Struggling to feel at home. How I really feel about moving to the countryside - story 18
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- After contemplating this a lot the last weeks I decided to make this kind of raw video about the whole topic of home, and how I have felt about it. What is home to you? Is it a feeling? A country maybe? Or is it a very specific house?
WARNING:
In this video I walk on very thin ice. It was very shallow water (only up to my knees) and I felt safe about it, but I do not recommend doing it, and walking on ice in any shape or form is at your own risk. Do not take any chances with walking on ice, it can be fatal.
Sometimes I think we watch people on youtube and we feel like the place where we live is not enough, its not as remote, as adventurous or as idyllic as what other people have, and we feel like if we just moved "there" we would finally feel at home. I have found something very close to that here in this town in the norwegian countryside. Doing makeovers, painting walls and all that stuff has also been helping a lot. BUT, I also kind of wanted you to know that even if its very calm and cozy here, I still feel that restlessness inside, just like I am sure many other people do.
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This video brought me a lot of peace today and I really needed that. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, good luck!
I am so glad my video could have that effect. That means a lot. Thank you
A Waldorf school teacher from Ukraine is here 😅 Bless your heart
Maria you’re so sweet and I love your honesty about your inner state. Being an outsider is somehow one of those strange things that builds character even when it looks like it is a hardship. I am appreciating getting to know you over the past couple years and I really hope you feel encouraged to keep it going. You’re doing a really fine job with your filmmaking and if you need anything at all, let us know. Hopefully soon it will really, REALLY take off and you will start to see the results of all your hard labours. So happy to see you reached over 4K, soon it will be 10k and then more and more. I’m here for it girl! Love from Canada 🇨🇦 💖
Thank you
I love your videos! Especially the outdoor. Just a beautiful peaceful place. Brings comfort as i sit and watch the beautiful gift of nature God has blessed us humans with to enjoy! Thanks for sharing your part of the world
Thank you
When your friends cut the old wood my heart cried! I love your videos. Just found your channel.
Haha, I understand your feelings. It sort of had to be taken out to be rebuilt so it would be possible to have a bathroom there. In the rest of the house the old floors are well preserved😊. I am happy you like my videos, welcome to the channel ♡
I’m one of your new viewers…thanks for creating beautiful videos 💕
Nice! I am so happy to have you here. Thank you for watching them
Everyone has a kitchen, and since it's the heart of the home, people seek out vids on kitchens. TH-cam suggested your kitchen video which introduced me to your channel. (Don't think I would have ever googled "Norwegian foraging" or "Norwegian landscapes"). But since I've never known someone from Norway, I was intrigued---and impressed by your ice bath. And your landscape shots are truly spectacular. 😀 If you video the entire renovation at your friend's house, that will probably get a lot of views too and introduce a lot MORE people to your channel. Cheers from the USA.
Yes I guess there is something universal about the place where we make our food, which also gives the video a wider reach, good point. I am glad you liked the landscape shots
I’ve been watching all your videos, little by little. So far this one is my favorite! ❤️
That is so nice ♡. Glad you like this one, I really enjoyed making it.
Thank you again for you r video. Life is such a journey. For me home is where I feel safe and can breathe out. I struggled for a long time to find a place that felt like home and then one day I realised home is where I chose to make it. When I stopped looking and enjoyed where I was it became home. I am surrounded by trees and mountains so that helps but it's home.
Thank you for watching it too. That makes a lot of sense, thank you for sharing your own experience with it. I hope I will be able to change my mindset like that too. Forest and mountains help for sure :D.
I love your videos, all of them. They are so serene and peaceful and your words and the way you speak are beautiful. I find them very grounding and can watch them over and over. I too, tend to feel restless. xo
That is such a compliment. Thank you so much
Yes, another video. Great! Love from Cambridgeshire UK XXX
Aww I am glad you felt excited about it. Lots of love to you too.
We enjoy your videos, Maria. Not living in Europe, you are a window for us and your reflections, coupled with the music, really give a nice relaxing and stress free moment ~ no matter where you live. Love your creative renovations!
