I do believe that in the Hmong community Money have power. My in laws don’t care if I work hard for them. I don’t have money to give to them. My brother in laws and his wife make more money and able to give money to my in laws so every thing that come out of my in laws mouth is their son who have money
You are right for standing up for yourself. Hmong parents aren't perfect. That is an understatement. They for sure cause a lot of pain in the parenting depadrtment.
Your parents have no respect for your husband. I am glad you stood up for yourself and your husband by not going to their events. Your parents will never see the goods you do for them unless it’s money. Love yourself first.
I Understand, About Being The Daughter Parents Tsis Ciaj Siab!!omg, I Cried With You When You Stood Up For Yourself! Feels Great Huh When All People Do Is Praise The Rich & Here You Are Wasting Your Energy Away! Some People Don’t Understand The Things You Do Until You Stop Doing It & It’s Too Late!?
I was like you. I did everything for my parents too but they saw it as my job. No one appreciate me. I had to learn to stop loving them so I can love myself. Moving away was a good choice. 😊 you deserve to be happy too.
Money isn't everything as it's also the root of evil! There are some people who use money the wrong way, and when helping out others, they expect something back from those they'd helped. I'm glad you standed up for your husband and you! Stay strong sis! ❤
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. Be strong. May God bless you and your family for wealth and success on this next chapter of your family's life.
Peb cov hmoob ces feem coob2 yeej coj li ntawv os qhov #1 ces yog lub meej mom hos #2 ces yog nyiaj tab sis txhob tu siab os txog thaum kawg ces txhua2 tus yeej yuav nkag qab nyom os yus tseem ho tsis muaj los tsuav yus tsev neeg noj qab nyob zoo xwb ces zoo dua os.
You are so correct. I’m so sorry for you & your husband. Your parents are bad parents. Glad you moved out of town away from them. Don’t be sad anymore. It’s not worth it.
Kuv mloog maiv tooj nkawv zaj dab neeg no mas 1 maiv tooj nkawv txom nyem vim nkawv noj nyiaj xaum qhaub xwb maiv tooj nkawv yeej tsis ua hauj lwm. Vim tias yog maiv tooj nkawv ob niam txiv nov ua hauj lwm ces 4 los 5 puas dollars xwb yeej muaj pab tau rau cov laus kawg os. Zaj dab neeg no mas dag yog qhov ntau hos tiag yog qhov tsaw xwb os.
Tsuas yog koj niam pog thiaj kom neb mus pab koj niam lawv xwb os. Yog kuv mas niag niam tais tsom ntawv twb saib tsis tau kuv tus tub tus nyab li no mas kuv yeej tsis pub kuv tus me tub me nyab mus ua nws qhev kiag li os, yus tus tub txawm mus pab nws npaum li cas los nws twb tsis pom li tsis thab kiag li los mas, yus txawm tsis muaj nyiaj los yus twb tsis mus thov nws noj na, yus yeej ua tau yus noj lawm os.
Tus siab kawg. You and your husband should've stopped helping your parents with that kind of appreciation. It's not like you didn't pay for nqis mis nqis hnos to your parents. May God bless you both.
Txhua xeem Hmoob lub neej txhua tiam NEEJ ces lub qhov NCAUJ UA ZOG koog ces txhua lo lus tawm hauv LAWV cov qhov NCAUJ PUAD LEEJ YOG TAS NRHO.... Tsis yog li NTAWD! YOG 1 tug neeg tsis ZOO SIAB TXAIS lwm tus cov nyiaj ces nyiaj tsis muaj NQES! N-O-T-H-I-N-G!
Sister, if i was you, i don't Care about your parents. They are so selfish. They love the one who have money. You don't have money, they don't love you. Forget them and love yourself first. Ask your parents to learn their son in Law how to hlob quav npua and quav nyub nawb ok. Hais tias doctor mas yuav tsum show how lawv muaj peev xwm UA everything no nawb !
Don't obey your evil mom all the time. Please find trip or vacation to get away. Leave the hard work to realize their behaviors. Im so glad that you finally look after your family first. That's the way to go in life. Money isn't everything. Happiness is everything. You finally realize and find happiness for your family.
So proud of you for standing up to your ungrateful parents 👏. If you don’t speak up for your husband, they will always take advantage of him. Good decision to move away from them.
