Straight Talk: Does The Length of The Relationship Matter Before Marriage?
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- Does the length of the relationship matter before getting married? Kimberly Caldwell-Harvey, Tamar Braxton, and Kim Gravel have some thoughts! Tell us what you think in the comments!
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If you are going to wait to get married you should also wait to have kids till after you are married
David Dutton be careful you're making sense
Amen🙌🏿👏🏿
That's true too! Lol
Preach!
@@dcomic The best way is to wait until after marriage. It is the right way ... God is smart. He designed marriage as a covenant of honor, love security for the entire family, including children. The NEED to see that stability ... just having a baby, minus the support and covering of a two-parent healthy home, creates insecurity in the heart of that child.
She said “I’m married SUCCESSFULLY”. The shade of it allllllll.🙊
sharon lulu ☕️
Just bc they still together don’t mean it’s successful
The *relevance* of it all!
i cackleddddd. she was not there for tamar/ej johnson
@MM E the guy is a comedian
Kim tell them that marriage is a commitment and not a lustful event. That’s why every week they in another relationship or getting married and divorced so frequently.Marriage is sacred and not no joke.
Very true.
Exactly. People think that marriage is a joke and it isn’t.
This is from my personal experience as a man married for over a decade. In the beginning there's 3 levels of "knowing".
First there was me knowing she was wife material. As in I KNEW she would make a good wife. She was intelligent, self aware, compassionate, and knew how to communicate. Plus, she had a great personality and was someone I liked being around. But I wasn't sure if I was ready. Still I knew that if I didn't snatch her up some other man would.
Then there was me knowing I wanted to marry her. First its knowing she'd make a good wife. Now it was knowing I wanted her to be MY wife. This was more about me than her. It was me knowing I was ready for the challenge.
Finally, there's knowing WHEN to get married. This is more about social things like money and the logistics of joining your lives together. Just because two people are in love doesn't mean they just up and get married. You do have to make a life together. There is planning involved. Only fools rush in.
Nicely said BlueWave
This was helpful!
This is helpful, wish I could share this
❤️
BlueWave Well-explained!
Time doesn't mean anything if your arent using it constructively. So what if you "dated" your significant other 2 years before you got married? Did you discuss the important things like finances, children, and goals before you did? Most people dont know that's a conversation you should have early on in the relationship and not after marriage.
Amen!
Preach!!
Yes yes yes
Yes this is why I always have this convo when dating before I even become bf and gf I want to know that we have the same goals or can talk out our disagreements.
I'm inspired
Lust is a feeling. Love is a choice!! Now that'll preach 🙌
How is love a choice you can't chose who you fall in love with tho?
@@edsonlapomarede6318 🤣👏 Well said. Nice words who in reality mean NOTHING.
@@edsonlapomarede6318 people confuse lust with love though. You cant love someone you dont know
@@elenabob4953 Mhm
@@michellerichardson3090 Well you got a point but my point still stands lol .
In this episode, Kim Gravel reminds me of the Sea Witch Ursula from The Little Mermaid 🙊
tanyac230 that is what I thought
So rude
Chille Moss didn’t intend to be rude, Kim is my favorite but when I saw her with that makeup and hairstyle, Ursula came to my mind 🤷♀️
She’s annoying, but she did have one good point:
“Lust is a feeling, love is a choice”. She’s not wrong about that.
I thought the same too but not in a bad way.
Why do people think what works for them should work for everyone else, and if it didn't work for them it won't work for others. People are unique and have different personalities which requires different requirements. Do you! If it works, kudos. If not, try something or someone different. Stop always comparing your experiences to those of others. I know a couple that married within 6 months and have been married for around 40 years happy as ever. I also know some that waited "as long as they could" and 3 months after making it official are miserable trying to find a way out....so stop it!
Amen! *one of the best comments here
agreed. I have known people who got married after weeks and a few months and they are still married. It doesn't work for all.
So you cannot give an answer to anything by that standard.
YES!!!!!!
@@MrsPinkyThoughts my answer would be "Yes, the length matters depending on the individuals within the relationship and what their personalities require"
My husband and I knew each other for 5 weeks and got married. We have been married for 23 years.
