This is how I met my partner and other stories. I'm sharing this because I want you to know me more. I want you to know who I am, where I have been, and how that has shaped my life. What's your love story?
I've been a silent follower of your channel. Today, I feel moved to speak. Why? The muted but profound philosophical insights & reflections about life. Instead of mourning how life has thrown curved balls at multiple sites of your life, you chose to turn adversity into an ally. This has inevitably led you to a place of self-acceptance and awareness. You convert gloom into hope. This is exhilarating. Then the rare sensitivity and candour with which you tackle such an intimate and intimidating subject. It endorses your courage even as you go on about your social timidness. I also love the simplicity and eloquence of the delivery. You invariably achieve this without trying too hard. These are the things that called me out of hiding. And now I am at peace. Cheers!
Tess you are very beautiful, intelligent and hard working. The best bet to meet someone that befits your status is in church and public or university libraries. Also enroll in free seminars and conferences and engage in conversations during lunch breaks. I know you are not ready now but start as soon as possible so you have enough time to evaluate anyone you are interacting with. Thank me later when God eventually answer your prayers❤.
How can you tell that one is intelligent & hardworking? Intelligent really if she makes the first move on men? Is that intelligence or desperation? How intelligent can she be if she never learns from her own mistakes like running away from hyenas, baboons then into the hands of a real beast "an on line random white man from a foreign land whose culture nor manners is known to her? She is so naive & this type of women running for white men thinking they will secure their future of wealth need to learn bitter lessons.. I have seen many who have even ended up more worse than her, she lucky that man did not try to get her kicked out of the country or frame her to get her locked up in prison!! We have heard worse here in Europe!
The current people in churches nowadays live alot to be desired am saying this as someone who has grown literally in church my whole life. Church is a hiding place before they get you and show you the real then it's not the church you used to know.
Dating sites are important for meeting people when you live abroad. In Europe, people dont have many social events to meet the right partner, compared to people living in African countries. How else do people meet abroad??😅. Few people go to church, so options are left to university, workplace not much due to fear of sexual harassment claims, and people don't talk to strangers on the streets.. so if you don't drink or go to bars, online date while abroad is my to-go place.
Girl,you are soo much wiser than your years,and you're very self aware and very articulate. More than me and I'm much older than you. I love your sit down vlogs and could listen to you for days! I only found you a few months ago and couldn't be happier. You may have faced a setback,but you're marching onwards with so much courage and grace.
I can relate to you Tess🤣 in every way, I am an introvert too and have social anxiety , its so sad for me because meeting a guy physically is going to be difficult.💘
Listening to this story...feels like i listen about my life too...i got lost too and lost it all...trying to find that reason still.....i feel i wasted much but i havent the energy or purpose to pursue anything ever since. Hoping this inspires me more and every time i watch other of your videos.
Online dating should be embraced in this time and age. Especially for people like you. You work online, rarely meet people and introvert too. Onlone datingbis definitely an option. Like in thr real world, online dating had trashy people, its a matter of luck.
Girl you've been describing me all this time ... We've had similar journey just a few differences but very similar. Life aki..may our mothers continue resting in peace.
Thank you Tess, i started watching you when you posted the 2 videos which you deleted, hope you can put them up again, it would be nice to know the whole story
Please bring them back. I had even put a notification for the updates coz of those two stories as you had promised to update us which I didn't get to watch as I was quite busy. When I finally got the time to watch you had already pulled them down
Hi Tess, love your fleece jumper. So cute. I have just quit online dating I want to focus on me now and my daughter x❤❤❤❤. You are so inspiring and lovely xxxxx
Tess you're waaay younger than me but i draw a lot of inspiration from you. About introverts' struggles...i feel you and relate so well🤣🤣. Honestly i love dating sites and generally social sites especially where you don't have to immediately reveal your identity if you dont want to. This is how i met several friends outside mu country Kenya and i still talk to them occasionally. I think dating sites are great as they allow you to move at your pace. Also they are the best if you are busy with other things like work, kids etc.
Aaaw I'm so humbled by that and I'm glad you can relate to the struggles. Social sites for sure play a role and as much as not everyone will find them useful, they've made many relationships possible.