Money is everything for the Hmong community, ever since I stop supporting my parents politics crap with money they have disowned me. Also my relatives because my dead dad was the leader and said if anyone help or still relates to me he will also disown…. I don’t give a crap about anyone’s if they family or not, if you respect me I respect you. Family can hold you back if you don’t have real family and friends. It ok to just have your wife and kids . They should be top priority.
Lady you should have spoken up for your kind husband & yourself long time ago & stopped helping long time ago… but I’m glad you finally came to your senses & spoke back to that B mother of yours!!
Koj niam thiab koj txiv ces yog cov neeg rua siab phem xwb os. Tsi thas mus pab. Tsi kes kias Li os. Yws tsi yog lawv tus qev. Tsau2 siab ua ywg lub neej avec ywg tus txiv xwb. On s'en fou de ces vieux méchants. L'argent contribue mais fait pas le bonheur.
Doctor? Passhh....they live off by the books. If my dad made that speech about how his other vauv is the one who loves them the most, I'd clear my throat a couple of times... but whatever its how them OGs feel, but the love and labor and time used for family is never forgotten. Money can come and go, vanish. But time and love is never forgotten and cant get back.
Omg your mom treat you wrong. Nws Yog ib Leninism es hlub li nws hlub xwb ces kavliam. She should love everyone equally. Yog kuv los kuv yeej tu siab ib yam thiab.
Sis, don’t be too tu siab. Just love, appreciate, and focus on those who are by your side like your husband and children. One day your parents will look back and regret how they treated you and your husband and see that money is not everything. As we get older, we realize that having deep, meaningful relationships is more important than all the riches in the world. When your parents are old, sickly, and those well off vaus and Nyab’s don’t care about them, they’ll remember all your good deeds and wished you both were there to take care of and support them. Just remember that everyone is blessed during different phases of their lives. Some earlier on and some later in life when the kids become successful and that will be you and your husband. So don’t waste your heartache on your family. Turn all that negative energy into positivity to be happy with the one you love, your husband. God bless you and your family!
My husbsnd and I are the no money couple, but goodness my mom is not like this mom. I do see the favoritism from other ppl from my family for my sister and her Dr husband, though. However, my bil is not high maintenance, so he would rather hang out with my low clace husband and the gang vs the phathas, so we can't even hate either 😅😅😅😅
My husband is proud to be Vauv khuam kev instead of Vauv 10k. 😄 We always joke..twb tshai ib tsam lawv tseem hu thiab. Yus nyob yus zoo dua. No need to impress anyone. 😂
Just wait until they need personal care as elderly . Their sons/nyabs and rich son in laws will not be willing to take them in. What goes around comes around! Parents are not supposed to pick and choose favorites!! Period!!!
Your mom should be ashamed of herself. She is so low and pathetic for the things she said and ungrateful for the things you guys did for them. Money maybe everything but when money runs out, so does the love. Love will always stay in any kind of weather. Im sorry you and ur husband endure all that and receive no credit or appreciation but im happy you moved away from the toxicity and a mother who isnt a mother. Love each others and be each others peace. Thanks for sharing
Tu niam hluas yog koj xwb nawb....yog kuv ces kuv yeej tsis pub kuv tu txiv mus hlob quav nyuj lawm nawb...txawm ua tas lo tsis muaj qab hau dab tsi...kuv ces yeej txiav npluav ntag
It's okay how they treat you now because in the future, when they can't do anything for theirselves and the other kids don't want them, they will think of you and your husband. But don't give in. Don't let them use you and your husband. Good luck!
Wait, koj xaiv koj niag txiv over koj niam, but koj tseem xav kom koj niam cia siab rau koj thiab? What’s that? You didn’t and don’t want what she wanted for you so that means it the end of discussion. Why would you still want her favor? How silly, how stupid of a mentality is that?
Hmong parents, in general, tend to respect those that have money, high status, and/or high education, regardless of their character. Therefore, it's important to love and value oneself rather than let them use and abuse you. When you're not easily accessible, they'll learn the hard way and start appreciating you.
Sorry you had to go through that. Unfortunately there is truth in the fact that some Hmong people put someone's worth and value upon what their income is. My mom is the same way. I have a modern mindset where other people's income is none of my business. My mom loves to ask others how much they makes, saved, or how much their kids make. She will come to me to tell me that an old classmate now makes a certain dollar amount, where they live, and type of house and cars. It is sad that there are some people have that mindset. You did what is right for you and your family. You or your husband do not need to be around people who disrespects him and put little to no value to him. Take care.
