Here are some notes: -You're not a super *human* , you're a *human* . You can't do everything you set your mind to do. You can only control your actions not your outcomes. -Happiness stems from comparing yourself only to yourself, not to others. -The key to switching from "i'm going to make a weld that's better than others" to "I'm going to make a weld as flawless as I can" is humility. Saying "I should be able to do x" is a form of entitlement. -When the most successful esports players lose they have the attitude "My opponent(s) just played better than me/us today." -When the toxicity comes up (during a competitive loss of some kind) ask yourself, "Am I think about me or am I thinking about them?" -The biggest thing to do when you want to shift from "them" to "me" is notice the shift. You'll get control over mental situation from that.
so. cope basically. god this is bad advice. i hope you dont use this or give this to anyone other than this comment unless you want people to kys''' in 5 years
The problem I have is I ALWAYS notice when I'm having a GOOD time as well as a bad time. So if I'm in the middle of a conversation, and it's going well and I'm in the moment with the person, my mind will think "oh I'm actually having a really good conversation this is great!", but then as soon as I think that it pulls me out of the conversation and out of the state that lead it to being enjoyable. I have this with literally everything. If I'm playing a video game well, I'll think "oh I'm actually playing well right now" and then that thought will pull me out of the state that lead me to playing well. Same with playing any sport, playing an instrument. In this way I feel like the "noticing" itself can become self-sabotaging. Because when you're in that detached state of noticing, that's not when you're performing your best and enjoying yourself. When you're having fun and doing great is when you're just fully engrossed in what you're doing and not "noticing" the good or the bad. This has literally prevented me from having an enjoyable conversation, game or performing anywhere close to my best for over 10 years. Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop "noticing" everything and just "do"?
@pala pala It's funny you mention default mode network because I remember reading that in relation to depersonalization and I made the assumption that my default mode network is "hyperactive" I guess you would say. So far, I've found strenuous excercise and particularly combat sports to be the most effective thing to get me out of this state. As feeling exhausted with the added element of danger seems to shut down the default mode network to some degree. I will watch those videos you suggested and look into this commitment therapy/cognitive diffusion. And I think that's right, the problem isn't necessarily the noticing, it's that I get caught up and have an emotionally negative reaction to the noticing. Thanks so much for all the suggestions buddy :)
I hope you saw the Dissociation vid and also how not to be awkward they talk about externalizing your perception and emotional intelligence vs turning into operationalizing
@@NismospoolinOfficialoh yes that would be fantastic if that happens. Thank you for this interview with Dr K, it was super helpful , as I was ingrained with a similar mindset as I grew up !
Personally, the only time i've reached the top in a game has been because of a friend, (not carried) i don't have the motivation to get to the top by myself. Some days i didn't feel motivated to play, but the friend was always there to convince me to play, which i liked, since it resulted in me getting better. Edit: This guy is actually me, but 12 years older. Holy actual fuck. Personally, this is most precious review of this channel so far, as i also believe to be superhuman, and that anything is possible, slong as i put all my time into it. Because i made it to the top once, but that's wrong. Instead focus on improving yourself, and being the best player you can be, than being the number 1 player, since you can't affect that. Today's daily dose of AOE healing has had a critical hit on me WP.
As a former welder, it's really interesting you brought up that Nis might be looking at things in a vacuum. Just because it made me think of a welding related analogy. Basically speaking - when welding you're melting metal to metal, and there is usually some form of shielding that takes place during the weld, to prevent foreign particles or debris from oxidizing or impure the weld. This is what makes welds look nice and clean - however there is always something out of your control. No matter how much shielding gas you have, no matter your perfect hand posture holding the welder, fine movements, regardless of *ANYTHING* we have control over - there's always a chance a small particle will come in and oxidize or ruin that *perfect* weld. Even microscopically - to a point you might not notice. The easy route to go is to think - "well why even try?" or mistake this to be something anti-motivational. The other way to look at it, is that no matter what, there are things out of your control. All you have control over is what you do. Just focus on making those welds as unfucked as possible.
I am Ni dominant too, being INTJ. I saw Niz as more of an ISTP guy which is typical of tradesmens who like working with their hands, but maybe he was over using his Ti(accuracy). Ni is more analysis and I think short term Ni is healthier than long term Ni.
Wow. This resonated with me so much, ESPECIALLY at 1:11:00, "I'm still the same fucker. I'm still lazy, I procrastinate just as much. I just notice stuff about myseld. I understand a little better WHY I procrastinate, and sometimes that's enough." Dr. K. Thank you. I suppose this is the feeling I get seeing somebody do their dharma. And so I'll do mine too.
I agree with Dr. k when he said that he doesn't believe that just because you put your mind into something means you'll succeed. Lets take for example competition, if you and your opponent both put your minds into winning, what then? It becomes a question of who can put their minds into it better at that point but when it reaches that point it just comes full circle back to square one. No one has a clear advantage at that point since "puting your mind into it" is a constant between both competitors. If anything, "putting your mind it in" is a prerequisite then in competitions which destroys the whole notion of just soley needing that to win. Edit: I would also like to add, what does putting your mind into something even mean in the first place? Practicing more? Trying harder? What does trying harder mean then? Exerting yourself more? Will exerting yourself more even help if you're doing it wrong or in a ineffective way? There's so many variables in what it means to "put your mind into it" and which variables lead to you dominating the opposition everytime. It also has to be variables in which you control since all you needed to do to win is put your mind into it which you can do.
