Something off about a group of black women sitting around a table making fun of other black womens god given hair. How the community going to grow if you dragging your own unique features down and other women with you. Gotta be more love in this world
The scene where she was cutting that Asian woman's hair was disturbing and very telling. She's thanking and attempting to hug her as if she's donating her hair out of love or some sh*t. That woman was obviously upset and didnt want to be touched. They sell their hair out of desparation, and we place that contempt and desperation on top of our head with a mind full of contempt and desperation of our own to match. That's a wicked combination.
At this day and age, Black people seem to hate natural hair more than white people. Black women were mostly the ones leaving vile comments under Simone biles wedding photos talking about how her hair is not laid. And the fact that these black women can sit around and say this nonsense is honestly not surprising to me. I love love my natural 4c hair and I wear it everywhere wether big or small events. Insignificant people like these should not make you feel like your hair is not beautiful enough, just know that their self hate has absolutely nothing to do with you 💕.
Let me tell you!!! I felt the most appreciated by white people when I wore my natural hair. It was so heart warming and white people actually affirmed me. They encouraged me to embrace my hair and thought I was so beautiful. Y’all I can’t lie. They treated me with so much honor. I was honestly shocked and the response.
It’s a saying that white men love black women in horrible wigs and natural hair. How can most of them accept bw in wigs and sew ins with their natural hair peaking out and natural hair but bw can’t accept how their naturally grows and its texture?
Yt folk legit don’t think about BW’s hair. Like, it’s not that they don’t care about it, it’s that they can’t care about it because it doesn’t even cross their minds. This is internalized and confined to the Black community.
That's actually creepy to be so excited to cut someone else's hair so you can wear it, and your hair is fine. Not even like it's a necessity. Sister, no way
Colonialism/racism really did a number on us to where we still hold on to the belief that natural hair can still be a hindrance to finding work, mates, etc. It's 2023 and some of the talking points and reasons ppl give for looking down on natural hair are very archaic--just say you hate your blackness and leave others who don't alone, that simple.
Part of the problem is that in Amerikkka we are discriminated against when it comes to work, business etc. I had a job say something about my locs, when a white girl had lime green dreds they said she was fashionable.
Yep, whether it's problems with natural hair or skin color wars, it all stems from the same place. It's time some of us learn that so we can work on moving beyond it rather than wallowing in that same shallowness the slave masters passed down.
At this point wigs and expensive hair bundles have become a status symbol. They consider it part of an expensive or designer outfit like a luxury handbag. And clearly it’s not for the look because a lot still look crazy to me. But it’s to signal to each other that I can afford this. If you can’t afford it, I don’t want you at my event because you’re not up to my level. I don’t think they’re even thinking about how anti-Black this is.
Black mothers PLEASE leave your daughters hair alone! The lace fronts you are putting on them will stop them from growing hair and you are furthering this idea that blackwomen, from BIRTH cannot grow hair! Childhood is the perfect time for girls to grow hair. Please stop!!😭
They also make them look like 40 year old real house wives of high school at 18 years old. Proms are out of control. Found myself calling one girl ma'am. She looked older than me.
@@violacadbury8343 exactly! It's not like I'm against wigs(especially curly ones) , but on _kids_ . Children are out here with glued on hair?!? When I found out about this, I was low key offended. I think it's a symptom of society forcing kids to grow up and not go through any 'awkward' phase, combined with general anti blackness. Putting someone else's texture on a child's head is gonna do such damage to their psyche. I'm sad for those little girls and how hard they're gonna have it unravelling the complexes developed.
Blk woman here. When i was a child (i’m a 90’s kid), my maternal grandmother would flip anytime our hair had a relaxer or chemically altered our natural hair. She constantly would tell people to not touch our hair with chemicals because she knew it can ruin our natural hair. She was all about being natural. The closest thing to altering our hair she allowed me and my sister to do was to use a hot comb and curling iron on it. But nothing further than that. She stayed having our hair in ponytails, buns and braids.
Don't blame black mothers. I beg my daughter to wear her natural hair. She has beautiful hair but some school bullying caused her to have insecurities. Not me. I never wanted her to get a relaxer, she did. I never liked too much heat on her hair, she did. Black mother's get a bad rep for things that are not in our control. I can speak life into my child until I'm blue in the face. At the end of the day it is her decision.
Natural for 19 years and I received my 6 figure career and promotions, wearing my thick natural 4a non-straightened hair…not to mention my edges are fully intact. I receive daily compliments from all races, men and women whether on a casual day, at work or formal events. Love yourselves ❤
4c hair is gorgeous we have to normalize wearing it out because we are gorgeous with it I’m not going to lie tho I thought the same thing at first like well your curls are loser so of course it’s more acceptable and praised but the problem is really in our minds 4c hair is just as beautiful
These wigs have got my sisters in a chokehold! And the gag is, 9 out of 10 wig wearers look ridiculous. They're typically stiff, poorly fitted, matted/frizzy and really unflattering. They're not investing in good quality wigs and getting them installed professionally so they end up looking like trash. I love my beautiful natural hair will never feel pressured to wear someone else's hair.
It looks fake af. It is either too stiff or too perfect and you can't believe it grows out of a black person's scalp. I am sorry but a Peruvian bone straight wig will never look natural on a black person.
I don’t understand bragging about wanting to steal Indian girls’ hair. This TikTok’s comments are….strange. Do we truly feel this inferior to other women?😢
The superiority complex it gives those 🐕 is the main reason I promote us taking care of our natural hair. They really look down on us and we feed into it.
I loved that black women in luxury tiktok!! I have literally never seen any black woman in elegance with her kinky hair. I've looked, i've searched everywhere. The best I got was a mixed woman. wwe can lie to ourselves all we want but its the truth.- we hate our hair
No we all dont. Its programming. Straight hair is seen as demure, glamorous, classy, sophisticated, wealthy, feminine etc natural is seen and feminine or cute if lucky. But certainly not rest. Again, this is bad, but where do these lies we believe in come from?
No other race of woman holds on so stubbornly to the features that aren’t naturally their own like this. No other. 😢I am reminded of the viral story years ago of women rummaging through the garbage of a closing down beauty supply store to get the weave. Black woman what is going on?😢
And why is that? Where did we get this from? Let not just insult as others have dont here and cry low self esteem and not discuss WHY we have this inferior behaviour with our hair type. If we going to talk about, lets bring it ALL out.
People think history stays in the past, history is cause & effect we continue our ancestor's stories, and everything about us has always been treated as if it was bad. dark skin, kinky hair, the way we talk. You have to understand the shame & the beating down of our self-esteem has never went away it was only transferred. I will say I see more girls going natural & embracing their skin & blackness, We have created a culture out of wig-wearing due to history of not being accepted & growing up without representation. Even tho we have black celebs none of the women wear their natural hair or have 4c so it hasn't caught on at a large scale but there are plenty of individual black women who wear their hair. This is an effect of history & the present is always changing so eventually it won't be like this anymore as more women become conscience.
I'd have to disagree about features since I know that same hatred for their natural looks also exists in people from South America, look at Sammy Sosa. However, hair seems to be specific to black women since we're the only phenotype where kinky hair is the majority and not an exception.
A friend of mine came and beg me to borrow her a wig in order for her to go to vaccinate her child. I asked her whats wrong with your hair she said, "my hair is ugly I cannot step out of the house with it.” This the mentality we have. Black hair is synonymous to poverty.
I love this! When I was in university and was always wearing my natural hair , someone asked if the reason my natural hair was in a bun ( my go to hairstyle) was because I was broke 😅
That woman’s wig looks old and cheap. Her wig isn’t appropriate for anywhere except the trash 💯 The audacity to say that wigs are better than natural hair is insane.
😂😂😂the close up on her wig is sending me😂😂😂 Edit: My hairstylist as a child got tired of dealing with my thick, long 4c hair so she snuck a perm in my hair and it fell out. My mom stopped letting people do my hair after that but it was never the same after.
Im a 20 year old black girl with 4c hair...The only time Ive felt insecure about my hair was around other black people. I grew up going to private school and my mom always had me wear a fro. I never recieved any bad comments. It was mostly ignored and the people who did mention it were curious or found it fascinating. It wasnt until i was older and entered black spaces that my hair was criticized and i started relaxing, wearing wigs and weave. My hair was severly damanaged and nothing i did was ever enough. Eventually i just cut all my hair off to start over. Im now back in white spaces and wear my natural hair out without issue again. Its never effected my employment or interactions. Black people are really the only people who critique our hair to such an extent.
I think when it comes to the systemic aspect of having black hair, like being denied jobs or sent out of school, discrimination can occur. But at least there is a chance that laws that can lead to penalties for these kinds of discrimination will be put in place. Although this form of discrimination has a bigger impact generally speaking, but the judgement we tend to experience on a day to day basis, which is the societal impact of having 'untamed' hair is mostly exccerised by other black people. And this is the one we tend to feel the most because it's not everyday you go apply for jobs or get kicked out of school, but it can sure as heck be everyday someone makes a comment about how 'undone' your hair is in school, or how 'nappy' your hair looks. I mean having the power to change things even in the smallest ways and still saying nobody should show up to your event with their natural hair is crazy. It just shows that even if laws to prevent the criminalization of natural hair are put in place, black people will still be the biggest natural hair haters.
Have coarser grain of hair (4c)than my siblings but is always better groomed.Funny that I'm called the sister with the "good hair"😂. It's all about effort wearing styles that's makes you feel attractive.
@@barbararichardson2747I’m considered that too(4b/4c)because I’m the only one that takes care of my hair now. When it got damaged from being relaxed and I had to cut it, I was clowned but now that it’s thicker and longer again, they say they wish it was like mine. My sisters wear wigs and braids a lot and will have their natural hair out for 2 days max. I try to get them to be natural and take care of their hair more but they’re not interested
Honestly, I'd rather a hairstylist mention beforehand that they will not work with 4c hair, instead of getting there and having my hair mishandled because they don't know how to work with it😣 I prefer to take my business to a stylist that can work with 4c hair or better still, do it myself
The problem is the blatant discrimination though. They don't even care to learn and feel no shame to say that. Plus it can have a negative effect on many people's psyches when you're treated like you have a contagious disease when all you did was have 4c hair.
