Should Newlyweds Avoid Wedding Cake Smash Tradition?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ก.ย. 2024
- Traditionally, newlyweds feed each other wedding cake at the reception. However, other newlyweds take it much further and smash wedding cake in each other’s faces. Lorie Baker says when her husband smashed the wedding cake in her face, it was a bad omen for the marriage. They are now divorced. Wedding planner Alyssa Pettinato recommends that couples work it out before their wedding day so there are no surprises.
I did not smash cake into my wife’s face because she spent all morning at a salon getting her makeup done, and I also love and respect her.
Aww, that's so considerate of you. It sounds like she hit the jackpot when she met you. My husband was kind to me too. He just put a dab of cake on my face, then gently wiped it off. I did get a little bit more on him, though. I didn't want to ruin his tux. Now his grandmother, who was a real sweetheart, is the one who _really_ got me. When we were leaving the church after the ceremony, and everyone was throwing bird seed at us, she ran up to me a dumped a big handful of birdseed all down the front of my gown. We both laughed hysterically! It was everywhere! (Even in places I can't mention.) That singular moment created a wonderful memory for my husband and I. RIP Mama Myrtle, you little stinker. 😄
It's inconceivable that my husband would have ever considered doing something like that to me on our wedding day or ever!
News flash all that work she had done wasn't for you it was for your best man 😂😂
@@PaulyWally30 bro tryna start drama for no reason 💀
@@catquackhe did do it ?
Its not the smashing cake that suprises me, its the aggression. I can literally see the violent behaviour. If they arent afraid to smash the cake on the bride's face until she falls down on the floor in front of everyone on their WEDDING DAY, wonder how does he treat her.
True 😵💫
IT'S ABSOLUTELY RIDICULOUS! I'd immediately storm off and file for annulment!
Totally unacceptable and quite frankly JUVENILE beyond belief for frigg'n adults.
Super childish
People ignore the fact that traditional wedding cakes usually have stakes in them to hold their structure. It is straight up life threatening to smash that into someone's face. If both agree ahead of time and get a smash-able cake then that's great but just please stop humiliating your bride in front of everyone. She isn't your brother to wrestle to the ground, she's your bride.
It always has seemed immature and disrespectful to me. It is not entertaining to watch. There is definitely a difference between a playful dab of frosting and an aggressive assault. Don't waste good cake!
all that time and all that money FOR your partner only to have that very life long partner SHOVE and SMACK and DISRESPECT his wife and your marriage.. Its not a good start...
WE GOT DIVORCED OVER CAKE!
It need to stop. If I spent that much money on makeup then I don’t want it to be ruined.
I never or wouldn't have that Smash classical cake at my wedding lol. 😂👊
Direct divorce if someone do me that
Yes because what the hell? They look like they’re damn near trying to kill each other with the cake lol.
Sorry, I think this idea of smashing a cake in your brides face no. That’s not fun that’s an insult.🇬🇧
..... the women that divorce her lover because of cake just means that she never really loved him and probably only married him for his money...
Should people avoid watching Inside Edition?
0:11 this dude 😂 💥🥊
Maybe the husbands should be careful not to smash too much cake on their wife’s face but it is a very cute tradition
This "tradition" is very popular at the weddings of couples who met at a family reunion.
I think cake is to be eaten.
This is a great tradition. If you're 5
That's dumb, my husband would be my ex husband like that.
Steve aoki just launching cakes at his fiancé. Rapid fire too
Very classy!🤨
I think the cake should be eaten and not smashed its food not a water balloon don't smash it
I find this tradition very silly. I would not like to have anyone smash a cake on my face be it on my wedding or not!
Why do that with cake anyway. It's more a gypsy thing
Objection. Irrelevant
The answer is simple: discuss it beforehand. If both parties consent and discuss boundaries, it’s fine. However, if one party doesn’t want to do it, then don’t. Period. It’s about respect.
this
100%
Ah yes, I'm gonna discuss the suprise.
@@WhyAreYouLagging so many other things to use as a surprise, get over it
@@kaybay5210 We're talking about the cake, not anything else, get over it.
Also, if you're going to do a cake smash, buy a burner cake. After everyone's face is all frosted up, roll out the actual wedding cake. Some of us want to eat that cake too.
