Been reading all of your own thoughts and experiences and it's wild to see how many people this video resonated with, and even when it didn't to see you all sharing your own personal stories is really touching. I recommend reading the comments below, some amazing perspectives to be found! Thank you all ❤️
This video summed up my feelings and experiences with games so unbelievably well. Thank you so much for this phenomenal video (and letting me know I’m a “mid-core” gamer lol). In return, I’d like to offer a suggestion for a game that I think is absolutely worth your time and even fits in with the narrative of this video so exceptionally well I was waiting to hear it be named dropped the whole video: Outer Wilds. Probably my most favorite game of all time and also one of the only games I have cried over (multiple times tbh). Genuinely one of the most unique and beautiful experiences in gaming for me
@@ghostprime6320 Outer Wilds is a game I've tried twice but unfortunately fell off of each time I played it because, like in the video, I would just get distracted. I need to try again though as I am keen to finish it someday.
@@Kranitoko I can definitely understand that, I have some pretty bad ADHD so I can’t even tell you how many games I’ve stopped playing mid play through and/or forgotten about. I know you said you’d stop just bc you’d get distracted but I’d still like to say something that’s helped other people I know who wanted to try to finish it but struggled for whatever reason: 1. it’s not too long at only like 10-20 hours long depending (about double with the DLC which is 100% worth it) 2. Don’t worry about where you “need” to go but rather let your curiosity guide you to discover and 3. The computer in the ship keeps track of important info an discoveries made so you can also check that for a clue/hint where you might want to go next or to remember info you forgot if you put the game down for a while. I hope some of that is helpful and not just preaching to the choir and I hope you enjoy the game whenever you try it!
It's the opposite for me, my OCD is too overpowering, so it takes a remarkably awful game for me to drop it, and even then, it kinda bothers me not finishing them. But not finishing a game or book that I'm enjoying, is not something I could ever do. And considering that I have been playing games since 1985, My backlog is not so bad. You can't play everything, that's for sure, but you can cover a lot of ground if you stick to the good stuff in the genres you like the most, even if you like to mix new games and replaying old games like me. Hang in there.
"You can't do everything" is the only cure to FOMO. You cannot experience everything. You are absolutely going to miss out on a lot. So instead of worrying about what else might be out there, try to cherish the experiences that you, and maybe only you, make. If you enjoy the strange indie game you just got into, you don't need to chase the trend and play what everyone else is playing. If you do find yourself enjoying what's popular at the moment, that's also great - be glad that you can make this grand discovery alongside everyone else. If you think that what you're doing is worth it, there is nothing better to do, because if you were doing something else, you wouldn't be doing what you are doing, and you would be missing out. So all you need to ask yourself is, do I want to do what I am doing?
Yes, if I happened to finish a game then sure, it is finished. But most of the time, many are left open ended just because I shifted my focus to something else.
I definitely feel this. I used to try and keep up With every game and get all rewards that I could. Then I just got tired of it. Decided to only spend my time on games that I actually Want to play. What's the point of logging in to collect rewards if I never play that game, but to only just log on to collect the rewards? Lol, sounds dumb when you think about it.
I never chase hype or buy games at full price. I can obsess over one or a few games. Or just try something absolutely new and love it. Enjoy your time. We all live forever until we don't.
@@kodorogames I dunno... Like Pride.. Satisfaction, a sense of love and community. There are many positive emotions and states a person can experience that are not just pure joy. After awhile living that way the hedonistic longing for joy will fade and you can end up feeling kind of empty if you didn't work towards anything ever.
@@coreyrachar9694 that's also apart of joy bro, go do something down to earth. Go mow someone's lawn. Go mingle and make friends, actually build a relationship with a friend worth keeping close to you. Regarding community.. uhm. I'm not sure about that one. I'm not one to care what others think of me unless I cherish and love them. You can overcome that regret bro. It ain't the end of the road yet and I know cause your here messaging! You still got time to go do somethin to earn that pride. Love. Just gotta keep chugging! Learn a new skill, harness it. Ain't for you? You tried. Keep on moving. Keep on doing what you love (unless it hurts others) one thing I'd be happy doing is building a cabin. Could be a camp. Could just be some sticks in the ground and putting logs against the stuck sticks and a tarp for a roof and a warm cozy fire. Get that sense of accomplishment that you did the thing. You got this bro. Just keep that joy and don't lose it.
@@coreyrachar9694 Yes, I see your point. But I also think those are things you can enjoy, and are therefore related to joy. Besides, there are many people (like myself) who don't feel the need to work towards more than they already have, and are happy with how their life or situation is. My point being: you're right, you can't carelessly seek joy if that means you're gonna wreck other aspects of your life that are (or might be) important to you, but joy is compatible with those things too.
I think even then you still won't have enough time to play everything. If you also can stop sleeping, eating and anything else that isn't gaming you might have a chance. Probably still no chance though.
I'm 61, I won't be alive in 2071, sobering thought... I love video games. Some I finish, lots I don't, but that's okay. I don't have a backlog… I just…play. I like this topic. Very well presented, great job. Thank you.
This is something that applies to life itself really. You can't do everything. You have to make choses and cut out the things that you don't prioritize.
The most fun you can have in life is by trying out new things. You won't necessarily fall in love with everything, but you won't know unless you try. Even the things you end up disliking would have been worth trying out because of how unique that experience was.
So hard to do it too. You end up realizing that by not doing something yet you've been choosing not to do the thing you expected you might. And eventually you discover it's too late and have to accept it. That could range from finding out you can't play some online only game anymore that you wanted to try ... to not being able to visit your parents anymore...
Being aware of your own mortality doesn't have to be a bad thing though. It can be beautiful and make you appreciate every second of life. Read up on some stoic philosophy, it was being echoed through all their teachings.
Thank you for reminding me why my 30+ year gaming hobby came to a grinding halt 5 years ago. I loved gaming, it was my life, but I had finally realized that there were so many other things out there that I passed up trying just because how difficult it'd be to keep up with my gaming. Im happy to say Ive been learning to play guitar for 5 years now, and i love every moment of it.
When I was 18 I told myself that I was going to play games non stop for my 20s, then learn something else for the next 10 years and so on. When I reached 30, I kept on my word and I slowed down video games and started to learn how to draw. It has been 1 year since then and it is a struggle but I'm having a blast. In my 40s I'll probably learn an instrument, because that is what I had already decided that I wanted to do in my 40s.
@@einhasad7 so awesome that you are keeping to your word and sticking to a plan. And if you ever decided to veer from he plan a little bit, that's okay too! I hope to learn to draw as well, someday. I'm okay at painting, drawing what to paint, not so much!
Most of all whatever you do have fun and share it with other people. In elementary school, I was put in Violin Lessons and in high school a few people told me that I should take up the Guitar for the social opportunities. It would open up. Instead of being a kid and enjoying high school I got it in my head that I needed to be the most technical player I knew so I spend ridiculous amount of time in a room by myself practicing technical things and treating the instrument like a sport. In college, I ended up with one language as a major and a different one for a minor. Instead of enjoying the frivolity of college as most people do I devoted all my time to excellence and I even surprised my professors when it came time for a senior verbal interview. A couple of auto accidents made lots of things difficult for a while and it felt like I was starting over. I picked up some IT and cyber security certifications that brought me back to gaming, but it was picking up Brazilian Jujitsu that really changed my outlook. Maybe it’s being in my 40s now, but for the first time ever I feel no pressure to be the best and focus on my efforts on being able to teach others and helping them get better. I actually have a cheap electric guitar arriving tomorrow, which I’m just going to have fun with, Just like a piano that I was playing in a friends house the other day, which I also haven’t touched in years. Everyone commented on how relaxing it was and I was finally able to do something musical just for fun.
Just want to say to everyone you can absolutely do both and can have more than one hobby. You don’t have to give up gaming to learn something new. I work full-time as a music teacher, play and practice multiple instruments, am in multiple bands practicing twice a week, am married, and STILL have time to play games, and play a decent amount too. The key is time management, accepting that as an adult, you might not have time to play games every day, or as much as you did when you were a kid/teen, but you can definitely set aside an hour or two of gaming a day and still make time for other hobbies/passions/responsibilities. Just get shit done so you have time for it. The biggest time killer is doom scrolling, TH-cam Shorts, TikTok, Instagram ect. I’d recommend cutting down on some of that as I believe that’s much worse than playing a good video game, especially a story game. Have fun and do what you love but get shit done and don’t waste your life away! Live your life your way!
This is so true. For the past 2 years, I’ve always had this feeling of guilt whenever I play video games, because I know I can instead allocate my time and focus on something important, like studying for my certification and improving my skills in my field; but at the same time, I look for excuses to keep playing video games. Time is important, yes playing video games can be some sort of reward after a long day of school, work, or studying. But at the same time, it’s so addicting that it makes you forget that you also have other things to focus on. Yes, discipline and time management can counter this but to certain degree. Im kinda glad that im not alone in this. I hope everyone can attain happiness and success with whatever goals you have in mind.
As someone who has spent probably the majority of their life playing video games this video resonates with me so much - every single point made I completely relate to. I’m an achievement Hunter so I try complete games 100% before moving on but yet I still have a massive backlog of games started and never finished because another new shiny one was round the corner or I watched a piece of content on an old game that brought me back to it. I remember playing AND LOVING Titanfall when it came out but after 2 days of playing just… never played it again - there was no reason, I enjoyed it but I just kept playing other games and never went back… There’s also your opinion on the souls games, I’ve personally never played one, I plan to one day yet having heard many a gamer complain about their difficulty and wishing for an easier experience thus undermining the games theme, mechanics, tone etc I’ve always been in the “well this game just wasn’t meant for you - if you don’t have the time to improve yourself it’s just not an experience you’ll have and that’s ok” camp. We are in the age where you can search up a full play through of the game and watch it start to finish anyway. You want the story? It’s right there! I know EXACTLY why you got burned out after not getting diamond in apex because missing out on FOMO causes burnout - I 100% apex then moved on back in season 1 but I had a very similar experience in Fortnite. I played from OG season 1 - season 4 earning all rewards in the battle pass UNTIL I just didn’t put enough time in season 4 and didn’t earn all of the rewards, they had just released some “upgrading skins” where the skin would get better the higher level you got that season and now I had skins that were unfinished FOREVER so… I stopped playing completely. I play so many different games because I want to experience many different worlds and so it’s hard to go back to something I’ve “done” because to me it a waste of the precious time I have left. In fact, I had an idea for a series I plan to make covering what games I found so interesting or were so good that I would be willing go back and 100% it FROM SCRATCH when it’s something I almost never do. Brilliant video! I’m glad the algorithm caught your channel. Excited to see what’s next!
Thank you so much for the super comment! I've never had one of those on my channel before 😭 I hope one day you do at least try the souls games; I think everybody has to at least "try" them, and if they don't like them, that's fine, they tried. Although it may be tough to play the older ones after starting it, I definitely recommend starting with Elden Ring as it starts out more forgiving than some souls games do. If that's too much, then Dark Souls 1 is just as fine of a starting place; compared to the likes of Bloodborne, DS2-3, Demon's Souls and Sekiro, it feels like the easier. The burnout for Apex makes sense; I was always excited for that dive trail, but then at the same time, if I WAS showing my dive trail and I had a dud match, once in a while people would be like "fake diamond", so not only was it a sense of FOMO, but even once in a while people were rude anyway, so I wasn't happy. And correct, I play many games because there's so many worlds and adventures to go on. Variety is the spice of life as they say. You should definitely go for the series if you're really passionate about it. If you do, let me know and I'll check it out :) Thank you again for the super comment! Have a great rest of your weekend!
