Here are 5 important points from the video: 1. Some Muslims fall into the trap of romanticizing and overly fantasizing about their future spouse. 2. This thinking can lead to disappointment and unhappiness. 3. The greatest love story is between you and Allah. 4. Focusing on your relationship with Allah is the key to true happiness and fulfillment. 5. It is important to live your life and focus on your relationship with Allah, even if you are not married.
Im living in indonesia, and almost 70-90% muslim in here are too obsessed with romance and when they got dump, they would suicide, kill their ex, depression and more So i agree with her, also cuz too obsessed with romance so much illegal sex happened in here despite the marriage is decreasing over the year I mean, the marriage is decreasing but the number of baby born is too much and so this lead to many kids become so poor in the future due to this kind of behavior
In my limited observatory approch I think yourh especially ummah youth's major distraction is this very topic ...I'm 20 nd honestly I don't know why is it , gen z is strange 😂
I was married for the past 4 years and felt on top of the world, I made it the most important part of my identity. Allah has taken it from me and now I’m humbled, single again, and realizing there’s much more to life.
@slovelyyx7718 was maryam عليها السلام married!? Ascia was married to Pharoah the biggest tyrant at the time. Nuh عليه السلام had a disbelieving wife who was destroyed with his people and so did Lut عليه السلام. Everything is rizq. You don't really have control over your life to dictate the best way or most "important" thing to do. What is actually the most important is to worship Allah in whatever situation you are in and with whatever rizq you are given.
Non- Muslim here (Orthodox Christian) this video was so good and even though I’m not Muslim it resonated with me so well, thank you for sharing I really needed this ❤
I understand what you're saying, and as a still unmarried girl at the age 32 i tell you that is so true, like people please get a life 🥲 do what you wanna do, fill your life with beneficial things that nourish your imaan and carrier. And the best decision i made this year (in my whole life really) is memorizing the Quraan ❤
@miseendriste6337 you should know not to shame people about their situation. If Allah has blessed you with a loving person whose embrace you get to feel, know that Allah is capable of taking that away from you,too.
@@MissSraG Where did I question God's ability to give and take away? Even if God did take away the person, he would not undo what has already been done. The fact of the matter is the history, the record of events. Not the current status of being married/single. God may take my partner away tomorrow, but I would have still had felt the love of a man.
I had a similar reaction to the girls crying over the idea that love is a form of rizq (sustenance) and that some people may simply never experience it or get married in this life. To me, that’s just Islamic common sense. I’m 31, unmarried, and have never had a man show interest in me or ask for my hand in marriage. I’ve never dated, I have a master’s degree, I consider myself attractive and well-put-together, and I’m committed to my deen. Yet, I’m still without a husband. Of course, marriage is rizq from Allah. Just live your life-if you find someone worth marrying, that’s wonderful. If not, that’s fine too.
Assalamu alaikum sister 💕mashallah it’s amazing how accomplished you are may allah guide you and give you happiness, you could ask the imam or ask a Relative to match you since even the time of the prophet Peace be upon him its okay for women to take the Initiative and ask for help
Yep, also female companions did propose to the Prophet ﷺ himself, and scholars like Sh Othman Al khamees said that there is no problem w/ women directly proposing to a man whom they consider to be a good potential, if the situation (like the environment, society) is safe/alright. Read/watch more on this
Here I am, happily married, nodding along to everything Farah says, because clearly, my life would’ve been sooo much more fulfilling if I hadn't spent ages 17 to 33 stressing out (and being stressed out by others) about finding "the one." Also, we spend our lives in search of perfect love, yet the only love that can truly fulfill us-completely and wholly-comes from God alone.
I've come to the same conclusion. If we are not married, that is our test, just as is everything else in our life. Are we going to be miserable over something we don't have or are we going to focus on and be grateful for what we have? Are we going to be hopeless or are we going to prove our belief in the akhira and our commitment to jannah by being patient and hopeful that in Jannah we are guaranteed a spouse to be with forever with no separation or pain. Are we going to despair for being single or are we going to see that this means we have no distractions? There is nothing to come between us and Allah. That we came into this world by ourself and we will leave this world by our self. That we came from Allah and to him is our return. That, just as you said, all that matters in this life of ours is our relationship with Allah.
i love how emotional you got midway realizing how much the ummah has changed in today's day and age, we need to be better guys insha'allah may allah guide all of us towards the right path, ameen
real, we need to change starting with ourselves, our actions rub off on others. when i first tried wearing hijab like 1 year ago or smthn i wasnt wearing it consistently because it was new to me, but one day i wore it to school and a fellow muslim who i wasnt friends with just came to me and said mashallah, it really lightened my mood and also inspired me to act in a similar manner to other muslims, just to be kind to people even if you dont know them
I do not know how i got here, I am not a muslim nor arab and in a long term relationship lol, but I am so thankful I found this. It is true that we tend to put so much value on a significant other we sometimes forget there's so much more to life. I notice myself to be always pretty stressed trying to keep track of how my relationship is going, instead of looking at myself or the other people around me, someone or something else that doesn't have to do with my partner, and it's so bad to put your significant other at the center of your life; with that comes pain and a lot of stress. It's hard to switch perspectives but it's a necessary process, years into it I feel so much lighter and accomplished. Im still not quite there yet, but this point of view makes it easier. Aside from the relationship thing, it is very refreshing to hear a different point of view, someone with own criterion and not just following the general narrative, thanks for your content :)
Your words sail like the ship in a calm wave..it's beautiful, it true and indicates that you have sailed through this and have now correctly noticed your true priorities..thanks for sharing this
This reminded me of my cousin 😞 she was such a joy to be around, just 25year old, prepping for her wedding which was going to take place in a week or so and she just left this world so suddenly. I still remember that moment so vividly but sometimes we all need a little bit of reminder that this place is not the goal, afterlife is. And we should be more focused on preparing for that than this one which we don't even know when we are going to leave it
"Some people post things to make others feel like they're missing something." I don't remember if that's the exact way you formulated it but it's so true! Some people take pride and feed their ego off of other people being jealous of them.
This was my fav part! She went off! Especially as she explained how it’s such a western point of view to not care how others may react I agree it is individualistic to post to show off basically bc if you’re happy I really don’t see the need of showing off to ppl unless …does displaying these things to others make you feel better?
I'm a Christian and I have only had 1 boyfriend when I was in high school but I still saved myself for marriage and I still do now at 24 years old, we do exist! A lot of Christians out there are waiting for marriage!
33 years old never dated. Yes we exist. I live in Europe and it’s such a pain to explain it to my non Muslim colleagues because relationships is the hot topic in all team gatherings. One of my colleagues even tried to create a profile for me in a dating up…
@@shanouboubou no, it was quite cringy. He just opened the app in front of everyone and started asking me what I like in a male. I decided to make it even cringier and said: “have you just assumed my sexuality?”
I'm a Christian, I watched the whole video. And I so thank you for making it, because most of the teachings in Islam seem to be very similar to ours. I've been touched in the heart regarding how to reframe my thinking about relationships in general, my own included, and of course marriage as a life goal. I love listening to you, you are so wise! May you be blessed in your mission, you're doing such great things for us!
I am 32 and still unmarried because Allah knows better. But thanks to this situation, i can focus on my career, get a better job, feed lots of people and homeless every week. By doing that, Alhamdulillah, i never feel lonely. In fact, Alhamdulillah every simple thing i want like food, things, Allah always granted me from unexpected sources without asking Allah directly. And that makes me want to feed more and more people as long as Allah allows me. And if one day, Allah let me find the one man for me, i pray that he will do the same thing i do now.