How to get married and divorced in the same day:
@@user-pf2uv2ur5jBro what? If the groom smashes the cake in his bride's face without permission, that is messed up. Not everybody wants to get cake all over themselves. Not everybody wants to get messy in an EXPENSIVE wedding dress. Getting food rubbed into your face without permission is humiliating and uncomfortable. I'd divorce my husband if he smashed a cake in my face without my consent on our wedding day. The bride has a RIGHT to be angry when her "groom" smashes a cake in her face without permission and ruins her makeup and EXPENSIVE dress
@@em-pr5jv😂😂😂😂😂 imagine
@@Thesixwolf6 nah. i'm good.
I remember reading a story about just that, about a bride that never liked the cake in the face thing, but it seemed to be a tradition in her family and she was the exception, and her family always ridiculed her for it, but she specifically said to her groom not to do that or she would walk out, and he did it anyway to score points with her family, so she walked out after her hair and makeup was ruined and possibly a mess on the dress, I can't remember, but again, this is all stuff the bride pays a lot of money to have done. It was about respecting boundaries, which she could tell he was never going to do, because he couldn't even apologize, just carried on about how ridiculous she's being. REALLY
@@em-pr5jvthe expensive dress that he paid for and she’ll never wear again. Goes to show how the wedding day is more important than the actual marriage. Imagine divorcing over something so trivial.
The girl who basically just got palm slapped in the face should get divorced. I would have thrown hands.
That was so rough! It looked really painful. I just felt so bad for her.
Yeah, it's bad enough, but the ones getting knocked to the ground as well, what's up with that?
@@idotgotitme3280😂
The real problem is that some men just get too aggressive. She's not your homeboy. She's your wife. 🤷🏻♀️
Exactly
100% yes, I agree
Yah that dude grabbed da whole top of da cake n she fell wtf. Wonder how long they will last 😊
@@joeurbin7235 I think they already split up. I think she sustained some injuries from what I gathered on a different TH-cam video.
@@Denise-ob8dk I feel herr pain
I was a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding where the bride and groom very gently spoon-fed each other a bite of cake. It was extremely sweet.
I believe that's the true tradition, as it shared with many other cultures, which might include feed/drink each others a glass of milk. I think it's a better start of marriage like saying " I will take care of you"
I think I would fall asleep during that happening
@@alien0371 Only you would. You have no class!
@@alien0371 you might consider buying tickets to a hockey game or something.
It’s not just wedding cakes being mushed into faces that’s bad, birthday “traditions” of slamming the person’s head in a cake is also a terrible, and cruel “prank”. Very dangerous in some cases, too.
They do it all the time in Mexico
@@keyboardkween8744In a lot of other countries as well, the US is just so soft about dumb things, I'm from the US. It makes it all the more memorable
I once saw a video where someone pushed the birthday girl's face into her cake. She ended up with a wooden support stick lodged in her face and had to go to the hospital.
@@Madamecat7 Yeah, I saw a video of an obviously mentally challenged child smashing his sister's face into a cake with the candles still burning! You can't blame the kids, though; it's a parenting failure.
fr. tacos and even pinatas were ok ig, but literally closer the border before any more "traditions" like birthday cake smashing seep in 🙄
Yes! That video where he picked the whole piece up, smashed it, it looked like she broke her nose if you've seen the full clip, and also the other one where that groom was chasing the bride around the reception hall and literally got on top of her and smothered her face, while everyone else was LAUGHING??! RUN!!!
Yeah, I don't see the appeal. That looks scary. And then if the wife begs for him to stop, she's the evil nag
That's just a preview of what the marriage will be like 😳
I hate this "tradition." I want to eat cake, not wear it. 😠😭😩💔
Exactly, who wouldn't? Hmmm, cake 🎂🍰
I'm only 20 years old, I'm not married yet, and I can tell you that I don't plan on smashing the cake in my future spouse's face, I'll just spoon feed cake to them and have them do the same
I see the face cake smash as childish and a little gross if i'm being honest, you could be sweaty, you could get hair in the cake, if you're wearing makeup, that'll get ruined
I got married at 20, and we just gave a forkful to each other and didn't make it messy.
I didn’t know so many ppl were still doing this anyway 😂
couldn’t have said it more simpler!!!!! like there’s no way, we’ll have a our forks and try the cake, maybe a little frosting on the nose for fun but nooope not my makeup😹
Nobody is eating the smashed piece, how is it gross?
@@destinyperez4980 Frosting on the nose got these mad traditions of cake smashing started.