I used to wear only raw hair ! I made wigs all of those things. One day my scalp wouldn’t allow me to put on a wig. So I moved on to sew ins one day i looked in the mirror and was admiring the hair it was like it was growing from my scalp it was so weird. Like something spiritual and not in a good way. Ultimately the lord asked me to stop wearing weave ! At first I was sad then I identified within myself I need to stop relying on someone else’s hair to make me feel beautiful. I happily wear my own hair. To each their own. But for me I won’t wear weave again
Amen. God showed me the truth too. So I asked if I could have natural long hair (I stopped wearing extensions/anything fake etc). My hair is now breast length & I am still shocked. I've never seen my hair this long before. I feel most of my youth was robbed, black hairstylists were "trimming" my real hair for years & I was convinced it wouldn't grow past a certain length. God is truly good & he listens to those that love him.
I wonder if women like this think or care how they make all of us look on the world stage😢 And before anyone says ‘who is us’ the world sees ALL black women the same.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Usually I'm an advocate for minding my business and for individualism but this right here! The 2nd hand embarrassment these people give me is mad!
Most average people can't afford the maintenance required to keep wigs looking nice for any meaningful amount of time. I have never seen a non-celebrity with wigs that always look nice. The lace is always visible.
My thing is, they're the main ones holding onto that wig for dear life when it's windy af. Just looking straight up silly. Then them wigs be sliding off their heads more than my bonnet at night.
This is so sad...it's one thing to wear weaves and wigs from time to time just to have some variety. But just straight up bullying people for wearing their natural hair is disgusting. Especially coming from people who probably have the same hair texture to those they're mocking. I'm so glad my mother never put a perm in my head and really made me love my natural hair since birth because this part of our culture is truly deranged.
I'm a Black woman who has been natural for 13 years, and had my hair loc'd for a year and a half. Happily married, part of a great career, and educated. I love my hair, sometimes I miss my afro. But i love my locs.
I’ve found that those with the “good hair” mindset constantly change the goal posts so that they’re never satisfied with how black hair looks. When I first went natural and would wear a shrunken twa, no one other than my parents and I thought I had “good hair.” I would wear braids a couple of times a year, a fro, and a basic, gel free twist out and when I hit shoulder length, my type 4 hair magically became “good hair” to others. Now that I’m growing my hair out long (goal tail bone length), talking about hair with “good hair” mindset people is almost impossible. It’s off the chain. Your hair will grow best with positivity and perseverance. Unfortunately, that’s a lesson many have to learn from experience. Glad you’re speaking about this 😊
@@hotties3v3n yes. But only one particular category of hair is only good enough when it's long. And even then, barely. Pretty sure these hairdressers rejecting 4c hair won't change their minds because it's long.
@actuallyjuliee yes the hair salon will say it's nice thick and long but want to cut it and relax it. In the same breathe say they grow long hair by throwing lace fronts on it. Make it Make sense
@@actuallyjulieehonestly though 4c is only represented when it’s very short which sends the message it can’t grow. I say we need more long 4c representation
The wild thing to me is that lace fronts were originally made for stage and screen aka SINGLE DAY WEAR. It’s bananas to me to know when a woman has worn a wig glued to her head for more than 24 hours like wtf! Love yourself! It’s so upsetting that the people who admire my natural hair the most are those who are not black. Colonialism did a number on my people. That podcast video of the women with (terrible) wigs is so depressing to witness. Great video.
I can't fathom what that does to the scalp. Suffocating your hair like that. A good lace front is beautiful when done right bit, I dunno, I think most Black woman look better (and happier) with their natural hair out and shining. This whole video was super interesting though
Reminds me of when my ma went to Jamaica for a holiday many years ago wearing her afro which was full and healthy. Walking down the streets manyy hairstylists were ushering her over to the salons because her hair "wasn't done"💀 *mad*. Imagine this for people of looser textured hair being called over to get it plaited but we won't see that maybe anytime soon cuz only their natural is acceptable up until the 4 hair range😵💫
This was good and came at the right time. I’m going to an event today and tomorrow and I had to cancel my hair appointment and my makeup appointments for the event and I was so distraught. I thought, omg my natural hair isn’t formal, it’s not going to look right, everyone is going to be wearing wigs. I almost decided not to go entirely to the events but I decided to do a roller set to make it neater… didn’t happen my wrists was too sore so now I will be attending the event with a natural puff on both days and I’m actually feeling so much better about it. This video really was the cherry on top ❤ thank you 🙏🏾
I'll never forget my freshman english class. It was before winter break. We were discussing hair, and my teacher and a lot of the guys in the class agreed that women who cut their hair off displays a more masculine persona than a woman with longer hair. I was transitioning at the time, and it had gotten to the point where I was tired of doing braid outs every day, so over the winter break I had my mom take me to a salon to get all my relaxed chopped hair off. Little did I know, I'd be starting a trend around school and a lot of my peers started cutting their relaxer out and going natural. I think about it 10 years later that I disrupted the diaspora of black women in my small black community, and I tend to thank God for letting me be the deliverer of his order.
You mean the hair that grows out of my scalp 😂 haven’t worn wigs in over 5 years and never loved my hair more. Everyone is free to do what they want 🤷🏾♀️
It’s literally a hair hat sitting on top of women heads. I never liked wigs on us because it screams unnatural and they so badly want it to blend and it never do, I still see the tiny boxes they try to blend with makeup. It looks tacky and doesn’t look normal. I’m a loc girlie and I’m in love with my locs even when it was at the “ugly phase” it was beautiful to me.
(Born and raised in Canada) I was on e asked in high school if I just arrived in the country because my hair was natural. Because black hair is for poor backwaters countries, I suppose 🙄
I’ve found natural hair is hard if you’re trying to make natural hair something it’s not like 4b to 3b or it’s unhealthy. I’m starting to really wear my hair as it is and I’m loving it 😊feels like me
Totally agree! Recall mothers doing multiple daughters hair at night and wrapping with a scarf to save time in the morning.Today many mothers are too lazy to do one child's hair.Sad seeing even toddlers with fake hair; resulting in hair lost before adulthood.Sadder still is the length they're putting on can also be a hazard.
I love that women are having these convos. My natural hair journey is interesting. My mom loved my natural hair and always did it herself. I chose to relax my hair at 10 yrs old from peer pressure. And then at 16 I tried wigs and it ate up all my edges so much that I became dependent on it to hide my damaged hair. I neglected my relaxed hair too much that I had to cut it , it was matted under the wig. Eww I know. I became natural in 2017 and the journey started with hate and fear but now 6 years in I love my natural hair. I had to understand that I couldn’t avoid the actual hair that grew from my scalp by slapping $400 wigs on. I’m just waiting on my hairline surgery so I can rock my hair more. Lot of women use the “protective style” excuse but when you never take care of your own hair it’s not protecting anything, it’s replacing your hair. Black hair can grow long but most women won’t ever experience that because they don’t take care of their hair. Extensions and all these styles worn for too long can dry your hair out causing breakage. Thanks for this video. Natural hair movement is so hard in nigeria. I can’t imagine These days if I wear wigs or crotchet i make sure to wear the ones closest to my texture
1:48 If you are going to crack on people for their natural hair, then at the very least step up your wig game. What in the Amazon budget wig purchase is going on? I don’t mind a wig every so often, but this is not it. They are starting to remind me of those people who think having a face full of Botox and looking inhuman is better than having a few wrinkles. DAMN.
It makes us look crazy AF. It's hard to say you accept yourself when you can't be seen out of a wig. You fall in love with that wigged image to the point that your own natural image becomes foreign. It's a trip. Free yourselves, ladies. Much love💕
I’d wear my natural hair to her event out of pure spite. She sounds extremely jealous and envious and doesn’t want to feel inferior to women who are confident with their own hair.
I stopped relaxing my hair about 5 years ago. For a while I straightened my hair with heat, but I always felt that I was bullying my hair into submission. My hair was always “neat”, but I loathe neat - what I want is hair that looks lively and funky. Finally I stopped straightening, but then I was in for a seriously hard time. I had to use so much product to achieve anything that looked like an intended hairstyle. Now my hair is finally healthy, I use one product (after shampooing and conditioning) and what I like about my hair the most that it’s bulletproof! No more caring if it’s humid, of raining, or I’m sweating from the gym…turns out my natural hair loves water in any and every form! Wind, snow, sun…nothing fazes my hair. It’s such a relief and time saver to have it natural (and healthy).
When i see women in south africa with wigs (badly installed 😫) im like....wow. you still havent figurd out how to rock your natural hair in a beautiful manner that enhances your beauty? So many social benefits in doing so. I have locks, and i dye and curl them. They are my own unqiue way of creating my crown..people absolutely love them, and it makes me stand out everyone. And, it helps with interracial dating - women with natural hair are seen as not "typical " black women, which continues to help with class elevation.
EXACTLY! DO they NOT know that you are put into a 'CATEGORY' when you have on the typical wig?! And that category is NOT classy girls! I see it all the time, only outsiders would see this, heed our words!