This is one of those videos I‘ll keep having to come back to to give me that reminder. Unfortunately, I do slip up sometimes and let these couples get to me.😭 I don‘t even have time for thinking about relationships but I feel like it‘s an escape mechanism sometimes. This video sums it up perfectly. Marriage can be very beautiful but it is not the most important thing in life. Working on myself, my goals and my relationship with Allah is already so fulfilling. More people should speak about this topic. It‘s okay to strive for a good marriage but it is not all there is to life. Thank you so much, Farah!
you are so real for this i think one tip could be trying to avoid content related to marriage or couple stuff etc as whatever you consume is easily influnced by your mind ( ik its a bit tricky but it will help InshaAllah) ❤
@@hahs8 thank you🥺❤️ you are right, it really helps to not watch all of this content and to remember that those couples only show the beautiful sides to marriage and that it is not realistic. Apart from that it is always good to reduce time on social media in general and focus more on real life ❤️
I clicked on this video fully expecting this was a funny skit & thought I’d watch for a few minutes and then close it out. Little did I know, 41 minutes and 6 seconds later, I’d be sitting here, contemplating the distance that’s grown in my own relationship with Allah (swt), questioning my own impact on others, and trying to figure out how I can better commit to my Creator. May Allah (swt) give you ajr in this life and the akhirah, Farah. I really, really needed to hear this message.
@saajiddaya2152 I think it's saying that Universal KARMA conspired to bring certain people / circumstances together..And , likewise opposite circumstances etc caused people to decide to let others GO/ . Even when they Love that certain person...b cos ...Well ; it Sounds like a Rumi kind of quote. Very deep..
Exactly, "people live different lives", everyone is unique, male and female. I'm tired of our brothers and sisters acting as though there's only one way to live (outside of Islam). That one way to live usually being married young. And then the red pillers online acting as though marriage is the end all be all, and is supposed to be one specific, structured, rule-driven way. Like even within marriages, people are gonna be different. Every marriage is unique as well. When we keep daydreaming about marriage, we focus on the opposite gender way more, and loose touch with ourselves and Allah, it's not healthy.
And also at the end of the day these things are rizq they are not under your control for you to impose a specific path in life for everyone and say if not this way then you missed out. Our duty is to worship Allah under any situation with whatever provisions he has given us. If we are blessed with marriage we must worship Allah by giving our spouses their rights. If we have kids we must do likewise. If we are not married, we fear Allah and worship Allah with regards to the many other blessings He has given us. Alhamdullilah.
still, marriage is described as half of your deen in Islam, so of course we're going to put a lot of significance to it. You can't just say it ain't a big deal
@@maramra393 i saw your other comment amd i get what you mean, marriage is good but not the be all and end all. There is also a hadith that hygiene is half your deen (i think, excuse me if i’m wrong) so does that mean being hygienic should be our main focus and occupy our thoughts?
SubhanAllah I needed this video, I’ve met that guy and we started to know each other with my brother (mahram), and I found out he really has difficulties with his own emotions, especially anger, and I cannot get married with someone that is mentally not capable of loving me PROPERLY. I ended up everything and now I’m trying not to look for any relationship but just trying to build my future
Not everyone is capable of marriage/loving/o.s.v. There r people we shd avoid; their loneliness comes from their own sin. It belongs to THEM, n THEY have to e ones to turn to God n be healed; we cannot do it for them. Good for u for holding to your standards.
girl the WAYYY I get up for the sake of Allah for Tahajjud, and am SOBBING on my prayer mat thinking my naseeb doesn't know I exist..but I cry and pray anyways FOR ALLAH, for I KNOW Allah's love is strong, pure, and constant, Alhamdulilah 🤲🏽✨️
I knew someone who has been in a relationship all her life, and she told me once: ”I always need someone to be hesides me, i don't know how to be alone” And i just silently gasped at her. Like, you are a person of your own, I'm sure you got hobbies, dreams, goals?
People like her don't. Whoever they're dating atm, they'll cite the partner's dreams and goals as theirs and take pride in it. Nothing wrong with that, just it's really weird since the dreams and goals keep changing with each partner. Quite hilarious to witness in real time, I must say
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I am not muslim, but I have always loved Islamic faith and I definitely believe in Allah. I don’t practice anything now because I don’t want to be disrespectful to the religion but I want to learn and strengthen my own relationship with Allah. I have put such a high importance on my future and relationships, but I want to focus on building my relationship with Allah. Thank you so much for this Farah.
Gabriel, don't worry, you're not going to be disrespectful to religion if you try to practice. Allah loves every move that you try to do to get closer to Him so don't think about doing it wrong. You can also asks help for an imam in mosques that can teaches you whatever you want. May Allah give you the best.
If you love and believe in Allah and learn to love the messenger (Muhammad PBUH as well as the other messengers) that’s all you need for now :) don’t worry
Gabe❤ all of us are sinners, imperfect beings. Just here to say that you are not gonna disrespect by trying and doing your best. All we have to do is try our very best. Truly, love your sincerity and I wish you all the best!😊
Practicing will actually help you get closer to Allah. Also if you believe the 5 pillars of Iman (5 pillars of faith) in Islam, you're already a Muslim at heart. And if you practice the other 5 pillars of Islam, 1. Praying 5 times a day 2. Giving Zakha (charity) each year. 3. Fasting Ramadan 4. Doing the pilgrimage to Macca (if you're physically and financially capable) 5. Search up the 5th one please and remind me what it is. Those pillars mean, practicing what's in your heart. meaning, reflecting your faith in your actions, and practice. Btw, you can start doing it gradually, like you if you feel like you need time, you can start with 1 prayer a day and then when you get used to that, you increase it gradually to 2 until you get used to it, then 3, then 4, then 5. But if you feel like you can start right away and pray all 5 then that's awesome!! May Allah bless you and makes it easier for you😊👍🏼 AlhamduliAllah that He's guiding you
Everything she said was facts. But some of us don’t have a warm family 🥺 it’s isolating even during eid everyone gets to be with their family. The older I get the more obsessed I get with it but she is right I should pour all that energy into bettering my relationship with Allah
I can relate so much to the family part🥺 that is one of the reasons I always wanted to get married and have my own family. But maybe this is exactly why we should get closer to Allah. I sincerely wish you the best and inshallah you will have a beautiful marriage when the time comes❤️
I did it. Job, uni, I started playing piano and draw. But it turns out people never quit with 'aw, don't worry, you'll meet your guy one day 🥺' as if I'm asking for compassion... I swear, reaching 22 is like passing some kind of a barrier when people start assuming you *need* romantic relationship and that you are miserable without one...
Ohhh boy, this video came out in my fyp out of nowhere and I'm so glad it did. Because just today, out of nowehere, I was thinking about "Why am I still single?" "Why am I not married yet and have 2-3 kids like the rest of my friends that are around the same age as me (30 yrs old)?" "Am I that unattractive already that no guy wants to date and marry me?" And then you hit me with every single points haha I love how you say "The greatest love to ever exist is you and Allah swt". Thanks alot for this, I needed it. :)
I'm 21 and yeah same to you.. In fact last night I was wondering why am I still alone and everyday I feel the same ... But then this video really made me feel like Allah has kept me safe from this sin... I mean most of the time I'm just sick and I couldn't do a lot if I were a healthy person maybe I would be enjoying too much then I feel like Allah has chosen me so doesn't let me do everything...
