I'm living proof of this. My husband and I were unbelievers, he had an affair, then abandoned me and our 3 children. He went to the furthest place on Earth away from us. Gave his heart to Jesus, and within weeks was on a plane home! Hallelujah! We reconciled, had another child, then I too encountered the Lord and gave my heart to Him. All is forgiven, all is well. The Lord is a healer! What you say is profound and true. The word doesn't lie. He is merciful and kind and his will supports lifelong marriage!
Congratulations!!! I am happy to heat forgiveness and healing. Pray for Tricia all I had to do was stand still a d wait Let the Lord be my husband..... It was BETTER
I'm happy for you but honestly this is an anomaly. Unfortunately Its exceedingly rare that this happens . But I'm glad this is your story. Its difficult to stay alone and be punished because someone who refuses to follow God.
People ask me all the time why I won't even consider dating anyone. I tell them the Bible says it isn't ok to remarry while your spouse is still living, and mine is. Yes it gets lonely, no it's not easy, but I want with everything in me to honor God as much as possible. If His word says to do something, I want to do it. If His word says not to do something, I don't want to do it. If He is pleased for me to remain single for the rest of my days, so be it. He is God and I am not.
I never got into any relationships or seeked anyone since i got divorce either. I still hold true to the vow i made to god when i got married. It doesn't effect me at all.
We've been married 51+ yrs and we're both believers in our SAVIOR Jesus Christ and HE alone is what keeps us together. Love one another as I have loved YOU.
@@joey_outdoors he didn’t say it was picture perfect. He said it is only possible with Christ, which all of us have and can have. Jesus doesn’t favor people.
The Elder is %100 correct. My and Husband and I divorced. And we have reconciled. Before he asked me to come back, I knew i wasn't going to be able to remarry. Also meaning i couldn't fornicate either. It's hard being single and young, and I did go back into the world after my divorce. But finally, God spoke to me in a way that shook me to my core. So i closed my legs, repented and focused on God and prayed that he would keep me. And then my Husband, called me after a 1 1/2yr of being separated and divorced. At first i didn't want to come back, but the Holy Spirit directed me to the scriptures again. So I prayed and fast, and now were back together. Praise God!!! Thank you Jesus!!!
I’m a police officer studying for ministry - Your reconciliation is a blessing TO YOU!! I am for putting the obvious in the vows - “you cheat, or abandon your marriage in heart, word, or deed by disaffection, abuse emotionally or worse lay your hands on me - yes I vow to divorce you” - I have seen horrendous cases of abuse which eventually even lead to homicide - we cannot guilt the victims into staying with these monsters or call these victims to a “gift of singleness” they clearly did not have, else they would not have married. It is a sin to condemn the guiltless (offended/ victim spouse) to enforce the law. Matthew 12:3 - 7 covers enforcing rules without mercy. Do not condemn victims with a life sentence as they wait for the wicked to finish up their explorations of debauchery & POSSIBLY return. Victims of abuse have also been abandoned by their spouse - and are no longer under bondage. Do not condemn the guiltless!! Read “A Cry For Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Violence Hides in Your Church” by police officer, turned pastor Jeff Crippen.
Greg Champaign , I Totally Agree with You. I went through a horrible divorce. He left me( a Christian) for another woman. I moved on, with my children. I started a new church, and the Pastor came to my home, and told me, that I would Never be free to remarry. As a result, I quit going there. I even walked away from God. Much Later, I ended up, marrying a non- believer. I asked that Pastor, “ Look at my two year old son, and tell me why, he doesn’t deserve to have a father in his life?” This Teaching that the church is giving is Totally Incorrect. The Bible says clearly, that if a non believer departs, let he or she depart. The Christian has been called to Peace. Currently, because of all of these rules, I have quit church. I am even in doubt that there is a God. It’s sad, but it’s true. You sound like a very educated man, and I greatly appreciate your comment. Blessings to you, your Loved Ones and Your Ministry!😊♥️ Perhaps, my life would have been Very Better if there had been Pastors like you, in my past. If there really is a God, I hope that He Blesses you to the Fullest!!!😊♥️ Most people that call themselves Pastors, haven’t ever been exposed to abuse. Not the way, that you and I have witnessed it. For me, it was first hand, and he also abused my two sons, horribly! My story was a Nightmare. In my opinion, There is No Excuse For Abuse! Abusers need to be locked up. It’s so sad, because I see it everywhere these days. Cindy
Vanessa Greene Too bad you not know my DEAR grandma and her son - my father both have passed. They taught me respect for the struggles of African Americans, and the importance of religion in their lives, that many White folks not understand. My father was glad to escape from the craziness he witnessed first hand in 1920s in the South.
These guys hit the nail right on the head. I am a guy who's wife left after 26 years of marriage. I have been watching her being turned over to sin, run through a few guys, estranged from her kids and now grand child. I would love to latch onto the wide road churches view of remarriage. I can't. Do the study, be honest with yourself and how you treat scripture. This is one of our modern day blind spots. Maybe a product of a man centered gospel? IDK, but the totality of scripture is pretty clear. It is amazing how many great bible teachers seem to fall into the modern idea that, though marriage is "representative of Christ and the Church" you can toss her aside now that she doesn't meet your conditions, is this how they see "Christ and the church"? I mean she flakes out and has an affair, well, divorce her and you are free to remarry, because your feeling were hurt and an English reading and western understanding of two scriptures trump all the others...? No, I wish I didn't believe what these guys were saying was true, but it is. I guess when Christ leaves his bride, I'll leave mine. Until then I'm going to honestly seek Him who can give the grace to stand and wait, and can give the miracle of new birth to the woman He gave me. He makes all thing new. Perhaps He won't, but let Your will be done Lord. I do honestly believe this life is a flash in the pan. One day we will be in a place where there is no sin, no tears and I pray that I can face Him and thank Him for the grace He gave me, because I won't be able to do it without that grace. All that said to those who want to surround yourselves with teachers that say what your itching ears want to hear, and they are out there, many are very sound teachers, they are wrong on this one, and our culture is not modeled a true view of Christ and the Church. I will say this also, neither divorce or remarriage are unforgivable sins, but if your in this terrible place right now, please listen to the Lord, and not the teacher that makes you feel good, or justified. It's hard, but He never said it wouldn't be and if you're a believer, and the fact that you are a believer, is proof He is the God of miracles, thank Him and don't let this cup pass, we are being conformed into the image of Him who suffered at the hands of sinners, even death.
Amen!!! Continue to trust God! Thank you for your insight and courage!!! I love how you said “when Jesus leaves the church is when you’ll leave your spouse. 👍🏽Amen!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This is a incorrect judgmental evaluation of other Christians, The very word of God allows divorce.... yes he Hates it, but he does allow it. Therefore do not accuse your brothers of searching for teachers to suit heir itching ears. The church is the bride of Christ, the church is made up of individuals with free will and every Christian has a choice to turn away from God and follow their fleshly desires. Christ will never leave us but he will allow that Christian to leave him, because he allows us free will and in the same way us humans if our spouse cheats and is unrepentant and wants to leave and marry someone else... what can you do? other than pray, but once they have married the new person.... are you saying you should still hold on and wait for them so you can be reconciled with them? ...... even after they have already married someone new? You are free to divorce, if you so desire. It is not a sin to divorce an adulterous spouse. God would prefer reconciliation, so do your best to reconcile and if that fails then you are free to Divorce and/or Remarry.
Help me with this one. Wife (church going) left husband and moved in with her boyfriend. Wife divorced husband after 10 years of marriage and five kids. The ex-wife is now married to the boyfriend going on five years and they have one child. Ex-wife now flirts with the first husband and has asked for the first husband to have sex with her and to take her back. She wants to leave the second husband because he will not go to church with her. The first husband says that the ex-wife is in the Bible like he never knew her to be. But, he said that he would never honor her request. What is going on with the ex-wife.
@@sylviaruth5008 The wife has maybe realised her mistake in leaving the first husband and kids. The grass is only greener for a little while. She should not be asking for sex and flirting with the first husband. She sounds like the immoral woman in Proverbs 5, 6, 7. The first husband should seek God in this situation. God’s plan is usually always to restore but this wife needs to 💯 per cent repent. She does not sound like a repentant woman based on what you say but I have no way on knowing that and therefore should not judge. The husband should read ALL scriptures about marriage, divorce, remarriage for truth and guidance. The husband could also look up Rejoice Marriage Ministries. They talk about situations exactly like this one where the prodigal has left for another, remarried and had a child with that person. There is a wealth of information, devotional, videos and podcasts. God takes the marriage covenant seriously and so should we. God bless. X
@Douglas You hit the nail on the head right there. A true Christian would not commit unrepentant adultery, but there are many who are not really saved and not willing to save the marriage. If one is not willing, there is nothing the other can do. That is my situation. My ex wanted to be with someone else and I believe not really saved. They are married, but since the ex is still living, I do not feel that releases me to remarry - again the picture of Christ's fidelity to the church. Just because ex was not faithful to the marriage doesn't mean I shouldn't be.
@@shakengrain1942 BRAVO!!! Christ's followers are to set an example to the evil secular world. Thus they obey Christ even if it creates certain difficulties in their own lives. "If we suffer with him, we shall reign with him"
I'm divorced and remarried. Didn't want the divorce but couldn't make him stay. Now I'm a new Christian recently found faith after searching for decades. Where does that leave me.
@Douglas don't forget King David who did commit that wicked abominable deed of adultry and threw in murder on the side. He then hid his sin for over a year! But yet God said David was the apple of his eye! Sounds like he forgave David and chose to remember his sin no more. How could we do any less for fellow Christians? Anything less would be judgemental and not Christlike. If Christians disagree w/ someone who divorced, show grace, mercy and pray for them.
@@tammyewert1712 abandonment happened to me too and represents a breaking of the marriage covenant. After a careful reading of the greek meaning on key scriptures I realized I was free and also to remarry.
I appreciate truth... I'm divorced and I'm saved for past 7 years. I would never remarry I refuse to date . to me it's playing with fire ... stay true to Jesus people not worth your soul.
Carol Smith Ok..im divorced to, So we have humane needs right! So if one has sex with someone its sin fornication..if you cant contain..doesnt it say..its better to marry then to burn??
I agree with u 100 percent ,but so many of God's children don't accept the truth they look for loop holes to get out of the marriage and start over with someone new.
When he said marrying someone who is "notoriously unpredictable" ..... understatement of a lifetime! I didn't know I was marrying someone unpredictable, especially notoriously so! I hope no one listening to this or at their congregation gets hurt (or worse...dead) bc of this blanket advice.
@ymarrero23 wow- you should really take a domestic abuse class or learn about the cycle of abuse. Knowing someone for a 1year + can reveal signs that someone is an abuser but probably not because a lot of times it is the commitment and security of forever that lets an abusers guard down and they feel comfortable/secure now to abuse bc they know that their spouse is never going to leave them. It is quite apparent that you have not been married or are married by the very comment- marriage brings out a whole level of comfortability that dating can ever and you really get to know a person AFTER marriage then ever before. Marriage is SUPPOSED to be forever and Lord I wish that were the attitude of the man I married in deed (not just his word that he gave me but in action) but even God divorced Israel. obviously it is not His PERFECT will, but there are consequences to sin and NO ONE should feel pressured to stay in a marriage if they are beaten, cheated on, or abandoned. We aren't talking about 1 or both spouses carelessly marrying /divorcing. Good for you for recognizing signs and not marrying someone who likely would of hurt/abused you but that's not everyone's story and if you seriously aren't giving any grace to a spouse who was abandoned, beaten, cheated on (whether or not there were signs) WHEN God does, then I don't think you understand the Father's heart and His Word or His love for you. I may have an abusive husband who threw me out on the streets but not encountering God's love in that a real way especially to the point where you feel comfortable condemning others...I feel sorry for you and I hope to God you don't ever have to eat your own words.
My christian wife committed adultery many times, I tried to reconciled but it was not humanly possible, Remarried again with Christian Girl and I am so very happy that God gave a second chance.
Todd the bod doesn’t care he knows better than scripture. I also re married to an Amazing Christian woman . Steer clear of the sanctimonious Neo Calvinists like At Watermark
You are right when you stated humanly possible. Nothing is humanly possible but with God ANYTHING is possible. My question for you...Was this God's will for your life? God's greatest intention is reconciliation. It is in His word. I had to learn all of this the hard way. So trust me when I say I am speaking from experience. God has shown me His way. His way is perfect. Man's way is move on to the next... and the next... God's intention is always reconciliation. Its throughout His word.
Did you read, "It's better to marry than to burn" or " It is not good for man (or woman) to be alone" Think God wants a bunch of singles running around without love and not populating the earth?! PLEASE...
@@theogentile4579 You mean a bunch of singles who are adultering and fornicating and having children for you to look after, while they continue sleeping around trying to find love! Looking for love in all the WRONG PLACES BECAUSE LOVE COMES FROM JESUS CHRIST I AM YAHWEH. ABOUT THAT WEDDING!! JOHN 7:6 JESUS REPLIED, "My time has not come yet, but for you ANYTIME is right!" Bride of Christ.
You people, do you believe that Jesus Christ is still alive.If its so, pray and ask him for a proper guidance in your difficult situations.He will guide you.
That's pretty sad to say! Don't expect God to answer with more guidance when He wrote a whole book for you to use as guidance. Jesus clearly sad! Matthew 19:9 King James Version (KJV) 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. The only reason some keep looking for guidance elsewhere is because they don't like what God wrote in the bible so they look for ways to make themselves feel better about sinful choices. The bible covers EVERYTHING a Christian will encounter in life and we are to obey the word, not look for other guidance because we don't like what the bible says.
@@av4926 I would encourage you do look at the evidence for remarrying after a divorce as you need to look into what the original text indicates. The leadership at a church where I was attending did just that and came to the conclusion based on scripture that Jesus was referring to a more general type of unfaithfulness and not just adultery. My wife abandoned me 4 1/2 years ago with NO desire to reconcile. I have prayed much and studied what God is really saying when you actually dig deeper. The Holy spirit has released me to date so I base that on scripture and my conscience.
It is true, like someone said (and I am guilty) - ppl are more hung up on offending their friend than we are in offending God. That is the place we need to repent and quit playing.
Over 30 yrs ago my wife and I (who we re not living for the Lord) separated and because of my hardness of heart divorced. The night I ask her to leave she went in the bed room, hit her knees and cried out to the Lord to change her, to direct her to help her be what HE wanted her to be as a wife.... after a few month me seeing the change HE was making in her I began to seek HIM as I should have before this messe we re in happened, he began to speak to me and change me into what he desired for me as a husband this resulting in full reconciliation and remarriage. I can tell you with HIS help and our work 30 plus yrs later it's never been better, submit and I mean submit to HIM, each other and do it HIS way, its absolutely possible to make it !
Somebody please Help me with this one!!!!! Wife (church going) left husband and moved in with her boyfriend. Wife divorced husband after 10 years of marriage and five kids. The ex-wife is now married to the boyfriend going on five years and they have one child. Ex-wife now flirts with the first husband (remained single) and has asked for the first husband to have sex with her and to take her back. She wants to leave the second husband because he will not go to church with her she say. The first husband says that the ex-wife is in the Bible like he never knew her to be. But, he said that he would never honor her request because she is married again and he would be committing adultery. What is going on with the ex-wife? And, what are the rules?
Well my Husband and I have been married for 45yrs next week, I was 10 yrs married when I came to faith, as I was praying and totally ready to leave my verbally abusive husband, The Holy Spirit spoke to me and said I hate divorce, because I loved God I obeyed Him and stayed. He’s been with me through every trial every valley, every storm, every fire, and believe me there have been some. He’s promised never to leave us or forsake us, I know He never will. He will never see the righteous forsaken. Hallelujah.
I know you wrote this ages ago but you are such a blessing to many. Your life teaches obedience to God's word played out in your life. I pray God will help and bless you and your husband 🙏🏽
I just want to say as a man who aspires to be married one day, I truly honor you ladies who listen the voice of the Holy Spirt. You all are absolutely right. God hates divorce. It gives me so much hope that even with your husbands flaws and you thinking about divorcing him, that you listened to the Holy Spirit and reconciled the marriage. People are so quick to end marriages over the most foolish of things. Thank you for sharing your testimonies of true unconditional love. No two people are perfect, but I truly believe marriage is worth fighting for.
As i was meditating on this matter, a couple of weeks ago the Holy Spirit said to me: 'what they do not understand is the binding.....God binds two people together, a man and woman thus becoming one body. He does not and will never bind 2 men to one woman or vice versa.' So, those who remarry, even if officiated in church, God only sees the first wife or husband..if they are still alive and no certificate of divorcement will make them disappear. This bond is not negotiable and its final and no man can tear apart that bond except through death as God instituted it. We hv been admonished not to comform to the world but be transformed from it. Let us stop listening to the gospel of devils thats so rampant in this world and return to our first love, our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ of Nazareth! Amen.
Amen Sister !! you have spoken the Truth as it is also written in the bible. Pay no mind to these other lust driven, hell bound, adulterous, so called Christians who are only interested in their genitalia needs than in the will of God. The bible clearly says Romans 7:1-3 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
I unknowingly married a narcissist. I have forgiven her for her broken vow. She filed for divorce. I persistently pray for her healing and reconciliation of our marriage and family. Please God, heal my wife, and please decide to send her home.
"15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7)
@@florinaschilean6143 she claims to be saved. This was done in church. I don't believe she is totally saved because she does not follow God's commands as she should.
@@ghinso1967 do I need to repeat what Paul said? "how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" there is no things such "totally saved", she is either saved or she is not, but what does this have to do with you? You are not bound to her. Pray for her if you will, but whatever you do, keep distance, both in physical and in sentimental terms. Read Proverbs 5, may ease your soul.
@@florinaschilean6143 thank you. I read it. I do and will continue to pray for her and our grand twins. I will keep my distance as she continues to live in adultery.
@@ghinso1967 another thing: "If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance." (Deuteronomy 24: 1) If she divorced you and then sleeped with another man, you can't remarry her. Seek to rebuild your life with another woman, or live alone rather if this you will, but you may not reconcile with her, as it is written there.
The reason why people are split on this issue is because they cannot receive what God has said. It’s pretty straight forward, yet everyone tries to find loopholes through His Word. People want to feel good about their divorce, their reasons, feel good about 2nd and or 3rd or other non marriage relationships. Nobody wants to feel convicted or shame in how they are living their life, nor do they want to do the work to try to make things right with their former or current spouses before God.
Actually, adulterers and adulteresses want to feel good about their wicked abominable Deed(s) of adultery.... .... so they try to forbid their spouse from remarrying. Matthew 19:9 stands till Heaven and Earth passed away.
This is my problem with this. I lived for years with an adulter , when he finally brought his dirt into my home I had to make a painful choice of divorce. For mere sanity and solace. He and his fornicator made both my life and that of my children unbearably. He as a believer taunted demeaned and abused us. I got no support or assistant from his family or my church. Instead I was made to feel like a lunatic. I am by no means advocating divorces but I'd like the church to see just how many divorcees they join together despite declaring it's not allowed
The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” Matthew 19:3, 7-9 NKJV bible.com/bible/114/mat.19.3-9.NKJV
I am separated from my wife now, but I have no plans to divorce. I am content to wait until we can reconcile or if she chooses not to I am content to remain unmarried and celibate for the rest of my life! Everyone is so afraid of that word. Celibacy is not a death sentence! I have learned during my separation that I have a serious problem with lust. Even the 12 step programs recognize that celibacy is a solution for this issue. If God wants me to remain unmarried for life I will remain celibate for life! God is good!
You are well within your right to make that decision. As for me, lifelong celibacy would never work for me. I would rather die than be condemned to celibacy. I really would.
I asked artificial intelligence for an unbiased interpretation of Matthew 19:9 at face value: Here was the result: "In Matthew 19:9, Jesus provides an exception to the prohibition of divorce and remarriage, stating that sexual immorality (often interpreted as adultery) is a valid reason for divorce. The verse states, "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery." This exception clause indicates that if a spouse engages in sexual immorality, the innocent party is allowed to divorce and potentially remarry without committing adultery. It is important to note that interpretations of this passage may vary among different Christian denominations." (an unbiased interpretation of a literal reading of Matthew 19:9, from artificial intelligence on January 9, 2024).
@@BennettJonWayne-xw9vithis is where the problem is. What is artificial intelligence? Where was it when God created man? Where was it when God said if you get divorced you must remain single or else be reconciled to your spouse. This is so clear, whether you are the wronged spouse or not, you are to remain single. The only thing that makes it difficult and we end up doing things our own way is the flesh. The flesh wants of its own, it doesn’t want to submit to the will of God. Celibacy is is a scary thing for other people hence this excuse of “ a wronged spouse can remarry in the case of adultery” No, artificial intelligence is artificial intelligence not God’s intelligence. Deception can sound like truth!
@@user-xe8eh7qe4c The only thing worse than artificial intelligence is no intelligence at all. A plain and simple reading of Matthew 19:9, and rendering an understanding of it conceptually, does not require a high intelligence quotient (IQ). Jesus also said in the verse that "whosoever marries her that is divorced commits adultery." He likewise stated that the wronged HUSBAND can remarry, but He did NOT say that the wronged wife can remarry. So the verse is not as simple as you think. (1) A divorced woman cannot remarry, unless her first husband dies. (2) A wronged husband CAN and MAY remarry, but does not HAVE TO remarry. An adulterous husband CANNOT REMARRY.
