I was the first caller and appreciate the conversation I had with Kevin. It may be too late but I’ll never make the same mistake again. I will get my butt in therapy although I feel I’ve healed. But I will do better next time!
Met my wife at 23 she was 22, asked her after 5 months to marry me. We lasted 11 years before I lost her to cancer. Waited 2 years to get life in order, met a new woman and was married in 6 months, been married for 9 years. Men that want to married act on it first, no playing around, no games. I am 44 now and I am already teaching my 13 year old son how it is supposed to work with women and most importantly family legacy, continuing the family name.
Maybe u lucky u met good women. But getting married in 5months doesn't work for everyone. Same as getting married in 7yrs. Women these days are capricious. I won't propose in 5months only to divorce 2yrs later. This approach can work in d olden days where women were submissive and most marriages were even arranged
@@yourlandladysson6395 You have to travel, not just travel throughout this country but travel abroad. Once you meet women outside your bubble and by bubble meaning a 250mile radius you will change your mind.
@kanuk the hunter You have to travel, get out and see the country if you can't travel abroad yet. Enterprise rent a car for a week and just go. One thing people have a misconception of is that you need a lot of money to travel, you really don't if you plan it right. I was 20 years old in Cali my self at one time and drove my busted car at the time through 15 states over a two week period just to see the country and meet people. You have to start young.
@kanuk the hunter great now it's time to experience the other 195 countries in the world and you will completely see a different type of woman than you see here in the U.S. I have only been to 17 of them but there is a vast difference in the women, how they look, how they behave, how the interact socially and how they are raised. Grab a globe, spin it and put your finger on a country, save for it and go check it out, you will see what I am talking about. My wife is Australian, I found her in a small town south of Sydney during a visit for work. If you don't want to deal with the women in the U.S. there are plenty of women elsewhere that will.
@@2Tall03XX not being humble doesn't necessarily mean bad person, I know loads of nice Nigerians and I even used to attend a Nigerian church. Humble is not a thing unless it's to your pastor or parents
Girl:My dad passed away Kevin:I'm gonna be ya daddy for 20 minutes Kevin is the G.O.A.T. He is so passionate about what he does and has a wealth of knowledge.
I'm a married man and I have to disagree with the proposal time line. There are too many risks involved to make a decision that quickly. I always advise guys to get married on YOUR time line, not hers.
I think marriage should absolutely be discussed in 2 years if the woman expresses she wants children. In the perspective of a woman who wants to start a family in her younger, years of time are essential. For men it’s never too late and for MOTHERS (not girls and lazy women) it’s never too soon.
Hmm. What makes you think these women are really picking the wrong men? Perhaps they’re picking those type of men because they share the same ideals and values as those men hence why they naturally don’t click with a man who has a good head on his shoulders. Not all women are naive damsels in distress. Some people willingly pick their poison as they themselves are poisonous.
@@QUNYC7 Oh most def bro I'm with you on that. I'm just driving home the point as to why some women make these poor choices. I don't believe that if they picked a good dude that it would be cool. They'd just bring drama and strife into that dude's life. That's because they're about strife and drama from the jump. Thus being a match with the so called "bad boy" who's also filled with strife and drama. She's just a "bad girl." This is an aspect of the game I think is often overlooked & not considered when these discussions come up. Why, I don't know. But it does come off as some dudes wishing they had a shot with such a woman when in reality, her rejection could in fact be God's protection for that dude. Not everything that glitters is in fact gold.
It's sad, the fact of the matter is she'll end up on the streets or in an abusive relationship... she's been given no life skills, but she has a degree tho... crazy
That's understandable. But still not an excuse for adult and capable young lady to sit without a job, especially with a loan debt on her hands. Unless, of course she'll find a decent and caring husband, who will provide for her and her future children. And i sincerely wish her best luck with that. But until she's in such position - taking care about herself shall be a top priority.
She's going to be in for a rude awakening if her mom dies. I don't know her but I'm scared for her. Sis better learn how to braid some hair or something!
The Nigerian woman was severely sheltered throughout her life. She seems extremely respectful, feminine and cute. She definitely needs guidance. I wish her well.
Other culture would have accepted her and her innocence but in the America society she is being shamed! There’s nothing wrong with living with your mother! Or not having much of dating scene.
@@halimomoremoney1292 Her mother and that culture is wrong for doing that to her. Her problems are far worse then being innocent. She has no social skills and comes off as the female version of an incel. She needs to grow up and become a functioning adult like 7 years ago
@@halimomoremoney1292 perhaps, but in other cultures they would not have permitted her to be an actress, and they would either have her married, or be working on getting her married. She has to choose, be traditional and get married, or try to be the college graduate and actress but adjust to the culture around her.
Your right, he's not negative. He talks to people like he's their father or uncle that will give it to you straight with no chaser. And that's exactly what these people need.
Daddy never taught her anything about men. She is actually common in women whom were over sheltered. They don't have much experience and are scared to get any
I was crying listening to the Nigerian girl! I definitely understand where she is coming from. A lot of young women with African parents have crippled dating lives - it may sound like an excuse but it’s a real thing! Young girls not being allowed to date and then are thrown into the dating world at 24 with zero skills! I wanted to cry just listening to her. Kevin is honestly the father some of us need!
@@AH-ph3cb The reality is, it doesn't help that nobody teaches you about men and nobody teaches you about your own nature either. Female hypergamous filters will eliminate most men in a room, which will leave *most* women focusing in one a very, very small group of men in a huge group of men. We see it in high-school and that guy sleeps with all of the girls. He follows his primarily sexual strategy, because he can get it in with no commitment. This feminist womanist stuff assumed off the bat, men and women are equal and both want the same things. Somewhere in the middle this is true, but at the margins this isn't true. Men at the margins are the ones the women pick and you dance to their tune, not the other way around. And that's confusing because all of the other men dance to your tune.
My mom was severely overprotective of me and my sister. She did everything she could to prevent me from having any interaction with women growing up. If she caught me talking to a female she would emasculate the hell out of me in front of them. As an 18 year old I had no idea how to even talk to females and was afraid to even try it. Messed me up real bad. She would often ask me why I wasn't dating anyone after I turned 18 like she didn't realize what she had done to me. Tossed me to the wolves with no idea how to survive. Luckily I joined the marines and moved away, that's where I learned how to interact with women. Married now but man I still have alot of bitterness about it all
Thank God your honest. I have on my bio on my dating page my expectations and i bring them up around the 1st or 2nd date. Yes i want to get married and no I'm not having yo baby😀
My experience has been I’ve told women this exact thing, or “I’m not looking for a relationship”, they say ok or that they understand them two weeks later it’s “So what are we doing?” I think a lot of women think they can change a man’s mind or be the woman that changes his mind. I also think when they do that is extremely disingenuous.
Awww I have to admit when I saw the second caller in a sad state, I have to admit I felt a bit sad for her; but I am glad Kevin spoke to her the way he did. She needs to someone to tell her that life is not fair and it spares not the weak. She has to be strong as possible and not feel sorry for herself. Just keep on praying sis, but also do your best to remain strong in all circumstances,
What I can confirm on today my 11th Anniversary is that Kevin is 100% correct. For an ADULT male 6 to 9 months to proposal is all thats needed. I engaged my wife with the little money we had 9 months in to our relationship. Would have been 6 if I had the money at 6 months. 2 Kids, 2 Great Careers, and a whole lot of traveling and love later we look forward to more life together in the future.
@@Corazanaoro I hate to hear that BUT I watched my mother suffer for 20 years so I Know first hand it can be a prison for some. I hope you also experience the good side of it if you decide to get married again✊🏿
I'm a Nigerian and I can relate to that lady Many nigerian parents are notorious for sheltering their children and being extremely controlling in their children's lives...They tell their girl child to stay away from boys until she's done with uni..I literally have to hide my relationships from my parents...i think her parents wanted to bring her up like that even while in the states...They've captured her mind, she can't even think for herself...has no experience at all..I hope she doesn't end up with someone shitty in the future
I'm Ghanaian guy and I can relate.. My sister had similar experience.. African parents aren't good at raising their daughters.. It's a fact unfortunately
@@leanprogrammer I agree with you bro I live in Australia am Congolese actually am succeeding in my business and I found a Kenyan girl who I was trying to date but the parents was like no she need to finish her Uni first and I’ve seen this almost in all African parents that mentality is very unhealthy to teach our sisters about life they end up with a degree but are very immature in every line of life .