Some notes for myself: Aspiring to be perfect can be inspirational at times but when you get into the comparative mindset it can become toxic and your ego kicks in. To solve: catch yourself, are you thinking about making yourself better or to be better than the other person.
I played League for 10 years (10000+ hours) and only got to hold. Then, after a few months of trying to get better, rather than trying to be better than my opponent, I hit Diamond 2. If I could watch this 6 years ago, I would in a heartbeat
Ok nice I nearly yelled "Eureka" and kinda cried. "You might be able to get where you want to, you just have a very narrow focus on how to achieve your goal". I think it's something I needed to hear today. Great conversation as always. Amazing topic. Thinking about it tho: We are in control in what you are doing, but we do not control the results. So if someone, well, wants something - putting it that way out of better description, and works towards it, there is a chance he will never get there, so then what?
At that point, the focus is no longer on the destination but on the process of getting there. Ideally, that goal/expectation can be achieved within the bounds of what you can control. That goal must also not be concerned with things you truly have no control over, most especially the outcome of the situation, because that would require you controlling the actions of other people and that is impossible.
“In order to be able to make it, you have to put aside the fear of failing and the desire of succeeding. You have to do these things completely and purely without fear, without desire. Because things that we do without lust of result are the purest actions we shall ever take.” - Alan Moore
axe your ego wouldn't do much. in that moments just lay back on your chair and watch your mind, ask some questions and see how you react I ain't no expert but I can say it works for me
This is one of the most life changing talks I've ever listened to. Dr. K is legend... and he probably doesn't care that I think that about him... which makes him even more a legend
Thank you, Dr. K! I’ve been dealing with a very similar mindset since I became a speed runner. Actually, for much longer than that but this mindset manifested itself a little more openly since then. You’ve given me a lot of food for thought!
I am quite the opposite. I tend to be utter shit on what I start and later on become very good. The problem, however, is finding the motivation and endurance to do stuff at the beginning.
This resonated with me so hard, but the biggest point is the question that we left off on- how do you continue to do something without motivation? That's probably my core issue and fuuck please please p l e a s e do another episode with Nis
As an ADHD gamer I would say motivation is important.. do the people around you think and value what you are doing as great or important? And do you easely get bored doing the same kind of thing with the same people? Just wondering, since that influences me.. atleast I think.. or am I missing something. Like making a real impact on important issues in the world.
Is it possible for you to upload some of these episodes as podcasts? It makes it much more accessible to me to listen to these on the go. Love the content, and would love to see more. :)
This video also translates to anyone trying to become a good artist online. Let's say Comic Artist for example. There is this belief that anyone can learn the fundamentals of art and become a great artist. It's really unpopular to tell anyone that they can't make it. Of course, anyone starting out art has a chance to make it. But after a year or so, you can already tell who is making real progress and whos not. And after 5 years you can really see, that some people barely improved and it had nothing to do with effort. They just can't put all the complex information into their head. From abstract to logical ideas, Art is really too complex for some people. It looks easier than it is because we all have imagination. But executing that on paper is almost impossible without training and talent.
"I have no idea if this is going to get upvotes or downvotes, and frankly i don't fucken care" I always like your videos but that made me hit like straight away
That was quite helpful. My situation is different, but close enough. I love playing magic the gathering with friends. But I hate losing, it feels unfair when I feel like the others were luckier and I should have been abled to win because I play for quite a while. I even played competitive games, not expecting to be the best player but to drive home some wins. I didn't and it made me furious being ranked badly very regularly. It's the same mindset, not thinking about me and recognizing my improvement in strategy and having played my best game. It was about tha fact that I should be abled to beat the others but didn't. Made me furious quite often and even made the organizers call me to order once or twice. I always felt like stoping that is out of my control, but this video showed me, it isn't. I'll definitely be working on my mindset, because mtg should be a fun hobby for me, not a source of anger and pain. Edit: This doesn't work at all. I know, change doesn't come without trying for a while, but I wasn't abled to implement any of the tipps in the slightest. I hate this terrible game, it makes me cry and tilt, every time I try to play it and stay calm and focused on me. Oh my gosh, I can't even start to explain, how much I hate the whole situation, the feeling like a being a failure and not being abled to change that. I'll just go to bed and never touch one of these cursed cards again.
11:48 - skill ceiling 13:58 - narrow focus of success 15:07 33:52 - believe that you can do that make you that good 35:37 36:35 53:06 - if you put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything belief 57:55
Meritocracy is a double edged sword: thinking you could be good as anyone else if you work hard enough so the caveat therefore is if you aren't as good as other people then you didn't work hard enough
I'm confused. Is that belief wrong? I mean you could choose to not invest time into something and you'll be bad at it as a result. If you put in the correct amount of effort you'll be in the same league as everyone else. I didn't understand that part of the lecture.
