@@max_wav Oh sure, she SAID that, but that doesn't mean that's what happened. If you had made up a lie for attention as a teenager, which ended up having huge consequences for your whole family because they believed you, how willing would you be to admit to that lie afterward? Maybe you feel bad about how it affected the person you lied about, but you are afraid of the consequences of just coming right out and admitting that you made it all up. So what do you do? You make something else up to ease the family into the truth. Something that isn't directly your fault. Something like "Oh, I think that might have just been a dream after all, which I confused for a memory. Sorry!"
@@rmartinson19 I dont think you understand. This is common for women. They will dream about fantasies of having sex with men, but then go and say its real to others EVEN THOUGH THEY FULLY KNOW IT WAS A DREAM. But to women, dream = they still did it to me
This man is a far better person than I am. If my family treated me like that, I would tell them to go to hell and never speak to me again, no matter how sorry they were.
I would do the same. Unlike the guy in the story, he gave in...I would never have. Instead, I would be working on my life making it better and then maybe assuming that the family would find out eventually that's how the rest of our lives would be like.
@@syrynx4454 Yeah u are right but TBH SA is a serious matter and people tend to take the females side better And also I think the parents were so convinced my their neice that they didn't believe their son
Just because someone gives a weird amount of detail doesn’t mean it really happened. There’s actually a thing that happens with liars where they go into way too much detail. If someone ever does that, where it seems like they just have an over abundance of details to give, there’s a pretty good chance they’re lying.
That is the main thing that exposes them If they go into unnecessary or just downright suspicious levels of detail then they are most likely lying Nobody should have so many details if they have experienced something traumatic to such an overly detailed degree
Cops count on that. That's why they usually have several interviews spaced days apart. It gives compulsive liars a chance to make up very elaborate information and then forget the details and contradict themselves. The more into detail they go, the higher the chance that they'll mess up because there isn't actually a vivid, horrifying memory of an actual event to keep it anchored, just a bunch of BS they have to keep straight.
not always, sometimes you just have ADHD and will tell as many details to prove it actually happen. Or you are just a little different person than others and will have different manerisms/ talking patterns/or anything really. If a person doesn't know how to lie and you ask them details they can't think of anything so details being there is actually better imo. It's worse when the person lying actually knows how to lie
I think what you said is to much detail....you must be lying. If you went into this amount of detail just to explain to someone that they are lying, there is a good chance you are lying. So I just can't believe you... Oh crap, I did it too. F I am a liar now. D:
I had a friend who was accused of SA by a girl. He lost a lot of friends over it and it stressed him out and thankfully didn't affect him too badly. After a few years the girl realised she dreamed it after she was asked about the details. When he asked me he asked me why I stood by him and believed him I just said "I don't know why anyone believed her, you're gay". I don't know if he had come out to all his friends yet at that point (we don't talk anymore). But yeah she potentially ruined his life over a dream.
@@tyranidswarmlord9722 You'd think that, but my ex-gf came out as gay and they became best friends and hung out with other LGBT people and we grew apart lol. C'est la vie. You happy with your new codex?
Remember girls, this is the power we have, abusing it not only you ruin another person's life, you also make it harder for real victims of SA to be taken seriously.
My best friend was accused of SA by his ex and her friends back in HS. It was brief and most people refused to believe her because everyone knew he wouldn’t even hurt a fly, let alone assault someone. Yet, that still messed him up for several months due to the glares and mistrust from the people who believed her. He’s dated here and there but it’s tough. Whether you’re a man or a woman, treat others kindly and respect their boundaries; it’ll go a long way to make the world a little better.
Thats the one thing I hate about double standards as it can and will ruin an innocent mans life from just one lie from a women that paints them the victim cause how people view both genders where men can be victims of SA just like women weather be from another man or even a women. If a man were to be harassed by a women most people would be blind to it think that "she is just into you" even though what she is doing is not normal where a man harasses a women they get punished (and rightfully so since SA and SH are both bad). Luckly there are workplaces where they take SA and SH very seriously regardless of gender.
Can't believe there are still people out there who say "I'd rather believe a liar than a man" This is insane. At least the niece wasn't smart or cruel enough to keep the story straight years later because... damn... poor OP People like E need they mind slapped straight To do this to a family member for no reason at all...
The saying is "I'd rather believe a liar than a rapist" if you associate all men with rapists, that's a bigger problem than anything else. And that saying is sound. Do better
I've gotten 2 SH complaints filed on me at work. The first 1 when I was 15, the second when I was 25. In both cases I was exonerated by closed circuit camera recordings that proved that the alleged contact and criminal behavior DID NOT ever happen. In both cases my accuser was fired immediately. The 1st complaint was filed by a pedo that tried to make a victim out of me. And in both cases, the women on 1 side of my own family have continued to react as though those complaints somehow had merit, especially after it happened to me a 2nd time. It sucks too, because I've only had 4 jobs where I had female coworkers, and at half of them I've been accused. This BS has become rampant.
@Revytwohands-io6du Idk about the punishment for it or if people take it seriously (for example, almost nobody gets in trouble for bringing fireworks into Illinois but it's still a crime.) but it's slander. It is a crime.
@@Jray608even in the states, where the bar for libel is high, this would qualify. Deliberately lying about someone and causing these kinds of ramifications can result in pretty hefty fines. Depp v. Heard, etc. Testimony from an entire Christmas party about a confession, especially when it makes the witness look awful, makes for really compelling evidence. Too bad the statute of limitations would be long over. Good on him to just drop her, I guess.
The first time, I would be on my family member's side, but keep my mind open to the possibility of their wrongdoing, because sadly it's far far more common than most people realize. The second time though, I'd be far far more suspicious of my family member, because now there's starting to be a common factor here. However, in your case, with some of your family being automatically assumpitive of you being guilty the FIRST time, I'd assume those family members are just awful people.
And there should not be any statute of limitations either. I like a lot of states has 7 years max which in OP's case has been over 10 years so there is no way to charge her criminally.
@@sinnombre1439 It doesn't matter, The accusation alone caused severe and lasting harm, and any rational person could expect that harm to be the result of such an accusation. I'd go so far as to say that the level of harm caused is worse than anything you could inflict physically short of death or paralysis. This is the same reason I think adultery on a spouse should be a criminal offense. Just because the harm is not physical, doesn't mean that it's not real and that it can't can screw someone up mentally for years if not for the rest of their life. There should be some kind of justice for that harm.
There is though? I'm not sure where you live but in lots of developed countries there are criminal penalties and in some places you can sue for civil damage. There are issues though. The issue with civil lawsuits is that they cost money until you win. The issue with criminal lawsuits is that DA need to be willing to prosecute.
This has to be pretty messed up from the parents perspective. If I found out I had disowned my child and put them through hell based on a complete fabrication, as a man, I don't think I could tolerate that deceitful being continuing to exist.
Okay do not kill over a lie. It is also society that is ruined so far that they believe everything without evidence. Unfortunately experienced it not long ago(fortunately it was not this serious but still almost gave me a panick attack) Some people are very dumb.
If it was something that was found out quick sure but this man was shunned by his family for a decade and his life was in shambles he kinda deserves a pass to kill his cousin
@@cosmicreef5858 Yes you should. False accusations plenty of times end with the death of the accused by a mob of angry retards. It should be the same to the false accuser. Just look at media literaly 100% of the cases are false. PUT Harvey Weinstein in that... he dated for years the women that accused her. A plain and simple case of women using pussy to get power.
If I was the parent guilt would overwhelm me and I’d probably just off myself because of the amount of immense pain and torment I put my child through.
@@Very_Silly_Individual It's not fake. Well atleast not the first part of the story, the Channel Owner said in the description that it's fictional. But he responded to another comment burried in this comment section that he said that so youtube wouldn't delete his video
In hindsight, the feeling of hatred saved the family relationship, because it means there are still feelings to be fixed. When I hate someone, it quickly turns into indifference because I just don't want to feel hate. And indifference is so much harder to fix than hatred.
That's right, it's most commonly seen in romantic relationship though. There wouldn't be hatred, nor love, without care and just as one would forget about an ex because he has let go and the grief is done, if he had actually done so for his family then they would have probably never heard of him again in this life. And if you ask me, if he had found happiness with a wife and a new family in the meantime it would have happened.
Update in video is false. Real update: It's been a while since my last post and I can't count the people asking me for an update. So I tought I'd post one, even though there's not much to say. First, I'd like to get a few things out of the way: Thanks all who wrote and offered support and advice. I'm sorry I couldn't reply to all, but know that I've read them. Also, thanks to everyone who reached out to distract me with talks about my hobbies. I know I wasn't very respsonsive, but I know you meant well. To the openly hostile ones, borderline threatening me to quit anti-depressants and counseling and instead accept into my life. No. Many people told me I should pursue legal action. I didn't mention this in my first post, but I decided against that long ago for a few reasons. Best case, she would get a slap on the wrist and I wouldn't gain much at all. I just don't think it's worth the legal headache. And if I somehow would end up losing, I'll owe her legal costs. A lot of people have been messaging me about the fake updates. As I wrote in an edit to my other post, there are some fake updates on Tiktok and TH-cam. So if you saw something on other platforms that you didn't read in the text below or in the post linked above, it wasn't by me. While I don't really care about people making fake updates, I just want everyone that read my original post that these videos are not by me. Someone even claimed they "had access" to my original post on r/relationships, which contained these "updates". That is false. With that cleared up, I'll add what actually going on with my life right now. Know that I wrote the original post in an anger and because I was completely lost on what to do. I needed a kick to the head and I got that within like the first 5-10 comments. That was really all I needed. I've met my therapist. I was first scheduled for september, but she managed to move it and we've had two talks so far. She also read the original post and many of your comments. While she would've perferred me to confide in a colleague of hers, in the end she was glad you guys told me to calm down a bit and wait. She knows first hand how I can get when angry. I wont go through everything we talked about, but it comes down to that I may respond to my parents at some point, but if I do, it wont be anytime soon. I've started writing everything down that I want said to my family and then my therapist and I will go through those things continuously. For those who asked, they haven't tried to contact me further. I WILL NOT be updating this issue anymore. Not on reddit (including DMs) or anywhere else (in case of more fake updates). Nor will I be commenting unless it's something very important. I don't want to be rude and I appriciate all the support, but it really is draining sometimes. I was almost glad when the moderators locked the comments on the first post. I'd like to end by saying thanks again to all the people who's been wishing me well and checking up on me. And for the people writing to check that I'm still alive, don't worry. You don't have to do that. I'm off work for a while and not by the computer much. I'm busy painting my garage.
I suggest you get a dog. I have 2. They will love you. Best feeling I've ever felt. My appreciation for them is beyond description. I couldn't possibly repay them.
They picked the pretty little princess over you. I say **** them. They're not your family anymore. And I second the getting the dog idea.They're loyal and will never turn around on you
(NOTE: A comment below points out the entire final part of the video, the part I'm commenting on, was completely made up in order to make the story... more clickbaity I guess? It wasn't part of the original post. Keep that in mind.) "Things get better, even if you have to wait 10 years." Only because she eventually confessed to lying. If she hadn't, this would have been permanent. They would have never believed him over her. What a mistake it was for him to let them back into his life.
Yep if she never said anything he was never found out he was an uncle he would have never had his family contact him he would have been alone and he would have died alone because he was so fucked up he couldn't make relationships out of fear.
The parents fucked up, and fucked up *big*, but having said that, they're doing the best they can to make amends and not digging in their heels once they realize they were wrong. They should not get the son back they cast away. But OP talking to them, if just for the closure of knowing your family doesn't think you're an SA, that alone is probably worth it to OP.
E's a demon. she's not worthy of being recognized as either human or even "post human". she lied at detail and had OP excommunicated from their whole family for a decade. it's stuff like that that makes me lose more and more faith in the human race as a whole, something I'm already horrifyingly low on. good on OP for reconnecting with real family however, they admitted what they did was wrong.
to be very charitable, it sounds like she said it to the sister, who told the parents and aunts, who made it into a big thing. What his family did to him without verifying was what was evil. What E did could range from talking to someone about a bad dream which they misunderstood then chinese whispered it out, to actively making up a story to make him get in trouble and crocodile tearing to convince the adults, we dont know how involved she was with the decision to cut him off. But as I said that is the charitable interpenetration.
The story explains how the parents realized they were wrong. It suck for sure but people make mistake and you shouldn't deprive yourself of your parents because they fucked up big time, the best they can do is to admit their mistakes. I mean, definitely stay away from E and their family but you should have your own parents if they're willing to have you back. If they obviously aren't good enough for you at the time then obviously cut ties with them. I can't imagine the hurt he feels but that's why he needs to build his relationship back up.
@@blueicer101 ''but you should have your own parents if they're willing to have you back.'' yeah thats the thing in this story...they don't,they absolutely do not have his back. they excommunited their own son without thought from someone's word and talking to him never crossed their minds for 2 years. call me angry call me bitter but I would gladly deprime myself of such parents. you dont need enemies while people like this are backing you up OP contacted them and building the ties with them when he got rid of them. good riddance
@@mahmutyordamli4912I agree, i wish i could be a better person like OP was but throughout i put myself in his place and i would say the most vile things to the parents before blocking them myself.
Its more clear the parents werent trying to protect their niece but trying to save their own hides. Honestly that's human nature 99% of the time. Only 1% of people will ever jump into a burning building yo save a stranded person. 99% would just stand there like lemmings and watch the house burn before even thinking rationally and calling 911 or just run away entirely.
The thought of being falsely accused of a heinous crime and being unable to prove your innocence is terrifying. There's literally nothing you can do besides deny it and hope that people believe you.
NO ONE believed me, when I was falsely accused of sexual abuse. The 3 perpetrators, got away with their crime: they made it all up. 3 Children from Westport, NZ. Because the mantra then in operation, was: "CHILDREN DON'T LIE." All Church Members turned their backs on me; preferring to believe the utter bullshit spoken about me. These Members that I am speaking about, are LDS, in Christchurch, NZ. To this day, I am looked at sideways, verbally spat on, ignored.
Not terrifying so much as it is insanely frustrating. People who will believe these types of accusations that come with no evidence whatsoever are idiots; And there is a fuckton of idiots out there.