Im American my Woman is Nigerian and what you said sounds exaclty like she says and acts she seems very very shelterned. I would love to learn the culture any pointers/adivce
He really had a father-daughter type of discussion with her and it really struck home! She needed that! Very naive and inexperienced for her age. Hopefully she'll take his advice and grow up. She's not ready for a man, she needs to work on her first
I call my wife out on that all the time. I stop her with YES or NO. They can’t help it. It’s just who they are. Once you understand a woman’s nature, life is less stressful.
Answering directly is something accountable ppl do...many women want to do what they want and they want to explain why they did it hoping that explanation will change what it is...
You were lucky to have that feeling on that first date and actually got married. I had that feeling with a girl on a first date as well but started knowing her after that first date and realized that although she was a good person she wasn't a good person for me
2 years should be the minimum time frame for a marriage proposal in today’s dating market. She can’t pretend to be a good woman for that long if she really isn’t 💯🥦💯
The second caller is very relatable - I waited to date until I was 25 because I also grew up very sheltered. It was not important to me - my intuition told me to focus on my career, friends, and family. Now that I’m dating I’m learning A LOT very quickly.
I got really sad when I actually saw the 2nd caller's face, I could see the sadness in her eyes. She's trying to make it, she got grilled by Mr. Samuels. I pray she finds her way and gets her life together sooner than later.
@@Elizabeth-mf3dn she wasn't grilled she needed a reality check you women think that when you actually hear some reality that is being mean that's ridiculous if she listens her life will be better
She needs a reality check but I understand fully what she's going through. I am nigerian american and the generation that raised is has no idea how things operate socially in america and refused to adapt to raise their kids. There no such thing as boyfriend and girlfriend in our culture boys and girls are raised knowing their going to get married. A man knows who he wants to marry before the first date. But that's in Nigeria.
The second lady is possibly suffering from major depression, she really needs to do counseling. If her issue is psychiatric, this situation might be out of Kevin's scope.
@@popa213 but she could if she works on herself n that’s what Kevin is getting at. She shouldn’t be dating at all. She should be getting her life together than date while she got time left but that won’t happen with a high school girl mentality like hers
@@JamalMack some stuff can’t be fixed like that. Just think about the many of women who at least try to change and then think about the very small few that actually do.
I absolutely applaud Kevin for advocating for therapy, it is so needed. I got therapy and my husband got therapy for himself and it was such a blessing.
After becoming a Muslim, there was no dating; I met my husband, we talk, and less than a week, we were married. People act like that’s crazy, well after twelve years and four children, I’d say otherwise. However, I was a HORRIBLE wife until I found Mr. Samuel’s video. Having the things told like a punch in the face helped me wake up. It's a Western woman thing. Unfortunately, it is creeping over to the East. The devil is out to reverse the roles of men & women, and this is why we see women acting as we do.
@@jasminegrisson5847 Yes and no. Overall I was toxic, combative, aggressive, had my way or the highway mentally. But I did know I was wrong; I didn't need Mr. Samuels to tell me this since the Quran describes evil behaviors. However, what Mr. Samuel did was give the history of how Black women got to this point. History is a subject I love 💕. Now, with historical data, I had more than enough, and I deem myself an enemy. In the Quran, there's an ayat interpreted as ‘ask those who know.’ the truth is the truth. Mr. Samuel doesn't know everything, but he knows what he is speaking about. I take what is beneficial and leave off what is not. However, the beauty of Islam is that it's this information is there; over 1400 years ago, warning women reminding us of our natural, the good and evil. There's an entire surat titled An-Nisa’ (The Women).
We all need this type of tough love in life. A diamond starts as a coal then through high pressure and high temperature it becomes a shiny bright diamond everyone loves. Kevin’s techniques are at times high pressure and for good reason. Grateful to have had someone speaking the truth.
Dear Vazquez, you, me and others must see "through the lines". If today's women don't have values, decent personality, feminine, caring and loving, what makes you think Mr. Vazquez, that divorce won't keep going up? Guys need and must awaken. We are so easily fooled by Jezebel's ways.
@Raphie Stegall yea sure.. I'm going to prove myself to a person named Raphie. Dont call me dear. I dont know you and Raphie is not a women's name.. No.H.
@Raphie Stegall no baby mama. Ever. And I'm not miserable. The reason I dont want to be married...oh forget it.. thanks for letting me know you are a woman. I will reserve my comments and not waste my time...Have a good night Raphaela and good luck in life.
@Raphie Stegall apology accepted. Fyi, a lot of men want to be married. Even I thought about it in the past.. Unfortunately, today's woman (some) have been fooled by feminism and the good women are hiding or joining the feminism army.. it's a loose/loose for everyone.. R u in New York?
With her sweetness I think she’d make good $ waitressing/serving in the high end restaurant industry! It’s a little known secret 🤫 she may even snag a hubby..
Mr. Samuels, my initial thought of your second caller on this snippet is that she is trapped in her parents' mind control over her. Nigerian parents can be ridiculously strict and controlling. As I continued to listen to her, I found that her information doesn't add up. As controlling as I presumed her parents to be, I can't believe that this Nigerian daughter is not an over achiever. She may not have been telling you the absolute truth about her identity. She may be testing out her acting skills. 😉
@@JNRix1 You are correct about that stereotype. Notwithstanding, let's just say she is the under achiever...being raised in a two parent Nigerian home, she would be married by her age, if she is not in school. My guess, being born to Nigerian parents myself is that she is a smart young lady just testing her acting skills.
People call Kevin mean but someone needs to tell people like this 27 year old actress the truth. Her family and friends let her go through life like this.
Her folks DEFINITELY dropped the ball with her. They should of BEEN sat her down and gave her the talk that Kevin gave her. Here's hoping she takes Kevin's advice.
Family wants to support. I guess no one wants to be the One who spoke negative or was a so called “hater” if she does eventually get her break. Yes she does need to wake all the way UP, but dreamers are just that Dreamers, and it’s hard to accept the truth. Prime example, American Idol. When that show first aired Simon was considered the worst. But he knew what he was talking about, and some people would rather lie to you with a smile on their face than to tell you to get your Monkey Behind up and get super real with yourself.
It doesn't matter in the sense of increasing her value to a man but in terms of supporting herself as an adult it is very necessary. She's just too naïve to understand the difference.
6 months is wayyyy too short in my opinion. Probably would turn me off or give red flags.. Atleast 1 or 2 years. I could be wrong but 6 months not it lol
@@theregoliisa8860 6 months is plenty of time if you're the type to walk at red flags. Many men wait until they are very negatively affected by the red flags they saw from the beginning. Learn to judge people properly and you will see the six months is just to see if you two can work together
That was good for her. She needs some practice. I am sure she is a smart young lady, but whew chile everybody with these dreams of being an actress when the star is so out of their reach. But keep hope alive.
@Hill Jimmy you're right. She needs a full 360 degree backup called Reality. Her wanting to be an actress should be the hobby until it really blossoms and she is getting constant gigs. She needs to get a "real" job/career and wake up and smell the coffee burning on the stove.
The second caller , You can tell she has to find herself and what she wants in life before she can even think about dating . Those who don’t know/love themselves , tend to either ruin the life of another or they let that person come in and use/ abuse them mentally. I pray for her and that she surrounds herself with individuals that will aid in her growth in a positive way. Kevin definitely gave her the talk that she needed . let’s hope that fuels her to do/want better out of life. ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
Yup, they tend to delay breaking up by trying to rationalize the red flags, giving themselves a reason not to leave. I think women feel they can change a man instead of coming to terms with reality.. The change is up to them, not you.
I can see why that 2nd caller got into dating relatively late. Trust me some parents from certain parts of the world put too much “fear of God” in their daughters and they end up at 27+ with no dating experience. But she definitely needs to buckle up and get her life going. Brave of her to call and be open with her situation on the air, tbh. So, good on her!
I think some of Kevin's responses leave no room for possibilities. I have no hope because I'm over 50, 5'6 153lbs, attractive, and learning to be better. I can definitely call him Godfather because he speaks harsh truth.
Yeah she reminds me of my wife of 8 years now. Even though I met her when she was 19 and I was 24, she needed guidance but she's everything a husband/man needs in a wife/woman.