People with ADHD can usually speak really well. It's usually the one skill they get good at pretty quickly. Especially older people who've dealt with it for years.
I get where he's coming from. I think he sounds like a passionate person, he enjoys being successful and being noted as such. Especially when I was a kid I was the same way, naturally gifted at certain games like fps' like counterstrike 1.5-1.6 too. Just enjoy the love of it I guess but I guess that's different when it's a job.
I know right. A month ago he had like 2k subs. After his interview with Reckful, this channel just blew up. His stream with Lilypichu had max 18k viewers too.
It's weird because I know the chances are so low. I don't think that the issue is that we don't know how unlikely it is. But if you never try then you never know and I find that when I'm trying I hold myself to that unrealistic expectation even though I know it isn't possible for me to achieve that
26:46 The thing about analysing things this way is you need to assume that you are the average basketball player, the average CS player. But being truly realistic would involve taking more variables into account. If the average basketball player is 5"9 and has put in 2000 hours of practice in by the end of highschool, but you're 6"4 and have put in 5000 hours of practice, your chances are not the same as the average player. Sure as an aspiring pro player or twitch streamer be realistic, but don't analyse these things like they're a lottery where there's nothing you can do or be to increase your chances of winning, that's an easy way to become demotivated.
That was a broad conclusion. He also mentioned how he was going to look at the top percentage of players and their chance of going pro/making over 100k. I think Dr. K has enough experience to not overlook such important details given his training.
I think Dr. K. was trying to illustrate that certain things, such as genetics and circumstance, can indeed hinder you from achieving anything you put your mind to. This is a hard realisation to have since it means that certain things are simply out of your reach. On the other hand it can also offer great relief, since it leads to the realisation that the only thing you can truly control is what you do, and that is something you can work on doing as well as you can (a constructive goal). I can't really wrap my head around your example since it seems somewhat contradictory. You say these things should not be treated as a lottery, but on the other hand you compare the average player to someone who is above average height, something that is truly a genetic lottery. I do however agree with the amount of hours one put in, but I would then change the example around and say that a 5"9 person who practices for 5000 hours will have a better chance at NBA than a 6"4 person who only practices 2000 hours (although not guaranteed of course).
well the difference between real physical sports and esports is that the physical difference is glaringly absurd in sports like bball football whatever. you putting in double the effort might mean nothing if the other guy is just more physically gifted. In games some people cant see the difference that easily.
@@Jules-vf1zq Yeah after finishing watching I think he does take into account what I said. And I agree with his point that you're probably going to get more done if you don't beat yourself up with endless counterfactuals about what you should/could have done differently. And I also disagree with what that streamer said about "anyone no matter their age/circumstance can achieve what they want to", you have to be sensible. Humans are not all equally capable at everything they do, and sometimes the person who puts in half as much practice as you will still be better.
@@ShadawGaming It's true that being tall is genetically lucky, but we are making an analysis about someone's chances of success given what they have and have done. If you were to make the same predictions when they were a baby, it would make sense to say "their chances of being a pro basketball player are the same as every other aspiring basketball player", but in the example we already know what their strengths are so it wouldn't make sense to treat that as a matter of chance.
How do you get over the attitude that after being defeated you revert to saying "If only I had worked harder, If only I had been more focused" because those are true? How do you get over the feeling that you didn't give it your 100%.
Think about what you said, "didn't give your 100%" that's the issue, if you give everything your 100% theres absolutely nothing you can do to change the outcome. So that comes to the question, do you give your 100% when you feel this way? Because if not then you have your answer
This is late but sounds like you're a perfectionist. What might help if you're still struggling with this, is reminding yourself that you are *human*. Yes you could have worked harder at that project/task, and put in a few more hours everyday instead of doing something else/procrastinating, but in life you're going to make sacrifices and you're going to have other priorities such as your loved ones. And also, there were probably reasons why you hadn't worked as hard as you wanted, for example a common reason is to avoid suffering/disappointment. The point is, it's okay whatever the result was, because AT THAT TIME, that really was the best you could have done, given your mindset+life circumstances. Forgive yourself, and continue working on actionable steps to improve if that is what you wish for - keeping in mind that you'll make sacrifices here and there, and having resistance+regrets is human.
Man, I have ADHD 100%. I always considered it, but after seeing how this guy goes on and on and on and on about random stuff about his story made me sure hahaha.
I recently researched this topic again, since a lot has changed over the years. Here's my playlist if you want to learn more (kind of a rough overview, I have more videos not included in this list): th-cam.com/play/PL4JAILRgDAWtTucSHX6Jp9tF_iAiatJT2.html
I feel like games have developed short hair triggers for people to react in ways that harm themselves or break things that they bought out of a feeling of anger or frustration. Why do these tendencies develop in such a way? For example, watch a FIFA rage compilation and you'll see what I'm talking about. My main theory is that we develop these fight or flight triggers and when we game too much, we can get stuck into a fight mode where we tend to take our current feelings out on the closest thing. Or possibly it's based off a developed mindset from playing games like FIFA and watching others play them and rage in the same way. Does our brain just see that and think "this would be the best relief for you in this moment" or something? idk. Just some thoughts I just came up with :)
This isn't unique to gaming. If you can't solve a problem with logic or skill the brain has the temptation to resort to it's lower functions like violence to "solve the problem". People always want to smash things when they can't fix or use them properly lol.
