A father who only criticizes, doesn't tell what needs to be done to meet expectations or how to do it, humiliates and ridicules for the sake of boosting self-esteem doesn't seem any better than his lack thereof.
omg this lecture is so helpful for me as an ISTP. I was trying to perform well so badly that I took financial risks and was suddenly 10,000 dollars in debt, i didn't see that coming, but at that time it is what it is, i worked, payed off the debt and started to value myself more. I love to do what I want and now I can understand why women always want to be wanted by me but I often don't feel good enough because my performance is not so good that other people notice it so I haven't gotten that much feedback yet.
Chase, you did a good job. Thank you for the video. Specifically for myself as an individual human being, the three parts of the video that did not apply to me was min 3, min 27, and min 43. The value that stuck with me since childhood was “treat others as you want to be treated.” I never tried to punish my own gender, that never made sense to me. I see each person as an individual and don’t punish them for someone else’s “sins.” I’ve never purposefully tried to take advantage of anybody in a way that didn’t create a win-win. My pride would tell me “I’m better than that, I’m better than this person and I don’t have to stoop as low as them.” Obviously I’m not better or worse than anybody, but that specifically is a reason why that hasn’t happened. I love receiving from Fe Child. Sure, it can at times feel a bit much, but I’d BIG TIME rather the person feel free to use Fe on me than not. So if that ever happens, I give their Fe love and positive feedback, and then if I need a little space, I say “is it okay if I call you later?” Very easy to do. -ISTP
I get what you're saying about the lack of reactions from INxPs. It's more infuriating for us, when we realise at a later point in time that our ignorance made us look weak I've spent the last year of my life figuring this out. Growing in an Asian home all they've taught me is to not react and let things go. Anytime something bad happened, I couldn't react -> these feelings get repressed -> they came out later on. It's stupid, we eventually learn the need to react better but there's no freedom to react in the first place. A bit of a rant here yes but the solution I've found is through CBT, angry journals etc
It's like having a delayed reaction time. Something happens in the moment. I try to process it logically. Notice the transgression that just took place, and then realize the situation has already passed and, in the moment, I had just let it slide. Then comes the bitterness of letting the transgression go without any sort of pushback on my part.
Wow. CS Joseph helping me understand my thoughts and why I do the things I do. When people dont appreciate what I do for them (as an istp I do a lot), I will stop giving them my loyalty.. thats why people (especially narcissistic or toxic) say I turn on them.. when they get new friends and ditch me, I no longer feel appreciated, so they no longer have my loyalty. it is unspoken (only because I don't know how I feel)
One of the hardest things for me to navigate from my INTP father is when he does not deserve gratitude and thanks at certain times but he thinks he does.
It is a litmus test for me if they are grateful for the favors i do and wish to return them then i do more favors and if at any point they don't return it then well now it is transactional relationship until you prove otherwise.
Why don't they have respect for themselves? The feeling of rejection that is almost inevitable for the Inferior Fe causes shame (what I am) and not guilt (what I did wrong), shame is the feeling of being worthless, and why have respect for something worthless.
im an istp woman.. i get told im intimidating all the time so maybe thats why people dont specifically criticize me.. but the most critical people of me (my enfp sister) have had the most impact on my progress (if any)
well, ISTPs are triple direct. in that regard they're badass. Se is also badass in the physical sense as a general rule. An ISFJ friend is triple informative and it is hilarious how incapable he is of making decisions. analysis-paralyzes is for such people very real. I'm an INTP and have that problem because I must analyze systems to the core to come up with the most logical conclusion for something (e.g.: I systemized dating, etc.), but I'm at least direct in my shadow. Being direct and Se-user might be correlated with being intimidating thusly Also, you might criticize people all the time, therefore they don't really get to criticize you back lol Edit: I noticed I implied too much. Being direct is intimidating in general, as it seems. - at least that's what I've noticed.
@sonicmaths8285 I was just agreeing with when he said.. people need to directly criticize me (istps) in order for them to change. fi users do this all the time to me. they're annoying, but maybe that's what I need.. yes, I have been told im pretty critical before by others (not fi users, since they tend to make me feel guilty the most so I tiptoe around them somewhat..) but yah that's probably true..
