Saw a text come in on her phone while I was driving us to a dinner date. Contact name was "Free Food 3". She didn't bring her wallet or money but I had the waiter split the check and left her there. I don't care if I wasn't Free Food 1 or 2. I would never want to be with someone that ugly on the inside
Don't blame you at all. How disgusting do you have to be to label someone Free Food #3 or free food in general. I hope she ranted and raved when you left.
Now, you say that, but not a long time ago "childish for playing video games" would've slid. "Childish" is one of those zero-content insults that people usually recoil in terror from, not try to reason it out at any point. You don't analytically prove beyond reasonable doubt that you are not "childish", same way you can't convince someone you are not "racist" or "retarded". It was never an attempt at a statement of fact, it was a verbal act of violence.
I love when guys stick women with the bill when they try to order insanely expensive things. It's one thing if the guy picks a super expensive restaurant but when the girl does it and tries to make the guy pay that's not a woman you want. I still insist I pay for dinner sometimes despite the fact my bf never lets me
Really though! The number of women I've heard say stuff like that and be like "Yeah I only did it for free food high five, girl!" like... no... you psycho... no wonder certain guys think all women are nuts when you exist.
Sometimes my boyfriend and I take turns on who covers the bill; other times, one pays while the other covers tip, etc. We try not to leave each other in the lurch, unlike some of the psychos mentioned in this video...
I had this one girlfriend, and when I'd take her and her daughters out to eat they'd order 5 times the amount of food that a normal human could eat "Oh we'll just take the left overs home" .... nothing like teaching her daughters how to use nice guys ☹
Not a man, but my guy cousin told me this story. He "dated" while in elementary school (3rd grade) and broke up with his girlfriend because she wanted more attention despite them sharing literally every class together and made fun of him for having a teddy bear.
This isn’t a valid comment. You are talking about literal children. As in tiny pre-pubescent children. What is your life that THAT is the only story you have to contribute and felt the need to contribute it?
I knew a girl that wanted to date me a few years ago. Said I had to get rid of my dog. I told her I know I will have my dog five years from now. I don't know how long you will be with me. So... I choose the dog. (dog is almost eight now)
4:10 I am SUPER allergic to cats. Like, SEVERAL asthma attacks, will have to go to the hospital kinda allergic. And I would NEVER tell ANYONE I’m dating to get rid of their cat for me. I would do my best to avoid the cat and see if I could make it work. And if not, no big deal. That’s life. But that’s just cruel.
She invited me out to dinner and when we sat down at a restaurant of her choice,she gazed at me to say " just to let you know this is going to cost you lots of money.i just laughed and told her to order as I go to washroom.i got up and walked out the back door.
TBH, any first time date with a girl who assumes the guy is paying for dinner or everything most likely got the idea from her entitled gal pals. I went on a few first time dates in my youth before meeting my husband and each time my "friends" told me, "Make sure he pays for everything!" especially if I "put out". I was like, "The hell???" I never "put out" on any of those 1st dates and a few ended up turning into long term relationships but there were a few that I never called back and in one case had to block him on my phone AND online. As a woman, my pet peeve on first time dates were a man's hygiene and/or assuming I would sleep with him at the end of the date... whether or not he paid for dinner.
Lady Deadpool 💋 I’m old fashioned and I usually pay for the first date. Of course my first dates are usually coffee dates anyways so I’m not worried about it. I know a few girls have been quite appreciative of the gesture.
@@paooul_dixon Coffee dates make far more sense. Easier to cut and run if it's not going well and neither party has expectations of anyone spending a small fortune. When I started dating a few years ago I was skint as my ex-boyfriend had caused me considerable financial grief. Fortunately the things I enjoy (e.g. hiking, cycling, beach combing) don't cost much and I'm a fairly good cook, so I felt ok about throwing my hat in the ring and living again. When I met my fourth coffee date he insisted we have dinner at the venue instead. I only had £15 on me, warned him I wasn't expecting this \'o'/ and was relieved when the bill only came to £30. After putting down my £10 note, while fishing out the rest he smiled and covered it. You are right, I was appreciative of this gesture. I then suggested our second date, a hike in my local hills. It gets chilly up there and that worked out as I'd hoped with a wee snuggle up while we picnicked ;-) He told me after we got engaged a year later he hadn't intended for me to pay for anything on our first date, but thought it was cute watching me try. Monkey! 2 years on, back on my feet financially, I took him back to the same place and pre-paid dinner, a room and breakfast as his birthday surprise (his 'main' gift was a pair of rather nice slippers lol). Sometimes us chicks like to spoil you guys too and he was well chuffed :-)
Right but men not paying isn’t okay. He has everything to gain from the first date. He is not in literal physical danger. He does not bear the social stigma of the date turns physical. If it’s best case sceneario and you fall in love and become spouses and have kids, he does not carry half the pregnancy or breastfeed half the time. His body doesn’t fall apart, lose hair, lose teeth, get ripped front to back, have his organs rearranged….. And men make more money. Not every individual male compared to every individual female. But men have the upper hand in asset acquisition still. I pay on dates…. With women. Once already courted appropriately and in a relationship with a man, of course I pay sometimes! And give great gifts. Sure. But I don’t even actually understand what women like you are even suggesting. How does a man court and treat a woman and show her how much he’s willing to invest in her whether for a brief romance or a life together without paying for her on dates? And how much does his makeup and outfit even cost just to get to the date? And how much physical danger is he in on the fate statistically speaking?
