I'm gonna try this. I have my plans, but when I tell people about them, I never make it anywhere. So I'm just gonna stop talking and start doing. And also I'm getting tired of hearing myself talking and not doing
@@BusinessWolf1 I actually went in my back yard and meditated a few mins after I got off work, actually starting to get it. Now I jus need to start working out and stay away from alcohol
Thank you so much for this. I’m 29, I’ve had 18 brain surgeries and 2 brain tumors the past 6 years. I’m still fighting another one, but this was the only way I was able to accept what had happened- I started searching for my “what” instead of the “why” ❤️
@@h4zeh Often pain is inflammation. Making dietary choices to eliminate it helps. Not always, honoring you, if your pain is caused by illness or accident. Keep breathing. Sending loving vibes to you now.
it’s difficult to watch things like this, but I’m making myself…it’s like I just don’t want to be better but I keep trying, i want it to stick. I was so disgustingly broken once, and after so much work I feel like I’ve maybe gotten a few bruises healed. I still feel like a crying little boy hiding inside the big strong toughness I spend hours putting on daily. Im going to keep watching. Thank you.
I just started my shadow work journey a little over three weeks ago and can already see a huge shift in myself as a person. I love who I'm becoming and have never felt more comfortable within my own skin.
@@kieransimpson4965 hey, thanks for asking 🥰 truthfully, there's a lot of things I've had to implement one by one over the course of 3 to 4 years. I just started shadow work intentionally about a month ago with the help of a shadow work journal and workbook so having my foundation from these last few years has made that process faster and easier for me. But my top tips (in no particular order) would be: - learn to accept and flow with internal and external chaos - keep a journal for emotional dumping, patterns, progress updates, gratitude entries, etc. Write in it whenever you feel the need to, it doesn't have to be an everyday thing unless you want it to be. - interrupt the negative self-talk, start looking at yourself from a neutral perspective, then level up (at your own pace) to positive self-talk and affirmations - accept your shadow as an ally rather than an enemy - allow yourself to have authentic, creative expression in any form that may take (i.e. switching up your personal style or painting) - inner child work and healing - cultivate grace, patience, and compassion for yourself as you navigate the inevitability of your pain and discomfort. Be kind to your mind - develop healthy coping mechanisms that put your nervous system at ease (for me, that's dancing, singing, EFT, meditation, yoga, journaling, deep breathing, stimming, being out in nature) - radical self-acceptance which then usually transmutes naturally into radical self-love - consistently remind yourself that there is light on the other side of these dark, messy, or even scary emotions. - have literal conversations with your shadow and inner child. Love, accept, appreciate and level with them. - only follow positive and uplifting content, stay away from media that may trigger you - save your energy for what matters most to you and for what brings you the most joy, or at least contentment. - have a loving support system if you can, there truly is strength in numbers. I hope this helps! I know this was a lot and I hope it didn't overwhelm you to read all of this. It'll take time, having that patience for yourself really is a game changer. Day by day and moment by moment. Also, it's good to remember that perfection doesn't exist, healing isn't linear, and you're already doing a great freaking job as you are. I wish you the absolute best on your healing journey ❤️
@@kieransimpson4965 side note - as I continue to secure myself into this mindset, I still have anxiety... the only difference is I've learned to dance with it rather than to fight it. Anxiety becomes easier to manage with time, patience, consistency, and practice ❤️ you've got this!
People often forget their shadow and many don't even know what this really means. Everyone has one, I do, you do, everyone. But most people are scared of their shadow. Most people avoid their shadow through a variety of healthy and unhealthy outlets. Embracing your shadow and understanding the meaning of the trauma and darkness, will lead you to true freedom and peace in your life. Find the shadow. Embrace the shadow. Understand the shadow. And finally, make peace with the shadow to open up your world!
Less recently in my life, I was on the right path, but I didn't do the necessary shadow work to permanently quit my addictions and bad habbits. I quit smoking for a year and a half (got back into it). I was working out consistantly (injured myself from one ego rep just to prove to myself I could do it) I was doing well at my job (got fired for dipping back into old habbits) and now I am suffering my karma. I have a lot of spiritual knowledge but avoided my practices because I thought just being deeply conscious of everything was enough. It's time to put in the work and follow through.
I suffer from crippling anxiety around people who are smarter than me and I’m trying to understand why I can’t act normal when I’m in those social settings, thank you for this video
@@AppleTY2015 after spending a lot of time reflecting, I realized this stemmed from childhood trauma, being singled out teased and embarrassed in class by teachers and students…this manifested into me constantly being afraid of being judged and messing up, especially in professional settings. Hate the feeling of being looked down on or belittled, just like how I felt in that classroom as a kid.
@@TrvisXXIII I’m so pleased for you that you took your time to reflect on the source. I asked because I’ve had a similar experience that I’m just starting to come out the other side of. It surrounded having to “have a voice” now, as a parent, when advocating for my children at school. Extremely triggering for me the past 3 years. Crying. Shutting down. I uncovered my childhood “chronically wrong” conditioning. I’m wrong in every way, in every situation & therefore standing up for my children was nearly debilitating. But the strong woman in me would not step down. After a lot of practice and meditation/breath work, I have more psychological flexibility- so, things still feel scary, but I can come back to baseline quicker and more easily. It’s an incredible journey!! What’s your next step? 🙂
I think a lot of it starts from a) self love (I am worthy, and no matter what happens (ridicule), I’ll be ok; and b) understanding the meanness on the part of others is a reflection of them, not you. In “the four agreements,” Miguel Ruiz talks about not taking anything personally. Why? Because all of us are (and he explains this better and more tastefully) screwed up by our own experiences and have beliefs that form this fake “story” or version of reality that we use to interpret everything. Those kids who chose to be mean were probably criticized and belittled by their own parents. It’s what they know. They didn’t know love, and didn’t have it to give to you. But that’s their story, and it has nothing to do with reality or anything to do with your worth. That said, I recommend the “charisma on command” TH-cam channel to help with your social skills. Everyone benefits from growing those!
There arent smarter people. People have different ways of expressing their intelligence. Some are great at maths, others at languages, others at art, sports and the list goes on. There is something called multiple intelligences. Research it and find yours 😊. And one thing is to be smart and another is to have knowkedge on certain matters. So if you want to improve, read, research, watch documentaries on the things that interest you the most: history, animals, politics, etc. I know lots of people who barely went to school but they have so much knowkedge that it is a pleasure to talk with them
The PTS comment is very much true. I have had soldiers with very difficult upbringing coming in to serve and sometimes some days are extremely difficult. I've learned what helps is full listening and influencing negative behaviors by reinforcing any accomplishments, big or small, they accomplish. I am also coping with depression, I am not sure where it came from, but my best treatment is affirmation, a small journal to meditate and reflect, and daily progression. Inner peace trumps outward acceptance.