@@EyeHeartSUSHI yeah. I was informing you of some reasons why that is. I mean, I wasn't criticizing you or smth since it appeared that way to you. certainly wasn't what I meant. besides, you're right. fe basically needs fi independent of its potential for causing annoyance
My intp wears shoes in the shower. Can’t stand hotels bc of the use of other ppl. He has strict rules for the home. And he works hard he puts work above everything besides me. And he fixed my car rebuilt my bed and bought me a car and house. He did this without knowing nothing about nothing. He just does what he tries and it works. Maybe only electric from what I saw. He just knows how to doing a lot and maybe those INTPS just know they can I can reach that conclusion why listen to yew. Mine was use to being alone. And he learns from everyone also it’s hard to get him from the Bible which is a faith Angel def. By the book. He has strong morals. Idk 🤷🏽♀️ maybe I got blessed
I secretly get turned on by how he can do just what my mom asks him to do for help and it’s like he’ll listen to get it done one time they were wrong and he fixed it and rebuilt the pool house wall by him self bc they were wrong. And didn’t get mad just quiet. Nike would be a good symbol for him. Just do it. He helps everyone. And when he does flare up ppl just walk away and then come back to him he’s all proved it to me he isn’t talk I watch him protect me from a gun swift like it was nothing no one is biggest and baddest but I would never underestimate him. He does everything perfectly and secretly I’m jealous of that. It’s like how did you pull off everything his response you’re not me lol he graduated three ministries and can tell you the coolest to me it’s so sweet stuff about the Bible and it’s true
An ENTJ Imma say this even tho I’m a two faced snake lol either get lioness or love w me depends but this ENTJ was trying to get w me talk shit about everyone but him when it came to him like I had to say well if you have a problem with my mind being all possibilities and you wanna get w me and talk shit to me and try to lure me in w money let’s bring this in reality since I’m lala land and he backed off. ENTJ was a man child like yew said and couldn’t be that big bad mean man my INTP is. And my intp is like that for a reason a doc will tell you that’s how a man should be. The first words out his mouth to date me was I would die for yew. I don’t like that men are like this violence ect. But I get it also. He’s so sweet. I guess the saying is true don’t mess w the nice ones. Maybe if an INTP has real love in their life they will change.
Maybe bc he strong and big idk…but men treat me differently since I been w him. They just don’t even wanna go there FB shade. They get a message from me for it and run. He has treated me better than anyone in my life I was abused a lot try to motivate the INTP by giving him a girl.
The ENTJ the mature one I encountered was literally a douche. He would never cross him he matter of fact was just trying to see if he could dominate him w me. Once my intp man reopened his Facebook. He fled and “I was never trying to get with yew.” What is: Girl if you come over here you won’t get hurt. Made up an alligator story to impress me and said he walked on water. Meanwhile messaging young girls lol. Ew. I would tell how you’re on some things but that’s to to private. Disclaimer: I don’t hate or dislike anyone. I’m just stating my personal experience to add to bank…there’s just a difference my intp hunts men and he hunts animals literally. If he chose that life anymore. And yes you’re right vanilla. That ENTJ made my damn skin crawl…now lol haha try getting an ENTJ to listen to you yeah they listening while thinking your ideas stupid it’s like why do think that stupid he thought things that weren’t stupid was stupid. INTP mine anyway if you catch looking at yew in a blank stare that means he knows it’s true. That ENTJ made everything a big deal he wanted to do what he wanted when he wanted he I know what what yew mean by freedom you want to do to anyone whatever yew please whenever yew please and sensed a one night stand type so def psycho malevolent primordial beast and a one night stand guy is just that see and since he’s a beast minded he don’t wanna be sophisticated my INTP is with brawn but he really would actually treat you like absolute gold I can honestly say I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him. He would be nice to yew idk 🤷🏽♀️ I’m just sharing my experience
A father who only criticizes, doesn't tell what needs to be done to meet expectations or how to do it, humiliates and ridicules for the sake of boosting self-esteem doesn't seem any better than his lack thereof.
omg this lecture is so helpful for me as an ISTP. I was trying to perform well so badly that I took financial risks and was suddenly 10,000 dollars in debt, i didn't see that coming, but at that time it is what it is, i worked, payed off the debt and started to value myself more.
I love to do what I want and now I can understand why women always want to be wanted by me but I often don't feel good enough because my performance is not so good that other people notice it so I haven't gotten that much feedback yet.
Chase, you did a good job. Thank you for the video.
Specifically for myself as an individual human being, the three parts of the video that did not apply to me was min 3, min 27, and min 43.
The value that stuck with me since childhood was “treat others as you want to be treated.” I never tried to punish my own gender, that never made sense to me. I see each person as an individual and don’t punish them for someone else’s “sins.”