@@paooul_dixonsweetheart 😂😂😂😂 Bless. But a coffee date isn’t old fashioned . Old fashioned means you’re the provider. Also? Modern and feminist means YOU ARE THE PROVIDER. we don’t make oppressed marginalized demographics pay reparations to those in control. When women are desperate to pay for men, they have Stockholm syndrome. If a date doesn’t work out, the woman is risking extreme danger (statistically speaking) going out with a man. If it works out casually, she’s taking all the risk of pregnancy, most the risk of STIs, even a perfectly healthy clean man can give life threatening UTIs and throw of pH…. All of it. She’s taking on the social stigma and devaluing of having yet another partner. Men don’t have that. They have the opposite. Their value INCREASES with every woman they get with. (Not according to me. But per society.) And then let’s say BEST CASE SCENARIO. You fall in love. You get married. YOU HAVE BABIES. She takes absurd cuts in income and job opportunities just to have the baby. She loses her teeth, her hair. Hemorrhoids the size of potatoes come out her butt. Her organs shift. She gives birth and is ripped front to back, it is life threatening. Placenta can stay behind, she stinks like a garbage dumpster forever… if she survives the infection. She breastfeeds, and her boobs become two deflated sacks on her chest. And none of this is even taking into consideration the male brain inability to process empathy fully and men’s refusal to embody the concept of full consent. It’s just that…… Even a man providing financially 100% ISNT 50/50. That’s why even when they always did WOMEN WERE OPPRESSED. The notion that now women pay to be oppressed is just STOCKHOLM SYNDROME. So please, I say this to you from the bottom of my heart: Don’t ask women you don’t want to treat to a gorgeous night out on dates. Just don’t do it. And when you do? Just do it bc life is ACTUALLY that hard for us. It’s just that desperate women downplay how bad it is bc they don’t want to scare men away. You could give a woman 1 million dollars, and if she bears and raises your children it’s not even CLOSE to fair compensation. That’s why surrogates gets half a million per baby and why Nannies get hundreds of thousands a year!
Could be worse, my brother ended up marrying his 1st wife (he's been married 3 times, idiot) just because she cleaned up his vomit off the carpet floor after they went on a date and he got too drunk. The floor was our mother's house but later found out idiot brother made it sound like it was HIS house and mom was living with him. 3 years and 2 kids later she divorced him.
Female here, most of the guys I've met through Tinder are down for a first date but then after that they ghost me. One date I went on, he didn't know how to have a conversation with me in person and he was physically underwhelming in person as well. Had to text my sister to give me an excuse to leave early.
2 stand out in memory. 1. Religious type, tried to get me to say that I loved her on our blind date so that she could justify putting her plan into action. That plan? She wanted to have 7 kids. Seven! Wanted to have them one after another. She went to my bedroom. I didn't follow. 2. Was a friend of my brothers girlfriend. We all hung out together one night at her place, and I end up asking her out. She lived in a trailer with a friend. Learned during the date that she had 3 kids. Her ex husband had custody of all three. She didn't have a drivers license. Now, I didn't know what circumstances led to her being a unemployed, divorced, mother of three, with no drivers license. Nor why her ex husband had custody of the kids. But I did know that I didn't want a second date.
@@acummins1072 It's called heteropaternal superfecundation, or HS for short. Sometimes eggs come out more than one at a time, and if a girl has sex with more than one guy in a general time period, different sperms get different eggs in one womb. I first ran into the concept in a Stargate fanfic, of all places, when Sam sleeps with Jack after having sex with/being raped by(I don't remember which) a Go'auld. It was obviously played for drama.
The one with the oil diffuser person...sounds like that guy dodged a big bullet there because that sounds like that person is a part of an MLM. He should have noped out of that one as soon as it started.
I have never been on a date, am 43 now. I feel like I have not missed out on anything other than horrid experiences. I have no desire to date now after all these years either.
@@wcotton I am good not getting nagged at because I am doing something I enjoy. I am good with not getting yelled at because of... day that ends in Y. I am also good not worrying about when she is going to cheat, if the kids are mine, and when she divorces me how much am I going to lose. Yeah, not missing out on anything at all buddy.
My first coffee date... I hardly talked for 2 hours because I couldn't get a word in egdeways. He told me his entire sexual history, in some detail. He wasn't a creep, but what verbal diahrrea. I was dumbfounded. Noped out.
Just my opinion, as a woman, I don't like not paying on dates. In the past, the guys I were with always insisted paying, even when I told them I can pay. I'd usually sort of protest by at least paying the tip. It is shocking to me girls just demand this and then expect more. Money isn't cheap.
If a girl doesn't pay for her part that's a major concern right there. In the past it wasn't a big deal because men enjoyed showing they cared in that way. But the whole thing has been exploited so much that it's not worth it anymore. I think if a woman pays for her part it shows she cares and is not just there for free food and attention.
Girl brought her best friend and the two spent the whole date chatting with each other and looking at their phones. There really wasn't any point in me being there.
I went out on a date with this one girl who acted immature through the whole date. Burped loudly without excusing herself, constantly being loud during certain parts of the movie disrupting others, and finally getting upset because I wouldn't have sex with her on the first date. I'm sorry, but no second date for you.
I didn´t know it was a date, but this one girl I knew from work told me about this pizza place, so we went there and had something to eat. I just did what I assume to be basic human decency (i.e. introvert smalltalk, which is basically what extroverts would call a deep conversation), and then she somehow expected me to pay for her as well. I mean, my bill came up as around 30€, but hers was more than five times that high, so I said no, paid for my stuff and left. The next day at work, she told me she had to leave her antique pocket watch as insurance so the pizza place would let her leave and come back with money, and yelled at me because I ruined our first date. I was literally the last person at my work place to know it was a date. When she somehow convinced my boss to get me in trouble for it (apparently her pocket watch is so important to her that she can´t work properly without it, which I can totally understand, having the same issue if I´m without my belt, wrist watch or pocket knife), I told my boss that I never go on dates with colleagues. I won´t even consider them friends because, you know, they´re my colleagues, not my friends. She goes on and on about how it was totally a date, since we talked about our hobbies and interests, and had a real connection and all that, and I just told her that, as an introvert, that is my version of smalltalk. She asked why I agreed to something that was obviously a date if my personal guidelines say I can´t go on dates with colleagues, and I told her that she told me about the pizza place, asked when I´d be free, and then just sat down opposite from me. I also told her that I have severe autism and don´t understand social constructs that well, and named three people from the top of my head that worked with us, all of whom thought they were in a relationship with them because I failed to understand the signals I was sending to them. I had some money on me, as I usually do, and paid about 20% of what she had to pay because of me, and the boss said that this should resolve the issue. She quit a week later.
For the future it wasn't a date, she only said it was a date because she had to pay for it in the end. Had you paid and been the who thought "you guys had a connection" she would have been the one to promptly remind you that it wasn't a date. Idk if its because your autistic or lacking in interaction with women but, yeah they hate to pay for dates even though a lot of them claim to hate old fashioned traditions. That one though the "man pays cause its tradition" that one they have no problem with it keeping it seems. But in general women love to have plausible deniability or in other words having one foot in and one foot out or basically have one foot one first while trying to steal second.