Took you long enough to finally able to put your foot down to your evil parents mistreatments of disrespecting you and husband! Glad you can focus on your children and in laws and moved far away to get peace.
Tus tsis muaj nyiaj pab los dag zog yeej yog Kev pab. Tus muaj nyiaj los pab nyiaj tab sis kom pab lub dag zog yeej tsis muaj. Yuav tau pom txhua yam kev pab.
Vivncaus aw yog koj koj thiaj li mus saib thiab pab lawv yog kuv ces yeej tsi mus tsi ncaj lawv lub qhov rooj li lawm mog...Yus yuav tsum hlub yus tus kheej ua ntej tso mog.😢😢
Hmong is all about money. There is no respect regardless. If you have money, they use you and pretend that you're the best. When you're poor or mediocre, there is no respect.
Tsis mus thov meskas pab naws! Police mas tuaj hais xwb mos. Tsis txaus dag laug teeb liab teeb ntsuab mas hais. Hoyo hoyo! Txhob chim chim os cia kom pom dej dag siab thiaj nqis.
So sad and so sorry your parents treated you and your husband this way. Money is not everything. I feel sorry for them if they think money is love. This story made me realize how lucky I am to have my parents' love no matter how my life is.
Wow your mom is on another level. Never force your kids like this. The only way for these type of people to learn is to stop letting them take advantage of you. Sometimes you just have to call them out on their bullshit.
If u dont love & value urself, why would they? My motto is only love them as much as they love u, help them as much as they help u. My family comes 1st.
Koj niam koj txiv siab phem tshaj plaws txhob thab thab mas Cia nws mam phov nws mas pheej yuav mus ua nws qhev ua dabtsis nas. Kav tsij mus pab neb cov kwv tij zoo dua os mog hlub koj os Maiv Tooj aw....Yim niag hmoob lim lim hiam ko txhob thab thab os. Mus pab kwv tij zoo tshaj. Siab phem li koj niam ko es tseem tau ntuj ntoos thiab los. Maiv Tooj aw txhob thab thab os mog hlub neb khub txij nkawm dhau.
Sorry sister but I would never allow my mum to talk down on my husband. We may not be able to give money to our parents but our helping hands is what more important
Wow pab hlub tus sister no os. Yog yus niam thiab txiv coj li no ces lawm tsis yog neeg zoo thiab coj ncaj. Yeej txaus tu siab tsis txhob mus pab dag pab zog lawm os.
Kuv mloog mas koj hais tias lub sib hawm ntawv koj ruam2 no kuv xav mas koj yeej g paub tu siab rau koj niam tej lus thuam neb li ces nyuam qhuav ntxim qhov koj niam yuam neb hlob quav npua xwb as yom. Yog paub tu siab ntse twb g mus hlob quav npua li os. Yog neb txawj tu siab ntse lawv tej tsev g lam mus tsuj hlo vim tias txawm mus ua qhev thiab muab nyiaj pab yeej yog kev sib pab ib yam nkaus es tu siab hlo kaw rooj nti g tas ua qhev cuag li neb ko kuv pab neb khib siab kawg rau koj niam tej lus heev.😢😢😢
Koj Ob tug dab Laug dev no los coj ib yam koj niam koj txiv thiab kuv yog koj Ob tug dab Laug mas kuv txaj muag kawg tseem yuav faib rau cov muam cov yuam Yij
you envy a better life. you should be happy with your choice but you have regrets. dont blame it on your parents. your mom is right, you need to do something about it, not complain. im poor too but i dont cry about it.
Speaking from my own personal experience. Let's just be honest, the main character's mother was only saying what most Hmong think, but don't say out loud. Hmong folks don't respect or think much of those coming from single parent house holds whether it be from a divorce or a death. Growing up without a father, the parents of girls I was interested in didn't want me getting close to their daughters because they felt I've nothing to offer. Same with friends, they don't mind being your homie but stay away from their sisters and cousins. Also, I think they didn't want their loved one to struggle because we were definitely really poor. They never said it out right, but I felt it.
Mi muam koj hais yuam kev lawm paub? koj hais tias lub siab zoo tsis yeej lub siab phem no tsis yog lawm, lo lus yog hais tias lub siab phem tsis yeej lub siab zoo no thiaj yog lov?
I want part 2 of this story when the father in law and mother in law about to die. Because I bet the oldest son in law will love them more and then they will regret how they treated them. Please part 2.
