totally. i think culture forces people to suppress their non-assigned gender characteristics. as we normalize both energies being expressed and embraced, whatever body you inhabit, I think we will celebrate humanity in a new way and probably heal many of the wounds caused by dominant patriarchal culture.
Hey there! We discussed about gun laws in America yesterday and I found your video. Your story is pretty interesting, because it shows that some people might identify themselves as transgender only based on cultural stereotypes. That's a huge problem imo. Maybe there could be different possible transgender types. There are people who feel as a transgender since they're kids and people who choose this decision as an adult, some are more influenced by their society and others by their own body. One of my other thoughts was that nowadays more people (who struggle with themselves or don't feel attractive/ satisfied enough compared to their stereotype) choose to be transgender to justify themselves why they don't fit in with their sex - instead of just not caring about gender roles and living their life as an individual, not as a specific gender. I believe that the actual hype around transgender isn't healthy at all and it could be "abused" by people who want attention and/or acceptance. I don't want to question anybodys physical/mental condition but it makes me wondering how many transgender people could accept their sex and gender if our society would pay less heed to stereotypes. I remember a thought experiment about whether or not transgender people would like to take a pill that could give them inner peace for the rest of their life so they can accept their own sex. If people prefer the pill... Would that mean they suffer more from the inside? And if they don't take the pill it's based on stereotypes? That's a little bit confusing but I asked my friend who is a transgender woman and she said she wouldn't take the pill _even_ if it was at a time where you couldn't get hormonal/sex reversal (like 100 years ago). Another thing I'm worried about: what is the whole concept of transgender? If only 100 years ago you weren't even able to get your sex and hormones changed (which is the standard "therapy") is it a viable thing or trend? It sounds so far from reality that this sex reversal the main solution for this disharmony. So where does this problem start (based on individuals)? In the head or in the body? Is sex wrong or is gender wrong? Is the transgender feeling only a followup because the body is wrong or is the feeling itself a problem/illness/followup of social influences? Is it just because we have nothing else to care about? I'm not sure but I think western cultures getting more and more hypersensitive (f.e. individual pronounces). I don't have a problem with transgender people as long as they don't come up with things like "doctors are sexists if they assume my sex or gender" 😅
I remember you! :) Yes, I think with all the current hype around trangenderism, many people are treating it as the newest fashion fad, and when it comes to sexuality and gender one can pretend to be something else, for example pretend to be transgender just to be considered unique, and also yes I agree with you it can also be a convenient out to not facing your truth whether it fits into stereotypical masculine/feminine or not. And to your latter paragraphs, while cross-dressing has been a thing since the beginning of time, are these actually trans identities? And what definies it as such? You questions about the distinctions between gender and sex, gender in the head or the body, and more, we still don't know I don't think. Your pill thought experiment is hotly debated in the LGBT+ community. Milo Yiannopoulous has gone on the record in an interview saying if he could 'cure' his homosexuality and take something to guarantee his children don't turn out gay either, he would definitely. But then there are other big gay youtubers who would disagree. Then there's the controversial studies of what if scientists find out a way to prevent homosexuality, like they tell parents don't do x y z and you won't have a gay baby, and/or they do a scan while the mom is pregnant and say 'uh oh your child is gay, would you like to abort?' What then? These are ethics questions. And honestly I really can't even say myself if I would take the 'gay cure' pill or not. It's a close call, some of my worst experiences, but also some of my best, have been directly or indirectly due to my being gay. Double-edged sword for sure. Man I love people but we're complicated!!
No, no body dysphonia at all. I can't decide if I want long or short hair, that's it. I think for some people, their body is integral to their identity, which is why they might go for altering surgeries and hormones and the like, but I quite like my male body even though it houses a female spirit. Sorry for the late reply!
ideally i want to be loved for who i am and my body is part of that. i don't want to have to rely on hormones and extra stuff being something else to attract a man. but dating as a feminine guy is hard, not sure if transitioning would make things easier or harder. what do you think?? about the possibility of ending up alone vs. as a straight transwoman?
Sorry for my late reply. I don't want to fall into the stereotypical role of super feminine 'twink' or super masculine hairy 'bear', which is often how I see gay men portraying themselves, so I get the difficulties because I want to just be me, which I feel is not as feminine as the hyper-feminine guys, but of course I'm definitely not masculine either. We are the ones who are in between, which makes it a little bit tricky. As for transitioning, just note that it's an irreversible decision once you get into body alterations. Socially speaking, like clothes and pronouns are fine to test out, but transitioning is forever, you can't go back. I never took that route because something inside me said I would regret it, and God would have given me a female body if that's what I was destined to have. (I'm a spiritual person not religious but the word God resonantes with me). Those are my own personal beliefs only though.
