The perspective thing is true, I know I look more feminine but if I imagine myself as a boy but with feminine features it makes it so much better even if only I see myself that way
Yesss! Though for me, when I look in the mirror, I'll feel bad if I say things like "I am a man", or "I am a woman". But simply saying "I am"? Instant euphoria ✨
I used to have massive dysphoria in feminine clothes but now nothing gives me gender euphoria like putting on a ridiculous fit and thinking of myself as a slutty femboy
a thing that really helps me when I'm feeling insecure about being non-binary or having kind of- internalised transphobic thoughts ig? is remembering queer history. There's a lot of people that came before you that felt the same way and/or were trans, people on the internet like to dramatise and say having different pronouns or being trans is new, when it's not! It's something that's been seen in many different cultures and throughout history time and time again :))
Hi! I think you're right, but I also think one thing has changed: freedom to speak about it and having role models. I was born in the end of the 80's, I'm not so far from 40yo right now, so not so old but not still young 😂 When I grew up, nobody was talking about it. I didn't even know the same feeling could exist anywhere else. Everybody found and told me I was weird, and I built myself with this... alien feeling ? 😂 I didn't feel like I was a girl, I thought everybody was wrong and I was a boy for real. Few months ago, I discovered the word to describe what I feel : non binary. I was pretty choked that there was a name for this now 😂 When I see you, young people, talking about it so easily, trade tips and reviews about material to help, I have some regrets for the young myself, lost in dead end questions... You have a real great chance to share and receive tips, to feel like a community, supported by people feeling as you do. And old boomers like me, with our unstable construction of ourselves, look at you with a sweet parenting smile. Let's go, rule the world, you're all right ❤ Don't be ashamed to feel what you feel, to be who you are. Take care of you, stay safe, that's fair. ❤ Ps: English isn't my first language, sry if I made mistakes.
I'm non-binary and I mostly wear grey or dark blue or black colored shirts with dark green or black cargo pants. I never knew that darker colors can hide shape until I found your videos and I'm so glad I know now.
I'm transfem (maybe non-binary maybe a trans woman) and I totally relate to the perspective thing. If I look in the mirror and I'm like "That's a feminine man" I hate it but if I think "That's a masculine woman" I feel better. I like dressing androgynous and wearing band tshirts and the idea of being like a cool lesbian is so appealing to me.
Very useful and overall chill video. Even as a cis guy, being a femboy gives me many ways of expressing my gender expression and how I see myself. It’s been a while being a femboy but only now am I really learning how I’m able to do things that make me feel confident and cute. I’ve still got a long journey ahead and you’ve been helping with your great fashion ideas :3
Well I’ve only got a couple fashion items I really like but just things likes skirts and crop tops I absolutely love.Being a teen with non-accepting parents it’s hard to get clothes I like but it’s totally worth it (if you’re safe doing it) :3
Whenever I watch your videos I get super excited and start doing my makeup or throw on some clothes just to look at myself in the mirror. No going outside, just feeling handsome. Thanks for your content♥️
I’ll bind and dress masculinely, get called a guy, then the same day for like dinner or something dress femininely (still binded if I’m not with my parents), get called a girl, and I’m just like “yesssss” because being confusing is fun
@@Squirrelstar they’re dressing to purposely confuse people lmao and these are always the kind of people that throw a tantrum when you “misgender” them.
here are some things that give me gender euphoria: 1. My leather jacket that hides my chest perfectly 2. a black button down that's a tad too big tucked into my pants 3. SUITS 4. Mixing a cute little dress or lacy top with a big chunky jacket
9:00 I am an NB, and I've been summoned! 🙌 I can related to pretty much everything mentioned here (except for the piercing part, but I don't even have earrings so I guess that's pretty gender affirming already when I want to feel boyish). I'm genderfluid AFAB, and specially looking like a feminine boy more than a masculine girl is both a mood on its own, and a clever trick to pursue gender euphoria instead of getting stuck on gender dysphoria.
The looking at yourself from the wrong perspective and feeling ughh really hit the spot. That's what I do the whole day and I know I shouldn't care so much, but I care about what the people I work with think. I am scared of being myself because I feel so different and like they can't like the way I am if I'll let myself be different. Everyone seems so easy going, like they don't have to worry about coming off weird
Yes, I have the same feeling. The thing, is most people will never understand. It's up to you to find yourself and feel free, no matter how constrictive society is. As with everything, that comes with both good and bad sides.
dude this is so true! I feel like getting misgendered definitely shifts my perspective of myself from feminine guy to masculine woman, because I remember so many times that when I looked at myself after being referred to as ‘she’ my perception of myself changed so much. This cleared SO much up. Thank you, youtube algorithm for recommending this - and thank you for making it!
The whole bit about how you look at yourself is very true! Some of the best moments to me are when I can look in the mirror and tell myself: "Damn, you sure are one handsome guy" Also, some weeks ago I wore a skirt for the first time in years for a costume and I was very worried that it was going to make me super dysphoric, but once I actually put it on and looked at myself, I just saw myself as a man in drag and that was a surprisingly positive experience
OMG!! You just explained how I wanna feel with the nail polish!!! I paint my nails black a lot and idk why but like I never knew it’s kinda like I wanna look like one of those cute boys who’s paint their nails cause I am one of those cute boys who paints their nails!!:))))
holy crap.....your experience with gender hit SO close to home to me. it's so similar to my own!! from using she/he pronouns but not really liking they, so referring to yourself as a "boygirl" (i'm literally currently working on making a patch that says "girlboy" for my jacket) to liking looking like an androgynous boy and even referring to yourself as one...! it just.....man. you even have a slightly similar haircut to me.
