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Hi, I'm Faye de Muyshondt of Socialskilz, here to teach you about body language basics. So many people say that your body speaks much more loudly than your words speak and it's probably...It has quite a bit of truth. It's really important that as you speak you exhibit great body language. The most important aspects of your body language are, number one, your shoulders and where your shoulders are positioned as you speak to other people. So, your shoulders could be like this or they could be like this, and that slight change makes an enormous difference in what your body is saying about you. This little change could make me seem like I'm insecure or don't have much confidence, but moving my shoulders up changes the entire dynamic of how I'm coming across.
Also, a really important part of your body language is your hands and what you're doing with your hands. Now, some people have a really hard time with what to do with their hands as they're speaking. If you have a hard time with it what I suggest is if you're sitting, just putting your hands in your lap or if you're standing just making sure that they're at your sides or folded in front of you. A lot of people have a hard time with playing with things, with playing with bracelets, with playing with hair, fumbling with their pockets. So, be aware as you speak next time of what your hands are doing. Where are your hands? Are they stationary? Or, you can ask someone else to make this assessment for you. Have a conversation with them and ask them to keep an eye on where your hands are during the conversation.
Another important element of your body language is the fact that you need to be standing still, so if you're moving during a conversation that's going to give off the impression that you're nervous or that you're uncomfortable during the conversation. So, be sure that you're standing stationary and that you're not moving around as you're talking. And, your feet, as you're talking, you don't want to be moving your feet around or lifting up your knee or moving your feet around. You want to make sure that those are stationary as well. The whole idea is that you don't want to distract someone while they're speaking or while you're speaking. Not only is it distracting, but it can make you come across as insecure, less than confident, or even uncomfortable during a conversation. You definitely don't want to give off that impression.
So, your body language speaks a great deal. You want to make sure that you have great body language as you're communicating and speaking with other people. It's probably one of the most important elements to making a good first impression. - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
THIS was SUCH a helpful video to share with everyone!!
1.Shoulders
2.Hands
3.DON'T PLAY WITH ANYTHING!!
4.Stand still during conversation
Thank you so so much for sharing,and uploading this video with everyone.
I think it would be a VERY good one for teachers to be sharing with students,for when they do their year 10 mock interviews,so that they therefore have a better understanding.
she's seem so confident and extremely secure
Yeah, because she's using the body language tips she's teaching to make her seem more confident XD
My specialty is interview prep for job seekers. This video is so great that I am forwarding it to every single client of mine. People thank me profusely.
Great short video to share with our recruiters while interviewing and pointers to pick up on our candidates as we prepare them to meet clients for temporary assignments.
I have a hard time with social skills
Howcast is my favorite 💖channel on TH-cam.
it has answers of my every how to ? Questions 👍😍
Don't fold your hands in an interview it is a sign of self comfort and anxiety. Hiding your palms shows you want to assert control over the situation. Concealing your hands suggests you have something to hide. Fidget or tap your fingures shows impatience. Folding your arms makes you look defensive and insecure. Showing your palms with tention in your wrist and frngures it shows truth, honesty and allegiance. Steepling displays confidence.
2:02 " you don't want to be MOVING YOUR FEET AROUND or lifting up your knee or MOVING YOUR FEET AROUND" high quality stuff folks
Lol
"You don't wanna be moving your feet around or lifting your knees or moving your feet around". Some great insight there. Thanks !
I know right, I noticed that too. 😂😂
Don't forget about not lifting your knees because I don't recall her saying that and it's a common mistake.
Austin Hernández I read this comment while watching the video and then a second later she said "not lifting your kneeeee" 😂
I’m a person with autism so a lot of traits the people see as you being nervous or not interested in what they’re saying or in a rush are just what I generally do like I happen to be uncomfortable with iContact with people so I barely do it and I like to move around quite a lot which gets on peoples nerves and sometimes I’ll pace around the room while talking to someone or be looking at another person while I’m talking to a certain person and I’m trying to work on the skills because I don’t want people to think that I’m not paying attention or anything
God bless you sweetheart
Well.....I must say you are v..e..r..y professional.love the video.👍💖
2:00 to 2:07 ticks me sense she said moving you're feet around twice. : *
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Very informative, keep up the good work.
You are beautiful and this video is really helpful. Thanks!
it was so useful! thanks!
Thank you this is very helpful 😊👍❤️
I have to stand instead of sit at school, and I also need to shift my weight, stretch my legs and chest occasionally due to old injuries. My instructor seems increasingly abrupt and hostile with me, even thought I am very enthusiastic about the material. Is she perhaps getting the wrong impression of my intent?
Good tips.Thanks for sharing.
"excuse me sir, can you watch my hands when I talk to you?" "Ok, hi how are you today?" lmao what the hell?
try asking someone you know, so the police won't be called on you
Adam Oliva /r/TOTALLYNOTROBOTS
Do people hate "lol"? Why always "LMAO"? Lmao!!!