@@user-xe8eh7qe4c The only thing worse than artificial intelligence is no intelligence at all. A plain and simple reading of Matthew 19:9, and rendering an understanding of it conceptually, does not require a high intelligence quotient (IQ). Jesus also said in the verse that "whosoever marries her that is divorced commits adultery." He likewise stated that the wronged HUSBAND can remarry, but He did NOT say that the wronged wife can remarry. So the verse is not as simple as you think. (1) A divorced woman cannot remarry, unless her first husband dies. (2) A wronged husband CAN and MAY remarry, but does not HAVE TO remarry. An adulterous husband CANNOT REMARRY.
"But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." 1 Corinthians 7.15
The word not bound in 1 Cor 7:15 in the original Greek is not the same as in Rom7: 2 & 1Cor 7: 27, 39. In the english language it is the same word but Paul cannot contradict himself much less God. In 1Cor7:15 it is not referring to the bond of marriage which is deo not doulos but it means that you are not his or her slave so if the spouse decides to leave the other spouse is still bound by marriage but is not his or her slave/ servant.
I have to teach on Matt 5:31 to my Sunday school class. I am tempted to gloss over it to avoid controversy as most of the couples in my class are people in their 50s and 60s who are divorced and remarried. My wife and I are also baby-boomers but we are "first spouses" and have been married for 42 years. Over the years we have become "freaks" among many evangelical groups as more of our friends have become divorced. We are reluctant to publicly celebrate our anniversary because when fellow Christians ask us how long we have been married, they soon discover that we are still in our first marriage. "Oh, how nice" they say politely. I ask that Christians pray for me that I am able to teach this section of Matthew without creating unnecessary discord. Regardless of the outcome, I believe that all Christian leaders will have to answer for this problem at the Judgement Seat of Christ.
actually to know something, and not teach it.....basically is criminal....something akin to fraud.......the response, is not your issue....the teaching is...
I find it awkward to say my spouse and I have been married 17 years. It is almost embarrassing to say even in church because it is not exactly normal even in church. Sad times. I too believe Christian leader either do not believe the truth or fear to speak the truth.
Today we had a sermon that said I can never remarry after the divorce my ex-wife initiated. I am having a hard time accepting this. I had no intention on getting divorced. I can't imagine God would want me to stay single for the rest of my life!
When we divorce we must turn completely to walking with Jesus If you stay really close to Him and chose His narrow path it is possible that He will connect you with a like minded spouse But they also must know Jesus and follow Him and be lead by His directing them in which way to go. It may take years but hold on and see what Jesus does in your life before you go choosing a spouse by yourself. It will be worth it in the end and whither you are alone or married it's best to be happy in all circumstances Amen
Let’s not make our own god.. the fuzzy, bubbly one that we feel comfortable with.. I don’t like the message either. My husband woke up and said he wants a divorce from me due to my unfaithfulness. I want to love and be loved, get married again if divorced but after listening to this.. this lines up with God word. Can’t deny the truth.
Sometimes you have to divorce to protect your child from someone who could hurt them. What is more unforgivable; staying with an abusive and unpredictable man to “hope” he reconciles one day, and while doing so place the child in danger? Or divorce, gain custody, protect your child, and give the child a chance to be raised by a loving stepfather who cares? When your husband abuses you, he has chosen to abandon you. When he places you in danger, he has chosen a love for himself over a love for his family. If he chooses to drown his sorrows in drugs and alcohol, he is dead; maybe not physically, but spiritually and emotionally. Think about what you’re saying before you condemn women who leave to give themselves and their children a safer life.
When you have close relationship with God, then you will.totally depend on him and will never focus on what can happen from man, but you will be sure how God can protect, this is the core of today generation, they want to do all and ask God to be spectator, you depend on God totally then still with your prayers you can live with any human
The bible is clear a woman can leave her husband but it does say to remain unmarried or be reconciled to husband so you are correct get away from the abuse but it doesnt say to go get remarried, if your protecting children ok, dont use that to remarry. That biblical. Look up scripture where it say a wife is bound by the law of her husband as long as he is alive but if he die then she is free to marry in the Lord.
All of you guys want to pass judgment or condemn this woman’s belief, but what does the Bible say about one who judges?? The clear answer to this video is from a passage straight from the Bible, but you have to look deeper into the meaning. Let no MAN separate what GOD, has joined together. If God did not bring the couple into each other’s lives, then the marriage is unlawful.
Douglas You really should look up the definition of what a “term” is as well as the difference. You tried so hard to be as articulate as possible in an attempt to sound intelligent and well educated that you forgot to remind yourself that you can’t even spell or punctuate correctly. Neither can I, but I can damn sure call out a keyboard warrior nazi when I see one. What point were you even trying to make anyway? You made no sense whatsoever.
Antidisestablishmentarianism Thankfully I didn’t have to spell your name!😂I got put out of a spelling bee one time because of that word! Anyway agreed.👍 Puts things in perspective.
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” - Matthew 19:9 (KJV)
Dennis, You are not allowed to remarry. Many think that because of the “fornication” clause in Matthew you can remarry because of adultery: "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for fornication (or uncleaness porneia), and marries another woman commits adultery (moikeia)."-Matthew 19:9 Notice that the Greek word for fornication is “porneia” and the Greek word for adultery is “moikea.” Also, please note that this “except for fornication” clause is not found in Mark 10:1-11 or Luke 16:18. This is because Matthew was writing to Jews. The Jews had a betrothal period before marriage. This was somewhat like our engagement period today. For example, since Mary was pregnant, Joseph could have ‘put away’ his fiancée because of fornication. Notice that the Bible refers to Mary as Joseph’s wife before they were married: Luke 2:5 To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife, Matt. 1:20 … Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife… The Jewish betrothal was begun with a proposal and a commitment made in the presence of witnesses. It was beyond the private promise made in modern engagements of today, and was considered legally binding. Therefore to break an espousal in Jewish society required a legal separation - a writing of divorcement equivalent to that required of married couples. THERE IS NO DIVORCEMENT CLAUSE FOR GENTILES BECAUSE GENTILES DO NOT HAVE BETROTHAL LAWS LIKE JEWS. If you remarry while your spouse is still alive, you are continuously committing adultry, you can't put a band-aid of grace and continue in that sinful marriage, just as you can't continue in a homosexual marriage, because though God is aware that people do divorce and remarry others, He still does not even recognize the second marriage as valid, he instead says that the remarried are STILL committing adultry against their original spouse: "So then if, WHILE HER HUSBAND LIVETH, she be MARRIED TO ANOTHER MAN, SHE SHALL BE CALLED AN ADULTRESS: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man."-Romans 7:3 WHAT MAN HAS JOINED LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER (SEPARATE). TWO SHALL BE ONE FLESH (Matthew 19:6). "'Till death do you part". KEEP YOUR VOWS. That is why when the disciples heard the hard truth about marriage, they said that it would be better to not even marry at all (Matthew 19:9-10). If you are remarried, you must divorce. If you are divorced only, you must stay single or wait for reconciliation with your original spouse. The only time you can remarry is if your original spouse dies. You don't have to believe me, you can read the Word of God, there is no remarriage allowed in there. Also, you can read the testimonies of all these people who were convicted and even had dreams of hell because of their adultrerous remarriages: cadz.net/humphrey.html God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16)
@@adirafearsjesus7778, Yes, unfortunately they must leave that invalid marriage even though they didn't know, because as Romans 7:3 says, as long as they are married to someone who has divorced a living spouse, they both will be called adulterers. There's a video of remarried and divorced people in chambers of hell, some didn't know their spouse had divorced before, but they still wound up there. This is why we need to seek God in all matters, just like the story of how Abraham's servant asked God to help him find a wife for Isaac in Genesis 24. Testimony of Pastor Jerry Miles Humphrey, born in 1872. He was against remarriage (he calls it "divorce-marriage"). He was married at 19 years old to his 17 year-old wife, until his wife grew cold and wanted a divorce. So they did and He remained unmarried for 7 years until many several Orthodox men of God who knew more told him that he was free to remarry because he was innocent. So he remarried. As soon as the marriage ceremony was over, he felt wrong in his spirit. He would fast and pray for answers for months, but it was constant until it became real doubt. So he decided to live separate from his second wife for 18 months to seek God in prayer and fasting about if he made a mistake and if it was a mistake, to know how to get out of it. He was fully ready to obey God at all costs, even to the point of losing his life if he had to. And so he began to have dreams. On April 13th, 1907, he dreamt of a minister who spoke to him the words from Isaiah 52:11, “Depart ye, depart ye, go ye out from thence, touch no unclean thing; go ye out of the midst of her; be ye clean that bear the vessels of the Lord.” On September 28th, 1907, he dreamt of a being who said: "There is someone in this community rejecting God-given light, and if they do not stop, God is going to send them to hell forever. He has sent me to warn them. Now you may do as you please about this matter. I have warned you, so good-bye!" The 3rd dream was about a large white boat that represented the Bible. He was in a narrow boat/skiff which represented the "except it be for fornication" from Matthew 19:9 (the scripture that people us as grounds/excuse to divorce). His small narrow boat was being beaten up by the crashing waves until he sank into a watery grave. In the 4th dream, "I saw myself joined arms with my second wife, walking down a wide brimstone road in hell, and as we passed a large vestibule I saw throngs of voluptuous men all dressed in black, and wearing silk hats. They were all keeping time to a band of music, and waving college banners, and singing this chorus: “In hell at last! In hell at last! And earth and all her pleasures past. In hell at last! In hell at last: For aye and aye the die is cast.” And in front of these men were about a dozen large black swine (emblems of filth and uncleanness). And they were flopping their ears and cringing to the music. In this, God showed me that I had followed the sensual, unclean, flesh-indulging multitudes of earth, into this divorce-marriage business. At this I awoke with that awful picture burning in my brain, and that hellish music ringing in my ears." 5th sign was this, "One day, as I stood all alone in the parlor of a friend’s house, in an eastern city, (while contemplating taking up this awful cross) it seemed as though a glorified spirit descended, and sang the following chorus to me: “Heaven is cheap at any cost, Do gain its ports or all is lost; For earthly gain is only dross And naught’s of value but the cross.” And with this song there seemed to come volleys of exhortations from Wesley, Fletcher, Pollock and millions of glorified saints saying to me, “Gain heaven’s port at any cost” At this he now realized he must divorce. People found out about it and tried to convince them out of their convictions to not divorce, but as he put it, "their arguments were too shallow to build on for eternity." Then he had another dream, it was a preacher reading from a paper and said “You would be all right if it were not for that divorce-marriage.” The last dream he had was of lightening picking him up and throwing him in a fire and the words spoke "Prepare to meet thy God". When he woke up, his bed was hot. He was now clear in his direction, he talked to his second wife, and they finally divorced, after two years. He says: "Since we did so, I feel as clear as an angel. And I am fully convinced that divorce-marriages are wrong; no matter if every preacher in the universe says they are not...I am not writing what I think, but what I positively know; and am willing to seal this testimony with my blood. I know whereof I speak. And no matter how conferences or church disciplines may rock the conscience of the people to sleep telling them they can marry while their husbands or wives live; they are wrong, and the souls whom they are deceiving will find it out when eternity is unveiled, if not before. I thank God that He kept conviction and light streaming from heaven on my soul until I walked in it, in spite of all the false comforters, who were crying, Peace: Peace: when there was no peace; but dread, fear and awful uncertainty... if you are now in one, and love your soul, and want to gain heaven, do get out of it: even at the cost of all things, or else you will regret it throughout all eternity." Here's the link for the full testimony: cadz.net/humphrey.html
I did actually say that publicly at the wedding, if they commit adultery, it’s literally already in there I just doubled down on it. That was my vow. I’m now single. She’s on her second marriage. I wish her the best. I can forgive it. I’m just not willing to live with someone who doesn’t think I’m enough. I’m fine with that.
@@jamessharp9790 Both of those are true. I am a hopeless sinner, and Christ offers new life, however I am not so delusional as to think this new life is promised in this life, John 15:18. This life is imperfect, filled with imperfect people who we are commanded to love and forgive in spite of the evil they commit. Nowhere however does Christ require us to restore people who repeatedly violate boundaries like committing infidelity to a trusted relationship with us. God can afford to offer them grace. God is all knowing. We are not. We are weak sinners, so we are only commanded to forgive. We cannot force a wayward spouse back, nor may we want them back depending on the circumstances. Sometimes wisdom dictates placing a boundary, and respecting their choices, but to protect the vulnerable.
@@jamessharp9790 Well good news he's not entitled to control me. Only God is entitled to tell me how to live, and there are no verses in the bible requiring reconciliation, because it requires more than one person. So Forgiveness, required, Love, required, letting them back into your life to destroy it again potentially, not required. Reconciliation can be as simple as choosing a peaceful divorce, instead of being contentious about it. Permitting them to remain safe and housed until they are prepared to move elsewhere. Reconciliation is always assumed to be a full restoration, but that's not required, ever anywhere, because it doesn't depend on a single person in the relationship. Reconciliation may just mean you are now friends, never again to be spouses. People are sinful and treacherous, they have been since the fall.
That’s why the Christian walk is personal and we have to stand in judgement for our decisions. I asked a trusted source was it ok to remarry if your spouse is still living and they gave me a good answer. They said, I don’t know what God told anybody else but as for me, I can’t remarry!
NO! Faithful believers CANNOT REMARRY until the Lord God takes away the first spouse for Judgment. If they remarry before the demise of the first spouse, Scripture and the Lord Christ, declare they are committing adultery.
Yip, as much as I wish it wasn't true, I did the research, and studied years ago before I was about to re-marry. I had legitimate reason, I was the I innocent wife in this case. I was scared of the scripture truth. I do believe it is clear, you are committing adultery if your spouse is still living. The sad, sad reality is, is that the spouse can be rotten, and very guilty of cheating, etc.Yes you may and can divorce in certain situations, but its the Remarrying you are Not free to do, if he is still living. Otherwise You will become an Adulterer, or you are making your knew spouse you married an Adulterer. Unbelievable, I know. , with all the stories. Look it up and read it with out prejudice. God can't go back on His word, if he does, He would be guilty of all. He's God, you can't make up rules in your mind. Trust me I wish it wasn't so.
I hope I'm not being stalked playing basketball and Ottawa Kansas I know I'm being stalked here and he know someone's controlling me on my phone cuz you're you know I was trying to play a basketball and you're watching me in my room how many predators Azan here size be intending to be a Christian to Pradhan there two controls on a relationship it says it zest are you know I'm going out there to play basketball by myself cuz there's a picture on there because I don't want to marriage I know it's one of my family members I don't know who it is what do they really want for me I do not want to be married I do not want to be commitment I don't want be solved with something like that and I don't want to have a kid I'm being stalked on here in my room it has nothing to do with preaching or talking about having a second chance in life in the relationship either the first one is Camila is bound for the rest of the life they move on with another family actor that does it gives the right for someone to tell someone to control someone and stalking someone and being abusive relationship with somebody when they have another relationship up after that you know I think it's giving advice or someone they can't have a second chance in a relationship or not just for marriage I mean it's kind of for me to I mean I'm not commitment to anybody I don't want to be married I don't want to be trapped in some of the rest of my life either some type of religious Jesus never marriage he was too commitment they kill everyone else
I feel the exact same way - we were married 13 years and divorced a little over three years ago. It’s been an absolute nightmare even though glory to God I was saved a year after the divorce. I am in terrible pain and torment still. She is seeing a new man now and I presume fornicating as nether are Christian and they go on trips all over including to Cancun for a week. I don’t know what to do.
The one who leaves isn’t always ‘the bad one’. People are distraught having no choice but to leave an abusive relationship by being the one to divorce the person that didn’t practice Gods will. In my situation, he moved on and I’ve been single for 11 years . So I suffered under him, suffered under a miserable divorce, suffered being single, and now I am the one that cannot remarry?
Hang in there for sure!💪🏽 In the meantime, You should really read Divorce and Remarriage: What the Church DIDN'T Tell You. Your eyes will be opened WIDE after reading, TRUST!
My situation is similar. My wife left and gave me the kids. She remarried almost as soon as the divorce papers were signed. I tried dating a few times, and God made it clear to me that it wasn’t His will. I have remained single since 2016, and I’ve become a better father for my kids and have grown tremendously in my faith. I’m not saying it’s God’s will for you to stay single, but there are numerous blessings when your primary relationship is with God, and not a human who will let you down.
Currently separated with my current spouse. Praying for restoration. While she lives I will hold on to the possibly of reconciliation. We have one child. Everything about this video is true. Glad I listened
@@sounddoctrine3032 Please Help me with this one!!!!! Wife (church going) left husband and moved in with her boyfriend. Wife divorced husband after 10 years of marriage and five kids. The ex-wife is now married to the boyfriend going on five years and they have one child. Ex-wife now flirts with the first husband (remained single) and has asked for the first husband to have sex with her and to take her back. She wants to leave the second husband because he will not go to church with her she say. The first husband says that the ex-wife is in the Bible like he never knew her to be. But, he said that he would never honor her request because she is married again and he would be committing adultery. What is going on with the ex-wife? And, what are the rules?
*CORRECTION: The scripture is explicit in 1Corinthians that if unbelieving spouse leaves the believing spouse, the believing spouse is no longer bound in that covenant which would make it ok for them to remarry. Also, Jesus was explicit the "fornication" was a legitimate cause for divorce.
superpanda9586 Panda Productions How can it be a model for Christian marriage if it's under Old Covenant law? I get it... He forgave her etc... But I don't know that it's a precedent.
Henry Murphy NOT TRUE the word bound does not mean marriage. why are there do many other scriptures that say plainly if you marry a divorced woman you commit adultery.
God allows divorce because of the hard hearted offender, not the "hard hearted victim" of adultery, neglect or abuse. Divorce is also a mercy from God for the "victim" of a hard hearted spouse. According to Scripture, God hates divorce and still made a way for his children to start over and find peace. In Matthew, Jesus is clarifying Deuteronomy 24:1. The lawyers of his time had perverted the scripture to allow for an "any cause" divorce which Jesus says is not valid. Any person marrying a person divorced for "any cause" would be an adulterer because the divorce was not valid. An often over looked scripture dealing with divorce is Exodus 21:10-11. It deals with divorce for neglect of food, clothing and sex. Abuse is nothing less than a severe form of neglect. God has never required us, as his followers, to allow ourselves to be victimized. Because he loves us, he has alway given us a way out. When one tries one's best and the marriage fails because of a hard hearted spouse, then there is no condemnation for remarriage. According to Deuteronomy 24 both parties, the victim and the adulterous spouse can remarry after divorce. Jesus didn't change that law, he only explained the answer to the question, "Can a man divorce his wife for "any cause"?" God's blessing and peace, ~Elder Tom Sherman
In Leviticus the High priest was told he cannot marry a widow a Divorced woman only a virgin . High priest folks. With this scripture in mind isnt it saying divorced people married. Or the possibilty of it was allowed just not for High Priest. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is very clear as was Jesus in Matthew. Is divorce Gods very best NO but then niether is judging or condeming another person. How many of those who speak of no remarry have resisted sin to the shedding of your blood. Your doctrine denies Jesus blood as suffienct which is a far greater sin . Just think about this . Not everyone has been given gift of celibacy notice gift part here. You put people in serious jeopardy of fornication etc etc if they haven't been given this gift do you ever consider this or is being pious more important to you.
AccordingToScripture absolutely abomination of an answer. The undeniable truth is Luke 16:18, Mark 10:12, romans 7:1-3 You CANNOT remarry if Divorced until death (not spiritual death) physical death of a spouse. Repent false teacher
@Elder Tom Sherman, how sad to pervert the way of the Lord !! To say that victim and adulterous spouse can remarry is a TON OF GARBAGE. And remember that Jesus was very harsh with the elders who were supposed to know better but instead they taught falsehood and led the sheep astray. The call of God to minister is a very serious and responsible position. It should not be taken lightly to lead others to death.
I believe Jesus said that the only sin that is not forgivable is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. My ex wife cheated on me multiple times when we were dating and commited adultery after we were married. I was not willing to continue so we got divorce. I then remarried and have been married for 8 years and am happier than I've ever been in a marriage. I had the chance to continue being married to my ex but chose not too. She has remarried twice since we divorced and cheated on all her other spouses. I think I made the right choice. I love my current wife and we have 3 beautiful children.
Although you probably shouldn't have married her in the first place, you had biblical grounds to divorce her because she fornicated before she married you. Matt 19:9 Be well and blessed in your new marriage.
I’m divorced god did not put us together he was a unbeliever and he committed adultry and had a child with this person it happened years ago it says in his word whoever god has joined together god did not join us together we joined ourselves together out of gods will so I’m free to marry who god joins together!
