TMS - How To Feel Your Emotions to End Pain
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 ก.ย. 2024
- I often get the question...how am I supposed to feel my emotions. Or, how do I feel my emotions when I am surrounded by people. I can't yell at them or cry in front of everyone all the time. What do I do? Tough questions, but I try to tackle them here.
This is the most important lesson to get rid of TMS pain and symptoms. Gotta FEEL those undesirable, uncomfortable emotions and PROVE TO YOUR BRAIN/MIND that IT’S OKAY. THAT YOU ARE SAFE! Thank you Dan for reminding us.
Absolutely.
Good advice. Keep it up. I’m a 60 year old male and I seem to resonate better hearing this sort of advice from a male perspective. Father committed suicide and died in front of me when I was 17. I did the opposite of what you describe for decades and paid the price in anxiety, depression, career, lost relationships and other ways. Wish I had heard someone like you 43 years ago!! Thank you.
Sorry about your loss. Tough stuff. Never too late to turn things around.
Thank you this is very helpful! I needed the reminder that the emotion is detected best by feeling vs thinking!!
Glad it was helpful!
Hey Dan - my symptoms mainly fatigue then others get worse when I’ve not been allowed to sleep ie been woken up by next doors babies crying in the night so very distressing - then bc I’ve not slept I get more symptoms can do less and then get emotional and very low which then worsens the symptoms! - I almost go into shutdown and my chest doesn’t breathe.
I guess the same process applies regardless of what comes first right - emotions or symptoms first?
Is this all TMS? Also what does TMS stand for?
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when i try to do the adam heller exercise about focusing on the neck, chest, and stomach, i cant really put my finger on what emotion im experiencing, do i need practice to identify my emotions? sometimes i just feel like no emotions are there
It's not that big of a deal. Feel the sensation. Don't worry about labeling it. But keep in mind, it's not just about feeling emotions. In my opinion, the brain perceiving danger is why there is pain. Learn more here: th-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/w-d-xo.html
I'm always full of rage, anger, and resentment. I get irritated all the time. Yet I still have back, neck and shoulder pain ??
Are you aware of TMS? It's not just about whether or not you feel emotions. Do you believe your body is okay? Take the pain test to see if your pain is from TMS.
DanBuglio.com/paintest
A week ago I decided i was going to wake in the morning and connect with my emotions in hope that I would have just one pain free day. I felt myself waking up and while I was in a relaxed dazed state, I began to remember old sad memories to the point where I could actual feel the sadness. I stayed with the sadness for 30 seconds or so and thought to myself " OK I feel you , you don't seem to be moving on, so I guess its time for me to get of bed". I kid you not guys, the second I sat up in bed I physically felt those sad emotions rush down my body , straight into my lower back and translate itself into the actual pain I've been dealing with !!!. I was very disheartened that this practice had actually put me in so much pain this early in the day . However it did something so much more important for me, it absolutely with out a doubt proved to me that my pain was emotional pain translated into physical pain !. And it was pretty fascinating and cool how it was able to start as images then feelings then catch the elevator straight to my back. I actually manifested it my self. This experience was the turning point for me. Its been 2 weeks since discovering Dan and tms, I'm doing much better.
Good stuff Chris. Yes, when we connect the dots like this, it's so much easier to lose the fear because we can see clearly that it is emotions. No need to be afraid.
Feel emotions, soothe yourself, be indifferent to the pain. Live your life. that's the recipe.
cdracos1 Wow!
I have felt this before too--what changed for you, moving forward from that negative experience to doing better now? Was it just staying with the sadness as long as you needed to vs as long as you wanted to?
@@kerribachand253 Yes I would like to know the same!!
@@PainFreeYou Hi there, do you have an e-mail address so I can ask a specific personal question related to this topic? I promise it will just be one e-mail because I already see a trauma therapist but am still in spite of that, really struggling in this area where the emotion is perpetually stuck inside. The grief. It doesn't leave no matter how much I let myself feel it.
Thank you for this. I have been trying to feel my emotions but until I watched this video I was trying to figure them out mentally; justify and rationalise them. But after watching this and spending some time being aware of my sensations; I feel a deep hollowness in my chest. And I realise that I am sad, really sad. This is a breakthrough for me.
Fantastic. Glad this helped.
"It's ok, Dan, you're safe...but use your name. Not mine." I was listening so intently to you, and didn't even realize it until you said that. Burst out laughing, and tried not to wake up the family....yikes! :) These are excellent tips. Thank you so much for taking the time to make these videos. I appreciate the comprehensive help over a wide range of topics. It's a little overwhelming at first...these videos help make things more understandable. I find that I am able to digest so much information much better in smaller bites. Excellent resource.
Thanks for taking the time to give me your feedback on this and my other videos too. Thrilled that I'm able to provide some help to others that I wish I had 20 years ago when I was deep into my journey with chronic back pain.
However, if your name is Dan, proceed as directed! 😆
God loves you so much that He sent His only begotten Son to die on the cross for our sins(John 3:16). It may be hard for you to believe, but He actually came for us!
If you ever feel down or sad and feel like none of your teachings are working, please pray to God: The God of Abraham, The God of Issac, and The God of Jacob. I am sure He will fill you with His peace and give you all you need!
Same E I did the same lol 😂 I started laughing as well
Yup, I calked myself “Dan,” too-lol😂!!!
I've just discovered the TMS concept recently, having read a couple of John Sarno's books. Your video has been so insightful, particularly in clarifying the difference between 'feeling' and 'expressing' your emotions. I have had a very painful realisation today, triggered by a certain person - and my first thought was that I should 'have it out' with him - not something I was looking forward to doing. Your explanation has made me realise I don't need to do that, but more to acknowlege the presence of the feelings to myself. Thank you. I look forward to watching more of your vidoes.
Awesome - really glad you found my videos. I have a facebook group too called Pain Free You. Come join our community!
Will do..thank you!
