The Secret to a Balanced Life for INTP and ISTP

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  • @Arcadius-tr8bm
    @Arcadius-tr8bm 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +19

    A father who only criticizes, doesn't tell what needs to be done to meet expectations or how to do it, humiliates and ridicules for the sake of boosting self-esteem doesn't seem any better than his lack thereof.

  • @valentinoczerny
    @valentinoczerny 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    omg this lecture is so helpful for me as an ISTP. I was trying to perform well so badly that I took financial risks and was suddenly 10,000 dollars in debt, i didn't see that coming, but at that time it is what it is, i worked, payed off the debt and started to value myself more.
    I love to do what I want and now I can understand why women always want to be wanted by me but I often don't feel good enough because my performance is not so good that other people notice it so I haven't gotten that much feedback yet.

  • @CuddleClaw.
    @CuddleClaw. 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Chase, you did a good job. Thank you for the video.
    Specifically for myself as an individual human being, the three parts of the video that did not apply to me was min 3, min 27, and min 43.
    The value that stuck with me since childhood was “treat others as you want to be treated.” I never tried to punish my own gender, that never made sense to me. I see each person as an individual and don’t punish them for someone else’s “sins.”
    I’ve never purposefully tried to take advantage of anybody in a way that didn’t create a win-win. My pride would tell me “I’m better than that, I’m better than this person and I don’t have to stoop as low as them.” Obviously I’m not better or worse than anybody, but that specifically is a reason why that hasn’t happened.
    I love receiving from Fe Child. Sure, it can at times feel a bit much, but I’d BIG TIME rather the person feel free to use Fe on me than not. So if that ever happens, I give their Fe love and positive feedback, and then if I need a little space, I say “is it okay if I call you later?” Very easy to do.
    -ISTP

  • @surbhiagarwal2322
    @surbhiagarwal2322 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    I get what you're saying about the lack of reactions from INxPs. It's more infuriating for us, when we realise at a later point in time that our ignorance made us look weak
    I've spent the last year of my life figuring this out. Growing in an Asian home all they've taught me is to not react and let things go. Anytime something bad happened, I couldn't react -> these feelings get repressed -> they came out later on. It's stupid, we eventually learn the need to react better but there's no freedom to react in the first place. A bit of a rant here yes but the solution I've found is through CBT, angry journals etc

    • @honor9lite1337
      @honor9lite1337 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Relax, no rush. 💆‍♀️

    • @EyeHeartSUSHI
      @EyeHeartSUSHI 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      so true. we are slow to react and that's the biggest problem.. istp

    • @therecruitmain1258
      @therecruitmain1258 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      It's like having a delayed reaction time. Something happens in the moment. I try to process it logically. Notice the transgression that just took place, and then realize the situation has already passed and, in the moment, I had just let it slide. Then comes the bitterness of letting the transgression go without any sort of pushback on my part.

  • @EyeHeartSUSHI
    @EyeHeartSUSHI 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Wow. CS Joseph helping me understand my thoughts and why I do the things I do. When people dont appreciate what I do for them (as an istp I do a lot), I will stop giving them my loyalty.. thats why people (especially narcissistic or toxic) say I turn on them.. when they get new friends and ditch me, I no longer feel appreciated, so they no longer have my loyalty. it is unspoken (only because I don't know how I feel)

  • @dxfifa
    @dxfifa 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    One of the hardest things for me to navigate from my INTP father is when he does not deserve gratitude and thanks at certain times but he thinks he does.

    • @honor9lite1337
      @honor9lite1337 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Shit that's right!

  • @TrueDao8000
    @TrueDao8000 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    It is a litmus test for me if they are grateful for the favors i do and wish to return them then i do more favors and if at any point they don't return it then well now it is transactional relationship until you prove otherwise.

    • @honor9lite1337
      @honor9lite1337 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Most of human interaction is transactional though..

  • @Arcadius-tr8bm
    @Arcadius-tr8bm 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    So in short, become a moral person that your super ego can respect, and then you won't have to fear rejection.

    • @honor9lite1337
      @honor9lite1337 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Thanks for the summary.

  • @landline7757
    @landline7757 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Wooooooow thanks mr cs joseph!!

  • @Arcadius-tr8bm
    @Arcadius-tr8bm 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Why don't they have respect for themselves?
    The feeling of rejection that is almost inevitable for the Inferior Fe causes shame (what I am) and not guilt (what I did wrong), shame is the feeling of being worthless, and why have respect for something worthless.