There was an incident when I was in highschool. There were 2 south asian girls in our class and this group of black women, like 5-6 of them would constantly BEG to touch the south Asian girls hair. They’d wanna play with it and braid it. The south asian girls had no issue with it. Then one day we had a substitute teacher and the whole class was just chilling. These blk women started telling these south Asian girls how lucky they were to be south Asian because of their hair and they don’t know the struggles of having 4c hair. They were speaking loudly. It was EMBARASSING. I have type 4 hair myself and I wear it 100% of the times. My protective styles are always with my own hair. Yet these blk women have constantly ridiculed my hair yet were praising the south Asian girls hair. Then they got quiet. It was quiet for 20minutes. The black women left the class all of a sudden. All of them. Next ring you know one of the south Asian girls were crying. Then everyone’s looked over and her hair was cut off. Same thing with the other south Asian girl. I had no idea what they were saying because they started speaking in another language. But turns out the blk women had cut their hair off and that’s why they left the class. The south Asian girls has hair down to their butts. And the blk women somehow cut their hair all the way to their ears. It was crazy. They were in tears and I felt so embarrassed like…. Those black women didn’t show up to school for a week. And when they returned they pretended like they knew nothing about what happen to the south Asian girls hair. Apparently they tried to press charges but i don’t know how that ended up. There had to be a whole assembly on it and when it was announced to the whole school of what happened, everyone knew that blk women were behind it. It was humiliating. Everyone spoke about it for months. The blk women had on their frontals and it was probably made from those girls hair. Let’s just say that the Hispanics and south Asians started wearing their hair in buns. It was a hard being a blk women going to school. Everyone would look at us and start flipping, flaunting, or hiding their hair to every blk women. It was a long school year. Every one was making fun of blk women and their addiction to weave. When I straightened my hair I got bullied so bad. Everyone kept saying that it was south Asian hair. I only straighten my hair twice a year to trim it. I didn’t get it straightened after that.Those blk women made it hairs for every blk women in the school and they didn’t care
Oh wow what a terrible story and yes very humiliating as a black person. My sisters have always had long 4c hair bc mom took good care and the hate they received on a daily basis from bw is truly unbelieveable. They would actually loose friends if they dared to straighten it...sad and wild!
@@destayneeauguste4736 right! I still cringe thinking about it. None of us wanted to go back to school after that. I remember asking my parents to put me in another school but the district wouldn’t allow it unless I moved to a different neighborhood or was expelled. Those 2 south Asian girls talked about it the whole year and took their anger out on any blk women
I’m going to call b*llsh*t. You kept referring to black girls as black women. . Are they your classmates. Why refer to them as grown women🧐. Also how do you cut someone hair to their ears and not be noticed . I don’t know what you race or gender is but you are not a black girl. Leave this channel and stop causing harm here!!!
I said it countless times. Black women hate their hair that grows on their scalp. The fact that when you type black women on pinterest or google, you only see BW with bundles. It is so tiring that this is the default look for BW. I literally felt this way this way as I was looking for office or dress up outfit inspo with my natural hair on pinterest and all the black women were freaking lacefront in most of them. It makes you wonder if natural hair can even be elegant. I hope we change.
This year marked my 20th year wearing my natural hair. I love my hair and I always will. I have tried a few wig styles over the years for a certain hairstyle. But there is nothing like styling my own hair. My adult daughter has had natural hair all her life. It is so hurtful that these Black women talk down on their natural hair, yet their wigs are looking busted. It was upsetting seeing that woman cut her hair like that.
Colonialism and Tignon Laws done a massive number on the mindset of the black diaspora worldwide!!!. My black daughter will never think this way because i've taught her the truth since she was born. EVE GENE
Tignon was a law for Mulatto women , because mulatto women usually have amazing hair, better then white and black hair!! So the white women were intimidated! They did not care about 4c hair! Do you think white women care about 4c hair??
@@meme-fs1jn Mulatto is a racist term. Tignon laws were put in place to require free Black women of mixed race or who were racially ambiguous to wear a Tignon to subjugate them to slave status. You are right, Whites didn’t want these women from being mistaken as a White women and receiving the same rights/privileges. Even worse (in their view) White men were attracted to them, but the laws went beyond intimidation of White women. Whites sought to keep these free Black women in a subordinate status to White ppl. Whether White ppl “care” about 4c hair is an odd comment. Historically, White ppl have used hair texture as a way to discriminate against Black women, with Black women with tighter curl patterns being subjected to the most discrimination. They perceive the hair is dirty, unprofessional, and unattractive; for no other reason then it’s further from the White standard of beauty. Ever heard of the CROWN Act? Lastly, no hair texture is better than any other. It’s just different.
I’m proud to say I went natural in 2009 and have NEVER returned to relaxed hair and I NEVER will. I wore wigs for a few years after that and my natural hair sometimes. After my daughter’s birth, I threw them all away or gave them away. Mind you, I’m a licensed cosmetologist. How can I tell my daughter she is “beautiful” but she needs someone else’s hair; a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT HAIR!!!! You are CLEARLY telling them that their hair is NOT good enough. I realized while being natural that I was hiding from myself. The amount of women who came to me and didn’t love their own hair is crazy! They would relax it constantly and wonder why it’s falling out???? I even lost a long time client because I told her if she doesn’t stop relaxing her leave out she’ll have to either change her part or I won’t do her sew in . (Sewins need a good strong foundation.) Because her hair was literally shedding. It was barely 4 inches long? And you think I’m being mean or hateful for caring about YOUR hair’s health???? This entire world is so backwards. I don’t condemn weaves because I know why and I understand. I also understand everyone has their own healing journey. I’m just glad I’m not in that space anymore. And we can lie allllll we want, but if a black woman has to run to get their hair done EVERYTIME and never wants to be seen natural, you hate yourself!
As a black European I was so shocked when I came to the states and saw every black girl wearing wigs. I've never worn a wig and I truly do not understand what they see wrong with our hair?? like I personally dont have 4 type hair but my mom and friends do and I love it! also knotless braids, cornsows and locs look bomb, I dont get where all the hate to natural hair comes from...
@@barbararichardson2747 It’s damn near every black woman. Go outside and 7 out of 10 black women got a weave, wig or some type of braids or extensions in their hair. This is what the African sisters try to copy and it’s a shame. If you were to go to Africa, 5 out of 10 women wear their natural hair. Every single day.
It stemmed from natural hair being seen as unprofessional and not pretty in the media. You needed straight hair for special events and relaxers ensured that you were presentable and now wigs today and its evolved ofc. I'm not sure if it shows the same for you, but if you search unprofessional hairstyles on google in the US, black people show up in their natural hair, even like elegant styled dreadlocks. If you go on google and search white kids, there's 3 normal kids, search black kids and somehow you'll see kids with mugshots and what's even the likelihood of a kid having a mugshot. When hurricane Katrina hit in like 2005, people would go through the water to the store to get a bag of bread to take back to their stranded families, white? she's a 'hero' the news said, black? he's 'looting' from the store the news said. They have did studies on peoples use of words when calling the police on boys vandalizing a car, and white guys = 'boys being boys', black? 'criminal thugs'. I don't wear wigs myself but i'm like a 3B/3C and if i silk press my hair, people probably think its a wig, but i can understand the hate toward type 4 hair types. My mom is 4C and she calls her hair 'nappy headed'. We said 'don't say that!' and as older folks say, 'that's just what it was called' like it was just accepted and the norm. My mom had braids growing up all the time and wears wigs now. I'm realizing i don't think i have EVER seen my mom wearing her 4C afro outside the house, its only on wash days before putting back into cornrows. This was in a convo where my sister said the white girls in her college were putting up signs for someone to 'stop shaving their pubes in the sink' and calling it 'disgusting'. It was just the little broken coils from the only 4C haired girl on their dorm floor. I don't think black outsiders quite understand the slander and programming black Americans have received from birth for years. Even i get people with type 4 hair who've said you have that 'good hair', its very unfortunate. So when they they say why do immigrants not see things the same way, they are not programmed in the same way from birth. Luckily when i went natural my sisters also start prioritizing growing our hair(my mom relaxed us as kids) and we all have long hair, but they do still wear fake hair sometimes and ofc my mom doesn't leave the house without a wig or a hat.
This was so well done and brought my attention to something I didn’t realize was happening. As the rich auntie I’ll be sure to continue to wear my roller sets and high puffs around my niblings. Our natural type 4 hair is gorg. I can’t believe there are lace fronts for babies, we’ve gone way too far. You’re gonna blow up. Subscribed
I LOVEDDDD your video! There was NO victim or poverty mindset. You stated the problem, shared hoe it impacts our community and provided solutions which would also create a balance. I agree with everything! Hopefully, my generation and alpha can create a shift but I will definitely be leading by example in the natural hair community. They worry about their natural hair because of what others who don't have this type of hair may think. But what is having you wearing a wig in africa?! That goes to show that people truly don't understand how to take care of their hair and have an inferiority complex regarding it. LOVE YOU!
Thank you so much. I personally don't have anything against wig when it's simply treated like an accessory and not some vital organ. But yes, I truly hope a time comes when we collectively dismiss these sick complexes that foster inferiority in us.
That was so bizarre seeing her hug the Asian woman as if that's her savior or something. Why is she *that* happy to wear someone else's hair? Unsettling to say the least
Yeah. It feels almost bordering on fetishing her hair. Like how people want to get monolids. I understand that there is self hate but it still feels off.
I used to wear braids as a teenager. And attempted to wear a straight wig it was very unflattering. I have Afrocentric features and it looked wrong.I embrace my natural hair because its beautiful we should wear it out it’s beautiful and defies gravity.I enjoy being so drastically different it’s Intriguing.
that clip of that cutting that woman's hair and thanking her for it while laughing.... sickening. many of those women cut their hair bc they are desperate for money. many times their hair is just as important to them culturally like us and bc of capitalism, they are in a situation where they have to sacrifice their hair to survive. and for that lady to be laughing when that woman was clearly uncomfortable is sick. you can tell a lot of ppl don't know what really goes into making that human hair wigs and the cost, not just money.
@@barbararichardson2747 yes that is true! i just mean specifically knowing some women do it out of desperation is not something to be smiling or celebrating bc it can be insensitive. but for sure not all of them are struggling and desperate so thanks for saying that.
Recently discovered your channel and I’m obsessed because you really express how I be feeling. Some of these women be tripping when they put on their « dead wet rats »🤣 Smh
@@hotties3v3n Just stopping by to urge you to LISTEN, ma'am LISTEN so that you can perhaps see the perspective being shared that is about healthy self image and thoughts abt ones own God given state, not gatekeeping what women do. LISTEN instead of shutting down and being committed to negativity and misunderstanding! ~ hv a good one
@@hotties3v3na wig is not part of your body. It's a joke. They'll live. You really want to equate making fun of an accessory to degrading the hair that grows out of an entire race's scalp?
We can never be the same, I’m a natural hair girl but I don’t pick on wig girls. I guess all of us just have to stay in our lanes, wig girls shouldn’t pick on natural hair girls, relaxed hair girls shouldn’t pick on naturals and the reverse….you can’t force someone to like what you like and at the end of the day everyone is free to do whatever they wish with their hair.. Don’t criticize something just because you’re not part of it, just mind yours and keep it pushing. Also I don’t think God is against what we choose to do with the hair he gave us, we are our only problem criticizing each other because of the different hairstyles we choose.
