Should it stay or go? Decluttering HARD things | Marathon
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- Deciding what to keep or declutter is HARD!! Let's figure it out!
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I plan to donate my wedding dress to a charitable group that happens to be local to me. They make burial gowns for infants from donated wedding dresses.
Wonderful!
My dress was a very big shouldered dress from the 80s so I made a Christmas tree skirt out of it for my daughter. It turned out really beautiful.
Oooh that sounds lovely!
You shouldn't say that your videos and other help are for women. They are equally for men, especially single men. And watching you with your wedding dress, I realized I still have my wedding suit from 1983. I know, amazing. You are not the only one doing a minimalist podcast, but I always pick up new tips for everyone including you. Thank you so much.😊😊😊😊
You’re welcome! And thanks for speaking up for the men fans! I appreciate you guys!!! 💪🏼🎉💛
My wedding dress was a strapless burnt orange affair. After kerping it in a fancy storage box for 12 years, I gave it to my eldest niece for her grad dress. She loved it!
Awesome
Our wedding cost a little over three hundred dollars, my dress came from a thrift store, it was the only one they had and it fit, so I don't have it anymore, someone else needed it.
That's great!
@@MinimalistHome we've been married almost 34 years
I gave away my dress after my only daughter was ready to get married but had no interest in wearing my 1980s ‘Lady Di-influenced’ dress. But I made sure to find a charity shop that respected wedding dresses and didn’t turn them into Halloween costumes. I had psyched myself up for it. I brought it to the counter and said I had something to donate. The kid at the counter asked what was in the box. I said ‘my wedding dress’, had to leave quickly, then burst into tears on the way to the car. But, it was for the best. ❤️. I could then move on.
Thanks so much for sharing. 🙏🏼✨
Bless you
Hi. My wedding dress was so hard to let go of. My husband is deceased. I held on to it for a number of years. I let it go because it was just hanging in the closet in a garment bag in the basement. I donated to the thrift store so someone else could have a nice dress at a reasonable price for their big day. My dress was a try on dress off the rack for $49. There was nothing wrong with it when purchased and when sent to thrift store. In my head the couple who purchased it is married now and living happily ever after. Hope this helps anyone trying to let go of the sentimental stuff. Have a nice day.
What a wonderful story! Thanks for sharing and also donating!
I appreciate going over the sentimental items. I am 20 or so years older and that is the phase I am in. I received a suitcase my grandfather had and inside was family photos he had saved. It never took up much space but this year is the year I am transferring photos to digital. I have photos of my childhood that I never received from my parents. So a nice surprise that I am going through.
This is so nice to hear and congratulations on all your work!
Enjoy that. X
I lost a lot of sentimental things when our house was burgled (I kept them in my jewelry box). So it is even harder for me to let things go.
That very traumatizing for sure. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Understandable
Ouf. It’s good that you can identify this connection and I hope you can continue to process the feelings so that the burglars don’t “win” I the long run. You need to make choices to create the home you love and not be scared anymore. Easier said than done though, I know.
Just listening to you in the background while I’m cleaning
gives me incentive to declutter. Thanks!
Yay, thanks Trish!
Do I want to pass it on? What a great way to look at it. My kids have already said they don’t want any more “stuff” in their homes.
Good for you kids!
I have a question... same question from 1st time I watched 🤔😊
You are telling us in 45 mins You dragged All that out from under stairs, went through All of it, made All those decisions, made the piles to dispose of All of it, cleaned the floor & put it ALL back - while talking & filming??
ALL IN 45 MINS?!?
If so, You are not just extremely great at letting go by also move at super hero speed & You just slowed down the recording 50x so it would be at our regular person speed, eh?!? 🤨🤪
I'm having some trouble as You can see with figuring out how You can move SO fast?
Maybe You could teach that too while You teach us how to let go ☺️🤓
Maybe if I could move that fast, I could have a clean, uncluttered home too 🤔
First the hardest part... learning the many whys I hang onto SO much stuff!!
I am very happy to have found You. I joined Your paid group to learn & heal.
Praying I can learn to let go also.
Thank You for having a heart to help us. Blessings upon You & Yours!!