I’ve got a young lady & she’s like an child. I’ve brought her, her 1st pair of heels & dresses. There’s HORRIBLE MOTHERS out there & she can’t even walk in the heels. I love her to death
But hang on, how many of his callers have been in the relationship or marriage for 5 6 7 9 years and left it. There is probably stats to support not being married after 2 weeks or 2 months, but the figures on women leaving a relationship after 6 months or 10 years are probably very close.
@@lucytou of course a woman would say that. Statistics are there for a reason. Everyone has the same basic needs. What used to work in the past worked for a reason. Feminism has clearly taken its toll on marriage and relationships. Women leaving 80% of the time is doing whatever they feel already. 5 years in many states and you are already legally married if you’ve been living together
I completely agree with his timeline from dating to marriage. Im pretty young right now, 23, and even I would not give a man 2+ years to figure out if he wants to get married. I want to become a wife and mother in my prime, and I dont have a lot of time left to do that.
Agree or disagree with his point on marriage isn't the important point you should take from this. Everyman will know what they want. Fact. It might be just some fun, casual, serious, marriage and kids - a pump 'n' dump. If he is indecisive, he's a weak man, or pulling the wool over your eyes.
Good mentality to have considering your goal of marrying in your prime, which ends at circa 28 for most women. This said, your terms and condition might mean you might need to expand the age scope of men you date to much older ones. Maybe up to 40 year old men. I would never advice any son of mine to marry in his 20s. He needs to be enjoying as much women as possible during that age. He should marry when he is 34+.
I’m married but it’s no way on earth I would have married my wife in 6 months. Sounds great and makes sense for woman not to waste time as my wife and I discussed while watching vids but that’s faaaar to early. Now after a year of living together this makes sense but who meets a woman and moves them in 6 months later? The earliest I would marry if I was looking would be 2 years. Marriage is huge and life long for me. Getting things right and building our dream home takes longer than 6 months, and that’s just bricks and design. I do agree for woman though. I’d tell my daughter the same. Even though they won’t follow it exactly they shouldn’t be too far off. 7 years is outrageous. She killed her high market value time. Salute
I was supposed to join the air force straight out of high school. Did everything. All I had left to do was get on the plane.. However, right before graduation, I met a guy and stayed home. We got married and I have never had to work a day in my life. He really loves me. I got lucky AF. Been together since 2002. One son on his way to college. ITS TIME FOR US TO TRAVEL NOW!! And he has always been an excellent provider. Im grateful and blessed.
"does money matter?" I literally had to stop what I was doing, pause the video, and drop into the comments section with my jaw hung open. some callers are almost....unbelievable. and Kevin's initial response was just perfect.
I'm a widower but when I met my late wife she was 28 and told me she was looking to get married within 1 year. She said to me that she can not waste time dating for no reason. We agreed dated and got married in about 9 months.
Disagree with Kevin on this one- even if you're born in America, if your parents come from a different country then the likelihood is high that you will grow up between American culture but still heavily influenced by the native culture of your parents as well. It doesn't just melt away because the couple immigrated to the United States and of course that's how they will raise their children as well.
Idk about that. Most of the Africans I know, the differences were superficial when they were born here. Colleges also call traditional African culture toxic which only accelerates the rebellion
Ladies and gentlemen, this whole episode was about Toughlove. I’ve seen many an episode and this is one of his best. This is not hostility or ridiculing… This is a reality check for both guests. The audacity of some women wanting to cancel the show when it gives some of the best advice that anyone could ask for… And it’s for free! Keep on Mr. Samuels!! I may not agree with everything you say, but more people should be thanking you than disparaging you
As a Nigerian I can relate to the second caller. Dating isn't easy for every one, I was very social throughout high school and college and constantly made myself available for dating. Didn't meet my first boyfriend until I was 25 and it was through Tinder! We are now happily married with a child on the way. It's different for everyone
As a married man for 7 years.... can’t say that I agree with 6 months or less.... females good at keeping that representative as the face. Especially if they going after a man of value
6 months to get engaged. I think. Kind of quick for me too. People can act for 6 months. You need to go through all the holidays once or twice imo. Lol
@ The Dog Star is Sirrius. Its spoken about in many ancient histories concerning the origin of our progenitors. Mayan, Dogon, Egyptian, Sumerian/Old Testament. Im 52 yrs old and have plenty of Nigerian friends. You are postulating the wrong-headed idea that many African/African Americans have that they can confidently tell the difference between an African American and an African, ESPECIALLY a second generation (+) African. People's appearances are greatly affected by environment and mentality you know. Are you aware of that? In short, you would have never known she was of Nigerian ancestry if she didn't share that info. I wasn't trying to be disrespectful. Its just cute or sad how this erroneous idea is so widely held. I've heard it and tested people to try to guess the backgrounds and tell who's African. Everyone who thinks they can do it has failed when put to the test in real life. My Nigerian acquaintances swear out I look like a Yoruba or Ibo when they meet me because I don't carry myself in "typical" AA manner. My DNA report says 27% Nigerian. Lol. Where do you think AA come from sis?
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@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 She looked Nigerian descent to me. Period.
@Big Will We should not conflate "knowing someone" with "knowing their intentions". In other words, she might not be the right "product" for a man, but she must ascertain that he is in the market to "buy" and not for endless "sampling". Beyond that, the time frame is subjective and arguable. The main thing is the intentions. Stay blessed.
We've been Married for 34 years, My Husband and I met and Married in 3 Months. I was 26 he was 32.....we knew and didn't waste time! Tahoe Wedding, we had 2 kids of our own (2 of his previous) 11 Grandchildren. God Bless you Kevin for speaking the Truth to these young Women! Love your Content, Respect your Classy Persona 🙏🏻God Bless you! You are doing such a great service to Men and Women!
I’m a shoot shawty from California some bail. As a Nigerian born and raised i am very familiar with Nigerian households even in America. It’s impossible to shake off that cultural influence.
You can tell KS feels bad for alot of the younger women he talks to that aren’t really taking their life seriously but THINK they do. Some people would say he’s too harsh, but how he dealt with the second woman that called showed his patience.
I'll say this. I LOVE MY WIFE. I proposed at about the 8mo mark. We're still married (approaching 5 years in) and pushing this loaded cart forward. DON'T DO IT THAT WAY lol. Build the relationship in a way that fits the growth trajectory of BOTH individuals. The biggest and scariest commitment of love that two people could EVER make to each other, aside from having a family together, is to GO TO COUNSELING TOGETHER. Fellas, if you're SERIOUSLY looking for a wife and think you've found a woman that checks the initial boxes, invite her to a therapy session. If she's reluctant, and not excited, MOVE HER ASS AROUND. Ladies, this is something you can encourage too! Either you want to bear your naked truths and grow together or you don't. Anyone that's dating and hasn't creatively or constructively tried to get to know the person deep down within is a person that is eager to crank the jack for a surprise...Over and over again. There is great nourishment in honesty. People don't wanna know the truth about THEMSELVES a lot of times though...So, they fail one another in the end. DON'T FAIL EACH OTHER. Take whatever time is necessary and BE CONSISTENT in your pursuit of health TOGETHER. You'll never fail if you ALWAYS care.
I've been with my girlfriend who is non American Filipino country girl after 6 months yes she is one... shes 29 and im 42. And she is the best thing ever for me
@@KNByam That's not necessarily true. Before my man got comfortable in the job he's at now, he was notorious for searching out and finding other companies to work for. He would get fed up and know that he could find better. And he did. It didn't have anything to do with partying.
I thought the same thing , an older sister wife to help her mature , gain self awareness & protect her . Older man , yes but not by older later thirties , early forties. With money so she can travel & see the world . She needs looking out for ! She's not in the streets she just needs guidance. I pray she's well .
Good video.She was the daughter of a very wealthy family,college educated,drop dead stunner..It was 6 months for me,as soon as she moved in,I soon discovered her secret coke addiction.I found her stuff anf flushed it,gave her the choice of therapy,or continue with her current marriage to her chemical glue and get out.She gave me the engagement ring back,(a 2 karat J quality blue diamond),and got out.It's been a minute since,and today on suit up saturday,I;m wearing a tailored yellow Brioni custom suit,high collar 3 button frrench cuff shirt,neon blue silk tie,and Milano monk straps,looking sharp and antennaes up.Thanks for you inspiration
Good call. Can't stay with an addict. It's living with a vampire, and when your last drop of blood is gone, he (or she) will throw your dry husk on a trash heap and head out into the night (and the streets) in search of fresh victims...