😢 There was something so perverse & disturbing about watching her cut the Asian lady's hair off. Sadly some of those village women are forced to cut their hair to make ends meet financially. Many shave their heads as an offering at their temple, not knowing that the hair is then collected for selling & they never see any of the profit, but ppl don't care as long as they get their precious bundles. I bet she paid that poor lady a little bit of nothing but will mark up her hair by hundreds. Damn shame!
Finally! Someone mentions '4chair is now used for clicbait!!'🙌🏾 13:19 EVERYTHING you said is the living truth, no words have ever been more perfectly said.👌🏾 It's everything I stand for regarding black hair.
I'd like to see that woman when she was a child. She was probably bullied about her natural hair and now as a grown unhealed woman, she bullies others 🤦🏾♀️
For most of my life my hair has been difficult to deal with and easily broken. I didn't want to depend on wigs and weaves but that is the only way I felt comfortable. My hair was never thick and long. The desire to not have to deal with wigs was strong though so my solution was to get micro locs with extensions. I got the extension to avoid the "ugly phase". I work in corporate america and I gradually cut the extensions because the goal is for it all to be my hair. I know some say that's cheating but if they can glue wigs to their heads, I can add a few inches of hair onto my own. It has been about a year and a half and I am so happy I made this decision. I have saved soooooo much money! I don't feel trapped like omg I need to throw on a wig before I open the door or to run to the convenience store!!! Those days are over. If women want to maintain this trapped mentality and LIVE under wigs it their choice. Don't get me wrong wigs are great but I don't want it to be a permanent solution. That is not life... for me anyway.
When I asked to stop getting perms on the 7th grade, I started doing my own hair. By 9th grade I was wearing natural twist and braids, it never bothered me that it was short. I did a little twist out and one day a asian boy sitting behind me told his friends how my hair was so cute. You have nothing to worry about. Short styles are still classy and done better than a wig.
When you're a kid is when hair grows the most. That's so sad. I remember getting fed up in highschool with straight hair on me, and independently starting my natural hair journey. As for wigs, I don't wear them but braids occasionally. Human hair can be very problematic if it's taken from exploited people, so I avoid it all together. I don't think I can wear straight hair since I was forced to as a kid. Happily these days, most of my family wears dreads. ❤
Thank you for doing this! We need more of us talking about this and calling this out self-hatred as much as possible, otherwise it'll just continue to be normalized generation after generation.
I was watching a video of a women wearing a very shiny straight hair wig,as she shook the hair on her head to make it bounce… all of a sudden a thought hit me of how ridiculous she looked, which made me think, is that how I look wearing hair that comes from other races head? So a few days later called my sister over and got a big chop. Tired of the mindset that our hair isn’t beautiful when it is so beautiful and unique. Of all the races in the world only our hair has this kinky coily texture. I feel honored to have been blessed with my coils. And the money I’ll save buying those over priced wigs too! Thank God that I’ve woken up to this fact.
I don't understand any of this, I've never had a perm, don't wear wigs and never will and always rock my natural hair and I'm 45. I'm sick of the baby hair, wigs and anything that isn't braids, twist, roller set, flexi-rods and wash n go. I always get asked is my hair real. WTF? Like we have long beautiful hair and when wet it's really popping. Self hate is a real drug and they did a number on our community. I don't have girls, but i make sure my niece's don't put that crap on they head.
When i saw this video initially i was really embarrassed In this era ppl still have this type of mentality. U said something really important. These kids wearing lace fronts i wonder how their self esteem will be when they grow up. I pray ppl are more educated with time. I'm not even speaking about the whole black community now. In Nigeria alone, the level of hate people have for their own hair is crazy!!!! At this point it gets me fed up. U will see someone make wigs that will take their edges and come to me for a miracle product😔 chile! And the wig saga keeps getting worse. That abomination called a braided wig should be put in the trash never to see the daylight again🙂
i think the ones who talk so negatively about natural hair just don't know how to grow it or actually think it's impossible and too hard. those people actually exist!
I remember my mom perming my hair twice a month as a child, or using hot combs to keep it straight because it was “unmanageable” I am 4c and 4b. Almost all my hair fell out as a result in high school and ive been natural since 2016. It was a lot of work to find the right products, routine and protective styles. I wore wigs a little bit before I got locs and they’re nice but idt it’s healthy for your hair to wear them all the time. Your hair is set up like plants if you ask me, it needs sunshine, O2 and water/oil.
There is so much to be admired about everyone’s natural hair textures, but people are so lucky to have beautiful coils and Afro’s and it’s sad that it is not always seen as professional because girls (+guys) you all look fancy as with your VOLUMEEE 💖💖
It starts from the media. When a character is poor, depressed and destitute she is wearing her natural hair. The moment things turn around she is wearing wigs and weaves. So people associate natural hair with poverty. Anyways, to each their own. I think its stupid to love someone else’s hair so much you hate yours, but claim to be the blueprint. It’s embarrassing. I love my hair and know no other woman can ever claim i’m wearing hers.
Something off about a group of black women sitting around a table making fun of other black womens god given hair. How the community going to grow if you dragging your own unique features down and other women with you. Gotta be more love in this world
Laughing like it's the funniest thing ever too.
I hate they ignorance, but clearly they got this behaviour that our hair is bad somewhere. Wanna talk about that?
Them same girls are the quintessential pickmes.
It can grow without them, let them and their non existent edges self destruct. Can't take everyone with .😌
😭🤣🤣🤣@@stephanies9071
The scene where she was cutting that Asian woman's hair was disturbing and very telling. She's thanking and attempting to hug her as if she's donating her hair out of love or some sh*t. That woman was obviously upset and didnt want to be touched. They sell their hair out of desparation, and we place that contempt and desperation on top of our head with a mind full of contempt and desperation of our own to match. That's a wicked combination.
Very well said!
Very deep 😢
Exactly, it was very coerced.
Say more because the way that was just so smoothly put together! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Imagine a Caucasian woman doing that to a little Asian girl. The internet would combust with comments.
At this day and age, Black people seem to hate natural hair more than white people. Black women were mostly the ones leaving vile comments under Simone biles wedding photos talking about how her hair is not laid. And the fact that these black women can sit around and say this nonsense is honestly not surprising to me. I love love my natural 4c hair and I wear it everywhere wether big or small events. Insignificant people like these should not make you feel like your hair is not beautiful enough, just know that their self hate has absolutely nothing to do with you 💕.
Your first sentence 💯
Let me tell you!!! I felt the most appreciated by white people when I wore my natural hair. It was so heart warming and white people actually affirmed me. They encouraged me to embrace my hair and thought I was so beautiful. Y’all I can’t lie. They treated me with so much honor. I was honestly shocked and the response.
They do some hate they own hair they still call it nappy every time I here any woman around me say it I correct it I’m sick of this mess
It’s a saying that white men love black women in horrible wigs and natural hair. How can most of them accept bw in wigs and sew ins with their natural hair peaking out and natural hair but bw can’t accept how their naturally grows and its texture?
Yt folk legit don’t think about BW’s hair. Like, it’s not that they don’t care about it, it’s that they can’t care about it because it doesn’t even cross their minds. This is internalized and confined to the Black community.
Somebody said on Instagram “How can you be so hateful about natural hair when your weave is looking like a partridge in a pear tree” 😂 💀
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More plastic than Barbie
Yooooooooooooo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Please repeat that
That's actually creepy to be so excited to cut someone else's hair so you can wear it, and your hair is fine. Not even like it's a necessity. Sister, no way
Extremely disturbing indeed. That she has no shame is beyond me😑
I feel bad for the poor girl honestly. She had to do that to feed her family.
Embarrassing 😳
Sooo creepy
documentary coming out soon im calling it now
Colonialism/racism really did a number on us to where we still hold on to the belief that natural hair can still be a hindrance to finding work, mates, etc. It's 2023 and some of the talking points and reasons ppl give for looking down on natural hair are very archaic--just say you hate your blackness and leave others who don't alone, that simple.
Part of the problem is that in Amerikkka we are discriminated against when it comes to work, business etc. I had a job say something about my locs, when a white girl had lime green dreds they said she was fashionable.
We're the only group with this hair
Yep, whether it's problems with natural hair or skin color wars, it all stems from the same place. It's time some of us learn that so we can work on moving beyond it rather than wallowing in that same shallowness the slave masters passed down.
@@sapphirejones7302pls I heard that argument atleast 5 times, ur lying.
My friend is black and working as an office clerk and wears her braids all the time
At this point wigs and expensive hair bundles have become a status symbol. They consider it part of an expensive or designer outfit like a luxury handbag. And clearly it’s not for the look because a lot still look crazy to me. But it’s to signal to each other that I can afford this. If you can’t afford it, I don’t want you at my event because you’re not up to my level. I don’t think they’re even thinking about how anti-Black this is.
This needs to be pinned.
Yes. "Ain't nothing like the real thing.."
This!
Same goes for the nails, lashes, bbls. It's very "look at how much money I have!" It's both sad and ridiculous
Black mothers PLEASE leave your daughters hair alone! The lace fronts you are putting on them will stop them from growing hair and you are furthering this idea that blackwomen, from BIRTH cannot grow hair! Childhood is the perfect time for girls to grow hair. Please stop!!😭
They also make them look like 40 year old real house wives of high school at 18 years old. Proms are out of control. Found myself calling one girl ma'am. She looked older than me.
Braiding hair and the press-and-curls is one thing, but people really put lace fronts on little girls?
@@violacadbury8343 exactly! It's not like I'm against wigs(especially curly ones) , but on _kids_ . Children are out here with glued on hair?!? When I found out about this, I was low key offended. I think it's a symptom of society forcing kids to grow up and not go through any 'awkward' phase, combined with general anti blackness. Putting someone else's texture on a child's head is gonna do such damage to their psyche. I'm sad for those little girls and how hard they're gonna have it unravelling the complexes developed.
