This video was difficult to make since I don't like showing the weaker side of my character, especially about trying to quit a habit I've tried to do for over a decade. I have many journal entries over the last 10 years that talk about the same shit, "I need to quit because of X Y & Z" yet even when I did stop, I would fall right back. I struggled so hard to maintain a cannabis-free lifestyle. I usually have a strong willpower in most areas in life, but I guess we all have our demons...and this addiction was mine. It's f*cking embarrassing making "quitting weed" videos since I've been here before, but screw it. Gotta be honest and real, right? As stated in the video, I finally sorted out what was holding me back (subconscious), instead of focusing on eliminating the behaviour (surface level). I didn't even feel the positive effects until 2-3 months after quitting (maybe because of the insane amount of THC I had in my blood haha). Originally this video was 1 hour long which I cut down to 20 minutes, to make it more concise and entertaining - so there's a lot of nuances and info i cut out, E.g., I'm not against weed (especially medically) - most of my friends smoke it, blah blah blah. I don't judge anyone for doing it (how can I?), just pointing out the personal havoc it had on my life smoking everyday. Different strokes for different folks. "Moderation is key" yeah yeah I know, but this method unfortunately didn't work for me in the past. It would be like drinking alcohol in moderation when I don't enjoy being drunk anymore. So why would I drink in moderation? It's not that I'm afraid I'll turn into an alcoholic, I just don't like who I become on it and find greater joy in creating. Sometimes "restraint is key". All depends on the context, person and season. Does this mean i would never have a glass of red wine or a weed brownie? Maybe, maybe not. I don't really care, since it depends on the situation, but I would rather do other things. Maybe if Joe Rogan or Snoop Dogg invited me for a joint, but outside of those very special circumstances, I'm good. I barely touched on it, but ADHD was a huge factor of my depression and addiction (this is a whole video in and of itself), which were actually symptoms of an unoptimised ADHD brain. Once I learnt this and optimised my environment, lifestyle and processing my emotions, (and most importantly seeking mentorship) the "addiction" naturally fell away. I guess it's a change of identity and finding joy and fulfilment in other things in life. I understand how defensive some stoners can get, but i promise you, I'm not here to take your weed away, nor is this a dig on cannabis. If my story somehow offends you and makes you want to justify weed, and dismiss cannabis addiction, then go ahead, it helps with the algo anyways. I'll still be making docos on weed in the future, as I'm always going to be PRO legalisation, and there are clearly other uses for this plant outside of just smoking it. Anyways, that's enough rambling. Love you all. If you are interested in a guide to help you overcome this particular habit, let me know in the comments. I basically have a PhD equivalent in this topic at this point, so i know all the potential pitfalls, and what works and what doesn't long term :P haha Much love, Your Mate Tommy
To me, drinking alcohol in moderation means enjoying a beer or 2 every once in awhile. It doesn’t mean getting drunk every once in awhile. You can enjoy a glass of wine and get a minor buzz but you are far from being drunk. The problem with weed in my experience is that the line between being “a little high” and stoned to the bone is a very thin line lol. So while weed in moderation could be useful for many, it sounds like for people like you and I, we cannot truly just use weed in moderation. It may start out that way but we inevitably fall back to abusing the substance by getting high way too often. Even if it isn’t often, getting absolutely baked is abusing the substance in my opinion. Just like getting hammered is abusing alcohol, getting stoned is abusing marijuana, regardless of how frequent you get stoned / hammered.
@@scaryperi3051 I used to do that. Most of those friends are dead or hospitalized today, because of excessive drug use and general confusion about what goals to achieve in their lives. So sad.
This whole video just seems like a dude who hung out with the wrong people while he was smoking marijuana and decided to blame it on the marijuana it's all about your surroundings.
@geraldinekeenan-friday3673 still sober. First 10 days were horrible but after it goes actually very good. I have found that i need to make small projekts and Keep myself busy. Cardio helps alot aswell. Eat healty, get a new hobby, life is beautyful
You'll be back to it in a matter of no time...most gen z kids are addicted for a reason. Treat mental health or whatever got you to using first then you won't feel a desire to use it. Understand your addiction don't just exercise and do the basics or you'll fall back into the habit
I smoked weed almost every day for 35 years. Quit two years ago.. After a period of struggling with my weed sobriety things got better and now I am feeling very well. Best decision I ever made.
God is the world so bad that everybody just smoking weed is now just sad about it?? Wtf. The world is getting sadder. Just take care of your business and then f****** get high and have fun! I'm retired at 35 so .....I'm good. I'm going to get real high today and enjoy my life on my boat
As a 40 year old who smoked all day and night, for 25 years, and quit entirely 2 months ago.. I completely agree. It was a rough 1st week, but I have never been so sharp and balanced in my life since stopping.. I just found that there are more important priorities and other things I'd rather be doing with my time.. I have so much more energy and dont have such intense fluctuations in mood anymore. I haven't had a drop of alcohol in over 8 years either.. and am glad I am able to think clearly now that I have eliminated my vices.. I have no interest in either now, and honestly just want to better myself and appreciate life experiences.. like you, I had always had anxiety and depression issues, and now they are virtually non existent.. its been a long road to personal growth, but I'm glad I am in the mindset that i am in now.. thanks for your video, it really helps to know people have gone through pretty much the exact same process I have
I'm a military vet, have some serious pts and I've tried basically every medication to no avail. I use weed every day now. Not getting stoned but taking a puff and waiting 10 mins. Then doing it again. Until I feel my symptoms ease. And then I stop. Moderation is key
I've been smoking for 18yrs and everyday for about 10yrs, i quit 8 days ago and started exercising everyday and i feel ok. I do get depressions sometimes during the day but then i just go for a walk with my dog or hug my wife when she's not at work. I hope to see the day when im 180 days sober from weed!
Good for you man hope you’re still at it im almost ten month clean of crack and now 8 days no tobacco and I have to say these are some of the best choices I’ve ever made in my life
I’m 44 and had been smoking weed daily since I was 21. I had tried quitting a few times and found it insufferable and miserable. I watched your video on how you stopped smoking weed and it just clicked. It’s now been over 40 days without a smoke and I feel great. Thank you so much for making that video. I feel so much more clear headed and in control of my life. I didn’t even plan on quitting, it’s legal and over the counter where I live but after watching your video I just stopped. Absolutely amazing and thrilling.
Bro how did u stop smokeing it I've smoked 25 years I've tryed so menny times but it seems impossible! I say that because I've gone 9 days wiv no sleep not being able two eat constantly sweating etc I had sleep deprivation so bad thought I was going insane sleep deprivation my maye brought me a blunt atright two sleep but I have been told can take 14 days plus like wtf I got two 9 day I was a abouslete mess so how do u stop ???✌️💯🇬🇧
@ I’m 3 months in now and have zero desire to smoke. I got back in the gym and put on 10 pounds of muscle. Try taking on a healthy lifestyle mindset and you know smoking isn’t helping and you’re not going to want to smoke anymore.
Best not to stop cold turkey. I've smoked for 19 years. The way I quit without ANY withdrawal symptoms was slow. No more morning/day smoking, just nights. This was the most difficult part of my quitting process. I smoked 24/7. The way weed affected my personality, I needed weed by afternoon or that's when my grumpiness starts. But I had to endure a few more hours until night. About a week of only night smoking & my body adjusted to getting all my THC in a single sitting/session. At this point just needed to decreasing the amount of THC. Started buying mid grade and not top shelf.(Probably the only person who goes into the dispensary and asking for "regular weed). I got down to only 2 bowls at night. Took about a week to adjust to only 2 bowls at night and then after a week of 2 bowls I cut back to 1 bowl at night. After about a week. I got to half a bowl. Then down to only 2 puffs at night. Until 1 nighti completely forgot to hit the bowl. Feel asleep like a baby. Decided I didn't need to take a puff the next night or after. Only discomfort was having to endure the 1 week to only night time smoking. 1 last thing I'll say is dont smoke immediately before going to sleep. Finish smoking at least a houror 2 before goingto bed. Smoking really messes with good quality of sleep @banksy6027
You've basically just described my life, started around the same time and went through everything you did, I'm 40 now and ive quit again hopefully for the final time, it was literally rotting my brain. Thank you for sharing this has really helped, literally the best video ive seen regarding weed addiction. I hope we can both stay off the weed forever, it was great for a while but I should have stopped years ago. It has definitely had some really negative consequences on my health and life in general. Thank you Tom, wish you all the best ❤
I've recently been going through a lot, I tried giving up smoking last year and only got to about 2.5 months sober. I've been noticing that my mood has been going to shit, I don't get as high anymore and the degrading thoughts are pretty heavy. I just wanted to say thank you, I stumbled on this video 6 hours before new years. This gave me hope. Here's to a better tomorrow.
You just recited and regurgitated my life, except, I refused to ever travel anywhere where I couldn't get or take weed too...I regret that tremendously....I started smoking at 12 yrs old, and now at 53 I'm just over 1 year weed free and have no plans on going back ,I don't t miss it at all. Also, the Richard Prior line that Jim Carrie said about "careful with that, I don't remember 40 years of my life" really hit home... Thanks for making this video and congratulations on putting down the weed. Side note, I've been completely sober from drugs and alcohol for over 5 years. Weed was the last and hardest thing for me to quit. I don't miss it at all.
Its really easy to justify daily weed for me, because it doesn’t destroy my life like alcohol, cocaine, or pain pills have. I’ve had two, multi-year love affairs with cannabis in my life. Its an amazing drug. The best drug, IMO. I had to admit to myself though, that I’m simply not my best me, on weed. Like you, I got to a point where I simply could not enjoy ANYTHING, unless I was stoned. Everything sucks. Food sucks, sex sucks, sleep sucks, entertainment sucks, even my loved ones sucked……unless I was baked. And that’s not me. That’s not who I really am. No passion in life, besides weed. It took about 30 days to feel okay, to see results. It has taken 6 months, and lots of exercising, to learn to sleep again for 6 hours straight, without cannabis. Insomnia was the reason to use cannabis again, and it works…..but only at first. I FEEL GOOD again. I’ve gained weight, because I only ever ate, when high. Food made me gag unless I was stoned. I’m in my best physical shape in almost 20 years. I never dreamed on cannabis. YEARS without dreams. They come back so powerfully, its insane. I’m just now settling into not waking up panicked all the time, but I’m getting there. I don’t swear it off. I don’t judge others for doing it. Its just not for me, right now. I’m enjoying being sober, right now. I’m enjoying feeling good, right now. I’m handling life, on life’s terms, right now.
I once heard that if you supplement with anandamide during the quitting phase it may help with the insomnia that can come. I have never tried it tho but thc supposedly releases alote of anandamide so it could make sense and be helpful
@@Usernam3000 indeed, it worked well for me for quite a while, but I never felt well rested….tired all day even if I slept 7 or 8 hours. And then it just slowly stopped working for me, waking up really early. Plus, I can leave the country again…..and not feel like I can’t because without weed I would never sleep and be miserable.
Dude, I feel like you just narrated my life word for word. I have been telling myself that I need to quit, and after seeing this video, I have decided to do so!! Thank you Tom!!!
Great video! It's been about a year and a half since I last smoked weed. I went through all of the same stages of smoking and having fun, to it being "medication" and smoking multiple times a day and not really being "fun" anymore. Thanks for sharing your experience/journey with us all.
Weird how substances affect people differently. Cannabis saved my life, I was going to end it all I tried it all, Therapy, SSRI, diet changes etc. Combat related PTSD and clinical OCD is much more manageable with cannabis. I work a full time job as a program manager. Own a home, married with three awesome children. I will never stop using.
i dont see this as him hating on it medically, just recreationally abusing it can be a problem, said by someone who is baked as f right now and smokes everyday 😂
I've done the same several times and come to the same conclusion for me personally. Tbh, I'm real fucking sick of these bullshit clickbait influencers declaring that quitting weed is some kind of panacea for a rut. Nah dog, everyone is different, not everyone who punches cones sits on the couch all day gooning. The majority of humanity is reliant on some form of mind altering substance whether it's coffee, alcohol, pharmaceuticals, blah blah blah. Everyone is different, YMMV, but cannabis makes my life invariably easier to enjoy than rawdogging existence. You can pry my bong from my cold, dead hands.
@@ElFantasma13that’s weird right as I read that comment I also said thank you as I clicked on the replies just to read thank you exactly as I was saying it in my head
Please continue to make these videos! I too have struggled for 15 years with trying to quit.. it isn’t easy! Fellow ADHDer here as well. That instant release of dopamine and as a way to regulate intense emotions can become a lifelong crutch that feels impossible to let go of.
I'm in the same boat!! adhd, problems regulating emotions, etc. I only smoke weed at night before sleeping because i have insomnia if i dont smoke weed. The worst part is that i cannot stop since i dont sleep for about a month and it deeply affects my life, especially work. So always back smoking and being so tired..
I did 26 years bro used to love it and was proud to be stoner but it was always affecting me mental health and the last few years i just stopped enjoying it. Had a voice inside of me saying nothing will change until you quit this sh1t. So I quit 1 week after me 41st birthday in July. Now am 111 days sober and I can honestly say it's the best decision I've ever made. Go for it man! 💪
@@parradox83that's amazing dude, I hope to get to that same point you're at! It's hard to kick the habit, but we all get to that point where we know we gotta!
Thank you mate! This is what I needed to hear right this moment. I also started when I was 12, now I'm 40, and it's a way too big part of my life. Can't get high anymore, don't even really want to , because, best case scenario, I'm numb. Worst case I don't feel a change at all. I'm sick of it, and I need to quit before I quit life. I got psychological help and a supportive family. Wish me luck.
great video brother! can confirm all the positive changes you speak of are 100% true, even after 1 month of putting down the joint! will always love this herb, but it's time to try this sober thing that I've heard so much about.... still gonna have the occasional mushroom though 🍄
@@yourmatetom So you just switched. I've never had a drug dealer, but I just listened to your entire video! hah Cold sober as usual! I could go for trying microdosing, as I've had so many botched surgeries, so live in excruciating pain. But how does one find a drug dealer? Enjoy life mate! xo
@@THEBIGLEZSHOWOFFICIAL once again just another idiot that says I'm going to quit smoking weed but I'll continue to do psychedelic mushrooms....what a bunch of fucking morons.