I go to therapy once a week and really all I needed to hear was this! Thanks Dan ♥️ 🙏
Glad you found this helpful.
I am so grateful to you Dan! Keep it up please! I could listen to you for hours on end. I started doing this approach about six months ago but would end up stopping. I seriously started back on it only about 5 weeks ago. I see now some things I wasn’t comprehending before, but I am now, thanks to your easy explanations on it all. It seems everywhere I went, trying to get help with this TMS stuff, was costing me money that I don’t have. You are easy on the pocketbook, and may I add, not so bad on the eyes either! Lol. God bless you!
Thank you for the kind words. I plan to keep going with the daily videos. At some point I will have a full online course and membership support area to give people additional help if they wish. But the daily videos will continue for the foreseeable future.
I agree, Lorie, on the financial expense for therapy, doctors, etc. I know this is an old comment from 4yrs ago, but I just discovered Dan a couple weeks ago (2024:). I’ve been spending $500-$700/mo with a trauma-informed therapist, EMDR, neurofeedback. As much as she has helped me, we can’t sustain that expense. Just decided yesterday to quit the therapy and go full time pursuing TMS concepts & mindset. Even if I join Dan’s PFY group coaching, $100/mo is a STEAL! ☺️
I honestly forgot my father used to be abusive and angry until you said the word dad! I have alot of ptsd and am a recovering addict who is trying to deal with my repressed memories and experiences. I am so glad I found this video.
Thank you so much for emphasizing that emotions are a private affair that we have every right to feel--that we don't have to act on them immediately or all the time. And thank you for the reassurance that we don't have to flip our lives upside down in some dramatic fashion to honour our feelings.
Part of what was stressing me out was the thought that if I felt everything, I'd have to act on everything and make huge changes across the board in order to stay in integrity with myself. It's good to remember that I'm only human and I can take my time implementing so that I'm not overwhelmed. I can even take my time feeling, as long as I'm not running away and stuffing down my emotions.
Emotions are a normal part of life and not something we need to stop or avoid at all costs. Feel them so they can pass. We don't have to lock them up or share them vigorously with those around us.
What if you are already feeling them and naming them and acknowledging them? I've been sitting with them forever and my emotions keep hurting to the point it's debilitating.
You may be ruminating on the stories that create the emotions over and over again. Watch todays video: th-cam.com/video/P0X3-66PBrI/w-d-xo.html
I have just discovered your channel. This is my first video. As someone who had been suffering with fibromyalgia I am going to try this. I know I have decades of suppressed emotions inside from a childhood of emotional abuse. I am subscribing !!!
Welcome Ariana. This one video encapsulates the core concepts I teach over and over.
th-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/w-d-xo.html
If you are unsure what TMS is or how the mind can create symptoms labeled as Fibro, watch this video at: PainFreeYou.com
Lastly, if you want to determine if your symptoms are TMS / Mindbody created, take the pain test at: DanBuglio.com/paintest
I do this type of work with Jake White who does somatic experiencing but more like the Peter Levine healing ❤ trauma work - it’s so helpful to pause and feel our emotions when they come up throughout the day
Very nice.
PAINBODY
“The remnants of pain left behind by every strong negative emotion that is not fully faced, accepted, and then let go of join together to form an energy field that lives in the very cells of your body. It consists not just of childhood pain, but also painful emotions that were added to it later in adolescence and during your adult life, much of it created by the voice of the ego.
Eckhart Tolle
PAIN BODY DISSOLVING PRACTICE.
With eyes open as you feel the emotional pain, do not resist painbody, don't let the feeling turn into thinking, feel it without judgment, witness it without labeling it. Be present and be the observer of what is feeling, be the space for it. Little by little it will begin to diminish. Take deep breaths and exhale. You will see how the miracle of surrender transmutes suffering into deep peace.
I had an amazing experience…I sat with myself..just breathing & still & my body started rocking of its’ own volition…is this a good sign?
It's neither good nor bad. Interesting for sure, but there is no clear indication of whether it's good or bad. No need to figure it out.
Fantastic! Reaffirms everything I've been doing in my own recovery. I'm well on my way (check out my latest video)! What you say here is exactly what't I've been doing along with journaling. And thanks for making these videos. I think if enough people talk about their recoveries and experiences using Dr. Sarno's theory, the culture and the medical profession just might shift to embrace the role of emotions in health.
Do I also need to feel anger I experience towards symptoms, especially when symptom is intense.
Flare ups disturbs daily routine and hamper productivity which causes a lot of anger and Frustration. How to deal with this?
It's fine to feel the anger, but try not to ruminate on the symptoms all day long and STAY mad all day long. Recovery is more about overcoming fear than it is feeling emotions. Emotions are part of it, but not everything. th-cam.com/video/VSmTe8zPXh0/w-d-xo.html
I am having the hardest time differentiating between “thinking” about vs being in an “emotional” state.
I’ll keep trying though…
Mine is myofacial pain/tmd/ ear symptoms so not really from neck down. When I get stressed out/ anxiety mine manifests there. Before myofacial pain I used to feel it in my heart. Racing heart/panic feelings but now again it’s changed to myofacial pain . Do you think wearing a mouth splint for 4 months is reversible if it did change my teeth. They are definitely different than before splint. In your opinion would this be a physical problem with my teeth or still TMS even though splint changed my teeth? I stopped the mouth splint beginning by of may and has improved since I stopped but not 100%
Perceived danger explains so much. This video explains. Look at your situation under the framework of PERCEIVED danger driving the symptoms. th-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/w-d-xo.html
I have been changing my response to my pain as taught in pain reprocessing therapy, ignoring my feelings of discouragement or anger. I try and redirect my attention to something else. Should I not ignore these feelings and feel them?
