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I was the first caller and appreciate the conversation I had with Kevin. It may be too late but I’ll never make the same mistake again. I will get my butt in therapy although I feel I’ve healed. But I will do better next time!
No such thing as too late.
Much respect. Sista. Kai.... keeping growing and progressing. ❤️✌️✌️
Meant to say keep.
You are beautiful
Hi Kai. You’re very attractive!
I like how ks kept pressing the sound byte whipping effects constantly was hilarious
Good video.She was the daughter of a very wealthy family,college educated,drop dead stunner..It was 6 months for me,as soon as she moved in,I soon discovered her secret coke addiction.I found her stuff anf flushed it,gave her the choice of therapy,or continue with her current marriage to her chemical glue and get out.She gave me the engagement ring back,(a 2 karat J quality blue diamond),and got out.It's been a minute since,and today on suit up saturday,I;m wearing a tailored yellow Brioni custom suit,high collar 3 button frrench cuff shirt,neon blue silk tie,and Milano monk straps,looking sharp and antennaes up.Thanks for you inspiration
Good call. Can't stay with an addict. It's living with a vampire, and when your last drop of blood is gone, he (or she) will throw your dry husk on a trash heap and head out into the night (and the streets) in search of fresh victims...
@@tonyjones1560 ,right on
Wow man that’s pretty heavy
Well damn she loved the drug more. Sorry brother.
“Your best thinking got you in the ditch you’re in right now”😂😂😂😂😂
Wow Kevin you really give us a strong case of reality. No one is there to take care of us as an adult you need to know how to take care of yourself. It's a rite of passage for both men and women.
He speaking facts again. I met my wife in November and was married in March.
When I .et my late wife, we didn't date. Six months later we got engaged, and we're married for years before she passed...
The Reality Check we need.
I needed this at 19 where where you Kevin huh huh lmao
The last call was painful😒
That 27 year old is childish
"Does money matter?"
"Are you fucking kidding me?"
Lmao
@Kano they’ll say he was mean for cursing 😂
That actually pissed me off. How fucking clueless can one be?
Hilarious 😂 🤣😂😂😂😂
She's wild
@Great Scott -- It matters for they want in a husband though.
The second caller is terrified smh she has no clue about life.
She's pretty, feminine, looks to be in shape. She just needs to mature some and she'll be a prized catch.
She is definitely petrified of life
And thats hiw she will destroy any m who fails victim. Her type will wake tommorrow and think she deserves more.
It's sad, the fact of the matter is she'll end up on the streets or in an abusive relationship... she's been given no life skills, but she has a degree tho... crazy
that's what happened when these kids have been sheltered
He Chastises like a real father. To the point where confused ppl who never had a father FIGURE of any kind in their life think this is toxic masculinity but it’s not.
Yes, the first time heard KS "You're average at best" he reminded me of both my dad and my husband. They are both very straight forward. They say what they mean, and mean what they say. Period!
Absolutely agree!
My husband is like this as well. And ALL the uncles, my dad, my brother.... the same.
Some people think accountability is a toxic trait I guess.
Yeah.... and notice the outcomes of the women without that particular form of "toxic masculinity" in their life. They're surrounded by chaos and according to them, they're surrounded by bad men and toxic masculinity. No, they just can't tell the difference between masculinity and toxic behaviour, because they're one and the same to them, it is how they absolve themselves of all of their outcomes.
“Ok let me talk to you, lean in a little bit”
Slap slap, slap slap, slap slap
I’m dead 😂😂
I'm dead dead dead dead lol
🤣🤣🤣
Every one of those connected flush
i slapped the taste outta her mouth too 💀
my dad frfr...
He's telling the truth! My husband proposed within 60 days and we were married 7 months after meeting. Just celebrated 17 years together :)
🙏🏽
Girl:My dad passed away
Kevin:I'm gonna be ya daddy for 20 minutes
Kevin is the G.O.A.T. He is so passionate about what he does and has a wealth of knowledge.
Yeah...This is that much needed, Mature, wise Perspective.
@@UnexpectedWonder I couldn't do it. You can tell he was disappointed. I would pull my hair out dealing with some of the callers he deals with.
Wow this second caller need to grow up, so Sad Parents this is why we need to stop babysitting our kids , don’t Handicap your children’s life Please
Funny thing is, most of their fathers are alive!
Met my wife at 23 she was 22, asked her after 5 months to marry me. We lasted 11 years before I lost her to cancer. Waited 2 years to get life in order, met a new woman and was married in 6 months, been married for 9 years. Men that want to married act on it first, no playing around, no games. I am 44 now and I am already teaching my 13 year old son how it is supposed to work with women and most importantly family legacy, continuing the family name.
Thank God - a good father teaching his son the importance of family legacy. 👏🏻
Maybe u lucky u met good women. But getting married in 5months doesn't work for everyone. Same as getting married in 7yrs. Women these days are capricious. I won't propose in 5months only to divorce 2yrs later. This approach can work in d olden days where women were submissive and most marriages were even arranged
@@yourlandladysson6395 You have to travel, not just travel throughout this country but travel abroad. Once you meet women outside your bubble and by bubble meaning a 250mile radius you will change your mind.