Blk woman here. When i was a child (i’m a 90’s kid), my maternal grandmother would flip anytime our hair had a relaxer or chemically altered our natural hair. She constantly would tell people to not touch our hair with chemicals because she knew it can ruin our natural hair. She was all about being natural. The closest thing to altering our hair she allowed me and my sister to do was to use a hot comb and curling iron on it. But nothing further than that. She stayed having our hair in ponytails, buns and braids.
Don't blame black mothers. I beg my daughter to wear her natural hair. She has beautiful hair but some school bullying caused her to have insecurities. Not me. I never wanted her to get a relaxer, she did. I never liked too much heat on her hair, she did. Black mother's get a bad rep for things that are not in our control. I can speak life into my child until I'm blue in the face. At the end of the day it is her decision.
Natural for 19 years and I received my 6 figure career and promotions, wearing my thick natural 4a non-straightened hair…not to mention my edges are fully intact. I receive daily compliments from all races, men and women whether on a casual day, at work or formal events. Love yourselves ❤
And like YOU said, you have 4A hair, NOT 4C.
Amen, you'd never catch me in a straight wig. Natural twist, braids, and hair out is where it's at.
4c hair is gorgeous we have to normalize wearing it out because we are gorgeous with it I’m not going to lie tho I thought the same thing at first like well your curls are loser so of course it’s more acceptable and praised but the problem is really in our minds 4c hair is just as beautiful
lol you said 4a. That’s all you need to say.
@TheIgnoranceu are hilarious .
These wigs have got my sisters in a chokehold! And the gag is, 9 out of 10 wig wearers look ridiculous. They're typically stiff, poorly fitted, matted/frizzy and really unflattering. They're not investing in good quality wigs and getting them installed professionally so they end up looking like trash. I love my beautiful natural hair will never feel pressured to wear someone else's hair.
It looks fake af. It is either too stiff or too perfect and you can't believe it grows out of a black person's scalp. I am sorry but a Peruvian bone straight wig will never look natural on a black person.
Not to talk of the net hairline and weird baby hairs
Same here sister. I hate fake hair.
@@vivygallol the baby hairs kill me. They laying the baby hairs of the damn wig covering they whole forehead 😂
Same here. I love my Medusa locs 😂and so does my husband.
Chile, I’d tell her don’t bring that stringy headband wig to my event. There. Now we’re even.
Not the headband wig. Lol.
I don’t understand bragging about wanting to steal Indian girls’ hair. This TikTok’s comments are….strange. Do we truly feel this inferior to other women?😢
It's bizarre. Give a compliment and move on, if you must. Not start asking for a wig.
Yes @op
The superiority complex it gives those 🐕 is the main reason I promote us taking care of our natural hair. They really look down on us and we feed into it.
Yes. That's the answer.
It’s so weird and sinister.
I loved that black women in luxury tiktok!! I have literally never seen any black woman in elegance with her kinky hair. I've looked, i've searched everywhere. The best I got was a mixed woman. wwe can lie to ourselves all we want but its the truth.- we hate our hair
Same, girl. 😫 I'm sure they exist. They just don't get that much representation.
So you’ve never seen Teyonah Parris- she’s in The Marvels movie. Iyanla Vanzant, Viola Davis?
@@nguzoloveinlofi3832They are not in luxury. Please re-read the post before commenting. Thank you. 🙄
No we all dont. Its programming. Straight hair is seen as demure, glamorous, classy, sophisticated, wealthy, feminine etc natural is seen and feminine or cute if lucky. But certainly not rest. Again, this is bad, but where do these lies we believe in come from?
@@nomihagan the poster wrote that she has never seen an elegant Black woman with natural hair- I stand by what I wrote.
No other race of woman holds on so stubbornly to the features that aren’t naturally their own like this. No other. 😢I am reminded of the viral story years ago of women rummaging through the garbage of a closing down beauty supply store to get the weave. Black woman what is going on?😢
Omg I remember that video as well. So embarrassing
And why is that? Where did we get this from? Let not just insult as others have dont here and cry low self esteem and not discuss WHY we have this inferior behaviour with our hair type. If we going to talk about, lets bring it ALL out.
People think history stays in the past, history is cause & effect we continue our ancestor's stories, and everything about us has always been treated as if it was bad. dark skin, kinky hair, the way we talk. You have to understand the shame & the beating down of our self-esteem has never went away it was only transferred. I will say I see more girls going natural & embracing their skin & blackness, We have created a culture out of wig-wearing due to history of not being accepted & growing up without representation. Even tho we have black celebs none of the women wear their natural hair or have 4c so it hasn't caught on at a large scale but there are plenty of individual black women who wear their hair. This is an effect of history & the present is always changing so eventually it won't be like this anymore as more women become conscience.
I'd have to disagree about features since I know that same hatred for their natural looks also exists in people from South America, look at Sammy Sosa. However, hair seems to be specific to black women since we're the only phenotype where kinky hair is the majority and not an exception.
No other race is mocked and hated and deemed undesirable as much as us though sooooo
A friend of mine came and beg me to borrow her a wig in order for her to go to vaccinate her child. I asked her whats wrong with your hair she said, "my hair is ugly I cannot step out of the house with it.” This the mentality we have. Black hair is synonymous to poverty.
Did you give her the wig?
DEAD FUR HAIR HAT$$ DISGUST ME!!!
That is crazy
I love this! When I was in university and was always wearing my natural hair , someone asked if the reason my natural hair was in a bun ( my go to hairstyle) was because I was broke 😅
They associate it with brokenness then turn around and say that natural hair is too expensive to maintain.
@@actuallyjuliee It’s so sad. But i’m glad ur channel exists, please keep going!
Blk ppl are more discriminatiory of blk hair than outsiders! It's really wild! Smh
They pay so much money for a wig but call natural hair products too expensive. The excuses …
Sad
Meanwhile she says all that while wearing a bad wig. Our hair is good for everything but this bad wig is good for nothing not even for picking kids.
That woman’s wig looks old and cheap. Her wig isn’t appropriate for anywhere except the trash 💯 The audacity to say that wigs are better than natural hair is insane.
😂I never wore a wig and I know that wig looks cheap.
Seriously 🤦🤦
@@lavonnealexander6936it does actually 😅
It's really creepy to say to someone that they look "expensive" and lusting their hair.
😂😂😂the close up on her wig is sending me😂😂😂
Edit: My hairstylist as a child got tired of dealing with my thick, long 4c hair so she snuck a perm in my hair and it fell out. My mom stopped letting people do my hair after that but it was never the same after.
Omg that's awful. These hair stylists need to start getting sued or slapped. What a terrible thing to do.
Im a 20 year old black girl with 4c hair...The only time Ive felt insecure about my hair was around other black people.
I grew up going to private school and my mom always had me wear a fro. I never recieved any bad comments. It was mostly ignored and the people who did mention it were curious or found it fascinating.
It wasnt until i was older and entered black spaces that my hair was criticized and i started relaxing, wearing wigs and weave. My hair was severly damanaged and nothing i did was ever enough. Eventually i just cut all my hair off to start over.
Im now back in white spaces and wear my natural hair out without issue again. Its never effected my employment or interactions.
Black people are really the only people who critique our hair to such an extent.
I think when it comes to the systemic aspect of having black hair, like being denied jobs or sent out of school, discrimination can occur. But at least there is a chance that laws that can lead to penalties for these kinds of discrimination will be put in place. Although this form of discrimination has a bigger impact generally speaking, but the judgement we tend to experience on a day to day basis, which is the societal impact of having 'untamed' hair is mostly exccerised by other black people. And this is the one we tend to feel the most because it's not everyday you go apply for jobs or get kicked out of school, but it can sure as heck be everyday someone makes a comment about how 'undone' your hair is in school, or how 'nappy' your hair looks.
I mean having the power to change things even in the smallest ways and still saying nobody should show up to your event with their natural hair is crazy. It just shows that even if laws to prevent the criminalization of natural hair are put in place, black people will still be the biggest natural hair haters.
Have coarser grain of hair (4c)than my siblings but is always better groomed.Funny that I'm called the sister with the "good hair"😂. It's all about effort wearing styles that's makes you feel attractive.
@@barbararichardson2747I’m considered that too(4b/4c)because I’m the only one that takes care of my hair now. When it got damaged from being relaxed and I had to cut it, I was clowned but now that it’s thicker and longer again, they say they wish it was like mine. My sisters wear wigs and braids a lot and will have their natural hair out for 2 days max. I try to get them to be natural and take care of their hair more but they’re not interested
Honestly, I'd rather a hairstylist mention beforehand that they will not work with 4c hair, instead of getting there and having my hair mishandled because they don't know how to work with it😣
I prefer to take my business to a stylist that can work with 4c hair or better still, do it myself
The problem is the blatant discrimination though. They don't even care to learn and feel no shame to say that. Plus it can have a negative effect on many people's psyches when you're treated like you have a contagious disease when all you did was have 4c hair.
Tell me you don’t love yourself without telling me you don’t love yourself
I used to wear only raw hair ! I made wigs all of those things. One day my scalp wouldn’t allow me to put on a wig. So I moved on to sew ins one day i looked in the mirror and was admiring the hair it was like it was growing from my scalp it was so weird. Like something spiritual and not in a good way. Ultimately the lord asked me to stop wearing weave ! At first I was sad then I identified within myself I need to stop relying on someone else’s hair to make me feel beautiful. I happily wear my own hair. To each their own. But for me I won’t wear weave again
Amen. God showed me the truth too. So I asked if I could have natural long hair (I stopped wearing extensions/anything fake etc). My hair is now breast length & I am still shocked. I've never seen my hair this long before. I feel most of my youth was robbed, black hairstylists were "trimming" my real hair for years & I was convinced it wouldn't grow past a certain length. God is truly good & he listens to those that love him.
Beautiful...💖💖💖
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Is that your hair in the dp?
I wonder if women like this think or care how they make all of us look on the world stage😢
And before anyone says ‘who is us’ the world sees ALL black women the same.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Usually I'm an advocate for minding my business and for individualism but this right here! The 2nd hand embarrassment these people give me is mad!
She doesn't. I guess we can be grateful she isn't also bleaching her skin that would be a double whammy.
