I never knew I would be telling the full truth about what my needs are, but here it goes: I would like to be held closely in a hug, just like I'm a child and the other one hugging me is bigger than I am. I'm not the type of person to be manipulative, but I have convinced myself before to not need such compassion. If I had such compassion shown to me, I would cry tears of joy for sure. I'm good to people, but such a hug would be the best. I know it does sound weird, childish in fact, but it is my need. :) :) :) ♡♡♡
+Joshua Byrd Ask someone you trust for a hug. It's not childish at all. My partner asks me to hold him in my arms. He also rests his head on my lap and I stroke his hair. Lots of men cry when they're treated with tenderness.
I loved both of these replies. I enjoy a relationship that is based on love from the heart, instead of lust. Truth is, my heart has been sealed for a while now, and I'm working on opening it back up. I see this struggle manifested in my dreams at night. It's a lot to explain. I need emotional assistance with this, but I'm also cautious of psychic energy vampires, while being careful that I don't become a psychic energy vampire. I want to be the cause of fueling myself and others with positive energy. :) ♡ :) ♡ :) ♡
I need to be wanted, I need to be useful, I need to love and be loved. I need to bring joy to others, I need to care for our mother earth. But when I look around I feel like I was misplaced.
I too need to be useful and to look after mother earth. I also feel that I need encouragement to meet those two needs, and encouragement to take better care of myself. Thank you for sharing :)
Hi John, maybe we should compare notes. I feel the same way, like a fish out of water. I’ve been needing to connect with more like minded people but I don’t know how to find them
it's just refreshing what you do: being on the spiritual plane but not constantly playing the "you created everything yourself so it's your fault"-card. the big difference between you and a bunch of other spiritual teachers is that one can see that you actually suffered. it' s not that I don't learn from others, i do, a lot, but often I think: "if you actually really knew rock bottom, you wouldn't just dismiss it that easily in people." i feel like you genuinely care about bringing people solutions and about not condemning ourselves for being what we are, at the same time you're progressive. the amount of compassion you display is enormous.
I just discovered teal swam and I feel like my entire being is lighter tonight , I'm breaking down , just by knowingy needs are not wrong, my trauma is able to be healed 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 Love this , so powerful .
"Select people, and surround yourself with people, whose needs are met by meeting your needs. Let the people who have conflicting needs gravitate away from you." I've learned the hard way that trying to satisfy self-centered people is like trying to fill a bottomless hole, and this was really helpful for me to hear. Thank you.
Teal you are truly changing the collective consciousness and raising the vibration of the planet! Words do not have the capacity to express our infinite gratitude!
Teal, of all the many self-help videos on YT, yours continue to resonate with me the most. They are both healing, and above all, seem to connect both my head and my heart in a way that few other books, or tutorials, or anything else manages to do-in short, they are a continuing light in my life. This is your gift, and I appreciate you sharing it beyond mere words. You're special, and meaningful, and loved.
+Solid Spirit You know, when it comes to any self-help ideas, I believe that it's just best to see what works for YOU. If you see the value in something, and if its clearly helping you, it's all good :)
+Solid Spirit Its because they get hurt when they do. At the moment for me, whenever I open the heart chakra its hell, quite literally. I did a bit of work on that and next to me part of my world now is a pile of papers and old junk that needed to be dealt with brought about by a block trying to do something else. I've found a bill for several thousand pounds that didn't exist and i've had 2 days of blocks trying to just get started fixing a problem and its hell and this time I decided to say okay lets live in hell for a bit and try to integrate it. The reason some people can't feel and thus lack that sensory perception is because its hell when they do. On the plus side I can talk to some pretty vile or disturbing people rationally because I feel so little, the other day I was rationally reasoning with a nazi for example, which even for me was a bit of a test but I didn't feel anything but cold hard logic.
Solid Spirit I assume you mean because I was trying to reason with a nazi? Which was an odd situation to be certain, and could only occur online where more types of people meet, but hopefully I made some ground with them, at least I tried. What was I supposed to do yell at them, how would that have helped. I have a natural inclination to help or fix things, especially in this domain here where I have most interaction, through a computer and I find breaking down extremes or at least overt racism quite easy to deal with these days. As to would I like to feel more, yes. I would very much like to feel the tree that was just lit on fire by its owner, and cut down that I used to sit under, I considered it a breakthrough that I felt uncomfortable by its presence not being there quite honestly. But as it is, numbness is the only prevailing emotion aside from anger, frustration or the odd bit of depression, not common because numbness is the main. I do make efforts to feel gratitude but it is with effort that I feel it, whereas anger is much more natural to feel, and thus probably why the emotional center burned out. Anyway enough about me, hopefully you gleaned something useful from the conversation. wbv.
I just wanted to piggyback what you said. I couldn't agree more...and I couldn't of said it better myself. I am new to this. .but I am saturated with the truth. Its kinda funny because I have been asking, why I am the way that I am and FINALLY I am getting an answer! and this video might be the one I needed the most. Peace and blessings to all of us. Happy travels to you on your journeys xxx
Teal, I love you so much. You literally transformed the way I used to look at my life. Thank you so much. I wish I could meet you someday and we could enjoy some tea at a café. Love you. 💘
Lovely video. It's important to note that science has confirmed that our mental, physical and emotional health is dependent on others. We were not built to be alone, but to live in communion. We were built for love, as it is our most harmonious state of being.
I'm so glad i'm not the only one saying these things! Y'all have no idea the damage people will do to themselves by not being honest about their needs, clear and honest communication makes life so much easier! So many of my readings when i was a street psychic was convincing people to fill their own cup!