@kanuk the hunter You have to travel, get out and see the country if you can't travel abroad yet. Enterprise rent a car for a week and just go. One thing people have a misconception of is that you need a lot of money to travel, you really don't if you plan it right. I was 20 years old in Cali my self at one time and drove my busted car at the time through 15 states over a two week period just to see the country and meet people. You have to start young.
@kanuk the hunter great now it's time to experience the other 195 countries in the world and you will completely see a different type of woman than you see here in the U.S. I have only been to 17 of them but there is a vast difference in the women, how they look, how they behave, how the interact socially and how they are raised. Grab a globe, spin it and put your finger on a country, save for it and go check it out, you will see what I am talking about. My wife is Australian, I found her in a small town south of Sydney during a visit for work. If you don't want to deal with the women in the U.S. there are plenty of women elsewhere that will.
The young caller became her mom's roommate after her father died. They're both needing each other to survive. Sad. 😩
That's understandable. But still not an excuse for adult and capable young lady to sit without a job, especially with a loan debt on her hands.
Unless, of course she'll find a decent and caring husband, who will provide for her and her future children. And i sincerely wish her best luck with that. But until she's in such position - taking care about herself shall be a top priority.
She's going to be in for a rude awakening if her mom dies. I don't know her but I'm scared for her. Sis better learn how to braid some hair or something!
I can see if she was taking care of her mom but she isn't
That's why girls need to lock down a man when they're in their early 20s.
Someone get me her Number.... I'll Do right be her and moms real life lmaoo
Women give their best years to men they know isn't good for them; then expect a high value or high earning man to save them.. GTFOH!!
Exactly happened to my younger sister now she's a single mom
Hmm. What makes you think these women are really picking the wrong men? Perhaps they’re picking those type of men because they share the same ideals and values as those men hence why they naturally don’t click with a man who has a good head on his shoulders. Not all women are naive damsels in distress. Some people willingly pick their poison as they themselves are poisonous.
@@watitduful Check the stats.. Its evident that BW make poor choices in the men they choose to be with.
@@QUNYC7 Oh most def bro I'm with you on that. I'm just driving home the point as to why some women make these poor choices. I don't believe that if they picked a good dude that it would be cool. They'd just bring drama and strife into that dude's life. That's because they're about strife and drama from the jump. Thus being a match with the so called "bad boy" who's also filled with strife and drama. She's just a "bad girl."
This is an aspect of the game I think is often overlooked & not considered when these discussions come up. Why, I don't know. But it does come off as some dudes wishing they had a shot with such a woman when in reality, her rejection could in fact be God's protection for that dude. Not everything that glitters is in fact gold.
@@watitduful Facts!
Kevin is honestly a father to all these women. They all need to be grateful for him. You could really feel the love from the second caller.
🤣🤣🤣 you think black woman would listen to anyone's advice!? Heck their own biological parents can't reach them.
That is why he is called the Godfather
I agree.
Well said
He keep it blatantly hones and thats the best you can do for anybody.
I'm a married man and I have to disagree with the proposal time line. There are too many risks involved to make a decision that quickly. I always advise guys to get married on YOUR time line, not hers.
Jerome D. 🎯
@@memcrew1 You just made me feel alot better thank you
Well said!
I think marriage should absolutely be discussed in 2 years if the woman expresses she wants children. In the perspective of a woman who wants to start a family in her younger, years of time are essential. For men it’s never too late and for MOTHERS (not girls and lazy women) it’s never too soon.
@@msi8311 that's fair enough but 6 months?...nooooo
The Nigerian Woman, is obviously very respectful and humble, I wish her well.
Hell yeah 27 year old black virgin yea she behind but fact is SHES PURE!! Like PURE PURE!!! I wish her the best and hope the man she gets understands
Nigerian women are taught to be humble
@@2Tall03XX hahahah they usually aren't lool
@@Divinatonio you ain’t been around the right ones
@@2Tall03XX not being humble doesn't necessarily mean bad person, I know loads of nice Nigerians and I even used to attend a Nigerian church. Humble is not a thing unless it's to your pastor or parents
The Nigerian woman was severely sheltered throughout her life. She seems extremely respectful, feminine and cute. She definitely needs guidance. I wish her well.
Extremely sheltered
How do you know she was cute I didn’t see a picture
@@christopherchildtv7675 she was on camera for like 10 seconds, but Kevin took her off because she looked like she was about to cry.
Christopher child Tv 22:30
As a nigerian, I can sympathize with the girl. Damn it sucks she just needs a strong guidance and leadership.
Daddy never taught her anything about men. She is actually common in women whom were over sheltered. They don't have much experience and are scared to get any
I don't sympathize at all
She's not Nigerian so how can you?
@Dale Hemme and some more nonsense from the same dude. No shocks here.
@Dale Hemme what nonsense are you spouting?
The second lady is possibly suffering from major depression, she really needs to do counseling. If her issue is psychiatric, this situation might be out of Kevin's scope.
You are 100% right but she is unemployed at the moment so that might be difficult
She needs to speak to Jordan Peterson.
More like she suffering from laziness
That second caller definitely needs a father. My heart goes out to her.
Kevin missed it. She could get an older man who will train her, but he'll be controlling as hell.
Other culture would have accepted her and her innocence but in the America society she is being shamed! There’s nothing wrong with living with your mother! Or not having much of dating scene.