That is so nice to know, thank you
Beautiful, heartfelt video - thank you. I can relate to much of what you say - my family emigrated to Canada from England when I was nine years old and I've felt that uprooting ever since. Even now, forty-one years later, the theme of uprooting feels like a constant in my life. Still, I think we've found our place now -- I don't know if it feels like 'home' - other than it is because it's where my husband and children are - but I'm doing my best to root down into the landscape and make it so. Sometimes, that's the best you can do. Have you ever heard the word "hiraeth" -- it's a Welsh word...you should look it up and see what you think. ;) Thanks again for sharing your beautiful world. xo ps. I came to your channel for the beautiful nature shots..and stayed for your insights and generosity of spirit. The kitchen reno was an added bonus. ;)
Thank you so much for sharing a bit of your story too. Changing country like that, I can imagine its pretty impactful, in both good and bad ways. I agree that trying to root in the landscape is often the only option, it was probably why I felt so sad when I did not find my forest in the beginning 😆. I have not heard that, I will defenitely look it up.
Thank you so much for that, I am really glad you enjoy the different aspects of my channel ♡
Great video maria really enjoy watching them,So inspiring, thanks 😊 👍 😀
Thank you
...Maria, I've heard this thing: "Where you love is home." I've found my home at fifty-six years of age... don't do like me!☺
Very nice video, Maria! I love your reflektions. I am not from Norway (moved here from Germany) but I really feel totally at home here. My place is in the south of Norway. I have also lived in Oslo and in the region of Stavanger. And I did not feel that much at home as I am doing here. Now, after living at the same place for 14 years, having our own little cottage, I feel even more at home. I really hope you will find YOUR place one day!! You are so good in making your home cozy, I think this will help a lot! I can understand your feeling in the forest. It´s much more easy to feel at home in old forests. But I have experienced that it helps a lot to visit the same place many times. After a while it turnes out to be "your place" and you feel at home 😊 Btw: I love the scene where you are standing on the ice! Klem 💚
I am so glad you feel at home here ♡. And it sounds soo nice that you have a cottage and a long time home that you have this good feeling about. I hope I will find that too, thank you for hoping with me! But in the meantime I feel very blessed here as well 😊. Yes, right? Old forests are so different. Fortunately there is a bit of that too. Klem
Gods have been angry it seems , what a storm ! so beautiful view of iced beach 🤍🤍🤍I was still a little tense to see you walking on the ice... 😉 Home , yes, i am of those who are thinking Home is inside us. But sometimes, I have to make efforts, to have the right mind...And, many times, when i go in another home for holidays, i realized i need a long time to find it's a Home, in the litterally sense. Then, yes, i think Home has his hight importance, and we need to make ours very cozy. When it’s difficult at times, I think about people like refugees who don’t have homes, and I have to admit that it gives me a little bit of gratitude. Your previous video about decorating your home was nice and creative, but i love very very much your nature videos, with foraging and your thoughts too . 🧡🧡🧡 by the way, the view when you are cycling in the snowy landscape is just magical.
Hello again! Yes I think walking on this ice is not so smart, so you are right to be tense about it x).
I feel like it takes an effort too. I have the same feeling when I move to a new place, it takes some time to fill it with your own energy maybe. And like you say, we are lucky after all to have homes. I really think this longing for "the right place" is a problem of the priviliged in a sense. After all, we have a choice, we have a roof, we can travel to new places and find new homes.
I am glad you like my foraging videos. Hopefully there will be more of those when the snow melts. Thank you
I grew up with a father who was military and married military. I have lived in 11 different places/states in my life. One of them overseas for a time. I have gone to I4 different schools and universities in my life. I have never been in one place more than a few years. I barely have connections to anyone from my past. It was very hard when I was young, but now as an adult I see that it shaped me a lot. I'm not afraid to move. I welcome change. People who grew up in the same place always ask me, "Why would you want to move?" AndI always say, "Home is where we are. It's not a house. It's the people." I have DIY'd all of my houses. This house we gutted the entire house and redid it all the way we want. People say, "Well you won't move again will you?" And honestly, I am thinking about it, ha! I will always have a nomad heart. But I try to make wherever I am beautiful and happy and perfect. But when its time to move on I can do it easily. I hope that you know you aren't alone in the world. There are a lot of us with a gypsy soul :)
Wow, thats certainly a lot of moving around. Really grateful for you thoughts on this. It is so true that there are good things about the more nomadic way of thinking. Funny that you also had this sort of DIY thing going on with all of your homes, maybe it is a thing, haha. It seems like in your life you have seen many parts of the world. And living in different places instead of just visiting them also gives such a different insight to them.
I will keep that in mind, thank you. Judging from the comments on this video it seems many of these souls are here too.