@@Kranitoko Something I find kinda difficult is figuring out what games are truly ones that I simply will not be able to play for one reason or another versus ones that just entail varying levels of difficulty to get into properly. Felt like you were telling me my life's story in the earlier parts of the video - the Dark Souls thing a decade ago, trying and failing miserably. Saying "fuck this, this difficulty shit is stupid," and quitting. Then Bloodborne comes and I try and fail again but slightly more successfully. Tried and failed to do DS1 once or twice in the years since. Then Elden Ring came and that was the closest I got to glory. Being able to go elsewhere in the world as needed was huge, but eventually I felt like I was hitting walls in too many places and it frustrated me and practically turned me off against my will. I WANT to be able to play these games. I WANT to persevere. I want a lot here, because I feel like somewhere in me is the kind of person who would find these games to be as amazing and nigh-life altering as so many others have found it. But I struggle so fucking hard with patience and frustration and I just don't know how to overcome it :( Also with the Apex burnout thing, sometimes I think these kinds of incidents like you and the other guy have described are sort of a sign from your mind that your heart isn't in it anymore, but it's just that failing to reach those objectives you typically strive for can be an awfully frustrating way of telling yourself you don't want to anymore. Especially if you're so wrapped up in the grind of a game that it's literally just part of your day: "Of course I'm gonna play Apex/CS/Fortnite/Warzone/etc. The fuck else would I be doing? Of course I'm gonna play the new season content, complete x y and z of the battle pass and ranking, this is what I 'enjoy'" And then suddenly you find out that you've just been going through the motions, usually for longer than you realized and it all just kinda comes down on you at once. For better or worse I've found myself to fall off incredibly hard from multiplayer games, so I'm rarely feeling a desire to play those games let alone pursue any goals or FOMO things like that. I dunno how/why that happened, but its been within the last few years or so. I had a few buddies who I lost touch with who I would play cod with and get all pissed off like I used to about stupid shit when playing, and sometimes would play Overwatch with my homie on the weekends and then it all just fizzled out. Now I'm pretty exclusively singleplayer or SP games with MP elements I ignore, or that are kinda online while being solo (Diablo IV for example).
I have a game that will take your life away if you are trying to 100% everything. Dont play Elder Scrolls Online XD This game is like crack to me like Apex is to Kranitoko
Normally I'm not even logged in to my TH-cam account, but this video resonated so much with me that I signed in just to write this comment. I was shocked to see that this video didn't even have over 1000 views at the time of writing this because it was so well-made. Your taste of games is really similar to mine and the example of Apex Legends just hit home because it caused the exact same thing to me, I played the game even though I felt no sense of accomplishment. The people who played this game with me, I barely talk to nowadays, which makes me kind of sad to be honest because we had a really good time together for a while. I think Video games played a big role in shaping who I am, and the experiences we made will stick for a lifetime. So with this comment, I just want to give my sincere thanks to you for making this video and wish you a statistically speaking wonderful next 47 and a half years of your life.
Thanks so much! It's wild to see how many people this relates to. I don't think I talk to a single person I met on Apex anymore. It even got to a point when someone would try to add me I'd say "yeah but we'll just forget about each other in a few months, so is there any point"? And I guess it's all about just being in the moment. For a brief while, you made a friend and that's helped shape you too.
I think you have to at least play Elden Ring or a souls game sometime in your lifetime because if you stick with it, you'll have the greatest time in a video game.
I was actually shocked hearing all of this. Very relatable! Usually when a buy I new game I play it only once(except multiplayer games) because I’m too attached to that version of the story. Replaying it over and over with different outcomes and stories would make it meaningless for me ;/
I have been thinking about this for a while, I don’t have that much time to play and why waste it just to play what others think is fun or empty multiplayers while I can just enjoy my free time in things I actually want to do! Great video 🎉
Good luck playing the rock-paper-scissors game I made in my programing class at summer camp 26 years ago. Mine is the one where you can type 13579 and get the secret nuclear weapon ending.
Great video that serves as an important reminder, it isn't worth trying to chase it all. You can tell yourself "I'll just finish this one then I'll focus on other goals", or "This one is different, really" but the core experience each time is pretty similar. As a man of 30 years who's played video games as my main hobby since I was 5, and now taking a complete break from video games for a full year. I can say they've been a big part of my life, brought me much enjoyment and comfort in hard times, shaped me as a person, and taught me some interesting things. However I paid a price in time and energy that was redirected away from important areas, especially socialising, which only gets harder as you get older. You take it for granted that you'll always have the same time and social opportunities at 30 that you did at 18. Not to mention, I find videogames just don't 'hit me' in the same way they did. You can't fully immerse yourself like you did, when you have a job, bills to pay, chores to do, and self-improvement to consider and make time/energy for. Always followed by a feeling that you should be doing better with your time. Plus, after 25 years of gaming, it feels like there's very little that seems original or can engage you in the same way anymore, 'it's all the same' aside from the odd indie game. I have moderated my VG consumption in the last few years, spent time in more areas that yield more tangible lasting rewards, such as fitness, racing, dancing, marital arts, and trying to make in effort to actively put myself out there socialising. It's going in the right direction, but it's hard to shake the feeling that I've started a little late, mostly because videogames made it far too easy to entertain myself and occupy my time, 10 years goes by super fast if you're not paying attention, I promise. Surprisingly I haven't missed them as much as I thought. Once my year away from them is up, it will be a strict weekend/holiday hobby and no more than 2 hours on those days. I think I appreciate them as a side hobby than a main one, and for the memories and experiences they gave me as opposed to the more muted experience I have with them now. I'm content to let most new games slide as I know how much of life they can take up, and how much more life has to offer. Videogames can still be fun, but always aim for the Good Ending in Real Life guys. 🙌
It’s nice to know that there are a lot of us out here. Sometimes I worry that I have spent too much of my time playing video games. In all honesty, I feel like sometimes my real world is when I’m playing a new game… and that going to work and taking care of myself are just chores in between. I do other things of course, but none of those things feel like proper spending of free time the way finishing a great rpg does. I appreciated this video a lot for the relatability.
Your comment itself is also very relatable. Right now, I am in college. I only hope that when I have an actual job I am paid for that I do not feel like work is just a chore. Right now, a lot of it is. I want so badly for it to be over and lol I am even procrastinating this very moment. I even have a lot of feedback showing that what I am doing now should not be indicative of what I will do once in the workforce, but it is scary that I do not have any guarantee.
@@marcusorta714for me personally, as someone who has worked full time for the last 10 years, work has always felt like a chore. A new job can feel exciting enough at first to feel novel, but usually in an anxious and not entirely pleasant way. The idea of a new job is always more exciting than the reality of it. And eventually, they always feel like a chore I think the truth is, that it just feeling like a mundane chore is the most desirable outcome. Just hope it doesn't feel like a huge stressful burden that saps all your energy to enjoy your life. That definitely isn't okay, and I've been there
Because they play the same game for 10000+ hours in order to commit it to muscle memory and discover every exploit and never get to play any other games during that time?
In my experience, most people spend their waking hours doing a job and chores they hate, surrounded by people they tolerate, at best, living a life they never wanted. Video games are one of the few things we can choose to participate in and time spent in them, as long as it helps us escape and makes us feel alive, is never wasted. Whether or not we finish said video game. The experience is the point. Great video, chalk one win to the youtube algo!
In my opinion it's sad that people "put up" with modern life. I honestly think that just going out and becoming homeless would improve 95% of people's daily life. We cling to the moments that give us a high, like drug addicts, and support evil corporations and corrupt countries just because we are too scared to go out and make our own life. I'm mostly done with gaming, not because I find it unenjoyable, but because I would rather be dead than "live" like most other people. Why trade your only life working a crap job you hate? There is no reason too other than fear and fear doesn't and has never existed.
There are plenty of reasons to work a job even if you dislike it. Providing food for your family, a roof over your head and a clothes to keep you warm. Hell, I have terrible eyesight and have a constant headache from my glasses. And next week I finally can get LASIK, something I couldn't do without working a 9-5. Don't get me wrong, capitalism sucks, but I can accept doing labor to ensure I can eat and have some fun afterwards.
Exactly. This is why they can become an issue. Video games, for better or worse, are infinitely capable of countering any conceivable disparity that a human being is experiencing with a proxy that is just good enough to satisfy. Tired of being the third string quarterback in college? There's a game that remedies that. Struggling with dating? There's a game for that. Always wanted to be a hero and change the world? Take your pick. The problem with gaming is that that it's too good at what it does.
“Time is the substance I am made of. Time is a river which sweeps me along, but I am the river; it is a tiger which destroys me, but I am the tiger; it is a fire which consumes me, but I am the fire.” - Jorge Borges
The part about playing micromanagement games like City Skylines being like looking at a spread sheet resonated with me greatly. I work as a software engineer, and after I started working, this type of games became a chore to me, because I felt like I'm continuing my job in my free time, planning, ensuring efficiency, removing duplications, abstracting things, devising a pipeline, all those things I do in my work, I stopped wanting to do this in my free time also
Beautiful. I'm in my 20s and I've been thinking about this a lot more lately. I tend to stick to single player and coop games with friends for the same reasons you outlined. Keep up the good work.
This was an absolutely brilliant video! Seeing that clock tick down had me thinking about my own mortality. I'm 43, almost 44, and I've already lived a little over half my life. Thinking about how the 2060's isn't that far away is a reality slap in the face. That's even if I live to be 75+ years old. I also don't finish a lot of games and would try to go back and finish them while completely forgetting most of everything about the game. There are so many new games coming out, good and bad, and it is hard to keep up with. Especially trying to find time to finish the good games in between work. This video gave me more to think about than most videos I've watched all year. I appreciate that.
Thanks so much for watching. As horrible as it may sound, this is exactly the sort of thoughts I was hoping to get from people because most of us are feeling a little lost, and we maybe just need a little nudge to say "hey, it's okay not to enjoy that big thing" or "it's okay to move on from this".
I just hit 40 this year. Been gaming since the days of NES. I've had my ups and downs with gaming too, even going long stretches - up to four years - of not touching a single game. Working full time while being married and having children makes me extremely selective with my game time. Thanks to PS+ I can try out games I normally would avoid, and if they don't resonate with me I gladly put them down and never look back. My mom is nearly 80 and my kids are almost legal adults! Life comes at you fast.
I had a sudden near death experience when I was 18 and in the few seconds it was happening I was surprised to find myself feeling unregretful. There were things I haven't done, things left unfinished, but like waking from a pleasant dream, the inevitable end in that moment seemed inexplicably palatable. But those few seconds were not the end and I feel very fortunate in the perspective I gained therein. That life isn't a ticking clock - instead every day is a bonus day I get to enjoy however I want. This largely means lots of video games and I couldn't be happier. I try lots of different genres. I go through my backlog every so often and play games people have said were good. I try not to have kneejerk reactions and I try to see the value in games, even if they don't exactly appeal to me personally. If people like them, there must be a reason. As a gamedev there is always value in being able to see the value others derive from things you can't quite get behind yourself. Early in your video you posed the question of why you often didn't finish games. You equated the time spent playing them as a loss. I have to disagree with you on this perspective and nothing else in the video (it was great, subscribed, easily). Unlike other forms of media like books or movies, the value derived from video games is not as linear. While a good movie requires you to watch all of it, perhaps multiple times to get the most value for your time - a video game is more like a wet sponge of value. When you first pick up a good game and after the brief "getting into it" period, tutorial, etc. is when you have that magical time of novelty, exploration, learning about mechanical potential and just really enjoying the game on all fronts. Those first few big squeezes of the game value sponge. Towards the end of any game, it's almost certainly become predictable. You know roughly how things are going to go, and the rest is the grind trying to wring those last few drops of value out as you make your way to the credits. With RPGs this hits a little different, sure - but imo beating most games is overrated. Play until you stop enjoying it as much or something else piques your interest. No shame in it. It's not time wasted just because you didn't finish it. There's too many amazing experiences out there to spend time on the grind. Helldivers 2 has been amazing, but my friends and I basically did everything in the first week it was out and now it's just another "let's play this if there's nothing else" games on the back burner for the weekends. Anyway, fantastic video. Going to go look through the rest of your catalog now.
That's definitely given me something to think about for sure; I can't say I've had any near death experiences so I guess that's hard for me to visualise if it ever happens to me. Thanks so much for sharing too, and thanks for the sub ☺️
There's a point in almost any game where you're able to see the limits of the experience. Another metric for replayability, I suppose. A point where all unknown novel possibilities collapse in on what the experience actually has left for you and some of the magic is certainly gone.@@Kranitoko
Wow. I think this thing of not finishing games accelerated with the short-form content (Tiktok, YT Shorts etc.). Cool perspective, maybe you can give your steam? (if you want, heh.)
I can only imagine how painful your life-experience may have been, but I appreciate you sharing your story. You articulated your thoughts about the video extremely well, too, and left me with something to think about. I, too, believe that no time is wasted on a game, as long as you enjoyed that time you spent with it. But I did not always used to feel that way. (Especially towards the end of high school, where I felt punished for my time spent with games over doing other activities that would have landed me jobs or scholarships.) And I still have trouble thinking about games left unfinished and forgotten from time to time, those which I enjoyed every minute of and wish I could pick them up as if I had just last played them yesterday instead off three years ago. But the way you explained and worded things helped me think about them. Thanks, and I hope you are having a fantastic bonus day.
I've been gaming (solo rpg's) for about 40 years. I still love it however I have also lived my life to the fullest extent possible and will continue to do so as I enter my 7th decade of life. Live, love and enjoy what fulfills you the most and thank you for a very well put together video.