Don’t feel bad, they are going to miss you when you both are gone. The people that love us the most are the ones that come and help early and leave late not the people that just gives money. That is the truth.
txhob tu siab tsis yog koj ib leeg xwb peb muaj coob tus ntsib li koj thiab hlub koj tus kheej thiab yus tus ntawm yus ib sab xwb tus twg hlub yus li cas ces tsuas hlub li ntawv rov xwb o
I do believe that in the Hmong community Money have power. My in laws don’t care if I work hard for them. I don’t have money to give to them. My brother in laws and his wife make more money and able to give money to my in laws so every thing that come out of my in laws mouth is their son who have money
You are right for standing up for yourself. Hmong parents aren't perfect. That is an understatement. They for sure cause a lot of pain in the parenting depadrtment.
Your parents have no respect for your husband. I am glad you stood up for yourself and your husband by not going to their events. Your parents will never see the goods you do for them unless it’s money. Love yourself first.
Sister, you endured enough. Glad you saw the value in you and love yourself. This is a eye opener for all siblings, parents and in laws.
Time is also money and you guys have given so much time to your parents. That’s worth more than a doctor!
I Understand, About Being The Daughter Parents Tsis Ciaj Siab!!omg, I Cried With You When You Stood Up For Yourself! Feels Great Huh When All People Do Is Praise The Rich & Here You Are Wasting Your Energy Away!
Some People Don’t Understand The Things You Do Until You Stop Doing It & It’s Too Late!?
Understand your pain. Glad you speak your mind
I was like you. I did everything for my parents too but they saw it as my job. No one appreciate me. I had to learn to stop loving them so I can love myself. Moving away was a good choice. 😊 you deserve to be happy too.
Money isn't everything as it's also the root of evil! There are some people who use money the wrong way, and when helping out others, they expect something back from those they'd helped. I'm glad you standed up for your husband and you! Stay strong sis! ❤
I am so sorry that you had to go through that. Be strong. May God bless you and your family for wealth and success on this next chapter of your family's life.
Peb cov hmoob ces feem coob2 yeej coj li ntawv os qhov #1 ces yog lub meej mom hos #2 ces yog nyiaj tab sis txhob tu siab os txog thaum kawg ces txhua2 tus yeej yuav nkag qab nyom os yus tseem ho tsis muaj los tsuav yus tsev neeg noj qab nyob zoo xwb ces zoo dua os.
You are so correct. I’m so sorry for you & your husband. Your parents are bad parents. Glad you moved out of town away from them. Don’t be sad anymore. It’s not worth it.
Kuv mloog maiv tooj nkawv zaj dab neeg no mas 1 maiv tooj nkawv txom nyem vim nkawv noj nyiaj xaum qhaub xwb maiv tooj nkawv yeej tsis ua hauj lwm. Vim tias yog maiv tooj nkawv ob niam txiv nov ua hauj lwm ces 4 los 5 puas dollars xwb yeej muaj pab tau rau cov laus kawg os. Zaj dab neeg no mas dag yog qhov ntau hos tiag yog qhov tsaw xwb os.
I love my husband I would never put him into that situation where my parents don't like my husband and still taking him to be their slave
What a B mom. Glad u r strong enough to walk away from your family.
Kab lia niam neej vam. Kuv mas ntxub cov niag niam tais hais saib tsis tau cov
Neeg txom nyem thiab poj dab poj Ntsuag.
Tsuas yog koj niam pog thiaj kom neb mus pab koj niam lawv xwb os. Yog kuv mas niag niam tais tsom ntawv twb saib tsis tau kuv tus tub tus nyab li no mas kuv yeej tsis pub kuv tus me tub me nyab mus ua nws qhev kiag li os, yus tus tub txawm mus pab nws npaum li cas los nws twb tsis pom li tsis thab kiag li los mas, yus txawm tsis muaj nyiaj los yus twb tsis mus thov nws noj na, yus yeej ua tau yus noj lawm os.
You are right sis!. You stood up for your hubby n your right!. Good girl!!
Kev hlub thiaj yog ib pua tsav yam ntawm txoj kev ua neej
Txhob tu siab me niam hluas qhov koj hais kuv ntseeg tias muaj tseeb os
Nrog koj tu siab kawg li os Viv ncaus
Thats awful dear. Just live your best life with your husband. Forget about your family and love those who love you.
Tus siab kawg. You and your husband should've stopped helping your parents with that kind of appreciation. It's not like you didn't pay for nqis mis nqis hnos to your parents. May God bless you both.