I am watching this after so much enlightenment about demonic attraction and agreement/attachment. Wow, I feel so empowered and less afraid of things I have been going through. You are an amazing gift to this world
I need somebody who can take my emotions. If I am sad or angry I want somebody who can accept my emotions and reassure me that they love me. I want to be allowed to feel. My way of manipulation is to not allow myself to show negative emotions because I am too afraid of rejection or being told that I am immature for feeling a certain way.
Honor the other person's desire or decision not to meet your need by allowing them that role. Then you are free to see them for who they are in your life, and also to find others to help you meet your needs in a mutually satisfying way. Thank you for that beautifully stated insight, Teal. Namaste.
I have experienced people running away from me or leaving me when I express my needs. It very much started with my mother! So I have developed a rather ascetic, tough shell, but underneath, I feel my unmet needs intensely, and it scares people away I think.
Namaste Teal You are such a Gift to the world THANK YOU so helpful & clearly put May all of life come to you and yours with Ease & JOy & Grace & Glory STAY BLESSED
Very well explained. The first step to spirituality is to face our needs and desires and address them appropriately. we can then evolve in all aspects of our personality. Thank You for sharing and helping so many people to understand the essence of spiritual concepts in daily lives!! God bless you!
You met a great need of mine by telling me that it's ok for me to have needs! I've been driving myself crazy, trying to embody abundance, wholeness...While feeling completely starved! I realized a funny thing the other day, that I have resistance to having resistance! lol! I guess we all get caught up in this type of trap at some stage in the journey. As soon as I learned that our thoughts create our reality, I got into the whole mind trap of OMG I HAVE TO MAKE SURE I DONT CREATE ANYTHING NEGATIVE...It was right in your first paragraph: Need indicates lack, and if I need something that means I'm not enough. I'm allergic to lack now, haha. Lack defined the first 33 years of my life. I guess I have a lot of unmet needs...I never knew it was even possible to meet them until I had this awakening...!
I listened for days your videos, Teal! These are the mist profound statements of our real human experiences. Thank You for all of Your work. You are a beautiful and profetic woman.
This is one of the most enlightened videos I've seen on TH-cam.. probably ever. I'm going echo what someone else has already said - thank you for being born. You're awesome x
I am just so amazed that these amazing videos are free! If used, this information Teal provides is just life changing, have been using a lot of what I have watched and yes, very powerful stuff, but don't let it be another concept, give these videos a fair try! Thanx Teal!!!
Thank you so much Teal, i was under a lot of emotional pain all day, due to a horrible relationship that finally came to an end.. Baring that pain all day i just could not keep going, i got home sat on youtube and start looking trough your channel, this is the 4th video i saw today, and i already know exactly what broth me here AGAIN, and exactly how not to end up dying again. You are amazing!
Teal swan meets the necessary need that people have for guidance and counselling in that her videos are based on scientific principles and techniques used by leading experts in the field of psychology and spirituality I fully support teal swan in her efforts and in her premise
I have been following you since you posted about "emotional vampires"...and haven't turned back. You're incredible, and I wish I could actually meet with you in person. I believe just one meeting and my life could be changed. You are amazing, and I thank you for all you give us.
I cried so much during this video. I cried for the part of me that felt like I didn’t have my needs met, it made me sad and I was shocked by this sadness. I realized that I am usually looking for comfort, connection, understanding, and attention. I feel like I have a good bit of manipulation tactics and it feels impossible as to how I can get it directly. But, seeing myself as valid and childish because teal said it’s not childish really relieved me! And I’m relieved that if I get it, I won’t be this endless bottomless pit for that need because I will be nourished. There is some hope and I wonder how I can do things a little differently.
He could meet the need yet my vulnerability scared him. He ran away. 😢 Thankfully you helped me realize that I’m not wrong.I knew that I needed it. I still need it. I pray that some day it happens in this lifetime
And earlier today I was remembering the song from the musical, "Funny Girl"...."People Who Need People".....and this video pops up. Great timing! Thanks!
I would like to add... you can't always get what you want... and that is when you might learn about how you are dependent on external validation for your feeling of self worth, and how to walk alone in peace. What we want will come, maybe not right when we want it. That is part of why patience is a virtue
Thanks! This is very interesting! I just had an experience: I have a need to change my life and I am doing it. Suddenly a friend of mine, with whom we met before about 3 or 4 times in a year, started to starve for my attention every week in quite manipulative ways. She did not tell directly what she wanted but I could see it quite clearly: she wanted to take me away my new life that I love and pay attention on her like I was her mother, who tells to her little daughter: "Well done, very good! Oh you are so good!" This is what she wanted - and also my time. I have a need to be alone think my life and about my future and myself and what I want. I do not have any interest suddenly to put my attention on her life or to discuss about mine with her. I told her directly, that I can not now do things she wants. I need my time for myself. So here the needs of two friends did not met at all! And actually it is not my job to make her happy. I've been so happy now and my life seems to me as I like it to be. I took care of my needs and it feels GOOD!!!! After all my life (50 years) ignoring my needs and understanding other peoples needs, this is a really new life to me and I am going to keep it like this. And yes, it is true that I've started to meet people who meet my needs and I meet their needs! What makes this difficult now is, that those people, to whose need I do not want to response any more, are getting angry to me. This is why this video was very very important to me right now! I have a right to fulfill my needs. I am not sabotaging anyone. I am not doing any bad to anyone. I just want to live MY life. That is my deepest need now.
Teal, you are awesome... Thank you for all the hard work that you carry out for everyone to have an easy way out. Sending best wishes and regards your way.