I like how this puts stuff into perspective for me. I have an addiction with youtube and this FOMO of missing out on videos, this even stretches out to other websites with FOMO of content. Instead of just focusing solely on what I wanna do, I keep getting dragged into consuming content that I don't really play games that often because of it. While there's music which is great, there's a lot of "Junk information" stuff that is just not important to watch that it even hurts my productivity because of it. Even now I am finishing up an overdue artpiece late at night because I get sidetracked. This video also brings another thing with managing games, I have a big backlog of games but only maybe 20% are important to me and I'll have to play them one thing at a time but it also makes me appreciate one-time games like oneshot and outer wilds because you get a nice experience and the game doesn't keep you tethered but still leaves you with a lasting impression. Even though I replayed oneshot twice (gotta do solstice a second time) Most of the impace of the story and the challenge of puzzles was reduced.
Damn, TH-cam fomo is crazy. I can't say I really understand how that can be much of a thing for you outside of maybe anticipating and wanting to be present for particular livestreams. The overwhelming amount of my content that I consume are traditionally uploaded videos, so the worst I experience besides being overwhelmed with a backlog of videos to watch just like games to play is if I get really into a TH-camr for a while who uploads frequently I want to ride that shit like it's a crackfix lol.
@@Taima To try and answer your question it's more the worry that I could be missing out on something good itself with a video fearing that I could also forget to watch it later.
Great vid! I’m a 40 something and just began to grasp this concept about 2 years ago when my mother passed over. I also applied it to life: activities, people, goals, etc. Once you recognize your mortality, the people and things you love plus what you are here for…you engage life differently and prioritize the things you cannot overlook. I’ll play with my kids, lift weights, jog with friends, replay SMTV (Vengeance), finally play BG3 (once I get my physical copy…soon I hope), play every new Zelda Metroid and Soulsborne game until death, achieve sundry other goals and love plus support my loved ones - present and future.
This was a deeply reflective and very well-directed video. As oddly grim as this topic got, you gave a lot for us all to think about, and that means a lot. Keep it up.
As a pretty young person going through my first video game burn out right now, this video really spoke to me. I have spent more hours playing games than I have on any other thing in my life, but I’m going to be an adult very soon and I can feel myself having less and less time for the things I love. Everything you said in this video I know I will feel at some point in my life. I just really hope I can take it the same way you have and continue my life in stride.
Whatever time you have as a child/teenager, don't waste it. Because it's the last bit of time you have left before reality punches you in the face and we all follow the same road until the end.
Hey lil bro/sis. You can be an adult and still be a child(in a positive way), and enjoy what you want to enjoy.And if you meet ppl later in life who downplay your like/hobbies then those arent ppl you should surround urself with. I'll be 40 next month and i'll never not be a gamer.❤
Bro this is deep, deep enough to actually make me rethink everything. Its weird that a video bout how much time video games consume could help me. This video was something else, I should thank you. This video is nothing like the rest you see on your feed, makes u think not bout the time, but conspect of death.
this resonates with me and that’s really why i’ve been moving off of games lately and trying to become more skilled at doing things with my hands like gardening and playing by getting better at outside games
I've been on a gaming hiatus for over a year now, after I used to play almost on a daily basis. i was never able to explain why i stopped gaming, but your video helped me understand why. Thanks a lot for the amazing content, and you've truthfully earned my sub and like!
I was supposed to have a chill thing to listen to on my second stream but then you showed up and made me pause. I've had this feeling for the past few years. I couldn't put my thoughts and feelings into words but your video helped me articulate them. Great video, you just got yourself a sub.
This video just got recommended to me, and having watched it I must say it is criminally underrated. I always wonder why there are games that I love so much only to move on before finishing and then never touching them again, and you have addressed some of these feelings in a way I wouldn't have been able to articulate. Amazing work, I subscribed so I don't miss out on future content. Happy belated birthday!
This video took an unexpected turn which took me by surprise. As someone who really has struggled with thinking about death all my life (almost 30 :O) it doesn't seem to be getting any better. You've basically vocalised something that I've thought to myself internally all my along my life as a gamer. Amazing video, and its nice to know I'm not alone with this feeling
I'm going to be really honest with you, this might actually be the first video I ever watched that might really end up changing my life. Thank you for putting my feelings into words and telling me what I needed to hear
This was a very pure and honest video. The kind we don't see often anymore. Better to do a couple of things and do them passionately rather than rush a bunch of stuff you won't really care about in the end. Beautiful video man honestly I shed a tear at the end. I really feel that this video will help many people out who struggle with trying to follow some nonsense norm and culture.
I didn't even finish the video, but I had to scroll to tell you this: the way you transition between chapters and subjects is nothing short of amazing. I love this! Edit: after finishing the video and in response to your last sentence: HELL YEAH, MAN! HELL YEAH!
Dude holy shit. Thank you for sharing this video. Your message found me at the perfect time. I took a solid break from video games and this year I wanted to get back into it. I built a desktop pc with a 7800x3d, 4070Ti super, and 32gb. Fortnite did to me what apex did to you. I had such a big realization when you were talking about grinding mp games. I’m uninstalling Fortnite and cs2 when I get home. Unless I’m trying to go pro I honestly see no reason in playing a competitive mp game. Like yeah you can always play for fun, but at that point I feel like my time would be way better spent playing a memorable single player title or even practicing my guitar. I guess I resonate very deeply with this video too cause I am similar age to you (I turn 30 this September) I don’t plan on quitting video games but I would like to find a healthier and more conscious relationship with them. On the bright side I can finally get started on the single player games I bought but never ended up playing! Gonna get started on Persona 3 reload this weekend!
I remember back in the day when I realized I wouldn’t be able to read every single book that ever existed. That was actually a paradigm-shifting moment. I still enjoy reading vociferously, but I also have a better recognition of the preciousness of time.
I started watching the video because of the title and then when I heard that you aren’t a fan of Nolan too , I instantly liked the video . All this time I thought I was the only one , anyways , this video is just too great , from the heart pounding countdown of the start to the banger ending , I loved it man . Thank you !
As I’ve entered my 20s, I have really started to accept that I will no longer have the time to play games like I used to as a teenager. This video really resonated with me for that reason, I’ve stopped worrying about staying in that loop of playing the newest release and being scared of missing out. Thanks for making this video, I really enjoyed it. :)
The clock ticking and timer counting down reminds me of Unus Annus. I miss those days, but I'm so glad I was there from the beginning. Looking forward to the new video every day. Seeing what stupid shit Mark and Ethan were going to do. And of course, Pee Sauna. It truly was an experience of a lifetime for me.
Man what a beautiful video. Your ending with baldur's gate 3 was like mine with Elden Ring. After i completed my first playthrough for 150+ hours. I had a sudden surge of emotions that i just cant help but let it all out. It was magical. It feels like once in a lifetime experience. Take care mate! Cheers!
The algorithm just picked this up, got it in my recommended feed, I sent two comments with this one and gave a like, hope it keeps recommending this out to people this is a great video
This was a great video! I often have to remind myself the same things, but it’s hard to not feel like I’m missing out sometimes. Thanks for making this!
This video reminded how I made the correct choice to improve my gaming habits some years ago I used to 100% every single game I played no matter how frustrating or time consumng some achievements were. Then I had a 7 year break on video games as I skipped the PS4 generation and got the PS5 a bit over a year ago. I also got a laptop that could play games late last year I have played so many different games and genres since getting to properly play again and been such a blast. If I had still been in the mindset to 100% every game, I probably would have experienced only 1/3 of them if even that It really did boil down to the "why do I grind these to 100%". I didnt get any extra enjoyment out of it. I just did it cause I had to. Maybe to tell others that I 100% game x. Maybe to get everything out that the game has to offer Similar thing happened with difficulty settings. I used to only pick the hardest difficulty option at the start. I think it was God of War 3 where it broke me when I had to reset one checkpoint at the very end like 40+ times until beat it. Nowadays I go purely by vibe. For exsmple in Persona games I like to put invincibility on during dungeons and then change back to normal setting when boss fights happen And lastly I learned to drop games that I do not enjoy playing. Used to play every game from beginning to the end even if I hated playing it I think most of these boil down to some form of want to flex to others about your achievements. If you're in a similar situation as I was, a good question to ask yourself is "Would I do this thing if no one else but me knew about it" Funny how you can do a complete 180 with your habits which seemed like something you will continue doing till your deathbed
Just like you, I was crying so hard after finishing Baldurs Gate 3 and watching the credits, because I knew something was ending I could never experience the same way again. I was so inspired by the experience they gave me. It was only the second game I've ever played through and the first game, that made me this emotional throughout. I still love playing the game, but nothing will ever be as great as opening the game up, watching the intro and going through every state of the campaign for the first time. Although, i am sad that it ended, I am so happy for the experience because I'll always have the memory of the satisfaction and joy this game brought me over several month of playing. You are so right, our time is not endless and I think, I want to choose more careful what games I invest time in in the future and want to chase games, that can give me an immersive experience such as BG3. Ultimately, the only reason we play a game should be, that it is fun or gives us satisfaction in any way. Therefore, it is a good idea to reflect on the hours spend in a game from time to time to see if it still brings one joy ♥️
How far you’ve come in the 12 years since your swtor days. I check in on your channel every now and again, and seeing this was a pleasant surprise. This video really resonated with me, and I thank you for it. Happy living, Kranitoko.
Genre and grind are absolutely the biggest factors for me and I consider myself pretty open to genres. Very interesting to see the perspectives of the mediums vast landscape.
Excellent video, we should do the things that we enjoy and love, not just compulsively indulge in something even though we do not enjoy it or feel burn out and bad.
This was a beautiful video, and it is such a strong message from a psychological perspective. I loved it, and there is nothing I would have rather been doing with my time the last 16 minutes. I have spoken the same way about multiplayer games, and many outside of gaming do not understand the vast differences between Apex versus Alan Wake (for example). The tone and editing were amazing as well. Thanks for the powerful ideas today!
Been having a bad day and I'm not sure you intended this but even though I do like me some video games, this message resonated for me with everything else in life to the point of almost bringing myself to tears. Thank you.
This is a good video, and I disagree on time lost on videogames that aren't finished. Also, I think that re-playing story games isn't a loss of time either, nor a devaluation of the first experience, rather, a second (third or nth) experience, that has its own value, often related to the first time too. You experience a story and "learn" it better, gaining new perspectives and maybe teaching yourself something about life also. I think videogames are a kind of media, so they are simulations that we humans use to conceive ideas and emotions, that can travel from mind to mind, to expand the compendium of human endevour. This is particularly beautiful, and expanding on this, corroborating the efficacy of time spent on things, is a useful reflection, we may always choose how to spend our time, and not many have this kind of luxury, not at the level even this video assumes (let's say you're sick in bed and can't even hold a controller, nor walk!). So yeah, the maybe not explicit message of this video is "enjoy life, for the time anyone has is limited, and be open about experiences you'll make". If I didn't misread the author intentions or the subtext and context of the video, I wholehearthedly agree, and I might add, videogames are a tool, and my dad told me once "every tool shall be used, not abused". So definitely don't spend too much time on videogames, especially the ones that you particularly dislike, and find more things to enjoy in life (books, sports, travels maybe? hell even spreadsheets, I found out that I like maths, as an adult!). About Sekiro, footnote: that game taught me patience, and trained my reflexes a lot. It also taught me and the value of time spent living, and the fact that our illusion that we may achieve some kind of immortality is detrimental to our own soul (as in our essence as human beings, what makes us human). Sever immortality, embrace living (and dying, death is part of the process).
This video is literally life changing. Clicking on this, i thought that it will be some self improvement shit. But no, it's and adult guy, talking about his experience with games. I am currently 17 yo, with light gaming addiction. It's refreshing to hear, that i won't be able to play everything, that there is no point in playing. Yes, I will be one of the best Apex players, then what? For whom I did this? Myself? Not much of a benefit. Thank you, and again. This is top notch content, and you are rly inspiring as a person. All Love
I love how that clock really makes you think, time is ticking it never stops so make sure you try to enjoy every second doing what you want to do. Be present in the moment and have fun doing it. Great video
Thanks TH-cam algorithm for getting this one right. I absolutely love this kind of essays and thought out ideas. Your points about games not having to be accessable to everyone make me miss games made for specific players. Almost all big names nowadays just care about growth and money, but for that they try to make a game appeal to a too wide of an audience, making their games feel soul- and aimless. Not just in their difficulty but in general. And Fromsofts Souls-Series really feels like one of the few blockbuster games, that stay somewhat true to their vision.