I just want to say I stumbled upon your channel last night and it’s really revolutionised my perception of gender and my own identity within myself. The feeling of being “different” from others around me and not really fitting anywhere, the joy I feel wearing men’s style of clothing, and my shorter mullet-type hair… I just thought I was a little more androgynous but still a woman (demigirl) or gender fluid (sometimes feminine, sometimes masculine..) but I think I am actually agender. I feel as though I don’t have a gender - none of the labels fit me. And I like it more that way! There’s nothing to conform to, or a box to fit into.. or the imposter syndrome of “but am I actually _?” In another video of yours (2y ago) you talked about how being friends with guys doesn’t have that pressure to be one of them. I realized that was something I was feeling, trying to be friends with other women/girls in my life. It’s nothing against them of course, but it really did weigh on me that I wasn’t like them, and I didn’t belong… Majority of the people I speak to on a daily basis now are my guy friends, nb friends, trans friends.. I just struggle to relate to women I guess. Another thing you said got me thinking - you mentioned perception. I have actually struggled with this the most. Wanting to be perceived as masculine, something other than a woman… but looking at myself in the mirror and just seeing a girl in boy’s clothing - which makes me feel icky, it’s not right. So when you said you think about being a boy with feminine features, it clicked for me! I should be who I feel I am meant to be, and if I see myself as a boy, so what? If it makes me happy, then that’s what matters. So, all that to say THANK YOU Iris!! You’ve helped me figure some things out, and you also have banger asf fashion sense I am 100% going to use for outfit inspo now haha ❤
Hi. My first phase of journey was also a feeling where you feel like an impostor and you don't fit anywhere. I guess that's how all of us start. I'm someone who doesn't conform. I see myself as a being that just exists in the way it wants to. To look how you want and do what you want is being free in this society. Perception of yourself is the most important, what resides inside is who you actually are. At least, that's how I see these things. Just wanted to add something more..
I definitely relate to the perspective thing! And when it comes to pronouns, I relate to the whole not loving they/them but still wanting it as a pronoun set for other reasons. I’m nonbinary and still sorting out what pronouns I want to use when I come out and currently am sitting in he/they/it, but right now I love he/him and feel kind of detached from they/them but still want them as part of my pronoun set to A)easily signal I’m nonbinary and not a binary guy, and B) like you said, give the option for people to acknowledge my gender in that ungendered way. I also like the idea of having it/its as well, also not because I feel as in love with them on me as he/him but because it signals a level of genderfuck and ungenderedness that I’d like others to know
I've always wanted to find ways to express myself femininely as a guy. I live in the Deep South, so I'm always worried about getting bullied (people at my school are just... bleh). I also just have a stockier build, so I'm unsure of how to look feminine as someone who definitely looks like a guy 😭 Great vid tho 😂❤
Things that feel very gender to me: 1. layering masc and fem. Binder + corset + flannel + cargos, long skirt + tool belt, small waistcoat + big pants 2. Small waistcoat or big formal pants in general, with anything 3. Accessories! Tiny horseshoe as a necklace, esp if clothes are more fem, chains that accentuate my hips and are metal as fu, literal medieval nails as hair sticks, separate key chains and tools from mentioned tool belt, leaning into punk with tie on a bare neck 4. Long hair and boyish bangs. Will get a mullet later bc i just turned 18 >:)
I'm nonbinary and dress a little more masc. I've found recently that muscle tank tops really help with that comfy masc feel without feeling restricted ( I have some mild sensory issues that modern shirt sleeves love to annoy).
just got my first truly gender-affirming haircut today! i know a lot of transmascs go through the struggle of having a female hairstylist who somehow turns a wolfcut into a bob/pixiecut but i specified that i wanted the hair to start short in the front and drop behind the ear and it came out really well!
I have a couple of shirts/blouses that make me feel like the gayest fuck in town, and they're amazing! Sadly, it's mostly my own perception and probably not how others see me, but that doesn't matter when I look in the mirror and feel great!
So I kinda know I'm agender and I haven't told anyone except myself. But lately I have realized my brain start replacing she/her Pronouns with they/them Pronouns and it makes me feel good. So I think I'll start with telling my therapist to use they/them Pronouns when talking to me but not with my parents. Your videos have helped me so much thank you ❤❤
Ties!! Oh my god ties and a really baggy flannel with some print on it and sports bra helps me sm on those dysphoria days:] also black eyeliner and black nail polish. Idk black is just ✨euphoria✨
The way you explain how feeling like a boy with feminine features feels so much better than feeling like a masc woman, omg, I relate sooo much!! By the way, the things that usually give me gender euphoria is practicing hobbies that are male-dominated such as chess, fighting games or watching movies/tv shows loved mostly by boys (???) lol I don't know why but being able to talk about "masculine interests" make me feel hot haha
Yo Iris, I can assure you you‘re one of those cute boys wearing nail polish!! This was a good look into your mind. I‘m a cis guy (I’ve been pondering about gender for some time but I’m pretty sure I’m still fine with that) but I still really enjoy thinking anout gender expression and channeling different looks.
long skirts. i feel so much gender euphoria around long skirts. i do mostly wear pants because my skirts don't have pockets and i've been too lazy to add them in, but when i wear a skirt i just feel so much cooler and like i'm fucking around with gender. also i tend to categorize my outfits less as fem and masc and more as "vaguely fantasy" and "vaguely apocalyptic" (more crossover in those styles than you'd think) and that feels vaguely related my gender expression.
Oh my god I can't express how much I relate just in the opposite way. I love seeing myself as a girl just with some more masculine features. Love your videos!!
being a boyfriend is v gender euphoria for me, dying my hair, eyebrow piercing !! dressing goth, black lipstick, smudged eyeliner, having a mini mohawk / mullet thing, hexagon glasses feel v nonbinary to me !! wearing my binder helps a lot, and wearing trousers too, also chains and spiked jewelry like "punk" jewelry especially spikes, wearing platforms makes me feel masc too context im a nonbinary trans guy !!