I was accused of sexual harassment and assault, and I had proof that I was innocent thanks to the CCTV system. But it still got me fired from my job; the same job that had the CCTV video evidence proving my innocence. I could PROVE I was innocent, but I was still punished for it. I was beyond furious. I feel for you, @ianbattles7290. And I feel for you, @alasdairwright1397. I believe you both.
Great job E! Fantastic! You managed to not only ruin the life of your cousin but in the process made it harder for actual SA victims to be taken seriously and get the help, support and justice they need and deserve. Wonderful!
She sounds like a spoiled brat to me who was only ever thinking of how to get the most attention. Years later, even though she realized what she has done, she still wasnt mature enough to properly apologize to him. She may be a bit remoreful but still only thinks about herself. She wants forgiveness to feel better about what she did and that is not really the behaviour of a person who is supposed to get older and wiser.
@@realglutenfree Ikr??? Her taking so long to reveal the truth made this situation so much worse and part of me is petty enough to hope OP reports her to her job after how her accusation costed him his job prospects at first. If she can lie for that long, what else could she be lying about and how long is she willing to do stuff like that? smh
The worst part seems to be that even after 10 years, he still couldn't rebuild his life. It took this conclusion for him to be able to form a healthy relationship. All out of fear and trauma. His parents not speaking to him for that long is bad enough but can you imagine what it was like for them to hear exactly what the last 10 years of his life has been like because of this. There were no criminal charges or anything. This is all psychological.
The relationship will never be healthy, even after the conclusion. Parents will go to their grave knowing they seriously messed up the life of their son, and OP will go to his grave resenting the fact that he was disowned on a lie.
Even when you've definitively proven a SA to be a complete lie. People will never treat you the same again You never get your life back People will never truly trust you again
I like the point of the first guy who responded to you they will go to their graves knowing that they permanently changed his life because he pretty much refused a human contact for a decade because how the fuck could he trust anyone when everyone he thought would at the very least hear him out exercised him like he was a tumor. His mother when she dies will think about the fact that her son was going to kill himself but basically didn't because the hate was the only reason he could move forward.
@@harassed-ou2zband that's another reason because imagine all the people that got told and will not be on the receiving end of the fact that he didn't do it so he ever meet them he can have a negative interaction again because they just didn't get the memo and everyone else depending on how negative their feelings were there just going to hold on to it for the next interaction and even his sister's he found out he was an uncle and he has no interaction with them for the last decade in the last time they probably thought of him was as a rapist.
I'm not a psychologist or anything but it seems to me that E made the sexual assault story up for attention. Maybe saw it in a show, saw a character get attention and support from the people around them. And that drove a desire in E for the same affection. (I've personally witnessed this) thus, when the time came, where she could be the center of attention and affection, she told family of her fictional sexual assault. I'm sure the family asked who and she probably tried to come up with something believable, her own cousin. They have been together and OP was a 16yo male teenage in the middle of puberty when this supposed assault took place. Which I'm sure drove the lie into being even more believable (probably not intentionally). And when shit hit the fan when OP got shunned from the family, she knew she fucked up but cared more about how she would appear to her own family than OP's life being fucked sideways raw. So she held onto the lie. E had to feel guilt because she never took this to the law or convince her parents not to take it to the law. This just shows how someone who wanted a little affection and attention can ruin another person's life. I'm glad this story got a happy ending. Unfortunately this rare. I know a guy that went through a extremely similar thing but never recovered from it, family still disowns him, even when a huge rumor came around about how the fictional victim accidentally confessed it was a lie, the family hasn't budged. I haven't seen him in over year, I hope he's still hanging on.
Waiting a decade before telling your family?? TEN years. I would sue the absolute maggot sh** out of E and let her rot in financial burden for a damn decade. Lost 10 years with your loved ones
Honestly this is hitting way to close to home for me. A few months ago my cousin also accused me of SA'ing her when we were 13 and 14 respectively. Though right now, its not so bad as she has a reputation for being a notorious liar, and nobody in the family really believes her, and her parents that have treated her like a princess her whole life don't believe her. So while I am not scared of all my family casting me out like OP's did, at least not for a good while, I am scared if she tries to ruin my future with these claims. (also for added context, we live in separate states, and during the time she accused me of doing the "crime" I wasn't even in her state, so it is literally impossible for me to have done anything)
Being impossible for it to have happened does not stop the accusation from ruining your life, or potentially putting you in a prison and on a registry.
@@FlamesAndShadows I don't think you know just how petty and vindictive some people are. People have been murdered in front of their families by sociopaths who literally didn't like their face. That's it. That was the "crime" they perpetrated. Stop blaming the victim. It's disgusting to do to rape victims AND still disgusting to do to victims of false charges.
Trust me, all of us are so glad you’re doing better. No one deserves that and it’s clear you especially don’t, so many people out there are here for you.
@@KING_POGGERSThe only fake part of the story are the two updates. The first post is real, even the actual OP of the story (u/sci31123) came out and said to ignore those posts, he only has one update that he’s posted 11 days ago, saying that he isn’t going to be in contact with his family for a very long time and that he’s focusing on therapy.
as someone who was actually assaulted as a child by a family member im so glad hes doing better. only someone with not an ounce of compassion in their heart would accuse someone of such a disgusting and heinous act.
@@owenw.1643 47% of metoo accusations turned out false! So basically half of women are capable of this. And thats just the ones that we have receipts for! I’d guess aproxx 75% of females would do have his without a second thought!
@@owenw.1643 Oh I wasn't talking about you mate. You said only someone with "not an ounce of compassion in their heart" would falsely accuse someone of such a disgusting and heinous act. That is an ample description of what a woman is, someone without an ounce of compassion.
When I was 15, i had a close friend accuse me and my male cousin of SA and kidnapping. It literally ruined my life. Her accusing me literally ruined my life and tore my family apart. My best bet as to why is because she didn't want me to come forward about her SAing me. To be honest i didn't realise what she did was SA until this situation happened and i spoke to the solicitors about it. It makes my blood boil that for years _(before and after this situation)_ when i tried to come forward about me being assaulted, I was never believed and accused of lying but she was believed instantly. She stole my dream college from me, tried to steal what little friends I had and destroyed my relationship with them. Told the youth groups i introduced her to that i was a sexual predator and they had quietly blacklisted me from any events they were doing. I was a social pariah everywhere I went. And I know that nearly 10 years later, there's people who probably still believe her. I still feel so angry about it all. I truly wish i never met her. Edit: feel like I should add that I'm a woman so this shit doesn't just happen to men. A false accusation can ruin anyone's life.
Sounds like she is not even feeling guilt yet. The more I encounter people who have suffered from situations like this the more I Wanna keep my distance with girls.
I went through this on a much lesser extent at a previous job. About 4/5 of my coworkers believed the allegations until the girls story started falling apart and the CCTV was reviewed. It's crazy how there are sociopaths that will weaponize these allegations and when the truth comes out they aren't punished for making the false allegations and the people who believed it will act like they didn't treat you like scum.
Cameras are indeed life saver. Recently, in June 2023, a food delivery guy in banglore (India) was beaten by a mob after a 8 yo falsely accused him of SA. CCTV footage saved him later
#MeToo made this worse. It encouraged people to believe women unquestioningly. Of course, it also made the backlash worse, as more people are starting to doubt SA claims, and more men are embracing the Mike Pence Rule, or going MGTOW.
I would've took E to court. I wouldn't care how much it would've costed to sue. Plus a judge can always grant a motion that would make E pay the legal fees.
Nope, unfortunately. Most statute of limitations is 1 to 6 years, normally 5. 10 years would be far too long and , while you can still file a lawsuit, it would be destined to fail.
@@fredericksaxton9782 He could sue for emotional damages. He's been going to therapy for a decade and has proof of damages, even if the statute of limitations for the actual slander.
Burden of proof is super high. A lawyer would likely reccomend doing nothing unless you had evidence of her lying. Otherwise actual predators could sue their victims. The only thing he could do is trick her into confessing or do something that would initiate a criminal trial if you felt your life was over anyways.
@@superkingoftacos2920 I mean, they have texts from other family members stating that E admitted she lied. That's gonna count for something. If he could get her own parents to write in text that she admitted to lying that would be pretty damning evidence. But let's be real, this is probably a fake story like all the others lol.
I know myself well enough to know I'd never trust my family again in that situation. After hearing them out, I'd repeat the same line they gave me that fateful day "I don't want anything to do with you, and don't contact me again"
Well at that point your options are "attempt to have a relationship with your parents who are repentant for their mistakes and want to rebuild with you" Or "be petty/angry and choose to lose your parents a second time"
@@blueicer101 This is second time I see you defending the family. Choose to lose your parents a second time?really,thats the best you came at? first:family lost OP ten years ago OP is not losing anything second: as I explained to you at another comment his family did not heard his side of story they did not cared about him at all this was their best time even if family is repentant and rebuild do you think his family will care about him than they did before? he shouldn't intruduce such people to his life second time
@@mahmutyordamli4912 So the parts where he says he's been struggling the whole time before his parents contacted him again means nothing to you, and that he isn't loosing anything? If you were in his shoes and wanted to cut ties with your whole family permanently, good on you. Thankfully the OP isn't like any of you, and actually wants things to be fixed somewhat, so he doesn't have to be miserable for the rest of his life whenever he hears the word "family".
@@TheFuri0uswcIf proof is given then I will believe them. If no proof is given, then there is no reason to destroy another person’s life over it. Also, if proof is given, then allow the accused to see said proof and give them a chance to see if it’s been fabricated. Belief in false evidence is just as dangerous as belief without any evidence.
@@AJ_Sparten1337 that's why most victims do not speak out. The fear that no one will believe them especially in cases where the abuse happened years ago. These are average Joe's most sexual assault victims are telling the truth, only 2-10% are false and remember most people do not report there victims. So fact that people lie is not enough to say that you should not believe victims. However the punishment for lying should very severe and that's where we're lacking.
@@StormyBoi6It isn’t. The person on this channel commented that they intentionally said it’s fake so that TH-cam won’t take the video down, their comment is buried in the comment section so it’s chance to read it. This story is unfortunately real.
Bro screw that family you got us, ur therapist, and ur coworkers bc no matter how close ya’ll are at ur job its one of the only things keeping you sane
@@PumpkinHoard That is true. However, if he did ever post something about things going wrong with his life and he might take drastic action on himself and he post his address to see if anyone in the world still cared about him then I'll definitely try to reach out to him if we're living in the same continent.
@@lee.as.in.l.e.e.7394I wouldn’t and I don’t think it’s right his family has proven to be Liers, gaslighters why would you trust such a bunch move on and make a new family is what I would say
I heard this once and I think it’s so true. “Don’t forgive them because they deserve forgiveness, forgive them because you deserve peace. Because forgiveness is an action of self improvement.”
I also heard this once ''fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me'' are you really going to forgive people,your own parents thats supposed to be your safe shelter and your rock after they took you out of their life for 10 years for a single word of someone without hearing you once? they only thought about talking to him after 2 friggin years with a family like that you dont need enemies. There is no need to intriduce them to your life when you got rid of them
@@mahmutyordamli4912forgiving doesn’t necessarily imply reconnecting with the people that hurt you. Forgiving is just about letting go of all the ugly feelings of resentment you’ve been poisoning yourself with and do it because you love yourself and deserve peace.
This man is truly a good person. I can't imagine not guilting my family to the point of a mental breakdown if they did something like this then bothered me later. I might even convince them I unalived myself and cut contact with them just to hurt them for what they did.
Dude guilting them won't give you back those 10 friggin years. He should be glad they exposed themselves so easily cause it's the harsh truths that make us grow the most. He can of course forgive them but he should spent his time with people worth his while, not these pretenders.
Imagine the dinner where all the family just stops everything they're doing and stares at E while she confesses, all knowing exactly how much pain they've caused an innocent man/boy
False SA/Rape accusations are worthy of either life sentences or the death penalty. Actively ruining someones life and doing nothing to stop it, especially when it can lead to murder of said person in prison is more than worthy of the chair.
Honestly, it seems tempting, but the consequences would be awful. Firstly, if this was true, E would NEVER admit to lying and OP would remain ostracized. Secondly, if the penalty for false accusation is death, actual victims would be too scared to take predators to court. What if there is not enough proof? Then she is going to die for being r-ped. It's the same shitty situation as with wishing for death penalty for SA - at least now the victims mostly remain alive, as the criminal knows the penalty for murder is much harsher
@@veqxh well, if you brought a case to court and lost it kinda means that you brought a false accusation, doesn't it? Because if you didn't, then the accused should go to jail, no? Or are you just stuck in a kind of limbo?
False rape accusations need to have the exact same punishment as actual rape, exact same number of years in jail. Put the false accuser on the sex crime registry for life, too.
Falsely Accusing hurts EVERYONE. Not only does it usually literally ruin the life of the person who is being accussed, but it also makes it harder for others to believe ACTUAL SA survivors who come out with their stories. I feel so so horrible for that poor man, literally i would never forgive my family for that. Disgusting. E is literally an evil biotch.
no it only effects men, women can only benefit from false accusations, don't try to say a liar is a victim liars deserve harsh punishments for ruining lives, that's what you need to agree with
@@mpo48you probably read the comment wrong, it hurts REAL SA victims because people will be less likely to believe them, just because some other women made some false accusations. It's not about this men vs women war, it's about how false accusations take credibility from potentially true ones
@goolgepl2112 That's really only what people care about. Tons of men's lives are destroyed thru emotional manupliation but society acts like it isn't a thing.
