc. They want you to work harder on the next google algorithm, while they are sitting there scratching their assholes making money smuggeling drugs, blackmailing, selling hookers, bribing cops, embezzlements..
Mad respect for stepping up to the plate and leading in this space, Clark. We need good strong male warriors like you brother.
Wow, there’s a million self help videos on TH-cam. None have been as helpful as this. My friend, you have no idea what you’ve done for me with a 12 minute video. Thank you
This is your best video yet. One thing I’ve noticed is im an addict. Yet I’ve been sober 17 years it doesn’t mean that my brain was wired to be addicted to something so I don’t need to deal my 💩. I would be addicted to the gym. Or a relationship or staying busy. What you said here nailed it. It’s that last 10 % of looking at yourself in the mirror It’s hard Af.
Wow. I am so grateful I found your channel Clark. A few months before the pandemic began, I went through a breakup from someone I thought was my LTP. It was substantially devastating in its own regard and worse being isolated without family or friends due to the pandemic.
That said, I have been on an incredible journey the past 3(ish) years and I have learned so much more about myself.
YOUR explanation of “shadow work (inner shadow shifting) NLP resonates with me to the T.
Thank you THANK YOU for your contribution on this topic. Extremely helpful for my life!!!!
Appreciate you. Looking forward to more of your content.
~Aloha~🌺🤲🏾🙏🏾
Love your content big time. This video resonates with my current situation in life, but I have noticed that habits do shape your character and your actions, and it is incredible for self improvement, but the next step is way deeper than just meditate, journaling, etc is the way that I view myself and how I interact with the world, because external interactions is a reflection of my own interaction with my shadow and light. To see your psyche naked at all, it´s quite shocking but it is necessary in order to being at full acceptance with yourself.
0:06 Omg THANK YOU for calling out the gen z mic holding bs it’s infuriating
Good advice there Clark, Sober myself and the longer you remain Conscious, it can be difficult because those emotions you have been avoiding along with repressed thoughts and resentments come bubbling to the surface..
As you become steadily self aware, dealing with and feeling these emotions and exhausting their energy /coming to terms with accepting them as a part of lifes experiences are key to staying sober and conscious,(easier said than done of course)..
If only all our psychology students would see this video! As s.o. who has come to interact with many of them, I really think that they could benefit a lot from these explanations. You so perfectly made the topic visible with all the well edited picture stuff.
Ive been a toxic person for the past few weeks and put someone i trust a friend of mine into the punching bag of my emotional negativity. I am always very competitive and had a jealousy problem. Even if i don't want or need the other person or my friends gifts, results or relationship.
Its good to find this today. Coincidence or not its time to face my shadow self. Thank you for putting this video Mr. Clark Kegley.
Good luck friend, you have the power and can do it!
I'm so happy that I'm learning more about myself. It helps me find a new path to take in life. For a while I was stuck and didn't want to go on.
Incredible message Clark 🙏🏼 You’re a real one ✊🏼 Thank you for clarifying things and giving advice.
Absolutely accurate. Neglected this for years and deep down knew it was the way.
Wow, this make so much sense, as much self improvement I was trying to achieve, it felt like it was just my attempt to mask the self healing, and separating the two makes so much sense.
Shadow work taught me how to stop dwelling in the dark vast space of self neglect and negativity and realize the power I have now. The only time that matters is the current moment. Embrace it. Let go of all the sabotaging inquiries and replace them with self affirmations said aloud.
Thank you Clark. I find your channel the best on youtube atm.
We appreciate your insights, Clark. We will support you no matter what.
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@@johnmorrison2894 yes. We will support him no matter what, even if he started saying stuff like ‘eradicate the jews’
That is weird
I thought I was a shell of a person until I realized I was so filled with pain that, when I numbed it out, there was little left. Upon self reflection I felt more human than I have in a while. Do your shadow work people
When the self acceptance first popped up I felt that so much. Self acceptance is key to happiness
I heard you for the first time and i absolutely like the way you articulate the work.
Letting Go by David Hawking taught me so much about this i can recommend it to every human being on this planet ngl
Exactly the video I didn't realise I needed - I've started what I might name a *shadow journal*, starting with taking notes from this vid but now to be messy and unprecious to dive into all the questions I can ask myself. A lot is coming out. Cheers Clark
Lifelong suppressor here. All it does is lead to prolonged stress. At 36 was diagnosed with high blood pressure for the first time, with no underlying health issues or family history. The sooner you let things go and adopt proper stress management techniques, the better. Hope that helps someone.
There really is no upper limit on self-improvement spiritual evolution and things like that until you control every thought in your head and you are able to be conscious 24/7. And even then your spiritual gifts develop you start maintaining awareness more knowing that the work is eternal and once you realize the work is eternal the work becomes the worship
I needed this in my lifetime Clark, Thanks for all the help my friend.
