Thank you for this! Just knowing about attachment styles has been A LOT of help for me. I initially didn't realize that my overthinking, being clingy, and finally lashing out was caused by me being Anxious. What helped me get through it was really to just understand his need of independence and autonomy was not in anyway a sign of him losing his love for me. That's just how he spends his time by himself. With that, I've been taking time for myself also. Hanging out with friends and family and finding some new hobbies. Journal, scrapbooks, and making love notes is a lot of fun despite not being that artistic. I also now avoid telling others about my relationship problems and just go straight to him to discuss them. "It takes two to tango." really is the best comparison. All these were possible because he was also willing to do his part as the Avoidant. If ever he was not willing to pull his own weight, I was secure enough to understand not to force the relationship. Our needs are important and if they won't be met, staying together would be unfair to the both of us.
It's very strange, but I've had an anxious attachment style in several close relationships throughout my life, but not in all close relationships. The ones I had the anxious attachment with were definitely more on the narcissistic side and didn't really care about my needs much, even though I freely shared them. I didn't listen to my gut feelings as much back then. I do now, but I don't want any romantic relationship until I feel less broken, which at this point might be never again, and that's actually okay with me.
You are so good. This video is beyond helpful. Thank you.❤️🌈. I found it interesting that attachment styles could evolve and that there is hope for my relationship with a DA.
Thank you for commenting and welcome to the channel! Keep an eye out as the next video is going to focus on breaking the anxious-avoidant cycle. Sounds like it might be a good one for you 😊
I had a great relationship with my parents but was picked on a little by peers for whatever reason. But, I had not displayed anxious until I met my avoidant BF. Prior to that, anxiety has not presented itself. Hmmm ...
Thank you so much for commenting. I will definitely bear this in mind for a future video. In the meantime, anyone with a fearful avoidant style (that is someone who experiences both anxious and avoidant attachment patterns) will probably find this video on avoidant attachment helpful to watch too: th-cam.com/video/ZvCdJYXgHNA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=sBQryRGvZ8ZtGyyL
So would overcoming a fear of abandonment/rejection have someone overcome anxious attachment and become a securely attached person? I like the tips experts tend to give to anxious attached people but beyond just managing symptoms, how about actually heaping the root cause of the anxious attachment? I don’t see any info on this anywhere yet.
✨️Oh my gosh! THIS IS exactely what I needed! Thank you so much 🙏🙏🙏🫶! Really grateful! 💫
So happy to hear this ❤️
Thank you I appreciate it 🙏 Here's also another video idea "how to deal with a moment of fear of abandonment"
Thank you for commenting and an excellent video idea ❤️
Thank you for this! Just knowing about attachment styles has been A LOT of help for me.
I initially didn't realize that my overthinking, being clingy, and finally lashing out was caused by me being Anxious. What helped me get through it was really to just understand his need of independence and autonomy was not in anyway a sign of him losing his love for me. That's just how he spends his time by himself. With that, I've been taking time for myself also. Hanging out with friends and family and finding some new hobbies. Journal, scrapbooks, and making love notes is a lot of fun despite not being that artistic.
I also now avoid telling others about my relationship problems and just go straight to him to discuss them.
"It takes two to tango." really is the best comparison. All these were possible because he was also willing to do his part as the Avoidant. If ever he was not willing to pull his own weight, I was secure enough to understand not to force the relationship. Our needs are important and if they won't be met, staying together would be unfair to the both of us.
So pleased for you ❤️
It's very strange, but I've had an anxious attachment style in several close relationships throughout my life, but not in all close relationships. The ones I had the anxious attachment with were definitely more on the narcissistic side and didn't really care about my needs much, even though I freely shared them. I didn't listen to my gut feelings as much back then. I do now, but I don't want any romantic relationship until I feel less broken, which at this point might be never again, and that's actually okay with me.
Thanks for sharing this information with us ❤
You're welcome! 🙏
Thank you for commenting ❤️
You are so good. This video is beyond helpful. Thank you.❤️🌈. I found it interesting that attachment styles could evolve and that there is hope for my relationship with a DA.
Thank you for commenting and welcome to the channel! Keep an eye out as the next video is going to focus on breaking the anxious-avoidant cycle. Sounds like it might be a good one for you 😊
Love the finger puppets!
I had a great relationship with my parents but was picked on a little by peers for whatever reason. But, I had not displayed anxious until I met my avoidant BF. Prior to that, anxiety has not presented itself. Hmmm ...
Very helpful video! 💝 Please do a similar video on Fearful Avoidant ✨
Thank you so much for commenting. I will definitely bear this in mind for a future video. In the meantime, anyone with a fearful avoidant style (that is someone who experiences both anxious and avoidant attachment patterns) will probably find this video on avoidant attachment helpful to watch too: th-cam.com/video/ZvCdJYXgHNA/w-d-xo.htmlsi=sBQryRGvZ8ZtGyyL
❤❤❤❤ what can I say? I loved that 🎉❤
Thank you - glad you enjoyed it ❤️
So would overcoming a fear of abandonment/rejection have someone overcome anxious attachment and become a securely attached person?
I like the tips experts tend to give to anxious attached people but beyond just managing symptoms, how about actually heaping the root cause of the anxious attachment? I don’t see any info on this anywhere yet.
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@@EvangelineRudolph thank you ❤️