Yea just counting subs is extremely ignorant. (unless you're stating you're just talking about subs) But Streamers build brands/are influencers. That's worth a lot of money for companies. Streamers make the most money from partnerships, endorsements, donations etc.
Staying authentic is what you need... I do not like fakes so I do not want to become one. I do not want to become fake by pleasing other people's expectations... it is so hard to disspoint people... to come back to a bad dissision. I'm strugling with this myself and it's absolutely killing me, it is like I'm losing myself not staying with my belief even thoughit nis changing and contradicts what I said before.. although you I just know I should. I'm I a coward right? Since it sure seems that way when I fall to my expectation of other people's expectations and then in turn try to please them.
What is the point of even trying if you're not guranteed to succeed if you put enough effort? Like, it's waste of energy and time. You can just chill instead: work some low effort job, get just enough money to cover your basic needs and constantly have fun by doing whatever your mind wants in every particular hour of a day.
Nothing in this world is guaranteed. Trying raises the likelihood of success. Not trying though has a high likelihood of failure but even that is not guaranteed. That at least is what I believe.
If you arent under the top 100 sub count streamers, you dont make much money off subs. His expectations are way off. DisguisedToast made a very indepth video about how much and through what a streamer makes how much money.
Please continue with the ending of this when you said “you need to find out how to continue going when motivation is no longer there.” This is a huge problem I have
Why in the fuck would anyone brag about making $150k total from 1.6 to GO? Isn’t that a couple of years. He could’ve made all that in two years with his welding skills.
I'm sorry man but age and capacity does matter.. but on the upside effort does as well but it does not cancel out the first two. You are so inocent and pure but you need to realise why your grandfather tought you this belief.. for this a reason: to make the most out of you and the people you are responsible for.. but you have to realise that there are limits and people are not all born equal although they should be treated as such as much as possible.
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Here are some notes:
-You're not a super *human* , you're a *human* . You can't do everything you set your mind to do. You can only control your actions not your outcomes.
-Happiness stems from comparing yourself only to yourself, not to others.
-The key to switching from "i'm going to make a weld that's better than others" to "I'm going to make a weld as flawless as I can" is humility. Saying "I should be able to do x" is a form of entitlement.
-When the most successful esports players lose they have the attitude "My opponent(s) just played better than me/us today."
-When the toxicity comes up (during a competitive loss of some kind) ask yourself, "Am I think about me or am I thinking about them?"
-The biggest thing to do when you want to shift from "them" to "me" is notice the shift. You'll get control over mental situation from that.
thank you man❤️
This post best post
so. cope basically. god this is bad advice. i hope you dont use this or give this to anyone other than this comment unless you want people to kys''' in 5 years
@@G-G._ How is any of this just coping?
@@barnebyoconnell8176 if your genuinely asking that. i cant help you bro.not many can
The problem I have is I ALWAYS notice when I'm having a GOOD time as well as a bad time.
So if I'm in the middle of a conversation, and it's going well and I'm in the moment with the person, my mind will think "oh I'm actually having a really good conversation this is great!", but then as soon as I think that it pulls me out of the conversation and out of the state that lead it to being enjoyable.
I have this with literally everything. If I'm playing a video game well, I'll think "oh I'm actually playing well right now" and then that thought will pull me out of the state that lead me to playing well. Same with playing any sport, playing an instrument.
In this way I feel like the "noticing" itself can become self-sabotaging. Because when you're in that detached state of noticing, that's not when you're performing your best and enjoying yourself. When you're having fun and doing great is when you're just fully engrossed in what you're doing and not "noticing" the good or the bad.
This has literally prevented me from having an enjoyable conversation, game or performing anywhere close to my best for over 10 years.
Does anyone have any advice on how I can stop "noticing" everything and just "do"?
@pala pala It's funny you mention default mode network because I remember reading that in relation to depersonalization and I made the assumption that my default mode network is "hyperactive" I guess you would say.
So far, I've found strenuous excercise and particularly combat sports to be the most effective thing to get me out of this state. As feeling exhausted with the added element of danger seems to shut down the default mode network to some degree.
I will watch those videos you suggested and look into this commitment therapy/cognitive diffusion.
And I think that's right, the problem isn't necessarily the noticing, it's that I get caught up and have an emotionally negative reaction to the noticing.
Thanks so much for all the suggestions buddy :)
I hope you saw the Dissociation vid and also how not to be awkward they talk about externalizing your perception and emotional intelligence vs turning into operationalizing
Please invite him again for a second day so you can pick up from where you left off, this was really important for me peronally.
I think the second session may have been about dharma. Not that there is a second session but that's my guess
I didn't think to request a follow up to this. I will contact Dr. K about it and see what he thinks.
Yes please!!!