I’ve never even tried to lie to myself. I am heavily dependant on it. Early this year my mother died. I had to watch it happen over months. I got mildly high the whole time on my vape. Even when I watched her take her last breath I was high. I actually feel no shame for that. It did make it easier, I was present with her and never distracted, it gave me just a little distance from the pain. Things fell apart when I ran out and had to wait for a delivery. The grief hit me like a truck and I’m properly depressed for the first time in my life. Its excruciating. Its this that is making me quit, I cannot rationalise interrupting something like the grieving process. It cannot be healthy. So far I have moved onto orally taken oil and away from the instant gratification of vaping. This has actually drastically cut my consumption, you just are not as inclined to eat a cookie if you’re not going to taste it for half an hour. I will wean off totally for at least a while, ive gone some days without but sleep is an issue. I hope to have a healthy relationship with weed again one day and severely cutting down seems like the path to moderation over cold turkey.
@PauloRafael-k6m tons of successful people who smoke every day out there.... tons (probably way more) of people who are not successful but thats the same with sober people. sooo..... what are you trying to say here?
@PauloRafael-k6m "and your statement is based on what facts?" .... that question goes right back to you my friend =) dont ask for proof if you cant provide any, yourself ^^ but sure!!! after you have proofen that you know literally every person on the planet that smokes weed on a regular bases AND that NONE of them are successfull. this shouldnt be a problem for you since you started with an argument and you want me to proof my "counterargument" without having given any sort of proof yourself. so i just hold you to the exact same standart here, as you did me. to finish it off, i will just through some random names in your direction: Cheech and Chong, snoop dogg, whiz khalifa, bob marley, woody harrelson, bob dylan, (allegedly bill gates) and that would just be a tiny fraction of the REALLY REALLY successful ones. i dont know your personal defintion of "successful" but in my opion, beeing relativly healthy (socially, mentaly and physicly) while beeing in a healthy relationship and having a somewhat regulated everyday life (structure, suspendable income, etc.) is beeing VERY successful. and if my personal defintion counts, then i know severall successful people personaly. wich i (of course) wont proof to you because that would require me to give out very personal data of some of my friends on the internet for everybody to see. just think for a minute... whats more plausible? you are right and of 8 billion people (wich would just take the ones currently alive into acount) no one, NONE, ever, was succsseful on weed..... OR i am right and some were successful on weed?
@PauloRafael-k6m hm.. i wrote a VERY lengthy answer but it got deleted it seems. so i write it again but in short. i started by saying that you started with an argument without giving proof and still want me to give proof that you are wrong, when you didnt even attempt to give any proof that you are right, in the first place. then i said something like just look up famous people who smoke everyday (e.g. snoop doog, cheech and chong). but i gave way more examples and added other stuff then i was talking about the definiton of success and that it (the definition) always depends on personal perspective. then i said (after i gave my personal defintion) i know people myself. then i finished by saying something like, just use your brain and think for a moment. what is more likely?: if you are right then no stoner every, in the history of men kind, was successful or can be successful and if i am right then some are succeesful. i wont bother anymore if it gets deleted again. not that important
Been a cannabis user for 36 years, 24/7 for the past 5 years. I even grow my own. At 54, I have to say, I think i'm finally getting over it. It did me well for many years but lately it's diminishing returns and maybe even causing more anxiety than it helps resolve. I'm already down to half or less of my usual usage in a couple months but definitely see I;'m headed towards stopping altogether.
I can relate to everything you said. I just went to the Philippines for a month and didn’t take any with me. I was wondering how it would go and I barely missed it. I’m back in California and back to it. I got to see what weed does to you. I love it but it’s far from the perfect drug. Nicotine is the meanest one for me.
GenX- I spent the month of October in Davao City with a lady who I met on Christian Filipina. I had a blast. We went to Palawan Island and it was beautiful. And I’ve lived Hawaii for several years. El Nido Palawan is a special place. I’m getting ready to go back this February and March to Davao. I’m thinking another Palawan trip except this time at least 10 days instead of four. 2004 I went to Cebu when I was living in Hawaii for vacation and took weed with me. I was much braver then. My excuse was personal amount. You don’t want to go to jail there.
Hey man you’re story is very similar to mine- I’ve not smoked since the end of January and I’ve had a great year - I’ve discovered a new love for life and genuinely am high of life. I won’t lie I’ve been tempted - but simultaneously proud of myself . My friends that smoke now when they see me smoking a cigarette do a double take to make sure I’m not smoking weed. They went from trying to convince me to smoke to encouraging me to continue. I’d like to encourage you to continue your battle stay strong and enjoy the new freedom you’ve acquired. Well done keep it up and remember to congratulate yourself- you’ve closed a chapter that’s very difficult to complete - now go forth and see what life has to offer sober
7:10 is the realest thing I’ve heard. I only started smoking a year or 2 ago but quickly started smoking everyday. I’ve tried almost every drug in the mood yet weed is my hardest personally to quit. I do genuinely think it’s because of our connection with it. I view the other drugs as “I’ll do it every once in a while for fun if I can find it”. But with weed there is a genuine emotional connection once you do it everyday and breaking that connection really does feel similar to breaking off a friendship. It’s hard to explain but I’m glad I’m not alone.
You know that your mind and your brain chemistry adapts to changes right? It could be it just helped you improve in some point, and now you really dont need it.
I've quit smoking from 6 months to a whole year several times in my life, but usually I quit for 3-5 months. I've done this mostly every year, or at least every other year, since I was 19. Currently aged 39. I just get bored with it and decide to quit for a while every so often. What did I notice during these periods? Nothing, I just felt sober. No revelation of any kind, no renewed energy/clarity or anything like that, it just felt like I was sober and that's it.
The same for me. I smoked for years and then i quit for about 10 years. It didn't really change my life in anyway. I started back about 2 years ago i feel less stressed after work and at home.
This dude was addicted since 12 years-old, very different. Cannabis is blameless, but starting too young or overusing or abusing is the problem. Peace 💯
@@Blessed2XS Here is the dude is the problem, not the weed and the useage. If you can fight your demons you can do it with sober mind and altered mind too, but if you don't.. you can use anything and quit anything , nothing will change. But it's only my opinion.
Bro u need to connect more to your damn self and not to a random TH-camr that is telling a story. If you feel your life is shit then probably is time to quit.
Im 25 now and my lifes been similar to yours since i started at 13. Ive noticed the anger stuff and using weed as a coping method. I think you've gave me the willpower to quit for good
I'm in the same boat as you started at 14 now 24 and man this was this core of it all for me aswell. Wonder what's the root of all this anger everyone has
@@justinplumb ez, my root is that i hate working 40 hours per week. I would love to just have my hobbies and no more than 12 hours of work per week. It can be a different reason for everyone though.
@iClipper I would say your both right because my mum never allowed me to be angry it was always if u have nothing nice to say don't say it at all and go to your room and shut yourself away until your ready. So smoking weed just simulates that for me, if I smoke then I don't say things ppl dont wanna hear, but I never got to healthily express so it's all repressed stuff backed up
Thank you so much,! I smoke since my 18th and now I am 63 and still didn't quit because I smoke " moderate ", ....gonna mail you because the side effects for me are very embarrising, I subscribed. Never heard such an honnest summary of how to eventually break through this addiction.
I decided to quit weed for good about a month ago. I had tried in the past but with all the friends I knew who used, and my parents who were okay with it and supplied me with stuff, I always felt like it was fine for me do it in moderation. But im also one of those people who cant do it in moderation. As hard as it was to lose that way to avoid my problems, and honestly what was a major part of my identity, I know in my heart that this was right for me. After only a month my memory has gotten better, the days have gotten longer, and life is generally starting to feel better after relearning how to face my problems again (though the dreams are fuckin CRAZY). Great video and congrats on 180 days!
The weed itself is telling me enough is enough every time I smoke. Very relatable with how i'm becoming terribly forgetful and just in general, becoming worse at my job. Failing to adapt or think ahead or just keep any information in. Can't remember half of the places i've been or remember where I was last week. I can feel myself becoming stupid(er)
@@edukdelas Bro, It's the old wendy's i'm always smoking. Waking up not as well rested and going to work just to want to get back to get stoned, agitated by 12 - 1pm in the working day. Annoyed without it, anxiety riddled with it.
this video genuinely made me cry. im 34 now and my life is on pause since im 27. idk if its weed since i havent been smoking for a while and my life is not regenerating bc of that. but what is actually happening is i have lost all energy to get through my life. ive become a socially isolated gamer. maybe a teenager's dream life but i dont feel alive at all. neither do i feel like i could ever break out and just push through. depression do be like that i guess. but it has been 7 years and oh man, every routine i put up is dead in a week or 2 and i cannot seem to help myself, nor find somebody to help me. this video threw all my past 7 years right at my face. ty for the real talk. and congratulations, man. you achieved everything you could. as a german gamer would say "einfach leben durchgespielt" (you finished your playthrough of life).
If it's possible for you, find a decent therapist/psychologist and start figuring out what the major issues in your life are. Once you figure that out (with or without help), start figuring out what needs to change. Then start figuring out how to change that. Persevere. It takes time. At minimum, you need to start moving and get out of your house every day. Walking is the easiest movement/exercise that everyone can do. If possible, walk in greenery (parks, woods, trails...). Being in greenery has psychologically positive effect on your mood. Cultivate positive mindset and hope no matter what. Learn to see the glass as half-full rather than half-empty. Figure out the minimum positive things that you are capable of doing and start from there. That said, if you have a very powerful negative effect in your life (e.g. addiction, relationship...), you almost certainly need to remove it to actually make your life better. If you are a gamer, then it probably is playing video games 🤷♂
for me taking everything one step at a time helped, im like you in the way i try a new routine and it doesnt end up working. just try doing the small things first and once your comfortable with doing it add more onto your routine. i started with just doing some breath focus meditation and it made me feel like i was actually alive and its really easy to do from home so id say you should start with that
@@Will-gy1zo It was just a perfect storm for me. The doctors said quit or walk around with an oxygen tank & my bro & his wife quit & they smoked more than me. You have to be ready mate.
there are still people in the comments saying weed ISNT dangerous when in reality it CAN be. Weed can destroy your lungs, your memory, your dreams, your sleep, etc. It has a long long loooooong list of benefits but it won’t benefit you if you’re abusing it. moderation and discipline is key but not everyone is able to moderate, addiction is no joke.
Uh huh, as a Pothead in my 40s, I too can honestly say it's not meant to be consumed 24/7, or even normally on a daily/nightly basis. It definitely alters one's Brain chemistry and makes it seem more normal to take in external sources of Cannibanoids and not use the Brain's own endogenous supply of them.
They sell paracetamol at the store and that can kill you in the most horrible way possible if you take too much, even "water toxicity" is a real condition, so to say a massively mind altering substance carries 0 risk is brain rot, no hate to anyone who thinks that way, they just haven't hit rock bottom yet to do the hard lessons for themselves
That's funny because my sleep has gotten tons better since I started smoking weed to the point where I don't have nightmares anymore whereas I had them almost every week, sometimes multiple days in the same week.
@@SammyRenard my sleep got better when I first started smoking cuz I was sleeping more and able to stay asleep, but over time my sleep became less and less refreshing. It fucks with your rem sleep and maybe for a while your body will get by fine without noticing it but the repeated nights with shitty rem sleep definitely has a negative consequence
Thanks for sharing. You described my life. I'm 6 months clean with constant doubt if I'll ever do it again. You've given me the strength to continue my sobriety
You wanted a roast from a different angle, here goes.. If you really loved weed, why did you never grow it? That to me was what made moderation much easier. If you pay money for weed, smoking weed is essentially burning money, but if you grow it's just a relationship you have with a plant, and that to me is the most beautiful aspect of my weed "addiction".
Appreciation. This is something that happens in traditional growing cultures. In the west, it's all about getting as messed up as possible on 28% hybrids.
Once I started growing my own cannabis my use went down, I literally smoke a joint/day. The weed is clean, no chemicals just dirt, worms and natural biology! Don’t experience what he talking about 😂
Amen. started smoking weed in my teens. I'm 56, have smoked the same amount for decades. Work very hard and have a lot of energy. I take no Pharma. Don't have high blood pressure. Only medicinal herbs and supplements. . If I smoke when I should not, I cop the fear. It is my truth serum in a way. God bless you all.
One of the things about weed that’s kept me from ever using more than a couple times a year is how it screws up my memory for days afterwards. I don’t have to wait till it becomes a habit to notice the difference.
Struggling with weed addiction, i smoked almost daily for 16 years, but now its a false friend and just a big weight on my life i can also feel myself getting dumber and slower, more agressive and on edge too. I stopped monday so its been only 5 days, your video is on point i feel exaclty like you describe. Thank you
Once you find that the life you want can only be achieved by not smoking when you see that smoking can't make the day good enough anymore and any change is better than more of the same. The nightmares and appetite problems are horrible and it may take months to become fully clean but it is honestly worth it.
I quit drinking alcohol after 40 years of it. Every day. The last 5 years of which was heavy. I would down a 6 pack of strong IPAs and would pour crown royal into them to “fortify” them as I called it for an extra boost. Again, this was every day, including the daily black out. I tried quitting several times but always relapsed. Finally and a really bad night I decided to finally stop. It was extremely hard, but I’m 3 1/2 years without a drop. I’m 60 now and sure I could have never made it if I hadn’t stopped. I recently started taking a few hits of weed at night for my chronic back pain to aid in sleep. I’m not sure if I’m trading one devil for another, but I do know that alcohol was a death sentence and weed is not.
How you can even drink it that long i got no idea. I drink it everyday for just a week and it takes a massive toll on my physical health. Weed isn't perfect either, but i can do it for a long time before it starts to negatively affect me.
@@grassyfieldz4578 yeah it was a lot and I was headed for the grave quick. I had a college drinking buddy die at 59 from drinking. His liver gave up. This was going to be my destiny if I hadn’t quit. I can’t believe weed is still illegal in a lot of states. It’s alcoholic that should be illegal.
Weed although not perfect or completely risk free, is a looooot better than alcohol. I know it’s a classic “stoner” argument but it’s 100% true. I don’t care who you are, a weed addiction will never ruin your life as much as alcohol addiction ( you will fucking die )
@@jeremyc4893 Yeah you won’t die from it. A friend of mine is actually an alcoholic and he almost had liver failure. We are just 27 years old. Another dude I know just smokes weed all day. He is a sad mf who can’t remember shit, but at least he ain’t dying 😆😆😆
The good thing about Mary is that it gives you a contrast that nothing else does. I've been smoking since I was 18, Now I'm 50. Once I quit smoking for three consecutive years and my mood and productivity improved, but on the other hand, I began to repress my emotions too much, and I started taking everything too seriously to the point that tension and stress began to make me sick
Everything you said made so much sense. It was as thou you were talking about me (sitting there with a joint hanging from my lips). You gave me a new way of thinking about it. Ive been smoking for 45 years and I think I'm done with that chapter of my life. Thank you for helping me to open my eyes to the simplicity of the situation. Thank you!
