The 'Please Love Me' Dynamic - Teal Swan -
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- In this episode, Teal discusses one of the most common relationship dynamics in today’s world. Teal calls this the “please love me” dynamic. Usually in the please love me dynamic, the woman is continuously trying to capture and keep a man’s attention (and therefore love). And a man feels like he can’t please the woman (and therefore he cannot be loved by her) so he withdraws. Teal explains what creates this dynamic and how to solve it.
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I burst into tears after watching this... I don’t want to train someone to love me. I just want to be loved. I’m sick of living with the fear of abandonment.
Kit Wilson, you are absolutely right,love your self❤️
Can't live life with too much fear otherwise how else are you gonna get out there and meet someone. Fear sucks but try and master it.
Heal your attachment trauma/abandonment fear.
Yes.
You deserve to be loved and you will! ❤
I love how she finds humor in the desperate irony of human interaction. It's the only sane reaction.
I love her humor.
If you don’t laugh at the absurdities of life, you’d cry
Eckart tolle is amazing for that too. He makes you realize how silly most of our "problems " are
@@kourtenayt1927 funny because a lot of them are also put upon us by society like constantly having to chase money, like paying fines and interest if you can't pay something on time and being more in debt etc....
I love your summary.
I’m 65 years old my wife and I have been married 40 years we hardly ever argue and we tell each other several time a day how much we love one another
Christine Ferguson I was born May 4th 1954 at 5am a Taurus according to my birth certificate I just looked up my Moon sign is Gemini
My wife was born Dec 12th 1963
Christine Ferguson no how do I find out about my Mercury sign
Dale Hamon - I had that same relationship. Then one day I wasn't feeling warm and fuzzy and as a result I was kicked to the curb like trash and denied all access to even communicate with him. I guess saying those words every day didn't mean a thing to him. Oh and my birthday is the same as yours. Weird.....
Dale Hamon m
Tina Reilly ??? M ???
Spent half this video crying.
"If he wanted to be there, he would be there."
Stop
That hurt
Effort: 1% Damage: 1000%%%%
I am a single father of 4 daughters. I have been married and divorced twice. It took me 2 failed marriages to figure out the issues that I had been battling from childhood. I had major self loathing issues stemming from the lack of validation I received from my parents who had an abusive relationship and greatly affected my siblings and I. We all reacted differently. I chose to seek out validation from my partners and I quickly became submissive and allowed my partner to become who I was, and in effect completely dishonest with them about who they were with reflecting only what I thought they wanted, to keep them happy. I realize finally after great pain and fear that I had to be myself to be honest, but in order to do this I had to fully accept myself and bring both the accepted and reject selves together as one. Today I remain single because I and focusing on my daughters, I had to repair my relationships with them, and things are going great. My first born daughters live with me full time and my other two visit me on a weekly basis. I want give them the love and attention they deserve. They are all such beautiful women and it's truly amazing to see my oldest daughter at 18 already looking within for self observation and self improvement. Each has their own most beautiful spirit and I want to be a great asset to their lives as a father should be.
How're you doing now? Hope all is well
It’s impossible to be ‘ourselves’ with others and not have toxic etc - being single is the only time we can feel less triggered etc
Hi there. What you said is amazing. I suppose your daughters are very lucky to have you as their dad.
What a positive influence you will be on your daughters, Wish you well.
Amazing work being vulnerable and opening up, brother. Hang in there. It's a journey.
I have probably watched 800 videos on psychology and relationship dynamics because my marriage is a train wreck. This video and the one you did on eternal victim behavior explain what is going in such exacting detail that it is scary. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos.
Seriously!! I've been to counselors for years that couldnt or wouldnt say this!
What did you do with your relationship? Did it change?
