They are paying attention to it so that those who criticise those who keep those boundaries, know how to counter those criticism with truth instead of letting their lies consume them by rethinking their boundaries.
Oh, I can confirm its right to wait. Before I becam a Christian,I have the " freedom" to " sleep around" - clearly, when WE are honest, we arent really happy! A partner CANT give, what JESUS guve us! First we need HIM to fill our empty ❤, then we can , with his help really life in Relationship..I " invited Jesus into my heart" , and i started to realize HIS standard, his view, his good borders for my life! To protect me, not to kill fun. WITHOUT someone is tellung me, I knew, I want to wait, for the one GOD shows me... And so it Happens. Married now for over
Continuation: Married now, for over 20 years.2 great sons....I m so glad ,with Gods " borders". HE knows US, Created US.HE know, what destroys US, Sins...this whoring around... God forgave me. I was Set free from IT. Bless you.S.ftom Germany
I do see y’all’s point all it took was one deep kiss and boom 5 months later my girlfriend at the time got pregnant and our parents said for us to get married which we did on on April 1 2021 our beautiful baby girl was born every thing for 18 months went well I though our lives were set but unfortunately on may 30 2022 my life was changed forever me and my wife and kid were driving to beach and we got into a bad car accident my wife didn’t make it me and little girl was okay no injuries we did ask for Gods forgiveness after after she got pregnant ik God is merciful and my late is smiling down from heaven!but everyone has right to opinion
DO NOT listen to those who criticize you for that!!!! You followed God’s advice and that’s what most important !!! And your practical advice and testimony is so uplifting and truly amazing in this messed up world and you are example for my teenage kids! My husband and I did it the same. We never ever regretted on contrary we were very happy at the end! Because God’s way it’s a best way!
On the kiss thing i feel like it's a lot about self control of how aware you are. And if you know yourself control isn't that great i think it's fair to not put yourself in a position to tempt yourself if that make sense. I mean even if the self control is great it's still testing yourself and your limits
yes exactly. I would be fine with kissing because afaik that doesn't tempt me, but sleeping with is a no (and i meant sleeping with literally, not the figurative meaning it has come to now) because I think for me it would lead to temptation.
Excellent advice guys, I love to see this as a young single guy preparing to enter college next year. I wish every Christian teen could hear the advice you guys give. Keep boldly presenting the truth, and always give God the glory!
totally agree with you and your stance on what the Word says. it's unreal how these so called Christians believe that way but not unexpected. so many of these "Christians" aren't reading the Word.
Keep doing what you guys are doing! You two are a shining light very special. You have no idea how great these videos are as 2 living examples on what it’s like to live pure. I’m not Christian but i have always seen sex as very sacred and not something you do with just anyone
Ima 17 year old male and waiting till marriage and when I tell my coworkers that they almost scoff and are confused and that’s why i try and stay away from people like that in a friendly relationship.
Thank you both for sticking to what GOD'S WORD says and not what the sinful, evil, broken world says. Thank you for being such godly inspirations to many people, including myself. We all need light in our darkness and you both clearly shine God's Light so others see and glorify Him (Matthew 5:16). Keep staying true to what God says and pointing us to Him! God bless you both always! Love and blessings to you both! :)
Once again, great video! Love you guys; praying that I can one day find a wife as godly as Ally. Though I would say, not all poetry about sex is bad-that's what the Song of Solomon is-but it should still be consumed cautiously, and in admiration for the sacred creation of God that is sex, rather than in lust.
❤I am almost 59 and I absolutely L❤VE the beauty of you two following biblical precepts for your relationship from the get go! I wish I would have had that kind of value for myself and another in my life. Dealing with the shrapnel of wrong choices...STINKS! I applaud you and your beautiful choice to do it~ God's way🎉🤟🥰
I'm 28. Always waiting. Squeaked out 1 date in the past 7 years. No matter where I go, how hard I try. Women friends are baffled. I know my friends wife waited until she found her husband at 38. Fear is a huge factor. Wasted years, hardened hearts. Wondering if its even worth it anymore, because you didn't find someone, and now its too late. To be with someone, who you aren't satisfied with, isn't like you, you couldn't grow with, or that you waited too long, and now will be childless. There is a cost.
