I'm 33 and a little discouraged but I keep telling myself don't do anything to disrupt God's plan for my life by giving into my own will and just keep trusting and follow Him.
I do agree. I know God is number. But doing life alone with God is still hard having no one to share your vulnerabilities with is soooo tough. Also not having close friends is hard. I am involved in church and community but I am still alone that is what is hard. Yes I adore my time with Gid however it is torture to have this desire to be with someone. I know they will not complete me or make me content. I don't want them to. And frankly I have become so dependent on God alone if there were someone to come along now. I might despise that person. Still that desire is there and I wish it would die.❤
So encouraging, totally could have used this 6 years ago, I had similar thoughts and was always wondering when i was going to meet my future husband, it also warmed my heart how happy you were being single! I’m sure so many single ladies need to hear that it’s POSSIBLE to be happy and be single!! Loved this💛
This is so relevant to my life right now! I have learned such wonderful contentment in myself with Jesus. I don't desire a relationship as strongly as I once did, because God has shown me that I am fully satisfied and more than okay, walking with Jesus for my whole life. It's so freeing!
Thank you so much for posting!! I’m a single and 28 and man oh man do I get discouraged as a Christian!! I will think “God know many more dating apps do I have to keep spending my money on? God, please let him be at this coffee shop! God maybe he’ll be at the grocery store today?” And it’s literally like I’m looking for a lost puppy... But you are so right sister! The best thing to do is remember God is in control. I am happy being single, I always wanted to be a wife but God, you know my needs more than I do. So if there’s any other single women out there, we aren’t alone sisters! ❤️❤️
Wow this video is exactly what I needed. I am in the middle of a season of deep discontentment with my singleness. I was engaged this year and it fell apart weeks before the wedding. While I feel I have healed from the heartbreak of the engagement, I have been left feeling every single thing you have described. My prayer is that I can get to a point of contentment and joy in my current situation, as hard and impossible a task as it sounds. Thank you for this video and your encouraging words ❤️
Love love love this Nastasia! God has definitely been helping me to love and appreciate my season of singleness recently and your videos have been such a big encouragement! 💛
As a man, I find your thoughts and videos helpful and insightful. Also, I completely relate with everything you've said, as a man. It's hard to be at peace and simply serve Jesus in the positions He's placed you in, and to allow Him to do what He's going to do. I have feared and still struggle with all the fears you described here. Tough stuff.
This was really encouraging! I am currently in a time of singleness and I was just talking about this week in a Bible Study I attend weekly. We are currently in 1 Corinthians and this week we were talking about this exact topic. This week has been a great reminder of being content in the season you are in. It isn’t always the easiest thing to be content, but you when you really do give that season to God he gives you the ability to be content where he has you! Thanks for sharing your life and what God has taught you.
Nastasia, I’m tearing up so much watching this video 😭. I’ve been watching your videos so much because you are truly a woman of God. I’m soaking in your advice like a sponge!! Maybe I’ll take a spin class, too 😂💛
This video is so perfect for me today to hear. Thank you God for ALWAYS showing me where I’m at is where I should be and you hear me loud and clear. 🙏💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
I felt this way before I met my husband, I felt like there was no one that I was going to meet.. I was struggling to find someone and forcing it so much.. and little did I know that God was just going to drop him into my life. Through my sister, on a blind date. He is in control. Also, I wish I would have lived more for God during my singleness. Definately evangelizing more would've been good.
Yes it does apply to Christian men as well! There are a lot of single Christian women, more than single Christian men. So you guys should go out there and pursue the girl you like :)
If some of us are called to singleness, could we just ask God to take the desire to be married away? I just feel like if the desire wasn’t there, it wouldn’t hurt as much.
Wow, that's so true. I should never think that Jesus is second best. I want Him to be number one! He is the best that can happen to you and no relationship could ever compare to that.
I feel like I know there are good, respectful Christian guys out there.. but I don’t feel worthy to even date one of them. I have so much stuff to clean up in my life and I don’t want to bring my problems on another person. I feel like I would be more of a burden than a blessing for someone. So I have a strong desire for a man, but I am so insecure that I don’t feel like anyone would want me.
send all your stress and insecurities on God he would help you threw it more than any man can. I would suggest working on your relationship with God more than a guy and have him help you. And he loves you and you'll never be a burden to him and a man who would look at you as one is not who God would want you to be with.