When did this become a tradition? Horrible!
I thought this was a Hispanic thing
Right savagery
80’s maybe
My understanding is that the bride smashes the cake in the groom's face as a sign that he can't control her, a sign of her independence.
But as far I'm concerned, it makes her look like a brainless twit who needs his supervision even more.
The only wedding I can remember that I've seen this happen (in pics) was my parents' wedding - there's a pic of my dad really smashing it into my mom's face and she does not look like she's having fun. They were divorced by the time I was 7 lol. Bad omen for sure, unless it's totally planned and agreed upon by both parties, but even then you need to stick to the plan and not go overboard.
Ohhh... tell me is your mother still hating your father for that?
Glad my husband and I didn't do this, I don't see how is this a thing.
I kind of think it's supposed to prove or suggest to their audience that they're a horseplaying couple even when they may really not be. That's what children and teenagers do, not really adult newlyweds, especially when her small feminine frame doesn't match his larger, stronger masculine frame.
That woman warned her now ex husband not to do that and when he did it anyway she called an Uber and left right then and there. Her new husband instantly became an ex. He thought she was joking but clearly she wasn't. She warned him and when he didn't listen she followed through with her warning. You don't pay all that money for a dress, hair, makeup and the cake just for all of it to be ruined! What if there were more pictures to be taken? I don't blame that woman for leaving. If that's how he was going to behave at their wedding what else would he have done to her?
There is also the back story of how when she was younger, she was traumatized and humiliated from this tradition while growing up. She made it clear that it was a big deal for her. He broke that trust. Small things now, big things later... Good for her and I wish her all the best!
That man dodged a bullet for sure. Wow!! She left because of that???? Insane
@@KelsJunehe’ll be dodging his way to singledom so yes. Go bro, I guess.
He was an ass if he did it even after she said it was a big deal for her. No question about that. I’d like to see your reaction to someone doing something that meant a great deal to you and you repeatedly told them not to do it. Yet, they did it anyway.
@@blueshoes5145 guess she never loved him is what am saying. Do you know the things we overlook because of love??
@@KelsJuneyou don’t disrespect a boundary if you love someone, especially during the most important (and public facing) day of your entire life. I cannot BELIEVE you’re blaming the woman here, the pure audacity.
People should just do what they want…Nobody should have to follow specific traditions. Some people don’t even have a wedding cake.
Right ❤
Nothing worse than a boring weeding. Everyone talks about a memorable exciting wedding! Divorced bride was just too unforgiving and picky.
@@ElectricVehiclesAreGoodF-ti7xdsounds like she dodged a bullet.
People can do what they want. As long as they take responsibility for the consequence
@@colorbugoriginals4457 She nuts lol
I’ve been to plenty of weddings and I’ve never witnessed a cake smashing. Only on tv and social media.
Me too. They honor the baker too who spent hours making the cake and don't waste to food either. Instead it's shared between the couples and the guests.
Couples definitely should not smash cake in each others faces at a wedding. It’s a formal event and should be treated as such, elegant and classy. 👰🏻♀️🤵🏻💐🥂
And no fun
No, a wedding can be as formal or as laid back as the people want. I’d have more fun at a less formal wedding.
Oh come on liven it up.
Nothing says a healthy relationship like excessive formality and no fun allowed 😂 if you can’t laugh with your partner, you really shouldn’t be marrying them.
What does this kind of aggression mean for their future?
There is a difference between a little dab on the cheek or nose than a whole smash on your face, that is humiliating. With that you will just annul your marriage before it even starts.
Me n my Mrs celebrated 65 yrs last May. Our 5 kids all married now and 7 of the grandkids. NOT ONCE DID any of us do a Face smashing with the cake. Its disgusting. And our large family do have a sense of humor.
Congrats on that milestone and yeah it is disrespectful and just bad manners really, i don’t understand how people think it’s funny to do it at a wedding out of all places..
@@Andrea-1998 Thanks. I married an amazing woman too. 😍
“Disgusting”?? You’re overreacting. Exaggerating a bit much.
@@TigerTummy23 You have your view of what's fun yet appropriate at a wedding. I have mine. None of our 5 did this nor 7 of our 12 grandkids
It's so stupid. I've had a theory for years that those couples who smash the cake end up getting divorced, and it's been pretty damn accurate.
