finally, someone talking abt the age gap in cmbyn. No matter how good i was told the writing is or how good the story is i never got past the age gap. it is not only an age gap but Elio is underage. He is literally nothing more than a child. I feel that in a society where LGBTQ people don't feel accepted and left out this problematic story is not only a bad representation but also could be misunderstood as justification of huge age gaps and underage dating.
You don't have to be LGBTQ to be potentially attracted to younger people - see Lolita by Nabokov. LGBTQ and pedophilic novels are generally read by people who are smarter because they handle deviations from a norm better / are more empathetic.
@@bkchillingz of course i totally agree maybe i failed to make my point clear. Unfortunately these acts doesn’t define hetero people but when a minority group is mentioned with this type of relationship or act it sticks and creates a bad reputation. Which is the reason why i felt the need to mention lgbtq people. My mother tongue is not english so i hope i made my point clear.
No you were very clear! I see your point and people are going to make this connection. I however disagree that a story could be used as a justification for underage dating. There is a power difference which injustifies the whole thing. However, as I said it's not strange to find one fantasizing about dating someone younger. That's what these stories are for.
@@bkchillingztrue but people who are heavily against lgbtq+ people always say things like that! they talk about how they brainwash other people into joining their community which is so strange like it's not a cult bro
i 100% agree with your call me by your name review!! i don’t understand why the book is so glorified and revered in all honesty but to each their own 😅
only just started watching but omg i am so glad you did not like call me by your name. it's so weird to see this really uncomfortable icky age gap being praised and romanticised Especially considering the awful groundless accusations lgbt folk have had to always deal with their entire existence.. no thanks.
To be fair, liking or disliking a book and being uncomfortable reading about certain topics is entirely up to the reader and obviously can't be discussed, but I wouldn't throw the book down into the flames. It's really a lot of the fans who are doing all the romanticizing and praising of the weird age gap, but not the book itself. Even if this book shouldn't have been crowned with this misplaced aura/popularity, the narrative elements brought into these pages are the everyday lives of so many queer people around us, especially gay men, and are sadly key to much of our upbringing. The relationship is manipulative and unequal, sure, but just like in real life. The book is never about a transcendental love-story between two soulmates, but only about the changes and experiences a 17-year-old goes through during a summer full of discoveries. The good and the bad. It's really only Elio's point of view, and there's a lot of wrongs and alterations in the mind of a 17-year-old boy. We're not here to condemn the age gap or any of the character’s values because that's not why the book is interesting/important. And seeing how this coming of age story has been sold as a great gay romance is what really gave the ick to new readers imo.
I didn't read Call me by your Name but I watched the movie and I also didn't like it... maybe the movie is just that bad (someone who has read the book will have to tell me how the two compare) but I just didn't like the dynamic AT ALL. The age gap felt really weird to me. Malibu rising, on the other hand, I LOVED!
I felt the same way about Call Me by Your Name movie. The power imbalance is inevitable with a big age gap like that, especially when one party is still a teenager.
i choked when i looked at the number of subscribers because i was almost sure you were at the 100k mark or close to it. you need more recognition and i hope people start giving it to you because you deserve it, you’re honestly one of my favorite youtubers 🩷
The quote you read from Siddhartha convinced me that I do in fact want to read it because I’ve been skeptical and back and forth about it. Thank you! I loved the video❤️
I’m about 185 pages into “The Bell Jar”, which for the most part is very interesting and beautifully written (even though it’s quite sad). It has some casual racism for the time which is a bit distracting , but it’s one of those classics I wanted to catch up with. Might read “Great Expectations” next!! But lots of new recommendations from this video, thank you! 😄love book content!!
I also love Call Me By Your Name, the movie, and dnf'd the book a couple of years ago. I'm going to give it another try this summer I think, just because I'm curious. Thanks for another lovely video!
Hi, Fleur! I love your book content. Even though the books you read are very different from those I usually pick up, it gives a relaxing feeling hearing someone talk about their reads, and it motivates me to read more.
31:05 If I remember correctly Warren the drummer from Daisy Jones & the Six was mentioned. I believe he got naked in the pool or something, even his wife was there I think, but I could be wrong. Anyway I agree with you There’s something about TJR’s writing that is just sort of addictive. This video also reminded me I actually read Siddhartha ages ago along with Demian by the same author and it was such a great a book, if you liked Siddharta, I would say Demian is worth a read too. I don’t remember much about Siddharta because as a young teen a lot went over my head and I didn’t love it but I should probably give it a reread. End of my rant, I live for your book content ✨
I don't read much, but there's one series of books that's had me gripped for nearly 20 years. If you haven't heard of the disk world series by the late great Terry Pratchett you should give it a read. The writing is really intelligent and mixes fantasy with comedy, among other things. If you decide to give it a look I'd love to hear what you think, good or bad.