There will always be someone who respects you, don't think that the men of the past no longer exist. The problem perhaps is that sometimes we have to question ourselves and understand if the problem is our character rather than the boundaries that we set
How could all these people be unsatisfying to you? Are they in unrepentant sin? Are there really no faithful women around you? I can’t tell from just one comment, but you may want to seriously consider whether your view of marriage is biblical or not. I will definitely pray for your situation.
Oh, I’m 31 and still waiting. However, I definitely feel really peaceful about it and honestly don’t feel any anxiety about it, at least ever since age 26.
Thank you guys so much for this video! Thank you for reminding me that the standards I follow aren’t just rules; they’re guidelines to help me live my life pure in Jesus Christ! Do you have any thoughts on young women’s modesty? Clothing or otherwise❤
Wonderful advice and reply’s to your criticisms! I learn a lot from you two :) I’m praying for both of you, that the Lord may continue to work through you and change the minds and hearts of many more unbelievers ❤️🔥 ✝️ God bless
STAY STRONG INTHE LORD. DO NOT DWELL IN THE PAST. STAY STRONG TOGETHER. FOLLOW YOUR HEARTS. DO NOT REVEAL TO THE WORLD WHAT YOU DO....STAY TOGETHER...TD
What a fantastic video to have!! And thanks for your kindness and humbleness in responding to comments which might be hard pills to swallow. Some suggestions for the video if you would like to consider: (For more effective communication) 1⃣I see you quoting many scriptures within the video (3:09-4:30), while they are not quite relevant to one another. As a viewer, I find it a bit confusing and hard to follow when a bunch of (not so related) scriptures are quoted all at once. Some possible solutions may be focusing on fewer scriptures which surround a similar topic but provide some simple explanations regarding the scriptures. I guess this might help viewers to grasp and understand God's word easier. Afterall, we want God's will and kingdom glorified. 2⃣Hence, providing citations of scriptures when you quote them will be beneficial to viewers when we want to look up the exact verses quoted in the video.
Here's food for thought for some of those commentors. ANY sexual activity outside of commitment reduces the involved parties to objects of pleasure. This is not a religious ideal, it just IS, whether we like it or not. Sadly, most of us have consented to these conditions at one point or another. However, consenting to this behavior doesn't stop the body from doing what it's naturally wired to do, which is to attach to another. So, when we act, even consentually, in a manner that is contrary to our fundamental design, we essentially disregard the dignity of the human person. In other words, we sacrifice the well-being of the other for our own pleasure.
Criticism from the secular religion of confusing a relationship with the living God to religion. You can be a Christian and be doomed or you can have an authentic relationship with the living God and love him more than the material world that has an expiration date of all its material
I like watching these videos of yours. Physical compatibility as discussed in the video is not as important in God's plan for a Godly mindset since it's about the inside of the person and not the outside. "But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7).
Hi, thank you for sharing Gods truth and love in honesty and love. I have a question/suggestion/idea: On your website to purchase the ebook is there also the possibility to pay via paypal, this would be easier for me, because i am not from the US and maybe it would be easier also for other persons (but you dont have to implement it only/extra for me because your videos and the truths and convictions of God and informations of other people of God were already really helpful). God bless you!
TH-cam is full of miserable incels who deeply dislike both themselves and any religion/morality which would hold them accountable for their poor actions and choices. You guys are doing important work here, don’t focus on the negative feedback and keep it up.
On the boundaries of movies and things with scenes, what are your thoughts on n*de art that's done for art's sake? And things like life drawing in art classes?