Every time I get depressed I resort to my formula of saying thank you from the time I wake up and all day long. And asking for help. It always comes, even if I only ask in my head (and heart). I hope you get the support you need for your depression. Love ultimately is the answer.
This reminds me of parts work in the Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). Very Helpful. In IFS you talk and interview all of your parts that make up who you are. You make sure everyone has a seat at the table and their concerns are heard.
It really is important to remember that trauma isn't a competition. At least, not in the context of self improvement. Everyone has their own journey to go through and putting your focus on other's paths is time and energy you should use on your own.
Damn, you posted this the day I got sober lol After 3 years off drowning my issues in alcohol and feeling stuck in life, I feel ready to tackle myself. Gotta go and find my journal...
How ironic but not, that I land on this video. I had no idea what Shadow Work meant yet I was doing it early (3:30am) this morning. I got upset about something that had happened and a thought came to me questioning why I needed to be upset about it. I pulled out my journal and had a back and forth dialog about when and why I choose emotions that can keep me from being happy or in a good place. And I saw how I can change it if I really want to. It was was a great moment. Now this video has added more insight. Thanks.
I’m 20, I kinda developed this exercise for myself MULTIPLE years ago, and overcame and understood a lot of this then on my own volition, now I’m just lazily watching TH-cam to procrastinate the boring work😂 when I think about it I’ll get up and do it almost without pushback but other than that I’m just lazy and don’t want to I find it’s easier now than it was 3 years ago to convince myself to just get work done but even now I still have an inhibiting procrastination that I really don’t understand
I just did this and it was sooo liberating. I'm planning to do it for at least 2 weeks till I get a new job. Afterwards I'll keep working on healing at least once or twice a week. thank you so much for sharing. You are helping me heal from traumas that have been holding me back my entire life. Your way of explaining everything is simple easy and applicable. Keep shining I'm sending you vibes of love and prosperity.
just a simple advice. you can dress cozy to make us feel more cozy. 32 celsius degree now at my place and you wearing a jacket. Really nice work, thank you.
Hey Clark, I've been watching your videos for a couple of days now. I'm currently doing the mini course.. I must say I am lured in and am already feeling the difference in my life. I tried to apply but as it stands you have not yet gone international and I live in South Africa. However I'll keep watching your videos until you are able to do international calls. Thanks for the work that you do, it's truly amazing!
Hey thanks for another shadow work video. I recognize a pattern in my life. Time and time again, when I lost some weight, I wanted to put some fat back on, and I always did. As a result, I was always yo-yoing. I really think it stems from my low self-worth, and there's this shadow part of me that wants to sabotage myself. That shadow part of myself doesn't want me looking good and feeling good. I need to look at that part of me straight in the eyes and have a conversation. Why are you here? Why do you not me being happy, healthy and attractive? I think there's a lot of pain and shame in there, that keeps me from moving forward and truly stepping into the highest version of myself.
Hi, Clark. I am very grateful for this video. Thanks to the 4th technique, I have discovered the other side of my sense of impotence, which now is leading me towards flowing with life. I am so surprised and so amazingly relieved! I didn't expect that at all. 💖My soul is lighter and my heart happier. Thank you so, so much💖
I really wanted to comment and say that your channel is really, really good. Your manner of approaching topics and articulating ideas is sooo easy to grasp and engaging. This is the one self improvement channel whose videos aren't a drag or bore to get through. You should really pat yourself on the back :)
Hey Clark! Loved, loved, loved this video. I am impressed with the quality of all you do. Thank you! (The blue light circles reflecting on your glasses are distracting).
I'm so happy that you said don't join the trauma olympics because that's an issue I have to address I grew up hearing oh please its someone out here worse than so I help so much in and didn't express anything because someone issue was more pressing than mine so I thought...it's funny how our parents mess us up but it's our responsibility to heal!!! I'm so tired of my feelings being dismissed
Friend , with all due respect, You are the only one who can dismiss your own feelings , does that make sense to you? because when you're feelings come into your present moment , which might be even an issue like abandonment or rejection etc. and you instead of acknowledging and accepting it , and welcoming it into your present moment, that you can inturn place upon it loving kindness , you actually dismiss it and send it away or you find other ways of not acknowledging that woundedness that hurtful feeling that causes you mental anguish or psychological pain and because you don't acknowledge this particular feeling that comes up in your moment you look externally for validation instead of giving yourself validation by validating the wounded and hurtful and painful feelings that come up in your present moment does that make sense to you? I can only suggest that when those painful feelings come into your present moment, that you acknowledge them and accept them with loving kindness and with hospitality, giving space to your uncomfortable wounded or hurtful feelings and as you do the acknowledgment and acceptance and loving-kindness that you place upon that woundedness in your present moment will actually transform into healing as we allow our feelings space to process. We are supposed to have a parental child relationship with our feelings we being the parent in our Consciousness and our feelings being the child as the feeling and as we place this loving acceptance Upon Our feelings/ inner child we are placing loving acceptance upon ourselves and thereby we are validating ourselves and in turn as we place this loving acceptance upon ourselves we are now able to authentically give others the same loving acceptance as we give ourselves. Therefore, if we validate our wounded selves, then others cannot hurt us by what they tell us or they cannot invalidate us because they dismiss what we have to say, Because if you understand that your validation is no longer requiring something external, so you're going to find as you start processing these feelings and placing the loving acceptance upon them that when people invalidate you externally , it's not even going to affect you. I think it's important to understand that you have your objective impersonal self which is the parent / consciousness and then you have your subjective personal self which is the child which is your feelings and whenever you take things personally it means that you are not being in the place of the objective impersonal parent and that's where you always need to be because that's the place of victory you are there to minister to your feelings you are there to minister to your personal self and if you identify as the personal self that's when you get your feelings hurt , does that make sense to you you? You can't take things personally, if you are in the objective and impersonal state of being you can only take things personally when you are in your personal subjective self. Let me know if this helps thank you!