@@NismospoolinOfficialoh yes that would be fantastic if that happens. Thank you for this interview with Dr K, it was super helpful , as I was ingrained with a similar mindset as I grew up !
Personally, the only time i've reached the top in a game has been because of a friend, (not carried) i don't have the motivation to get to the top by myself. Some days i didn't feel motivated to play, but the friend was always there to convince me to play, which i liked, since it resulted in me getting better.
Edit: This guy is actually me, but 12 years older. Holy actual fuck. Personally, this is most precious review of this channel so far, as i also believe to be superhuman, and that anything is possible, slong as i put all my time into it. Because i made it to the top once, but that's wrong. Instead focus on improving yourself, and being the best player you can be, than being the number 1 player, since you can't affect that.
Today's daily dose of AOE healing has had a critical hit on me WP.
As a former welder, it's really interesting you brought up that Nis might be looking at things in a vacuum. Just because it made me think of a welding related analogy.
Basically speaking - when welding you're melting metal to metal, and there is usually some form of shielding that takes place during the weld, to prevent foreign particles or debris from oxidizing or impure the weld.
This is what makes welds look nice and clean - however there is always something out of your control.
No matter how much shielding gas you have, no matter your perfect hand posture holding the welder, fine movements, regardless of *ANYTHING* we have control over - there's always a chance a small particle will come in and oxidize or ruin that *perfect* weld. Even microscopically - to a point you might not notice.
The easy route to go is to think - "well why even try?" or mistake this to be something anti-motivational. The other way to look at it, is that no matter what, there are things out of your control. All you have control over is what you do. Just focus on making those welds as unfucked as possible.
I am Ni dominant too, being INTJ. I saw Niz as more of an ISTP guy which is typical of tradesmens who like working with their hands, but maybe he was over using his Ti(accuracy). Ni is more analysis and I think short term Ni is healthier than long term Ni.
RIP MFDOOM
Wow.
This resonated with me so much, ESPECIALLY at 1:11:00, "I'm still the same fucker. I'm still lazy, I procrastinate just as much. I just notice stuff about myseld. I understand a little better WHY I procrastinate, and sometimes that's enough."
Dr. K. Thank you. I suppose this is the feeling I get seeing somebody do their dharma. And so I'll do mine too.
I agree with Dr. k when he said that he doesn't believe that just because you put your mind into something means you'll succeed. Lets take for example competition, if you and your opponent both put your minds into winning, what then?
It becomes a question of who can put their minds into it better at that point but when it reaches that point it just comes full circle back to square one. No one has a clear advantage at that point since "puting your mind into it" is a constant between both competitors. If anything, "putting your mind it in" is a prerequisite then in competitions which destroys the whole notion of just soley needing that to win.
Edit: I would also like to add, what does putting your mind into something even mean in the first place? Practicing more? Trying harder? What does trying harder mean then? Exerting yourself more? Will exerting yourself more even help if you're doing it wrong or in a ineffective way? There's so many variables in what it means to "put your mind into it" and which variables lead to you dominating the opposition everytime. It also has to be variables in which you control since all you needed to do to win is put your mind into it which you can do.
Some notes for myself:
Aspiring to be perfect can be inspirational at times but when you get into the comparative mindset it can become toxic and your ego kicks in.
To solve: catch yourself, are you thinking about making yourself better or to be better than the other person.
I played League for 10 years (10000+ hours) and only got to hold. Then, after a few months of trying to get better, rather than trying to be better than my opponent, I hit Diamond 2. If I could watch this 6 years ago, I would in a heartbeat
But perhaps another point is who gives a shit if you're diamond or gold. Do you feel like you're good at the game? Do you enjoy it?
@asdf why does being the best in the world matter? Sounds like ego.
Ok nice I nearly yelled "Eureka" and kinda cried. "You might be able to get where you want to, you just have a very narrow focus on how to achieve your goal". I think it's something I needed to hear today.
Great conversation as always. Amazing topic.
Thinking about it tho: We are in control in what you are doing, but we do not control the results. So if someone, well, wants something - putting it that way out of better description, and works towards it, there is a chance he will never get there, so then what?
At that point, the focus is no longer on the destination but on the process of getting there. Ideally, that goal/expectation can be achieved within the bounds of what you can control. That goal must also not be concerned with things you truly have no control over, most especially the outcome of the situation, because that would require you controlling the actions of other people and that is impossible.
“In order to be able to make it, you have to put aside the fear of failing and the desire of succeeding. You have to do these things completely and purely without fear, without desire. Because things that we do without lust of result are the purest actions we shall ever take.” - Alan Moore
Oooh I just want to take on my ego and expectations and take a huge axe to them! This is perfect timing!
axe your ego wouldn't do much. in that moments just lay back on your chair and watch your mind, ask some questions and see how you react
I ain't no expert but I can say it works for me
This is one of the most life changing talks I've ever listened to. Dr. K is legend... and he probably doesn't care that I think that about him... which makes him even more a legend
Thank you, Dr. K! I’ve been dealing with a very similar mindset since I became a speed runner. Actually, for much longer than that but this mindset manifested itself a little more openly since then. You’ve given me a lot of food for thought!