+Teal Swan Every video I watch some how connects to what I need to work on at that very moment. I have been struggling with a difficult decision and writing down my needs helped clarify my answer. My answer seems so far away and very difficult to achieve but if nothing changes, nothing changes. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are AMAZING!
The reality of needs is the axiom: "The higher your level of consciousness, the less likely you'll be controlled by your needs." So we would do well to gage another's level of consciousness before getting into a relationship. That said, we all have needs; but for those with unawakened consciousness, the needs are simply way more important, and hence such people will be more likely to manipulate you in order to get their needs met. At some point, you may realize that their relationship to their needs/addiction is more important than their relationship to you. This usually ends the relationship. The spiritual reality is that we do not have needs, and needs are only an illusion of this physical illusory realm. The physical "reality" is simply that we have physical needs which need to be met in order to survive or experience comfort and pleasure in the physical realm. In the proper context, the physical realm and physical self is like our child who needs to be nurtured and comforted.
There is no one quite like Teal, I have a wide spiritual background, I want to call her a Spiritual Realist, but I so hate labels and putting people in boxes. Besides, she helps people connect with themselves, that is the essence of spirituality to me.
would you consider sex a need? I can't have that need met because of motherly abuse that makes me anxious around women. is there true freedom from that?
teal, could you do a video on the difference between healthfully filling each other's needs vs. manipulative/unhealthy codependency? I think I'm not sure what it looks like for it to be okay to need something from someone
This video has become my manual for life. I cannot thank you enough for telling me what i didnt know i didnt know cause i failed to experience IT.❤Now i know why codependency did never feel good to me on a very deep level.Most people accept IT as love and think they are being loving What a blind spot!Thank you for making things clear for me .Now IT needs to be backed up with action♥️
wow you are really high up there in the dimensions. and also i know youve had some really hellish experiences. i have deep respect for you soul. now you can high and you can low but you need to fill in the ones in the middle ;)
I need emotional closeness and connection and I am afraid to get vunerable when asking for it because I fear the rejection of it. Thank you for giving me this enlightment.
Passive behavior in all firms, is at it's roots fear. Fear of not receiving your needs, rejection. So passive behaviour becomes the norm to asking for what you want. As mostly fear of emotional confrontation prohibits many from getting their needs met. Thanks Teal.... namaste.
I really needed to hear this information.. thx! I've always tried to develope myself, doing meditation, went through countless number of self help videos etc.. but feeling now like I was climbing into a tree arse first. My inner child is left to very early childhood due to growing in broken home without attention, care, touch, love etc. I don't like to blame my mother and step-father about every problem I have had, but I'm beginning to do so. :D It's not because they were evil bastards, they had their own parents which did the same to them.. nice legacy. Mother has always had loud voice and strong character and I got lots of physical punishments as a child. From both of them. Which made me to be submissive and.. I guess you know how it goes then. What a conflict.. being spiritual & pervert with full of fetishes from unmeet needs from childhood. At some level I have known this for a while but it was good to hear it from someone else.
i want to feel love, care, nurture, safe, secure, to be loved and held...i always thought it was weak to admit them and too dependent and burden others. i have held fear of losing sources of deep love, connection, and nurturing such as close deep friendships and bonds. my child's needs is physical affection, intimacy, respectful personal space. needs i dont want is feeling attachment from my past and a past crush. no need is too childish. if we dont meet our child's needs, it will come to be met. i have sexual fetish of feeling protected, held, loved, and secure from older men who vibe protection, care, love, masculine nurturing. i let go of fear of being vulnerable. it makes us happy meeting each others needs.
also this keeps happening to me: that my most intimate close person is turning away from me or that i am turning away from them. why does this keep happening to me? does the universe want to show me my greatest fear?
🎉 yes Amen 🙌 that exchange is actually needed in this World! And you're right, it would make it easier to distinguish.... And like i said this world could be a better place because relationships would be better!
My needs and i...seprated once... blue stairs comes, i confused it was night, what is night if it is fear,not a fear is the night, fear is here,where i stand, but i misspelled the time.
I'm so thankyou and grateful that you are here. You've impacted my life in a very positve way and you continue to do so with each new video you make. As sorry as I am for the pain you went through, I know you wouldn't be who you are had you not gone through those things. Thank you for enduring your pain and for bringing us comfort from our pain.
So you would entrap them in your fear and anxiety. What if your real need is not a knowing that they won't (can't) leave? What if what you sense is actually a feeling that you are unloveable, and therefore unloved? Maybe your parents were unable to truly love you, and, as a consequence, you feel unlovable? And that gaping wound is too vulnerable to expose? So , your unfulfilled need for love gnaws at the emptiness inside like a hunger, filling you with fear and anxiety? What would happen if you open the door to the cage? Then, they would have the power to leave. If they stay it's of their own volition. And so they choose to stay and love you. And your need is met. Then, it is the fear and anxiety that is of your own creation that is holding you hostage instead.
Is sex a need? Teal, please make a video about this because I am struggling with this and so are several of my other friends who are on the spiritual path. I don't know how to meet this need, especially since I am a woman and I'm very sensitive to who I'm around. Thank you for you help, Teal!
TheMillyVanilly I feel like it's a need for me, but I was always a quiet introverted kid. And now I'm not in the best situation in life. Wish I could be intimate with someone instead of just thinking about it. Sometimes I wish I was born asexual because having desires that are not being met is difficult emotionally :(
Fitness Gamer I know, right? Plenty of people I know are in the same situation. If we got back to community based societies, I think less people would struggle so much.
groot mcgroot I strongly disagree. When I make love it's a beautiful, creative experience. For me it's a need of intemacy and connection and an orgasm is a beautiful experience with someone else. I never feel drained, but it all depends on what intention you make love with.