@@colbalt95 correct me if untrue, but I think it depends on your social media feed. I personally see tons of articles and videos and news promoting true equality, being neutral and supporting men's mental health without having to demonise ALL women, but yeah there are lots of people who are convinced they're the "underdogs" oppressed by a society that doesn't care for their lives. Nearly all sides in a conflict believe they're the victims of the big bad opposition, and then are encouraged to "retaliate" harshly, causing the exact same effect to the other side and continuing the cycle. Lastly and most importantly though, I'm not the person you should be discussing your mentioned topic with. I dismissed the gender war in my previous reply, and I'm talking in favour *all* true SA victims, man or woman. Excuse me if I sound rude, I agree that millions of men's lives are destroyed by manipulation, I just don't see why you're telling me about it
@@goolgepl2112 its absolutely about the war there's a movement that tries to demonize all men and put liars and degenerates in charge, I'm objectively correct here go ahead and support liars and sociopaths all you want but you should know that you cant go on bullying people forever karma exists and its real
This is why I'm now a firm believer to NEVER believe anyone without hearing both sides first. I used to think believing anyone who claimed they were SA'd first was the best move, but it's been a few years now, and there's more and more cases of people just blatantly LYING about this and ruining so many innocent people's lives. I know a lot of people would rather go with "guilty until proven innocent" but I think "Innocent until proven guilty" is a much better way to handle things. I'm so glad I watched this because not only did it give ME some hope for MY own future, but it also helps me get rid of whatever remains of that toxic, bullshit mentality of believing "victims" without evidence. I'll absolutely support anyone emotionally who claims they were SA'd, but I will absolutely also always hear out the other side as well. While SA is a touchy subject for me as I'm a victim of it myself, I will not blindly believe everything someone says just like that about it. This video really drilled in my brain what I was already learning, so I'm glad I clicked on it. That being said, I genuinely wish the best for OP and I too hope E rots in hell. It's the least she deserves. And I don't think OP is bad at all for having the thoughts he had. As someone who's been through traumatic family events, I'd be lying if I said I haven't had similar thoughts about some family members that I've had to cut off for safety reasons. But it's still good to know Karma did its thing, even if slowly, but it got to the bitch niece lol.
>I think "Innocent until proven guilty" is a much better way to handle things. Yes, it is, and it is a slap in the face of all that the justice system stands for that people don't share your view. It is a principle that should be held sacred but, for whatever reason, the norm is now twitter hate mobs armed with torches and pitchforks that have replaced common sense.
@@Xtersin That's exactly what I'm trying to get at precisely. Twitter has made it so its fucking impossible to take these situations or cases seriously without you somehow ending up guilty as well no matter what side you're on. It's genuinely depressing that its come to this, but hey, atleast some people still keep their sanity and reasoning straight.
He's definitely stronger than me. I'd have made it extremely clear to the whole family- I'll forgive them eventually. After they _die._ But man. I dunno how he didn't "If I ever see you again" the cousin
Idk about stronger, definitely more kind hearted and forgiving than I am. I have been wrongly accused of much lesser things and those people are now dead to me.
@@Petehr As much as I disagree, it _does_ take strength to not tear into those who... deserve to be torn into. It's wrong, and has the unforeseen consequences of letting them off the hook... but it does take the kind of strength you _have_ to respect.
They spurred him for 10 years without even a single *attempt* at hearing him out, just content to literally hate him for the entire time until the cousin revealed that it was literally nothing She *ruined* his family for 10 years for what? Obviously I would never forgive the niece, but I wouldn't forgive the parents either, in 10 years they didn't even bother to contact or even hear out his side of the story even once
9:18 Doesn't feel right either. Every member of the family chose their allegiance with E a decade ago, and now they toss her aside when that allegiance is inconvenient. They should have to live with her just like they have to live with what they did a decade ago.
@@VladV-kx6ky Well, one thing you shouldn't do is not even give a chance for the opposing side to even explain themselves or at least try to figure it out? It's called *innocent until proven guilty* for a reason!
@@magicalwatermelon5147 ...doesn't mean things like that don't happen. One of my best friends in the Corps was falsely accused. This girl he'd been chatting with at the bar said he SA'd her. Well...luckily...our CO liked him and went to bat for him. Her story fell apart pretty quickly when the Duty had us clocked in when we got back to the barracks and she had claimed it'd taken place after that. When pressed she broke down and admitted she'd made the story up because she was upset that he'd rejected her. He'd just made Staff Sergeant and she was willing to annihilate his entire life in an act of petty revenge for her wounded pride. Want to know the worst part? She didn't even get a slap on the wrist. He had been arrested and held in the brig...investigated...the whole nine yards...and all she had to do was give a teary admission and a half-assed apology. Absolutely disgusting.
@@magicalwatermelon5147🤡 i read the comment he said it was real he has to put it was fake so it dont get taken down stop lying your defending a false accusation person
People who falsely claim to have been SA'ed deserve to be in prison for just as much time as someone who actually did commit SA. No one will ever be able to convince me otherwise
For this example, accused didn’t see jail time, he was ostracized instead, probably more common than men seeing jail. Even the “that guy is creepy” does serious damage to a guy’s psyche and reputation if she is loud about it.
@@jimjohnson394 in my opinion, it doesn't matter if the accused was sentenced or not. That's a serious allegation and should only be reserved for REAL victims. If you falsely accused someone, you deserve the same amount of time
So much for family huh? 22 years of living together brushed off in a couple hours over a phone call based purely on an account of a niece. They’re unredeemable no matter how sorry they are and may that guilt haunt them forever
This is disgusting. The worst part is that it is something that is fairly common. I understand people having mental problems, like E, but in 10yrs something should have been said. Wasn't she getting mental help? Did no one ask her before if it couldn't have been her mental illness? As for Mom, dad, and siblings...no. They didn't even ask questions or see him face to face. I think this guy needs to get some mental help, because this is going to come out sooner or later.
Thing is, if they had investigated the matter, a polygraph could have been taken. And I don't think E actually has a mental illness, she just wanted attention.
E didn't have mental problems. He stated that much. The reason she has mental problems 10 years later is for one thing and one thing alone. GUILT. 10 years knowing she ruined his life and everyone who had loved him. Of course she has MENTAL issues. She can deal with them, the only thing is...unlike him who fought and stayed strong and survived the worst of it...she probably won't because she's a victim at heart and you become what you want eventually. An actual victim.
@@johnywhat8601polygraphs are extremely unreliable, even from the own words of its inventor who now fight for them being remove from use, especially in anything police related.
This reminds me of a story about a student in high school who was accused of SA a girl for a stupid reason. When asked how the accused had SA-ed her, the girl responded “with your P-! How else?” That’s when the accused burst out laughing, and responded “that’s impossible! I’m a girl! Don’t have, never did have, and never WILL have a P-!” They called in the accused’s parents for proof, and the accuser was expelled because she had spread the lie around, so the word “R--IST” was spray painted on her locker. It really pisses me off that people make these bogus accusations. I agree that it’s people like that that make people ignore genuine victims.
A girl accused another girl of using her penis to rape her? That doesn’t even kind of make sense. This is grade school level anatomy we’re talking about here, how would someone mix that up?
@@DrFranklynAnderson the accused girl had a gender neutral name and generally wore what would be considered boy’s clothes. The accusing girl probably thought she was accusing a boy.
@@DrFranklynAnderson for over a year I thought that a student of my grade was a boy. She was from another class, so we never had any lessons together, and I didn't even know her name. Some day a classmate of mine talked about her and mentioned the name (not gender-neutral), and I didn't believe her until I got verification from another student.
"That got me heated a little bit because who cares what type of person i really am? What I really am is your son and that comes first." Freaking hurts. My heart is shattered.
Never been more emotional about a story on the Internet. I really feel so terrible for this person. I would feel nothing but intense hatred and burning anger towards everyone. If it were me id definitely call thwm and lay it into them most definitely E. Just wow. So so glad things are starting to turn around... That was a rollercoaster!!
In all fairness, you can't exactly "prove" someone touching someone. Like, even if a child was being inappropriately touched by their own parent, unless it was full r*pe there literally CAN'T be proof. Doesn't mean it didn't happen. If someone groped me how exactly would I prove that if not one saw?????
That's unimaginable for me how hard OP must've been through to just stay alive during all those time. It's great that he finally could clear his name and is slowly getting back to his family. Not dealing with the trauma head on is definitely something that the OP will have to carry on for their life. Glad they decide to face their family and things turned out well. As for E, the culprit, it really reminded me of a Mandarin proverb「君子報仇，十年不晚」 meaning "One should bide one's time and wait for the right opportunity to seek vengeance" but literally it means "Gentleman takes revenge; ten years is not late". And exactly like the proverb, ten years. Hopefully E got what they deserve and can experience a taste of what OP has been through.
Though I don't empathize with his family, I feel like this is such a sucky position to be in. So many girls out there who actually HAVE been SA'd try to tell their family only to be called a liar and end up not getting the help they need, so of course when a family member comes to you with those accusations you want to take them seriously. Regardless, though, there are some who completely make this stuff up *knowing* the weight of such an accusation and completely ruin the life of another human being. I feel truly horrible for OP and I hope if he continues to reunite with his family that all goes well and he can continue to heal, but honestly I feel like he's been so mature already with how he's responded that he has a lot going for him
one of the biggest problems is see is that every woman under 40 i know tells the same stuff over there ex boyfriends. The are all abusive! Not a single "it dit not work out" or or we had to different views on life. Nope allways he was the abusive one, even than i 100% knows that this girl hat cheatet on her ex, he was the abusive one. Even my 2 exes blaimed on me that i am a abuisve men, cose at the 1) i lost my job and could not keep up with her demands on stuff. So i am the Abusive on cose i needet to find a new job and strugle to meed month end for a few months. and the 2) told everybody i was a abusive men cose i refuse to get a vasectomy in my early 20. I would like to have kids and she too, but she though it would be good if i have a vasectomy and later reverse it, then we there rdy for children. i than tell her that my doc told me that reversing is not possible everytime and most likly not if years pass buy. Her answer was: "thats not a problems, than i get a sperm donation from a random dude and you can raise it!" She broke up with me the moment i said no to this and as i say: i am the abusive ass for not wannt to raise a strangers child.
Only about 1/7 women suffer SA in their entire lives--and that includes a lot of crimes less than completed r***, like groping or even certain verbal threats. Of those that do, 54% suffer it the first time before they're 18 and, of those, 7/8 are SAed in circumstances where their birth fathers aren't in the household but some other male (usually mama's bf) is. So, basically, we could cut SA in half just by strengthening marriage--far more, actually, since the number one factor in determining criminality is whether someone is raised by their actual father or not. (Source: The National Crime Victim Survey, so this is anonymous self-reported crimes, not based on police or court reports.)
frankly lies about a crime they should get the punishment of the crime not just for SA but for every thing the legal system should not be used for petty reasons when its hard enough to put away real rapists and murderers
@@Barlmoro Yeah, there's a shit ton of gross women out there. I'm surprised that I never got accused because I was always the target of some kind of harassment, especially around my sexuality and girls assuming I'm staring at their breasts just because we shared a locker room in gym.
It’s really sad he has his youth adult years ripped from him because of this, the joys of being an uncle, going to your siblings wedding, having your family at your graduation. All that was taken from him, I hope his life gets better from here
You are such a strong person to have gone through that and not given up, going through your darkest years alone , the betrayel from your loved ones, I can't even imagine what you must have gone through. I hope you can still live out a wonderfull life that's not filled with hatred and despise. YOU DESERVE BETTER. ❤
Then you'll be sorry to know that this particular W is fake, even says so in the video descript. I found the original post, OP hasn't responded to the initial text, nor did E ever reach out either. Whole "update" is faked cuz otherwise YT would have taken down the video.
Not really the psychological damage to him is life long. The places he had to go mentally to endure the abandonment. He actually died even though he's still alive whatever he is now is much different than what he could have been.
🥰Okay you see there's this thing called acid, and there's this part of the body called the throat, and when a man has nothing to lose he tends to pour acid in it.🥰
It’s stories like this that made me so worried to talk about my experiences with SA. I was very young when it happened to me, and the the guy and I kept a very average relationship on the outside while he hurt me for years. I thought nobody would believe me bc of that. But when people did believe me, I got so scared that everything would change and I’d ruin his life. He’s my cousin and I still loved the guy. I also just didn’t want attention on me for that. I’d felt so ashamed for “letting it happen to me” and it had all come out against my wishes (my therapist had to legally tell my parents I was in danger). When it got out, he had just graduated and the first thing on my mind was “If I say something, I’m going to fuck everything up for him and I don’t want that.” My therapist ended up getting it out of me and I had to beg my mom not to press charges. Idk how people can fake shit like this just to ruin people’s lives when I couldn’t even do it when it was true. Like, if you were actually SA’d, yes make that person pay for what they did to you if that’s what you want, but people are so vile for doing that to innocent people.
I would have thought that anything you say to your therapist can't be disclosed to anyone else, but perhaps it's only that anything you say to your therapist can't be used against you in court.
@@takatamiyagawa5688 It’s for safety and ethics reasons. They tell you about how the privacy stuff works before you start. All she really did was report a crime, but I was a minor so my family found out. I’ve been put inpatient multiple times because of things I’ve said and I get why they legally need to report it, but it does kinda upend everything. 99% of the things you can say stay private tho!
@@HxxrtlessBlackGirl I was scared? I didn't want to send my 18-year-old, black cousin to prison for a crime he committed when he was like 13? It's expensive as hell? It had been years after the fact? Lots of stuff. I was also like 15 when it got out, so I wasn't really looking to get that kind of attention as "The girl who was raped by her cousin." I wasn't angry enough about it. I blamed myself for it even tho I was like 9-10 when it happened. What was it gonna help anyway? After all the years, he feels bad. We were pretty close before it happened, and his punishment is not talking to me ever again. He still tries to call me to this day. His mom is also my favorite aunt and there was no way I was sending her son to prison.
I can't believe the mental strength of the OP! Even in the darkest, most justifiably hate fill times, he was just thinking about how to move forward, how to move on. When given a chance to get revenge, he chose healing, when confronted with a bullshit 'apology', he gave the most diplomatic response just explaining the consequences of E's actions without delving into all of his hatred. I'm so damn happy to hear that in the end, all that effort and all that being the bigger person actually lead to some healing for him. What an incredible person.
I’ve heard that there were many innocent guys sent to jail after being accused of SA… it’s disgusting how some people can think there’s any sort of justification for doing that. Worst than that… I once heard of a true story (back when African Americans were only just starting to be given more rights)… a man had been brutally tortured and murdered because he had been accused of doing SA to a girl… and because of the different ethnicities involved, his murderers were never brought to justice. That story tore at my heart and left me feeling so… dirty… just for being human. I can’t help but loath anyone who falsely accuses an innocent person of SA.