It is not that easy my dear Lisa. That means I can marry as I choose and divorce as I wish as long I didn't ask God. Right? If you are truly God's child you will not in the first place marry an unbeliever. So the deed as being done how about you pray for his conversion perhaps he can be saved. And forgive him as God has forgiven you(If you asked for pardon)
Not that simple. You made a vow before to that man that you would be his wife and God honored the vow in the same way God honors marriage between non Christians. God is also going to hold unbelievers accountable for their marriage vows, so don't think you can be let off the hook that easy.
That's talking about God's institution of marriage. If you married a satanist, God will honor the union even though he didnt sanction the marriage. Marriage is about covenant. God doesnt play with covenant, ever. You can make it up as you go along if you want to. Whether you believe the Word or not, hell will be your home. It's the Truth that stands, not our opinion or misunderstanding.
Sick of people distorting truth by using the exception to the rule to apply to the majority. This is diluting truth. "Well but technically it's ok In this scenario", that cannot be proven. It's the equivalent to a scam artist claiming their car was hit after it was already damaged to collect and justify it to themselves. They pull verses and twist them up and patch this with that to make their selfish desires jive in their own mind. There should be no Christian pastors remarrying anyone unless their spouse has passed. .
I think he said it right. That’s one of the mysteries of the Bible because it only pertains to the man. The man is the head of the household. The wife is sweet and submissive. The husband protects and cherishes his wife. But respect goes both ways. Matthew 5 Jesus said all is good in a marriage UNLESS one of them is unfaithful sexually, that’s the “out”.If a man then remarries a woman who is also divorced, it is adultery. Why is there no example of a woman committing sexual adultery and instructions on what a divorced woman can and cannot do? Mystery of sorts. You won’t lose your salvation or be doomed to hell because you remarry, you just gotta do it right according to scripture. Jesus said there is only one sin that cannot be forgiven which would eventually land you in the lake of fire. Adultery ain’t it. So people commenting here saying remarriage will cost your soul have not truly listened to what Jesus said. Be wise. Fast and pray.
What is this nonsense about there is a path for man and not for woman? Sin is sin. David committed adultery and even murder and God forgave him. What kind of BIble do you read because your words do NOT make sense. Paul said, "there is neither Jew nor Gentile, male or female" and I suppose we just ignore this scripture ! How stupid can you be? Read God's Word and stay out of the judging business. It is not your place to judge any woman or man.
@@giohenry GOD NEVER TOLD ANY MAN TO HAVE MANY WIVES. JESUS SAID "SIN NO MORE, STOP SINNING OR SOMETHING WORSE MAY HAPPEN TO YOU!" BE HOLY FOR **I AM** IS HOLY. JESUS CHRIST NEVER PREACHED ANYWHERE FOR REMARRIAGE. NOT EVEN IN THE SCRIPTURES DOES IT SAY, JESUS SAID EVERYONE MAY DIVORCE AND REMARRY. JESUS CHRIST CAME TO PREACH REPENT OF YOUR SINS, BE BAPTISED BY FULL IMMERSION FOR THE REMISSION OF YOUR SINS, OR PERISH! THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS AT HAND FOR YOU. THAT IS WHAT JESUS I AM THE GREAT, PREACHED. LEAVE EVERYTHING AND FOLLOW ME! REVELATION 21:8 ... IN THE DAYS OF NOAH PEOPLE WERE EATING AND DRINKING, MARRYING AND GIVING IN MARRIAGE AND THEN THE END CAME AND THEY **KNEW NOT**.... DO YOU HEAR JESUS VOICE NOW? JESUS DIDNT EVEN HAVE SEX!!! BUT INSTEAD SAID "FOLLOW ME!"
For all you people who aren't decieved and know the Truth, would you please pray for my son who has remarried and is believing false teachers? 🙏 I have told him that remarriage with a living first spouse is adultery and gave the scriptures, but sometimes family is disregarded. It broke my heart to have to refuse going to his "marriage" ceremony...but I must honor God first. Thank you!
But the Lord has brought new spouses into the lives of many divorced Christians, some have been happily married for decades, even in ministry. If he confesses the sin, God forgives❤ and he doesn't live in perpetual adultery.
@@pegc9889 Peg...Here is what the Lord has said regarding anyone who has a living spouse, divorces, and marries again while that first spouse is still living: 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife. *** GOD DOES PROVIDE A WAY FOR THE ABUSED....ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED. Mark 10:10-12 10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.” Luke 16:18 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Romans 7:1-3 7 Now, dear brothers and sisters-you who are familiar with the law-don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries. 1 Corinthians 7:39 39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. ***ONLY DEATH ENDS THE MARRIAGE COVENANT...THEN YOU ARE FREE TO MARRY, "BUT ONLY IN THE LORD." Third: WHAT THE LORD SAYS IS THE CONSEQUENCE OF REMARRIAGE ( with still living Covenant spouse) 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: NEITHER FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, NOR ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, SHALL INHERIT the kingdom of God. Proverbs 14:12 12 There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death Peg, don't be decieved...God is NOT the one who joins together anyone in remarriage adultery. The only way to be granted repentance is to quit the sin that you are asking repentance for. If your child asked you to forgive them for lying would you believe they were really sorry if they continued lying to you? No...that is not from the heart....it is not sincere.
I watched my mom try to save a failed marriage from the time I was 4 years old until they divorced when I was 28. I truly wish they had been able to save their marriage and they did make amends before my dad died at only 55 years old in 2000. She remarried and has been happy. I saw her give until she had nothing left to give. When my dad could not get his issues resolved she could not take it anymore. I know my dad was saved before he died and know my mom is now. It hurts to see two people you love with all your heart divorce...even when you are an adult. Sometimes a divorce is the only option to protect innocent wives and children from an abusive and dangerous man, or a bad mom.
God's unquestionable best is Reconciliation. Absolute truth. God help all married men and women to stay married and those that have divorced enter into Reconciliation and forgiveness. 🙏🙌😇💪😇🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Wow! That is the truth men of God, as difficult as it might sound to take it. Be blessed servants of God. I never imagine hard heartedness could be one of the qualifications to inherit the kingdom of God. If just getting along with a spouse for the sake of Christ becomes unbearable, how could one carry the cross? Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the sons of God 🙏
I cringe to think of all of the spouses who are suffering greatly in their marriages who come across this video. I went with a “save the marriage at all cost” mentality against an unfaithful wife for two years after the first revelation, to say nothing of a high degree of manipulation. But sticking it out in the hopes of reconciliation from the advice of men like this led me to become suicidal. The men in this video are saying that God loves marriage more than he loves the people in it. That is not true.
@lucklyduck1985 Absolutely agree. There is almost no empathy or compassion in the vast majority on this thread. A lot of self-congratulatory vanity and hypocrisy though. To treat people like this who have already suffered so much pain and hurt makes me want to weep.
There are a lot of hyper-legalists in these comments. They want the innocent party to suffer in loneliness and neglect. They revel in others' pain. They will answer for it someday. God has worked miracles in many second marriages. I was the victim of unrepentant adultery and complete abandonment by a spouse. With no-fault divorce, one party can break the legal binding. Many people are living a very lonely single life today that was not of their own choosing. That was me 27 years ago. Today, I have been happily remarried to a remarkable, never-married Christian woman for the past 25 years. God has indeed blessed and created great good from a broken situation.
having gone thru a divorce 7 years ago you're the first believer that seems Holy Spirit teaches the same as I believe.Seems like no one reads their Bibles or something. And I love your humility. It seems I get frustrated with believers expecting more
The trouble we are having is that church congregations do NOT support marriage for life any longer. The general view is that when a judge slams down their gavel, this also ends the covenant. Of course, if one considers this, it could not be further from the truth. Preachers preach marriage for life from the pulpit, but yet they allow adulterers to congregate in their church assembly, even encouraging remarriage in the majority of evangelical contexts. It is clear we are commanded NOT to company with rebellious sinners, who call themselves Christians 1 Cor. 5:11, but yet the church welcomes them into their fellowship, with open arms and some even allow them to company with the singles ministry. Church assemblies often remarry folks who's spouse is still alive. The effect of this disobedience is clearly on display for all to see. The reality is this: THE CHURCH LOOKS JUST LIKE THE WORLD. The church is supposed to be transformed by the renewing of the mind, not conformed to this world. If you track HISTORY on the matter, you will see that when the church allowed the secular courts to break up marriages and families, that clearly this was the beginning of the end of MARRIAGE as we should know it.
My ex has been remarried for the last 20 years...we were unbelievers when we got married....i am a new believer in CHRIST...i understand that i cant remarry but its hard sometimes to be alone.
Diane Dear God will reward you for your faithfulness. So good to see someone who actually stands for God and not their selfish desires. God bless you!!!
I just have a quick question. If you were married and got divorced when you were unbeliever. And now you are a believer doesn’t that mean you are brand new so you can now do things the righteous way? Date righteously, marry a godly man etc? Because of your new life in Christ? Genuinely interested to know
@Diane Thanks for taking the words of Jesus seriously and remaining obedient to him. Those who have sacrificed their own desires in this world will be rewarded 100 fold. Matt 19:29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life. In your prayers, remind God of this verse and watch him send his Holy Spirit to fill you and give you the grace necessary to remain faithful to him. Act 5:32 And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis Let me ask you a question. Do you think that God's word applies to all of humanity or only to believers? Will all humans be judged according to Jesus' words or will some be exempt because "they didn't know or believe"? All first marriages are joined together by God and are thus subject to Jesus' teaching on marriage and divorce whether they know it or not. If you were divorced before you became a believer, conversion does not annul your previous marriage; you remain in a one-flesh union until death.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis Why does the bible consistently describe them as marriages if God doesn't recognize them as marriages then? You are extremely confused and allowing your emotions to cripple your thought process. John the Baptist lost his head for pointing out that Herod was unlawfully married to his brother's wife. Why would that matter to John or anybody else if God doesn't recognize sinner's marriages? I guess John could've saved his own life if he would've just known what you seem to know. In any case, I've given plenty of scripture to support the view that all believers, regardless of their prior spiritual status, are to remain unmarried after a divorce or seek reconciliation. Repentance, forgiveness and reconciliation are always God's way when it comes to broken relationships and that theme runs throughout the scriptures from Genesis to Revelation. Old things washed away and all things become new? Are you claiming that marriage covenants are "washed away" once someone becomes a believer? LOL I'm not sure how someone who calls himself a pastor could be so clueless as to think that such a ridiculous claim is supported by the word of God. I suspect that you yourself are in an adulterous remarriage and that's what's driving your desperation here to manufacture excuses for divorce and remarriage. When you stand before God, no amount of ranting or silly excuses will help you. You will be held responsible for disobeying the words of Jesus and teaching others to do so.
I'm sorry but feel quiet upset and disgusted listening to this man and some comments relating to how God doesn't approve of remarriage and how this man thinks that every marriage is reconciliable including "abusive marriages" this is the very reason I stayed with an evil abusive man who nearly killed me and my 5mth old baby because I was to scared to anger God or tear apart what he has put together and also not to feel this condemnation from Christians like that man! I'm sorry but if you believe that a pysically abusive marriage is reconciliable then you're giving away your sisters in Christ and brothers too (some men get abused too) to be killed because you believe every marriage is from God and reconciliable!! Some marriages are from hell and the devil himself in disguise of God, sad not everyone had discernment especially when in love, otherwise the abused in marriage wouldn't risk making those vows on wedding days. Yes, I am a Christian, a daughter of God and He loves me regardless of divorcing this a abusive man to protect my child and I. And yes, the man I married posed as Christian, baptised and immersed in water and yes we used to go to church together and yes I prayed and fasted and trusted God to change the situation for 9yrs!!! I don't feel guilty anymore for divorcing this man and I trust Jesus completely with whatever plans He has for my life including finding me a lovely "true" God fearing man. And. this happens, I will have my church family support me through it because they have seen my pain and loved and encouraged me through it all. Stop preaching that it's ok to reconcile abusive couples because it's a reality people get murdered by abusive men/ women and how would that make you feel as a preacher giving someone away n finding out in a year's time or two that their partner killed them?! Some marriages are reconciliable true but I would be careful reconciling a couple where abuse has been predominant and the abuser acts like they have changed for you to give their partner back to them. And pls pls stop condemning people who remarry after painful past marriages, that's not the heart of God. Our God is a gracious God and He alone directs a heart. He is a good good father and where there's pain, he restores and wants He's children to be happy even if that means finding them a wonderful true follower of Christ to remarry. Fyi, I'm a single mum been divorced 7 mths but separated nearly 3 yes and completely leaning into Jesus pressing in for comfort, love and hope for the future. Including him finding me a lovely God fearing man when my healing of the past is complete.
I'm sorry I was not clear. God never intended the institution of marriage to be more important than the people on it. God divorced Israel at one point. Divorce is not the sin God hates, rather the cause if divorce. God never intended the covenant to love, honor and cherish ones spouse to be filled with abuse and deceit.
It is written: THE HEART IS DECEITFUL ABOVE ALL THINGS, WHO CAN KNOW IT? (JESUS CHRIST IS ABLE) PROVERBS: IF MANY WORDS DO NOT REMOVE FOLLY, THEN HOW IS IT PURGED? (JESUS CHRIST IS ABLE, ASK HIM) UNDERSTAND THIS: Malachi 2:16 16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him WHO COVERS HIS GARMENT WITH WRONG,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.” Matthew 19:8 Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you TO DIVORCE your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. Matthew 19:9 I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality (AS MOSES PERMITTED IT, DIVORCED ALLOWED), and marries another woman commits adultery (IS NOW ADULTERY)." Ecclesiastes 5:6 DO NOT LET YOUR MOUTH LEAD YOU INTO SIN. And do not protest to the temple messenger, "My vow was a mistake." WHY SHOULD GOD BE ANGRY **AT WHAT YOU SAY** AND DESTROY THE WORK OF YOUR HANDS? Luke 16:18 18 “ANYONE!! who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Matthew 5:27-28 Adultery in the Heart 27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I (JESUS CHRIST**) say to you that **WHOEVER** looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her IN HIS HEART. Psalm 11:5-6 The LORD examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, HE (JESUS CHRIST) HATES WITH A PASSION. On the wicked he will rain fiery coals and burning sulfur; a scorching wind will be their Lot. Malachi 2:13-16 13 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. 14 You ask, “Why?” It is because THE LORD IS THE WITNESS between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant. 15 Has not the ONE GOD MADE YOU? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth. 16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “DOES VIOLENCE TO THE ONE HE SHOULD PROTECT,” SAYS THE LORD ALMIGHTY. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful. Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, DO NOT EXASPERATE YOUR CHILDREN; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. Luke 13:16 And ought not this woman, a daughter of Abraham whom Satan bound for eighteen years, be loosed from this bond on the Sabbath day?” Romans 6:15 What then? SHALL WE SIN because we are not under the law but UNDER GRACE? By no means! Matthew 15:13 13 He (JESUS CHRIST) replied, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots. (JESUS IS TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE HERE) LUKE 20:34-36 KJV
Spot on! You articulated my thoughts on it. A difficult position to speak on but I’ve often wondered...what if God wants the broken home restored, where does that put the new spouse..??? Thank you for this truth. The God perspective is so important for all parties mentioned.
Pray for eachother's salvation and spiritual maturity and keep praying it. Pray every day together if they will. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name." And he's been believing in God ever since. He doesn't ignore me or disrespect me near as much anymore.
The answer is NO! Unless the other partner pass away, or be reconcile to each other only. The divorce or seperate partner cannot go out looking to party with another either... God rules is holy for His people.. no follow, no heaven... period...
I’m glad there is more than one view. My marriage was based on him lying to me. He just needed a prop as a cover up. But thankfully God is about LOVE. We get It wrong. I do hope to find a loving relationship one day. Glad that I know that what God has for me is for me...even though for right now and for a long time, it’s been nobody
It's been nobody for a reason. Whosoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Too many believers have adopted this hedonistic way of thinking. You only want to believe what makes you feel good. Both Jesus and the Apostle Paul were VERY clear in the teachings about marriage.
skeetabomb I was thinking the same. Everyone thinks they know something. Many comments are coming from personal experience, no experience and little revelation of the character of Christ. The massive amount of videos on You tube about divorce are just as exhausting and annoying. No one is ever on one accord and there is no sound doctrine.
Rae Nicole Exactly! We forgive as we have been forgiven. Yet we do not put up with repeated adulterous spouses...because that is obviously a hardened person...divorce is not wrong its God allowing ease for those who are hurting so they can move on knowing God is glorified...not being remarried remaining single nd open toward God...if the spouse dies marriage is permitted but our focus should always be what God wants for us...Jesus Christ...perfection.
@@rb5344 , Divorce is lawful. "God's not willing that any should perish ... " he gives you every opportunity to walk successfully as a Christian. If you are divorced because of your fault, or because another person's fault; the contract is null and void. Let Christ heal you, and get married. "Marriage is Honourable in all, and the bed undefiled in marriage". God instituted divorce through Moses, and Ronald Reagan muddied the waters. God bless you
Come on use LOGIC folks! If you're being "legitimately" abused in your marriage it's absolutely the right thing to get rid of your abuser, and it's absolutely fine to marry someone else who is also unmarried (not separated because that is absolutely committing adultry ) but completely finished being divorced before you even think of that person as a possibility!!!
@Gareth B Divorce is not the issue. You want to divorce the abuser. Divorce.separate until he has repented and changed his ways. Sought help for his actions ect.. But the bible is clear that if the wife departs she is to remain single or wait to be reconciled to her husband. Those are GOD'S words not Gareth B..we must listen to GOD..not man. The issue is the act of remarriage. I'll leave that Judgement up to God.
So quick question here. What if you’ve found yourself by no means of your own, divorced and abandoned by a non-believing spouse. Some people that are choosing to stand for reconciliation have been doing so for years. How long should they wait before they realize that maybe reconciliation isn’t going to happen and it’s time to move on with your life. Unless you’re stander you have no idea how difficult it is to stay committed to reconciliation. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, and if I’m being honest I feel like giving up daily. You just can’t do it forever.
My spouse of more than 11 years was emotionally and verbally abusive, later confessed she didn't love me and was with me out of convenience, and she eventually had an affair, and then wanted me gone and I lost my home and marriage. I tried to reconcile when trying to stay failed. I at least still get to see my kids half of the time so I'm thankful for that. She is on relationship number three now since she left me. I understand I will never be loved again and will be alone from here on out but gets to me every now and again even if it isn't my focus anymore.
I went through a similar experience with my ex-husband. Please know that in Deuteronomy 24, you will see that divorce and remarriage are allowed, even under the old Law. It was never called adultery and nobody was ever stoned to death for it either. The whole remarriage is adultery thing is made up. Just read everything in the Bible on divorce and your eyes will be opened. Look up the original Greek and Hebrew words that were used. In Matthew 5:32 KJV, marrying someone who was "put away" (apoluo, which = still married) and not divorced (apostacion) was incorrectly translated to "divorced" in our English Bibles, which changes the meaning entirely. It meant if you marry someone who was still married to someone else would be considered adultery; it's not supposed to mean marrying a divorce person is adultery. "But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery." In order to be in a marriage, both people have to be in it. If one's left it through whatever means, you can't exactly have a marriage with them anymore. If your unbeliever spouse left you, you are no longer bound to them (others seem to think it means the opposite -- that you are still bound, but it's pretty easy to read).
No. There are some scenarios that go far beyond what this group has experienced. Mine included. There are areas of abuse not touched upon here. This video presupposes a sane man and a sane woman involved in a broken marriage. God told me personally that I had a right to remarry someone else if I wanted to. I spent more than 14 years in abandonment before I was willing to hear that message from God. And that's the minor part of the story.
YOU are a liar GOD can't tell you to get remarried while your first husband lives What you are saying is blasphemy GOD does NOT tell you to do EVIL You can get away from the abuser ????? but you cannot remarry ANYONE Christian or NOT
I look at this way we all make mistakes and God will forgive us. But remarrying when we all know its a sin after we all sin all time is just another sin added on your list. So i see it this way allow God to write your love story and dont try take control of your love life cuz your loney. Allow God fill that void u have and enjoy your singleness. Even if u have wait 30 years for God to send u your man or women than wait. You have be obedient. Im learning from other people i meet by them making mistakes and being human realizing they married the wrong person and them remarrying. They open my eyes and have me wanting stay be being patient and waiting on God to write my love story. Cuz our hearts, eyes, and lust we have will decieve us. We have to be paitent no matter old we are.😊 #GodFearing #Celibate #Strong
Rose Pappas 1 second ago GOD DID NOT GIVE AN EVIL SPOUSE POWER OF LIFE OR DEATH OVER ANOTHERS SOUL. REMARRY, YOU GO TO HELL FOR ADULTERY STAY SINGLE, BUT SPEND YOUR DAYS FORNICATING AND GO TO HELL FOR THAT. UNBELIEVABLE HELL'S CRUELTY BEING TAUGHT AND ENFORCED BY SHINING HOLY HOLY CHURCH LEADERS WHO HAVE PERVERSE PLEASURE REGULATING OTHER PEOPLES SEXUALITY FORBIDDING TO REMARRY IS A SWAMP OF HELL AND I DO NOT THINK THOSE CHURCH LEADERS WHO ENFORCE IT HAVE A RIGHT TO BE PREACHING OR TEACHING ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY ARE TO SMOTHERED BY THEIR OWN SECRET SINS THAT THEY DO NOT KNOW JESUS. THEY ARE LIKE THE PERVERTS IN THE CATHOLIC CHURCH. GOD DID NOT CALL ANYONE TO BE A SEX POLICEMAN, SO YOU PHARISEES CAN GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLES PRIVATE LIVES. THEY OWE THEIR LIVES AND OBEDIENCE TO CHRIST ALONE
Well-said! I believe the ones trying to justify remarriage are just scared and do not know what it really means to trust God and to love Him because He first loved us. A covenant marriage reflects the covenant Jesus has with His Bride. That is why there are no reasons for divorce after marriage. We've committed adultery as a Body but does God say "I'm going to divorce you?" He was always making a way for Israel to reconcile herself back to him when she went astray. I am settled in my heart to remain single in this life from here on out and devote my life to Jesus, the only one I can trust to never leave me nor forsake me.
Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Matthew 19:9 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." This verse is for husbands and wives.
I found this out too late. Now, I'm committed to the Lord and will remain alone. Sometimes the loneliness is difficult, but I seem to always make it through.
So this means a woman can not find a man even if her husband left her and remarried? I think we need to do a deep study on the topic, cos it is so many scriptures telling she is allowed.. 🤔
I am guilty of re-marrying after my ex-wife divorced me after our baby died 9 years after our first son died. I was a Christian then (although in hindsight weak) who loved the Lord. I soon met my wife of 22 years and we married after only 5 months. She too was divorced after an abusive marriage, although unlike me, she was not a christian. I didn't go looking for a relationship. It just happened. I sinned against God and have struggled with this fact because I know scripture is God-breathed and true. I have repented sincerely about this, just as I have about other sin in my life. However, the only way I can physically put right what I did wrong is to divorce my 2nd wife who I love so much. This also would be wrong. God has blessed us and I believe forgiven us. Yes, I know there are stronger, better people than me the worst of sinners, but God is my judge not man.
It seems that when they talk about divorce and remarriage they always forget the redemptive power of the cross of Calvary they forget about the lessons of King David Abraham Solomon and so many others who wile either married or not committed Adultery God didn't remove them from their ministry so to speak they were punished consequences but King David had a heart after god the linage of Jesus came through King David and if you are convicted of sin you repent but consequence of remarriage is your married you cant divorce then without destroying your second wife, I dont think God would like that at all, I dont see anywhere in the bible where that's ever happened I could be very wrong . If you ask forgiveness God will forgive I dont think repentance means to divorce a second wife and stay single. What I see here is is two men of God with a different [perspective talking about their theological understanding I'm not saying they are right or wrong I dont believe they are right because there are millions of Christians including leaders in the Church who have divorced and remarried at least once and some many times over.
You’re absolutely delusional and you’re distorting the word of God you can’t say you’re a Christian and Cherry pick what’s convenient for you and your situation just because a bunch of pastors have divorced and remarried and you think that’s OK read the Bible the Bible clearly clearly states if you are divorced you cannot re marry if your spouse is living a matter of fact I don’t remember reading if the other party remarries that’s OK for you to remarry it doesn’t say that it says once they’re dead then the ties is broken I am so sick and tired of so-called Christian cherry picking the Bible
Brother, you can only be convinced of what God would have you do in order to be right with Him by the Word of God. Since we are all responsible for our own salvation, (Philippines 2:12), it is highly beneficial to read the Word for yourselves. Don't depend on hearing the Truth of remarriage by your pastor...most are not teaching it! I used to depend on sermons to teach me too, so i never knew...until someone LOVED me enough to point out these scriptures to me showing that I was on my way to hell. These scriptures teach that if you divorced and remarried then you will go to hell for adultery unless you repent and LEAVE THE SIN: 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her REMAIN SINGLE or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife. *** GOD DOES PROVIDE A WAY FOR THE ABUSED....ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED. Mark 10:10-12 10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits ADULTERY against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits ADULTERY.” Luke 16:18 18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY. Romans 7:1-3 7 Now, dear brothers and sisters-you who are familiar with the law-don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing ADULTERY if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit ADULTERY when she remarries. ***ONLY DEATH ENDS THE MARRIAGE COVENANT...THEN YOU ARE FREE TO MARRY, "BUT ONLY IN THE LORD Hosea 4:6 My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: Revelation 2:5 5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent. Ezekiel 18:21-23 - But if the wicked will turn from all his sins that he hath committed, and keep all my statutes, and do that which is lawful and right, he shall surely live, he shall not die. Proverbs 28:13 - He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.
The Holy Spirit guides. The Lord has sent new spouses into the lives of many divorced Christians, some have been happily remarried for decades, even in ministry. They confess the sin and God forgives, they don't live in perpetual adultery.
well my mum divorced for 25 years, after i was born. She never remarried. Same for my father. They stayed alone.. I don't know about my father, but my mother has never seen other man. Whereas she divorced at 23, she was and is beautiful but especially when she was young, she was so beautiful that a lot of people ask her in marriage. She refused and i am happy. I don't want stepfather, step sister and stepbrothers. Also, my mum didn't choose to marry my father, it was an arranged marriage. After the consequences, after 1 year of her marriage, she discovered God, so we grow up as a christian but without a father..
How would you know he's happily married? God's word is not subjective. Marriage is not easy for any one. It's a decision to leave and cleave. You close any means of escape and make it work by all means. Of course this can only work if God was consulted prior to your decision to marry
Matthew 19:9 King James Version (KJV) 9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
My husband left me for another women. He cheated but I still wanted us to try again, but he went ahead with the divorce and is still with her. I would love to move on and find love again. The loneliness is overwhelming.
😌🙏🏾 Pray to God for all of the answers. He will give you the strength you need in Christ Jesus. Believe! He’ll mend your broken heart and renew the right spirit within you, trust in The Lord.
WOW: Who is this brother? Fists! I am so surprised to find someone who sticks with the Bible! You must be a marine. LOL... But seriously, I love you for speaking the truth. This makes personal sense to me. There is a beautiful successful woman who wants to marry me after divorcing her husband. I know both her and her ex-husband. I have searched the scriptures high and low, over and over and my conviction has always been that she should be reconciled to her husband while he is alive. She is a part of a church that supports her decision to remarry. That alone makes me cringe. This is my solid confirmation Pastor Wagner. God bless you for being obedient!
I am also divorce . I am told it's okay to remarry by a few pastors but when reading the bible it all come back one saying it's either you stay single or you get back with your husband you are only free by death .
This pastor takes marriage as serious as Jesus did God bless him there’s few men who really have a relationship with Jesus Christ this man truly is a preacher of God
@@MMAGUY13 perverts scripture for his own benefit. Look up his worth . It’s ironic that it’s much greater than Osteen’s. I don’t support either one of them.
Awe keep like that! Jesus is everything for us who love Him!!! Marriage it is complicate bcauz we are different and most case selfish! Nothing is better than live For Jesus!!!
I have a question for a Christian to answer. I married a woman who had been married before when I was 26. She is a catholic but we didn’t have a church wedding. I left her partly due to finding out she had left her husband for me, rather than the story she told at the beginning (that it was over regardless of me coming along). In effect, I left as I couldn’t live with her having cheated to be with me. Is my choice to divorce her a sin? Can I remarry according to the Christian religion? It wont stop me remarrying either way as I’m only 29 and feel like my future is still well ahead of me. I’m just genuinely curious how my countries religion perceives the situation.
I've been really contemplating this. Been separated now for almost 7 years. Been through the worst with my ex from her taking 3 of our 4 kids away not able to see them for 2 years. Her going off with another man. But about year and half ago contacted me back and reunited me back with my kids. So my 4 kids live with now thank God for answered prayers. In the beginning I was praying for reconcilation and for our family back together but now my heart has no feeling for her after all she put me through. I'm at piece being single or willing to wait for an equally yoked woman. But now I'm conflicted if I'm to leave the door open still for reconciliation. Which we've opened back up line of communication.
wowowow!! having read all these comments...I must say that we all are still playing 'the judge'. this is the reason Jesus came to show us how much our 'intelligence or knowledge' is worthless b4 HIM. In as much as we claim to 'protect the word of God' or say 'its in the bible' , at the end of the day God has chosen his very own. whether we do this or dont do this. He who is born of God CANNOT SIN. The woman at the well had married 5 husbands and guess what? as far as God was concerned she was never married. even the one she was currently living with was not counted as her husband. do u think that the husband number one was her real and only legitimate husband?. Jesus tried at all times to make us know that all these LAWS are distraction. He has fulfilled them all.. Grace abounds. when they asked Him about divorce and the certificate by moses, he said....But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Jesus also responded to let man know that we must see that he has a better plan in salvation and grace which saves us from the bondage of the law...FREEDOM. we are just busy arguing about what is right or wrong or what Jesus said or didnt say and we are rili missing the whole point of jesus saying all these thing. all these arguments stemmed from the fact that the ppl argued and tried to test jesus to know what he will say. they asked HIM about fornication and adultery, trying to be smart..heres what jesus told them.. even when u look at a woman lustfully u have already committed adultery. They never saw it that way. they always tot its only when u actually have intercourse. but God is saying.."you think you are wise?" even when u look lustfully. this is not to say that Jesus had set a new rule that also says looking lustfully is sin.. yes it is sin by His standards but who will stand before him pure giving all his standards..even stndards we never knew existed. NO MAN CAN STAND. therfore Jesus is saying you think u know it all? now u have seen that ur righteousness is filthy. Stop this arguement and stop trying to "uphold the law' He does not need our help. when ever you feel compelled to do something and if u dont theres a punishment awaiting you or you feel guilty about something cos you are in the fence about your conscience, it means you have truely not accepted grace and you are still under the law. with the law you are not free. Salvation is freedom. Having said that, God has the final say and judgment on all and he is god of justice and fairness and grace. you cannot be on the fence about what to do when u are in an abusive relationship. @Nell Renee you have not been abused b4 so it is very wrong for you to say " the bible says NO DIVORCE NO DIVORCE..", you have not be raped by a husband b4, so you have no clue. You think God will not be fair and just in his judgment to his very own creation? and would cast her away bcause she left her husband? the God we serve is kind and graceful. Evangelist John reed honestly it might sound like oh your being attacked, but theres a higher level of understanding that God gives to pple that others might not understand. most times its hard to explain unless the holy spirit does the work. Its not ur job to explain as they may never get. with time pple begin to see things if God permits. Evg John actually has spoken the right words and it will take silence and inner understanding to get it. its not by " oh the bible says this or that." this is exactly what the pharisees did bcos they felt they knew it all and each time they tested Jesus, Jesus opened up more can or warms to make them see they were just being babes. see the story of the woman that committed adultery and was to be stonned, see the story of forgiveness 70 times 7, see the story of "if someone slaps you, turn the other cheek' Gods ways are not mans ways....plz guys relax and stop playing God or playing the interpreter of his word. REST IN HIS FINISHED WORKS men.. JUST REST. he is God and will do what he wills. JUST REST.
Ebubechi Eke-Okoro lve been praying become my Exhusband use to beat me lay drunk we have a loving father and he would want me to get out of that Situation!!!! what would you do???
Jennifer McClure---If your husband is beating you or if you feel like you can't take the verbal abuse or you feel like you are dying inside, you need to get away. You need to go to a safe place, and not tell him where you are going (probably needs to be a place he doesn't know about). If you don't have a place to go you could call the Salvation Army and they may be able to help or a domestic hotline. It doesn't matter if he likes it or not, I wouldn't probably wouldn't tell him, but leave when he wasn't home. I want you to be safe, and not to get hurt. Pray if G-d wants you to get a divorce or not. Only you can make that decision, (you can get counsel though). I pray right now that G-d would speak to you and give you guidance in what you should do after you leave in Jesus's name!!!!! I pray peace and healing to your soul!!!! Amen and amen.
Christa Greuter l divorced him a long time ago you Miss understand what I was trying to say I live with someone unmarried but nothing between us just friends no Lust and no kind of sex between us but if we got married would it be wrong plz plz let me know OK god bless you all
What would you say about a situation where two believers separated and divorced on biblical grounds but neither remarried but one stayed single and the other was in a relationship with an unbeliever were they lived with eachother, had children and then split up. Can the two believers be reconciled?.
Question, if as a Christian who believes in reconciliation and the first marriage, would I commit a sin if I am.sexually active with my first husband who is now married?
I had married a hindu (non beliver ) den I divorced him bcos he went to dance bars & abandoned me & d kids later on I remarried a Christian so is my remarriage a sin ?
@Tony Rowan I'm also sorry to say but I disagree. I think I shd hav not asked u anything in d first place . Nonsense!! U want me to sin again by divorcing my second husband after my 1st divorce n depend on our lord for emotional support. Foolish man will u support me & my kids financially.... Or shd I test our lord to send Manna for me . Dont reply stupid things like this . Thank God u r not in front of me.
@@jasminejoy5074 You call others foolish, when they answer the question you asked? If you already have made up your mind to remain in adultery, why even ask the question?
@@jasminejoy5074 Are you pleased with the love you now have? Has God blessed the marriage? People seem to confuse love with Pleasures of the flesh which is what the married couple are allowed to do with each other only. Jesus fulfilled the law! Law is not as important as love! " Marry and become one and populate the earth." Kinda hard for singles and unmarried to do as God commanded... Love is the answer!
Hi..I just so happen to see this. I just wanted to say I understand what the Bible says about divorced. I never wanted to get divorced. I tried to hold on to my marriage, because I took the vows seriously. However, I was going through emotional, verbal and mental abused. Until, I found myself walking on pins and needles etc. He was okay with that. Couples go through stuff. Until, I cried out to God. He didn’t want any help. I file for divorced four years ago. He remarried quickly. I stood single not dating. I love Jesus and will continue to do His work..With all that said I forgave him. Wish him well. I did have hope he would change and we could’ve started fresh. My thoughts weren’t God’s thoughts. Amen
One thing come to my mind from reading most of these comments!. Do not underestimate God's power of forgiveness and unending love and Mercy. We are but humans. He is Sovereign! He can make something beautiful our of ugliness. He knows we are human and will make mistakes hence he provided His Mercy. I dont think God will cast you to hell because out of your human nature you couldnt keep an earthly marriage, maybe because of adultery or physical or mental abuse. If we genuinely seek him he is faithful true to wrap us in his arms. Genuine repentance with a pure heart wins God's Heart!. Let's all never stop asking God for His mercy. They are new every morning!
My ex was a serial cheater, and remarried less than a year after our divorce. He is 64 and I am 59. Zero chance of reconciliation. I am dating my high school sweetheart who I should have married. Would like to live out my days with my high school sweetheart.
It is simple isn’t it. If you remarry while your previous wife or husband is alive it is adultrey, why can people not just accept this. Anyone who preaches different is not led by Holy Spirit. It’s Gods word.
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I'm living proof of this. My husband and I were unbelievers, he had an affair, then abandoned me and our 3 children. He went to the furthest place on Earth away from us. Gave his heart to Jesus, and within weeks was on a plane home! Hallelujah! We reconciled, had another child, then I too encountered the Lord and gave my heart to Him. All is forgiven, all is well. The Lord is a healer! What you say is profound and true. The word doesn't lie. He is merciful and kind and his will supports lifelong marriage!
Congratulations!!! I am happy to heat forgiveness and healing. Pray for Tricia all I had to do was stand still a d wait
Let the Lord be my husband..... It was BETTER
Congratulations, that's wonderful
I'm happy for you but honestly this is an anomaly. Unfortunately Its exceedingly rare that this happens .
But I'm glad this is your story. Its difficult to stay alone and be punished because someone who refuses to follow God.
God is able... It is now His desire to see any of His children perish. Prayers for continued success in your marriage.
What an amazing testimony! Praise God!
People ask me all the time why I won't even consider dating anyone. I tell them the Bible says it isn't ok to remarry while your spouse is still living, and mine is. Yes it gets lonely, no it's not easy, but I want with everything in me to honor God as much as possible. If His word says to do something, I want to do it. If His word says not to do something, I don't want to do it. If He is pleased for me to remain single for the rest of my days, so be it. He is God and I am not.
Well said
That's your choice. But you might want to consult 1 Corinthians 7, verses 9, 15, and 28. Also see Deuteronomy 24:1-4 and Matthew 5:17-18.
What if they beat they ass ?
@@dh605x thanks for the scriptures let me read first
I never got into any relationships or seeked anyone since i got divorce either. I still hold true to the vow i made to god when i got married. It doesn't effect me at all.
We've been married 51+ yrs and we're both believers in our SAVIOR Jesus Christ and HE alone is what keeps us together. Love one another as I have loved YOU.
Whoopty-doo. Not all of us are fortunate enough to have a picture perfect marriage like yours.
@@joey_outdoors true mate
Congratulations! Praise the Lord! May He grant you many more years together.
@@joey_outdoors he didn’t say it was picture perfect. He said it is only possible with Christ, which all of us have and can have. Jesus doesn’t favor people.
@@vaquera9368 but they also assume that anyone can do what they did. Wrong , we make plans but God directs our feet.
Thanks again for preaching pure, unaltered biblical truth on this subject! It's so refreshing and lacking in church today!
The Elder is %100 correct. My and Husband and I divorced. And we have reconciled.
Before he asked me to come back, I knew i wasn't going to be able to remarry. Also meaning i couldn't fornicate either.
It's hard being single and young, and I did go back into the world after my divorce. But finally, God spoke to me in a way that shook me to my core.
So i closed my legs, repented and focused on God and prayed that he would keep me.
And then my Husband, called me after a 1 1/2yr of being separated and divorced.
At first i didn't want to come back, but the Holy Spirit directed me to the scriptures again. So I prayed and fast, and now were back together.
Praise God!!! Thank you Jesus!!!
stylist824u - Praise God indeed! Thanks for sharing your testimony. I would love to speak with you. God bless.
I’m a police officer studying for ministry - Your reconciliation is a blessing TO YOU!! I am for putting the obvious in the vows - “you cheat, or abandon your marriage in heart, word, or deed by disaffection, abuse emotionally or worse lay your hands on me - yes I vow to divorce you” - I have seen horrendous cases of abuse which eventually even lead to homicide - we cannot guilt the victims into staying with these monsters or call these victims to a “gift of singleness” they clearly did not have, else they would not have married. It is a sin to condemn the guiltless (offended/ victim spouse) to enforce the law. Matthew 12:3 - 7 covers enforcing rules without mercy.
Do not condemn victims with a life sentence as they wait for the wicked to finish up their explorations of debauchery & POSSIBLY return.
Victims of abuse have also been abandoned by their spouse - and are no longer under bondage. Do not condemn the guiltless!!
Read “A Cry For Justice: How the Evil of Domestic Violence Hides in Your Church” by police officer, turned pastor Jeff Crippen.
Greg Champaign , I Totally Agree with You. I went through a horrible divorce. He left me( a Christian) for another woman. I moved on, with my children. I started a new church, and the Pastor came to my home, and told me, that I would Never be free to remarry. As a result, I quit going there. I even walked away from God. Much Later, I ended up, marrying a non- believer.
I asked that Pastor, “ Look at my two year old son, and tell me why, he doesn’t deserve to have a father in his life?”
This Teaching that the church is giving is Totally Incorrect. The Bible says clearly, that if a non believer departs, let he or she depart. The Christian has been called to Peace.
Currently, because of all of these rules, I have quit church. I am even in doubt that there is a God. It’s sad, but it’s true.
You sound like a very educated man, and I greatly appreciate your comment. Blessings to you, your Loved Ones and Your Ministry!😊♥️
Perhaps, my life would have been Very Better if there had been Pastors like you, in my past. If there really is a God, I hope that He Blesses you to the Fullest!!!😊♥️
Most people that call themselves Pastors, haven’t ever been exposed to abuse. Not the way, that you and I have witnessed it. For me, it was first hand, and he also abused my two sons, horribly! My story was a Nightmare. In my opinion, There is No Excuse For Abuse! Abusers need to be locked up. It’s so sad, because I see it everywhere these days.
Cindy
Amen
Praise GOD for your restoration! I am currently standing for my own
the point is what God has joined together not man!
Vanessa Greene AMEN SISTER AMEN!!!!
Vanessa Greene Too bad you not know my DEAR grandma and her son - my father both have passed. They taught me respect for the struggles of African Americans, and the importance of religion in their lives, that many White folks not understand. My father was glad to escape from the craziness he witnessed first hand in 1920s in the South.
YES!
AMEN!