Ignoring emotions doesn't make them go away. I believe it's okay to feel the emotions, but do your best not to LIVE in those emotions all day, every day. This video explains more: th-cam.com/video/58yzMcYyGjU/w-d-xo.html
Dan I stumbled upon your TH-cam channel today, what a difference it made me feel listening to you! I feel my self again, no pain today, no depression, or fear or the feeling of being broken, I finally felt myself again after many weeks of discomfort. I actually went cycling which I’ve been fearful to do. I knew my two choices were the Sarno principles (again after a successful recovery from back pain 10 years ago) or PT and stretches which I’ve been doing without much improvement.
I will listen to your coaching everyday and go back to my excersizing on a daily basis, maybe no cycle racing yet, lol
When this pain came on suddenly 8 months ago I started re reading the Sarno books, but your youtube coaching is much better and realy hits the ball home imo, I know I will have some tough days ahead but tms is the only thing that makes sense and now I have your coaching as a great tool.
Thanks again !
Wonderful David. Watch my playlist to get a deeper understanding of what is going on and what to do about it. th-cam.com/play/PLRJmnkn2kTTIl4frNvmpenr49xcTmVl2H.html
Sarno said that feeling the emotion isn't as important as knowing it's the cause. He made the analogy of a covert operation who's cover is blown. I tell my brain that I know what it's doing and I'm not gonna fall for this. I fight my brain tooth and nail.
I still have my bouts with back pain, but thanks to Dr. Sarno, they are no longer lengthy and debilitating.
That's awesome. Thank you for sharing this often forgotten nugget. Brilliant.
I know this works i have done this before; however it feels strange to do the afformations all day of why is it so easy to be happy or why is it so easy to be calm and then go into inviting these visitors in to expresss themselves. I think even doing the afforrmations i had to keep running them nonstop. My stomach didnt hurt all day until i allowed myself to experience sadness so would i go back and use the afformations after? Maybe its a silly question but jumpimg from one to another can make one feel like they are all over the place
It's not an all day thing. My current approach is more simple. If you want the most recent concepts, watch my recent daily videos and consider my course and group coaching: www.PainFreeYou.com/join
What if the same emotions about the same thing keeps coming up for what seems to feel forever?
I'snt that just ruminating?
Absolutely rumination. That's what I call "story mode".
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I really think we need to stop hiding our emotions, not only from ourselves, but also from others. With maturity of course.
Agreed. Complex subject thought. Sharing emotions with others often has social consequences which is often why many people learn NOT to express emotions.
You say "Just allow yourself to feel the emotion and it will leave." In a few minutes in the bathroom? Is it really this easy? I have not found it to be so.
One reason emotions may stick around is because many of us keep on ruminating on the story behind the emotion. If you keep replaying the story, the emotion will continue to be recreated over and over.
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Hi Dan, it is Inge from Holland. Recently did the paint test. Scored 50. I am trying to feel for about 2 weeks now. It is hard. Your film of today abortus feeling your emotions really helped me. Feeling safe. Not thinking. I started feeling warm, Hot lava inside, mu stomach had a stone Ball. All of a sudder I started stamping my feet and pushing, boxing with my arms. Go away, all you People who told me I am not good enough, ding things wrong, never answered back to them. My stomach is softer now, feeling tired, tears, enige for now. Listened again to this video, really clear,. Thank you so much. Inge Kotterman
You are very welcome. I'm thrilled my videos are providing you help.
I suddenly get it. Really good explanation, thanks
can i do this sensing exercise on other areas of my body like my hips and shoulders?
Emotions are not generally felt in hips and shoulders. We are not searching for pain. We are simply sensing what emotions are there to feel them. Beyond this, there is more to recovery than just feeling emotions. A great place to begin is: www.PainFreeYou.com/start
This is one of my favourite videos from you. I combined this knowledge with the "which specific emotion is causing my pain" but still am not 100% sure about one thing: Can I just sit and feel/acknowledge random emotions that might come up (even though you don't know why they come up or what they're related to) or do I have to go through my entire past and try to detect what emotions arise if I think of specific events, relationships, people, etc.? Because that's so damn difficult for me. I have a really bad memory when it comes to such things and its almost impossible for that reason even though I tried countless times.
Recovery is not just about emotions. No analysis is needed.
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Recovery is all about safety and recovery from fear.
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Sir make the videos on how to deal with the pain when it started during physical activities time? Or when you overthinking, negative thoughts. Or whenever someone tease you , insulted you 😢
The solution is all the same for your scenarios. SAFETY is the solution. DansFastStart.com will explain what is going on and what to do.
@@PainFreeYou thank you for the reply all the time and all your videos
If you never feel safe ? How to Think there
You can create safety in the present. This video speaks about your question:
th-cam.com/video/QjhFeL1l0xI/w-d-xo.html
"from our neck down to our belly"
Stomach immediately growls at me almost on command
"I think I'm feeling hungry."
Hi Dan, I’ve been struggling with TMS for about eight years. I’m an actor, and I feel very connected to my feelings, so it’s very frustrating to know that there are obviously still feelings in my past that I am not bringing to the surface. I do notice however that when I have feelings the judgments come in very harshly and they become the feeling that I’m experiencing. So, for example, if I am currently feeling guilt about something, my mind comes in and says that the reason I’m feeling the guilt is that I am unworthy. So then I feel unworthy and that’s what I express. Is this possibly why I continue to have pain?
Uncovering emotions is only one part of what's important in ending symptoms. It's very easy to conclude that as long as symptoms are present, that you missed some hidden emotion. That may not be true. Watch todays video on Story Mode and "you can stop writing". I get into that a little bit more.
Thanks Dan - will watch that now. 🙏
@@teresavalenza9609 Teresa: I am an actor too, and have TMS. Multiple symptoms that ebb and flow. I've been applying TMS theory and treatment for about 8 months now. I have some areas of success, but feel stuck in others. I have this half-baked theory about emotional repression in actors. We USE our emotions. We EXPLOIT and MANIPULATE them. We put ourselves through IMAGINARY TRAUMA, over and over. So, yes, we are likely more savvy about emotions than your average person, they are tools of the trade, but-- and remember this is half-baked, still trying to understand-- there's some discontent between our real feelings and the feelings we conjure for our Art. And there's maybe a sense that since the trauma was make-believe the emotions associated with it weren't real, but does our body know that? Something about this regular manipulation of our emotions can cause issues in some of us in the long run. I don't know. Do you have thoughts on this?