@@BlueYellowGreenVcwell you're just going to have to get over it
@BlueYellowGreenVc The second hand embarrassment is real. What’s worse is that the world is starting to believe that even our real hair is fake.
@@maryfrances1307 "The world" has always believed that.
Most average people can't afford the maintenance required to keep wigs looking nice for any meaningful amount of time. I have never seen a non-celebrity with wigs that always look nice. The lace is always visible.
Oop☕️
FACTS, why do they love to lie??
My thing is, they're the main ones holding onto that wig for dear life when it's windy af. Just looking straight up silly. Then them wigs be sliding off their heads more than my bonnet at night.
The visible lace looks ridiculous in person!!! Every time I see one I can’t stop looking at the lace in shock 😭😭
You can see celebs lace too.
This is so sad...it's one thing to wear weaves and wigs from time to time just to have some variety. But just straight up bullying people for wearing their natural hair is disgusting. Especially coming from people who probably have the same hair texture to those they're mocking. I'm so glad my mother never put a perm in my head and really made me love my natural hair since birth because this part of our culture is truly deranged.
Im so glad my mom did the same too🥺
I'm a Black woman who has been natural for 13 years, and had my hair loc'd for a year and a half. Happily married, part of a great career, and educated. I love my hair, sometimes I miss my afro. But i love my locs.
This comment section GIVES ME HOPE! Please keep growing and keeping your natural hair ladies! WE LOVE AND APPRECIATE IT!
Love my natural hair and I’m offended when someone says “your hair is so pretty it looks like a wig”
Same its always a "Is your hair real?" they think its a compliment smh
Yes queen love your hair! I do the same I love my hair and that’s why I decide to create that TH-cam channel to help others with their natural hair
I’ve found that those with the “good hair” mindset constantly change the goal posts so that they’re never satisfied with how black hair looks.
When I first went natural and would wear a shrunken twa, no one other than my parents and I thought I had “good hair.” I would wear braids a couple of times a year, a fro, and a basic, gel free twist out and when I hit shoulder length, my type 4 hair magically became “good hair” to others. Now that I’m growing my hair out long (goal tail bone length), talking about hair with “good hair” mindset people is almost impossible. It’s off the chain. Your hair will grow best with positivity and perseverance. Unfortunately, that’s a lesson many have to learn from experience. Glad you’re speaking about this 😊
Yeah. 4c hair is only valid to many people when it's long. But I find that they don't feel this way about curlier hair types.
I see your point in a way, but long hair is desired by every group of women. It's not a 'white girl' non black thing.
@@hotties3v3n yes. But only one particular category of hair is only good enough when it's long. And even then, barely. Pretty sure these hairdressers rejecting 4c hair won't change their minds because it's long.
@actuallyjuliee yes the hair salon will say it's nice thick and long but want to cut it and relax it. In the same breathe say they grow long hair by throwing lace fronts on it. Make it Make sense
@@actuallyjulieehonestly though 4c is only represented when it’s very short which sends the message it can’t grow. I say we need more long 4c representation
Social media really played its part when it comes to our hair and it’s honestly sad.
What's sad is it's done by bw.Sure others are to busy to care😢.
Erm not social media, slavery and colonialism, and the deliberate miseducation and maltreatment of black people.
When she said "dont bring your natural hair to my event" the camera man had the nerve to zoom in to the lace part 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 took me out
The wild thing to me is that lace fronts were originally made for stage and screen aka SINGLE DAY WEAR. It’s bananas to me to know when a woman has worn a wig glued to her head for more than 24 hours like wtf! Love yourself! It’s so upsetting that the people who admire my natural hair the most are those who are not black. Colonialism did a number on my people. That podcast video of the women with (terrible) wigs is so depressing to witness. Great video.
I can't fathom what that does to the scalp. Suffocating your hair like that. A good lace front is beautiful when done right bit, I dunno, I think most Black woman look better (and happier) with their natural hair out and shining. This whole video was super interesting though
Reminds me of when my ma went to Jamaica for a holiday many years ago wearing her afro which was full and healthy. Walking down the streets manyy hairstylists were ushering her over to the salons because her hair "wasn't done"💀 *mad*.
Imagine this for people of looser textured hair being called over to get it plaited but we won't see that maybe anytime soon cuz only their natural is acceptable up until the 4 hair range😵💫
Self-hate is one hell of a drug 🤣
This was good and came at the right time. I’m going to an event today and tomorrow and I had to cancel my hair appointment and my makeup appointments for the event and I was so distraught. I thought, omg my natural hair isn’t formal, it’s not going to look right, everyone is going to be wearing wigs. I almost decided not to go entirely to the events but I decided to do a roller set to make it neater… didn’t happen my wrists was too sore so now I will be attending the event with a natural puff on both days and I’m actually feeling so much better about it. This video really was the cherry on top ❤ thank you 🙏🏾
You go, girl! I hope you had a great time at your event.
I'll never forget my freshman english class. It was before winter break. We were discussing hair, and my teacher and a lot of the guys in the class agreed that women who cut their hair off displays a more masculine persona than a woman with longer hair. I was transitioning at the time, and it had gotten to the point where I was tired of doing braid outs every day, so over the winter break I had my mom take me to a salon to get all my relaxed chopped hair off. Little did I know, I'd be starting a trend around school and a lot of my peers started cutting their relaxer out and going natural. I think about it 10 years later that I disrupted the diaspora of black women in my small black community, and I tend to thank God for letting me be the deliverer of his order.
You mean the hair that grows out of my scalp 😂 haven’t worn wigs in over 5 years and never loved my hair more. Everyone is free to do what they want 🤷🏾♀️
It’s literally a hair hat sitting on top of women heads. I never liked wigs on us because it screams unnatural and they so badly want it to blend and it never do, I still see the tiny boxes they try to blend with makeup. It looks tacky and doesn’t look normal. I’m a loc girlie and I’m in love with my locs even when it was at the “ugly phase” it was beautiful to me.
You tell them! Cause that's EXACTLY how it looks!
(Born and raised in Canada)
I was on e asked in high school if I just arrived in the country because my hair was natural.
Because black hair is for poor backwaters countries, I suppose 🙄
A nigerian man told me other race of women have the better hair. And thats why they marry and outside. I was like whattttttttt.
Lol let him go
Natural Hair ist Not difilcult. It a lie.
Imo ALL hair is difficult lol. But from personal experience maintaining wigs and weaves takes far much more work and money than just going natural
I’ve found natural hair is hard if you’re trying to make natural hair something it’s not like 4b to 3b or it’s unhealthy. I’m starting to really wear my hair as it is and I’m loving it 😊feels like me
Totally agree! Recall mothers doing multiple daughters hair at night and wrapping with a scarf to save time in the morning.Today many mothers are too lazy to do one child's hair.Sad seeing even toddlers with fake hair; resulting in hair lost before adulthood.Sadder still is the length they're putting on can also be a hazard.
That part!!!!👏👏👏👏
I love that women are having these convos. My natural hair journey is interesting. My mom loved my natural hair and always did it herself. I chose to relax my hair at 10 yrs old from peer pressure. And then at 16 I tried wigs and it ate up all my edges so much that I became dependent on it to hide my damaged hair. I neglected my relaxed hair too much that I had to cut it , it was matted under the wig. Eww I know.
I became natural in 2017 and the journey started with hate and fear but now 6 years in I love my natural hair. I had to understand that I couldn’t avoid the actual hair that grew from my scalp by slapping $400 wigs on. I’m just waiting on my hairline surgery so I can rock my hair more. Lot of women use the “protective style” excuse but when you never take care of your own hair it’s not protecting anything, it’s replacing your hair.
Black hair can grow long but most women won’t ever experience that because they don’t take care of their hair. Extensions and all these styles worn for too long can dry your hair out causing breakage.
Thanks for this video.
Natural hair movement is so hard in nigeria. I can’t imagine
These days if I wear wigs or crotchet i make sure to wear the ones closest to my texture
The Black hair Psychosis lives on 🤦🏾♀️
1:48 If you are going to crack on people for their natural hair, then at the very least step up your wig game. What in the Amazon budget wig purchase is going on? I don’t mind a wig every so often, but this is not it. They are starting to remind me of those people who think having a face full of Botox and looking inhuman is better than having a few wrinkles. DAMN.
I have a wig on my head right now and I’m watching this video and I’m shaking my fucking head. Oh my God how did we get this bad?
I find this kind of disturbing and disgusting...
Self hate is a thing
It makes us look crazy AF. It's hard to say you accept yourself when you can't be seen out of a wig. You fall in love with that wigged image to the point that your own natural image becomes foreign. It's a trip. Free yourselves, ladies. Much love💕
I’d wear my natural hair to her event out of pure spite. She sounds extremely jealous and envious and doesn’t want to feel inferior to women who are confident with their own hair.
Girl in the beginning just called her own natural hair ugly
"the goal is to be free!" had me clapping like Spongebob at the end. Great commentary Ms.Juliee!
😂❤️ Thank you
I stopped relaxing my hair about 5 years ago. For a while I straightened my hair with heat, but I always felt that I was bullying my hair into submission. My hair was always “neat”, but I loathe neat - what I want is hair that looks lively and funky. Finally I stopped straightening, but then I was in for a seriously hard time. I had to use so much product to achieve anything that looked like an intended hairstyle.
Now my hair is finally healthy, I use one product (after shampooing and conditioning) and what I like about my hair the most that it’s bulletproof! No more caring if it’s humid, of raining, or I’m sweating from the gym…turns out my natural hair loves water in any and every form! Wind, snow, sun…nothing fazes my hair. It’s such a relief and time saver to have it natural (and healthy).
When she cut the lady's hair, I just realized that we're wearing other women's energies(Demons). 🤷🏾♀️
And some of those women dont even like us. Think of thay energy being put on your crown. Its scary honestly
It's really sad. Not gonna lie. I look down on bw who wear wigs. I feel sorry for them. It must be very difficult living in a body you hate.
Quite an observation. Food for thought (prayer).
When i see women in south africa with wigs (badly installed 😫) im like....wow. you still havent figurd out how to rock your natural hair in a beautiful manner that enhances your beauty? So many social benefits in doing so.
