Always nice to see your videos sadie ❤ Will you and P do the 24 Christmas countdown videos beside a Christmas 🎄 I think you two did that in the past and I loved it!! Was so much fun seing your videos as it put me in the Christmas spirit 🎄🎁
I was in a 6 year emotionally abusive relationship with someone that i strongly suspect of having undiagnosed BPD. The confusion i experienced during the break up, realizing all the manipulation and gaslighting, led me to read about BPD and things started to fall into place, during my post break up healing. I know that not all people with BPD are abusive and am not stigmatizing them at all (although, as a victim of BPD abuse also can’t undermine it) but from what i know you don’t seem like someone with BPD to me. I wonder if that psychiatrist was being irresponsible by saying that, and if it could be something else that you experience, maybe depression combined with an anxious attachment style, or something else? I relate a lot to what you say. But people with cluster B personality disorders don’t tend to be so self reflective and aware as you are, because their perception is warped, that’s why it’s difficult for them to receive diagnosis and seek therapy and can unconsciously harm others, although awareness can be slowly gained through the right kind of therapy. They are also not capable of having a healthy, calm, mature relationship like you have. A relationship with someone with BPD is a complete rollercoaster. Of course, i’m not a psychologist and i could be wrong, and you know yourself best of course 💚
I don’t know if everyone with bdp is automatically abusive, I think you can have it and also be self aware enough and willing to take accountability, so that you don’t hurt the people you love. But the root of it is also so much pain so I understand how it can turn into abuse so quickly. Because hurt people, hurt people…
@@SadiePyes, i already wrote in my comment that not all people with bdp are abusive. Still the people i have seen with this disorder (and any type of cluster B) are not so inherently self aware and reflective as you seem to be, it usually takes years of therapy and hard work for them to get there. Of course i only know you from these videos, so it could be just my projection. I just see very often that people who don’t have personality disorders are much more likely to think they have them than people who do, especially people who are very empathetic. But as i said, you know yourself best of course 😊
I think I have an undiagnosed measure (the invisible measuring cups 🤣) of BPD that's presented itself as other conditions. I've only ever blown up at my immediate family, which makes sense to me as I've never been one to ask friends for help except lately I realized good friends actually want an opportunity to help so I'm learning. Until the new medication I'm on for one of the more common mental illnesses I didn't relate to other humans but I had nothing to compare it to. I was almost always struggling. There's a profound difference in my thinking now and I can feel again (which was so spooky at first! 😅) , a real miracle. I'm glad you talk about these things, Sadie. It feels cold when you only can with clinicians. Thank you from Ireland (not the entire island)! 😊✨
I've been in a relationship with someone with BPD.... the hungry ghost that can never be satiated by an other ...the hunger is exhausting and vampiric, energy wise, on those who love them....... it was so disorientating that it drove me to read and read and read until I found out what on earth was going on.... my dark angel 🖤 she woke me up .....but she would have had every last breath if I hadn't managed to get away ...no one is coming to rescue us ...welcome to the world🙏🏻
Of course no mental illness or personality disorder is an excuse for abuse! It’s kind of our job to check ourselves for any toxicity that we bring to the relationship. I just wanted to share my compassion for the root of the issue that’s genuinely so painful to deal with. 😔
Mental health care in Canada is practically non-existent and a really sad joke. When my friend's son was in crisis he went to the States to get care, he was lucky because his family had the resources to do this. I'm glad you were able to help yourself and found something that works for you.
Hi Sadie, I'm sorry for what you've been through. Could you talk about how you were diagnosed with autism? There isn't enough information available about autism in adult women.
I have a whole playlist on my channel about autism, where I talk about all my experiences and how I discovered that I am autistic. Check it out if you’d like 😊
This is so werd because i fell like this i fell evre thing u wer talking abut i am like waw she is talking abut me and haw i fell and haw i am in my life i fell good naw that i know way i fell like this thank u
@elinorawestfall You are a light soul , grateful there are patient and kind people like you in the world :-) you have explained very nicely why i was wrong and i understood. Its the little things that make a difference
This is so awesome. Thank you.🙏🏼
I am so impressed by your ability to see all of this and then to express it so beautifully. 🙏🏼
Thanks ☺️☺️
Always nice to see your videos sadie ❤ Will you and P do the 24 Christmas countdown videos beside a Christmas 🎄 I think you two did that in the past and I loved it!! Was so much fun seing your videos as it put me in the Christmas spirit 🎄🎁
I like the idea but I’ll have to run it by P! 😋
This is brilliant. (I'm therapist, by the way).