Does anyone have a link to the eternal victimhood video? Please and thank you. I'd like to watch that
@@Iamavoyager soon after this comment I decided that 20 years of abuse was enough. I stood in the middle of the living room and said “I am moving out.” The entire divorce process was long, stressful, and amounted to financial ruin. Just recently, after 2 years it was finally over. The good news it that I learned how to live again and I could not be happier. I literally feel like I have been let out of a cage. There is a lot of psychological damage and I may never stop having nightmares. The lessons learned about my own issues and and faults, and what to avoid in a partner will help make the second half of life a lot more enjoyable.
its more like everyone knows in the back of their mind if they actually want to be with the person, a lot of people just stay because they depend on the other for something which is not the same as wanting to be in it, if you truly want it then do the work if you don't want it don't waste the other person's time.
"Intimacy is not necessary sexuality." This is really a big issue for fathers and all people... the way we approach each other!
Aris Giannakos Yes brother!
I never knew that sexual energy and intimacy are linked. I was shocked upon discovering that in the video. And that is why I was checking comments to know what other people had to say about it.
@@KathleenHawk In a relashionship where the woman doesn't feel heard by the husband, the woman isn't likely to express her sexuality. She doesn't need to boost her sexual energy and he doesn't need to lower it, it's gonna be there anyway. They need to feel the attraction to each others just like before.
Wow.
@@WatchDoggyDog Try to look into someones soul. Converations will become very deep and intimate.
Basically, every time I do a shadow work or whatever I want to fix inside me, I realize how my parents fucked my life completely.
Lmfao so true smh
Adrian Rojas pretty much
But who fucked them..?! Xx
Adrian Rojas same here
Blunt and to the point. If u was a girl I'be hittin on you man.
Intamacy: Into-me-see. Absolutely beautiful. Thank you.
i just found out i'm a 'girl' in this context. thank you teal
Leo Gratz she said it can go either way .. You aren't a girl.. Don't worry
Same
And I am a boy then
Harville Hendrix, PhD gives a slightly different take on this. His description totally fits my life. It fits your life also. ... the fact is, we’re unconsciously drawn to that special someone with the best and worst character traits of all of our caregivers combined. We call this our “Imago”-the template of positive and negative qualities of your primary caregivers. His books are worth reading.
I realised am the boy. The protector and the one who is always the reason why someone isnt happy. I have realised why I have a people pleaser .
I love Teal's break down of "intimacy" = "In to me see". That's really what we want, is to be loved, understood, and cared for, for who we are, not someone else's idea of what we should be. Well said... Thank you Teal for the healing...
This is so sad but it's so true and what's worst is most haven't even realize it.
Just be thankful you have with the help of Teal
Even me, am that little girl she talked about,
i both had the far away father and over protective mom .-.
+222Julchen222 Yeah me too. Dad just paid the bills and that was it. Mom was left alone and became insufferable. I honestly felt like I was both these cases, trying to capture one's attention, but feeling apathetic to their constant criticism.
+1
Same
Same
Same. My biological father left with a quickness to get married and go back to Mexico lol I've never had a connection with him so it doesn't matter to me much. He values his younger daughter more than he does me because I'm darker than her. Such is life. The father who raised me and who loves me infinitely has dementia and is milesss away now.
My mum was always over protective, determined to raise me to be a pure, innocent flower. I'm not even joking lol.
I love my parents though, especially my mum. im glad she didn't steer me in the wrong direction but I think she was too worried about me having sex. It actually hindered me in many ways
Imagine being in a 10 year relationship that's been failing almost the entire time, then finding this wisdom. It's kicking me in the ass in all the right ways.
This is the story of my life. Hey people, let's stop this cycle.
i feel you : >
I'm the mother of three ages 20, 22 (daughters) and 24 (son), and I approve this message! I've sent this video to them. We're all in this together and healing. There is NO BLAME though--only self-awareness, self-forgiveness, etc. Thanks Teal.
Tea in the Moment one good mother you are
You are awesome mother !!!! :))
I thought there is no parents watching this but uve just inspired me instantly :)
Tea in the Moment amazing mother!