    • @Jancel705
      @Jancel705 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      felt 😥

    • @CuddleClaw.
      @CuddleClaw. 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      They are not worthless. They need to learn to feel just how valuable they are.

    • @Arcadius-tr8bm
      @Arcadius-tr8bm 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@CuddleClaw. I didn't write that we are, just from what position we start.

    • @honor9lite1337
      @honor9lite1337 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Correct, not the fact itself just the internal perspective ​@@Arcadius-tr8bm

  • @EyeHeartSUSHI
    @EyeHeartSUSHI 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    im an istp woman.. i get told im intimidating all the time so maybe thats why people dont specifically criticize me.. but the most critical people of me (my enfp sister) have had the most impact on my progress (if any)

    • @sonicmaths8285
      @sonicmaths8285 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      well, ISTPs are triple direct. in that regard they're badass. Se is also badass in the physical sense as a general rule. An ISFJ friend is triple informative and it is hilarious how incapable he is of making decisions. analysis-paralyzes is for such people very real. I'm an INTP and have that problem because I must analyze systems to the core to come up with the most logical conclusion for something (e.g.: I systemized dating, etc.), but I'm at least direct in my shadow. Being direct and Se-user might be correlated with being intimidating thusly
      Also, you might criticize people all the time, therefore they don't really get to criticize you back lol
      Edit: I noticed I implied too much. Being direct is intimidating in general, as it seems. - at least that's what I've noticed.

    • @EyeHeartSUSHI
      @EyeHeartSUSHI 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @sonicmaths8285 I was just agreeing with when he said.. people need to directly criticize me (istps) in order for them to change. fi users do this all the time to me. they're annoying, but maybe that's what I need.. yes, I have been told im pretty critical before by others (not fi users, since they tend to make me feel guilty the most so I tiptoe around them somewhat..) but yah that's probably true..

    • @EyeHeartSUSHI
      @EyeHeartSUSHI 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @sonicmaths8285 also can I tell you how much I love intps/isfjs..? our relationship goes hand in hand..

    • @sonicmaths8285
      @sonicmaths8285 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@EyeHeartSUSHI yeah. I was informing you of some reasons why that is. I mean, I wasn't criticizing you or smth since it appeared that way to you. certainly wasn't what I meant.
      besides, you're right. fe basically needs fi independent of its potential for causing annoyance

    • @sonicmaths8285
      @sonicmaths8285 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@EyeHeartSUSHI oh thanks. I think it's really cool that you like intps since they can come off as very quirky

  • @hamidousy5460
    @hamidousy5460 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Oh. Fi demon episode.

  • @aczikere9949
    @aczikere9949 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    As an INTP woman who doesn't present herself to the world as a typical unkempt INTP, I can vouch that INTP men feel entitled to me.

    • @honor9lite1337
      @honor9lite1337 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      What's unkempt?

    • @hunterlovvorn5587
      @hunterlovvorn5587 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Can you expand more on what you mean by “feel entitled to me”? I’m an INTP man and curious about this experience

  • @RaffertyMBTI
    @RaffertyMBTI 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    44:37 Very odd how this is exactly what I've been thinking lately.

  • @queenofeagles
    @queenofeagles 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you, Chase.

  • @niceasta
    @niceasta 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Finally! INTPs, arise!

  • @RaffertyMBTI
    @RaffertyMBTI 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It isn't always self neglect though sometimes it is Ne trickster, which is highly unfortunate.

  • @be.botanicals3669
    @be.botanicals3669 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This look suits you way more 😊

  • @Rakellymakaveli
    @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    He doesn’t wanna respond to yew bc he doesn’t want anyone to have access to him. Not everyone gets to know them.

  • @Rakellymakaveli
    @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My INTP has a lot real friends. He chooses.