😂 I'm an interview
@@tubbysza Lmao sounds like something is more funnier, and with caps it makes it more like it's more energetic, like you can see the difference between "LMFAOOOO" and "lol"
Mam you are a great fascillitator. Tkank you i learned essential things from you.
Thanks this video helped a lot.
Great tips!! Thanks
your energy* speaks more than your words.
She is so cute! And great video!
Totally interesting! Thanks....
Hmmm nice it is good. I was able to learn them sis. thnx 4 the video
My advise is pay attention to where you are there is obviously a reason for being there.. naturally you will give off your your interests, worried about how you look will through your mind and it could stand out if that's all your worried about
I need more like this
This beat is going to help me a lot boy language is very important Edgar J Uribe
It was actually helping
i like her ,,, good advice
Beautiful! ^^
really like it..
Mmm... Instead of trying to change our body language why don't we just try and not be nervous or maybe put some effort into being interested in things that people talk about. Then the body language will follow.
word.
Preach
Rachit yeah same......U MAKE ME.....BLEED UNTILL I CANT BREATHE
Real me: Wait....what..
Guerrilla gorilla soldier. Sometimes its not you.Its other people.
When I'm not interested in their topic, I think it's rude not to pay attention if it interests me or not, so I try to change the topic. I don't have the patience to listen to boring stories, like what people ate or about their clothes, cars, houses.
I have a manager that no matter what he is always moving from one spot to the other while speaking to me and it makes me uncomfortable and it is very distracting.
It really is.
yes that's body language, you've done properly.
I am vary socially akword may be my body language would help me more to not be to bad socially speaking.
So ! I am literally asked to be a robot by this :).
Thank u mam. Ur video was beautiful as well as u
Thank You...
I really enjoyed this video. I was very informative.
+ladyofsplendor I meant, it was very informative. Ooops
Thank you Mr. Question please. When I look at a person in his eyes, should i look at one eye or the two at the same time? i can't do the second. you?
Please demonstrate what you are talking about :)
Thanks.😘
Too good
excuse me, guys please have some respect!
how about when we're standing?
We are working on with Dilara Brito.
We are working on with Sunjana Kondpalli
I shuffle when I talk to people sometimes
good job world like
yeah what if you are ADHD? We can't stop moving:D
i know how it feels bro
Don;t worry! Just be yourself! World would be such boooring place if everyone acts the same! I don't mind when people move around when they talk to me, I focus on the content, not on shallow things :)
I taught my children to wiggle her toes inside her shoe so she doesn't wiggle her foot, and to play with a ring on her finger vs something with her hands more distracting. Its what I do. I'm ADHD too but keeps me from wiggling
Brilliant idea!
Same.. I have ADHD 💀
How is all of this supposed to impact those of us with social anxiety disorders and those of us on the autism spectrum? We do a lot of the "don'ts" on a regular basis without realizing it, and even with the right attitude and treatment, the make-up of our brains and such is still there..
I agree. It's kind of teaching us how to pretend that were perfect or hide how we really feel in the situation.
Its teaching you what you need to learn to do and have an idea o. How to improve your anxiety and or disorder, you're not gonna get a magical answer that works immediately once you learn about it, that's not how we work.
I do try some of these, and other tricks in social situations, and I practice a lot with my family. However, even though I've been trying to 'fit in' socially with people for years, I still get overwhelmed if I don't a family member or my social worker with me. I have a long way to go, and I'll never be the person in the middle of the dance floor, but I'm confident that I will be able to lead my own social life one day. So yes, we can practice, but I am just saying that when you are on the autism spectrum, have social anxiety, or anything like that, sometimes that bar is set at a height that you can't move. Our brains are amazing, but if someone's brain works in different way, then that might limit them in ways that they can't control. Sorry for the long wall of text. I just wanted to reply correctly to you instead of you misunderstanding me. I hope you can take what I said and try to think of from that point of view maybe. Thanks for your time. :)
purplepandastudios16 Oh you're right, I didn't think about it that way.
And thank you for giving a point of view with the logic up front. I wish all people talked like that.
Just focus on conversation, most of the people are also self-conscious so they don't pay attention to others like you might think. Just be yourself and try to enjoy the company of others.
beautiful
I work with laundry at my job would it be fiscally possible to montane a genuine and modest look with my body language ?? Because. Like if I'm working and someone wants to chat what do I do and how could I be graceful enough doing so ??
Rebecca Elkins Try throwing laundry, I'm sure that will grab their attention.
Lol o yeah. Lol hahaha . I'll make the news =)
I have it on good authority that you should flail about violently at all times when you're talking to someone.
Cool :)
Faye De Muyshondt is a great name for expensive designer wear. I can see this
wow nice video (I,m a little late)
thank you!
Simpler--place your hands on the armrests of your chair for a more open posture.