I’ve never purposefully tried to take advantage of anybody in a way that didn’t create a win-win. My pride would tell me “I’m better than that, I’m better than this person and I don’t have to stoop as low as them.” Obviously I’m not better or worse than anybody, but that specifically is a reason why that hasn’t happened.
I love receiving from Fe Child. Sure, it can at times feel a bit much, but I’d BIG TIME rather the person feel free to use Fe on me than not. So if that ever happens, I give their Fe love and positive feedback, and then if I need a little space, I say “is it okay if I call you later?” Very easy to do.
-ISTP
I get what you're saying about the lack of reactions from INxPs. It's more infuriating for us, when we realise at a later point in time that our ignorance made us look weak
I've spent the last year of my life figuring this out. Growing in an Asian home all they've taught me is to not react and let things go. Anytime something bad happened, I couldn't react -> these feelings get repressed -> they came out later on. It's stupid, we eventually learn the need to react better but there's no freedom to react in the first place. A bit of a rant here yes but the solution I've found is through CBT, angry journals etc
Relax, no rush. 💆♀️
so true. we are slow to react and that's the biggest problem.. istp
It's like having a delayed reaction time. Something happens in the moment. I try to process it logically. Notice the transgression that just took place, and then realize the situation has already passed and, in the moment, I had just let it slide. Then comes the bitterness of letting the transgression go without any sort of pushback on my part.
Wow. CS Joseph helping me understand my thoughts and why I do the things I do. When people dont appreciate what I do for them (as an istp I do a lot), I will stop giving them my loyalty.. thats why people (especially narcissistic or toxic) say I turn on them.. when they get new friends and ditch me, I no longer feel appreciated, so they no longer have my loyalty. it is unspoken (only because I don't know how I feel)
One of the hardest things for me to navigate from my INTP father is when he does not deserve gratitude and thanks at certain times but he thinks he does.
Shit that's right!
It is a litmus test for me if they are grateful for the favors i do and wish to return them then i do more favors and if at any point they don't return it then well now it is transactional relationship until you prove otherwise.
Most of human interaction is transactional though..
So in short, become a moral person that your super ego can respect, and then you won't have to fear rejection.
Thanks for the summary.
Wooooooow thanks mr cs joseph!!
Why don't they have respect for themselves?
The feeling of rejection that is almost inevitable for the Inferior Fe causes shame (what I am) and not guilt (what I did wrong), shame is the feeling of being worthless, and why have respect for something worthless.
felt 😥
They are not worthless. They need to learn to feel just how valuable they are.
@@CuddleClaw. I didn't write that we are, just from what position we start.
Correct, not the fact itself just the internal perspective @@Arcadius-tr8bm
im an istp woman.. i get told im intimidating all the time so maybe thats why people dont specifically criticize me.. but the most critical people of me (my enfp sister) have had the most impact on my progress (if any)
well, ISTPs are triple direct. in that regard they're badass. Se is also badass in the physical sense as a general rule. An ISFJ friend is triple informative and it is hilarious how incapable he is of making decisions. analysis-paralyzes is for such people very real. I'm an INTP and have that problem because I must analyze systems to the core to come up with the most logical conclusion for something (e.g.: I systemized dating, etc.), but I'm at least direct in my shadow. Being direct and Se-user might be correlated with being intimidating thusly
Also, you might criticize people all the time, therefore they don't really get to criticize you back lol
Edit: I noticed I implied too much. Being direct is intimidating in general, as it seems. - at least that's what I've noticed.
@sonicmaths8285 I was just agreeing with when he said.. people need to directly criticize me (istps) in order for them to change. fi users do this all the time to me. they're annoying, but maybe that's what I need.. yes, I have been told im pretty critical before by others (not fi users, since they tend to make me feel guilty the most so I tiptoe around them somewhat..) but yah that's probably true..
@sonicmaths8285 also can I tell you how much I love intps/isfjs..? our relationship goes hand in hand..
@@EyeHeartSUSHI yeah. I was informing you of some reasons why that is. I mean, I wasn't criticizing you or smth since it appeared that way to you. certainly wasn't what I meant.
besides, you're right. fe basically needs fi independent of its potential for causing annoyance
@@EyeHeartSUSHI oh thanks. I think it's really cool that you like intps since they can come off as very quirky
Oh. Fi demon episode.
As an INTP woman who doesn't present herself to the world as a typical unkempt INTP, I can vouch that INTP men feel entitled to me.
What's unkempt?