You are an awesome mom. I have 4 siblings, all of us are young adults and i think i may just play all her videos on loop in the living room TV 😂
When you said the part about not having fathers who protected us from harm, I got full body goosebumps. One day, he told me he couldn't protect me and I lost the closeness I once had with him. I felt like I needed to be perfect to get any approval, but even that wasn't enough to replace indifference or distaste. My mom put full blame on me in conflict and only considered her own emotions.
I burst into tears when you started to talk about the father-daughter relationship. I always wanted to be more close with him, yet it feels kind of weird and a bit awkward when we see and my social anxiety doesn't help at all. I know it's a terrible thing to say so.
L-Jay its too much to expect. Men do not know how if not educated or communicated too about your needs.
L-Jay me too :( I burst into tears
Yeah, I had to fight to get some attention as well. And now it's just so weird when I'm in his proximity. Like there's just nothing there. Same with my brother
i am with you here. Love and Hugs
same here... i wish i have a relationship with my father where i feel protected and secured all the time.
I had a very passive, disconnected father… thank you for this video. I feel more peaceful and empowered…. it clarified some things, touched my heart, and reinforced my knowing and path of evolution in relationship…. I'm definitely on the right track of loving myself and being more honest and fearless in my desires and needs… with that vibrationally matched man who I have not yet met… thank you!!!
SuZen Genuinely curious. How did having a passive / disconnected father affect you?
Suzen, you are beautiful 🌹🌹🌺🌺🌹🌹🌹🌺🌺🌹
@@googlereviewer1944 i had one like that too. I ended up not understanding how to be loved or protected or valued
"PLEASE love me" defines me; I was abused as a child. I am pathetic and it is not in a romantic sence, I am deperate to matter to anyone. I am a hungry street dog with no family.
Same
actually it is your responisbility , you manifested it.
Now REVERSE the dynamic VIBRATIONALLY , with your focus.
@@user-ey9fm5my3s that's horrible wtf
@@Sarah-xx4fv
By the way
victimhiod leading to traumatization leading to anger , leading to empowement , leading to growth , leading to happyness is how LEARNING happens.
Overcoming your trauma is not a smooth , comfy and lovely process.
You got to be HELLA brave and ready to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for whatever happens to you in order to oputgrow victimhood situations.
Cowards who deny that they created their abusive relationships NEVER grow.
@@user-ey9fm5my3s man you are just person who looks and spend his most of the time watching videos of spiritual guru's 😂😂😂 even when you don't even have an experience about there way of living..😂😂😂
Epic epic epic epic, it took me and my husband 4 years to understand what you just said in 20 mins. Thanks you for confirming our gut-feelings!
Could you solve this?
These 20 minutes of video were the best advice I have encountered in 28 years of life. Hallelujah. Thank you so much Teal
Wait, I'm a man having those "mommy issues"... with my dad. And I've just "blown" a relation with a girl who had those "daddy isssues"... from her mom. We were doing this intense mirror/power struggle instead of communicating what we really wanted and needed. Truth is, I think we both did not really know what it was... What a shame
+Brubarov been there done that .. :/
Feel you bro
+Brubarov its all a part of the life-long learning process :) no shame, sometimes things won't work out and its for the best
I think ive had this from having NPD father
Val Kilmer? Statistician? If so, 😎
I find it crazy people get more attracted to someone when that someone starts to play hard to get truly is the one thing in life that's always baffled me
izaak mccullough Maybe because the attracted ones of the hard playing are insecure
It depends how they play hard to get. If they do it in a way that slightly increases sexual tension followed by something of substance and connection it sort of works, but 95% of the time it is just wasting time/validating them (women).
That's not always the case. People with anxious attachment (the woman in Teal's example) may become more desperate, if you pull away, but trust me, we are way more attracted to people who are willing to give us full attention.
I like unattainable men, but I don't like hard to get
Dunno if it's just because I am young
Count yourself lucky then 😊
Your attitude towards this reality is so great and makes me feel relaxed about it.
This video helped me to understand why men, who are often raised mostly by their mothers…don’t understand women’s perspectives automatically by proximity to a woman, who raised them. Thank you for allowing me to understand with more compassion.
