I worked with a group of 8 people. I was the only one who had children. I was never invited to their weekly get togethers after work. Finally, someone told them it made them looked bad. They invited me but reminded me that it was adults only. Truth is, I liked being with my children better. It was difficult enough having to work with them and I certainly didn't want to waste my precious weekend time witth them!!
The disliking of my last job showed me who my coworkers were. Gossip, bullying , excluding me , ostracize me , be little etc. I don't know why they were like that towards me. I was very respectful and worked hard maybe I was an easy target idk.
I have experienced all of this in family members who are narcissists. It is amazing how these people do the same things in relationships, it is easy to spot now as I have been educated on what I have been seeing all my life.
This is why I never trust anybody who uses criticisms instead of suggestions. Immediate disown, block and delete their phone number, email, everything. When they start crying to me later, wanting to be my friend, I just stay silent and act as though they are just strangers to me.
@@SuperMichelleDJ I played music among amateurs for 30 years. Some had Master degrees and decades of experience and some had next to nothing. Guess who did ALL of the criticizing.
Not always. Some helpful criticism can help you become successful. Actors need to take criticism from directors and other actors. Athletes also need to know how to use criticism to make them improve. Workers need to use criticism from bosses to improve.
@@ganymeade5151 Helpful criticisms carry implied suggestions. "There's not enough [Fill in the blank] is a suggestion for more. "Too slow." suggests "Speed it up. Even "Not good enough!" from a director, conductor or a coach means "You know what to do. Keep working on it."
I'm not at work to make friends in a work to make money. If they don't like me that's on them. As long as they're not actively trying to get me fired they can exclude me all they want. I did have a friend that seemed to take pleasure in my failures, but I think that was more of issues he had than hatred. More like crab mentality.
I feel the exact same way about working with people. I’m there to do a job. I don’t particularly like workers who look for reasons to not do there own job and then be disruptive just so they don’t stand out alone. If they have a work problem I will help them just so I can get them back on track and get them away from me. Sounds brutal but I don’t want the reputation that they are going to get because they don’t know how to stay at their own cubicle. It’s like could someone please nail there foot to the floor in front of their desk. 😁
Completely agree on that statement, esp if Im in a department store, or those big places unless Im probably looking to interact on a personal level, depends if they share similar interests I have no interest in speaking, talking or interacting with them except to shop and any assistance on a product or brand etc. It seems when we don't interact with them they take it on a personal level and the guy you mentioned at work was probably trying to mirror or blend in with your failures.
@Paul-yn2zy : You have to remain vigilant, because sometimes when you adopt that stance, narcissistic types view it as a challenge and actually begun a vendetta towards getting you fired. Speaking from experience.
It's quite obvious when people dislike you. They can't help but show it. There is no veneer they can hide behind and it doesn't matter one way or another to me. I normally dislike them just as much.
I used to get so upset at being disliked. As a spiritual person I shouldn’t have. I learned that it could be a number of reasons They simply dislike you/your energy They are jealous/resentful It could even be karmic It’s their stuff not yours There is something in you that is also in them and they don’t like it Just to name a few I hope it helps anyone out there not to be upset. Now I don’t feel upset anymore and I don’t even care, it’s more important that I like myself Blessings 😇💐❤️
I've encountered one and all of your aspects concerning people who don't like you. Seems to me these people have sometimes hidden agendas. It's really fear and being jealous it can also rest in secret admiration of someone. Ÿou have to be be careful with these People
In a training program. Everything mentioned in this video happened with group of ppl. The women would compete, management turn pale or red when talking to me. I caught them looking at me dirty, or not making direct eye contact. This video was a confirmation 😂😂. Ppl are so hateful.
Oh yes i have a few in my circle with ALL these traits...thankfully they are not my friends...i speak to them if i MUST...otherwise i don't have them in my CLOSE circle...i have no time to waste on such one's,my time is priceless😂😂😂.
I go to work bc I get paid. I don't want to be friends with my co-workers. They're work acquaintance, not my friends. My private life and work are seperate. My supervisors are the only one I need to impress.
I run into these type of people a lot if you are disliked by these people for these nonsense reasons stay away from these people don't try to win them over, its a waste of your time.