Thanks so much for sharing. So glad you're doing better. 🫶🏽🫶🏽
I was in a 6 year emotionally abusive relationship with someone that i strongly suspect of having undiagnosed BPD. The confusion i experienced during the break up, realizing all the manipulation and gaslighting, led me to read about BPD and things started to fall into place, during my post break up healing. I know that not all people with BPD are abusive and am not stigmatizing them at all (although, as a victim of BPD abuse also can’t undermine it) but from what i know you don’t seem like someone with BPD to me. I wonder if that psychiatrist was being irresponsible by saying that, and if it could be something else that you experience, maybe depression combined with an anxious attachment style, or something else? I relate a lot to what you say. But people with cluster B personality disorders don’t tend to be so self reflective and aware as you are, because their perception is warped, that’s why it’s difficult for them to receive diagnosis and seek therapy and can unconsciously harm others, although awareness can be slowly gained through the right kind of therapy. They are also not capable of having a healthy, calm, mature relationship like you have. A relationship with someone with BPD is a complete rollercoaster. Of course, i’m not a psychologist and i could be wrong, and you know yourself best of course 💚
I don’t know if everyone with bdp is automatically abusive, I think you can have it and also be self aware enough and willing to take accountability, so that you don’t hurt the people you love. But the root of it is also so much pain so I understand how it can turn into abuse so quickly. Because hurt people, hurt people…
@@SadiePyes, i already wrote in my comment that not all people with bdp are abusive. Still the people i have seen with this disorder (and any type of cluster B) are not so inherently self aware and reflective as you seem to be, it usually takes years of therapy and hard work for them to get there. Of course i only know you from these videos, so it could be just my projection. I just see very often that people who don’t have personality disorders are much more likely to think they have them than people who do, especially people who are very empathetic. But as i said, you know yourself best of course 😊
I think I have an undiagnosed measure (the invisible measuring cups 🤣) of BPD that's presented itself as other conditions. I've only ever blown up at my immediate family, which makes sense to me as I've never been one to ask friends for help except lately I realized good friends actually want an opportunity to help so I'm learning. Until the new medication I'm on for one of the more common mental illnesses I didn't relate to other humans but I had nothing to compare it to. I was almost always struggling. There's a profound difference in my thinking now and I can feel again (which was so spooky at first! 😅) , a real miracle. I'm glad you talk about these things, Sadie. It feels cold when you only can with clinicians. Thank you from Ireland (not the entire island)! 😊✨
I've been in a relationship with someone with BPD.... the hungry ghost that can never be satiated by an other ...the hunger is exhausting and vampiric, energy wise, on those who love them....... it was so disorientating that it drove me to read and read and read until I found out what on earth was going on.... my dark angel 🖤 she woke me up .....but she would have had every last breath if I hadn't managed to get away ...no one is coming to rescue us ...welcome to the world🙏🏻
Of course no mental illness or personality disorder is an excuse for abuse! It’s kind of our job to check ourselves for any toxicity that we bring to the relationship. I just wanted to share my compassion for the root of the issue that’s genuinely so painful to deal with. 😔
Mental health care in Canada is practically non-existent and a really sad joke. When my friend's son was in crisis he went to the States to get care, he was lucky because his family had the resources to do this. I'm glad you were able to help yourself and found something that works for you.
Hi Sadie, I'm sorry for what you've been through. Could you talk about how you were diagnosed with autism? There isn't enough information available about autism in adult women.
I have a whole playlist on my channel about autism, where I talk about all my experiences and how I discovered that I am autistic. Check it out if you’d like 😊
@SadieP Thank you very much Sadie.You are really helpful🤍💞💋
This is so werd because i fell like this i fell evre thing u wer talking abut i am like waw she is talking abut me and haw i fell and haw i am in my life i fell good naw that i know way i fell like this thank u
I apologize for my comment ,it was hurtful to you i later realized,i am dumb lol
You reconsidered what you'd said and apologised, you're not dumb you're brave
@elinorawestfall You are a light soul , grateful there are patient and kind people like you in the world :-) you have explained very nicely why i was wrong and i understood. Its the little things that make a difference
Which comment? I didn’t see it 😅