I love calling myself a boy or boysh when do somethong boysh. Like when i wear a shirt from mens section- guy, someone thought that im a guy- the mascest guy there. Its like a complimet to myself, that i wouldnt get from others ^^
It's interesting, how even without your videos in the past, I still reached similar conclusion. I already applied most of these tips. We are really similar in some way. Still, appreciate the content that you do. 🙂💜
I think my gender isn’t gendering cause i love dressing feminine and having long hair but i hate my chest and wished i didn’t have one i feel like somewhere in between men and women cause i don’t feel like a dude but i don’t like being considered a woman (a girl is ehh i prefer not but i don’t mind)idk if it’s cause I’m aroace so i don’t really relate to girls my age due to the fact that i’m not into people but all the people i relate to the most are out of the gender binary (my friend is agender, the other used to be nonbinary, two more nonbinary people and a genderfluid person) but idk cause i dress very feminine and i like it so yeah
I think it’s about time for me to buy a binder/compressed sports bra. my chest often ruins my perception when I’m trying to appear neutral or masc. my body type isn’t quite feminine but I am mid sized with medium sized breasts and I often just wish I was born flat chested lol.
The enbies have been summoned! Hehehe)) The perspective thing is so true I can feel really euphoric in more “fem” outfits bc I view myself as boy-ish element and that’s awesome But then someone will say “aww u r such a pretty girl” and imma be like🥲🥲🥲🥲 Anyway thanks a lot for your content! Been following you for years at this point and I really enjoy your videos, as a fellow genderqueer being ehehhe
Accidentally matching outfits with my cis boyfriend has always been a fun source of euphoria for me. Also, I see myself as a femboy and that’s just fun, man. Oh also unpacking internalized transphobia helps a lot with feeling better about your own gender.
hi there! I'm new here.. happy to have found you I have a problem with my chest I do identify as a girl (I really don't care about it) but..even with binder/tape on I still feel it? also i feel like it ruins my confidence and outfits lol but mostly I feel like it doesn't belong on my body? (if that makes sense) I live in a country that is so far back and closeminded..so surgery is not even an option. I guess there is nothing for me to do but wantend to vent..maybe someone will understand
Hi, I might understand. It seems like you have chest dysphoria, which can happen. Feeling like it doesn't belong on your body is part of dissociation. Feel free to share what bothers you.
silly enbie here i get so encouraged by your vids and always i get motivated to change things that give me disphoria but i end with the same sensation of repression by own self its like i repress my self but also want to flourish but the little cocoon doesnt want to open its so frustrating, but your videos are cool and encouraging thnks iris
In a restrictive society that we live in, that happens a lot. Many people struggle with that. You have my support to slowly get out of that shell and free yourself. Embrace your true self.
hi ! i have a question. would it be okay for a lesbian to date a non-binary person or would that be invalidating their identity, since they are not a woman?? i’ve heard of lesbian being referred to as non-men who are attracted to non-men but i’ve also heard that this is wrong and i’m not sure.
forget everything youve heard you can literally do whatever you want forever. if you like someone you like them. labels are for general understanding, not specific prescribing. imo anyone can be a lesbian if you believe hard enough. even boys. signed, a friendly gender-deconstructionist lesbian
the moment a label becomes unhelpful or limiting in your true expression can be a sign to detach from it! my advice is to stop thinking so hard and worrying how exactly you “fit in” with the queer community and just vibe with who you are. queerness doesn’t function just one way and yes there are many people online who will argue about this till they run out of breath, but you don’t need to justify anything to anyone as long as the person you’re with is on the same page as you!!
it's nice that i see this video now because right before i went on youtube, i had a blast making new outfits and masc make ups with music on, and it gave me sooo much gender euphoria! Taking the clothes that i used to style fem like i learned how to, but styling them in a way that makes me feel good, and looking at myself in the mirror seeing a silly confident dude, it's so nice x)
omg, i do the perspective thing so much and i didnt notice :3 im afab nonbinary (er.. i usually wouldnt mention my birth gender but i feel the context is important) and i have long hair for gender reasons, and sometimes when i look in the mirror i go oh no long hair = girl! and then i remember the whole reason i have long hair is because of a male fictional character i relate to and then im like Oh. Well anyways. also, personally, big fan of feeling like a super masc guy and a super fem girl at the same time
Apart from the pronouns thing I relate to pretty much everything in some way! And the perspective thing is SO true its crazy! I used to avoid femininity in my gender expression before I realized I was trans, even though I liked certain feminine clothes or nake up, it just felt off somehow As soon as I fully accepted my nonbinary identity I could finally start appreciating things about my appearance and I'm way more comfy with being feminine~ Now I just have a ton of make up skills to catch up on x'D I also really feel the part about monitoring my speach so people don't get the wrong idea about my identity I also feel very boy-ish a lot of the time, but I avoid voicing it too much because I hate the idea of being seen as a man, it makes me almost as dysphoric as being seen as a woman tbh But I've started opening up about it to my queer friends It really helps having a group of supportive people who just embrace you as you are ^^
Honestly I can realte to a lot of the things you described about your gender. I have so much fun ideas of how I wanna express myself in an andro way. Though I don't actually feel like I am able to do so. I live in a town, and although not that small, it's still a place where everyone knows each other. Besides, I am still in high school, so even if I get over the potential judgement that I am afraid of from classmates (and I have many queer friends, one other trans friend, and they are very much frowned upon by peers), I don't want to deal with my family and their views on gender. My mom loves complaining when I get clothes from the men's section. Though my dad is accidentally supportive and doesn't care, and even somewhat encourages me, in my more masc expression. The funniest part is that my mom knows I am sapphic and suppoerts me and my dad is homophobic as hell. But yeah, going all the way isn't an option for me currently. I don't have much gender dysphoria and soon enough I am going to a university in the capital to study animation, so I will go wild once that happens. This got very long but I kinda just wanted to share my experience with gender expression.
@@neobongzzz i think i get it tho. its like being deppresed for a while and then feeling normal. so feeling normal after whole time of being unhappy feels euphoric.