Lori LeBlanc wow awesome I am taking to a young lady I want to engage her in December and get married too
@Lori LeBlanc are you serious?
Congrats. I'm glad you guys found each other, fingers crossed you go the distance.
Wow; I absolutely cannot stand these women talking all together at the same time. Gosh.
And very loudly 🙄
the screeeetching noises
One of my best friend's parents got married after one date... They have been married for over 25 years... Marriage is a commitment.
Fast or slow, how about people wait until they are married to have kids? It's amazing that we want people to be damned near perfect before we'll marry them. But we'll make them the mother or father of our child in a heartbeat. We're basically saying, "You're not really good enough for me. But you are good enough to spend the next 20 years disappointing my child."
Or we don't want to marry because we are "working on ourselves". We want to get our money right first. We want to get our freak tendencies fulfilled first. But people will have no problem being broke and sexually out of control and becoming someone's parent.
I just wish people held becoming a parent to the same standard they hold becoming a spouse.
Agree 1000%. I was just saying why is my generation sooo okay w baby mamas & baby daddies. Does no one care about marriage before kids anymore?
*Say it louder*
I'm totally agree with waiting till after marriage to have kids jus that some women me included put so much pressure on when I'm going to meet the one is it goin to be early on or later on in my 40s wen I done went through menopause nd cant have kids or don't wont kids at that age so we tend to settle thats part of the reason for some women Not everybody is lucky to find true love early on or ever jus hope one day i be one of the lucky ones
I can agree to a certain extent but as someone who has never aspired to marriage or it as a goal in life, I don't see why I must be pressured or condemned if I have kids outside of marriage when I don't subscribe to it. I have always wanted kids (and can now afford to have them) but have never been interested in getting married, and will not be dictated to about my womb. As long as someone can afford their children and love them unconditionally, then let them live THEIR life, and not by your or society's patriarchal standards.
@@Nicole-zk9op girl you prrachin to the choir. We gotta stay prayed up 🙏. I totally understand some ppl settle bc they lose faith.
Way too much hollering 🤦🏻♀️
The matter is not the length but the way its used. The importance is the purposeful information and knowledge you gain in that time. You could be dating someone for years but if you do not ask the right questions in order to get the information you need, you will be in disbelief of your situation when you're married. The problem is that people are fooled into a particular way of dating i.e "dont ask this on the first date" "dont talk too heavy, you'll scare him/her away" etc, that they stall to ask the right qs. By the time the qs are asked its either too late cause you've gotten married or you're too far gone, to which society will have you believe you can't go back (after "investing" all of this time in the relationship). Folks should 1) know what they want 2) stick to what they want 3) purposefully fish for it 4) throw it back when incompatible. When you've gone through these steps with good judgement and you've found a good match, you take the risk. So in essence, it's not about taking the time, it's about not wasting it.
Oum THMD Amen to that
Statistics show that more people divorce because they live together before marriage. It’s a fact ! Love is a choice and marriage includes sacrifice .
Yup statistics don’t lie 🤷♀️
How long were they living together before marrying though? I feel like some of those divorces could have been the woman gave the man an ultimatum because they had been living together for years
@@michellerichardson3090 it’s from people who be moving in way too quickly I had a friend move a guy in with in like 1-3 months and I seen this happen with other women moving guys in under a year and get divorced quick
Anything more than 2 years is a waste of time, anything you need to know you would know after 2 years.
Preach sister. My momma used to say the exact same thing to my sister who wasted a godamn 8 year on a jerk waiting for him to put a ring on it. Thank goodness, she at some point woke tf up and is now married to a man tho
Time doesn't mtr
I know several people who dated for more that 7-10 years and they are still happily married
Mina Zandi You better tell 'em girl!
I agree with Tamar on this one!
A mature guy knows within 6months if he want to spend the rest of his life with you or not. Ladies please don't waste your time lol
Thank youuuuu liz!!!!
That's what I'm saying!!
People just know!! Within 6 months! And 2 years is the cap for a proposal!