Holy shit I can relate to this guy so much wtf
Me too man..
I am quite the opposite. I tend to be utter shit on what I start and later on become very good. The problem, however, is finding the motivation and endurance to do stuff at the beginning.
same man, still playing cs 1.6 to this day and the noobs I was stomping before are now better than me PepeHands
Yh man vids like these allow ppl to relate to others with similar characteristic and problems
This resonated with me so hard, but the biggest point is the question that we left off on- how do you continue to do something without motivation? That's probably my core issue and fuuck please please p l e a s e do another episode with Nis
As an ADHD gamer I would say motivation is important.. do the people around you think and value what you are doing as great or important? And do you easely get bored doing the same kind of thing with the same people? Just wondering, since that influences me.. atleast I think.. or am I missing something. Like making a real impact on important issues in the world.
Great content. Would you consider making the audio available for a download in a form of podcast? I bet you could increase your reach that way easily.
I skipped this talk believing it wouldn't be that relevant to me but DAMN was I wrong.
so refreshing. Thank you very much Dr. K. I can't wait for the next dharma lecture! Four pages of notes on the last one
I related to this so much and I do hope Dr. K can bring him back on to see how he has progressed
Is it possible for you to upload some of these episodes as podcasts? It makes it much more accessible to me to listen to these on the go. Love the content, and would love to see more. :)
This video also translates to anyone trying to become a good artist online. Let's say Comic Artist for example. There is this belief that anyone can learn the fundamentals of art and become a great artist. It's really unpopular to tell anyone that they can't make it. Of course, anyone starting out art has a chance to make it. But after a year or so, you can already tell who is making real progress and whos not. And after 5 years you can really see, that some people barely improved and it had nothing to do with effort. They just can't put all the complex information into their head. From abstract to logical ideas, Art is really too complex for some people. It looks easier than it is because we all have imagination. But executing that on paper is almost impossible without training and talent.
Rule 4: Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
what if you become disabled, traumatize or whatever debilitating? isn't another false expectation that you should become better over time?
What the fuck, I read this chapter yesterday
hell yeah lobster gang
Bryan-Elliott Tam What if a fucking airplane crashes down on your house right now? Bet you won’t be comparing shit then!
Lobster gang
"I have no idea if this is going to get upvotes or downvotes, and frankly i don't fucken care"
I always like your videos but that made me hit like straight away
The moment he got competitive about not being competitive. lol
I don’t usually leave a comment or watch your streams but I never forget to leave a like.
just leave the like. dont farm likes in the comments. move on with your life
@@G-G._ why don't you do the same and not write this comment.
Damn, I hope you win your game Dr. K. The gaming community needs you to win.
This is really helpful recently i'm tilting a lot on teammates which makes me play way worse need to workout on it.
That was quite helpful. My situation is different, but close enough. I love playing magic the gathering with friends. But I hate losing, it feels unfair when I feel like the others were luckier and I should have been abled to win because I play for quite a while. I even played competitive games, not expecting to be the best player but to drive home some wins. I didn't and it made me furious being ranked badly very regularly.
It's the same mindset, not thinking about me and recognizing my improvement in strategy and having played my best game. It was about tha fact that I should be abled to beat the others but didn't. Made me furious quite often and even made the organizers call me to order once or twice.
I always felt like stoping that is out of my control, but this video showed me, it isn't. I'll definitely be working on my mindset, because mtg should be a fun hobby for me, not a source of anger and pain.
Edit: This doesn't work at all. I know, change doesn't come without trying for a while, but I wasn't abled to implement any of the tipps in the slightest. I hate this terrible game, it makes me cry and tilt, every time I try to play it and stay calm and focused on me. Oh my gosh, I can't even start to explain, how much I hate the whole situation, the feeling like a being a failure and not being abled to change that. I'll just go to bed and never touch one of these cursed cards again.
The Dark Knight Returns Miller Comic come to mind - you don't beat young playing the young way, you beat them playing 'old',with experience
11:48 - skill ceiling
13:58 - narrow focus of success
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33:52 - believe that you can do that make you that good
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53:06 - if you put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything belief
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Meritocracy is a double edged sword: thinking you could be good as anyone else if you work hard enough so the caveat therefore is if you aren't as good as other people then you didn't work hard enough
I'm confused. Is that belief wrong? I mean you could choose to not invest time into something and you'll be bad at it as a result. If you put in the correct amount of effort you'll be in the same league as everyone else. I didn't understand that part of the lecture.
This guy has a lovely and interesting mix of both american English and maybe Aussie English.
this is awesome! I can relate to this so much. im so happy for this video
Hey, would love to see more of Dr. K and Nismo!
so happy that i clicked on this video :D , usually i justo watch the videos with famous streamers but i should watch others too
"You can win, but you're NOT GUARANTEED to win."
damn, dispite his adhd issue, he is very well spoken and can really express how he feels
People with ADHD can usually speak really well. It's usually the one skill they get good at pretty quickly. Especially older people who've dealt with it for years.