It's not; the culture was completely different. They had courtship instead, where a man and woman would get to know each other with a chaperone, and the man would decide if he wanted to marry the woman. If he did, he would pay a bride price to the father, who would decide if he would give his daughter to the man in marriage. If the father chose to, they were betrothed, which meant they were legally married, even though the marriage wasn't consummated in a ceremony. Obviously, our culture is completely different now, but dating can be Christian if done with the guidance of God and His word.
@@wafflesaucey Great answer. Cultures change, but the Word of God does not. We use God's Word to guide us as we navigate each culture and period in history. ✝️❤️
@@wafflesaucey I know the majority of the men in my church like the back of my hand. In my church we treat each other like family, we all do things together and hang out and do stuff as you would with any other friends and family that you have. I know that most churches aren't like mine and what if the man doesn't go to your church? I want you to think about the close relationships that you have in your life. You didn't have to date them, yet you know them extremely well. Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to date someone to get to know them for marriage. Dating was not something originally created to help you figure that out to begin with. Dating is something created by the world that allows you to have all the pleasures of being married without being married. If the man treats you like he would any of his sisters and you treat him like any of your brothers ( because that's how the bible tells us to treat one another in Christ ) you can get to know a lot about a person. The Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. I will be focused on my relationship with God, doing whatever I know God has called me to do, and following his will. With that being said, a Godly man will be the one to see you in hopes of marrying you because of the Godly characteristics he has seen in you. Now does that mean we just say yes just because he shows interest? No, of course not. I have actually already been able to experience this myself. The young man spent time with my family and me and even began to attend my church. During this time, I was able to learn and see his character without getting my feelings in the mix. I was able to see that, while yes he knew the word of God and understood it, he found it very hard to follow it. He had a hard time following instructions from leadership concerning himself and how he should deal with me. He also proved to be very overly emotional and double-minded. I learned these things just by keeping a watchful eye on how he interacted with my family, the people in my church, and leadership. All without getting my feelings in the mix. The biblical characteristics that we should be looking for in our spouses are things that can be seen and observed in their everyday lives. For example, my parents did not date before they got married. They were best friends for 3 years and then one day my father realized that my mom had all of the characteristics that he wanted in a wife. After realizing that, they didn't then start dating for a number of months to " get to know each other more". They prepared to get married, and shortly after did. That's because they knew that one another already had the Godly characteristics they were looking for in a spouse. I believe the issue is that people are trying to get to know each other on an intimate level, which if we are not married we shouldn't be doing. The Bible tells us everything we need to know about what a good man and a good woman look like, and none of them have to do with anything intimate. The Bible tells us to flee from temptation. We do not purposely put ourselves in a position where we can be tempted or where we might be tempted. If there is a possibility of it, we should stay away from it. We can not place ourselves in a position where we know we might be tempted and then try and have faith and ask God to help get us through. That is called tempting the Lord which the bible tells us not to do. Matthew 4:6-7 6 says And saith unto him, If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give his angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone. 7 Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God Jesus is saying that putting yourself in a dangerous position on purpose is tempting God and we should not do that. So while I find it interesting that most people think that kissing is a conviction thing I don't believe it is at all, rather it shouldn't be done at all if you are not married to that person. Just to be clear, I'm not talking about how you would kiss your parents or siblings, but rather kissing someone you have physical attraction to or that you want to marry but are not married to yet. I believe these things based off scripture. As I said before, kissing can be or might be a temptation for anyone, which is why we should stay away from it and not try and test it. We should stay away from anything that could even be a temptation. On another note, the Bible also says it's good for a man not to touch a woman. This was being talked about in the context of people that are not married and how they should conduct themselves, but as a people we seem to always skip over this verse. Also being betrothed to someone and courting are separate from each other. After the courting process the two either go ahead and get married or don't if they feel they're not a match. Betroval happened usually when the children were born or young between two families usually for the purpose of agreement and business. There are times when it happens later, when the children are older but it's again usually for the same reason and thry are betrothed because they are not old enough to be married yet. In the Courting process, both people are ready and are able to be married which is why they are courting because they are trying to see if each other have the qualities they are looking for in a spouse. We as Christians should be courting not dating.