This is this is off Topic actually but I don't know why no one is talking about Sudan, i hear allot of "free palastin /free Lebanon nd so on" nd I'm 100% with that but at the same time I didn't hear that much of free Sudan from the Arabic world, i mean liike we considered as an arabic country idk why specifically Arabs are not even remembering us or mentioning our struggles.. why?!
@@alchemistbrotv1707 actually that's exactly what the media wants you to think about the situation, whereas it's completely the opposite, it's an invasion funded by uae and conducted by foreigners..we as a sudanese are soo known for being soo peaceful, why should we kill our own kind it's completely making no sense i guess ?!
@@alchemistbrotv1707 actually that's exactly what the media wants you to think about the situation, whereas it's completely the opposite, it's an invasion funded by uae and conducted by foreigners who claims to be sudanese nd grinding to bring democracy to the country, but ironically they are killing us nd torturing our people, anyways next time just try to do a little more research, aight
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I'm a Christian but I really resonate with what you're saying, Farah. I had to come to the realization myself that I didn't desire marriage as badly as I thought I did, I was just bored💀😂 I literally just started working on a personal project and all of the time I'd spend fantasizing about my future husband is now spent working on that. It's that cut and dry, there is a whole world outside of relationships 🙏🏾
Hi Farah, I don't think so many people were surprised that love is a form of rizq. I think it just hit differently. I'm well aware that everything I get is from my Rabb, even when someone gives me a tissue to blow my nose. Like you said, it was like pointing out the obvious. And sometimes pointing out the obvious is what makes it hit harder. I know that my mum can leave this Dunya anyway, but when she says it, I shed a tear or two because it just hits different. I absolutely love the angle of your conversation because it's also a journey I've been on - learning to only hold on to Allah and not overly romanticize the things that might or might not come. But I just thought to drop my thoughts on the Omar Suleiman thing.
I'm Christian, it's my first time seeing you, my first video to watch but I have to confess that I like your outlook on this topic in particular and you know what,? I like your positive energy already! Hope I will be able to watch more . Thanks 🙏🏾
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without her, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring her back into my life
the end part hit differently, the past few months i have seen many deaths close to me and honestly alhumdulillah i am alive, i need to do more to worship Allah
32:00 Looking back, I feel so grateful when I think about my past failed romantic relationships and all the times I was rejected in one way or another.
Convinced that Farah knows exactly what's going on in my heart, and my mind! I find her every time I need someone to tell me that it's going to be okay!
Bro I was just stressing about how I am not ready to get married ( I have no suitable suitors whatsoever) and I was telling myself to stop thinking about marriage and then I see this 😭😭
Good day to you ma'am. Chances are you will never see this comment, but I just want to express my gratitude cause you opened many perspectives for me today that I never considered but deeply resonated with me. I do not share the same religion you practice neither am I familiar with the inner workings of your religion so please forgive my ignorance. I am Roman Catholic, but I will pray for your brother's friend before I sleep tonight. May he rest in peace.
“ in islam there’s no (me & them), there’s (us)” I LOVE this sentence cuz it’s so real and it’s so sad how many of us are actually forgetting this fact..
Love your common sense! People are lacking it these days. I agree - we should all just focus on ourselves and our progress as human beings. Ironically, right when you start doing that, life has a funny way of making us meet that special person when we least expect it anyway. 😊
For the last 11 month i stop worry about my relationship. Idk i kinda hoppels or i really tired to try again (looking for someone to get merried). For now my priorty is my Religion,my Parents,my self, Freedom of Palestina,silent hill and gta6.
I also think a lot of girls that fantasize and feel pressured to get married is because a lot of them live with dysfunctional and toxic parents, marriage would not be the solution because you may carry maladaptive habits of your parents, but talking about it with someone and reading can help you live through it!
Exactly I’m so glad I didn’t get married young (im 20 rn) because the girls I know that have got married aren’t doing well bc of their own issues like you said. And I feel even worse for the ones that are now single mothers when they’re so young💔
Asalaamualikum wasn’t Khadijah widowed though!? 🇨🇦 P.S. I may have a hubby 4 u SiS lol nice topic though MashaAllah as always may Allah increase you in beneficial knowledge Ameen 🤲🏾
I’m a Christian listening to this, and 15:34 is relatable. In our congregation, we’re told not to be a stumbling block to our brothers and sisters. That does mean posting things on social media as well
Hello ! Skeptical Mexican here. Im not a Muslim but your video really resonated with me a lot. I'm going trough a break up we lasted 5 and a half months. It has been a month since the break up and I don't know, media is all about love and I feel like it's constantly offering this sweet love that gives dopamine and I don't know it is true it is very overrated in an unhealthy way forgeting that taking care of yourself and taking care of the ones around you comes first. The second thing im taking from this video is what we upload in the internet will have a consequence with many or one individuals. When you spoke about that I thought "Well... People choose if they want to belive in something or not it's up on them" (Talking about everything) and then you came with "Thinking like that is a very western individual way of thinking, we are a community we should take care of the others" And DANG that hit! Cuz yeah modern society has been built to become individualists. But it doesnt really have to be like that.
I'm grateful that i found this channel, and since then, i felt like meeting a long lost friend who generously giving a reminder about what is good, about tauhid, and on how a muslim should be. Today's uncomfortable truth ended with such an important reminder. Thank you for bringing this topic out on the table 🙏
Thank you for this vulnerability. I may not share your beliefs but I'll 100% pray for that 24-year-old at the end. This felt like a wake up call as a fellow ambitious girlie. Death is going to come, and sometimes, it comes sooner for some. A girl in my year at only 17 passed away. I feel less grieved now but I cried so hard this summer when I heard a song live that reminded me of her. Whatever is meant for you will be. What gave me solace is Allah/God has a plan for everyone, and sometimes He maybe takes some people early so they can be in peace with Him. ❤❤❤ sharing much love, you have a beautiful heart.
I'm an atheist but like preach honestly 💕 it's about everyone not just muslims it's like ppl don't have anything to do other than romantic relationships
As someone who has never been in a relationship in her 21 years of life, I agree. I'm so busy with life i can barely keep up with myself. I don't understand people who can't be alone and always need to be in a relationship...At the end of the day, you're gonna have to figure out things for yourself, it's just gonna be you walking down your own path...
You are so precious. I am so thankful that you are brave enough to step forward, and face off to the hatred, malice, and greed that we all have to confront in this generation who thinks can make themselves up off from us, and do us as petty.
I would have loved to perform the Khadija move but the spread of gossiping afterwards( in case he/she is a wrong person) is what has prevented me taking this step!