TheMillyVanilly Yes it is a very real need, intimacy is a part of a loving relationship, if you remove this and all you have is a "friendship" with out passion or physical love the relationship can and will deteriorate, or degenerate into like I said more of a friendship and less of a relationship. And if this need is not being met then you need to find someone who can meet this need.. Masturbation is all well and good, and healthy but how is it fair to you as a being to be expected to be in a relationship and have to fend for yourself? It Is not. Now if single the same would apply, find that person whom can meet your needs of physical affection, passion and love... To me pleasuring one you love and sharing in that pleasure is a huge part of love, it is the highest form of affection you can share, take that away and it is hollow. Humans crave physical as well as emotional affection and passion, and interaction with another. While in the military I was exposed to for lack of a better term Chemical agents. The result was my endocrine system was damaged and my testosterone production all but completely shut down when I was 35, I had very high levels up until then and now that I have to take it externally I find my drive is as good or even a bit more powerful than when I was 18, give or take... this manifests in physical needs, but also wanting the emotional/passion that comes with it.. so I do understand where you speak.
Many off Teals videos are good advice for relationships but what if you don't have any relationships except the one with yourself? The process in my opinion to meet your own needs by yourself is a slow one. A relationship would speed up the "heeling" because of a sense of connection but what if you grew up almost never feeling a positive emotional connection? That is basically my childhood.
Jerry Tyfting You can still treat yourself like other people, asking 'yourself' for your needs directly and honestly as Teal explains... Doesn't 'have' to be other people ;) Having said that, it's 'never' too late to start making open connections with others if you want :)
Marc Jager yea I am actually using most of Teals sayings on myself. So that is why I believe it would speed up my emotional processing with someone else because I have experienced being without for so long.
Megan Marie I know, and this might surprise you but i am very outgoing in terms of being social. It is just difficult for me in my current situation to find others with similar interests such as emotional well being or psychology. Thus I have chosen to practice my sharing until someone finds me interesting enough to ask about me.
I need sympathy and validation, but I don't know how to ask for those things so I put myself in the kinds of situations where people notice my need and give me sympathy. I don't want to do it, but the actual reasons for needing sympathy don't generate sympathy from other people, so I have to create other reasons, that people accept. :/
All beings need validation. Animals need to be cuddled and humans need to be praised. But underneath the need for praise is really the need for hugs, cuddling and much physical touch.
Thank you Teal. Once again, BRILLIANT! Turning Shame, something "bad", into gold or clarity/understanding/compassion/awareness. Thank you, Divine Alchemist :)
"Surround yourself with people whose needs are met by meeting your needs" something I should always remember.
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How do you do this ?
@@RapRockJunkeyidentify your needs. Then learn to identify the needs of others. In that exact order. You'll get there
teal is not only spiritual but practical at the same time .
Anthony Kwan yes
Yes yes yes and that's what I love about her content the very most ♥
This is why I love her!
100%
They are still needed lol
I never knew I would be telling the full truth about what my needs are, but here it goes: I would like to be held closely in a hug, just like I'm a child and the other one hugging me is bigger than I am. I'm not the type of person to be manipulative, but I have convinced myself before to not need such compassion. If I had such compassion shown to me, I would cry tears of joy for sure. I'm good to people, but such a hug would be the best. I know it does sound weird, childish in fact, but it is my need. :) :) :) ♡♡♡
+Joshua Byrd Ask someone you trust for a hug. It's not childish at all. My partner asks me to hold him in my arms. He also rests his head on my lap and I stroke his hair. Lots of men cry when they're treated with tenderness.
+Joshua Byrd same. hold me like i'm precious and i am putty in your hands XD
:D Loved that reply! ♡
I loved both of these replies. I enjoy a relationship that is based on love from the heart, instead of lust. Truth is, my heart has been sealed for a while now, and I'm working on opening it back up. I see this struggle manifested in my dreams at night. It's a lot to explain. I need emotional assistance with this, but I'm also cautious of psychic energy vampires, while being careful that I don't become a psychic energy vampire. I want to be the cause of fueling myself and others with positive energy. :) ♡ :) ♡ :) ♡
Congratulations!
I wonder how many therapists were fired after people found Teals videos...lol
Jennifer totally be i did!
Jennifer here, here!
Exactly
Fact 😂😂
I think about that every time she blows my mind ahahhaha
I need to be wanted, I need to be useful, I need to love and be loved. I need to bring joy to others, I need to care for our mother earth. But when I look around I feel like I was misplaced.
I too need to be useful and to look after mother earth. I also feel that I need encouragement to meet those two needs, and encouragement to take better care of myself.
Thank you for sharing :)
Hi John, maybe we should compare notes. I feel the same way, like a fish out of water. I’ve been needing to connect with more like minded people but I don’t know how to find them
Check out her video on How to Belong
@@leopardspots2004 I will! Thanks
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Thank you for being born!!!!!!
Maybe you should refrase that into : Thank you for being there :0
The Smiley is important xD
@@sasufreqchann haha. i like the former one better lol.
I love how she explains everything. Her voice is almost angelic. I forgot how many times her videos have raised my vibration.
it's just refreshing what you do: being on the spiritual plane but not constantly playing the "you created everything yourself so it's your fault"-card. the big difference between you and a bunch of other spiritual teachers is that one can see that you actually suffered. it' s not that I don't learn from others, i do, a lot, but often I think: "if you actually really knew rock bottom, you wouldn't just dismiss it that easily in people." i feel like you genuinely care about bringing people solutions and about not condemning ourselves for being what we are, at the same time you're progressive. the amount of compassion you display is enormous.