Thank you!!! I’m 39 & struggling to be content in my singleness. This really helped me feel better!! I really would love to be married one day & finding a husband is hard. I’m really trying to work on my relationship with Jesus. I’m Catholic & I once went to Mass & the priest said Jesus loves you more than your spouse or anyone else in Earth. I know one day I’ll have my dream wedding to Jesus in Heaven!! We believe that there is no marriage in Heaven between earthly beings as you are married to Christ!!
Laughing out loud when you were going through your train of thought about singleness, sounded just like me, when I was obsessively thinking I wasn't going to be at the right place at the right time 😂 . So glad I came across your channel!
God is number 1 for me but I want to still be in a relationship where God is #1 for both of us 😭God I’m sorry but please! I don’t feel I’m called to singleness!
This season is painful. I see relationships with a person of the opposite sex, as a model version of our relationship with God but still have God be the main focus. Patience is made,when one grows tired, then Waits. I desire a relationship because I want to love someone the way I love God.
Thank you for making this video. God really spoke through you and I was really empowered by what you said. I am praying God helps me learn to be content in my singleness.
I totally agree with the fact that God is sovereign. But I don’t think it’s correct to say that unless he so ordains a relationship it won’t happen? Cause that might put into peoples minds that when they end up with a bad partner/spouse it’s God’s doing, which will remove responsibility from humans are their own actions.
I don't love being single, but I know that it's the best option for me to live a Christian life. If I date my lust addiction manifests and I sin sexually and become misearble. I like what our recovery book states: "For the single person sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind."
Really getting hopeless here💔😞 Gonna turn 39 in a couple mths and still single. Im a reserved, introvert that has no vices, doesn't go 2 clubs, bars. So very difficult 4 me to meet a great man. Starting to think my husband passed away at a young age☠
Sometimes Being Single, Van Be The Best Thing, If It Helps You Accomplish Gods Purpose!!!! The Wrong Person In Your Life, That You Get Involved With, Out Of "Lonlinrs", Can Be Like Jonah, In The Belly Of The Whale!!!
The years ago, by the time I was twenty years old, I hadn’t drank water in twenty years. I was thristy and desperate for water and yet I looked like anyone else my own age who had plenty of water. I was depressed, broken, and devastated. Do you know how it feels when you don’t have water and you have to watch other people enjoy the water you wished you had? Or when you sit there eating alone and you see other boys indulging in water while you were there all alone? Imagine every night when you are in your room alone without water, you open up your Instagram to see other people having a beautiful life with their water in their post or instagram story and you just sitting there crying all alone?I realized that I couldn’t stay like that anymore, and I was contemplating, but then I gave myself one last chance for another three years to seek water. I have three options. First, beg for water, which I did with no luck. Every time I begged for water, going out everywhere everyday and everytime i met random girls i begged for water and i kept DM random girls through instagram to seek for water but i was rejected and thrown away like trash. When this did not work, my second option was to turn off my feelings. This also did not work because I am a human, not a robot, and every human needs water to survive. So i have no choice but has to go for my last option which is suicide. To end this thirsty and desperation , i have to end me. But yet i still put a little hope , a little hope for that one miracle that somehow someone comes to me and wants to give me that water, a massive pool of water for me. Water in the amount of the ocean that will cleanse my soul and bring me to a new life out of this misery. I will create my own natural spring for myself because I realized that one water is all i need and the only water that i need to save me from suicide. The miracle of water that I have been seeking will come to me before 25 december and I am grateful for the ocean but yet i am more than ready to end this pain. No water means suicide.
You should listen to Emily Wilson, she said that the saying "you'll only meet the one when you're completely happy and no longer want marriage" is a LIE! Lots of women still desired marriage when they met the person, in fact most did. So you don't necessarily have to enjoy this time, just let God handle your hurt and upset and everything you are feeling.
God must know I'm a terrible choice for the single life . I'm at my best when I have a girlfriend to inspire me . God has to be angry and offended because I'm not giving mt love and affection to a woman . When I was in high school. I thought "I have to find the right person in high school, because you can't meet anybody after you graduate from college !" . When I attended my university, I thought "Now I REALLY have to find the right person in high school, because you can't meet anybody after you graduate from college !" . I keep saying "High school is the only chance you'll ever have to find a marriage partner !" . You have to marry the right person before he ( or she ) marries somebody else, has a child, and gets divorced . The single life is no place for a good decent respectable Christian woman . If you don't try out different boyfriends, you'll end up committing adultery . Women who like being single don't like being married . If you make the most of being single, you'll get spoiled by the single life, and you'll resent your husband . God gave women a desire for a man, and He gave men a desire for a woman . I hate being single, God wants me to hate being single, and I want God to want me to hate being single .