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totally. i think culture forces people to suppress their non-assigned gender characteristics. as we normalize both energies being expressed and embraced, whatever body you inhabit, I think we will celebrate humanity in a new way and probably heal many of the wounds caused by dominant patriarchal culture.
Agree!
Hey there! We discussed about gun laws in America yesterday and I found your video.
Your story is pretty interesting, because it shows that some people might identify themselves as transgender only based on cultural stereotypes. That's a huge problem imo.
Maybe there could be different possible transgender types. There are people who feel as a transgender since they're kids and people who choose this decision as an adult, some are more influenced by their society and others by their own body. One of my other thoughts was that nowadays more people (who struggle with themselves or don't feel attractive/ satisfied enough compared to their stereotype) choose to be transgender to justify themselves why they don't fit in with their sex - instead of just not caring about gender roles and living their life as an individual, not as a specific gender. I believe that the actual hype around transgender isn't healthy at all and it could be "abused" by people who want attention and/or acceptance. I don't want to question anybodys physical/mental condition but it makes me wondering how many transgender people could accept their sex and gender if our society would pay less heed to stereotypes.
I remember a thought experiment about whether or not transgender people would like to take a pill that could give them inner peace for the rest of their life so they can accept their own sex. If people prefer the pill... Would that mean they suffer more from the inside? And if they don't take the pill it's based on stereotypes?
That's a little bit confusing but I asked my friend who is a transgender woman and she said she wouldn't take the pill _even_ if it was at a time where you couldn't get hormonal/sex reversal (like 100 years ago).
Another thing I'm worried about: what is the whole concept of transgender? If only 100 years ago you weren't even able to get your sex and hormones changed (which is the standard "therapy") is it a viable thing or trend? It sounds so far from reality that this sex reversal the main solution for this disharmony.
So where does this problem start (based on individuals)? In the head or in the body? Is sex wrong or is gender wrong? Is the transgender feeling only a followup because the body is wrong or is the feeling itself a problem/illness/followup of social influences? Is it just because we have nothing else to care about?
I'm not sure but I think western cultures getting more and more hypersensitive (f.e. individual pronounces). I don't have a problem with transgender people as long as they don't come up with things like "doctors are sexists if they assume my sex or gender" 😅
I remember you! :)
Yes, I think with all the current hype around trangenderism, many people are treating it as the newest fashion fad, and when it comes to sexuality and gender one can pretend to be something else, for example pretend to be transgender just to be considered unique, and also yes I agree with you it can also be a convenient out to not facing your truth whether it fits into stereotypical masculine/feminine or not. And to your latter paragraphs, while cross-dressing has been a thing since the beginning of time, are these actually trans identities? And what definies it as such? You questions about the distinctions between gender and sex, gender in the head or the body, and more, we still don't know I don't think.
Your pill thought experiment is hotly debated in the LGBT+ community. Milo Yiannopoulous has gone on the record in an interview saying if he could 'cure' his homosexuality and take something to guarantee his children don't turn out gay either, he would definitely. But then there are other big gay youtubers who would disagree. Then there's the controversial studies of what if scientists find out a way to prevent homosexuality, like they tell parents don't do x y z and you won't have a gay baby, and/or they do a scan while the mom is pregnant and say 'uh oh your child is gay, would you like to abort?' What then? These are ethics questions.
And honestly I really can't even say myself if I would take the 'gay cure' pill or not. It's a close call, some of my worst experiences, but also some of my best, have been directly or indirectly due to my being gay. Double-edged sword for sure.
Man I love people but we're complicated!!
I relate a lot... not sure what to do
Everyone is different, I wish you well!
Did you ever experienced body dysphoria during your puberty? Beard/moustache/body hair growth, genitalia, etc?
No, no body dysphonia at all. I can't decide if I want long or short hair, that's it. I think for some people, their body is integral to their identity, which is why they might go for altering surgeries and hormones and the like, but I quite like my male body even though it houses a female spirit. Sorry for the late reply!
ideally i want to be loved for who i am and my body is part of that. i don't want to have to rely on hormones and extra stuff being something else to attract a man. but dating as a feminine guy is hard, not sure if transitioning would make things easier or harder. what do you think?? about the possibility of ending up alone vs. as a straight transwoman?
Sorry for my late reply. I don't want to fall into the stereotypical role of super feminine 'twink' or super masculine hairy 'bear', which is often how I see gay men portraying themselves, so I get the difficulties because I want to just be me, which I feel is not as feminine as the hyper-feminine guys, but of course I'm definitely not masculine either. We are the ones who are in between, which makes it a little bit tricky. As for transitioning, just note that it's an irreversible decision once you get into body alterations. Socially speaking, like clothes and pronouns are fine to test out, but transitioning is forever, you can't go back. I never took that route because something inside me said I would regret it, and God would have given me a female body if that's what I was destined to have. (I'm a spiritual person not religious but the word God resonantes with me). Those are my own personal beliefs only though.