My niece got married last year. They had a great Jack and Jill party. They had 2 jars, one for each of them and guests would put money in them. The one with the most money got to " smash the cake" in the other's face. But they used a cupcake and since they love and respect each other she just put a little bit of the cake in his mouth and frosting got on his face a little. It was made into a wholesome ,fun time. We focused on who won, not getting a cake smashed in their faces. The plus side was that the bride and groom got to keep the money.
That is awful. I was humiliated when my husband did it to me. I wanted to cry, while his mother and all his family where laughing. I also was 5 months pregnant and slipped in the tile floor and almost fell backwards. Side note, I wonder what the divorce rate of women who get their faces smashed with cake is.
Cake smashing is actually against the law.
@@liamwatson5125what
@@liamwatson5125no it’s not 😂
And why would anyone be humiliated by this common rite of passage? It’s harmless fun
@@NG.. Don’t they realize they’re committing a battery by doing it?
@0:11 way too much force. I hope she leaves him.
this can all be simplified with one word: consent
Absolutely they should avoid it. It's dehumanizing and if a man is willing to do that, the whole thing needs to be called off.
😂😂😂😂
Right and it’s so sickening how all the men here and defending it saying he dodged a bullet lmaoo
0:11 well this one ain't going to last he just slapped his new partner in the face
I know that wasn't even a cake smash that was a punch in the face while holding cake.
I was hoping someone else caught that one. Really dude?? You don't deserve a Wife thinking that's Ok.💯💯💯
Dude,that was so brutal...what a gross guy
It was never a 'tradition'. Some idiots did it in a movie, then other idiots started copying it as though it's cool. It's not cool, it was always stupid. What a way to ruin a romantic day.....
I'm sorry but I wonder if 0:11 couple is still married... dude that was pretty abusive..
usually when they do cake smashes where one party wasn't informed and didn't want to take part the relationship tends to not last long
Lmao that dude just smashed his wifes face as she fell down was wild. Cake smashing is a no from me.
Yeah he really went wild on her there, he tried to grab her up in the end but that was still a little over the top whaha.
My wife and I just fed each other the cake and not smashed it in our face because she had her make up professionally done and the make up artist worked really hard to make it look good.
Keep it classy!! No cake smashing, please!😊
The dude who wrestled her wife to the ground with that whole cake seems like an abusive red flag to me... His reaction to her rather cheeky, lightheaded cake smear was so disproportionate. I'm afraid for this woman.
That's not the kind of cake I like smashed into my face.
😅😅😅😅
🤣 How wicked
You mean like traditional wedding cake, which is fruitcake, which my husband hates, he always says at Christmastime when they're selling it in the brick form, that they could use it as bricks 😂
I'm not married, but I agree it's a bad idea to do that. I personally can't handle embarrasment very well, so I definitely wouldn't intentionally embarrass anyone else. Yes newly wed couples should have fun with each other, but not in that kind of way.
I WARNED MY HUSBAND that if he SMASHED CAKE in my face that I'll be filing for divorce on Mon. We're still married 15 years later, so he made the right choice.
Seems like he would’ve dodged a bullet 😂 loosen up a bit, life isn’t meant to be taken so seriously.
@@NG.. She shouldn't even have to specifically request to not be assaulted on her wedding day. Men that have any respect for their wives don't even think to humiliate her like that. iykyk
@@heyhey439 it shouldn’t be assault or humiliation if it’s done in a playful manner
@NG.. Think really hard about this. Why would the intent change the effect? I can playfully hit someone, but that is still assault. Think really really hard.
I think if you spend $300-$500 on a cake just to mess it up it’s kind of a waste isn’t it?
Also pushing your face on the birthday cake , people can be so rough .
I would walk out and go directly to a lawyer. This is the most awful “tradition” at weddings.
Look up prima nocta and you might change your stance on the most awful wedding tradition 😂
Cake smashing is hostile and is a bad omen. It’s also trashy. Hate it.
I agree it’s a bad omen, i don’t know why people can’t just stick to spoon-feeding
Thank you! OMG, man what's with today? Must be another sign I should be happy that I am single.
A literal good example of doing it right is the couple that owns the bakery, it was respectful and cute. But the couples who fully smash and tackle their spouses?!?! Uhmmmmmm what!?????? Scary stuff tbh
A simple display of disrespect.
Hopefully you know your soon to be husband/wife well enough to know how they'll react. Seems like the couple that got divorced who saw it as an omen didn't really know each other.