@@violentabyss i just went and double checked and i think that is exactly who i was talking about. i heard the story many years ago on some tv show, and i remembered it destroyed me. it messed me up so bad. my heart broke for that poor guy.
Almost the exact same thing happened to me, but I was 13 at the time, and the police did come. I was forced to say I did it in court, or spend my life in some juvenile prison until 21. It was hell, but I struggled through it and moved across the country when I was 16. Now im happy, successful and don't see my scumbag family at all.
This is one of the most heartbreaking and meaningful stories I have read. I genuinely wish everyone happy lives, and as the OP said, "For all those reading, please use my story as an aid to your personal problems and grudges. Things do get better, even if you have to wait ten years."
This story right here is the exact reason why you NEVER EVER make up your mind about someone's accusation of someone else over anything without hearing both sides. Over and over again over the years, I have seen people make hasty judgements, though not on anything as important as this. I have made it a personal rule to never do it myself by always hearing both sides before I make a judgement.
This dude has to succeed, he needs to ghost them and just become someone who is Important just to show them how he doesn’t care about them and that they’re a part of his old life
This story literally made me cry. It's always the liars who are believed, but when it actually happens to someone, the true victim is never trusted. It's always the bad things happening to the good people.
OP, I'm sorry that happened to you. Honestly, you're a better man than i would've ever been. If my parents did this to me, I would never, EVER forgive them, same goes for the rest of the family who turned their backs on you. They made their bed, and now they have to lie in it.
Honestly, I would forgive them but I wouldn’t forget how easily they threw me away if I was in OP’s shoes. It would take a year or even years before I even THINK about wanting to see them again. The fact that they had been so willing and able to just throw me away from the family that fast and easily is what would make me not want to see them for the longest time. I would only forgive them for my own sake and peace of mind. Holding onto such hatred isn’t healthy for anyone but I wouldn’t forget the hatred I had for them and what they did to me.
I wouldn’t forgive, I prefer to tell them the most vile and hurtful things and let them suffer. I can continue living without caring about them or even wanting an apology. Sometimes you shouldn’t give forgiveness to someone that deserves to stay suffering.
If you think about it. His family is more deserving of resent than E is. I'm not saying anyone deserves resentment. I think everyone should have a big hug session (including E). As in, I think they need to fix their damn problems and start fighting.
@@flareblazer8951 you know, I'm a pretty eccentric guy when it comes to my political views. But at least I know I've got a damn good moral compass. (I'm also extremely funny and humble) And that definitely doesn't look like what I've got.
@@flareblazer8951exactly. If they cna throw you away just like that without hearing your side of the story shows how much they love and care about you
wow this guys has a big heart i wouldnt forgive at all and if they ever contacting me or physically met i wouldve torn them up with words or even might have gone physical with them. Dude u are great honestly
The forgiveness and strength this man had is just extreme and unfathomable, I never would be able to forgive in this situation solely for the reason they didn’t even give him a chance, or try to communicate with him, this man no matter what he did in his dark times made it out without them, and still choose to forgive them this is the type of person I’d want to be friends with for life.
Wow, this story hit me so hard when i first heard it. The tought stayed in my head for so long. I felt so bad for this person, but now that he finally got his life back togheter even i feel a sence of releave… it gives me a bit of hope in humanitie and faith that evrything will work out eventulie afterall ;) this gottah be one of my favorite storys of reddit❤
considering the how seriously SA is taken, i just feel so bad for the guys that can have their whole lives turned upside down by a false report or a fucking "DREAM" 💀
People who falsely accuse others of assult and the proof is there that they were lying: deserve jail time or serious fines at least for lying and defaming/destroying a person’s reputation.
I'd tell them I'd forgive them after they testify in open court against E for inflicting 10 years of emotional pain and trauma....then cut her off completely like they did him.
You are very good at writing these stories! They hit hard and this format of reddit stories makes them more believable. I had to read the description to know. Really boils the blood so I think they are pretty successful lol.
So the reason you won't interact with your family is because they don't hate their family member as much as you hate them? Let's keep it gray, people. Enough of this black and white.
Yeah I wouldn't accept them back. They ALL are no longer family. They abandoned you, even without concrete proof of something so serious, that they can do it again one day. Never, ever trust them.
That's tough. Even if they wanted to reconcile with family, I doubt there's any true recovery from something so awful, how their family could just outright exile him from their life with no second thought. He needs to find a better support network and keep this family away from him.
"Love mum and dad." No, no you don't get to use those words. Everything in that situation is so vile that any level of forgiveness is frankly saintly. This is exactly why so many men learnt their lesson to just never associate with women after #MeToo fucked up so many innocent lives. Women can destroy your entire world with a lie, and if caught out, "Tee hee woopsie."
Even as family, always remind them that the trust is no longer there. Always make them feel guilty for ever making you go through that 10 years of hell. They think you lower your guard? Never ever do so... you will get backstabbed again because they have done it before, and its easier to do so because they have done it before
Really feel sorry for this guy, but am happy he is healing and seeing his life getting better Reading this and having known a girl who the cousin reminded me I can say I glad I noped out of that relationship before it could get bad for me. For context I had a female "friend" who I saw over a period of a few years slip deeper and deeper into crazy . It started with a guy she had a brief relationship with before that turned sour or something. As a result she first started believing she was a victim of her own "mental problems", blaming everyone for not supporting her etc etc. It later turned into a dream scenario where she claimed that she was raped by him and how she is a victim etc. etc. It also came out she was still stalking the guy years after they part way (which makes no sense if you believe him to be a rapist). I stop believing her story years before that so I always stayed on the sidelines but after she tried dragging me into her made up scenario I started ignoring her. She cut me out and blocked me cause I did not believe her. A while later she did try reaching out but I ignored her again. Reading stories like this really makes me feel I dodged a massive bullet.
This made me start crying. It’s such a sad story, it sometimes feels like something you watch on the tv. But knowing it happened and can happen hurts so much more.
Well fuck this just landed right at the top of the list of things Im terrified of. I couldn't even imagine the deep sickness that followed after that phone call. And knowing that my entire family abandoned me. Im so glad OP didn't unalive himself. I hope that someday he finds it within himself to move past this, and that he meets someone that he can build a life with. And in general I just hope he can learn to trust people again. You can't predict what someone might do in the future, forming connections is always an insane risk you're taking, but it's worth it.
you're a very good person, OP. i personally would be very petty and refuse to go back into their life. guilt them even more and make them feel the pain they put me trough. good job on being able to forgive (not E) and allow your relationships to steadily heal
There's a reason I so strongly believe that SA should require proof before it being talked about publicly. I know friends that commit suicide in response to false allegations.
@@antikommunistischaktion while I definitely agree that false accusers should be punished for lying as this is a seriously crime, a lot of actual rapists don't even do that much time, so with our current system that doesn't even protect real victims and prosecute real assailants, false accusers would probably get a slap on the wrists. The best course of action for a lot of people in OP's case will likely continue to be defamation and libel cases
He went from nearly killing himself to decent relationships with his parents and a girlfriend. I have no idea how he actually did it, but I'm happy for him.
My cousin was falsely accused of SA a girl when he was a teenager. He spent time in jail even. But later after he was released the girl confessed she lied.
I'm just happy this man was able to find a partner. All those years unable to have love must have been unbearable. God bless him and let him forgive his family for his own sake.
Oh wow, 10 years of life being miserable just because a niece had a dream, that's pretty vile
I bet she used that as an excuse too
@@myeggyweggy She did? She said that she thought it was a dream.
@@max_wav Yeah, because that sounds slightly better than 'I made it up and got caught'
@@max_wav Oh sure, she SAID that, but that doesn't mean that's what happened. If you had made up a lie for attention as a teenager, which ended up having huge consequences for your whole family because they believed you, how willing would you be to admit to that lie afterward? Maybe you feel bad about how it affected the person you lied about, but you are afraid of the consequences of just coming right out and admitting that you made it all up. So what do you do? You make something else up to ease the family into the truth. Something that isn't directly your fault. Something like "Oh, I think that might have just been a dream after all, which I confused for a memory. Sorry!"
@@rmartinson19 I dont think you understand. This is common for women. They will dream about fantasies of having sex with men, but then go and say its real to others EVEN THOUGH THEY FULLY KNOW IT WAS A DREAM. But to women, dream = they still did it to me
This man is a far better person than I am. If my family treated me like that, I would tell them to go to hell and never speak to me again, no matter how sorry they were.
No cap 🧢❌
I would do the same. Unlike the guy in the story, he gave in...I would never have. Instead, I would be working on my life making it better and then maybe assuming that the family would find out eventually that's how the rest of our lives would be like.
I would have to forgive them
Because forgiving someone is also forgiving yourslef
And plus the fact that his family did genuinely apologized
Except he had nothing ro forgive himself.for, he did nothing wrong.
@@syrynx4454 Yeah u are right but TBH SA is a serious matter and people tend to take the females side better
And also I think the parents were so convinced my their neice that they didn't believe their son
Just because someone gives a weird amount of detail doesn’t mean it really happened. There’s actually a thing that happens with liars where they go into way too much detail. If someone ever does that, where it seems like they just have an over abundance of details to give, there’s a pretty good chance they’re lying.
That is the main thing that exposes them
If they go into unnecessary or just downright suspicious levels of detail then they are most likely lying
Nobody should have so many details if they have experienced something traumatic to such an overly detailed degree
Cops count on that. That's why they usually have several interviews spaced days apart. It gives compulsive liars a chance to make up very elaborate information and then forget the details and contradict themselves.
The more into detail they go, the higher the chance that they'll mess up because there isn't actually a vivid, horrifying memory of an actual event to keep it anchored, just a bunch of BS they have to keep straight.
Yep. Sounds about right
not always, sometimes you just have ADHD and will tell as many details to prove it actually happen. Or you are just a little different person than others and will have different manerisms/ talking patterns/or anything really. If a person doesn't know how to lie and you ask them details they can't think of anything so details being there is actually better imo. It's worse when the person lying actually knows how to lie
I think what you said is to much detail....you must be lying.
If you went into this amount of detail just to explain to someone that they are lying, there is a good chance you are lying. So I just can't believe you...
Oh crap, I did it too. F I am a liar now. D:
I had a friend who was accused of SA by a girl. He lost a lot of friends over it and it stressed him out and thankfully didn't affect him too badly. After a few years the girl realised she dreamed it after she was asked about the details.
When he asked me he asked me why I stood by him and believed him I just said "I don't know why anyone believed her, you're gay". I don't know if he had come out to all his friends yet at that point (we don't talk anymore). But yeah she potentially ruined his life over a dream.
Standing by him while others cast him out.
Then proven right.
Yea that friend would take a bullet for you lmao.
@@tyranidswarmlord9722 You'd think that, but my ex-gf came out as gay and they became best friends and hung out with other LGBT people and we grew apart lol. C'est la vie.
You happy with your new codex?
@@tyranidswarmlord9722this is the most 💀 moment
lmao, shit that never happened....
@@Nbomber who are you to judge? Do you know them?
Remember girls, this is the power we have, abusing it not only you ruin another person's life, you also make it harder for real victims of SA to be taken seriously.
These monstrous women are ruining the already fragile trust in the real victims of SA since they are already rarely believed
My best friend was accused of SA by his ex and her friends back in HS. It was brief and most people refused to believe her because everyone knew he wouldn’t even hurt a fly, let alone assault someone. Yet, that still messed him up for several months due to the glares and mistrust from the people who believed her. He’s dated here and there but it’s tough. Whether you’re a man or a woman, treat others kindly and respect their boundaries; it’ll go a long way to make the world a little better.
Thats the one thing I hate about double standards as it can and will ruin an innocent mans life from just one lie from a women that paints them the victim cause how people view both genders where men can be victims of SA just like women weather be from another man or even a women. If a man were to be harassed by a women most people would be blind to it think that "she is just into you" even though what she is doing is not normal where a man harasses a women they get punished (and rightfully so since SA and SH are both bad). Luckly there are workplaces where they take SA and SH very seriously regardless of gender.
Finally someone says it
ZeroVsGaming as a guy who has been S/A'd, no one believed me even though I was just 13 and she was 26. She still has a job where there are children.
Can't believe there are still people out there who say "I'd rather believe a liar than a man"
This is insane. At least the niece wasn't smart or cruel enough to keep the story straight years later because... damn... poor OP
People like E need they mind slapped straight
To do this to a family member for no reason at all...
The saying is "id rather believe a liar than a rapist" just to be clear. I've never heard someone use the one you wrote.
This story isn’t real though
@@justjules24 well now you have and the world isn't the same place anymore. So the op comment/quote makes more sense these days.
The saying is "I'd rather believe a liar than a rapist" if you associate all men with rapists, that's a bigger problem than anything else. And that saying is sound. Do better
@@fromearth3286It doesn't make sense even today
I've gotten 2 SH complaints filed on me at work. The first 1 when I was 15, the second when I was 25. In both cases I was exonerated by closed circuit camera recordings that proved that the alleged contact and criminal behavior DID NOT ever happen. In both cases my accuser was fired immediately. The 1st complaint was filed by a pedo that tried to make a victim out of me. And in both cases, the women on 1 side of my own family have continued to react as though those complaints somehow had merit, especially after it happened to me a 2nd time. It sucks too, because I've only had 4 jobs where I had female coworkers, and at half of them I've been accused. This BS has become rampant.
when thers no prison time for false rape nothing will change. the only way is if actions have consequences
@Revytwohands-io6du
Idk about the punishment for it or if people take it seriously (for example, almost nobody gets in trouble for bringing fireworks into Illinois but it's still a crime.) but it's slander. It is a crime.
@@Jray608even in the states, where the bar for libel is high, this would qualify. Deliberately lying about someone and causing these kinds of ramifications can result in pretty hefty fines. Depp v. Heard, etc. Testimony from an entire Christmas party about a confession, especially when it makes the witness look awful, makes for really compelling evidence. Too bad the statute of limitations would be long over. Good on him to just drop her, I guess.