Getting my hair half buzzed as initiating a new beginning. And the few times I’ve cosplayed as 2D anime boys. And wearing princess hair clips. Also keeping my leg hair and loving the touch, inspired by Nick Nelson from Heartstopper. Oh and wearing harem pants. A lot of it being not living out my teenage years when I was a teenager, so that special youthful touch means all the more.
I'm still figuring out the gender things but I mostly present masc and androgynous. So these are things that make me feel euphoric: -Button. Up. Mens. Shirts. The funkier the better. -chunky jewelry -cargo pants -clunky platform shoes -vests over float pirate sleeve tops -cardigans >>>> -short hair >>>> -viewing myself as a pretty boy instead of a boy stuck in female clothes whenever I wear dresses or feminine clothing
Wish short hair looked good on me🫠 my hair is really round so I'd just look weird with short hair Hope someone can relate (also, it took me so much time and energy to convince my parents to let me get a bobcut, A BOBCUT! One of the most normal, tame haircuts out there)
I love the perspective talk. I started transitioning about 3 months ago now and I love looking in the mirror and envisions myself as a masc woman. It can help when I look at myself and feel iffy about my overall appearance. 😃
Hi, Amab nb summoned, I relate to a lot of your points, not all cause I do prefer they/them over other pronouns and also don’t have to use a binder sense amab, but aside from that, definitely spot on, I absolutely love presenting androgynously, and mixing “feminine and masculine” clothing. And I also definitely enjoy painting my nails, I realized it looked good and I shouldn’t care if people react badly (neither should any of you) and honestly I hope I can find some enby friends around to connect with, I didn’t even think of how lovely that would be.
I just got my first sports bras that I bought with intention to compress my chest a bit. Didn't feel the need to go for binder, but just make my b00ba less obvious. And I love them so, so much.
Its so funny, when you said "feeling insecure" something clicked for me cause ive always had such a problem calling my experience with that feeling "dysphoria" because i dont feel trans enough as a non binary person but i pretty much experience the exact same thing. Especially with the being seen as a masc woman verses being seen as a cute pretty boy. The first is confusing and makes me feel bad and the latter is HOME.
As a non-binary person who grew up in VERY conservative patriarchal country and then came to America, I struggle to understand what could even be gender affirming in a society where gender roles and norms are pretty much nonexistent anymore. All clothes are for everyone, I struggle to associate most clothes with any specific gender. Short hair is for everyone, completely normal on a woman nowadays. Because gender is a social construct, I feel less and less non-binary in this society the longer I live here and start feeling more and more like just a woman which is very interesting development.
the "looking in the mirror and seeing a boy" is SOOO relatable! Although I often need to get somewhat dressed for me tobtruly see it, I just fovus on the "boyish" features I have. Also you don't need this because your eyebrows are fucking perfect, but as someone with very fair body hair, dyeing my eyebrows has been a game changer. The way I look so muvh more masculine makes me so happy!!! To the point where I will see a picture of me before dyeing my eyebtows and see how feminine I loked 😭
I like to dress like a whimsical little hobbit fairy being bc I just feel like I’m magical and have no need to have gender and that gives me ✨peak✨ confidence and euphoria
thank you for this video! ive kinda always just leaned towards feminine fashion / makeup because i am female, and i always felt scared to be judged i think. but recently, I've been trying to be more myself, and have felt a lot more connected to myself in including more masculine fashion + using any/all pronouns. ps. you're so pretty and the way you speak is so calming
The perspective thing is true, I know I look more feminine but if I imagine myself as a boy but with feminine features it makes it so much better even if only I see myself that way
exactly exactly ❤️❤️❤️❤️
yesss this is exactly what i do!
Yesss! Though for me, when I look in the mirror, I'll feel bad if I say things like "I am a man", or "I am a woman". But simply saying "I am"? Instant euphoria ✨
I used to have massive dysphoria in feminine clothes but now nothing gives me gender euphoria like putting on a ridiculous fit and thinking of myself as a slutty femboy
I've been doing that for years but its starting to not work anymore cause then I know that the people around me won't see me as a boy.
I'm new here and my name is Iris too! not found another Iris yet so thats cool
My dyslexic ass really thought I was gonna learn how to find a ginger in Europa
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a thing that really helps me when I'm feeling insecure about being non-binary or having kind of- internalised transphobic thoughts ig? is remembering queer history. There's a lot of people that came before you that felt the same way and/or were trans, people on the internet like to dramatise and say having different pronouns or being trans is new, when it's not! It's something that's been seen in many different cultures and throughout history time and time again :))
Hi!
I think you're right, but I also think one thing has changed: freedom to speak about it and having role models. I was born in the end of the 80's, I'm not so far from 40yo right now, so not so old but not still young 😂 When I grew up, nobody was talking about it. I didn't even know the same feeling could exist anywhere else. Everybody found and told me I was weird, and I built myself with this... alien feeling ? 😂 I didn't feel like I was a girl, I thought everybody was wrong and I was a boy for real.
Few months ago, I discovered the word to describe what I feel : non binary. I was pretty choked that there was a name for this now 😂 When I see you, young people, talking about it so easily, trade tips and reviews about material to help, I have some regrets for the young myself, lost in dead end questions...
You have a real great chance to share and receive tips, to feel like a community, supported by people feeling as you do. And old boomers like me, with our unstable construction of ourselves, look at you with a sweet parenting smile.
Let's go, rule the world, you're all right ❤ Don't be ashamed to feel what you feel, to be who you are. Take care of you, stay safe, that's fair. ❤
Ps: English isn't my first language, sry if I made mistakes.
that one sweatshirt + good hair day = gender euphoria
I'm non-binary and I mostly wear grey or dark blue or black colored shirts with dark green or black cargo pants. I never knew that darker colors can hide shape until I found your videos and I'm so glad I know now.
hehehe yay! that’s what i’m here for ❤️❤️❤️
I'm transfem (maybe non-binary maybe a trans woman) and I totally relate to the perspective thing. If I look in the mirror and I'm like "That's a feminine man" I hate it but if I think "That's a masculine woman" I feel better. I like dressing androgynous and wearing band tshirts and the idea of being like a cool lesbian is so appealing to me.