Insta-sub 10 minutes in. Very relatable and I have come across this very subject in my mind. Very well put my friend. Keep up the great and honest work
i really want to say a lot, i share this feeling that you are describing from the other side of the world and is awesome to listen to someone go a little deep on the soul of the gamer ty for your opinion and sorry 4 my bad english
Thanks for making this video man. I struggle to not finish things due to my autism so this was joy to watch, since it's somewhat annoying yet sobering to realise you really can't do everything, especially since there's so many amazing games ou there. I can also relate to fearing death, but one thing that really helped me through that was reading Heaven is For Real by Todd Burpo. You don't have to be religious to read it, and I think you'll still enjoy it, heck you'll probably like it more if you don't believe so I'd recommend everyone to pick it up, from amazon or a local book store, anywhere really, since it really helped me come to terms and make peace with the idea of my death. And I hope it can help you guys too
One of the best videos I have spent my time watching and really gave me a new perspective which videos I watch rarely do. Thank you for appearing in my TH-cam feed
@@1992zorro I started a new playthough recently. Not a veteran with FromSoft games, but I think what makes Elden Ring special is the crazy amount of original worldbuilding, alongside the immersive world. It's grand and elaborate while also having the ability to be quiet and dark, much like life. It's not all flashy, like many games are. And like real life, you are on your own journey, but with the messages left in the game, there is a sense of community and joint experience. I'm really enjoying my time with it, and highly recommend it if you like exploring and good worldbuilding!
man i usually dont comment on videos that much, i cant express how much this video meant to me. im a 17yr old who loves games like battle royales and competetive games, which of course because of my love of those games i grew to be a competetive player and hated on missing out on new stuff daily. i put in at least 1000 hours on a single game but in the long run i looked back at those hours and i really coudnt feel anything about them. my first story game was ghost of tsushima and i only spent like 80 hours on it, funny thing is those 80 hours meant alot to me more than the 1000s of hours i put on the competetive games. games are meant to be the escape reality, and reality itself is really competetive. so my advivce is just play games for chilling and relax and enjoy a good fantasy world and a story. thank u so much for making this video :)
The fact some games are started and never finished due to time and then there are some games i've played through several times despite time really shows which are the good games.
This is the first video I’ve ever seen or heard of from this channel. Subbed immediately upon completion. Beautiful content, sums up a lot of how I feel as well as some things I hadn’t really put into words!
My birthday is just around the corner and I'm gonna be 31 just like you. All of what you said resonates with what I've been observing and thinking. Thank you for sharing
Man I’ve had this problem for awhile, stressing over what game I should play or if I should buy new games, afraid of missing out on what everyone else is playing/my friends are playing or games I wanna play. This video is just what I needed bro, 10/10. Subbed. Imma go chill out and play Skyrim now.
I feel like this lesson resonates with a lot of people because of the focus on video games, but this idea applies to well... everything. We all have a limited time for which we exist. We all have endless paths that we can take through life. Some of those paths may have lead to a happier life. Others, less so. Putting aside transient experiences like multiplayer games seems like a smart move. What were those hours for? How can I justify the time spent, out of my ever-shrinking pool of it? These are the questions that seem to plague us once we reach a certain point in "that" multiplayer game. If I had spent that time with quality single-player games, I could have had numerous emotionally-powerful experiences. Things to reflect back on as I age. Things to point to, and say to myself "It was worth it". But if you go one level deeper, there's another thing to realize. That even that, is fleeting. Everything we've ever done, or will do will eventually fade to memory. And then, sooner or later, to nothing. Even if it seems "permanent", it is anything but. To look at the time we have left, and to push to accomplish things, or have big "moments" where we feel alive is sort-of missing the point. It doesn't matter if you spent 18 hours grinding a game without achievements, or big "wow" moments. If you enjoyed it, then it was worth it. If you push through 40 hours of content you don't enjoy, just to get that one moment that brings you to tears, was that truly worth it? In the end, it's not for anyone else to decide but yourself. Life's a journey, and we all know the destination. Just like Kranitoko described his Balder's Gate play-through, I think true happiness comes from accepting that the choices you've made, not worrying about the what-ifs, and taking every small step as the treasure it is. And then letting it go.
You're literally talking about me......like all the way seriously....minus the souls section of course & another game instead of Apex..... played out like ur my bloody guardian angel or something.....lol Bt it's reassuring to know there's someone out there going through some of the experiences I do or have & having similar opinions about them.....it breaks my heart everytime I finish a game & knowing that replaying it renders my experiences irrelevant or how multiplayer js completely sucks ur soul, actually I think u js helped me find out what's wrong with me.... thanks alot & am glad knowing am not the only one overdosed on 3am thoughts & think I'll also spend the rest of my life playing bloody video games. Wonderful video btw, think I'll stick around for more
how you framed this video.. is exactly how i feel abt it all. And it's great to know some1 out there thinks similarly in the respect that it's important to remember that the time we have and how we choose to spend it is what should motivate us to weigh our decisions more carefully esp in the time we spend on our hobbies and personal life. Much appreciated~!
Gaming is fun. I am surprised to see a lot of people cannot accept that certain games are just not for them. Some games might be objectively trash. But most of the popular games are still not for everyone. So why waste the time on those games, grumbling why they don´t cater for you, why don´t those game make this and make that so that you can enjoy? Putting it aside and moving on to another game is simple. But many people just can't do that. I've read review on Sekiro denouncing those who enjoy the game as jobless losers. Sekiro is a great game. And you don't like it, it's not for you, and it's OK. Like myself, I don't know why but I just cannot enjoy Witcher 3 at all. So I put it aside, never return to anything on this game and I feel good about that.
The whole section about a game's story ending reminded me of a characters' words from Persona 3 "The more engaging a story is, the more I want to get lost in it, but... I'm always afraid to finish it." - Akinari Kamiki
Yes! These are the things that I always wanted someone to tell me. I am enjoying games. Very much. I have played hundreds of games over the years. Souls Titles, crpg's etc. I even got into the tabletop rpgs. But nowadays I feel like, to improve myself, my culture or knowledge, I must play every game ever made that are considered as masterpieces. This and some other people I follow made me realize that if you don't know yourself, to understand what you like, it is okay to spend time on different things maybe on games you think you don't like. Just like you did in souls games. But when you know and understand what you like and what you want. You don't have to, and also can't play every game. You just need to pursue "yourself" and your likes. Because that is what makes you yourself. Do what you like and what you want. I am still trying to overcome my FOMO. This video opened my third eye. Thank you Kranitoko. You earned a new sub. Nolan films suck btw.
This video was so well-made and validating for me, as I struggle sometimes knowing where to move forward next, and often fall victim to analysis-paralysis with the overwhelming amount of choice we have in gaming. It's a great problem to have in this modern landscape but can be tough. I made a similar video to yours right around the same time called "You'll Never Be Able to Play Everything", it's just so wild to encounter someone else from a totally different background reaching similar conclusions. We must be doing something right. 🤝
8:11 ‘you might as well just keep working’ this is the biggest reason I stop playing games. The moment a game gets boring, my brain just tells me ‘you aren’t even having fun, at least get ahead on work’
Haha the line was a joke, don't actually keep on working. Most jobs don't care about you, you are expendable, work your contracted hours and then don't even think about your job, if something stops being fun, try a different game.
Brilliant video mate, absolutely relate on many of the reasons I might play an RPG once unless it's an mmo. Sometimes I take breaks from gaming for months but always get surprised when I get back into it again.
Thank you for making this video. Not only did it resonate with me, as I’ve often struggled with everything you’ve mentioned (especially what you mention in the last few minutes of the video), but I’ve often wondered what the meaning of my time is. Both your video as well as the comment section gave me a genuine energy and enthusiasm boost. Much love and may the TH-cam algorithm bless you.
Great video, I found it quite relatable. I'm 34 and there was a period when my time available to play games started steadily dropping and I think I over compensated by buying every game with a good review fors couple years creating a massive backlog that I was never going to accomplish. It hit me after a while to just play the types of games I've always loved and that's it. Playing something that you think of as being just ok is a terrible idea
Growing up is a hell of a new experience. I mever thought I'd change my views on games. And in under a few years, I started having the views in this video. Good video
I love challenging games. I had intentionally avoided getting into any soulslikes because I was never interested in difficulty for the sake of difficulty, and it took me completing all the missions in Pikmin 3 with a gold medal to realize something about myself. I will do an arduous task repeatedly for basically no reward other than the satisfaction of knowing I could do it. I didn't just beat Celeste, I feel like I rocked that game's main story mode as someone who's never even played a precision platformer before. I realized that I did want to try, I just didn't feel like the games were my cup of tea, and honestly aside from having the worst sense of direction I've been having a blast, even if I'm dying every time I find a new enemy. Its not the novelty of doing something hard, its me using my collective knowledge of video games over the past 15 or so years of my life to prove that nothing is truly hard, you just have to find your groove with it.
Amazing video! FFX was my first emotional meltdown at credit roll as well. Even merely hearing that tune from FFX in the background of your video still chokes me up. That game changed me, I hope to live through a remake or sequel of it as my dying wish 😅. I don't think I've seen another TH-cam video express so well my own personal experience with gaming. Thank you for that!
Damn. What you said about „burnout“ is exactly what happened to me. I played every souls game made by fromsoftware (including bloodborne) to max level, all items, every weapon maxed out, ng+99. Just because I LOVED these games and I wouldn’t ever want to play any other game. But then I finished elden ring.. started ng+ aaand.. didn’t touch it until recently. Somehow to know I have to beat this massive world elden ring has again, made me somehow SAD and left me with ZERO motivation to continue. It laid dormant for 1 year now. Let’s see how long my new motivation to continue it lasts. But I do have hope right now, with the dlc and some new changes
I felt this on another level. I have purchased over 750 games since i got my ps4(now ps5) and have a bad habit of buying games when theyre on sale to go back to them later but i never do 😭. You said it best. Dont force yourself into playing something youre not having fun with. Words have never been truer my friend.
Been reading all of your own thoughts and experiences and it's wild to see how many people this video resonated with, and even when it didn't to see you all sharing your own personal stories is really touching.
I recommend reading the comments below, some amazing perspectives to be found! Thank you all ❤️
Thank you for making this video!
This video summed up my feelings and experiences with games so unbelievably well. Thank you so much for this phenomenal video (and letting me know I’m a “mid-core” gamer lol). In return, I’d like to offer a suggestion for a game that I think is absolutely worth your time and even fits in with the narrative of this video so exceptionally well I was waiting to hear it be named dropped the whole video: Outer Wilds. Probably my most favorite game of all time and also one of the only games I have cried over (multiple times tbh). Genuinely one of the most unique and beautiful experiences in gaming for me
@@ghostprime6320 Outer Wilds is a game I've tried twice but unfortunately fell off of each time I played it because, like in the video, I would just get distracted. I need to try again though as I am keen to finish it someday.
@@Kranitoko I can definitely understand that, I have some pretty bad ADHD so I can’t even tell you how many games I’ve stopped playing mid play through and/or forgotten about.
I know you said you’d stop just bc you’d get distracted but I’d still like to say something that’s helped other people I know who wanted to try to finish it but struggled for whatever reason: 1. it’s not too long at only like 10-20 hours long depending (about double with the DLC which is 100% worth it) 2. Don’t worry about where you “need” to go but rather let your curiosity guide you to discover and 3. The computer in the ship keeps track of important info an discoveries made so you can also check that for a clue/hint where you might want to go next or to remember info you forgot if you put the game down for a while. I hope some of that is helpful and not just preaching to the choir and I hope you enjoy the game whenever you try it!
It's the opposite for me, my OCD is too overpowering, so it takes a remarkably awful game for me to drop it, and even then, it kinda bothers me not finishing them. But not finishing a game or book that I'm enjoying, is not something I could ever do. And considering that I have been playing games since 1985, My backlog is not so bad.
You can't play everything, that's for sure, but you can cover a lot of ground if you stick to the good stuff in the genres you like the most, even if you like to mix new games and replaying old games like me. Hang in there.
"You can't do everything" is the only cure to FOMO. You cannot experience everything. You are absolutely going to miss out on a lot. So instead of worrying about what else might be out there, try to cherish the experiences that you, and maybe only you, make. If you enjoy the strange indie game you just got into, you don't need to chase the trend and play what everyone else is playing. If you do find yourself enjoying what's popular at the moment, that's also great - be glad that you can make this grand discovery alongside everyone else. If you think that what you're doing is worth it, there is nothing better to do, because if you were doing something else, you wouldn't be doing what you are doing, and you would be missing out. So all you need to ask yourself is, do I want to do what I am doing?