No.1: Their body language tells everything No.2: They compete with you No.3: They avoid eye contact No.4: They are open with everyone except you No.5: They exclude you from social events No.6: They gossip about you to others No.7: They disappoint you No.8: They quickly get frustrated with you No.9: They take pleasure in your failures No.10: They rarely offer you compliments No.11: They don’t laugh at your jokes No.12: They stick to small talk No.13: They consistently avoid you No.14: Their smile is not sincere No.15: They have a different tone of voice No.16: Frequent criticism or disapproval
The whole world can dislike me and I could care less. All I care about is what God thinks and feels about me. The reality is we only need God as our only friend.
The thing is my friends aren't bad people AT ALL, the thing is when I talk they talk over me and I practically have to yell and sometimes I still don't get an answer. It sometimes makes me tear up, and it has always been this way and Idk when I'll get friends who listen to me...they just don't. Can't really blame them I doubt I have autism or ADHD, idk, maybe it is cause I interrupt them all the time, idk.
other than occasional acquaintances or friends of friends, this has happened with literally one person only, and would call them a once friend at this point person was incapable of feeling unconditional happiness and had peoples "badness" and villainization projected onto them their whole life...and albeit unconciously, i participated in that and held deep inside a "youre mean and i'm scared of you" towards them if you legitimately love someone (all people, really) *unconditionally* and refuse to ever question their goodness and to look at it like "this might be jeopardized because one day they might make me feel xyz or do something that makes me call them bad ect" ...if you refuse to ever put anyone into that box of uncertainty and extreme normalized deep hatred/finger pointing of 'narcissist/mean/bad character/betrayal ect' ( *your own hatred and self-hatred that you refuse to admit* ), then i promise you that every person shows up as the true version of themselves, who isnt reflecting to you your own hidden self hatred and falsehood beliefs that we can all be too bone-headed to question we put these awful things on innocent people, and its our doing- because of what we're taught to believe about others as a whole there's no solid way to refute this
Another way to see if someone likes you or not is when you do something wrong, something you did not mean to do, but others would shame you and even threaten you. Others in the group will not be as disgusted. One time, a few years ago, a guy I know gave his friend a shot of kratom extract to make his mind feel good and take some pain away. His friend got a bad reaction to it and collapsed and was rushed to the hospital. Long story short, he was eventually okay and got let out the hospital a few hours later. But the man's friends and relatives got mad at the man who gave him the extract and said 'he could have died, and if he died, you would go to jail for murder, and you still should be charged with something for giving him a drug which he is not used to' and so on. The one who took it the best was the one who got affected! He told his family and friends not to be angry with the guy, and the extract is something I could have refused, but I didn't and took it on my own. 'It is my fault for taking the extract,' is what he told everyone. But after that, the guy who gave his friend the extract knew right then and there who really liked him and who didn't.
The big test is finances. If they immediately disown you and don't understand you when you have financial trouble when paying someone back and you are doing your best to be helpful for that person, pay them back ASAP and get rid of them. It's obvious that this person will scream when their finances fuck up, but if you are the one in trouble, you are the shitty person. Nobody seems to like you if you have financial issues.
So many people who don't care. And people act like it's a flex, but they're the people who will take advantage of others, without a care. Because no one lives in a vacuum, careless people are in our midst.
Exactly faced the same at past workplace especial frm 2 young ladies . Actually they managed to turn others against me just because their insecure and jealous . Faced alot that I had to leave the place. I ws a clg Professor so were the two ladies. The thing they did was turn all stbdts against me
Ihave a lifelong friend who is doing this to me now. I live in another city now and moved here5 yrs ago I’ve tried keeping in touch regularly and sending jokes and messages about my new life but hey no response not even an acknowledgement sonetibes ,,,,she has answered a lot but not regularly and always has an excuse like too busy I’m getting offended as we have shared our lives since aged 3 all through school and even worked together r before our marriages. Why is she uncommunicative ?
These things spoken of can mean lots of things. I never get compliments. I have experience all of this.. they get angry cause they like u ur hot and want u and can't have u. I've been with those types... And are very shy
I experienced all these signs before especially on the job and church. I read somewhere that if people don’t like you, it’s none of our people. I also pray 🙏🏾 to God to remove them from my path. I don’t wish harm them. I just asked God to remove toxic people. I like to get along with people and be in peace.
i used to work in a shop just over a year ago, and i only had three co workers, two woman and this man, we all got on well, except the man didnt like me, because he never included me in conversation, and when he used to talk to them he wood stand with his back always at me like i was not there and when they were laughing and joking in the back room his face wood go serious when i walked in, ill never know why, anyway lifes to short to care, as Kevin Bloody Wilson sings in one of his songs, D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F. 🤣🤣🤣😂
When I was, or am in such situations on the ping pong tables, they are keep tossing my calls or questions to other parties each other, or they never answer my question directly, and delay my questions as much as they can in order to waste of my time. Recently, I experience this again while using Michael Management Consulting SAP Live Access Services and their CS employee all the time answered my question, I am not an functional consultant, so cannot answer to your question. I believe that the CS staff should redirect my question to someone who is capable of doing that; I feel like to experience discrimination again? In addition, it is hard to contact them by call. + Miss Claire is 김보경 +
Has anyone in your circle of people acted in this way? Have you ever questioned their feelings towards you?