Very useful and overall chill video. Even as a cis guy, being a femboy gives me many ways of expressing my gender expression and how I see myself. It’s been a while being a femboy but only now am I really learning how I’m able to do things that make me feel confident and cute. I’ve still got a long journey ahead and you’ve been helping with your great fashion ideas :3
You go boi!^^
What’s your favourite things to wear? Just curious and trying to chat and maybe help haha
Well I’ve only got a couple fashion items I really like but just things likes skirts and crop tops I absolutely love.Being a teen with non-accepting parents it’s hard to get clothes I like but it’s totally worth it (if you’re safe doing it) :3
The thing you said about being ick one day and then another day like "oh I'm hot" is so relatable
Same
No I'm always ick
Whenever I watch your videos I get super excited and start doing my makeup or throw on some clothes just to look at myself in the mirror. No going outside, just feeling handsome. Thanks for your content♥️
omg yay this is so meaningful thank you for sharing 😭 glad i can help create that space
I’ll bind and dress masculinely, get called a guy, then the same day for like dinner or something dress femininely (still binded if I’m not with my parents), get called a girl, and I’m just like “yesssss” because being confusing is fun
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@@irisolympia thank you!!!! Its legit the best thing ever :D
So y’all do it to be annoying ok got it
@@bubblesbubbles7988 how is it annoying? 😭
It’s just dressing a certain way-?
@@Squirrelstar they’re dressing to purposely confuse people lmao and these are always the kind of people that throw a tantrum when you “misgender” them.
IRIS YOU HAVE SUCCESFULLY SUMMONED US🗣️🔥
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here are some things that give me gender euphoria:
1. My leather jacket that hides my chest perfectly
2. a black button down that's a tad too big tucked into my pants
3. SUITS
4. Mixing a cute little dress or lacy top with a big chunky jacket
SUITS 🙏🙏🙏
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the lighting and the vibes of this video are so calm and its exactly what i need rn!
yay!! thx for watching ❤️❤️❤️
9:00 I am an NB, and I've been summoned! 🙌
I can related to pretty much everything mentioned here (except for the piercing part, but I don't even have earrings so I guess that's pretty gender affirming already when I want to feel boyish). I'm genderfluid AFAB, and specially looking like a feminine boy more than a masculine girl is both a mood on its own, and a clever trick to pursue gender euphoria instead of getting stuck on gender dysphoria.
yayy thx for watching!!
The looking at yourself from the wrong perspective and feeling ughh really hit the spot. That's what I do the whole day and I know I shouldn't care so much, but I care about what the people I work with think. I am scared of being myself because I feel so different and like they can't like the way I am if I'll let myself be different. Everyone seems so easy going, like they don't have to worry about coming off weird
Yes, I have the same feeling. The thing, is most people will never understand. It's up to you to find yourself and feel free, no matter how constrictive society is. As with everything, that comes with both good and bad sides.
dude this is so true!
I feel like getting misgendered definitely shifts my perspective of myself from feminine guy to masculine woman, because I remember so many times that when I looked at myself after being referred to as ‘she’ my perception of myself changed so much. This cleared SO much up. Thank you, youtube algorithm for recommending this - and thank you for making it!
2:15 as a transmasc non-binary person this is so real
The whole bit about how you look at yourself is very true! Some of the best moments to me are when I can look in the mirror and tell myself: "Damn, you sure are one handsome guy"
Also, some weeks ago I wore a skirt for the first time in years for a costume and I was very worried that it was going to make me super dysphoric, but once I actually put it on and looked at myself, I just saw myself as a man in drag and that was a surprisingly positive experience
OMG!! You just explained how I wanna feel with the nail polish!!! I paint my nails black a lot and idk why but like I never knew it’s kinda like I wanna look like one of those cute boys who’s paint their nails cause I am one of those cute boys who paints their nails!!:))))
Same, I used to paint my nails black because Freddie Mercury did that in the 70s and he was always a massive source of gender envy for me
@@callum.timothy Freddie is one of my goals 😂❤
Its always so comfy to watch a vid from a fellow non-binary person xd
thx for watching!! ❤️
holy crap.....your experience with gender hit SO close to home to me. it's so similar to my own!! from using she/he pronouns but not really liking they, so referring to yourself as a "boygirl" (i'm literally currently working on making a patch that says "girlboy" for my jacket) to liking looking like an androgynous boy and even referring to yourself as one...! it just.....man. you even have a slightly similar haircut to me.
I am amab and closeted (can't change it rn) and that could fit me
@@smartsmartie7142 righteous *gender high five*
@@Roshambo-i9u *loud gender high five clap followed by gender confusion noises*
I just want to say I stumbled upon your channel last night and it’s really revolutionised my perception of gender and my own identity within myself.
The feeling of being “different” from others around me and not really fitting anywhere, the joy I feel wearing men’s style of clothing, and my shorter mullet-type hair… I just thought I was a little more androgynous but still a woman (demigirl) or gender fluid (sometimes feminine, sometimes masculine..) but I think I am actually agender.
I feel as though I don’t have a gender - none of the labels fit me. And I like it more that way! There’s nothing to conform to, or a box to fit into.. or the imposter syndrome of “but am I actually _?”
In another video of yours (2y ago) you talked about how being friends with guys doesn’t have that pressure to be one of them. I realized that was something I was feeling, trying to be friends with other women/girls in my life. It’s nothing against them of course, but it really did weigh on me that I wasn’t like them, and I didn’t belong…
Majority of the people I speak to on a daily basis now are my guy friends, nb friends, trans friends.. I just struggle to relate to women I guess.
Another thing you said got me thinking - you mentioned perception. I have actually struggled with this the most. Wanting to be perceived as masculine, something other than a woman… but looking at myself in the mirror and just seeing a girl in boy’s clothing - which makes me feel icky, it’s not right.