@@Mariaandtheforest With military housing you aren't allowed to change anything or even paint anything. So as soon as we bought our first house I painted EVERYTHING :) Nice to meet you and your channel is so sweet. Thanks for sharing with us!
@@nicholewade8233 haha, that is very understandable. Nice to meet you too, and thank you for sharing a bit as well. Makes me feel like its not just a one way converstation when I post a video, and thats so nice ♡.
@@Mariaandtheforest Its really not. People do connect with one another in such a new way through these videos and others like this! I think we have a lot in common and I bet you didn't know I'm an herbalist too, ha! So keep showing up! We are happy to see what you have coming next! Makes long days in my studio much more exciting to see what others are doing around the globe :)
@@nicholewade8233 I agree with you ♡. So cool you are a herbalist too! Its the best part with making videos about what I feel passionate about, it attracts so many with the same passion ♡. Have a nice weekend!
Some say the home is a reflection of our internal state. I find that very true. My home is a mess right now. But as I am on a healing journey, I am also transforming and healing different spaces. Inside the house and in the garden. You have greatly inspired this journey.
I am so glad you did not have major damage in the storm. It sucks. I went through hurricane Maria. She left us without electric and water. And the government took 5 months to return them. Some people are still without electricity to this day. Now we hit a water well so we might become 100% independent from everything. We are solar so we just need to design a pumping system to take water up 30 feet up a very steep hill. This is a paradise. And you know what? I still do not feel like this is my home either. I am with you! 🙌✨♥️
Oh and Lovely lovely video! Powerful takes with special music 👌🙏♥️🙌✨
So nice that you are healing both your self and your home ♡.
I am sorry this hurricane had my name and did such damage! That must be awful for so many people.
So magical that you might be self sufficient soon! That is such good news. Sending you a lot of love and encouragement. Also I hope the people that had damage from the hurricane will be able to rebuild and have their electricity back!
@@Mariaandtheforest changing the topic, can you tell us if you will do more remodeling videos? 🤣🤣🤣🙏♥️🌍 It’s so much fun with you! Ahahaha bright blessings ✨✨✨✨✨✨✨
@@SAROXBAND haha! I will 😉 my office still is not done
I am new and don’t know your story but I love your videos. One day I hope to visit Norway, it beautiful through your eyes.
Hi thank you so much ♡ that means a lot. I hope you will get to see it with your own then 😊
I love your way with words. And the visuals in your videos are breathtaking
Thank you so much
I understand perfectlly what you mean.I was born in a country that I left at nineteen that did not feel like home.
I am now 75 and After Moving several Times I still haven't found a place where I feel it's home.
Probably home is a feeling you get when you have attained inner peace?
Just à thought.I love your vidéos and you are a very profound young lady.
Thank you for your comment and your kind words Molly. Sorry to hear you have not found it yet. I hope you feel like me that the search has also brought you to beautiful places :-). Yes, maybe it is something that comes from within like you say
Happy new year to you Maria and I'm sure you"ll find your home some day soon.
I always find peace after doing some daily meditation, I feel safe and content.
Love
Molly
not very often you can find such honest video of sharing quite private thoughts and mind. thank you for this :)
Thank you for these kind words ♡
Thank you for sharing this with us 🥰 In German we have two words one means home = zuhause and then we also have Heimat which doesn’t have an English equivalent. It can be the place or region you grew up in, nostalgia, sense of belonging, your “roots”, it’s difficult to explain.
Håper at du finne et sted eller mennesker som kan hjelpe med å føler seg hjemme. Hilsen fra en restless Tysk-Nordmann som bor i Aotearoa 🥰
Thats very interesting, I did not know that. Thank you, I have my person, and I am very fortunate to live in this beautiful house too, so even if I never find "the place" I am grateful for this one. Wow, I looked up Aotearoa and it looks gorgeous! I guess restlessness, although tiresome, sometimes takes us to cool places :-)
Looks so calm and peaceful, absolutely beautiful 😍
It is
lovely!
Thank you ♡
@@Mariaandtheforest
Thank you for taking us with you. Breathtakingly beautiful. I'm looking forward to enjoying your spring through your eyes! 🇨🇦
Hi Brenda, thank you so much! I am looking forward to sharing that too!