Agreed...you said it well.
Yeah. She's very non judgmental, unlike some spiritual teachers who look down upon others who are not 'sorted' according to them.
I just discovered teal swam and I feel like my entire being is lighter tonight , I'm breaking down , just by knowingy needs are not wrong, my trauma is able to be healed
💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖 Love this , so powerful .
"Select people, and surround yourself with people, whose needs are met by meeting your needs. Let the people who have conflicting needs gravitate away from you." I've learned the hard way that trying to satisfy self-centered people is like trying to fill a bottomless hole, and this was really helpful for me to hear. Thank you.
Teal you are truly changing the collective consciousness and raising the vibration of the planet! Words do not have the capacity to express our infinite gratitude!
Teal, of all the many self-help videos on YT, yours continue to resonate with me the most. They are both healing, and above all, seem to connect both my head and my heart in a way that few other books, or tutorials, or anything else manages to do-in short, they are a continuing light in my life. This is your gift, and I appreciate you sharing it beyond mere words. You're special, and meaningful, and loved.
+Solid Spirit
You know, when it comes to any self-help ideas, I believe that it's just best to see what works for YOU. If you see the value in something, and if its clearly helping you, it's all good :)
+tiffsaver YES I feel the same way!
+Solid Spirit Its because they get hurt when they do. At the moment for me, whenever I open the heart chakra its hell, quite literally. I did a bit of work on that and next to me part of my world now is a pile of papers and old junk that needed to be dealt with brought about by a block trying to do something else. I've found a bill for several thousand pounds that didn't exist and i've had 2 days of blocks trying to just get started fixing a problem and its hell and this time I decided to say okay lets live in hell for a bit and try to integrate it.
The reason some people can't feel and thus lack that sensory perception is because its hell when they do. On the plus side I can talk to some pretty vile or disturbing people rationally because I feel so little, the other day I was rationally reasoning with a nazi for example, which even for me was a bit of a test but I didn't feel anything but cold hard logic.
Solid Spirit I assume you mean because I was trying to reason with a nazi? Which was an odd situation to be certain, and could only occur online where more types of people meet, but hopefully I made some ground with them, at least I tried. What was I supposed to do yell at them, how would that have helped. I have a natural inclination to help or fix things, especially in this domain here where I have most interaction, through a computer and I find breaking down extremes or at least overt racism quite easy to deal with these days.
As to would I like to feel more, yes. I would very much like to feel the tree that was just lit on fire by its owner, and cut down that I used to sit under, I considered it a breakthrough that I felt uncomfortable by its presence not being there quite honestly. But as it is, numbness is the only prevailing emotion aside from anger, frustration or the odd bit of depression, not common because numbness is the main. I do make efforts to feel gratitude but it is with effort that I feel it, whereas anger is much more natural to feel, and thus probably why the emotional center burned out.
Anyway enough about me, hopefully you gleaned something useful from the conversation. wbv.
I just wanted to piggyback what you said. I couldn't agree more...and I couldn't of said it better myself. I am new to this. .but I am saturated with the truth. Its kinda funny because I have been asking, why I am the way that I am and FINALLY I am getting an answer! and this video might be the one I needed the most. Peace and blessings to all of us. Happy travels to you on your journeys xxx
Teal, I love you so much. You literally transformed the way I used to look at my life. Thank you so much. I wish I could meet you someday and we could enjoy some tea at a café. Love you. 💘
Can i come!
Me too! :)
Stalker! 😕 lol only joking can i come 😭
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me too! 😭
You are truly a gifted women. Thank you for all you do for others.
Lovely video. It's important to note that science has confirmed that our mental, physical and emotional health is dependent on others. We were not built to be alone, but to live in communion. We were built for love, as it is our most harmonious state of being.
" I call them Rich who can meet the needs of their own Imagination." ~Henry James.
I'm so glad i'm not the only one saying these things! Y'all have no idea the damage people will do to themselves by not being honest about their needs, clear and honest communication makes life so much easier! So many of my readings when i was a street psychic was convincing people to fill their own cup!
Eye opening. I have been manipulating for so long and I am working to stop it. Life feels so much better. Thanks Teal.
Teal those are some deep insights into humanity's condition. The world desperately needs to understand this message.
I am watching this after so much enlightenment about demonic attraction and agreement/attachment. Wow, I feel so empowered and less afraid of things I have been going through. You are an amazing gift to this world
I need somebody who can take my emotions. If I am sad or angry I want somebody who can accept my emotions and reassure me that they love me. I want to be allowed to feel.
My way of manipulation is to not allow myself to show negative emotions because I am too afraid of rejection or being told that I am immature for feeling a certain way.
Teal Swan, a genius and also not bad to look at. The entire package.
Three assertions and three understatements. Teal is like several platonic forms manifesting all at once.
after a breakdown... meeting particularly needs is the most loving, sane and divinely human action we can do to ourselves...
Honor the other person's desire or decision not to meet your need by allowing them that role. Then you are free to see them for who they are in your life, and also to find others to help you meet your needs in a mutually satisfying way. Thank you for that beautifully stated insight, Teal. Namaste.
I have experienced people running away from me or leaving me when I express my needs. It very much started with my mother!
So I have developed a rather ascetic, tough shell, but underneath, I feel my unmet needs intensely, and it scares people away I think.
Find you tribe on meetup or online
Namaste Teal You are such a Gift to the world THANK YOU so helpful & clearly put May all of life come to you and yours with Ease & JOy & Grace & Glory STAY BLESSED
Very well explained. The first step to spirituality is to face our needs and desires and address them appropriately. we can then evolve in all aspects of our personality. Thank You for sharing and helping so many people to understand the essence of spiritual concepts in daily lives!! God bless you!