Subhan Allah,that guy came to your house on ramadan one time and then you mentioned him in this video now people will make lots du'a in shaa Allah for him with rahma and maghfira ربنا يرحمه ويغفر له ويدخله فسيح جناته ويلهم أهله الصبر والسلوان It is really beautiful how Allah made this thing to happen so we would make du'a for him
I've been crying and overthinking for the past couple of hours about my future in general and your video just popped up and I managed to stop and listen to what u said... I must let u know that what you're doing here is important... You reminded me of my relationship with Allah, This relationship may not be in its best form but I'm grateful that I'm working on it and I'm grateful for u helping me fade all these unnecessary thoughts in the background and just focus on NOW and what's really important and so I thank u for that🙏 "And yes, I cried my eyes out at the end of your video, but it was relieving"
I cried when you said that the only true love is between you and Allah. I never been in a relationship and I was looking hard for the one yet you're video reminded me of the fact that I experienced the first time when I was sixteen.
yeah i agree with u. that's why i leave my social media. i remember first time a saw u on my reels instagram. i feel glad to see u on my homepage yt still speak abt muslim n islam❤
33:50 this was so gold. Putting this out here so I can come back when I overly obsessed about my future husband to remind myself of the reason we are here in this dunya
Alhamdulillah, finally someone who raised the issue, who spoke about it. I am happy that I am not alone in this thinking even though I never doubted myself, I have been criticised and been given suggestions like "ChilllLlllll enjoy the life" lol. Apart from those couples who are displaying every move on social media, there are the hijabi's spinnign 360 to share what they're wearing. For me, I'd like to keep it private, instagram/socialmedia isnt life. I am single and struggling in the society who has become so numb to so many things. We are so far away from the fundamentals of Islam, I even feel Id probably be dying unmarried, which is fine because I wanna end up with good people who have higher goal so it’s nice or none. Getting a spouse with those strong beliefs is almost like a distant dream for me now.
hi omg i've recently been thinking so much about marriage because that's the only way to escape my awful home. it's so stressful... but this video really reminded me of my actual goals rn. keep building myself and focus on my academics and career.
I agree with the title so so much 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I say : create the life you love before looking for the love of your life. Because then you won't be looking but finding. Haha. ❤️❤️❤️ Soulmate starts with SOUL. Find your SOUL before your SOULMATE.
I got dumped 2 days ago and i just gotta say. You're right lol, i needed to hear the fine line which is ti get a life. I feel like my life has revolved around my relationships and they have also shaped my personality. It sucks when it ends and then you have to figure out who you actually are now that you don't have that person as a crutch.
I applaud you for taking the Khadijah approach and encouraging other sisters to do the same. I applaud you for being vulnerable and sharing the “humbling” experience. And I am glad you concluded that the only real love story is between you and Allah. There is a romanticism epidemic in the modern world, we replace religion and devotion to God with love and devotion to another human being. This unreasonable expectation of love as our purpose in life & our only source of happiness has backfired on us, causing divorces to occur at an all-time high, infidelity to become rampant, and dating apps worsen this by making it easier for us to leave & move on to the next person after another, just to end up realizing all humans are imperfect and only God is.
Jazakallah Khair Sister, I really wanted to discuss this with my mom, because it was bothering me, I felt like I needed to get married and there is no sign of that happening anytime soon, I have just started my masters, so thankyou very much for addressing this❤
Hiiiii just wanna say a lot of points in this rant are still totally relevant to non-Muslims (like me). Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate the perspective.
im not muslim or arab, but this video was so beyond refreshing. thank you for also teaching me things, and reminding me that there is so much more to life than just relationships/marriage. i appreciate you and your content❤
I'm not a Muslim and I have my own reasons not to be one, but your arguments were rational and solid. Sometimes people should be reminded of common sense. It's not a groundbreaking knowledge, though people still forget simple stuff. Thank you❤
honestly, i thought the same when people got amazed about this rizq info about love. dude, the breath you're taking is a rizq of Allah, what did you think about love? so, thanks for sharing your thoughts about this!! i do like watching your videos A LOT!
"U may not exist in the future you worry so much about" I agree with u. Thank u
cope 💀 it’s easy for her to say since she’s a women and get in a relationship with a drop of a hat. Women will never know true loneliness
does that mean we won't exist anymore or? 😭😂
I literally have this as my phone wallpaper ❤
Everyone says that but life is too big specially when you are sad
@@nuwin7114 it means you may die or actually your life might take a totally different trajectory compared to what u had in mind😅.
Here are 5 important points from the video:
1. Some Muslims fall into the trap of romanticizing and overly fantasizing about their future spouse.
2. This thinking can lead to disappointment and unhappiness.
3. The greatest love story is between you and Allah.
4. Focusing on your relationship with Allah is the key to true happiness and fulfillment.
5. It is important to live your life and focus on your relationship with Allah, even if you are not married.
Number one also apply to christians😭🤝
Sorry, this is so random but do you know the name of the girl in your pfp??
Im living in indonesia, and almost 70-90% muslim in here are too obsessed with romance and when they got dump, they would suicide, kill their ex, depression and more
So i agree with her, also cuz too obsessed with romance so much illegal sex happened in here despite the marriage is decreasing over the year
I mean, the marriage is decreasing but the number of baby born is too much and so this lead to many kids become so poor in the future due to this kind of behavior
@@amu2008 that's Shizuku Murasaki
@@mariarouces Yeah, you're right!!
Yooo this is scary how perfect timing her vids are 😭😭😭 how does she know..
Indeed, it’s crazy…. It is as if Allah wants to tell us something and sends Farah to help us
@elhamel3392
So it's not just me 😊😊😊
It's freaky.
In my limited observatory approch I think yourh especially ummah youth's major distraction is this very topic ...I'm 20 nd honestly I don't know why is it , gen z is strange 😂
Really 💀
@@elhamel3392 true that... Allah helping us every moment AllahuAkbar 😊 Alhumdulillah ❤
“Let’s be a little bit shy.”
Yes, thank you. You summed up my eternal suffering in this generation.
I was married for the past 4 years and felt on top of the world, I made it the most important part of my identity. Allah has taken it from me and now I’m humbled, single again, and realizing there’s much more to life.
There’s more to life than marriage but marriage is the most important thing.
@slovelyyx7718 was maryam عليها السلام married!? Ascia was married to Pharoah the biggest tyrant at the time. Nuh عليه السلام had a disbelieving wife who was destroyed with his people and so did Lut عليه السلام. Everything is rizq. You don't really have control over your life to dictate the best way or most "important" thing to do. What is actually the most important is to worship Allah in whatever situation you are in and with whatever rizq you are given.
Thank you for your vulnerability ❤
Allah swt does not take anything from you without replacing it with something better, either in this world or in the hereafter.❤❤
wow sabhanallah , may allah make it easy for u ❤️🩹
Non- Muslim here (Orthodox Christian) this video was so good and even though I’m not Muslim it resonated with me so well, thank you for sharing I really needed this ❤
Same! This Catholic woman has been nourished here. Instant subscriber.
Orthodox Christian here too🙌🙌
Inquirer here. Please pray for me and I pray that you'll continue on your journey and continue to love God with all your body, mind, and spirit
Me too! Another Orthodox Christian :)
I'm Jewish but I love Farah's videos.
I understand what you're saying, and as a still unmarried girl at the age 32 i tell you that is so true, like people please get a life 🥲 do what you wanna do, fill your life with beneficial things that nourish your imaan and carrier. And the best decision i made this year (in my whole life really) is memorizing the Quraan ❤
32 and never felt the loving embrace of a man? There are women out there who have memorized the Quran and also are in loving marriages.
@@miseendriste6337 Now ur just straight up hating, lol.
@@miseendriste6337 wow it's almost like not everyone has the same life 🤯
@miseendriste6337
you should know not to shame people about their situation. If Allah has blessed you with a loving person whose embrace you get to feel, know that Allah is capable of taking that away from you,too.
@@MissSraG Where did I question God's ability to give and take away? Even if God did take away the person, he would not undo what has already been done. The fact of the matter is the history, the record of events. Not the current status of being married/single.
God may take my partner away tomorrow, but I would have still had felt the love of a man.
I had a similar reaction to the girls crying over the idea that love is a form of rizq (sustenance) and that some people may simply never experience it or get married in this life. To me, that’s just Islamic common sense. I’m 31, unmarried, and have never had a man show interest in me or ask for my hand in marriage. I’ve never dated, I have a master’s degree, I consider myself attractive and well-put-together, and I’m committed to my deen. Yet, I’m still without a husband. Of course, marriage is rizq from Allah. Just live your life-if you find someone worth marrying, that’s wonderful. If not, that’s fine too.