@@legoforestmen3234 Yes the word of God is our manuscript for this life we live in this culture. So if something in the culture doesn't fit the word of God, we shouldn't do it. That's goes for dating.
@@tianadaugett8067 If that is what works for you, then go ahead with it. I do believe that two people should get married as soon as they have decided the other’s qualities are what they want in a spouse, and that unmarried couples should not do anything more than good friends would. But we just call it dating now, no matter what it is. I seek something more like biblical courtship.
Hello, Tell them .. kindly saying… that they have to be born again… and receive the power of the Holy Spirit for any of this to make sense. The word of God says that… Jesus is coming back for a holy bride, a clean … pure …spotless bride that’s … His body … His church…. This is speaking of born again believers who have washed their robes…. Made them …. white in the blood of the lamb of God…👑 🐑 … there’s nothing delusional about anything you’re saying…. and anyone … born again… followers of Christ …know this …🙏 First Corinthians 2-14….. actually God says it’s foolishness to those …with out his spirit.. like you shared….scripture is spiritually discerned…. Our God just proved himself right with these negative comments …. …..🙏 His words will not return to us void…. Young couple in Christ … your on track ….the younger generation of today need you to speak the truth ..according to the holy scriptures, as a Holy Spirit leads you ….stand strong …be obedient to God ….and watch what God will do …. All for the glory of God…. The father…… in the name of Jesus.. name .. Amen! God’s love is the only love that will last forever …. First, he shows us how much he loves us … by giving his only son Jesus…on the cross at Calvary, ….and then he fills us with (his love)❤️ to teach other people .. and to share it with other people…. 🙏🙏❤️❤️be blessed!
I fundamentally disagree that spiritual principles backed by the word can't find root in logic. Do you even hear yourself? God is logical. He does not give principle without purpose. Sex outside of marriage is a danger to heart, mind, and body. Emotion, psychology, disease, unexpected pregnancy, birth control related physiological damage, potential exposure to dangerous situations, any number of things can go wrong when you don't give both sex AND marriage their proper respect. And that includes not walking into marriages with assholes.
I honestly I think that you both are giving your advice and I think that it is great and I'm learning a lot from these videos keep sharing Jesus's word and your advice on things! @Ally Poirot
Sex is a beautiful thing from God, but we need to value it like he does.
Don't pay attention to these criticisms, your advice on boundaries is valued
It's not just valued It's valid
They are paying attention to it so that those who criticise those who keep those boundaries, know how to counter those criticism with truth instead of letting their lies consume them by rethinking their boundaries.
0:08 Bro has to be joking. There's no way someone actually thinks and lives like this😂
I hope that's the case because the evidence points otherwise!
He is risen from the dead!
Oh, I can confirm its right to wait. Before I becam a Christian,I have the " freedom" to " sleep around" - clearly, when WE are honest, we arent really happy! A partner CANT give, what JESUS guve us! First we need HIM to fill our empty ❤, then we can , with his help really life in Relationship..I " invited Jesus into my heart" , and i started to realize HIS standard, his view, his good borders for my life! To protect me, not to kill fun.
WITHOUT someone is tellung me, I knew, I want to wait, for the one GOD shows me... And so it Happens. Married now for over
Continuation: Married now, for over 20 years.2 great sons....I m so glad ,with Gods " borders". HE knows US, Created US.HE know, what destroys US, Sins...this whoring around... God forgave me. I was Set free from IT.
Bless you.S.ftom Germany
@@sandrakegelmann4878 god definitely did not give you proper grammar
@@Chris-sm2uj Nothing to do with God😅...I am from Germany. Sorry...