She's wicked smart, charismatic and beautiful, but there's a little part of me that says, "she's in a cult!"
I just did some research, and I take it back, she's legit and I'm pretty sure I'm in love. So, nevermind 👆
I'm overwhelmed how deep you get me. you say something and it makes soo much sense to me. THANK YOU ❤
You met a great need of mine by telling me that it's ok for me to have needs! I've been driving myself crazy, trying to embody abundance, wholeness...While feeling completely starved! I realized a funny thing the other day, that I have resistance to having resistance! lol! I guess we all get caught up in this type of trap at some stage in the journey.
As soon as I learned that our thoughts create our reality, I got into the whole mind trap of OMG I HAVE TO MAKE SURE I DONT CREATE ANYTHING NEGATIVE...It was right in your first paragraph: Need indicates lack, and if I need something that means I'm not enough. I'm allergic to lack now, haha. Lack defined the first 33 years of my life. I guess I have a lot of unmet needs...I never knew it was even possible to meet them until I had this awakening...!
I listened for days your videos, Teal!
These are the mist profound statements of our real human experiences.
Thank You for all of Your work.
You are a beautiful and profetic woman.
changed my life teal, you are a blessing
Teal, you are a magnificent blessing to all. Do not deny what you NEED! :) Love you!
This is one of the most enlightened videos I've seen on TH-cam.. probably ever. I'm going echo what someone else has already said - thank you for being born. You're awesome x
THIS HELPED ME SO MUCH. I NOW UNDERSTAND WHY I WAS SO AFRAID OF NOT BEING SAFE. I NOW KNOW HOW TO ACT. I LOVE YOU. ❤️
I need to have my needs met 😊 I need to feel safe expressing my needs ❤️
Teal, I love how you break down steps to healing in tiny bite sized pieces. Such a gift. Nice!
I am just so amazed that these amazing videos are free! If used, this information Teal provides is just life changing, have been using a lot of what I have watched and yes, very powerful stuff, but don't let it be another concept, give these videos a fair try! Thanx Teal!!!
dam baby, wudda you need?
Ty teal, u r very straight and to the point.
Thank you so much Teal, i was under a lot of emotional pain all day, due to a horrible relationship that finally came to an end..
Baring that pain all day i just could not keep going, i got home sat on youtube and start looking trough your channel, this is the 4th video i saw today, and i already know exactly what broth me here AGAIN, and exactly how not to end up dying again. You are amazing!
Teal swan meets the necessary need that people have for guidance and counselling in that her videos are based on scientific principles and techniques used by leading experts in the field of psychology and spirituality I fully support teal swan in her efforts and in her premise
I have been following you since you posted about "emotional vampires"...and haven't turned back. You're incredible, and I wish I could actually meet with you in person. I believe just one meeting and my life could be changed. You are amazing, and I thank you for all you give us.
This is the first video I've watched of Teal. I'm blown away. Incredibly new things, and incredibly insightful. Thanks.
I cried so much during this video. I cried for the part of me that felt like I didn’t have my needs met, it made me sad and I was shocked by this sadness. I realized that I am usually looking for comfort, connection, understanding, and attention. I feel like I have a good bit of manipulation tactics and it feels impossible as to how I can get it directly. But, seeing myself as valid and childish because teal said it’s not childish really relieved me! And I’m relieved that if I get it, I won’t be this endless bottomless pit for that need because I will be nourished. There is some hope and I wonder how I can do things a little differently.
He could meet the need yet my vulnerability scared him. He ran away. 😢 Thankfully you helped me realize that I’m not wrong.I knew that I needed it. I still need it. I pray that some day it happens in this lifetime
I really needed this video this week. Today. Thank you so much, Teal! Much much love
Teal is WAY better than so many therapists. Thank you Teal, I love you and wish I had a daughter like you🙏🏻😍
And earlier today I was remembering the song from the musical, "Funny Girl"...."People Who Need People".....and this video pops up. Great timing! Thanks!
Teal Swan Mother Earth :Queen: Lovely beginning, Peace Love and Light
I felt this video in my chest.... if that makes sense. Thank you!!
I would like to add... you can't always get what you want... and that is when you might learn about how you are dependent on external validation for your feeling of self worth, and how to walk alone in peace. What we want will come, maybe not right when we want it. That is part of why patience is a virtue
Exactly what I needed to hear. Thanks Teal
I Am Grateful that I'm meeting my needs. Mastering basic needs
Thanks Teal, here are the answers I was looking for in this precise moment of my life... Thank you 😉
You are Gold Teal. Thankyou God that I found your work.
Thanks! This is very interesting! I just had an experience: I have a need to change my life and I am doing it. Suddenly a friend of mine, with whom we met before about 3 or 4 times in a year, started to starve for my attention every week in quite manipulative ways. She did not tell directly what she wanted but I could see it quite clearly: she wanted to take me away my new life that I love and pay attention on her like I was her mother, who tells to her little daughter: "Well done, very good! Oh you are so good!" This is what she wanted - and also my time. I have a need to be alone think my life and about my future and myself and what I want. I do not have any interest suddenly to put my attention on her life or to discuss about mine with her. I told her directly, that I can not now do things she wants. I need my time for myself. So here the needs of two friends did not met at all! And actually it is not my job to make her happy. I've been so happy now and my life seems to me as I like it to be. I took care of my needs and it feels GOOD!!!! After all my life (50 years) ignoring my needs and understanding other peoples needs, this is a really new life to me and I am going to keep it like this. And yes, it is true that I've started to meet people who meet my needs and I meet their needs! What makes this difficult now is, that those people, to whose need I do not want to response any more, are getting angry to me. This is why this video was very very important to me right now! I have a right to fulfill my needs. I am not sabotaging anyone. I am not doing any bad to anyone. I just want to live MY life. That is my deepest need now.