Can you make a video for people who is learning English and want to read books in English like me. I want to read novels but I don't know which ones have like B1-B2 level English. 💓
My morning walks turned into meditative strolls on which I’m taking so many notes and creating to-read lists while waking up gently by listening to your soothing voice.
yess did not like call me by your name at all. while I was watching the movie for the first time, it personally felt more of like a coming of age story from elio's perspective and not a full on romance (I was also very much captivated by the cinematography and focused on the artistic side). for me, elio was having a teenage crush and oliver was exploiting it. but it become wayy more disturbing in the book and it totally does not help that the author said some real sketchy and disturbing shit. second book 'find me' is even worse, i could not get through even the half of it and dropped it few years back. it also totally might be bc I read it translated, but I do not think it was that good artistically
I've watched several of your videos & really enjoyed your content. You have an intriguing mind. I like the content & your perspectives on the books, but I struggled to hear your words over the tapping. Maybe it's just me. Thanks for doing asmr You have a clean, elegant voice!
not even kidding when i say i made a goodreads the other day mostly just to follow you and your book progress/recs lol! Will forever love these monthly book videos or any book video you make for that matter🫶🏼 i love the variety of books you read and that you really try to explore, i’m basically all Romance/ RomCom but i really want to try and get into more classics and fiction but nothing ever keeps my interest unless it has at least some romance in it lmao, are there any books that you recommend that is a good gateway to classics/literary fiction that I could get into (romance or not:)! ALSO:📚📚📚would love a bookshelf tour
I read CMBYN five years or so ago when I was ~21 and when I was that age the gap didn't really stand out to me; currently I know I would be put off by it. I still recollect the prose being lovely and frankly the queer lust was very realistic but I really think the gap undermines that beauty and perpetuates some lingering issues in the gay community. Thanks for another lovely video! I always enjoy seeing your updates on GR :) 📚 📚 📚 📚
for a daisy jones reference in malibu rising, at the beginning it’s said that warren rhodes and lisa swam naked in the pool at nina’s 1980 end of summer party!
your description of lolly willowes reminded me a bit of the grace year by kim liggett. it’s a dystopian book with a feminist message and a good mystery as well as great action sequences. highly recommend!!
Love any book content, appreciate you sharing the love starting the tag too 😊 Just added you on Goodreads, excited to see what you're reading. I've been a science fiction and biography reader but I'm starting to try and read more romance. Siddhartha is such a wonderful novel, easy and quick to read whenever you need to remind yourself of the importance of taking a moment and reflecting.
So nice to find your channel! Finally something different! I really got tired of doing my make-up ASMR of doing my nails ASMR of showing off my clothes ASMR ect...much love from Greece!It's a rather hot night tonight and your video is very helpful! Thank you!
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finally, someone talking abt the age gap in cmbyn. No matter how good i was told the writing is or how good the story is i never got past the age gap. it is not only an age gap but Elio is underage. He is literally nothing more than a child. I feel that in a society where LGBTQ people don't feel accepted and left out this problematic story is not only a bad representation but also could be misunderstood as justification of huge age gaps and underage dating.
You don't have to be LGBTQ to be potentially attracted to younger people - see Lolita by Nabokov. LGBTQ and pedophilic novels are generally read by people who are smarter because they handle deviations from a norm better / are more empathetic.
@@bkchillingz of course i totally agree maybe i failed to make my point clear. Unfortunately these acts doesn’t define hetero people but when a minority group is mentioned with this type of relationship or act it sticks and creates a bad reputation. Which is the reason why i felt the need to mention lgbtq people. My mother tongue is not english so i hope i made my point clear.
No you were very clear! I see your point and people are going to make this connection. I however disagree that a story could be used as a justification for underage dating. There is a power difference which injustifies the whole thing. However, as I said it's not strange to find one fantasizing about dating someone younger. That's what these stories are for.
this is what i've been saying !!!!
@@bkchillingztrue but people who are heavily against lgbtq+ people always say things like that! they talk about how they brainwash other people into joining their community which is so strange like it's not a cult bro
i 100% agree with your call me by your name review!! i don’t understand why the book is so glorified and revered in all honesty but to each their own 😅
only just started watching but omg i am so glad you did not like call me by your name. it's so weird to see this really uncomfortable icky age gap being praised and romanticised Especially considering the awful groundless accusations lgbt folk have had to always deal with their entire existence.. no thanks.