I gave it up 2 months ago now, and haven't looked back. Was a lot easier than i thought it was going to be. Like you, was smoking 20+ years. I made the decisions, smoked the last of my stash, and that was it... im done. No one convinced me, was just a decision i made. Its not who i am anymore. Great video!!
This is why I have very strict rules on how much I can smoke. 3 times a week is the MAX. Not during the day, only in the evening when work is done. And every 3 months I do 30 days clean. Up until now I've been listening to my own rules... If that changes I have to reconsider my relationship to it. Congrats on beating your addiction! ❤
@@honorylealtad5596 true, I consider it a bit of an addiction. Just trying to at least not overindulge in it and try to be mindful enough about it. I've tried using daily but it doesn't make me happy to use 24/7.
@@honorylealtad5596 dawg this is the healthiest way ive ever heard of someone interacting with a substance of this nature in my life. this is not addiction
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your journey, so much of what you shared I can relate to. 11 weeks sober today after trying to quite for the last 2 years and I feel better than ever. I also felt like I couldn't do it for a long time until I started to unpack what was going on inside me that was driving the habit. To anyone thinking about quitting, you've got this!
watching this video and listening to you talk about your story, and aside from not starting smoking weed till I was 19, I'm 52 now and throughout the years I smoked on and off for years. Now I smoke all day everyday and I'm starting to have similar feelings as you sounded when you realized the issues weed was causing. This is where I'm at now. I beat myself in the head all day about why I need to quit smoking, and yet everyday I'm still burning steady day in day out. many blessings all.
Try for free Sahaja Yoga meditation on line and in person and also Abraham Hicks The Law of Attraction website and in TH-cam those are the 2 best. Feel good in your thoughts, emotions, vibrational balance and in the stories that you tell. Because the better you feel the better you attract to you. I studied them for 20 years. They really work.
I have been an everyday smoker... And I have been off for years. I always come back, and trying to push something away I like isn't helpful. Moderation is the key to life. We must all build discipline. Is the point in life to give up everything that gives you pleasure? Life is hard enough without giving up everything. I smoke once or twice a week now, and I have never felt better.
I think this is it. Self control and discipline with everything. Temperance. Nothing is good without moderation. I know weed gives me pleasure but it only does in moderation. I've been an everyday stoner to the same level as Tom, and I also reached the same conclusion; it became unenjoyable and unfulfilling. I have quit a few times too i.e complete abstinence and then began using again and only when it was infrequent and controlled was it enjoyable. Whenever I let myself fall into frequent smoking it would result in me not enjoying it again. I've realised that it's not the weed that was the issue, it was my lack of discipline.
Dude!! My story...your words. Over 20 years as a chronic smoker, it all ended with psychosis. I'm 23 years clean now. It was the longest, most drawn-out detox of any drug I was ever addicted to. Don't let people tell you you're a lightweight being addicted to cannabis....they're wrong!! Thanks for your brutal honesty mate, thanks for helping others, much love.
@agilansritharan8209 I decided to quit..put all my weed in the backyard and blitzed it with the whipper-snipper, got my pipe and bong and smashed them, and chucked them in the bin. I then had what is classically described as a mental breakdown. I now understand that it was withdrawal at a high level, I was such a heavy user. My saving grace was my neighbour who was in early stages of alcohol recovery, I reached out to him, and he took me to a 12 step meeting (Alcaholics Anonymous). I then discovered that there was a 12 step group just for marijuana in my city (Adelaide). This is how I got clean and never went back...through support groups with people on the same path. I came to realise I'm not a weak person with no willpower, but an addict. That was a revelation coming to know that. So my suggestion is to find similar people who can support you and others and give it your best shot...and no...I firmly believe harm minimising and reducing usage is not the answer, complete abstinence with support is. I wish you all the best on your journey to finding your authentic self, much love brother. 🙏 As a footnote, like Tom, I've engaged in psychedelic therapies in recent years after extensive research (I was fearful of addiction) and had amazing experiences. Psylocibin is being used clinically to treat addiction around the world, and trials are being conducted in Australia. I'm not suggesting that you dive head first into a mushroom trip...but consider it further down the road as part of your recovery.
@@madsquidman6570There is no panacea for addiction including Twelve Steps and/or mushrooms. It an unforgiving malady. You come into this world alone and you leave it that way . “Never rely too much on anyone, because even your own shadow will leave you when you’re in darkness” ~ Dale Carnegie
Day 1, after a 30 year habit. Ive thrown it all in the trash many times, but this is different. Im 47 and I want my life to continue getting better. Very grateful for this video and all folks sharing their stories on the internet. It helps to relate to others. For me, I've had a very productive life, but only I have to look in the mirror at my own truth. I need to quit.
I’ve been smoking weed for almost a whole decade, daily smoking for 7 years, and spinning with tobacco for 5 years… Hearing how well you’ve recovered from 20 years of smoking is really inspiring. Thank you always for your work Tom ❤
Same thing happened to me. Thought I couldn't get through life without it, but it got the better of me. Now Its just a rare treat instead of a constant thing.
It will get easier the longer you are sober. The beginning is hard because everything is boring. One day you'll notice you are actually having fun while still being sober
Love the honesty in this. I’m trying moderation first and will see how things go. Everyone is different but you definitely touched some fundamental truths here.
That part on how you tried every other drug but weed hooked you, everything I've learned in school about the endocannabinoid system, that checks why you always turn back to it. It's literally engrained in our bodies. As long as doctors are still prescribing life long prescriptions to anti depressions ect. You'll probably do less harm with weed, but I'm not a doctor of course.
@@Mcnutt420 Weed makes you even more depressed when you are in a depressed or bad state. Never seen someone feeling good after smoking while depressed or anxious. You don't need to be a doctor to know this mate.
@@user-ku5be4nc3g that's honestly the only problem with this video, quiting weed is only gonna change your life if your already depressed. weed enhances how you feel. I think the problem is it's just easier to quit weed when it makes you think about your problems instead of just fixing them to begin with.
I got addicted to it and depended on it, couldn't sleep without it. For decades! I finally went cold turkey and it was really hard. I barely slept until I broke through on the other side after about 10 days. Then my dreams became so vivid and intense for a while. After about a year without it my dreams are still vivid and detailed but not as weird. I love the dream state now. While i was a stoner i rarely remembered my dreams. Life is so much better without it.
I sleep way better without it... it totally screws up dreaming which is a very important and restorative sleep state. It messes with the pineal glands secretion of melatonin which helps us to have dreams and then convert to serotonin during the day... I get so much more done without it.
bro when i was smoking weed when i went to the toilet it was like i had diarrhea each day. I am clean for almost 2 months now and i can see that my poo is way different.
you speaking just truth and im also smoking since my childhood and i can confirm all that .. i found myself always getting back to quitting for a time even a year. And then somehow getting back and again.. i know its a bad way..And you brought me again to the decision. Thanks for it Tom
Its nice to see a video and see how someone feels after quitting but being pretty transparent. I dont feel how you feel. So i cant relate to this video and honestly. I have the thought that weed really wasnt your issue. But your escape from your inner issues. And you didnt want to escape anymore you wanted to deal with it. And i respect that. God speed my friend. Ill keep smoking and enjoying my cannabis. But i understand that its truly not aomething everyone wants in their life and it doesnt work for a lot of people either. Respect 💪
That’s true of all drugs. They are just chemicals existing. We create a dependence by putting them in our body so often our body adjusts to this new state. Without the compound the brain and body feel like they are out of balance because they are. Until the body adjust again to a balanced state without the drug. Whether that drug is THC, alcohol, nicotine, it didn’t seem to make a difference psychologically. There are nuances about the danger of withdrawal but there is still a body that is used to a chemical such that when it’s not there the body notices and struggles.
Weed affects different people in different ways. I as like you, I used it everyday, after 20 years I stopped using it. After 6 weeks I was becoming more confident, more positive thoughts, better sex drive, all just a +++. 30 years after I stopped I'm successful, confident, help others more and very happy with life ♥️
Day 4 here in withdrawals. Miserable. Excellent video. Extremely helpful. I have been trying to find moderation for a long time. I quit for 90 days on average, relapse for 2 weeks, then hate myself & go cold turkey. I learned something from you today because I can relate to you a lot. Time to put this bullshit behind me!
Sobriety is a million times better ultimately, unfortunately. it's boring at first but becomes insanely rich after a while. Everything is more enhanced ultimately but for the long term, and is not just a temporary boost
The thing with boredom on withdrawal is, that it's actually a very good thing: If you're addicted you'll spend lots of time on your habit and if it's gone you'll be left with a lot of time you could use differently. Out of that boredom - which in my case only lasted like 5 days - curiosity to do new things or stuff you've used to do will flourish. Imo a lot of people, especially GEN Z, can't deal with boredom so they either chose to distract themselves with weed abuse or other dopamine holes like mindlessly scrolling social media.
@ Yeah you are dead on. Sober I spent like 6 weeks learning how to produce music again and am fast-tracking at such alarming rates, making some quality sound already. While partying/drinking - forget about it. I never had a problem to be fair, it was just very distracting. I can't imagine someone with a legitimate addiction trying to be functional. I was struggling just once/twice a week going super hard.
Weed, for me anyway, made me okay with being bored and doing barely anything. Without weed that boredom was unbearable. But rather than going back to being okay with boredom I'm occupying my time living life on life's terms
I've been addicted for 20 years, I'd smoked before I went to uni and loved it but it was more of a social experiment for me, but within a week of smoking everyday I was hooked. I honestly can say I thought forever. A phycologist told me I had virtually no chance of quitting which these last two years has made me give up on quitting tbh. Think you've inspired me to give it another go
im no expert but i would say, you need a new psychologist ( guess that is what you ment. because a "phycologist" is an expert on alga.. dont know how that person could help with addiction ^^) but if he/she says that you have NO chance at quitting then you might as well quit the therapy as a whole (if its about the addiction only). everybody CAN quit... not everybody accomplish it though. but nobody ever got rid of an addiction with the help of a psychologist that tells you that you cant do it!!!! get you a new one (easier said than done, i know)
Weed is so easy to quit. It takes about a week or two and then the cravings are completely gone and you should be sleeping normally again. Now tobacco is very hard to quit.
I think the most dangerous part of weed is that it's not that harmful. That makes it easier to use it and still be relatively functional. It also makes the argument to quit weak because it's not that bad for you. In all practical sense I feel all the same as you describe in this video. The anhedonia really sucks in the beginning. Great video. Thanks!
It probably is very harmful. How can inhaling smoke not be harmful for your lungs and throat? I feel like a lot of stoners think: it’s not cancerous, therefore it’s not harmful. I certainly noticed my brain and lungs functioning a lot better after being off weed for a year.
It's way more harmful/risky than people realize; particularly the ridiculously potent stuff around these days. Also for the life of me I have no idea how people function on the stuff. It ramped my anxiety up to 11 about 95% of the time and made me MUCH slower in every conceivable way. Was much more manageable when I had tolerance buildup but still nothing resembling a "background substance" to quote Chappelle. I understand that everyone's respective physiology is distinct which explains the disparate subjective experiences but I do still have to wonder if someone may be somewhat out of tune with his body if he's able to chronically use a substance for years on end and still insist that it's all been entirely harmless. I mean I can expose you to a parade of heavy stim-users who would tell you the same thing but something tells me you'd question the validity of the very same sentiments you express if you were to hear it from them.
@@Karderi-j4t I doubt I'll be able to get my comment to show up if I were to reference individual studies but if you go the channel 'Addiction Mindset' he interviews several legitimate doctors who reference such studies. There was one a month ago specifically centered around the correlation between high potency and the development of schizophrenia (go back a month and 'psychosis' is in the title). The gentleman provided a slideshow featuring data from a study including graphs, one of which clearly demonstrated that potency in particular was even more of a determinant than frequency of use. He did another great one two years ago with Anna Lembke and although she mostly recounts anecdotal evidence you should bear in mind that these anecdotes do come directly from her clinical practice. Now there's clearly selection bias at play there but even then it's still informed by plenty of hard data regarding the dopaminergic system, homeostasis, the endocannabinoid system, etc. The research is certainly beginning to paint a picture. Science is slow-going and this high-potency stuff is relatively recent. Even so a rule of thumb in pharmacology is that higher potency generally translates to more side effects and a higher risk of experiencing them. These revelations shouldn't surprise us.
@@Karderi-j4t Would love to help with that but apparently TH-cam won't let me. The studies are accumulating. The high potency stuff is a relatively recent phenomenon and science moves slowly.
I completely stopped drinking alcohol on 1/5/2024 and as a chronic cannabis user, I also quit smoking on 1/1/2025. I'm not gonna lie - I still feel the same way I did when I was high, maybe even worse. most of my free time after work is spent in bed, with no interest in doing anything. my house is a mess and I don't seem able to do anything about it I have no motivation, no friends, no girlfriend. I thought quitting weed would make things better, but so far, it hasn't. if anything, it feels worse. I don’t plan on starting again, even though the cravings are hell, but I really thought things would be different. in reality, it's probably even worse... fml....
Youre just seeing in full clarity. Be a better you everyday. Even if it's micro baby Steps. Keep that head up. Keeps your eyes to the sky, never glued to your shoes.
@@HomelessVeteran-ky7qs thanks mate, I really appreciate your kind words. I know I can’t expect miracles yet, it's only been a month after 10 years of nonstop smoking, but I still don’t feel great. hopefully things get better with time. thanks again
@@Shaixorit's more than just “seeing clearly”. you're experiencing weed withdrawal. This is often what happens when long-time smokers quit, and it's often the number 1 reason for starting up again. Your brain has been used to consuming cannabis for a very long time. Your dopamine & serotonin systems are fucked up, and your body no longer creates its own endocanabinoids. So you get the feeling that everything's going wrong, that nothing's getting better, that it's even “worse”. But that's not true. It's a perception skewed by your cannabis-starved brain. It's a bit like going downhill on MDMA. Get plenty of sleep, exercise, eat a varied diet and supplement with vitamins, zinc, omega-3, magnesium and NAC. At the end of the day, we're just animals that need the right molecules to function properly.
“Everything tires me” really spoke to me. Everything you said after that regarding how you felt and how you’re mind works really opened my eyes on how my mind works as well.
I relate. I smoked from age 13 to 33. I am 35, I am 21 months off cannabis. Towards the end I was smoking 10 or more blunts a day. At the end I was smoking wax almost non-stop. Every thing I did had to have cannabis involved. I justified it by the fact that it seemed to help me study and it helped me relax after my workouts. But being this far away from it, now I just don't need it. And I don't want it to disrupt my focus, my energy, my clarity. So I plan to just not smoke anymore. Haven't watched your videos in maybe 2 years. Awesome to see you've also decided to stop. Cheers mate.