End of! If you go past that you are just playing a game of "what better can I get but still all the time energy and resources (emotionally) of this person I just conveniently want to string along!
Agreed!
Women have no sense of 'wait your turn to speak'. They talk over each other making it difficult to hear what the other is saying. The volume raises decibels it almost sounds like a damn argument. That's when I completely zone out and lose interest in the conversation. It just shows lack of respect and etiquette.
I almost clicked off the video because of that!
yeahh! It was so off-putting
That's women for you.
Steve and the Ursula lady be talkin like my eggs are going to last till I'm 80!
😂😂😂awe girl you got me laughing
@@courtneywielander3296 lmao ikr. 🤣🤣🤣
Ursula lady lol
Bruh 😂😂😂💀
What I'm Saying about MY RELATIONSHIPS!!!! I flipping love KIM 🏆
My mom and dad married after 6 months, when they were in their 20s. They've been together over 40 years and still together.
Everybody wants to know the key to staying together... DON'T BREAK UP! Ppl give up too easily these days and onto the next! I want that old school love like my parents.
.. and the more people you have sex with, the easier it becomes to move on to the next.
@@GenuineMtech I'm starting to realize this
GenuineMtech not really
True
@@GenuineMtech Quite the opposite. You're rewiring and rewiring your brain, and in the end you'll never be satisfied with one person
steve and tamar have me dying of laughter right now this was a good topic lol
You have to research the person you plan to marry. Ppl n their families be fake af. Take your time. Long as 2 ppl are genuine.. It's safe to move forward.
So true, they low-key don't like u
To some people it doesn't matter what their family thinks.
Eunhyuk_B.I._Mark_V EUNHAE True. But if you marry a mommy's boy then that momma and that family will make sure they make ur life a living hell.
In my experience, guys act fake for the first year. They're trying to get something, of course they're acting right. But it's acting. After they get comfortable, they show their true colors. Then you get to decide if you like those colors or not.
The conclusion to any relationship ..is everybody ..I mean everbody has their formular of how their own relationship works ....it just like food ..every culture have their way of cooking ..period ..so n
Yup makes life easier when you're true to yourself not what works for others or what others think.
True... But we all cook our potatoes to eat them...
Tamar.. Cardi B.. I am so not for it anymore.. Its not cute😕
In relationships trust is needed
Im still in disbelief that Tamar and Vince are not together anymore
C. M. Me too. I had gotten so used to them together
MM E She did say that
Really?? Did you see the show? (The Braxtons) She wore that man OUT! I was sorry he married her. He needed a different person in his life.
Me too because they both said divorce wasn't an option
C. M. Same lol
Tamar loves to hear herself talk... she needs to take a step back
There is no need to wait 4 years to get married, its a waste of time. What if you break up? There is no commitment on his or your part to work out the relationship if there is no contract. I met my husband and after 6 months we got married and had two children with two years. Stop shacking up and playing house, you are doing yourself a disservice to those who are marrried and did the right thing. In all of this conversation, Yeshuah Hamashiach is left out of the picture. We need to repent and believe that we are worthy of marriage and to having a family.
My only main concern is say I get married after 6 months and the relationship doesn’t work out afterwards? Now we’re having to go through the whole divorce process and that can be a lot. Then I date again...Am I supposed to repeat the process with EVERY relationship? Honest inquiry..
If it worked for you then that's cool but if I were to marry then hell nah. You can't learn each other and make a life long commitment in 6 months
6 months to me is desperate and can be a dangerous decision. It is not enough time to determine whether you're marrying a narcissist or a pedophile. Marriage is no joke! Too many divorces are happening because too many are rushing to the alter instead of getting to know eachother. Many of my friends dated for 2 years at least and all married successfully, children followed soon after. And my other friends broke up within a year or two because they found out they were not a right fit, cheating spouses, mama boy lazy syndromes just to name a few. I say give it at least 2 years, not 6 months.
I agree. That's too long
Shalawam sis, I agree with you 1000% meet my husband dated for 3-4months then got married. 5years and 2 kids later. You have to make sure the foundation your building are the same. And ours is for the most high !