Assalamu alaikum sister 💕mashallah it’s amazing how accomplished you are may allah guide you and give you happiness, you could ask the imam or ask a Relative to match you since even the time of the prophet Peace be upon him its okay for women to take the Initiative and ask for help
Yep, also female companions did propose to the Prophet ﷺ himself, and scholars like Sh Othman Al khamees said that there is no problem w/ women directly proposing to a man whom they consider to be a good potential, if the situation (like the environment, society) is safe/alright. Read/watch more on this
Here I am, happily married, nodding along to everything Farah says, because clearly, my life would’ve been sooo much more fulfilling if I hadn't spent ages 17 to 33 stressing out (and being stressed out by others) about finding "the one." Also, we spend our lives in search of perfect love, yet the only love that can truly fulfill us-completely and wholly-comes from God alone.
This is beautiful ❤
I love and relate to this comment so much.
Love this!
I've come to the same conclusion. If we are not married, that is our test, just as is everything else in our life. Are we going to be miserable over something we don't have or are we going to focus on and be grateful for what we have? Are we going to be hopeless or are we going to prove our belief in the akhira and our commitment to jannah by being patient and hopeful that in Jannah we are guaranteed a spouse to be with forever with no separation or pain. Are we going to despair for being single or are we going to see that this means we have no distractions? There is nothing to come between us and Allah. That we came into this world by ourself and we will leave this world by our self. That we came from Allah and to him is our return. That, just as you said, all that matters in this life of ours is our relationship with Allah.
@_ewa5a19 plus you can keep making duaa for a spouse and get reward for it because duaa is worship
And in heaven you can ask Allah to grant you a spouse from the shaheed or sahabah of higher maqam to be nearer to Rasulullah 😅
Guaranteed a spouse to be with -with 69 others
😂😂😂😂😂
This 😢
I am a Hindu - and this makes a lot of sense 😮
i love how emotional you got midway realizing how much the ummah has changed in today's day and age, we need to be better guys insha'allah may allah guide all of us towards the right path, ameen
more baked fish tacos .
Ameen
real, we need to change starting with ourselves, our actions rub off on others. when i first tried wearing hijab like 1 year ago or smthn i wasnt wearing it consistently because it was new to me, but one day i wore it to school and a fellow muslim who i wasnt friends with just came to me and said mashallah, it really lightened my mood and also inspired me to act in a similar manner to other muslims, just to be kind to people even if you dont know them
@@Hafsa-eh6ku awhh this made me so emotional, i'm so proud of you! May Allah keep your heart firm on the religion of islam and bless you immensely
@@madebyzobs I'm glad, and thank you ☺️☺️ may Allah SWT grant you jannah ameen 🤲💖✨
"it's always you and Allah" that's so deep and powerful. Jazakallahu Khair for thisss!
I do not know how i got here, I am not a muslim nor arab and in a long term relationship lol, but I am so thankful I found this. It is true that we tend to put so much value on a significant other we sometimes forget there's so much more to life. I notice myself to be always pretty stressed trying to keep track of how my relationship is going, instead of looking at myself or the other people around me, someone or something else that doesn't have to do with my partner, and it's so bad to put your significant other at the center of your life; with that comes pain and a lot of stress. It's hard to switch perspectives but it's a necessary process, years into it I feel so much lighter and accomplished. Im still not quite there yet, but this point of view makes it easier.
Aside from the relationship thing, it is very refreshing to hear a different point of view, someone with own criterion and not just following the general narrative, thanks for your content :)
how did you work through decentering after years?
Your words sail like the ship in a calm wave..it's beautiful, it true and indicates that you have sailed through this and have now correctly noticed your true priorities..thanks for sharing this
This reminded me of my cousin 😞 she was such a joy to be around, just 25year old, prepping for her wedding which was going to take place in a week or so and she just left this world so suddenly. I still remember that moment so vividly but sometimes we all need a little bit of reminder that this place is not the goal, afterlife is. And we should be more focused on preparing for that than this one which we don't even know when we are going to leave it
May Allah forgive her sins and grant her Jannatul Firdaws.
"Some people post things to make others feel like they're missing something."
I don't remember if that's the exact way you formulated it but it's so true! Some people take pride and feed their ego off of other people being jealous of them.
This was my fav part! She went off! Especially as she explained how it’s such a western point of view to not care how others may react I agree it is individualistic to post to show off basically bc if you’re happy I really don’t see the need of showing off to ppl unless …does displaying these things to others make you feel better?
I have seen your comments on a channels on youtube, and I think that you always make a great point! Good luck with your own channel.
I'm a Christian and I have only had 1 boyfriend when I was in high school but I still saved myself for marriage and I still do now at 24 years old, we do exist! A lot of Christians out there are waiting for marriage!
May god(Allah), give you more patience, and provide you with a righteous husband.
I’m, Christian more specifically Roman Catholic, im nineteen, I never had anyone and I’m also saving myself for the right person
@@trizss you too sister my prayers apply to you too
@@Niertrier thank you, Amen and Insha’Allah👏🏻
‘Im just a girl in a prayer gown’ love that
15:06 "in islam there's no me and them, it is us" so powerful 🥺
True
33 years old never dated. Yes we exist. I live in Europe and it’s such a pain to explain it to my non Muslim colleagues because relationships is the hot topic in all team gatherings. One of my colleagues even tried to create a profile for me in a dating up…
الحمدلله، ثبتكم الله وزوجكم بالزوج الصالح
@@عائشة-د3ز آمين🫶
Hope you the best be strong, and may Allah give you a great spouse ... ameen ..
Please tell me they ASKED YOU before creating a profil 🙂
@@shanouboubou no, it was quite cringy. He just opened the app in front of everyone and started asking me what I like in a male. I decided to make it even cringier and said: “have you just assumed my sexuality?”
I'm a Christian, I watched the whole video. And I so thank you for making it, because most of the teachings in Islam seem to be very similar to ours. I've been touched in the heart regarding how to reframe my thinking about relationships in general, my own included, and of course marriage as a life goal. I love listening to you, you are so wise! May you be blessed in your mission, you're doing such great things for us!
its not similar to yours lmao yall do everything
@@sousouselfless2575 Why you're being mean to her for no apparent reason? She's just commented that she liked her video and appreciated the content.
@@shajnin.mahbub some people in this world SMH my head
@@sousouselfless2575 calm down.
@@sousouselfless2575key word is similar!
And it is very similar 🫶🏽
find Partner from Dreams by Bruce Thornwood (thank me later)
I am 32 and still unmarried because Allah knows better. But thanks to this situation, i can focus on my career, get a better job, feed lots of people and homeless every week. By doing that, Alhamdulillah, i never feel lonely. In fact, Alhamdulillah every simple thing i want like food, things, Allah always granted me from unexpected sources without asking Allah directly. And that makes me want to feed more and more people as long as Allah allows me. And if one day, Allah let me find the one man for me, i pray that he will do the same thing i do now.
This is one of those videos I‘ll keep having to come back to to give me that reminder. Unfortunately, I do slip up sometimes and let these couples get to me.😭 I don‘t even have time for thinking about relationships but I feel like it‘s an escape mechanism sometimes. This video sums it up perfectly. Marriage can be very beautiful but it is not the most important thing in life. Working on myself, my goals and my relationship with Allah is already so fulfilling. More people should speak about this topic. It‘s okay to strive for a good marriage but it is not all there is to life.