I had an overwhelming mother and an addicted and absent father, I am now a divorced, fulltime single father of two boys and a girl (18-16-13). I have a much closer relationship with her then with my sons. Thank you for this video, it helps a lot with the healing process.
I just realised that not only were my father and mother emotionally unavailable, my father was also violent, so I thought his absence was a blessing, whenever he wasn't there. Now I understand I"ve been craving for love all my life, attracting exactly this frustrating and painful pattern. I never understood the side of the men being so unavailable, but now I can see they were swallowed by their codependent mums. Thanks.. We're all healing major relationship and childhood trauma now, all over the planet. The great awakening is there, it all starts with becoming conscious.
I, as a man, have found myself being on the "woman's side" of this dynamic with the last woman I dated. It's been a great opportunity to grow and learn how women must have felt dating me in previous relationships. So many bitter pills to swallow for this growth but worth it.
“It’s up to you to notice when you’re withdrawing. You have to catch yourself in the act and do the opposite.”
These lines really stuck out to me. I’ve been monitoring when I withdraw as well
Teal is a Perfect examples of beauty with brains.
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She would have even more the beauty and wit if you commented about her as a messenger to knowledge, than that of a sex object.
You mean "only if there were more beautiful women that were wise" I say there are a lot of wise women such as her out there. They may not all be lookers either but it doesnt take away from the knowledge they have. You just dont have them in your circle is all.
look in a mirror
And you are a perfect example of a pig
abandonment issues are challenging for me, thank you for helping me heal and accept myself more and more every day.
Diona Lilly me too.. much empathy.
Kimberly Diona Farmer, you should love ❤️ yourself
Don't ever get into a relationship unless you are already happy and contented with life and enjoy your own company. Nobody can give you joy and contentment they can and should only add to what you already have.
If you are in a relationship and you feel like you are constantly giving and getting little back in return then it's time to shake hands and move on. Never let anyone be an emotional leech because it's sad to say that if someone is that way they wont be happy until you feel as bad as they do.
A lot of people say that respect is earned but that's a falsehood because in reality respect is given until they try and take it away. Always listen to your instinct because no matter how confused you might be your instinct, that little voice in the back of your mind, always tells the truth.
You are a beautiful, loving and generous person and deserve to be with someone just like you so please don't accept second best.
Peace
MrEvilWasp great advice here
MrEvilWasp so fkn right Wasp !
Good advice. Yet it's human nature to want connection and when you haven't ever felt loved, you crave it even more. Then what frequently follows is a string of bad relationships. So sad.
Agree with you mostly. However this is a double edged sword.
If my partner is not getting the love she needs from me, does that mean that I am not made for her as I do not love her enough in the way she wants, or does that mean that she got into a relationship as a way get an external soothing for an inner pain ?
The problem with that ideal is that it effectively condemns many of us to an eternal loneliness that is mere existence and death - I’ve not even known real happiness but for a few fleeting moments in more than 36 years. Because of others’ abuse throughout my life I have gone more than half of my life, nearly my entire adult life at 48, with absolutely no meaningful emotional and zero physical intimacy with anyone whatsoever to escape the abuse and it is a far more lonely life than one can possibly imagine if not already living that life (I’m not talking the “incel” crowd, some fraction of whom are a-holes and others confused or lost, but literal abuse survivors trying to avoid the abuse of others). That not only means no romantic relationships but also no new friendships since the capacity for trust was largely destroyed long ago by a particularly violent partner (on top of the years of abuse in childhood). Living that many years alone, in your own thoughts, and disabled (the abuse destroyed my health by age 18) is not much fun after awhile and goes well beyond solitude and may as well be a living hell as it is a prison for the soul. We exist to love all but never to know love for ourselves (at least not without more abuse) and to try and bring some happiness into other’s lives so that we may at least know some vicarious happiness in our own and make this world a little better for others than the awful one we were born into.
