LIFE UPDATE CHIT-CHAT | Becoming A "Straight Natural" + Why I Quit Instagram Daily Stories
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- Chitting and chatting while I do my makeup. Hot Topics: Wearing my natural hair flat ironed, quitting Instagram Daily Stories
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I’ve decided to wear my hair straight every 3 months. The fairy knots is what has been bothering me with wearing my curls, no matter what I do they come back but when my hair is straighten or blow dried, I don’t have that problem. So protective styles and flat iron will be my go to and i will wear my hair curly for a week every now and then. 🤷🏾♀️
Fairy knots are the worst!!! I wear my hair curly alot but it honestly is soo frustrating no matter what I do they come back. Only thing that helps is straight hair and protective styles such as braids or weaves... but yea.. fairy knots are awful 😭😭
Yessss, I used to wrap hair up everytime I got back home. Aint combing it down til I go somewhere
girrrrrrl yesss! lol I mean not combing down til RIGHT before I have to head out the door lol
Relating to these topics on all levels. Cmon nowww! Get outta my head. I def been mentally planning my straight natural life. Having natural hair for me doesn't mean "keep it in that state"🙌🏽.
Yes! I'm the same way Destiny! To me, being natural just means no relaxers! Everyone can have their own definition that fits best for them but sometimes you just want to switch it up for a while that is ok!!
I am so glad that you touched on the effects of social media. I gave up everything except TH-cam a year and half ago and it helped so much with my anxiety and the quality of my relationships. Mental health is so important!! ❤️❤️
YES "QUALITY OF RELATIONSHIPS!" That is big! Because you can maintain a relationship with people via social media only, but it DEFINITELY affects the QUALITY of those relationships. I'm going to be honest... if I ONLY talk to you via social media -- unless you're overseas and thats your only way of communicating with me -- I don't consider you as close as the other people in my direct circle. I have relationships I've STARTED on social media... but we still now nurture them in REAL ways via phone convos, etc. Social media can create a fake sense of closeness, while also creating anxiety over the need to "perform" for the people you love. Mental Health is the MOST important! I'm so glad so many people in the comments are relating to this 🙏🏾
Same here! I feel so much more at peace without social media. It’s crazy how big of a negative impact it has on our mental health without us even really realizing it!
Social media breaks are SO needed for your mental health! And you are freaking gorgeous, cousin 💗
awww thank you so much! and thanks for watching cuz! 🌻
I’m a Taurus too so I felt that “I plan to plan” statement 💀😂💓
I deleted all my social media accounts a few years back (I was going down a depression spiral and wanted to make sure that that wasn't contributing to it). After I've gotten back a few (honestly just snapchat), I've realized how much I don't need it anymore
BINGO! Same here! Every time I've deleted a social media app, after the initial "what do I do now?" phase, I realized just how much it wasn't necessary when I try to go back. I deleted Twitter in 2010 and didn't come back until 2018.. when I first came back I was like "I don't think I can do this" lol Because it's almost overwhelming being hit with so many thoughts and opinions that you didn't have to "worry" about before! I've noticed the same with Facebook, now. After doing a 30 day fast, I went back to checking it on Saturdays only. Now I notice I forget every Saturday and I'm just like "whatever, I'm not missing anything" lol
AMEND 🤣 YT is my only outlet & that's enough 4 me , everything else is draining BUT I found out I'm fine AND sane without it😉.thanks!
I did the same thing. I only have IG and I'm on TH-cam... That's it and I limit my time on these platforms
Same. Thinking of taking a break again even though I took one for 4 months that ended in July. I am not tethered to any of these apps so I take breaks regularly w no issues. I’ve already take 3/4 long breaks in less than year.
@JONES I don't really count it as one tbh. I don't post anything, so I just see it as sort of a TV replacement
My lane is for me! Say that 🙌🏽
No cap when she started singing I was right there with her !! Circles by Marquise was a hit !!!
It really was! Will never get old!
Right! I was aggressively singing back!! 😭😭
I had to take a giant step back myself . There’s a dark , nasty side to social media and it can draw you into a rabbit hole that just isn’t healthy and especially when the pandemic hit I had to re gather myself . I appreciate you mentioning that support given with good intentions whenever is giving is enough 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️because as a follower on social media sometimes I know I have felt in adequate not being able to comment as frequently or as soon on a post or a video and sometimes the way it is presented by an influencer could make you feel less if you’re not keeping up with those who are able to immediately respond.