FOMO can be cured simply by missing once. And if it doesn't, try again.
Yes, if I happened to finish a game then sure, it is finished. But most of the time, many are left open ended just because I shifted my focus to something else.
I definitely feel this. I used to try and keep up With every game and get all rewards that I could. Then I just got tired of it. Decided to only spend my time on games that I actually Want to play. What's the point of logging in to collect rewards if I never play that game, but to only just log on to collect the rewards? Lol, sounds dumb when you think about it.
I think this is because underlying we want to be around others, to play the newest game because X and Y plays it.
I never chase hype or buy games at full price. I can obsess over one or a few games. Or just try something absolutely new and love it. Enjoy your time. We all live forever until we don't.
"Time you enjoy wasting, isn't wasted"
I have spent my life living by this philosophy and I am left with regret. There is more to life than just joy.
@@coreyrachar9694 Like what? It's not like you sacrifice love, pain, dread, proudness, etc. for trying to simply enjoy your life.
@@kodorogames I dunno... Like Pride.. Satisfaction, a sense of love and community. There are many positive emotions and states a person can experience that are not just pure joy.
After awhile living that way the hedonistic longing for joy will fade and you can end up feeling kind of empty if you didn't work towards anything ever.
@@coreyrachar9694 that's also apart of joy bro, go do something down to earth. Go mow someone's lawn. Go mingle and make friends, actually build a relationship with a friend worth keeping close to you. Regarding community.. uhm. I'm not sure about that one. I'm not one to care what others think of me unless I cherish and love them. You can overcome that regret bro. It ain't the end of the road yet and I know cause your here messaging! You still got time to go do somethin to earn that pride. Love. Just gotta keep chugging! Learn a new skill, harness it. Ain't for you? You tried. Keep on moving. Keep on doing what you love (unless it hurts others) one thing I'd be happy doing is building a cabin. Could be a camp. Could just be some sticks in the ground and putting logs against the stuck sticks and a tarp for a roof and a warm cozy fire. Get that sense of accomplishment that you did the thing. You got this bro. Just keep that joy and don't lose it.
@@coreyrachar9694 Yes, I see your point. But I also think those are things you can enjoy, and are therefore related to joy.
Besides, there are many people (like myself) who don't feel the need to work towards more than they already have, and are happy with how their life or situation is.
My point being: you're right, you can't carelessly seek joy if that means you're gonna wreck other aspects of your life that are (or might be) important to you, but joy is compatible with those things too.
I just need immortality and enough money to buy every piece of entertainment in a single day.
Me too Brotha!!!
I think even then you still won't have enough time to play everything. If you also can stop sleeping, eating and anything else that isn't gaming you might have a chance. Probably still no chance though.
I'd be willing to settle for the immortality.
This would cause a paradox, where you can never play every game you want to play before more games that you want to play are made.
@@LivingTheorem . I would not get into the new ones until finishing the old ones though.
I'm 61, I won't be alive in 2071, sobering thought... I love video games. Some I finish, lots I don't, but that's okay. I don't have a backlog… I just…play. I like this topic. Very well presented, great job. Thank you.
i'm 16, my birthday was 9 days ago, your youtube account is older than me. Age is quite the funny thing isnt it...
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Man stop this is nothing to laugh in
@@lyricalfortnite9623bro what are you even saying
@@monkez25 can you be my wife
Ill play future games for you in 50 years
As Confucius said, we have two lives....our second life starts when we realize we only have one.
confucius never said that
@@guilhermezardo7671It took me a copy + paste and about 20 seconds to verify that he did, in fact, say that.
@@guilhermezardo7671just act like he did
@@yousifazim4720 🤣🤣🤣🤣
This is something that applies to life itself really. You can't do everything. You have to make choses and cut out the things that you don't prioritize.
The most fun you can have in life is by trying out new things. You won't necessarily fall in love with everything, but you won't know unless you try. Even the things you end up disliking would have been worth trying out because of how unique that experience was.
So hard to do it too. You end up realizing that by not doing something yet you've been choosing not to do the thing you expected you might. And eventually you discover it's too late and have to accept it. That could range from finding out you can't play some online only game anymore that you wanted to try ... to not being able to visit your parents anymore...
Agreed, no time for shitty product I'm on my way to playthrough classics that I've never got to finish as a child.
I usually finish the games i start but i end up buying every game im interested in on sale and never end up playing 50% of them 😂
most of the modern games just shills sjw blm lgbt. don't worth the time anyways.
100% - a while back I filtered steam to unplayed and just about shit myself.
This is why I only buy new games when I finish the ones I have lol
This is my Steam Library 😂
Yes😂😂😂
Giving me existential dread right out the gate
😂😂😂 welcome to a slither of my world ❤️
Being aware of your own mortality doesn't have to be a bad thing though.
It can be beautiful and make you appreciate every second of life.
Read up on some stoic philosophy, it was being echoed through all their teachings.
Gave me existential dread before I even clicked on the video
i hate that searing gut feeling of anxiety.
Thank you for reminding me why my 30+ year gaming hobby came to a grinding halt 5 years ago. I loved gaming, it was my life, but I had finally realized that there were so many other things out there that I passed up trying just because how difficult it'd be to keep up with my gaming.
Im happy to say Ive been learning to play guitar for 5 years now, and i love every moment of it.
When I was 18 I told myself that I was going to play games non stop for my 20s, then learn something else for the next 10 years and so on.
When I reached 30, I kept on my word and I slowed down video games and started to learn how to draw. It has been 1 year since then and it is a struggle but I'm having a blast.
In my 40s I'll probably learn an instrument, because that is what I had already decided that I wanted to do in my 40s.
@@einhasad7 so awesome that you are keeping to your word and sticking to a plan. And if you ever decided to veer from he plan a little bit, that's okay too!
I hope to learn to draw as well, someday. I'm okay at painting, drawing what to paint, not so much!
Not sure how learning to play guitar is any different of a hobby.
Most of all whatever you do have fun and share it with other people.
In elementary school, I was put in Violin Lessons and in high school a few people told me that I should take up the Guitar for the social opportunities. It would open up. Instead of being a kid and enjoying high school I got it in my head that I needed to be the most technical player I knew so I spend ridiculous amount of time in a room by myself practicing technical things and treating the instrument like a sport. In college, I ended up with one language as a major and a different one for a minor. Instead of enjoying the frivolity of college as most people do I devoted all my time to excellence and I even surprised my professors when it came time for a senior verbal interview. A couple of auto accidents made lots of things difficult for a while and it felt like I was starting over. I picked up some IT and cyber security certifications that brought me back to gaming, but it was picking up Brazilian Jujitsu that really changed my outlook. Maybe it’s being in my 40s now, but for the first time ever I feel no pressure to be the best and focus on my efforts on being able to teach others and helping them get better.
I actually have a cheap electric guitar arriving tomorrow, which I’m just going to have fun with, Just like a piano that I was playing in a friends house the other day, which I also haven’t touched in years. Everyone commented on how relaxing it was and I was finally able to do something musical just for fun.
Just want to say to everyone you can absolutely do both and can have more than one hobby. You don’t have to give up gaming to learn something new. I work full-time as a music teacher, play and practice multiple instruments, am in multiple bands practicing twice a week, am married, and STILL have time to play games, and play a decent amount too.
The key is time management, accepting that as an adult, you might not have time to play games every day, or as much as you did when you were a kid/teen, but you can definitely set aside an hour or two of gaming a day and still make time for other hobbies/passions/responsibilities. Just get shit done so you have time for it. The biggest time killer is doom scrolling, TH-cam Shorts, TikTok, Instagram ect.
I’d recommend cutting down on some of that as I believe that’s much worse than playing a good video game, especially a story game. Have fun and do what you love but get shit done and don’t waste your life away! Live your life your way!
This is so true. For the past 2 years, I’ve always had this feeling of guilt whenever I play video games, because I know I can instead allocate my time and focus on something important, like studying for my certification and improving my skills in my field; but at the same time, I look for excuses to keep playing video games.
Time is important, yes playing video games can be some sort of reward after a long day of school, work, or studying. But at the same time, it’s so addicting that it makes you forget that you also have other things to focus on. Yes, discipline and time management can counter this but to certain degree.
Im kinda glad that im not alone in this. I hope everyone can attain happiness and success with whatever goals you have in mind.
As someone who has spent probably the majority of their life playing video games this video resonates with me so much - every single point made I completely relate to.
I’m an achievement Hunter so I try complete games 100% before moving on but yet I still have a massive backlog of games started and never finished because another new shiny one was round the corner or I watched a piece of content on an old game that brought me back to it.
I remember playing AND LOVING Titanfall when it came out but after 2 days of playing just… never played it again - there was no reason, I enjoyed it but I just kept playing other games and never went back…
There’s also your opinion on the souls games, I’ve personally never played one, I plan to one day yet having heard many a gamer complain about their difficulty and wishing for an easier experience thus undermining the games theme, mechanics, tone etc I’ve always been in the “well this game just wasn’t meant for you - if you don’t have the time to improve yourself it’s just not an experience you’ll have and that’s ok” camp. We are in the age where you can search up a full play through of the game and watch it start to finish anyway. You want the story? It’s right there!
I know EXACTLY why you got burned out after not getting diamond in apex because missing out on FOMO causes burnout - I 100% apex then moved on back in season 1 but I had a very similar experience in Fortnite. I played from OG season 1 - season 4 earning all rewards in the battle pass UNTIL I just didn’t put enough time in season 4 and didn’t earn all of the rewards, they had just released some “upgrading skins” where the skin would get better the higher level you got that season and now I had skins that were unfinished FOREVER so… I stopped playing completely.
I play so many different games because I want to experience many different worlds and so it’s hard to go back to something I’ve “done” because to me it a waste of the precious time I have left.
In fact, I had an idea for a series I plan to make covering what games I found so interesting or were so good that I would be willing go back and 100% it FROM SCRATCH when it’s something I almost never do.
Brilliant video! I’m glad the algorithm caught your channel. Excited to see what’s next!
Thank you so much for the super comment! I've never had one of those on my channel before 😭
I hope one day you do at least try the souls games; I think everybody has to at least "try" them, and if they don't like them, that's fine, they tried. Although it may be tough to play the older ones after starting it, I definitely recommend starting with Elden Ring as it starts out more forgiving than some souls games do. If that's too much, then Dark Souls 1 is just as fine of a starting place; compared to the likes of Bloodborne, DS2-3, Demon's Souls and Sekiro, it feels like the easier.
The burnout for Apex makes sense; I was always excited for that dive trail, but then at the same time, if I WAS showing my dive trail and I had a dud match, once in a while people would be like "fake diamond", so not only was it a sense of FOMO, but even once in a while people were rude anyway, so I wasn't happy.
And correct, I play many games because there's so many worlds and adventures to go on. Variety is the spice of life as they say.
You should definitely go for the series if you're really passionate about it. If you do, let me know and I'll check it out :)
Thank you again for the super comment! Have a great rest of your weekend!
@@Kranitoko Something I find kinda difficult is figuring out what games are truly ones that I simply will not be able to play for one reason or another versus ones that just entail varying levels of difficulty to get into properly. Felt like you were telling me my life's story in the earlier parts of the video - the Dark Souls thing a decade ago, trying and failing miserably. Saying "fuck this, this difficulty shit is stupid," and quitting. Then Bloodborne comes and I try and fail again but slightly more successfully. Tried and failed to do DS1 once or twice in the years since.
Then Elden Ring came and that was the closest I got to glory. Being able to go elsewhere in the world as needed was huge, but eventually I felt like I was hitting walls in too many places and it frustrated me and practically turned me off against my will. I WANT to be able to play these games. I WANT to persevere. I want a lot here, because I feel like somewhere in me is the kind of person who would find these games to be as amazing and nigh-life altering as so many others have found it. But I struggle so fucking hard with patience and frustration and I just don't know how to overcome it :(
Also with the Apex burnout thing, sometimes I think these kinds of incidents like you and the other guy have described are sort of a sign from your mind that your heart isn't in it anymore, but it's just that failing to reach those objectives you typically strive for can be an awfully frustrating way of telling yourself you don't want to anymore. Especially if you're so wrapped up in the grind of a game that it's literally just part of your day:
"Of course I'm gonna play Apex/CS/Fortnite/Warzone/etc. The fuck else would I be doing? Of course I'm gonna play the new season content, complete x y and z of the battle pass and ranking, this is what I 'enjoy'" And then suddenly you find out that you've just been going through the motions, usually for longer than you realized and it all just kinda comes down on you at once.