I think it depends on your age. Kim is right, especially if you're young - take your time! You're still figuring things out, they're still figuring things out, make sure you're compatible! With older ladies - in their 30's and up, they still need to take their time but they can afford to be quicker with their relationships because they are set. They already know what they're looking for, they've already been there, done that. No need to waste time when you already know.
Tamar got the loudest mouth and the most failures 😂💀
Chi chi Chips you're disgusting!
mm g why?
Chi chi Chips maybe disgusting is the right choice of words but why laugh at/about someones failures or what you view as their failures?
damn Chi chi : )
LUST IS A FEELING. LOVE IS A CHOICE... I like that.
My husband and I got engaged after 5 months of dating and married when we'd been together 1 1/2 years. We'll celebrate 3 years married next month. It hasn't been an easy road and we've had our ups and downs but I wouldn't change who I married. I love my husband and I've chosen every day to love him. I'll continue to every day going forward.
are you still married
@jen120381 are you still together
It's not how long you've been married it's about beening happy in a marriage,some married people stay in a marriage for the good and bad and some just for the good,its how much BS your going to put up with. So that doesn't mean any body relationship is any better. So if a husband and wife been married 4years and gets a divorce and a husband and wife thats been married 50 years should have a divorce also but that's their choice . I've been married 40 years for the good and bad ups and downs,so just because your still married is just that!!.thats why it's not good to tell your business,people use it against you,we don't know and should not speculate .
Got married 2 weeks after we met in a parking lot. 13 years, 6 kids and still more than happy.
The problem is that we live in the time of instant gratification, ppl are impatient, it’s best to wait as long as possible
Wait longer to not instantly gratify yourself? So to marry right away is instant gratification? Or am I misunderstanding you?
no it doesn't. I got married the day after my 6th year. I knew in my 5th year that i wanted to marry her. Its not a race of time. All the ducks have to be in a row and this is my first marriage and i definitely wanted everything to line up. We had many discussions and she didn't rush me. I knew we weren't going anywhere and we could have not been more happier. Im still a newlywed and it was just like we first got together. Time and patience and a good foundation will make it work.
I feel like maybe you got to a age where you thought you didn't have as many options anymore? Maybe?
the more time you spend with your partner the more you get to know the person ..because marriage is like jumping from one planet to another and you will never get back and you cant tell the behavior of a person in just few months cz some people can fake it ,,so will go with YES it really matters
justice facts
I agree with Kim, the old lady. People rush into things and then they get divorce. Every couple is different. And marriage is gonna happen when it's meant to be. Life will show a couple when it's the right time. However, take your time and don't rush. Don't misread signs or feelings. Be reasonable and evaluate the circumstances. Sometimes you don't even have to get married to have a happy healthy relationship. It's not a race. It's just a formality anyway.
And another THANG............ Ms.Tamar gone say you"re not marry his family you marrying him, but you had your mansion built with the salon and extra rooms "YOU" said for your sisters well Isn't that family??????????? I'm just saying!! so tried of her mouth look back at some of your videos , but oh well I guess now that life has happen to her, things can change but when you lived in lala land you pointed out everybody flaws!! Again.......... I'm just saying!! She erks my last nerve!!! #unawareofself....somebody pray fa me!!!
*marrying
The fam can be around that doesn’t mean you like them and they like you 😂😂😂
There would of been a whole lotta people not married if the family didnt like them”
Well your family dont like me so i rather break up with you👀👀👀👀👀
You tried so hard you missed the point.
ok thanks!!
KuroiNekoxoxo ok thanks!!
Steve giving me Dr. PHIL (frm fresh prince of belair) realness
Dr. Phil? You mean Uncle Phil?
ZYEN loool yes uncle
I say yes.it does make a difference. I've known girls when I was in middle school, who went out partying, and got pregnant. Or got pregnant really quickly after meeting some guy.My advice is wait until you know the person. Don't be in such an all fired rush to marry,get into a relationship, have children, slow your damn roll
Amen 🙌🏾
why dont they know about contraception ??? the pill ? diaphragm? IUD ? Condom ?