@@ehissify Hi, Eric. Nice to chat with a fellow actor who has this problem. What you're talking about is deep, and it's something that I've considered as well. Ultimately, I've discovered that don't think living our emotions over and over again, whether through acting or not, causes TMS. We are meant to feel our emotions - they are literally energy-in-motion that moves through us naturally when we move with the flow of life. However, I think what we BELIEVE about our emotional experiences can causes stress. If we believe we've had a bad experience and we hold onto negative feelings about it, and we tell ourselves we're in danger long after that experience has passed, that's when stuff starts to go wonky. I'm not a TMS expert, but from what I've learned about the "lie" TMS tells us, that sounds in-line with that theory. And in my experience, when I've been able to remind myself that my body is trying to help me by lying to me that I'm in a bad situation, and puts pressure on me, I'm able to self-soothe and release the pressure and the pain. I think when you're acting, there's no way to truly separate from the fact that you are acting, that there's an audience, that it's make-believe. I think what happens with actors who "lose themselves" in their characters is something else. Definitely possible, depending on one's psychological background, but the tendency is something very specific that would occur in that person with anything they pursue - not just acting. Anything they feel passionate enough about, they'll have the tendency to completely lose themselves in. So the answer to your actual question, I believe, is YES I think our bodies do know the difference. Are there some roles we work on that scare us and hit close to home? Absolutely. But in my experience, working on material that makes me feel uncomfortable is the way for me to make friends with it - to allow any feelings surrounding a triggering experience to live and breathe truthfully in an environment where I'm able to share it with an audience who is there to receive my humanity. Hope this answers your question!
@@teresavalenza9609 fascinating discussion! I’m an actor too. So much to ponder here...Thanks!
Do you ever recommend therapy for TMS/DDP?
I’ve done EMDR with limited success.
Does this apply to anxiety and panic? Especially anxiety and panic about and during symptoms? How can I honor my fear while also sending myself messages of safety?
It seems really nice, and I wish it would work for me, but it really doesn't. First, a few minutes is _never_ enough, it usually takes hours for my emotions to subside. Second, unless I distract myself intentionally, they will probably _never_ pass -- I just get an impression that I'm falling deeper and deeper, and with every new layer it just becomes harder to get back to normalcy. Third, there is no benefit at all that I'm able to see... this whole "paying attention to my emotions" experiment I started because some people suggested my repressed emotions might be cause for my insomnia, but if anything, it has worsened since I started with it. It's quite possible that I'm doing something wrong, but I really can't see what it might be.
Hi Dan, when I felt my emotions yesterday, I felt the frustration; I knew it was because of the flared up. Did I give attention to the pain? Is it ok to feel any emotions caused by the symptoms? Thanks.
Yes, but try not to LIVE in those emotions all day long. Ask "What else" am I feeling. You already know how you feel about the symptoms.
Is stress an emotion
If yes then how to feel it
And if no what to do then?
Stress is not an emotion. It is a physical state in the body likely created by fear.
You are epic. I think you are a good candidate to enter heaven. Pray to Jesus that he makes you Holy and also cleanses you of your unholiness. Put your faith on God who is Spirit, and keep yourself from idolizing church, the Bible or your own life. Amen
My TMS symptoms started 20 years ago - "the responsibility years" as Sarno says - I see now I was angry ( among other emotions) abt a lot of stuff and repressed it - do I need to go back and feel that anger from back then, or just move on from where I am at now, and feel just what comes up as it comes up in my life today ?
I'm not a big believer in digging up the past. If the past is not haunting you daily, why dig it up. If it is coming up daily, feel it now. I focus on the right now emotions. The goal is to teach the brain that emotions are not dangerous. Here's a recent video with my take on emotions. th-cam.com/video/XrjjDaYPgb0/w-d-xo.html
I am grateful to hear a man describe this topic and process.
I am a mother of three adults. My youngest son has had strange gut issues and now back pain issues. Colonoscopy and MRI both say there is no pathology. I have to wonder if those issues are due to repressed emotions. As his big sister says, "X is so nice all the time it's no wonder he's sick! He never gets angry with anyone no matter what they do!"
I'll share this video with him as well as a Dr. John Sarno video and one from The Crappy Childhood Fairy about her Daily Practice.
I am grateful for each of you!
Dan I hear you and I understand. BUT where I get stuck is when I check in and ask “what am I feeling?” and I say “I’m feeing angry” and I allow myself to feel that in my body for a few breaths…. Which I am able to do. But then what? I can still feel the anger in me. Do I then just lovingly look at it with indifference and move on with my day?
What if you have trouble with emotions due to low dopamine levels bc of drug abuse ?
You can still teach your brain that emotions are safe by actually feeling them. Believing you are broken due to drug abuse is likely to keep you stuck. What if you formed a new belief that your body is amazing and recovering from the past drug abuse? Change the story you tell yourself.
@@PainFreeYou absolutely! You rock! ❤️
so does the body know the difference between screaming in you car to nothing or screaming at a person...? In other words, when 'expressing' your emotion this way, when angry, arent you conditioning the body for lashing out when the emotion of anger arises? Dont you keep the loop of the emotion just running when screaming in your car...? (or whereever). hope you understand this question, thanks mate!
What if I am not able to give a name/ identify what emotion I' m feeling? I feel energies but I can't always undestand their message.
Feel them anyway.
Thanks for this and please carry on doing videos. Doing the work on my TMS I sense more and more the body= emotion response to my subconscious. I am so used to stepping over stuff in order to survive. Welcoming all the emotions I smothered as a kid as guests is a great suggestion.