@@halimomoremoney1292 I agree 100%.
@@halimomoremoney1292 Her mother and that culture is wrong for doing that to her. Her problems are far worse then being innocent. She has no social skills and comes off as the female version of an incel. She needs to grow up and become a functioning adult like 7 years ago
@@halimomoremoney1292 perhaps, but in other cultures they would not have permitted her to be an actress, and they would either have her married, or be working on getting her married. She has to choose, be traditional and get married, or try to be the college graduate and actress but adjust to the culture around her.
The Nigerian girl is a cutie. Damn our women are hurting but they can hide it better because the world allows them to comfortably do it.
Not too me... no bueno single she isn't not getting married
@@user-of7pj7sx4r all women can get married, it’s just that she won’t get married to the man she may want though Lol.
@@popa213 but she could if she works on herself n that’s what Kevin is getting at. She shouldn’t be dating at all. She should be getting her life together than date while she got time left but that won’t happen with a high school girl mentality like hers
@@JamalMack some stuff can’t be fixed like that. Just think about the many of women who at least try to change and then think about the very small few that actually do.
Kevin had to go full dad mode for the Nigerian girl. I love how she took what he said in and wasnt all combative about it. She really was sheltered.
She did tear up, u can tell…….. scary part you cant tell if it she took the wake up call or not
When I first meet a woman. I tell her straight up. I'm not looking to get married. It's not my thing. It saves a lot of headaches.
Thank God your honest. I have on my bio on my dating page my expectations and i bring them up around the 1st or 2nd date. Yes i want to get married and no I'm not having yo baby😀
My experience has been I’ve told women this exact thing, or “I’m not looking for a relationship”, they say ok or that they understand them two weeks later it’s “So what are we doing?” I think a lot of women think they can change a man’s mind or be the woman that changes his mind. I also think when they do that is extremely disingenuous.
At least you're Honest.
@@JustBree716 Lol! I can dig it! 😂
I do that all the time but it doesn't stop most women from trying after a few weeks.
Awww I have to admit when I saw the second caller in a sad state, I have to admit I felt a bit sad for her; but I am glad Kevin spoke to her the way he did. She needs to someone to tell her that life is not fair and it spares not the weak. She has to be strong as possible and not feel sorry for herself. Just keep on praying sis, but also do your best to remain strong in all circumstances,
I felt same after I seen her...She needs someone mature around to guide her
People say he’s negative... I heard nothing negative in what he said. He gave sound advice.
Your right, he's not negative. He talks to people like he's their father or uncle that will give it to you straight with no chaser. And that's exactly what these people need.
only women would say hes negative lol men dont catch feeling only women
Kevin just gives it straight, no BS...
Right that’s why came here now I’m stuck binge watching
The second caller was coddled her entire life. Sad.
Yep. Far too sheltered...
What happened to a degree or your money doesn't matter?
@@RealLadi228 he never said be a bum. that's different from telling women that degrees aren't a selling point for a elite level man.
Sheltered
His reaction to the second caller telling him that she was an actress: hilarious
2nd call was hard to listen to
That was good for her. She needs some practice. I am sure she is a smart young lady, but whew chile everybody with these dreams of being an actress when the star is so out of their reach. But keep hope alive.
@Hill Jimmy you're right. She needs a full 360 degree backup called Reality. Her wanting to be an actress should be the hobby until it really blossoms and she is getting constant gigs. She needs to get a "real" job/career and wake up and smell the coffee burning on the stove.
Yes
PAINFUL!!
That’s ten dollars a hr I’m crying lmaooooo
Why can't women ever answer a direct question?
I call my wife out on that all the time. I stop her with YES or NO. They can’t help it. It’s just who they are. Once you understand a woman’s nature, life is less stressful.
Because they always have something to hide.
When you ask a piercing question you get a diverted answer
Answering directly is something accountable ppl do...many women want to do what they want and they want to explain why they did it hoping that explanation will change what it is...
That's exactly what serial liars do, watch the First 48 (hours).
The 26 year old's parents did her a disservice.
They raised her to be a good girl. She has no idea how to be a nice woman.
Yuppers
Yes they did but at some point she needs to take control of her own life And destiny. ⚡️⚡️⚡️
You dont know that! Women generally don't tell the whole story!
27 yr old FEMALE asks "Does money matter?"
Kevin - "ARE YOU FUCKIN' KIDDING ME!"
Her family is wealthy.
It doesn't matter in the sense of increasing her value to a man but in terms of supporting herself as an adult it is very necessary. She's just too naïve to understand the difference.
Entitlement 101
@@jordanangle9666 100000%
@@GrAdeAjAmAicAn 10000% FACTS
He really had a father-daughter type of discussion with her and it really struck home! She needed that! Very naive and inexperienced for her age. Hopefully she'll take his advice and grow up. She's not ready for a man, she needs to work on her first
I knew that I was going to marry my wife when we were on our first date. A man definitely knows.
You were lucky to have that feeling on that first date and actually got married.
I had that feeling with a girl on a first date as well but started knowing her after that first date and realized that although she was a good person she wasn't a good person for me
2 years should be the minimum time frame for a marriage proposal in today’s dating market. She can’t pretend to be a good woman for that long if she really isn’t 💯🥦💯
Man...You can't tell within two years?! I can tell within Months the kind of person I'm dealin' with on a deeper level.