  • @Rakellymakaveli
    @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My intp wears shoes in the shower. Can’t stand hotels bc of the use of other ppl. He has strict rules for the home. And he works hard he puts work above everything besides me. And he fixed my car rebuilt my bed and bought me a car and house. He did this without knowing nothing about nothing. He just does what he tries and it works. Maybe only electric from what I saw. He just knows how to doing a lot and maybe those INTPS just know they can I can reach that conclusion why listen to yew. Mine was use to being alone. And he learns from everyone also it’s hard to get him from the Bible which is a faith Angel def. By the book. He has strong morals. Idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ maybe I got blessed

    • @Rakellymakaveli
      @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I secretly get turned on by how he can do just what my mom asks him to do for help and it’s like he’ll listen to get it done one time they were wrong and he fixed it and rebuilt the pool house wall by him self bc they were wrong. And didn’t get mad just quiet. Nike would be a good symbol for him. Just do it. He helps everyone. And when he does flare up ppl just walk away and then come back to him he’s all proved it to me he isn’t talk I watch him protect me from a gun swift like it was nothing no one is biggest and baddest but I would never underestimate him. He does everything perfectly and secretly I’m jealous of that. It’s like how did you pull off everything his response you’re not me lol he graduated three ministries and can tell you the coolest to me it’s so sweet stuff about the Bible and it’s true

    • @Rakellymakaveli
      @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      An ENTJ Imma say this even tho I’m a two faced snake lol either get lioness or love w me depends but this ENTJ was trying to get w me talk shit about everyone but him when it came to him like I had to say well if you have a problem with my mind being all possibilities and you wanna get w me and talk shit to me and try to lure me in w money let’s bring this in reality since I’m lala land and he backed off. ENTJ was a man child like yew said and couldn’t be that big bad mean man my INTP is. And my intp is like that for a reason a doc will tell you that’s how a man should be. The first words out his mouth to date me was I would die for yew. I don’t like that men are like this violence ect. But I get it also. He’s so sweet. I guess the saying is true don’t mess w the nice ones. Maybe if an INTP has real love in their life they will change.

    • @Rakellymakaveli
      @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Maybe bc he strong and big idk…but men treat me differently since I been w him. They just don’t even wanna go there FB shade. They get a message from me for it and run. He has treated me better than anyone in my life I was abused a lot try to motivate the INTP by giving him a girl.

    • @Rakellymakaveli
      @Rakellymakaveli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      The ENTJ the mature one I encountered was literally a douche. He would never cross him he matter of fact was just trying to see if he could dominate him w me. Once my intp man reopened his Facebook. He fled and “I was never trying to get with yew.” What is: Girl if you come over here you won’t get hurt. Made up an alligator story to impress me and said he walked on water. Meanwhile messaging young girls lol. Ew. I would tell how you’re on some things but that’s to to private. Disclaimer: I don’t hate or dislike anyone. I’m just stating my personal experience to add to bank…there’s just a difference my intp hunts men and he hunts animals literally. If he chose that life anymore. And yes you’re right vanilla. That ENTJ made my damn skin crawl…now lol haha try getting an ENTJ to listen to you yeah they listening while thinking your ideas stupid it’s like why do think that stupid he thought things that weren’t stupid was stupid. INTP mine anyway if you catch looking at yew in a blank stare that means he knows it’s true. That ENTJ made everything a big deal he wanted to do what he wanted when he wanted he I know what what yew mean by freedom you want to do to anyone whatever yew please whenever yew please and sensed a one night stand type so def psycho malevolent primordial beast and a one night stand guy is just that see and since he’s a beast minded he don’t wanna be sophisticated my INTP is with brawn but he really would actually treat you like absolute gold I can honestly say I don’t think there’s anything wrong with him. He would be nice to yew idk 🤷🏽‍♀️ I’m just sharing my experience

  • @RaffertyMBTI
    @RaffertyMBTI 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    9:18 weirdest angle I've ever seen from you. You're lucky a squirrel didn't run off with the camera.

  • @aleaaerktyka1052
    @aleaaerktyka1052 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What's up I'm an isfp

    • @enlightenedglass7879
      @enlightenedglass7879 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Hi, you're my demon and I'm your demon too 😈

    • @Jancel705
      @Jancel705 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      demon buddies 😈

    • @idiotslife8508
      @idiotslife8508 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @enlightenedglass7879
      🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @Kanroji_Mitsuri353
    @Kanroji_Mitsuri353 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

    can someone type me i m an informative person and i m what if person can you type me please

    • @leoblogu5193
      @leoblogu5193 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      You are definitely IMFPST

    • @BrainLackz
      @BrainLackz 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      no

    • @Kanroji_Mitsuri353
      @Kanroji_Mitsuri353 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@leoblogu5193 what

    • @Kanroji_Mitsuri353
      @Kanroji_Mitsuri353 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@BrainLackzpls im lost i can't know myself

    • @aleaaerktyka1052
      @aleaaerktyka1052 23 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @Kanroji_Mitsuri353 you're Indian

  • @Saavys
    @Saavys 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

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