Why dont they know about contraception? The pill? IUD ? Diaphragm? Condom ?
This girl shamed Tamar so bad “ I know what I’m doing, I’m married successfully “ wow
Yeah but honestly why do that to another woman? Tamar knows what she got out of and I’ve heard that god blesses some marriages for a time then he expects more from people so idk just seems petty to me to talk that way, anyhoo moving on
"Lust is a feeling...love is a choice"...I'm SOOOOO stealing that!!!
I got married after 8 years and i was the one that didn’t want to get married until i was READY !
I wasn’t ready mentally for the responsibilities of the marriage and its is the best decision i ever made! I now have a healthy loving marriage
Moral of the story : TAKE YOUR TIME!
M S 💕👍🏽
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Good for you. But moral of the story is " I took my time and it paid off". It doesn't apply to everybody
@@Randomized456 Right and 8 years doesn't work if you want to start having kids at a certain age
8 years, oh my. No. For me at 35 that's too long. 🥺
I know a man who married his HS sweetheart and has never been with any other woman. Said the minute he turned 18 he asked her to marry him. Theyve been married over 30 years with 2 grown sons. Know another guy met his wife in his 20, got married after a year and got divorced years later. I honestly think time makes a difference. The longer you get to know someone, the more you see of them and know what you're dealing with.
Don't wait too long to get married, doesn't help anything. My sister thought, for sure, she was doing it right by dating her husband, getting to know each other, getting financials in order, etc for over 5 years before marriage.........they were divorced 7 years after getting married....lol!
My husband and I, met and got married within 13 months, still happily married 15 years and 3 kids later!
Love comes with sacrifice and a lot people aren't willing to do that. We are born in world that's makes us selfish. Lust will have marrying the wrong person. I see the world for what it really is.
I know!! I so agree with you!
We live in a world where everything and everyone is disposable!! And only immediate gratification is desired or glorified!
I'm not a religious person by any means, but it sickens me that society has lost all structure and appreciation for decorum, proper system and patience! Like working on things! Having a relationship that teaches you communication! Not giving up the min you don't get your pampered wants!
People don't want to work on their relationship! They want someone perfect but accept them as being imperfect! And not change a thing about themselves!
And there's always "something better around the corner" wow!
We've lost the art of actually communicating Respecting and cherishing! It's all fake now!
Steve made a great point at 2:50 Coming from a small town when you haven't been anywhere makes it easy to say someone is there love of their life. With me coming from a small town, I see it often. Luckily, When I went to college and started traveling more, My scope was broadened.
Right lol
I'm sorry i don't care what loud mouth Tamar says it is important to give time to everything. Especially relationships that are supposed to go somewhere. Reason being you are building something together and as the saying goes Rome wasn't built in a day. Relationships that take off too fast have a way of not lasting too long.
"If you know you know." Look, just because YOU know about them, doesn't mean they know about YOU.
Still waiting its been 10 years and have a beautiful little girl with him
He's not worth your time, if he won't marry you!....You're good enough to knock up, but not marry!? 🤔
Tamar is so damn rude.
What do they think people in Texas are living like? Lol walking 8miles to the other farm house Mr Harvey is a trip🙂
I have been living with my man for the past 7 yrs we have two beautiful children together and he keeps putting marriage on the back burner is it okay to want more I'm so fed up I want to be his wife and not his girlfriend we're to old for that
Am here to read comments
SAME😁
You absolutely should wait as long as you can. The one on the right contradicts herself because she waited four years even though she didn’t want to, and the girls were dating the same guy for years so of COURSE they’re still married. The 41 year old doesn’t know what she’s talking about because she’s been divorced. The one on the right is completely correct: people are acting on lust while they’re dating so they get married and divorces five years later. You should wait as long as possible and in my opinion live together for a while, because at that point if you still love each other then you’re gonna be fine if you get married.
Matthew Cooper I agree with your statement! Well said!
My parents are still dating after 45 years together and six girls
I agree it's better to wait for as long as you can for marriage. Wait until after the honeymoon period wears off because that's when the real work is done to keep the relationship going.