So when you said you think about being a boy with feminine features, it clicked for me!
I should be who I feel I am meant to be, and if I see myself as a boy, so what? If it makes me happy, then that’s what matters.
So, all that to say THANK YOU Iris!! You’ve helped me figure some things out, and you also have banger asf fashion sense I am 100% going to use for outfit inspo now haha ❤
Hi. My first phase of journey was also a feeling where you feel like an impostor and you don't fit anywhere. I guess that's how all of us start.
I'm someone who doesn't conform. I see myself as a being that just exists in the way it wants to. To look how you want and do what you want is being free in this society.
Perception of yourself is the most important, what resides inside is who you actually are. At least, that's how I see these things. Just wanted to add something more..
I definitely relate to the perspective thing! And when it comes to pronouns, I relate to the whole not loving they/them but still wanting it as a pronoun set for other reasons. I’m nonbinary and still sorting out what pronouns I want to use when I come out and currently am sitting in he/they/it, but right now I love he/him and feel kind of detached from they/them but still want them as part of my pronoun set to A)easily signal I’m nonbinary and not a binary guy, and B) like you said, give the option for people to acknowledge my gender in that ungendered way. I also like the idea of having it/its as well, also not because I feel as in love with them on me as he/him but because it signals a level of genderfuck and ungenderedness that I’d like others to know
yes yes exactly with the detached feeling
People have probably told u this but your name is pretty❤
I've always wanted to find ways to express myself femininely as a guy. I live in the Deep South, so I'm always worried about getting bullied (people at my school are just... bleh).
I also just have a stockier build, so I'm unsure of how to look feminine as someone who definitely looks like a guy 😭
Great vid tho 😂❤
Things that feel very gender to me:
1. layering masc and fem. Binder + corset + flannel + cargos, long skirt + tool belt, small waistcoat + big pants
2. Small waistcoat or big formal pants in general, with anything
3. Accessories! Tiny horseshoe as a necklace, esp if clothes are more fem, chains that accentuate my hips and are metal as fu, literal medieval nails as hair sticks, separate key chains and tools from mentioned tool belt, leaning into punk with tie on a bare neck
4. Long hair and boyish bangs. Will get a mullet later bc i just turned 18 >:)
All right, this person here, this video now, made it finally click for me I'm non-binary took me long enough to just. Accept. Thanks.
I'm nonbinary and dress a little more masc. I've found recently that muscle tank tops really help with that comfy masc feel without feeling restricted ( I have some mild sensory issues that modern shirt sleeves love to annoy).
Help no one will use my pronouns I know I’m young but I’ve been going by these for years what should I do?
How young?
Last year middle school so 9th
@@Katiesworld20 no idea what that means…
@@AndyMcBlane I’m in my last year of middle school so 9th grade
@@Katiesworld20 I’m not from USA
Ahhh the ears getting pierced and feeling gender euphoria is SO real
Like me too me too
just got my first truly gender-affirming haircut today! i know a lot of transmascs go through the struggle of having a female hairstylist who somehow turns a wolfcut into a bob/pixiecut but i specified that i wanted the hair to start short in the front and drop behind the ear and it came out really well!
Hair 360 please im begging you
I loved this video
ty for watchingggg!!
Where is that metal choker from?
thank you so much! I am also non-binary and this video brings me a lot of comfort, btw love your look, you are very beautiful, handsome and pretty 💜
things I like to wear/ do for euphoria (Transman)
Button up tops my beloved
Nothing makes me feel more gender euphoric than a really good baggy tee. Weight lifting is another thing that makes me feel great too!
I have a couple of shirts/blouses that make me feel like the gayest fuck in town, and they're amazing! Sadly, it's mostly my own perception and probably not how others see me, but that doesn't matter when I look in the mirror and feel great!
So I kinda know I'm agender and I haven't told anyone except myself. But lately I have realized my brain start replacing she/her Pronouns with they/them Pronouns and it makes me feel good. So I think I'll start with telling my therapist to use they/them Pronouns when talking to me but not with my parents. Your videos have helped me so much thank you ❤❤
i dont like the term amab but like i wish more nb content was from an amab pov because its a lot dif ftx vs mtx if that makes sense
Ties!! Oh my god ties and a really baggy flannel with some print on it and sports bra helps me sm on those dysphoria days:] also black eyeliner and black nail polish. Idk black is just ✨euphoria✨
The way you explain how feeling like a boy with feminine features feels so much better than feeling like a masc woman, omg, I relate sooo much!! By the way, the things that usually give me gender euphoria is practicing hobbies that are male-dominated such as chess, fighting games or watching movies/tv shows loved mostly by boys (???) lol I don't know why but being able to talk about "masculine interests" make me feel hot haha
Yo Iris, I can assure you you‘re one of those cute boys wearing nail polish!!
This was a good look into your mind. I‘m a cis guy (I’ve been pondering about gender for some time but I’m pretty sure I’m still fine with that) but I still really enjoy thinking anout gender expression and channeling different looks.
long skirts. i feel so much gender euphoria around long skirts. i do mostly wear pants because my skirts don't have pockets and i've been too lazy to add them in, but when i wear a skirt i just feel so much cooler and like i'm fucking around with gender. also i tend to categorize my outfits less as fem and masc and more as "vaguely fantasy" and "vaguely apocalyptic" (more crossover in those styles than you'd think) and that feels vaguely related my gender expression.
I has to shave my own hair bc I have to much anxiety to go to a hairdresser 😢 last time I went he didn’t do what I wanted 😅
Oh my god I can't express how much I relate just in the opposite way. I love seeing myself as a girl just with some more masculine features. Love your videos!!
being a boyfriend is v gender euphoria for me, dying my hair, eyebrow piercing !! dressing goth, black lipstick, smudged eyeliner, having a mini mohawk / mullet thing, hexagon glasses feel v nonbinary to me !! wearing my binder helps a lot, and wearing trousers too, also chains and spiked jewelry like "punk" jewelry especially spikes, wearing platforms makes me feel masc too
context im a nonbinary trans guy !!