For then second caller... I believe they call that tough love. The people around her had 27 years to tell her what Kevin broke down in 20 mins. I wish her the best
I agree with Kevin. I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 30 on 12/08/93. We got married on 02/25/94. We will be celebrating our 27th anniversary next month. My sister met her husband in 09/90 and she married him in 12/90. The just celebrated their 30th anniversary. My parents met in 1969 and they were married a little over a year later. It would have been sooner but my dad got stationed to Korea. All three men knew within a month that we were the one. This is not to rush anyone but these are just examples. I always tell young men, if you are not ready for marriage don’t let anyone force you into marriage but at the same time don’t string a woman along. Kevin is right 7 years is insane but the blame falls on a woman.
I have a home that’s been married three times that constantly tells us we should be marrying women within a year of meeting them. My response to him is always “How well did that work for you?” Lol. Marriage doesn’t seem to be something you go into hastily. Time does guarantee success of it but marrying fast doesn’t either. Marriage is a crap shoot. Ain’t no guarantees.
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I was the first caller and appreciate the conversation I had with Kevin. It may be too late but I’ll never make the same mistake again. I will get my butt in therapy although I feel I’ve healed. But I will do better next time!
No such thing as too late.
Much respect. Sista. Kai.... keeping growing and progressing. ❤️✌️✌️
Meant to say keep.
You are beautiful
Hi Kai. You’re very attractive!
Met my wife at 23 she was 22, asked her after 5 months to marry me. We lasted 11 years before I lost her to cancer. Waited 2 years to get life in order, met a new woman and was married in 6 months, been married for 9 years. Men that want to married act on it first, no playing around, no games. I am 44 now and I am already teaching my 13 year old son how it is supposed to work with women and most importantly family legacy, continuing the family name.
Thank God - a good father teaching his son the importance of family legacy. 👏🏻
Maybe u lucky u met good women. But getting married in 5months doesn't work for everyone. Same as getting married in 7yrs. Women these days are capricious. I won't propose in 5months only to divorce 2yrs later. This approach can work in d olden days where women were submissive and most marriages were even arranged
@@yourlandladysson6395 You have to travel, not just travel throughout this country but travel abroad. Once you meet women outside your bubble and by bubble meaning a 250mile radius you will change your mind.
@kanuk the hunter You have to travel, get out and see the country if you can't travel abroad yet. Enterprise rent a car for a week and just go. One thing people have a misconception of is that you need a lot of money to travel, you really don't if you plan it right. I was 20 years old in Cali my self at one time and drove my busted car at the time through 15 states over a two week period just to see the country and meet people. You have to start young.
@kanuk the hunter great now it's time to experience the other 195 countries in the world and you will completely see a different type of woman than you see here in the U.S. I have only been to 17 of them but there is a vast difference in the women, how they look, how they behave, how the interact socially and how they are raised. Grab a globe, spin it and put your finger on a country, save for it and go check it out, you will see what I am talking about. My wife is Australian, I found her in a small town south of Sydney during a visit for work. If you don't want to deal with the women in the U.S. there are plenty of women elsewhere that will.
The Nigerian Woman, is obviously very respectful and humble, I wish her well.
Hell yeah 27 year old black virgin yea she behind but fact is SHES PURE!! Like PURE PURE!!! I wish her the best and hope the man she gets understands
Nigerian women are taught to be humble
@@2Tall03XX hahahah they usually aren't lool
@@Divinatonio you ain’t been around the right ones
@@2Tall03XX not being humble doesn't necessarily mean bad person, I know loads of nice Nigerians and I even used to attend a Nigerian church. Humble is not a thing unless it's to your pastor or parents
Kevin is honestly a father to all these women. They all need to be grateful for him. You could really feel the love from the second caller.
🤣🤣🤣 you think black woman would listen to anyone's advice!? Heck their own biological parents can't reach them.
That is why he is called the Godfather
I agree.
Well said
He keep it blatantly hones and thats the best you can do for anybody.
He's telling the truth! My husband proposed within 60 days and we were married 7 months after meeting. Just celebrated 17 years together :)
🙏🏽
Girl:My dad passed away
Kevin:I'm gonna be ya daddy for 20 minutes
Kevin is the G.O.A.T. He is so passionate about what he does and has a wealth of knowledge.
Yeah...This is that much needed, Mature, wise Perspective.
@@UnexpectedWonder I couldn't do it. You can tell he was disappointed. I would pull my hair out dealing with some of the callers he deals with.
Wow this second caller need to grow up, so Sad Parents this is why we need to stop babysitting our kids , don’t Handicap your children’s life Please
Funny thing is, most of their fathers are alive!
I'm a married man and I have to disagree with the proposal time line. There are too many risks involved to make a decision that quickly. I always advise guys to get married on YOUR time line, not hers.
Jerome D. 🎯
@@memcrew1 You just made me feel alot better thank you
Well said!
I think marriage should absolutely be discussed in 2 years if the woman expresses she wants children. In the perspective of a woman who wants to start a family in her younger, years of time are essential. For men it’s never too late and for MOTHERS (not girls and lazy women) it’s never too soon.
@@msi8311 that's fair enough but 6 months?...nooooo
"Does money matter?"
"Are you fucking kidding me?"
Lmao
@Kano they’ll say he was mean for cursing 😂
That actually pissed me off. How fucking clueless can one be?
Hilarious 😂 🤣😂😂😂😂
She's wild
@Great Scott -- It matters for they want in a husband though.
“Ok let me talk to you, lean in a little bit”
Slap slap, slap slap, slap slap
I’m dead 😂😂
I'm dead dead dead dead lol
🤣🤣🤣
Every one of those connected flush
i slapped the taste outta her mouth too 💀
my dad frfr...
Women give their best years to men they know isn't good for them; then expect a high value or high earning man to save them.. GTFOH!!
Exactly happened to my younger sister now she's a single mom
Hmm. What makes you think these women are really picking the wrong men? Perhaps they’re picking those type of men because they share the same ideals and values as those men hence why they naturally don’t click with a man who has a good head on his shoulders. Not all women are naive damsels in distress. Some people willingly pick their poison as they themselves are poisonous.
@@watitduful Check the stats.. Its evident that BW make poor choices in the men they choose to be with.
@@QUNYC7 Oh most def bro I'm with you on that. I'm just driving home the point as to why some women make these poor choices. I don't believe that if they picked a good dude that it would be cool. They'd just bring drama and strife into that dude's life. That's because they're about strife and drama from the jump. Thus being a match with the so called "bad boy" who's also filled with strife and drama. She's just a "bad girl."
This is an aspect of the game I think is often overlooked & not considered when these discussions come up. Why, I don't know. But it does come off as some dudes wishing they had a shot with such a woman when in reality, her rejection could in fact be God's protection for that dude. Not everything that glitters is in fact gold.
@@watitduful Facts!
The second caller is terrified smh she has no clue about life.
She's pretty, feminine, looks to be in shape. She just needs to mature some and she'll be a prized catch.
She is definitely petrified of life
And thats hiw she will destroy any m who fails victim. Her type will wake tommorrow and think she deserves more.
It's sad, the fact of the matter is she'll end up on the streets or in an abusive relationship... she's been given no life skills, but she has a degree tho... crazy
that's what happened when these kids have been sheltered
The young caller became her mom's roommate after her father died. They're both needing each other to survive. Sad. 😩
That's understandable. But still not an excuse for adult and capable young lady to sit without a job, especially with a loan debt on her hands.
Unless, of course she'll find a decent and caring husband, who will provide for her and her future children. And i sincerely wish her best luck with that. But until she's in such position - taking care about herself shall be a top priority.
She's going to be in for a rude awakening if her mom dies. I don't know her but I'm scared for her. Sis better learn how to braid some hair or something!
I can see if she was taking care of her mom but she isn't
That's why girls need to lock down a man when they're in their early 20s.
Someone get me her Number.... I'll Do right be her and moms real life lmaoo
The Nigerian woman was severely sheltered throughout her life. She seems extremely respectful, feminine and cute. She definitely needs guidance. I wish her well.