I do see y’all’s point all it took was one deep kiss and boom 5 months later my girlfriend at the time got pregnant and our parents said for us to get married which we did on on April 1 2021 our beautiful baby girl was born every thing for 18 months went well I though our lives were set but unfortunately on may 30 2022 my life was changed forever me and my wife and kid were driving to beach and we got into a bad car accident my wife didn’t make it me and little girl was okay no injuries we did ask for Gods forgiveness after after she got pregnant ik God is merciful and my late is smiling down from heaven!but everyone has right to opinion
I am so sorry may God give you peace love and strength
DO NOT listen to those who criticize you for that!!!! You followed God’s advice and that’s what most important !!! And your practical advice and testimony is so uplifting and truly amazing in this messed up world and you are example for my teenage kids! My husband and I did it the same. We never ever regretted on contrary we were very happy at the end! Because God’s way it’s a best way!
On the kiss thing i feel like it's a lot about self control of how aware you are. And if you know yourself control isn't that great i think it's fair to not put yourself in a position to tempt yourself if that make sense. I mean even if the self control is great it's still testing yourself and your limits
yes exactly. I would be fine with kissing because afaik that doesn't tempt me, but sleeping with is a no (and i meant sleeping with literally, not the figurative meaning it has come to now) because I think for me it would lead to temptation.
@@red_phoenix0570 respectfully valid. I feel you on the sleeping part
Excellent advice guys, I love to see this as a young single guy preparing to enter college next year. I wish every Christian teen could hear the advice you guys give. Keep boldly presenting the truth, and always give God the glory!
Stand by your principles no matter how many miserable people insult you about them.
totally agree with you and your stance on what the Word says. it's unreal how these so called Christians believe that way but not unexpected. so many of these "Christians" aren't reading the Word.
Great video, you can logical demonstrate why waiting for marriage is ideal.
Would love to hear the bible with Ally's voice 🤗 love from a new Christian 🙏🏻. I have delixia so find it hard to read certain books
I love how Ally just grabs her Bible at the end! 😂 God bless you girl!!
Keep doing what you guys are doing! You two are a shining light very special. You have no idea how great these videos are as 2 living examples on what it’s like to live pure. I’m not Christian but i have always seen sex as very sacred and not something you do with just anyone
thank you for always spreading the light of God in this dark world, may God continue to bless you abundantly ❤
Thank you so much for posting Christian content. It’s been really helpful to me
Thank you so much lord bless you sunshine sister Ally lord bless you bunches hugs and blessings love love you
Ima 17 year old male and waiting till marriage and when I tell my coworkers that they almost scoff and are confused and that’s why i try and stay away from people like that in a friendly relationship.
Scriptures quoted throughout the video
In New Living Translation (NLT) Version
3:40 Proverbs 4:23
3:44 Songs of Solomon 8:4
3:48 Genesis 2:24
3:55 1 Corinthians 6:12,18-20
10:06 Romans 12:2
10:34 Matthew 5:10
13:35 Ecclesiastes 12:13
Christ has risen,You two really compliment eachother well it feels almost as if God pu u two together
Thank you both for sticking to what GOD'S WORD says and not what the sinful, evil, broken world says. Thank you for being such godly inspirations to many people, including myself. We all need light in our darkness and you both clearly shine God's Light so others see and glorify Him (Matthew 5:16). Keep staying true to what God says and pointing us to Him! God bless you both always! Love and blessings to you both! :)
I love that people cannot tolerate other perspectives - this absolute beauty of the internet!!
God bless them all! 🩵
I've donated to the ministry and would like a book if possible. I am married, but there's always something good to read.
God Bless you two!! Continue in the faith
Once again, great video! Love you guys; praying that I can one day find a wife as godly as Ally. Though I would say, not all poetry about sex is bad-that's what the Song of Solomon is-but it should still be consumed cautiously, and in admiration for the sacred creation of God that is sex, rather than in lust.