I'm sorry you and your husband had to put up with your selfish mother. May god bless you.
Don’t be sad sister. Work on you and your family that’s all that matters.
Txhua xeem Hmoob lub neej txhua tiam NEEJ ces lub qhov NCAUJ UA ZOG koog ces txhua lo lus tawm hauv LAWV cov qhov NCAUJ PUAD LEEJ YOG TAS NRHO....
Tsis yog li NTAWD! YOG 1 tug neeg tsis ZOO SIAB TXAIS lwm tus cov nyiaj ces nyiaj tsis muaj NQES! N-O-T-H-I-N-G!
Sister aw, love yourself. Koj niam koj txiv lawv hlub neb li cas hlub lawv li ntawd xwb. Thaum koj hlub lawv (your parents) heev tab sis koj tsis muaj nyiaj pab lawv saib koj tus txiv neb tsis muaj nqi. Thaum neb saib neb muaj nqi lawm lawv tsis hlub neb los txhob quav ntsej. Neb lub zog khaws cia zoo.
Yup, that's how Hmong parents define love.. money money money.
Sister, if i was you, i don't Care about your parents. They are so selfish. They love the one who have money. You don't have money, they don't love you. Forget them and love yourself first. Ask your parents to learn their son in Law how to hlob quav npua and quav nyub nawb ok. Hais tias doctor mas yuav tsum show how lawv muaj peev xwm UA everything no nawb !
Don't obey your evil mom all the time. Please find trip or vacation to get away. Leave the hard work to realize their behaviors.
Im so glad that you finally look after your family first. That's the way to go in life. Money isn't everything. Happiness is everything. You finally realize and find happiness for your family.
Hais rau koj niam...yog koj pom qhov kuv sau no ce kom koj paub hais tias koj yog neeg pluag, ruam thiab xiam hlwb tsis paub txog kev hlub... hlub muaj nqis txhaj nyiam txiag.... poj hmoob laus ruam.... koj ce yog tus niam tias pluag kev hlub....qhov no qhia haistias koj yog neeg pluag....pluaj hlwb, pluag nyiaj, pluag hlub, pluag txhua yam. Koj ce tos koj cov ntxhais vauv muaj xwb tabsi koj tsis muaj. Ruam tsab muaj ce yog koj ntag niamtais pog laus.
So proud of you for standing up to your ungrateful parents 👏. If you don’t speak up for your husband, they will always take advantage of him. Good decision to move away from them.
Money is everything for the Hmong community, ever since I stop supporting my parents politics crap with money they have disowned me. Also my relatives because my dead dad was the leader and said if anyone help or still relates to me he will also disown…. I don’t give a crap about anyone’s if they family or not, if you respect me I respect you. Family can hold you back if you don’t have real family and friends. It ok to just have your wife and kids . They should be top priority.
Lady you should have spoken up for your kind husband & yourself long time ago
& stopped helping long time ago…
but I’m glad you finally came to your senses & spoke back to that B mother of yours!!
Koj niam thiab koj txiv ces yog cov neeg rua siab phem xwb os. Tsi thas mus pab. Tsi kes kias Li os. Yws tsi yog lawv tus qev. Tsau2 siab ua ywg lub neej avec ywg tus txiv xwb. On s'en fou de ces vieux méchants. L'argent contribue mais fait pas le bonheur.
Doctor? Passhh....they live off by the books. If my dad made that speech about how his other vauv is the one who loves them the most, I'd clear my throat a couple of times... but whatever its how them OGs feel, but the love and labor and time used for family is never forgotten. Money can come and go, vanish. But time and love is never forgotten and cant get back.
Sister tsis txhob tu siab os. Your sibling and in-law pay for everything you should keep quiet cause that’s for your dad.
Omg your mom treat you wrong. Nws Yog ib Leninism es hlub li nws hlub xwb ces kavliam. She should love everyone equally. Yog kuv los kuv yeej tu siab ib yam thiab.
Sis, don’t be too tu siab. Just love, appreciate, and focus on those who are by your side like your husband and children. One day your parents will look back and regret how they treated you and your husband and see that money is not everything.
As we get older, we realize that having deep, meaningful relationships is more important than all the riches in the world. When your parents are old, sickly, and those well off vaus and Nyab’s don’t care about them, they’ll remember all your good deeds and wished you both were there to take care of and support them. Just remember that everyone is blessed during different phases of their lives. Some earlier on and some later in life when the kids become successful and that will be you and your husband. So don’t waste your heartache on your family. Turn all that negative energy into positivity to be happy with the one you love, your husband. God bless you and your family!