Amen
These guys hit the nail right on the head. I am a guy who's wife left after 26 years of marriage. I have been watching her being turned over to sin, run through a few guys, estranged from her kids and now grand child. I would love to latch onto the wide road churches view of remarriage. I can't. Do the study, be honest with yourself and how you treat scripture. This is one of our modern day blind spots. Maybe a product of a man centered gospel? IDK, but the totality of scripture is pretty clear. It is amazing how many great bible teachers seem to fall into the modern idea that, though marriage is "representative of Christ and the Church" you can toss her aside now that she doesn't meet your conditions, is this how they see "Christ and the church"? I mean she flakes out and has an affair, well, divorce her and you are free to remarry, because your feeling were hurt and an English reading and western understanding of two scriptures trump all the others...? No, I wish I didn't believe what these guys were saying was true, but it is. I guess when Christ leaves his bride, I'll leave mine. Until then I'm going to honestly seek Him who can give the grace to stand and wait, and can give the miracle of new birth to the woman He gave me. He makes all thing new. Perhaps He won't, but let Your will be done Lord. I do honestly believe this life is a flash in the pan. One day we will be in a place where there is no sin, no tears and I pray that I can face Him and thank Him for the grace He gave me, because I won't be able to do it without that grace. All that said to those who want to surround yourselves with teachers that say what your itching ears want to hear, and they are out there, many are very sound teachers, they are wrong on this one, and our culture is not modeled a true view of Christ and the Church. I will say this also, neither divorce or remarriage are unforgivable sins, but if your in this terrible place right now, please listen to the Lord, and not the teacher that makes you feel good, or justified. It's hard, but He never said it wouldn't be and if you're a believer, and the fact that you are a believer, is proof He is the God of miracles, thank Him and don't let this cup pass, we are being conformed into the image of Him who suffered at the hands of sinners, even death.
Amen!!! Continue to trust God! Thank you for your insight and courage!!! I love how you said “when Jesus leaves the church is when you’ll leave your spouse. 👍🏽Amen!!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
This is a incorrect judgmental evaluation of other Christians, The very word of God allows divorce.... yes he Hates it, but he does allow it.
Therefore do not accuse your brothers of searching for teachers to suit heir itching ears. The church is the bride of Christ, the church is made up of individuals with free will and every Christian has a choice to turn away from God and follow their fleshly desires.
Christ will never leave us but he will allow that Christian to leave him, because he allows us free will and in the same way us humans if our spouse cheats and is unrepentant and wants to leave and marry someone else... what can you do? other than pray, but once they have married the new person.... are you saying you should still hold on and wait for them so you can be reconciled with them? ...... even after they have already married someone new?
You are free to divorce, if you so desire. It is not a sin to divorce an adulterous spouse. God would prefer reconciliation, so do your best to reconcile and if that fails then you are free to Divorce and/or Remarry.
Help me with this one.
Wife (church going) left husband and moved in with her boyfriend. Wife divorced husband after 10 years of marriage and five kids. The ex-wife is now married to the boyfriend going on five years and they have one child. Ex-wife now flirts with the first husband and has asked for the first husband to have sex with her and to take her back. She wants to leave the second husband because he will not go to church with her. The first husband says that the ex-wife is in the Bible like he never knew her to be. But, he said that he would never honor her request.
What is going on with the ex-wife.
@@kedduff1814 Wrong; this comment is wrong; divorce is not allowed in NT theology.
@@sylviaruth5008 The wife has maybe realised her mistake in leaving the first husband and kids. The grass is only greener for a little while. She should not be asking for sex and flirting with the first husband. She sounds like the immoral woman in Proverbs 5, 6, 7. The first husband should seek God in this situation. God’s plan is usually always to restore but this wife needs to 💯 per cent repent. She does not sound like a repentant woman based on what you say but I have no way on knowing that and therefore should not judge. The husband should read ALL scriptures about marriage, divorce, remarriage for truth and guidance. The husband could also look up Rejoice Marriage Ministries. They talk about situations exactly like this one where the prodigal has left for another, remarried and had a child with that person. There is a wealth of information, devotional, videos and podcasts. God takes the marriage covenant seriously and so should we. God bless. X
Nothing is too big for God to handle; Nothing.
@Douglas You hit the nail on the head right there. A true Christian would not commit unrepentant adultery, but there are many who are not really saved and not willing to save the marriage. If one is not willing, there is nothing the other can do. That is my situation. My ex wanted to be with someone else and I believe not really saved. They are married, but since the ex is still living, I do not feel that releases me to remarry - again the picture of Christ's fidelity to the church. Just because ex was not faithful to the marriage doesn't mean I shouldn't be.
@@shakengrain1942
BRAVO!!!
Christ's followers are to set an example to the evil secular world.
Thus they obey Christ even if it creates certain difficulties in their own lives.
"If we suffer with him, we shall reign with him"
I'm divorced and remarried. Didn't want the divorce but couldn't make him stay. Now I'm a new Christian recently found faith after searching for decades. Where does that leave me.
@Douglas don't forget King David who did commit that wicked abominable deed of adultry and threw in murder on the side. He then hid his sin for over a year! But yet God said David was the apple of his eye! Sounds like he forgave David and chose to remember his sin no more. How could we do any less for fellow Christians? Anything less would be judgemental and not Christlike. If Christians disagree w/ someone who divorced, show grace, mercy and pray for them.
@@tammyewert1712 abandonment happened to me too and represents a breaking of the marriage covenant. After a careful reading of the greek meaning on key scriptures I realized I was free and also to remarry.
I appreciate truth... I'm divorced and I'm saved for past 7 years. I would never remarry I refuse to date . to me it's playing with fire ... stay true to Jesus people not worth your soul.
Carol Smith Amen...I'm in exactly the same boat and will remain so until death.
Carol Smith why do you have children?
Carol Smith Ok..im divorced to, So we have humane needs right! So if one has sex with someone its sin fornication..if you cant contain..doesnt it say..its better to marry then to burn??
I agree with u 100 percent ,but so many of God's children don't accept the truth they look for loop holes to get out of the marriage and start over with someone new.
Terry Fisher he was talking to the widowed and the unmarried! Reread the scripture!
Sometimes you don’t find out your husband is an abuser until after you marry him!
Here, here!
When he said marrying someone who is "notoriously unpredictable" ..... understatement of a lifetime! I didn't know I was marrying someone unpredictable, especially notoriously so! I hope no one listening to this or at their congregation gets hurt (or worse...dead) bc of this blanket advice.
@ymarrero23 why is that important?
@ymarrero23 wow- you should really take a domestic abuse class or learn about the cycle of abuse. Knowing someone for a 1year + can reveal signs that someone is an abuser but probably not because a lot of times it is the commitment and security of forever that lets an abusers guard down and they feel comfortable/secure now to abuse bc they know that their spouse is never going to leave them. It is quite apparent that you have not been married or are married by the very comment- marriage brings out a whole level of comfortability that dating can ever and you really get to know a person AFTER marriage then ever before. Marriage is SUPPOSED to be forever and Lord I wish that were the attitude of the man I married in deed (not just his word that he gave me but in action) but even God divorced Israel. obviously it is not His PERFECT will, but there are consequences to sin and NO ONE should feel pressured to stay in a marriage if they are beaten, cheated on, or abandoned. We aren't talking about 1 or both spouses carelessly marrying /divorcing. Good for you for recognizing signs and not marrying someone who likely would of hurt/abused you but that's not everyone's story and if you seriously aren't giving any grace to a spouse who was abandoned, beaten, cheated on (whether or not there were signs) WHEN God does, then I don't think you understand the Father's heart and His Word or His love for you. I may have an abusive husband who threw me out on the streets but not encountering God's love in that a real way especially to the point where you feel comfortable condemning others...I feel sorry for you and I hope to God you don't ever have to eat your own words.
@@alantinoalantonio Or he is a bastard who wants to control her completely. You are not God, asshole.
My christian wife committed adultery many times, I tried to reconciled but it was not humanly possible, Remarried again with Christian Girl and I am so very happy that God gave a second chance.
adultery is not the exception......it is πορνεία and not
μοιχεία
Amen brother. Glad God gave you a second chance. He gave one to my ex as well. Good journey.
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Todd the bod doesn’t care he knows better than scripture. I also re married to an Amazing Christian woman . Steer clear of the sanctimonious Neo Calvinists like At Watermark
You are right when you stated humanly possible. Nothing is humanly possible but with God ANYTHING is possible. My question for you...Was this God's will for your life? God's greatest intention is reconciliation. It is in His word. I had to learn all of this the hard way. So trust me when I say I am speaking from experience. God has shown me His way. His way is perfect. Man's way is move on to the next... and the next... God's intention is always reconciliation. Its throughout His word.
Finally, somebody that is standing on what I've been reading! Hallelujah!
Did you read, "It's better to marry than to burn" or " It is not good for man (or woman) to be alone" Think God wants a bunch of singles running around without love and not populating the earth?! PLEASE...
@@theogentile4579 You mean a bunch of singles who are adultering and fornicating and having children for you to look after, while they continue sleeping around trying to find love!
Looking for love in all the WRONG PLACES BECAUSE LOVE COMES FROM JESUS CHRIST I AM YAHWEH.
ABOUT THAT WEDDING!!
JOHN 7:6
JESUS REPLIED, "My time has not come yet, but for you ANYTIME is right!"
Bride of Christ.
@@theogentile4579 He does not want people living in sin.....
@Douglas or based, on the Bible...
Strawman, of course God doesn't want that, but why you have to strawman .
You people, do you believe that Jesus Christ is still alive.If its so, pray and ask him for a proper guidance in your difficult situations.He will guide you.
HIS VOICE You are the only one here that makes any sense.
That's pretty sad to say! Don't expect God to answer with more guidance when He wrote a whole book for you to use as guidance. Jesus clearly sad!
Matthew 19:9 King James Version (KJV)
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
The only reason some keep looking for guidance elsewhere is because they don't like what God wrote in the bible so they look for ways to make themselves feel better about sinful choices. The bible covers EVERYTHING a Christian will encounter in life and we are to obey the word, not look for other guidance because we don't like what the bible says.
actually it is the job, of the Holy Spirit, to guide in all truth...
You might as well whisper to a flower pot. That's just as effective.
@@av4926 I would encourage you do look at the evidence for remarrying after a divorce as you need to look into what the original text indicates. The leadership at a church where I was attending did just that and came to the conclusion based on scripture that Jesus was referring to a more general type of unfaithfulness and not just adultery. My wife abandoned me 4 1/2 years ago with NO desire to reconcile. I have prayed much and studied what God is really saying when you actually dig deeper. The Holy spirit has released me to date so I base that on scripture and my conscience.
It is true, like someone said (and I am guilty) - ppl are more hung up on offending their friend than we are in offending God. That is the place we need to repent and quit playing.
Over 30 yrs ago my wife and I (who we re not living for the Lord) separated and because of my hardness of heart divorced. The night I ask her to leave she went in the bed room, hit her knees and cried out to the Lord to change her, to direct her to help her be what HE wanted her to be as a wife.... after a few month me seeing the change HE was making in her I began to seek HIM as I should have before this messe we re in happened, he began to speak to me and change me into what he desired for me as a husband this resulting in full reconciliation and remarriage. I can tell you with HIS help and our work 30 plus yrs later it's never been better, submit and I mean submit to HIM, each other and do it HIS way, its absolutely possible to make it !
Wowwwww so beautiful GODS GOOODDDD
Somebody please Help me with this one!!!!!
Wife (church going) left husband and moved in with her boyfriend. Wife divorced husband after 10 years of marriage and five kids. The ex-wife is now married to the boyfriend going on five years and they have one child. Ex-wife now flirts with the first husband (remained single) and has asked for the first husband to have sex with her and to take her back. She wants to leave the second husband because he will not go to church with her she say. The first husband says that the ex-wife is in the Bible like he never knew her to be. But, he said that he would never honor her request because she is married again and he would be committing adultery.
What is going on with the ex-wife? And, what are the rules?
Well my Husband and I have been married for 45yrs next week, I was 10 yrs married when I came to faith, as I was praying and totally ready to leave my verbally abusive husband, The Holy Spirit spoke to me and said I hate divorce, because I loved God I obeyed Him and stayed. He’s been with me through every trial every valley, every storm, every fire, and believe me there have been some. He’s promised never to leave us or forsake us, I know He never will. He will never see the righteous forsaken. Hallelujah.
Amen , God is in the miracle business touching hearts and renewing them. Apart the fact that God does not lie, I know , I was there :)
@@oohan8516 I was wondering the same. I used spiritual warfare to battle my husband's abuse. It helped a lot.
I know you wrote this ages ago but you are such a blessing to many. Your life teaches obedience to God's word played out in your life. I pray God will help and bless you and your husband 🙏🏽
Wow! Hallelujah! Bless you both!
I just want to say as a man who aspires to be married one day, I truly honor you ladies who listen the voice of the Holy Spirt. You all are absolutely right. God hates divorce. It gives me so much hope that even with your husbands flaws and you thinking about divorcing him, that you listened to the Holy Spirit and reconciled the marriage. People are so quick to end marriages over the most foolish of things. Thank you for sharing your testimonies of true unconditional love. No two people are perfect, but I truly believe marriage is worth fighting for.
As i was meditating on this matter, a couple of weeks ago the Holy Spirit said to me: 'what they do not understand is the binding.....God binds two people together, a man and woman thus becoming one body. He does not and will never bind 2 men to one woman or vice versa.' So, those who remarry, even if officiated in church, God only sees the first wife or husband..if they are still alive and no certificate of divorcement will make them disappear. This bond is not negotiable and its final and no man can tear apart that bond except through death as God instituted it. We hv been admonished not to comform to the world but be transformed from it. Let us stop listening to the gospel of devils thats so rampant in this world and return to our first love, our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ of Nazareth! Amen.
Stella Magalasi
You think so huh?
It's not the Holy Spirit speaking to you;it's a spirit that's not holy.
It's contradicting the Holy Scriptures.
Amen Sister !! you have spoken the Truth as it is also written in the bible. Pay no mind to these other lust driven, hell bound, adulterous, so called Christians who are only interested in their genitalia needs than in the will of God.
The bible clearly says
Romans 7:1-3 Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth? 2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. 3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
Stella Magalasi Thank you ❣️ I screenshot your post, so very worth saving ❣️ God {The Most High} bless you and yours and them and theirs ❣️🙏🏻
I unknowingly married a narcissist. I have forgiven her for her broken vow. She filed for divorce. I persistently pray for her healing and reconciliation of our marriage and family. Please God, heal my wife, and please decide to send her home.
"15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?" (1 Corinthians 7)
@@florinaschilean6143 she claims to be saved. This was done in church. I don't believe she is totally saved because she does not follow God's commands as she should.
@@ghinso1967 do I need to repeat what Paul said? "how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?"
there is no things such "totally saved", she is either saved or she is not, but what does this have to do with you? You are not bound to her. Pray for her if you will, but whatever you do, keep distance, both in physical and in sentimental terms. Read Proverbs 5, may ease your soul.
@@florinaschilean6143 thank you. I read it. I do and will continue to pray for her and our grand twins. I will keep my distance as she continues to live in adultery.
@@ghinso1967 another thing: "If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance." (Deuteronomy 24: 1)
If she divorced you and then sleeped with another man, you can't remarry her. Seek to rebuild your life with another woman, or live alone rather if this you will, but you may not reconcile with her, as it is written there.
Amen! I believe what the Word says and how you greatly communicated it on this show. Keep spreading this message.
Sam's curse
The reason why people are split on this issue is because they cannot receive what God has said. It’s pretty straight forward, yet everyone tries to find loopholes through His Word. People want to feel good about their divorce, their reasons, feel good about 2nd and or 3rd or other non marriage relationships. Nobody wants to feel convicted or shame in how they are living their life, nor do they want to do the work to try to make things right with their former or current spouses before God.
Actually, adulterers and adulteresses want to feel good about their wicked abominable Deed(s) of adultery....
.... so they try to forbid their spouse from remarrying. Matthew 19:9 stands till Heaven and Earth passed away.
This is my problem with this. I lived for years with an adulter , when he finally brought his dirt into my home I had to make a painful choice of divorce. For mere sanity and solace. He and his fornicator made both my life and that of my children unbearably. He as a believer taunted demeaned and abused us. I got no support or assistant from his family or my church. Instead I was made to feel like a lunatic. I am by no means advocating divorces but I'd like the church to see just how many divorcees they join together despite declaring it's not allowed
The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?” They said to Him, “Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?” He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
Matthew 19:3, 7-9 NKJV
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1 Corinthians 7 shows you can seperate absolutely. Remain unmarried or reconcile. I pray you have peace.
I am separated from my wife now, but I have no plans to divorce. I am content to wait until we can reconcile or if she chooses not to I am content to remain unmarried and celibate for the rest of my life! Everyone is so afraid of that word. Celibacy is not a death sentence! I have learned during my separation that I have a serious problem with lust. Even the 12 step programs recognize that celibacy is a solution for this issue. If God wants me to remain unmarried for life I will remain celibate for life! God is good!
You are well within your right to make that decision. As for me, lifelong celibacy would never work for me. I would rather die than be condemned to celibacy. I really would.
I asked artificial intelligence for an unbiased interpretation of Matthew 19:9 at face value: Here was the result: "In Matthew 19:9, Jesus provides an exception to the prohibition of divorce and remarriage, stating that sexual immorality (often interpreted as adultery) is a valid reason for divorce. The verse states, "And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery." This exception clause indicates that if a spouse engages in sexual immorality, the innocent party is allowed to divorce and potentially remarry without committing adultery. It is important to note that interpretations of this passage may vary among different Christian denominations." (an unbiased interpretation of a literal reading of Matthew 19:9, from artificial intelligence on January 9, 2024).
@@BennettJonWayne-xw9vithis is where the problem is. What is artificial intelligence? Where was it when God created man? Where was it when God said if you get divorced you must remain single or else be reconciled to your spouse. This is so clear, whether you are the wronged spouse or not, you are to remain single. The only thing that makes it difficult and we end up doing things our own way is the flesh. The flesh wants of its own, it doesn’t want to submit to the will of God. Celibacy is is a scary thing for other people hence this excuse of “ a wronged spouse can remarry in the case of adultery” No, artificial intelligence is artificial intelligence not God’s intelligence. Deception can sound like truth!
@@user-xe8eh7qe4c The only thing worse than artificial intelligence is no intelligence at all. A plain and simple reading of Matthew 19:9, and rendering an understanding of it conceptually, does not require a high intelligence quotient (IQ). Jesus also said in the verse that "whosoever marries her that is divorced commits adultery." He likewise stated that the wronged HUSBAND can remarry, but He did NOT say that the wronged wife can remarry. So the verse is not as simple as you think. (1) A divorced woman cannot remarry, unless her first husband dies. (2) A wronged husband CAN and MAY remarry, but does not HAVE TO remarry. An adulterous husband CANNOT REMARRY.
@@user-xe8eh7qe4c The only thing worse than artificial intelligence is no intelligence at all. A plain and simple reading of Matthew 19:9, and rendering an understanding of it conceptually, does not require a high intelligence quotient (IQ). Jesus also said in the verse that "whosoever marries her that is divorced commits adultery." He likewise stated that the wronged HUSBAND can remarry, but He did NOT say that the wronged wife can remarry. So the verse is not as simple as you think. (1) A divorced woman cannot remarry, unless her first husband dies. (2) A wronged husband CAN and MAY remarry, but does not HAVE TO remarry. An adulterous husband CANNOT REMARRY.
Thank God there are still people that love the Truth. God bless you.
"But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace." 1 Corinthians 7.15
this is not a Biblical reason, for divorce and remarriage...
That says unbeliever
And it doesn't say remarry
Thank you! Not enslaved!
You make Paul a double minded liar. See verse 39
The word not bound in 1 Cor 7:15 in the original Greek is not the same as in Rom7: 2 & 1Cor 7: 27, 39. In the english language it is the same word but Paul cannot contradict himself much less God. In 1Cor7:15 it is not referring to the bond of marriage which is deo not doulos but it means that you are not his or her slave so if the spouse decides to leave the other spouse is still bound by marriage but is not his or her slave/ servant.
I agree what he says ,if we love Lord God Jesus Christ we follows what is right .
I have to teach on Matt 5:31 to my Sunday school class. I am tempted to gloss over it to avoid controversy as most of the couples in my class are people in their 50s and 60s who are divorced and remarried. My wife and I are also baby-boomers but we are "first spouses" and have been married for 42 years. Over the years we have become "freaks" among many evangelical groups as more of our friends have become divorced. We are reluctant to publicly celebrate our anniversary because when fellow Christians ask us how long we have been married, they soon discover that we are still in our first marriage. "Oh, how nice" they say politely. I ask that Christians pray for me that I am able to teach this section of Matthew without creating unnecessary discord. Regardless of the outcome, I believe that all Christian leaders will have to answer for this problem at the Judgement Seat of Christ.
Teach the truth. Those remarried are in a perpetual state of adultery!
I'm 3 years late finding this comment. How did the Sunday school go?
the Bible says that there are few that find the narrow way to salvation....and you seem to be an example of this...
actually to know something, and not teach it.....basically is criminal....something akin to fraud.......the response, is not your issue....the teaching is...
I find it awkward to say my spouse and I have been married 17 years. It is almost embarrassing to say even in church because it is not exactly normal even in church. Sad times. I too believe Christian leader either do not believe the truth or fear to speak the truth.
Thank you for standing up for your convictions 🙏🏿
Today we had a sermon that said I can never remarry after the divorce my ex-wife initiated. I am having a hard time accepting this. I had no intention on getting divorced. I can't imagine God would want me to stay single for the rest of my life!
Same here. I am shattered right now
When we divorce we must turn completely to walking with Jesus
If you stay really close to Him and chose His narrow path it is possible that He will connect you with a like minded spouse
But they also must know Jesus and follow Him and be lead by His directing them in which way to go.
It may take years but hold on and see what Jesus does in your life before you go choosing a spouse by yourself.