I love how passionate You both are about this, and always backing it up with the Bible!
❤I am almost 59 and I absolutely
L❤VE the beauty of you two following biblical precepts for your relationship from the get go! I wish I would have had that kind of value for myself and another in my life. Dealing with the shrapnel of wrong choices...STINKS! I applaud you and your beautiful choice to do it~ God's way🎉🤟🥰
I'm 28. Always waiting. Squeaked out 1 date in the past 7 years. No matter where I go, how hard I try. Women friends are baffled. I know my friends wife waited until she found her husband at 38. Fear is a huge factor. Wasted years, hardened hearts. Wondering if its even worth it anymore, because you didn't find someone, and now its too late. To be with someone, who you aren't satisfied with, isn't like you, you couldn't grow with, or that you waited too long, and now will be childless. There is a cost.
There will always be someone who respects you, don't think that the men of the past no longer exist. The problem perhaps is that sometimes we have to question ourselves and understand if the problem is our character rather than the boundaries that we set
How could all these people be unsatisfying to you? Are they in unrepentant sin? Are there really no faithful women around you?
I can’t tell from just one comment, but you may want to seriously consider whether your view of marriage is biblical or not. I will definitely pray for your situation.
Oh, I’m 31 and still waiting. However, I definitely feel really peaceful about it and honestly don’t feel any anxiety about it, at least ever since age 26.
@@alexglase765 The fact is most people want to have sex now, that is why, its as simple as that.
Thank you guys so much for this video! Thank you for reminding me that the standards I follow aren’t just rules; they’re guidelines to help me live my life pure in Jesus Christ!
Do you have any thoughts on young women’s modesty? Clothing or otherwise❤
Worth subscribing ♥️♥️
Wonderful advice and reply’s to your criticisms! I learn a lot from you two :) I’m praying for both of you, that the Lord may continue to work through you and change the minds and hearts of many more unbelievers ❤️🔥 ✝️ God bless
God bless your marriage 💕🙏
STAY STRONG INTHE LORD. DO NOT DWELL IN THE PAST. STAY STRONG TOGETHER. FOLLOW YOUR HEARTS. DO NOT REVEAL TO THE WORLD WHAT YOU DO....STAY TOGETHER...TD
What a fantastic video to have!! And thanks for your kindness and humbleness in responding to comments which might be hard pills to swallow.
Some suggestions for the video if you would like to consider:
(For more effective communication)
1⃣I see you quoting many scriptures within the video (3:09-4:30), while they are not quite relevant to one another. As a viewer, I find it a bit confusing and hard to follow when a bunch of (not so related) scriptures are quoted all at once. Some possible solutions may be focusing on fewer scriptures which surround a similar topic but provide some simple explanations regarding the scriptures. I guess this might help viewers to grasp and understand God's word easier. Afterall, we want God's will and kingdom glorified.
2⃣Hence, providing citations of scriptures when you quote them will be beneficial to viewers when we want to look up the exact verses quoted in the video.
Here's food for thought for some of those commentors. ANY sexual activity outside of commitment reduces the involved parties to objects of pleasure. This is not a religious ideal, it just IS, whether we like it or not. Sadly, most of us have consented to these conditions at one point or another. However, consenting to this behavior doesn't stop the body from doing what it's naturally wired to do, which is to attach to another. So, when we act, even consentually, in a manner that is contrary to our fundamental design, we essentially disregard the dignity of the human person. In other words, we sacrifice the well-being of the other for our own pleasure.
u just gained a new subscribe God bless u 🥳🥳🥳
Criticism from the secular religion of confusing a relationship with the living God to religion. You can be a Christian and be doomed or you can have an authentic relationship with the living God and love him more than the material world that has an expiration date of all its material
I like watching these videos of yours. Physical compatibility as discussed in the video is not as important in God's plan for a Godly mindset since it's about the inside of the person and not the outside. "But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart" (1 Samuel 16:7).