Thank you so much for posting!! I’m single and 28 and man oh man do I get discouraged as a Christian!! I will think “God know many more dating apps do I have to keep spending my money on? God, please let him be at this coffee shop! God maybe he’ll be at the grocery store today?” And it’s literally like I’m looking for a lost puppy... But you are so right sister! The best thing to do is remember God is in control. I am happy being single, I always wanted to be a wife but God, you know my needs more than I do. So if there’s any other single women out there, we aren’t alone sisters! ❤️❤️
I'm 33 and a little discouraged but I keep telling myself don't do anything to disrupt God's plan for my life by giving into my own will and just keep trusting and follow Him.
I m recently 30 and there are days I am ok... Others I feel 100% discourage
Yessssss i feel this way too
Yes, Sometimes, Stepping Out Of God's Will, Can Take You Years To Be Restored From...Time We No Longer Have!!!
I do agree. I know God is number. But doing life alone with God is still hard having no one to share your vulnerabilities with is soooo tough. Also not having close friends is hard. I am involved in church and community but I am still alone that is what is hard. Yes I adore my time with Gid however it is torture to have this desire to be with someone. I know they will not complete me or make me content. I don't want them to. And frankly I have become so dependent on God alone if there were someone to come along now. I might despise that person. Still that desire is there and I wish it would die.❤
It’s so amazing how God can use that season and it’s such an important season too
So encouraging, totally could have used this 6 years ago, I had similar thoughts and was always wondering when i was going to meet my future husband, it also warmed my heart how happy you were being single! I’m sure so many single ladies need to hear that it’s POSSIBLE to be happy and be single!! Loved this💛
This is so relevant to my life right now! I have learned such wonderful contentment in myself with Jesus. I don't desire a relationship as strongly as I once did, because God has shown me that I am fully satisfied and more than okay, walking with Jesus for my whole life. It's so freeing!
Thank you so much for posting!! I’m a single and 28 and man oh man do I get discouraged as a Christian!! I will think “God know many more dating apps do I have to keep spending my money on? God, please let him be at this coffee shop! God maybe he’ll be at the grocery store today?” And it’s literally like I’m looking for a lost puppy... But you are so right sister! The best thing to do is remember God is in control. I am happy being single, I always wanted to be a wife but God, you know my needs more than I do. So if there’s any other single women out there, we aren’t alone sisters! ❤️❤️
Thank you for sharing your story including the frustrations and tips that helped.😀🙏
Wow this video is exactly what I needed. I am in the middle of a season of deep discontentment with my singleness. I was engaged this year and it fell apart weeks before the wedding. While I feel I have healed from the heartbreak of the engagement, I have been left feeling every single thing you have described. My prayer is that I can get to a point of contentment and joy in my current situation, as hard and impossible a task as it sounds. Thank you for this video and your encouraging words ❤️
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Love love love this Nastasia! God has definitely been helping me to love and appreciate my season of singleness recently and your videos have been such a big encouragement! 💛
As a man, I find your thoughts and videos helpful and insightful. Also, I completely relate with everything you've said, as a man. It's hard to be at peace and simply serve Jesus in the positions He's placed you in, and to allow Him to do what He's going to do. I have feared and still struggle with all the fears you described here. Tough stuff.
People don't love being single, People use distractions to cope with being single.
This was really encouraging! I am currently in a time of singleness and I was just talking about this week in a Bible Study I attend weekly. We are currently in 1 Corinthians and this week we were talking about this exact topic. This week has been a great reminder of being content in the season you are in. It isn’t always the easiest thing to be content, but you when you really do give that season to God he gives you the ability to be content where he has you! Thanks for sharing your life and what God has taught you.
Welp, I'm probably the only guy watching your videos, but this is so encouraging! I seriously can't tell you how helpful this was been!