Thank you so much, Farah!
@@hahs8thank you 🥹❤️
you are so real for this i think one tip could be trying to avoid content related to marriage or couple stuff etc as whatever you consume is easily influnced by your mind ( ik its a bit tricky but it will help InshaAllah)
❤
@@hahs8 thank you🥺❤️ you are right, it really helps to not watch all of this content and to remember that those couples only show the beautiful sides to marriage and that it is not realistic. Apart from that it is always good to reduce time on social media in general and focus more on real life ❤️
I clicked on this video fully expecting this was a funny skit & thought I’d watch for a few minutes and then close it out. Little did I know, 41 minutes and 6 seconds later, I’d be sitting here, contemplating the distance that’s grown in my own relationship with Allah (swt), questioning my own impact on others, and trying to figure out how I can better commit to my Creator. May Allah (swt) give you ajr in this life and the akhirah, Farah. I really, really needed to hear this message.
“What has he lost that found you? And what has he found that lost you?” - Husain ibn Ali (as)
Beautifully Profound..Thank You
@saajiddaya2152 I think it's saying that Universal KARMA conspired to bring certain people / circumstances together..And , likewise opposite circumstances etc caused people to decide to let others GO/ . Even when they Love that certain person...b cos ...Well ; it Sounds like a Rumi kind of quote. Very deep..
@@saajiddaya2152 The quote is talking about Allah. What has one who found Allah lost? And what has one who lost Allah found?
من وجد الله ماذا فقد، ومن فقد الله ماذا وجد
Exactly, "people live different lives", everyone is unique, male and female. I'm tired of our brothers and sisters acting as though there's only one way to live (outside of Islam). That one way to live usually being married young. And then the red pillers online acting as though marriage is the end all be all, and is supposed to be one specific, structured, rule-driven way. Like even within marriages, people are gonna be different. Every marriage is unique as well. When we keep daydreaming about marriage, we focus on the opposite gender way more, and loose touch with ourselves and Allah, it's not healthy.
And also at the end of the day these things are rizq they are not under your control for you to impose a specific path in life for everyone and say if not this way then you missed out. Our duty is to worship Allah under any situation with whatever provisions he has given us. If we are blessed with marriage we must worship Allah by giving our spouses their rights. If we have kids we must do likewise. If we are not married, we fear Allah and worship Allah with regards to the many other blessings He has given us. Alhamdullilah.
@@Zumerjud Yes, well put.
still, marriage is described as half of your deen in Islam, so of course we're going to put a lot of significance to it. You can't just say it ain't a big deal
@@maramra393 i saw your other comment amd i get what you mean, marriage is good but not the be all and end all. There is also a hadith that hygiene is half your deen (i think, excuse me if i’m wrong) so does that mean being hygienic should be our main focus and occupy our thoughts?
SubhanAllah I needed this video, I’ve met that guy and we started to know each other with my brother (mahram), and I found out he really has difficulties with his own emotions, especially anger, and I cannot get married with someone that is mentally not capable of loving me PROPERLY. I ended up everything and now I’m trying not to look for any relationship but just trying to build my future
Just went through the same thing 😢 the guy was very emotionally unstable so I couldn’t go through with it. May Allah give us all strength
Let’s goooo 🤩 good job putting yourself first
Not everyone is capable of marriage/loving/o.s.v. There r people we shd avoid; their loneliness comes from their own sin. It belongs to THEM, n THEY have to e ones to turn to God n be healed; we cannot do it for them.
Good for u for holding to your standards.
@@user-sx9hq7qwert thank you for your words, May Allah reward you
girl the WAYYY I get up for the sake of Allah for Tahajjud, and am SOBBING on my prayer mat thinking my naseeb doesn't know I exist..but I cry and pray anyways FOR ALLAH, for I KNOW Allah's love is strong, pure, and constant, Alhamdulilah 🤲🏽✨️
May Allah reward you and ease your pain. ❤
I knew someone who has been in a relationship all her life, and she told me once: ”I always need someone to be hesides me, i don't know how to be alone” And i just silently gasped at her. Like, you are a person of your own, I'm sure you got hobbies, dreams, goals?
People like her don't. Whoever they're dating atm, they'll cite the partner's dreams and goals as theirs and take pride in it. Nothing wrong with that, just it's really weird since the dreams and goals keep changing with each partner. Quite hilarious to witness in real time, I must say
This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I am not muslim, but I have always loved Islamic faith and I definitely believe in Allah. I don’t practice anything now because I don’t want to be disrespectful to the religion but I want to learn and strengthen my own relationship with Allah. I have put such a high importance on my future and relationships, but I want to focus on building my relationship with Allah. Thank you so much for this Farah.
Gabriel, don't worry, you're not going to be disrespectful to religion if you try to practice. Allah loves every move that you try to do to get closer to Him so don't think about doing it wrong. You can also asks help for an imam in mosques that can teaches you whatever you want. May Allah give you the best.
If you love and believe in Allah and learn to love the messenger (Muhammad PBUH as well as the other messengers) that’s all you need for now :) don’t worry
Thank you guys! Alhamdulillah 🙏🏽
Gabe❤ all of us are sinners, imperfect beings. Just here to say that you are not gonna disrespect by trying and doing your best. All we have to do is try our very best. Truly, love your sincerity and I wish you all the best!😊
Practicing will actually help you get closer to Allah. Also if you believe the 5 pillars of Iman (5 pillars of faith) in Islam, you're already a Muslim at heart. And if you practice the other 5 pillars of Islam, 1. Praying 5 times a day 2. Giving Zakha (charity) each year. 3. Fasting Ramadan 4. Doing the pilgrimage to Macca (if you're physically and financially capable) 5. Search up the 5th one please and remind me what it is. Those pillars mean, practicing what's in your heart. meaning, reflecting your faith in your actions, and practice. Btw, you can start doing it gradually, like you if you feel like you need time, you can start with 1 prayer a day and then when you get used to that, you increase it gradually to 2 until you get used to it, then 3, then 4, then 5. But if you feel like you can start right away and pray all 5 then that's awesome!! May Allah bless you and makes it easier for you😊👍🏼
AlhamduliAllah that He's guiding you
Everything she said was facts. But some of us don’t have a warm family 🥺 it’s isolating even during eid everyone gets to be with their family. The older I get the more obsessed I get with it but she is right I should pour all that energy into bettering my relationship with Allah
I can relate so much to the family part🥺 that is one of the reasons I always wanted to get married and have my own family. But maybe this is exactly why we should get closer to Allah. I sincerely wish you the best and inshallah you will have a beautiful marriage when the time comes❤️
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@@yaseming19 aw I wish the same for you too Insallah 🫶🏻
@@melikekskdjd thank you mel 🫶
she’s a women who’s never felt lonely or depressed in her life. If she was an ugly man like me she wouldn’t last a day in my shoes
I did it. Job, uni, I started playing piano and draw. But it turns out people never quit with 'aw, don't worry, you'll meet your guy one day 🥺' as if I'm asking for compassion... I swear, reaching 22 is like passing some kind of a barrier when people start assuming you *need* romantic relationship and that you are miserable without one...
Ohhh boy, this video came out in my fyp out of nowhere and I'm so glad it did. Because just today, out of nowehere, I was thinking about "Why am I still single?" "Why am I not married yet and have 2-3 kids like the rest of my friends that are around the same age as me (30 yrs old)?" "Am I that unattractive already that no guy wants to date and marry me?" And then you hit me with every single points haha I love how you say "The greatest love to ever exist is you and Allah swt". Thanks alot for this, I needed it. :)
Omg I was just crying because I felt like I'll never find love and this was the first video that popped on my TH-cam page!!!!!!