DEAREST, HELLO . WELL SAID . THANK YOU .
When someone claims to want to help you, and then goes back on their word and refuses to do it with all types of excuses. Goodbye to that person.
I worked with a group of 8 people. I was the only one who had children. I was never invited to their weekly get togethers after work. Finally, someone told them it made them looked bad. They invited me but reminded me that it was adults only. Truth is, I liked being with my children better. It was difficult enough having to work with them and I certainly didn't want to waste my precious weekend time witth them!!
The disliking of my last job showed me who my coworkers were. Gossip, bullying , excluding me , ostracize me , be little etc. I don't know why they were like that towards me. I was very respectful and worked hard maybe I was an easy target idk.
I'm in that situation right now. 😢
@kpopqn are you an attractive person?
That’s because they’re jealous of you.
One thing for sure.. I don't secretly dislike anyone.. if I don't like someone they know it.. I don't like fake friends or fake people period
Preach
I have experienced all of this in family members who are narcissists. It is amazing how these people do the same things in relationships, it is easy to spot now as I have been educated on what I have been seeing all my life.
just be urself, don't adjust yourself for the sake of others, jealousy is a mental illness, indicating their mental weakness.
There is no such thing as "constructive criticism." Suggestions are constructive. Criticism is always destructive.
GOOD POINT.👍
This is why I never trust anybody who uses criticisms instead of suggestions. Immediate disown, block and delete their phone number, email, everything. When they start crying to me later, wanting to be my friend, I just stay silent and act as though they are just strangers to me.
@@SuperMichelleDJ I played music among amateurs for 30 years. Some had Master degrees and decades of experience and some had next to nothing. Guess who did ALL of the criticizing.
Not always. Some helpful criticism can help you become successful. Actors need to take criticism from directors and other actors. Athletes also need to know how to use criticism to make them improve. Workers need to use criticism from bosses to improve.
@@ganymeade5151 Helpful criticisms carry implied suggestions. "There's not enough [Fill in the blank] is a suggestion for more. "Too slow." suggests "Speed it up. Even "Not good enough!" from a director, conductor or a coach means "You know what to do. Keep working on it."
Even without saying anything our bodily gestures facial expressions and tone of voice paint a picture of our inner thoughts and feelings.
I'm not at work to make friends in a work to make money. If they don't like me that's on them. As long as they're not actively trying to get me fired they can exclude me all they want. I did have a friend that seemed to take pleasure in my failures, but I think that was more of issues he had than hatred. More like crab mentality.
I feel the exact same way about working with people. I’m there to do a job. I don’t particularly like workers who look for reasons to not do there own job and then be disruptive just so they don’t stand out alone. If they have a work problem I will help them just so I can get them back on track and get them away from me. Sounds brutal but I don’t want the reputation that they are going to get because they don’t know how to stay at their own cubicle. It’s like could someone please nail there foot to the floor in front of their desk. 😁
Completely agree on that statement, esp if Im in a department store, or those big places unless Im probably looking to interact on a personal level, depends if they share similar interests I have no interest in speaking, talking or interacting with them except to shop and any assistance on a product or brand etc.
It seems when we don't interact with them they take it on a personal level and the guy you mentioned at work was probably trying to mirror or blend in with your failures.
@Paul-yn2zy : You have to remain vigilant, because sometimes when you adopt that stance, narcissistic types view it as a challenge and actually begun a vendetta towards getting you fired. Speaking from experience.
I must be super duper funny 😂 because even my known enemies laugh at my Jokes
There is only one reason: I am not vaxxed. That is why more than one person disliked me at the, time. I have no friends and very content about that!
It's quite obvious when people dislike you. They can't help but show it. There is no veneer they can hide behind and it doesn't matter one way or another to me. I normally dislike them just as much.