Nastasia, I’m tearing up so much watching this video 😭. I’ve been watching your videos so much because you are truly a woman of God. I’m soaking in your advice like a sponge!! Maybe I’ll take a spin class, too 😂💛
This video is so perfect for me today to hear. Thank you God for ALWAYS showing me where I’m at is where I should be and you hear me loud and clear. 🙏💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
I felt this way before I met my husband, I felt like there was no one that I was going to meet.. I was struggling to find someone and forcing it so much.. and little did I know that God was just going to drop him into my life. Through my sister, on a blind date. He is in control. Also, I wish I would have lived more for God during my singleness. Definately evangelizing more would've been good.
It’s hard being single at 27 lol especially since I do desire marriage and sex
Somehow this was recommended to me. And I'm glad i watched this as this also applies to a single Christian man.
Jaehwa Jeong Join the club!!
@@Christ2010Grad forgive me if I sound selfish. But I'm glad I'm not the only one. The struggle is real.
Yes it does apply to Christian men as well! There are a lot of single Christian women, more than single Christian men. So you guys should go out there and pursue the girl you like :)
This video came at a perfect time for me.
If some of us are called to singleness, could we just ask God to take the desire to be married away? I just feel like if the desire wasn’t there, it wouldn’t hurt as much.
More videos on how God is first!!! And how nothing else matters. Your passion is contagious.
Wow, that's so true. I should never think that Jesus is second best. I want Him to be number one! He is the best that can happen to you and no relationship could ever compare to that.
I feel like I know there are good, respectful Christian guys out there.. but I don’t feel worthy to even date one of them. I have so much stuff to clean up in my life and I don’t want to bring my problems on another person. I feel like I would be more of a burden than a blessing for someone. So I have a strong desire for a man, but I am so insecure that I don’t feel like anyone would want me.
U are literally me...lol
Niyi oof same here
send all your stress and insecurities on God he would help you threw it more than any man can. I would suggest working on your relationship with God more than a guy and have him help you. And he loves you and you'll never be a burden to him and a man who would look at you as one is not who God would want you to be with.
@@lyndseyadkins9694 Thank you for your thoughtful and kind response. This helped me a lot. ❤️
Thank you!!! I’m 39 & struggling to be content in my singleness. This really helped me feel better!! I really would love to be married one day & finding a husband is hard. I’m really trying to work on my relationship with Jesus. I’m Catholic & I once went to Mass & the priest said Jesus loves you more than your spouse or anyone else in Earth. I know one day I’ll have my dream wedding to Jesus in Heaven!! We believe that there is no marriage in Heaven between earthly beings as you are married to Christ!!
Going through this season right now so thank you for the encouragement! 😘
Thank you sister.
I'm 39yrs old, been saved & single for 17yrs.
My anxiety is an idol, I have been enslaved to anxiety,
I'm going to delete my Tinder.
You are awesome! God loves you sooo much.
Girl we need to be friends, because what you just said that is exactly my life.
This video has been a blessing, thank you so much for sharing it, God is good and his Word never came late.
Laughing out loud when you were going through your train of thought about singleness, sounded just like me, when I was obsessively thinking I wasn't going to be at the right place at the right time 😂 . So glad I came across your channel!
God is number 1 for me but I want to still be in a relationship where God is #1 for both of us 😭God I’m sorry but please! I don’t feel I’m called to singleness!
Couldn't agree more.
I respect your self respect !! Me and you have same preferences.
This season is painful.
I see relationships with a person of the opposite sex, as a model version of our relationship with God but still have God be the main focus.
Patience is made,when one grows tired, then Waits.
I desire a relationship because I want to love someone the way I love God.
This video is so helpful 💖 thank you!
Thank you for making this video. God really spoke through you and I was really empowered by what you said. I am praying God helps me learn to be content in my singleness.
I can binge watch all your videos. Your content is so relatable!! ❤️❤️
I really needed this!! Thanks for sharing ❤️❤️
thanks for this Nastasia! watching from Philippines at 12 am
oooh night owl!! thanks for the support love!
Perfect timing, wow ! God bless you, girl! ♡
I just wish I could get to this place of not wanting to be in a relationship🥺
I totally agree with the fact that God is sovereign. But I don’t think it’s correct to say that unless he so ordains a relationship it won’t happen? Cause that might put into peoples minds that when they end up with a bad partner/spouse it’s God’s doing, which will remove responsibility from humans are their own actions.
Waowww this video is so so helpful 💓💓💓
I don't love being single, but I know that it's the best option for me to live a Christian life. If I date my lust addiction manifests and I sin sexually and become misearble. I like what our recovery book states: "For the single person sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind."