Same
"Oh I'm Getting Comfortable" killed meee!!! Bless you Farah!
God loves me because i'm 24 and He never gave me the opportunity to be in a haram relationship even when I wanted it so bad.
AlhamduliLLAH 🤲🏼
trust me, you're better off
r u me
I'm 21 and yeah same to you.. In fact last night I was wondering why am I still alone and everyday I feel the same ... But then this video really made me feel like Allah has kept me safe from this sin... I mean most of the time I'm just sick and I couldn't do a lot if I were a healthy person maybe I would be enjoying too much then I feel like Allah has chosen me so doesn't let me do everything...
she is us
farah u know exactly what i need to hear
“Some people are just getting by”
😬😮💨 yes lol
She is so funny
This is this is off Topic actually but I don't know why no one is talking about Sudan, i hear allot of "free palastin /free Lebanon nd so on" nd I'm 100% with that but at the same time I didn't hear that much of free Sudan from the Arabic world, i mean liike we considered as an arabic country idk why specifically Arabs are not even remembering us or mentioning our struggles.. why?!
That’s a good point. We should stand by Sudan, Palestine, DRC, Ouighours, Rohingas equally.
@@dalb4444 exactly broo may Allah help all our brothers across the world and always bring us nd keep us together ❤️❤️
Because the Sudan conflict is a civil war situation and also the both sides are muddled
@@alchemistbrotv1707 actually that's exactly what the media wants you to think about the situation, whereas it's completely the opposite, it's an invasion funded by uae and conducted by foreigners..we as a sudanese are soo known for being soo peaceful, why should we kill our own kind it's completely making no sense i guess ?!
@@alchemistbrotv1707 actually that's exactly what the media wants you to think about the situation, whereas it's completely the opposite, it's an invasion funded by uae and conducted by foreigners who claims to be sudanese nd grinding to bring democracy to the country, but ironically they are killing us nd torturing our people, anyways next time just try to do a little more research, aight
I'm a Christian but I really resonate with what you're saying, Farah. I had to come to the realization myself that I didn't desire marriage as badly as I thought I did, I was just bored💀😂 I literally just started working on a personal project and all of the time I'd spend fantasizing about my future husband is now spent working on that. It's that cut and dry, there is a whole world outside of relationships 🙏🏾
Hi Farah, I don't think so many people were surprised that love is a form of rizq. I think it just hit differently. I'm well aware that everything I get is from my Rabb, even when someone gives me a tissue to blow my nose. Like you said, it was like pointing out the obvious. And sometimes pointing out the obvious is what makes it hit harder. I know that my mum can leave this Dunya anyway, but when she says it, I shed a tear or two because it just hits different. I absolutely love the angle of your conversation because it's also a journey I've been on - learning to only hold on to Allah and not overly romanticize the things that might or might not come. But I just thought to drop my thoughts on the Omar Suleiman thing.
I'm Christian, it's my first time seeing you, my first video to watch but I have to confess that I like your outlook on this topic in particular and you know what,? I like your positive energy already! Hope I will be able to watch more . Thanks 🙏🏾
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
I completely understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar experience when my 10 year relationship ended. I couldn't imagine my life without her, so I tried everything to rekindle our love. I eventually found guidance from a spiritual counselor, and their support helped me bring her back into my life
By the way, how did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with them?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he's an incredible spiritual counselor known for helping restore relationships.
Thank you for sharing this valuable insight. I just looked him up, and I'm genuinely impressed.
@@PhilipTomisi lets us know if it worked to get your ex-partner back
11:39 for real. I don't even post my accomplishments or even just travels, because some people just don't deserve to see it lol.
Real
the end part hit differently, the past few months i have seen many deaths close to me and honestly alhumdulillah i am alive, i need to do more to worship Allah
32:00 Looking back, I feel so grateful when I think about my past failed romantic relationships and all the times I was rejected in one way or another.
Convinced that Farah knows exactly what's going on in my heart, and my mind! I find her every time I need someone to tell me that it's going to be okay!
Exactly, living for relationship is not living. So but it in the back of your mind and live life
Allahumma Barik sister, the one of the major reason for stop using social media was the constant bombarding of couple videos!
"There's Islam, and there's this other religion called marriage"
Hit me so hard😂😭😭
Bro I was just stressing about how I am not ready to get married ( I have no suitable suitors whatsoever) and I was telling myself to stop thinking about marriage and then I see this 😭😭
real 😭 I kinda wanna get married and not at the same time. and also people need to let us alone and not bombarded with marriage to our face 🥴
@@ryeofoatmeal felt 😭
@@ryeofoatmealyes me too🥺
I really want but i am not ready
i'm sobbing watching the last bit, YaAllah thank you to remind us again, the perfect love did never left us from the beginning till the end
Good day to you ma'am. Chances are you will never see this comment, but I just want to express my gratitude cause you opened many perspectives for me today that I never considered but deeply resonated with me. I do not share the same religion you practice neither am I familiar with the inner workings of your religion so please forgive my ignorance. I am Roman Catholic, but I will pray for your brother's friend before I sleep tonight. May he rest in peace.
“ in islam there’s no (me & them), there’s (us)”
I LOVE this sentence cuz it’s so real and it’s so sad how many of us are actually forgetting this fact..
Love your common sense! People are lacking it these days. I agree - we should all just focus on ourselves and our progress as human beings. Ironically, right when you start doing that, life has a funny way of making us meet that special person when we least expect it anyway. 😊
For the last 11 month i stop worry about my relationship. Idk i kinda hoppels or i really tired to try again (looking for someone to get merried). For now my priorty is my Religion,my Parents,my self, Freedom of Palestina,silent hill and gta6.
im loving how the "Khadijah move" is sounding like a kind of judo move. defo badass haha
i like this woman.
i've never seen anyone speak like the way she does; the sarcasm and all.
new subscriber here. 😂😂😂😂
I don’t have a life and relationships don’t worry sis
😂😂 same
@@saf-y2324 why man..😅😂. You can found right person?.
Same😊
I also think a lot of girls that fantasize and feel pressured to get married is because a lot of them live with dysfunctional and toxic parents, marriage would not be the solution because you may carry maladaptive habits of your parents, but talking about it with someone and reading can help you live through it!
Exactly I’m so glad I didn’t get married young (im 20 rn) because the girls I know that have got married aren’t doing well bc of their own issues like you said. And I feel even worse for the ones that are now single mothers when they’re so young💔
Oh 20, what a lovely age. I wish that you meet your people, and that they always support you. I’m 25, sending you all the love hun 🩷
Hey Farah, can you please do a book recommendation! I’d love to have a list of ur go to/ favorite books
This. I just started to get a collection going for my future children to be able to have a library at their disposal.
Asalaamualikum wasn’t Khadijah widowed though!? 🇨🇦 P.S. I may have a hubby 4 u SiS lol nice topic though MashaAllah as always may Allah increase you in beneficial knowledge Ameen 🤲🏾
I was going to ask her the same thing 😅
Yes!!
I’m a Christian listening to this, and 15:34 is relatable. In our congregation, we’re told not to be a stumbling block to our brothers and sisters. That does mean posting things on social media as well
I pray that you get married with who will cultivate happiness with you, Farah.
