Vick you are just glowing you know. Taking the husband's name is borne from the fact of patrilneal line of inheritance. Since you are marrying into his family taking the family name gives you an identity with your new family. Just like mr fash said having different names as a couple might imply marital disunity. Honestly being one makes it good to bear the husband's name. But some women already made a brand with their maiden names such can continue with the name for business identity while bearing the husband's name in essential documents. Mr fash you are appreciated
As a lawyer preparing for marriage, i cant even though i love the being Mrs. So so so. I have to go back to Abuja to change my name on roll of lawyers... Only a lawyer can tell you how tedious that is. I have at least 4 active bank accounts. Like seriously, im doing further professional courses , that change of name sounds like too much trouble to me. I iust got 10 years international passport. If hubby can go through the stress and pay the fee, i will enjoy the result😊
In fact, a lot of people don't change their name officially, they just bear it on social media and people call them that. Because of the stress in Nigeria.
There's no one in the bible that women should change their name. It's not even a big deal as such. The main reason I feel it's good to change name is so you can bear same name with your husband and children. Any other thing na by the way.
As a nigerian man, I don't really care whether or not my partner takes my last name or not, it doesn't bother me at all. I will even tell her to do as she please.
@@ewami26Sadly I understand, I might be nigerian but I'm also very free sprited. The only time I might see changing of name becoming a problem is with children and formality.
For me, i have always loved hyphenation. I love my maiden name and it carries weight in my state of origin. Plus i wanted to do it for my parents. I had planned to hyphenate but my maiden nane has hyphen already. So it was either drop my middle name or maiden name. I made this decision in 5 minutes while filling out the change of name documents 😂. My husband bears his first name as his last name too. I chose to change it completely. I believe we are building a legacy. Plus, getting married early, i had started building my brand and knew it was easier to change now than later. If i were a mature adult at 35 getting married with a PhD, i would not change due to stress and registration/updating documents.
Your main reason is the reason why I want to change my name too. I will change it as soon as I am expecting a baby. There's no big deal in changing it especially when there's no much significance my name is carrying (I don't have government work or passport). But for people who's name are already known and there's lot of significance to it, I see no big deal in leaving it or hyphenating it.
I love and appreciate this content from Mr&Mrs.Ayodele Fash .Ues the most important is the unity in your marriage, making God the third part of the threefold cord that can't be easily torn apart. And its His will that both partners are one in all facets of life, one mind.
The main reason I didn’t change my name is for religious reasons as it is mandatory for every individual to be attributed to only his/her father’s name.
For me, I think another reason why some ladies do not want to change their surname is if they have built a big brand with it. And everyone will agree that it is a lot to start all over again with the likelihood of people finding it difficult to link the former and new, which may lead to hyphenation suggestions. This is why I also advise or encourage single ladies who would love to change their name in the future to use a neutral brand name or adding their first and middle name for building their brands like Victoria Olamide, Vicky Olamide (Olammy), Flaming Energy etc. If they don't want to go through that stress of holding on to their father's name or "starting afresh" with the husband's name after marriage. Like Faithia Balogun that Mr Fash mentioned, I also know one woman who is divorced but has remarried and retained her former husband's surname in her name. Infact, she has a customised logo with the name for her big brand which she has retained as well. And the couple are doing very well. I don't know if she has plans to change it in the future, but for now, that's what it is. The video was really insightful. Thank you for sharing. As always, I enjoyed listening to you (your unique voice and tone actually) and ofcourse Mr Fash's contributions as well - exceptional. ❤😊
it does depend, I know in my family no woman has taken officially their husband's name, my grandmother never did, and they have lived together 55 yrs and death did them part, we are referenced as Mrs so and so but no change on paper. In my case I have a very long name already adding my husband's was going to be a problem with the character length. I'm only asked to proof my kids are mine when traveling back to where we live now, when I travel anywhere else, I;m not asked. Also I got my naturalisation before marriage and such certificates are hard to amend, so there is more to changing a name, and if you have a brand it to be considered too. Due to the circumstance of my birth, I carried my grandfather's name for over 17yrs as my last name, and eventually took my father's later on, which I'm proud of both, so changing is not in the cards for me anymore.
I have grand children their grand mother was my first cousin. Their mother had our surname but later changed to her father's. Nobody knew her father's family. Now my cousin their grand mother and their mother passed away. All these children have no birth certificates. They asked me and their uncle (mother's brother) to help them. Now the Registrar asked for relatives of their mother as on her new name on her birth certificate. Nobody knows who they are or where they are. So my cousins grand children are stuck with no birth certificates. We are the only relatives they know. This is in Zim. I wonder how many children in our country can't get birth certificates.