If someone asked me if i had any love intrest, i'd just say "heck yes" then proceed to name them "Raphael (tmnt) Cindy Hayes (oitnb) Sandor Clegane (got) Bwonsamdi (WoW)" just to see what kind of reaction he/she would give
[I saw TMNT, and I had to comment.] If I heard that, I would say: Hey girl, you can date me. I'm already all yours. [Please, don't "kill me" in comments. Is not my intention make someone bad. It's a funny and simple joke.]
On the way to the restaurant she told me all the guys in the dating / matchmaking business, where we had been paired, were "losers". Note: She AGREED to go on the date with me through the site. While waiting for our table, a former employee I had supervised saw me on her way out and we did the whole, "Hi! How are you? Good seeing you again!" I made the introductions of the two women, the former employee made the introductions with the guy she was with. Then, "Bye". On our way to our table, my "date" asks icily, "So how often do you see HER?" With the negative, icy emphasis on "HER". It was one of the longest dinners I've ever had.
The "buy dinner for the girl" date thing is so exploitable it should be left as a relic of the past. She's a big girl, she can pay for her own meal. Also, I think that doing everything for a woman would be disrespectful to her. Relationships are partnerships and she has just as much to offer, and should offer. Dates are just a way of getting to know each other, not some magical step to confirm a relationship. You should be getting to know each other in school, the work place, and doing fun together, or just hanging out. The whole "1st date-2nd date" thing is a social dinosaur that is a pretty convoluted and shallow way of going about things.
The girls who have their boyfriends pay for every meal are despicable I feel so bad if my boyfriend even buys me a McDonald's hamburger and I don't pay him back I feel horrible even though he says it's fine and I do it for him all the time I just don't like the idea of somebody else paying for my shit
I took her by my Friendly Local Game Store as part of it to show her my hobby, and she complained that it was mysogynistic because it was all dudes playing Warhammer and Magic The Gathering. I'm sorry The Dark Gods make females with active imaginations and creativity as often as they do with albinism and extra digits... EDIT: General tip - unless you are on a date with a university student never ever use a term like 'mysogynistic', or describe yourself as 'asexual' and try to use normie language like 'sexist' or 'tomboy' because you are cluing your date into the fact that you've had victimhood training.
I wouldn't recommend chucking these terms willy-nilly at university students either. Odds are they're familiar enough with them personally to dismantle them.
"victimhood training" seems unnecessarily harsh. Although I guess someone who would describe those terms as "normie language" would think that's a thing
I actually do let people know about my cheating. Not on the first date of course, but if it’s getting serious, I like to say “hey 4 years ago I fucked up so please tell me if you don’t feel comfortable dating me”.
Some of these women have no morals!!! Not bringing your wallet in the restourant really? Do parents not teach their children manners and morals these days?
13:00 had a date like that one too. She was pregnant, but didn’t tell me till half way through the night. She got blind drunk anyway because she was terminating the pregnancy the next day. Noped out of there.
We Had a party, a date and slept together.. In the morning after not sleeping all night we then had a party the next night.. I was so beat i didn't talk much. She was all over me but I couldn't get into it an was "blahhh". She asks me what's wrong I tell her I want to kick everyone out and just sleep. She says " with me I hope?" I said yes would love to but don't think I could. She then says that what her boyfriend says all the time. . FML.. Ten mins later she's hanging off me still in a great mood and all my friends are talking with us and she's asks, " SO WHO WANTS TO TAKE ME TONIGHT?!" WHAT. THE. LITERAL. F**K.. All my friends look at me and no one was laughing but her. . I got a look like ( Bro you'd better be wrapping it. ) Never been happier about being safe than that date.. To this day i have not chilled with her again. .
She said that after a date with me she's deleting tinder. That definitely sent some signals not to try and call her out on a second date :D My fault though, i couldn't squeeze a word out of me. It was my first (and to this point, only) date ever, I was 21
Girl said I should bring my dog with to hang out at her house. We were at the Netflix part of Netflix n chill and my dog kept putting his nose up by us wanting to be pet and she just slapped his nose really hard out of nowhere. My dog doesn't get hit so he was super confused about what happened. We did end up "chilling" but I never hung out with her again. No slap puppy!
I'm the one bankrolling the evening's festivities: we both know this. At dinner (my favorite local steakhouse), I order steak and fries. She gives me this aghast, horrified stink-eye, like I've just ordered a hindquarter of beef and 100 pounds of potatoes. (I haven't. It's an entree-sized steak, and comes with a commensurate portion of fries.) She shakes her head, and orders grilled fish and steamed vegetables. Our dinners arrive. She looks at her plate; she looks at mine. Guess who now wants to take 3 bites of her fish, basically leave her vegetables for the dishwash crew, and eat at least half of my dinner? No, she didn't get a second date. If you're too stupid to understand a menu, my life is no place for you.
I had a girl that I didn’t even have a first date with. So I met this girl online when I was in college that went to a different college about an hours drive away from mine. We got to chatting a bit for maybe a day or two and she was very insistent on Skyping with me. Which I’m totally fine with as it’s a good way to weed out people before you meet irl. Well we skype and not to long into our conversation she starts talking about us dating and going steady and such and our future together. I stayed polite and such throughout but I found an excuse to end the Skype call as quickly as possible as I could tell that she was clearly crazy.
She started off by telling me her obsession with famous American serial killers. And was asking me if I had a basement. She said 96% of people are soulless, selfish, and will take advantage of you. I was firstly creeped out and I couldn’t be with someone who has so little faith in their fellow human.
I hope that one guy reported his nurse date for neglecting her patients. Why are you a damn nurse if you don’t give a crap about your sick/dying patients?