Seems like you were running away from bigger issues you didn't want to sort through, I hope you did that hard work now of determining what and why you turned to drugs at 13!!!
@@jackalexander5099 Not really sure how to interpret what you are saying. Important thing I've already noted is I don't use drugs anymore. Hope you got that point as thats what I was relating to Tom here with.
@RichardHorvatich963 drugs aren't good, but maybe there is a reason you turned to drugs especially at such a young age. It's not a hard concept to garner.
@@jackalexander5099 You're just reiterating what my point was. And you're doing it as if I dont understand my own point. Unnecessary mate. Just stroking your ego for nothing. Take care dude.
@@RichardHorvatich963 do the hard work kid, you have issues... you acted like you didn't understand.. sensitive much... I guess that's all to do with the samtate of your mental health...
I quit smoking weed and drinking on NYE, I definitely resonate with 'all or nothing', I couldn't 'just' have one cone or drink one beer, once it was in my system the impulse to consume more would be rabid. 11 days in and i'm starting to enjoy games and getting outside and everything again without needing that 'filter'. I often described weed as allowing me to feel the nuance of a moment, and when i wasn't stoned everything just felt the same and so bland. Only 11 days in but i'm realising how much i only felt that way because of how abusing those things took it away in the first place. Keep goin bro! I'm on the journey too.
great video! finally i found someone who talks straight truths that drugs can be in fact very harmful for lives and i find that very helpful to have it heared. thank you man!
I am in tears watching your video Tom. Word for word it’s like a narration of my life. ADHD included. So happens I’m going through that same epiphany the past 2 weeks and I’m literally done after 25 years at the age of 43. This video really helps.
Same here. 8 quit for 7 years. Then 2020 hit and I got locked in. So smoked and instantly remembered why I smoked in the 1st place. As long as your in control and not the other way around then all is ok. But you can say the same edit Twinkies too...lol
I'm thankful I can control myself. Never had a problem with addictions (except maybe gaming). I smoke it about once a week and so far it seems to be fine. I can notice though that if I have some huge project that I want to work on, I gotta pause weed. Cause it takes your attention away from it.
@@fbwqmyxd6j I quit because the pandemic forced me back to a right wing state. It’s been completely miserable and the whole idea of “get your life straight and conform” has proven to be garbage
I started smoking in my mid thirties. I'm loving it. I think everyone's experience will be different. That being said, I think your story has a lot to do with mental health and finding your purpose.
Thats not a comparison as you waited untill the optimal age to start smoking weed. Good job tho, because the younger you start the more likely you will end up slightly stupid (speaking from experience)
No Tyler people are not dillusional, people are giving accounts of their PERSONAL experiences with weed, there is no right or wrong, no one here is arguing that for some people smoking weed is beneficial, so don't take it personally mate! Smoke away, smoke your whole life away if that is what you choose and what you enjoy! I smoked everyday for about 14 years, I quit 3 years ago and as much as I miss it, my life is better 10x I have motivation and am much fitter now than I was before, that doesn't mean that you can't smoke weed! Just that we have had different experiences, enjoy my man @@tylerwill5250
Can relate to practically everything you said. I used to defend weed like it was my physical person. Smoked so much of it (over the course of the past 10 years - I'm 36 now) I've got to the point I'm tired of it. Vaping too, smoking rollies etc. It does nothing for you. Delays you. Distracts you. There's no discipline just instant gratification anytime life gets a bit too tough. Facing life sober will always be king. Enjoy your vices, just in moderation. When you rely on them, you make yourself vulnerable. Thank you, sir.
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Some stories want their readers to deny truth and reason, or else the power from that story crumbles apart. Nothing is guaranteed in life except death. Don't follow any system that denies you of your biological rights of entering a higher realm in dreams, or in induced states. Don't confuse every dream for it, if you've been there you will remember it. The truth there is far more spiritual and real than any story you've been told to believe. Physical perception and sensations are no different than the physical world you see and experience in front of you now. Keep waiting like many before you for a god that only comes after death, or believe in yourself and your connection to this world, and experience what so many of ancestors from all over the world did before being silenced. It's alive like we are, and the keys there can be hard to find, but nature can be there to help. Not in chronic daily use either. I personally used marijuana to suppress that connection for 20 years; for personal reasons, and I'm looking forward to strengthen that connection again by quitting. Not to say I won't pick it up again in the future, but everyone's journey is different. Be safe on yours.
As someone who has ADD, and has been a daily smoker for about a decade now, this video resonated with me a lot. Had a recent experience on mushrooms where one of the things my inner mushroom brain kept telling me, “happiness is already there. It’s found within. Quit trying to make it happen, quit trying to find something to give it to you, quit trying to run to it. Find it within you where you are currently at”
Over a year ago, I lost an opportunity for my future I thought I couldn’t live without. I told myself then that I needed to heal and get better. It took a year of me wallowing in my shit, sparking up and hitting my penjamin every chance I got. About half way through the year, I recognized the problem, and I was smoking it. A lot of it. I’ve been facing the deep depression you spoke of. Low. Lower than I thought possible for myself to experience. I woke up Monday morning pretty angry at my situation. And really- all I could do was look at the person in the mirror. I decided just then- I will replace my addiction with a more healthier and beneficial addiction- whether I wanted to or not. I’m not giving myself the option. It’s time to quit! I ran 3 miles last night instead of sparking up. Tonight I look at my dwindling supply and forcing myself to do pushups until my arms can’t even pick up my favorite microphone. I see my sobriety on the horizon. Thank you for the motivation.
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This video makes so much sense ,you couldn’t explain it any better. Pure truth ,from the heart ✌️the reason I find it hard to quit is cause I’m still attached to weed . I need to detach and delete that open app clouding up my conscious mind . I so needed this video. 🙏 god bless you for sharing this video 💙
I’m so glad I found your video. Your introduction was exactly the same as myself. I’ve recently quit from a 30 year habit. My life is changing for the better and im so proud of myself.
thats a thing nobody want to admit, it is hard to quit caffeine but it is causing so much anxiety, i am a sober alcoholic on 4,5 year hurray for me, in the rehab facility coffee was allowed, but i have found out that some rehabs takes all stim,ulus away also the potent drug coffeee caffeine which is very fascinating,, have a good day :)
I had access to every drug possible an i had the most excellent life. Let me blame drugs for the bad things I did when in fact the happy ones they are the main reason I can walk into rooms or down the street an everyone come up an talk to me. Littlerly it's like magic how drugs can make others feel how I do. That's good Drugs tho that attract others. Weed just helped level it out.
I smoked everyday for over 2 decades as well. I am 40 yrs old now and started when I was 15. I quit for work over 6 months ago and aside from a 3 day period where i experienced very minor withdrawal symptoms, I feel no different. Expected to feel sharper and more active when in fact, for me, i see no difference from when i was smoking. I feel the same when i wasn’t high as now when im not high. Thats an honest truth.
I've seen people on both ends. I used to have real trouble not smoking, now when I have to travel for work I don't care at all. I think it's just a mental maturity thing for me. Maybe quitting helped this guy reach the point of mental maturity he wanted, and now he's happier.
I started also when I was 12. Had a rough childhood. Many Problems. Smoked em all away. Doing criminal stuff even sold it at one point, doing more bad stuff. Quit all of it some time ago. I only smoke from time to time when I feel good never when Im feeling bad. But because of this video I think I will quit forever. Thanks man.
This video was difficult to make since I don't like showing the weaker side of my character, especially about trying to quit a habit I've tried to do for over a decade. I have many journal entries over the last 10 years that talk about the same shit, "I need to quit because of X Y & Z" yet even when I did stop, I would fall right back. I struggled so hard to maintain a cannabis-free lifestyle. I usually have a strong willpower in most areas in life, but I guess we all have our demons...and this addiction was mine.
It's f*cking embarrassing making "quitting weed" videos since I've been here before, but screw it. Gotta be honest and real, right? As stated in the video, I finally sorted out what was holding me back (subconscious), instead of focusing on eliminating the behaviour (surface level). I didn't even feel the positive effects until 2-3 months after quitting (maybe because of the insane amount of THC I had in my blood haha). Originally this video was 1 hour long which I cut down to 20 minutes, to make it more concise and entertaining - so there's a lot of nuances and info i cut out, E.g., I'm not against weed (especially medically) - most of my friends smoke it, blah blah blah. I don't judge anyone for doing it (how can I?), just pointing out the personal havoc it had on my life smoking everyday. Different strokes for different folks.
"Moderation is key" yeah yeah I know, but this method unfortunately didn't work for me in the past. It would be like drinking alcohol in moderation when I don't enjoy being drunk anymore. So why would I drink in moderation? It's not that I'm afraid I'll turn into an alcoholic, I just don't like who I become on it and find greater joy in creating. Sometimes "restraint is key". All depends on the context, person and season. Does this mean i would never have a glass of red wine or a weed brownie? Maybe, maybe not. I don't really care, since it depends on the situation, but I would rather do other things. Maybe if Joe Rogan or Snoop Dogg invited me for a joint, but outside of those very special circumstances, I'm good.
I barely touched on it, but ADHD was a huge factor of my depression and addiction (this is a whole video in and of itself), which were actually symptoms of an unoptimised ADHD brain. Once I learnt this and optimised my environment, lifestyle and processing my emotions, (and most importantly seeking mentorship) the "addiction" naturally fell away. I guess it's a change of identity and finding joy and fulfilment in other things in life. I understand how defensive some stoners can get, but i promise you, I'm not here to take your weed away, nor is this a dig on cannabis.
If my story somehow offends you and makes you want to justify weed, and dismiss cannabis addiction, then go ahead, it helps with the algo anyways.
I'll still be making docos on weed in the future, as I'm always going to be PRO legalisation, and there are clearly other uses for this plant outside of just smoking it.
Anyways, that's enough rambling. Love you all. If you are interested in a guide to help you overcome this particular habit, let me know in the comments. I basically have a PhD equivalent in this topic at this point, so i know all the potential pitfalls, and what works and what doesn't long term :P haha
Much love,
Your Mate Tommy
Bro y didnt u put this in a second video?
We want part 2 on a video
*relatable*
To me, drinking alcohol in moderation means enjoying a beer or 2 every once in awhile. It doesn’t mean getting drunk every once in awhile. You can enjoy a glass of wine and get a minor buzz but you are far from being drunk. The problem with weed in my experience is that the line between being “a little high” and stoned to the bone is a very thin line lol. So while weed in moderation could be useful for many, it sounds like for people like you and I, we cannot truly just use weed in moderation. It may start out that way but we inevitably fall back to abusing the substance by getting high way too often. Even if it isn’t often, getting absolutely baked is abusing the substance in my opinion. Just like getting hammered is abusing alcohol, getting stoned is abusing marijuana, regardless of how frequent you get stoned / hammered.
Thanks, this helps me a lot.
"Learn to hang out with people who share future goals, not just your history". So true.
Hang out with people who don't delude themselves with goals and all the unnecessary stress that comes from having them.
@@scaryperi3051 I used to do that. Most of those friends are dead or hospitalized today, because of excessive drug use and general confusion about what goals to achieve in their lives. So sad.
@@scaryperi3051 fuck a paradox
This whole video just seems like a dude who hung out with the wrong people while he was smoking marijuana and decided to blame it on the marijuana it's all about your surroundings.
@@tomask.3983😢100%
I have been addictet to weed 20 yrs i just realised how much impact i have over my life.
8 days sober 🙏
Pray for me
hope u are on track!
@geraldinekeenan-friday3673 still sober. First 10 days were horrible but after it goes actually very good.
I have found that i need to make small projekts and Keep myself busy. Cardio helps alot aswell.
Eat healty, get a new hobby, life is beautyful
You'll be back to it in a matter of no time...most gen z kids are addicted for a reason. Treat mental health or whatever got you to using first then you won't feel a desire to use it. Understand your addiction don't just exercise and do the basics or you'll fall back into the habit
It's the DrEAmZzzzz
Crazy shit, kinda cool, but crazy.
@@GordoCochiloco so fuckin true... (21 yo gen z kid here...)
I smoked weed almost every day for 35 years. Quit two years ago.. After a period of struggling with my weed sobriety things got better and now I am feeling very well. Best decision I ever made.
I haven’t quit yet but I’ve smoked 26 years and I’m watching the video so I may be in your shoes soon.
Been taking t✨h✨c everyday since June 1977❕👍🏻highest antioxidant , highest anti inflammatory❕
Smoked for 15 years, 2 years off it.
God is the world so bad that everybody just smoking weed is now just sad about it?? Wtf. The world is getting sadder. Just take care of your business and then f****** get high and have fun! I'm retired at 35 so .....I'm good. I'm going to get real high today and enjoy my life on my boat
@@Unowags there's more to life than smoking weed, I've wasted enough time with it.
As a 40 year old who smoked all day and night, for 25 years, and quit entirely 2 months ago.. I completely agree. It was a rough 1st week, but I have never been so sharp and balanced in my life since stopping.. I just found that there are more important priorities and other things I'd rather be doing with my time.. I have so much more energy and dont have such intense fluctuations in mood anymore. I haven't had a drop of alcohol in over 8 years either.. and am glad I am able to think clearly now that I have eliminated my vices.. I have no interest in either now, and honestly just want to better myself and appreciate life experiences.. like you, I had always had anxiety and depression issues, and now they are virtually non existent.. its been a long road to personal growth, but I'm glad I am in the mindset that i am in now.. thanks for your video, it really helps to know people have gone through pretty much the exact same process I have
Same here, 40 and been using since I was a teen. Finally ready to move on. Have a day or 2 left in my vape pen and won't be picking up another one.
@mayhem5235 it might be a bit rough at first, but within a week it gets drastically easier
With booze you lose, with dope there’s hope
@@mayhem5235good luck I am in the same boat
almost 40 here and hooked to the weeds, thanks for sharing, that got me motivated to quit!
I quit twenty years ago. I’ve noticed that I have gotten older since I gave it up.
womp womp burn one ya old coot
What do you mean by that
If u don’t mind me asking
@@God_Milk4398 i think he's joking brother, lol
He means nothing changed
Weed saved my life after a serious TBI, moderation is the key to life
Ya my dad had a tub and was an alcoholic that couldn’t drink anymore. King story short. He needed it so he never went back to the booze.