This logic that one must be a near perfect human being devoid of any needs, desires, or shortcomings before they can be loved effectively declares our lives forfeit as a consequence of other’s evil. Because of the abuse in our childhood, we were never afforded the opportunity to discover anything worthy or deserving of love within ourselves because the only valuations that were ever reflected back to us during our formative years were of pure hate and so our brains are literally hardwired to hate and loathe ourselves (though often highly empathic towards others) unless there is a trusted other to come along and help us to discover something of value and worth within us that would be deserving of love, though for many of us that will never happen as that inner voice is the distilled narcissism of our 100+ abusers throughout our lives and without a trusted outsider to challenge that voice all we can see/hear within ourselves is a self with a handful of objective positive qualities and a million negatives and flaws (including the damage to our mental health and the multitude of chronic and disabling illnesses the abuse directly caused that only further devalue us in the eyes of those that might otherwise consider loving us) that logically outweigh any and all positives by orders of magnitude.
A lot of “healthy” self-loving persons stood by and watched our abuse, some even cheering it on, many others took turns participating in that abuse over the many years, but, by this logic, they are for some reason worthy and allowed to be loved since they love themselves while those of us who were abused and forever damaged by them are relegated to live in purgatory to pay for their cruelty because we are not entitled to be loved by another since we were denied the opportunity to form a self-loving identity in childhood since they took great delight in programming us with hate for ourselves during our most formative years where the brain’s wiring for self-identity was laid down in early adolescence. Essentially, the message is that we haven’t yet paid a high enough price for their fun so we are unworthy of anyone who might ultimately help to heal our pain through love. I don’t see that as terribly fair at all. What if it were your son or daughter, brother or sister, cousin or friend stuck in this hell created by others’ evil? Would the argument be that they are still unworthy of another’s love if that special person were to come into their life by chance or good fortune and help to heal them? At what point are we considered to have paid a high enough price for our abuse to be potentially worthy of love in another’s eyes? In essence, we can’t win for losing as we are told that even if that healing person should come into our lives we should reject them out of hand because we don’t already love ourselves - that’s a lot like the emergency room staff refusing a desperately ill patient access to the ER until that patient has cured their own disease by themselves and only then will the ER physician see the now cured patient who no longer needs access to the ER! The adage might sound like wisdom, but it falls dead flat on logic! But it is particularly cruel towards those who were abused in childhood!
thanks for that, now I know he is not in, and that it was the right thing to do to break up
This was the most important video I watched this year. People need to see this.
Teal, I don't think I have ever commented on any of your videos, but I've been listening to you for about a couple of years now. Your heart meditation is responsible for my having quit smoking, and I just don't know how to ever thank you for all the love and truth you are sharing with me and the rest of humanity! I have been unaware of the foundational relationship dynamics with my father, reflected in my present relationships. Little by little, as i delve deeper and deeper, i am able to bring those insecurities and reasons for suffering to the surface, and into the light; and to reveal them not only to my partner, but to admit them, once and for all, to my father.
This video made me cry, my father was always working and always emotionally distant. It's so obvious now why I always expect that I have to put so much energy into convincing my boyfriend to pay attention to me, and to fear so much his attention will stray if I am not desperately trying. Strangely, I realize I have always idolized my father. I always defend him, and think of him as a much stronger person then me. Even though I know he is terrified of his emotions and others. He actually grew up bullied for being the fat kid in a rich family. He always has had his validation from working himself to a really unhealthy state.
With my boyfriend,
Initially I was that carefree, happy girl, confident that he loved me. I was extremely caring without suffocating him. I lost it when the honey-moon type phase was over. I since have always tried way too hard that it makes things a thousand times worse. He always is hurt that no matter how much he feels he shows his love, and everything he does for me, I don't see it.
Adora Salcone m let the tense go , start lifing for the moment , laugh ,kiss and enjoy
Omg....same!!!😭
How are you now
You have a great dad then.
teary eyed right now... thank you
omg, teal looks amazing without lipstick, and so young
Tea looks amazing ALL OF THE TIME.
here it is..another video i wished I had watched when it just came out.