@@stevemiller8895 I definitely realize that now I should have been more specific this is when I was younger between 5-11 and my feelings were dismissed by my parents but I learned that less as a child and I'm better for it!!
it's crazy what you're saying about the interview.. Ive had an acid trip that brought this up naturally.. I was coming down and in the shower, I wasn't comfy with my then current state with money and my stunted personal growth... I invited that boy version of myself and killed it off and it was so sad and emotional bc I resonated so much with that version of myself.. it was hard but necessary. Now I am no longer half alive. Without getting too into what was holding me back I'm lighter and freer now. I think we have to struggle and go thru challenges to really see what we want. This whole world is like a mirror or reflection. Also I thought I mention that this interview happened in my mind but this darkness was shiny and almost like a rainbow in the dark, glistening. "I will not grow in the light Until I pass through the darkest caverns of my heart" wooweeeeee
So excited to come across your videos. This is what I’ve needed. Gonna click the link and ck it out. I need someone there to help push me or should I say guide me. Doing it alone I can never seem to do it. So thank you for your videos much love
Lol! I do almost all my shadow work with crystals. I unexpectedly triggered kundalini through crystal meditation 20 years ago, then stopped meditating because it got too intense and ungrounding. Fastforward to Covid, got really bored and started working with crystals again. Signs that a crystal is doing shadow work and moving blocked energy, sharp pain, muscle contraction, tiny electric sensations, thinking of issues you usually avoid (usually surrounding the need for boundaries), feeling bottled up emotions like shame, sadness, heartbreak or anger. Grounding crystals are what eventually made me understand what grounding my excess spiritual energy is supposed to feel like. Tiger iron on the root chakra (mix of hematite, red jasper and tiger eye) is the most intensely grounding crystal I've ever experienced. It rips emotions you didn't even know you had and pulls them down through your root chakra down into the Earth. It's not for the faint hearted. There are gentler and more graceful grounding crystals. I really enjoy brown calcite and dravite because they gently pull the energy down my legs, through my feet, to the Earth star chakra. It's sooooo relaxing. One of the best ones for getting rid of negative energy is supposed to be aegirine. I've only recently acquired one. At first it made me feel more confident, but upon repeated use I've had really weird and spiritual experiences with it where I felt in touch with purer aspects of my soul. Shadow work has been a long and hard journey for me. I've worked seriously at it with crystals for the last two years. I wanted better grounding and I've had a lot of breakthroughs with my root chakra recently. I am very grateful I have done the work. I have less anxiety and it's getting better and better. It's hard work but it pays off. Loved the vid : )
This video has come at the right time for me.Majorly helpful throughout and very interesting point about the shame,guilt fear Vs peace love feelings . My emotions of late along with your explanation have proven you can't be high vibing whilst carrying low vibe feelings proving the importance of dealing with them and your video has given great tips on how to do this so thankyou truly greatful for this content 🙏
Yes! by going to the low vibe feelings and clearing them at the root, we can greater access and intensity to the high vibe feelings that we are desiring! We turn that which is undesirable , into that which is worthy.
@@kevji absolutely but I've watched various videos on what shadow work is,which is good but this video actually has good input on the questions to ask yourself as it's not always easy knowing where/ how to start in order to get to the root so that you can begin to move forward 🙂
Thank you for explaining it so much and trying to make it easier to understand and starting the very important work that needs to be done first for every human 🙏
Random video suggestion and I'm glad I clicked. I had to pause it on the part of taking up ram with the tabs open .. makes total sense. Have to close them and make room to free your computer..which is your mind.. good video so far and I will continue to watch.. like. Sub. And bells on.. I can tell this new find which is you will bring more inspiration into my life. Enjoy your day 😊
this is very much so along the lines of what happens in the persona series of games, especially the 4th one. Seeing what seems to be negative in what you're doing/feeling, accepting that it's there, and seeing what you can do constructively with it. it's not quite what happens in that game, though it's really good and totally worth playing btw :p
This is the best, most thorough and simplest way I’ve ever heard this explained. I’ve been interested in doing it and I’m really going to explore it now. Thank you!
“The Science of Stuck” by Britt Frank is an EXCELLENT new book on this topic. Exceptional! Informed!!! and helpful!!! Check it out at your local library!! Best wishes fellow journeyers!
Just had a interesting experience cooking this video. Just by clicking it, I heard a frequency ringing in my ear and I have been watching a couple of other TH-cam videos not anything pertaining to shadow work. That was very interesting.
Oh my! I could never make sense of that inner child thing. And then, you just said it: it is shadow work, pure and simple. Thank you! I was making it too complicated for myself... as usual 😂
What am I avoiding? My initial response was "everything". Everything is stressing me out. I'm sure most people that know me have no idea but it feels like everything.
Great video. I stumbled on this and i really have to say your way of presenting this info (despite not me knowing the content) was great, concise, and really easy to consume. Good job :)
You’re responsible for giving notice to people who have trauma, which is still PTSD, just in forms like DPTSD, and chronic triggering. If you talk about your trauma, or especially event based PTSD (like if I keep talking about my daughter dying all the time) it will create that event again and again in the mind and you’re right back in the event. Read The Body Keeps the Score for reference and The Grieving Brain. In fact CBT is the worst thing for PTSD because EFT or bilateral stimulation, EMDR or other trauma therapies are not used. Specific trauma therapy like EMDR for my guilt isn’t just a realization. It starts there and can take years to find yourself again. But that can’t happen over trauma. Do not overtalk about a trauma. If you do, incorporate some body movement, breathwork, and EFT. Love this channel so much.
For sex addicts, a lot of us are just victims of our environment. Most of us were too young to be introduced to porn, magazines and all those nude photos that someone older(big bro, neighbor) has showed us. It isn't really our fault that we are in this situation right now. Forgive the inner child because he too didn't know that this will be a problem in the future. As a child, we were always ready to absorb what we see. If only someone could have guided us and control the environment for us then maybe we dont have this problem about sex today. This is what I discovered from doing the 5 steps Clark gave us. Thanks Clark. Now i know what to do, we cant control our sexual urges, so we need to focus on what we can control(our environment) from going outside when you are feeling it, just unlocking the door when you are alone in the room, filtering the images we see. And as easy to say but the hardest thing to do, stop watching porn.
Wanted to send a quick thank you for so much help. You've helped me be me and be able to have th courage to live my life. Still working at it, but this helps.