I'd hate getting a reply from him - he's always narrating about himself several years back just to tell you that he stepped on some bubble-gum. Anyway, he'd eventually say "so then I put it all together: this girl wants me to improve for her by not being a super-hero and stop saving lives, she's self-centered, she doesn't really consider me a great love interest, and she's as intricate as a urine bottle. I decided to drop her." Extra: "then, fueled by my rage as I realized all the time she used my innocence against me, I quit my job. I got back to anonymous boxing for a bit of very fast cash, but later sorted out my life pursuing jobs that pay a lot due to height danger (electric poles, antennas, tall buildings, bridge construction...) and selling some of my webbing as silk ropes. I'm still looking for a suitable love interest, but while I'm having trouble finding one, I'm comforted by them admiring me once/if they find out I'm actually spiderman. To my bitch ex, if you're reading this: SEE?! That's how you treat a hero, moreso a super one! What was SO important about you that had to get my attention away from doing good for the people of the city?!"
14:10 I would ask her, that if she wanted to continue to date me, she would have to read "Hour of the Dragon", "Lord of the RIngs" and "The Book of Three", and to write a 5-10 page essay on each of them, detailing her thoughts on each, then write a separate essay on how all three could relate to each other. I would also tell her that she would need to check herself in, and clean up with the drugs. Then I would be willing to maybe date her if I was still clear. Then block her number.
It wasnt even a date, i was at a bar listening to a friend DJ minding my own business. Some random chubby chick comes up to me asks to play pool, im like... ok. Rack the balls and shes asking a few questions, where im from and such, then she asks "so i bet you make $45k a year." I certainly didn't make that much at the time and was like this red flag couldnt be any bigger lol. Faked that something happened and i had to go.
Came to pick her up on my motorbike. She got on the back and was like "Hey, where's the seat belt?". I thought she was joking but she was dead serious. I told her there was none and she was like "what?! that's so dangerous!". The rest of the evening went on and let me tell you, the first impression wasn't all that off as her IQ was not in the triple digits, for sure.
Gastric bypass. Surgery for usually obese people who were either gonna die from their "condition" or who had actually exhausted all other options to control their weight, but to no avail.
When did men stop paying for dinner on dates? You wouldn’t be getting a piece of ass from me if You told the waiter “separate bill please” 😂 (yes my husband paid for dinner 😉)
That's exactly the reason why. Women have been exploiting men for their time and money with no intention for a real relationship. Chivalry was something men held to because they wanted to show women how much they care. If women take advantage of that and use men just for their resources don't be surprised if men stop giving. It's just a matter of human respect.
OMG, that thumbnail. 😵😵😵 Edit: one time playing wingman for one of my boys, i agreed to blind date, his dates friend. So we drove out to new roc city, (new Rochelle, NY) and ate at the buffalo wild wings. She was, "decent" looking, but the turn off was when, she scraped pieces of chicken from under her fingernails with her teeth. She had at least inch long nails at that. Nope, I was done. 🤢🤢🤢
Bold of you to assume I've had a first date
True
Bold of you to even assume you'll date ever
Delta Wither don’t have a date, holding off indefinitely due to a much stronger desire for wealth
Bold of you to assume this joke isn't dead yet
Same here
Saw a text come in on her phone while I was driving us to a dinner date. Contact name was "Free Food 3". She didn't bring her wallet or money but I had the waiter split the check and left her there.
I don't care if I wasn't Free Food 1 or 2. I would never want to be with someone that ugly on the inside
Don't blame you at all. How disgusting do you have to be to label someone Free Food #3 or free food in general. I hope she ranted and raved when you left.
Aka your average girl who dates around
This didn’t happen. 😂😂😂😂😂
@@66sladeaverage straw woman figment of insecure men’s imagination.
“Childish for listening to music” lmao what kinda logic....
Now, you say that, but not a long time ago "childish for playing video games" would've slid.
"Childish" is one of those zero-content insults that people usually recoil in terror from, not try to reason it out at any point. You don't analytically prove beyond reasonable doubt that you are not "childish", same way you can't convince someone you are not "racist" or "retarded". It was never an attempt at a statement of fact, it was a verbal act of violence.
People when I say I like kpop🧍🏾♀️ this is my deepest secret💔
I love when guys stick women with the bill when they try to order insanely expensive things. It's one thing if the guy picks a super expensive restaurant but when the girl does it and tries to make the guy pay that's not a woman you want. I still insist I pay for dinner sometimes despite the fact my bf never lets me
Really though! The number of women I've heard say stuff like that and be like "Yeah I only did it for free food high five, girl!"
like... no... you psycho... no wonder certain guys think all women are nuts when you exist.
Sometimes my boyfriend and I take turns on who covers the bill; other times, one pays while the other covers tip, etc. We try not to leave each other in the lurch, unlike some of the psychos mentioned in this video...
@@keezyducky1261 who tf are you talking to? No one is generalizing all guys....
Not all women are like that. This guy assumed that all I wanted was free dinner. My only assumption was that he had hair on his head. Both were wrong.
I had this one girlfriend, and when I'd take her and her daughters out to eat they'd order 5 times the amount of food that a normal human could eat "Oh we'll just take the left overs home" .... nothing like teaching her daughters how to use nice guys ☹
Anyone tells me to get rid of my dogs they can leave and live on the street.
Agreed
@Jackson Smith I'd most likely pack their things,drive them across town to a busy place,tell them to get off and then just leave them there.
Absolutely!
Not a man, but my guy cousin told me this story. He "dated" while in elementary school (3rd grade) and broke up with his girlfriend because she wanted more attention despite them sharing literally every class together and made fun of him for having a teddy bear.
This isn’t a valid comment. You are talking about literal children. As in tiny pre-pubescent children.
What is your life that THAT is the only story you have to contribute and felt the need to contribute it?
10/10 would end a relationship if they said I had to get rid of my babies
I knew a girl that wanted to date me a few years ago. Said I had to get rid of my dog. I told her I know I will have my dog five years from now. I don't know how long you will be with me. So... I choose the dog. (dog is almost eight now)
FUR BABYS FOR LIFE
It is disgusting to me that someone would call their pets babies.
Marko Vidakovic Babies are absolutely disgusting
@@MarkoFTW Why is that? And what if they actually are babies?
"Old-fashioned" is she? Then why does she study?
Sis snapped ayeeee
Bc women have been studying for millennia.
50% gold diggers, 50% cheaters
4:10 I am SUPER allergic to cats. Like, SEVERAL asthma attacks, will have to go to the hospital kinda allergic. And I would NEVER tell ANYONE I’m dating to get rid of their cat for me. I would do my best to avoid the cat and see if I could make it work. And if not, no big deal. That’s life. But that’s just cruel.