Oh wow thought 'Ayodele Fash' was both your maiden and husband's name BTW, some cultures allow for a child to take up the mother's name or combination of both the mother and father's names like you said a friend of yours plan to do
This is topics can cause so many trouble with some men because they will tell you you dont want to submit. But for me i will like for us to use my husband name not his father's name
Personally as a wife……it’s an honour and privilege to take on my husband name. (Feminist plz carry argument somewhere else) What explanation or example am I setting for my children when they start asking “ mummy why is your name different from us and daddy” For me shaaa…it’s all part of the leaving and cleaving process Your people will be my people Your God will be my God Your name will be my name. 😂😂 There must be oneness in every aspect of our lives.
In fact, a lot of people don't change their name officially, they just bear it on social media and people call them that. Because of the stress in Nigeria.
I recently stumbled on your videos and I must confess, you're wise. I have seen lots of your videos, you're doing a good job.
Vick you are just glowing you know. Taking the husband's name is borne from the fact of patrilneal line of inheritance. Since you are marrying into his family taking the family name gives you an identity with your new family. Just like mr fash said having different names as a couple might imply marital disunity. Honestly being one makes it good to bear the husband's name. But some women already made a brand with their maiden names such can continue with the name for business identity while bearing the husband's name in essential documents. Mr fash you are appreciated
As a lawyer preparing for marriage, i cant even though i love the being Mrs. So so so. I have to go back to Abuja to change my name on roll of lawyers... Only a lawyer can tell you how tedious that is. I have at least 4 active bank accounts. Like seriously, im doing further professional courses , that change of name sounds like too much trouble to me. I iust got 10 years international passport. If hubby can go through the stress and pay the fee, i will enjoy the result😊
In fact, a lot of people don't change their name officially, they just bear it on social media and people call them that. Because of the stress in Nigeria.
There's no one in the bible that women should change their name. It's not even a big deal as such. The main reason I feel it's good to change name is so you can bear same name with your husband and children. Any other thing na by the way.
Wisdom is always available.it cries in the streets of.Nice one Team Fash.
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Watched 3 of your videos and I love it
Aww.. thank you so much
I'm hooked😂
Very enlightening as usual. Mr Fash I dey gbadun your wisdom and Mrs Fash thanks for this video.
As a nigerian man, I don't really care whether or not my partner takes my last name or not, it doesn't bother me at all. I will even tell her to do as she please.
Wow I'm surprised coming from someone who is a Nigeria man
Love it! Thank you for sharing ❤️
@@ewami26Sadly I understand, I might be nigerian but I'm also very free sprited. The only time I might see changing of name becoming a problem is with children and formality.
@@VictoriaFashAnytime, love the content 🙏🏾
@dionsheds that really cool yea when there is kids and all.
What your husband explained about the varying surnames from his family, is the same case in my paternal extended family too.
For me, i have always loved hyphenation. I love my maiden name and it carries weight in my state of origin. Plus i wanted to do it for my parents. I had planned to hyphenate but my maiden nane has hyphen already. So it was either drop my middle name or maiden name. I made this decision in 5 minutes while filling out the change of name documents 😂. My husband bears his first name as his last name too. I chose to change it completely. I believe we are building a legacy. Plus, getting married early, i had started building my brand and knew it was easier to change now than later.
If i were a mature adult at 35 getting married with a PhD, i would not change due to stress and registration/updating documents.
Your main reason is the reason why I want to change my name too. I will change it as soon as I am expecting a baby. There's no big deal in changing it especially when there's no much significance my name is carrying (I don't have government work or passport). But for people who's name are already known and there's lot of significance to it, I see no big deal in leaving it or hyphenating it.
I love and appreciate this content from Mr&Mrs.Ayodele Fash .Ues the most important is the unity in your marriage, making God the third part of the threefold cord that can't be easily torn apart. And its His will that both partners are one in all facets of life, one mind.
You look so good. Hubby looks good as well
The sability of Mr&Mrs Fash 🙌🏾 una doh oh. History lesson for today, check ✅😅
😂😂... thank you ❤
Thank you so much for this video Mr and Mrs Fash
Happy Morher’s Day Mrs Fash❤
Thanks so much
You are really looking more fresh sis Vicky. Much love 💕💕
Hey Victoria you are so blessed your hubby is so cool
Thank you for this video Ma. I got value from the video.