Your kitties are so cute!! They almost act like dogs playing together. Home is a difficult concept for me as well. I've always had wanderlust and crave adventure. I still haven't found 'home', and I'm 63 years old! I own my current home, but it isn't my 'home'. I may have to sell it and continue the search. Maybe for some of us, 'home' is all around us. Maybe some people are trees, putting down roots, and other people are birds, free to fly where ever they wish whenever they want. I enjoy your videos, thanks for sharing 🤗
Yes right? Its so funny. Our cat is still young so he always runs after whatever cat he meets because he wants to play. Does not always end well, but I think he has found some sort of understanding with this next door cat :-).
I am happy to know I am not alone with this feeling. What you wrote here was beautiful. Some people are birds, some are trees, I will keep thinking of that I think. I wish you all the best in your own search for a potential new house.
I understand the phrase "my perfect forest" so well, I have the feeling that there is a forest that catches my soul, and it is a simple forest that I want to get out of faster. I visit the forests a lot because I take my dog for a free walk. I really like the forest, but it's also scary! I got Lyme disease in the woods. Honestly, it doesn't even stop me from going to the forest again and again!
Yes, excactly! There is something about it. Forests are different. Must be nice to have a dog with you when the forest feels a bit scary.
Koselig video! :)
Takk :-)
I am one of those who first found your channel because of the kitchen makeover. I hope to see more of your story and Norway so I subscribed. I am in the US and my great-great grandparents came here from Norway. I felt a connection with you from the start.
How nice ♡. Thank you for subscribing. I am glad to have you here.
I know i found a little home in your channel! I love the way you tell your story and document your life! Maybe as your community here grows you will get a sense of home from us as well 💕 I am so glad I found you and it actually was because of the kitchen makeover, which i really really loved 🥰 thankyou for sharing your thoughts and perspective 🌿
Thank you. This comment really brightened my mood today. There is for sure a sense of home in this community, with so many kind and interesting people like. I feel lucky
I really like your channel. I am a new subscriber. 🤗
Thank you ♡. And welcome! Glad to have you here.
Hi Maria from us in England. I have recently discovered your channel and am really enjoying watching your content with my 12 year old daughter who has started a herbalism course this year and we are definitely going to make some rose petal ice-cream and meadowsweet cordial. This video really struck a chord with me as you perfectly articulated how I have felt during my lifetime. I have always searched for my sense of community and home centred around the people I have chosen to be with due to work and interests but have that internal longing to find a place where I fit in. I watched a series about the Scottish Isles with British broadcaster and adventurer Ben Fogle recently and he said that you know you've found the right place when you feel that you are a part of the place - rather than owning a part of it. I hope that we all find that bone-deep sense of belonging.
Hi Kirsten, how nice you and your daughter enjoy the channel. And how cool that she started a herbalism course, wow! I really hope you like the ice cream and the cordial :-). I am so glad some of what I said resonated with you, and I really hope we will both find that place too. A place that you are a part of, rather than owning a part of it... I like that thought, thank you for sharing it.
I dont know if you've already done a video on this because i'm a new subscriber but i'd love to know how you found your new friends there. I've also been dreaming about moving to the countryside but the biggest question really is how difficult is it going to be finding friends in a new place 🤔
Hi, welcome ♡. Thats actually something I have been thinking about a bit. Its good to know there is some interest in the topic 😊 thank you. I honestly am no expert though, but we chose this town partly because there is a university here so there are many people our age. Other than that it helped to be open and seek out situations where one might meet people. I will make that video so I can go more in detail.
I started to write a reply, which started in on me expanding on the subject from the comments on the last video, branching off into how I got here to my new home, and I ended up with far too much to say for a comment.
I got lost for 5 whole hours, wrote out a whole essay of things I was feeling, and went through half a full guld mint chocolate bar....
It is 3am, and I'm only now finishing my homework.
Anyway, my very shortened, adapted for TV answer:
Home is complicated.
Home is a culmination of feelings. Home is a place that is specific, but only because of the time and place you are in within your life. Home is a structure, a country, and a continent but not necessary the one you were born in, on, and around.
To some people home is where the water doesn't taste funny, or where your own toilet is, or where you lay your head at night.
To me, home is all of the above... and a very very strong gut feeling.
Much love to you from these very tiny islands 💜🇫🇴
Wow, haha, I am so happy to hear the video could be the starting point of such a reflection. I hope the work you put in brought you some clarity or at least some release.
I agree with all the things you write about home here. Its a gut feeling for me too, but it can change suddenly, so its not static. It is actually super complicated, and I think I could also have said so much more about it, but I too have to adapt it for a short youtube version. Lucky for me it seems people still take the reflection in their own hands :-).