That influencer discussion def hit home. The balance between working on content all day then getting settled at night trying to support other creators and watch videos before bed can def become a daily draining race. Im slowly learning to tell myself, creators understand & reminding myself it's okay to not see every single post on time. Loved this video so very much Amber🙌🏽🌻💖
YESSS DESTINY YOU FEEL ME!! It really can be DRAININNNG! Trying to make sure I watch videos, like, show support... sometimes I don't even be having to energy to comment and then I would get into a cycle of feeling guilty for that even though I know I watched and liked... 😩 But I had to step off that wheel and remember that I will always receive what I put out when I do it when good intentions and love. If one missed post causes love lost then thats a sign I don't need to run myself ragged trying to maintain those unrealistic standards! Thank you watching girl! I'm glad you feel me!
I was a straight natural with butt length hair!!!!! And then TH-cam convinced me to start wearing my hair curly and it ain’t been that length ever again lol. I want to get back to it...but via blow outs, i don’t even like
Bone straight hair...but naturally curly hair doesn’t really bring me joy anymore. I’ve been keeping it in long term protective styles until i make a decision but....wash n god and twist outs will never bring me joy.
Honestly I feel like my hair growth didn't change much when I went curly. I'll be honest and say my hair has always been pretty long and grown pretty fast but where most people said going natural just made their hair so much healthier.... eh lol My curls are definitely pretty and I'm happy to have bomb wash and gos... buuuut... aint nothing wrong with no straight natural hair! Folks not gone convince me otherwise lol So I feel you!
I swear that sounds like me kinda lol i used to KEEP my hair straight on the regular and my hair was halfway down my back and growing. Then it all went downhill and stayed that way after i started trying to wear it curly. Im going back to ‘my roots’ with the flat iron
I couldn’t agree more. This is exactly where I’m at. I finally accepted that twist outs and WNG'S don’t work for MY hair. My hair thrives straight - way less mechanical damage and much easier for me to maintain. So I flipped the script - now I use curly and textured synthetic hair for protective styles and keep my natural hair blown out (I too hate my hair bone straight) 👌🏾💛
I’ve decided not to wear my hair in any afro like state for the next 6 months. No wash n gos. I will be flat ironing once a month or else doing a blowout bi-weekly. I’m going to see if it’s easier to retain length and definitely easier to manage.
@@tracyc.1005 girl I’m still on it....I’ve been doing mini twists and roller sets...I’m trying to see what happens in the next few years with growth, but no more wash n goes or “natural” styles, I’m good.
It’s something about unwrapping your hair that is just so satisfying lol
Cousin!!!!! ”Something that’s better than operating as an influencer is Operating as a BELIEVER” Come on somebody!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤎🤎🤎
This “time” that we’ve been in has really forced me to look at how I view control. Naturally as a person and as an earth sign I feel like I need to have control over everything. And the things that have been happening in the world and in the country have forced me to really look at the fact that control isn’t real. For me this has been a super scary realization. I crave control and I crave order and plans and this year has been full of instances and the situations that have proved that plans and control can’t always happen. A way for me to deal with the lack of control has been to start my loc journey. I’ve been natural for about eight years now and thoroughly enjoyed it in the beginning because it was a way for me to have control over myself and over my hair. I was reaching a point in my teenage life and wanted to make a point that I had control over myself. However, for about a year now my natural hair has started to feel like a burden. I wasn’t taking care of my hair or doing my hair the way that I should have been but I couldn’t let it go because of my desire for control and the identity that I had placed in having full and long natural hair. So I started locking my hair and for me this whole journey has just been about relinquishing control and being okay with every phase of my life. All steps and phases of my life have not been the prettiest but they’re still a part of my overall journey. We’ve been in crazy times this year but I can say that I do genuinely appreciate the way that it’s forced me to reflect inwardly and make some much needed changes in my mindset.
Cuz, This pandamic have made us face that person in the mirror and our mental health Thanks for chatting with us! 💕
“Face that person in the mirror” 🙌🏾 spot on!