Extremely sheltered
How do you know she was cute I didn’t see a picture
@@christopherchildtv7675 she was on camera for like 10 seconds, but Kevin took her off because she looked like she was about to cry.
Christopher child Tv 22:30
That second caller definitely needs a father. My heart goes out to her.
Kevin missed it. She could get an older man who will train her, but he'll be controlling as hell.
Other culture would have accepted her and her innocence but in the America society she is being shamed! There’s nothing wrong with living with your mother! Or not having much of dating scene.
@@halimomoremoney1292 I agree 100%.
@@halimomoremoney1292 Her mother and that culture is wrong for doing that to her. Her problems are far worse then being innocent. She has no social skills and comes off as the female version of an incel. She needs to grow up and become a functioning adult like 7 years ago
@@halimomoremoney1292 perhaps, but in other cultures they would not have permitted her to be an actress, and they would either have her married, or be working on getting her married. She has to choose, be traditional and get married, or try to be the college graduate and actress but adjust to the culture around her.
People say he’s negative... I heard nothing negative in what he said. He gave sound advice.
Your right, he's not negative. He talks to people like he's their father or uncle that will give it to you straight with no chaser. And that's exactly what these people need.
only women would say hes negative lol men dont catch feeling only women
Kevin just gives it straight, no BS...
Right that’s why came here now I’m stuck binge watching
As a nigerian, I can sympathize with the girl. Damn it sucks she just needs a strong guidance and leadership.
Daddy never taught her anything about men. She is actually common in women whom were over sheltered. They don't have much experience and are scared to get any
I don't sympathize at all
She's not Nigerian so how can you?
@Dale Hemme and some more nonsense from the same dude. No shocks here.
@Dale Hemme what nonsense are you spouting?
I was crying listening to the Nigerian girl! I definitely understand where she is coming from. A lot of young women with African parents have crippled dating lives - it may sound like an excuse but it’s a real thing! Young girls not being allowed to date and then are thrown into the dating world at 24 with zero skills!
I wanted to cry just listening to her. Kevin is honestly the father some of us need!
my mom sheltered me (white) and i got thrown to the wolves in dating. i wish she told me how dudes run games. i fell hard out here.
(not all dudes) some are very lovely. but i was very naive and i got played
@@AH-ph3cb The reality is, it doesn't help that nobody teaches you about men and nobody teaches you about your own nature either. Female hypergamous filters will eliminate most men in a room, which will leave *most* women focusing in one a very, very small group of men in a huge group of men. We see it in high-school and that guy sleeps with all of the girls. He follows his primarily sexual strategy, because he can get it in with no commitment. This feminist womanist stuff assumed off the bat, men and women are equal and both want the same things. Somewhere in the middle this is true, but at the margins this isn't true. Men at the margins are the ones the women pick and you dance to their tune, not the other way around. And that's confusing because all of the other men dance to your tune.
My mom was severely overprotective of me and my sister. She did everything she could to prevent me from having any interaction with women growing up. If she caught me talking to a female she would emasculate the hell out of me in front of them. As an 18 year old I had no idea how to even talk to females and was afraid to even try it. Messed me up real bad. She would often ask me why I wasn't dating anyone after I turned 18 like she didn't realize what she had done to me. Tossed me to the wolves with no idea how to survive. Luckily I joined the marines and moved away, that's where I learned how to interact with women. Married now but man I still have alot of bitterness about it all
Oh WAH. Nigerian, Alien, Purple, Snow..............please.
When I first meet a woman. I tell her straight up. I'm not looking to get married. It's not my thing. It saves a lot of headaches.
Thank God your honest. I have on my bio on my dating page my expectations and i bring them up around the 1st or 2nd date. Yes i want to get married and no I'm not having yo baby😀
My experience has been I’ve told women this exact thing, or “I’m not looking for a relationship”, they say ok or that they understand them two weeks later it’s “So what are we doing?” I think a lot of women think they can change a man’s mind or be the woman that changes his mind. I also think when they do that is extremely disingenuous.
At least you're Honest.
@@JustBree716 Lol! I can dig it! 😂
I do that all the time but it doesn't stop most women from trying after a few weeks.
Awww I have to admit when I saw the second caller in a sad state, I have to admit I felt a bit sad for her; but I am glad Kevin spoke to her the way he did. She needs to someone to tell her that life is not fair and it spares not the weak. She has to be strong as possible and not feel sorry for herself. Just keep on praying sis, but also do your best to remain strong in all circumstances,
I felt same after I seen her...She needs someone mature around to guide her
Daaaaamn I can't stand how they keep telling him everything but the answer to his questions. This man is light years ahead of his time
I never knew it was that hard to answer simple questions. Lol. Us women can be super manipulative
@@JustBree716 us brothers, too!! Lol sing em any song these ladies wanna hear
Ahead of his time? Lol then where would that put Patrice O’Neal?
@@santoryuu6807 also ahead of his time.
No everyone is behind
What I can confirm on today my 11th Anniversary is that Kevin is 100% correct. For an ADULT male 6 to 9 months to proposal is all thats needed. I engaged my wife with the little money we had 9 months in to our relationship. Would have been 6 if I had the money at 6 months. 2 Kids, 2 Great Careers, and a whole lot of traveling and love later we look forward to more life together in the future.
Congrats D😎c!🤙🏽..
Not reality for most. Marriage was horror in my case.
@@Corazanaoro I hate to hear that BUT I watched my mother suffer for 20 years so I Know first hand it can be a prison for some. I hope you also experience the good side of it if you decide to get married again✊🏿
Congratulations Bro
@@BornQueDawg Thx for kind words, hope God grants that for me and all the hopefulls. Hope u mom is doing great.
I'm a Nigerian and I can relate to that lady
Many nigerian parents are notorious for sheltering their children and being extremely controlling in their children's lives...They tell their girl child to stay away from boys until she's done with uni..I literally have to hide my relationships from my parents...i think her parents wanted to bring her up like that even while in the states...They've captured her mind, she can't even think for herself...has no experience at all..I hope she doesn't end up with someone shitty in the future
I'm Ghanaian guy and I can relate.. My sister had similar experience.. African parents aren't good at raising their daughters.. It's a fact unfortunately
@@leanprogrammer I agree with you bro I live in Australia am Congolese actually am succeeding in my business and I found a Kenyan girl who I was trying to date but the parents was like no she need to finish her Uni first and I’ve seen this almost in all African parents that mentality is very unhealthy to teach our sisters about life they end up with a degree but are very immature in every line of life .
Facts and it’s the same parenting style in the Caribbean
@Tracy G facts and I’m Haitian myself so I can agree 💯💯🎯
Im American my Woman is Nigerian and what you said sounds exaclty like she says and acts she seems very very shelterned. I would love to learn the culture any pointers/adivce
Kevin had to go full dad mode for the Nigerian girl. I love how she took what he said in and wasnt all combative about it. She really was sheltered.
She did tear up, u can tell…….. scary part you cant tell if it she took the wake up call or not
He really had a father-daughter type of discussion with her and it really struck home! She needed that! Very naive and inexperienced for her age. Hopefully she'll take his advice and grow up. She's not ready for a man, she needs to work on her first
Why can't women ever answer a direct question?
I call my wife out on that all the time. I stop her with YES or NO. They can’t help it. It’s just who they are. Once you understand a woman’s nature, life is less stressful.
Because they always have something to hide.
When you ask a piercing question you get a diverted answer
Answering directly is something accountable ppl do...many women want to do what they want and they want to explain why they did it hoping that explanation will change what it is...
That's exactly what serial liars do, watch the First 48 (hours).
I knew that I was going to marry my wife when we were on our first date. A man definitely knows.
You were lucky to have that feeling on that first date and actually got married.
I had that feeling with a girl on a first date as well but started knowing her after that first date and realized that although she was a good person she wasn't a good person for me
2 years should be the minimum time frame for a marriage proposal in today’s dating market. She can’t pretend to be a good woman for that long if she really isn’t 💯🥦💯
Man...You can't tell within two years?! I can tell within Months the kind of person I'm dealin' with on a deeper level.
@@UnexpectedWonder I agree. However I'm 40. When I was 25 I couldn't vet a woman in 6 months. Now I can do it in about 10 dates.