I'm usually the reason I don't get a first date, let alone a second. I'm very bad at dating/relationships/talking to women. Never really their fault
I think I'm you in a female version seems like I bore every guy I meet to death (not literally)
She invited me out to dinner and when we sat down at a restaurant of her choice,she gazed at me to say " just to let you know this is going to cost you lots of money.i just laughed and told her to order as I go to washroom.i got up and walked out the back door.
TBH, any first time date with a girl who assumes the guy is paying for dinner or everything most likely got the idea from her entitled gal pals. I went on a few first time dates in my youth before meeting my husband and each time my "friends" told me, "Make sure he pays for everything!" especially if I "put out". I was like, "The hell???"
I never "put out" on any of those 1st dates and a few ended up turning into long term relationships but there were a few that I never called back and in one case had to block him on my phone AND online. As a woman, my pet peeve on first time dates were a man's hygiene and/or assuming I would sleep with him at the end of the date... whether or not he paid for dinner.
Lady Deadpool 💋 I’m old fashioned and I usually pay for the first date. Of course my first dates are usually coffee dates anyways so I’m not worried about it. I know a few girls have been quite appreciative of the gesture.
@@paooul_dixon Coffee dates make far more sense. Easier to cut and run if it's not going well and neither party has expectations of anyone spending a small fortune.
When I started dating a few years ago I was skint as my ex-boyfriend had caused me considerable financial grief. Fortunately the things I enjoy (e.g. hiking, cycling, beach combing) don't cost much and I'm a fairly good cook, so I felt ok about throwing my hat in the ring and living again.
When I met my fourth coffee date he insisted we have dinner at the venue instead. I only had £15 on me, warned him I wasn't expecting this \'o'/ and was relieved when the bill only came to £30. After putting down my £10 note, while fishing out the rest he smiled and covered it. You are right, I was appreciative of this gesture. I then suggested our second date, a hike in my local hills. It gets chilly up there and that worked out as I'd hoped with a wee snuggle up while we picnicked ;-)
He told me after we got engaged a year later he hadn't intended for me to pay for anything on our first date, but thought it was cute watching me try. Monkey! 2 years on, back on my feet financially, I took him back to the same place and pre-paid dinner, a room and breakfast as his birthday surprise (his 'main' gift was a pair of rather nice slippers lol). Sometimes us chicks like to spoil you guys too and he was well chuffed :-)
Right but men not paying isn’t okay.
He has everything to gain from the first date. He is not in literal physical danger. He does not bear the social stigma of the date turns physical.
If it’s best case sceneario and you fall in love and become spouses and have kids, he does not carry half the pregnancy or breastfeed half the time. His body doesn’t fall apart, lose hair, lose teeth, get ripped front to back, have his organs rearranged…..
And men make more money. Not every individual male compared to every individual female.
But men have the upper hand in asset acquisition still.
I pay on dates…. With women.
Once already courted appropriately and in a relationship with a man, of course I pay sometimes! And give great gifts. Sure.
But I don’t even actually understand what women like you are even suggesting.
How does a man court and treat a woman and show her how much he’s willing to invest in her whether for a brief romance or a life together without paying for her on dates?
And how much does his makeup and outfit even cost just to get to the date?
And how much physical danger is he in on the fate statistically speaking?
@@paooul_dixonsweetheart 😂😂😂😂
Bless. But a coffee date isn’t old fashioned
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Old fashioned means you’re the provider.
Also? Modern and feminist means YOU ARE THE PROVIDER.
we don’t make oppressed marginalized demographics pay reparations to those in control.
When women are desperate to pay for men, they have Stockholm syndrome.
If a date doesn’t work out, the woman is risking extreme danger (statistically speaking) going out with a man. If it works out casually, she’s taking all the risk of pregnancy, most the risk of STIs, even a perfectly healthy clean man can give life threatening UTIs and throw of pH…. All of it.
She’s taking on the social stigma and devaluing of having yet another partner. Men don’t have that. They have the opposite. Their value INCREASES with every woman they get with. (Not according to me. But per society.)
And then let’s say BEST CASE SCENARIO.
You fall in love. You get married. YOU HAVE BABIES.
She takes absurd cuts in income and job opportunities just to have the baby.
She loses her teeth, her hair. Hemorrhoids the size of potatoes come out her butt. Her organs shift.
She gives birth and is ripped front to back, it is life threatening. Placenta can stay behind, she stinks like a garbage dumpster forever… if she survives the infection.
She breastfeeds, and her boobs become two deflated sacks on her chest.
And none of this is even taking into consideration the male brain inability to process empathy fully and men’s refusal to embody the concept of full consent.
It’s just that……
Even a man providing financially 100% ISNT 50/50.
That’s why even when they always did WOMEN WERE OPPRESSED.
The notion that now women pay to be oppressed is just STOCKHOLM SYNDROME.
So please, I say this to you from the bottom of my heart:
Don’t ask women you don’t want to treat to a gorgeous night out on dates. Just don’t do it.
And when you do? Just do it bc life is ACTUALLY that hard for us. It’s just that desperate women downplay how bad it is bc they don’t want to scare men away.
You could give a woman 1 million dollars, and if she bears and raises your children it’s not even CLOSE to fair compensation.
That’s why surrogates gets half a million per baby and why Nannies get hundreds of thousands a year!
Technically not a date but she got blackout drunk on wine and she threw up on me.
I mean it would have to have been a date before any sort of fluid exchange occured
impressive
Could be worse, my brother ended up marrying his 1st wife (he's been married 3 times, idiot) just because she cleaned up his vomit off the carpet floor after they went on a date and he got too drunk. The floor was our mother's house but later found out idiot brother made it sound like it was HIS house and mom was living with him. 3 years and 2 kids later she divorced him.
Her: What do you do for work?
Me: I work at (blank) Restaurant as a chef
Her: Oh! I never had a chef as a husband before
...
Yeah~, no thanks XD
did she just automatically assume you would be her husband? on the first date?
That's cute
@@kumokundomo9705 pretty creepy in my opinion.
They ate my fries.
Though I find it funny, I respect your choice for personal boundaries. Good on you for enforcing it.
Joey?
@@delevator8755 Oh, right... but they broke up because Joey ate her cake after that.