Teresa Yes girl
“Everything that’s for me will be in my lane” I love this! I have always felt bad that I’m not on other platforms other than ig and TH-cam and feel like I may be missing out on opportunities to grow but hearing those words make me feel so much better because In reality it’s hard to juggle all those platforms and some of them I feel personally are just not for me, so it feels sooo good to hear you say that. Thank you!
Yesss! Some of the best piece of advice I've seen this year was from Mattie on Instagram and she basically said it's best to NOT be on some social media platforms at all if you're not interested in being consistent with it and just focus on the ones you can be on and enjoy and I loved that!
I’m ready to be a straight natural too.
Thank you so much for this video💕! I just started a TH-cam channel on motherhood and before that I didn’t have ANY social media so it’s been a little bit rough adjusting. I have to constantly remind myself to put my mental health first and not spend too much time on it-especially raising 3 small kids. I used to watch you years ago and just found you again 🤗! So glad you are doing what’s best for you❤️!
Love this and thankful for your transparency! -- there is so much pressure and FOMO is a real thing... honestly social media will take as much as you give it, just like anything else .. I feel like this needs to be discussed more. We live our lives through the lens of social media and glimpses of other people lives through social platforms ... I wonder how we'll feel 40 years from now when we reflect and look back on this season of our life.
I understand. I never had a instagram or facebook. I really have never seen the need for it in my personal life. No explanation needed. Do you boo! 😊
The minute I stopped using Facebook I felt the same way lol Now I don't even check it anymore 😩
Exactly lol
Preach! I divested from social media back in 2016. I only watch youtube videos in my free time if I feel like it lol but everything else, nah. Social media in general is very toxic and addictive. It definitely changes you and is emotionally draining. Glad, you are finding it working for you to minimize social media.
Being an empath.. I fissure cut my time off social media ( mainly IG ) drastically. I can tell my mental feels SO much better. I pop on here and there but not much anymore. I do just to keep up with current events but we know that's alot on the mental so I'm careful on how much I take in now. Great video!☺😍❤
I loved this video. Sometimes talking/chatting videos are the best. This video really spoke to me in so many ways. We can get caught up in so many things and neglect the the things we really need for ourselves. I am guilty. I forget to live in the moment sometimes but I’m working on putting my phone down more and whatever else takes up unnecessary time from me.
I agree about talking videos! Especially for me! Sometimes I can get so caught up in my videos being "aesthetically pleasing" or drawing a certain goal that I OVERTHINK it and then I just spiral into talking myself out of it (the "perfection procrastination" I was talking about) -- when really really just sitting down and talking allows me to be more transparent and just put it all on the table and real!
I definitely have been guilty of not living in the moment.. or worse... trying to make everything an "Instagram worthy moment" and that's just... yuck lol Now I honestly will forget where I put my phone because I've been into my DAY and not social media and I'm loving it!
Heyy cousin! Glad you’re doing whatever you feel makes you happy. Your true supporters will be here.
I appreciate that
Girrllll my country cousin!!!! When I tell you I needed to see this!!! Last year around this same time I took a break from social media until Jan. I needed to because it consumed so much of my time and it was making me depressed. I’m going to do it again in a few days as well. Annndddd I wanted to go to therapy! You literally were reading my mind!!!
Girl I am going through the exact same thing! I’ve been experimenting with being a straight natural and I have been loving it tbh!
Yessss trying to keep your hair straight as a natural is the struggle!!!! 😂 rock the ponytail !
I fast from social media often because of the exact same reasons. I find that I don’t procrastinate as much when fasting because I find time to do all of the things I have planned. Thanks for the video Amber!
I always like when you do chit chats cousin! Totally felt you on this video too! That color still coming through too! C’MON LAYERS!!!! So cute! When you brushed it down at the end it had that cute effect like in high school when folks used those feather combs!
Loved this social media topic. I stepped back a while ago, to study. And as time goes by, I find myself not feeling the need for it. I've found myself using it more lately to watch videos to support, rather than watching tv in my free time. I definitely love watching and supporting you, because your intentions give me true pure vibes 💚
thank you so much cousin! and I'm the same way! I'll step away from an app for a while and when I come back I'm like "I really didn't even miss anything!"