@@AirKhan45 that's really awesome
Lol "dEsPiTe" the stigma is real hahaha
I get where he's coming from. I think he sounds like a passionate person, he enjoys being successful and being noted as such. Especially when I was a kid I was the same way, naturally gifted at certain games like fps' like counterstrike 1.5-1.6 too. Just enjoy the love of it I guess but I guess that's different when it's a job.
this channels sub count growth per day is crazy
I know right. A month ago he had like 2k subs. After his interview with Reckful, this channel just blew up. His stream with Lilypichu had max 18k viewers too.
This video is 2^3*5*11^2 seconds long and that's beautiful, help me, Dr.K
It's weird because I know the chances are so low. I don't think that the issue is that we don't know how unlikely it is. But if you never try then you never know and I find that when I'm trying I hold myself to that unrealistic expectation even though I know it isn't possible for me to achieve that
Man, old Dr. K is really passionate, almost aggressive.
so he is pretty much vegeta who can't go even further beyond :(
And this... Is... To go... EVEN.... FURTHER.... BEYOND
The vegeta syndrome is the best exemple
So when Dr K opens his merch shop... his world class chilli needs to be on the menu!
26:46 The thing about analysing things this way is you need to assume that you are the average basketball player, the average CS player. But being truly realistic would involve taking more variables into account. If the average basketball player is 5"9 and has put in 2000 hours of practice in by the end of highschool, but you're 6"4 and have put in 5000 hours of practice, your chances are not the same as the average player. Sure as an aspiring pro player or twitch streamer be realistic, but don't analyse these things like they're a lottery where there's nothing you can do or be to increase your chances of winning, that's an easy way to become demotivated.
That was a broad conclusion. He also mentioned how he was going to look at the top percentage of players and their chance of going pro/making over 100k. I think Dr. K has enough experience to not overlook such important details given his training.
I think Dr. K. was trying to illustrate that certain things, such as genetics and circumstance, can indeed hinder you from achieving anything you put your mind to. This is a hard realisation to have since it means that certain things are simply out of your reach. On the other hand it can also offer great relief, since it leads to the realisation that the only thing you can truly control is what you do, and that is something you can work on doing as well as you can (a constructive goal).
I can't really wrap my head around your example since it seems somewhat contradictory. You say these things should not be treated as a lottery, but on the other hand you compare the average player to someone who is above average height, something that is truly a genetic lottery. I do however agree with the amount of hours one put in, but I would then change the example around and say that a 5"9 person who practices for 5000 hours will have a better chance at NBA than a 6"4 person who only practices 2000 hours (although not guaranteed of course).
well the difference between real physical sports and esports is that the physical difference is glaringly absurd in sports like bball football whatever. you putting in double the effort might mean nothing if the other guy is just more physically gifted. In games some people cant see the difference that easily.
@@Jules-vf1zq Yeah after finishing watching I think he does take into account what I said. And I agree with his point that you're probably going to get more done if you don't beat yourself up with endless counterfactuals about what you should/could have done differently. And I also disagree with what that streamer said about "anyone no matter their age/circumstance can achieve what they want to", you have to be sensible. Humans are not all equally capable at everything they do, and sometimes the person who puts in half as much practice as you will still be better.
@@ShadawGaming It's true that being tall is genetically lucky, but we are making an analysis about someone's chances of success given what they have and have done. If you were to make the same predictions when they were a baby, it would make sense to say "their chances of being a pro basketball player are the same as every other aspiring basketball player", but in the example we already know what their strengths are so it wouldn't make sense to treat that as a matter of chance.
here 19:04
you meant to say
top 300 10k$ per month and 100k$ per year
How do you get over the attitude that after being defeated you revert to saying "If only I had worked harder, If only I had been more focused" because those are true? How do you get over the feeling that you didn't give it your 100%.
Think about what you said, "didn't give your 100%" that's the issue, if you give everything your 100% theres absolutely nothing you can do to change the outcome. So that comes to the question, do you give your 100% when you feel this way? Because if not then you have your answer
This is late but sounds like you're a perfectionist. What might help if you're still struggling with this, is reminding yourself that you are *human*. Yes you could have worked harder at that project/task, and put in a few more hours everyday instead of doing something else/procrastinating, but in life you're going to make sacrifices and you're going to have other priorities such as your loved ones. And also, there were probably reasons why you hadn't worked as hard as you wanted, for example a common reason is to avoid suffering/disappointment. The point is, it's okay whatever the result was, because AT THAT TIME, that really was the best you could have done, given your mindset+life circumstances. Forgive yourself, and continue working on actionable steps to improve if that is what you wish for - keeping in mind that you'll make sacrifices here and there, and having resistance+regrets is human.
Man, I have ADHD 100%. I always considered it, but after seeing how this guy goes on and on and on and on about random stuff about his story made me sure hahaha.
I recently researched this topic again, since a lot has changed over the years. Here's my playlist if you want to learn more (kind of a rough overview, I have more videos not included in this list):
th-cam.com/play/PL4JAILRgDAWtTucSHX6Jp9tF_iAiatJT2.html
Starts at 27:57
thanks dr k your doing our generation a great service !