@@UnexpectedWonder I agree. However I'm 40. When I was 25 I couldn't vet a woman in 6 months. Now I can do it in about 10 dates.
Yea
I had girl whole personality changed after a year and a half
You'd be surprised
6 months & then you propose?? Now wonder men get divorced raped. That's horrible advice lol
Lol..9 months for a baby & the bait & switch.
Jackpot by the end of the year 💰
@@Jay-Jay_007 If you dont like the risk, then, dont get married. Get a girl move in together, start a family, and, do the common law marriage thing.
UL R well that’s what they’re saying. The risk is not worth it.
With her sweetness I think she’d make good $ waitressing/serving in the high end restaurant industry! It’s a little known secret 🤫 she may even snag a hubby..
@Mon Deezy yes
That'll also help with her social skills for sure
I feel so bad for the Nigerian woman, she seems like a very timid child. Glad he's able to talk truth into her world.
What I can confirm on today my 11th Anniversary is that Kevin is 100% correct. For an ADULT male 6 to 9 months to proposal is all thats needed. I engaged my wife with the little money we had 9 months in to our relationship. Would have been 6 if I had the money at 6 months. 2 Kids, 2 Great Careers, and a whole lot of traveling and love later we look forward to more life together in the future.
Congrats D😎c!🤙🏽..
Not reality for most. Marriage was horror in my case.
@@Corazanaoro I hate to hear that BUT I watched my mother suffer for 20 years so I Know first hand it can be a prison for some. I hope you also experience the good side of it if you decide to get married again✊🏿
Congratulations Bro
@@BornQueDawg Thx for kind words, hope God grants that for me and all the hopefulls. Hope u mom is doing great.
I'm a Nigerian and I can relate to that lady
Many nigerian parents are notorious for sheltering their children and being extremely controlling in their children's lives...They tell their girl child to stay away from boys until she's done with uni..I literally have to hide my relationships from my parents...i think her parents wanted to bring her up like that even while in the states...They've captured her mind, she can't even think for herself...has no experience at all..I hope she doesn't end up with someone shitty in the future
I'm Ghanaian guy and I can relate.. My sister had similar experience.. African parents aren't good at raising their daughters.. It's a fact unfortunately
@@leanprogrammer I agree with you bro I live in Australia am Congolese actually am succeeding in my business and I found a Kenyan girl who I was trying to date but the parents was like no she need to finish her Uni first and I’ve seen this almost in all African parents that mentality is very unhealthy to teach our sisters about life they end up with a degree but are very immature in every line of life .
Same for many Haitian kids. A lot of them fail to launch..they will raise their kids in the same bedroom. They grew up in at their parents house. Blind leading the blind.
Facts and it’s the same parenting style in the Caribbean
@@9188jenni facts and I’m Haitian myself so I can agree 💯💯🎯
Divorce laws are probably why a lot of men don't want to marry. I usually agree with him.
Men are waking up.. Game over!
Dear Vazquez, you, me and others must see "through the lines".
If today's women don't have values, decent personality, feminine, caring and loving, what makes you think Mr. Vazquez, that divorce won't keep going up?
Guys need and must awaken. We are so easily fooled by Jezebel's ways.
@Raphie Stegall yea sure.. I'm going to prove myself to a person named Raphie. Dont call me dear. I dont know you and Raphie is not a women's name.. No.H.
@Raphie Stegall no baby mama. Ever. And I'm not miserable. The reason I dont want to be married...oh forget it.. thanks for letting me know you are a woman. I will reserve my comments and not waste my time...Have a good night Raphaela and good luck in life.
@Raphie Stegall apology accepted. Fyi, a lot of men want to be married. Even I thought about it in the past.. Unfortunately, today's woman (some) have been fooled by feminism and the good women are hiding or joining the feminism army.. it's a loose/loose for everyone.. R u in New York?
I was crying listening to the Nigerian girl! I definitely understand where she is coming from. A lot of young women with African parents have crippled dating lives - it may sound like an excuse but it’s a real thing! Young girls not being allowed to date and then are thrown into the dating world at 24 with zero skills!
I wanted to cry just listening to her. Kevin is honestly the father some of us need!
my mom sheltered me (white) and i got thrown to the wolves in dating. i wish she told me how dudes run games. i fell hard out here.
(not all dudes) some are very lovely. but i was very naive and i got played
@@AH-ph3cb The reality is, it doesn't help that nobody teaches you about men and nobody teaches you about your own nature either. Female hypergamous filters will eliminate most men in a room, which will leave *most* women focusing in one a very, very small group of men in a huge group of men. We see it in high-school and that guy sleeps with all of the girls. He follows his primarily sexual strategy, because he can get it in with no commitment. This feminist womanist stuff assumed off the bat, men and women are equal and both want the same things. Somewhere in the middle this is true, but at the margins this isn't true. Men at the margins are the ones the women pick and you dance to their tune, not the other way around. And that's confusing because all of the other men dance to your tune.