I knew from the video you did earlier this year that you was taking a break which is understandable but I'm also glad you are back. I can relate to that feeling of anxiety when I comes to showing love to fellow influencers. Sometimes just editing and uploading a video takes so much out of me it's hard to support lol but I do it when I can and try not to put pressure on myself
Enjoyed. Girl I’m with you on the straight hair natural part. Your die hard “always like to see your hair curly “ may not be😂.I agree with you about the pressure that we as creators put on ourselves. I’ve falling back as well. I have a family and I can’t be up here all day everyday anyways. One day at a time. Glad to see that your are happy and doing well🤎
Girrrrl... okay?! I would look up and realized I had just spent over an HOUR watching Daily Stories. Which honestly don't get me anywhere but either traumatized (with police brutality stories), or sitting comparing all day. At least with an hour of tv you get entertainment lol When I weighed the pros and cons... I realized it just wasn't for ME. It's crazy how changing something so small freed up that much more of my life! 😩
That “fomo” is real.. and i feel like Instagram, Facebook, and tictok amplify those feels for me 10x...
ABSOLULTELY!! I'm almost glad I got "mad" at TiKTok when I did over how they initially handled the BLM movement... but everything happens for a reason because it was so easy for me to get lost in that app for HOURS and so much research has been done on that app specifically and how it tracks people. I got rid of that and deactivated my Facebook and I've been so much happier!
Finally Amber that’s so good... life is too short to live through your phone 👌🏽
Hey cousin. This is the perfect video that I needed to listen to as I drive home from a very stressful week on a Friday. Thank you. You have no idea how much I need to hear everything you just said
Love to hear that! Glad you enjoyed and I hope you're able to remind yourself of some of the positive things we talked about in this video and also take care of yourself and mental health ❤️
Heyyy!! Yesss I was a straight natural too!! I definitely used to wrap my hair between classes in college. Especially bc the guy who knew how to do the good press n curl back home was 3 hours away so I needed it to last at least a month!! 😂
I haven’t straightened my hair in almost 3 years and I really want to do it.
lol omg this was me!!! Even when I got a relaxer I didn't trust NOBODY to put it in but my auntie and my mama so they were all 2 hours away. That wrap between classes was real lol
“I’ll tell you something that’s better than operating as an influencer is operating as a believer” YOU BETTER SAY THAT!!
Boom!
Nice!! Taking on things that are not yours! I love it. This is definitely a season for stepping back and working on things that make us the best version of ourselves. I agree 100 and love it!! And operating as a believer is the best thing going. You will reap what you sow...that says what you give out, comes back. Being a believer causes it to come back pressed down, shaken together, and running over.
Baaaby you better preach this here Friday morn! 🙌🏾 Amen and Asé!!
Cousin, u my girl !!! That ole thang back & song 🤣🤣🤣
lol You feel me cousin!
So happy you're doing what makes you happy!
Cousinnnnn. I swear we are always on the same wavelength lmao I have def been thinking about becoming a straight natural for a while. (I think its cause we're both April babies lmao). Can we talk about the way you turned this into a podcast over the missing video footage. Legendary!! Most people would have given up! GOAT TALK! So happy for this update, glad to hear you are doing well! 🖤🥰
Yessss! I listened to the audio that had the lost footage and I was like "what are the odds that the MAIN THING I felt like people really needed to hear gets lost?" NOT TODAY SATAN! lol I really know some people needed to hear that when you're operating in YOUR LANE you don't have to operate in the spirit of fear or lack! And YES! Show folks how a REAL OG makes "the show go on!'" 🐐 lol Thanks for watching cousin! And let us pray on this straight hair thang 😩 lol
I am debating about being a straight natural for a short while. My concern is heat damage,too.
Video suggestion: Advice to my younger self. Things you’ve learned, tips, general advice you’d tell younger Amber. 💛🌻
I can definitely relate to everything you said in this video. I’ve been battling with trying to stay consistent, but also wanting to take a step back. It can be a struggle, but I’ve been trying to listen to my gut ❤️
You got this! You have been doing so well and consistent but yes it is hard! You definitely have to listen to your gut and also take breaks when needed! Being intentional with everything is so much better than burning yourself out! ❤️❤️
Thanks for the update!! Unplugging is so necessary!