The first time, I would be on my family member's side, but keep my mind open to the possibility of their wrongdoing, because sadly it's far far more common than most people realize. The second time though, I'd be far far more suspicious of my family member, because now there's starting to be a common factor here. However, in your case, with some of your family being automatically assumpitive of you being guilty the FIRST time, I'd assume those family members are just awful people.
And women wonder why it's becoming a growing trend to ignore female coworkers
There needs to be laws about false accusations because this is an injustice that causes real damage.
And there should not be any statute of limitations either. I like a lot of states has 7 years max which in OP's case has been over 10 years so there is no way to charge her criminally.
It would never come through in modern world, where MeToo is a thing.
The problem was with the family, but there was no court involved.
@@sinnombre1439 It doesn't matter, The accusation alone caused severe and lasting harm, and any rational person could expect that harm to be the result of such an accusation. I'd go so far as to say that the level of harm caused is worse than anything you could inflict physically short of death or paralysis. This is the same reason I think adultery on a spouse should be a criminal offense. Just because the harm is not physical, doesn't mean that it's not real and that it can't can screw someone up mentally for years if not for the rest of their life. There should be some kind of justice for that harm.
There is though? I'm not sure where you live but in lots of developed countries there are criminal penalties and in some places you can sue for civil damage. There are issues though. The issue with civil lawsuits is that they cost money until you win. The issue with criminal lawsuits is that DA need to be willing to prosecute.
This has to be pretty messed up from the parents perspective. If I found out I had disowned my child and put them through hell based on a complete fabrication, as a man, I don't think I could tolerate that deceitful being continuing to exist.
With you my friend. E deserves hell as well, and even though, I wouldn't forgive myself
Okay do not kill over a lie. It is also society that is ruined so far that they believe everything without evidence. Unfortunately experienced it not long ago(fortunately it was not this serious but still almost gave me a panick attack) Some people are very dumb.
If it was something that was found out quick sure but this man was shunned by his family for a decade and his life was in shambles he kinda deserves a pass to kill his cousin
@@cosmicreef5858 Yes you should. False accusations plenty of times end with the death of the accused by a mob of angry retards. It should be the same to the false accuser.
Just look at media literaly 100% of the cases are false. PUT Harvey Weinstein in that... he dated for years the women that accused her. A plain and simple case of women using pussy to get power.
If I was the parent guilt would overwhelm me and I’d probably just off myself because of the amount of immense pain and torment I put my child through.
I’m actually on the verge of tears.
I can’t even imagine how shit life is for him.
I’m so glad he is getting better.
It's fake, bro. You crying over a lie... kinda ironic when I put it like that...
@@Very_Silly_Individual It's not fake. Well atleast not the first part of the story, the Channel Owner said in the description that it's fictional. But he responded to another comment burried in this comment section that he said that so youtube wouldn't delete his video
@@Very_Silly_Individual not all of them arr
@@Fritz9672 I still don't see how that means it isn't fake. Why would youtube even take it down?
Because TH-cam is a snowflake place that wants more money so they give any reason to demonetized the channels video revenue.
In hindsight, the feeling of hatred saved the family relationship, because it means there are still feelings to be fixed.
When I hate someone, it quickly turns into indifference because I just don't want to feel hate. And indifference is so much harder to fix than hatred.
That's right, it's most commonly seen in romantic relationship though. There wouldn't be hatred, nor love, without care and just as one would forget about an ex because he has let go and the grief is done, if he had actually done so for his family then they would have probably never heard of him again in this life.
And if you ask me, if he had found happiness with a wife and a new family in the meantime it would have happened.
Yep, the opposite of love isn't hatred, it's indifference.
i have been indifferent to my relatives on both sides for decades
Update in video is false.
Real update:
It's been a while since my last post and I can't count the people asking me for an update. So I tought I'd post one, even though there's not much to say. First, I'd like to get a few things out of the way:
Thanks all who wrote and offered support and advice. I'm sorry I couldn't reply to all, but know that I've read them. Also, thanks to everyone who reached out to distract me with talks about my hobbies. I know I wasn't very respsonsive, but I know you meant well. To the openly hostile ones, borderline threatening me to quit anti-depressants and counseling and instead accept into my life. No.
Many people told me I should pursue legal action. I didn't mention this in my first post, but I decided against that long ago for a few reasons. Best case, she would get a slap on the wrist and I wouldn't gain much at all. I just don't think it's worth the legal headache. And if I somehow would end up losing, I'll owe her legal costs.
A lot of people have been messaging me about the fake updates. As I wrote in an edit to my other post, there are some fake updates on Tiktok and TH-cam. So if you saw something on other platforms that you didn't read in the text below or in the post linked above, it wasn't by me. While I don't really care about people making fake updates, I just want everyone that read my original post that these videos are not by me. Someone even claimed they "had access" to my original post on r/relationships, which contained these "updates". That is false.
With that cleared up, I'll add what actually going on with my life right now.
Know that I wrote the original post in an anger and because I was completely lost on what to do. I needed a kick to the head and I got that within like the first 5-10 comments. That was really all I needed.
I've met my therapist. I was first scheduled for september, but she managed to move it and we've had two talks so far. She also read the original post and many of your comments. While she would've perferred me to confide in a colleague of hers, in the end she was glad you guys told me to calm down a bit and wait. She knows first hand how I can get when angry.
I wont go through everything we talked about, but it comes down to that I may respond to my parents at some point, but if I do, it wont be anytime soon. I've started writing everything down that I want said to my family and then my therapist and I will go through those things continuously. For those who asked, they haven't tried to contact me further.
I WILL NOT be updating this issue anymore. Not on reddit (including DMs) or anywhere else (in case of more fake updates). Nor will I be commenting unless it's something very important. I don't want to be rude and I appriciate all the support, but it really is draining sometimes. I was almost glad when the moderators locked the comments on the first post.
I'd like to end by saying thanks again to all the people who's been wishing me well and checking up on me. And for the people writing to check that I'm still alive, don't worry. You don't have to do that. I'm off work for a while and not by the computer much. I'm busy painting my garage.
I knew it sounded too good to be true.
Pretty messed up that someone would fake these updates.
This should be pinned.
I suggest you get a dog. I have 2. They will love you. Best feeling I've ever felt. My appreciation for them is beyond description. I couldn't possibly repay them.
They picked the pretty little princess over you. I say **** them. They're not your family anymore.
And I second the getting the dog idea.They're loyal and will never turn around on you
(NOTE: A comment below points out the entire final part of the video, the part I'm commenting on, was completely made up in order to make the story... more clickbaity I guess? It wasn't part of the original post. Keep that in mind.)
"Things get better, even if you have to wait 10 years."
Only because she eventually confessed to lying. If she hadn't, this would have been permanent. They would have never believed him over her. What a mistake it was for him to let them back into his life.
Agreed !
Agreed
Yep if she never said anything he was never found out he was an uncle he would have never had his family contact him he would have been alone and he would have died alone because he was so fucked up he couldn't make relationships out of fear.
I agree. It's obvious his parents and family were always ready to turn on him in the flip of a switch and people like that are always like that.
The parents fucked up, and fucked up *big*, but having said that, they're doing the best they can to make amends and not digging in their heels once they realize they were wrong. They should not get the son back they cast away. But OP talking to them, if just for the closure of knowing your family doesn't think you're an SA, that alone is probably worth it to OP.
E's a demon. she's not worthy of being recognized as either human or even "post human". she lied at detail and had OP excommunicated from their whole family for a decade. it's stuff like that that makes me lose more and more faith in the human race as a whole, something I'm already horrifyingly low on. good on OP for reconnecting with real family however, they admitted what they did was wrong.
Exactly!
to be very charitable, it sounds like she said it to the sister, who told the parents and aunts, who made it into a big thing.
What his family did to him without verifying was what was evil.
What E did could range from talking to someone about a bad dream which they misunderstood then chinese whispered it out, to actively making up a story to make him get in trouble and crocodile tearing to convince the adults, we dont know how involved she was with the decision to cut him off.
But as I said that is the charitable interpenetration.
Everyone's got problems but people like E are outliers. You can find good people too, if you look for them. OP's thesis partner might qualify
you do know that this story is made up right
And that is the reason why condoms exist gentlemen.
That terrible family cut ties with a "beloved" member of their family over "probably just dreamt it". Tells you all you need to know right there.
The story explains how the parents realized they were wrong. It suck for sure but people make mistake and you shouldn't deprive yourself of your parents because they fucked up big time, the best they can do is to admit their mistakes. I mean, definitely stay away from E and their family but you should have your own parents if they're willing to have you back. If they obviously aren't good enough for you at the time then obviously cut ties with them. I can't imagine the hurt he feels but that's why he needs to build his relationship back up.
@@blueicer101 ''but you should have your own parents if they're willing to have you back.''
yeah thats the thing in this story...they don't,they absolutely do not have his back. they excommunited their own son without thought from someone's word and talking to him never crossed their minds for 2 years.
call me angry call me bitter but I would gladly deprime myself of such parents. you dont need enemies while people like this are backing you up OP contacted them and building the ties with them when he got rid of them. good riddance
@@mahmutyordamli4912I agree, i wish i could be a better person like OP was but throughout i put myself in his place and i would say the most vile things to the parents before blocking them myself.
Proof that family can be subjective.
This family deserves NOTHING good after this.
Its more clear the parents werent trying to protect their niece but trying to save their own hides.
Honestly that's human nature 99% of the time.
Only 1% of people will ever jump into a burning building yo save a stranded person.
99% would just stand there like lemmings and watch the house burn before even thinking rationally and calling 911 or just run away entirely.
The thought of being falsely accused of a heinous crime and being unable to prove your innocence is terrifying. There's literally nothing you can do besides deny it and hope that people believe you.
NO ONE believed me, when I was falsely accused of sexual abuse. The 3 perpetrators, got away with their crime: they made it all up. 3 Children from Westport, NZ. Because the mantra then in operation, was: "CHILDREN DON'T LIE." All Church Members turned their backs on me; preferring to believe the utter bullshit spoken about me. These Members that I am speaking about, are LDS, in Christchurch, NZ. To this day, I am looked at sideways, verbally spat on, ignored.
Not terrifying so much as it is insanely frustrating.
People who will believe these types of accusations that come with no evidence whatsoever are idiots; And there is a fuckton of idiots out there.
I was accused of sexual harassment and assault, and I had proof that I was innocent thanks to the CCTV system. But it still got me fired from my job; the same job that had the CCTV video evidence proving my innocence. I could PROVE I was innocent, but I was still punished for it. I was beyond furious.
I feel for you, @ianbattles7290.
And I feel for you, @alasdairwright1397.
I believe you both.
Great job E! Fantastic! You managed to not only ruin the life of your cousin but in the process made it harder for actual SA victims to be taken seriously and get the help, support and justice they need and deserve. Wonderful!
She sounds like a spoiled brat to me who was only ever thinking of how to get the most attention. Years later, even though she realized what she has done, she still wasnt mature enough to properly apologize to him. She may be a bit remoreful but still only thinks about herself. She wants forgiveness to feel better about what she did and that is not really the behaviour of a person who is supposed to get older and wiser.
@@realglutenfree Ikr??? Her taking so long to reveal the truth made this situation so much worse and part of me is petty enough to hope OP reports her to her job after how her accusation costed him his job prospects at first. If she can lie for that long, what else could she be lying about and how long is she willing to do stuff like that? smh
To be fair, the guy lost all sympathy, at least from me, when he said he thought about planning to actually assault or rape his cousin.
Lets be real, even without people like E victims of sexual assult don't get the justice they deserve
Apparently this story is fictional (in the description) which is absolutely disgusting especially with no disclaimer in the video itself.
The worst part seems to be that even after 10 years, he still couldn't rebuild his life. It took this conclusion for him to be able to form a healthy relationship. All out of fear and trauma. His parents not speaking to him for that long is bad enough but can you imagine what it was like for them to hear exactly what the last 10 years of his life has been like because of this. There were no criminal charges or anything. This is all psychological.
The guy sounds like a little bitch tbh. As a human.
The relationship will never be healthy, even after the conclusion. Parents will go to their grave knowing they seriously messed up the life of their son, and OP will go to his grave resenting the fact that he was disowned on a lie.
Even when you've definitively proven a SA to be a complete lie. People will never treat you the same again
You never get your life back
People will never truly trust you again
I like the point of the first guy who responded to you they will go to their graves knowing that they permanently changed his life because he pretty much refused a human contact for a decade because how the fuck could he trust anyone when everyone he thought would at the very least hear him out exercised him like he was a tumor. His mother when she dies will think about the fact that her son was going to kill himself but basically didn't because the hate was the only reason he could move forward.
@@harassed-ou2zband that's another reason because imagine all the people that got told and will not be on the receiving end of the fact that he didn't do it so he ever meet them he can have a negative interaction again because they just didn't get the memo and everyone else depending on how negative their feelings were there just going to hold on to it for the next interaction and even his sister's he found out he was an uncle and he has no interaction with them for the last decade in the last time they probably thought of him was as a rapist.
I'm not a psychologist or anything but it seems to me that E made the sexual assault story up for attention. Maybe saw it in a show, saw a character get attention and support from the people around them. And that drove a desire in E for the same affection. (I've personally witnessed this) thus, when the time came, where she could be the center of attention and affection, she told family of her fictional sexual assault. I'm sure the family asked who and she probably tried to come up with something believable, her own cousin. They have been together and OP was a 16yo male teenage in the middle of puberty when this supposed assault took place. Which I'm sure drove the lie into being even more believable (probably not intentionally). And when shit hit the fan when OP got shunned from the family, she knew she fucked up but cared more about how she would appear to her own family than OP's life being fucked sideways raw. So she held onto the lie. E had to feel guilt because she never took this to the law or convince her parents not to take it to the law. This just shows how someone who wanted a little affection and attention can ruin another person's life. I'm glad this story got a happy ending. Unfortunately this rare. I know a guy that went through a extremely similar thing but never recovered from it, family still disowns him, even when a huge rumor came around about how the fictional victim accidentally confessed it was a lie, the family hasn't budged. I haven't seen him in over year, I hope he's still hanging on.
damn. hope that guy is doing okay
Waiting a decade before telling your family?? TEN years. I would sue the absolute maggot sh** out of E and let her rot in financial burden for a damn decade. Lost 10 years with your loved ones
Read the description! It literally says word for word “This is Fictional Story and was made by me!”