I used to get so upset at being disliked. As a spiritual person I shouldn’t have. I learned that it could be a number of reasons
They simply dislike you/your energy
They are jealous/resentful
It could even be karmic
It’s their stuff not yours
There is something in you that is also in them and they don’t like it
Just to name a few
I hope it helps anyone out there not to be upset.
Now I don’t feel upset anymore and I don’t even care, it’s more important that I like myself
Blessings 😇💐❤️
Usually its Jealousy
😆👍
I've encountered one and all of your aspects concerning people who don't like you. Seems to me these people have sometimes hidden agendas. It's really fear and being jealous it can also rest in secret admiration of someone. Ÿou have to be be careful with these
People
In a training program. Everything mentioned in this video happened with group of ppl. The women would compete, management turn pale or red when talking to me. I caught them looking at me dirty, or not making direct eye contact. This video was a confirmation 😂😂. Ppl are so hateful.
My current boss...😂😂
Oh yes i have a few in my circle with ALL these traits...thankfully they are not my friends...i speak to them if i MUST...otherwise i don't have them in my CLOSE circle...i have no time to waste on such one's,my time is priceless😂😂😂.
I AGREE WITH THIS PARTIALLY CAUSE WE STILL NEED FRIENDS ALTHOUGH WE CAN MAKE IT WITH ONLY GOD ON OUR SIDE.
I go to work bc I get paid. I don't want to be friends with my co-workers. They're work acquaintance, not my friends. My private life and work are seperate. My supervisors are the only one I need to impress.
I run into these type of people a lot if you are disliked by these people for these nonsense reasons stay away from these people don't try to win them over, its a waste of your time.
It's their problem jealousies and insecurities that are theirs.
They are not good people. Exclusion etc is cruel and abusive bullying behaviour
No.1: Their body language tells everything
No.2: They compete with you
No.3: They avoid eye contact
No.4: They are open with everyone except you
No.5: They exclude you from social events
No.6: They gossip about you to others
No.7: They disappoint you
No.8: They quickly get frustrated with you
No.9: They take pleasure in your failures
No.10: They rarely offer you compliments
No.11: They don’t laugh at your jokes
No.12: They stick to small talk
No.13: They consistently avoid you
No.14: Their smile is not sincere
No.15: They have a different tone of voice
No.16: Frequent criticism or disapproval
The whole world can dislike me and I could care less. All I care about is what God thinks and feels about me. The reality is we only need God as our only friend.
The thing is my friends aren't bad people AT ALL, the thing is when I talk they talk over me and I practically have to yell and sometimes I still don't get an answer. It sometimes makes me tear up, and it has always been this way and Idk when I'll get friends who listen to me...they just don't. Can't really blame them I doubt I have autism or ADHD, idk, maybe it is cause I interrupt them all the time, idk.
Amen 🙏
Amen
So you DO care? Oh, wait, you mean you COULDN'T care less...
Who???
lmao, I just assume that most people dislike me because I dislike most people, secretly of course
other than occasional acquaintances or friends of friends, this has happened with literally one person only, and would call them a once friend at this point
person was incapable of feeling unconditional happiness and had peoples "badness" and villainization projected onto them their whole life...and albeit unconciously, i participated in that and held deep inside a "youre mean and i'm scared of you" towards them
if you legitimately love someone (all people, really) *unconditionally* and refuse to ever question their goodness and to look at it like "this might be jeopardized because one day they might make me feel xyz or do something that makes me call them bad ect"
...if you refuse to ever put anyone into that box of uncertainty and extreme normalized deep hatred/finger pointing of 'narcissist/mean/bad character/betrayal ect' ( *your own hatred and self-hatred that you refuse to admit* ),
then i promise you that every person shows up as the true version of themselves, who isnt reflecting to you your own hidden self hatred and falsehood beliefs that we can all be too bone-headed to question
we put these awful things on innocent people, and its our doing- because of what we're taught to believe about others as a whole
there's no solid way to refute this
Signs I don't care about what other like or dislike.
No. 6 would be gaslighting
thanks to anyone for the likes.