Yes girl i could totally relate, you can't be everything to everyone and mental health is top priority thanks for the vid 😊
You truly truly can't. And what's crazy is I never thought of myself even being the kind of person who tried to be "all things to all people"...but when I had to sit down and take inventory of how much I prioritized other's feelings over my own... it was alarming! Social media will truly make you feel like you're "slacking" if you aren't being "all things" and I just can not lol Thanks for watching girl!
@@FinallyAmber no probs hun, this video was needed cuz at times i feel myself going in the same direction and i have to stop and reel it back in, knowing it's ok to just see about me and making sure I'm good😊
I understand and can definitely relate to how you feel Amber.😌
I can relate to being a planner. I can plan out everything but will i follow through with it... thats a different conversation lol. Its funny you mention the topic of straight hair. I made a vow that I was going to go all 2020 without straightening my hair just as a challenge and to see if I noticed any health difference. I have managed to keep my word but as soon as I seen you straighten your hair, I noticed my thoughts started to abandon my vows. I will keep my word since there's only a couple months left of 2020.
I also strongly believe that social media is an addiction and i noticed your break from posting and I'm not mad at it. I think its something to be normalized because social media has almost become a dark hole. Thats a whole longgggg conversation. But I enjoyed this talk!
I just started my business and I’ve been feeling so attached to social media and I hate it. I wish I could come off, but then you hear if you don’t post you’re not showing up for your business, so I definitely understand where you are coming from.
Have you thought about using apps like Post Planner to plan your posts to stay active with your business without having to actually get on there yourself? You can see (preview) what they will look like before you post. Then you can set up “office hours” for when you can respond and engage!
Definitely appreciate this video! I actually sent you an IG DM last night about how much I respect the fact that you "stepped back" from social media for your own mental health. OG cousin (back from the HairMary days) and I look forward to future content... no matter how long it takes for you to put it out there 🤎🖤
Thank you so much! I don't check my Insta DMs that often for that same reason. I've talked about it before, but I always want to make sure yall know it's nothing against yall. I LOVE YALL! I'm just the type to get overwhelmed with a bunch of DMs trying to again "be all things" that I just try to make sure I connect with yall in other ways (like here in the comments!) so yall feel my love! 💕 But yes! It's so necessary to just put things in the correct order, priority wise! Thank you so much for always rockin with me cuz! 🌻🤎
@@FinallyAmber Honestly, I'm new to Instagram (refused to join for so many reasons) and I thought it was the best way to send you a message 🤦🏾♀️ buuuuut yea. If you see it (wanted to send some encouragement your way) let me know. Keep focusing on your mental health cuz we all we got!
I went to undergrad in GA, so I know about maintaining my 'do between classes with my scarf or bonnet. Love your channel Amber, you always keep it real. And yes, too much SM is harmful; your mental wellness is most important. XOXO
You look great. Thank you for taking care of yourself. Most important. Maaaad love cousin!! Stay up sis!
Glad to see you! 💕
Thank you! 🤗
What’s up cousin? Happy Friday ! Amber I love your wash & goes. Becoming a straight natural is also a good look .love your content🥰🥰🥰
Man! Seeeee I lovvve a good wash and go too! That's why I'm like... I need to figure out how to still have those in my life every now and then lol Thanks for watching cousin! 🤎
I've been natural for 10 years and straightened my hair once, but it only lasted a day lol. Being born in '91 your straight real hair paired with 'natural look' makeup reminds me of the 90's and all the black women on TV I admired 😍. Which makes me feel so nostalgic! But also kinda sad. It's like you said in the Left Eye Hair Tutorial Video, black women back then didn't wear their hair natural much. Hollywood & most of the Music industry didn't allow them to which is a whole 'notha subject.
Did you see the video of Kat Graham doing her natural hair crying and said something like "I wish one day I could play someone who looks like me"? That was heartbreaking!
I have to say I agree about social media breaks. Besides TH-cam, I haven't been on IG since March. At first I didn't know what to do with myself in a sense. But once I got over the "withdrawals" per say, I actually don't miss it.
Thank you! My "go-to aesthetic" is always the 90s brown bombshells I grew up admiring 💕 And yesss! The initial "withdrawals" are real but they force you to really be honest with yourself about how addicted you've gotten to it!
Great video! Honestly, I’m not a social media person anymore. I used to be and I still have social media accounts but I’ve deleted the apps from my phone. Doing that, I’ve been better for myself and I don’t feel bad about missing any “tea” 😂
Your health and well-being comes first! You look great sis! Love the hair and make up!!!