Sending lots of love back to you on your island
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What great videos, and yes I found you via your Kitchen Reno video :) I watch a lot of hannahleeduggan's videos, and she's been redoing her cabin and cottage. I also like Jonna Jinton out of Sweden. I see a style in your videos that combines a lot of similar characteristics (plus of course your uniqueness). I hope for great things for you.
Hi, I am so happy this video is bringing so many new people to this channel. I love both hannahleeduggan and Jonna Jinton, so I am for sure influenced.
Thank you for your kind well wishes. Love from Norway.
@@Mariaandtheforest Love back from the US.
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Thank you for this honest video. It's a good contrast to all the videos and creators that portray everything as 'rose-red', as we say in Norway. Hope you manage to find your place where you feel at home (or that you 'grow into' the place where you live). For me it was a circus, of all places. Best of luck!
Thank you, I am glad you liked it. Being honest is a bit scary but it feels right. I was so fascinated that your home endend up being a circus! Do you work in one?
@@Mariaandtheforest Went to a circus class at the folkehøyskole, and volunteered at the cafe at a contemporary (animal-free) circus the following summer :) . Absolutely loved the circus life! Haven't been able to do it much since then, but it did give me a feeling of being home more than I think I've experienced before.
@@safe-keeper1042 that sounds so magical! Sorry you did not get to do it more.
Thank you for another lovely video Maria, beautifully photographed and edited as always, and in this one I learned that for the last 20 years I have been mispronouncing Stavanger !! I had no idea that it was pronounced the way you said it in this video. All these years I have been pronouncing vanger to rhyme with the word hanger in English. It never occurred to me that it would be pronounced any other way. How funny. Like you we have also been having terrible storms here in England. I also agree with your comments about belonging, and I think many people feel that way, always searching for home. I know that you are facing some difficult times at present, so please know that you are in my thoughts.
Hi Mark, I am glad you liked it. Haha, I think the way you pronounce it is the common way to pronounce it for English speaking people, so it is not really any fault of yours :-), even Norwegians often say it your way when speaking English. I guess the way we pronounce "a" in Norwegian is kind of different to the English one in general? How norwegians say my name for instance is more similar to the spanish way of saying it.
I hope the roof or any other things on your property were not damaged in the storms. Thank you for thinking of me, I really appreciate that.
oof this hits me. I am always bothered by neighbours so I don't feel at home often. I even moved because of it but I still don't feel at home here (from an apartment to a townhouse). I hope it will change in time.
Ahh, neighbours. I feel you with that one. I hope you will feel better eventually, or that you find somewhere that fits your needs :-)
Maria!!
Maybe through all your adventures and wanderings you have been creating a map, or mental instruction manual for how YOUR idea of 'home' will come into resolution. This sounds like a cliché, but in my opinion it feels like you have stopped swimming against the currents of life, and instead you are now swimming, with intention, in a direction towards a 'shore' of your own design. I felt a message that resonated with my own 'itchiness' about the idea of home, and the anxiety I feel when I imagine spending so much time in one place. I'm constantly inspired by your courage, and your seemingly optimistic surrendering to this life you are creating!
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P.S. Wowzers... The painterly longshot at 11:09 with you biking away along the snowy road towards town is, without exaggeration, one of the most beautiful video moments I've seen. The scene and the music captured SO many emotions: solitude, sadness, hope, resilience, etc.. as you say it was stemmningsful
Ethan! I miss you.
I like your way of seeing it. I hope you'r right. It for sure feels like I am putting a lot of intention into where I am going these days. But wether or not the direction is the right one I guess only time will tell. I thought you might resonate with that feeling. It's tiring, but also creates this urge to take chances that I am sort of grateful for. We seem to be in good company, judging from the comments on this video.
It makes me so happy that you liked that shot! Thank you. It was a bit challenging, I was slipping a lot in the snow with my bike. Now it feels worth it.
I can't find my people where I live. How to seek them out?
Thats difficult. The only advice I have is to get out there and go to different activities, things you enjoy etc, to see if your people are there. And I guess not be afraid to be that "lonely new person" even if it feels a bit awkward :-P
Maybe you can't find a place where you belong isn't a bad thing. I never felt like I belonged anywhere and now at 60 I am fine with that. There are those of us who aren't meant to belong or fit in.
Yes, I think maybe that is the case too :-) but who knows?
Hahaha men hvor er resten av takstein da 😂
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