The best ever video I have ever seen in the whole world...the best..thanks teall
Hey Teal I've been following the Golden Strand and I have to thank you.
I was scared a little the first time I watched one of your videos. but you proved to be very enlightened. thanks
"♫People... people who need people.... ♩are the LUCKIEST PEOPLE in the worrrrld...♩♬"
Byron Joel People who don't need people are better off.
Teal, you are awesome... Thank you for all the hard work that you carry out for everyone to have an easy way out. Sending best wishes and regards your way.
I practice meeting all my needs myself.
+Teal Swan Every video I watch some how connects to what I need to work on at that very moment. I have been struggling with a difficult decision and writing down my needs helped clarify my answer. My answer seems so far away and very difficult to achieve but if nothing changes, nothing changes. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. You are AMAZING!
The reality of needs is the axiom: "The higher your level of consciousness, the less likely you'll be controlled by your needs." So we would do well to gage another's level of consciousness before getting into a relationship. That said, we all have needs; but for those with unawakened consciousness, the needs are simply way more important, and hence such people will be more likely to manipulate you in order to get their needs met. At some point, you may realize that their relationship to their needs/addiction is more important than their relationship to you. This usually ends the relationship.
The spiritual reality is that we do not have needs, and needs are only an illusion of this physical illusory realm. The physical "reality" is simply that we have physical needs which need to be met in order to survive or experience comfort and pleasure in the physical realm. In the proper context, the physical realm and physical self is like our child who needs to be nurtured and comforted.
Another fantastic video! How can so much wisdom & beauty fit into one human being!!
Great Video. I've done this before in more than one way I'm happy to have listened to this today
Thank god for this great woman.
had to come back and watch again cuz this is just realtalk
There is no one quite like Teal, I have a wide spiritual background, I want to call her a Spiritual Realist, but I so hate labels and putting people in boxes. Besides, she helps people connect with themselves, that is the essence of spirituality to me.
would you consider sex a need? I can't have that need met because of motherly abuse that makes me anxious around women. is there true freedom from that?
I LIE because I need UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. I had never stopped to think about this. Thank you infinitely, Teal.
You beautiful soul you are showing me how to change my life. I am finding the answers I have been searching for. Thank you.
teal, could you do a video on the difference between healthfully filling each other's needs vs. manipulative/unhealthy codependency? I think I'm not sure what it looks like for it to be okay to need something from someone
This video has become my manual for life. I cannot thank you enough for telling me what i didnt know i didnt know cause i failed to experience IT.❤Now i know why codependency did never feel good to me on a very deep level.Most people accept IT as love and think they are being loving What a blind spot!Thank you for making things clear for me .Now IT needs to be backed up with action♥️
wow you are really high up there in the dimensions.
and also i know youve had some really hellish experiences.
i have deep respect for you soul.
now you can high and you can low but you need to fill in the ones in the middle ;)
I need emotional closeness and connection and I am afraid to get vunerable when asking for it because I fear the rejection of it. Thank you for giving me this enlightment.
It's a difference between needs and desires.
Passive behavior in all firms, is at it's roots fear. Fear of not receiving your needs, rejection. So passive behaviour becomes the norm to asking for what you want. As mostly fear of emotional confrontation prohibits many from getting their needs met. Thanks Teal.... namaste.
I really needed to hear this information.. thx! I've always tried to develope myself, doing meditation, went through countless number of self help videos etc.. but feeling now like I was climbing into a tree arse first.
My inner child is left to very early childhood due to growing in broken home without attention, care, touch, love etc. I don't like to blame my mother and step-father about every problem I have had, but I'm beginning to do so. :D
It's not because they were evil bastards, they had their own parents which did the same to them.. nice legacy.
Mother has always had loud voice and strong character and I got lots of physical punishments as a child. From both of them. Which made me to be submissive and.. I guess you know how it goes then.
What a conflict.. being spiritual & pervert with full of fetishes from unmeet needs from childhood. At some level I have known this for a while but it was good to hear it from someone else.
I'm so thankful for this woman
i want to feel love, care, nurture, safe, secure, to be loved and held...i always thought it was weak to admit them and too dependent and burden others. i have held fear of losing sources of deep love, connection, and nurturing such as close deep friendships and bonds. my child's needs is physical affection, intimacy, respectful personal space. needs i dont want is feeling attachment from my past and a past crush. no need is too childish. if we dont meet our child's needs, it will come to be met. i have sexual fetish of feeling protected, held, loved, and secure from older men who vibe protection, care, love, masculine nurturing. i let go of fear of being vulnerable. it makes us happy meeting each others needs.
thank you for sharing so intimately
also this keeps happening to me: that my most intimate close person is turning away from me or that i am turning away from them. why does this keep happening to me? does the universe want to show me my greatest fear?
jane e maybe your need comes from a lack of validation?
I feel you 👍
Caprisiasu me too
🎉 yes Amen 🙌 that exchange is actually needed in this World! And you're right, it would make it easier to distinguish.... And like i said this world could be a better place because relationships would be better!
I feel like Teal and I are having an intimate conversation while standing on a small wagon being pulled on a violet sunset beach.
And, thanks for sharing Teal. This experience is much appreciated.
