I read something once which says that ' by the time you reach the age of thirty, your face shows the thoughts and attitudes that you've had.' ( something like that !) However, i only came across this in my thirties ! I think that there is something in this, because i changed my thinking and behaviour afterwards, and after some time i am convinced that this had some 'physical' effect on my appearance. Certainly your whole 'demeanour' can be changed, the full body, your movements ( even when not moving, your stance ) can be subconsciously picked up by others.
Thank you for making this video. you summed up my insecurities really well. i need to become a bit more arrogant and stop censoring myself. love from Germany
Subscribed because you convinced me with your passion! It's really obvious that you practice what you preach i.e. you're already applying what you're advising us to do in the video to yourself. I can see the passion and I don't know your motivations but that was some power right there keep doing this! Didn't like the computer/programming analogy because I'm doing programming for a living (not a huge fan lol) but other than that solid advice!
yo Emma on an unrelated note, this is way more helpful then any advice I get/videos I see from guys about this topic. They all talk about 'going to the gym, and 'being more productive' and 'prioritzing making money over trying to get women'. Like seriously why are guys sooo flat in their way of thinking, they're not helping me with my problems at all. But this video really hit home for me, thank you
the video offers simplistic advice based on oversimplified psychology and misinterpretations of real-life examples. while the message of self-empowerment and positive thinking has some merit, the video's claims about the power of mindset are exaggerated and lack scientific basis. it's important to recognize the limitations of mindset-based approaches and to acknowledge the influence of external factors and the complexities of human experience. the video's advice should not be taken as a substitute for professional mental health support or practical action to address real-world problems.
Your content is great. You're going to have 100,000 subscribers one day. I hope TH-cam pushes your content to more people. By the way, I like your statement about how we're like computers and we're running "code" as daily habits. There's a great piece of writing called "Write Your Own Code" I'd like to share, that reinforces your message: ""Write your own code" excerpt by Genesis Breyer P-Orridge: Identity is your only possession As a being possessed, be possessed by your self Not any self Not someone else's self Not an inherited self Not a meaningless, hopefully friendly, popular, self But, be any self you truly wish Every self you ever dreamed of Every self you ever dreamed of STOP! STOP IT! Stop being possessed by characters written by others DELETE! DELETE! Delete behavioral software written by others WRITE your own code And, rebuild yourself From the found Up"
I always thought creating a pedestal for yourself is selfish and very arrogant. And I should love and live for something other than myself, I chose that to be a girl. But I was wrong.
I too thought that, right through my twenties. I wanted to be seen as 'humble' and other related 'nice guy' traits, as this is how i was brought up. I never received any interest from women, and i think that this was part of the problem. When i changed my behaviour and thoughts for something more of the 'opposite' way, things improved for me. It took me some time and effort and practice to do things differently, and it didn't feel right at first, but when it got me results, i felt much happier about it.
@@absalommax I think that in some ways, society likes to 'put forward/advertise/promote ? certain behaviours, attitudes and traits because they are seen as 'nice', or civilized, ways that people should be, the 'Ideal'. Whilst at the same time knowing that these ideas are a 'fantasy', they're for 'utopia' ! ( we like to think that we are more civilized than we actually are ?) This is what i found with myself.
@@adrianparker-e9f So true, I wanted the utopia to be real, so I acted like a guy from it. Now the nice guy character traits is so deeply in me that its too hard to change , but the good thing is Im just 21 so I guess I have time?
I do think your factual statements are accurate, but I have mixed feelings about your conclusion. Our values are from within, and as that is true, when we unfairly denigrate ourselves, we should do our best to stop it. But that doesn't mean we should put ourselves on a pedestal. We should also avoid putting ourselves in a dreamworld where our environment can't force us to acknowledge that we are putting ourselves on a pedestal. That doesn't mean we can trust our environment, as if it puts us on a pedestal, we shouldn't internalize it either. On principle, I'd say that to some degree we should let our environments shape our perceptions of the world since that is how humans are made to operate, (wether made by God or evolution). If we reject our nature, we don't know what the consequences might be. Here's a short hypothetical that shows the dangers of rejecting our nature: Imagine if after realizing that we are sheep who mimic our fellow sheep, we tried to stop being sheep? Mimicking our fellow sheep is literally how we humans share information, (and by proxy language), to our kids. I'd even argue that if we stopped being sheep who mimic others, we wouldn't be able to share the culture that our forefathers have been cultivating for thousands of years. On the other hand, I'm pretty certain that humans weren't made for our urban cities, but for nature. If we can reverse some of the negatives of having an environment separated from nature, (there are studies that show that more contact with nature makes you happier), maybe it's healthier to convince our brains that our environment is more natural, then it actually is, (like a forest, or mountain, or desert, grass plain). When I'm at the park, I like to play pretend like a kid and imagine that beyond the small park of a few thousand trees, there is a wilderness with millions of them, and the only buildings are the few I can see. I think playing pretend like a kid is incredibly healthy, and in a way you're taping into that. I think imagining our environment as better then it actually is a valuable quirk that people often lose when they grow up.