Great approaches. I'd like to throw in that this kind of therapy is very successful throughout the history of mental health nursing & there's a lot more evidence than the one example illustrated about how useful these approaches are. I really like the way you explain it here. Something I would add, is that none of this works too well for the 30% of people who insist on bringing, and persist in keeping "supernatural" théories or other unscientific ideology in the process. This is about your own thoughts and not about what imaginary beings you might be using to avoid thinking about problems. You might realise this quite early on, in the process, by yourself, but if you don't and you keep getting nowhere with it, I advise some consideration of the facts, with some kind of additional approach related to journaling, like CBT CBT is where you focus on the emotions and analyse exactly where anxiety arises in your thoughts that trigger it. This helps unpick over-reliance on ideology as a method of coping with difficult circumstances.
I really like this video. How u explain that shadow work doesn't have to be something from witchcraft. I looked into witchcraft myself for a time. But I was also starting to fall into a mental fog/ a lighter type of depression than what I've had b4 in the past. I started to learn about shadow work. & have been wanting to actually try it myself. But I also didn't like the fact that it was tied to wc so much. So I'm glad u made this video bcuz I can show it to someone w/o it being something wc like. & maybe they can use it too. & also not feel like it's something from wc.
Hi, Clark....couldn't resist making a comment on this......Yes, I journal too and categorize them, one being called "Work-Throughs," then one is called "Meditations"...yet another, "Stories"......etc. etc.......I was smiling all the way through your video........thinking this guy must be an Aries! Ha! As always, thanks for sharing your insights! 😊
I know that feeling, many of us do. We are all bound to fail from time to time, perhaps even seasons where it seems like failure is inevitable, but if you can fail yourself, you can forgive yourself. IF you can forgive yourself, you can be worthy of success. If you can can be worthy of success, you will find success. The success must first happen on the inside, then it so too will be on the outside.
I just want to say, your videos popped up out of no where and kind of ride along with my direction. I enjoy the ones who can can break stereotypes and not assume just because someone is wearing a cool ass leather jacket that he is somehow threatening in a way, but yet you are not. However you could be, so that is were the power is I think for me is in the restraint
The way you explained what types of things are worth doing inner work for, really helped. I thought I didn’t have much shadow or inner work to do, but I do. However,it will be hard, because I’m sick with Lyme. I’m going to try not to fixate on that, though. 🙏💫🌷
Galatians 5:22-23 - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
Thank you for making this video, just your videos have helped me attract a new relationship that is starting to grow. My life feels like it's on the up for once.
I did shadow work before 'Shadow work' was mainstream. My relatives are from Siberia. We been doing this 'social' way of being in the world 🌎 for 10,000 years. Then we came to America. The central US we are the Snake people. Yes I'm also Slitheran house 🖖. We just watching your 260 year social experiment: USA From the Far North. I'm J. I approve these methods ☮️
TH-cam showed me this suggestion simultaneously while I was doing day two of an 'inner child' journaling exercise my therapist gave me. I was worried because I saw "law of attraction" and I basically think that stuff is woo-woo. You can't positive yourself into something; you just won't get anywhere by negativing yourself out of everything. However, this video was actually extremely useful (and kinda similar to the thing I'm doing.)
Aside from the health, family and professional benefits of stopping drinking (and I was drinking A LOT - 1-1.5L / day at the worst time, still keeping up with work and family - but not by much) I haven't had any other mental breakthroughs or anything ... I have never really let myself get stressed or weighed down by my imperfections / failures; always seen them at learning opportunities and things to try not to repeat. I just really, really liked drinking ;). Just sharing my experience; and to repeat - the health, family and professional benefits can't be overstated. Huge.
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You, my brother, are doing brilliant work. Blessings!
There's such a need for this work in the world it's beyond belief. Most damaging and damaged people don't even know that it exists. Thank you 💕
You are really intelligent🍀
Shame it doesn't work for Anhedonia :(
Sounds great x
Doing work without telling anyone and then showing the results has been the biggest contributor to my productivity thus far.
anytime I share what I wanna do I end up not doing it.But when I stay quiet I do a lot
I'm gonna try this. I have my plans, but when I tell people about them, I never make it anywhere. So I'm just gonna stop talking and start doing. And also I'm getting tired of hearing myself talking and not doing
Thank you for sharing this! Absolutely!! 😊
@@jamesmason9016 It's been 6 days, how's it going?
@@BusinessWolf1 I actually went in my back yard and meditated a few mins after I got off work, actually starting to get it. Now I jus need to start working out and stay away from alcohol
Build the grid, light the candles and burn the incense! 😉Subconscious LOVES the drama of it all! It makes a huge impression!
True Story! 😂
@@LanaALaBonte ❤️
I have to agree!!
Seriously, the more emotion you can bring into it, elevates the work. Light that candle!
So true, love your answer 💗
Thank you so much for this. I’m 29, I’ve had 18 brain surgeries and 2 brain tumors the past 6 years. I’m still fighting another one, but this was the only way I was able to accept what had happened- I started searching for my “what” instead of the “why” ❤️
You’re tough as hell! You’re in my thoughts. I wish you nothing but the best. I know you will beat that shit. Keep fighting!!!!!
Stay safe and strong!
I wish you all the love
I wish you the best, you are truly amazing and strong
Let god give u all the strength
A truly enlightened thought 🥰 I wish you the best. Merry Christmas. I hope you and your family celebrate while you're here.
"If the problems are within, the solutions are within too..." We can bring peace and healing by strengthening our minds. 💪💌
@@h4zeh Often pain is inflammation. Making dietary choices to eliminate it helps. Not always, honoring you, if your pain is caused by illness or accident. Keep breathing. Sending loving vibes to you now.
it’s difficult to watch things like this, but I’m making myself…it’s like I just don’t want to be better but I keep trying, i want it to stick. I was so disgustingly broken once, and after so much work I feel like I’ve maybe gotten a few bruises healed. I still feel like a crying little boy hiding inside the big strong toughness I spend hours putting on daily. Im going to keep watching. Thank you.
I just started my shadow work journey a little over three weeks ago and can already see a huge shift in myself as a person. I love who I'm becoming and have never felt more comfortable within my own skin.
HI Bri, can you define what changes you've made? implementing your shadow when you have anxiety is quite difficult.
What are the steps you are following?
Thank you @ Bri V. x
@@kieransimpson4965 hey, thanks for asking 🥰 truthfully, there's a lot of things I've had to implement one by one over the course of 3 to 4 years. I just started shadow work intentionally about a month ago with the help of a shadow work journal and workbook so having my foundation from these last few years has made that process faster and easier for me. But my top tips (in no particular order) would be:
- learn to accept and flow with internal and external chaos
- keep a journal for emotional dumping, patterns, progress updates, gratitude entries, etc. Write in it whenever you feel the need to, it doesn't have to be an everyday thing unless you want it to be.