I did this with Twitter! I still have an account but I deleted all the apps off all my devices so that it encourages me not to just mindlessly go on there all day!
Yessss this was definitely me in college and after I graduated. My friends still tease me about it. Now I'm natural now and like wrap whoooo
Lol natural curls are so much more carefree 😩🙌🏾
Hey cousin!!! My 17 year old and I were just having the discussion about taking time away from social media. I try to bring it up regularly so that we don’t get too ‘wrapped up’. You look gorgeous btw 💕 tfs
thank you so much Chiara!
YESSSS, keeping your hair straight is DEFINITELY a full time job! LOL!!
I would have gone back to relaxers if not for my blow dryer and flat iron ❤️
They saved my hair. It’s healthier detangled & so much faster and easier to style, I love all the wonderful heat protectants & thermal conditioners, I can run my fingers through my hair and brush it whenever I want too - for my thick unruly hair this is what works best and I’m sticking to it 💪🏽
I ofc commented before I saw everything and though it was about the straught hair wich is amazing and look great I'm.here for your chitchat and life advise Pearl's in between those and your personality ( I came here because of my daughters unruly curly hair and stayed for the personality! ) and
cutting back on sm is very important your happiness and health comes first.
thank you so much!
Yess I can prolong my straight hair for three weeks by just wrapping it as soon as I get home or when I am not going anywhere for the day or moment.
Yes! That’s the key!
I like that you aren't afraid to change it up...and if you were to sustain some heat damage you wouldn't be Overly bothered by it. That's pretty cool!
thank you! and yes! one thing I've learned from getting to know my hair all these years and that I love it, and it loves me the most when I'm not overthinking it!
Heyyy Cuzzin!!🙋🏾♀️💜 Love a Good Chitchat.
Hey hey! Yesss! Thanks for tuning in! 🌻
Love this!! ❤️
🌻🌻🌻 thanks for watching cousin!
Love it 😁😍do what is best for you😍Don't sweat the small stuff. 🤗
All of this! Say it louder for those in the back! Double edged sword 🙏🏾🧡
*Give Yourself The Permission to...🧡
*The Not Meant to Occupy Every Lane
*The Not Operate as An Influencer But As A Believer🧡
*Watching Others Lives When I Could Be Pouring Into My Own Life🧡
Thank you for being transparent and open! 🙏🏾✊🏾
I feel ya! !All👏🏾Of👏🏾This!
💯💯💯
I have been contemplating this & its crazy I have been searching your youtube for days now & then this lol.
Look at God! 🙌🏾🤣🤎
I needed this!!!!
Heyyy cousinnn! Thanks for checkin in! 🌻
Thanks for sharing. I did purchase all of the books you shared and I too have been cutting down on social media as well and I've always been a book person.
You are so welcome!
I love being straight natural. Wash day is no longer a struggle. I straighten my roots only every two to three weeks. I still do braid outs and twist outs just on straightened hair. I also do wigs just because I workout 3-4 days a week and I sweat 💦 a lot. Perm or natural it's rough for black women who workout.
I enjoyed this! Love you!
So glad! Thanks for watching cousin! 🤎
Hey cousin... Happy Friday. Hugs
I’m... too gotdamn old, but I chopped off damn near all my hair at the beginning of “the current situation,” which I don’t wanna mention by name, but y’all know. 🌚 I just wanted to feel free, and I’d been sick of my hair not acting right. It had gotten the longest it had ever been, but I was like, “this take too damn long. It’s a lot of upkeep, and I’m in nursing school and tired.” I had a buzz cut for a whole year before, so I wasn’t a short hair newbie, but it was one of the biggest mistakes. It’s growing back, and I didn’t buzz it all off this time, but it’s at an awkward length, and I just wanna hide it all the time. I don’t feel confident anymore, but a main reason I cut it was because I was *that* afraid of straightening it. Like, I just didn’t want the heat damage and then have to shave it again. It was long winded, but I say all that to say that I wish I would’ve just listened to myself like you and did what I wanted to even despite the “dreaded heat damage.” I feel like people aren’t as bad as they used to be with the whole “heat will ruin your credit, kill your roots, ends, and next generation,” but I still felt that so strongly. I’m glad you straightened your hair. It’s not that serious. It’s just hair. I appreciate you, and if necessary, by my standards, I will follow suit. Thanks for being an example and being beautiful.