@Clarkkegley2 you are not a good human
Yes introspection & yes take your own advice ! Meditation is always necessary to manage your vessel. Learn to ask yourself smarter questions and answer honestly
Self improvement isn't reading books, it's looking at yourself and reflecting, seeing your own flags and behaviours then actively doing something about it.
Put down all the books, seminars, the lists etc look inwards ask yourself "why do I do these things?" you will get a reply from yourself as long as you're brutal honesty. It'll take time. Keep asking that Why? And you'll know the answer, you'll feel it in your gut.
This is very smooth way of telling the truth, I liked it!
This showed up in my recommended with uncanny timing. Thanks for your hard work
You just outlined the basic ingredients of most of my therapy sessions with my clients. Good job!
I have been on a self-improvement journey for over 5 years, and this is the first time I heard about Shadow Work. I learned something new today, thanks!
I got the point around 6 mins in. The rest of the video was surprisingly counter productive. But i appreciate the value and understand you got to make that $
Thanks, tried the journaling thing, what I am avoiding and came out to know what and why I was suppressing these thoughts and emotions. Now I can move on a little easier. Thanks
I made sure to watch this video twice to fully comprehend the concept. going to work on this
Nailed it. Kinda figured this Out on my journey the Last 7 years and you just told my thoughts.
Most frequent feedback I've received: I'm weird. Usually followed up with how they're weird too. I have almost no idea what to do with this lol
1:58 - 2:11 this felt like such an unequivocal truth, I felt it in my stomach. It kind of physically resonated with me. I can't even really describe it fully.
400 days! 🎉 I love it. I got clean from drug addiction 9 years ago. It still takes work, and still gets better. I've come a long way from that POS I used to be. You've helped me tremendously, so thanks. 😊
Yoga pranayama meditation help you a lot brother 😊
Well done on getting clean dude.
I'm struggling with alcohol addiction, like to hear stories from former addicts
Please know you were never ever a POS. You were just separated from knowing or remembering who you really are ❤
Congrats!! Well wishes and positive energy to you. Addiction is so tough to beat. You did it!!! Amazing. Continue your forward growth.
@@tnshaver spoken like a true Yogi! But yes, very true
I have recently had a TBI and received surgery for a separate injury that has left my in severe chronic pain, as well as many traumas to go along with them. It wreaked absolute havoc on my personality. For so long i just kept trying to keep going and figure out my personality along the way. At 22 years old, i have finally suppressed the emotional side of myself and become disconnected. Life seems slightly easier, but i have become almost completely selfish. Nearly sociopathic.
Dont be afraid to escape sometimes. I chose to allow myself to escape a couple weeks ago and i have just been gaming and working. The sociopathic urges i have had are still there but not as strong.
Shadow work is the yin and self improvement is the yang. They are both necessary to become the identity of the authentic healed version of you. It's the balance of the feminine and masculine energies. Allowing, verses generating. Seeing the inner darkness and loving the wounded child where they are, creating a safe space for being, and then the ground is better cultivated for planting the new seed. We need to love what is before we can see what will be in our present manifestation. It's hard to love what we loathe or are afraid to look at. But that is the key. It's why ho'oponopono works. It's what it means to come to zero.
Impressive. Drilling down on your feelings can be difficult but with practice it gets easier. Appreciating my progress is a powerful tool for my happiness. It's not just about achieving goals but to also acknowledge that you've reached a goal. Never heard of Shadow Work but totally relate to the concept. Good stuff dude!
No upper limit to self improvement because you have the power to learn something new each day that will make you a better version of yourself therefore making you more valuable to others.
...GOD...DAMMIT! Finding this channel, during this point in my sobriety, and phrased like this...hit HARD! Needed this, though!
Omg, this just changed my life. I can feel it.
Dude, just gotta say thank you so much for this video. It really helped me to be brave enough to look at some things and unload them. Who would have thought this video can make such a difference. Hopefully one day i can do the same for someone else. Thanks again, be blessed.
Congrats on 400+ days, I'm sure it's a whole new world.
Spot on! ....working on oneself doesn't just mean your life goals. You could be the champion at reaching goals but working on the many faces you have built over the years, that lay deep within your dark caves can be the most challenging. Self acceptance takes daily acknowledgement & learning to let go. Hiding in the deepest dark shadows where we shove our traumas over the years from building childhood fear, loathing & anger all need you to shine the light of your love too, to help you accept you ❤ we are all ying and yang, remember, Breathe In Creativity, Breathe Out Negativity 🙇🌈
You got this!
Man I’ve never heard it put this way. It explains my self development stumble!