- interrupt the negative self-talk, start looking at yourself from a neutral perspective, then level up (at your own pace) to positive self-talk and affirmations
- accept your shadow as an ally rather than an enemy
- allow yourself to have authentic, creative expression in any form that may take (i.e. switching up your personal style or painting)
- inner child work and healing
- cultivate grace, patience, and compassion for yourself as you navigate the inevitability of your pain and discomfort. Be kind to your mind
- develop healthy coping mechanisms that put your nervous system at ease (for me, that's dancing, singing, EFT, meditation, yoga, journaling, deep breathing, stimming, being out in nature)
- radical self-acceptance which then usually transmutes naturally into radical self-love
- consistently remind yourself that there is light on the other side of these dark, messy, or even scary emotions.
- have literal conversations with your shadow and inner child. Love, accept, appreciate and level with them.
- only follow positive and uplifting content, stay away from media that may trigger you
- save your energy for what matters most to you and for what brings you the most joy, or at least contentment.
- have a loving support system if you can, there truly is strength in numbers.
I hope this helps! I know this was a lot and I hope it didn't overwhelm you to read all of this. It'll take time, having that patience for yourself really is a game changer. Day by day and moment by moment. Also, it's good to remember that perfection doesn't exist, healing isn't linear, and you're already doing a great freaking job as you are. I wish you the absolute best on your healing journey ❤️
@@kieransimpson4965 side note - as I continue to secure myself into this mindset, I still have anxiety... the only difference is I've learned to dance with it rather than to fight it. Anxiety becomes easier to manage with time, patience, consistency, and practice ❤️ you've got this!
People often forget their shadow and many don't even know what this really means.
Everyone has one, I do, you do, everyone.
But most people are scared of their shadow. Most people avoid their shadow through a variety of healthy and unhealthy outlets.
Embracing your shadow and understanding the meaning of the trauma and darkness, will lead you to true freedom and peace in your life.
Find the shadow. Embrace the shadow. Understand the shadow. And finally, make peace with the shadow to open up your world!
Technically everyone has several, but obviously it's possible to look at "the" shadow as a category containing several subcategories.
Well that was vague
Less recently in my life, I was on the right path, but I didn't do the necessary shadow work to permanently quit my addictions and bad habbits. I quit smoking for a year and a half (got back into it). I was working out consistantly (injured myself from one ego rep just to prove to myself I could do it) I was doing well at my job (got fired for dipping back into old habbits) and now I am suffering my karma. I have a lot of spiritual knowledge but avoided my practices because I thought just being deeply conscious of everything was enough. It's time to put in the work and follow through.
I suffer from crippling anxiety around people who are smarter than me and I’m trying to understand why I can’t act normal when I’m in those social settings, thank you for this video
🙂 hello, does this happen in a specific situation? Such as being around a teacher? Or a grandparent?
I wish you peace.
@@AppleTY2015 after spending a lot of time reflecting, I realized this stemmed from childhood trauma, being singled out teased and embarrassed in class by teachers and students…this manifested into me constantly being afraid of being judged and messing up, especially in professional settings. Hate the feeling of being looked down on or belittled, just like how I felt in that classroom as a kid.
@@TrvisXXIII I’m so pleased for you that you took your time to reflect on the source.
I asked because I’ve had a similar experience that I’m just starting to come out the other side of.
It surrounded having to “have a voice” now, as a parent, when advocating for my children at school. Extremely triggering for me the past 3 years. Crying. Shutting down.
I uncovered my childhood “chronically wrong” conditioning. I’m wrong in every way, in every situation & therefore standing up for my children was nearly debilitating. But the strong woman in me would not step down. After a lot of practice and meditation/breath work, I have more psychological flexibility- so, things still feel scary, but I can come back to baseline quicker and more easily. It’s an incredible journey!!
What’s your next step?
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I think a lot of it starts from a) self love (I am worthy, and no matter what happens (ridicule), I’ll be ok; and b) understanding the meanness on the part of others is a reflection of them, not you.
In “the four agreements,” Miguel Ruiz talks about not taking anything personally. Why? Because all of us are (and he explains this better and more tastefully) screwed up by our own experiences and have beliefs that form this fake “story” or version of reality that we use to interpret everything.
Those kids who chose to be mean were probably criticized and belittled by their own parents. It’s what they know. They didn’t know love, and didn’t have it to give to you. But that’s their story, and it has nothing to do with reality or anything to do with your worth.
That said, I recommend the “charisma on command” TH-cam channel to help with your social skills. Everyone benefits from growing those!
There arent smarter people. People have different ways of expressing their intelligence. Some are great at maths, others at languages, others at art, sports and the list goes on. There is something called multiple intelligences. Research it and find yours 😊. And one thing is to be smart and another is to have knowkedge on certain matters. So if you want to improve, read, research, watch documentaries on the things that interest you the most: history, animals, politics, etc. I know lots of people who barely went to school but they have so much knowkedge that it is a pleasure to talk with them
The PTS comment is very much true. I have had soldiers with very difficult upbringing coming in to serve and sometimes some days are extremely difficult. I've learned what helps is full listening and influencing negative behaviors by reinforcing any accomplishments, big or small, they accomplish. I am also coping with depression, I am not sure where it came from, but my best treatment is affirmation, a small journal to meditate and reflect, and daily progression. Inner peace trumps outward acceptance.
Every time I get depressed I resort to my formula of saying thank you from the time I wake up and all day long. And asking for help. It always comes, even if I only ask in my head (and heart). I hope you get the support you need for your depression. Love ultimately is the answer.
This reminds me of parts work in the Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). Very Helpful. In IFS you talk and interview all of your parts that make up who you are. You make sure everyone has a seat at the table and their concerns are heard.
It really is important to remember that trauma isn't a competition. At least, not in the context of self improvement. Everyone has their own journey to go through and putting your focus on other's paths is time and energy you should use on your own.
Well said!
Damn, you posted this the day I got sober lol
After 3 years off drowning my issues in alcohol and feeling stuck in life, I feel ready to tackle myself.
Gotta go and find my journal...
That was so helpful, Clark! Because of you I started my shadow work journey & I’m very excited to see where I go ❤
How ironic but not, that I land on this video. I had no idea what Shadow Work meant yet I was doing it early (3:30am) this morning.