There's some things you can't moderate depending on who you are
@@yungmentalproblems so true
I'm a military vet, have some serious pts and I've tried basically every medication to no avail. I use weed every day now. Not getting stoned but taking a puff and waiting 10 mins. Then doing it again. Until I feel my symptoms ease. And then I stop. Moderation is key
@@HatmanXIIXyou do you bro. Me personally id smoke the whole joint and then roll another joint and smoke that while rolling more joints to smoke
I've been smoking for 18yrs and everyday for about 10yrs, i quit 8 days ago and started exercising everyday and i feel ok. I do get depressions sometimes during the day but then i just go for a walk with my dog or hug my wife when she's not at work. I hope to see the day when im 180 days sober from weed!
Good for you man hope you’re still at it im almost ten month clean of crack and now 8 days no tobacco and I have to say these are some of the best choices I’ve ever made in my life
Congratulations on your accomplishment. May your journey grow sweeter.
Good for you. Quitting smoking tobacco is very difficult.
I'm glad I quit, but I still struggle with cravings.
Wow
That crack high after a 10 month tolerance break would be insane
@BigFella12bro you wrong don’t tell ‘em that 😂
Whatever a drug gives you in the short term, takes away from you in the long term. Bro wisdom right there
I’m gonna keep telling this to myself as I work on my sobriety. Thank you.
Not always true, but if it helps you quit then sure.
@@DrMontrays i think in the context of habitual use it is true.
@@Frogz12920 you got this shit! Not about how many times you fall but how many times you get back up.
@@Frogz12920 100%!
I’m 44 and had been smoking weed daily since I was 21. I had tried quitting a few times and found it insufferable and miserable. I watched your video on how you stopped smoking weed and it just clicked. It’s now been over 40 days without a smoke and I feel great. Thank you so much for making that video. I feel so much more clear headed and in control of my life. I didn’t even plan on quitting, it’s legal and over the counter where I live but after watching your video I just stopped. Absolutely amazing and thrilling.
Awesome
Bro how did u stop smokeing it I've smoked 25 years I've tryed so menny times but it seems impossible! I say that because I've gone 9 days wiv no sleep not being able two eat constantly sweating etc I had sleep deprivation so bad thought I was going insane sleep deprivation my maye brought me a blunt atright two sleep but I have been told can take 14 days plus like wtf I got two 9 day I was a abouslete mess so how do u stop ???✌️💯🇬🇧
@ I’m 3 months in now and have zero desire to smoke. I got back in the gym and put on 10 pounds of muscle. Try taking on a healthy lifestyle mindset and you know smoking isn’t helping and you’re not going to want to smoke anymore.
This Guy has reached what you call the Optimum of seeing clear what he dont need in Life that stop him to be him Self. Awsome!
Best not to stop cold turkey.
I've smoked for 19 years. The way I quit without ANY withdrawal symptoms was slow. No more morning/day smoking, just nights. This was the most difficult part of my quitting process. I smoked 24/7. The way weed affected my personality, I needed weed by afternoon or that's when my grumpiness starts. But I had to endure a few more hours until night. About a week of only night smoking & my body adjusted to getting all my THC in a single sitting/session. At this point just needed to decreasing the amount of THC. Started buying mid grade and not top shelf.(Probably the only person who goes into the dispensary and asking for "regular weed). I got down to only 2 bowls at night. Took about a week to adjust to only 2 bowls at night and then after a week of 2 bowls I cut back to 1 bowl at night. After about a week. I got to half a bowl. Then down to only 2 puffs at night. Until 1 nighti completely forgot to hit the bowl. Feel asleep like a baby. Decided I didn't need to take a puff the next night or after. Only discomfort was having to endure the 1 week to only night time smoking. 1 last thing I'll say is dont smoke immediately before going to sleep. Finish smoking at least a houror 2 before goingto bed. Smoking really messes with good quality of sleep @banksy6027
You've basically just described my life, started around the same time and went through everything you did, I'm 40 now and ive quit again hopefully for the final time, it was literally rotting my brain. Thank you for sharing this has really helped, literally the best video ive seen regarding weed addiction. I hope we can both stay off the weed forever, it was great for a while but I should have stopped years ago. It has definitely had some really negative consequences on my health and life in general. Thank you Tom, wish you all the best ❤
I've recently been going through a lot, I tried giving up smoking last year and only got to about 2.5 months sober. I've been noticing that my mood has been going to shit, I don't get as high anymore and the degrading thoughts are pretty heavy. I just wanted to say thank you, I stumbled on this video 6 hours before new years. This gave me hope. Here's to a better tomorrow.
How's it going? This internet stranger believes in you!
A month behind you. Stay strong 💪🏽
You just recited and regurgitated my life, except, I refused to ever travel anywhere where I couldn't get or take weed too...I regret that tremendously....I started smoking at 12 yrs old, and now at 53 I'm just over 1 year weed free and have no plans on going back ,I don't t miss it at all. Also, the Richard Prior line that Jim Carrie said about "careful with that, I don't remember 40 years of my life" really hit home... Thanks for making this video and congratulations on putting down the weed. Side note, I've been completely sober from drugs and alcohol for over 5 years. Weed was the last and hardest thing for me to quit. I don't miss it at all.
awesome!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
My mom smoke for over 40 years and she remembers almost every thing
@@Lifeafterbacksurgeries_fit Congratulations, it will continue to keep getting better, has for me.🌈
@@jonathanbuitrago3028yep and I’m sure she was also the first women on the moon correct?
Great, now you are just like everyone else on the planet. Now what?
Its really easy to justify daily weed for me, because it doesn’t destroy my life like alcohol, cocaine, or pain pills have. I’ve had two, multi-year love affairs with cannabis in my life. Its an amazing drug. The best drug, IMO. I had to admit to myself though, that I’m simply not my best me, on weed. Like you, I got to a point where I simply could not enjoy ANYTHING, unless I was stoned. Everything sucks. Food sucks, sex sucks, sleep sucks, entertainment sucks, even my loved ones sucked……unless I was baked. And that’s not me. That’s not who I really am. No passion in life, besides weed.
It took about 30 days to feel okay, to see results. It has taken 6 months, and lots of exercising, to learn to sleep again for 6 hours straight, without cannabis. Insomnia was the reason to use cannabis again, and it works…..but only at first. I FEEL GOOD again. I’ve gained weight, because I only ever ate, when high. Food made me gag unless I was stoned. I’m in my best physical shape in almost 20 years.
I never dreamed on cannabis. YEARS without dreams. They come back so powerfully, its insane. I’m just now settling into not waking up panicked all the time, but I’m getting there.
I don’t swear it off. I don’t judge others for doing it. Its just not for me, right now. I’m enjoying being sober, right now. I’m enjoying feeling good, right now. I’m handling life, on life’s terms, right now.
Right on brother. My experience was strikingly similar. I am supporting you on this journey!
very inspiring, thank you.
I once heard that if you supplement with anandamide during the quitting phase it may help with the insomnia that can come. I have never tried it tho but thc supposedly releases alote of anandamide so it could make sense and be helpful
I find it very useful for insomnia. Indica specifically.. and I find it to be just as effective every single time.
@@Usernam3000 indeed, it worked well for me for quite a while, but I never felt well rested….tired all day even if I slept 7 or 8 hours. And then it just slowly stopped working for me, waking up really early. Plus, I can leave the country again…..and not feel like I can’t because without weed I would never sleep and be miserable.
This is inspirational and timely. after 5 years of dealing with grief and PTSD with weed , it's no longer making things brighter, quite the opposite.
Dude, I feel like you just narrated my life word for word. I have been telling myself that I need to quit, and after seeing this video, I have decided to do so!! Thank you Tom!!!
You had another one since?
You said quit and dreams have Night Terrors live in the dream on high. Lord on high good company
Cool 😎 congrats
hows it going?
my dude, hows it going?
Great video!
It's been about a year and a half since I last smoked weed.
I went through all of the same stages of smoking and having fun, to it being "medication" and smoking multiple times a day and not really being "fun" anymore.
Thanks for sharing your experience/journey with us all.
Quitter!
@@rickthemenace1164you’re weak if you’re still addicted after watching this video it should’ve triggered something within you 😂😂
@@Dylan-n1y9v I think he’s joking.. or so I hope. 😂 guys like that learn too late when life has drifted by being so high in the clouds. Sadlyyyy
@@Dylan-n1y9v it did triggered something with in me a bong while i sit back in my big home wit my wife and dog with my great job
Weird how substances affect people differently. Cannabis saved my life, I was going to end it all I tried it all, Therapy, SSRI, diet changes etc. Combat related PTSD and clinical OCD is much more manageable with cannabis. I work a full time job as a program manager. Own a home, married with three awesome children. I will never stop using.
FELT THIS ALOT!
i dont see this as him hating on it medically, just recreationally abusing it can be a problem, said by someone who is baked as f right now and smokes everyday 😂
Weed will help lift you up when you are very low. But if you want to raise higher you must let it go.
@@ResplendentSkull I like this, on the same note I feel it could be useful in a medical setting, has done great things for some people
@@ResplendentSkullI relate to this a lot
I've quit weed for 2 years and it did absolutely nothing for me. So there was no point off quitting.
I've done the same several times and come to the same conclusion for me personally. Tbh, I'm real fucking sick of these bullshit clickbait influencers declaring that quitting weed is some kind of panacea for a rut. Nah dog, everyone is different, not everyone who punches cones sits on the couch all day gooning. The majority of humanity is reliant on some form of mind altering substance whether it's coffee, alcohol, pharmaceuticals, blah blah blah. Everyone is different, YMMV, but cannabis makes my life invariably easier to enjoy than rawdogging existence. You can pry my bong from my cold, dead hands.
thanks, i feel the same
bunch of loser here
Preach @@nickdurrant4283
@@nickdurrant4283one of his points is: just quitting is not enough. you have to solve the underlying emotions and motives. :)
Weed is not the problem. Oversmoking is the problem.
Thank you.
@@ElFantasma13that’s weird right as I read that comment I also said thank you as I clicked on the replies just to read thank you exactly as I was saying it in my head
It’s like a fat person saying to stop eating because they ate 8 meals a day and got fat lol
@@God_Milk4398 that's what's up, dude.
How to not?
Especially with multiple chronic illnesses.
Please continue to make these videos! I too have struggled for 15 years with trying to quit.. it isn’t easy! Fellow ADHDer here as well. That instant release of dopamine and as a way to regulate intense emotions can become a lifelong crutch that feels impossible to let go of.
I'm in the same boat!! adhd, problems regulating emotions, etc. I only smoke weed at night before sleeping because i have insomnia if i dont smoke weed. The worst part is that i cannot stop since i dont sleep for about a month and it deeply affects my life, especially work. So always back smoking and being so tired..
@@morgansey then you should be on stimulants, your problems are not everyone else’s
@@jamesholley3128 shit take is shit lmao
Bro, I cannot tell you how much I needed to see this video. 25 year stoner here. Ready to call it quits now. Thank you for sharing this.
I did 26 years bro used to love it and was proud to be stoner but it was always affecting me mental health and the last few years i just stopped enjoying it. Had a voice inside of me saying nothing will change until you quit this sh1t. So I quit 1 week after me 41st birthday in July. Now am 111 days sober and I can honestly say it's the best decision I've ever made. Go for it man! 💪
@@parradox83that's amazing dude, I hope to get to that same point you're at! It's hard to kick the habit, but we all get to that point where we know we gotta!
Wow bro, same here! I need to do it. All the best man
Quitter!😂
@robhoopz it will come if u want it bro! 120 days today for me 🥳😎
Thank you mate! This is what I needed to hear right this moment.
I also started when I was 12, now I'm 40, and it's a way too big part of my life. Can't get high anymore, don't even really want to , because, best case scenario, I'm numb. Worst case I don't feel a change at all. I'm sick of it, and I need to quit before I quit life. I got psychological help and a supportive family. Wish me luck.
Good luck brother, you got this
great video brother! can confirm all the positive changes you speak of are 100% true, even after 1 month of putting down the joint! will always love this herb, but it's time to try this sober thing that I've heard so much about.... still gonna have the occasional mushroom though 🍄
We fuking druggas need to stop at some point ❤
YEAH NAH YEAH NAH YEAH NAH
Mushrooms are different, as you can’t really trip everyday lol. I still Microdosing every once in a while. Much love brother, catch up soon! ❤
@@yourmatetom So you just switched. I've never had a drug dealer, but I just listened to your entire video! hah Cold sober as usual! I could go for trying microdosing, as I've had so many botched surgeries, so live in excruciating pain. But how does one find a drug dealer? Enjoy life mate! xo
@@THEBIGLEZSHOWOFFICIAL once again just another idiot that says I'm going to quit smoking weed but I'll continue to do psychedelic mushrooms....what a bunch of fucking morons.
I’ve never even tried to lie to myself. I am heavily dependant on it. Early this year my mother died. I had to watch it happen over months. I got mildly high the whole time on my vape. Even when I watched her take her last breath I was high. I actually feel no shame for that. It did make it easier, I was present with her and never distracted, it gave me just a little distance from the pain.
Things fell apart when I ran out and had to wait for a delivery. The grief hit me like a truck and I’m properly depressed for the first time in my life. Its excruciating. Its this that is making me quit, I cannot rationalise interrupting something like the grieving process. It cannot be healthy. So far I have moved onto orally taken oil and away from the instant gratification of vaping. This has actually drastically cut my consumption, you just are not as inclined to eat a cookie if you’re not going to taste it for half an hour. I will wean off totally for at least a while, ive gone some days without but sleep is an issue. I hope to have a healthy relationship with weed again one day and severely cutting down seems like the path to moderation over cold turkey.
Be kind and patient with yourself 👍
@PauloRafael-k6m tons of successful people who smoke every day out there.... tons (probably way more) of people who are not successful but thats the same with sober people.
sooo..... what are you trying to say here?
@PauloRafael-k6m "and your statement is based on what facts?" .... that question goes right back to you my friend =)
dont ask for proof if you cant provide any, yourself ^^
but sure!!!
after you have proofen that you know literally every person on the planet that smokes weed on a regular bases AND that NONE of them are successfull.
this shouldnt be a problem for you since you started with an argument and you want me to proof my "counterargument" without having given any sort of proof yourself.
so i just hold you to the exact same standart here, as you did me.
to finish it off, i will just through some random names in your direction: Cheech and Chong, snoop dogg, whiz khalifa, bob marley, woody harrelson, bob dylan, (allegedly bill gates)
and that would just be a tiny fraction of the REALLY REALLY successful ones. i dont know your personal defintion of "successful" but in my opion, beeing relativly healthy (socially, mentaly and physicly) while beeing in a healthy relationship and having a somewhat regulated everyday life (structure, suspendable income, etc.) is beeing VERY successful.
and if my personal defintion counts, then i know severall successful people personaly. wich i (of course) wont proof to you because that would require me to give out very personal data of some of my friends on the internet for everybody to see.
just think for a minute... whats more plausible? you are right and of 8 billion people (wich would just take the ones currently alive into acount) no one, NONE, ever, was succsseful on weed..... OR i am right and some were successful on weed?