For better or worse I've found myself to fall off incredibly hard from multiplayer games, so I'm rarely feeling a desire to play those games let alone pursue any goals or FOMO things like that. I dunno how/why that happened, but its been within the last few years or so. I had a few buddies who I lost touch with who I would play cod with and get all pissed off like I used to about stupid shit when playing, and sometimes would play Overwatch with my homie on the weekends and then it all just fizzled out. Now I'm pretty exclusively singleplayer or SP games with MP elements I ignore, or that are kinda online while being solo (Diablo IV for example).
I have a game that will take your life away if you are trying to 100% everything. Dont play Elder Scrolls Online XD This game is like crack to me like Apex is to Kranitoko
@@Taimagames are just lacking with innovation these days.
Normally I'm not even logged in to my TH-cam account, but this video resonated so much with me that I signed in just to write this comment. I was shocked to see that this video didn't even have over 1000 views at the time of writing this because it was so well-made. Your taste of games is really similar to mine and the example of Apex Legends just hit home because it caused the exact same thing to me, I played the game even though I felt no sense of accomplishment. The people who played this game with me, I barely talk to nowadays, which makes me kind of sad to be honest because we had a really good time together for a while. I think Video games played a big role in shaping who I am, and the experiences we made will stick for a lifetime. So with this comment, I just want to give my sincere thanks to you for making this video and wish you a statistically speaking wonderful next 47 and a half years of your life.
Thanks so much! It's wild to see how many people this relates to. I don't think I talk to a single person I met on Apex anymore. It even got to a point when someone would try to add me I'd say "yeah but we'll just forget about each other in a few months, so is there any point"? And I guess it's all about just being in the moment. For a brief while, you made a friend and that's helped shape you too.
I think you have to at least play Elden Ring or a souls game sometime in your lifetime because if you stick with it, you'll have the greatest time in a video game.
@Shuttle_Bug ninja gaiden is not a souls game. Whats you talking about bro
@denberzfan5759 Ninja Gaiden is a different beast all together. Great gameplay and super tough
I was actually shocked hearing all of this. Very relatable! Usually when a buy I new game I play it only once(except multiplayer games) because I’m too attached to that version of the story. Replaying it over and over with different outcomes and stories would make it meaningless for me ;/
I have been thinking about this for a while, I don’t have that much time to play and why waste it just to play what others think is fun or empty multiplayers while I can just enjoy my free time in things I actually want to do! Great video 🎉
You seriously want to believe if I can't beat anything from software makes maybe gaming isn't for me. Well F##k y#u. Pal.
Are you challeging me?
Literally me
I think he's challenging you.
Good luck playing the rock-paper-scissors game I made in my programing class at summer camp 26 years ago. Mine is the one where you can type 13579 and get the secret nuclear weapon ending.
Great video that serves as an important reminder, it isn't worth trying to chase it all. You can tell yourself "I'll just finish this one then I'll focus on other goals", or "This one is different, really" but the core experience each time is pretty similar.
As a man of 30 years who's played video games as my main hobby since I was 5, and now taking a complete break from video games for a full year. I can say they've been a big part of my life, brought me much enjoyment and comfort in hard times, shaped me as a person, and taught me some interesting things.
However I paid a price in time and energy that was redirected away from important areas, especially socialising, which only gets harder as you get older. You take it for granted that you'll always have the same time and social opportunities at 30 that you did at 18.
Not to mention, I find videogames just don't 'hit me' in the same way they did. You can't fully immerse yourself like you did, when you have a job, bills to pay, chores to do, and self-improvement to consider and make time/energy for. Always followed by a feeling that you should be doing better with your time. Plus, after 25 years of gaming, it feels like there's very little that seems original or can engage you in the same way anymore, 'it's all the same' aside from the odd indie game.
I have moderated my VG consumption in the last few years, spent time in more areas that yield more tangible lasting rewards, such as fitness, racing, dancing, marital arts, and trying to make in effort to actively put myself out there socialising. It's going in the right direction, but it's hard to shake the feeling that I've started a little late, mostly because videogames made it far too easy to entertain myself and occupy my time, 10 years goes by super fast if you're not paying attention, I promise.
Surprisingly I haven't missed them as much as I thought. Once my year away from them is up, it will be a strict weekend/holiday hobby and no more than 2 hours on those days. I think I appreciate them as a side hobby than a main one, and for the memories and experiences they gave me as opposed to the more muted experience I have with them now. I'm content to let most new games slide as I know how much of life they can take up, and how much more life has to offer.
Videogames can still be fun, but always aim for the Good Ending in Real Life guys. 🙌
REAL
It’s nice to know that there are a lot of us out here. Sometimes I worry that I have spent too much of my time playing video games. In all honesty, I feel like sometimes my real world is when I’m playing a new game… and that going to work and taking care of myself are just chores in between. I do other things of course, but none of those things feel like proper spending of free time the way finishing a great rpg does. I appreciated this video a lot for the relatability.
Your comment itself is also very relatable. Right now, I am in college. I only hope that when I have an actual job I am paid for that I do not feel like work is just a chore. Right now, a lot of it is. I want so badly for it to be over and lol I am even procrastinating this very moment. I even have a lot of feedback showing that what I am doing now should not be indicative of what I will do once in the workforce, but it is scary that I do not have any guarantee.
@@marcusorta714for me personally, as someone who has worked full time for the last 10 years, work has always felt like a chore. A new job can feel exciting enough at first to feel novel, but usually in an anxious and not entirely pleasant way. The idea of a new job is always more exciting than the reality of it. And eventually, they always feel like a chore
I think the truth is, that it just feeling like a mundane chore is the most desirable outcome. Just hope it doesn't feel like a huge stressful burden that saps all your energy to enjoy your life. That definitely isn't okay, and I've been there
@@marcusorta714 So fricking relatable...
You need to make a slight change man, it’s unhealthy to only game.
@@markusbosch2305elaborate why it's unhealthy
Don't tell speedrunners this
I know it's a joke but speedrunners actually have to play the same Game over and over again til they Master it and memorize it.
@alexmichaelraccoonplays8777 "actually..." 🤓🤓🤓
Because they play the same game for 10000+ hours in order to commit it to muscle memory and discover every exploit and never get to play any other games during that time?
The absolute biggest waste of time
Irony is they play the same game over and over
In my experience, most people spend their waking hours doing a job and chores they hate, surrounded by people they tolerate, at best, living a life they never wanted. Video games are one of the few things we can choose to participate in and time spent in them, as long as it helps us escape and makes us feel alive, is never wasted. Whether or not we finish said video game. The experience is the point. Great video, chalk one win to the youtube algo!
In my opinion it's sad that people "put up" with modern life. I honestly think that just going out and becoming homeless would improve 95% of people's daily life. We cling to the moments that give us a high, like drug addicts, and support evil corporations and corrupt countries just because we are too scared to go out and make our own life. I'm mostly done with gaming, not because I find it unenjoyable, but because I would rather be dead than "live" like most other people. Why trade your only life working a crap job you hate? There is no reason too other than fear and fear doesn't and has never existed.
@@boobalooba5786Life in the past included all these things as well
There are plenty of reasons to work a job even if you dislike it. Providing food for your family, a roof over your head and a clothes to keep you warm. Hell, I have terrible eyesight and have a constant headache from my glasses. And next week I finally can get LASIK, something I couldn't do without working a 9-5. Don't get me wrong, capitalism sucks, but I can accept doing labor to ensure I can eat and have some fun afterwards.
Love this OP. Bomb diggity.
Exactly. This is why they can become an issue. Video games, for better or worse, are infinitely capable of countering any conceivable disparity that a human being is experiencing with a proxy that is just good enough to satisfy. Tired of being the third string quarterback in college? There's a game that remedies that. Struggling with dating? There's a game for that. Always wanted to be a hero and change the world? Take your pick. The problem with gaming is that that it's too good at what it does.
“Time is the substance I am made of. Time is a river which sweeps me along, but I am the river; it is a tiger which destroys me, but I am the tiger; it is a fire which consumes me, but I am the fire.” - Jorge Borges
The part about playing micromanagement games like City Skylines being like looking at a spread sheet resonated with me greatly.
I work as a software engineer, and after I started working, this type of games became a chore to me, because I felt like I'm continuing my job in my free time, planning, ensuring efficiency, removing duplications, abstracting things, devising a pipeline, all those things I do in my work, I stopped wanting to do this in my free time also
Beautiful. I'm in my 20s and I've been thinking about this a lot more lately. I tend to stick to single player and coop games with friends for the same reasons you outlined. Keep up the good work.
This was an absolutely brilliant video! Seeing that clock tick down had me thinking about my own mortality. I'm 43, almost 44, and I've already lived a little over half my life. Thinking about how the 2060's isn't that far away is a reality slap in the face. That's even if I live to be 75+ years old. I also don't finish a lot of games and would try to go back and finish them while completely forgetting most of everything about the game. There are so many new games coming out, good and bad, and it is hard to keep up with. Especially trying to find time to finish the good games in between work. This video gave me more to think about than most videos I've watched all year. I appreciate that.
Thanks so much for watching. As horrible as it may sound, this is exactly the sort of thoughts I was hoping to get from people because most of us are feeling a little lost, and we maybe just need a little nudge to say "hey, it's okay not to enjoy that big thing" or "it's okay to move on from this".
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I just hit 40 this year. Been gaming since the days of NES. I've had my ups and downs with gaming too, even going long stretches - up to four years - of not touching a single game. Working full time while being married and having children makes me extremely selective with my game time. Thanks to PS+ I can try out games I normally would avoid, and if they don't resonate with me I gladly put them down and never look back. My mom is nearly 80 and my kids are almost legal adults! Life comes at you fast.
I had a sudden near death experience when I was 18 and in the few seconds it was happening I was surprised to find myself feeling unregretful. There were things I haven't done, things left unfinished, but like waking from a pleasant dream, the inevitable end in that moment seemed inexplicably palatable. But those few seconds were not the end and I feel very fortunate in the perspective I gained therein. That life isn't a ticking clock - instead every day is a bonus day I get to enjoy however I want.
This largely means lots of video games and I couldn't be happier. I try lots of different genres. I go through my backlog every so often and play games people have said were good. I try not to have kneejerk reactions and I try to see the value in games, even if they don't exactly appeal to me personally. If people like them, there must be a reason. As a gamedev there is always value in being able to see the value others derive from things you can't quite get behind yourself.
Early in your video you posed the question of why you often didn't finish games. You equated the time spent playing them as a loss. I have to disagree with you on this perspective and nothing else in the video (it was great, subscribed, easily). Unlike other forms of media like books or movies, the value derived from video games is not as linear. While a good movie requires you to watch all of it, perhaps multiple times to get the most value for your time - a video game is more like a wet sponge of value. When you first pick up a good game and after the brief "getting into it" period, tutorial, etc. is when you have that magical time of novelty, exploration, learning about mechanical potential and just really enjoying the game on all fronts. Those first few big squeezes of the game value sponge. Towards the end of any game, it's almost certainly become predictable. You know roughly how things are going to go, and the rest is the grind trying to wring those last few drops of value out as you make your way to the credits.
With RPGs this hits a little different, sure - but imo beating most games is overrated. Play until you stop enjoying it as much or something else piques your interest. No shame in it. It's not time wasted just because you didn't finish it. There's too many amazing experiences out there to spend time on the grind. Helldivers 2 has been amazing, but my friends and I basically did everything in the first week it was out and now it's just another "let's play this if there's nothing else" games on the back burner for the weekends.
Anyway, fantastic video. Going to go look through the rest of your catalog now.
That's definitely given me something to think about for sure; I can't say I've had any near death experiences so I guess that's hard for me to visualise if it ever happens to me.
Thanks so much for sharing too, and thanks for the sub ☺️
There's a point in almost any game where you're able to see the limits of the experience. Another metric for replayability, I suppose.
A point where all unknown novel possibilities collapse in on what the
experience actually has left for you and some of the magic is certainly gone.@@Kranitoko
Wow. I think this thing of not finishing games accelerated with the short-form content (Tiktok, YT Shorts etc.). Cool perspective, maybe you can give your steam? (if you want, heh.)
If you don't mind me asking, what was your near death experience?
I can only imagine how painful your life-experience may have been, but I appreciate you sharing your story. You articulated your thoughts about the video extremely well, too, and left me with something to think about. I, too, believe that no time is wasted on a game, as long as you enjoyed that time you spent with it. But I did not always used to feel that way. (Especially towards the end of high school, where I felt punished for my time spent with games over doing other activities that would have landed me jobs or scholarships.) And I still have trouble thinking about games left unfinished and forgotten from time to time, those which I enjoyed every minute of and wish I could pick them up as if I had just last played them yesterday instead off three years ago. But the way you explained and worded things helped me think about them. Thanks, and I hope you are having a fantastic bonus day.