Daddy why did you eat my fries
That bitch.
I eat fries but I always ask first and they can always say no
Female here, most of the guys I've met through Tinder are down for a first date but then after that they ghost me. One date I went on, he didn't know how to have a conversation with me in person and he was physically underwhelming in person as well. Had to text my sister to give me an excuse to leave early.
2 stand out in memory.
1. Religious type, tried to get me to say that I loved her on our blind date so that she could justify putting her plan into action. That plan? She wanted to have 7 kids. Seven! Wanted to have them one after another. She went to my bedroom. I didn't follow.
2. Was a friend of my brothers girlfriend. We all hung out together one night at her place, and I end up asking her out. She lived in a trailer with a friend. Learned during the date that she had 3 kids. Her ex husband had custody of all three. She didn't have a drivers license. Now, I didn't know what circumstances led to her being a unemployed, divorced, mother of three, with no drivers license. Nor why her ex husband had custody of the kids. But I did know that I didn't want a second date.
10:20 This guy fled from an invitation to a slaughter (trapping him with a child to take over the rest of his life).
It’s amazing how many people don’t realize this.
Complaints and zero reassurances
4:00 Frick the date, I'm going to ignore him in favor of the cat.
13:00 They actually can, depending on how far along they are.
So if the fetus is still fucking tiny another can show up like “yeah I’m stuck here too”
@@acummins1072 "What are you in here for, bro to be"
@@acummins1072 It's called heteropaternal superfecundation, or HS for short. Sometimes eggs come out more than one at a time, and if a girl has sex with more than one guy in a general time period, different sperms get different eggs in one womb.
I first ran into the concept in a Stargate fanfic, of all places, when Sam sleeps with Jack after having sex with/being raped by(I don't remember which) a Go'auld. It was obviously played for drama.
@@terreliv I was literally gonna be like "bitch what?" but now I'm just happy to have learned something super weird. Thank you, stranger!!
The one with the oil diffuser person...sounds like that guy dodged a big bullet there because that sounds like that person is a part of an MLM. He should have noped out of that one as soon as it started.
He probably didn't know she was into an MLM when it started.
I have never been on a date, am 43 now. I feel like I have not missed out on anything other than horrid experiences. I have no desire to date now after all these years either.
You should try it. Not all bad
You're missing out on an important slice of life.
@@wcotton I am good not getting nagged at because I am doing something I enjoy. I am good with not getting yelled at because of... day that ends in Y. I am also good not worrying about when she is going to cheat, if the kids are mine, and when she divorces me how much am I going to lose.
Yeah, not missing out on anything at all buddy.
She ordered a tomato juice and almost didn't talk for 2 hours.
And another one casually told me that she wanted to try heroin, noped out of the pub.
My first coffee date... I hardly talked for 2 hours because I couldn't get a word in egdeways. He told me his entire sexual history, in some detail. He wasn't a creep, but what verbal diahrrea. I was dumbfounded. Noped out.
13:51 Most people live at home; that’s why it’s called “home”! 😂
Most young people (under 21) consider "home" to be with their parents.
If someone gives you the "me or the pets" ultimatum, they're just testing the waters before they move onto your friends and family.
Just my opinion, as a woman, I don't like not paying on dates. In the past, the guys I were with always insisted paying, even when I told them I can pay. I'd usually sort of protest by at least paying the tip. It is shocking to me girls just demand this and then expect more. Money isn't cheap.
If a girl doesn't pay for her part that's a major concern right there. In the past it wasn't a big deal because men enjoyed showing they cared in that way. But the whole thing has been exploited so much that it's not worth it anymore. I think if a woman pays for her part it shows she cares and is not just there for free food and attention.
Girl brought her best friend and the two spent the whole date chatting with each other and looking at their phones. There really wasn't any point in me being there.
I hope you didn’t pay for them
After the first date she said we should just be friends.... kinda killed the mood.
She probably meant it that way.
I'm like the one who spent the whole date silent
I went out on a date with this one girl who acted immature through the whole date. Burped loudly without excusing herself, constantly being loud during certain parts of the movie disrupting others, and finally getting upset because I wouldn't have sex with her on the first date. I'm sorry, but no second date for you.
Dogs are also commitments for their lives.
I never date. It is time consuming, expensive, and produces no benefit.
She hugged literally every male friend she saw during the dates like it was her boyfriend, made me feel awkward af.
Maybe her hugs are like a sweet hello? Personally, I don't like people touching me. Except cute dogs.
I didn´t know it was a date, but this one girl I knew from work told me about this pizza place, so we went there and had something to eat.
I just did what I assume to be basic human decency (i.e. introvert smalltalk, which is basically what extroverts would call a deep conversation), and then she somehow expected me to pay for her as well. I mean, my bill came up as around 30€, but hers was more than five times that high, so I said no, paid for my stuff and left.
The next day at work, she told me she had to leave her antique pocket watch as insurance so the pizza place would let her leave and come back with money, and yelled at me because I ruined our first date. I was literally the last person at my work place to know it was a date.
When she somehow convinced my boss to get me in trouble for it (apparently her pocket watch is so important to her that she can´t work properly without it, which I can totally understand, having the same issue if I´m without my belt, wrist watch or pocket knife), I told my boss that I never go on dates with colleagues. I won´t even consider them friends because, you know, they´re my colleagues, not my friends.
She goes on and on about how it was totally a date, since we talked about our hobbies and interests, and had a real connection and all that, and I just told her that, as an introvert, that is my version of smalltalk. She asked why I agreed to something that was obviously a date if my personal guidelines say I can´t go on dates with colleagues, and I told her that she told me about the pizza place, asked when I´d be free, and then just sat down opposite from me.
I also told her that I have severe autism and don´t understand social constructs that well, and named three people from the top of my head that worked with us, all of whom thought they were in a relationship with them because I failed to understand the signals I was sending to them.
I had some money on me, as I usually do, and paid about 20% of what she had to pay because of me, and the boss said that this should resolve the issue. She quit a week later.
For the future it wasn't a date, she only said it was a date because she had to pay for it in the end. Had you paid and been the who thought "you guys had a connection" she would have been the one to promptly remind you that it wasn't a date. Idk if its because your autistic or lacking in interaction with women but, yeah they hate to pay for dates even though a lot of them claim to hate old fashioned traditions. That one though the "man pays cause its tradition" that one they have no problem with it keeping it seems.