My needs and i...seprated once... blue stairs comes, i confused it was night, what is night if it is fear,not a fear is the night, fear is here,where i stand, but i misspelled the time.
I'm so thankyou and grateful that you are here. You've impacted my life in a very positve way and you continue to do so with each new video you make. As sorry as I am for the pain you went through, I know you wouldn't be who you are had you not gone through those things. Thank you for enduring your pain and for bringing us comfort from our pain.
Hi Teal,
Love your videos! Keep up the great work!
Can you make a video on how to deal with conflicting needs within yourself?
Thank you
Thank you for existing and for sharing your profound wisdom!
Is tea time with teal coming back? I miss it
Thank you Teal. And also thank you because my English is improving. Because of listening too you😊
What I need: to know that someone won't leave.
So you would entrap them in your fear and anxiety. What if your real need is not a knowing that they won't (can't) leave? What if what you sense is actually a feeling that you are unloveable, and therefore unloved? Maybe your parents were unable to truly love you, and, as a consequence, you feel unlovable? And that gaping wound is too vulnerable to expose? So , your unfulfilled need for love gnaws at the emptiness inside like a hunger, filling you with fear and anxiety? What would happen if you open the door to the cage? Then, they would have the power to leave. If they stay it's of their own volition. And so they choose to stay and love you. And your need is met. Then, it is the fear and anxiety that is of your own creation that is holding you hostage instead.
thank you God for speaking through this woman.
This triggered me immensely.
Robert Scott lawl
Robert Scott me too
Hope you are well
Thank you Teal. It feels like every Video of her is touching my Soul.
Is sex a need? Teal, please make a video about this because I am struggling with this and so are several of my other friends who are on the spiritual path. I don't know how to meet this need, especially since I am a woman and I'm very sensitive to who I'm around. Thank you for you help, Teal!
***** I already do that. I'm talking about sharing a sexual experience with another human being.
TheMillyVanilly I feel like it's a need for me, but I was always a quiet introverted kid. And now I'm not in the best situation in life. Wish I could be intimate with someone instead of just thinking about it. Sometimes I wish I was born asexual because having desires that are not being met is difficult emotionally :(
Fitness Gamer I know, right? Plenty of people I know are in the same situation. If we got back to community based societies, I think less people would struggle so much.
groot mcgroot I strongly disagree. When I make love it's a beautiful, creative experience. For me it's a need of intemacy and connection and an orgasm is a beautiful experience with someone else. I never feel drained, but it all depends on what intention you make love with.
TheMillyVanilly Yes it is a very real need, intimacy is a part of a loving relationship, if you remove this and all you have is a "friendship" with out passion or physical love the relationship can and will deteriorate, or degenerate into like I said more of a friendship and less of a relationship. And if this need is not being met then you need to find someone who can meet this need.. Masturbation is all well and good, and healthy but how is it fair to you as a being to be expected to be in a relationship and have to fend for yourself? It Is not. Now if single the same would apply, find that person whom can meet your needs of physical affection, passion and love... To me pleasuring one you love and sharing in that pleasure is a huge part of love, it is the highest form of affection you can share, take that away and it is hollow. Humans crave physical as well as emotional affection and passion, and interaction with another. While in the military I was exposed to for lack of a better term Chemical agents. The result was my endocrine system was damaged and my testosterone production all but completely shut down when I was 35, I had very high levels up until then and now that I have to take it externally I find my drive is as good or even a bit more powerful than when I was 18, give or take... this manifests in physical needs, but also wanting the emotional/passion that comes with it.. so I do understand where you speak.
What an angel! Thank you!
where do these photos come from for real LOL. The one with the girl in the suit scraping for dollars... i died
The Intention Adventure 😂
hahah that one was sooo good!
The Intention Adventure I read this right before the picture came up haha
That one was really funny 😅
Just amazing... I appreciate the awakening, inspiration and insight
Many off Teals videos are good advice for relationships but what if you don't have any relationships except the one with yourself? The process in my opinion to meet your own needs by yourself is a slow one. A relationship would speed up the "heeling" because of a sense of connection but what if you grew up almost never feeling a positive emotional connection? That is basically my childhood.
Jerry Tyfting You can still treat yourself like other people, asking 'yourself' for your needs directly and honestly as Teal explains... Doesn't 'have' to be other people ;)
Having said that, it's 'never' too late to start making open connections with others if you want :)
Marc Jager yea I am actually using most of Teals sayings on myself. So that is why I believe it would speed up my emotional processing with someone else because I have experienced being without for so long.
U r not an island
Megan Marie I know, and this might surprise you but i am very outgoing in terms of being social. It is just difficult for me in my current situation to find others with similar interests such as emotional well being or psychology. Thus I have chosen to practice my sharing until someone finds me interesting enough to ask about me.
Jerry Tyfting That was my reaction to this video. Currently, I don't really have people in my life close enough that I could really manipulate them.
Its been 6 years and I still remember the lesson from this video ♡ thank you
I need sympathy and validation, but I don't know how to ask for those things so I put myself in the kinds of situations where people notice my need and give me sympathy. I don't want to do it, but the actual reasons for needing sympathy don't generate sympathy from other people, so I have to create other reasons, that people accept. :/
Your recognizing this is a huge step. !!!
its same with me i too want validations
people NEVER want to hear the truth do they valedro? the truth is so scary to humans...thats why u manipulate...
All beings need validation. Animals need to be cuddled and humans need to be praised. But underneath the need for praise is really the need for hugs, cuddling and much physical touch.
Thank you Teal. Once again, BRILLIANT! Turning Shame, something "bad", into gold or clarity/understanding/compassion/awareness.
Thank you, Divine Alchemist :)