And on the note of social media, I stopped using it in February of this year, and it’s helped me a lot. I don’t feel like I’m missing a damn thing but an influx of constant trauma and sadness, and we all got enough of that irl without having to feel guilty and sad over other things. Certain things would hang on my shoulders like a weighted blanket of lead. I remember I had to quit Twitter in college, because I was having multiple breakdowns WEEKLY just from reading/being exposed to so much trauma and hurt. I wasn’t even engaging with it. I followed a lot of black feminists and womanists that made me the woman I am today, and big ups to them: They are doing that. work. But that type of stuff ain’t for me. I ain’t built for it. Tbh, I don’t think humans are, in general, but that’s a whole nother conversation. 🙈
Peace and sincere love and wellness to you and all that read this novel. ✨
I read ALL of your "novel" lol I love comments like this under videos like this one because you're doing exactly what I hope this video does... provoke CONVERSATIONS! When I do chit-chat videos, I actually set aside most of day to being present and active in the comments because I want to CHIT and CHAT with yall lol So thank YOU for being the perfect commenter and engaging with me 😘
But on to what you were saying! I've definitely been there... deathly afraid of "heat damage" and also just not wanting to hear the constant judgment from people about what I'm doing with my hair. Those drawbacks are REAL! And if you're someone who knows you will never want to wear your hair straight but every blue moon I totally agree that you shouldn't risk the temporary satisfaction of straight hair for maybe messing up your healthy curls! For me, at this point I feel like I've done EVERYTHING with my natural hair. Literally everything lol So I feel like it's just fun not to think about it too much for a while! Especially when it comes to heat damage... I'm like either I'll get tired of it and cut it off and have new content about growing my hair back... or I'll transition it out and have content about that too lol Life is a journey lol
Lastly...I 100% agree! I don't think ANY of our brains are built to be keeping such close track of so many people at one time. I touched on this in the book video with "the Dunbar Study".
I used to blowdry my hair once a week and my hair was thriving. I then airdried in twists for a year, spent a ton of money on products and about a quarter of my hair, near the root, broke off. Lost so much hair density. I was done. I started back blowdrying 2 days ago and will not be airdrying again.
End of Story!
Yes! If you don’t covet then give it up! That’s a word.
Yessss! I always keep that in my mind with ANYTHING in my life. Even things as small as caffeine. I have to be like "Ok... this is controlling you a little bit. Lets take a step back and make sure you're keeping things in perspective!" It's so important!
Hey cousin!!! I love when you chat with us
Hey cousin!!! I love chatting with y’all too! I be feeling like I don’t have nothing to chat about lol but I want to do it more often!
Loved this!
Thanks for watching cousin!
Social media has really become the next crack epidemic and very few realizes that...I've been trying to wean myself off from it and actually get work done; my time is already very limited due to working two jobs whilst studying graphic design in college so scrolling just enables my habit to work on assignments at the last minute despite needing at least 5 hours to create art (but then again that last minute crackhead energy hits when I have one hour to submit...iykyk LOL)
I feel you Amber about social media my family always comment about me not being on FB as much as they are. They have all these no face friends who feel they want to share their feelings with and that’s sad. I don’t have the time to read, comment or debate as some people do. I don’t even get on the other social media platforms so I can’t comment on them. What happened to picking up the phone or sending a “real card” just to say I was thinking about you. Love watching you I have learned a lot from your channel💕
Thanks for watching! You've done a great job not being pulled in my all the online distractions, I'm honored to be a part of the number you do share your time with! 🌻
I was meant to watch this because I have been feeling a way about social media and my dependency and my FOMO that keeps be scrolling but I’ve still been making excuses for why I can’t step back. It most definitely is a drug because the way I sound when I’m talking myself out of a break is ridiculous.
we been missing this cousin.we just need to talk lol 😂😂 stay safe and well 🙏🏼
well PREACH to me cousin cause i NEED THIIISSSS👍🏽 thanks!
I blow dried my hair and now I miss my straight hair. I think I should blow dry my hair more often. And no I’m not worried about heat damage either. I know how to take care of my hair to avoid heat damage and I don’t even think about it until I read the comment sections.