Hey Tess,are you the TH-camr who uploaded a video of " how i changed my life." I cane across that video some years back and it really encouraged me. I am not sure if it's you but i can't find it now. Would you bring it back, kindly? And also,i love this story.😊
The reason I respect and love you true self , respect and bravery is too much to ignore, I went to such hurtful relationships and I never gave up 3v3n though it is destroying so much of my future cos I don't trust any man no matter how je love me I reserve my heart in fear of being hurt again. This year I will go for counseling for the past to remain behind and move on as I've suffered for long since 2008 and again 2021 God will lead me this year,. Cheers from Pearl in Botswana 🇧🇼
Relationships are a tricky bit. I have opinions in the same. One a time when persons would be able separate love with marriage, then i believe a proper outcome is expected. Marriage is an institution and it entails hierarchy and understanding roles. Current trends suggest that the modern world is Liberal but with all the technology and empowerment we can vividly see that the people are more frustrated and more dumber than before. Lots of assumptions in play,people are no longer hands on and they depend on hearsay , grapevines and propaganda than whats on the real realm. As ive realised one could be a good husband but a shitty father and similarly a super nice mother and a terrible wife... Let reality hit for once,...a man who has a feminine energy will repel the women and vice versa. Western culture posts that every gender is equal, this is a mistake people have engulfed in by the hook bait and sinker!. End result is marriages that dont last. An emotional man is a tick timing bomb! Society now will tell you that its okay as a man to be emotional, but with all the testosterone, thats a dangerous being. A man should take time to "logically " set functions. Getting impulsive and psychologically carried away is ballistic! However how much we purport to have developed, gender roles should remain intact and people should understand that loving someone is one thing and marrying them is another...two separate entities there! Marriage is a commitment, and its better of if you marry a friend and not a partner. Partners are business associates. Women should purely understand their key functions and men also. Naturally, a man doing a woman's role is considered a competition by the woman and a woman doing a mans role the same and funny enough both will do the roles unsatisfactory wrong. So the man will hate the woman and the woman will hate the man. These are facts nobody speaks about.they says its okay to switch roles. There's never been a super wonderful time to live in since the inception of the world like 2023.Talk of Good technology, good health care, Proper education and food processing and even infrastructure. There's even freedom to do what you want and democracy. What do we see then with all these, . ..a rotten Society . This should ring a bell, ..If freedom and democracy and roles intertwined are not governed, its going to get ugly and messy. Watch this post in 2030! With what's trending, It will a tough manosphere to live in!
This!! You've made some really good points. These are strange times indeed. I was actually telling one of my friends that love is fatal nowadays. One day you're on vacation with your bae and the next you're in a casket because you ate your bae's orange.
@@cylliahodera9113 true girl we always seek validation in relationship and we are easily manipulated and taken advantage of ,hope she did ont lose money like some of us
@@tessogambaupclose I like your fighting spirit, I have followed the growth of your channel from 1,500 subs to over 190k, and you are authentic no magic, today I watched your video about Pritfy, (print On demand business) that one I will have to try.
I'm in a dating I work in Riyadh from 2020 I start dating UK man he work here in Saudi Arabia I don't to come they in UK can you help because he want to know the process
All the information you need is in the UK government website. www.gov.uk/ There are also facebook groups for different visa types that you and your partner can join to get more guidance.
Honestly someone with that kind of judgmental thinking is purely silly, their views speaks volumes about them than the people they are trying to put down.
@tessogambaupclose Thank you. I watched the two videos weeks ago and thought i did subscribe. I related so much because I also met someone on a dating site, and it didn't end well I tell you.With that said when im ready, I'll go back to the site again.
@tessogambaupclose try to meet people in ordinary circumstances. Also the Apps are using tactics to keep users on the Apps longer, paying for membership, so they hire people to match with you, and then they message you a few times and then ghost you. So it keeps you thinking that there are potential matches when actually there might be none that suit your preferences in your area. Switch to in-person socials. Go out more, even speed dating events are better than the Apps.