@@dancesmokesmile344 oh fuck me!
@@1019nothing I didn’t know what to feel when I read that tbh, haha. I’m still confused
Honestly this is hitting way to close to home for me. A few months ago my cousin also accused me of SA'ing her when we were 13 and 14 respectively. Though right now, its not so bad as she has a reputation for being a notorious liar, and nobody in the family really believes her, and her parents that have treated her like a princess her whole life don't believe her. So while I am not scared of all my family casting me out like OP's did, at least not for a good while, I am scared if she tries to ruin my future with these claims. (also for added context, we live in separate states, and during the time she accused me of doing the "crime" I wasn't even in her state, so it is literally impossible for me to have done anything)
Being impossible for it to have happened does not stop the accusation from ruining your life, or potentially putting you in a prison and on a registry.
Nah bruh she IDK maybe she uhh I forgot I think it was that she's trying to uhh idk
Was there any sort of petty conflict? Not excusable, but one does not make life ruining accussations for just a random person.
@@FlamesAndShadows I don't think you know just how petty and vindictive some people are. People have been murdered in front of their families by sociopaths who literally didn't like their face. That's it. That was the "crime" they perpetrated. Stop blaming the victim. It's disgusting to do to rape victims AND still disgusting to do to victims of false charges.
Trust me, all of us are so glad you’re doing better. No one deserves that and it’s clear you especially don’t, so many people out there are here for you.
bro in the desricption its says is fake no offense
@@KING_POGGERS the creator explained somewhere in the comments that he only said it was fake bc ltr yt would delete the vid
ohhh@@ammarihsanmohamadalfianmer3357
@@KING_POGGERSThe only fake part of the story are the two updates. The first post is real, even the actual OP of the story (u/sci31123) came out and said to ignore those posts, he only has one update that he’s posted 11 days ago, saying that he isn’t going to be in contact with his family for a very long time and that he’s focusing on therapy.
fictional story
as someone who was actually assaulted as a child by a family member im so glad hes doing better. only someone with not an ounce of compassion in their heart would accuse someone of such a disgusting and heinous act.
Everyone wondering what a woman is just needs to look at this comment
@@mcflyingfury im not even a woman but alright
@@owenw.1643 47% of metoo accusations turned out false! So basically half of women are capable of this. And thats just the ones that we have receipts for! I’d guess aproxx 75% of females would do have his without a second thought!
@@owenw.1643 Oh I wasn't talking about you mate. You said only someone with "not an ounce of compassion in their heart" would falsely accuse someone of such a disgusting and heinous act. That is an ample description of what a woman is, someone without an ounce of compassion.
@@mcflyingfury oh aight, fair enough
When I was 15, i had a close friend accuse me and my male cousin of SA and kidnapping. It literally ruined my life. Her accusing me literally ruined my life and tore my family apart. My best bet as to why is because she didn't want me to come forward about her SAing me. To be honest i didn't realise what she did was SA until this situation happened and i spoke to the solicitors about it. It makes my blood boil that for years _(before and after this situation)_ when i tried to come forward about me being assaulted, I was never believed and accused of lying but she was believed instantly.
She stole my dream college from me, tried to steal what little friends I had and destroyed my relationship with them. Told the youth groups i introduced her to that i was a sexual predator and they had quietly blacklisted me from any events they were doing. I was a social pariah everywhere I went. And I know that nearly 10 years later, there's people who probably still believe her. I still feel so angry about it all. I truly wish i never met her.
Edit: feel like I should add that I'm a woman so this shit doesn't just happen to men. A false accusation can ruin anyone's life.
Sometimes, solutions are found in darkened alleyways.
Sounds like a good reason to take revenge.
Dude wtf?? These people are psychopaths.
Sounds like she is not even feeling guilt yet. The more I encounter people who have suffered from situations like this the more I Wanna keep my distance with girls.
@TrainedACEdude do you even realize that most guys who end up being accused of this end up in prison without any evidence
I went through this on a much lesser extent at a previous job. About 4/5 of my coworkers believed the allegations until the girls story started falling apart and the CCTV was reviewed. It's crazy how there are sociopaths that will weaponize these allegations and when the truth comes out they aren't punished for making the false allegations and the people who believed it will act like they didn't treat you like scum.
Cameras are indeed life saver. Recently, in June 2023, a food delivery guy in banglore (India) was beaten by a mob after a 8 yo falsely accused him of SA. CCTV footage saved him later
There's a reason I don't throw away the presumption of innocence until it's like, four women who don't know each other.
#MeToo made this worse. It encouraged people to believe women unquestioningly.
Of course, it also made the backlash worse, as more people are starting to doubt SA claims, and more men are embracing the Mike Pence Rule, or going MGTOW.
@@danko5866That's ironic considering hindus in India have a massive rape culture. They're probably the country with the most rapes.
@@janerecluse4344 The more accuse the less I believe. Metoo though a trashy movement the name made so much sense. Bandwagoning is a hell of a thing.
I would've took E to court. I wouldn't care how much it would've costed to sue. Plus a judge can always grant a motion that would make E pay the legal fees.
Nope, unfortunately. Most statute of limitations is 1 to 6 years, normally 5. 10 years would be far too long and , while you can still file a lawsuit, it would be destined to fail.
@@fredericksaxton9782 He could sue for emotional damages. He's been going to therapy for a decade and has proof of damages, even if the statute of limitations for the actual slander.
Burden of proof is super high. A lawyer would likely reccomend doing nothing unless you had evidence of her lying. Otherwise actual predators could sue their victims.
The only thing he could do is trick her into confessing or do something that would initiate a criminal trial if you felt your life was over anyways.
@@superkingoftacos2920 I mean, they have texts from other family members stating that E admitted she lied. That's gonna count for something. If he could get her own parents to write in text that she admitted to lying that would be pretty damning evidence. But let's be real, this is probably a fake story like all the others lol.
He does have a confession though, that text she sent apologising is basically a confession of what she did
I know myself well enough to know I'd never trust my family again in that situation. After hearing them out, I'd repeat the same line they gave me that fateful day "I don't want anything to do with you, and don't contact me again"
Well at that point your options are "attempt to have a relationship with your parents who are repentant for their mistakes and want to rebuild with you"
Or "be petty/angry and choose to lose your parents a second time"
@@blueicer101 This is second time I see you defending the family.
Choose to lose your parents a second time?really,thats the best you came at? first:family lost OP ten years ago OP is not losing anything
second: as I explained to you at another comment his family did not heard his side of story they did not cared about him at all
this was their best time even if family is repentant and rebuild do you think his family will care about him than they did before?
he shouldn't intruduce such people to his life second time
How is deciding to not have a relationship with vile, terrible people like his family "petty"?@@blueicer101
@@blueicer101Ruining someone's life and reputation for a decade isn't a whoopsie mistake
@@mahmutyordamli4912 So the parts where he says he's been struggling the whole time before his parents contacted him again means nothing to you, and that he isn't loosing anything?
If you were in his shoes and wanted to cut ties with your whole family permanently, good on you.
Thankfully the OP isn't like any of you, and actually wants things to be fixed somewhat, so he doesn't have to be miserable for the rest of his life whenever he hears the word "family".
This is why "inocent until proven guilty" is important
Nan remember that most people prefer the gallow first then the trial afterwards
The fact that the parents didn’t even give a chance to hear the other side in person is even more vile.
He is probably the scapegoat. He shouldn't have given his family the satisfaction of forgiveness so easily.
Not just "the other side," their own child...
When someone comes to tou saying they been sexually assaulted who should believe them.
@@TheFuri0uswcIf proof is given then I will believe them. If no proof is given, then there is no reason to destroy another person’s life over it. Also, if proof is given, then allow the accused to see said proof and give them a chance to see if it’s been fabricated. Belief in false evidence is just as dangerous as belief without any evidence.
@@AJ_Sparten1337 that's why most victims do not speak out. The fear that no one will believe them especially in cases where the abuse happened years ago. These are average Joe's most sexual assault victims are telling the truth, only 2-10% are false and remember most people do not report there victims. So fact that people lie is not enough to say that you should not believe victims. However the punishment for lying should very severe and that's where we're lacking.
That might be the best Reddit story I’ve heard glad to know it’s starting to go well for him
It's a fictional story
@@StormyBoi6It isn’t. The person on this channel commented that they intentionally said it’s fake so that TH-cam won’t take the video down, their comment is buried in the comment section so it’s chance to read it. This story is unfortunately real.
ikr i watched it a second time, the person who wrote this is an artist.
most of it is fake, only the first post is real, the original poster had updated and said that the update post was some tiktok fiction
@@grandvage i think he said it so it wouldnt get taken down if im correct
Bro screw that family you got us, ur therapist, and ur coworkers bc no matter how close ya’ll are at ur job its one of the only things keeping you sane
We are nothing but words on a screen to him.
@@PumpkinHoard That is true. However, if he did ever post something about things going wrong with his life and he might take drastic action on himself and he post his address to see if anyone in the world still cared about him then I'll definitely try to reach out to him if we're living in the same continent.
It's their choice to make amends with the family and if the situation improves it was the right choice to make
@@lee.as.in.l.e.e.7394I wouldn’t and I don’t think it’s right his family has proven to be Liers, gaslighters why would you trust such a bunch move on and make a new family is what I would say
@@lee.as.in.l.e.e.7394the updates are fake, he didn't reply to the email sent by her parents
I heard this once and I think it’s so true. “Don’t forgive them because they deserve forgiveness, forgive them because you deserve peace. Because forgiveness is an action of self improvement.”
That's not even true, peace is total annihilation of the oppressors
I also heard this once ''fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me''
are you really going to forgive people,your own parents thats supposed to be your safe shelter and your rock after they took you out of their life for 10 years for a single word of someone without hearing you once? they only thought about talking to him after 2 friggin years
with a family like that you dont need enemies. There is no need to intriduce them to your life when you got rid of them
Bullshit and cucked mindset
@@mahmutyordamli4912exactly, to not think this and to understand this is pacifist soft bullshit and people will only see you as a doormat
@@mahmutyordamli4912forgiving doesn’t necessarily imply reconnecting with the people that hurt you. Forgiving is just about letting go of all the ugly feelings of resentment you’ve been poisoning yourself with and do it because you love yourself and deserve peace.
This man is truly a good person. I can't imagine not guilting my family to the point of a mental breakdown if they did something like this then bothered me later. I might even convince them I unalived myself and cut contact with them just to hurt them for what they did.
My terrible mental health would instantly lead to a self game over.
You’d only stay miserable for the rest of your life 😂 people like you never make it out of the misery and die alone all over something petty
Dude guilting them won't give you back those 10 friggin years. He should be glad they exposed themselves so easily cause it's the harsh truths that make us grow the most.
He can of course forgive them but he should spent his time with people worth his while, not these pretenders.
The real op didn’t respond to his family the updates in this video are fake
Imagine the dinner where all the family just stops everything they're doing and stares at E while she confesses, all knowing exactly how much pain they've caused an innocent man/boy
I hope his entire family has either cut contact with E or has alienated her like they did with him. What she did is absolutely unforgivable.
@@SergeantArxelConeMe when the E cope
Ya know the won't do that, it never swings the other way
@@SergeantArxelCone that genius
She's a woman so nah her family is definitely still with her. Her life is likely almost completely unchanged.
Double jeopardy.
False SA/Rape accusations are worthy of either life sentences or the death penalty.
Actively ruining someones life and doing nothing to stop it, especially when it can lead to murder of said person in prison is more than worthy of the chair.
If anything there should be a list of fake accusers that stays on record because they are dangerous
Honestly, it seems tempting, but the consequences would be awful. Firstly, if this was true, E would NEVER admit to lying and OP would remain ostracized. Secondly, if the penalty for false accusation is death, actual victims would be too scared to take predators to court. What if there is not enough proof? Then she is going to die for being r-ped. It's the same shitty situation as with wishing for death penalty for SA - at least now the victims mostly remain alive, as the criminal knows the penalty for murder is much harsher
life is pretty fair but death sentance?! its a shitty thing to do but thats too much imo
@@kim_0286 the difference between a false accusation and not winning a case is entirely different.
@@veqxh well, if you brought a case to court and lost it kinda means that you brought a false accusation, doesn't it? Because if you didn't, then the accused should go to jail, no? Or are you just stuck in a kind of limbo?
False rape accusations need to have the exact same punishment as actual rape, exact same number of years in jail. Put the false accuser on the sex crime registry for life, too.
I agree brother
Falsely Accusing hurts EVERYONE. Not only does it usually literally ruin the life of the person who is being accussed, but it also makes it harder for others to believe ACTUAL SA survivors who come out with their stories.
I feel so so horrible for that poor man, literally i would never forgive my family for that. Disgusting. E is literally an evil biotch.
no it only effects men, women can only benefit from false accusations, don't try to say a liar is a victim liars deserve harsh punishments for ruining lives, that's what you need to agree with
@@mpo48you probably read the comment wrong, it hurts REAL SA victims because people will be less likely to believe them, just because some other women made some false accusations. It's not about this men vs women war, it's about how false accusations take credibility from potentially true ones
@goolgepl2112 That's really only what people care about. Tons of men's lives are destroyed thru emotional manupliation but society acts like it isn't a thing.
@@colbalt95 correct me if untrue, but I think it depends on your social media feed.
I personally see tons of articles and videos and news promoting true equality, being neutral and supporting men's mental health without having to demonise ALL women, but yeah there are lots of people who are convinced they're the "underdogs" oppressed by a society that doesn't care for their lives.
Nearly all sides in a conflict believe they're the victims of the big bad opposition, and then are encouraged to "retaliate" harshly, causing the exact same effect to the other side and continuing the cycle.