Girl I’m procrastinating too.
I glad you said support other creator, I missed a lot of posts on Instagram 🤭
Lol it’s ok! Like I said, when the intentions are pure, people feel it! None of us can be “perfect” in our support because we all have our own lives, concerns, and distractions going on... but we can always try to improve while keeping things in a healthy balance!
Finally Amber amen 🙏🏽
I agree 100%. On their phones waaaay too much. For what, to keep up with SM!! Girl bye. Keeping up with others' post is not that important to me. I'll see it when I see it and comment then. ... 1, 2, 3 4 days later. He's gonna love your look!!!
Social media is a drug and it’s so toxic!
It's definitely a drug! I don't think it's all bad or completely toxic but it definitely can be when not used in healthy proportions! ALL things in moderation.
What is the name of the brush and do you have a link to it? Thanks.
Gurl I ain't seen you in a hot minute!
lol Tell TH-cam to stop playing with your notifications!
And I understand taking a step back from instagram although I know this is your career. I had to take a break from it cuz it was consuming too much of my day
say thaaaat! Waaay too much of my day! It was like alllll day reality tv. Then look up and wondering why you stressed lol
That bouncy pony is so cute!! 😍😍 Can you do a tutorial?
Thank you! ❤️ it’s literally just a ponytail with some and I wrapped a piece around to hide the elastic. Really not tutorial worthy at all 🥴😂
Girl I knowwww the struggle is real when trying to keep your hair from reverting especially if you want to keep it moisturized too....smh...maybe just do real good blowouts for a year without having to use a flat iron all the time. Or you know what try the straightening brush!!! Lol...I'm laughing at the brush!! But hey it gets your straight buy not bone straight!!🤗
Girrrrl... if I'm being honest, if I'm going to commit... I'll probably fully COMMIT. When I was a SN the last time I flat ironed every 3 weeks and tried not to put heat in-between. Luckily because I'm low porosity my hair doesn't dry out easily. I know so much more about my hair this time around than I did last time so I think I could find a happy medium... I just ... chile... idk lol And yes... them straightening brushes just laugh at ME 🤣❤️
Nice video, you seem so happy 😊
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Ive been relaxer free for 10 years but my length stayed the same up until last year when I started flat ironing more often. now im mbl. Whenever i don't wear it flat ironed i wash it everyday to retain length. Im 4c & low porosity.
You're the second person to say they retained more length keeping their hair straight more often, so there's definitely something to that I think!
@@FinallyAmber yes cousin, it's something i tell ya. Retain length like nobody's business. Lol
I’ve wore my hair flat ironed forever and then I tried wash and goes and I have to always clip single strand knots. Having my hair with shrinkage causes damage because my hair dries out where as with straight hair you can oil your hair evenly
I have been on a social media break as well. I uninstalled FB, IG and Snap. I use my Twitter more, but Twitter is mostly laughs and I don't get that "sadness" feeling on Twitter like I do with the other apps. I have been more productive without all them apps going...
I like Twitter too but I had to get really careful with that one because I noticed I would start scrolling for hours trying to get news updates and stuff. I just deleted the app off my devices but kept my account and go on via the browser and it helps me to keep it in healthy perspective!
I quit Facebook for nearly a month. I tend to do this from time to time because when you know the dire consequences of SM you do everything to guard against. I read ‘WHY SOCIAL MEDIA IS RUINING YOUR LIFE’ by Katherine Omerod.
The irony (if you want to call it that) is that I’m studying for a PR degree. And nobody knows the mess that goes on behind the scenes like a journalist or PR.
Annnnnd... I’m considering becoming a permanent straight natural. ❤️
U could def pull off being a straight natural since u not here in the south no more. This humidity be disrespectful
lol the gag is the entire time I was a straight natural the first time (over 17 years) I was in the South lol But I just dk if I'm built for it anymore 😩 lol
That was me though. I was a straight natural in georgia! I had the straight hair down to a science to where even frizz no longer was a thing for me lol my hair stayed laid!
When did you cut it? It looks beautiful.
I’m not sure the exact date but the video is on my channel lol Thank you
Hi cousin Amber!
What mic do you use? Your audio is immaculate 🙌🏽
All my mics are from Rode ❤️