2:23 you might be glad to hear that my partner's therapist (in the public mental healthcare system here in Quebec) has vigorously recommended the book (NVC) to him. It's very unfortunate though that there isn't a French translation for the original book. I was pretty surprised about that, there are only small handbooks available. I mean clinical psychology might not be "academia" per se, but it's still good to know that it's recognized by professionals.
That’s great! I love the vigorous recommendation of it lol. I, too, very VIGOROUSLY recommend people get into NVC, and understand how damaging our violent communication is with others, how disconnecting it is to judge others, and how tragic it is that the actions we take to try to secure connection serve to alienate others instead.
Don’t mean to rehash things that aren’t important but I was rewatching many of the older past food videos and realized I wasn’t seeing you being shy or tired but it was more of a quiet sadness? Glad to see you pursuing your own passions and making quality content.
Hmmm, I question that statement about emotions being taught by society. I don't think a young child is taught how to feel grief when a dog passes away: they just spontaneously learn grief from the experience. Nor do I think babies are taught to fear angry voices from society: they just unknowing learn fear as a reaction. The exact way a person feels when experiencing fear or grief may change, but on the whole, my point from not reading the book is that emotions aren't taught by society: they're experienced by people merely living life. Unless you're saying a human being locked away from everyone from birth would not experience a full range of emotions because they haven't been put into a situation where those feelings could develop. Then I can see we are stating the same point.
I hear what you’re saying. I think part 2 of the video goes over the idea of how a child would learn grief, with the author’s example of how her daughter Sophie learned anger. In the case of grief over a lost dog, a child will - I think - feel the loss in the nervous system regulation she used to get from her dog, and would feel negative affect from it, for sure, but would she name it as grief?
@eatyourkimchi Just because the child couldn't name it grief doesn't mean the child can't experience grief. My cousin got murdered when I was 6. My teacher asked me why I was so sad and I told her my cousin died, 30 min. later my mom came and picked me up because my cousin had indeed died. He was so connected to me that I knew he died before I knew he died and was going through the grief process at 6. Up until then I didn't know what death was. I think it's a flawed statement to say that a child can't experience grief without the help of society.
I enjoy watching your reviews Simon! I saw that you are taking a break with fiction books and i can agree that many fiction works focus too much on action rather than character and relationship development. However, if you ever wished to try it again in the future would highly recommend Robin Hobb's Realm of the Elderlings, a most underrated book series. A slow paced character-driven and introspective series which highlights trauma and how it affects people throughout their lives. Anyways! Keep doing what you do! I always look forward to a new and interesting video!
Awesome! Thank you for the recommendation. I do miss digging into fiction and getting lost in it, and lately, as soon as I read some violence I definitely snap out of it. I’ll give the Realm of the Elderlings a glance and see how I like it. I used to read a bunch of fantasy. And thank you for the words of support. I hope you like the next two videos, coming next week :D
@@eatyourkimchi I see ! I should mention again that since the series themes include trauma there are various heavy topics explored. However, as opposed to many other fantasy authors I don't feel that Hobb in any ways revels or glorifies violence, more so contemplates the various ways in which it effects people and how they heal/ or do not heal from it. However, if you still choose to try her books, it mainly focuses on people and world building. I would also caution patience with the primary main character c: He is a flawed and his journey is long, but his great heart and empathy is the heart of it all.
I love Murakami! I read 1Q84, the Colorless Tsukuku, Norwegian Wood, and Kafka on the Shore. I could definitely see myself talking about his works, for sure. I'm having a lot of difficulty reading fiction lately, though, because I just find so much of it is focused on conflict, and shows people behaving violently with each other. I find it so rare to read fiction where people talk with each other peacefully, can hold space for what's alive in others in the face of conflict, and respond mindfully without triggering each other. I've been thinking about doing reviews of TV shows and books and showing how they handle their conflict in unhealthy ways, though. Maybe that'll work. For now, though, I've got some ideas that I want to share here first. Once I get those out there, I think I can use fiction as examples to highlight my beliefs :D
I understand! And that’s a great idea, that would be lots of fun to review tv shows and movies. Maybe like what Cinema Therapy does. I love their vids and it’s interesting to dig into the psychology in fiction
Thank you! I just watched one of the first videos I did for the book club, and whoa, I definitely sounded different there. I'm feeling like I'm getting my voice and confidence back.
Yeah! I’ve heard of Damasio’s work - I think mentioned by LFB as well. I’d like to get into it once I get the chance. What did you learn from Descartes’ Error? Does he talk about the Cartesian Theatre in it? I think that’s a very important idea to tease apart.
2:23 you might be glad to hear that my partner's therapist (in the public mental healthcare system here in Quebec) has vigorously recommended the book (NVC) to him. It's very unfortunate though that there isn't a French translation for the original book. I was pretty surprised about that, there are only small handbooks available. I mean clinical psychology might not be "academia" per se, but it's still good to know that it's recognized by professionals.
That’s great! I love the vigorous recommendation of it lol. I, too, very VIGOROUSLY recommend people get into NVC, and understand how damaging our violent communication is with others, how disconnecting it is to judge others, and how tragic it is that the actions we take to try to secure connection serve to alienate others instead.