No it’s okay, it’s her story and I think this is also healing for her. She’s in a foreign country, ALONE, heartbroken and still trying to get on her feet, please let’s allow her to deal with what’s she’s going through the way she wants ♥️♥️
@@User326-y3q yeees, people are really weird, it's her story and if it's not what you want to watch there are millions of videos on TH-cam. What does it cost to just leave and go watch the other videos. This lady has really educated some of us and l love how she is creating this awareness
Very good information on your videos..... But i have a question.... you can share with me your business email so that we can talk on some businesses with you.
This is how I met my partner and other stories. I'm sharing this because I want you to know me more. I want you to know who I am, where I have been, and how that has shaped my life. What's your love story?
Love your bed comforter in your bed sheets❤
@@Artina-w6k Thank you 😊
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@@charlottepanzu I think you are the problem here.
@@charlottepanzuI think you have a problem, please seek to help yourself
I've been a silent follower of your channel. Today, I feel moved to speak. Why?
The muted but profound philosophical insights & reflections about life. Instead of mourning how life has thrown curved balls at multiple sites of your life, you chose to turn adversity into an ally. This has inevitably led you to a place of self-acceptance and awareness. You convert gloom into hope. This is exhilarating.
Then the rare sensitivity and candour with which you tackle such an intimate and intimidating subject. It endorses your courage even as you go on about your social timidness.
I also love the simplicity and eloquence of the delivery. You invariably achieve this without trying too hard.
These are the things that called me out of hiding. And now I am at peace. Cheers!
Aaaw you're too kind. I appreciate your kind analysis. Cheers 🥂
You are a very smart girl. Sky is not even your limit ..!!!
i met my hungarian husband on tinder and we are very happy,you are right there are good and bad people so dating sites aint the problem
How do you manage to be soft spoken and interesting at the same time? Honestly you're the best❤❤
I thought the same. So interesting and intelligent
I'm always catching the intonation anamalizia nayo sentences ....kidogo tu British accent itaingia..you gotta love Tess❤❤❤❤
If I'm being honest, I'm shocked that I come out as soft spoken. I have never really though about it
Bless you ❤️
@erylmakorre7689 IKR? Beauty, intelligence, warm, lovely, etc. Tess you are such a darling. I love you 🤗.🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
I find her voice so calming.
People not wanting you? And here we are loving you from the beginning. There are a people you can't just hate, and you are in that list .
Haha back then, I wasn't all that 😂
Tess you are very beautiful, intelligent and hard working. The best bet to meet someone that befits your status is in church and public or university libraries. Also enroll in free seminars and conferences and engage in conversations during lunch breaks. I know you are not ready now but start as soon as possible so you have enough time to evaluate anyone you are interacting with. Thank me later when God eventually answer your prayers❤.
How can you tell that one is intelligent & hardworking? Intelligent really if she makes the first move on men? Is that intelligence or desperation? How intelligent can she be if she never learns from her own mistakes like running away from hyenas, baboons then into the hands of a real beast "an on line random white man from a foreign land whose culture nor manners is known to her? She is so naive & this type of women running for white men thinking they will secure their future of wealth need to learn bitter lessons.. I have seen many who have even ended up more worse than her, she lucky that man did not try to get her kicked out of the country or frame her to get her locked up in prison!! We have heard worse here in Europe!
The current people in churches nowadays live alot to be desired am saying this as someone who has grown literally in church my whole life.
Church is a hiding place before they get you and show you the real then it's not the church you used to know.
This is really good advice, Doris. Thank you. I will try and get out more. I believe such are good even for making friends.
Dear Thomas, make your own comment since you clearly have a lot to say. Don't ruin this nice lady's comment. Jeez!
Dating sites are important for meeting people when you live abroad. In Europe, people dont have many social events to meet the right partner, compared to people living in African countries. How else do people meet abroad??😅. Few people go to church, so options are left to university, workplace not much due to fear of sexual harassment claims, and people don't talk to strangers on the streets.. so if you don't drink or go to bars, online date while abroad is my to-go place.
I agree 💯
Dating sites make life easier especially in these countries where most people just mind their business.