I've seen a lot of highly successful people feverishly working on self improvement. I could name a few which most here would recognize their names. They are young souls thinking they are winning the game, without realizing there is so much more to life.
First of all this video is great and I never expected this to help me out this much it truly is life changing I feel so great and relieved I finally faced myself and embraced who I am I feel worthy of finally continuing forward and breaking my limiting beliefs. Thank you Clark your doing gods work.
I love it when Clark uploads!
Wish i found this sooner! I ruined my relationship, now i get help by therapist now i do something, but it cost me the love of my life
I'm living at my mom's. I'm in my 50's. I finally got out of a domestic abuse situation (decades long) after a brain injury. It's taken me a long time to even take a peek at the horror that was my life with this man, and how broken it is now. One thing I had was my best buddy in the world. My dog. A vet I trusted killed him in the back room. I'm not kidding. It pushed me over the edge. To pick myself up with no money, no car, no little buddy who was my sunshine, and a brain that doesn't work right anymore? It'll be tough. It's been suppression and escape for me.
All addictions and negative behaviors stems for our repressed unresolved emotions i believe. It would be in our best interests to get to the root of these unhealed emotions and release them for good. Peace and freedom is on the other side of it.
Its Gnarly how we all feel it.
I mean some of us might not know it yet.
But it’s definitely there and ITS THERE and has always BEEN THERE.
Until you come to that point and moment in your life.
Let it
Thank you for opening my eyes. I know now why I was stuck in my journey
I totally agree with the double work: outward and inward. Thanks Clark for keeping contents blunt and clear.
This subject is spectacular. The self acceptance
This is an essential concept that very few people talk about. Kudos to you, Clark, for bringing this up.
Definitely in a place of working on acceptance. Things have been on an upward path for a while, but it has been a slow burn and longer term projects are in play that just take time. But maybe I’m missing something, I don’t know.
I use escape. Why? Because I don't want to be successful? I don't know. It's like I don't do my work because of a fear of becoming successful. It's like I've gotten so comfortable with only surviving in poverty. It seems I self sabotage it all right before any breakthroughs.
Can't imagine the things you must have gone through in life to have experiences and knowledge like this..
Nice aprouch to the matter, like yin and yang, self improving and self acceptance...
Just came across your videos. This one is so good! Self acceptance is something hard to do, but can be done. Thanks for this insight ❤
Appreciate this video. It helped me to identify I have a little impostor syndrome. It also made me smile about the things I am doing "correctly." Thank you.
You are awesome! Thank you for sharing simple things that we go through each day.
Thank you for sharing
the male side of healing and self improvement 👍
5 1/2 years sober... wow the reality train hits..... the emotions come up, facing them is powerful ! Hard to do, but worth the pain. I look in the Mirror daily and say " I love you Peter ". Try that using your own name of course. Self love and forgiveness is freeing.
Give space as well. The emotion and feeling will dissolve if given time and space
Omg I literally constantly say thr gym is my therapy or church as a somewhat joke. I'm taking detailed notes from this video because I have a lot of buildup and avoidance issues. Thank you so much for this.
Absolutely excellent material. I wrote down some notes for myself as well as clients. So proud of the work you are doing on yourself and you are helping is. Clark, Thank you.
You are my favorite self improvement youtuber, thank you so much.
This is reminiscent of Integral Theory. There's Growing Up, Waking Up, and Cleaning Up (and I've heard more, but they seem redundant). Growing Up is mentally evolving to a more universal (and even "cosmic" perspective relative to people and the world (or the universe/reality itself) rather than selfish, tribalistic ideology, etc. Waking Up is the progression of deeper levels of awareness until your entire experience becomes a complete tapestry of existence rather than various delineations of appearances in your conscious awareness. Cleaning Up moves into this kind of shadow work and healing. It's just a framework, but it's exceptionally comprehensive.
You should definitely do shadow meditations for sure!
thank you for aevices, always strive for better version of me and never happy with me in present.
Shadow work is in essence accepting the less than salubrious aspects of your psyche that you would otherwise project or repress within yourself. But it is always easier to project, than to assimilate. I think that is maybe why shadow work is seemingly easy but also quite difficult because you have to be the most honest you have ever been within yourself and admit to many less than light filled aspects, emotions and judgements in yourself. Then ask where do these voices, opinions, ideas (introjects) come from and there lies another layer of shadow work. It's fascinating, in a way it's in the end, a form of self philosophy that needs to be cultivate by yourself for yourself. But in short, be honest and intuitive, admit your mistakes and darker sides (no one is entirely virtue or vice filled but a mingling of both) and try to lead with being kind and loving and curious like a kid, not full of righteousness, arrogance and superiority status chasing. Sending love to who reads 💖