I have locks, and i dye and curl them. They are my own unqiue way of creating my crown..people absolutely love them, and it makes me stand out everyone. And, it helps with interracial dating - women with natural hair are seen as not "typical " black women, which continues to help with class elevation.
😂 The way I have to stop myself from snatching those awful wigs... It's really sad
They really do be bad I’m Africa lmao idk whyyy 😭
They do wear bad wigs and think its cute. It's cringe from a far.
EXACTLY! DO they NOT know that you are put into a 'CATEGORY' when you have on the typical wig?! And that category is NOT classy girls! I see it all the time, only outsiders would see this, heed our words!
Yeppp. I got my wealthy European fiance with my natural hair.❤❤😊😊 I talk about how I levelled up on my channel.
This selfhate is so ungodly,
So unnatural and really pathetic and sad.
Be Proud of Your God Given Attributes.🙏🏿🌞
There was an incident when I was in highschool. There were 2 south asian girls in our class and this group of black women, like 5-6 of them would constantly BEG to touch the south Asian girls hair. They’d wanna play with it and braid it. The south asian girls had no issue with it. Then one day we had a substitute teacher and the whole class was just chilling. These blk women started telling these south Asian girls how lucky they were to be south Asian because of their hair and they don’t know the struggles of having 4c hair. They were speaking loudly. It was EMBARASSING. I have type 4 hair myself and I wear it 100% of the times. My protective styles are always with my own hair. Yet these blk women have constantly ridiculed my hair yet were praising the south Asian girls hair. Then they got quiet. It was quiet for 20minutes. The black women left the class all of a sudden. All of them. Next ring you know one of the south Asian girls were crying. Then everyone’s looked over and her hair was cut off. Same thing with the other south Asian girl. I had no idea what they were saying because they started speaking in another language. But turns out the blk women had cut their hair off and that’s why they left the class. The south Asian girls has hair down to their butts. And the blk women somehow cut their hair all the way to their ears. It was crazy. They were in tears and I felt so embarrassed like…. Those black women didn’t show up to school for a week. And when they returned they pretended like they knew nothing about what happen to the south Asian girls hair. Apparently they tried to press charges but i don’t know how that ended up. There had to be a whole assembly on it and when it was announced to the whole school of what happened, everyone knew that blk women were behind it. It was humiliating. Everyone spoke about it for months. The blk women had on their frontals and it was probably made from those girls hair. Let’s just say that the Hispanics and south Asians started wearing their hair in buns. It was a hard being a blk women going to school. Everyone would look at us and start flipping, flaunting, or hiding their hair to every blk women. It was a long school year. Every one was making fun of blk women and their addiction to weave. When I straightened my hair I got bullied so bad. Everyone kept saying that it was south Asian hair. I only straighten my hair twice a year to trim it. I didn’t get it straightened after that.Those blk women made it hairs for every blk women in the school and they didn’t care
Oh wow what a terrible story and yes very humiliating as a black person. My sisters have always had long 4c hair bc mom took good care and the hate they received on a daily basis from bw is truly unbelieveable. They would actually loose friends if they dared to straighten it...sad and wild!
this is such a crazyyy story , i feel so bad for those girls and the black girls that weren’t involved
@@destayneeauguste4736 right! I still cringe thinking about it. None of us wanted to go back to school after that. I remember asking my parents to put me in another school but the district wouldn’t allow it unless I moved to a different neighborhood or was expelled. Those 2 south Asian girls talked about it the whole year and took their anger out on any blk women
I’m going to call b*llsh*t. You kept referring to black girls as black women. . Are they your classmates. Why refer to them as grown women🧐. Also how do you cut someone hair to their ears and not be noticed . I don’t know what you race or gender is but you are not a black girl. Leave this channel and stop causing harm here!!!
Where was this?
I said it countless times. Black women hate their hair that grows on their scalp. The fact that when you type black women on pinterest or google, you only see BW with bundles. It is so tiring that this is the default look for BW. I literally felt this way this way as I was looking for office or dress up outfit inspo with my natural hair on pinterest and all the black women were freaking lacefront in most of them. It makes you wonder if natural hair can even be elegant. I hope we change.
This year marked my 20th year wearing my natural hair. I love my hair and I always will. I have tried a few wig styles over the years for a certain hairstyle. But there is nothing like styling my own hair. My adult daughter has had natural hair all her life. It is so hurtful that these Black women talk down on their natural hair, yet their wigs are looking busted. It was upsetting seeing that woman cut her hair like that.
Colonialism and Tignon Laws done a massive number on the mindset of the black diaspora worldwide!!!. My black daughter will never think this way because i've taught her the truth since she was born.
EVE GENE
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Tignon was a law for Mulatto women , because mulatto women usually have amazing hair, better then white and black hair!! So the white women were intimidated! They did not care about 4c hair! Do you think white women care about 4c hair??
@@meme-fs1jn Mulatto is a racist term. Tignon laws were put in place to require free Black women of mixed race or who were racially ambiguous to wear a Tignon to subjugate them to slave status. You are right, Whites didn’t want these women from being mistaken as a White women and receiving the same rights/privileges. Even worse (in their view) White men were attracted to them, but the laws went beyond intimidation of White women. Whites sought to keep these free Black women in a subordinate status to White ppl.
Whether White ppl “care” about 4c hair is an odd comment. Historically, White ppl have used hair texture as a way to discriminate against Black women, with Black women with tighter curl patterns being subjected to the most discrimination. They perceive the hair is dirty, unprofessional, and unattractive; for no other reason then it’s further from the White standard of beauty. Ever heard of the CROWN Act?
Lastly, no hair texture is better than any other. It’s just different.
@@Autumn938those laws also affected black women. Look up images on google…
@@Autumn938the same types of laws also existed across the Atlantic in Dutch South Africa
Nooooo not wigs on the babies😢 whyyyy?
Too lazy and trifling to comb their hair!And instilling the mindset that their own hair isn't good enough!
Julieeee!! 'I'm not going to go down that route'. proceeds to do so🤣
😂😂😂 It was a reflex action
I haven’t worn any fake hair in 5 years I have small locs locs are a good style for 4c hair it really grows a lot when it is locked
Agreed
Agreed
Yep I have locs as well, it’s the best style for me w/ minimal maintenance.
Minimal maintentance, minimal spending. Maximum growth
Yesss indeed I'm almost 5 years in too my hair is the healthiest and longest its ever been ❤😊
I’m proud to say I went natural in 2009 and have NEVER returned to relaxed hair and I NEVER will. I wore wigs for a few years after that and my natural hair sometimes. After my daughter’s birth, I threw them all away or gave them away.
Mind you, I’m a licensed cosmetologist. How can I tell my daughter she is “beautiful” but she needs someone else’s hair; a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT HAIR!!!! You are CLEARLY telling them that their hair is NOT good enough. I realized while being natural that I was hiding from myself.
The amount of women who came to me and didn’t love their own hair is crazy! They would relax it constantly and wonder why it’s falling out???? I even lost a long time client because I told her if she doesn’t stop relaxing her leave out she’ll have to either change her part or I won’t do her sew in . (Sewins need a good strong foundation.) Because her hair was literally shedding. It was barely 4 inches long? And you think I’m being mean or hateful for caring about YOUR hair’s health????
This entire world is so backwards. I don’t condemn weaves because I know why and I understand. I also understand everyone has their own healing journey. I’m just glad I’m not in that space anymore.
And we can lie allllll we want, but if a black woman has to run to get their hair done EVERYTIME and never wants to be seen natural, you hate yourself!
As a black European I was so shocked when I came to the states and saw every black girl wearing wigs. I've never worn a wig and I truly do not understand what they see wrong with our hair?? like I personally dont have 4 type hair but my mom and friends do and I love it! also knotless braids, cornsows and locs look bomb, I dont get where all the hate to natural hair comes from...
Every black girl wearing wigs?What state and town were you in😅?
@@barbararichardson2747 It’s damn near every black woman. Go outside and 7 out of 10 black women got a weave, wig or some type of braids or extensions in their hair. This is what the African sisters try to copy and it’s a shame. If you were to go to Africa, 5 out of 10 women wear their natural hair. Every single day.
It stemmed from natural hair being seen as unprofessional and not pretty in the media. You needed straight hair for special events and relaxers ensured that you were presentable and now wigs today and its evolved ofc. I'm not sure if it shows the same for you, but if you search unprofessional hairstyles on google in the US, black people show up in their natural hair, even like elegant styled dreadlocks. If you go on google and search white kids, there's 3 normal kids, search black kids and somehow you'll see kids with mugshots and what's even the likelihood of a kid having a mugshot. When hurricane Katrina hit in like 2005, people would go through the water to the store to get a bag of bread to take back to their stranded families, white? she's a 'hero' the news said, black? he's 'looting' from the store the news said. They have did studies on peoples use of words when calling the police on boys vandalizing a car, and white guys = 'boys being boys', black? 'criminal thugs'. I don't wear wigs myself but i'm like a 3B/3C and if i silk press my hair, people probably think its a wig, but i can understand the hate toward type 4 hair types. My mom is 4C and she calls her hair 'nappy headed'. We said 'don't say that!' and as older folks say, 'that's just what it was called' like it was just accepted and the norm. My mom had braids growing up all the time and wears wigs now. I'm realizing i don't think i have EVER seen my mom wearing her 4C afro outside the house, its only on wash days before putting back into cornrows. This was in a convo where my sister said the white girls in her college were putting up signs for someone to 'stop shaving their pubes in the sink' and calling it 'disgusting'. It was just the little broken coils from the only 4C haired girl on their dorm floor. I don't think black outsiders quite understand the slander and programming black Americans have received from birth for years. Even i get people with type 4 hair who've said you have that 'good hair', its very unfortunate. So when they they say why do immigrants not see things the same way, they are not programmed in the same way from birth. Luckily when i went natural my sisters also start prioritizing growing our hair(my mom relaxed us as kids) and we all have long hair, but they do still wear fake hair sometimes and ofc my mom doesn't leave the house without a wig or a hat.