Really getting hopeless here💔😞
Gonna turn 39 in a couple mths and still single. Im a reserved, introvert that has no vices, doesn't go 2 clubs, bars. So very difficult 4 me to meet a great man. Starting to think my husband passed away at a young age☠
Dating Apps
Specially if you turned 30🤷♀️😂😂😂🤭(My case)
What does HELP to me ? Traveling
Sometimes Being Single, Van Be The Best Thing, If It Helps You Accomplish Gods Purpose!!!! The Wrong Person In Your Life, That You Get Involved With, Out Of "Lonlinrs", Can Be Like Jonah, In The Belly Of The Whale!!!
The years ago, by the time I was twenty years old, I hadn’t drank water in twenty years. I was thristy and desperate for water and yet I looked like anyone else my own age who had plenty of water. I was depressed, broken, and devastated. Do you know how it feels when you don’t have water and you have to watch other people enjoy the water you wished you had? Or when you sit there eating alone and you see other boys indulging in water while you were there all alone? Imagine every night when you are in your room alone without water, you open up your Instagram to see other people having a beautiful life with their water in their post or instagram story and you just sitting there crying all alone?I realized that I couldn’t stay like that anymore, and I was contemplating, but then I gave myself one last chance for another three years to seek water. I have three options. First, beg for water, which I did with no luck. Every time I begged for water, going out everywhere everyday and everytime i met random girls i begged for water and i kept DM random girls through instagram to seek for water but i was rejected and thrown away like trash. When this did not work, my second option was to turn off my feelings. This also did not work because I am a human, not a robot, and every human needs water to survive. So i have no choice but has to go for my last option which is suicide. To end this thirsty and desperation , i have to end me. But yet i still put a little hope , a little hope for that one miracle that somehow someone comes to me and wants to give me that water, a massive pool of water for me. Water in the amount of the ocean that will cleanse my soul and bring me to a new life out of this misery. I will create my own natural spring for myself because I realized that one water is all i need and the only water that i need to save me from suicide. The miracle of water that I have been seeking will come to me before 25 december and I am grateful for the ocean but yet i am more than ready to end this pain. No water means suicide.
It’s is off topic completely but you are giving me Pam vibes (from the office) 😂
Is it just me.
I am 46 and alone. No relationship ever worked out and it never will
I'm 37, obese and African American male. I feel suicidal every day about being lonely.
I hate my season of singleness, so I know he’s not sending anyone anytime soon.
You should listen to Emily Wilson, she said that the saying "you'll only meet the one when you're completely happy and no longer want marriage" is a LIE! Lots of women still desired marriage when they met the person, in fact most did. So you don't necessarily have to enjoy this time, just let God handle your hurt and upset and everything you are feeling.
Same
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God must know I'm a terrible choice for the single life . I'm at my best when I have a girlfriend to inspire me . God has to be angry and offended because I'm not giving mt love and affection to a woman . When I was in high school. I thought "I have to find the right person in high school, because you can't meet anybody after you graduate from college !" . When I attended my university, I thought "Now I REALLY have to find the right person in high school, because you can't meet anybody after you graduate from college !" . I keep saying "High school is the only chance you'll ever have to find a marriage partner !" . You have to marry the right person before he ( or she ) marries somebody else, has a child, and gets divorced . The single life is no place for a good decent respectable Christian woman . If you don't try out different boyfriends, you'll end up committing adultery . Women who like being single don't like being married . If you make the most of being single, you'll get spoiled by the single life, and you'll resent your husband . God gave women a desire for a man, and He gave men a desire for a woman . I hate being single, God wants me to hate being single, and I want God to want me to hate being single .
Bruh you need Jesus. Singleness is fine if you're fulfilled by God and if you're still behaving righteously with regards to sexual sin
Also. Turn 16 next year and have vaccine. Cant wait to do fun things on my own!
Thank you so much for posting!! I’m single and 28 and man oh man do I get discouraged as a Christian!! I will think “God know many more dating apps do I have to keep spending my money on? God, please let him be at this coffee shop! God maybe he’ll be at the grocery store today?” And it’s literally like I’m looking for a lost puppy... But you are so right sister! The best thing to do is remember God is in control. I am happy being single, I always wanted to be a wife but God, you know my needs more than I do. So if there’s any other single women out there, we aren’t alone sisters! ❤️❤️
Yes! Give it all to God!
Amen