My mom was severely overprotective of me and my sister. She did everything she could to prevent me from having any interaction with women growing up. If she caught me talking to a female she would emasculate the hell out of me in front of them. As an 18 year old I had no idea how to even talk to females and was afraid to even try it. Messed me up real bad. She would often ask me why I wasn't dating anyone after I turned 18 like she didn't realize what she had done to me. Tossed me to the wolves with no idea how to survive. Luckily I joined the marines and moved away, that's where I learned how to interact with women. Married now but man I still have alot of bitterness about it all
Oh WAH. Nigerian, Alien, Purple, Snow..............please.
Of all the things he tell women, the proposing in 6 months be the ONLY thing they hear and comprehend.
They love hearing that proposal 🤣
Genius level understanding when its something they want. Everything else they deaf and blind
6 months is wayyyy too short in my opinion. Probably would turn me off or give red flags.. Atleast 1 or 2 years. I could be wrong but 6 months not it lol
@@theregoliisa8860 6 months is plenty of time if you're the type to walk at red flags. Many men wait until they are very negatively affected by the red flags they saw from the beginning. Learn to judge people properly and you will see the six months is just to see if you two can work together
I cringed when he said it.
Mr. Samuels, my initial thought of your second caller on this snippet is that she is trapped in her parents' mind control over her. Nigerian parents can be ridiculously strict and controlling. As I continued to listen to her, I found that her information doesn't add up. As controlling as I presumed her parents to be, I can't believe that this Nigerian daughter is not an over achiever. She may not have been telling you the absolute truth about her identity. She may be testing out her acting skills. 😉
Tcheiii.....lol!
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Lol. How the heck can you tell? You can't. She could easily be AA, Carribean, or whatever.
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 She looked Nigerian descent to me --I'm just good at things other people aren't
Most Nigerian women I know have Masters or Phd's and most are Doctors or Lawyers. She may be the underachiever in her family if 40 hours it too much.
@@JNRix1 You are correct about that stereotype. Notwithstanding, let's just say she is the under achiever...being raised in a two parent Nigerian home, she would be married by her age, if she is not in school. My guess, being born to Nigerian parents myself is that she is a smart young lady just testing her acting skills.
Daaaaamn I can't stand how they keep telling him everything but the answer to his questions. This man is light years ahead of his time
I never knew it was that hard to answer simple questions. Lol. Us women can be super manipulative
@@JustBree716 us brothers, too!! Lol sing em any song these ladies wanna hear
Ahead of his time? Lol then where would that put Patrice O’Neal?
@@santoryuu6807 also ahead of his time.
No everyone is behind
🤣🤣😂🤣Kevin: “No one is going to save you”!!!! “It’s time to grow up”!! “You need a job”! “You’re not good at this”!!!! Damn!
If the divorce rate is 50/50 and women initiate 70 percent of divorce, how will they be satisfied with a man they known for 6 months?
Thank you. First thing ive ever disagreed with. 6months?!?! Not w/out a bullet proof, air tight, iron clad, prenup!!
I was thinking that the first caller boyfriend was terrified about divorce and for a good reason
But hang on, how many of his callers have been in the relationship or marriage for 5 6 7 9 years and left it. There is probably stats to support not being married after 2 weeks or 2 months, but the figures on women leaving a relationship after 6 months or 10 years are probably very close.
Over 80% actually
@@lucytou of course a woman would say that. Statistics are there for a reason. Everyone has the same basic needs. What used to work in the past worked for a reason. Feminism has clearly taken its toll on marriage and relationships. Women leaving 80% of the time is doing whatever they feel already. 5 years in many states and you are already legally married if you’ve been living together
"Christians get it in".... Even Kevin had to laugh😂😂😂
I got really sad when I actually saw the 2nd caller's face, I could see the sadness in her eyes. She's trying to make it, she got grilled by Mr. Samuels. I pray she finds her way and gets her life together sooner than later.
She was seriously grilled! But I get it. She has to “wake up” but I know when she does she will become everything she wants to be
IT'S CALLED ACTING
@@Elizabeth-mf3dn she wasn't grilled she needed a reality check you women think that when you actually hear some reality that is being mean that's ridiculous if she listens her life will be better
She needs a reality check but I understand fully what she's going through. I am nigerian american and the generation that raised is has no idea how things operate socially in america and refused to adapt to raise their kids. There no such thing as boyfriend and girlfriend in our culture boys and girls are raised knowing their going to get married. A man knows who he wants to marry before the first date. But that's in Nigeria.
It’s not ‘grilled’ it’s called truth!
People call Kevin mean but someone needs to tell people like this 27 year old actress the truth. Her family and friends let her go through life like this.
Her folks DEFINITELY dropped the ball with her. They should of BEEN sat her down and gave her the talk that Kevin gave her.
Here's hoping she takes Kevin's advice.
Family wants to support. I guess no one wants to be the One who spoke negative or was a so called “hater” if she does eventually get her break. Yes she does need to wake all the way UP, but dreamers are just that Dreamers, and it’s hard to accept the truth. Prime example, American Idol. When that show first aired Simon was considered the worst. But he knew what he was talking about, and some people would rather lie to you with a smile on their face than to tell you to get your Monkey Behind up and get super real with yourself.
@@LA-wv7gf They dont care
The second caller is very relatable - I waited to date until I was 25 because I also grew up very sheltered. It was not important to me - my intuition told me to focus on my career, friends, and family. Now that I’m dating I’m learning A LOT very quickly.