Girl,you are soo much wiser than your years,and you're very self aware and very articulate. More than me and I'm much older than you. I love your sit down vlogs and could listen to you for days! I only found you a few months ago and couldn't be happier. You may have faced a setback,but you're marching onwards with so much courage and grace.
I love how calm and collected you are Tess. Such a gentle soul. I pray u find someone who deserves u❤❤
Thank you 🧡
I can relate to you Tess🤣 in every way, I am an introvert too and have social anxiety , its so sad for me because meeting a guy physically is going to be difficult.💘
Listening to this story...feels like i listen about my life too...i got lost too and lost it all...trying to find that reason still.....i feel i wasted much but i havent the energy or purpose to pursue anything ever since. Hoping this inspires me more and every time i watch other of your videos.
I feel so too! I want to find the energy to build again.
Online dating should be embraced in this time and age. Especially for people like you. You work online, rarely meet people and introvert too. Onlone datingbis definitely an option. Like in thr real world, online dating had trashy people, its a matter of luck.
True hopefully you get to meet someone and many couples meet online
There is no perfect method when looking for a partner.we just pray that God bless us with a good partner regardless where you met them.
So true!
Truth!!!
I love how soft spoken you are. You have been through so much and you are soooo positive and your positivity has kept me here since the first video.
Girl you've been describing me all this time ... We've had similar journey just a few differences but very similar. Life aki..may our mothers continue resting in peace.
Aaaw bless you 🧡
And amen!
i just discovered your channel and I looove it,, you're a gentle speaker. 😍
Your blanket hoodie looks good❤
Thats a nice hoody, warm looking and lovely colour. Great Tess
An ex -Bomarian here ..on people setting standards for others wueeh ...a workmate recently told me ,ulikua Kenya high na wewe si Daktari !😂
😂😂 And they'll still find something to call you out on if you were a doctor.
The hoody is very nice dear , get another in grey
Thank you. Right away 😊
I love how well spoken, self aware and sincere you are
Thank you
You are welcome and you have a strong rare personality❤@@tessogambaupclose
The hoodie 😍 is super cute.I enjoy your storytelling sessions 😊.Keep going 💪
Thank you so much!!
Thank you Tess, i started watching you when you posted the 2 videos which you deleted, hope you can put them up again, it would be nice to know the whole story
When the time is right, I will bring them back.
Please bring them back. I had even put a notification for the updates coz of those two stories as you had promised to update us which I didn't get to watch as I was quite busy. When I finally got the time to watch you had already pulled them down
Hi Tess, love your fleece jumper. So cute. I have just quit online dating I want to focus on me now and my daughter x❤❤❤❤. You are so inspiring and lovely xxxxx
Thank you so much. And glad to know you've decided to focus on you and your little one. It's important.
Why did I watch every second of this? Insightful and well narrated
I just love you Tess 😍watching from South Africa 🌍🇿🇦
Watching from KSA🎉...love you gal❤❤
💛
I seem to miss your video notice but I just want to tell you I love your story time❤🤗🥰 yes you're Mike sound better.
Thank you 🤗
Tess you're waaay younger than me but i draw a lot of inspiration from you. About introverts' struggles...i feel you and relate so well🤣🤣. Honestly i love dating sites and generally social sites especially where you don't have to immediately reveal your identity if you dont want to. This is how i met several friends outside mu country Kenya and i still talk to them occasionally. I think dating sites are great as they allow you to move at your pace. Also they are the best if you are busy with other things like work, kids etc.
Aaaw I'm so humbled by that and I'm glad you can relate to the struggles. Social sites for sure play a role and as much as not everyone will find them useful, they've made many relationships possible.
Soldier on be happy and move on
I have now met my twin... I now understand why I am a freelancer.
Aaaw 🧡
Hey Tess,are you the TH-camr who uploaded a video of " how i changed my life."
I cane across that video some years back and it really encouraged me.
I am not sure if it's you but i can't find it now.
Would you bring it back, kindly?
And also,i love this story.😊
You just gained a follower ❤
Tess please please share why u are not doing it. I want to hear your points of view. I have a problem with that too
Great sharing with us ❤well said
🧡
Nice to see you here.I follow your hair tutorials.