It will be worth it in the end and whither you are alone or married it's best to be happy in all circumstances Amen
@@gorthygara8399 thank you. I agree
Let’s not make our own god.. the fuzzy, bubbly one that we feel comfortable with.. I don’t like the message either. My husband woke up and said he wants a divorce from me due to my unfaithfulness. I want to love and be loved, get married again if divorced but after listening to this.. this lines up with God word. Can’t deny the truth.
And yes.. I was the one unfaithful and now I am haunted with the facts that I ruined something so pure
beautiful.
the call to marriage is a mirrored reflection of Christs' everlasting commitment to us...
so beautiful.
Sometimes you have to divorce to protect your child from someone who could hurt them. What is more unforgivable; staying with an abusive and unpredictable man to “hope” he reconciles one day, and while doing so place the child in danger? Or divorce, gain custody, protect your child, and give the child a chance to be raised by a loving stepfather who cares?
When your husband abuses you, he has chosen to abandon you. When he places you in danger, he has chosen a love for himself over a love for his family. If he chooses to drown his sorrows in drugs and alcohol, he is dead; maybe not physically, but spiritually and emotionally.
Think about what you’re saying before you condemn women who leave to give themselves and their children a safer life.
When you have close relationship with God, then you will.totally depend on him and will never focus on what can happen from man, but you will be sure how God can protect, this is the core of today generation, they want to do all and ask God to be spectator, you depend on God totally then still with your prayers you can live with any human
The bible is clear a woman can leave her husband but it does say to remain unmarried or be reconciled to husband so you are correct get away from the abuse but it doesnt say to go get remarried, if your protecting children ok, dont use that to remarry.
That biblical.
Look up scripture where it say a wife is bound by the law of her husband as long as he is alive but if he die then she is free to marry in the Lord.
All of you guys want to pass judgment or condemn this woman’s belief, but what does the Bible say about one who judges?? The clear answer to this video is from a passage straight from the Bible, but you have to look deeper into the meaning. Let no MAN separate what GOD, has joined together. If God did not bring the couple into each other’s lives, then the marriage is unlawful.
Douglas You really should look up the definition of what a “term” is as well as the difference. You tried so hard to be as articulate as possible in an attempt to sound intelligent and well educated that you forgot to remind yourself that you can’t even spell or punctuate correctly. Neither can I, but I can damn sure call out a keyboard warrior nazi when I see one. What point were you even trying to make anyway? You made no sense whatsoever.
Antidisestablishmentarianism Thankfully I didn’t have to spell your name!😂I got put out of a spelling bee one time because of that word! Anyway agreed.👍 Puts things in perspective.
I have considered this on several occasions...always prayed so... it would have truly taken a miracle and a army of Gods divine angels 🥰
“And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”
- Matthew 19:9 (KJV)
Fornication is engagement time. Once you marry and become one flesh you cannot divorced until they die
@Dennis I am Christian rely on Gods word
Dennis, You are not allowed to remarry. Many think that because of the “fornication” clause in Matthew you can remarry because of adultery:
"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for fornication (or uncleaness porneia), and marries another woman commits adultery (moikeia)."-Matthew 19:9
Notice that the Greek word for fornication is “porneia” and the Greek word for adultery is “moikea.” Also, please note that this “except for fornication” clause is not found in Mark 10:1-11 or Luke 16:18. This is because Matthew was writing to Jews. The Jews had a betrothal period before marriage. This was somewhat like our engagement period today.
For example, since Mary was pregnant, Joseph could have ‘put away’ his fiancée because of fornication. Notice that the Bible refers to Mary as Joseph’s wife before they were married:
Luke 2:5 To be taxed with Mary his espoused wife,
Matt. 1:20 … Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy wife…
The Jewish betrothal was begun with a proposal and a commitment made in the presence of witnesses. It was beyond the private promise made in modern engagements of today, and was considered legally binding.
Therefore to break an espousal in Jewish society required a legal separation - a writing of divorcement equivalent to that required of married couples.
THERE IS NO DIVORCEMENT CLAUSE FOR GENTILES BECAUSE GENTILES DO NOT HAVE BETROTHAL LAWS LIKE JEWS.
If you remarry while your spouse is still alive, you are continuously committing adultry, you can't put a band-aid of grace and continue in that sinful marriage, just as you can't continue in a homosexual marriage, because though God is aware that people do divorce and remarry others, He still does not even recognize the second marriage as valid, he instead says that the remarried are STILL committing adultry against their original spouse:
"So then if, WHILE HER HUSBAND LIVETH, she be MARRIED TO ANOTHER MAN, SHE SHALL BE CALLED AN ADULTRESS: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man."-Romans 7:3
WHAT MAN HAS JOINED LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER (SEPARATE). TWO SHALL BE ONE FLESH (Matthew 19:6).
"'Till death do you part". KEEP YOUR VOWS.
That is why when the disciples heard the hard truth about marriage, they said that it would be better to not even marry at all (Matthew 19:9-10).
If you are remarried, you must divorce. If you are divorced only, you must stay single or wait for reconciliation with your original spouse. The only time you can remarry is if your original spouse dies.
You don't have to believe me, you can read the Word of God, there is no remarriage allowed in there. Also, you can read the testimonies of all these people who were convicted and even had dreams of hell because of their adultrerous remarriages: cadz.net/humphrey.html
God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16)
@@finalfantasy3808 what if they remarried and they didnt know. Do they leave that marriage
@@adirafearsjesus7778, Yes, unfortunately they must leave that invalid marriage even though they didn't know, because as Romans 7:3 says, as long as they are married to someone who has divorced a living spouse, they both will be called adulterers. There's a video of remarried and divorced people in chambers of hell, some didn't know their spouse had divorced before, but they still wound up there. This is why we need to seek God in all matters, just like the story of how Abraham's servant asked God to help him find a wife for Isaac in Genesis 24.
Testimony of Pastor Jerry Miles Humphrey, born in 1872.
He was against remarriage (he calls it "divorce-marriage"). He was married at 19 years old to his 17 year-old wife, until his wife grew cold and wanted a divorce. So they did and He remained unmarried for 7 years until many several Orthodox men of God who knew more told him that he was free to remarry because he was innocent. So he remarried. As soon as the marriage ceremony was over, he felt wrong in his spirit. He would fast and pray for answers for months, but it was constant until it became real doubt. So he decided to live separate from his second wife for 18 months to seek God in prayer and fasting about if he made a mistake and if it was a mistake, to know how to get out of it. He was fully ready to obey God at all costs, even to the point of losing his life if he had to. And so he began to have dreams.
On April 13th, 1907, he dreamt of a minister who spoke to him the words from Isaiah 52:11, “Depart ye, depart ye, go ye out from thence, touch no unclean thing; go ye out of the midst of her; be ye clean that bear the vessels of the Lord.”
On September 28th, 1907, he dreamt of a being who said:
"There is someone in this community rejecting God-given light, and if they do not stop, God is going to send them to hell forever. He has sent me to warn them. Now you may do as you please about this matter. I have warned you, so good-bye!"
The 3rd dream was about a large white boat that represented the Bible. He was in a narrow boat/skiff which represented the "except it be for fornication" from Matthew 19:9 (the scripture that people us as grounds/excuse to divorce). His small narrow boat was being beaten up by the crashing waves until he sank into a watery grave.
In the 4th dream, "I saw myself joined arms with my second wife, walking down a wide brimstone road in hell, and as we passed a large vestibule I saw throngs of voluptuous men all dressed in black, and wearing silk hats. They were all keeping time to a band of music, and waving college banners, and singing this chorus:
“In hell at last! In hell at last!
And earth and all her pleasures past.
In hell at last! In hell at last:
For aye and aye the die is cast.”
And in front of these men were about a dozen large black swine (emblems of filth and uncleanness). And they were flopping their ears and cringing to the music. In this, God showed me that I had followed the sensual, unclean, flesh-indulging multitudes of earth, into this divorce-marriage business. At this I awoke with that awful picture burning in my brain, and that hellish music ringing in my ears."
5th sign was this, "One day, as I stood all alone in the parlor of a friend’s house, in an eastern city, (while contemplating taking up this awful cross) it seemed as though a glorified spirit descended, and sang the following chorus to me:
“Heaven is cheap at any cost,
Do gain its ports or all is lost;
For earthly gain is only dross
And naught’s of value but the cross.”
And with this song there seemed to come volleys of exhortations from Wesley, Fletcher, Pollock and millions of glorified saints saying to me, “Gain heaven’s port at any cost”
At this he now realized he must divorce. People found out about it and tried to convince them out of their convictions to not divorce, but as he put it, "their arguments were too shallow to build on for eternity."
Then he had another dream, it was a preacher reading from a paper and said “You would be all right if it were not for that divorce-marriage.”
The last dream he had was of lightening picking him up and throwing him in a fire and the words spoke "Prepare to meet thy God". When he woke up, his bed was hot.
He was now clear in his direction, he talked to his second wife, and they finally divorced, after two years.
He says:
"Since we did so, I feel as clear as an angel. And I am fully convinced that divorce-marriages are wrong; no matter if every preacher in the universe says they are not...I am not writing what I think, but what I positively know; and am willing to seal this testimony with my blood. I know whereof I speak. And no matter how conferences or church disciplines may rock the conscience of the people to sleep telling them they can marry while their husbands or wives live; they are wrong, and the souls whom they are deceiving will find it out when eternity is unveiled, if not before. I thank God that He kept conviction and light streaming from heaven on my soul until I walked in it, in spite of all the false comforters, who were crying, Peace: Peace: when there was no peace; but dread, fear and awful uncertainty... if you are now in one, and love your soul, and want to gain heaven, do get out of it: even at the cost of all things, or else you will regret it throughout all eternity."
Here's the link for the full testimony:
cadz.net/humphrey.html
I did actually say that publicly at the wedding, if they commit adultery, it’s literally already in there I just doubled down on it. That was my vow. I’m now single. She’s on her second marriage. I wish her the best. I can forgive it. I’m just not willing to live with someone who doesn’t think I’m enough. I’m fine with that.
And Todd would call you a hopeless sinner while Christ offers a new life
@@jamessharp9790 Both of those are true. I am a hopeless sinner, and Christ offers new life, however I am not so delusional as to think this new life is promised in this life, John 15:18. This life is imperfect, filled with imperfect people who we are commanded to love and forgive in spite of the evil they commit. Nowhere however does Christ require us to restore people who repeatedly violate boundaries like committing infidelity to a trusted relationship with us. God can afford to offer them grace. God is all knowing. We are not. We are weak sinners, so we are only commanded to forgive. We cannot force a wayward spouse back, nor may we want them back depending on the circumstances. Sometimes wisdom dictates placing a boundary, and respecting their choices, but to protect the vulnerable.
@@johnborland7865 Wagner would want you to remain single in order to better control you .
@@jamessharp9790 Well good news he's not entitled to control me. Only God is entitled to tell me how to live, and there are no verses in the bible requiring reconciliation, because it requires more than one person. So Forgiveness, required, Love, required, letting them back into your life to destroy it again potentially, not required. Reconciliation can be as simple as choosing a peaceful divorce, instead of being contentious about it. Permitting them to remain safe and housed until they are prepared to move elsewhere. Reconciliation is always assumed to be a full restoration, but that's not required, ever anywhere, because it doesn't depend on a single person in the relationship. Reconciliation may just mean you are now friends, never again to be spouses. People are sinful and treacherous, they have been since the fall.
That’s why the Christian walk is personal and we have to stand in judgement for our decisions. I asked a trusted source was it ok to remarry if your spouse is still living and they gave me a good answer. They said, I don’t know what God told anybody else but as for me, I can’t remarry!
NO! Faithful believers CANNOT REMARRY until the Lord God takes away the first spouse for Judgment.
If they remarry before the demise of the first spouse, Scripture and the Lord Christ, declare they are committing adultery.
AMEN. Most people are WRONG...... State it publicly all you want in the vows. You will not be able not to divorce PERIOD. BUT SEPARATE and reconcile.
Yip, as much as I
wish it wasn't true, I did the research, and studied years ago before I was about to re-marry. I had legitimate reason, I was the I innocent wife in this case. I was scared of the scripture truth. I do believe it is clear, you are committing adultery if your spouse is still living. The sad, sad reality is, is that the spouse can be rotten, and very guilty of cheating, etc.Yes you may and can divorce in certain situations, but its the Remarrying you are Not free to do, if he is still living. Otherwise You will become an Adulterer, or you are making your knew spouse you married an Adulterer. Unbelievable, I know. , with all the stories. Look it up and read it with out prejudice. God can't go back on His word, if he does, He would be guilty of all. He's God, you can't make up rules in your mind. Trust me I wish it wasn't so.
There is no re-covenanting if the previous spouse still lives, that is adultery the whole time.
I hope I'm not being stalked playing basketball and Ottawa Kansas I know I'm being stalked here and he know someone's controlling me on my phone cuz you're you know I was trying to play a basketball and you're watching me in my room how many predators Azan here size be intending to be a Christian to Pradhan there two controls on a relationship it says it zest are you know I'm going out there to play basketball by myself cuz there's a picture on there because I don't want to marriage I know it's one of my family members I don't know who it is what do they really want for me I do not want to be married I do not want to be commitment I don't want be solved with something like that and I don't want to have a kid I'm being stalked on here in my room it has nothing to do with preaching or talking about having a second chance in life in the relationship either the first one is Camila is bound for the rest of the life they move on with another family actor that does it gives the right for someone to tell someone to control someone and stalking someone and being abusive relationship with somebody when they have another relationship up after that you know I think it's giving advice or someone they can't have a second chance in a relationship or not just for marriage I mean it's kind of for me to I mean I'm not commitment to anybody I don't want to be married I don't want to be trapped in some of the rest of my life either some type of religious Jesus never marriage he was too commitment they kill everyone else
Yes, that's the way I see it in the bible
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When my ex wife divorced me I felt like I was in a vast land lost and it tore my soul apart
I feel the exact same way - we were married 13 years and divorced a little over three years ago. It’s been an absolute nightmare even though glory to God I was saved a year after the divorce. I am in terrible pain and torment still. She is seeing a new man now and I presume fornicating as nether are Christian and they go on trips all over including to Cancun for a week. I don’t know what to do.
The one who leaves isn’t always ‘the bad one’. People are distraught having no choice but to leave an abusive relationship by being the one to divorce the person that didn’t practice Gods will.
In my situation, he moved on and I’ve been single for 11 years . So I suffered under him, suffered under a miserable divorce, suffered being single, and now I am the one that cannot remarry?
For how long have you been apart?
Hang in there for sure!💪🏽 In the meantime, You should really read Divorce and Remarriage: What the Church DIDN'T Tell You. Your eyes will be opened WIDE after reading, TRUST!
My situation is similar. My wife left and gave me the kids. She remarried almost as soon as the divorce papers were signed. I tried dating a few times, and God made it clear to me that it wasn’t His will. I have remained single since 2016, and I’ve become a better father for my kids and have grown tremendously in my faith.
I’m not saying it’s God’s will for you to stay single, but there are numerous blessings when your primary relationship is with God, and not a human who will let you down.
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you can marry, pray and God will give you the right person
Currently separated with my current spouse. Praying for restoration. While she lives I will hold on to the possibly of reconciliation. We have one child. Everything about this video is true. Glad I listened
Amen 🙏🏽
Hang in there for sure!💪🏽 In the meantime, You should really read Divorce and Remarriage: What the Church DIDN'T Tell You. Book totally WOW's you!
@@sounddoctrine3032
Please Help me with this one!!!!!
Wife (church going) left husband and moved in with her boyfriend. Wife divorced husband after 10 years of marriage and five kids. The ex-wife is now married to the boyfriend going on five years and they have one child. Ex-wife now flirts with the first husband (remained single) and has asked for the first husband to have sex with her and to take her back. She wants to leave the second husband because he will not go to church with her she say. The first husband says that the ex-wife is in the Bible like he never knew her to be. But, he said that he would never honor her request because she is married again and he would be committing adultery.
What is going on with the ex-wife? And, what are the rules?
How cruel that Todd would give you hope . I’m sorry. Pray for God’s Will not your own
SCOONER UPDATE?
This is real truth! Thanks for sharing.
*CORRECTION: The scripture is explicit in 1Corinthians that if unbelieving spouse leaves the believing spouse, the believing spouse is no longer bound in that covenant which would make it ok for them to remarry. Also, Jesus was explicit the "fornication" was a legitimate cause for divorce.
superpanda9586 Panda Productions How can it be a model for Christian marriage if it's under Old Covenant law? I get it... He forgave her etc... But I don't know that it's a precedent.
You are very ignorant of scripture.
***** I'd love to agree with you, but than we'd both be wrong.
If that frees a spouse to remarry, how do you explain 1 Corinthians 7:39?
Henry Murphy NOT TRUE the word bound does not mean marriage. why are there do many other scriptures that say plainly if you marry a divorced woman you commit adultery.
God allows divorce because of the hard hearted offender, not the "hard hearted victim" of adultery, neglect or abuse. Divorce is also a mercy from God for the "victim" of a hard hearted spouse.
According to Scripture, God hates divorce and still made a way for his children to start over and find peace. In Matthew, Jesus is clarifying Deuteronomy 24:1. The lawyers of his time had perverted the scripture to allow for an "any cause" divorce which Jesus says is not valid. Any person marrying a person divorced for "any cause" would be an adulterer because the divorce was not valid. An often over looked scripture dealing with divorce is Exodus 21:10-11. It deals with divorce for neglect of food, clothing and sex. Abuse is nothing less than a severe form of neglect. God has never required us, as his followers, to allow ourselves to be victimized. Because he loves us, he has alway given us a way out. When one tries one's best and the marriage fails because of a hard hearted spouse, then there is no condemnation for remarriage. According to Deuteronomy 24 both parties, the victim and the adulterous spouse can remarry after divorce. Jesus didn't change that law, he only explained the answer to the question, "Can a man divorce his wife for "any cause"?"
God's blessing and peace,
~Elder Tom Sherman
In Leviticus the High priest was told he cannot marry a widow a Divorced woman only a virgin .
High priest folks. With this scripture in mind isnt it saying divorced people married. Or the possibilty of it was allowed just not for High Priest. Deuteronomy 24:1-4 is very clear as was Jesus in Matthew. Is divorce Gods very best NO but then niether is judging or condeming another person. How many of those who speak of no remarry have resisted sin to the shedding of your blood. Your doctrine denies Jesus blood as suffienct which is a far greater sin .
Just think about this . Not everyone has been given gift of celibacy notice gift part here. You put people in serious jeopardy of fornication etc etc if they haven't been given this gift do you ever consider this or is being pious more important to you.
Elder Tom... excellence answer!
And biblically and contextually correct!
AccordingToScripture Truth
AccordingToScripture absolutely abomination of an answer. The undeniable truth is Luke 16:18, Mark 10:12, romans 7:1-3
You CANNOT remarry if Divorced until death (not spiritual death) physical death of a spouse.
Repent false teacher
@Elder Tom Sherman, how sad to pervert the way of the Lord !! To say that victim and adulterous spouse can remarry is a TON OF GARBAGE.
And remember that Jesus was very harsh with the elders who were supposed to know better but instead they taught falsehood and led the sheep astray. The call of God to minister is a very serious and responsible position. It should not be taken lightly to lead others to death.
God bless everybody and stay safe! Remember that you are all dearly loved no matter what! ✝️😀😇❤️🙏🏻
All of this was wonderful! But those last couple of minutes were deep!! Love this stand in faith!
I believe Jesus said that the only sin that is not forgivable is blasphemy of the Holy Spirit. My ex wife cheated on me multiple times when we were dating and commited adultery after we were married. I was not willing to continue so we got divorce. I then remarried and have been married for 8 years and am happier than I've ever been in a marriage. I had the chance to continue being married to my ex but chose not too. She has remarried twice since we divorced and cheated on all her other spouses. I think I made the right choice. I love my current wife and we have 3 beautiful children.
Be faithful to your present wife and family. Forgive and pray for your ex wife because she needs God's salvation.
Although you probably shouldn't have married her in the first place, you had biblical grounds to divorce her because she fornicated before she married you. Matt 19:9 Be well and blessed in your new marriage.
Amen God bless you and your family
No grounds for remarriage while divorced. Word is clear.
@@ajlouviere202 wrong. Jesus can forgive vows.
I’m divorced god did not put us together he was a unbeliever and he committed adultry and had a child with this person it happened years ago it says in his word whoever god has joined together god did not join us together we joined ourselves together out of gods will so I’m free to marry who god joins together!
It is not that easy my dear Lisa. That means I can marry as I choose and divorce as I wish as long I didn't ask God. Right? If you are truly God's child you will not in the first place marry an unbeliever. So the deed as being done how about you pray for his conversion perhaps he can be saved. And forgive him as God has forgiven you(If you asked for pardon)
Not that simple. You made a vow before to that man that you would be his wife and God honored the vow in the same way God honors marriage between non Christians. God is also going to hold unbelievers accountable for their marriage vows, so don't think you can be let off the hook that easy.
That's talking about God's institution of marriage. If you married a satanist, God will honor the union even though he didnt sanction the marriage. Marriage is about covenant. God doesnt play with covenant, ever. You can make it up as you go along if you want to. Whether you believe the Word or not, hell will be your home. It's the Truth that stands, not our opinion or misunderstanding.