@PauloRafael-k6m hm.. i wrote a VERY lengthy answer but it got deleted it seems. so i write it again but in short.
i started by saying that you started with an argument without giving proof and still want me to give proof that you are wrong, when you didnt even attempt to give any proof that you are right, in the first place.
then i said something like just look up famous people who smoke everyday (e.g. snoop doog, cheech and chong). but i gave way more examples and added other stuff
then i was talking about the definiton of success and that it (the definition) always depends on personal perspective.
then i said (after i gave my personal defintion) i know people myself.
then i finished by saying something like, just use your brain and think for a moment. what is more likely?: if you are right then no stoner every, in the history of men kind, was successful or can be successful and if i am right then some are succeesful.
i wont bother anymore if it gets deleted again. not that important
@PauloRafael-k6mgrammar is horrible are you high 😮
Been a cannabis user for 36 years, 24/7 for the past 5 years. I even grow my own. At 54, I have to say, I think i'm finally getting over it. It did me well for many years but lately it's diminishing returns and maybe even causing more anxiety than it helps resolve. I'm already down to half or less of my usual usage in a couple months but definitely see I;'m headed towards stopping altogether.
I can relate to everything you said.
I just went to the Philippines for a month and didn’t take any with me. I was wondering how it would go and I barely missed it.
I’m back in California and back to it. I got to see what weed does to you. I love it but it’s far from the perfect drug.
Nicotine is the meanest one for me.
@@JCarey-uv3bb How did you like Philippines?
@@GenX_Meltdownit’s an experience, I go every year for a month
I too quit weed for a month
GenX- I spent the month of October in Davao City with a lady who I met on Christian Filipina.
I had a blast.
We went to Palawan Island and it was beautiful. And I’ve lived Hawaii for several years. El Nido Palawan is a special place.
I’m getting ready to go back this February and March to Davao. I’m thinking another Palawan trip except this time at least 10 days instead of four.
2004 I went to Cebu when I was living in Hawaii for vacation and took weed with me. I was much braver then. My excuse was personal amount.
You don’t want to go to jail there.
Great video Tom. I think your message has resonated with many of us. Cheers mate
Hey man you’re story is very similar to mine- I’ve not smoked since the end of January and I’ve had a great year - I’ve discovered a new love for life and genuinely am high of life. I won’t lie I’ve been tempted - but simultaneously proud of myself . My friends that smoke now when they see me smoking a cigarette do a double take to make sure I’m not smoking weed. They went from trying to convince me to smoke to encouraging me to continue. I’d like to encourage you to continue your battle stay strong and enjoy the new freedom you’ve acquired. Well done keep it up and remember to congratulate yourself- you’ve closed a chapter that’s very difficult to complete - now go forth and see what life has to offer sober
That is the comment I personally had to see, thank you for your story!
Misery loves company. Stay strong
7:10 is the realest thing I’ve heard. I only started smoking a year or 2 ago but quickly started smoking everyday. I’ve tried almost every drug in the mood yet weed is my hardest personally to quit. I do genuinely think it’s because of our connection with it. I view the other drugs as “I’ll do it every once in a while for fun if I can find it”. But with weed there is a genuine emotional connection once you do it everyday and breaking that connection really does feel similar to breaking off a friendship. It’s hard to explain but I’m glad I’m not alone.
do you smoke weed or drink alcohol when you are out with friends?
stop blaming something other than yourself.
Probs best quitting while you’re still very early on. If it’s hard to quit now you won’t believe what it’s like if you leave it to 10, 15, 20+ years
As a woman with ADHD who smoked everyday for 6 years. I’ve been weed free for 3 months. It’s truly changed my outlook and the way I process everything
You know that your mind and your brain chemistry adapts to changes right? It could be it just helped you improve in some point, and now you really dont need it.
How?
adhd doesnt exist, the doctors played you and now you are on meds. the good news is there is still time for you to realize this
Has anyone let you know you probably just need a different seller with a different strain
ADHA isnt real.
Thanks for not guilt tripping me. You made some really profound points and have given me much to think about.
I've quit smoking from 6 months to a whole year several times in my life, but usually I quit for 3-5 months. I've done this mostly every year, or at least every other year, since I was 19. Currently aged 39. I just get bored with it and decide to quit for a while every so often. What did I notice during these periods? Nothing, I just felt sober. No revelation of any kind, no renewed energy/clarity or anything like that, it just felt like I was sober and that's it.
The same for me. I smoked for years and then i quit for about 10 years. It didn't really change my life in anyway. I started back about 2 years ago i feel less stressed after work and at home.
This dude was addicted since 12 years-old, very different.
Cannabis is blameless, but starting too young or overusing or abusing is the problem.
Peace 💯
@@Blessed2XS now that I can see especially at that young of an age.
@@Blessed2XS Here is the dude is the problem, not the weed and the useage. If you can fight your demons you can do it with sober mind and altered mind too, but if you don't.. you can use anything and quit anything , nothing will change. But it's only my opinion.
OK, you didn't go years into addiction so obviously you wouldn't feel relief from that.
I was 31 when i started smoking it. Turned 41 today. Not even sure when i subbed to you but it feels like its my sign.
Sign to smoke more? I agree
Bro u need to connect more to your damn self and not to a random TH-camr that is telling a story. If you feel your life is shit then probably is time to quit.
Same here. Started same age, and same age as you now.
It's the sign that you're listening to a retarded TH-camr It's The sign you need to log off
@@railsterthank you God I've been spreading this rhetoric all over this dumb ass holes video
Im 25 now and my lifes been similar to yours since i started at 13. Ive noticed the anger stuff and using weed as a coping method. I think you've gave me the willpower to quit for good
I'm in the same boat as you started at 14 now 24 and man this was this core of it all for me aswell. Wonder what's the root of all this anger everyone has
@@justinplumb ez, my root is that i hate working 40 hours per week. I would love to just have my hobbies and no more than 12 hours of work per week.
It can be a different reason for everyone though.
@@justinplumbI personally think it’s repression brother. As we’ve been smoking it for so long we can’t process the emotions the usual way
never say never except when talking about cigarettes
@iClipper I would say your both right because my mum never allowed me to be angry it was always if u have nothing nice to say don't say it at all and go to your room and shut yourself away until your ready. So smoking weed just simulates that for me, if I smoke then I don't say things ppl dont wanna hear, but I never got to healthily express so it's all repressed stuff backed up
Thank you so much,! I smoke since my 18th and now I am 63 and still didn't quit because I smoke " moderate ", ....gonna mail you because the side effects for me are very embarrising, I subscribed. Never heard such an honnest summary of how to eventually break through this addiction.
Quitting weed was the best choice I made. I felt your story was very recognizable. Thanks for being so openhearted and sharing it.
I decided to quit weed for good about a month ago. I had tried in the past but with all the friends I knew who used, and my parents who were okay with it and supplied me with stuff, I always felt like it was fine for me do it in moderation. But im also one of those people who cant do it in moderation. As hard as it was to lose that way to avoid my problems, and honestly what was a major part of my identity, I know in my heart that this was right for me. After only a month my memory has gotten better, the days have gotten longer, and life is generally starting to feel better after relearning how to face my problems again (though the dreams are fuckin CRAZY).
Great video and congrats on 180 days!
The weed itself is telling me enough is enough every time I smoke. Very relatable with how i'm becoming terribly forgetful and just in general, becoming worse at my job. Failing to adapt or think ahead or just keep any information in. Can't remember half of the places i've been or remember where I was last week. I can feel myself becoming stupid(er)
@@mattdee3213 that's not the weed.
@@ElFantasma13what is it?
It´s like dementia, not weed... go see a doctor urgently.
@@edukdelas Bro, It's the old wendy's i'm always smoking. Waking up not as well rested and going to work just to want to get back to get stoned, agitated by 12 - 1pm in the working day. Annoyed without it, anxiety riddled with it.
@@AVincentDesign it's the side effects of huffing anus. That's what they teach in med school.
I just seen this video today and told myself this morning I want to quit just might be my sign !!
this video genuinely made me cry. im 34 now and my life is on pause since im 27. idk if its weed since i havent been smoking for a while and my life is not regenerating bc of that. but what is actually happening is i have lost all energy to get through my life. ive become a socially isolated gamer. maybe a teenager's dream life but i dont feel alive at all. neither do i feel like i could ever break out and just push through. depression do be like that i guess. but it has been 7 years and oh man, every routine i put up is dead in a week or 2 and i cannot seem to help myself, nor find somebody to help me. this video threw all my past 7 years right at my face. ty for the real talk. and congratulations, man. you achieved everything you could. as a german gamer would say "einfach leben durchgespielt" (you finished your playthrough of life).
Sorry bro, I'm going through similar things for the past 5 years, it's been very hard too.
If it's possible for you, find a decent therapist/psychologist and start figuring out what the major issues in your life are. Once you figure that out (with or without help), start figuring out what needs to change. Then start figuring out how to change that. Persevere. It takes time.
At minimum, you need to start moving and get out of your house every day. Walking is the easiest movement/exercise that everyone can do. If possible, walk in greenery (parks, woods, trails...). Being in greenery has psychologically positive effect on your mood. Cultivate positive mindset and hope no matter what. Learn to see the glass as half-full rather than half-empty.
Figure out the minimum positive things that you are capable of doing and start from there. That said, if you have a very powerful negative effect in your life (e.g. addiction, relationship...), you almost certainly need to remove it to actually make your life better. If you are a gamer, then it probably is playing video games 🤷♂
Bro ive been smoking weed all my life im 27 now, its been 2 weeks im off it i can help you quit if u want some advice.
You need to stop gaming bro, trust me. Gaming is the most useless activity there is. Same with television.
for me taking everything one step at a time helped, im like you in the way i try a new routine and it doesnt end up working. just try doing the small things first and once your comfortable with doing it add more onto your routine. i started with just doing some breath focus meditation and it made me feel like i was actually alive and its really easy to do from home so id say you should start with that
After 30 years of smoking cannabis & cigarettes I have now stopped smoking either. Four months no weed, three no ciggies! Woop woop 😂
Good shit bro
@@alanm6o9 Thanks brother 👍
good riddance :)
@@Will-gy1zo It was just a perfect storm for me. The doctors said quit or walk around with an oxygen tank & my bro & his wife quit & they smoked more than me. You have to be ready mate.
@@Will-gy1zoIf you really want to stop, you will. Don’t let short time pleasure dictate your brain. Be in control of your emotions. Help yourself.
there are still people in the comments saying weed ISNT dangerous when in reality it CAN be. Weed can destroy your lungs, your memory, your dreams, your sleep, etc. It has a long long loooooong list of benefits but it won’t benefit you if you’re abusing it. moderation and discipline is key but not everyone is able to moderate, addiction is no joke.
I attest to this
Uh huh, as a Pothead in my 40s, I too can honestly say it's not meant to be consumed 24/7, or even normally on a daily/nightly basis. It definitely alters one's Brain chemistry and makes it seem more normal to take in external sources of Cannibanoids and not use the Brain's own endogenous supply of them.
They sell paracetamol at the store and that can kill you in the most horrible way possible if you take too much, even "water toxicity" is a real condition, so to say a massively mind altering substance carries 0 risk is brain rot, no hate to anyone who thinks that way, they just haven't hit rock bottom yet to do the hard lessons for themselves
That's funny because my sleep has gotten tons better since I started smoking weed to the point where I don't have nightmares anymore whereas I had them almost every week, sometimes multiple days in the same week.
@@SammyRenard my sleep got better when I first started smoking cuz I was sleeping more and able to stay asleep, but over time my sleep became less and less refreshing. It fucks with your rem sleep and maybe for a while your body will get by fine without noticing it but the repeated nights with shitty rem sleep definitely has a negative consequence
Thanks for sharing. You described my life. I'm 6 months clean with constant doubt if I'll ever do it again. You've given me the strength to continue my sobriety
You wanted a roast from a different angle, here goes..
If you really loved weed, why did you never grow it? That to me was what made moderation much easier. If you pay money for weed, smoking weed is essentially burning money, but if you grow it's just a relationship you have with a plant, and that to me is the most beautiful aspect of my weed "addiction".
Appreciation. This is something that happens in traditional growing cultures. In the west, it's all about getting as messed up as possible on 28% hybrids.
Once I started growing my own cannabis my use went down, I literally smoke a joint/day. The weed is clean, no chemicals just dirt, worms and natural biology! Don’t experience what he talking about 😂
Amen. started smoking weed in my teens. I'm 56, have smoked the same amount for decades. Work very hard and have a lot of energy. I take no Pharma. Don't have high blood pressure. Only medicinal herbs and supplements. . If I smoke when I should not, I cop the fear. It is my truth serum in a way. God bless you all.
I second this, I still grow even though I never use it. It is my favoite plant and that relationship started my love with all plants.
Well said, and I feel the same way, I love my growing method, and just knowing what I am using to grow it all Outdoors with the Sun...✌
I quit 2 years ago and became the 2023 165LB AMATEUR MASTERS BOXING NATIONAL CHAMPION!
Congratulations!
@@johnmackintosh4222 THANKS 🙏
@@johnmackintosh4222 THANKS 🙏!
Boxing is even worse for your brain
@@janvento1320 TRAIN DEFENSE 3X MORE AND GET HIT 3X LESS!🤷
One of the things about weed that’s kept me from ever using more than a couple times a year is how it screws up my memory for days afterwards. I don’t have to wait till it becomes a habit to notice the difference.
Use every day and you won’t have that problem 😆
@@tylerwill5250😂
Thats bc you are not building a tolerance to its function....once you develop a routine, it just becomes like a cup of coffee.
You are very clear on the reasons. I am impressed... I smoke very little, but at 67 I feel like I would want to more. I READ..
Struggling with weed addiction, i smoked almost daily for 16 years, but now its a false friend and just a big weight on my life i can also feel myself getting dumber and slower, more agressive and on edge too. I stopped monday so its been only 5 days, your video is on point i feel exaclty like you describe. Thank you
That first week is a bitch. I see your comment is a month old so I hope you stuck with it and it should be much easier at this point.
Once you find that the life you want can only be achieved by not smoking when you see that smoking can't make the day good enough anymore and any change is better than more of the same. The nightmares and appetite problems are horrible and it may take months to become fully clean but it is honestly worth it.
I'm smoking a fat bowl while watching this
Me too.