There's no such thing as a "black European" 😂😂 do you know how crazy you sound
This was so well done and brought my attention to something I didn’t realize was happening. As the rich auntie I’ll be sure to continue to wear my roller sets and high puffs around my niblings. Our natural type 4 hair is gorg. I can’t believe there are lace fronts for babies, we’ve gone way too far.
You’re gonna blow up. Subscribed
Lol i wish someone would say something to me about my natural hair. The ignorance is just too much and the self hate is overwhelming in our community
If your PFP is a pic of you, your hair looks incredible!
@@SamRabbitx thank you so much😊. this was from a twist out I did on my hair.
Legit, your youtube is my COMFORT channel.
❤❤ I appreciate you.
Mind you all three of them sitting up there on that podcast cackling and laughing with BAD ASS WIGS 🤣🤣
😂😂😂
Toxic Wig culture, this is the best way to describe it.
I LOVEDDDD your video! There was NO victim or poverty mindset. You stated the problem, shared hoe it impacts our community and provided solutions which would also create a balance. I agree with everything! Hopefully, my generation and alpha can create a shift but I will definitely be leading by example in the natural hair community. They worry about their natural hair because of what others who don't have this type of hair may think. But what is having you wearing a wig in africa?! That goes to show that people truly don't understand how to take care of their hair and have an inferiority complex regarding it.
LOVE YOU!
Thank you so much. I personally don't have anything against wig when it's simply treated like an accessory and not some vital organ. But yes, I truly hope a time comes when we collectively dismiss these sick complexes that foster inferiority in us.
That was so bizarre seeing her hug the Asian woman as if that's her savior or something. Why is she *that* happy to wear someone else's hair? Unsettling to say the least
Yeah. It feels almost bordering on fetishing her hair. Like how people want to get monolids. I understand that there is self hate but it still feels off.
I used to wear braids as a teenager. And attempted to wear a straight wig it was very unflattering. I have Afrocentric features and it looked wrong.I embrace my natural hair because its beautiful we should wear it out it’s beautiful and defies gravity.I enjoy being so drastically different it’s Intriguing.
that clip of that cutting that woman's hair and thanking her for it while laughing.... sickening. many of those women cut their hair bc they are desperate for money. many times their hair is just as important to them culturally like us and bc of capitalism, they are in a situation where they have to sacrifice their hair to survive. and for that lady to be laughing when that woman was clearly uncomfortable is sick. you can tell a lot of ppl don't know what really goes into making that human hair wigs and the cost, not just money.
And some cut their hair for the same reason most women do.Shorter hair may be easier to manage and women love experiencing new styles.
@@barbararichardson2747 yes that is true! i just mean specifically knowing some women do it out of desperation is not something to be smiling or celebrating bc it can be insensitive. but for sure not all of them are struggling and desperate so thanks for saying that.
Recently discovered your channel and I’m obsessed because you really express how I be feeling.
Some of these women be tripping when they put on their « dead wet rats »🤣
Smh
Thank you! 😂 Slap on their wet rodent and suddenly don't know how to act.
You guys are just as bad as the women at the start of this video. so we all got to have the same hair style now, cause a wig is a 'wet rodent'??🤢😒😒smh
@@hotties3v3n
Just stopping by to urge you to LISTEN, ma'am
LISTEN so that you can perhaps see the perspective being shared that is about healthy self image and thoughts abt ones own God given state, not gatekeeping what women do.
LISTEN instead of shutting down and being committed to negativity and misunderstanding!
~ hv a good one
@@hotties3v3na wig is not part of your body. It's a joke. They'll live. You really want to equate making fun of an accessory to degrading the hair that grows out of an entire race's scalp?
We can never be the same, I’m a natural hair girl but I don’t pick on wig girls. I guess all of us just have to stay in our lanes, wig girls shouldn’t pick on natural hair girls, relaxed hair girls shouldn’t pick on naturals and the reverse….you can’t force someone to like what you like and at the end of the day everyone is free to do whatever they wish with their hair.. Don’t criticize something just because you’re not part of it, just mind yours and keep it pushing. Also I don’t think God is against what we choose to do with the hair he gave us, we are our only problem criticizing each other because of the different hairstyles we choose.
Who puts lace fronts on babies?!?! Dang what kind of world are we living in smh
Wigs on kids head is too much
The crickets 😍😍😍
So soothing paired with your voice 🙌🏽🙌🏽
Girl, you nailed it. I am glad TH-cam recommended your channel. I wear my hair natural, and I just subscribed to your channel.
Thanks for subbing!
The women who sat in-front of those microphones are the same ones who put wigs on their baby girls head. Great video, new subbie.
😢 There was something so perverse & disturbing about watching her cut the Asian lady's hair off. Sadly some of those village women are forced to cut their hair to make ends meet financially. Many shave their heads as an offering at their temple, not knowing that the hair is then collected for selling & they never see any of the profit, but ppl don't care as long as they get their precious bundles. I bet she paid that poor lady a little bit of nothing but will mark up her hair by hundreds. Damn shame!
Finally! Someone mentions '4chair is now used for clicbait!!'🙌🏾 13:19
EVERYTHING you said is the living truth, no words have ever been more perfectly said.👌🏾 It's everything I stand for regarding black hair.
I'd like to see that woman when she was a child. She was probably bullied about her natural hair and now as a grown unhealed woman, she bullies others 🤦🏾♀️
Y'all always making excuses 😂😂
Wow! Lace wigs on kids? I'm speechless.
For most of my life my hair has been difficult to deal with and easily broken. I didn't want to depend on wigs and weaves but that is the only way I felt comfortable. My hair was never thick and long. The desire to not have to deal with wigs was strong though so my solution was to get micro locs with extensions. I got the extension to avoid the "ugly phase". I work in corporate america and I gradually cut the extensions because the goal is for it all to be my hair. I know some say that's cheating but if they can glue wigs to their heads, I can add a few inches of hair onto my own. It has been about a year and a half and I am so happy I made this decision. I have saved soooooo much money! I don't feel trapped like omg I need to throw on a wig before I open the door or to run to the convenience store!!! Those days are over. If women want to maintain this trapped mentality and LIVE under wigs it their choice. Don't get me wrong wigs are great but I don't want it to be a permanent solution. That is not life... for me anyway.
Wow thanks for sharing this. How long did it take before you cut off the extensions?
When I asked to stop getting perms on the 7th grade, I started doing my own hair. By 9th grade I was wearing natural twist and braids, it never bothered me that it was short. I did a little twist out and one day a asian boy sitting behind me told his friends how my hair was so cute. You have nothing to worry about. Short styles are still classy and done better than a wig.
I’m new to your channel and really loving your content ❤
Yay! Thank you! Welcome, bae.
When you're a kid is when hair grows the most. That's so sad. I remember getting fed up in highschool with straight hair on me, and independently starting my natural hair journey.
As for wigs, I don't wear them but braids occasionally. Human hair can be very problematic if it's taken from exploited people, so I avoid it all together. I don't think I can wear straight hair since I was forced to as a kid. Happily these days, most of my family wears dreads. ❤
Thank you for doing this! We need more of us talking about this and calling this out self-hatred as much as possible, otherwise it'll just continue to be normalized generation after generation.
I was watching a video of a women wearing a very shiny straight hair wig,as she shook the hair on her head to make it bounce… all of a sudden a thought hit me of how ridiculous she looked, which made me think, is that how I look wearing hair that comes from other races head? So a few days later called my sister over and got a big chop. Tired of the mindset that our hair isn’t beautiful when it is so beautiful and unique. Of all the races in the world only our hair has this kinky coily texture. I feel honored to have been blessed with my coils. And the money I’ll save buying those over priced wigs too! Thank God that I’ve woken up to this fact.
i am so glad you made this video! people think your broke because you choose to grow your natural hair
I don't understand any of this, I've never had a perm, don't wear wigs and never will and always rock my natural hair and I'm 45. I'm sick of the baby hair, wigs and anything that isn't braids, twist, roller set, flexi-rods and wash n go. I always get asked is my hair real. WTF? Like we have long beautiful hair and when wet it's really popping. Self hate is a real drug and they did a number on our community. I don't have girls, but i make sure my niece's don't put that crap on they head.
This is so necessary. And that is so sad. We must be better to ourselves. Great work.
Absolutely HAD to subscribe
Thank you and welcome!
When i saw this video initially i was really embarrassed
In this era ppl still have this type of mentality. U said something really important. These kids wearing lace fronts i wonder how their self esteem will be when they grow up.
I pray ppl are more educated with time. I'm not even speaking about the whole black community now. In Nigeria alone, the level of hate people have for their own hair is crazy!!!!
At this point it gets me fed up.
U will see someone make wigs that will take their edges and come to me for a miracle product😔 chile!
And the wig saga keeps getting worse. That abomination called a braided wig should be put in the trash never to see the daylight again🙂
Lmaoo. Braided wigs get on my nerves the most!
i think the ones who talk so negatively about natural hair just don't know how to grow it or actually think it's impossible and too hard. those people actually exist!
The worst part is that WE are the ones BACKSTABBING and discriminating ourselves. It’s so sad and infuriating at the same time
I remember my mom perming my hair twice a month as a child, or using hot combs to keep it straight because it was “unmanageable” I am 4c and 4b. Almost all my hair fell out as a result in high school and ive been natural since 2016. It was a lot of work to find the right products, routine and protective styles. I wore wigs a little bit before I got locs and they’re nice but idt it’s healthy for your hair to wear them all the time. Your hair is set up like plants if you ask me, it needs sunshine, O2 and water/oil.
There is so much to be admired about everyone’s natural hair textures, but people are so lucky to have beautiful coils and Afro’s and it’s sad that it is not always seen as professional because girls (+guys) you all look fancy as with your VOLUMEEE 💖💖
What a beautiful comment.
It starts from the media. When a character is poor, depressed and destitute she is wearing her natural hair. The moment things turn around she is wearing wigs and weaves. So people associate natural hair with poverty.
Anyways, to each their own. I think its stupid to love someone else’s hair so much you hate yours, but claim to be the blueprint. It’s embarrassing. I love my hair and know no other woman can ever claim i’m wearing hers.
You touch all the points. Excellent video.