Sick of people distorting truth by using the exception to the rule to apply to the majority. This is diluting truth. "Well but technically it's ok In this scenario", that cannot be proven. It's the equivalent to a scam artist claiming their car was hit after it was already damaged to collect and justify it to themselves. They pull verses and twist them up and patch this with that to make their selfish desires jive in their own mind. There should be no Christian pastors remarrying anyone unless their spouse has passed. .
You guys are awesome! Thank you.
I think he said it right. That’s one of the mysteries of the Bible because it only pertains to the man. The man is the head of the household. The wife is sweet and submissive. The husband protects and cherishes his wife. But respect goes both ways. Matthew 5 Jesus said all is good in a marriage UNLESS one of them is unfaithful sexually, that’s the “out”.If a man then remarries a woman who is also divorced, it is adultery.
Why is there no example of a woman committing sexual adultery and instructions on what a divorced woman can and cannot do? Mystery of sorts.
You won’t lose your salvation or be doomed to hell because you remarry, you just gotta do it right according to scripture. Jesus said there is only one sin that cannot be forgiven which would eventually land you in the lake of fire. Adultery ain’t it. So people commenting here saying remarriage will cost your soul have not truly listened to what Jesus said. Be wise. Fast and pray.
What is this nonsense about there is a path for man and not for woman? Sin is sin. David committed adultery and even murder and God forgave him. What kind of BIble do you read because your words do NOT make sense. Paul said, "there is neither Jew nor Gentile, male or female" and I suppose we just ignore this scripture ! How stupid can you be? Read God's Word and stay out of the judging business. It is not your place to judge any woman or man.
Whitecloud Ramone Can I get remarried ? And live according to His Word. He is merciful and passionate God. I know He will forgive me.
@@giohenry
GOD NEVER TOLD ANY MAN TO HAVE MANY WIVES.
JESUS SAID "SIN NO MORE, STOP SINNING OR SOMETHING WORSE MAY HAPPEN TO YOU!"
BE HOLY FOR **I AM** IS HOLY.
JESUS CHRIST NEVER PREACHED ANYWHERE FOR REMARRIAGE. NOT EVEN IN THE SCRIPTURES DOES IT SAY, JESUS SAID EVERYONE MAY DIVORCE AND REMARRY. JESUS CHRIST CAME TO PREACH REPENT OF YOUR SINS, BE BAPTISED BY FULL IMMERSION FOR THE REMISSION OF YOUR SINS, OR PERISH! THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS AT HAND FOR YOU.
THAT IS WHAT JESUS I AM THE GREAT, PREACHED.
LEAVE EVERYTHING AND FOLLOW ME!
REVELATION 21:8 ...
IN THE DAYS OF NOAH PEOPLE WERE EATING AND DRINKING, MARRYING AND GIVING IN MARRIAGE AND THEN THE END CAME AND THEY **KNEW NOT**....
DO YOU HEAR JESUS VOICE NOW?
JESUS DIDNT EVEN HAVE SEX!!! BUT INSTEAD SAID "FOLLOW ME!"
You don't know the NT bible as there are.many.
For all you people who aren't decieved and know the Truth, would you please pray for my son who has remarried and is believing false teachers? 🙏 I have told him that remarriage with a living first spouse is adultery and gave the scriptures, but sometimes family is disregarded. It broke my heart to have to refuse going to his "marriage" ceremony...but I must honor God first. Thank you!
But the Lord has brought new spouses into the lives of many divorced Christians, some have been happily married for decades, even in ministry. If he confesses the sin, God forgives❤ and he doesn't live in perpetual adultery.
@@pegc9889 Peg...Here is what the Lord has said regarding anyone who has a living spouse, divorces, and marries again while that first spouse is still living:
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
*** GOD DOES PROVIDE A WAY FOR THE ABUSED....ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED.
Mark 10:10-12
10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits adultery.”
Luke 16:18
18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Romans 7:1-3
7 Now, dear brothers and sisters-you who are familiar with the law-don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing adultery if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit adultery when she remarries.
1 Corinthians 7:39
39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
***ONLY DEATH ENDS THE MARRIAGE COVENANT...THEN YOU ARE FREE TO MARRY, "BUT ONLY IN THE LORD."
Third:
WHAT THE LORD SAYS IS THE CONSEQUENCE OF REMARRIAGE
( with still living Covenant spouse)
1 Corinthians 6:9-10
9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: NEITHER FORNICATORS, nor idolaters, NOR ADULTERERS, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, SHALL INHERIT the kingdom of God.
Proverbs 14:12
12 There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death
Peg, don't be decieved...God is NOT the one who joins together anyone in remarriage adultery. The only way to be granted repentance is to quit the sin that you are asking repentance for. If your child asked you to forgive them for lying would you believe they were really sorry if they continued lying to you? No...that is not from the heart....it is not sincere.
@@Glory.To.God.In.The.HighestAmen💯
I watched my mom try to save a failed marriage from the time I was 4 years old until they divorced when I was 28. I truly wish they had been able to save their marriage and they did make amends before my dad died at only 55 years old in 2000. She remarried and has been happy. I saw her give until she had nothing left to give. When my dad could not get his issues resolved she could not take it anymore. I know my dad was saved before he died and know my mom is now. It hurts to see two people you love with all your heart divorce...even when you are an adult. Sometimes a divorce is the only option to protect innocent wives and children from an abusive and dangerous man, or a bad mom.
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@@faithgina8169 exactly what did he do to bring your husband back.... Sounds sinister to me, more like witchcraft
God's unquestionable best is Reconciliation.
Absolute truth.
God help all married men and women to stay married and those that have divorced enter into Reconciliation and forgiveness.
🙏🙌😇💪😇🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I can forgive all day long but I will never reconcile with my ex husband.
Wow! That is the truth men of God, as difficult as it might sound to take it. Be blessed servants of God. I never imagine hard heartedness could be one of the qualifications to inherit the kingdom of God.
If just getting along with a spouse for the sake of Christ becomes unbearable, how could one carry the cross? Blessed are the peacemakers for they shall be called the sons of God 🙏
I cringe to think of all of the spouses who are suffering greatly in their marriages who come across this video.
I went with a “save the marriage at all cost” mentality against an unfaithful wife for two years after the first revelation, to say nothing of a high degree of manipulation.
But sticking it out in the hopes of reconciliation from the advice of men like this led me to become suicidal.
The men in this video are saying that God loves marriage more than he loves the people in it. That is not true.
@lucklyduck1985 Absolutely agree. There is almost no empathy or compassion in the vast majority on this thread. A lot of self-congratulatory vanity and hypocrisy though. To treat people like this who have already suffered so much pain and hurt makes me want to weep.
There are a lot of hyper-legalists in these comments. They want the innocent party to suffer in loneliness and neglect. They revel in others' pain. They will answer for it someday. God has worked miracles in many second marriages. I was the victim of unrepentant adultery and complete abandonment by a spouse. With no-fault divorce, one party can break the legal binding. Many people are living a very lonely single life today that was not of their own choosing. That was me 27 years ago. Today, I have been happily remarried to a remarkable, never-married Christian woman for the past 25 years. God has indeed blessed and created great good from a broken situation.
having gone thru a divorce 7 years ago you're the first believer that seems Holy Spirit teaches the same as I believe.Seems like no one reads their Bibles or something. And I love your humility. It seems I get frustrated with believers expecting more
The trouble we are having is that church congregations do NOT support marriage for life any longer. The general view is that when a judge slams down their gavel, this also ends the covenant. Of course, if one considers this, it could not be further from the truth. Preachers preach marriage for life from the pulpit, but yet they allow adulterers to congregate in their church assembly, even encouraging remarriage in the majority of evangelical contexts. It is clear we are commanded NOT to company with rebellious sinners, who call themselves Christians 1 Cor. 5:11, but yet the church welcomes them into their fellowship, with open arms and some even allow them to company with the singles ministry. Church assemblies often remarry folks who's spouse is still alive. The effect of this disobedience is clearly on display for all to see. The reality is this: THE CHURCH LOOKS JUST LIKE THE WORLD. The church is supposed to be transformed by the renewing of the mind, not conformed to this world. If you track HISTORY on the matter, you will see that when the church allowed the secular courts to break up marriages and families, that clearly this was the beginning of the end of MARRIAGE as we should know it.
My ex has been remarried for the last 20 years...we were unbelievers when we got married....i am a new believer in CHRIST...i understand that i cant remarry but its hard sometimes to be alone.
Diane Dear God will reward you for your faithfulness. So good to see someone who actually stands for God and not their selfish desires. God bless you!!!
I just have a quick question. If you were married and got divorced when you were unbeliever. And now you are a believer doesn’t that mean you are brand new so you can now do things the righteous way? Date righteously, marry a godly man etc? Because of your new life in Christ? Genuinely interested to know
@Diane Thanks for taking the words of Jesus seriously and remaining obedient to him. Those who have sacrificed their own desires in this world will be rewarded 100 fold.
Matt 19:29 And every one that hath forsaken houses, or brethren, or sisters, or father, or mother, or wife, or children, or lands, for my name's sake, shall receive an hundredfold, and shall inherit everlasting life.
In your prayers, remind God of this verse and watch him send his Holy Spirit to fill you and give you the grace necessary to remain faithful to him.
Act 5:32 And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis Let me ask you a question. Do you think that God's word applies to all of humanity or only to believers? Will all humans be judged according to Jesus' words or will some be exempt because "they didn't know or believe"?
All first marriages are joined together by God and are thus subject to Jesus' teaching on marriage and divorce whether they know it or not. If you were divorced before you became a believer, conversion does not annul your previous marriage; you remain in a one-flesh union until death.
@@pastorshandonevangkimlaellis Why does the bible consistently describe them as marriages if God doesn't recognize them as marriages then? You are extremely confused and allowing your emotions to cripple your thought process. John the Baptist lost his head for pointing out that Herod was unlawfully married to his brother's wife. Why would that matter to John or anybody else if God doesn't recognize sinner's marriages? I guess John could've saved his own life if he would've just known what you seem to know.
In any case, I've given plenty of scripture to support the view that all believers, regardless of their prior spiritual status, are to remain unmarried after a divorce or seek reconciliation. Repentance, forgiveness and reconciliation are always God's way when it comes to broken relationships and that theme runs throughout the scriptures from Genesis to Revelation.
Old things washed away and all things become new? Are you claiming that marriage covenants are "washed away" once someone becomes a believer? LOL I'm not sure how someone who calls himself a pastor could be so clueless as to think that such a ridiculous claim is supported by the word of God. I suspect that you yourself are in an adulterous remarriage and that's what's driving your desperation here to manufacture excuses for divorce and remarriage. When you stand before God, no amount of ranting or silly excuses will help you. You will be held responsible for disobeying the words of Jesus and teaching others to do so.
I'm sorry but feel quiet upset and disgusted listening to this man and some comments relating to how God doesn't approve of remarriage and how this man thinks that every marriage is reconciliable including "abusive marriages" this is the very reason I stayed with an evil abusive man who nearly killed me and my 5mth old baby because I was to scared to anger God or tear apart what he has put together and also not to feel this condemnation from Christians like that man!
I'm sorry but if you believe that a pysically abusive marriage is reconciliable then you're giving away your sisters in Christ and brothers too (some men get abused too) to be killed because you believe every marriage is from God and reconciliable!!
Some marriages are from hell and the devil himself in disguise of God, sad not everyone had discernment especially when in love, otherwise the abused in marriage wouldn't risk making those vows on wedding days.
Yes, I am a Christian, a daughter of God and He loves me regardless of divorcing this a abusive man to protect my child and I. And yes, the man I married posed as Christian, baptised and immersed in water and yes we used to go to church together and yes I prayed and fasted and trusted God to change the situation for 9yrs!!!
I don't feel guilty anymore for divorcing this man and I trust Jesus completely with whatever plans He has for my life including finding me a lovely "true" God fearing man. And. this happens, I will have my church family support me through it because they have seen my pain and loved and encouraged me through it all.
Stop preaching that it's ok to reconcile abusive couples because it's a reality people get murdered by abusive men/ women and how would that make you feel as a preacher giving someone away n finding out in a year's time or two that their partner killed them?!
Some marriages are reconciliable true but I would be careful reconciling a couple where abuse has been predominant and the abuser acts like they have changed for you to give their partner back to them.
And pls pls stop condemning people who remarry after painful past marriages, that's not the heart of God. Our God is a gracious God and He alone directs a heart. He is a good good father and where there's pain, he restores and wants He's children to be happy even if that means finding them a wonderful true follower of Christ to remarry.
Fyi, I'm a single mum been divorced 7 mths but separated nearly 3 yes and completely leaning into Jesus pressing in for comfort, love and hope for the future. Including him finding me a lovely God fearing man when my healing of the past is complete.
Marriage is made to be more important than the people in it.
I agree with you. Some are deceitful and would harm you. God bless you.
I'm sorry I was not clear. God never intended the institution of marriage to be more important than the people on it. God divorced Israel at one point. Divorce is not the sin God hates, rather the cause if divorce. God never intended the covenant to love, honor and cherish ones spouse to be filled with abuse and deceit.
Wow!!! I am hundred percent in support,it is Christ that died not man
It is written: THE HEART IS DECEITFUL ABOVE ALL THINGS, WHO CAN KNOW IT?
(JESUS CHRIST IS ABLE)
PROVERBS: IF MANY WORDS DO NOT REMOVE FOLLY, THEN HOW IS IT PURGED?
(JESUS CHRIST IS ABLE, ASK HIM)
UNDERSTAND THIS:
Malachi 2:16
16 For I hate divorce,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “and him WHO COVERS HIS GARMENT WITH WRONG,” says the Lord of hosts. “So take heed to your spirit, that you do not deal treacherously.”
Matthew 19:8
Jesus replied, "Moses permitted you TO DIVORCE your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning.
Matthew 19:9
I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality (AS MOSES PERMITTED IT, DIVORCED ALLOWED), and marries another woman commits adultery (IS NOW ADULTERY)."
Ecclesiastes 5:6
DO NOT LET YOUR MOUTH LEAD YOU INTO SIN. And do not protest to the temple messenger, "My vow was a mistake." WHY SHOULD GOD BE ANGRY **AT WHAT YOU SAY** AND DESTROY THE WORK OF YOUR HANDS?
Luke 16:18
18 “ANYONE!! who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 5:27-28
Adultery in the Heart
27 “You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I (JESUS CHRIST**) say to you that **WHOEVER** looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her IN HIS HEART.
Psalm 11:5-6
The LORD examines the righteous, but the wicked, those who love violence, HE (JESUS CHRIST) HATES WITH A PASSION.
On the wicked he will rain fiery coals and burning sulfur; a scorching wind will be their Lot.
Malachi 2:13-16
13 Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands.
14 You ask, “Why?” It is because THE LORD IS THE WITNESS between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.
15 Has not the ONE GOD MADE YOU? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
16 “The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “DOES VIOLENCE TO THE ONE HE SHOULD PROTECT,” SAYS THE LORD ALMIGHTY.
So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.
Ephesians 6:4
Fathers, DO NOT EXASPERATE YOUR CHILDREN; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
Luke 13:16
And ought not this woman, a daughter of Abraham whom Satan bound for eighteen years, be loosed from this bond on the Sabbath day?”
Romans 6:15
What then? SHALL WE SIN because we are not under the law but UNDER GRACE? By no means!
Matthew 15:13
13 He (JESUS CHRIST) replied, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be pulled up by the roots.
(JESUS IS TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE HERE)
LUKE 20:34-36 KJV
Spot on! You articulated my thoughts on it. A difficult position to speak on but I’ve often wondered...what if God wants the broken home restored, where does that put the new spouse..??? Thank you for this truth. The God perspective is so important for all parties mentioned.
God bless you gentlemen on your stance of TRUTH in this wicked world
Father Lord have never been married or divorced but I hope to get married to my life partner who will be my everything 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🥺
Reasonable perspectives. Refreshing.
Pray for eachother's salvation and spiritual maturity and keep praying it. Pray every day together if they will. I layed my hand on my spouse's shoulder and said to him, "Be born again in Jesus' name." And he's been believing in God ever since. He doesn't ignore me or disrespect me near as much anymore.
The answer is NO! Unless the other partner pass away, or be reconcile to each other only. The divorce or seperate partner cannot go out looking to party with another either... God rules is holy for His people.. no follow, no heaven... period...
Divorce is not an unforgivable sin. Quit judging.
@@patmelton43 nobody said it was but the bible is clear that you cannot remarry until the ex is dead expect for adultery
I’m glad there is more than one view. My marriage was based on him lying to me. He just needed a prop as a cover up. But thankfully God is about LOVE. We get It wrong. I do hope to find a loving relationship one day. Glad that I know that what God has for me is for me...even though for right now and for a long time, it’s been nobody
No you cannot remarry fast and pray God saved him
It's been nobody for a reason. Whosoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Too many believers have adopted this hedonistic way of thinking. You only want to believe what makes you feel good. Both Jesus and the Apostle Paul were VERY clear in the teachings about marriage.
Reading these comments is exhausting...literally...
skeetabomb I was thinking the same. Everyone thinks they know something. Many comments are coming from personal experience, no experience and little revelation of the character of Christ. The massive amount of videos on You tube about divorce are just as exhausting and annoying. No one is ever on one accord and there is no sound doctrine.
Rae Nicole Exactly! We forgive as we have been forgiven. Yet we do not put up with repeated adulterous spouses...because that is obviously a hardened person...divorce is not wrong its God allowing ease for those who are hurting so they can move on knowing God is glorified...not being remarried remaining single nd open toward God...if the spouse dies marriage is permitted but our focus should always be what God wants for us...Jesus Christ...perfection.
A 37 year, dysfunctional marriage to a "christian" woman who wants please no one but herself is really exhausting.
Remarriage is fine, NEXT!
@@rb5344 , Divorce is lawful. "God's not willing that any should perish ... " he gives you every opportunity to walk successfully as a Christian. If you are divorced because of your fault, or because another person's fault; the contract is null and void. Let Christ heal you, and get married. "Marriage is Honourable in all, and the bed undefiled in marriage". God instituted divorce through Moses, and Ronald Reagan muddied the waters. God bless you
Very good discussion guys.....very biblical and balanced view
Thank u so much ❤️. I needed to hear this 🙏
Hello @Ritadaniels
@@hillarythompson5685 hello
@@racheldaniels8803 Hi, how are you doing today?
@@hillarythompson5685 By God's grace all good 😊thank you🙏
@@racheldaniels8803 So where are you from?
The reason for EVERY divorce is hard heartedness? Shall we all check our brains at the door?
You obviously did!
@@markdeklerk2042 you may want to consider removing this unloving comment..
Come on use LOGIC folks! If you're being "legitimately" abused in your marriage it's absolutely the right thing to get rid of your abuser, and it's absolutely fine to marry someone else who is also unmarried (not separated because that is absolutely committing adultry ) but completely finished being divorced before you even think of that person as a possibility!!!
There is nothing biblical about your comment. READ what Jesus SAID about it and DO that and you'll get it right every time.
MsAnna47 what do you mean by that?
@@muffychao2373 there is no Biblical basis divorce and remarriage due to abuse...
@Gareth B Divorce is not the issue. You want to divorce the abuser. Divorce.separate until he has repented and changed his ways. Sought help for his actions ect.. But the bible is clear that if the wife departs she is to remain single or wait to be reconciled to her husband. Those are GOD'S words not Gareth B..we must listen to GOD..not man. The issue is the act of remarriage. I'll leave that Judgement up to God.
Naturally, God missed that one! Go ahead, divorce, remarry, do what you want cause, hey all is forgiven! UNTIL IT IS NOT! Then its all tears...
So quick question here. What if you’ve found yourself by no means of your own, divorced and abandoned by a non-believing spouse. Some people that are choosing to stand for reconciliation have been doing so for years. How long should they wait before they realize that maybe reconciliation isn’t going to happen and it’s time to move on with your life. Unless you’re stander you have no idea how difficult it is to stay committed to reconciliation. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, and if I’m being honest I feel like giving up daily. You just can’t do it forever.
My spouse of more than 11 years was emotionally and verbally abusive, later confessed she didn't love me and was with me out of convenience, and she eventually had an affair, and then wanted me gone and I lost my home and marriage. I tried to reconcile when trying to stay failed. I at least still get to see my kids half of the time so I'm thankful for that. She is on relationship number three now since she left me. I understand I will never be loved again and will be alone from here on out but gets to me every now and again even if it isn't my focus anymore.
Am so sorry ,God bless you
I went through a similar experience with my ex-husband. Please know that in Deuteronomy 24, you will see that divorce and remarriage are allowed, even under the old Law. It was never called adultery and nobody was ever stoned to death for it either. The whole remarriage is adultery thing is made up. Just read everything in the Bible on divorce and your eyes will be opened. Look up the original Greek and Hebrew words that were used.
In Matthew 5:32 KJV, marrying someone who was "put away" (apoluo, which = still married) and not divorced (apostacion) was incorrectly translated to "divorced" in our English Bibles, which changes the meaning entirely. It meant if you marry someone who was still married to someone else would be considered adultery; it's not supposed to mean marrying a divorce person is adultery.