I got upset about something that had happened and a thought came to me questioning why I needed to be upset about it. I pulled out my journal and had a back and forth dialog about when and why I choose emotions that can keep me from being happy or in a good place. And I saw how I can change it if I really want to. It was was a great moment. Now this video has added more insight. Thanks.
I’m 20, I kinda developed this exercise for myself MULTIPLE years ago, and overcame and understood a lot of this then on my own volition, now I’m just lazily watching TH-cam to procrastinate the boring work😂 when I think about it I’ll get up and do it almost without pushback but other than that I’m just lazy and don’t want to I find it’s easier now than it was 3 years ago to convince myself to just get work done but even now I still have an inhibiting procrastination that I really don’t understand
I just did this and it was sooo liberating. I'm planning to do it for at least 2 weeks till I get a new job. Afterwards I'll keep working on healing at least once or twice a week. thank you so much for sharing. You are helping me heal from traumas that have been holding me back my entire life. Your way of explaining everything is simple easy and applicable. Keep shining I'm sending you vibes of love and prosperity.
I love your channel, i love when channel like yours are really helpful and practical and not only talking basic motivation stuff over and over again.
I'm a dad. I think about this kind of stuff when I parent my kids. Part of why I have such a great relationship with my kids.
just a simple advice. you can dress cozy to make us feel more cozy. 32 celsius degree now at my place and you wearing a jacket. Really nice work, thank you.
Inspired journal prompt: what would I look like without shame? What am I ashamed about and how can I forgive myself?
Thanks Clark 🌎 Greetings from Colombia. The Venezuelan immigrant writer 🇻🇪
Hey Clark, I've been watching your videos for a couple of days now. I'm currently doing the mini course..
I must say I am lured in and am already feeling the difference in my life. I tried to apply but as it stands you have not yet gone international and I live in South Africa.
However I'll keep watching your videos until you are able to do international calls. Thanks for the work that you do, it's truly amazing!
Hey thanks for another shadow work video. I recognize a pattern in my life. Time and time again, when I lost some weight, I wanted to put some fat back on, and I always did. As a result, I was always yo-yoing. I really think it stems from my low self-worth, and there's this shadow part of me that wants to sabotage myself. That shadow part of myself doesn't want me looking good and feeling good. I need to look at that part of me straight in the eyes and have a conversation. Why are you here? Why do you not me being happy, healthy and attractive? I think there's a lot of pain and shame in there, that keeps me from moving forward and truly stepping into the highest version of myself.
Hi, Clark. I am very grateful for this video. Thanks to the 4th technique, I have discovered the other side of my sense of impotence, which now is leading me towards flowing with life. I am so surprised and so amazingly relieved! I didn't expect that at all. 💖My soul is lighter and my heart happier. Thank you so, so much💖
Great video, I do shadow work as well with my clients. I think it’s the most important healing work we can do for ourselves.
Shadow work was life changing for me!
I really wanted to comment and say that your channel is really, really good. Your manner of approaching topics and articulating ideas is sooo easy to grasp and engaging. This is the one self improvement channel whose videos aren't a drag or bore to get through. You should really pat yourself on the back :)
You're a cool looking dude. Thanks for the info. I've been needing some help clearing out my brain.
Hey Clark! Loved, loved, loved this video. I am impressed with the quality of all you do. Thank you! (The blue light circles reflecting on your glasses are distracting).
I love them! They are like little, mini halos, and little mini orbs with a little imagination!
I thought it was just me being me. I can’t ignore the reflections
I'm so happy that you said don't join the trauma olympics because that's an issue I have to address I grew up hearing oh please its someone out here worse than so I help so much in and didn't express anything because someone issue was more pressing than mine so I thought...it's funny how our parents mess us up but it's our responsibility to heal!!! I'm so tired of my feelings being dismissed
Friend , with all due respect, You are the only one who can dismiss your own feelings , does that make sense to you? because when you're feelings come into your present moment , which might be even an issue like abandonment or rejection etc. and you instead of acknowledging and accepting it , and welcoming it into your present moment, that you can inturn place upon it loving kindness , you actually dismiss it and send it away or you find other ways of not acknowledging that woundedness that hurtful feeling that causes you mental anguish or psychological pain and because you don't acknowledge this particular feeling that comes up in your moment you look externally for validation instead of giving yourself validation by validating the wounded and hurtful and painful feelings that come up in your present moment does that make sense to you?
I can only suggest that when those painful feelings come into your present moment, that you acknowledge them and accept them with loving kindness and with hospitality, giving space to your uncomfortable wounded or hurtful feelings and as you do the acknowledgment and acceptance and loving-kindness that you place upon that woundedness in your present moment will actually transform into healing as we allow our feelings space to process.
We are supposed to have a parental child relationship with our feelings we being the parent in our Consciousness and our feelings being the child as the feeling and as we place this loving acceptance Upon Our feelings/ inner child we are placing loving acceptance upon ourselves and thereby we are validating ourselves and in turn as we place this loving acceptance upon ourselves we are now able to authentically give others the same loving acceptance as we give ourselves.
Therefore, if we validate our wounded selves, then others cannot hurt us by what they tell us or they cannot invalidate us because they dismiss what we have to say, Because if you understand that your validation is no longer requiring something external, so you're going to find as you start processing these feelings and placing the loving acceptance upon them that when people invalidate you externally , it's not even going to affect you.
I think it's important to understand that you have your objective impersonal self which is the parent / consciousness and then you have your subjective personal self which is the child which is your feelings and whenever you take things personally it means that you are not being in the place of the objective impersonal parent and that's where you always need to be because that's the place of victory you are there to minister to your feelings you are there to minister to your personal self and if you identify as the personal self that's when you get your feelings hurt , does that make sense to you you? You can't take things personally, if you are in the objective and impersonal state of being you can only take things personally when you are in your personal subjective self. Let me know if this helps thank you!
@@stevemiller8895 I definitely realize that now I should have been more specific this is when I was younger between 5-11 and my feelings were dismissed by my parents but I learned that less as a child and I'm better for it!!
it's crazy what you're saying about the interview.. Ive had an acid trip that brought this up naturally.. I was coming down and in the shower, I wasn't comfy with my then current state with money and my stunted personal growth... I invited that boy version of myself and killed it off and it was so sad and emotional bc I resonated so much with that version of myself.. it was hard but necessary. Now I am no longer half alive. Without getting too into what was holding me back I'm lighter and freer now. I think we have to struggle and go thru challenges to really see what we want. This whole world is like a mirror or reflection. Also I thought I mention that this interview happened in my mind but this darkness was shiny and almost like a rainbow in the dark, glistening. "I will not grow in the light Until I pass through the darkest caverns of my heart" wooweeeeee
Struggled with addiction most my life. Been sober 2 years. Being sober made me face all my negative feelings. Now continuing to grow.