1:17:28 First milestone: Step away from comparing yourself to other people.
just a general comment, i find your videos are really quiet
Either you have audio issues or bad hearing. You could also just turn your volume up
"I'm just a scientist."
Literally no one has ever said that.
I feel like games have developed short hair triggers for people to react in ways that harm themselves or break things that they bought out of a feeling of anger or frustration. Why do these tendencies develop in such a way? For example, watch a FIFA rage compilation and you'll see what I'm talking about.
My main theory is that we develop these fight or flight triggers and when we game too much, we can get stuck into a fight mode where we tend to take our current feelings out on the closest thing. Or possibly it's based off a developed mindset from playing games like FIFA and watching others play them and rage in the same way. Does our brain just see that and think "this would be the best relief for you in this moment" or something?
idk. Just some thoughts I just came up with :)
This isn't unique to gaming. If you can't solve a problem with logic or skill the brain has the temptation to resort to it's lower functions like violence to "solve the problem". People always want to smash things when they can't fix or use them properly lol.
amazing work
The part of how much twitch streamers make
I think dr. K was talking about on twitch exclusively and nismo was talking about all income streams.
Yea just counting subs is extremely ignorant. (unless you're stating you're just talking about subs) But Streamers build brands/are influencers. That's worth a lot of money for companies. Streamers make the most money from partnerships, endorsements, donations etc.
It took me two years to find this xD
Staying authentic is what you need... I do not like fakes so I do not want to become one. I do not want to become fake by pleasing other people's expectations... it is so hard to disspoint people... to come back to a bad dissision. I'm strugling with this myself and it's absolutely killing me, it is like I'm losing myself not staying with my belief even thoughit nis changing and contradicts what I said before.. although you I just know I should. I'm I a coward right? Since it sure seems that way when I fall to my expectation of other people's expectations and then in turn try to please them.
I made it right after this. And I will try to do so in the future even sooner.
What is the point of even trying if you're not guranteed to succeed if you put enough effort? Like, it's waste of energy and time. You can just chill instead: work some low effort job, get just enough money to cover your basic needs and constantly have fun by doing whatever your mind wants in every particular hour of a day.
Nothing in this world is guaranteed. Trying raises the likelihood of success. Not trying though has a high likelihood of failure but even that is not guaranteed. That at least is what I believe.
This is where hacks, PED's, bribing etc. comes in.
Thanks doc
If you arent under the top 100 sub count streamers, you dont make much money off subs.
His expectations are way off.
DisguisedToast made a very indepth video about how much and through what a streamer makes how much money.
Wait dr k doesnt monetize this videos?
@HarveyBirdman it bothers me in the sense that watching ads is the only way I can help monetarily to thia channel and it's growth.
@@Gullerm000666 that's not true, you can spread the channel to people you know so he grows
@HarveyBirdman he said on stream that the money he mades from streaming gets reinvested into content. And i'd like that figure to be larger thats it.
key moments at 25:00, 58:00, 1:09:00
You know, I am something of a scientist myself
Interview WingsOfRedemption!!!!!
bell gang
I don't think counting 2.5mil "streamers" made sense here, a lot of people turn a stream on a few times and give up.
Please continue with the ending of this when you said “you need to find out how to continue going when motivation is no longer there.” This is a huge problem I have
i feel like the dislikes are the colleagues that doubted dr k
You think you can do these things but you just can't Nemo!
felt like he was talking to me
Not sure he even knows why he’s on the show except to talk about his own show
Why in the fuck would anyone brag about making $150k total from 1.6 to GO? Isn’t that a couple of years. He could’ve made all that in two years with his welding skills.
OH NO NO NO PepeLaugh :point_right: forsenCD
What about CBT? To change the thougths
I dont think you have only adhd, i see alot of autism in there aswell. i have delt with the same problems myself being diagnosed with ASS.
Dude 3 minutes in and I relate from deep in my soul
1:12:03 Meditation
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I'm sorry man but age and capacity does matter.. but on the upside effort does as well but it does not cancel out the first two. You are so inocent and pure but you need to realise why your grandfather tought you this belief.. for this a reason: to make the most out of you and the people you are responsible for.. but you have to realise that there are limits and people are not all born equal although they should be treated as such as much as possible.
how do you operate without determination???
Why should you try to operate without determination?
@48:39 PepeLaugh he doesn't know
Be the best version of yourself.
You're welcome :D
The Twitch earnings tilted me because , those numbers were so off
Itsteejaye by who dr k or the guy? Cause both were off but dr k was only going by sub count
Don't agree with the "anything is possible, is impossible" perspective
I like all the streams so far; except Athene and this one...
Dude your problem is you play CS:GO and you will never play as good as a cheater. It is that simple. Leave this broken game alone.
is it me or this guy faking his accent
im guessing u are American?
@@mrqueem1703 im guessing you are guessing for some reason other than to talk about why this guy 'niz' is faking his accent
Born in england and moved to america. Thats your answer
Is it fucking relevant?
30% of 5 dollars it's not 3.5
He just said it wrong but he’s referring to the 70/30 split vs the 50/50 split. With the 70/30 split 70 goes to the streamer which would be $3.50