Damn this video made me cry because it's so much truth in it!!! Now I trully understand why my past relationships ended up the way they did.
I just love her soothing emotionally charged energy
I pray every parent could hear the last part of this video to understand what kids really need and how to set them up for success in their future relationships ❤ it would help humanity more than anything!
I just feel like you hug my soul every time I hear you talk Teal. :D
Wow this video is solid gold
You are wise way beyond your years,dear lady! How is one so smart? and Beautiful !!!
Teal had a very tough childhood.
Thanks Teal. I learned a lot about myself and about my failed relationships. At the tender age of 65 I'm not so sure I will ever finally get it right, but then there is always hope. Stay safe out there.
Those movies with false ideas of love are always making me scared of relationships :D
TV tells lies to your vision.
Jeah the whole media is on a very different level than me ^^
im a woman and they scare me too...lol
Jacob Hafer
You're diving deep into your infinite waters once again, good job
sloppypoppie i see what you did there :D
teal you get "better" every video. thanks for sharing your growth with us.
Why ex gf always tells me that "she is not capable of loving".....I just didn't know how to answer that and respond to that...but she constantly tells me that in the past...I was brutally honest to just end the relationship...
These dynamics are so common, it´s insane we´re not more aware of it. Both my ex (after 20 years together) and the ex of one of my best friends told us the same thing after breaking up: "All I want for you is to go back to being the woman I fell in love with!" It´s heartbreaking...
Nobody is perfect, we all need to accept this. Trust is hard to come by these days. I was raised by a single mother, and I seen the things she did to men, and of course being around every day, I knew how many men. I watched her lie to one man, so she could be with another. Start an argument with the man she was with, so that she could justify being with another. Then she totally lied to me about my father. Now she is Mrs. Perfect, married, happy? It took me at least 3 relationships, and about 12 years to learn how to trust the women in my life. How did I learn to trust? By losing the women that I loved very much, then by realizing that I am the only person that belongs to me. Basically the hard way. Thanks Mom I should also add that most of the relationships I have today are very open
My relationship with my dad was like that while growing up.i actually thought i grew up in a healthy famlily connection until today.i don't even know how to reverse that damage, Teal. Am crying.but atleast now am aware
So relieved to have found teals channel , she has literally given me my power back .
I’ve been watching many of your videos and I’m more and more amazed of how accurate and precise you manage to be in the descriptions of behaviors and situations. Thank you, thank you, thank you for all you do! ❤
This video may well have just saved my marriage. Thank you Teal...you have no idea how much xx
and now, how's that marriage doing?
More people need to see this, thank you for making it.
It's truly terrifying to realise how many people are out there having children with zero awareness of these dynamics. I've just had a relationship end this way - I hadn't seen this video, but I instinctively pulled right back after a year of my partner checking-out and blaming his depression and random violent rages on me. I do know I was supportive and appreciative, and also had my own life, people and interests too. So I was neither clingy nor critical. I expressed my needs and gave feedback. Me pulling back ultimately did see the relationship fail. I'm glad I watched this video, it's helped bring me some peace about that.
I have watched this video a few times and still love it and learn from it every time. I really needed to hear this again today. Teal, lot of all. Thank you for everything.
I'd like to hear about Teal's perspective on asexuality.
Quaberr I would guess there is a lot of hurt in those ppl, the feeling that they cannot belong or trust ppl -at least in my case
@@melinarodriguez8395 Not everything is based on hurt. Sexual orientation often has little to do with trauma. Many autistic people are very cerebral and asexual. The fantasy in their minds outweighs the desire for sexual discourse. Also, some people just don't like penetration, but engage in other sexual acts like touching and kissing.
By assuming that people who don't fit the sociocultural mold are deeply hurt, is also assuming that there is only one way to be.
This is not reality.
I just want to call you mom, you have given me so much wisdom, thank you so much!