The way money is made up… 😁Exactly!!
🧠 Liking the series!! 👍👍
Hell yeah! I'm glad you're into it. I hope you like the next series I'm working on, too :D
@@eatyourkimchi Hey Simon, Is the picture for the video created by AI? Just curious. Hope you’re having a great day!
Yeah, I'm using Midjourney :D
Don’t mean to rehash things that aren’t important but I was rewatching many of the older past food videos and realized I wasn’t seeing you being shy or tired but it was more of a quiet sadness? Glad to see you pursuing your own passions and making quality content.
Hmmm, I question that statement about emotions being taught by society. I don't think a young child is taught how to feel grief when a dog passes away: they just spontaneously learn grief from the experience. Nor do I think babies are taught to fear angry voices from society: they just unknowing learn fear as a reaction. The exact way a person feels when experiencing fear or grief may change, but on the whole, my point from not reading the book is that emotions aren't taught by society: they're experienced by people merely living life.
Unless you're saying a human being locked away from everyone from birth would not experience a full range of emotions because they haven't been put into a situation where those feelings could develop. Then I can see we are stating the same point.
I hear what you’re saying. I think part 2 of the video goes over the idea of how a child would learn grief, with the author’s example of how her daughter Sophie learned anger. In the case of grief over a lost dog, a child will - I think - feel the loss in the nervous system regulation she used to get from her dog, and would feel negative affect from it, for sure, but would she name it as grief?
@eatyourkimchi Just because the child couldn't name it grief doesn't mean the child can't experience grief. My cousin got murdered when I was 6. My teacher asked me why I was so sad and I told her my cousin died, 30 min. later my mom came and picked me up because my cousin had indeed died. He was so connected to me that I knew he died before I knew he died and was going through the grief process at 6. Up until then I didn't know what death was. I think it's a flawed statement to say that a child can't experience grief without the help of society.
it's really nice to see you doing well! you have much more energy and light in your eyes good to see you back!!
I enjoy watching your reviews Simon! I saw that you are taking a break with fiction books and i can agree that many fiction works focus too much on action rather than character and relationship development.
However, if you ever wished to try it again in the future would highly recommend Robin Hobb's Realm of the Elderlings, a most underrated book series. A slow paced character-driven and introspective series which highlights trauma and how it affects people throughout their lives.
Anyways! Keep doing what you do! I always look forward to a new and interesting video!
Awesome! Thank you for the recommendation. I do miss digging into fiction and getting lost in it, and lately, as soon as I read some violence I definitely snap out of it. I’ll give the Realm of the Elderlings a glance and see how I like it. I used to read a bunch of fantasy.
And thank you for the words of support. I hope you like the next two videos, coming next week :D
@@eatyourkimchi
I see !
I should mention again that since the series themes include trauma there are various heavy topics explored. However, as opposed to many other fantasy authors I don't feel that Hobb in any ways revels or glorifies violence, more so contemplates the various ways in which it effects people and how they heal/ or do not heal from it.
However, if you still choose to try her books, it mainly focuses on people and world building.
I would also caution patience with the primary main character c: He is a flawed and his journey is long, but his great heart and empathy is the heart of it all.
What’s your enneagram Simon?
Hey Simon! I was wondering it’d be cool for your to review famous books from around the world! I feel you’d be a fan of Haruki Murakami’s work!
I love Murakami! I read 1Q84, the Colorless Tsukuku, Norwegian Wood, and Kafka on the Shore. I could definitely see myself talking about his works, for sure. I'm having a lot of difficulty reading fiction lately, though, because I just find so much of it is focused on conflict, and shows people behaving violently with each other. I find it so rare to read fiction where people talk with each other peacefully, can hold space for what's alive in others in the face of conflict, and respond mindfully without triggering each other. I've been thinking about doing reviews of TV shows and books and showing how they handle their conflict in unhealthy ways, though. Maybe that'll work. For now, though, I've got some ideas that I want to share here first. Once I get those out there, I think I can use fiction as examples to highlight my beliefs :D
I understand! And that’s a great idea, that would be lots of fun to review tv shows and movies. Maybe like what Cinema Therapy does. I love their vids and it’s interesting to dig into the psychology in fiction
I haven't watched any of their stuff, but I'll give them a glance now. Thanks for the tip!
happy to see you stepping back into yourself
Im happy to see your old self back
Thank you! I just watched one of the first videos I did for the book club, and whoa, I definitely sounded different there. I'm feeling like I'm getting my voice and confidence back.
Interesting!
Hi Simon
Further literature: Damasio, Descartes’ Error, 1994; Prototypes of emotions are connections of perceptual patterns with bodily states.
Yeah! I’ve heard of Damasio’s work - I think mentioned by LFB as well. I’d like to get into it once I get the chance. What did you learn from Descartes’ Error? Does he talk about the Cartesian Theatre in it? I think that’s a very important idea to tease apart.
I wish you the best take care
I have to check them out
Thanks Simon 😊😊😊