My husbsnd and I are the no money couple, but goodness my mom is not like this mom. I do see the favoritism from other ppl from my family for my sister and her Dr husband, though. However, my bil is not high maintenance, so he would rather hang out with my low clace husband and the gang vs the phathas, so we can't even hate either 😅😅😅😅
My husband is proud to be Vauv khuam kev instead of Vauv 10k. 😄 We always joke..twb tshai ib tsam lawv tseem hu thiab. Yus nyob yus zoo dua. No need to impress anyone. 😂
Just wait until they need personal care as elderly . Their sons/nyabs and rich son in laws will not be willing to take them in. What goes around comes around! Parents are not supposed to pick and choose favorites!! Period!!!
If money really made your mom happy, she wouldn’t have an ugly attitude in the first place. Happy people with money don’t act like your mom.
Hate parents like that. Don't care about the ppl who doesn't care about u. Focus on your family.
Your mom should be ashamed of herself. She is so low and pathetic for the things she said and ungrateful for the things you guys did for them. Money maybe everything but when money runs out, so does the love. Love will always stay in any kind of weather. Im sorry you and ur husband endure all that and receive no credit or appreciation but im happy you moved away from the toxicity and a mother who isnt a mother. Love each others and be each others peace. Thanks for sharing
Omg 😢😢😢😢 I cried listening to this story. Ua cas koj tsev neeg especially koj niam siab phem ua luaj li. 😢
Tu niam hluas yog koj xwb nawb....yog kuv ces kuv yeej tsis pub kuv tu txiv mus hlob quav nyuj lawm nawb...txawm ua tas lo tsis muaj qab hau dab tsi...kuv ces yeej txiav npluav ntag
It's okay how they treat you now because in the future, when they can't do anything for theirselves and the other kids don't want them, they will think of you and your husband. But don't give in. Don't let them use you and your husband. Good luck!
If money is everything, then why did u marry your husband. Money is everything for your mom only, but not everyone.
Wait, koj xaiv koj niag txiv over koj niam, but koj tseem xav kom koj niam cia siab rau koj thiab?
What’s that? You didn’t and don’t want what she wanted for you so that means it the end of discussion. Why would you still want her favor? How silly, how stupid of a mentality is that?
I'm glad you spoke up. My name is Mai Tong. But this is more like my husband's side. My in laws are like this.
Shit tiag tiag! Money is everything for your parents cov uas tsis tau pom nyiaj dua xwb os. Luag lwm tus cov tsis yog money hungry mas kev hlub tseem ceeb tshaj lawm. Tseeb money yeej tseem ceeb tab sis cannot replace everything.
Hmong parents, in general, tend to respect those that have money, high status, and/or high education, regardless of their character. Therefore, it's important to love and value oneself rather than let them use and abuse you. When you're not easily accessible, they'll learn the hard way and start appreciating you.
Sorry you had to go through that. Unfortunately there is truth in the fact that some Hmong people put someone's worth and value upon what their income is. My mom is the same way. I have a modern mindset where other people's income is none of my business. My mom loves to ask others how much they makes, saved, or how much their kids make. She will come to me to tell me that an old classmate now makes a certain dollar amount, where they live, and type of house and cars. It is sad that there are some people have that mindset. You did what is right for you and your family. You or your husband do not need to be around people who disrespects him and put little to no value to him. Take care.
Took you long enough to finally able to put your foot down to your evil parents mistreatments of disrespecting you and husband! Glad you can focus on your children and in laws and moved far away to get peace.
Tus tsis muaj nyiaj pab los dag zog yeej yog Kev pab. Tus muaj nyiaj los pab nyiaj tab sis kom pab lub dag zog yeej tsis muaj. Yuav tau pom txhua yam kev pab.
Vivncaus aw yog koj koj thiaj li mus saib thiab pab lawv yog kuv ces yeej tsi mus tsi ncaj lawv lub qhov rooj li lawm mog...Yus yuav tsum hlub yus tus kheej ua ntej tso mog.😢😢
Hmong is all about money. There is no respect regardless. If you have money, they use you and pretend that you're the best. When you're poor or mediocre, there is no respect.
Tsis mus thov meskas pab naws! Police mas tuaj hais xwb mos. Tsis txaus dag laug teeb liab teeb ntsuab mas hais.