Yea
I had girl whole personality changed after a year and a half
You'd be surprised
The second caller is very relatable - I waited to date until I was 25 because I also grew up very sheltered. It was not important to me - my intuition told me to focus on my career, friends, and family. Now that I’m dating I’m learning A LOT very quickly.
I got really sad when I actually saw the 2nd caller's face, I could see the sadness in her eyes. She's trying to make it, she got grilled by Mr. Samuels. I pray she finds her way and gets her life together sooner than later.
She was seriously grilled! But I get it. She has to “wake up” but I know when she does she will become everything she wants to be
IT'S CALLED ACTING
@@Elizabeth-mf3dn she wasn't grilled she needed a reality check you women think that when you actually hear some reality that is being mean that's ridiculous if she listens her life will be better
She needs a reality check but I understand fully what she's going through. I am nigerian american and the generation that raised is has no idea how things operate socially in america and refused to adapt to raise their kids. There no such thing as boyfriend and girlfriend in our culture boys and girls are raised knowing their going to get married. A man knows who he wants to marry before the first date. But that's in Nigeria.
It’s not ‘grilled’ it’s called truth!
The second lady is possibly suffering from major depression, she really needs to do counseling. If her issue is psychiatric, this situation might be out of Kevin's scope.
You are 100% right but she is unemployed at the moment so that might be difficult
She needs to speak to Jordan Peterson.
More like she suffering from laziness
The Nigerian girl is a cutie. Damn our women are hurting but they can hide it better because the world allows them to comfortably do it.
Not too me... no bueno single she isn't not getting married
@@user-of7pj7sx4r all women can get married, it’s just that she won’t get married to the man she may want though Lol.
@@popa213 but she could if she works on herself n that’s what Kevin is getting at. She shouldn’t be dating at all. She should be getting her life together than date while she got time left but that won’t happen with a high school girl mentality like hers
@@JamalMack some stuff can’t be fixed like that. Just think about the many of women who at least try to change and then think about the very small few that actually do.
I absolutely applaud Kevin for advocating for therapy, it is so needed. I got therapy and my husband got therapy for himself and it was such a blessing.
After becoming a Muslim, there was no dating; I met my husband, we talk, and less than a week, we were married. People act like that’s crazy, well after twelve years and four children, I’d say otherwise. However, I was a HORRIBLE wife until I found Mr. Samuel’s video. Having the things told like a punch in the face helped me wake up. It's a Western woman thing. Unfortunately, it is creeping over to the East. The devil is out to reverse the roles of men & women, and this is why we see women acting as we do.
Stay healthy in wife hood god bless
So you were a horrible wife for 12 years until you found this channel?
@@jasminegrisson5847 Yes and no. Overall I was toxic, combative, aggressive, had my way or the highway mentally. But I did know I was wrong; I didn't need Mr. Samuels to tell me this since the Quran describes evil behaviors. However, what Mr. Samuel did was give the history of how Black women got to this point. History is a subject I love 💕. Now, with historical data, I had more than enough, and I deem myself an enemy.
In the Quran, there's an ayat interpreted as ‘ask those who know.’ the truth is the truth. Mr. Samuel doesn't know everything, but he knows what he is speaking about. I take what is beneficial and leave off what is not.
However, the beauty of Islam is that it's this information is there; over 1400 years ago, warning women reminding us of our natural, the good and evil. There's an entire surat titled An-Nisa’ (The Women).
Preach. It's that spirit of perversion destroying the natural order God set and humans eat it up.
Salam alaykum sis
I agree I think to not waste time is better. This channel has opened my eyes as well as a wife.
The second caller was coddled her entire life. Sad.
Yep. Far too sheltered...
What happened to a degree or your money doesn't matter?
@@RealLadi228 he never said be a bum. that's different from telling women that degrees aren't a selling point for a elite level man.
Sheltered
His reaction to the second caller telling him that she was an actress: hilarious
We all need this type of tough love in life. A diamond starts as a coal then through high pressure and high temperature it becomes a shiny bright diamond everyone loves. Kevin’s techniques are at times high pressure and for good reason. Grateful to have had someone speaking the truth.
Divorce laws are probably why a lot of men don't want to marry. I usually agree with him.
Men are waking up.. Game over!
Dear Vazquez, you, me and others must see "through the lines".
If today's women don't have values, decent personality, feminine, caring and loving, what makes you think Mr. Vazquez, that divorce won't keep going up?
Guys need and must awaken. We are so easily fooled by Jezebel's ways.
@Raphie Stegall yea sure.. I'm going to prove myself to a person named Raphie. Dont call me dear. I dont know you and Raphie is not a women's name.. No.H.
@Raphie Stegall no baby mama. Ever. And I'm not miserable. The reason I dont want to be married...oh forget it.. thanks for letting me know you are a woman. I will reserve my comments and not waste my time...Have a good night Raphaela and good luck in life.
@Raphie Stegall apology accepted. Fyi, a lot of men want to be married. Even I thought about it in the past.. Unfortunately, today's woman (some) have been fooled by feminism and the good women are hiding or joining the feminism army.. it's a loose/loose for everyone.. R u in New York?
The 26 year old's parents did her a disservice.
They raised her to be a good girl. She has no idea how to be a nice woman.
Yuppers
Yes they did but at some point she needs to take control of her own life And destiny. ⚡️⚡️⚡️
You dont know that! Women generally don't tell the whole story!
With her sweetness I think she’d make good $ waitressing/serving in the high end restaurant industry! It’s a little known secret 🤫 she may even snag a hubby..
@Mon Deezy yes
That'll also help with her social skills for sure
I feel so bad for the Nigerian woman, she seems like a very timid child. Glad he's able to talk truth into her world.
Mr. Samuels, my initial thought of your second caller on this snippet is that she is trapped in her parents' mind control over her. Nigerian parents can be ridiculously strict and controlling. As I continued to listen to her, I found that her information doesn't add up. As controlling as I presumed her parents to be, I can't believe that this Nigerian daughter is not an over achiever. She may not have been telling you the absolute truth about her identity. She may be testing out her acting skills. 😉
Tcheiii.....lol!
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Lol. How the heck can you tell? You can't. She could easily be AA, Carribean, or whatever.
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 She looked Nigerian descent to me --I'm just good at things other people aren't
Most Nigerian women I know have Masters or Phd's and most are Doctors or Lawyers. She may be the underachiever in her family if 40 hours it too much.
@@JNRix1 You are correct about that stereotype. Notwithstanding, let's just say she is the under achiever...being raised in a two parent Nigerian home, she would be married by her age, if she is not in school. My guess, being born to Nigerian parents myself is that she is a smart young lady just testing her acting skills.
caller 2 - she sounds like a good woman, just was clueless. she was raised in a Nigerian manner, but she's american.
Yeah.
A good guidance from someone would be helpful.
She's not American she's a citizen of USA
She still foreign from Nigerian
@@dandan4132 cause her parents are directly from Nigeria
@@dandan4132 All people fron the united states have ancestors that moved there at some point.
People call Kevin mean but someone needs to tell people like this 27 year old actress the truth. Her family and friends let her go through life like this.
Her folks DEFINITELY dropped the ball with her. They should of BEEN sat her down and gave her the talk that Kevin gave her.
Here's hoping she takes Kevin's advice.
Family wants to support. I guess no one wants to be the One who spoke negative or was a so called “hater” if she does eventually get her break. Yes she does need to wake all the way UP, but dreamers are just that Dreamers, and it’s hard to accept the truth. Prime example, American Idol. When that show first aired Simon was considered the worst. But he knew what he was talking about, and some people would rather lie to you with a smile on their face than to tell you to get your Monkey Behind up and get super real with yourself.
@@LA-wv7gf They dont care
27 yr old FEMALE asks "Does money matter?"
Kevin - "ARE YOU FUCKIN' KIDDING ME!"
Her family is wealthy.
It doesn't matter in the sense of increasing her value to a man but in terms of supporting herself as an adult it is very necessary. She's just too naïve to understand the difference.
Entitlement 101
@@jordanangle9666 100000%
@@GrAdeAjAmAicAn 10000% FACTS
Of all the things he tell women, the proposing in 6 months be the ONLY thing they hear and comprehend.