But in general women love to have plausible deniability or in other words having one foot in and one foot out or basically have one foot one first while trying to steal second.
oh dang i actually really needed wall doggos luck, i have exams next week, thx wall doggo
If someone asked me if i had any love intrest, i'd just say "heck yes" then proceed to name them "Raphael (tmnt) Cindy Hayes (oitnb) Sandor Clegane (got) Bwonsamdi (WoW)" just to see what kind of reaction he/she would give
Damn girl, you don't just gp both ways you go multiverse.
@@Briskrainbow0 just the way i like it tihi
[I saw TMNT, and I had to comment.]
If I heard that, I would say: Hey girl, you can date me. I'm already all yours.
[Please, don't "kill me" in comments. Is not my intention make someone bad. It's a funny and simple joke.]
Hahaha great video! 😁👌🏻😂
On the way to the restaurant she told me all the guys in the dating / matchmaking business, where we had been paired, were "losers". Note: She AGREED to go on the date with me through the site. While waiting for our table, a former employee I had supervised saw me on her way out and we did the whole, "Hi! How are you? Good seeing you again!" I made the introductions of the two women, the former employee made the introductions with the guy she was with. Then, "Bye". On our way to our table, my "date" asks icily, "So how often do you see HER?" With the negative, icy emphasis on "HER". It was one of the longest dinners I've ever had.
she kept on taking pictures of herself. Like everywhere!!!
The "buy dinner for the girl" date thing is so exploitable it should be left as a relic of the past. She's a big girl, she can pay for her own meal.
Also, I think that doing everything for a woman would be disrespectful to her. Relationships are partnerships and she has just as much to offer, and should offer. Dates are just a way of getting to know each other, not some magical step to confirm a relationship. You should be getting to know each other in school, the work place, and doing fun together, or just hanging out. The whole "1st date-2nd date" thing is a social dinosaur that is a pretty convoluted and shallow way of going about things.
The girls who have their boyfriends pay for every meal are despicable I feel so bad if my boyfriend even buys me a McDonald's hamburger and I don't pay him back I feel horrible even though he says it's fine and I do it for him all the time I just don't like the idea of somebody else paying for my shit
I took her by my Friendly Local Game Store as part of it to show her my hobby, and she complained that it was mysogynistic because it was all dudes playing Warhammer and Magic The Gathering.
I'm sorry The Dark Gods make females with active imaginations and creativity as often as they do with albinism and extra digits...
EDIT:
General tip - unless you are on a date with a university student never ever use a term like 'mysogynistic', or describe yourself as 'asexual' and try to use normie language like 'sexist' or 'tomboy' because you are cluing your date into the fact that you've had victimhood training.
I wouldn't recommend chucking these terms willy-nilly at university students either. Odds are they're familiar enough with them personally to dismantle them.
"victimhood training" seems unnecessarily harsh. Although I guess someone who would describe those terms as "normie language" would think that's a thing
idk why but it sounds so familiar i think i saw that video once
I'm kinda late but the first one is literally my mom she is always complaining about everything and being negative.
Some people will complain about the best day of their life.
I'm allergic to cats and even I wouldn't ask my date to get rid of their pet..that's just fucked up.
ya rather go on a date with the cat if i was told that
I actually do let people know about my cheating. Not on the first date of course, but if it’s getting serious, I like to say “hey 4 years ago I fucked up so please tell me if you don’t feel comfortable dating me”.
Moral of the video: don’t date online
I'm sad that I may never have a gold-digger first date horror story because I'm a girl.
Date another woman. Or find a homeless man
@@whiteice3056 Well first off I'm straight, and second I would rather date someone who is financially stable.
@@rhombicosidodecahedron4821 so...you are the gold digger horror story?
Some of these women have no morals!!! Not bringing your wallet in the restourant really? Do parents not teach their children manners and morals these days?
13:00 had a date like that one too. She was pregnant, but didn’t tell me till half way through the night. She got blind drunk anyway because she was terminating the pregnancy the next day. Noped out of there.
I prefer these reddit videos cause of the narration. “Right double quotation mark.” 😂
He told me that he loved me and would be moving in with me. LOL! “No one falls in love faster than someone who needs somewhere to live.” LOL! Buh-by!!
We Had a party, a date and slept together.. In the morning after not sleeping all night we then had a party the next night.. I was so beat i didn't talk much. She was all over me but I couldn't get into it an was "blahhh". She asks me what's wrong I tell her I want to kick everyone out and just sleep. She says " with me I hope?" I said yes would love to but don't think I could. She then says that what her boyfriend says all the time. . FML.. Ten mins later she's hanging off me still in a great mood and all my friends are talking with us and she's asks, " SO WHO WANTS TO TAKE ME TONIGHT?!" WHAT. THE. LITERAL. F**K.. All my friends look at me and no one was laughing but her. . I got a look like ( Bro you'd better be wrapping it. ) Never been happier about being safe than that date.. To this day i have not chilled with her again. .
She said that after a date with me she's deleting tinder. That definitely sent some signals not to try and call her out on a second date :D
My fault though, i couldn't squeeze a word out of me. It was my first (and to this point, only) date ever, I was 21
First to say
ya plays haters you should love yourself brrr
BTS reference?
yes :)
Cypher?!
Girl said I should bring my dog with to hang out at her house. We were at the Netflix part of Netflix n chill and my dog kept putting his nose up by us wanting to be pet and she just slapped his nose really hard out of nowhere. My dog doesn't get hit so he was super confused about what happened. We did end up "chilling" but I never hung out with her again. No slap puppy!
wall doggo fortune! Not all Mondays are bad after all.
Right-double-quotation-mark.
Girl: * Tells you to get rid out of your pet *
Same girl: * Expects you to not punch her in the throat *
One of many reasons why I'm single for life
I'm the one bankrolling the evening's festivities: we both know this. At dinner (my favorite local steakhouse), I order steak and fries.
She gives me this aghast, horrified stink-eye, like I've just ordered a hindquarter of beef and 100 pounds of potatoes. (I haven't. It's an entree-sized steak, and comes with a commensurate portion of fries.) She shakes her head, and orders grilled fish and steamed vegetables.