INTP female - I agree!
Well, the 41 year old was in a 14 year relationship, married for nearly 10. So the fact that she’s been “divorced”, I wouldn’t automatically say she doesn’t know what she’s talking about...I still don’t agree with her though lol. I’d rather wait. If we plan on spending the rest of our lives together anyway, I don’t see what’s the need to rush.. 🤷🏽♀️
It’s funny how the bigger southern lady can be as loud as she wants but Tamar is the one that gets called out....whateva.... I am here for it Tamar is major entertainment and for what it’s worth she looks younger than the female that’s ten years her junior.
You can take it slow? But remember one major decision!? Life isn't gonna wait for you to make your deranged mind up though!!!? Lol
Wish I was part of the group of people who married a high school sweet heart its hard out here
I cannot finish watchin the whole video cause of all the damn shouting
I think it depends on the age of the ppl involved. Younger couples should wait a few years. Older couples, how ever they feel. Ppl who get married in their early 20s and earlier (usually an age for a lot of change and growth in character and personality) have a higher rate of divorce compared to ppl who got married in their late 20s or older (who usually are already grounded or try to get settled in life)
Just because someone has been married longer doesn't mean they are happy. So we can't say those who have been married longer are more happy or successful. They could be lonely, depressed and stuck in loveless marriage but scared to leave.
You can be high school sweethearts and still wait to marry... I don't understand her point in mentioning her friends who are high school sweethearts...?
I used to believe that love should have a time limit set, as in, there should be a minimum (and in some cases a max as well); But there were a few instances where I found it that it wasn't so.
My first experience was by word of mouth from a friend. He had been in love and dating this girl that he had been saving himself for after they got married (and she was doing the same) for 5 years, but then found out she had cheated on him. He told me that time does not matter. You can think you know someone and you truly don't.
Another is by the experience per the daughter of a couple. She told me that her parents had love at first sight and married each other (she either said 1 or 3 months) after meeting whilst still living their lives in different states. They met only 3 times afterwards for dates before getting married and they're still deeply in love till this day. It's been about 18 years for them.
There's also the story of my parents that sounded very similar to hers but didn't end well. My parents met and apparently decided to get married after 3 days of knowing each other, so, after 3 months, they did. They had me a year later and got divorced 3 years after that. They don't get along well..
Long story short,
My point is that what works for some doesn't work for all. 'Go with what works' as my dad often says.
Time is everything 2-4 years you learn a person rush into marriage you're preparing your divorce
I don’t care if they was in a small town when they got together, marriage is HARD WORK so for someone to stay together 10+ years is an ACCOMPLISHMENT! Everyone has been divorced except for Kim so I’ll take her advice over anybody else!
Marriage is different for everyone. You can’t carry a set of rules into a relationship because it’s different strokes for different folks. Some people marry quick and last longer while others get divorced even faster. Some take the advised time and don’t last or do. Some move in together and are still successfully married while some realized hell no and left. Some waited till marriage to cohabitate etc, and ended up divorced while some are still going strong. Everyone’s different, don’t feel bad for not doing things the way some people have.
Eh, to each their own....I married after knowing my hubby for a year, then afterward, dated for two months. Going on our 10 yr anniversary with three kids now.
I think short periods of time work for some people. I mean, Fantasia married her husband after 3 weeks and they've been married like 4-5 years now. The same with Devon Franklin and Megan Goode. 🤷♀️ It's all about who's willing to put in the work it takes
Nova Love While you have great examples, you omitted the thousands it didn’t work for. You can’t take anomalies and then make them the centerpiece of your argument. “Some” is hardly a term I would use for unique cases and I certainly wouldn’t recommend 3 weeks for anyone. Exception: If the couple comes from a very familial society that places a high value on the institution of marriage. Western society tends to value individual happiness above marriage and so 3 weeks is usually too short. I would definitely agree with your last statement.
Yessssss Kim. But love this panel very entertainment. 😄
Americans do speak loud...
Jk lol
LOVE is an action word "for me" thank God we can all have a say in what we like and don't like, Will Tamar ever get it's not just her world others can talk too dear Lord!!! What works for you may not work for the next!!!