The plan is to keep on doing daily videos. I've been at it since March 26th. Haven't missed a day yet.
OMG😊. I had just watched your other video yesterday about pain and emotions. And I meant to ask you how do you feel your emotions and then this morning I woke up and here was your video. Ha ha
Thank you thank you thank you you’re such a down to earth Teacher and I’m going to practice feeling my emotions. I’m one of those people that look up to think about it. I thought I was feeling all the feels before but obviously not since I do have a lot of pain. It makes it more challenging to do my work as a body worker. Thank you, thank you, Dan! 🙌🏻✨😮🙏🏻
Understand about being a body worker. You ARE in the right place.
How do I get through panic attacks?
First of all know that despite how intense they are, they are not dangerous. This video discusses them: th-cam.com/video/oKG2PuaRwyM/w-d-xo.html
How do we feel emotions when we automatically represent them as they come up? I would rather not represent in the first place. Its like I was afraid of the emotions and didnt want them to surface at all.
Who taught you that emotions are bad?
There are a few videos here that can help:
th-cam.com/users/PainFreeYousearch?query=emotions%20are%20safe
@@PainFreeYou thank you very much for the reply. I will check out the link right now. I guess it was me.
I was to scared to show them, society will judge me, and also afraid of them because I didnt know how to handle them they were so big. And if I go way back I never grew up being able to express them. Also an only child so didnt have anyone to share them with. So they got held In. Now as an adult I want to feel but my body just gets so tense like a death grip.
Mine is a freaking twisting sensation in my Colon that wont let go...wouldn't wish this feeling on my worst enemy. 😖😖😡😡😡
Thank you Dan for showing so much compassion for all of us.❤️ Just listening to this video, allows me to access my emotions. "Make friends with your emotions". and the idea of "giving a hug" to our emotions is so so great!. I have the "you're tired take a nap" brain thing, and now each time it happens, I sit with myself for some time, and I ask myself "what do I feel", and whatever comes up I say "welcome to you". It does not always appear as an emotion, but often as a sensation in my belly, and I stay with it as much as needed. I do this everyday, not resisting what is happening. And not taking a nap, is like a big victory for me. Bless you.
Thank you. Thrilled at your victories. More to come. Keep at it.
@amiradanceer3846, I got this idea of making friends with your emotions from a Buddhist teacher too. Apparently, this is a standard concept in Buddhist thinking i.e. to actively WELCOME all thoughts and emotions that come to you without judgment. An example is suppose you feel a sudden craving to have your favorite ice cream while you're on a diet. Instead of judging it as a bad emotion that you must resist, welcome it by recognizing it. Say "Ah, I want salt-caramel ice cream because I love the way it feels in my mouth! I am salivating already. I love the milky texture, the contrast of salt and sweet taste, the cool and buttery feeling it brings. Thanks tasting mind for reminding me!". Notice this doesn't mean you run out and get ice cream but simply acknowledge the presence of the sensation and how it makes you feel. You're already half way there to not let your emotions dominate you!
what happens if you feel emotions too much or internalize suffering of others etc? not all of us are robots so many today unfortunately what about those of us who dont have so much trouble expressing but we feel too much and it becomes pain angry sometimes?? laugh try living in this city and not get affected by strange unpleasant encounters and seeing things that are so unjust and suffering everyday everyday the injustices and unfairnesses are hard to handle
Very helpful, thank you.
You're welcome!
You say feel what is in your body from the neck down but I have chronic facial pain / pressure which could be from worry about what people think of me or perhaps brain fog. Do you think emotions can be trapped in the face? This is all so interesting, I’m sure I’ve buried emotions for the past 40 years 😢
Yes, we can feel our emotions in our bodies. I'm not convinced they are "trapped" in our bodies. My current belief is that perceived danger is what causes pain and the fear and attention given to the pain is what makes it persistent. Safety is the solution. These three videos will help.
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Thank you very much Dan, I’ll watch those. Is it unusual to feel an emotion in the face? You mostly seem to talk about the body from the neck down.
@@katemincher4723 It's not unusual. Look at an angry person or a sad person or someone despondent. You can see it in their face. But that doesn't mean it's necessarily the emotion that causes the pain. Perceived danger causes pain. Emotions CAN be perceived as danger. Once we have pain, the amount of fear and attention given to that pain keep it going. It may have nothing to do with the emotional state that started things.
I would encourage you to focus on Safety. My group coaching program can help you implement these concepts:
www.PainFreeYou.com/join
hi. how do you apply this if you taking ssri ? when you are on those medications it kind a make you numb and it becomes very difficult to feel any emotion.
Thank you. Have read Sarno’s books and just finished The Great Pain Deception today. Then found this video. Back pain and calf keeps going numb.This was very helpful. Will also watch the videos you recommended below.
Thanks for the kind words. Take a look at all the videos. I've got hundreds. th-cam.com/users/PainFreeYouvideos
BlueDog, same pain and numbness in calf. Doing the work with Dan’s videos. Taking one day at a time.
That was so weird. I yawned when I started trying to feel my emotions before you even said you might yawn or get tired as a defense mechanism. The mind is so powerful.
That's wild!
God loves you so much that He sent His only begotten Son to die on the cross for our sins(John 3:16). It may be hard for you to believe, but He actually came for us!
I really like how you talk about peace/controlling emotions and I know that God has a purpose for you. You have so much Potential.
If you ever feel down or sad and feel like none of your teachings are working, please pray to God: The God of Abraham, The God of Issac, and The God of Jacob. I am sure He will fill you with His peace and give you all you need!
This is about the 15th video I've watched tonight, trying to let myself cry over recent trauma that I know I haven't let myself feel enough. This is the first one that sort of worked. The part about not "thinking through it" really shifted something for me. Thank you for being a stepping stone on this path for me.