The main reason I didn’t change my name is for religious reasons as it is mandatory for every individual to be attributed to only his/her father’s name.
I just added my husband name first then my father's name last.this is the way i change my own name cos of children and immigration
For me, I think another reason why some ladies do not want to change their surname is if they have built a big brand with it. And everyone will agree that it is a lot to start all over again with the likelihood of people finding it difficult to link the former and new, which may lead to hyphenation suggestions.
This is why I also advise or encourage single ladies who would love to change their name in the future to use a neutral brand name or adding their first and middle name for building their brands like Victoria Olamide, Vicky Olamide (Olammy), Flaming Energy etc. If they don't want to go through that stress of holding on to their father's name or "starting afresh" with the husband's name after marriage.
Like Faithia Balogun that Mr Fash mentioned, I also know one woman who is divorced but has remarried and retained her former husband's surname in her name. Infact, she has a customised logo with the name for her big brand which she has retained as well. And the couple are doing very well. I don't know if she has plans to change it in the future, but for now, that's what it is.
The video was really insightful. Thank you for sharing.
As always, I enjoyed listening to you (your unique voice and tone actually) and ofcourse Mr Fash's contributions as well - exceptional. ❤😊
You're absolutely right! Thank you for your insightful comment 🥰
it does depend, I know in my family no woman has taken officially their husband's name, my grandmother never did, and they have lived together 55 yrs and death did them part, we are referenced as Mrs so and so but no change on paper.
In my case I have a very long name already adding my husband's was going to be a problem with the character length. I'm only asked to proof my kids are mine when traveling back to where we live now, when I travel anywhere else, I;m not asked. Also I got my naturalisation before marriage and such certificates are hard to amend, so there is more to changing a name, and if you have a brand it to be considered too. Due to the circumstance of my birth, I carried my grandfather's name for over 17yrs as my last name, and eventually took my father's later on, which I'm proud of both, so changing is not in the cards for me anymore.
Wow! This is quite insightful. Thanks for sharing 🥰
I have grand children their grand mother was my first cousin. Their mother had our surname but later changed to her father's. Nobody knew her father's family. Now my cousin their grand mother and their mother passed away. All these children have no birth certificates. They asked me and their uncle (mother's brother) to help them. Now the Registrar asked for relatives of their mother as on her new name on her birth certificate. Nobody knows who they are or where they are. So my cousins grand children are stuck with no birth certificates. We are the only relatives they know. This is in Zim. I wonder how many children in our country can't get birth certificates.
Haaa!!! This is serious o. It is well, thanks for sharing ❤️
My lovely couples, you are looking great 👍😃😃
Thank you so much 🤗
I guess I'm also in that space where I'm afraid of getting married like it has been troubling me so much @victoria Fash how did you do it
My dear, remember that marriage is a good thing. It's a gift from God
You married a wise man
Oh wow thought 'Ayodele Fash' was both your maiden and husband's name
BTW, some cultures allow for a child to take up the mother's name or combination of both the mother and father's names like you said a friend of yours plan to do
Really? No oo... lol. It'd my Hubby's name
@@VictoriaFash yes........oh nice 😃
Victoria which school are you here, i want to enroll
Teesside university
I like how your husband explained it.
But why the name fuss self ?
This video is full of Wisdom
This is topics can cause so many trouble with some men because they will tell you you dont want to submit. But for me i will like for us to use my husband name not his father's name
Maybe for the children if their father's surname doesn't seem to go well😂 but that's still the husband's decision to make
Omo it is well
Try and watch video before you comment 😂
@@VictoriaFash so did you take your husband's surname?
Yayyyy🎉🎉🎉
Personally as a wife……it’s an honour and privilege to take on my husband name. (Feminist plz carry argument somewhere else)
What explanation or example am I setting for my children when they start asking “ mummy why is your name different from us and daddy”
For me shaaa…it’s all part of the leaving and cleaving process
Your people will be my people
Your God will be my God
Your name will be my name. 😂😂
There must be oneness in every aspect of our lives.
Say it again!!! Love this viewpoint 🥰
I shout out to this. You are right
We won't judge you 😂
What is this
I'm pretty sure you did not watch the video 😂
You have been eating alone.... do some give aways 😅u look stingy
In fact, a lot of people don't change their name officially, they just bear it on social media and people call them that. Because of the stress in Nigeria.