Hello ! Skeptical Mexican here. Im not a Muslim but your video really resonated with me a lot. I'm going trough a break up we lasted 5 and a half months. It has been a month since the break up and I don't know, media is all about love and I feel like it's constantly offering this sweet love that gives dopamine and I don't know it is true it is very overrated in an unhealthy way forgeting that taking care of yourself and taking care of the ones around you comes first. The second thing im taking from this video is what we upload in the internet will have a consequence with many or one individuals. When you spoke about that I thought "Well... People choose if they want to belive in something or not it's up on them" (Talking about everything) and then you came with "Thinking like that is a very western individual way of thinking, we are a community we should take care of the others" And DANG that hit! Cuz yeah modern society has been built to become individualists. But it doesnt really have to be like that.
farah, im suprised how EVERY ep is literally at the perfect timing. whats scarier is the comments agree too
u inspire me in so many levels. i'm colombian and ur words resonate with me deeply. u are such a cool woman, i would love to have friends like u
I'm grateful that i found this channel, and since then, i felt like meeting a long lost friend who generously giving a reminder about what is good, about tauhid, and on how a muslim should be. Today's uncomfortable truth ended with such an important reminder. Thank you for bringing this topic out on the table 🙏
thank you farah for this episode. that was such a wake up call i didnt realize i desperately need.
Thank you for this vulnerability. I may not share your beliefs but I'll 100% pray for that 24-year-old at the end. This felt like a wake up call as a fellow ambitious girlie. Death is going to come, and sometimes, it comes sooner for some. A girl in my year at only 17 passed away. I feel less grieved now but I cried so hard this summer when I heard a song live that reminded me of her. Whatever is meant for you will be. What gave me solace is Allah/God has a plan for everyone, and sometimes He maybe takes some people early so they can be in peace with Him. ❤❤❤ sharing much love, you have a beautiful heart.
"JOMO(joy of missing out)" is a very beautiful addition to my vocabulary. Jazak'Allah khair❤
23:25 hits me hard 🤧
39:55 "There are more important things to think about"
I'm an atheist but like preach honestly 💕 it's about everyone not just muslims it's like ppl don't have anything to do other than romantic relationships
"Sue me, sue me. I was a busy girl 🗿🗿🗿🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️😭😭😭
HAHAHA
5:41
Yeah, I cried and needed this.
Thank you.
As someone who has never been in a relationship in her 21 years of life, I agree. I'm so busy with life i can barely keep up with myself. I don't understand people who can't be alone and always need to be in a relationship...At the end of the day, you're gonna have to figure out things for yourself, it's just gonna be you walking down your own path...
You are so precious. I am so thankful that you are brave enough to step forward, and face off to the hatred, malice, and greed that we all have to confront in this generation who thinks can make themselves up off from us, and do us as petty.
I would have loved to perform the Khadija move but the spread of gossiping afterwards( in case he/she is a wrong person) is what has prevented me taking this step!
36:22 "..you are busy building your future right now right here" ❤️
Subhan Allah,that guy came to your house on ramadan one time and then you mentioned him in this video now people will make lots du'a in shaa Allah for him with rahma and maghfira
ربنا يرحمه ويغفر له ويدخله فسيح جناته ويلهم أهله الصبر والسلوان
It is really beautiful how Allah made this thing to happen so we would make du'a for him
I've been crying and overthinking for the past couple of hours about my future in general and your video just popped up and I managed to stop and listen to what u said... I must let u know that what you're doing here is important... You reminded me of my relationship with Allah, This relationship may not be in its best form but I'm grateful that I'm working on it and I'm grateful for u helping me fade all these unnecessary thoughts in the background and just focus on NOW and what's really important and so I thank u for that🙏 "And yes, I cried my eyes out at the end of your video, but it was relieving"
I cried when you said that the only true love is between you and Allah. I never been in a relationship and I was looking hard for the one yet you're video reminded me of the fact that I experienced the first time when I was sixteen.
yeah i agree with u. that's why i leave my social media. i remember first time a saw u on my reels instagram. i feel glad to see u on my homepage yt still speak abt muslim n islam❤
33:50 this was so gold. Putting this out here so I can come back when I overly obsessed about my future husband to remind myself of the reason we are here in this dunya
Alhamdulillah, finally someone who raised the issue, who spoke about it. I am happy that I am not alone in this thinking even though I never doubted myself, I have been criticised and been given suggestions like "ChilllLlllll enjoy the life" lol. Apart from those couples who are displaying every move on social media, there are the hijabi's spinnign 360 to share what they're wearing. For me, I'd like to keep it private, instagram/socialmedia isnt life. I am single and struggling in the society who has become so numb to so many things. We are so far away from the fundamentals of Islam, I even feel Id probably be dying unmarried, which is fine because I wanna end up with good people who have higher goal so it’s nice or none. Getting a spouse with those strong beliefs is almost like a distant dream for me now.
this podcast was a roller-coaster of emotions. Every word hit me, may Allah bless you Farah
The message at the end - I am thinking about my whole life now. Subhanallah
hi omg i've recently been thinking so much about marriage because that's the only way to escape my awful home. it's so stressful... but this video really reminded me of my actual goals rn. keep building myself and focus on my academics and career.
I agree with the title so so much 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I say : create the life you love before looking for the love of your life. Because then you won't be looking but finding. Haha. ❤️❤️❤️ Soulmate starts with SOUL. Find your SOUL before your SOULMATE.
I got dumped 2 days ago and i just gotta say. You're right lol, i needed to hear the fine line which is ti get a life. I feel like my life has revolved around my relationships and they have also shaped my personality. It sucks when it ends and then you have to figure out who you actually are now that you don't have that person as a crutch.
Farahs videos are my favorite, I love how honest she it
I applaud you for taking the Khadijah approach and encouraging other sisters to do the same. I applaud you for being vulnerable and sharing the “humbling” experience. And I am glad you concluded that the only real love story is between you and Allah. There is a romanticism epidemic in the modern world, we replace religion and devotion to God with love and devotion to another human being. This unreasonable expectation of love as our purpose in life & our only source of happiness has backfired on us, causing divorces to occur at an all-time high, infidelity to become rampant, and dating apps worsen this by making it easier for us to leave & move on to the next person after another, just to end up realizing all humans are imperfect and only God is.
Jazakallah Khair Sister, I really wanted to discuss this with my mom, because it was bothering me, I felt like I needed to get married and there is no sign of that happening anytime soon, I have just started my masters, so thankyou very much for addressing this❤
Hiiiii just wanna say a lot of points in this rant are still totally relevant to non-Muslims (like me). Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate the perspective.
im not muslim or arab, but this video was so beyond refreshing. thank you for also teaching me things, and reminding me that there is so much more to life than just relationships/marriage. i appreciate you and your content❤
I'm not a Muslim and I have my own reasons not to be one, but your arguments were rational and solid.
Sometimes people should be reminded of common sense.
It's not a groundbreaking knowledge, though people still forget simple stuff.
Thank you❤
Ty for worrying for and about all of us! Feels connecting and sm is relatable Nice to hear during such a hard time. Hope i make it through IA
honestly, i thought the same when people got amazed about this rizq info about love. dude, the breath you're taking is a rizq of Allah, what did you think about love? so, thanks for sharing your thoughts about this!! i do like watching your videos A LOT!
thank you Farah, I really needed that kind of a sincere talk. and may Allah forgive all of the sins of your brother's friend and puts him in jannah.
it was my first fully foreign language video that i watched and i cried. I just try to improve my english but now have different goals.
I'm just a girl in a prayer gown 😂❤
BAGAHAHHA😂
I can literally listen to u the whole day and not get bored!! Love your content farah