Unfortunately you didn't mention how it could be disrespectful too, for instance when someone is shaking their legs vigorously while you are talking to them.
make vid like that pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaase
hi
Hello you are good
Never simply show your deck
So my position means that I feel insecure - bingo :P
I do feel nervous and insecure when talking with people xD
Not to be rude and all but are those real?
so if u stand
I respectfully took the 'clic bae it' or what not. Drobed casually for what would be a business model, 5-7 weeks out... Have you young man, used your time with this wisely? If you're there for each, I'd bbbow tzien outta there without any need of Q&A. Preface the disclaimer: my first umbridge? Knappy with the t-shirt anyway. No foolin'.
She was actually making many mistakes with her body language herself like the crossing of the legs were in the wrong direction (she should've crossed the other leg) or her top lip it kept moving up in awkward times
Holy shit from the.first second she started talking and i saw her face it was like staring at a female daveywaveyraw (a male TH-camr)
It should be Dos and Don'ts
Every people on the world feels uncomfortable on there cheats that's why everyone puts hands across, if u agree like this👇
i dont think the idea is to affect a certain type of body language , but to be aware when your hands start fidgetting around that you wont be coming off to well- in an interview for example . dont realy get these complaints here ..its not useless advise because you happen to have a social disorder is it ? you can still limit the amount of moving around that your doing ..
hey i'm faye too XD
stop teaching me how to be faker than i already am
It's not being fake, if you project a good body image you're mind will follow
Your mind will follow, but it won't be genuine. I know this from personal experience. You can pretend you're something else all you want but your brain knows who you are and how you feel.
So when your mind "follows" its more like a state where you mostly believe yourself when you tell yourself you're something you're not like happy or confident, but it's not the real thing. The real thing is a whole other feeling.
I know this was probably meant to be a funny comment but I just didn't want people to think they can just tell their brains stuff and it will become true Xl
Micaila French
There are a few things you can do to alter how you're perceived, though.
Admittedly, it takes longer than a 5 minute video to delve deeper into body language and its effects on people's perception of you.
And then there's vocal tonality, etc. It's actually quite complex and you can get rather good at convincing people, if you work at it.
Thank god I'm in the business where I don't need these skills.
I can just be rich and people will sense it from me.
If I need pro-level PR, I'll just hire someone.
manictiger Oh I definitely know you can change how you're perceived. I'm way into that.
I just didn't want anyone to go pretending they're something they're not all the time because that can end badly. I understand that there are instances where pretending is okay, but I'm talking about the bad instances.
Mansvee Singh I'm not trying to be fake,I'm trying to learn how to project how I really feel.I have been told that I can seem too aloof,or intimidating, at times.That's definately not how I feel,or how I want other people to feel about me.Just trying to improve my communication and people skills.
When you have ADHD/ADD and can’t stay still... RIP💀
Same for ASD
How to be a robot class 101
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Talking about body language while sitting down...?
I bet shes fought with Starbuck Employees on multiple occasion
What we need, haha
To ask a criminal during investigating a case that would be so helpful.
ممكن أحد يترجم لي للعربي😣
هي تحكي عن لغة الجسد و كيف تلعب دور في اعطاء نظرة عنك مثلا اذا حنيت ظهرك ستبدو و كأنك غير واثق من نفسك و بالمقابل اذا رفعته ستبدو أكثر ثقة... تغيير صغير في لغة جسدك يعطي نظرة مختلفة عنك
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More like "How to lie to the police"
are we creating artificial stereotyped people not original or natural. lets accept others no matter what style they follow if they are sincere.
What a waste of time.
stepahie stevens I read your comment too late. The video is over
Like seriously? I don't think it is.
You have 1 million.subs but just about 15 views lol
Lift your top.
in others words... how to be italian... =P
02:02 she says "moving your feet around 2x, shouldn't that count as junk or filler words like in her um... like... other um... video, ya know?
Where is the guy with his arms crossed ? talk about bait and switch.
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Boii i dont even have to stand up to get a girl. Its being yourself not changing your behavior because of a video lol. You either like it all you dont you will get tired in being in a relationship with a mask on your face.
FUCK ALL I WANT TO DO IS JUST CONVINCE PEOPLE TO JOIN MY MASSIVE ARMY AND CONQUER THE WORLD, WHY THE FUCK ARE THERE ALL THESE VIDS ABOUT GETTING LAID!
xDDDD
Nomzziz Where do I sign up and will there be snacks?
I more just flap around my hands as if I'm trying to help describe what I'm talking about basically look at the 11th doctor hands that flap everywhere
day made
Body language isn't 100% accurate
In the first couple of seconds i had to recover because of the beautiful women, but after i could listen...
Barnabás Horváth its beautiful
hmm yes :DD
Barnabás Horváth Sorry if u feel bad about that but i was just correcting u
Her eyebrows give me anxiety.