I have been summoned. 🛒🛒🛒
I love calling myself a boy or boysh when do somethong boysh. Like when i wear a shirt from mens section- guy, someone thought that im a guy- the mascest guy there. Its like a complimet to myself, that i wouldnt get from others ^^
It's interesting, how even without your videos in the past, I still reached similar conclusion. I already applied most of these tips. We are really similar in some way. Still, appreciate the content that you do. 🙂💜
I think my gender isn’t gendering cause i love dressing feminine and having long hair but i hate my chest and wished i didn’t have one i feel like somewhere in between men and women cause i don’t feel like a dude but i don’t like being considered a woman (a girl is ehh i prefer not but i don’t mind)idk if it’s cause I’m aroace so i don’t really relate to girls my age due to the fact that i’m not into people but all the people i relate to the most are out of the gender binary (my friend is agender, the other used to be nonbinary, two more nonbinary people and a genderfluid person) but idk cause i dress very feminine and i like it so yeah
I think it’s about time for me to buy a binder/compressed sports bra.
my chest often ruins my perception when I’m trying to appear neutral or masc.
my body type isn’t quite feminine but I am mid sized with medium sized breasts and I often just wish I was born flat chested lol.
My big chest and soft jawline are my biggest insecurity’s and I often cry because of them. Don’t really know what to to about them either
Yay for cute nail polish wearing queer bois like us!
I use he him pronouns for you without thought, so hearing that you like it makes me happy :))
"Channeling anime boys"
ME TOO. I don't blame you, me too
tysm and the pronouns thing it happens the same , i use she/he/they but people only use she i would love to hear someone using he so much 😋
YESS okay so its not only me😭 I'm gender fluid but I prefer she/he MUCH more than they, but I still use they cuz it feels weird to only use she and he
I’m really struggling with the self perception part, I’m gonna try to think of myself different like how you did :)
🙏❤️
Why are you so cute for a girl I thought I might be gay but now after after seeing you I'm a little bit confused?
The enbies have been summoned! Hehehe))
The perspective thing is so true I can feel really euphoric in more “fem” outfits bc I view myself as boy-ish element and that’s awesome
But then someone will say “aww u r such a pretty girl” and imma be like🥲🥲🥲🥲
Anyway thanks a lot for your content! Been following you for years at this point and I really enjoy your videos, as a fellow genderqueer being ehehhe
I love being a cute boy with nail polish :D
Currently figuring out it I like my female side.
Accidentally matching outfits with my cis boyfriend has always been a fun source of euphoria for me. Also, I see myself as a femboy and that’s just fun, man. Oh also unpacking internalized transphobia helps a lot with feeling better about your own gender.
hi there! I'm new here.. happy to have found you
I have a problem with my chest I do identify as a girl (I really don't care about it) but..even with binder/tape on I still feel it? also i feel like it ruins my confidence and outfits lol but mostly I feel like it doesn't belong on my body? (if that makes sense) I live in a country that is so far back and closeminded..so surgery is not even an option. I guess there is nothing for me to do but wantend to vent..maybe someone will understand
Hi, I might understand. It seems like you have chest dysphoria, which can happen. Feeling like it doesn't belong on your body is part of dissociation. Feel free to share what bothers you.
i have been summoned
Mega-relate XD love this!
Where can I get that shirt I neeeed it 🙏🙏🙏
AN ENBY HAS BEEN SUMMONED!!
earlyyyyy
I wish i had more trans and nb friends :(
samee :( I'm gender fluid tho
silly enbie here
i get so encouraged by your vids and always i get motivated to change things that give me disphoria but i end with the same sensation of repression by own self
its like i repress my self but also want to flourish but the little cocoon doesnt want to open
its so frustrating, but your videos are cool and encouraging thnks iris
In a restrictive society that we live in, that happens a lot. Many people struggle with that. You have my support to slowly get out of that shell and free yourself. Embrace your true self.
so glad I found this video, you're so cool my dude!
hi ! i have a question. would it be okay for a lesbian to date a non-binary person or would that be invalidating their identity, since they are not a woman?? i’ve heard of lesbian being referred to as non-men who are attracted to non-men but i’ve also heard that this is wrong and i’m not sure.
forget everything youve heard you can literally do whatever you want forever. if you like someone you like them. labels are for general understanding, not specific prescribing. imo anyone can be a lesbian if you believe hard enough. even boys. signed, a friendly gender-deconstructionist lesbian
the moment a label becomes unhelpful or limiting in your true expression can be a sign to detach from it! my advice is to stop thinking so hard and worrying how exactly you “fit in” with the queer community and just vibe with who you are. queerness doesn’t function just one way and yes there are many people online who will argue about this till they run out of breath, but you don’t need to justify anything to anyone as long as the person you’re with is on the same page as you!!
it's nice that i see this video now because right before i went on youtube, i had a blast making new outfits and masc make ups with music on, and it gave me sooo much gender euphoria! Taking the clothes that i used to style fem like i learned how to, but styling them in a way that makes me feel good, and looking at myself in the mirror seeing a silly confident dude, it's so nice x)
hey what makeup are you wearing in this vid?
will do an updated makeup routine!!
@@irisolympia okay amazing
omg, i do the perspective thing so much and i didnt notice :3 im afab nonbinary (er.. i usually wouldnt mention my birth gender but i feel the context is important) and i have long hair for gender reasons, and sometimes when i look in the mirror i go oh no long hair = girl! and then i remember the whole reason i have long hair is because of a male fictional character i relate to and then im like Oh. Well anyways. also, personally, big fan of feeling like a super masc guy and a super fem girl at the same time
CAN SOMEONE TALK ABT THE LIGHTING IN THIS VIDEO!!!! THIS WHOLE VIDEO IS A WORK OF ART
Thank you
Thank you
Apart from the pronouns thing I relate to pretty much everything in some way!