@@esthertheuri7847 thanks love
Thanks alot for sharing this.
Wish joy, peace and the very best in life
Thank you
The book The Dating App Confessions by Logan Tindell has some good tips and stories.
Bumped in to your channel now hooked, you are soo interesting young woman...
I just love you gal Watching from 🇿🇦
Right back at ya 🧡
The reason I respect and love you true self , respect and bravery is too much to ignore, I went to such hurtful relationships and I never gave up 3v3n though it is destroying so much of my future cos I don't trust any man no matter how je love me I reserve my heart in fear of being hurt again. This year I will go for counseling for the past to remain behind and move on as I've suffered for long since 2008 and again 2021 God will lead me this year,. Cheers from Pearl in Botswana 🇧🇼
The microphone is amazing
Thank you ❤️
Frohe Weihnacten Tess....love from Tedesco.
🧡
The struggles of an introvert 😂😂 your hoodie is lovely ❤❤
The struggle is real. Thank you 🧡
I just see brilliant girl here
Relationships are a tricky bit.
I have opinions in the same. One a time when persons would be able separate love with marriage, then i believe a proper outcome is expected.
Marriage is an institution and it entails hierarchy and understanding roles.
Current trends suggest that the modern world is Liberal but with all the technology and empowerment we can vividly see that the people are more frustrated and more dumber than before.
Lots of assumptions in play,people are no longer hands on and they depend on hearsay , grapevines and propaganda than whats on the real realm.
As ive realised one could be a good husband but a shitty father and similarly a super nice mother and a terrible wife...
Let reality hit for once,...a man who has a feminine energy will repel the women and vice versa.
Western culture posts that every gender is equal, this is a mistake people have engulfed in by the hook bait and sinker!.
End result is marriages that dont last.
An emotional man is a tick timing bomb! Society now will tell you that its okay as a man to be emotional, but with all the testosterone, thats a dangerous being.
A man should take time to "logically " set functions.
Getting impulsive and psychologically carried away is ballistic!
However how much we purport to have developed, gender roles should remain intact and people should understand that loving someone is one thing and marrying them is another...two separate entities there!
Marriage is a commitment, and its better of if you marry a friend and not a partner. Partners are business associates.
Women should purely understand their key functions and men also.
Naturally, a man doing a woman's role is considered a competition by the woman and a woman doing a mans role the same and funny enough both will do the roles unsatisfactory wrong.
So the man will hate the woman and the woman will hate the man.
These are facts nobody speaks about.they says its okay to switch roles.
There's never been a super wonderful time to live in since the inception of the world like 2023.Talk of Good technology, good health care, Proper education and food processing and even infrastructure. There's even freedom to do what you want and democracy.
What do we see then with all these, . ..a rotten Society .
This should ring a bell, ..If freedom and democracy and roles intertwined are not governed, its going to get ugly and messy.
Watch this post in 2030!
With what's trending, It will a tough manosphere to live in!
This!! You've made some really good points. These are strange times indeed. I was actually telling one of my friends that love is fatal nowadays. One day you're on vacation with your bae and the next you're in a casket because you ate your bae's orange.
Everyone is online both good and bad people. So dating sites are just okay when you use it wisely
Yes, there are good and bad people everywhere.
@@tessogambaupclose Yeah, we just pray for discernment
Tess... Happy for you and your progress.. in Kenya high we were taught to be tough babes.. 😅
Oh yes...😂
Thank you, girlie.
Bright girls in school most of the time always find themselves in messy relationships,i can relate😢
You stole my words😢 it's crazy, kwanza when it's coupled with you being an empath yo!
@@cylliahodera9113 true girl we always seek validation in relationship and we are easily manipulated and taken advantage of ,hope she did ont lose money like some of us
For really, am a victim too
The easily manipulated part 😥
You are such a good story teller❤
Wow, thank you!
Tess you encourage me a lot,, Keep it up girl,,i follow you everyday,,
Lovely comfy hoodie
Just one day…
🙏
I like your content Ogamba..... all the best
Beautiful story by a beautiful soul. What's the brand the microphone?