Our dinners arrive. She looks at her plate; she looks at mine.
Guess who now wants to take 3 bites of her fish, basically leave her vegetables for the dishwash crew, and eat at least half of my dinner?
No, she didn't get a second date. If you're too stupid to understand a menu, my life is no place for you.
I had a girl that I didn’t even have a first date with. So I met this girl online when I was in college that went to a different college about an hours drive away from mine. We got to chatting a bit for maybe a day or two and she was very insistent on Skyping with me. Which I’m totally fine with as it’s a good way to weed out people before you meet irl. Well we skype and not to long into our conversation she starts talking about us dating and going steady and such and our future together. I stayed polite and such throughout but I found an excuse to end the Skype call as quickly as possible as I could tell that she was clearly crazy.
That first one sounds Sooo much like my wife. W T H was i thinking? 🤦♂️
She showed up high and REEKED of cat pee
8:55 same story that was on Steven D’s channel 😂. You should check him out he tells scary stories and shit like that
Wow making you pay for the meal. that just extortion, given the pricing of restaurants are these days.
Zuzo's corner restrounce
@@kickwriteteach2313 What's a restrounce?
She started off by telling me her obsession with famous American serial killers. And was asking me if I had a basement. She said 96% of people are soulless, selfish, and will take advantage of you. I was firstly creeped out and I couldn’t be with someone who has so little faith in their fellow human.
I hope that one guy reported his nurse date for neglecting her patients. Why are you a damn nurse if you don’t give a crap about your sick/dying patients?
I don't even want a first date anymore.
Spoiled princess never again.
Have a nice day
That's quite an ironic choice of thumbnail since, were she to be even remotely interested in such, I would date Laina Morris in a heartbeat.
I misread the title as "Spider men,..."
I'd hate getting a reply from him - he's always narrating about himself several years back just to tell you that he stepped on some bubble-gum.
Anyway, he'd eventually say "so then I put it all together: this girl wants me to improve for her by not being a super-hero and stop saving lives, she's self-centered, she doesn't really consider me a great love interest, and she's as intricate as a urine bottle. I decided to drop her."
Extra: "then, fueled by my rage as I realized all the time she used my innocence against me, I quit my job. I got back to anonymous boxing for a bit of very fast cash, but later sorted out my life pursuing jobs that pay a lot due to height danger (electric poles, antennas, tall buildings, bridge construction...) and selling some of my webbing as silk ropes. I'm still looking for a suitable love interest, but while I'm having trouble finding one, I'm comforted by them admiring me once/if they find out I'm actually spiderman. To my bitch ex, if you're reading this: SEE?! That's how you treat a hero, moreso a super one! What was SO important about you that had to get my attention away from doing good for the people of the city?!"
Anyone who tells anyone else to just get rid of a pet is very cold and selfish.
she deserved that $500 bill. the audacity.
14:10 I would ask her, that if she wanted to continue to date me, she would have to read "Hour of the Dragon", "Lord of the RIngs" and "The Book of Three", and to write a 5-10 page essay on each of them, detailing her thoughts on each, then write a separate essay on how all three could relate to each other.
I would also tell her that she would need to check herself in, and clean up with the drugs.
Then I would be willing to maybe date her if I was still clear.
Then block her number.
It’s called Abandonment of Patient and yes, it’s illegal.
Holy crap the thumbnail is a picture of one of my youth group leaders
What? Crazy girlfriend meme?
It wasnt even a date, i was at a bar listening to a friend DJ minding my own business. Some random chubby chick comes up to me asks to play pool, im like... ok. Rack the balls and shes asking a few questions, where im from and such, then she asks "so i bet you make $45k a year." I certainly didn't make that much at the time and was like this red flag couldnt be any bigger lol. Faked that something happened and i had to go.
Pay someone else's student loans? Who da fuck do they would do that
If they didn't want to pay for themselves, there is no 2nd date.
I find super weird when people purposely leave their wallets.
Came to pick her up on my motorbike. She got on the back and was like "Hey, where's the seat belt?". I thought she was joking but she was dead serious. I told her there was none and she was like "what?! that's so dangerous!".
The rest of the evening went on and let me tell you, the first impression wasn't all that off as her IQ was not in the triple digits, for sure.
Her crazy went right to the bone
My first date was when I was 14 in a movie theatre. Both our parents showed up.
No second date. I've decided I will just date when I'm 18.
is it bad that i'm 21 and never been on a date before?
Wait, wtf is gastro?
Gastric bypass. Surgery for usually obese people who were either gonna die from their "condition" or who had actually exhausted all other options to control their weight, but to no avail.
Jacob Chavira thank
Fidel Gastro. He puked up a nauseating Communist mess in Cuba.
Bashing co-workers and job...sounds familiar. That was me before my awesome career change. I'm happier now. Sorry, internet date😓
When did men stop paying for dinner on dates? You wouldn’t be getting a piece of ass from me if You told the waiter “separate bill please” 😂 (yes my husband paid for dinner 😉)
That's exactly the reason why. Women have been exploiting men for their time and money with no intention for a real relationship. Chivalry was something men held to because they wanted to show women how much they care. If women take advantage of that and use men just for their resources don't be surprised if men stop giving. It's just a matter of human respect.
I’m 14. I’ve been single for all 14 of those years. I shouldn’t be watching these.
Narrator kisses teeth at 3:18 !? 😭 wow...
Poor animals. ☠
kisses teeth? what?
If your not even 30 years old the term *"I'm just old fashioned"* isn't a fucking option for you.
Rides before brides
OMG, that thumbnail. 😵😵😵
Edit: one time playing wingman for one of my boys, i agreed to blind date, his dates friend. So we drove out to new roc city, (new Rochelle, NY) and ate at the buffalo wild wings. She was, "decent" looking, but the turn off was when, she scraped pieces of chicken from under her fingernails with her teeth. She had at least inch long nails at that. Nope, I was done. 🤢🤢🤢
Like most guys in the world I would not turn down a second date with Laina lol
2:51 excuse my language but Fck that I would have turned on my heels
4:13 Where the heck do these people get off?
10:00 theres a animated story about this comment on TH-cam
YUME SHŌ THE BASE GODD i was hoping someone noticed