Can you expand more on what you mean by “feel entitled to me”? I’m an INTP man and curious about this experience
44:37 Very odd how this is exactly what I've been thinking lately.
Thank you, Chase.
Finally! INTPs, arise!
It isn't always self neglect though sometimes it is Ne trickster, which is highly unfortunate.
This look suits you way more 😊
He doesn’t wanna respond to yew bc he doesn’t want anyone to have access to him. Not everyone gets to know them.
My INTP has a lot real friends. He chooses.
My intp wears shoes in the shower. Can’t stand hotels bc of the use of other ppl. He has strict rules for the home. And he works hard he puts work above everything besides me. And he fixed my car rebuilt my bed and bought me a car and house. He did this without knowing nothing about nothing. He just does what he tries and it works. Maybe only electric from what I saw. He just knows how to doing a lot and maybe those INTPS just know they can I can reach that conclusion why listen to yew. Mine was use to being alone. And he learns from everyone also it’s hard to get him from the Bible which is a faith Angel def. By the book. He has strong morals. Idk 🤷🏽♀️ maybe I got blessed
I secretly get turned on by how he can do just what my mom asks him to do for help and it’s like he’ll listen to get it done one time they were wrong and he fixed it and rebuilt the pool house wall by him self bc they were wrong. And didn’t get mad just quiet. Nike would be a good symbol for him. Just do it. He helps everyone. And when he does flare up ppl just walk away and then come back to him he’s all proved it to me he isn’t talk I watch him protect me from a gun swift like it was nothing no one is biggest and baddest but I would never underestimate him. He does everything perfectly and secretly I’m jealous of that. It’s like how did you pull off everything his response you’re not me lol he graduated three ministries and can tell you the coolest to me it’s so sweet stuff about the Bible and it’s true
An ENTJ Imma say this even tho I’m a two faced snake lol either get lioness or love w me depends but this ENTJ was trying to get w me talk shit about everyone but him when it came to him like I had to say well if you have a problem with my mind being all possibilities and you wanna get w me and talk shit to me and try to lure me in w money let’s bring this in reality since I’m lala land and he backed off. ENTJ was a man child like yew said and couldn’t be that big bad mean man my INTP is. And my intp is like that for a reason a doc will tell you that’s how a man should be. The first words out his mouth to date me was I would die for yew. I don’t like that men are like this violence ect. But I get it also. He’s so sweet. I guess the saying is true don’t mess w the nice ones. Maybe if an INTP has real love in their life they will change.
Maybe bc he strong and big idk…but men treat me differently since I been w him. They just don’t even wanna go there FB shade. They get a message from me for it and run. He has treated me better than anyone in my life I was abused a lot try to motivate the INTP by giving him a girl.
The ENTJ the mature one I encountered was literally a douche. He would never cross him he matter of fact was just trying to see if he could dominate him w me. Once my intp man reopened his Facebook. He fled and “I was never trying to get with yew.” What is: Girl if you come over here you won’t get hurt. Made up an alligator story to impress me and said he walked on water. Meanwhile messaging young girls lol. Ew. I would tell how you’re on some things but that’s to to private. Disclaimer: I don’t hate or dislike anyone. I’m just stating my personal experience to add to bank…there’s just a difference my intp hunts men and he hunts animals literally. If he chose that life anymore. And yes you’re right vanilla. That ENTJ made my damn skin crawl…now lol haha try getting an ENTJ to listen to you yeah they listening while thinking your ideas stupid it’s like why do think that stupid he thought things that weren’t stupid was stupid. INTP mine anyway if you catch looking at yew in a blank stare that means he knows it’s true. That ENTJ made everything a big deal he wanted to do what he wanted when he wanted he I know what what yew mean by freedom you want to do to anyone whatever yew please whenever yew please and sensed a one night stand type so def psycho malevolent primordial beast and a one night stand guy is just that see and since he’s a beast minded he don’t wanna be sophisticated my INTP is with brawn but he really would actually treat you like absolute gold I can honestly say I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him. He would be nice to yew idk 🤷🏽♀️ I’m just sharing my experience
9:18 weirdest angle I've ever seen from you. You're lucky a squirrel didn't run off with the camera.
Lol
What's up I'm an isfp
Hi, you're my demon and I'm your demon too 😈
demon buddies 😈
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can someone type me i m an informative person and i m what if person can you type me please
You are definitely IMFPST
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@@BrainLackzpls im lost i can't know myself
@Kanroji_Mitsuri353 you're Indian
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