"But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery."
In order to be in a marriage, both people have to be in it. If one's left it through whatever means, you can't exactly have a marriage with them anymore. If your unbeliever spouse left you, you are no longer bound to them (others seem to think it means the opposite -- that you are still bound, but it's pretty easy to read).
No. There are some scenarios that go far beyond what this group has experienced. Mine included. There are areas of abuse not touched upon here. This video presupposes a sane man and a sane woman involved in a broken marriage. God told me personally that I had a right to remarry someone else if I wanted to. I spent more than 14 years in abandonment before I was willing to hear that message from God. And that's the minor part of the story.
I dont realy dont care what....God.....told you....what does the Bible say...
YOU are a liar GOD can't tell you to get remarried while your first husband lives What you are saying is blasphemy GOD does NOT tell you to do EVIL You can get away from the abuser ????? but you cannot remarry ANYONE Christian
or NOT
I look at this way we all make mistakes and God will forgive us. But remarrying when we all know its a sin after we all sin all time is just another sin added on your list. So i see it this way allow God to write your love story and dont try take control of your love life cuz your loney. Allow God fill that void u have and enjoy your singleness. Even if u have wait 30 years for God to send u your man or women than wait. You have be obedient. Im learning from other people i meet by them making mistakes and being human realizing they married the wrong person and them remarrying. They open my eyes and have me wanting stay be being patient and waiting on God to write my love story. Cuz our hearts, eyes, and lust we have will decieve us. We have to be paitent no matter old we are.😊
#GodFearing
#Celibate
#Strong
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GOD DID NOT GIVE AN EVIL SPOUSE POWER OF LIFE OR DEATH OVER ANOTHERS SOUL. REMARRY, YOU GO TO HELL FOR ADULTERY STAY SINGLE, BUT SPEND YOUR DAYS FORNICATING AND GO TO HELL FOR THAT. UNBELIEVABLE HELL'S CRUELTY BEING TAUGHT AND ENFORCED BY SHINING HOLY HOLY CHURCH LEADERS WHO HAVE PERVERSE PLEASURE REGULATING OTHER PEOPLES SEXUALITY FORBIDDING TO REMARRY IS A SWAMP OF HELL AND I DO NOT THINK THOSE CHURCH LEADERS WHO ENFORCE IT HAVE A RIGHT TO BE PREACHING OR TEACHING ANYTHING BECAUSE THEY ARE TO SMOTHERED BY THEIR OWN SECRET SINS THAT THEY DO NOT KNOW JESUS. THEY ARE LIKE THE PERVERTS IN THE CATHOLIC CHURCH. GOD DID NOT CALL ANYONE TO BE A SEX POLICEMAN, SO YOU PHARISEES CAN GET YOUR NOSE OUT OF OTHER PEOPLES PRIVATE LIVES. THEY OWE THEIR LIVES AND OBEDIENCE TO CHRIST ALONE
Well-said! I believe the ones trying to justify remarriage are just scared and do not know what it really means to trust God and to love Him because He first loved us. A covenant marriage reflects the covenant Jesus has with His Bride. That is why there are no reasons for divorce after marriage. We've committed adultery as a Body but does God say "I'm going to divorce you?" He was always making a way for Israel to reconcile herself back to him when she went astray. I am settled in my heart to remain single in this life from here on out and devote my life to Jesus, the only one I can trust to never leave me nor forsake me.
Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery.
Matthew 19:9 9I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." This verse is for husbands and wives.
Yeah, it’s pretty plain. But that’s why I’m scared of mrriage
I found this out too late. Now, I'm committed to the Lord and will remain alone. Sometimes the loneliness is difficult, but I seem to always make it through.
@@user-jd5kx7vc6m Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
So this means a woman can not find a man even if her husband left her and remarried? I think we need to do a deep study on the topic, cos it is so many scriptures telling she is allowed.. 🤔
I am guilty of re-marrying after my ex-wife divorced me after our baby died 9 years after our first son died. I was a Christian then (although in hindsight weak) who loved the Lord. I soon met my wife of 22 years and we married after only 5 months. She too was divorced after an abusive marriage, although unlike me, she was not a christian. I didn't go looking for a relationship. It just happened. I sinned against God and have struggled with this fact because I know scripture is God-breathed and true. I have repented sincerely about this, just as I have about other sin in my life. However, the only way I can physically put right what I did wrong is to divorce my 2nd wife who I love so much. This also would be wrong. God has blessed us and I believe forgiven us. Yes, I know there are stronger, better people than me the worst of sinners, but God is my judge not man.
It seems that when they talk about divorce and remarriage they always forget the redemptive power of the cross of Calvary they forget about the lessons of King David Abraham Solomon and so many others who wile either married or not committed Adultery God didn't remove them from their ministry so to speak they were punished consequences but King David had a heart after god the linage of Jesus came through King David and if you are convicted of sin you repent but consequence of remarriage is your married you cant divorce then without destroying your second wife, I dont think God would like that at all, I dont see anywhere in the bible where that's ever happened I could be very wrong . If you ask forgiveness God will forgive I dont think repentance means to divorce a second wife and stay single. What I see here is is two men of God with a different [perspective talking about their theological understanding I'm not saying they are right or wrong I dont believe they are right because there are millions of Christians including leaders in the Church who have divorced and remarried at least once and some many times over.
You’re absolutely delusional and you’re distorting the word of God you can’t say you’re a Christian and Cherry pick what’s convenient for you and your situation just because a bunch of pastors have divorced and remarried and you think that’s OK read the Bible the Bible clearly clearly states if you are divorced you cannot re marry if your spouse is living a matter of fact I don’t remember reading if the other party remarries that’s OK for you to remarry it doesn’t say that it says once they’re dead then the ties is broken I am so sick and tired of so-called Christian cherry picking the Bible
Brother, you can only be convinced of what God would have you do in order to be right with Him by the Word of God. Since we are all responsible for our own salvation, (Philippines 2:12), it is highly beneficial to read the Word for yourselves. Don't depend on hearing the Truth of remarriage by your pastor...most are not teaching it! I used to depend on sermons to teach me too, so i never knew...until someone LOVED me enough to point out these scriptures to me showing that I was on my way to hell. These scriptures teach that if you divorced and remarried then you will go to hell for adultery unless you repent and LEAVE THE SIN:
1 Corinthians 7:10-11
10 But for those who are married, I have a command that comes not from me, but from the Lord. A wife must not leave her husband. 11 But if she does leave him, let her REMAIN SINGLE or else be reconciled to him. And the husband must not leave his wife.
*** GOD DOES PROVIDE A WAY FOR THE ABUSED....ONLY TWO OPTIONS...REMAIN SINGLE OR BE RECONCLED.
Mark 10:10-12
10 Later, when he was alone with his disciples in the house, they brought up the subject again. 11 He told them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits ADULTERY against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries someone else, she commits ADULTERY.”
Luke 16:18
18 Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth ADULTERY: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth ADULTERY.
Romans 7:1-3
7 Now, dear brothers and sisters-you who are familiar with the law-don’t you know that the law applies only while a person is living? 2 For example, when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, the laws of marriage no longer apply to her. 3 So while her husband is alive, she would be committing ADULTERY if she married another man. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law and does not commit ADULTERY when she remarries.
***ONLY DEATH ENDS THE MARRIAGE COVENANT...THEN YOU ARE FREE TO MARRY, "BUT ONLY IN THE LORD
Hosea 4:6
My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me:
Revelation 2:5
5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent, and do the works you did at first. If not, I will come to you and remove your lampstand from its place, unless you repent.
Ezekiel 18:21-23 - But if the wicked will turn from all his sins that he hath committed, and keep all my statutes, and do that which is lawful and right, he shall surely live, he shall not die.
Proverbs 28:13 - He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.
The Holy Spirit guides. The Lord has sent new spouses into the lives of many divorced Christians, some have been happily remarried for decades, even in ministry. They confess the sin and God forgives, they don't live in perpetual adultery.
@@warrioroflight8802 Not sure why you would say that. But, if you fear the Lord then maybe you will read His Word. Ask the Holy Spirit to teach you.
This is very easy for a happily married man to say...
skeetabomb Exactly!
well my mum divorced for 25 years, after i was born. She never remarried. Same for my father. They stayed alone.. I don't know about my father, but my mother has never seen other man. Whereas she divorced at 23, she was and is beautiful but especially when she was young, she was so beautiful that a lot of people ask her in marriage. She refused and i am happy. I don't want stepfather, step sister and stepbrothers. Also, my mum didn't choose to marry my father, it was an arranged marriage. After the consequences, after 1 year of her marriage, she discovered God, so we grow up as a christian but without a father..
How would you know he's happily married? God's word is not subjective. Marriage is not easy for any one. It's a decision to leave and cleave. You close any means of escape and make it work by all means. Of course this can only work if God was consulted prior to your decision to marry
Matthew 19:9 King James Version (KJV)
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
AMEN! These guys are prideful, and doing Satan's work.
The danger in this society is narcissism .. it is evil ..
Christine Lawrence yasss I’m married to an abusive narc🙄they’re like blood sucking leaches
My husband left me for another women. He cheated but I still wanted us to try again, but he went ahead with the divorce and is still with her. I would love to move on and find love again. The loneliness is overwhelming.
😌🙏🏾 Pray to God for all of the answers. He will give you the strength you need in Christ Jesus. Believe! He’ll mend your broken heart and renew the right spirit within you, trust in The Lord.
So, if after divorce, your ex-spouse remarries, then can you remarry too without committing a sin?
LOL did anyone else just see that he went for a handshake and Todd didn’t give him a shake LOL I’m dead 😂
Bandito Right? Greet one another with a kiss! Or a handshake 😉
WOW: Who is this brother? Fists! I am so surprised to find someone who sticks with the Bible! You must be a marine. LOL... But seriously, I love you for speaking the truth. This makes personal sense to me. There is a beautiful successful woman who wants to marry me after divorcing her husband. I know both her and her ex-husband. I have searched the scriptures high and low, over and over and my conviction has always been that she should be reconciled to her husband while he is alive. She is a part of a church that supports her decision to remarry. That alone makes me cringe. This is my solid confirmation Pastor Wagner. God bless you for being obedient!
l tried but to jusify being in a relationship with a divorced man but got no peace felt that they should be reconciled with partner or stay single
Thanks for poring over the scriptures you encourage a 24 yr old believer!
I am also divorce . I am told it's okay to remarry by a few pastors but when reading the bible it all come back one saying it's either you stay single or you get back with your husband you are only free by death .
God willingly I will be perfectly placed in a beautiful home with a good man who will respect me and my children equally and vice versa.
He will! He did for me.
You would be the one to create the perfect home.
And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
@Live in Christ But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
@@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
Through divorce I became a eunuch for the kingdom.
This pastor takes marriage as serious as Jesus did God bless him there’s few men who really have a relationship with Jesus Christ this man truly is a preacher of God
He is Absolutely a charlatan and a narcissist
Don’t play that nonsense with me that Satan is on my ear either . God Knows who Todd is and sees it
@@jamessharp9790 why what did he do?
@@MMAGUY13 perverts scripture for his own benefit. Look up his worth . It’s ironic that it’s much greater than Osteen’s. I don’t support either one of them.
@@MMAGUY13 look up No Eden Elsewhere also.
Thank you Lord your my spiritual husband that I never been married . I'm content with my life just knowing I think of JESUS day and night ❤️
Awe keep like that! Jesus is everything for us who love Him!!! Marriage it is complicate bcauz we are different and most case selfish! Nothing is better than live
For Jesus!!!
I have a question for a Christian to answer.
I married a woman who had been married before when I was 26. She is a catholic but we didn’t have a church wedding.
I left her partly due to finding out she had left her husband for me, rather than the story she told at the beginning (that it was over regardless of me coming along). In effect, I left as I couldn’t live with her having cheated to be with me.
Is my choice to divorce her a sin? Can I remarry according to the Christian religion?
It wont stop me remarrying either way as I’m only 29 and feel like my future is still well ahead of me. I’m just genuinely curious how my countries religion perceives the situation.
I've been really contemplating this. Been separated now for almost 7 years. Been through the worst with my ex from her taking 3 of our 4 kids away not able to see them for 2 years. Her going off with another man. But about year and half ago contacted me back and reunited me back with my kids. So my 4 kids live with now thank God for answered prayers. In the beginning I was praying for reconcilation and for our family back together but now my heart has no feeling for her after all she put me through. I'm at piece being single or willing to wait for an equally yoked woman. But now I'm conflicted if I'm to leave the door open still for reconciliation. Which we've opened back up line of communication.
Similar story here
Reconcile do God's will bro
@@tekoabailey3243 its easy to say that but 1 Corithians 7:15 says he is no longer under bondage to have to do that.
@@JamesWFisher22 He who is faithful to us in all things calls us to love and forgiveness.....
@@tekoabailey3243 you can forgive. Doesn't mean you are bound to it, by all means you can.
Such were some of you; but you were WASHED, but you were SANCTIFIED, but you were JUSTIFIED
OMG, someone who has READ the Bible, unlike most of these people. Amen.
wowowow!! having read all these comments...I must say that we all are still playing 'the judge'. this is the reason Jesus came to show us how much our 'intelligence or knowledge' is worthless b4 HIM.
In as much as we claim to 'protect the word of God' or say 'its in the bible' , at the end of the day God has chosen his very own. whether we do this or dont do this. He who is born of God CANNOT SIN.
The woman at the well had married 5 husbands and guess what? as far as God was concerned she was never married. even the one she was currently living with was not counted as her husband. do u think that the husband number one was her real and only legitimate husband?. Jesus tried at all times to make us know that all these LAWS are distraction. He has fulfilled them all.. Grace abounds.
when they asked Him about divorce and the certificate by moses, he said....But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Jesus also responded to let man know that we must see that he has a better plan in salvation and grace which saves us from the bondage of the law...FREEDOM. we are just busy arguing about what is right or wrong or what Jesus said or didnt say and we are rili missing the whole point of jesus saying all these thing.
all these arguments stemmed from the fact that the ppl argued and tried to test jesus to know what he will say.
they asked HIM about fornication and adultery, trying to be smart..heres what jesus told them.. even when u look at a woman lustfully u have already committed adultery. They never saw it that way. they always tot its only when u actually have intercourse. but God is saying.."you think you are wise?" even when u look lustfully.
this is not to say that Jesus had set a new rule that also says looking lustfully is sin.. yes it is sin by His standards but who will stand before him pure giving all his standards..even stndards we never knew existed. NO MAN CAN STAND. therfore Jesus is saying you think u know it all? now u have seen that ur righteousness is filthy.
Stop this arguement and stop trying to "uphold the law' He does not need our help.
when ever you feel compelled to do something and if u dont theres a punishment awaiting you or you feel guilty about something cos you are in the fence about your conscience, it means you have truely not accepted grace and you are still under the law. with the law you are not free. Salvation is freedom.
Having said that, God has the final say and judgment on all and he is god of justice and fairness and grace. you cannot be on the fence about what to do when u are in an abusive relationship. @Nell Renee you have not been abused b4 so it is very wrong for you to say " the bible says NO DIVORCE NO DIVORCE..", you have not be raped by a husband b4, so you have no clue. You think God will not be fair and just in his judgment to his very own creation? and would cast her away bcause she left her husband? the God we serve is kind and graceful.
Evangelist John reed honestly it might sound like oh your being attacked, but theres a higher level of understanding that God gives to pple that others might not understand. most times its hard to explain unless the holy spirit does the work. Its not ur job to explain as they may never get. with time pple begin to see things if God permits. Evg John actually has spoken the right words and it will take silence and inner understanding to get it. its not by " oh the bible says this or that." this is exactly what the pharisees did bcos they felt they knew it all and each time they tested Jesus, Jesus opened up more can or warms to make them see they were just being babes.
see the story of the woman that committed adultery and was to be stonned, see the story of forgiveness 70 times 7, see the story of "if someone slaps you, turn the other cheek'
Gods ways are not mans ways....plz guys relax and stop playing God or playing the interpreter of his word. REST IN HIS FINISHED WORKS men.. JUST REST. he is God and will do what he wills. JUST REST.
Carol Smith please read what I wrote above you. Thanks!
Ebubechi Eke-Okoro lve been praying become my Exhusband use to beat me lay drunk we have a loving father and he would want me to get out of that Situation!!!! what would you do???
Ebubechi Eke-Okoro. that touched my ♥ and soul thank you so much and god bless you all Aman
Jennifer McClure---If your husband is beating you or if you feel like you can't take the verbal abuse or you feel like you are dying inside, you need to get away. You need to go to a safe place, and not tell him where you are going (probably needs to be a place he doesn't know about). If you don't have a place to go you could call the Salvation Army and they may be able to help or a domestic hotline. It doesn't matter if he likes it or not, I wouldn't probably wouldn't tell him, but leave when he wasn't home. I want you to be safe, and not to get hurt. Pray if G-d wants you to get a divorce or not. Only you can make that decision, (you can get counsel though). I pray right now that G-d would speak to you and give you guidance in what you should do after you leave in Jesus's name!!!!! I pray peace and healing to your soul!!!! Amen and amen.
Christa Greuter l divorced him a long time ago you Miss understand what I was trying to say I live with someone unmarried but nothing between us just friends no Lust and no kind of sex between us but if we got married would it be wrong plz plz let me know OK god bless you all
What would you say about a situation where two believers separated and divorced on biblical grounds but neither remarried but one stayed single and the other was in a relationship with an unbeliever were they lived with eachother, had children and then split up. Can the two believers be reconciled?.
It takes 2. You cannot get healthy and expect an unhealthy person to magically do the same.
Question, if as a Christian who believes in reconciliation and the first marriage, would I commit a sin if I am.sexually active with my first husband who is now married?
Finally I got my answer! Although i have had the holy spirit tell me a few times!!! It's nice to have confirmed
I had married a hindu (non beliver ) den I divorced him bcos he went to dance bars & abandoned me & d kids later on I remarried a Christian so is my remarriage a sin ?
@@jasminejoy5074 read 1 Corinthians 7 and you will find your answer
@Tony Rowan I'm also sorry to say but I disagree. I think I shd hav not asked u anything in d first place . Nonsense!! U want me to sin again by divorcing my second husband after my 1st divorce n depend on our lord for emotional support. Foolish man will u support me & my kids financially.... Or shd I test our lord to send Manna for me .
Dont reply stupid things like this .
Thank God u r not in front of me.
@@jasminejoy5074
You call others foolish, when they answer the question you asked? If you already have made up your mind to remain in adultery, why even ask the question?
@@jasminejoy5074 Are you pleased with the love you now have? Has God blessed the marriage? People seem to confuse love with Pleasures of the flesh which is what the married couple are allowed to do with each other only. Jesus fulfilled the law! Law is not as important as love! " Marry and become one and populate the earth." Kinda hard for singles and unmarried to do as God commanded... Love is the answer!
Hi..I just so happen to see this. I just wanted to say I understand what the Bible says about divorced. I never wanted to get divorced. I tried to hold on to my marriage, because I took the vows seriously. However, I was going through emotional, verbal and mental abused. Until, I found myself walking on pins and needles etc. He was okay with that. Couples go through stuff. Until, I cried out to God. He didn’t want any help. I file for divorced four years ago. He remarried quickly. I stood single not dating. I love Jesus and will continue to do His work..With all that said I forgave him. Wish him well. I did have hope he would change and we could’ve started fresh. My thoughts weren’t God’s thoughts. Amen
You caused him to do what he did
@@elitesaint5348 Seriously explain how. Thanks.
@@elitesaint5348 bullshit you egregious sanctimonious abuser.
@@elitesaint5348 what an idiot
@@elitesaint5348 WHAT???? WHAT SORT OF A CHRISTIAN ARE YOU TO SAY THAT? YOU ARE TEN TIMES WORSE THAN THE PHARISEES!
Any advice I’m afraid my mom might get remarried but if I tell her the bible says she can’t she might not listen
One thing come to my mind from reading most of these comments!. Do not underestimate God's power of forgiveness and unending love and Mercy. We are but humans. He is Sovereign! He can make something beautiful our of ugliness. He knows we are human and will make mistakes hence he provided His Mercy. I dont think God will cast you to hell because out of your human nature you couldnt keep an earthly marriage, maybe because of adultery or physical or mental abuse. If we genuinely seek him he is faithful true to wrap us in his arms. Genuine repentance with a pure heart wins God's Heart!. Let's all never stop asking God for His mercy. They are new every morning!
My ex was a serial cheater, and remarried less than a year after our divorce. He is 64 and I am 59. Zero chance of reconciliation. I am dating my high school sweetheart who I should have married. Would like to live out my days with my high school sweetheart.
Sorry about your divorce, I hope you find happiness again, can we be friends?
It is simple isn’t it. If you remarry while your previous wife or husband is alive it is adultrey, why can people not just accept this. Anyone who preaches different is not led by Holy Spirit. It’s Gods word.
Because Jesus gave adultery as the way out.
Is it adultery if your exhusband divorced you to marry someone else while you were praying for reconciling. Can I remarry also or not at all?
Amen I totally agree on this!!
No adulterers or fornicators will go to heaven