I think it’s different for everyone. Personally, I think you need to go through a rough patch with your partner BEFORE you get married. If they ready to dip when it gets tough, then you know they ain’t ready for marriage. Ultimately, marriage is a spiritual covenant between, you, God and your partner.
Yesssssssssssssssssssss KIM. I'm married successfully!!
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The other 2 ladies are overbearing, rude and arrogant 🙄
That 30 year old looks 50.. And aint been married that long.
I agree, what's the rush ? If you interested in the first 60 days, then you'll be interested 2 years later. Marriage should never be rushed. Men stand to lose houses, cars, money in the form of alimony, child support, etc. in case the woman wants out of the marriage. So men ain't so quick to say "I do" so fast nowadays.
I'm on the wait train. What's the rush if the end game is being together FOREVER.
Too much shouting. As soon as Tamar opened her mouth. DONE. What happen to inside voices? Love Steve thou.
Me thinking about the atleast 1 billion (dead and alive) indian people who got married without having known their significant more than a couple of days or months (sometimes not even seen them) ...😀
First of all ladies you were too loud and screaming over each other! Have a discussion that shows who you are and how you feel without raising your voices too high. I could not hear you with clarity because you were too loud. I think Steve didn't comment that much because of the way the discussion went. So, he played it off to an extent.
When you quickly marry someone on thier 4th marriage you might want to pause for awhile and find out the reason they can't stay married!
Time doesn't matter but knowing the person does matter. You can date for 4 years and never explore one another on a deep intimate level. I would recommend couples therapy or at least the exercises to get to know the person. What is the point of spending four years playing in lust land?
A successful marriage is loving your spouse through everything till death do you part. End of story.
⚠️⚠️⚠️ *“Lust is a feeling Love is a Choice” the Realest comment of them all* ⚠️⚠️⚠️
Before even watching this video, the answer to this question is YES!! People should date and know each other for at least two years before getting engaged. On top of that, they should seek sound advice from friends and family as they could possibly see red flags that we don't. If we're "in love" we are likely wearing rose-colored glasses that blinds us from those red flags. So, it can be important to seek sound advice from reasonable people.
Also, take advantage of premarital counseling when needed. I understand some people don't want to because they would rather ignore signs that they shouldn't marry. But see, that's exactly what we need. If we're not compatible with someone, or if they're not good for us, it's better to find out now rather than later.
For me no more than 3 years .... after 3 years am out
4 years is a longtime to wait to get Married, I don’t think the older lady knows what she’s talking go about.
Kim is a boss!!! She’s too right!!! Everyone I know who married their lover in 4-6 months, they are divorced. How the hell you know someone in 4-6 months?
My parents got engaged in six months, they got married six months after they got engaged. They just celebrated 35 years of marriage. The length of the courtship isn’t what matters. What matters is if both parties are willing to do the work it takes to build a successful marriage.
This is my third and last "straight talk" episode, everytime it's women screaming at each other and i just want to understand
Neither rushing or waiting is a guarantee the marriage will work. Jussayin
Those women are so.loud!! I ve to Exit this place...
He does have a point relationships happen to work out in small towns because you. Do not have a lot of options in big cities where I use to live at the options are Limitless and things can get complicated.
Time does not matter if this is the person God put for you to be married to. I know a couple that's married happily with children and they've been together since they were teens ... it all depends.
One by one ladies please why screaming yous all at the same time
Damn Steve look weird without his stache...
How come they acting like everybody in Texas wear boots all day and farm and talk with a toothpick in our mouths or something. Lol
The marriage process should have two things that must be considered in all situations. Most people don't adequately provide the actions and mental ability to do them properly.
You must prudently qualify whether a couple is compatible and you should realize that there is a time limit to the marriage process due to finances, age, and preferential living conditions voluntarily placed upon the relationship by the couple. I agree with the standard thought that a couple should already know if a marriage is possible within two years of a committed union before marriage.
SIS.. 4 MONTHS?! 6 okay but, 4😂
You never know someone until you live with them.