😂😂😂😂😂
@@itsshuler and this is how men do it.
Same
I'm rolling one up while I read all the reasons to not do it.
Hahahaha me too, I’m experiencing cognitive dissonance while doing it.
I quit drinking alcohol after 40 years of it. Every day. The last 5 years of which was heavy. I would down a 6 pack of strong IPAs and would pour crown royal into them to “fortify” them as I called it for an extra boost. Again, this was every day, including the daily black out. I tried quitting several times but always relapsed. Finally and a really bad night I decided to finally stop. It was extremely hard, but I’m 3 1/2 years without a drop. I’m 60 now and sure I could have never made it if I hadn’t stopped.
I recently started taking a few hits of weed at night for my chronic back pain to aid in sleep. I’m not sure if I’m trading one devil for another, but I do know that alcohol was a death sentence and weed is not.
How you can even drink it that long i got no idea. I drink it everyday for just a week and it takes a massive toll on my physical health. Weed isn't perfect either, but i can do it for a long time before it starts to negatively affect me.
@@grassyfieldz4578 yeah it was a lot and I was headed for the grave quick. I had a college drinking buddy die at 59 from drinking. His liver gave up. This was going to be my destiny if I hadn’t quit. I can’t believe weed is still illegal in a lot of states. It’s alcoholic that should be illegal.
Weed although not perfect or completely risk free, is a looooot better than alcohol. I know it’s a classic “stoner” argument but it’s 100% true. I don’t care who you are, a weed addiction will never ruin your life as much as alcohol addiction ( you will fucking die )
@@allstarlord9110 Also it it is almost impossible to OD on weed, unlike alcohol, js.
@@jeremyc4893 Yeah you won’t die from it. A friend of mine is actually an alcoholic and he almost had liver failure. We are just 27 years old. Another dude I know just smokes weed all day. He is a sad mf who can’t remember shit, but at least he ain’t dying 😆😆😆
The good thing about Mary is that it gives you a contrast that nothing else does.
I've been smoking since I was 18,
Now I'm 50. Once I quit smoking for three consecutive years and my mood and productivity improved, but on the other hand, I began to repress my emotions too much, and I started taking everything too seriously to the point that tension and stress began to make me sick
Everything you said made so much sense. It was as thou you were talking about me (sitting there with a joint hanging from my lips). You gave me a new way of thinking about it. Ive been smoking for 45 years and I think I'm done with that chapter of my life. Thank you for helping me to open my eyes to the simplicity of the situation. Thank you!
I gave it up 2 months ago now, and haven't looked back. Was a lot easier than i thought it was going to be. Like you, was smoking 20+ years.
I made the decisions, smoked the last of my stash, and that was it... im done. No one convinced me, was just a decision i made. Its not who i am anymore.
Great video!!
wow 👏👏👏
That’s awesome! You are a strong person.
This is why I have very strict rules on how much I can smoke. 3 times a week is the MAX. Not during the day, only in the evening when work is done. And every 3 months I do 30 days clean. Up until now I've been listening to my own rules... If that changes I have to reconsider my relationship to it. Congrats on beating your addiction! ❤
Lol you are addixted too
@@honorylealtad5596 true, I consider it a bit of an addiction. Just trying to at least not overindulge in it and try to be mindful enough about it. I've tried using daily but it doesn't make me happy to use 24/7.
@@honorylealtad5596 addicts dont skip days
@@honorylealtad5596you’re an addict as well
@@honorylealtad5596 dawg this is the healthiest way ive ever heard of someone interacting with a substance of this nature in my life. this is not addiction
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing your journey, so much of what you shared I can relate to. 11 weeks sober today after trying to quite for the last 2 years and I feel better than ever. I also felt like I couldn't do it for a long time until I started to unpack what was going on inside me that was driving the habit. To anyone thinking about quitting, you've got this!
watching this video and listening to you talk about your story, and aside from not starting smoking weed till I was 19, I'm 52 now and throughout the years I smoked on and off for years. Now I smoke all day everyday and I'm starting to have similar feelings as you sounded when you realized the issues weed was causing. This is where I'm at now. I beat myself in the head all day about why I need to quit smoking, and yet everyday I'm still burning steady day in day out. many blessings all.
Try for free Sahaja Yoga meditation on line and in person and also Abraham Hicks The Law of Attraction website and in TH-cam those are the 2 best. Feel good in your thoughts, emotions, vibrational balance and in the stories that you tell. Because the better you feel the better you attract to you. I studied them for 20 years. They really work.
I have been an everyday smoker... And I have been off for years. I always come back, and trying to push something away I like isn't helpful. Moderation is the key to life. We must all build discipline. Is the point in life to give up everything that gives you pleasure? Life is hard enough without giving up everything. I smoke once or twice a week now, and I have never felt better.
This 💯🎯
real shit, it's not weed, people are the problem, plus -> weed, ain't for everybody
I have met almost no one, other then myself who was able to quit. ( 15 years ) All others give a shitty excuse.
Im 12 days in after 15 years smoking daily, struggling with sleep, sweats, and dreams. It's for the best though, most definitely. @@lydianeilklassen
I think this is it. Self control and discipline with everything. Temperance. Nothing is good without moderation. I know weed gives me pleasure but it only does in moderation. I've been an everyday stoner to the same level as Tom, and I also reached the same conclusion; it became unenjoyable and unfulfilling. I have quit a few times too i.e complete abstinence and then began using again and only when it was infrequent and controlled was it enjoyable. Whenever I let myself fall into frequent smoking it would result in me not enjoying it again. I've realised that it's not the weed that was the issue, it was my lack of discipline.
Dude!! My story...your words. Over 20 years as a chronic smoker, it all ended with psychosis. I'm 23 years clean now. It was the longest, most drawn-out detox of any drug I was ever addicted to. Don't let people tell you you're a lightweight being addicted to cannabis....they're wrong!! Thanks for your brutal honesty mate, thanks for helping others, much love.
Bro could you share what was the psychosis like ? I’m also tryna quit weed before its too late
@agilansritharan8209
I decided to quit..put all my weed in the backyard and blitzed it with the whipper-snipper, got my pipe and bong and smashed them, and chucked them in the bin.
I then had what is classically described as a mental breakdown. I now understand that it was withdrawal at a high level, I was such a heavy user. My saving grace was my neighbour who was in early stages of alcohol recovery, I reached out to him, and he took me to a 12 step meeting (Alcaholics Anonymous). I then discovered that there was a 12 step group just for marijuana in my city (Adelaide). This is how I got clean and never went back...through support groups with people on the same path. I came to realise I'm not a weak person with no willpower, but an addict. That was a revelation coming to know that. So my suggestion is to find similar people who can support you and others and give it your best shot...and no...I firmly believe harm minimising and reducing usage is not the answer, complete abstinence with support is.
I wish you all the best on your journey to finding your authentic self, much love brother. 🙏 As a footnote, like Tom, I've engaged in psychedelic therapies in recent years after extensive research (I was fearful of addiction) and had amazing experiences.
Psylocibin is being used clinically to treat addiction around the world, and trials are being conducted in Australia. I'm not suggesting that you dive head first into a mushroom trip...but consider it further down the road as part of your recovery.
@@madsquidman6570There is no panacea for addiction including Twelve Steps and/or mushrooms. It an unforgiving malady. You come into this world alone and you leave it that way . “Never rely too much on anyone, because even your own shadow will leave you when you’re in darkness” ~ Dale Carnegie
Pay attention to your body…it will tell you when something needs to go
@@agilansritharan8209when that THC overloads them receptors you'll have to hold it together 😂 or u will go missing fr anxiety flood lol
Day 1, after a 30 year habit. Ive thrown it all in the trash many times, but this is different. Im 47 and I want my life to continue getting better. Very grateful for this video and all folks sharing their stories on the internet. It helps to relate to others. For me, I've had a very productive life, but only I have to look in the mirror at my own truth. I need to quit.
I’ve been smoking weed for almost a whole decade, daily smoking for 7 years, and spinning with tobacco for 5 years…
Hearing how well you’ve recovered from 20 years of smoking is really inspiring.
Thank you always for your work Tom ❤
Same thing happened to me. Thought I couldn't get through life without it, but it got the better of me. Now Its just a rare treat instead of a constant thing.
12 days sober. Shit is hard, but worthwhile. Keep pushing through!
It will get easier the longer you are sober. The beginning is hard because everything is boring. One day you'll notice you are actually having fun while still being sober
haha@ hard.
❤
Keep it up I'm approaching 9 years sober, I'm 51 some people wrote me off at 30 still here lol
how ur doing
Love the honesty in this. I’m trying moderation first and will see how things go. Everyone is different but you definitely touched some fundamental truths here.
That part on how you tried every other drug but weed hooked you, everything I've learned in school about the endocannabinoid system, that checks why you always turn back to it. It's literally engrained in our bodies. As long as doctors are still prescribing life long prescriptions to anti depressions ect. You'll probably do less harm with weed, but I'm not a doctor of course.
@@Mcnutt420 Weed makes you even more depressed when you are in a depressed or bad state. Never seen someone feeling good after smoking while depressed or anxious. You don't need to be a doctor to know this mate.
@@user-ku5be4nc3g highly dependant on the individuell person
"You don't need to be a doctor to know this mate."
@@user-ku5be4nc3g You're lying or live under a rock if you really claim to have never seen weed cheer depressed people up.
@@abundantharmony I mean, he's right.
Long term it makes you more depressed.
@@user-ku5be4nc3g that's honestly the only problem with this video, quiting weed is only gonna change your life if your already depressed. weed enhances how you feel. I think the problem is it's just easier to quit weed when it makes you think about your problems instead of just fixing them to begin with.
I got addicted to it and depended on it, couldn't sleep without it. For decades! I finally went cold turkey and it was really hard. I barely slept until I broke through on the other side after about 10 days. Then my dreams became so vivid and intense for a while. After about a year without it my dreams are still vivid and detailed but not as weird. I love the dream state now. While i was a stoner i rarely remembered my dreams. Life is so much better without it.
@@ajordan26able good for you. I am going to hit my bong in celebration of your comment.
I sleep way better without it... it totally screws up dreaming which is a very important and restorative sleep state. It messes with the pineal glands secretion of melatonin which helps us to have dreams and then convert to serotonin during the day... I get so much more done without it.
bro when i was smoking weed when i went to the toilet it was like i had diarrhea each day. I am clean for almost 2 months now and i can see that my poo is way different.
you speaking just truth and im also smoking since my childhood and i can confirm all that .. i found myself always getting back to quitting for a time even a year. And then somehow getting back and again.. i know its a bad way..And you brought me again to the decision. Thanks for it Tom
Its nice to see a video and see how someone feels after quitting but being pretty transparent. I dont feel how you feel. So i cant relate to this video and honestly. I have the thought that weed really wasnt your issue. But your escape from your inner issues. And you didnt want to escape anymore you wanted to deal with it. And i respect that. God speed my friend. Ill keep smoking and enjoying my cannabis. But i understand that its truly not aomething everyone wants in their life and it doesnt work for a lot of people either. Respect 💪
Don’t blame a plant. It’s our ego we need to look at.
Moderation is the 🔑
said your ego😂
bro what 🤣
That’s true of all drugs. They are just chemicals existing. We create a dependence by putting them in our body so often our body adjusts to this new state. Without the compound the brain and body feel like they are out of balance because they are. Until the body adjust again to a balanced state without the drug. Whether that drug is THC, alcohol, nicotine, it didn’t seem to make a difference psychologically. There are nuances about the danger of withdrawal but there is still a body that is used to a chemical such that when it’s not there the body notices and struggles.
Yep. Said it in one. This guy gives off weird vibes. Not the good ones.
Its addictive!
Weed affects different people in different ways. I as like you, I used it everyday, after 20 years I stopped using it. After 6 weeks I was becoming more confident, more positive thoughts, better sex drive, all just a +++. 30 years after I stopped I'm successful, confident, help others more and very happy with life ♥️
Day 4 here in withdrawals. Miserable.
Excellent video. Extremely helpful.
I have been trying to find moderation for a long time. I quit for 90 days on average, relapse for 2 weeks, then hate myself & go cold turkey.
I learned something from you today because I can relate to you a lot.
Time to put this bullshit behind me!
Your mate tom " comeback is insane ! , very cool new format !!. Great nuance!
More to come!
@@yourmatetom waiting Brother !!, blessings !
thought the same
Today, you changed my life. Thank you. Shalom!
U end up quitting
Sobriety is a million times better ultimately, unfortunately. it's boring at first but becomes insanely rich after a while. Everything is more enhanced ultimately but for the long term, and is not just a temporary boost
The thing with boredom on withdrawal is, that it's actually a very good thing: If you're addicted you'll spend lots of time on your habit and if it's gone you'll be left with a lot of time you could use differently. Out of that boredom - which in my case only lasted like 5 days - curiosity to do new things or stuff you've used to do will flourish. Imo a lot of people, especially GEN Z, can't deal with boredom so they either chose to distract themselves with weed abuse or other dopamine holes like mindlessly scrolling social media.
@ Yeah you are dead on. Sober I spent like 6 weeks learning how to produce music again and am fast-tracking at such alarming rates, making some quality sound already. While partying/drinking - forget about it. I never had a problem to be fair, it was just very distracting. I can't imagine someone with a legitimate addiction trying to be functional. I was struggling just once/twice a week going super hard.
Weed, for me anyway, made me okay with being bored and doing barely anything. Without weed that boredom was unbearable. But rather than going back to being okay with boredom I'm occupying my time living life on life's terms
This really hit close to home great video
I've been addicted for 20 years, I'd smoked before I went to uni and loved it but it was more of a social experiment for me, but within a week of smoking everyday I was hooked. I honestly can say I thought forever. A phycologist told me I had virtually no chance of quitting which these last two years has made me give up on quitting tbh. Think you've inspired me to give it another go
im no expert but i would say, you need a new psychologist ( guess that is what you ment. because a "phycologist" is an expert on alga.. dont know how that person could help with addiction ^^)
but if he/she says that you have NO chance at quitting then you might as well quit the therapy as a whole (if its about the addiction only).
everybody CAN quit... not everybody accomplish it though.
but nobody ever got rid of an addiction with the help of a psychologist that tells you that you cant do it!!!! get you a new one (easier said than done, i know)
Fire your psychologist. Anyone can quit anything...
No legitimate psychologist would say anything like this ever. EVER.
You got this bro. I thought that after 15 years. Almost 2 weeks now and feeling great
Weed is so easy to quit. It takes about a week or two and then the cravings are completely gone and you should be sleeping normally again. Now tobacco is very hard to quit.