And the perspective thing is SO true its crazy! I used to avoid femininity in my gender expression before I realized I was trans, even though I liked certain feminine clothes or nake up, it just felt off somehow
As soon as I fully accepted my nonbinary identity I could finally start appreciating things about my appearance and I'm way more comfy with being feminine~
Now I just have a ton of make up skills to catch up on x'D
I also really feel the part about monitoring my speach so people don't get the wrong idea about my identity
I also feel very boy-ish a lot of the time, but I avoid voicing it too much because I hate the idea of being seen as a man, it makes me almost as dysphoric as being seen as a woman tbh
But I've started opening up about it to my queer friends
It really helps having a group of supportive people who just embrace you as you are ^^
Honestly I can realte to a lot of the things you described about your gender. I have so much fun ideas of how I wanna express myself in an andro way. Though I don't actually feel like I am able to do so. I live in a town, and although not that small, it's still a place where everyone knows each other. Besides, I am still in high school, so even if I get over the potential judgement that I am afraid of from classmates (and I have many queer friends, one other trans friend, and they are very much frowned upon by peers), I don't want to deal with my family and their views on gender. My mom loves complaining when I get clothes from the men's section. Though my dad is accidentally supportive and doesn't care, and even somewhat encourages me, in my more masc expression. The funniest part is that my mom knows I am sapphic and suppoerts me and my dad is homophobic as hell. But yeah, going all the way isn't an option for me currently. I don't have much gender dysphoria and soon enough I am going to a university in the capital to study animation, so I will go wild once that happens. This got very long but I kinda just wanted to share my experience with gender expression.
as a cis person. what is gender euphoria ?
getting happy being perceived or doing things associated with a specific gender
@@Tristezapersonificada-ym7sx but is this specific to trans people because i dont really think i was happy for just being a guy.
@@griper00 yeah it pretty much is
@@neobongzzz i think i get it tho. its like being deppresed for a while and then feeling normal. so feeling normal after whole time of being unhappy feels euphoric.
Getting my hair half buzzed as initiating a new beginning. And the few times I’ve cosplayed as 2D anime boys. And wearing princess hair clips. Also keeping my leg hair and loving the touch, inspired by Nick Nelson from Heartstopper. Oh and wearing harem
pants. A lot of it being not living out my
teenage years when I was a teenager,
so that special youthful touch means all
the more.
the enbies have been summoned!
Wylina
I'm still figuring out the gender things but I mostly present masc and androgynous. So these are things that make me feel euphoric:
-Button. Up. Mens. Shirts. The funkier the better.
-chunky jewelry
-cargo pants
-clunky platform shoes
-vests over float pirate sleeve tops
-cardigans >>>>
-short hair >>>>
-viewing myself as a pretty boy instead of a boy stuck in female clothes whenever I wear dresses or feminine clothing
Wish short hair looked good on me🫠 my hair is really round so I'd just look weird with short hair
Hope someone can relate
(also, it took me so much time and energy to convince my parents to let me get a bobcut, A BOBCUT! One of the most normal, tame haircuts out there)
I love the perspective talk. I started transitioning about 3 months ago now and I love looking in the mirror and envisions myself as a masc woman. It can help when I look at myself and feel iffy about my overall appearance. 😃
Hi, Amab nb summoned, I relate to a lot of your points, not all cause I do prefer they/them over other pronouns and also don’t have to use a binder sense amab, but aside from that, definitely spot on, I absolutely love presenting androgynously, and mixing “feminine and masculine” clothing. And I also definitely enjoy painting my nails, I realized it looked good and I shouldn’t care if people react badly (neither should any of you) and honestly I hope I can find some enby friends around to connect with, I didn’t even think of how lovely that would be.
when clothes FIT me well.
makeup and haircuts.
my enby-friends.
others gender euphoria.
affirmations, ahhaha.
and many other things!
I just got my first sports bras that I bought with intention to compress my chest a bit. Didn't feel the need to go for binder, but just make my b00ba less obvious.
And I love them so, so much.
❤❤❤❤❤
Its so funny, when you said "feeling insecure" something clicked for me cause ive always had such a problem calling my experience with that feeling "dysphoria" because i dont feel trans enough as a non binary person but i pretty much experience the exact same thing. Especially with the being seen as a masc woman verses being seen as a cute pretty boy. The first is confusing and makes me feel bad and the latter is HOME.
As a non-binary person who grew up in VERY conservative patriarchal country and then came to America, I struggle to understand what could even be gender affirming in a society where gender roles and norms are pretty much nonexistent anymore. All clothes are for everyone, I struggle to associate most clothes with any specific gender. Short hair is for everyone, completely normal on a woman nowadays. Because gender is a social construct, I feel less and less non-binary in this society the longer I live here and start feeling more and more like just a woman which is very interesting development.
the "looking in the mirror and seeing a boy" is SOOO relatable! Although I often need to get somewhat dressed for me tobtruly see it, I just fovus on the "boyish" features I have.
Also you don't need this because your eyebrows are fucking perfect, but as someone with very fair body hair, dyeing my eyebrows has been a game changer. The way I look so muvh more masculine makes me so happy!!! To the point where I will see a picture of me before dyeing my eyebtows and see how feminine I loked 😭
I like to dress like a whimsical little hobbit fairy being bc I just feel like I’m magical and have no need to have gender and that gives me ✨peak✨ confidence and euphoria
Thank you for sharing this validating and uplifting vid! This is the first time we’ve heard the term gender “euphoria” and we love it! ❤️🤍🖤
thank you for this video! ive kinda always just leaned towards feminine fashion / makeup because i am female, and i always felt scared to be judged i think. but recently, I've been trying to be more myself, and have felt a lot more connected to myself in including more masculine fashion + using any/all pronouns.
ps. you're so pretty and the way you speak is so calming