Hi, thank you for sharing Gods truth and love in honesty and love. I have a question/suggestion/idea: On your website to purchase the ebook is there also the possibility to pay via paypal, this would be easier for me, because i am not from the US and maybe it would be easier also for other persons (but you dont have to implement it only/extra for me because your videos and the truths and convictions of God and informations of other people of God were already really helpful). God bless you!
TH-cam is full of miserable incels who deeply dislike both themselves and any religion/morality which would hold them accountable for their poor actions and choices. You guys are doing important work here, don’t focus on the negative feedback and keep it up.
@se7964 its funny how you shame the "involuntary celibates" on a video about celibacy
@@Foredore in one word a christian
Awesome video. :)
On the boundaries of movies and things with scenes, what are your thoughts on n*de art that's done for art's sake? And things like life drawing in art classes?
I am curious to know, where exactly is "dating" backed by the scripture of God?
It's not; the culture was completely different. They had courtship instead, where a man and woman would get to know each other with a chaperone, and the man would decide if he wanted to marry the woman. If he did, he would pay a bride price to the father, who would decide if he would give his daughter to the man in marriage. If the father chose to, they were betrothed, which meant they were legally married, even though the marriage wasn't consummated in a ceremony.
Obviously, our culture is completely different now, but dating can be Christian if done with the guidance of God and His word.
@@wafflesaucey Great answer. Cultures change, but the Word of God does not. We use God's Word to guide us as we navigate each culture and period in history. ✝️❤️
@@wafflesaucey I know the majority of the men in my church like the back of my hand. In my church we treat each other like family, we all do things together and hang out and do stuff as you would with any other friends and family that you have. I know that most churches aren't like mine and what if the man doesn't go to your church? I want you to think about the close relationships that you have in your life. You didn't have to date them, yet you know them extremely well. Contrary to popular belief, you don't have to date someone to get to know them for marriage. Dating was not something originally created to help you figure that out to begin with. Dating is something created by the world that allows you to have all the pleasures of being married without being married. If the man treats you like he would any of his sisters and you treat him like any of your brothers ( because that's how the bible tells us to treat one another in Christ ) you can get to know a lot about a person.
The Bible says he who finds a wife finds a good thing. I will be focused on my relationship with God, doing whatever I know God has called me to do, and following his will. With that being said, a Godly man will be the one to see you in hopes of marrying you because of the Godly characteristics he has seen in you. Now does that mean we just say yes just because he shows interest? No, of course not. I have actually already been able to experience this myself. The young man spent time with my family and me and even began to attend my church. During this time, I was able to learn and see his character without getting my feelings in the mix. I was able to see that, while yes he knew the word of God and understood it, he found it very hard to follow it. He had a hard time following instructions from leadership concerning himself and how he should deal with me. He also proved to be very overly emotional and double-minded. I learned these things just by keeping a watchful eye on how he interacted with my family, the people in my church, and leadership. All without getting my feelings in the mix.
The biblical characteristics that we should be looking for in our spouses are things that can be seen and observed in their everyday lives. For example, my parents did not date before they got married. They were best friends for 3 years and then one day my father realized that my mom had all of the characteristics that he wanted in a wife. After realizing that, they didn't then start dating for a number of months to " get to know each other more". They prepared to get married, and shortly after did. That's because they knew that one another already had the Godly characteristics they were looking for in a spouse. I believe the issue is that people are trying to get to know each other on an intimate level, which if we are not married we shouldn't be doing. The Bible tells us everything we need to know about what a good man and a good woman look like, and none of them have to do with anything intimate.
The Bible tells us to flee from temptation. We do not purposely put ourselves in a position where we can be tempted or where we might be tempted. If there is a possibility of it, we should stay away from it. We can not place ourselves in a position where we know we might be tempted and then try and have faith and ask God to help get us through. That is called tempting the Lord which the bible tells us not to do.