I think the most dangerous part of weed is that it's not that harmful. That makes it easier to use it and still be relatively functional. It also makes the argument to quit weak because it's not that bad for you. In all practical sense I feel all the same as you describe in this video. The anhedonia really sucks in the beginning. Great video. Thanks!
It probably is very harmful. How can inhaling smoke not be harmful for your lungs and throat? I feel like a lot of stoners think: it’s not cancerous, therefore it’s not harmful. I certainly noticed my brain and lungs functioning a lot better after being off weed for a year.
It's way more harmful/risky than people realize; particularly the ridiculously potent stuff around these days. Also for the life of me I have no idea how people function on the stuff. It ramped my anxiety up to 11 about 95% of the time and made me MUCH slower in every conceivable way. Was much more manageable when I had tolerance buildup but still nothing resembling a "background substance" to quote Chappelle.
I understand that everyone's respective physiology is distinct which explains the disparate subjective experiences but I do still have to wonder if someone may be somewhat out of tune with his body if he's able to chronically use a substance for years on end and still insist that it's all been entirely harmless. I mean I can expose you to a parade of heavy stim-users who would tell you the same thing but something tells me you'd question the validity of the very same sentiments you express if you were to hear it from them.
@@seth5143 proof that more potent weed is bad for you? Lets see some scientific studies
@@Karderi-j4t
I doubt I'll be able to get my comment to show up if I were to reference individual studies but if you go the channel 'Addiction Mindset' he interviews several legitimate doctors who reference such studies.
There was one a month ago specifically centered around the correlation between high potency and the development of schizophrenia (go back a month and 'psychosis' is in the title). The gentleman provided a slideshow featuring data from a study including graphs, one of which clearly demonstrated that potency in particular was even more of a determinant than frequency of use.
He did another great one two years ago with Anna Lembke and although she mostly recounts anecdotal evidence you should bear in mind that these anecdotes do come directly from her clinical practice. Now there's clearly selection bias at play there but even then it's still informed by plenty of hard data regarding the dopaminergic system, homeostasis, the endocannabinoid system, etc.
The research is certainly beginning to paint a picture. Science is slow-going and this high-potency stuff is relatively recent. Even so a rule of thumb in pharmacology is that higher potency generally translates to more side effects and a higher risk of experiencing them. These revelations shouldn't surprise us.
@@Karderi-j4t Would love to help with that but apparently TH-cam won't let me. The studies are accumulating. The high potency stuff is a relatively recent phenomenon and science moves slowly.
I completely stopped drinking alcohol on 1/5/2024 and as a chronic cannabis user, I also quit smoking on 1/1/2025. I'm not gonna lie - I still feel the same way I did when I was high, maybe even worse. most of my free time after work is spent in bed, with no interest in doing anything. my house is a mess and I don't seem able to do anything about it
I have no motivation, no friends, no girlfriend. I thought quitting weed would make things better, but so far, it hasn't. if anything, it feels worse. I don’t plan on starting again, even though the cravings are hell, but I really thought things would be different. in reality, it's probably even worse... fml....
Youre just seeing in full clarity. Be a better you everyday. Even if it's micro baby Steps. Keep that head up. Keeps your eyes to the sky, never glued to your shoes.
@@HomelessVeteran-ky7qs thanks mate, I really appreciate your kind words. I know I can’t expect miracles yet, it's only been a month after 10 years of nonstop smoking, but I still don’t feel great. hopefully things get better with time. thanks again
@@Shaixorit's more than just “seeing clearly”. you're experiencing weed withdrawal. This is often what happens when long-time smokers quit, and it's often the number 1 reason for starting up again.
Your brain has been used to consuming cannabis for a very long time. Your dopamine & serotonin systems are fucked up, and your body no longer creates its own endocanabinoids.
So you get the feeling that everything's going wrong, that nothing's getting better, that it's even “worse”. But that's not true. It's a perception skewed by your cannabis-starved brain. It's a bit like going downhill on MDMA. Get plenty of sleep, exercise, eat a varied diet and supplement with vitamins, zinc, omega-3, magnesium and NAC.
At the end of the day, we're just animals that need the right molecules to function properly.
“Everything tires me” really spoke to me. Everything you said after that regarding how you felt and how you’re mind works really opened my eyes on how my mind works as well.
I relate. I smoked from age 13 to 33. I am 35, I am 21 months off cannabis. Towards the end I was smoking 10 or more blunts a day. At the end I was smoking wax almost non-stop. Every thing I did had to have cannabis involved.
I justified it by the fact that it seemed to help me study and it helped me relax after my workouts. But being this far away from it, now I just don't need it. And I don't want it to disrupt my focus, my energy, my clarity. So I plan to just not smoke anymore.
Haven't watched your videos in maybe 2 years. Awesome to see you've also decided to stop. Cheers mate.
Seems like you were running away from bigger issues you didn't want to sort through, I hope you did that hard work now of determining what and why you turned to drugs at 13!!!
@@jackalexander5099 Not really sure how to interpret what you are saying. Important thing I've already noted is I don't use drugs anymore. Hope you got that point as thats what I was relating to Tom here with.
@RichardHorvatich963 drugs aren't good, but maybe there is a reason you turned to drugs especially at such a young age. It's not a hard concept to garner.
@@jackalexander5099 You're just reiterating what my point was. And you're doing it as if I dont understand my own point. Unnecessary mate. Just stroking your ego for nothing. Take care dude.
@@RichardHorvatich963 do the hard work kid, you have issues... you acted like you didn't understand.. sensitive much... I guess that's all to do with the samtate of your mental health...
I quit smoking weed and drinking on NYE, I definitely resonate with 'all or nothing', I couldn't 'just' have one cone or drink one beer, once it was in my system the impulse to consume more would be rabid. 11 days in and i'm starting to enjoy games and getting outside and everything again without needing that 'filter'. I often described weed as allowing me to feel the nuance of a moment, and when i wasn't stoned everything just felt the same and so bland. Only 11 days in but i'm realising how much i only felt that way because of how abusing those things took it away in the first place. Keep goin bro! I'm on the journey too.
Keep going 🎉
Moderation and self control is everything.
great video! finally i found someone who talks straight truths that drugs can be in fact very harmful for lives and i find that very helpful to have it heared. thank you man!
I am in tears watching your video Tom. Word for word it’s like a narration of my life. ADHD included. So happens I’m going through that same epiphany the past 2 weeks and I’m literally done after 25 years at the age of 43. This video really helps.
I quit for 9 years...and i was miserable....thank god i started again. 😊
Same here. 8 quit for 7 years. Then 2020 hit and I got locked in. So smoked and instantly remembered why I smoked in the 1st place.
As long as your in control and not the other way around then all is ok.
But you can say the same edit Twinkies too...lol
@@robertwilson3539 lol...I went to school with a "Robert Wilson "in QLD Australia...couldn't be the same person...could it?
I'm thankful I can control myself. Never had a problem with addictions (except maybe gaming). I smoke it about once a week and so far it seems to be fine. I can notice though that if I have some huge project that I want to work on, I gotta pause weed. Cause it takes your attention away from it.
God's gift to mankind! 🙏🙏
@@fbwqmyxd6j I quit because the pandemic forced me back to a right wing state.
It’s been completely miserable and the whole idea of “get your life straight and conform” has proven to be garbage
I started smoking in my mid thirties. I'm loving it. I think everyone's experience will be different. That being said, I think your story has a lot to do with mental health and finding your purpose.
Thats not a comparison as you waited untill the optimal age to start smoking weed. Good job tho, because the younger you start the more likely you will end up slightly stupid (speaking from experience)
I don’t know what age you are, but be aware it may not be good for you forever. Try and recognise when/if it starts detracting from your life.
@@Domn879 taking a break from it right now. I try not to let anything detract me...but you are right, always be mindful.
Some of yall are SO delusional. Seriously…people use this for medicine, not just for a buzz.
No Tyler people are not dillusional, people are giving accounts of their PERSONAL experiences with weed, there is no right or wrong, no one here is arguing that for some people smoking weed is beneficial, so don't take it personally mate! Smoke away, smoke your whole life away if that is what you choose and what you enjoy! I smoked everyday for about 14 years, I quit 3 years ago and as much as I miss it, my life is better 10x I have motivation and am much fitter now than I was before, that doesn't mean that you can't smoke weed! Just that we have had different experiences, enjoy my man @@tylerwill5250
Best talk ever about the subject. This should be showed in schools.
Can relate to practically everything you said. I used to defend weed like it was my physical person. Smoked so much of it (over the course of the past 10 years - I'm 36 now) I've got to the point I'm tired of it. Vaping too, smoking rollies etc. It does nothing for you. Delays you. Distracts you. There's no discipline just instant gratification anytime life gets a bit too tough. Facing life sober will always be king. Enjoy your vices, just in moderation. When you rely on them, you make yourself vulnerable. Thank you, sir.
Totally agree.
@@robhoopz “vice”. Get your head out of the 19th century
@@jamesholley3128 not sure why this upset you
@@robhoopz right wing ideology does in general.
The dreams definitely come back which is important. Don't want to miss any messages.
There are no messages in dreams. 🙂
That's what Gods word the Bible teaches. 🙂📖
I study it for years. If someone has questions about God's word the Bible please write me! 🙂👍♥️📖🤗
@@loveistheanswer5924 Take it up with Joseph man.
@loveistheanswer5924 lol
Some stories want their readers to deny truth and reason, or else the power from that story crumbles apart. Nothing is guaranteed in life except death. Don't follow any system that denies you of your biological rights of entering a higher realm in dreams, or in induced states. Don't confuse every dream for it, if you've been there you will remember it. The truth there is far more spiritual and real than any story you've been told to believe. Physical perception and sensations are no different than the physical world you see and experience in front of you now.
Keep waiting like many before you for a god that only comes after death, or believe in yourself and your connection to this world, and experience what so many of ancestors from all over the world did before being silenced. It's alive like we are, and the keys there can be hard to find, but nature can be there to help.
Not in chronic daily use either. I personally used marijuana to suppress that connection for 20 years; for personal reasons, and I'm looking forward to strengthen that connection again by quitting. Not to say I won't pick it up again in the future, but everyone's journey is different. Be safe on yours.
@@loveistheanswer5924dreams are messages from god, that’s why he gave us the ability, prayer and meditation is a form of day dream
Weed, does save lives, it helps many people .
Absolutely, it works for some, and not for others.
It does more than not work for some of those others e.g. it ruins them .
@@Kudu1987 It does more than not work for some of those others e.g. it ruins them .
@@Kudu1987 so true
Moderation is the key and fresh, powerful cannabis that's easier on the lungs so you don't have to smoke much.
Key term, mental bandwidth. Good video bro!
Brilliant man. Thanks for a great video. One of if not your best one yet. You're going to help more people than you know with this one. Peace.
As someone who has ADD, and has been a daily smoker for about a decade now, this video resonated with me a lot.
Had a recent experience on mushrooms where one of the things my inner mushroom brain kept telling me, “happiness is already there. It’s found within. Quit trying to make it happen, quit trying to find something to give it to you, quit trying to run to it. Find it within you where you are currently at”
@@LordFindecano which means you need stimulants. Your problem isn’t everyone else’s.
@ okay? Never said it was. Everyone is different.
Over a year ago, I lost an opportunity for my future I thought I couldn’t live without. I told myself then that I needed to heal and get better. It took a year of me wallowing in my shit, sparking up and hitting my penjamin every chance I got. About half way through the year, I recognized the problem, and I was smoking it. A lot of it. I’ve been facing the deep depression you spoke of. Low. Lower than I thought possible for myself to experience. I woke up Monday morning pretty angry at my situation. And really- all I could do was look at the person in the mirror. I decided just then- I will replace my addiction with a more healthier and beneficial addiction- whether I wanted to or not. I’m not giving myself the option. It’s time to quit! I ran 3 miles last night instead of sparking up. Tonight I look at my dwindling supply and forcing myself to do pushups until my arms can’t even pick up my favorite microphone. I see my sobriety on the horizon.
Thank you for the motivation.
you got this man, i believe
@@frankiefawcett2712 over a month strong. Thank you for the reminder that I made this comment.
@@Jacke769 don’t listen to fascists
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This video makes so much sense ,you couldn’t explain it any better. Pure truth ,from the heart ✌️the reason I find it hard to quit is cause I’m still attached to weed . I need to detach and delete that open app clouding up my conscious mind . I so needed this video. 🙏 god bless you for sharing this video 💙
I’m so glad I found your video. Your introduction was exactly the same as myself. I’ve recently quit from a 30 year habit. My life is changing for the better and im so proud of myself.
Tell ya guys, quit drinking coffee and all that anxiety, problems with sleeping, tiredness will be gone. I have done it and my life has changed.
thats a thing nobody want to admit, it is hard to quit caffeine but it is causing so much anxiety, i am a sober alcoholic on 4,5 year hurray for me, in the rehab facility coffee was allowed, but i have found out that some rehabs takes all stim,ulus away also the potent drug coffeee caffeine which is very fascinating,, have a good day :)
Diet, processed sugar and consuming ultra processed foods and by-products of food is also a huge contributing factor to mental and physical health
I had access to every drug possible an i had the most excellent life. Let me blame drugs for the bad things I did when in fact the happy ones they are the main reason I can walk into rooms or down the street an everyone come up an talk to me. Littlerly it's like magic how drugs can make others feel how I do. That's good Drugs tho that attract others. Weed just helped level it out.
Yep, me too. It's been life changing. Pity not many people know this.
Or the Red Bulls ,Monsters, 24 packs of Cokes.
I smoked everyday for over 2 decades as well. I am 40 yrs old now and started when I was 15. I quit for work over 6 months ago and aside from a 3 day period where i experienced very minor withdrawal symptoms, I feel no different. Expected to feel sharper and more active when in fact, for me, i see no difference from when i was smoking. I feel the same when i wasn’t high as now when im not high. Thats an honest truth.
Yeah, this guy's problem wasn't the marijuana. It was his obsession with it. That's what he actually recovered from.
@@daddee-zh2oy It was both
I've seen people on both ends. I used to have real trouble not smoking, now when I have to travel for work I don't care at all. I think it's just a mental maturity thing for me. Maybe quitting helped this guy reach the point of mental maturity he wanted, and now he's happier.
We have receptors in our bodies, thats not by accident..........................
Bs, you'd notice something different if you smoked every day for 25 years and then stopped. It changes the neural pathways in your brain.
I started also when I was 12. Had a rough childhood. Many Problems. Smoked em all away. Doing criminal stuff even sold it at one point, doing more bad stuff. Quit all of it some time ago. I only smoke from time to time when I feel good never when Im feeling bad. But because of this video I think I will quit forever. Thanks man.