This video is funny. I have always had unshakable self-confidence as far back as I can remember, and it's actually precisely why I do not care about being attractive. I don't know why people idolize it so much, it's a trait like any other - sometimes it's good, and sometimes it's bad. It's very ironic that you talk about removing a power from your crush that you have given to them, while simultaneously doing that same exact thing to self-confidence and being attractive. You have made these 2 things your crush, can you see that? You're thinking they are more valuable than they actually are. I also want to remark on avoiding suffering. Suffering is not bad, there is a reason it exists. It's like pain, it serves a function. There are actually people who have a medical condition where they cannot feel pain, and they have very hard lives, because they cannot detect damage to their bodies, so they have to be paranoid about everything, and easily die from various undetected causes. Suffering is like that, too. You think you want to remove suffering, but you don't, because it has several important functions. You need it to understand which situations are not good, and which are good. And, sometimes, it can be so that your entire life is not good, and then your entire life will be suffering. It's not the suffering you want to get rid of, you want to change the situation that causes it.
I have paranoid schizophrenia I can't change what goes on in my mind but I can choose not to believe any of it. I know who I am confidently but. I have a lot of pain but I embrace it. With the help of jehovah
Your sense of control over emotions....is not incapsulating the actual reality. For example, regarding validation......we all need it or needed it at some stage in our lifes whether we want to admit it or not....certain things are ingrained in our biochemically functioning system...its not up to us to choose feelings.....for example there are no human beings that have been rejected all their lives that can suddenly choose to be so happy out of nowhere.....you are just thinking wishfully....
I appreciate this video but this is a bit out of touch with objective reality. Basically you need to be delusionally confident and completely ignore flaws? Way easier said than done with you’ve got severe trauma and body dysmorphia. Those are real mental health conditions I can’t just chose to unhave if I want to…
thanks you for putting it out there really needed this one...
Yay, I'm so so glad!
@@EmmaKarolyna you've got a new sub! If you someday decide to do a podcast please count me in
I read something once which says that ' by the time you reach the age of thirty, your face shows the thoughts and attitudes that you've had.' ( something like that !) However, i only came across this in my thirties ! I think that there is something in this, because i changed my thinking and behaviour afterwards, and after some time i am convinced that this had some 'physical' effect on my appearance. Certainly your whole 'demeanour' can be changed, the full body, your movements ( even when not moving, your stance ) can be subconsciously picked up by others.
I love this, thank you for sharing.
actually it is 40
Thank you for making this video. you summed up my insecurities really well. i need to become a bit more arrogant and stop censoring myself. love from Germany
This was very good! You are wise beyond your years. Thank you for posting this.
and thank you for being here! :)
Subscribed because you convinced me with your passion! It's really obvious that you practice what you preach i.e. you're already applying what you're advising us to do in the video to yourself. I can see the passion and I don't know your motivations but that was some power right there keep doing this! Didn't like the computer/programming analogy because I'm doing programming for a living (not a huge fan lol) but other than that solid advice!
I really appreciate this, thanks for watching and for the kind words! Hahah sorry that analogy hit a little too close to home
yo Emma on an unrelated note, this is way more helpful then any advice I get/videos I see from guys about this topic. They all talk about 'going to the gym, and 'being more productive' and 'prioritzing making money over trying to get women'. Like seriously why are guys sooo flat in their way of thinking, they're not helping me with my problems at all. But this video really hit home for me, thank you
Thank you for the kinds words, I'm really happy this resonated with you
Thank you for this video. Hope your channel gets the attention it deserves
This video is so great I rly needs this!! How can i hardwire my brain to become better though instead of seeing my flaws tho?
Thanks for watching
Lustful thoughts are really bad as well, people pick up on this and your behaviour will be seen as 'creepy'
this is so helpful, emma
thank you:)
She called me my love 😀😃
the video offers simplistic advice based on oversimplified psychology and misinterpretations of real-life examples. while the message of self-empowerment and positive thinking has some merit, the video's claims about the power of mindset are exaggerated and lack scientific basis. it's important to recognize the limitations of mindset-based approaches and to acknowledge the influence of external factors and the complexities of human experience. the video's advice should not be taken as a substitute for professional mental health support or practical action to address real-world problems.
Your content is great. You're going to have 100,000 subscribers one day. I hope TH-cam pushes your content to more people. By the way, I like your statement about how we're like computers and we're running "code" as daily habits. There's a great piece of writing called "Write Your Own Code" I'd like to share, that reinforces your message: ""Write your own code" excerpt by Genesis Breyer P-Orridge:
Identity is your only possession
As a being possessed, be possessed by your self
Not any self
Not someone else's self
Not an inherited self
Not a meaningless, hopefully friendly, popular, self
But, be any self you truly wish
Every self you ever dreamed of
Every self you ever dreamed of
STOP!
STOP IT!
Stop being possessed by characters written by others
DELETE!
DELETE!
Delete behavioral software written by others
WRITE your own code
And, rebuild yourself
From the found
Up"
You're awesome for sharing this-- I love it :) thanks for being here
Perfect!!! Thank You, You!!!