❤️💪🏼🙏🏼 I hope things are getting better and you’re moving a bit faster. I am sometimes faster when I know I’ve set the timer and want to fit the job into a certain window of time. Are you in our untangled Facebook group? I hope so! 👏💪🏼❤️
I held on to my wedding dress, shoes, & veil for 32 years… I finally donated to Goodwill… felt so good knowing maybe someone would find it and fall in love with it.. that might not otherwise be able to afford one… I was ok with it❤️
Wonderful! 💕
I have been enjoying your videos for months! I just built a new home and did some serious decluttering (such that I have empty cupboards and drawers now)! Thank you for your calm and steady style, mixed in with some sass… you helped me think thru how to simplify my space. Yours is a favorite TH-cam channel. Thank you!
Thanks! Enjoy your new space! ❤️
I love, love, love your videos. I watch them almost every day to stay encouraged.
Aww, thanks so much!
Another thing to think about, although it's kind of extreme, when you're really struggling whether to get rid of something or not: THINK: If I came home tonight and my house had burned to the ground, how many of the things inside would I actually go out and replace? The answer for most people, it's probably about 5%. 😮
Even many things you couldn't reply or thought you couldn't - like paperwork from a real estate transaction 15 years ago - well, It will turn out to be expendable after all. 😊
Yes!
I am a lifelong minimalist, and I had boxes for each of our two children. When our kids grew up and got married, I gave each of them their box.
Our daughter gladly embraced her box of childhood memories. She and her husband strapped the boxes to the top of their car. On their way home the wind ripped the boxes off their car, and scattered her memories across the interstate. She stood on the side of the road and wept, while her new husband took his life in his hands and dashed back and forth between vehicles and gathered what remaining treasures he could.
Fast forward 27 year, things change, people grow up and age. The loss of these treasures were experienced, wept over, and now are fodder for stories.
Robyn, as you say, live in the present. It is the only present each of us get!
Wow! What a story! Thanks for sharing!
Oh my god my mom passed 2/1/22i just heard you lost your dad in the same month I am so sorry this video is so spot on taking notes !!!!!!!!!
I had my phone in my pocket playing this video as I was decluttering. It helped a lot to keep me motivated and going because it was stuff I've put off for a long time to go through. Thanks for bringing us along on your journey!
And, of course, keep your wedding dress for that possible granddaughter. If she doesn't want it, it can still be donated or sold later. Hurray for you!
Hooray! I have a new podcast starting very soon, so you can listen to me in your pocket without the video next time!
@@MinimalistHome lol! Okay, thanks!
I love watching these videos. To perfectly expressed and relevant to me. I’m watching this while I’m decluttering. So motivating. I must say I love decluttering.But not at the sentimental area. It’s all still under my bed. I will get there within the next few days when I’m finished with the east things. I have decluttered for years. I have thrown away some things that afterwards I regretted, so I’m going to go slowly. I’ll know when I’m ready. I will visit the sentiment things, and I’m sure will get rid of some things. Thank you so much. I have shared this with my children. They are at the age where they are deciding what to keep and throw away from their children. You are a gifted communicator. ❤️
Thanks so much! 🦋
Love your valuable and delightful teaching!
So glad!
This video is very much hitting the spot. I am also very stuck on sunk cost rather than sentiment for a lot of items, but some of the principles can work for both situations. Thanks!
Glad it was helpful!
Love this video. So helpful and motivating. Thank you! 😊
You are so welcome!
It took me 15 years, but I did let go of my wedding dress (went to a goodwill). I'm not having kids, so there is no chance of a kid wanting to wear Mom's dress- and tbh, not great odds someone would want to anyway with the ways styles change and odds of being the same size on the wedding day aren't great. It would make more sense to keep a veil or a hairpiece or jewelry to pass on to a kid who wanted that connection.
I'm also a solid 30 pounds heavier than I was at 25 years old, so I couldn't put it on again if I wanted to.
I have beautiful photos and other, smaller keepsakes from the day like the earrings I wore and of course, the ring that was added that day- and the husband! I still have the guestbook, which actually serves as a very nice storage for folks addresses if I want to send cards for birthdays or holidays, so I don't regret keeping it although it has been altered now and I don't use it the way it was intended.
Someone convinced me I needed a fancy cake server that you'd engrave after with your wedding day, but we forgot to bring it and I was thankful, because I returned it. What in the world would I need that for in real life?
I think we've gotten a little keepsake crazy!
“Keepsake crazy” is a great term that you just invented. Thanks for sharing your story. 🙏🏼
Your video hit home so hard, especially the part about living your live now to the fullest. I can't say more, too emotional but thanks
Thanks Renee!!