After becoming a Muslim, there was no dating; I met my husband, we talk, and less than a week, we were married. People act like that’s crazy, well after twelve years and four children, I’d say otherwise. However, I was a HORRIBLE wife until I found Mr. Samuel’s video. Having the things told like a punch in the face helped me wake up. It's a Western woman thing. Unfortunately, it is creeping over to the East. The devil is out to reverse the roles of men & women, and this is why we see women acting as we do.
Stay healthy in wife hood god bless
So you were a horrible wife for 12 years until you found this channel?
@@jasminegrisson5847 Yes and no. Overall I was toxic, combative, aggressive, had my way or the highway mentally. But I did know I was wrong; I didn't need Mr. Samuels to tell me this since the Quran describes evil behaviors. However, what Mr. Samuel did was give the history of how Black women got to this point. History is a subject I love 💕. Now, with historical data, I had more than enough, and I deem myself an enemy.
In the Quran, there's an ayat interpreted as ‘ask those who know.’ the truth is the truth. Mr. Samuel doesn't know everything, but he knows what he is speaking about. I take what is beneficial and leave off what is not.
However, the beauty of Islam is that it's this information is there; over 1400 years ago, warning women reminding us of our natural, the good and evil. There's an entire surat titled An-Nisa’ (The Women).
Preach. It's that spirit of perversion destroying the natural order God set and humans eat it up.
Salam alaykum sis
I agree I think to not waste time is better. This channel has opened my eyes as well as a wife.
She seems depressed... I feel sorry for her but she needs to find some way to motivate herself
caller 2 - she sounds like a good woman, just was clueless. she was raised in a Nigerian manner, but she's american.
Yeah.
A good guidance from someone would be helpful.
She's not American she's a citizen of USA
She still foreign from Nigerian
@@dandan4132 cause her parents are directly from Nigeria
@@dandan4132 All people fron the united states have ancestors that moved there at some point.
He needs a button that says "Bruh" a lot of "Bruh" moments during this call
Some of this women need Kevin because they don't have a real relationship with they father.
"Christians get it in" that should be a short 😂
I can see why that 2nd caller got into dating relatively late. Trust me some parents from certain parts of the world put too much “fear of God” in their daughters and they end up at 27+ with no dating experience. But she definitely needs to buckle up and get her life going. Brave of her to call and be open with her situation on the air, tbh. So, good on her!
I think some of Kevin's responses leave no room for possibilities. I have no hope because I'm over 50, 5'6 153lbs, attractive, and learning to be better. I can definitely call him Godfather because he speaks harsh truth.
My parents were super strict.. I maintained a respectable reputation... But I turned up and out at 27.. I made it through safely.. Thank God . whew..😅
Second caller Kevin just basically Raised a whole Teenager 😂😂😂😂
Yea, it was wild
This 27 year old 'actress' is a sad story. It's incredible that she's 27 and doesn't know about real life. SMH
Some of that are lies. Doesn't make sense
6 months lol no wonder you had 2 divorces my brother ...
I don’t agree that you actually get married in 6 months, but I think most guys know within 6 months!
@@Aggie4life77 Depends on your maturity / age.
6 months to get engaged. I think. Kind of quick for me too. People can act for 6 months. You need to go through all the holidays once or twice imo. Lol
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The Dog Star is Sirrius.
Its spoken about in many ancient histories concerning the origin of our progenitors. Mayan, Dogon, Egyptian, Sumerian/Old Testament. Im 52 yrs old and have plenty of Nigerian friends. You are postulating the wrong-headed idea that many African/African Americans have that they can confidently tell the difference between an African American and an African, ESPECIALLY a second generation (+) African. People's appearances are greatly affected by environment and mentality you know. Are you aware of that?
In short, you would have never known she was of Nigerian ancestry if she didn't share that info. I wasn't trying to be disrespectful. Its just cute or sad how this erroneous idea is so widely held. I've heard it and tested people to try to guess the backgrounds and tell who's African. Everyone who thinks they can do it has failed when put to the test in real life. My Nigerian acquaintances swear out I look like a Yoruba or Ibo when they meet me because I don't carry myself in "typical" AA manner. My DNA report says 27% Nigerian. Lol. Where do you think AA come from sis?
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 She looked Nigerian descent to me. Period.
Disagree with Kevin on this one- even if you're born in America, if your parents come from a different country then the likelihood is high that you will grow up between American culture but still heavily influenced by the native culture of your parents as well.
It doesn't just melt away because the couple immigrated to the United States and of course that's how they will raise their children as well.
Idk about that. Most of the Africans I know, the differences were superficial when they were born here. Colleges also call traditional African culture toxic which only accelerates the rebellion
@@canibezeroun1988 I do know about it, I'm speaking from firsthand experience and the experience of hundreds of other first generation people as well.
100% agree, african parents raise you how they were raised in africa. It's ingrained in them.
I think women tend to ignore red flags for far too long, thus fault moves toward them too
Yup, they tend to delay breaking up by trying to rationalize the red flags, giving themselves a reason not to leave. I think women feel they can change a man instead of coming to terms with reality.. The change is up to them, not you.