This is a video I’ll keep coming back to.
word same
I've been gaming (solo rpg's) for about 40 years. I still love it however I have also lived my life to the fullest extent possible and will continue to do so as I enter my 7th decade of life. Live, love and enjoy what fulfills you the most and thank you for a very well put together video.
I literally cried and said the last line in your video at the same time as you did. Bravo. Videos haven’t gotten me emotional since I can remember
Cringe 💩🤡
Zanarkand will do that to you
I like how this puts stuff into perspective for me. I have an addiction with youtube and this FOMO of missing out on videos, this even stretches out to other websites with FOMO of content. Instead of just focusing solely on what I wanna do, I keep getting dragged into consuming content that I don't really play games that often because of it.
While there's music which is great, there's a lot of "Junk information" stuff that is just not important to watch that it even hurts my productivity because of it. Even now I am finishing up an overdue artpiece late at night because I get sidetracked.
This video also brings another thing with managing games, I have a big backlog of games but only maybe 20% are important to me and I'll have to play them one thing at a time but it also makes me appreciate one-time games like oneshot and outer wilds because you get a nice experience and the game doesn't keep you tethered but still leaves you with a lasting impression. Even though I replayed oneshot twice (gotta do solstice a second time) Most of the impace of the story and the challenge of puzzles was reduced.
Damn, TH-cam fomo is crazy. I can't say I really understand how that can be much of a thing for you outside of maybe anticipating and wanting to be present for particular livestreams. The overwhelming amount of my content that I consume are traditionally uploaded videos, so the worst I experience besides being overwhelmed with a backlog of videos to watch just like games to play is if I get really into a TH-camr for a while who uploads frequently I want to ride that shit like it's a crackfix lol.
@@Taima To try and answer your question it's more the worry that I could be missing out on something good itself with a video fearing that I could also forget to watch it later.
Great vid! I’m a 40 something and just began to grasp this concept about 2 years ago when my mother passed over. I also applied it to life: activities, people, goals, etc.
Once you recognize your mortality, the people and things you love plus what you are here for…you engage life differently and prioritize the things you cannot overlook.
I’ll play with my kids, lift weights, jog with friends, replay SMTV (Vengeance), finally play BG3 (once I get my physical copy…soon I hope), play every new Zelda Metroid and Soulsborne game until death, achieve sundry other goals and love plus support my loved ones - present and future.
bro started with the most deep intro ever but then proceeds talking about videogames. love it
This was a deeply reflective and very well-directed video. As oddly grim as this topic got, you gave a lot for us all to think about, and that means a lot. Keep it up.
As a pretty young person going through my first video game burn out right now, this video really spoke to me. I have spent more hours playing games than I have on any other thing in my life, but I’m going to be an adult very soon and I can feel myself having less and less time for the things I love. Everything you said in this video I know I will feel at some point in my life. I just really hope I can take it the same way you have and continue my life in stride.
Whatever time you have as a child/teenager, don't waste it. Because it's the last bit of time you have left before reality punches you in the face and we all follow the same road until the end.
@@Kranitoko "We all follow the same road until the last". Ive never heard it put like that, and i love it!
Hey lil bro/sis. You can be an adult and still be a child(in a positive way), and enjoy what you want to enjoy.And if you meet ppl later in life who downplay your like/hobbies then those arent ppl you should surround urself with. I'll be 40 next month and i'll never not be a gamer.❤
Him - Until then what am I going to do with my life
The kid within me - GTA 6.
Bro this is deep, deep enough to actually make me rethink everything. Its weird that a video bout how much time video games consume could help me. This video was something else, I should thank you. This video is nothing like the rest you see on your feed, makes u think not bout the time, but conspect of death.
this resonates with me and that’s really why i’ve been moving off of games lately and trying to become more skilled at doing things with my hands like gardening and playing by getting better at outside games
I've been on a gaming hiatus for over a year now, after I used to play almost on a daily basis. i was never able to explain why i stopped gaming, but your video helped me understand why. Thanks a lot for the amazing content, and you've truthfully earned my sub and like!
I was supposed to have a chill thing to listen to on my second stream but then you showed up and made me pause. I've had this feeling for the past few years. I couldn't put my thoughts and feelings into words but your video helped me articulate them.
Great video, you just got yourself a sub.
This video just got recommended to me, and having watched it I must say it is criminally underrated. I always wonder why there are games that I love so much only to move on before finishing and then never touching them again, and you have addressed some of these feelings in a way I wouldn't have been able to articulate. Amazing work, I subscribed so I don't miss out on future content. Happy belated birthday!
This video took an unexpected turn which took me by surprise. As someone who really has struggled with thinking about death all my life (almost 30 :O) it doesn't seem to be getting any better. You've basically vocalised something that I've thought to myself internally all my along my life as a gamer. Amazing video, and its nice to know I'm not alone with this feeling
I'm going to be really honest with you, this might actually be the first video I ever watched that might really end up changing my life. Thank you for putting my feelings into words and telling me what I needed to hear
This was a very pure and honest video. The kind we don't see often anymore. Better to do a couple of things and do them passionately rather than rush a bunch of stuff you won't really care about in the end. Beautiful video man honestly I shed a tear at the end. I really feel that this video will help many people out who struggle with trying to follow some nonsense norm and culture.
I didn't even finish the video, but I had to scroll to tell you this: the way you transition between chapters and subjects is nothing short of amazing. I love this!
Edit: after finishing the video and in response to your last sentence: HELL YEAH, MAN! HELL YEAH!
😎😎😎 ❤️
this video was genuinely amazing.
I hope that A LOT of other people get the opportunity to watch this. Keep up the great work!
Dude holy shit. Thank you for sharing this video. Your message found me at the perfect time. I took a solid break from video games and this year I wanted to get back into it. I built a desktop pc with a 7800x3d, 4070Ti super, and 32gb. Fortnite did to me what apex did to you. I had such a big realization when you were talking about grinding mp games. I’m uninstalling Fortnite and cs2 when I get home. Unless I’m trying to go pro I honestly see no reason in playing a competitive mp game. Like yeah you can always play for fun, but at that point I feel like my time would be way better spent playing a memorable single player title or even practicing my guitar. I guess I resonate very deeply with this video too cause I am similar age to you (I turn 30 this September) I don’t plan on quitting video games but I would like to find a healthier and more conscious relationship with them. On the bright side I can finally get started on the single player games I bought but never ended up playing! Gonna get started on Persona 3 reload this weekend!
I remember back in the day when I realized I wouldn’t be able to read every single book that ever existed. That was actually a paradigm-shifting moment. I still enjoy reading vociferously, but I also have a better recognition of the preciousness of time.
I started watching the video because of the title and then when I heard that you aren’t a fan of Nolan too , I instantly liked the video . All this time I thought I was the only one , anyways , this video is just too great , from the heart pounding countdown of the start to the banger ending , I loved it man . Thank you !
Thank you for watching!
I wish I could be on the Nolan hype train, and I do give all his films a fair shout, but none of them click with me 😩
@@Kranitoko bro I would love to talk to you , are you insta ?
@@Harrry_03 I do have insta but I don't really reply to people on there. You can certainly follow my twitter. Username is the same!
@@Kranitoko okk np
Interstellar? Like the rest of his are mid, but not even interstellar?
As I’ve entered my 20s, I have really started to accept that I will no longer have the time to play games like I used to as a teenager. This video really resonated with me for that reason, I’ve stopped worrying about staying in that loop of playing the newest release and being scared of missing out. Thanks for making this video, I really enjoyed it. :)
This is one of the videos that'll easily go viral. A very original topic, yet something everyone feels. Great job
The clock ticking and timer counting down reminds me of Unus Annus. I miss those days, but I'm so glad I was there from the beginning. Looking forward to the new video every day. Seeing what stupid shit Mark and Ethan were going to do. And of course, Pee Sauna. It truly was an experience of a lifetime for me.
Man what a beautiful video. Your ending with baldur's gate 3 was like mine with Elden Ring. After i completed my first playthrough for 150+ hours. I had a sudden surge of emotions that i just cant help but let it all out. It was magical. It feels like once in a lifetime experience. Take care mate! Cheers!
The algorithm just picked this up, got it in my recommended feed, I sent two comments with this one and gave a like, hope it keeps recommending this out to people this is a great video
Thank you so much ❤️☺️
This was a great video! I often have to remind myself the same things, but it’s hard to not feel like I’m missing out sometimes. Thanks for making this!
This video reminded how I made the correct choice to improve my gaming habits some years ago
I used to 100% every single game I played no matter how frustrating or time consumng some achievements were. Then I had a 7 year break on video games as I skipped the PS4 generation and got the PS5 a bit over a year ago. I also got a laptop that could play games late last year
I have played so many different games and genres since getting to properly play again and been such a blast. If I had still been in the mindset to 100% every game, I probably would have experienced only 1/3 of them if even that
It really did boil down to the "why do I grind these to 100%". I didnt get any extra enjoyment out of it. I just did it cause I had to. Maybe to tell others that I 100% game x. Maybe to get everything out that the game has to offer
Similar thing happened with difficulty settings. I used to only pick the hardest difficulty option at the start. I think it was God of War 3 where it broke me when I had to reset one checkpoint at the very end like 40+ times until beat it. Nowadays I go purely by vibe. For exsmple in Persona games I like to put invincibility on during dungeons and then change back to normal setting when boss fights happen
And lastly I learned to drop games that I do not enjoy playing. Used to play every game from beginning to the end even if I hated playing it
I think most of these boil down to some form of want to flex to others about your achievements. If you're in a similar situation as I was, a good question to ask yourself is
"Would I do this thing if no one else but me knew about it"
Funny how you can do a complete 180 with your habits which seemed like something you will continue doing till your deathbed
I think that is a fantastic question a lot of us need to ask ourselves more often.
Just like you, I was crying so hard after finishing Baldurs Gate 3 and watching the credits, because I knew something was ending I could never experience the same way again. I was so inspired by the experience they gave me. It was only the second game I've ever played through and the first game, that made me this emotional throughout. I still love playing the game, but nothing will ever be as great as opening the game up, watching the intro and going through every state of the campaign for the first time. Although, i am sad that it ended, I am so happy for the experience because I'll always have the memory of the satisfaction and joy this game brought me over several month of playing. You are so right, our time is not endless and I think, I want to choose more careful what games I invest time in in the future and want to chase games, that can give me an immersive experience such as BG3. Ultimately, the only reason we play a game should be, that it is fun or gives us satisfaction in any way. Therefore, it is a good idea to reflect on the hours spend in a game from time to time to see if it still brings one joy ♥️
How far you’ve come in the 12 years since your swtor days. I check in on your channel every now and again, and seeing this was a pleasant surprise. This video really resonated with me, and I thank you for it. Happy living, Kranitoko.
0:20 Happy Birthday mate 🎉❤
Genre and grind are absolutely the biggest factors for me and I consider myself pretty open to genres. Very interesting to see the perspectives of the mediums vast landscape.
Excellent video, we should do the things that we enjoy and love, not just compulsively indulge in something even though we do not enjoy it or feel burn out and bad.
This was a beautiful video, and it is such a strong message from a psychological perspective. I loved it, and there is nothing I would have rather been doing with my time the last 16 minutes.
I have spoken the same way about multiplayer games, and many outside of gaming do not understand the vast differences between Apex versus Alan Wake (for example).
The tone and editing were amazing as well. Thanks for the powerful ideas today!
Been having a bad day and I'm not sure you intended this but even though I do like me some video games, this message resonated for me with everything else in life to the point of almost bringing myself to tears. Thank you.
This is a good video, and I disagree on time lost on videogames that aren't finished.
Also, I think that re-playing story games isn't a loss of time either, nor a devaluation of the first experience, rather, a second (third or nth) experience, that has its own value, often related to the first time too. You experience a story and "learn" it better, gaining new perspectives and maybe teaching yourself something about life also.
I think videogames are a kind of media, so they are simulations that we humans use to conceive ideas and emotions, that can travel from mind to mind, to expand the compendium of human endevour. This is particularly beautiful, and expanding on this, corroborating the efficacy of time spent on things, is a useful reflection, we may always choose how to spend our time, and not many have this kind of luxury, not at the level even this video assumes (let's say you're sick in bed and can't even hold a controller, nor walk!).