I shred a couple sheets of construction paper every year for Easter grass. Then I just recycle it.
Cool idea! 🌷
Watching after your post about the algorithm. Really good tips in here!! Also loved the joke about the Nile.
Awesome!
Oh my gosh! I totally started watching your video and realized you had already posted this last week and then I saw you post to please re-watch from a oopsie. Lol! So I am re watching this on double time speed and it is quite entertaining to listen to you on double time. ☺️ Thank you for what you do! You are very motivating and I appreciate you! ❤️
Aww, you're so sweet! Thanks!
Watching and listening as I make supper. I enjoy your videos Robin.
Thanks so much Lynne!
You're welcome. I think I will have a cup of tea as I finish watching.
I've learned so much! Now to implement it all 😂. On photos my husband spent months doing this but everyday he'd do a specific amount of scanning them. Now I'm going to divide them for my kids with a note do what you like with these. Then they can choose to scan for themselves or keep or get rid of. It's a lot of work but I think photos hold a lot of memories from their history and face it we do not take many printed ones anymore.
Good plan! Thanks so much!
This was so hard for me to watch as I am a sentimental woman. I only have a handful of childhood memories because my Mother didn't see them as important. I've kept everything my children and grandchildren had made. I learned that I can keep some and take pictures of some and let go of so much of it.
Sounds like you’re learning how to make choices to beat preserve the most special items. & Thankfully our actual memories don’t take up much space!
Wow I feel the same way about my grand maman house I drive by and it’s all changed but it’s ok the memories are there and my childhood house too I took pictures
Wonderful!
My late husband horded book, records, CD;s, cassettes, sheet music and papers,. H would pickup garbage from dumpsters and curbs. After he passed away I had to get rid of everything. He had papers from every house we bought or sold in the70's, 80's and 90's. Also paperwork from cars we owned. Now I can't stand to have any clutter anywhere. I told my daughter this is the first time in my life (I'm 72) that I need or love everything I have. Plus, I know where everything is.
I always ask myself, will I feel SAD or GUILTY if I let this go?
Oooh… that’s a good question!
Lol, I was so confused when I started watching it and I swore it was something I've already watched....😂. I liked the video for you 😊
Thank you! Yes, I had an issue with the last one. Bless you for watching again!
When my grandma died a few years ago everyone in the family kept a little something coming from her home; I lived abroad then, so my father picked an object for me, so that I had something too. It's a stone-shaped cristal (glass?) object that has a bear engraved in it. Super cute. Except... I had never seen it before Dad gave it to me. Never ever. So, as nice as it is, it definitely does not remind me of my grandma at all, and never will. Time to let that go...
Bravo to you for being so brave!
Isn't it crazy how much shit we hold onto? I am starting my journey, I am only about 15% in, and my mind is already just blown by the amount of things that are taking up valuable real estate in my home and my mind.
Enjoy the journey! 💪🏼✨
I recently decluttered mine. Got it professionally cleaned and boxed after my wedding 20 years ago but had been in the attic since then. Will be downsizing at some point and decided I didn’t want to move it. Donated it to Red Cross which has a bridal shop in Edinburgh. Felt good it would go to someone who maybe could not afford new and Red Cross would raise funds.
Win win xxx
Wonderful!!! 💕
An idea for digital photos, get one of those digital frames, you add photos to the memory & it cycles through photos, & switch the photos each month/season, so no photo you like gets forgotten.
So many options! Thanks for reminding me about this one.
My daughter wore my wedding dress just 2 years ago. It’s a simple below the knee dress that isn’t bulky.
That sounds lovely!
My baby stuff is actually my easiest thing to declutter. It's my grandmother's stuff that she passed onto my mother who then passed it along to me along with the stuff she had accumulated
Ouf. This is so common. If you’re not already in our Facebook group, please join and the lovely community oh people (myself included) can help you with these challenges.🙏🏼✨
Are you in the minimalist home Facebook group? We can help you through these challenges. I hope thé videos help as well. 🤞🏼✨
@@MinimalistHome I just sent a request! The name is RoseannaDannaGoat! Thanks so much, I look forward to the support
What suggestions do you have as far as decluttering items after losing one of your children? I have a memory table for my son's things. I can't even imagine EVER getting rid of anything on it. But I am trying very hard to declutter and organize the rest of the house and doing pretty good I believe.