Really glad this is helpful for you. :-)
Is this approach apply also for positive emotions, like joy, calmness, satisfaction?
By all means, after you do the emotional discovery and feel the negative emotions, feel free to move onto positive emotions to soothe yourself and convince your subconscious that you are safe and CAN handle feeling negative emotions. But keep in mind, we aren't dealing with TMS symptoms or pain because we are too happy. It's the negative emotions we are repressing or not allowing ourselves to feel that is likely at the root of our symptoms.
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PAINFUL FEELINGS
(Feel the negative emotions and energies that we have inside our body and how much damage they do us, so that they dissolve).
Be aware what you are feeling in your head, chest, heart, stomack, guts, is painful. Bring your attention into your body; feel the physical sensation and contemplate it, don't let the sensation turn into thinking, observe it without judgement. Allow it to be there. Surrender to the grief, despair, fear, loneliness, or whatever form the suffering takes. Witness it without labelling it mentally. Stay present and continue to be the observer of the pain you are feeling, be the space for it. Embrace it. Don’t turn away from the pain. Feel it fully, don’t think about it. Give all your attention to the feeling, NOT to the person, event or situation that seems to have caused it. Deep your breathing and exhale. Gradually its energy will decrease. You will see how the miracle of surrender transmutes deep suffering into deep peace.
@@user-wt1jd4rc9n Well said.
Imagine if I felt anger in my big toe 😂❤ i was having a 0arenting challenge and I felt soooo much anger 😂 I went to my room and man feeling my anger felt so terrible and hopeless ..but it turned to tears and I felt better eventually . Ugh some emotions feel so strong and uncomfortable
Months ago I was doing Silva's Mind Control for a childhood PTSD. I was counting down slowly from 100 to 0. I couldn't believe how relaxed I'd get. I've been a knot of tension most of my life. One day the countdown felt so good I speed-walked for over 1 1/2 hr and even felt good the next day. As I counted I would also cry, shake my hands, even laugh. But 3 days later after counting I got up and fell against the wall. I wondered if I had a stroke because I was RELAXED from my head to my waist. I was shocked and confused. When I closed my eyes I saw a horror show of images beyond my control and ended up in the psych ward for 2 days.
2 months later, I found Sarno's "The Mindbody Prescription" I had lost years ago and began to address all that tension that has been freeloading on my psyche. By the time I got through the introduction I wondered would I need to read more. Good Luck to All with this. BTW, YT has many amygdala relaxing audios that seem to address unconscious fears.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Allergies are bad today. Woke up plugged crying. I need to not get upset. I have bad dreams. I need to stop fearing it.
And I honestly feel - I'm very spriritual and deep into meditation and inner healing, but since finding you and Dr. Sarno and really going into my feelings and giving them space, acceptance, my presence and awareness - that every time I feel my feelings it's like they configurate something small within me. That they rearrange my setting equipment in some small way to better be able to handle the situation and not just be stuck and feel helpless and hopeless. They truly are messages and friends helping me evolve. So yes you have to go through the emotions to get the updated software 😉 Even though it can feel overwhelming and scary some times. Life is just so fascinating. Grateful for your work.
What are your credentails? Just wondering.
I am so tightly wound. I got so good at pushing them away that I can't unfreeze to feel them. My whole body hurts.
Thank you. Feels like it answers a big question for me. A few years ago, I found Hilary Jacobs Hendel's book, 'It's Not Always Depression,' and it changed a lot for me, because it offers a brilliant method of accessing emotions through the body. It's about a form of therapy called AEDP and a central assumption is that anxiety isn't an emotion, it's a way of blocking emotion - a very similar idea, as far as I can tell, to Sarno's ideas about a lot of chronic pain. Why would you choose anxiety rather than emotion? Because it offers the illusion of control (I must be better!) where emotions feel like a loss of control and are often about things you can't really control - and tha'ts what's really unbearable, e.g. a child experiencing the death of a parent might ward off sympathy from others in various ways because otherwise they might be moved to give way to grief and this would be an admission of the devastating loss.
AEDP says, we're not kids anymore, we can handle these experiences; some of them might still feel overwhelming, but we can access them in little bites - titration, as Peter Levine puts it - and then pull back if necessary. So it advocates doing a little negotiation with yourself: can I set aside the anxiety and see what deeper feelings are there? Then you sit and pay attention to your bodily sensations and don't rush to name what comes.
It's wonderful because you never need to be ground down by anxiety again. But, after the business of accessing the emotions bodily, I got a little stuck because I assumed - and aI think Hendel's book kind of reinforces this assumption - that you then needed to act out: imagine screaming at the person at whom you're angry or whatever. And I don't find this works terribly well.
I had lost track of the body and all the experience could simply be there: the emotions come up, you feel them, you let them do what they want to your face etc. maybe you even cry or even laugh, but you let it pass, there's no obligation other than that.
I do recommend Hendel's book, though. It helped me a lot and I imagine it could work well with Sarno's ideas.
Thank you for sharing your experience and the book recommendation.
I’m so trying to do this it’s so hard
If I may, let me suggest you go back to basics on what causes symptoms.
th-cam.com/video/tnU6KBAv5fg/w-d-xo.html
And to follow up on that, a great place to begin recovery is:
www.painfreeyou.com/start
Dan is my hero ❤ he has got me through some of my worse days
Thrilled to be able to help.
This is truly an OUTSTANDING video Dan and I do not say so lightly. I have been through therapy and one of the best counsellors was a group counsellor who repeatedly tried to tell me this: "Feel your emotions. Say to yourself - I know what I know and I feel what I feel." He said further to distinguish between mental states and emotions when he asked how I was feeling and I said I was confused. He said "Confusion is a mental state. Emotions are not mental states. Joy, excitement, sadness, rage, anger, irritation, anxiety, fear - those are emotions. Don't think about what you're feeling. Feel it. Let yourself feel what you're feeling."