Hoyo hoyo! Txhob chim chim os cia kom pom dej dag siab thiaj nqis.
So sad and so sorry your parents treated you and your husband this way. Money is not everything. I feel sorry for them if they think money is love. This story made me realize how lucky I am to have my parents' love no matter how my life is.
Of course, money is everything nowadays. You can’t buy love but u can lease it!
Wow your mom is on another level. Never force your kids like this. The only way for these type of people to learn is to stop letting them take advantage of you. Sometimes you just have to call them out on their bullshit.
If u dont love & value urself, why would they? My motto is only love them as much as they love u, help them as much as they help u. My family comes 1st.
You should turn your parents’ negative words into helping you improve your life which is go to college and get a career or start a business.
Nyiaj tsis yog txhua yam rau kuv vim tias nyiaj tsua yog pab thaum muaj kev txomnyem thiab chaw siv ib ntus xwb.
Txhob muab nyiaj saib hlob dua kev hlub, noj qab nyob zoo thiab txojsia ntev hauv ntiajteb no xwb os.
Koj niam koj txiv siab phem tshaj plaws txhob thab thab mas Cia nws mam phov nws mas pheej yuav mus ua nws qhev ua dabtsis nas. Kav tsij mus pab neb cov kwv tij zoo dua os mog hlub koj os Maiv Tooj aw....Yim niag hmoob lim lim hiam ko txhob thab thab os. Mus pab kwv tij zoo tshaj. Siab phem li koj niam ko es tseem tau ntuj ntoos thiab los. Maiv Tooj aw txhob thab thab os mog hlub neb khub txij nkawm dhau.
Sorry sister but I would never allow my mum to talk down on my husband. We may not be able to give money to our parents but our helping hands is what more important
Wow pab hlub tus sister no os. Yog yus niam thiab txiv coj li no ces lawm tsis yog neeg zoo thiab coj ncaj. Yeej txaus tu siab tsis txhob mus pab dag pab zog lawm os.
Yep I wouldn't attend any of their events either. If I died nobody needs to know. By the time they know I got cremated.
Kudo sister for standing up for yourself. I feel your pain. Keep better your life and one day they’ll see your worth.
Kuv mloog mas koj hais tias lub sib hawm ntawv koj ruam2 no kuv xav mas koj yeej g paub tu siab rau koj niam tej lus thuam neb li ces nyuam qhuav ntxim qhov koj niam yuam neb hlob quav npua xwb as yom. Yog paub tu siab ntse twb g mus hlob quav npua li os. Yog neb txawj tu siab ntse lawv tej tsev g lam mus tsuj hlo vim tias txawm mus ua qhev thiab muab nyiaj pab yeej yog kev sib pab ib yam nkaus es tu siab hlo kaw rooj nti g tas ua qhev cuag li neb ko kuv pab neb khib siab kawg rau koj niam tej lus heev.😢😢😢
Kuv yeej ntseeg ib yam li koj thiab nawb, leej twg yuav nyiam hais li cas los ntawv yog lawv kev xav tab sis nyob li ntawm kuv muaj nyiaj ces thiaj muaj zog xwb nawb. Txawm kev hlub yuav loj npaum li cas los thaum nuj nqi tuaj zom zees tsis muaj nyiaj them nuj nqi, tsis muaj nyiaj yuav yam yus xav tau ces kev hlub yeej tsis muaj li lawm nawb.
Koj niam twb pluag pluag es koj niam twb tsis saib koj niam ob ceg li Nco ntsoov tias tus neeg kawm ntawv siab mas feem coob luag txhuav nuj nqi ntau ces luag yeej qia dub heev koj niam tsis txhob cia siab yuav ntshaws luag tug los noj
Kuv yog ib leej niam thiab yog koj niam coj li koj hais ko mas koj niam yeej yog ib leej niam siab phem dhau lawm os mog. Rau2 siab khwv es yus thiaj tsis txom nyem nawb.
Don't join their gatherings. They'll notice the absence.
Hell no money is not everythings. Cov tibneeg hlub nyiaj ces xav li ko los mas.
Koj Ob tug dab Laug dev no los coj ib yam koj niam koj txiv thiab kuv yog koj Ob tug dab Laug mas kuv txaj muag kawg tseem yuav faib rau cov muam cov yuam Yij
you envy a better life. you should be happy with your choice but you have regrets. dont blame it on your parents. your mom is right, you need to do something about it, not complain. im poor too but i dont cry about it.