After every video I see from you man. I just wanna give you the biggest hug
Love it!!! Don't compete in the trauma Olympics! Best way to put that and best advice ever!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣👍
Been doing Shadow Work for years without knowing that's what it's called XD Great crash course, I'm gonna be looking at it from a new angle now!
So excited to come across your videos. This is what I’ve needed. Gonna click the link and ck it out. I need someone there to help push me or should I say guide me. Doing it alone I can never seem to do it. So thank you for your videos much love
Lol! I do almost all my shadow work with crystals.
I unexpectedly triggered kundalini through crystal meditation 20 years ago, then stopped meditating because it got too intense and ungrounding.
Fastforward to Covid, got really bored and started working with crystals again.
Signs that a crystal is doing shadow work and moving blocked energy, sharp pain, muscle contraction, tiny electric sensations, thinking of issues you usually avoid (usually surrounding the need for boundaries), feeling bottled up emotions like shame, sadness, heartbreak or anger.
Grounding crystals are what eventually made me understand what grounding my excess spiritual energy is supposed to feel like.
Tiger iron on the root chakra (mix of hematite, red jasper and tiger eye) is the most intensely grounding crystal I've ever experienced. It rips emotions you didn't even know you had and pulls them down through your root chakra down into the Earth. It's not for the faint hearted.
There are gentler and more graceful grounding crystals. I really enjoy brown calcite and dravite because they gently pull the energy down my legs, through my feet, to the Earth star chakra. It's sooooo relaxing.
One of the best ones for getting rid of negative energy is supposed to be aegirine. I've only recently acquired one. At first it made me feel more confident, but upon repeated use I've had really weird and spiritual experiences with it where I felt in touch with purer aspects of my soul.
Shadow work has been a long and hard journey for me. I've worked seriously at it with crystals for the last two years. I wanted better grounding and I've had a lot of breakthroughs with my root chakra recently. I am very grateful I have done the work. I have less anxiety and it's getting better and better. It's hard work but it pays off.
Loved the vid : )
This video has come at the right time for me.Majorly helpful throughout and very interesting point about the shame,guilt fear Vs peace love feelings .
My emotions of late along with your explanation have proven you can't be high vibing whilst carrying low vibe feelings proving the importance of dealing with them and your video has given great tips on how to do this so thankyou truly greatful for this content 🙏
Yes! by going to the low vibe feelings and clearing them at the root, we can greater access and intensity to the high vibe feelings that we are desiring!
We turn that which is undesirable , into that which is worthy.
@@kevji absolutely but I've watched various videos on what shadow work is,which is good but this video actually has good input on the questions to ask yourself as it's not always easy knowing where/ how to start in order to get to the root so that you can begin to move forward 🙂
I highly recommend the vipassana meditation technique. Going to one 10 day retreat has purified a lot of my shadow. I am a different person today
Thank you for explaining it so much and trying to make it easier to understand and starting the very important work that needs to be done first for every human 🙏
What you resist - persists. Amen.
Random video suggestion and I'm glad I clicked. I had to pause it on the part of taking up ram with the tabs open .. makes total sense. Have to close them and make room to free your computer..which is your mind.. good video so far and I will continue to watch.. like. Sub. And bells on.. I can tell this new find which is you will bring more inspiration into my life. Enjoy your day 😊
As a experience of 2 years of manifestation this technique has changed my life completely.
Clark, seriously you are making me think, and thinking can make a change, I want more knowledge from a guy like you to change everything around me.
BRAA!! i am a pastor and hear you much often, keep going! great stuff!
this is very much so along the lines of what happens in the persona series of games, especially the 4th one. Seeing what seems to be negative in what you're doing/feeling, accepting that it's there, and seeing what you can do constructively with it.
it's not quite what happens in that game, though it's really good and totally worth playing btw :p
When god keep silent for our questions, people like Clark Kegley starts to talk. 💕
Thanks you changed my life i watch your video that made me improve myself a lot so thank you
Good for you! Happy to hear you're improving yourself.
@@christhornham ya, thankyou sir
Really nice video Clark, you truly changed my life! I really like the way you talk and make videos. Thank you so much! Wish you the best always
Happy to hear your life is improving.
Thank you. Felt low today and I felt better afterwards
This is the best, most thorough and simplest way I’ve ever heard this explained. I’ve been interested in doing it and I’m really going to explore it now. Thank you!
Still putting out great content with your vids!!! Thank you!!!
Refreshing!!! Only the 3rd video I’ve come across. For real!!! You speak so much truth and speak it well. Thanks! Inspiring! Motivational!
“The Science of Stuck” by Britt Frank is an EXCELLENT new book on this topic. Exceptional! Informed!!!
and helpful!!! Check it out at your local library!! Best wishes fellow journeyers!
So7nds good, is it about the shadow?
Carl jung is the originator of all shadow work
Just had a interesting experience cooking this video. Just by clicking it, I heard a frequency ringing in my ear and I have been watching a couple of other TH-cam videos not anything pertaining to shadow work. That was very interesting.
Oh my! I could never make sense of that inner child thing. And then, you just said it: it is shadow work, pure and simple. Thank you! I was making it too complicated for myself... as usual 😂
When the student is ready the teacher will appear. Thanks for showing me the way.
You're necessary Clark! Thanks a million!
What am I avoiding? My initial response was "everything". Everything is stressing me out. I'm sure most people that know me have no idea but it feels like everything.
This is my favorite type of content that you cover! Relating shadow work to energy levels and healing ❤️🩹 thank you clark!
I felt this tingling sensation in the heart kind of like anxiety but i felt i could go more deeper.
I like how you made a short of this..I believe it's going to help me make some positive change in my life . 🙏
thank you! I love your vibe. You can see that you worked on yourself, good job!
Great video. I stumbled on this and i really have to say your way of presenting this info (despite not me knowing the content) was great, concise, and really easy to consume. Good job :)
You’re responsible for giving notice to people who have trauma, which is still PTSD, just in forms like DPTSD, and chronic triggering. If you talk about your trauma, or especially event based PTSD (like if I keep talking about my daughter dying all the time) it will create that event again and again in the mind and you’re right back in the event. Read The Body Keeps the Score for reference and The Grieving Brain.