No, it's sadly a common thing that some partners start to show their true colors and their destructive side once they get married because they think they have the other person trapped.
exactly @@Jay-td5go
Yes, get rid of the cake smash! It’s so stupid! 😊
0:11 he really did that for another reason 🤣🤣🤣 what a jerk
He's probably marrying her because he's a gold-digger.
Like some say. Discussing it before hand, should be a must. If 2 people want to do it, let them, It's their choice. But if 1 says no, you should respect it. Also. There is a difference between a little smear/smush, and assaulting someone with a cake.
Its not a tradition. Humiliating the new wife or husband is sad.
If I'm going to get married, I do not want to shove an entire slice of cake on my spouse's face. It's just disrespectful in my opinion. There's a chance I could hurt my spouse's eyes by doing that, or that I could clog up my spouse's nose.
People should definitely discuss it before hand but if they say no and they still do it it’ll be a huge waste of time getting ready and a huge waste of money to look good just to have pastry smeared across your face and having makeup done professionally isn’t cheap
This is one of those talks to have prior to signing anything
My husband I just fed it to each other. I threatened him beforehand and we’ve been married 38 years❤
I would love to have a cake smashed in my face during a wedding! But if my partner doesn't consent. Then no cake smashing!
At 00:11 he literally smacked her full force in the face.
Yesss ....cake is to be eaten not to smash on your face 😅
It's not MMA men. If your new spouse "smashes" it in your face, get an immediate annulment.
Who does that?! No way it's kinda abusive
Bloody stupid thing to do. I don't care if it's a wedding cake, birthday cake, farewell cake or even a cupcake it's dumb dumb dumb.
Smashing the cake isnt a tradition, its actuality making a mockery of the actual tradition.
That looks horrible tbh
Yes it is a bad omen for the marriage. Oh and if my ex gets caked smashed in her face when she marries the guy she dumped me for then it might be a sign I can have her back, heck I might be bluffing right now.
If immature people both consent and think it’s funny, it’s a free country. But it’s absolutely tasteless and immature especially on your wedding day 🙄🙄🙄
Smashing the cake is not the tradition. The tradition is for the husband and wife to feed each other a small bite.
I’ve never been a fan of it but nowadays people take it too far.
If I ever get married, I don’t want cake smashed in my face and I wouldn’t do it to my spouse either. If they did it after I asked them not to, we’d have a big issue on our hands.
@@NG.. did I say that? If you want your partner to do that to you, have fun. I’m just stating my opinion.
We made it a bet between guests for who they wanted to see who smash the cake, we used it’s part of honeymoon fund and everyone collectively between our 2 jars made $500. I won so he got the brunt of it but he also pulled a little off his face and smashed into mine. It was fun especially since we both helped each other clean up in the bathroom including him helping me get it out of my dress before going back to party. We helped each other and laughed the whole time. But please be on the same page about it. Some people have sensory issues or find it disrespectful. Feed each other instead of smashing or like they said the tiny dollop on nose for cute photo. What ever you do it’s your wedding and it should be a blast.
Don’t do something you’ll regret unless someone accepts it, otherwise, this tradition is extremely fun.
If it's something that small that leads to divorce, it never would have worked out anyways.. Glad he found out and dodged a bullet. Otherwise he would be living an entire life of dullness, and misery with her around. Hope she never has kids
It is neither a tradition nor fun. You want to spend your wedding party with cake all over your face and clothes there is more wrong with you than can be counted here.
@@idkidk8278 your point was a bit less shortsighted until you said she shouldn't have kids for some reason. Incel
@@idkidk8278 Imagine thinking that’s the only way you can have fun. I hope you never get married
@@idkidk8278 If you want cake smashed then let someone smash it in your face. Let others have a classy wedding. What goes around comes around. You may never have kids.
That's a waste of cakes
Disrespectful from the beginning. Sad
Honestly, in my personal opinion, I find it disrespectful to each other to do that. I know others feel differently. But I think a wedding should be a serious affair without jokes. But that's my opinion.
Adults being childish and stupid!! I don’t think people do this on someone they love, it’s more like showing their anger and unhappiness of what they’re getting themselves into in the name of cake smashing 😩
It's a big NO unless the couple agrees to I beforehand
I hate all cake smashing traditions.
It’s definitely played out. Makeup costs way too much to be childish with food. Just my opinion. 🤷🏽♀️
That’s extremely valid.