Lastly and most importantly though, I'm not the person you should be discussing your mentioned topic with. I dismissed the gender war in my previous reply, and I'm talking in favour *all* true SA victims, man or woman. Excuse me if I sound rude, I agree that millions of men's lives are destroyed by manipulation, I just don't see why you're telling me about it
@@goolgepl2112 its absolutely about the war there's a movement that tries to demonize all men and put liars and degenerates in charge, I'm objectively correct here go ahead and support liars and sociopaths all you want but you should know that you cant go on bullying people forever karma exists and its real
This is why I'm now a firm believer to NEVER believe anyone without hearing both sides first. I used to think believing anyone who claimed they were SA'd first was the best move, but it's been a few years now, and there's more and more cases of people just blatantly LYING about this and ruining so many innocent people's lives. I know a lot of people would rather go with "guilty until proven innocent" but I think "Innocent until proven guilty" is a much better way to handle things. I'm so glad I watched this because not only did it give ME some hope for MY own future, but it also helps me get rid of whatever remains of that toxic, bullshit mentality of believing "victims" without evidence.
I'll absolutely support anyone emotionally who claims they were SA'd, but I will absolutely also always hear out the other side as well. While SA is a touchy subject for me as I'm a victim of it myself, I will not blindly believe everything someone says just like that about it. This video really drilled in my brain what I was already learning, so I'm glad I clicked on it.
That being said, I genuinely wish the best for OP and I too hope E rots in hell. It's the least she deserves. And I don't think OP is bad at all for having the thoughts he had. As someone who's been through traumatic family events, I'd be lying if I said I haven't had similar thoughts about some family members that I've had to cut off for safety reasons. But it's still good to know Karma did its thing, even if slowly, but it got to the bitch niece lol.
>I think "Innocent until proven guilty" is a much better way to handle things.
Yes, it is, and it is a slap in the face of all that the justice system stands for that people don't share your view. It is a principle that should be held sacred but, for whatever reason, the norm is now twitter hate mobs armed with torches and pitchforks that have replaced common sense.
@@Xtersin It's literally what the US judicial system is based around. Or, at least it should be.
This story is fictional. It says so in the video description
@@magicalwatermelon5147 they said it was fictional so it didn't get taken down by TH-cam; the creator said so replying to a comment.
@@Xtersin That's exactly what I'm trying to get at precisely. Twitter has made it so its fucking impossible to take these situations or cases seriously without you somehow ending up guilty as well no matter what side you're on. It's genuinely depressing that its come to this, but hey, atleast some people still keep their sanity and reasoning straight.
He's definitely stronger than me. I'd have made it extremely clear to the whole family- I'll forgive them eventually. After they _die._
But man. I dunno how he didn't "If I ever see you again" the cousin
Definitely a better man because I would never have forgiven them. Would of given all the shit I was feeling then block them all.
He's not stronger he's just desperate to get his family's attention back evem if it means crawling back to them like a dog
@@komradekupkek6676bro nothing in the story suggested that he's desperate and acts like a dog for his family
Idk about stronger, definitely more kind hearted and forgiving than I am. I have been wrongly accused of much lesser things and those people are now dead to me.
@@Petehr As much as I disagree, it _does_ take strength to not tear into those who... deserve to be torn into. It's wrong, and has the unforeseen consequences of letting them off the hook... but it does take the kind of strength you _have_ to respect.
this guy has more self control than i do bro if this happened to me and i was invited to a gathering or sorts i would TEAR everybody APART
They spurred him for 10 years without even a single *attempt* at hearing him out, just content to literally hate him for the entire time until the cousin revealed that it was literally nothing
She *ruined* his family for 10 years for what? Obviously I would never forgive the niece, but I wouldn't forgive the parents either, in 10 years they didn't even bother to contact or even hear out his side of the story even once
9:18 Doesn't feel right either. Every member of the family chose their allegiance with E a decade ago, and now they toss her aside when that allegiance is inconvenient. They should have to live with her just like they have to live with what they did a decade ago.
E put them in an impossible position imagine a 9 yo telling you these things...that's heart breaking
@@VladV-kx6ky Well, one thing you shouldn't do is not even give a chance for the opposing side to even explain themselves or at least try to figure it out?
It's called *innocent until proven guilty* for a reason!
@@VladV-kx6ky🤡 your defending people who do false accusations
"Oh, why do so many men think we're making things up!?" This... this right here. People rather believe a female liar than a man telling the truth.
This story is fictional. It says so in the description
@@magicalwatermelon5147 The creator said they had to say it was fictional because TH-cam would take it down otherwise.
@@magicalwatermelon5147 ...doesn't mean things like that don't happen. One of my best friends in the Corps was falsely accused. This girl he'd been chatting with at the bar said he SA'd her. Well...luckily...our CO liked him and went to bat for him. Her story fell apart pretty quickly when the Duty had us clocked in when we got back to the barracks and she had claimed it'd taken place after that. When pressed she broke down and admitted she'd made the story up because she was upset that he'd rejected her. He'd just made Staff Sergeant and she was willing to annihilate his entire life in an act of petty revenge for her wounded pride. Want to know the worst part? She didn't even get a slap on the wrist. He had been arrested and held in the brig...investigated...the whole nine yards...and all she had to do was give a teary admission and a half-assed apology. Absolutely disgusting.
@@magicalwatermelon5147🤡 i read the comment he said it was real he has to put it was fake so it dont get taken down stop lying your defending a false accusation person
@@magicalwatermelon5147 He only said that because TH-cam was threatening to memory hole the video otherwise. That's sus.
People who falsely claim to have been SA'ed deserve to be in prison for just as much time as someone who actually did commit SA. No one will ever be able to convince me otherwise
For this example, accused didn’t see jail time, he was ostracized instead, probably more common than men seeing jail. Even the “that guy is creepy” does serious damage to a guy’s psyche and reputation if she is loud about it.
@@jimjohnson394 in my opinion, it doesn't matter if the accused was sentenced or not. That's a serious allegation and should only be reserved for REAL victims. If you falsely accused someone, you deserve the same amount of time
So much for family huh? 22 years of living together brushed off in a couple hours over a phone call based purely on an account of a niece. They’re unredeemable no matter how sorry they are and may that guilt haunt them forever
This is disgusting. The worst part is that it is something that is fairly common.
I understand people having mental problems, like E, but in 10yrs something should have been said. Wasn't she getting mental help? Did no one ask her before if it couldn't have been her mental illness?
As for Mom, dad, and siblings...no. They didn't even ask questions or see him face to face. I think this guy needs to get some mental help, because this is going to come out sooner or later.
Thing is, if they had investigated the matter, a polygraph could have been taken. And I don't think E actually has a mental illness, she just wanted attention.
E didn't have mental problems. He stated that much.
The reason she has mental problems 10 years later is for one thing and one thing alone.
GUILT.
10 years knowing she ruined his life and everyone who had loved him.
Of course she has MENTAL issues.
She can deal with them, the only thing is...unlike him who fought and stayed strong and survived the worst of it...she probably won't because she's a victim at heart and you become what you want eventually.
An actual victim.
@@johnywhat8601polygraphs are extremely unreliable, even from the own words of its inventor who now fight for them being remove from use, especially in anything police related.
Polygraphs are notoriously unreliable.@@johnywhat8601
E likely has a personality disorder.. and in most families people don't pick up on it soon enough until it starts causing real problems..
This reminds me of a story about a student in high school who was accused of SA a girl for a stupid reason.
When asked how the accused had SA-ed her, the girl responded “with your P-! How else?”
That’s when the accused burst out laughing, and responded “that’s impossible! I’m a girl! Don’t have, never did have, and never WILL have a P-!”
They called in the accused’s parents for proof, and the accuser was expelled because she had spread the lie around, so the word “R--IST” was spray painted on her locker.
It really pisses me off that people make these bogus accusations. I agree that it’s people like that that make people ignore genuine victims.
A girl accused another girl of using her penis to rape her? That doesn’t even kind of make sense. This is grade school level anatomy we’re talking about here, how would someone mix that up?
@@DrFranklynAnderson the accused girl had a gender neutral name and generally wore what would be considered boy’s clothes. The accusing girl probably thought she was accusing a boy.
@@DrFranklynAnderson for over a year I thought that a student of my grade was a boy. She was from another class, so we never had any lessons together, and I didn't even know her name. Some day a classmate of mine talked about her and mentioned the name (not gender-neutral), and I didn't believe her until I got verification from another student.
@@DrFranklynAndersonaccused was a tomboy that can pass as a guy. Like baggy clothes while being an A cup with short hair.
I, personally, would have nothing more to do with them after that. If we were ever to speak again, it would be to cuss them out. Unforgivable.
"That got me heated a little bit because who cares what type of person i really am? What I really am is your son and that comes first."
Freaking hurts. My heart is shattered.
Never been more emotional about a story on the Internet. I really feel so terrible for this person. I would feel nothing but intense hatred and burning anger towards everyone. If it were me id definitely call thwm and lay it into them most definitely E. Just wow. So so glad things are starting to turn around... That was a rollercoaster!!
Look in the description. It is a fake story. Report as misinformation.
@@jtb1515 why report if he said its fake
@@jtb1515the creator wrote a reply in a comment section saying that he said it was false to avoid it being taken down
If they trusted word of mouth alone then i wouldnt forgive them either in that situation. What a fucked situation.
In all fairness, you can't exactly "prove" someone touching someone. Like, even if a child was being inappropriately touched by their own parent, unless it was full r*pe there literally CAN'T be proof. Doesn't mean it didn't happen.
If someone groped me how exactly would I prove that if not one saw?????
@@fredericksaxton9782 And even if it's full on rape...there's still no way to prove it unless it was recent. But she said as a Little kid.
Unless there's dna or something it can be hard to prove
@@fredericksaxton9782 So the solution is to automatically throw the story in the trash unless there's proof.
@@fredericksaxton9782 No prove = didnt happen
That's unimaginable for me how hard OP must've been through to just stay alive during all those time. It's great that he finally could clear his name and is slowly getting back to his family. Not dealing with the trauma head on is definitely something that the OP will have to carry on for their life. Glad they decide to face their family and things turned out well.
As for E, the culprit, it really reminded me of a Mandarin proverb「君子報仇，十年不晚」 meaning "One should bide one's time and wait for the right opportunity to seek vengeance" but literally it means "Gentleman takes revenge; ten years is not late". And exactly like the proverb, ten years. Hopefully E got what they deserve and can experience a taste of what OP has been through.
Just so yall know, the updates here are completely fake. OP has not met any family and is discussing with his therapist on what to do
Give this man a hug. He deserves it. No, He REALLY deserves it.
Though I don't empathize with his family, I feel like this is such a sucky position to be in. So many girls out there who actually HAVE been SA'd try to tell their family only to be called a liar and end up not getting the help they need, so of course when a family member comes to you with those accusations you want to take them seriously. Regardless, though, there are some who completely make this stuff up *knowing* the weight of such an accusation and completely ruin the life of another human being. I feel truly horrible for OP and I hope if he continues to reunite with his family that all goes well and he can continue to heal, but honestly I feel like he's been so mature already with how he's responded that he has a lot going for him
They ruin the lives of their victims and all actual victims of SA by validating families who ignore it as lies.
one of the biggest problems is see is that every woman under 40 i know tells the same stuff over there ex boyfriends. The are all abusive! Not a single "it dit not work out" or or we had to different views on life. Nope allways he was the abusive one, even than i 100% knows that this girl hat cheatet on her ex, he was the abusive one.
Even my 2 exes blaimed on me that i am a abuisve men, cose at the 1) i lost my job and could not keep up with her demands on stuff. So i am the Abusive on cose i needet to find a new job and strugle to meed month end for a few months. and the 2) told everybody i was a abusive men cose i refuse to get a vasectomy in my early 20. I would like to have kids and she too, but she though it would be good if i have a vasectomy and later reverse it, then we there rdy for children. i than tell her that my doc told me that reversing is not possible everytime and most likly not if years pass buy. Her answer was: "thats not a problems, than i get a sperm donation from a random dude and you can raise it!" She broke up with me the moment i said no to this and as i say: i am the abusive ass for not wannt to raise a strangers child.
Only about 1/7 women suffer SA in their entire lives--and that includes a lot of crimes less than completed r***, like groping or even certain verbal threats. Of those that do, 54% suffer it the first time before they're 18 and, of those, 7/8 are SAed in circumstances where their birth fathers aren't in the household but some other male (usually mama's bf) is. So, basically, we could cut SA in half just by strengthening marriage--far more, actually, since the number one factor in determining criminality is whether someone is raised by their actual father or not. (Source: The National Crime Victim Survey, so this is anonymous self-reported crimes, not based on police or court reports.)
frankly lies about a crime they should get the punishment of the crime not just for SA but for every thing the legal system should not be used for petty reasons when its hard enough to put away real rapists and murderers
@@Barlmoro Yeah, there's a shit ton of gross women out there. I'm surprised that I never got accused because I was always the target of some kind of harassment, especially around my sexuality and girls assuming I'm staring at their breasts just because we shared a locker room in gym.
I lost her-
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This so sad there is a literal year rolling down my face 😭 is there anymore updates
Dang bro
HOLY SH**TY HELL IF THAT HAPPENED WITH ME I WOULD HAVE UNALIVED MYSELF JESUS CHRIST OF HOLY HEAVEN THE HOME OF GOD AND THE HOLY SPIRIT
I did read the first two halves but didnt know there was a third update on this also.
That dude has got some SERIOUS willpower to not just off himself.
It’s really sad he has his youth adult years ripped from him because of this, the joys of being an uncle, going to your siblings wedding, having your family at your graduation. All that was taken from him, I hope his life gets better from here
You are such a strong person to have gone through that and not given up, going through your darkest years alone , the betrayel from your loved ones, I can't even imagine what you must have gone through.
I hope you can still live out a wonderfull life that's not filled with hatred and despise.
YOU DESERVE BETTER. ❤
It's a fictional story
@@StormyBoi6 it isnt it was jsut requested by the op i think that he put it in the description
@@StormyBoi6🤡 stop lying
A story that ends with the parents actually apologizing and realizing their mistakes is always a win
Then you'll be sorry to know that this particular W is fake, even says so in the video descript. I found the original post, OP hasn't responded to the initial text, nor did E ever reach out either. Whole "update" is faked cuz otherwise YT would have taken down the video.