They love hearing that proposal 🤣
Genius level understanding when its something they want. Everything else they deaf and blind
6 months is wayyyy too short in my opinion. Probably would turn me off or give red flags.. Atleast 1 or 2 years. I could be wrong but 6 months not it lol
@@theregoliisa8860 6 months is plenty of time if you're the type to walk at red flags. Many men wait until they are very negatively affected by the red flags they saw from the beginning. Learn to judge people properly and you will see the six months is just to see if you two can work together
I cringed when he said it.
2nd call was hard to listen to
That was good for her. She needs some practice. I am sure she is a smart young lady, but whew chile everybody with these dreams of being an actress when the star is so out of their reach. But keep hope alive.
@Hill Jimmy you're right. She needs a full 360 degree backup called Reality. Her wanting to be an actress should be the hobby until it really blossoms and she is getting constant gigs. She needs to get a "real" job/career and wake up and smell the coffee burning on the stove.
Yes
PAINFUL!!
That’s ten dollars a hr I’m crying lmaooooo
The second caller , You can tell she has to find herself and what she wants in life before she can even think about dating . Those who don’t know/love themselves , tend to either ruin the life of another or they let that person come in and use/ abuse them mentally. I pray for her and that she surrounds herself with individuals that will aid in her growth in a positive way. Kevin definitely gave her the talk that she needed . let’s hope that fuels her to do/want better out of life. ✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
Thank you for this enhanced audio.
I think women tend to ignore red flags for far too long, thus fault moves toward them too
Yup, they tend to delay breaking up by trying to rationalize the red flags, giving themselves a reason not to leave. I think women feel they can change a man instead of coming to terms with reality.. The change is up to them, not you.
Where tf they at because the first red flag I do I get immediately get blocked and gave up on no matter what I did with no explanation
I can see why that 2nd caller got into dating relatively late. Trust me some parents from certain parts of the world put too much “fear of God” in their daughters and they end up at 27+ with no dating experience. But she definitely needs to buckle up and get her life going. Brave of her to call and be open with her situation on the air, tbh. So, good on her!
I think some of Kevin's responses leave no room for possibilities. I have no hope because I'm over 50, 5'6 153lbs, attractive, and learning to be better. I can definitely call him Godfather because he speaks harsh truth.
My parents were super strict.. I maintained a respectable reputation... But I turned up and out at 27.. I made it through safely.. Thank God . whew..😅
The 2nd caller is, a house wife
However, she’s conflicted by black female culture & wanting DIRECTION/HUSBAND.
I totally agree
Yeah she reminds me of my wife of 8 years now. Even though I met her when she was 19 and I was 24, she needed guidance but she's everything a husband/man needs in a wife/woman.
Daryl Richardson ... totally agree. Someone should wife her up. She just need a husband with leadership skills.
Even she sounds immature I swear I can take her as a wife.
I’ve got a young lady & she’s like an child. I’ve brought her, her 1st pair of heels & dresses. There’s HORRIBLE MOTHERS out there & she can’t even walk in the heels. I love her to death
If the divorce rate is 50/50 and women initiate 70 percent of divorce, how will they be satisfied with a man they known for 6 months?
Thank you. First thing ive ever disagreed with. 6months?!?! Not w/out a bullet proof, air tight, iron clad, prenup!!
I was thinking that the first caller boyfriend was terrified about divorce and for a good reason
But hang on, how many of his callers have been in the relationship or marriage for 5 6 7 9 years and left it. There is probably stats to support not being married after 2 weeks or 2 months, but the figures on women leaving a relationship after 6 months or 10 years are probably very close.
Over 80% actually
@@lucytou of course a woman would say that. Statistics are there for a reason. Everyone has the same basic needs. What used to work in the past worked for a reason. Feminism has clearly taken its toll on marriage and relationships. Women leaving 80% of the time is doing whatever they feel already. 5 years in many states and you are already legally married if you’ve been living together
"Christians get it in".... Even Kevin had to laugh😂😂😂
🤣🤣😂🤣Kevin: “No one is going to save you”!!!! “It’s time to grow up”!! “You need a job”! “You’re not good at this”!!!! Damn!
"Christians get it in" that should be a short 😂
He needs a button that says "Bruh" a lot of "Bruh" moments during this call
When I hear these stories it makes you realize that life is not that bad after all.
I completely agree with his timeline from dating to marriage. Im pretty young right now, 23, and even I would not give a man 2+ years to figure out if he wants to get married. I want to become a wife and mother in my prime, and I dont have a lot of time left to do that.
Agree or disagree with his point on marriage isn't the important point you should take from this.
Everyman will know what they want. Fact. It might be just some fun, casual, serious, marriage and kids - a pump 'n' dump. If he is indecisive, he's a weak man, or pulling the wool over your eyes.
The ONLY way i would marry before 2 years, is if she signed an air-tight, bullet-proof, prenuptial!!
Good mentality to have considering your goal of marrying in your prime, which ends at circa 28 for most women.
This said, your terms and condition might mean you might need to expand the age scope of men you date to much older ones. Maybe up to 40 year old men.
I would never advice any son of mine to marry in his 20s. He needs to be enjoying as much women as possible during that age. He should marry when he is 34+.
The father 👨 I never had..All love and respect from South Africa 🇿🇦..salute.
When you said, "you suck at this." She gone cry when you hang up, oh she gone cry when you hang up.🤣🤣🤣😭🤷🏿♂️
And that is so funny, ffffoool?
I like how ks kept pressing the sound byte whipping effects constantly was hilarious
I’m married but it’s no way on earth I would have married my wife in 6 months. Sounds great and makes sense for woman not to waste time as my wife and I discussed while watching vids but that’s faaaar to early. Now after a year of living together this makes sense but who meets a woman and moves them in 6 months later? The earliest I would marry if I was looking would be 2 years. Marriage is huge and life long for me. Getting things right and building our dream home takes longer than 6 months, and that’s just bricks and design. I do agree for woman though. I’d tell my daughter the same. Even though they won’t follow it exactly they shouldn’t be too far off. 7 years is outrageous. She killed her high market value time. Salute
I was supposed to join the air force straight out of high school. Did everything. All I had left to do was get on the plane.. However, right before graduation, I met a guy and stayed home. We got married and I have never had to work a day in my life. He really loves me. I got lucky AF. Been together since 2002. One son on his way to college. ITS TIME FOR US TO TRAVEL NOW!! And he has always been an excellent provider. Im grateful and blessed.
The second caller needed that reality check.
Some of this women need Kevin because they don't have a real relationship with they father.
"does money matter?" I literally had to stop what I was doing, pause the video, and drop into the comments section with my jaw hung open. some callers are almost....unbelievable. and Kevin's initial response was just perfect.
Facts, It doesn’t take long to know if I want to marry someone, & I’m not even married.
I'm a widower but when I met my late wife she was 28 and told me she was looking to get married within 1 year. She said to me that she can not waste time dating for no reason. We agreed dated and got married in about 9 months.
Sorry for your loss and I hope you at least had a happy marriage even if it was cut short
@@joimumu thank you
Disagree with Kevin on this one- even if you're born in America, if your parents come from a different country then the likelihood is high that you will grow up between American culture but still heavily influenced by the native culture of your parents as well.
It doesn't just melt away because the couple immigrated to the United States and of course that's how they will raise their children as well.
Idk about that. Most of the Africans I know, the differences were superficial when they were born here. Colleges also call traditional African culture toxic which only accelerates the rebellion
@@canibezeroun1988 I do know about it, I'm speaking from firsthand experience and the experience of hundreds of other first generation people as well.
100% agree, african parents raise you how they were raised in africa. It's ingrained in them.
Ladies and gentlemen, this whole episode was about Toughlove. I’ve seen many an episode and this is one of his best. This is not hostility or ridiculing… This is a reality check for both guests. The audacity of some women wanting to cancel the show when it gives some of the best advice that anyone could ask for… And it’s for free! Keep on Mr. Samuels!! I may not agree with everything you say, but more people should be thanking you than disparaging you
Second caller Kevin just basically Raised a whole Teenager 😂😂😂😂
Yea, it was wild
As a Nigerian I can relate to the second caller. Dating isn't easy for every one, I was very social throughout high school and college and constantly made myself available for dating. Didn't meet my first boyfriend until I was 25 and it was through Tinder! We are now happily married with a child on the way. It's different for everyone
You're right sis
It's not different for every! People generally follow a pattern.