Its been many years and I haven't learned from his advice so I'm glad I got the same lesson from you! Very helpful! Please continue making these videos and continue to be open and frank like this. Its a rare delight to find people who have the courage to be honest, open and real.
Thank you Michael. I post a new video every single day. DansTH-cam.com
But Dr. Sarno stated we don't have to feel our rage nor express our rage in order to heal....
I've been secluded in my house for 31 months releasing my extreme emotions. Thank god for my parents. Emotions don't stop comming out from me. I reccomend you start now if you wanna live life to the fullest.
Have you determined the cause of your symptoms? If you'd like to understand my take on how pain or chronic symptoms start and become chronic, watch the video at PainFreeYou.com and then download the free self assessment to see if your situation falls in line with this mindbody / stress illness reason for symptoms.
I love this video Dan. Thank you very much. It is very difficult for me to feel emotions, this help 🍀
You are very welcome.
I have been aware feeling and saying it's ok I'm safe I choose to let it go.
I feel like I need to listen to this every single day, maybe multiple times a day, lol- to fully let it absorb into my subconscious so doing this just happens naturally! Very good advice. Thank you 💕
Wonderful!
Check out my fast start playlist too: DansFastStart.com
Thank you so very much for this, Dan! I finally get it....Give myself permission to feel the emotions....In my 61 years I had become a master at suppressing my emotions learned in early childhood. It's so automatic I don't know i'm doing it. Great insight, thank you again!
You are very welcome!
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I’m in the middle of Dr Johns book. It’s been a revelation. I don’t really suffer with much backpain, but I have pain in various parts of my body, and I’m going to apply what I’m learning to deal with my emotional pain throughout my body. It’s a whole new way, of looking at yourself, looking at your pain and looking at your emotions. If I can address Repressed emotions, that will be a major thing for me. I found Your video thought-provoking, and I will continue to apply myself in this new way. Thank you.😊
The way out is mapped out in this video:th-cam.com/video/3vJgBnrhFt8/w-d-xo.html
Came back around to watch this one again. ❤️ Thank you for all you do!
Welcome back!
Instead of journaling can I just talk them outloud?
Yes, that is fine.
Would you do a consult with me? Just a one time?
@@karibohning6909 Due to my moms stroke and needing to spend a ton of time with her right now, I am not taking on new one-on-one coaching clients. However, you can benefit greatly by my video course and weekly group coaching program. You would learn all you need to know in just a single month. However, if you would like ongoing support, you can stay longer. www.PainFreeYou.com/join
I've had 4 years of constant bizzare anxiety and pain symptoms all unexplained. My worst is 24/7 blurred vision which came out of nowhere. Even though I suffer daily I feel hope listening to you and I feel stronger already and have hope that my pain and vision will return to normal one day so thankyou
try taking zinc or a food supplement with algae oil, which contains dha. at the same time, avoid gluten from wheat, spelt, barley, rye, etc.
This was an extremely useful video Dan. I was not told about the difference between feeling your emotions and expressing your emotions so now this makes so much sense. I thought they were the same thing so I just didn't get how you could do that on a daily basis. I am going to make a point of checking in with myself and trying to see what's going on for me with my emotions moving forward. Thanks again Dan for putting together another HUGE piece of the TMS jigsaw puzzle!
Fantastic.
You had me all the way up until you mentioned that no one has to express their feelings. This perpetuates the mental illness epidemic since people are constantly told by society to repress our emotions which really translates to "KEEP IT ALL INSIDE, NO ONE WANTS TO SEE IT OR HEAR IT." I had to give this a thumbs down, sorry. It goes without saying that most people are able to FEEL their own emotions. But it manifests as physical and psychological illness when you feel you aren't allowed to express them. When you use the term "complaining" this is a trigger word too, and should be avoided since society makes us think any time we express ourselves negatively this is "bad" and that only happy expressions are acceptable. It's backwards psychology and keeps people sick and suffering. Expressing oneself is an absolute must for mental health. I'm certainly not saying you should just go off and verbally explode on someone who upset you. But there are SO many more other examples that prove that we NEED to express ourselves..otherwise you WILL get sick. And if you're already fed this kind of stuff you will continue to STAY sick. I am proof to this in fact. I have had all the wrong people around me for many years (family members and so called friends) as I have gone from TREMENDOUS traumatic life events (repetitively over a period of 2 decades now), who have consistently told me I should "talk to a therapist instead" or "just get over it" or the worst one of all "Everyone has problems" - these all are detrimental in the healing process and they demean and belittle the human need to express things. Everyone has a breaking point and will implode when you're in a bad environment with the wrong people who show a long term pattern of downplaying your suffering. Imagine being abandoned by your only friend because they can't handle emotions. Or imagine your own parents who are emotionally unavailable because they themselves aren't able to comfort you. Imagine you can't afford a therapist due to lack of job opportunities and nowhere else to go. Imagine having NOBODY who can relate to the kind of traumatic events you are experiencing every few years that has no end in sight. You shouldn't feel you have to lock up your emotions and feel them in your bathroom until an appointment with a therapist, give me a break. Or that if you're feeling depressed just go workout. It's NOT that simple and if simply working actually did solve the problem we wouldn't have a worldwide epidemic of suicide or mental illness or physical illness brought on by an overwhelming amount of years of traumatic events. This is 10x worse for those of us who are sensitive and emotional by nature, and in fact it can be a living HELL. Feeling emotions comes by default to many people. This is also very subjective because every single human being is different. What works for one person won't work for another, and in fact will sabotage their healing.
I didn't say you aren't allowed. In my experience, I don't know that we NEED to in order to end our symptoms from TMS. Sometimes adult conversations are necessary.
Dan, thanks for the insight from a guy that was down a lot longer than me. I’ve been basically in bed in groin and hip pain for almost 3 years and I thought I was bad. I just realized I’m dealing with TMS lately after an aquaintance told me to look into TMS. This after lots of doctors and imaging that showed nothing.