Not really the psychological damage to him is life long. The places he had to go mentally to endure the abandonment. He actually died even though he's still alive whatever he is now is much different than what he could have been.
If I write my true thoughts about E and what OP should have done to her I will get permanently banned from the internet
🥰Okay you see there's this thing called acid, and there's this part of the body called the throat, and when a man has nothing to lose he tends to pour acid in it.🥰
It boggles my mind that a woman has that much power to ruin a mans life in just a few words. Just wow
It’s stories like this that made me so worried to talk about my experiences with SA. I was very young when it happened to me, and the the guy and I kept a very average relationship on the outside while he hurt me for years.
I thought nobody would believe me bc of that. But when people did believe me, I got so scared that everything would change and I’d ruin his life. He’s my cousin and I still loved the guy. I also just didn’t want attention on me for that. I’d felt so ashamed for “letting it happen to me” and it had all come out against my wishes (my therapist had to legally tell my parents I was in danger).
When it got out, he had just graduated and the first thing on my mind was “If I say something, I’m going to fuck everything up for him and I don’t want that.” My therapist ended up getting it out of me and I had to beg my mom not to press charges.
Idk how people can fake shit like this just to ruin people’s lives when I couldn’t even do it when it was true.
Like, if you were actually SA’d, yes make that person pay for what they did to you if that’s what you want, but people are so vile for doing that to innocent people.
Wow. I'm so sorry.
I would have thought that anything you say to your therapist can't be disclosed to anyone else, but perhaps it's only that anything you say to your therapist can't be used against you in court.
@@takatamiyagawa5688
It’s for safety and ethics reasons. They tell you about how the privacy stuff works before you start.
All she really did was report a crime, but I was a minor so my family found out. I’ve been put inpatient multiple times because of things I’ve said and I get why they legally need to report it, but it does kinda upend everything. 99% of the things you can say stay private tho!
Why didn't you press charges
@@HxxrtlessBlackGirl I was scared? I didn't want to send my 18-year-old, black cousin to prison for a crime he committed when he was like 13? It's expensive as hell? It had been years after the fact? Lots of stuff. I was also like 15 when it got out, so I wasn't really looking to get that kind of attention as "The girl who was raped by her cousin." I wasn't angry enough about it. I blamed myself for it even tho I was like 9-10 when it happened. What was it gonna help anyway? After all the years, he feels bad. We were pretty close before it happened, and his punishment is not talking to me ever again. He still tries to call me to this day. His mom is also my favorite aunt and there was no way I was sending her son to prison.
I can't believe the mental strength of the OP! Even in the darkest, most justifiably hate fill times, he was just thinking about how to move forward, how to move on. When given a chance to get revenge, he chose healing, when confronted with a bullshit 'apology', he gave the most diplomatic response just explaining the consequences of E's actions without delving into all of his hatred. I'm so damn happy to hear that in the end, all that effort and all that being the bigger person actually lead to some healing for him. What an incredible person.
his family raised him right.. family betrayal is the most difficult thing a person can go through in their life too.
@@lordblazerSounds more like he raised himself.
I’ve heard that there were many innocent guys sent to jail after being accused of SA… it’s disgusting how some people can think there’s any sort of justification for doing that. Worst than that… I once heard of a true story (back when African Americans were only just starting to be given more rights)… a man had been brutally tortured and murdered because he had been accused of doing SA to a girl… and because of the different ethnicities involved, his murderers were never brought to justice. That story tore at my heart and left me feeling so… dirty… just for being human. I can’t help but loath anyone who falsely accuses an innocent person of SA.
If you're talking about Emmett Till, that story is fucking gutwrenching.
@@violentabyss i just went and double checked and i think that is exactly who i was talking about. i heard the story many years ago on some tv show, and i remembered it destroyed me. it messed me up so bad. my heart broke for that poor guy.
@@carenxatu5962It's disgusting how the woman indirectly responsible for his death comes out years later with fake guilt and crocodile tears.
Almost the exact same thing happened to me, but I was 13 at the time, and the police did come. I was forced to say I did it in court, or spend my life in some juvenile prison until 21.
It was hell, but I struggled through it and moved across the country when I was 16. Now im happy, successful and don't see my scumbag family at all.
I actually respect him for finding the strenght to forgive his parents.
It's a slow process, but a healing one.
Sorry to say the last 2 updates are fake. Op hadn't replied to their text yet.
@@marigoldxoxo well, shit, that sucks.
Crying for OP, I'm glad his life is finally turning around, but his pain is deeply embedded into his words and its heartbreaking
This is one of the most heartbreaking and meaningful stories I have read. I genuinely wish everyone happy lives, and as the OP said, "For all those reading, please use my story as an aid to your personal problems and grudges. Things do get better, even if you have to wait ten years."
Anyone who makes maliciously false accusations of SA should face serious jail time
This story right here is the exact reason why you NEVER EVER make up your mind about someone's accusation of someone else over anything without hearing both sides. Over and over again over the years, I have seen people make hasty judgements, though not on anything as important as this. I have made it a personal rule to never do it myself by always hearing both sides before I make a judgement.
This dude has to succeed, he needs to ghost them and just become someone who is Important just to show them how he doesn’t care about them and that they’re a part of his old life
It's a fictional story
@@StormyBoi6similar things happened to me but I went to court and I won after 13 years not everything is false
@@StormyBoi6🤡 stop lying
@@gregkareem9824 Read the description of the video.
@@StormyBoi6Stop lying.
This story literally made me cry. It's always the liars who are believed, but when it actually happens to someone, the true victim is never trusted. It's always the bad things happening to the good people.
Yup
Unfortunately or fortunately it's fiction
@@goolgepl2112Unfortunately or fortunately you have no proof of it being fiction
OP, I'm sorry that happened to you. Honestly, you're a better man than i would've ever been. If my parents did this to me, I would never, EVER forgive them, same goes for the rest of the family who turned their backs on you. They made their bed, and now they have to lie in it.
Honestly, I would forgive them but I wouldn’t forget how easily they threw me away if I was in OP’s shoes. It would take a year or even years before I even THINK about wanting to see them again. The fact that they had been so willing and able to just throw me away from the family that fast and easily is what would make me not want to see them for the longest time. I would only forgive them for my own sake and peace of mind. Holding onto such hatred isn’t healthy for anyone but I wouldn’t forget the hatred I had for them and what they did to me.
I wouldn’t forgive, I prefer to tell them the most vile and hurtful things and let them suffer. I can continue living without caring about them or even wanting an apology. Sometimes you shouldn’t give forgiveness to someone that deserves to stay suffering.
If you think about it. His family is more deserving of resent than E is.
I'm not saying anyone deserves resentment. I think everyone should have a big hug session (including E). As in, I think they need to fix their damn problems and start fighting.
@@flareblazer8951 you know, I'm a pretty eccentric guy when it comes to my political views. But at least I know I've got a damn good moral compass. (I'm also extremely funny and humble)
And that definitely doesn't look like what I've got.
@@flareblazer8951exactly. If they cna throw you away just like that without hearing your side of the story shows how much they love and care about you
wow this guys has a big heart i wouldnt forgive at all and if they ever contacting me or physically met i wouldve torn them up with words or even might have gone physical with them. Dude u are great honestly
The forgiveness and strength this man had is just extreme and unfathomable, I never would be able to forgive in this situation solely for the reason they didn’t even give him a chance, or try to communicate with him, this man no matter what he did in his dark times made it out without them, and still choose to forgive them this is the type of person I’d want to be friends with for life.
He didn't, all the updates are fake. Basically he hasn't responded back and is still seeing his therapist about it.
There were tears in my eyes the whole time I watched this. Poor guy. Wish him only the best.
Damn I'm exhausted just listening to that. Mind blowing that they didn't even try to hear about.
Wow, this story hit me so hard when i first heard it. The tought stayed in my head for so long. I felt so bad for this person, but now that he finally got his life back togheter even i feel a sence of releave… it gives me a bit of hope in humanitie and faith that evrything will work out eventulie afterall ;) this gottah be one of my favorite storys of reddit❤
This story is not real according to the description
@@remboldt03it's real I had to write that to prevent TH-cam from taking it down.
@@Telltales.there are so many other channels that have the same story up but you’re the only one saying you made it up. Why?
@@-A-L-The didn’t say that
@@Pandaak1ng he did? Check the description
considering the how seriously SA is taken, i just feel so bad for the guys that can have their whole lives turned upside down by a false report or a fucking "DREAM" 💀
People who falsely accuse others of assult and the proof is there that they were lying: deserve jail time or serious fines at least for lying and defaming/destroying a person’s reputation.
I'd tell them I'd forgive them after they testify in open court against E for inflicting 10 years of emotional pain and trauma....then cut her off completely like they did him.
You are very good at writing these stories! They hit hard and this format of reddit stories makes them more believable. I had to read the description to know. Really boils the blood so I think they are pretty successful lol.
The fact that the family is not going nuclear on the cousins is enough reason to not contact them again
"They removed contact" that's not enough
So the reason you won't interact with your family is because they don't hate their family member as much as you hate them?
Let's keep it gray, people. Enough of this black and white.
This man is a Doormat. Some people Don't deserve forgiveness. He shouldn't let those snakes of parents back into his life
Yeah I wouldn't accept them back. They ALL are no longer family. They abandoned you, even without concrete proof of something so serious, that they can do it again one day. Never, ever trust them.
That's tough. Even if they wanted to reconcile with family, I doubt there's any true recovery from something so awful, how their family could just outright exile him from their life with no second thought. He needs to find a better support network and keep this family away from him.
Considering how detailed E was, chances are she said it was likely a dream to make sure she wasn't blamed as much.
"Love mum and dad."
No, no you don't get to use those words. Everything in that situation is so vile that any level of forgiveness is frankly saintly. This is exactly why so many men learnt their lesson to just never associate with women after #MeToo fucked up so many innocent lives. Women can destroy your entire world with a lie, and if caught out, "Tee hee woopsie."
Even as family, always remind them that the trust is no longer there.
Always make them feel guilty for ever making you go through that 10 years of hell.
They think you lower your guard? Never ever do so... you will get backstabbed again because they have done it before, and its easier to do so because they have done it before
Really feel sorry for this guy, but am happy he is healing and seeing his life getting better
Reading this and having known a girl who the cousin reminded me I can say I glad I noped out of that relationship before it could get bad for me. For context I had a female "friend" who I saw over a period of a few years slip deeper and deeper into crazy . It started with a guy she had a brief relationship with before that turned sour or something. As a result she first started believing she was a victim of her own "mental problems", blaming everyone for not supporting her etc etc. It later turned into a dream scenario where she claimed that she was raped by him and how she is a victim etc. etc. It also came out she was still stalking the guy years after they part way (which makes no sense if you believe him to be a rapist). I stop believing her story years before that so I always stayed on the sidelines but after she tried dragging me into her made up scenario I started ignoring her. She cut me out and blocked me cause I did not believe her. A while later she did try reaching out but I ignored her again. Reading stories like this really makes me feel I dodged a massive bullet.
Read the desc
@@SvaIncRead your mom.
This made me start crying. It’s such a sad story, it sometimes feels like something you watch on the tv. But knowing it happened and can happen hurts so much more.
Well fuck this just landed right at the top of the list of things Im terrified of.
I couldn't even imagine the deep sickness that followed after that phone call. And knowing that my entire family abandoned me. Im so glad OP didn't unalive himself. I hope that someday he finds it within himself to move past this, and that he meets someone that he can build a life with. And in general I just hope he can learn to trust people again. You can't predict what someone might do in the future, forming connections is always an insane risk you're taking, but it's worth it.
Call me bitter but I'd never contact them again
you're a very good person, OP. i personally would be very petty and refuse to go back into their life. guilt them even more and make them feel the pain they put me trough. good job on being able to forgive (not E) and allow your relationships to steadily heal
That is NOT petty. 65% of people would not have forgiven that family. In ten years, they didn’t even hear him out. Didn’t even make an attempt to.
He turned out as a good person from a terrible family of people
There's a reason I so strongly believe that SA should require proof before it being talked about publicly. I know friends that commit suicide in response to false allegations.
False claims won't stop until we give false reporters at the very least the same sentence that their accused would have gotten.
This story is fictional. It says so in the video description
@@magicalwatermelon5147 If you read the comments, the guy said it is real but he put fictional so TH-cam wouldn’t take it down.
@@antikommunistischaktion while I definitely agree that false accusers should be punished for lying as this is a seriously crime, a lot of actual rapists don't even do that much time, so with our current system that doesn't even protect real victims and prosecute real assailants, false accusers would probably get a slap on the wrists. The best course of action for a lot of people in OP's case will likely continue to be defamation and libel cases
Ya but its also kinda hard sometimes for proof. Like when it happens to kids they don’t rlly know any better.
10 birthdays 10 Easters 10 Christmases 10 10 New Year’s I un flabbergasted how of a dickhead that one person can be. Hope you’re feeling better.
He went from nearly killing himself to decent relationships with his parents and a girlfriend. I have no idea how he actually did it, but I'm happy for him.
The story's fake, that's how
No it's real.
@@babs2952no its real stop lying to these people the guy himself said it was real
@@babs2952creator replied to a comment saying they wrote it was false in the desc to avoid it being taken down by TH-cam
Update is fake but first part is real
I don’t think I could survive that sort of situation dude. My family means too much to me. My god. You my friend are one strong and lucky soul.
My cousin was falsely accused of SA a girl when he was a teenager. He spent time in jail even. But later after he was released the girl confessed she lied.
Dude… that’s horrible :[
I hope your cousin is doing alright..
@@JayyzImpatient he is, he just turned 27 and is doing really well.
Damn. Did she face any consequences? Lose any relationships for it?
@@jokhard8137 not that I know of, it was a while ago I was probably only 7 or 8
@@jokhard8137 Females also never face consequences for false accusations.
I'm just happy this man was able to find a partner. All those years unable to have love must have been unbearable. God bless him and let him forgive his family for his own sake.