Speaking from my own personal experience. Let's just be honest, the main character's mother was only saying what most Hmong think, but don't say out loud. Hmong folks don't respect or think much of those coming from single parent house holds whether it be from a divorce or a death. Growing up without a father, the parents of girls I was interested in didn't want me getting close to their daughters because they felt I've nothing to offer. Same with friends, they don't mind being your homie but stay away from their sisters and cousins. Also, I think they didn't want their loved one to struggle because we were definitely really poor. They never said it out right, but I felt it.
Maiv Tooj aw lim hiam ntais ntuj siab txias txias ntshav li koj niam koj txiv nkawv ces txhob mus mus pab pab mas mog. Niam txiv phem tiag tiag mloog xwb twb nrog neb tus tus siab kawg os Maiv tooj aw...
Txhob tusiab mog tus vivncaus aw koj niam koj txiv coj tsis ncaj rau koj lawm nkawv tsuas hlub cov muaj nyiaj xwb los kavliam mog tsuav koj tus txiv thiab koj niam pog hlub hlub koj xwb ces koj muab koj txoj sia dai rau nkawv mog ua 1 siab txhob mus saib lawv lawm mog nyaj thaum hluas neb txom nyem los nyaj thaum laus no neb yuav nrog lawv muaj nyiaj muaj txiaj thiab os mog
Ua neej nyob tsi poj yus txoj hmoov tsi txhob lam thuam thuam cov poj nruam mog yus yeej tsi paub xyov yus yuav zoo los luag yuav zoo mog.
Mloog mas koj niam koj txiv pluag pluag heev tos luag pob los noj xwb ua cas neb yuam txiv tsis yog txiv yawg tsis yog yuam txiv yog niag neeg huab noj huab haus xwb tos luag tug los siv xwb tsis paub txaj muag yog vauv xwb luag muaj luag niam luag txiv es yudms yuav tau txaj muag rau teb chaws
Txawm tsis muaj nyiaj los tej yam yog txaus pab nyiaj yus yuav tsuam tau pab thiab hos. Ib zaug tsis muab los ib zaug yuav tau muab nyiaj pab. Yus muaj tsawg los pab tsawg. Txhob tias tsawg zaus los tsis muaj nyiaj. Nyob teb chaws no yeej tsis muaj qhov uas hais tias tsis musj li
Mi muam koj hais yuam kev lawm paub? koj hais tias lub siab zoo tsis yeej lub siab phem no tsis yog lawm, lo lus yog hais tias lub siab phem tsis yeej lub siab zoo no thiaj yog lov?
I want part 2 of this story when the father in law and mother in law about to die. Because I bet the oldest son in law will love them more and then they will regret how they treated them. Please part 2.
Don’t feel bad, they are going to miss you when you both are gone. The people that love us the most are the ones that come and help early and leave late not the people that just gives money. That is the truth.
Yus muaj niam muaj txiv ruam ces yeej zoo li ma! Txhob tu siab os nawv.
Nope I call 119 for focus me married. The more u make the more u pay taxes 😅
I understand how she feels I been there I know..y I left my lee family..
Hmoob mas muaj ib feem cov niam txiv yeej coj lub siab li no rau tej menyuam kawg yeej tu siab kawg os 😢
Koj niam yog ib Leej niam lim hiam siab phem txog kawg mas koj niam mam Pom txoj kev uas ntshaws luag tug
Money is everything but a helping hand is way better lol
Your siblings so rich they will throw those parents to nursing home when they get old.
Never accept anyone's curse on you. Even your own mother. You do you.
txhob tu siab tsis yog koj ib leeg xwb peb muaj coob tus ntsib li koj thiab hlub koj tus kheej thiab yus tus ntawm yus ib sab xwb tus twg hlub yus li cas ces tsuas hlub li ntawv rov xwb o
Koj niam mas yog ib niag pog Hmoob siab siab phem lim lim hiam saib tsis taus tej poj ntsuam ib hnub koj niam yeej yuav tau ua poj ntsuam nas. Koj niam phem lim hiam ntais ntuj tshaj plaws poj Hmoob phem.
😢 it is sad when people see you as poor even when you help them with everything. Money is the root of all evil.
Koj yog tus poj niam khov. Cov niam tais yawm txiv li ko ces tsa chij lawm
Nyiaj tsuas yog 70 feem pua ntawm txoj kev ua neej xwb