To be fair, liking or disliking a book and being uncomfortable reading about certain topics is entirely up to the reader and obviously can't be discussed, but I wouldn't throw the book down into the flames. It's really a lot of the fans who are doing all the romanticizing and praising of the weird age gap, but not the book itself. Even if this book shouldn't have been crowned with this misplaced aura/popularity, the narrative elements brought into these pages are the everyday lives of so many queer people around us, especially gay men, and are sadly key to much of our upbringing. The relationship is manipulative and unequal, sure, but just like in real life. The book is never about a transcendental love-story between two soulmates, but only about the changes and experiences a 17-year-old goes through during a summer full of discoveries. The good and the bad. It's really only Elio's point of view, and there's a lot of wrongs and alterations in the mind of a 17-year-old boy. We're not here to condemn the age gap or any of the character’s values because that's not why the book is interesting/important. And seeing how this coming of age story has been sold as a great gay romance is what really gave the ick to new readers imo.
Soooooo pleased to hear someone point out the issues with call me by your name… also DNFd at the same point… love your vids and your vibe 🌞
I didn't read Call me by your Name but I watched the movie and I also didn't like it... maybe the movie is just that bad (someone who has read the book will have to tell me how the two compare) but I just didn't like the dynamic AT ALL. The age gap felt really weird to me.
Malibu rising, on the other hand, I LOVED!
I felt the same way about Call Me by Your Name movie. The power imbalance is inevitable with a big age gap like that, especially when one party is still a teenager.
New subscriber here. Your book content with the whispering and tapping is just glorious. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much! And welcome :)
I am finishing The Dog of the North now. I’m really enjoying it! Your description is perfect.
i choked when i looked at the number of subscribers because i was almost sure you were at the 100k mark or close to it. you need more recognition and i hope people start giving it to you because you deserve it, you’re honestly one of my favorite youtubers 🩷
Haha thank you! You're too sweet ♥️
Hey Fleur, I can hear you’re Dutch but your English is REALLY good 👌🏼👌🏼 always LOVE your book video’s ☺️
The quote you read from Siddhartha convinced me that I do in fact want to read it because I’ve been skeptical and back and forth about it. Thank you! I loved the video❤️
I’m about 185 pages into “The Bell Jar”, which for the most part is very interesting and beautifully written (even though it’s quite sad). It has some casual racism for the time which is a bit distracting , but it’s one of those classics I wanted to catch up with. Might read “Great Expectations” next!! But lots of new recommendations from this video, thank you! 😄love book content!!
yess, i read the bell jar as well and gave it 2 stars. the racism caught me off guard and ruined it for me.. :(
@@marie..508 yeah it sours an otherwise impactful book
I feel you! I read for the same reason, but it made me SO sad that I didn't enjoy it. Hope you'll have a slightly better experience.
@@ASMRfleur I finished it. It was interesting but yeah, some flaws that keep it from being truly great. Onto the next book!!
I also love Call Me By Your Name, the movie, and dnf'd the book a couple of years ago. I'm going to give it another try this summer I think, just because I'm curious. Thanks for another lovely video!
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Hi, Fleur! I love your book content. Even though the books you read are very different from those I usually pick up, it gives a relaxing feeling hearing someone talk about their reads, and it motivates me to read more.
Love this! Thank you!
31:05 If I remember correctly Warren the drummer from Daisy Jones & the Six was mentioned. I believe he got naked in the pool or something, even his wife was there I think, but I could be wrong. Anyway I agree with you There’s something about TJR’s writing that is just sort of addictive.
This video also reminded me I actually read Siddhartha ages ago along with Demian by the same author and it was such a great a book, if you liked Siddharta, I would say Demian is worth a read too. I don’t remember much about Siddharta because as a young teen a lot went over my head and I didn’t love it but I should probably give it a reread.
End of my rant, I live for your book content ✨
I loved the rant ❤️
I don't read much, but there's one series of books that's had me gripped for nearly 20 years. If you haven't heard of the disk world series by the late great Terry Pratchett you should give it a read. The writing is really intelligent and mixes fantasy with comedy, among other things. If you decide to give it a look I'd love to hear what you think, good or bad.