She seems depressed... I feel sorry for her but she needs to find some way to motivate herself
Poor lil tink🤦🏾♀️ most Nigerians install independence, school, or entrepreneurship into their children! I’m kind of shocked 😳
I think it’s because she has an artistic soul - I would know 😅😅 but I’m sure when she “wakes up” she can achieve great things
@@Elizabeth-mf3dn yes she seems like a sweet girl, hopefully you’re rt, because this world will chew & spit her out eventually...😞
That's why people are calling it an act.
As a married man for 7 years.... can’t say that I agree with 6 months or less.... females good at keeping that representative as the face. Especially if they going after a man of value
6 months lol no wonder you had 2 divorces my brother ...
I don’t agree that you actually get married in 6 months, but I think most guys know within 6 months!
@@Aggie4life77 Depends on your maturity / age.
6 months to get engaged. I think. Kind of quick for me too. People can act for 6 months. You need to go through all the holidays once or twice imo. Lol
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The Dog Star is Sirrius.
Its spoken about in many ancient histories concerning the origin of our progenitors. Mayan, Dogon, Egyptian, Sumerian/Old Testament. Im 52 yrs old and have plenty of Nigerian friends. You are postulating the wrong-headed idea that many African/African Americans have that they can confidently tell the difference between an African American and an African, ESPECIALLY a second generation (+) African. People's appearances are greatly affected by environment and mentality you know. Are you aware of that?
In short, you would have never known she was of Nigerian ancestry if she didn't share that info. I wasn't trying to be disrespectful. Its just cute or sad how this erroneous idea is so widely held. I've heard it and tested people to try to guess the backgrounds and tell who's African. Everyone who thinks they can do it has failed when put to the test in real life. My Nigerian acquaintances swear out I look like a Yoruba or Ibo when they meet me because I don't carry myself in "typical" AA manner. My DNA report says 27% Nigerian. Lol. Where do you think AA come from sis?
@@bodyworkandptbykraig7609 She looked Nigerian descent to me. Period.
In the first 1 or 2 months, women should be able to see if the guy is serious about marriage or a committed relationship.
She stayed way too long.
@Big Will We should not conflate "knowing someone" with "knowing their intentions". In other words, she might not be the right "product" for a man, but she must ascertain that he is in the market to "buy" and not for endless "sampling". Beyond that, the time frame is subjective and arguable. The main thing is the intentions. Stay blessed.
There some truth in this. A man knows when you're the one.
Ike Ogiamien facts
Ike Ogiamien 💯
Ike Ogiamien right on 🙌🏽
He’s the father I’ve always needed 😩🥲😭
We've been Married for 34 years, My Husband and I met and Married in 3 Months. I was 26 he was 32.....we knew and didn't waste time! Tahoe Wedding, we had 2 kids of our own (2 of his previous) 11 Grandchildren. God Bless you Kevin for speaking the Truth to these young Women! Love your Content, Respect your Classy Persona 🙏🏻God Bless you! You are doing such a great service to Men and Women!
I’m a shoot shawty from California some bail. As a Nigerian born and raised i am very familiar with Nigerian households even in America. It’s impossible to shake off that cultural influence.
You can tell KS feels bad for alot of the younger women he talks to that aren’t really taking their life seriously but THINK they do. Some people would say he’s too harsh, but how he dealt with the second woman that called showed his patience.
I'll say this. I LOVE MY WIFE. I proposed at about the 8mo mark. We're still married (approaching 5 years in) and pushing this loaded cart forward.
DON'T DO IT THAT WAY lol.
Build the relationship in a way that fits the growth trajectory of BOTH individuals. The biggest and scariest commitment of love that two people could EVER make to each other, aside from having a family together, is to GO TO COUNSELING TOGETHER.
Fellas, if you're SERIOUSLY looking for a wife and think you've found a woman that checks the initial boxes, invite her to a therapy session. If she's reluctant, and not excited, MOVE HER ASS AROUND. Ladies, this is something you can encourage too! Either you want to bear your naked truths and grow together or you don't. Anyone that's dating and hasn't creatively or constructively tried to get to know the person deep down within is a person that is eager to crank the jack for a surprise...Over and over again. There is great nourishment in honesty. People don't wanna know the truth about THEMSELVES a lot of times though...So, they fail one another in the end.
DON'T FAIL EACH OTHER. Take whatever time is necessary and BE CONSISTENT in your pursuit of health TOGETHER. You'll never fail if you ALWAYS care.
I've been with my girlfriend who is non American Filipino country girl after 6 months yes she is one... shes 29 and im 42. And she is the best thing ever for me
The second caller is actually sad. She really needs therapy. Her parents really messed her up. She doesn't even need to think about a man right now.
I think she's hiding something. People who keeps switching jobs she probably likes to party.
@@KNByam
That's not necessarily true. Before my man got comfortable in the job he's at now, he was notorious for searching out and finding other companies to work for. He would get fed up and know that he could find better. And he did. It didn't have anything to do with partying.
That poor thing.. she should be a house wife. She needs the leadership of a man she is not raised to be a career women ..
I thought the same thing , an older sister wife to help her mature , gain self awareness & protect her . Older man , yes but not by older later thirties , early forties. With money so she can travel & see the world . She needs looking out for ! She's not in the streets she just needs guidance. I pray she's well .
@@luludear1209 totally agree
I feel sorry for that 2nd caller whose dad died. She really needs a father figure to give her guidance and tough love
I personally don't see a point in me getting married in today's society
Dating either..not seriously
Sad but true second caller had no idea what her life was doing
I hope things have gotten better for you. Keep moving forward and bettering yourself.
How KS was shepparding the first caller’s was so wholesome. Kept calling her sis and really felt like he was putting his arm around her.
Good video.She was the daughter of a very wealthy family,college educated,drop dead stunner..It was 6 months for me,as soon as she moved in,I soon discovered her secret coke addiction.I found her stuff anf flushed it,gave her the choice of therapy,or continue with her current marriage to her chemical glue and get out.She gave me the engagement ring back,(a 2 karat J quality blue diamond),and got out.It's been a minute since,and today on suit up saturday,I;m wearing a tailored yellow Brioni custom suit,high collar 3 button frrench cuff shirt,neon blue silk tie,and Milano monk straps,looking sharp and antennaes up.Thanks for you inspiration
Good call. Can't stay with an addict. It's living with a vampire, and when your last drop of blood is gone, he (or she) will throw your dry husk on a trash heap and head out into the night (and the streets) in search of fresh victims...
@@tonyjones1560 ,right on
Wow man that’s pretty heavy
Well damn she loved the drug more. Sorry brother.
For then second caller... I believe they call that tough love. The people around her had 27 years to tell her what Kevin broke down in 20 mins. I wish her the best
Most who want to be actors have a job bar tending or waiting tables while they search for a gig.
Kevin, you are doing the work of God. May he continue to strengthen you as you carry this cross. God Bless you, Brother.
I agree with Kevin. I met my husband when I was 21 and he was 30 on 12/08/93. We got married on 02/25/94. We will be celebrating our 27th anniversary next month.
My sister met her husband in 09/90 and she married him in 12/90. The just celebrated their 30th anniversary.
My parents met in 1969 and they were married a little over a year later. It would have been sooner but my dad got stationed to Korea.
All three men knew within a month that we were the one.
This is not to rush anyone but these are just examples.
I always tell young men, if you are not ready for marriage don’t let anyone force you into marriage but at the same time don’t string a woman along. Kevin is right 7 years is insane but the blame falls on a woman.
Watching KS made me a better wife ..God Bless you KS 😊🙏🏽
Too bad he couldn't keep his 2 marriages. I wouldn't follow him.
6 months & then you propose?? Now wonder men get divorced raped. That's horrible advice lol
Lol..9 months for a baby & the bait & switch.
Jackpot by the end of the year 💰
@@Jay-Jay_007 If you dont like the risk, then, dont get married. Get a girl move in together, start a family, and, do the common law marriage thing.
UL R well that’s what they’re saying. The risk is not worth it.
I have a home that’s been married three times that constantly tells us we should be marrying women within a year of meeting them. My response to him is always “How well did that work for you?” Lol. Marriage doesn’t seem to be something you go into hastily. Time does guarantee success of it but marrying fast doesn’t either. Marriage is a crap shoot. Ain’t no guarantees.
He be speaking them Facts with love!! His doing good for the community!!
Rest In Power