Thank you!
I always thought creating a pedestal for yourself is selfish and very arrogant. And I should love and live for something other than myself, I chose that to be a girl. But I was wrong.
I too thought that, right through my twenties. I wanted to be seen as 'humble' and other related 'nice guy' traits, as this is how i was brought up. I never received any interest from women, and i think that this was part of the problem. When i changed my behaviour and thoughts for something more of the 'opposite' way, things improved for me. It took me some time and effort and practice to do things differently, and it didn't feel right at first, but when it got me results, i felt much happier about it.
@@adrianparker-e9f hey thanks adrian
im waiting for @EmmaKarolyna s reply too. For this
@@absalommax I think that in some ways, society likes to 'put forward/advertise/promote ? certain behaviours, attitudes and traits because they are seen as 'nice', or civilized, ways that people should be, the 'Ideal'. Whilst at the same time knowing that these ideas are a 'fantasy', they're for 'utopia' ! ( we like to think that we are more civilized than we actually are ?) This is what i found with myself.
@@adrianparker-e9f So true, I wanted the utopia to be real, so I acted like a guy from it. Now the nice guy character traits is so deeply in me that its too hard to change , but the good thing is Im just 21 so I guess I have time?
❤
You're so sweet and you remind me of Elisha Long somehow
Thank you for this, really.
I do think your factual statements are accurate, but I have mixed feelings about your conclusion.
Our values are from within, and as that is true, when we unfairly denigrate ourselves, we should do our best to stop it. But that doesn't mean we should put ourselves on a pedestal. We should also avoid putting ourselves in a dreamworld where our environment can't force us to acknowledge that we are putting ourselves on a pedestal. That doesn't mean we can trust our environment, as if it puts us on a pedestal, we shouldn't internalize it either.
On principle, I'd say that to some degree we should let our environments shape our perceptions of the world since that is how humans are made to operate, (wether made by God or evolution). If we reject our nature, we don't know what the consequences might be.
Here's a short hypothetical that shows the dangers of rejecting our nature:
Imagine if after realizing that we are sheep who mimic our fellow sheep, we tried to stop being sheep? Mimicking our fellow sheep is literally how we humans share information, (and by proxy language), to our kids. I'd even argue that if we stopped being sheep who mimic others, we wouldn't be able to share the culture that our forefathers have been cultivating for thousands of years.
On the other hand, I'm pretty certain that humans weren't made for our urban cities, but for nature.
If we can reverse some of the negatives of having an environment separated from nature, (there are studies that show that more contact with nature makes you happier), maybe it's healthier to convince our brains that our environment is more natural, then it actually is, (like a forest, or mountain, or desert, grass plain). When I'm at the park, I like to play pretend like a kid and imagine that beyond the small park of a few thousand trees, there is a wilderness with millions of them, and the only buildings are the few I can see. I think playing pretend like a kid is incredibly healthy, and in a way you're taping into that. I think imagining our environment as better then it actually is a valuable quirk that people often lose when they grow up.
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Work in progress
you explained it very well
This video is funny. I have always had unshakable self-confidence as far back as I can remember, and it's actually precisely why I do not care about being attractive. I don't know why people idolize it so much, it's a trait like any other - sometimes it's good, and sometimes it's bad. It's very ironic that you talk about removing a power from your crush that you have given to them, while simultaneously doing that same exact thing to self-confidence and being attractive. You have made these 2 things your crush, can you see that? You're thinking they are more valuable than they actually are.
I also want to remark on avoiding suffering. Suffering is not bad, there is a reason it exists. It's like pain, it serves a function. There are actually people who have a medical condition where they cannot feel pain, and they have very hard lives, because they cannot detect damage to their bodies, so they have to be paranoid about everything, and easily die from various undetected causes. Suffering is like that, too. You think you want to remove suffering, but you don't, because it has several important functions. You need it to understand which situations are not good, and which are good. And, sometimes, it can be so that your entire life is not good, and then your entire life will be suffering. It's not the suffering you want to get rid of, you want to change the situation that causes it.
I have paranoid schizophrenia I can't change what goes on in my mind but I can choose not to believe any of it. I know who I am confidently but. I have a lot of pain but I embrace it. With the help of jehovah
intresting take at the end of video
It gets very difficult when you surpass age 45 honey
Your sense of control over emotions....is not incapsulating the actual reality. For example, regarding validation......we all need it or needed it at some stage in our lifes whether we want to admit it or not....certain things are ingrained in our biochemically functioning system...its not up to us to choose feelings.....for example there are no human beings that have been rejected all their lives that can suddenly choose to be so happy out of nowhere.....you are just thinking wishfully....
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I appreciate this video but this is a bit out of touch with objective reality.
Basically you need to be delusionally confident and completely ignore flaws?
Way easier said than done with you’ve got severe trauma and body dysmorphia. Those are real mental health conditions I can’t just chose to unhave if I want to…
By the way I’ll add that I’m always actively trying to heal and love myself unconditionally, but it’s so hard.