Can you make a video for people who is learning English and want to read books in English like me. I want to read novels but I don't know which ones have like B1-B2 level English. 💓
Bought the first one immediately. Audio… very well written/read. Never thought… but like your opinion.we’ll see…. Like flies to a window
highkey wish i could get into reading just so i could more actively engaged in these :')
OH YEAH AUDIBLE, listening to books, i _can_ do
it's soooooo convenient honestly - also pretty much all the classics are available for free. life changer
My morning walks turned into meditative strolls on which I’m taking so many notes and creating to-read lists while waking up gently by listening to your soothing voice.
yess did not like call me by your name at all. while I was watching the movie for the first time, it personally felt more of like a coming of age story from elio's perspective and not a full on romance (I was also very much captivated by the cinematography and focused on the artistic side). for me, elio was having a teenage crush and oliver was exploiting it. but it become wayy more disturbing in the book and it totally does not help that the author said some real sketchy and disturbing shit. second book 'find me' is even worse, i could not get through even the half of it and dropped it few years back.
it also totally might be bc I read it translated, but I do not think it was that good artistically
Ahh Fleur, you seem like such a lovely person 🥰 just one of those genuinely chill and friendly people who doesn’t judge anyone, I love it ❤
Thank you so much! Big compliment :)
I've watched several of your videos & really enjoyed your content. You have an intriguing mind. I like the content & your perspectives on the books, but I struggled to hear your words over the tapping. Maybe it's just me. Thanks for doing asmr
You have a clean, elegant voice!
Thank you so much! I'll keep this in mind ♥️
Very nice video ❤❤❤
Yayy the Asmr queen returned! 🩷
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Maggie O' Farrell's books are amazing. Definitely worth checking out.
I‘m glad I found your channel. Love your videos and your lovely way ❤
oliver was 24 when elio was 17, which is a bit better but still doesn't take away the fact that the age gap is definitely off-putting :/
if you still enjoyed the prose, you should try reading other books from andre aciman! enigma variations is really good
not even kidding when i say i made a goodreads the other day mostly just to follow you and your book progress/recs lol! Will forever love these monthly book videos or any book video you make for that matter🫶🏼 i love the variety of books you read and that you really try to explore, i’m basically all Romance/ RomCom but i really want to try and get into more classics and fiction but nothing ever keeps my interest unless it has at least some romance in it lmao, are there any books that you recommend that is a good gateway to classics/literary fiction that I could get into (romance or not:)!
ALSO:📚📚📚would love a bookshelf tour
Can I just say I'm loving reading your comments, truly. Thank you ❤️
Hi flluer I love your videos
I love book videos ❤
I keep meaning to comment but i keep falling asleep!! Books and such a soft voice?? Perfect! Thank you thank you!!!
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I read CMBYN five years or so ago when I was ~21 and when I was that age the gap didn't really stand out to me; currently I know I would be put off by it. I still recollect the prose being lovely and frankly the queer lust was very realistic but I really think the gap undermines that beauty and perpetuates some lingering issues in the gay community. Thanks for another lovely video! I always enjoy seeing your updates on GR :) 📚 📚 📚 📚
for a daisy jones reference in malibu rising, at the beginning it’s said that warren rhodes and lisa swam naked in the pool at nina’s 1980 end of summer party!
There is a Malibu Rising & Daisy Jones crossover: Mick Riva was at one of the parties that Daisy held!
your description of lolly willowes reminded me a bit of the grace year by kim liggett. it’s a dystopian book with a feminist message and a good mystery as well as great action sequences. highly recommend!!
Yay really love the the June reads 📚 😍
Good to see you lovely lady!❤❤❤
The book shelf you put together yourself is just SO SO SO BEAUTIFUL ❤❤❤❤❤
idk if anyone has mentioned this yet…. but i’m pretty sure mick is in daisy jones too. i think he’s at one of the parties with daisy.
Love any book content, appreciate you sharing the love starting the tag too 😊 Just added you on Goodreads, excited to see what you're reading. I've been a science fiction and biography reader but I'm starting to try and read more romance.
Siddhartha is such a wonderful novel, easy and quick to read whenever you need to remind yourself of the importance of taking a moment and reflecting.
You remind me of Emily Van Camp literally the same voice and smile 😮😇
Can you please read. on rotation by shirlene Obuobi. I'd love to see your opioin on it!!
I was living with some very controlling people for a while and your videos brought me so much comfort. Thank you
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I need to read Meet Me at the Lake! I’m need of a beachy summer read 😌
Omg you're so beautiful!
Do you read any manga if you do would ya do a manga reading videos
I just found your channel and you have the most soothing voice! I may have binged watched all your videos already. 😅 I can't wait for more videos😍
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I waited the entire day to lay on my bed and listen to this video.
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So nice to find your channel! Finally something different! I really got tired of doing my make-up ASMR of doing my nails ASMR of showing off my clothes ASMR ect...much love from Greece!It's a rather hot night tonight and your video is very helpful! Thank you!
i’m definitely gonna have to get a carley fortune brooke at some point!!! can’t pass up some good summer romance 🫶🏻
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