Your manner is soothing and is helping me so far. Thanks much
Very cool. Glad you found the videos. If you understand TMS and accept that your pain is from TMS - then there are really two things left to do. Feel your emotions and get your mindset right.
Here's a review of TMS processes:
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And here are two videos specifically about mindset. This should hit the main points:
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Dig in. You are on the right track and can get better much faster than you realize.
How are you now ?
Wild Wave ha , I’m actually still disabled.
@@larryc1964 Hi Larry, sorry to hear your pain is this bad. My wife suffers TMS (still a long way to go), but she ended up in a wheelchair for a few months as the pain was too much to walk. Scans, doctors etc found nothing. She then started believing that the pain was emotional (after reading a Dr Sarno book and learning about tms) and forced herself to walk. A few steps at first and gradually got walking again. However, the pain is now everywhere else in the body. Still functioning though.
I highly recommend reading Dr Sarno books, or Steve Ozanich and even Nicole Sachs on TH-cam. You need to believe 100% that there is nothing wrong with your body. You may need psychotherapy, especially if there is an unresolved sub-conscious emotional issue. A lot of childhood trauma can affect you later in life. Good luck to you.
I love listening to you Dan. You are calm, wise and explain it in simple languagge.
Thank you Susanna.
Absolutely resonated! Thank you 🙏
Dan I’m so tired of this pain 7 months with this pain it’s So hard, thank you for this video
I'm sorry you are struggling. If you haven't yet spent time on my getting started page, please do. It walks you through what causes pain, how to see if these concepts apply to you and a path forward. www.PainFreeYou.com/start
I wished and wish so very much that I could cry but I can't....Im very repressed. All the very few times I could cry I felt an imense relief of my depression and of all the weight in my chest disappeared....unbelieveable....but unfortunately I can't.....
Every time you tell yourself you can't cry, you make it less likely to occur. Emotions are safe. Allow yourself to cry. Change the script that you CAN cry and that it feels amazing and safe. You can do it.
At the right time for me to hear this video Dan you rock 🎸 ❤️ Thanks 🙏🏽 😊
What book would you recommend to a young adult who has suffered from many years of chronic anxiety and depression?
I like Hope and Help for your Nerves by Claire Weekes.
@@PainFreeYou i’ve looked at a lot of the success videos, and I don’t see much there about people that suffer primarily from anxiety and depression. Does this type of treatment work for that? My daughter, 36 years old, has suffered from severe anxiety and depression, since a teenager. She hasIBS type symptoms but mostly extreme anxiety and depression. I don’t see a lot about that. Mostly physical pain. Can you share some thoughts. I did get your message about what book you recommend. Does it relate to TMS?
@@lindamoore1264 no. The book is not about TMS but will help for anxiety which will help with the depression too. Most of my success stories were anxious people. It’s all the same. A brain perceiving danger creates pain, other symptoms, anxiety and depression. Safety is the solution for all.
@@lindamoore1264 the book is still very worthwhile despite it not being a TMS book.
@@PainFreeYou I just ordered it and sent it to her. Thank you so much. Getting her mindset into doing the work is the primary challenge right now.
When I feel my emotions, do I explain the origin of them? Example, I feel angry, the anger comes from me arguing with my husband etc. It's just anger, it is safe.
My take is that we can just feel the emotions without the story behind it. You already know why you are angry. Just allow the emotion.
If i keep feeling my sadness will it go away
I just want to express gratitude to you for doing this. The curable app & your positivity & calm nature has really been helping me. Thank you!!
Wow, thank you!
Dan, thankyou, the word "humble" means, having or showing a low estimate of ones own importance. Not so...... Honoured is more like it Dan, you're good at these explanations, demistifying both Dr.Sarno and Dr.Schubiner, and a host of other concepts. Thanx again.
Thank you very much.
Have felt angry all my life from life long child abuse rippling effects took everything from me a parents abuse father of my kids more abuse manipulation towards them to hate me I feel totally in shock from what they have done to me how can I stop feeling angry
It's okay and perfectly normal to feel angry. Give yourself permission to feel those emotions. However, if you are ruminating on all of the stories of why you are so angry, remembering all the things you have suffered and doing that all day every day will keep on activating those old emotional wounds. This is very challenging for sure. Are you also suffering physical pain too?
@@PainFreeYou yes also chronic physical pain I've watched a lot of TH-cam videos on abuse from childhood many say u won't heal or feel any different until u are in a repair process where u start to meet people who will respect u u have to experience the opposite to been abused and I haven't had that experience yet which only reinforces the feelings of anger towards my abuser my son does say don't let it bother me u can live without friends I know I can't I suffered to much butchery in that area while I always tried to cherish others in friendship I got the opposite back
@@reg8297 I am not minimizing the trauma you went through. I have no idea what that was and how significant it has been in your life. If I may just offer an observation. Continuing to look in the rear view mirror at your childhood trauma may be why you are unable to get past it. Perhaps the people are right that you won't heal until you meet people who will respect you. But what if giving yourself the respect and love and caring is a really good place to start. See, by saying you need others to respect and give you the opposite of being abused is putting the solution outside of you. Begin where you are now. What can YOU do each day to give yourself the opposite experience from the abuse? (I'm not a childhood trauma expert, so if these recommendations don't fit with your experience, my apologies.) I'm just trying to offer some ideas.
@@PainFreeYou It has been said, that one must truly love ones self first before others can love you. Hence attracting how you feel into your life. A basic start may be self forgiveness and validation of ones personal feelings. As Dan teaches "Its OK to feel this way , you have a right to feel this way". Your going to be OK. ☺
@@cdracos1 I agree. Forgiveness is key. Especially forgiving ourselves. th-cam.com/video/N675E4RV3tY/w-d-xo.html
By the way, if you aren't aware of my other channel called Pain Free You, check it out. th-cam.com/users/PainFreeYouvideos