Matthew 4:6-7
6 says And saith unto him, If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down: for it is written, He shall give his angels charge concerning thee: and in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at any time thou dash thy foot against a stone.
7 Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God
Jesus is saying that putting yourself in a dangerous position on purpose is tempting God and we should not do that.
So while I find it interesting that most people think that kissing is a conviction thing I don't believe it is at all, rather it shouldn't be done at all if you are not married to that person. Just to be clear, I'm not talking about how you would kiss your parents or siblings, but rather kissing someone you have physical attraction to or that you want to marry but are not married to yet. I believe these things based off scripture. As I said before, kissing can be or might be a temptation for anyone, which is why we should stay away from it and not try and test it. We should stay away from anything that could even be a temptation. On another note, the Bible also says it's good for a man not to touch a woman. This was being talked about in the context of people that are not married and how they should conduct themselves, but as a people we seem to always skip over this verse.
Also being betrothed to someone and courting are separate from each other. After the courting process the two either go ahead and get married or don't if they feel they're not a match. Betroval happened usually when the children were born or young between two families usually for the purpose of agreement and business. There are times when it happens later, when the children are older but it's again usually for the same reason and thry are betrothed because they are not old enough to be married yet. In the Courting process, both people are ready and are able to be married which is why they are courting because they are trying to see if each other have the qualities they are looking for in a spouse.
We as Christians should be courting not dating.
@@legoforestmen3234 Yes the word of God is our manuscript for this life we live in this culture. So if something in the culture doesn't fit the word of God, we shouldn't do it. That's goes for dating.
@@tianadaugett8067 If that is what works for you, then go ahead with it. I do believe that two people should get married as soon as they have decided the other’s qualities are what they want in a spouse, and that unmarried couples should not do anything more than good friends would. But we just call it dating now, no matter what it is. I seek something more like biblical courtship.
“Why would I listen to two super righteous people, one who went to Heaven?”
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Is oral sex a sin?
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Tell them .. kindly saying… that they have to be born again… and receive the power of the Holy Spirit for any of this to make sense.
The word of God says that… Jesus is coming back for a holy bride, a clean … pure …spotless bride that’s … His body … His church….
This is speaking of born again believers who have washed their robes…. Made them …. white in the blood of the lamb of God…👑 🐑 … there’s nothing delusional about anything you’re saying…. and anyone … born again… followers of Christ …know this …🙏
First Corinthians 2-14….. actually God says it’s foolishness to those …with out his spirit.. like you shared….scripture is spiritually discerned….
Our God just proved himself right with these negative comments …. …..🙏 His words will not return to us void….
Young couple in Christ … your on track ….the younger generation of today need you to speak the truth ..according to the holy scriptures, as a Holy Spirit leads you ….stand strong …be obedient to God ….and watch what God will do ….
All for the glory of God…. The father……
in the name of Jesus.. name .. Amen!
God’s love is the only love that will last forever …. First, he shows us how much he loves us … by giving his only son Jesus…on the cross at Calvary, ….and then he fills us with (his love)❤️ to teach other people .. and to share it with other people…. 🙏🙏❤️❤️be blessed!
0:57 The funny thing is, they actually make sense logically. It's the people who don't wanna accept that it makes sense.
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Sounds like a bunch of losers in those comments… it’s crazy…
yeah i agree christians are indeed losers
I fundamentally disagree that spiritual principles backed by the word can't find root in logic. Do you even hear yourself?
God is logical. He does not give principle without purpose.
Sex outside of marriage is a danger to heart, mind, and body. Emotion, psychology, disease, unexpected pregnancy, birth control related physiological damage, potential exposure to dangerous situations, any number of things can go wrong when you don't give both sex AND marriage their proper respect. And that includes not walking into marriages with assholes.
I honestly I think that you both are giving your advice and I think that it is great and I'm learning a lot from these videos keep sharing Jesus's word and your advice on things! @Ally Poirot