Another way to see if someone likes you or not is when you do something wrong, something you did not mean to do, but others would shame you and even threaten you. Others in the group will not be as disgusted. One time, a few years ago, a guy I know gave his friend a shot of kratom extract to make his mind feel good and take some pain away. His friend got a bad reaction to it and collapsed and was rushed to the hospital. Long story short, he was eventually okay and got let out the hospital a few hours later. But the man's friends and relatives got mad at the man who gave him the extract and said 'he could have died, and if he died, you would go to jail for murder, and you still should be charged with something for giving him a drug which he is not used to' and so on. The one who took it the best was the one who got affected! He told his family and friends not to be angry with the guy, and the extract is something I could have refused, but I didn't and took it on my own. 'It is my fault for taking the extract,' is what he told everyone. But after that, the guy who gave his friend the extract knew right then and there who really liked him and who didn't.
The big test is finances. If they immediately disown you and don't understand you when you have financial trouble when paying someone back and you are doing your best to be helpful for that person, pay them back ASAP and get rid of them. It's obvious that this person will scream when their finances fuck up, but if you are the one in trouble, you are the shitty person. Nobody seems to like you if you have financial issues.
My job/coworkers
After watching this video, I have 16 reasons to believe that my boss doesn't like me. 😂
Have been around some people that have been like this towards me and they are all ways gossip about me to others shame on them
Wow! I just realized this one person absolutely dislikes me. It's a hard pill to swallow, but at least I have clarity now.
So many people who don't care. And people act like it's a flex, but they're the people who will take advantage of others, without a care. Because no one lives in a vacuum, careless people are in our midst.
Exactly faced the same at past workplace especial frm 2 young ladies . Actually they managed to turn others against me just because their insecure and jealous . Faced alot that I had to leave the place. I ws a clg Professor so were the two ladies. The thing they did was turn all stbdts against me
This is all the characters of my husband now. When we got in a one house.😢
I'm experiencing quite a few situations related to the points mentioned in the video in my husband and in-laws(husband's family)
Most of my family 😂
Ihave a lifelong friend who is doing this to me now. I live in another city now and moved here5 yrs ago I’ve tried keeping in touch regularly and sending jokes and messages about my new life but hey no response not even an acknowledgement sonetibes ,,,,she has answered a lot but not regularly and always has an excuse like too busy I’m getting offended as we have shared our lives since aged 3 all through school and even worked together r before our marriages. Why is she uncommunicative ?
Of course all of these signs
These things spoken of can mean lots of things. I never get compliments. I have experience all of this.. they get angry cause they like u ur hot and want u and can't have u. I've been with those types... And are very shy
All 16 signs described my 22 year old marriage.
Somewhat same here
I experienced all these signs before especially on the job and church. I read somewhere that if people don’t like you, it’s none of our people. I also pray 🙏🏾 to God to remove them from my path. I don’t wish harm them. I just asked God to remove toxic people. I like to get along with people and be in peace.
It is impossible for anybody to dislike me. There is nobody that knows me.
i used to work in a shop just over a year ago, and i only had three co workers, two woman and this man, we all got on well, except the man didnt like me, because he never included me in conversation, and when he used to talk to them he wood stand with his back always at me like i was not there and when they were laughing and joking in the back room his face wood go serious when i walked in, ill never know why, anyway lifes to short to care, as Kevin Bloody Wilson sings in one of his songs, D.I.L.L.I.G.A.F. 🤣🤣🤣😂
I have always been friendly with everyone I worked with.I like a variety of people.however,that doesn't mean they were friends.
I'm experiencing quite a few situations related to the points mentioned in the video in my husband and in-laws(husband's family)
Sorry to hear that
Je m'en suis rendu compte. J'ai enlevé cette personne toxiques de ma vie.
5:44 when you feel pointless just kno that two women used their lower body to pull on a rope together
What about when someone sneaks arsenic into your Newport cigarettes? What about that, huh?
More times than I can count
My sister's.
Some of these signs could also be that of Autistic disorder such as no eye contact. 🙂🤗
I coach with a guy name James that fit all the signs I thought he was just acting like a little girl
Well since there are none. This video means nothing. And somebody wasted lot of time and money.
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I don´t care becasue I am a good human who belives in god.
Who cares i don't like everyone either
biden comes to mind.
When I was, or am in such situations on the ping pong tables,
they are keep tossing my calls or questions to other parties each other,
or they never answer my question directly, and delay my questions as much as they can in order to waste of my time.
Recently, I experience this again while using Michael Management Consulting SAP Live Access Services and their CS employee all the time answered my question, I am not an functional consultant, so cannot answer to your question. I believe that the CS staff should redirect my question to someone who is capable of doing that; I feel like to experience discrimination again? In addition, it is hard to contact them by call.
+ Miss Claire is 김보경 +
Fuqq em