Where tf they at because the first red flag I do I get immediately get blocked and gave up on no matter what I did with no explanation
The second caller , You can tell she has to find herself and what she wants in life before she can even think about dating . Those who don’t know/love themselves , tend to either ruin the life of another or they let that person come in and use/ abuse them mentally. I pray for her and that she surrounds herself with individuals that will aid in her growth in a positive way. Kevin definitely gave her the talk that she needed . let’s hope that fuels her to do/want better out of life. ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
The 2nd caller is, a house wife
However, she’s conflicted by black female culture & wanting DIRECTION/HUSBAND.
I totally agree
Yeah she reminds me of my wife of 8 years now. Even though I met her when she was 19 and I was 24, she needed guidance but she's everything a husband/man needs in a wife/woman.
Daryl Richardson ... totally agree. Someone should wife her up. She just need a husband with leadership skills.
Even she sounds immature I swear I can take her as a wife.
I’ve got a young lady & she’s like an child. I’ve brought her, her 1st pair of heels & dresses. There’s HORRIBLE MOTHERS out there & she can’t even walk in the heels. I love her to death
Poor lil tink🤦🏾♀️ most Nigerians install independence, school, or entrepreneurship into their children! I’m kind of shocked 😳
I think it’s because she has an artistic soul - I would know 😅😅 but I’m sure when she “wakes up” she can achieve great things
@@Elizabeth-mf3dn yes she seems like a sweet girl, hopefully you’re rt, because this world will chew & spit her out eventually...😞
That's why people are calling it an act.
When you said, "you suck at this." She gone cry when you hang up, oh she gone cry when you hang up.🤣🤣🤣😭🤷🏿♂️
And that is so funny, ffffoool?
In the first 1 or 2 months, women should be able to see if the guy is serious about marriage or a committed relationship.
She stayed way too long.
@Big Will We should not conflate "knowing someone" with "knowing their intentions". In other words, she might not be the right "product" for a man, but she must ascertain that he is in the market to "buy" and not for endless "sampling". Beyond that, the time frame is subjective and arguable. The main thing is the intentions. Stay blessed.
There some truth in this. A man knows when you're the one.
Ike Ogiamien facts
Ike Ogiamien 💯
Ike Ogiamien right on 🙌🏽
I absolutely applaud Kevin for advocating for therapy, it is so needed. I got therapy and my husband got therapy for himself and it was such a blessing.
I completely agree with his timeline from dating to marriage. Im pretty young right now, 23, and even I would not give a man 2+ years to figure out if he wants to get married. I want to become a wife and mother in my prime, and I dont have a lot of time left to do that.
Agree or disagree with his point on marriage isn't the important point you should take from this.
Everyman will know what they want. Fact. It might be just some fun, casual, serious, marriage and kids - a pump 'n' dump. If he is indecisive, he's a weak man, or pulling the wool over your eyes.
The ONLY way i would marry before 2 years, is if she signed an air-tight, bullet-proof, prenuptial!!
Good mentality to have considering your goal of marrying in your prime, which ends at circa 28 for most women.
This said, your terms and condition might mean you might need to expand the age scope of men you date to much older ones. Maybe up to 40 year old men.
I would never advice any son of mine to marry in his 20s. He needs to be enjoying as much women as possible during that age. He should marry when he is 34+.
Plot Twist: The Nigerian Actor is creating an Auditioning Portfolio. It's all staged.
Auditioning for what, porn? Because that's the intro to countless skin flicks.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm sorry but...
when you are african your household is african too, the people you value are african, you don't need to be born or live in Nigeria to be Nigerian.
That poor thing.. she should be a house wife. She needs the leadership of a man she is not raised to be a career women ..
I thought the same thing , an older sister wife to help her mature , gain self awareness & protect her . Older man , yes but not by older later thirties , early forties. With money so she can travel & see the world . She needs looking out for ! She's not in the streets she just needs guidance. I pray she's well .
@@luludear1209 totally agree
The second caller is actually sad. She really needs therapy. Her parents really messed her up. She doesn't even need to think about a man right now.
I think she's hiding something. People who keeps switching jobs she probably likes to party.
@@KNByam
That's not necessarily true. Before my man got comfortable in the job he's at now, he was notorious for searching out and finding other companies to work for. He would get fed up and know that he could find better. And he did. It didn't have anything to do with partying.
I personally don't see a point in me getting married in today's society
Dating either..not seriously
Thank you for this enhanced audio.
You don’t even know a woman in 6 months
@Hope Love there are too many chameleons to marry within a year. This isn't good advice. Can trust be built in that time?
Right. 2 bad periods later you wonder who you met.
Hope Love I agree with this. Young people don’t realize that once you get over 30, you can date forever lol! You would be wasting too much precious time. Just spend time together, go on a vacation together, stay at each others place. 6 months to a year, you know what’s up!
@wooferjay W it's all about how you pick your partner.
@wooferjay W I agree but It depends on your age. My sister got married six months after she met her husband. My cousin did the same
As a married man for 7 years.... can’t say that I agree with 6 months or less.... females good at keeping that representative as the face. Especially if they going after a man of value
Bro this cut deep for me 🙁
I'm 25 and I have a miserable job paying me $10 an hour and still living with mom. No college. This is a wake up call for me too cause I really feel like I don't have anything to offer yet and I never realized that I really am running out of time. I know its no excuse but it's hard to get out of the poor zone but I need to really push myself this year. I know I can do it...