I love your videos and advice.
I’m so sorry to hear about your especially difficult situation. Keep doing what you’re doing. Keep decluttering non-sentimental and less-sentimental items and this will help you and your home overall. 💕
I’m not an expert in this particular area, but I have found that I enjoy keeping a few special items of my father’s and displaying them (rather than a few dozen items packed away). So your idea of a memory table is great. I would suggest that you make sure that it’s special things that you can display and dust and generally keep looking nice. If it’s looking well cared for, then it’s an honour to your son. Also, make sure that this isn’t taking up space on a table that you need for your daily life now. Maybe a shelf or another table would be best in that case.
I hope this helps a bit.
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I have to declutter when the mood strikes. If I would set a timer & stop, it's doubtful I'd come back later in the day or the next day. I have to strike while the iron is hot. Sometimes I end up spending a couple hours decluttering & it's such a feeling of accomplishment & progress. You just gotta do what works best for you .😊
Definitely do what works for you, I totally agree
@@MinimalistHome 🙋♀️
Pictures I took and pics of my kids from school, I don’t think I could just throw away 😢
I have 2 teddy bears 🧸 one I gave my hubby and 1he gave to me and we had them in our table on wedding day still have them 37 years later my grandkids love to play with them when they visit and yes they are on display lol
Fun!
I’ve definitely found checks years later. Smh and bills …leading to soo much financial lose
I found my cabbage patch doll!! I may hang onto it. Did you find out if they were worth much?
Nothing for sure. You’d need to look into it for the one you have and the condition it’s in.
I don’t mind getting rid of STUF but my husband has big problems with it .
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Hey, you found the cat!😂
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I have a couple of itmes from my grandmother which would be g-g-g-grandmother to my g-granddaughter. I'd like her to have them. But I did tell my son that if no one wants them, sell them. At least get something out of them. I've told him that about everything. I'd hate to see it leave the family but I'm not going to put that guilt on him. My mother had a pair of baby shoes that she'd had bronzed. No idea where they went when she died. My Alzheimer's patients were my favorites. Too bad the nursing homes eventually went to skilled or rehab nursing.
I took my wedding dress apart lol, saved the buttons and embellishments . Didn’t mean anything anymore and it was custom made so no one would fit into it that was back in 2000
That's a great idea!
I got married but didn't have a wedding dress, so no storage to worry about 😂 a blessing in disguise🤣
Silver lining!
Kitty!
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I decluttered my wedding dress.
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I bring our wheel borrow inside to put stuff in so I can move it easily. If you have a hand truck, it works great for boxes😁 My fear of death is not so scary since Jesus saved me😇😇Our soul does live forever you choose where they live. When I decluttered my children's baby clothes, I kept a thought in my head about how a new baby could use them.
That’s a fun idea!
Repeated viewing!!😂
Bless you!
I hid $500 in a gift bag. Years later my brother in law called me and asked me if I was missing some money. I said $500! He said, "come and get it."
Crazy! 🙏🏼✨✌🏼
I thought you did under the stairs a while ago
Yes, I do it often! Haha, this is a mixture of videos discussing decluttering
Don't feel too bad, the check might have been a duplicate and you just forget about it
Thanks 🙏🏼
Noooo photos should not be scanned no one sees them ever and the technology changes and you can’t retrieve them
So many options… good point and you need to do what makes sense to you.
The problem with decluttering in Canada is that the people do not have a proper way for a sustainable recycling system and the country sends with no mercy all kinds of waste in containers overseas to poorer countries like Mexico, Malaysia, Indonesia, Vietnam, the Philippines, etc
I see your point and concern, but we have a better recycling system than many states and the bottom line is that we need t make a choice to not allow our current homes to be “temporary landfills”! One way of feeling better is if we make a conscious choice to reduce our consumption from now on.
@MinimalistHome But even having a so spectacular recycling system still sends containers of waste to other countries that have worse recycling systems?? Are you sure is it so good??
I still have the issue of People with Kurt Cobain from when he died.
Some old things still feel like treasures and that’s okay too. As time goes on (and especially we lack space), we can re-assess and sometimes let some things go.
Wasn’t in the mood for this- it was a little darker than I wanted today.
Sorry to hear that. Can’t get it right each time and I do try to get into some “darker” stuff, but I have many humorous videos as well!
Please do not keep his ashes . His Saul is not there. Don’t keep ashes.