Thank you. The brand is Trilink
Fellow introvert..I get you..good work on your videos
I appreciate that
Wow so you were at Kenya High 👏I first saw your story on tiktok..
Yes, I was. That's where I saw the comment btw.
I like the outfit
Thank you, my virtual friend 😊
@@tessogambaupclose I like your fighting spirit, I have followed the growth of your channel from 1,500 subs to over 190k, and you are authentic no magic, today I watched your video about Pritfy, (print On demand business) that one I will have to try.
Us introverts out here we struggle😌but our random smiles camouflage the struggle.
I feel you Tess.
Hahaha yes, btw when I'm in a social setting, sometimes I really overcompensate.
Me too as an introvert oooh my supper stressful to come out of your shell 🤭
cute fleece jumpsuit girl, your city is always cold yes find more for you♥
Thank you! 😊
I loveee you Tess,,,,,,, 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Right back at ya💛
You are so sweet ❤
Watching you from KSA
💛
Thanks gal and huggs from adistance
I'm in a dating I work in Riyadh from 2020 I start dating UK man he work here in Saudi Arabia I don't to come they in UK can you help because he want to know the process
All the information you need is in the UK government website. www.gov.uk/
There are also facebook groups for different visa types that you and your partner can join to get more guidance.
🎉🎉🎉🎉 good jaaaaab❤❤❤❤
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Woooow a fellow ex bomarian❤️❤️❤️ keep going, keep rising
Interesting story,many dating sites have scammer's
Watching you from your home country "Kenya"❤❤
Yay! Thanks for being here
@@tessogambaupclosemuch love❤❤
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
🧡
Your Samson in disguise I tell you, physical and mental strength
❤
Your channel on online writing??
It's still up and running. It's about online businesses and digital jobs
How do you put up a thumbnail?
Which was the site?
Eti unalive😂
The struggles of introverts at the end 😅
I feel you gal
You are such beautiful and awesome woman. ❤
For real
We struggle even with the most basic interactions 😂
Thank you 🧡
Honestly someone with that kind of judgmental thinking is purely silly, their views speaks volumes about them than the people they are trying to put down.
Right? It's crazy
Watching from 🇰🇪💖
Thanks for watching
Passenger number 9.87k here🎉🎉🎉🎉
The new passenger is very welcome
@tessogambaupclose Thank you. I watched the two videos weeks ago and thought i did subscribe. I related so much because I also met someone on a dating site, and it didn't end well I tell you.With that said when im ready, I'll go back to the site again.
Dating sites are the toilet.
What do you advise us to do? 😢
@tessogambaupclose try to meet people in ordinary circumstances. Also the Apps are using tactics to keep users on the Apps longer, paying for membership, so they hire people to match with you, and then they message you a few times and then ghost you. So it keeps you thinking that there are potential matches when actually there might be none that suit your preferences in your area.
Switch to in-person socials. Go out more, even speed dating events are better than the Apps.
I saw that comment
White site do you use
Tagged. I have used Tinder as well.
Tess look for me.
Where? Why?
Yoohh i begged someone to take me back too😂😂
Moments of weakness 😄
From kenya
I understand why this narcissist approached you.
Cute woman😘
Thank you 🧡
Please move on with your life stop going back to this negative love story
This negative story is still my story and moving on looks different for different people.
I think she has already moved on she is just creating awareness and I don't think it's a bad thing 🤗
Some of us would love to have a continuation....and appreciate this kind content
No it’s okay, it’s her story and I think this is also healing for her. She’s in a foreign country, ALONE, heartbroken and still trying to get on her feet, please let’s allow her to deal with what’s she’s going through the way she wants ♥️♥️
@@User326-y3q yeees, people are really weird, it's her story and if it's not what you want to watch there are millions of videos on TH-cam. What does it cost to just leave and go watch the other videos.
This lady has really educated some of us and l love how she is creating this awareness
Very good information on your videos.....
But i have a question.... you can share with me your business email so that we can talk on some businesses with you.
Thank you. My business email is info@tessogamba.com
Please, how do i check you on Instagram
instagram.com/tess_ogamba/
I just love you Tess 😍watching from South Africa 🌍🇿🇦
❤️
You look so beautiful