Wish you the best…remember it starts with the mind
You have nothing to lose
The Lord will bless you exceedingly and abundantly above all you can ask or think in Jesus name.
Noticing things is the first step. All that needs to be done now is a plan to put yourself in a predicament that is satisfying to you.
@@Aniontedone ...no he wont
We all need this type of tough love in life. A diamond starts as a coal then through high pressure and high temperature it becomes a shiny bright diamond everyone loves. Kevin’s techniques are at times high pressure and for good reason. Grateful to have had someone speaking the truth.
Damn he laid into that 2nd girl 😂. All she had to do was get a consistent job with guaranteed pay and act on the side. She only been acting for 2 years, gotta put in at least 4 of small roles before you get a lead in even a small movie
Yes! That’s exactly what she needs to do
She was living in a fantasy world and time is not on her side
Marriage is easy to get but can be hard to get out. too many games nowadays people aren't in it for the long haul it is destroyed at the root in America. You need to find someone that is fundamentally on the same path as you.
@Hope Love and if you're both engaged in careers that are time hungry you will not be able to properly vet someone in 6 months.
@Hope Love so by that timetable you would just call it a day (according to Mr Samuels!).
@SpankBuda There are no amicable divorces. No matter how cool people say they are everyone will try to get the most with least amount of impact. When you’re talking retirement ,money property support it gets nasty. I have seen people go for property the other spouse had before they met. Which makes it a knock down drag out fight with many rounds and shots fired. That coined phrase it is cheaper to keep her\him in some cases is spot on.
@SpankBuda I guess we will agree todisagree on this one. The Russell and Bruce are bad examples number 1 Russell was messing with Kimora when she was under age. I remember when he first put her on the video show so Russell wouldn’t want no drama and well No comment on Jenner\ Kate. Both Not norms. With the Divorces I know that dragged on was also about revenge especially if one has moved on. I stand by the statement. If anyone is getting ready or going through a divorce lawyer up and prepare to do battle.
@SpankBuda I stand by the statement. Can some people be friends afterwards yeah some have to work together for kids sake. Using stars as a reference point is not a true representation of fact because we dont know the true inside story and they have publicity reps and such.
I'm a widower but when I met my late wife she was 28 and told me she was looking to get married within 1 year. She said to me that she can not waste time dating for no reason. We agreed dated and got married in about 9 months.
Sorry for your loss and I hope you at least had a happy marriage even if it was cut short
@@joimumu thank you
That awkward Nigerian sounds like my type ngl
I'll say this. I LOVE MY WIFE. I proposed at about the 8mo mark. We're still married (approaching 5 years in) and pushing this loaded cart forward.
DON'T DO IT THAT WAY lol.
Build the relationship in a way that fits the growth trajectory of BOTH individuals. The biggest and scariest commitment of love that two people could EVER make to each other, aside from having a family together, is to GO TO COUNSELING TOGETHER.
Fellas, if you're SERIOUSLY looking for a wife and think you've found a woman that checks the initial boxes, invite her to a therapy session. If she's reluctant, and not excited, MOVE HER ASS AROUND. Ladies, this is something you can encourage too! Either you want to bear your naked truths and grow together or you don't. Anyone that's dating and hasn't creatively or constructively tried to get to know the person deep down within is a person that is eager to crank the jack for a surprise...Over and over again. There is great nourishment in honesty. People don't wanna know the truth about THEMSELVES a lot of times though...So, they fail one another in the end.
DON'T FAIL EACH OTHER. Take whatever time is necessary and BE CONSISTENT in your pursuit of health TOGETHER. You'll never fail if you ALWAYS care.
When I hear these stories it makes you realize that life is not that bad after all.
I have a home that’s been married three times that constantly tells us we should be marrying women within a year of meeting them. My response to him is always “How well did that work for you?” Lol. Marriage doesn’t seem to be something you go into hastily. Time does guarantee success of it but marrying fast doesn’t either. Marriage is a crap shoot. Ain’t no guarantees.
I did feel a bit sorry for the second caller, the Nigerian woman. Shes socially awkward yet but that isnt a sin and I think she is just struggling with the artists complex and trying to find her way in the material world that doesnt always value that type of personality or pursuit. I ended up becoming a successful photographer but it took me awhile to find my way.
The Nigerian girl sounds respectful and nice but she is very immature damn
The second caller needed that reality check.
You can tell KS feels bad for alot of the younger women he talks to that aren’t really taking their life seriously but THINK they do. Some people would say he’s too harsh, but how he dealt with the second woman that called showed his patience.
'You live in California, you can't afford to dream.'
The Mamas and the Papas.
I’m married but it’s no way on earth I would have married my wife in 6 months. Sounds great and makes sense for woman not to waste time as my wife and I discussed while watching vids but that’s faaaar to early. Now after a year of living together this makes sense but who meets a woman and moves them in 6 months later? The earliest I would marry if I was looking would be 2 years. Marriage is huge and life long for me. Getting things right and building our dream home takes longer than 6 months, and that’s just bricks and design. I do agree for woman though. I’d tell my daughter the same. Even though they won’t follow it exactly they shouldn’t be too far off. 7 years is outrageous. She killed her high market value time. Salute
1st caller: You can tell the next man is gonna have to pay for her past mistakes and the actions of the guy in the story