In fact CBT is the worst thing for PTSD because EFT or bilateral stimulation, EMDR or other trauma therapies are not used. Specific trauma therapy like EMDR for my guilt isn’t just a realization. It starts there and can take years to find yourself again. But that can’t happen over trauma. Do not overtalk about a trauma. If you do, incorporate some body movement, breathwork, and EFT.
Love this channel so much.
Shadow work changed my life. Thank you Clark for sharing this wisdom ♥️💖💛
For sex addicts, a lot of us are just victims of our environment. Most of us were too young to be introduced to porn, magazines and all those nude photos that someone older(big bro, neighbor) has showed us. It isn't really our fault that we are in this situation right now. Forgive the inner child because he too didn't know that this will be a problem in the future. As a child, we were always ready to absorb what we see. If only someone could have guided us and control the environment for us then maybe we dont have this problem about sex today. This is what I discovered from doing the 5 steps Clark gave us. Thanks Clark. Now i know what to do, we cant control our sexual urges, so we need to focus on what we can control(our environment) from going outside when you are feeling it, just unlocking the door when you are alone in the room, filtering the images we see. And as easy to say but the hardest thing to do, stop watching porn.
Doing acid helped me a lot. I was able to talk with myself from an outside perspective. I saw my worth.
This video was enough to make me cry.
Wanted to send a quick thank you for so much help. You've helped me be me and be able to have th courage to live my life. Still working at it, but this helps.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this video!! Made so much sense to me. I’m excited to begin ❤🎉😮😊❤
Thank you!!!!!!!
Great approaches. I'd like to throw in that this kind of therapy is very successful throughout the history of mental health nursing & there's a lot more evidence than the one example illustrated about how useful these approaches are. I really like the way you explain it here.
Something I would add, is that none of this works too well for the 30% of people who insist on bringing, and persist in keeping "supernatural" théories or other unscientific ideology in the process.
This is about your own thoughts and not about what imaginary beings you might be using to avoid thinking about problems. You might realise this quite early on, in the process, by yourself, but if you don't and you keep getting nowhere with it, I advise some consideration of the facts, with some kind of additional approach related to journaling, like CBT
CBT is where you focus on the emotions and analyse exactly where anxiety arises in your thoughts that trigger it. This helps unpick over-reliance on ideology as a method of coping with difficult circumstances.
I really like this video. How u explain that shadow work doesn't have to be something from witchcraft. I looked into witchcraft myself for a time. But I was also starting to fall into a mental fog/ a lighter type of depression than what I've had b4 in the past. I started to learn about shadow work. & have been wanting to actually try it myself. But I also didn't like the fact that it was tied to wc so much. So I'm glad u made this video bcuz I can show it to someone w/o it being something wc like. & maybe they can use it too. & also not feel like it's something from wc.
Hi, Clark....couldn't resist making a comment on this......Yes, I journal too and categorize them, one being called "Work-Throughs," then one is called "Meditations"...yet another, "Stories"......etc. etc.......I was smiling all the way through your video........thinking this guy must be an Aries! Ha! As always, thanks for sharing your insights! 😊
Yes crack the michelobs, 😂 it’s been 6 months now since I quit drinking, totally opened up a major shift for healing!
Wow . Fantastic video. So much of depth and value
Can't wait to start the course.
Really awesome content. ❤ I'm a new follower!
One small note, the light on your glasses is a bit distracting.
Good one mate! Will share with more people.
Just wanted to say that i tried this and uncovered a lot of insights! Thanks Clark.
Awesome work dude!
I appreciate this content. One if the hardest things for me to deal with is the trauma is because I failed me.
I know that feeling, many of us do.
We are all bound to fail from time to time, perhaps even seasons where it seems like failure is inevitable, but if you can fail yourself, you can forgive yourself. IF you can forgive yourself, you can be worthy of success. If you can can be worthy of success, you will find success.
The success must first happen on the inside, then it so too will be on the outside.
I just want to say, your videos popped up out of no where and kind of ride along with my direction. I enjoy the ones who can can break stereotypes and not assume just because someone is wearing a cool ass leather jacket that he is somehow threatening in a way, but yet you are not. However you could be, so that is were the power is I think for me is in the restraint
The way you explained what types of things are worth doing inner work for, really helped. I thought I didn’t have much shadow or inner work to do, but I do. However,it will be hard, because I’m sick with Lyme. I’m going to try not to fixate on that, though. 🙏💫🌷
Thank you your video helps me learn more for personal growth
Galatians 5:22-23 - But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
This video changed my life, thank you 🙏
This is very similar to the IFS therapy process. Great video.
Thank you for making this video, just your videos have helped me attract a new relationship that is starting to grow. My life feels like it's on the up for once.
keep going!
you’re videos are amazing
I did shadow work before 'Shadow work' was mainstream. My relatives are from Siberia. We been doing this 'social' way of being in the world 🌎 for 10,000 years. Then we came to America. The central US we are the Snake people. Yes I'm also Slitheran house 🖖. We just watching your 260 year social experiment: USA From the Far North. I'm J. I approve these methods ☮️
“What am I avoiding?” Well, myself?. That’s quite big too handle 😞
I really like using eft tapping (emotional freedom technique) for shadow work. It works super well!!
Its can stop thoughts??
@@gurmanbrar8945 🤔 Do you mean can it stop rumination? I would say yes it can.
TH-cam showed me this suggestion simultaneously while I was doing day two of an 'inner child' journaling exercise my therapist gave me. I was worried because I saw "law of attraction" and I basically think that stuff is woo-woo. You can't positive yourself into something; you just won't get anywhere by negativing yourself out of everything. However, this video was actually extremely useful (and kinda similar to the thing I'm doing.)
Love to make the subconscious conscious. Thank you for sharing 🌎
Thank you for this video! Any book recommendations on shadow work?
Aside from the health, family and professional benefits of stopping drinking (and I was drinking A LOT - 1-1.5L / day at the worst time, still keeping up with work and family - but not by much) I haven't had any other mental breakthroughs or anything ... I have never really let myself get stressed or weighed down by my imperfections / failures; always seen them at learning opportunities and things to try not to repeat. I just really, really liked drinking ;).
Just sharing my experience; and to repeat - the health, family and professional benefits can't be overstated. Huge.
Banger video mate, keep up the great work! Thank you for the amazing content