This needed to be addressed so long ago. You brave but you will change our futures. Thank you Teal
ALL YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO SO SO HELPFUL, DEAR TEAL. Sending love and peace to you.
Telling it like it is. Thank you. Things I knew but I needed someone else to tell me directly
Holy cow that was my relationship with my mom. Nothing pleased her, not even being a 4.0 student. Oh and the judgements of my weight or how I looked and nothing I did was ever good enough and not doing enough. Yup I saw myself in this video. You are in point!
You have honestly helped me changed my life for the better more than any therapist could have ever and has ever thus far.
I give you credit for speaking out what I haven't said. You're truly my inspiration.
this appeared to me exactly when i needed it, thank you teal
This can happen in platonic friendships too.
👏👏👏 And siblings!!
Yep...
Gosh I am trying to remember word by word what she is saying ❤️ I don’t know how many times I’ve watched this
Teal...your words are so wise. I had an absent father all my life. He abandoned me. My mother was always very distant and cold. I can relate to many of the things you said...such as emotional dependency towards men that may have not even loved me.
Thank GOD, I found Teal Swan.
Thank you
Holy heck this woman is brilliant. I love her calm, smooth delivery.
Well that’s was my whole life summed up into this video.
Thank you for doing what you do. The clarity of your videos are beyond awesome!
This is the best video by far! Great job Teal as always ♡
I swear this is the BEST video ever. :-)) Thank you sooo much. Enlighting, my dear! Much love and peace ❤
The best explanation to the anxious avoidant trap I have ever seen.
Love the: "In:To:Me:See" = Intimacy.
Fantastic!
"Oh no you dittent." Lol.
Thank you Teal! I love your videos and this is the first one I've commented on. There's a lot that resonates for me both in what I've experienced and witnessed with former partners and their mothers. As I watched the part about fathers really seeing their daughters (in-to-me-see, yes!), I felt my heart pulse in recognition of a deep truth and some deeper pain.
And I'd add that we should be tenderly (not brutally) honest with ourselves... (Ha! Just watched the video about authenticity vs. being an A-hole. That title made me laugh out loud. Thank you - my favorite part of your videos are when you make yourself laugh with your own wisdom / teachings. Brilliant!)
My goodness, im going to watch this again and take notes. So much good advice in this video. Thanks!
This is amazing and resonated so much with me! Thank you Teal ❤️
Thanks Teal. This was very helpful.
+Teal Swan
Thank you.... just.... thank you!
I have been in this dynamic before.....thanks for posting this darling!! Knowledge is power, thank you for helping me grow.
Mind Blown. This is SO insightful & a helpful! Thank You For Posting This!
You really made me cry, tks
Thank you so much Teal!
I learn a lot form your videos. Things I seem to have known intuitively, but are not much clearer.
Thanks a lot
Lots of love to you!
What a little sweetheart you are Teal! Thank you again for your wonderful insight!
Thanks Teal, its so great that you accommodate for so many dynamics in each meditation - i find myself often in your words.
Your videos are so amazing! You have the most elegant way of explaining the deepest complexities of life. You make my "issues" clearer to me & have helped me grow in more ways than I can probably ever explain to you. I cannot say it enough, Thank you Teal. (ironically teal has always been my favorite color, & I often find myself feeling like you are speaking directly to me, lol) You Rock! Keep up the awesome work!
Damnit Teal and thank you all in one! Perfect video at perfect timing. I dont want to admit but this is exact what I needed to click on today
OMG this video is so spot on and came into my feed at the perfect time. Thank you so much.
This has to be one of the best videos Ive watched
dear teal,
nothing is perfect in this world of forms. no relationship, no person, no circumstances.
The only thing that is perfect is love.
As a wise man once said: "love, and then do what you want".
there is no right or wrong in the dimension of love.
not even this words are perfect. But if you read them with the eyes of love..
I whish you love
Riccardo
Teal, I cannot thank you enough
She's really helping this world so much
Thank you Teal so much for helping me understand so much. light&love to you always. The world is lucky to have your wisdom.