So yeah, the maybe not explicit message of this video is "enjoy life, for the time anyone has is limited, and be open about experiences you'll make". If I didn't misread the author intentions or the subtext and context of the video, I wholehearthedly agree, and I might add, videogames are a tool, and my dad told me once "every tool shall be used, not abused". So definitely don't spend too much time on videogames, especially the ones that you particularly dislike, and find more things to enjoy in life (books, sports, travels maybe? hell even spreadsheets, I found out that I like maths, as an adult!).
About Sekiro, footnote: that game taught me patience, and trained my reflexes a lot. It also taught me and the value of time spent living, and the fact that our illusion that we may achieve some kind of immortality is detrimental to our own soul (as in our essence as human beings, what makes us human). Sever immortality, embrace living (and dying, death is part of the process).
Great video, I have been feeling this way recently and love to see others relate also.
Can't join the group of people deeply resonating with this video but this is a fucking fantastic video and is incredibly underrated
This video is literally life changing. Clicking on this, i thought that it will be some self improvement shit. But no, it's and adult guy, talking about his experience with games. I am currently 17 yo, with light gaming addiction. It's refreshing to hear, that i won't be able to play everything, that there is no point in playing. Yes, I will be one of the best Apex players, then what? For whom I did this? Myself? Not much of a benefit. Thank you, and again. This is top notch content, and you are rly inspiring as a person. All Love
I love how that clock really makes you think, time is ticking it never stops so make sure you try to enjoy every second doing what you want to do. Be present in the moment and have fun doing it. Great video
Thanks TH-cam algorithm for getting this one right. I absolutely love this kind of essays and thought out ideas.
Your points about games not having to be accessable to everyone make me miss games made for specific players. Almost all big names nowadays just care about growth and money, but for that they try to make a game appeal to a too wide of an audience, making their games feel soul- and aimless.
Not just in their difficulty but in general.
And Fromsofts Souls-Series really feels like one of the few blockbuster games, that stay somewhat true to their vision.
Every so often it is worth it to PRAISE THE ALGORITHM. Cuz damn did it score on this one.
Insta-sub 10 minutes in. Very relatable and I have come across this very subject in my mind. Very well put my friend. Keep up the great and honest work
i really want to say a lot, i share this feeling that you are describing from the other side of the world and is awesome to listen to someone go a little deep on the soul of the gamer
ty for your opinion and sorry 4 my bad english
Thanks for making this video man. I struggle to not finish things due to my autism so this was joy to watch, since it's somewhat annoying yet sobering to realise you really can't do everything, especially since there's so many amazing games ou there. I can also relate to fearing death, but one thing that really helped me through that was reading Heaven is For Real by Todd Burpo. You don't have to be religious to read it, and I think you'll still enjoy it, heck you'll probably like it more if you don't believe so I'd recommend everyone to pick it up, from amazon or a local book store, anywhere really, since it really helped me come to terms and make peace with the idea of my death. And I hope it can help you guys too
One of the best videos I have spent my time watching and really gave me a new perspective which videos I watch rarely do. Thank you for appearing in my TH-cam feed
I was literally playing dark souls and was at the fire shrine struggling to get ahead when he said i tried dark souls
"Multiplayer games don't invoke many emotions, but the two that stand out are anger and joy" that is so real.
Elden ring is enough. It will always be enough.
can you elaborate what makes it so special?
@@1992zorro I started a new playthough recently. Not a veteran with FromSoft games, but I think what makes Elden Ring special is the crazy amount of original worldbuilding, alongside the immersive world. It's grand and elaborate while also having the ability to be quiet and dark, much like life. It's not all flashy, like many games are. And like real life, you are on your own journey, but with the messages left in the game, there is a sense of community and joint experience. I'm really enjoying my time with it, and highly recommend it if you like exploring and good worldbuilding!
You mean Among Us is enough
man i usually dont comment on videos that much, i cant express how much this video meant to me. im a 17yr old who loves games like battle royales and competetive games, which of course because of my love of those games i grew to be a competetive player and hated on missing out on new stuff daily. i put in at least 1000 hours on a single game but in the long run i looked back at those hours and i really coudnt feel anything about them. my first story game was ghost of tsushima and i only spent like 80 hours on it, funny thing is those 80 hours meant alot to me more than the 1000s of hours i put on the competetive games. games are meant to be the escape reality, and reality itself is really competetive. so my advivce is just play games for chilling and relax and enjoy a good fantasy world and a story. thank u so much for making this video :)
The fact some games are started and never finished due to time and then there are some games i've played through several times despite time really shows which are the good games.
How does this not have more views this was great! ❤
This is the first video I’ve ever seen or heard of from this channel. Subbed immediately upon completion. Beautiful content, sums up a lot of how I feel as well as some things I hadn’t really put into words!
Great vid bro also happy birthday.🥳😺
My birthday is just around the corner and I'm gonna be 31 just like you. All of what you said resonates with what I've been observing and thinking. Thank you for sharing
Man I’ve had this problem for awhile, stressing over what game I should play or if I should buy new games, afraid of missing out on what everyone else is playing/my friends are playing or games I wanna play. This video is just what I needed bro, 10/10. Subbed. Imma go chill out and play Skyrim now.
Appreciate it 😊
This is probably one of the best video essays i have ever seen...
Probably not, he’s doesn’t actually explain the real mean in of his motivations from these conclusions
Thanks for your video.
I feel like this lesson resonates with a lot of people because of the focus on video games, but this idea applies to well... everything. We all have a limited time for which we exist. We all have endless paths that we can take through life. Some of those paths may have lead to a happier life. Others, less so. Putting aside transient experiences like multiplayer games seems like a smart move. What were those hours for? How can I justify the time spent, out of my ever-shrinking pool of it? These are the questions that seem to plague us once we reach a certain point in "that" multiplayer game. If I had spent that time with quality single-player games, I could have had numerous emotionally-powerful experiences. Things to reflect back on as I age. Things to point to, and say to myself "It was worth it". But if you go one level deeper, there's another thing to realize. That even that, is fleeting. Everything we've ever done, or will do will eventually fade to memory. And then, sooner or later, to nothing. Even if it seems "permanent", it is anything but. To look at the time we have left, and to push to accomplish things, or have big "moments" where we feel alive is sort-of missing the point. It doesn't matter if you spent 18 hours grinding a game without achievements, or big "wow" moments. If you enjoyed it, then it was worth it. If you push through 40 hours of content you don't enjoy, just to get that one moment that brings you to tears, was that truly worth it? In the end, it's not for anyone else to decide but yourself. Life's a journey, and we all know the destination. Just like Kranitoko described his Balder's Gate play-through, I think true happiness comes from accepting that the choices you've made, not worrying about the what-ifs, and taking every small step as the treasure it is. And then letting it go.
Well put!
You're literally talking about me......like all the way seriously....minus the souls section of course & another game instead of Apex..... played out like ur my bloody guardian angel or something.....lol
Bt it's reassuring to know there's someone out there going through some of the experiences I do or have & having similar opinions about them.....it breaks my heart everytime I finish a game & knowing that replaying it renders my experiences irrelevant or how multiplayer js completely sucks ur soul, actually I think u js helped me find out what's wrong with me.... thanks alot & am glad knowing am not the only one overdosed on 3am thoughts & think I'll also spend the rest of my life playing bloody video games.
Wonderful video btw, think I'll stick around for more
how you framed this video.. is exactly how i feel abt it all. And it's great to know some1 out there thinks similarly in the respect that it's important to remember that the time we have and how we choose to spend it is what should motivate us to weigh our decisions more carefully esp in the time we spend on our hobbies and personal life. Much appreciated~!
Gaming is fun. I am surprised to see a lot of people cannot accept that certain games are just not for them. Some games might be objectively trash. But most of the popular games are still not for everyone. So why waste the time on those games, grumbling why they don´t cater for you, why don´t those game make this and make that so that you can enjoy? Putting it aside and moving on to another game is simple. But many people just can't do that. I've read review on Sekiro denouncing those who enjoy the game as jobless losers. Sekiro is a great game. And you don't like it, it's not for you, and it's OK. Like myself, I don't know why but I just cannot enjoy Witcher 3 at all. So I put it aside, never return to anything on this game and I feel good about that.
The whole section about a game's story ending reminded me of a characters' words from Persona 3
"The more engaging a story is, the more I want to get lost in it, but... I'm always afraid to finish it." - Akinari Kamiki
*YOU UNDERESTIMATE MY GRIND SET!*
Yes! These are the things that I always wanted someone to tell me. I am enjoying games. Very much. I have played hundreds of games over the years. Souls Titles, crpg's etc. I even got into the tabletop rpgs. But nowadays I feel like, to improve myself, my culture or knowledge, I must play every game ever made that are considered as masterpieces. This and some other people I follow made me realize that if you don't know yourself, to understand what you like, it is okay to spend time on different things maybe on games you think you don't like. Just like you did in souls games. But when you know and understand what you like and what you want. You don't have to, and also can't play every game. You just need to pursue "yourself" and your likes. Because that is what makes you yourself. Do what you like and what you want. I am still trying to overcome my FOMO. This video opened my third eye. Thank you Kranitoko. You earned a new sub. Nolan films suck btw.
This video was so well-made and validating for me, as I struggle sometimes knowing where to move forward next, and often fall victim to analysis-paralysis with the overwhelming amount of choice we have in gaming. It's a great problem to have in this modern landscape but can be tough. I made a similar video to yours right around the same time called "You'll Never Be Able to Play Everything", it's just so wild to encounter someone else from a totally different background reaching similar conclusions. We must be doing something right. 🤝
8:11 ‘you might as well just keep working’ this is the biggest reason I stop playing games. The moment a game gets boring, my brain just tells me ‘you aren’t even having fun, at least get ahead on work’
Haha the line was a joke, don't actually keep on working. Most jobs don't care about you, you are expendable, work your contracted hours and then don't even think about your job, if something stops being fun, try a different game.
Brilliant video mate, absolutely relate on many of the reasons I might play an RPG once unless it's an mmo. Sometimes I take breaks from gaming for months but always get surprised when I get back into it again.
Thank you for making this video. Not only did it resonate with me, as I’ve often struggled with everything you’ve mentioned (especially what you mention in the last few minutes of the video), but I’ve often wondered what the meaning of my time is. Both your video as well as the comment section gave me a genuine energy and enthusiasm boost. Much love and may the TH-cam algorithm bless you.
Great video, I found it quite relatable. I'm 34 and there was a period when my time available to play games started steadily dropping and I think I over compensated by buying every game with a good review fors couple years creating a massive backlog that I was never going to accomplish. It hit me after a while to just play the types of games I've always loved and that's it. Playing something that you think of as being just ok is a terrible idea
Growing up is a hell of a new experience. I mever thought I'd change my views on games. And in under a few years, I started having the views in this video.
Good video
I love challenging games. I had intentionally avoided getting into any soulslikes because I was never interested in difficulty for the sake of difficulty, and it took me completing all the missions in Pikmin 3 with a gold medal to realize something about myself. I will do an arduous task repeatedly for basically no reward other than the satisfaction of knowing I could do it. I didn't just beat Celeste, I feel like I rocked that game's main story mode as someone who's never even played a precision platformer before. I realized that I did want to try, I just didn't feel like the games were my cup of tea, and honestly aside from having the worst sense of direction I've been having a blast, even if I'm dying every time I find a new enemy. Its not the novelty of doing something hard, its me using my collective knowledge of video games over the past 15 or so years of my life to prove that nothing is truly hard, you just have to find your groove with it.
love this video bro fr
Thank you 😊
Amazing video! FFX was my first emotional meltdown at credit roll as well. Even merely hearing that tune from FFX in the background of your video still chokes me up. That game changed me, I hope to live through a remake or sequel of it as my dying wish 😅.
I don't think I've seen another TH-cam video express so well my own personal experience with gaming. Thank you for that!
Damn. What you said about „burnout“ is exactly what happened to me. I played every souls game made by fromsoftware (including bloodborne) to max level, all items, every weapon maxed out, ng+99. Just because I LOVED these games and I wouldn’t ever want to play any other game. But then I finished elden ring.. started ng+ aaand.. didn’t touch it until recently. Somehow to know I have to beat this massive world elden ring has again, made me somehow SAD and left me with ZERO motivation to continue. It laid dormant for 1 year now. Let’s see how long my new motivation to continue it lasts. But I do have hope right now, with the dlc and some new changes
I felt this on another level. I have purchased over 750 games since i got my ps4(now ps5) and have a bad habit of buying games when theyre on sale to go back to them later but i never do 😭. You said it best. Dont force yourself into playing something youre not having fun with. Words have never been truer my friend.